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Send us Fan MailDiscover why vulnerability isn't sharing more information- it's revealing what's true, and why that is the foundation of intimacy, connection, and oneness.You can talk for hours and still feel disconnected.You can share your schedule, your plans, your frustrations, and everything that happened during your day… while never revealing your heart.In this episode, Chelsey unpacks one of the most misunderstood concepts in marriage: vulnerability. Learn why intimacy requires more than communication, how hiding began in the Garden, and why vulnerability is less about sharing everything and more about revealing what is true.Because information doesn't create intimacy.Revelation does. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailSome wounds didn't start in your marriage.They started years earlier.Childhood rejection, abandonment, criticism, betrayal, disappointment, neglect—and then marriage has a way of exposing what was already there.In this episode, Chelsey shares why deep wounds often create deep patterns of self-protection, how God uses marriage to reveal what He intends to heal, and why healing is less about trying harder and more about surrendering the deepest places of your heart to Christ.Because your wound may explain your reaction.But it doesn't determine your future.God is still in the business of making all things new. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailHave you ever found yourself reacting more strongly than a situation seems to warrant?Maybe it's fear, frustration, anxiety, defensiveness, or discouragement. You know what God says, yet you still find yourself stuck in the same patterns.In this episode, Chelsey explores how past hurts, disappointments, and survival patterns can quietly shape the way we respond to our present circumstances. You'll learn why God often uses life's tests to reveal what still needs healing, how old experiences influence our reactions, and what it means to put off the old self, be renewed in Christ, and walk in freedom.Because God isn't interested in managing your symptoms.He wants to transform you from the inside out. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailLearn the five shifts that help couples tear down walls, rebuild trust, and move from self-protection to true oneness in marriage.
In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Austin have an honest and vulnerable conversation about the real reasons many men turn to porn and the devastating impact it can have on emotional connection, trust, and intimacy in marriage. They discuss the deeper struggles often happening beneath the surface, including loneliness, stress, rejection, shame, unmet emotional needs, unhealthy coping habits, and the lack of true connection many couples silently experience.This episode is not about blame or condemnation. Instead, it's about understanding the “why” behind the behavior, opening up healthy communication, and creating a path toward healing together. Nick and Austin share practical insights for both husbands and wives on how to navigate the hurt, rebuild trust, strengthen emotional safety, and reconnect intimately in a healthier way.This episode will help you better understand the challenges many couples face and offer hope that healing, trust, and deeper intimacy are possible.
Send us Fan MailLearn how old receipts from your past may be shaping your present reactions—and how God uses surrender, renewal, and new experiences to rewrite the story and create lasting transformation.What if you're not reacting to what's happening right now?What if you're reacting to a receipt from years ago?The husband who feels unwanted. The couple stuck in the same argument. The woman God is calling into a new season but whose body still responds with fear.Different stories. Same root.Old receipts.In this episode, Chelsey explores how past experiences shape present reactions, why God uses life's tests to reveal what still needs healing, and how surrender creates space for God to write a new story.Because the goal isn't to erase your past.The goal is to stop letting it interpret your present. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
This week's Q&A episode is here, and it's a powerful one. After diving deep into the difference between emotional intimacy and physical intimacy in our main episode, today we're answering your real, vulnerable, and thoughtful questions, the ones that came directly from the episode and the ones that came straight from your heart.This conversation is warm, honest, and trauma‑informed. We explore why certain patterns keep showing up, why emotional intimacy feels harder for some people, and how physical closeness can create emotional confusion. We also talk about what emotional safety actually looks like, how to build emotional intimacy when you've never seen it modeled, and how to recognize when a connection is grounded in something real versus something temporary.Whether you're dating, healing, or simply trying to understand yourself better, this episode gives you clarity, language, and compassion for your own experiences.✨ What We Cover in This EpisodeQuestions From the Main EpisodeHow to tell the difference between emotional intimacy and physical chemistryWhy physical intimacy can feel bonding even in unhealthy relationshipsWhat to do if you want to slow down physical intimacy but fear losing the connectionRelated Listener QuestionsWhy emotional shutdown happens when someone gets closeHow to build emotional intimacy when you've never seen it modeledWhy you may attract people who want physical intimacy but avoid emotional depthBroader Relationship QuestionsHow to recognize emotional safetyWhat early emotional intimacy looks like in datingWhether a relationship can survive without emotional intimacy
Send us Fan MailLearn how to identify the subconscious self-protection keeping you stuck, surrender it to God, and move toward deeper intimacy, healing, and oneness in marriage.“I forgave… so why do I still react this way?”Many couples find themselves stuck in a frustrating cycle: they want connection, intimacy, trust, and oneness, yet something inside keeps pulling the brake.In this episode, Chelsey unpacks the “gas and brake” phenomenon that often shows up after hurt, betrayal, disappointment, or broken trust. You'll learn why self-protective reactions are often subconscious stress responses—not intentional rejection—and how God uses marriage to reveal the places He still wants to heal.Together, we'll explore the difference between forgiveness and healing, the biblical call to put off the old self and be renewed in Christ, and how true intimacy is restored when mind, body, and spirit come into agreement under the authority of Jesus and the truth of God's Word.Because the goal isn't to shame the brake.It's to surrender what it's protecting and allow God to heal what still needs healing. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
