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May and Mark discuss the limits of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

In this episode May and Mark discuss the problems associated with relying solely on one's subjective "truth."

In this episode, May and Mark discuss the in's and out's of counselling. They also tackle to big question of whether it's okay for a Christian to seek help from a secular therapist. This episode will be helpful to anyone struggling to navigate the mental health system, as well as those who are hesitant to attend counselling for issues they're experiencing.

In this episode, May talks with Mark about Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). They discuss what it is, its benefits and practical applications.

In this episode, May talks with Mark about how to be on the same page as a couple. This episode is a continuation of the discussion about when to have kids.

May kicks off the new year by tackling a big question - When is the perfect time to have kids? Joined by her husband Mark, they dive deep into the thoughts and emotions tied to starting - or growing - one's family.

A little taste of what's to come for Season 2 of the Definitely. Not. Fine. podcast.

Grief is a hard one. In today's episode of the Definitely. Not. Fine. podcast, May discusses her own recent experience with grief and provides a clinical framework for how to move through the emotional experience of losing a loved one. #definitelynotfinepodcast

Big lifestyle changes - although flashy and exciting - just don't work long-term. Learn how to actually reach and, better yet, maintain your goals on today's episode of the Definitely. Not. Fine. podcast. #definitelynotfinepodcast

Sometimes it's just hard to keep up with life's expectations. We all feel this way from time to time. May Saari discusses why this happens and what we can do about it in this episode of the Definitely. Not. Fine. podcast. #definitelynotfinepodcast

There are so many thoughts that run through our minds each day. Many of them go unnoticed and unchecked, allowing them to take root, gain power and influence our daily decisions (often not for the better). In this episode of the Definitely. Not. Fine. podcast, May Saari examines her own thoughts related to poor eating habits or overeating, and discusses how you can do the same. Anyone struggling to gain control of their eating will want to tune in to this one!

A special episode in which I discuss emotions with Pastor Jeremy on the Bible Fellowship Church podcast.

As women we tend to ignore or push down our anger. Often we will even pretend or lie about how we feel, for fear that others won’t understand or that they’ll reject us. For far too long anger has been taboo for women to feel or talk about, which has led to shame, broken relationships, bitterness and unresolved resentments. In this episode of the Definitely. Not. Fine. podcast, May Saari candidly discusses her own difficulty with experiencing anger, as well as several common struggles that women have with this difficult emotion.

There are no shortcuts when it comes to dealing with one's emotions; no fast and easy way around them, and no safe way to just "get rid of them." When we expect ourselves not to feel fear, anger, hurt or pain, we're setting ourselves up for at best, ongoing emotional instability, and at worst, an overdose. Join May Saari as she dives into the controversial topic of relying on substances for emotional management.

There is no excuse for choosing to hurt another person. At no point does one get permission to stop using their prosocial skills, and unleash their anger, fear, sadness or excitement on others. In this episode of the Definitely. Not. Fine. podcast, May Saari debunks the myth that prosocial skills have limits and discusses the importance of showing love and forgiveness to those who wrong us.

The violent killing of Mr. George Floyd has led to a lot of questions and anger over the treatment of minorities by those in authority. Unfortunately, what seems to have been left out of the conversation so far, is that there is so much more involved in the choice to use violence against another human being. In this episode of the Definitely. Not. Fine. podcast, host May Saari discusses how racism is just one piece of a much larger puzzle; a puzzle that starts with criminal thinking.

The ability to take on another’s perspective or pain is not automatic or innate. Our children’s ability to empathise with others is an invaluable skill that will not only help them make wise choices in life, but will help them better demonstrate God’s love to others. In today’s episode of the Definitely. Not. Fine. podcast, host May Saari lays out the groundwork for how to help our children develop this all important skill.

It's far too easy to go through life on auto-pilot, living each day only just "to get through." When we do this we miss out on the extraordinary-ness of the everyday. If we instead choose to participate fully in the everyday moments, we might find our lives feeling less and less like the movie Groundhog Day, and more like a life we look forward to living each day.

This episode is all about anxiety - the good, the bad and everything in between.

May Saari debunks common emotional myths in today's episode of the Definitely. Not. Fine. podcast, and gives the skinny on fundamental emotion concepts.

We aren't born knowing how to effectively handle the emotions we feel. In fact, our first coping instincts are often hurtful and focused on short term benefits. As parents we need to guide our little ones (or maybe big ones) through the tough stuff of life, so that they can start to adopt a healthy perspective about what goes on inside of themselves as well as how to express it externally. In today's episode of the Definitely. Not. Fine. podcast, May Saari walks us through how to practically teach our children about their feelings.

Life right now just feels super stressful. Whether you're stuck inside with stir-crazy children, forced to work in conditions you feel are unfair or unsafe, or simply overwhelmed by the prospect of catching this virus, it seems we all could benefit from some positive coping skills that bring fast relief. Today's episode of the Definitely. Not. Fine. podcast brings you just that.

Sometimes when we feel like we're not being heard or taken seriously, it can leave us wanting to speak or act out aggressively. We may yell, say and/or do hurtful things, as a way of making ourselves feel better in the moment. In this episode of the Definitely. Not. Fine. podcast, we explore what it is to communicate aggressively and why many men struggle with this communication issue. Options for how to improve one's own communication skills are explored in detail.

It isn't always easy to make your needs, wants or opinion known to others. In this episode of the DNF podcast, May Saari tackles female passivity and encourages women everywhere to assert themselves more effectively. Skills for how to do just that are explained in detail. Anyone wanting to communicate more effectively will want to tune in to this one.

Getting a great night sleep can sometimes feel elusive or even impossible. Between middle-of-the-night worries and the pressure to fall asleep quickly, it's no wonder so many people struggle with getting great shut-eye. Learn how you can help yourself set the stage for better sleep with today's episode, and be encouraged that a great night's sleep is entirely within your grasp.

Sometimes, it can feel like our thought life takes on a life of it's very own. This is particularly true when we get lost in problem thinking patterns. Problem thoughts can led us down a hurtful road if we allow them to. Learn how to break these thought patterns and regain control of your mind in this episode.