This week on The Worth Loving Podcast, we're diving into a topic that so many people struggle with but rarely talk about honestly: the difference between emotional intimacy and physical intimacy, and which one actually creates deeper, healthier, more secure bonds.In this warm, trauma‑informed episode, Keana breaks down how emotional intimacy develops, why physical intimacy can feel bonding even when the relationship isn't emotionally safe, and how your past experiences shape the way you connect. We explore what real intimacy looks like, why pacing matters, and how to build relationships that feel steady instead of chaotic.This episode is grounded in research from leading psychologists like Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. John Gottman, and attachment theory scholars all woven into a relatable, compassionate conversation that helps you understand your patterns without shame.✨ What You'll Learn in This Episode1. What Emotional Intimacy Really IsHow emotional intimacy develops slowly through trust, safety, and vulnerabilityWhy emotional responsiveness is the strongest predictor of long‑term relationship successHow trauma histories impact your ability to open up2. What Physical Intimacy Actually DoesWhy physical closeness can feel bonding even when the relationship isn't healthyHow oxytocin and nervous system responses create emotional confusionWhy physical intimacy can become a shortcut to closeness3. Which One Builds Stronger BondsWhy emotional intimacy is the foundation of secure relationshipsHow physical intimacy enhances connection only when emotional intimacy is presentWhat research reveals about long‑term relationship stability4. Why We Often Prioritize Physical Intimacy FirstCultural conditioningFear of vulnerabilityTrauma responses and attachment patternsWhy physical intimacy can feel easier than emotional intimacy5. How to Build Emotional Intimacy FirstPractical, trauma‑informed steps for creating emotional safetyHow to pace connection in a way that honors your nervous systemWhat mutual emotional intimacy looks like in real time6. Red Flags & Green FlagsSigns that emotional intimacy is missingSigns that emotional safety is presentHow to recognize when a relationship is grounded vs. unstable
Send us Fan MailMost couples think conflict is what destroys intimacy.It's not.Self-protection is.A husband jokes instead of admitting he feels rejected.A wife withdraws instead of admitting she feels hurt.One pursues. One avoids.Different behaviors. Same root.Self-protection.In this episode, Chelsey unpacks the hidden ways self-protection shows up in marriage, why God often uses marriage to expose the wounds and fears He wants to heal, and how our identity in Christ gives us the security to stop hiding and start moving toward one another.Because intimacy was never built on performance, control, or self-preservation.It was built on vulnerability, truth, and trust.And self-protection and intimacy cannot coexist. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailMany couples think they have a communication problem when they actually have an ownership problem.When hurt, frustration, loneliness, and disappointment go unnamed, it's easy to fall into blame, defensiveness, criticism, and distance. But emotional intimacy grows when two people learn to take ownership of what they're feeling, anchor themselves in truth, and move toward one another with a shared path forward.In this episode, I'm sharing a simple framework to help couples reignite emotional connection through honesty, responsibility, repentance, and oneness.Because emotional intimacy isn't built through winning arguments.It's built through being known, speaking truth, and choosing to move toward one another again. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
When asked about the impact on a relationship when an intoxicated partner begs for or demands sex, and the coercion works because the drinker’s partner is trying to keep the peace, Amanda Dames tells Sheri and Matt that the dynamic damages trust. And the partner who agrees to unwanted sex is using her body to find or maintain safety. Amanda Dames is a sexologist, a somatic certified sex and relationship coach, and the host of the Kink Consultant podcast. This is a wide-ranging conversation about everything from sexual exploration to relationship recovery after trauma. Click here to link to the free guide Amanda mentions, and for all the resources on her website. Enjoy these insights from people comfortable crying in public. Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don't really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You've got this, and we've got you.
Send us Fan MailWhen was the last time you had that desire for your husband as an overflow from that desire for God, your Father, your Creator, your Maker? The maker of everything? Where you heart is, there also is your treasure. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan Mail"I believe, Lord, Help my unbelief!" Learn how to move from "I know" but don't really believe deep down TO "I believe with every cell in my body and so I live like it's already done!" And that belief changes everything. Starting with YOU. But it has to start with the SOURCE. The ONLY Source. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us Fan MailBuild on purpose with discipline and consistency! Break free from the "hard" of marriage and actually like each other again. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Send us a text & leave your email address if you want a reply!Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown open up the mailbox in this candid listener Q&A episode, tackling the real questions you've been too nervous to ask out loud. From healing sexual trauma in a relationship and rebuilding emotional intimacy after a rough patch, to navigating the polyamory conversation and letting go of body image shame in the bedroom. This episode goes deep, fast, and leaves nothing on the table. If you've ever felt alone with a question about your sex life or relationship, this one is for you.KEY TAKEAWAYS→ Healing sexual trauma in relationships is possible — somatic practices like Tantra and IFS can be more effective than cognitive-only therapy, and your partner can be one of your most powerful healers→ Rebuilding emotional intimacy after a rough patch starts small: consistent micro-rituals, gratitude, 20-second hugs, and intentional touch rebuild oxytocin and trust faster than big gestures→ If you're curious about ethical non-monogamy or polyamory, lead with curiosity before desire — ask your partner what they think and feel before making it a request, and get any agreements in writing→ Sexual boundaries are self-care, not selfishness — knowing whether yours are a request or a requirement helps you communicate them clearly and without guilt→ Feeling sexy is an inside job: drop the mirror, close your eyes, breathe into your body, and let sensation lead — pleasure has nothing to do with size, shape, or age→ The four pillars of deep intimacy — vulnerability, presence, trust, and attunement — apply whether you're healing, reconnecting, or just trying to feel more alive in your relationshipGot a question for Leah and Willow? Submit it for a future listener Q&A episode at: support@sexreimagined.com LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE CAN BE FOUND ON THE WEBSITE: https://www.sexreimagined.com/blog/how-to-heal-sexual-trauma-in-relationships LAST 10x LONGER. If you suffer from premature ejaculation, you are not alone, master 5 techniques to cure this stressful & embarrassing issue once and for all. Save 20% Coupon: PODCAST20. THE MALE GSPOT & PROSTATE MASTERCLASS. This is for you if… You've heard of epic anal orgasms, & you wonder if it's possible for you too. Save 20% Coupon PODCAST20. AWAKEN AROUSAL OIL LUBRICANT | Reach new levels of intimacy with our arousal oil, formulated for the female body. Once applied, this topical oil works with your body to enhance sensation and "o's," helping you reach states of euphoric pleasure.Support the showFREEBIE- Introduction to Tantric Kissing Video and WorkbookSxR WebsiteDr. Willow's WebsiteLeah's Website
Hi friend! When was the last time you asked your spouse a question that made them pause and feel truly seen? In this episode, we're diving into 5 endearing, heartfelt questions you can ask your spouse to spark deeper connection, emotional intimacy, and meaningful conversation in your marriage. Whether you've been married for 5 months or 5 years, these questions will help you go beyond surface talk and truly show your spouse that you see them, hear them, and care deeply about who they are and what they're going through. Grab a pen (or hit save!)—because these questions might just open the door to some of the most powerful conversations you've had in a while. ............................................................................................................................
Send us Fan MailGrab the new free guide: https://chelsey.coach/hlwreset Recognize when your body is speaking and what it's saying... this is the PATTERN.And then what to do with the info as INFO, not authority. Anchor into Truth, biblical Truth. This is how we regulate and respond; disrupt patterns and walk in freedom and healing! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
Israeli children are still running to shelters. The hostages are home, but the wars keep coming. And somewhere underneath it all — the October 7th trauma, the Iran strikes, the hostages, the endless sirens — something is being passed down to the next generation, whether we mean to or not. This week, Yonit sits down with Dr. Galit Atlas, psychoanalyst and author of Emotional Inheritance, to ask the questions most of us are afraid to answer: what does prolonged, unprocessed national trauma do to a people? How do Jewish rituals of memory — Passover, Holocaust Remembrance Day — help or harm? And is there actually hope on the other side of all this? Dr. Atlas's new book, Come Closer: Childhood Wounds, Adult Love and the Secrets of Emotional Intimacy, is out in September.
You have friends… so why do you still feel lonely? Friendships are more important than ever in adulthood, but they become increasingly hard to make and maintain. But we're in a real loneliness epidemic where most adults feel unseen, alone, and disconnected *even though* they have lots of connections in their lives. The real reason no one's talking about? The “depth gap” that keeps us from being truly vulnerable and connected. Because the problem isn't always that we need more friends… it's that we don't feel known by the people in our lives. In this episode, we're diving into the psychology of modern friendship with psychologist Dr. Elisabeth Crain. From attachment styles and friendship patterns to reciprocity, resentment, and friendship breakups, this interview is a roadmap for healthier, more fulfilling friendships. Tune in to hear: • Why adult friendships are harder to build and maintain • The "Depth Gap" and why loneliness is often a quality issue, not a quantity issue • How fear of vulnerability and rejection impact intimacy • Attachment styles in friendships • Understanding your friendship blueprint and relationship patterns • Fast-burn versus slow-burn friendships… why pacing matters • Managing reciprocity, imbalance and resentment • The importance of healthy criticism • Tuning into your body's reaction to people • The art of discernment in picking the right friendships • Why friendships fracture in adulthood Follow Dr. Elisabeth Crain: https://www.drelisabethcrain.com/ https://www.instagram.com/dr.elisabeth.crain Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube
Send us Fan MailWhat if intimacy isn't gone…just buried under years of pain, fear, resentment, disappointment, betrayal, or self-protection?In this episode, Chelsey shares 10 practical ways to restore intimacy God's way—not through pressure, pretending, or rushing healing, but through surrender, safety, grief, openness, and intentionally moving toward one another again.Because God's design for intimacy was never simply physical.It was always:to be fully known…and fully loved. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
The couples who drift apart are rarely the ones fighting the most, they are the ones who simply stopped being curious. In this episode, Christa unpacks the love maps research and then hands you the exact questions each Enneagram type secretly longs to be asked, the kind of conversation starters made for a porch swing, a long summer drive, or those quiet few minutes at the end of the day. She also walks through the part that matters most, what to do after you ask, and the difference between hearing an answer and truly staying for it. Plus there is a free grab-and-go resource so you can take these questions straight to your next date night. Emotional intimacy is the foundation that every other kind of intimacy is built on, and this episode is where the whole summer begins. Listen with your love here! Listen on YouTube! Show notes: Get your E + M Love Map Questions Freebie here! Stay tuned for our Summer Intensives, Awakening Intimacy (track 1) and Awakening Adventure (track 2) beginning the week of July 13! Scroll down on our podcast page to find episodes on intimacy here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/pod Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too here! Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
You love each other. You communicate. You trust each other. You're best friends. So why does the spark feel different? Why can a relationship feel safe, connected, and stable… yet still feel flat, predictable, or disconnected sexually? In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, Kim & Roberto explore one of the biggest misconceptions about long-term relationships: Emotional intimacy is essential… but it's not enough on its own to sustain passion. They unpack the missing ingredient many couples overlook, why roommate energy slowly replaces attraction, and how to create both emotional safety and erotic aliveness in a conscious partnership. What You'll Hear in This Episode: Why emotional intimacy matters deeply… and why it still won't create lasting passion on its own How predictability, routine, and "best friend energy" can slowly erode attraction What polarity really means (and why it has nothing to do with toxic relationship dynamics) How over-functioning, resentment, and parenting your partner destroy desire Why safety without polarity creates friendship… and polarity without safety creates unhealthy chemistry The importance of maintaining your own individuality, confidence, playfulness, and aliveness inside a relationship The formula for sustainable passion: emotional safety + polarity + presence + play You do not have to choose between love and desire. Between emotional safety and erotic connection. Between trust and attraction. The healthiest relationships create both. Because emotional intimacy creates safety. Polarity creates a spark. And together…they create the kind of passion that continues growing long after the honeymoon phase is over.
What if the biggest problem in your marriage isn't the argument… but the way you argue? In this episode of Married AF, we celebrate a huge milestone, 500,000 downloads, and then dive straight into one of the most important relationship communication conversations we've ever had: why so many couples are trying to win arguments instead of understanding each other.We break down the hidden communication habits quietly damaging marriages, emotional intimacy, dating relationships, friendships, and even faith conversations. From shutting down emotionally to mentally preparing your comeback while your spouse is still talking, we unpack why modern conflict resolution feels more exhausting than productive and what healthy communication actually looks like.We also walk through five practical tools for better marriage communication and healthier relationships:How to stop treating conversations like competitionsWhy undistracted presence changes everythingThe power of asking better questionsHow to find common ground even during disagreementWhy grace and truth matter in every hard conversationIf you're struggling with marital issues, emotional disconnect, intimacy challenges, recurring fights, or feeling unheard in your relationship, this episode offers practical marriage advice and support you can actually use. Whether you're newly married, dating, navigating relationship challenges, or simply trying to communicate better with the people you love, this conversation will challenge the way you think about conflict, happiness, love, and connection.This episode is packed with:Marriage adviceRelationship communicationConflict resolution toolsChristian marriage coachingEmotional intimacy insightsCommunication strategiesDating and newlywed adviceBiblical perspectives on relationships and ChristianityPractical support for healthier marriagesBecause sometimes the strongest marriages aren't the ones that never fight… they're the ones that learn how to fight without destroying each other.
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The goal is not to be 100% authentic all the time.That's unattainable. If you think that's the goal, you'll spend your life feeling like you're failing every time you people-please, shut down, react, perform, avoid conflict, seek approval, or slip back into old patterns.That's not failure. That's being human.I share about how authenticity isn't a final destination where you suddenly become fully healed, fully self-expressed, fully “you” all the time. It's noticing. It's awareness. It's catching yourself in the moments where you're not being true to yourself and getting curious instead of judgmental.Why did I just abandon myself there?Why did I shrink?Why did I say yes when I meant no?What was I trying to protect?That's the work.Becoming honest, aware, and willing to come back to yourself over and over again.This episode is a reminder that you are not failing because you still have moments where your ego, fear, conditioning, or old patterns take over.The magic is in noticing and choosing to return.IN PERSON EXPERIENCES, MelbourneOne-day retreat in Balnarring - June 12th, 2026Sunday Meds - June 21st, 20261:1 COACHINGOne-time 75 minute coaching call - secure your spot hereRead my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USAWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearWelleCo - use code KAT15 for 15% off welleco.com.auwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show
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Amy Edwards and I start this episode discussing the most Austin way possible to meet someone… at a pussy casting workshop.
In this episode, Steve and I talk about something I think a lot of couples quietly go through: when the load of life becomes so heavy that it starts impacting the relationship.Not because love is gone or because anyone's doing something terribly wrong.But because one person is overloaded, stretched thin, carrying too much and the relationship starts feeling the weight of it too.I share honestly about missing Steve recently, even while living in the same house. Missing the connection, the fun, the softness, the smooshiness of us. And how easy it can be, when one person is overwhelmed, for the other person to take it personally and create even more tension in the dynamic.Because when your needs aren't being met, it hurts. But sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is recognise that your partner is drowning under the weight of life, and stop making their overwhelm about your rejection.We also speak about how unsustainable it is to carry too much for too long. Because if the overloaded person doesn't deload, eventually something gives. Their health. Their nervous system. Their joy. The relationship.This is a conversation about perspective, compassion, communication, and recognising when life is simply asking too much of someone for too long.Support the show
We often talk about the important of both emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy and how they go hand in hand. But which comes first? For many men, they need the physical connection to become more emotionally connected to their wife. And for most women, they need to be emotionally connected before desiring the physical connection. So which comes first?We took a poll and asked the following questions: "Could your marriage use more emotional intimacy?"53% said Absolutely YES! 30% said they need a little bit more - That means 83% of wives polled said they need more emotional intimacy in their marriage!Then we asked: "Do you agree that strong emotional intimacy comes 1st (Before sexual intimacy?) 94% said YES!So 83% of wives want more emotional intimacy and 94% said it should come 1st, before sexual intimacy! We hope the husbands are hearing this.In this podcast episode we talk with marriage therapist Austin Ellis about why strong emotional intimacy is the key to having good sexual intimacy. If you are a spouse that is frustrated with your intimate life, or want more emotional intimacy in your relationship, then this episode is for you!If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!
In this episode, Nick and Amy dive into a simple but powerful question: are couples wishing more for a better marriage instead of actually doing the things that build one? After surveying married couples, the answers revealed something surprisingly consistent about what people feel is missing in their relationships.Husbands and wives shared a desire for more emotional connection, quality time, appreciation, less screen distraction, and feeling more prioritized. These aren't complicated needs—they're the everyday things that often get lost in the busyness of work, kids, and life responsibilities.What stood out most is that many of these desires aren't out of reach. They don't require a different spouse or a different season of life. They come down to small, intentional choices—how we communicate, how we show up, and what we prioritize when life gets full.In today's conversation, Nick and Amy go through real survey responses and talk about what they actually look like in marriage. If you've ever found yourself wishing things felt different, this episode is meant to help you shift from wishing to doing in your own relationship.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!
In this fiery episode, Dr. Canary breaks down the psychological roots of emotional intimacy—what it really looks like when it's strong, even without physical contact. Plus, she reveals how attachment styles shape your relationship happiness, and why rushing into new romance without healing is a recipe for disaster.
In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia is joined by Monica Tanner to talk about how to reignite connection and intimacy in blended families, why stepfamily myths can damage marriages, and what couples can do to create a stronger, healthier relationship.They dive into one of the most controversial but important ideas in blended family life: why the couple relationship has to be the priority. Monica explains what that actually looks like in real life, how to support your partner without making it a competition with the kids, and why children benefit from seeing a healthy relationship modeled in the home.One of the most powerful parts of this episode is Monica's explanation of repair in relationships. She breaks down what repair means, how couples can come back together after conflict, and why healthy relationships are not conflict-free—they are built through harmony, disharmony, and repair.If you are a stepmom feeling disconnected in your marriage, exhausted by blended family stress, or unsure how to rebuild closeness with your partner, this episode will remind you that healthy relationships are built, not found.In this episode:How to rebuild connection and intimacy in blended familiesThe myth that kids should always come before the marriageWhat it means to make the relationship the priority without neglecting the childrenWhy stepfamily structure and united parenting matterConnect with Monica:www.monicatanner.comOn InstagramOn YouTubeSupport the showRegister here for StepmomCon Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2969: Dr. Kathy McMahon unpacks how emotional distance in marriage often stems from mismatched attachment styles and misunderstood needs rather than a lack of love. Through Camilla and Paul's story, she reveals how couples can get stuck in painful cycles, and how empathy, communication, and intentional effort can rebuild closeness. Understanding these dynamics can help transform disconnection into a stronger, more secure bond. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.couplestherapyinc.com/emotional-distance-in-marriage/ Quotes to ponder: "Often the traits that draw you to your partner are the very same traits that upset you." "The real issue wasn't that Camilla needed more active attention, and Paul needed more time alone. Instead, both partners needed more empathy and understanding of these needs." "When one partner is failing to notice the signs of emotional longing and desire to connect, it can cause a cascading impact of marital deterioration. The lonely partner becomes angry and withdraws." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Send us Fan MailProblems with physical intimacy got you thinking it's the biggest issue when it's merely an indicator check engine light for lack in the other 2 areas of intimacy. Chelsey unpacks the 3 types of intimacy in this episode, what they are, how they are superficial right now, and how to increase them by focusing on practical daily disciplines. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.
It doesn't start with cheating or big fights. Most relationships don't break from one moment—they break from a thousand small ones. The missed conversations, the lack of time, the quiet resentment that never gets addressed.In this episode, Nesha G and Moelethal unpack the real reasons couples grow apart and why it often feels like it “just happened.” From surface-level communication to emotional disconnect, they walk through the subtle patterns that slowly create distance between partners.They also shift the focus toward solutions—what it actually looks like to grow together instead of apart. From intentional time to shared vision, from healthy conflict to daily choices that rebuild connection, this conversation offers practical insight rooted in real experience.Send us Fan MailSupport the show Thanks for rocking with us! Don't forget to follow Life After I Do so you never miss an episode. Got a relationship situation you want us to weigh in on? Hit us at https://beacons.ai/laidpodcast — we just might talk about it in a future episode.
Send us Fan MailEver feel like you're the only one carrying the intimacy in your relationship?Like you're the one reaching, thinking about it, wondering why it's not happening…while your spouse feels distant or hard to read?Or maybe you're on the other side—feeling pressure, expectation, and not fully understanding why it feels so hard to respond.In this episode, we slow things down and look beneath the surface of what's really going on.Because this isn't just about sex.It's about what's happening underneath it.In This Episode:Why initiation isn't the real issueWhat the “pursuer” may actually be longing forThe hidden weight the “withdrawer” may be carryingHow we create meaning based on our own insecuritiesWhy emotional safety must come before physical intimacyWhat it looks like to begin again—togetherTimestamps:00:00 Feeling Alone in Intimacy00:40 Why Initiation Isn't It03:03 The Pursuer's Deeper Need04:51 The Withdrawer's Hidden Weight06:30 Stories We Tell Ourselves07:45 Build Safety Before Sex09:24 Dig Up the Roots10:10 Starting Over Together11:14 Breaking Pursuer Roles12:22 Next Steps and Coaching12:53 Closing and OutroNext Step:If you're realizing there's more underneath your dynamic than you've been able to sort through on your own…You don't have to navigate it alone.
Send us Fan MailHave you ever wanted your spouse… but held back?Or reached for them… and their response stayed with you longer than you expected?What looks like a simple moment often carries something much deeper—questions about being wanted, being seen, and what it all means.In this episode, we explore why reaching for your spouse can feel so emotionally loaded in long-term marriage, and how to begin shifting out of patterns of rejection, pressure, and quiet resentment.You'll learn:Why intimacy can start to feel heavy instead of invitingHow “not tonight” turns into something more personalWhat happens when sex begins to feel like a testThe cycle that slowly leads couples to stop reaching for each otherHow differentiation helps you stay grounded and connectedAnd a simple way to respond differently the next time this moment happens.If this resonates with you, I'd truly love to hear your experience. You can reach out via email or Instagram—I'm getting more and more curious about how women are navigating this in their marriages.And if you're ready for support as you begin shifting these patterns, you're invited to book a Courageous Love Conversation—a space to slow down, reflect, and begin creating something different.Follow, rate, and share this episode with someone who might need it.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipDoes communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what's true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings....
In this episode, a 23-year-old woman questions whether her relationship is quietly drifting into something more like roommates than partners. After four years together and a year of living together, her boyfriend says their sex life “sucks”—despite being intimate multiple times a week. While he focuses on physical intimacy, she feels overwhelmed by financial pressure, work stress, and the emotional distance growing between them. As she carries most of the responsibilities and longs for simple connection.
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If you're craving real closeness, this episode on friendships is for you. Because feeling lonely isn't really about not having people in your life, it's about not feeling known. And that's where emotional intimacy and real connection begin. Many people wonder, “Why do I feel so lonely even though I have friends?” or struggle with the quiet ache of feeling lonely even with friends. In this conversation, we're exploring why adult friendship can feel surprisingly complicated, and why making friends as an adult often requires skills we were never taught. My guest, Barnet Bain, is an award-winning filmmaker, author, and teacher whose new book, How to Be a Friend (in an Unfriendly World), grew out of a Columbia University course he created for psychologists. Together, we're talking about the real reason adult friendships can feel hard, why so many people struggle with how to make friends as an adult, and the powerful friendship skills that help create emotional intimacy and lasting connection. You'll hear why feeling lonely even with friends is more common than you might think, how our modern world can unintentionally make adult friendship harder to sustain, and why building meaningful relationships is less about finding the right people and more about developing the inner skills that make connection possible. As you listen, I'd love for you to reflect on this: if you've been wondering why do I feel lonely even though I have friends, what might change if you shifted the focus from finding better friends… to becoming the kind of friend who creates deeper connections? Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why You Feel Lonely Even With Friends 04:44 The Friendship Skills No One Teaches Us 08:38 What Healthy Adult Friendship Really Requires 19:02 Why the World Feels More Disconnected 28:11 Friendship as a Practice (And Why It Matters) 34:48 Why Trying to Fix People Blocks Emotional Intimacy 44:16 How to Make Friends as an Adult 50:09 How to Build and Maintain Real Friendships 53:39 The Power of Being Fully Present If this conversation resonates and you're realizing how much you want deeper, more meaningful relationships in your life, you don't have to figure it out alone. You can schedule a free consultation with me or a member of my team at Growing Self. It's a private, supportive space where you can talk about what's been going on in your relationships and what you'd like to feel different. From there, we'll help you get matched with the right counselor or coach so you can build stronger connections and feel more supported in your life. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. Working Genius — A powerful assessment that helps entrepreneurs and leaders focus on what they naturally do best. Get 20% off with code LHS at workinggenius.comStrawberry.me — Career coaching that helps you gain clarity, build a strategic plan, and take confident steps toward the career you want with expert support. Get 50% off your first coaching session at strawberry.me/LHS.
Send us a text & leave your email address if you want a reply!Most of us grew up with a very specific picture of what love is supposed to look like. One person. One structure. One finish line. And yet, so many people are quietly miserable chasing it. Today's guest has a different question: what if you got to design this from scratch? Simone Milasas is an Australian author, global facilitator of Access Consciousness, Host of the Choice, Change, Action Podcast, creator of the "Relationship Done Different" classes, and the woman behind the book Relationship, Are You Sure You Want One? She has lived a joyful, unapologetic, non-traditional relationship life for decades. And she is here to help you stop settling for the relationship you were handed and start creating one that actually fits. Simone invites listeners to get radically honest about what they truly desire and start choosing that instead.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTSEmotional intimacy starts as an inside job. You cannot sustainably offer to someone else what you have not yet built with yourself.The relationship structure that works is the one that is workable for your actual life, not the one you inherited from your family, your culture, or a rom-com.Allowance is not passive. It is an active choice to stop wasting energy trying to change someone and redirect it toward appreciating what they genuinely bring.Asking for what you want in bed, in life, and in partnership is not high-maintenance. It is often, as Simone puts it, the thing that turns most people on.Completing a relationship is not a failure. It can be an act of profound gratitude, trust, and honor — for both people.When you feel triggered by your partner, ask yourself: which of the five elements am I not bringing right now?LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE CAN BE FOUND ON THE WEBSITEROOTED IN DESIRE. A Journey Back to Your Feminine Essence If you're a heart-centered woman ready to embody your femininity, awaken your sacred sexuality, and fall deeply in love with yourself, this immersion is for you. Register: https://www.sexreimagined.com/rooted-in-desire THE MALE GSPOT & PROSTATE MASTERCLASS. This is for you if… You've heard of epic anal orgasms, & you wonder if it's possible for you too. Save 20% Coupon PODCAST20. Support the show FREEBIE- Introduction to Tantric Kissing Video and Workbook SxR Website Dr. Willow's Website Leah's Website
In this powerful episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy are again joined by therapist Austin Ellis to discuss part 2 of the previous podcast 449: Emotional and sexual intimacy go hand in hand. They discuss why so many couples struggle to maintain emotional and sexual intimacy after marriage. The conversation focuses on how life changes, unmet expectations, and lack of communication skills can create disconnection between partners. Austin shares practical insights on how couples can rebuild intimacy by developing new relational tools rather than relying on the conditions that existed when they first fell in love.The discussion explores how emotional, sexual, spiritual, intellectual, financial, and recreational intimacy all play a role in a healthy marriage. They talk about how selfishness, entitlement, pride, fear, and shame often replace connection when couples stop intentionally investing in their relationship. They also emphasize that marriage requires daily commitment, vulnerability, and a willingness to understand your spouse's needs, wants, and emotional experiences.Austin provides therapeutic perspective on how couples can move from conflict and disconnection to unity by improving communication, building emotional safety, and choosing love over fear-based reactions. The episode also highlights how trauma, betrayal, and unresolved emotional wounds can impact intimacy—but that healing and hope are possible with the right tools and support.Ultimately, this episode encourages couples to view marriage as a lifelong journey of growth, teamwork, and intentional connection, showing that ultimate intimacy is built through consistent effort, love, and commitment to each other.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!
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If you're avoiding boundaries because you don't want to seem selfish, this will flip the script. Healthy boundaries can create more emotional intimacy, reduce unhealthy feelings, and stop the burnout and stress spiral. So many kind, caring people get stuck in a pattern of saying yes when they really mean no. They're not weak, and they're not doing anything “wrong.” They're often afraid of conflict, afraid of disappointing someone, or afraid of losing a relationship. And that fear can pull you into the people pleasing cycle: over-giving, exhaustion, resentment, and eventually that sharp “No” that comes out of nowhere and leaves everyone feeling hurt. In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, we're talking about how to set boundaries in a way that protects your relationships instead of damaging them. You'll learn what healthy boundaries in relationships actually look like, why boundaries are not about controlling anyone else's behavior, and how to set a boundary with clarity and kindness — even when someone else has big feelings about it. If you've been wondering how to stop people pleasing, or you're trying to figure out what are healthy boundaries in a relationship, this is a practical place to start. As you listen, notice where you've been making your needs smaller to keep the peace, and what might change if your boundaries became an act of love for both of you. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Boundaries Protect Relationships 04:26 Why Setting Boundaries Feels So Hard 06:45 The People-Pleasing Cycle 11:19 The Paradox: Boundaries Create Intimacy 15:53 Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive Communication 18:10 The Real Secret to Healthy Boundaries 27:36 Requests vs Boundaries 36:40 How to Start Practicing Boundaries 39:06 The 3-Step Boundary Process 45:46 What Their Reaction Tells You About The Relationship 50:36 Resources and Next Steps If this episode is hitting close to home, maybe you're recognizing people pleasing patterns, or noticing how hard it's been to set boundaries in a relationship, I want to offer you something that can make this easier. You can book your free consultation with Growing Self as a kind of “first step” for yourself. It's private, secure, and only takes a couple of minutes. You'll answer three quick questions so we can help you find the right support and match you with the best counselor or coach for what you're working on. If you're practicing setting healthy boundaries in relationships, you don't have to do it alone. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of Love, Happiness, and Success: Shopify: The all-in-one platform to build and grow your online business. Explore exclusive listener discounts at shopify.com/lhs Working Genius founder Patrick Lencioni is on a mission to create self understanding and connection by helping people understand their genius and that of others. Listen to our conversation, then discover your strengths and get 20% off with code LHS at workinggenius.com Strawberry.me — Career coaching that helps you gain clarity, build a strategic plan, and take confident steps toward the career you want with expert support. Get 50% off your first coaching session at strawberry.me/LHS
Most men know they're "supposed to be vulnerable." Almost none of them know what that actually means in practice... what to say, how to say it, and why it works.In this episode, I break down what real vulnerability sounds like in a relationship and what it does to your partner when you show up that way.Then you'll hear directly from Danny, a guy who'd been with his wife for 24 years, ended up in a sexless marriage with her, and turned everything around in five months without ever hiring a coach.This is what doing the work actually looks like!Apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://stephanieganowski.typeform.com/to/Fm6LGfa9?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=1on1_coachingShow your woman some love right now: https://stephanieganowski.com/lp/texther.html
Episode #1106 Society often teaches men to suppress their feelings, leading to a life where connecting with their own heart feels impossible . Many men realize they have never truly touched their emotions, effectively living like the Tin Man before finding a path to groundedness . In this revisit episode, Doug Holt and advisor Chris explore how to identify and express emotions in a way that deepens romantic relationships . Doug argues that true strength lies in the courage to be vulnerable despite the risk of being misunderstood . We also dive into the difficult reality of rebuilding trust after trauma or infidelity . Doug discusses the pitfalls of becoming overly needy, which often pushes a partner further away . Instead, he explains why a man must see himself as the gift and understand his own self-worth independent of his partner's choices . By focusing on personal activation, a man stops being transactional and starts being authentically attractive . Whether you are struggling to find your emotional voice or trying to navigate a relationship where the heart has been closed off, this episode provides a roadmap for shifting from control to connection . Learn how to move past the thought process of not being good enough and step into the groundedness that feminine energy naturally responds to . If you are ready to stop guessing and start leading your family with clarity, take the next step by accessing our free training . This is designed for the man who is tired of the distance and ready to see exactly where his relationship stands . Visit https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales to get started.
Has app culture conditioned us to keep looking for “better”? Have you ever felt disposable after sex? Have you ever treated someone else as disposable? Does abundance make people easier to replace emotionally? If sex is easy for some gay men then why is it so hard to find and keep a lasting healthy relationship Has sex changed for us as we've grown older? The hosts discuss Is their a middle ground of hot gay sex and true meaningful connections? Hot Topic: Connor Storrie is definitely hot right now and we love it! Hot Topic: States like Idaho try and once again get rid of same sex marriage and Kansas tries to ban Trans from driving unless license says what sex you were born with... Hot Topic: Do you code switch? What is it and when is it good and when is it used to impress a date? Hot Topic: Sniffies new 'blue collar' line is reviewed Hot Topic: Would you rent the 'Heated Rivalry' cottage??? Visit: Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Jeremy on IG: @jrosslopez Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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If you love your partner but your sexual intimacy is gone… you're not hopeless. You're normal. Let's talk about sex, intimacy, and the real skills that rebuild sexual connection in long-term love. Because emotional intimacy doesn't automatically create desire, and you can deepen intimacy on purpose. If you've ever wondered, “Why don't I want sex anymore?” or felt the quiet ache of a lack of intimacy in marriage, you're not alone. Many couples care deeply about each other. They function well as teammates. And yet when it comes to intimacy in marriage, something feels distant or flat. Maybe you're in a marriage without intimacy and wondering how to improve sex life without forcing it. Maybe you're trying to figure out how to increase sexual desire, especially if your drive has faded. Or maybe you're the partner feeling rejected and unsure how to reconnect. The truth is that improving intimacy in marriage isn't about waiting for spontaneous chemistry to return. Sexual desire shifts in long-term relationships. Stress, exhaustion, resentment, hormonal changes, and the mental load of adult life all impact connection. When there is no intimacy in marriage, it often reflects burnout and disconnection, not incompatibility. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Nicole McNichols, an internationally renowned human sexuality professor, author, and speaker whose course The Diversity of Human Sexuality is the most popular in the history of the University of Washington, enrolling over 4,000 students annually. Together, we unpack how to improve sexual intimacy using research-backed tools. We talk about how pleasure fuels desire, how to increase sexual desire in female partners and anyone experiencing low drive, and why improving intimacy in marriage requires intention, not magic. You'll learn how to improve sex life through small shifts in novelty, playfulness, and communication that make connection feel natural again. We also address resentment. If emotional safety has eroded over time, rebuilding sexual intimacy may need to start with repairing the friendship first. When couples strengthen communication and physical intimacy together, relationships often begin to feel alive again. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Sexual Intimacy Fades in Long-Term Relationships 03:34 How to Improve Sexual Intimacy With a Growth Mindset 08:52 Emotional Intimacy vs. Sexual Desire in Marriage 11:14 How Pleasure Increases Sexual Desire 18:17 How to Increase Sexual Desire (Responsive Desire Explained) 20:20 How to Improve Sex Life by Planning Intimacy 31:08 Rebuilding Attraction and Intimacy in Marriage 43:06 When Lack of Intimacy in Marriage Is About Resentment Rebuilding sexual connection can feel vulnerable. And sometimes the most powerful next step isn't trying harder, it's getting support. If you'd like help improving intimacy in marriage or learning how to increase sexual desire in ways that feel safe and sustainable, you can schedule a free consultation with me or a member of my team. It's a private, secure space where you can share what's been happening and what you hope will feel different. You'll answer three quick questions so we can match you with the right expert. It only takes a couple of minutes, and it's a meaningful first step toward feeling closer, more connected, and more confident in your relationship. Let's find the right support for you. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast: Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. Working Genius — A powerful assessment that helps entrepreneurs and leaders focus on what they naturally do best. Get 20% off with code LHS at workinggenius.com
In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina sits down with dating expert Damona Hoffman to unpack how fairy tales, rom-coms, and modern dating apps fuel obsession, fantasy, and anxious attachment. They break down why texting chemistry, dopamine loops, and “potential” keep people stuck in confusing dating dynamics—and how to shift from chasing sparks to choosing emotional safety, clarity, and real connection. If you're tired of mixed signals, hot-and-cold behavior, situationships, or questioning someone's attachment style, this conversation reframes dating through grounded psychology and nervous system awareness. You'll learn how to stop romanticizing unavailable partners, identify emotional unavailability early, and date with intention instead of fantasy—so you can build a healthy, secure relationship rooted in reality, not wishful thinking. Want to have your submission appear on a future show? Send in your stories, questions, or dating profiles to inthetrenches@sabrinazohar.com Get 'F the Fairy Tale' by Damona! If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE! If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! As an exclusive offer, my listeners can get their choice between organic ground beef, chicken breast, or ground turkey in every box for a year, PLUS $20 off when you go to ButcherBox.com/SABRINA Get 15% off OneSkin with the code SABRINA at https://www.oneskin.co/SABRINA #oneskinpod ============================= Chapters 00:00 – Dating Myths & Fairy Tale Fantasy 04:18 – Obsessing Over Potential vs Reality 08:12 – Texting, Dopamine & False Intimacy 13:05 – Good Morning Texts & Anxiety Loops 18:02 – Why Sparks Don't Equal Compatibility 23:11 – Emotional Unavailability Explained 28:07 – Mixed Signals & Hot-Cold Behavior 33:02 – Attachment Styles vs Real Behavior 38:06 – Emotional Intimacy & Secure Love 42:10 – Dating With Clarity, Not Fantasy Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices