Podcasts about Emotional safety

Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizHighlights from the EpisodeHow Sex Turns Transactional: Tarah shares a story from a recent couples session: “If you do this and you do it well, I'll give you sex.” Sound familiar? Turns out, it's more common than we think.Both Partners Are Responsible: EJ and Tarah reflect on their own patterns of expectation, let-down, and the rewards/punishments that silently build up over time.Unspoken Stories Drive Anxiety: Ever felt relief when your partner wasn't expecting sex… or disappointment when connection didn't lead there? You're not alone. Opening up those stories, rather than burying them, is the first step to real change.Emotional Safety is Key: The hosts discuss how building a foundation of emotional safety—being able to share, be transparent, and give verbal appreciation—creates true desire and real intimacy.Actionable Tools: From ‘The Frisky Scale' (yes, really!) to conversation starters on how you want to feel valued outside the bedroom, EJ and Tarah give you practical ways to break the transaction cycle.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this insightful episode of The Feminine Frequency, Amy Natalie welcomes licensed mental health counselor and best selling author, Jessica Baum, for a deep conversation on attachment, emotional safety, and the path to relational healing.Together, they explore how childhood experiences and early caregiver relationships shape adult dynamics and attachment styles—and what it takes to move toward secure attachment from within. Jessica shares wisdom from her book SAFE, highlighting the importance of insourcing safety, working with protector parts, and recognizing the difference between familiar relationship patterns and those that are truly healthy.The conversation emphasizes that healing doesn't happen in isolation—it happens in relationship. Amy and Jessica unpack the role of co-regulation, the power of nervous system awareness, and how to cultivate emotional safety both within and beyond romantic partnerships. They also introduce listeners to a powerful new tool: The Wheel of Attachment, which offers a fresh and embodied approach to understanding attachment theory.This episode is an invitation for listeners to explore the inner work that allows for deeper connection, self-trust, and conscious love.Themes: Secure attachment as the foundation for healthy, conscious relationshipsHow childhood wounds influence adult relational dynamicsThe importance of co-regulation and nervous system healingReparenting and building internal safetyUnderstanding and integrating protector partsIdentifying familiar (yet unhealthy) patterns in loveSeeking support outside of romantic partnershipsThe Wheel of Attachment as a transformative self-awareness toolSpecial Offer

Summary: Calm doesn't equal quiet. In this episode, Isa reframes “good” classrooms as regulated, connected spaces—not silent ones—and shares three practical shifts: pre-frame transitions with connection, normalize natural “volume waves,” and model regulation out loud so children can borrow your calm. The goal isn't quiet compliance; it's safe, confident learners—and a teacher who trusts the noise. LET'S CONNECT!We would love to connect with you!  Here are all the ways we can support you in your early education career!The Teacher's Lounge Website:     theearlyeducationteacherslounge.comPodcast:   The Teacher's Lounge For Early EducationFacebook:  The Early Education Teacher's LoungeInstagram:  @eecteacherslounge

In today's Monday Meditation, Alison guides you through a calming 5-minute visualization to help you feel safe and connected in love. If you've ever struggled with anxious attachment or felt you had to earn love, this practice will gently remind your body what secure, unconditional love feels like. Perfect for: Anyone healing from anxious attachment, learning to feel safe in love, or wanting to experience relationships from a place of calm confidence rather than fear. Listen When: – You feel triggered or anxious in your relationship – You're practicing self-soothing after conflict – You want to connect to the feeling of secure love before bed Single Women 40+

Being alive at the end of your birth is different than being kept safe. In this episode Mel invites midwife and psychotherapist Dr Athena Hammond to talk about emotional safety during childbirth, how to enhance emotional safety and some strategies for nervous system preparation. This is part 1 of a 2 part series. Episode 175 is about the possibility of post-traumatic growth, a helpful discussion for women who feel emotionally and mentally traumatised by their birth experience who are looking for hope. Our guest for this episode is Dr Athena Hammond from @thebirthcounsel. You can learn more about Athena at www.thebirthcounsel.com.au If you have concerns for your well-being there is help for you at: The Gidget foundation Australia COPE This episode has been generously sponsored by Poppy Child from @popthatmumma. She is offering great birth rebellion listeners 25% off the Birth box which includes the oxytocin bubble tracks. This is an example of a nervous system calming technique discussed in our episode today. Use the code “Melanie” at the check out to claim your discount. Just go to hypnobirthing-positive-birth.com/birthbox You can watch this episode on YouTube here Get more from the Great Birth Rebellion Podcast Join the podcast mailing list to access the resource folder from each episode at www.melaniethemidwife.com Join the rebellion and show your support! Grab your Great Birth Rebellion merchandise now at www.thegreatbirthrebellion.com Follow us on social media @thegreatbirthrebellion and @melaniethemidwife If this podcast has improved your knowledge or pregnancy, birth or postpartum journey please consider thanking us financially by leaving a tip to support the ongoing work of this podcast. Disclaimer The information and resources provided on this podcast does not, and is not intended to, constitute or replace medical or midwifery advice. Instead, all information provided is intended for education, with it's application intended for discussion between yourself and your care provider and/or workplace if you are a health professional. The Great Birth Rebellion podcast reserves the right to supplement, edit, change, delete any information at any time. Whilst we have tried to maintain accuracy and completeness of information, we do not warrant or guarantee the accuracy or currency of the information. The podcast accepts no liability for any loss, damage or unfavourable outcomes howsoever arising out of the use or reliance on the content. This podcast is not a replacement for midwifery or medical clinical care. The transcript below was generated with ai and may contain errors.

Every family has its own rhythm. Some love cooking together, some bond over board games and some, believe it or not, enjoy arguing for fun. To them, debating ideas and challenging each other isn't conflict; it's connection.But what feels like playful banter to one person can feel like chaos, criticism, or even emotional danger to another. So how do you know when spirited debate crosses the line? And how do you create a home where everyone feels heard and safe, whether they love to spar or prefer peace and quiet?In this episode, we'll explore why some families naturally fall into patterns of “recreational arguing,” what emotional needs this dynamic can meet, and how to find the right balance between healthy expression and emotional safety.Jennifer's Takeaways:Recreational Arguing in Families (00:00)Neuroscience Behind Recreational Arguing (01:43)Balancing Fun Debates with Emotional Safety (03:39)Teaching Kids Awareness and Respect (06:00)Managing Intense Family Interactions (07:38)Meet Jennifer KolariJennifer Kolari is the host of the “Connected Parenting” weekly podcast and the co-host of “The Mental Health Comedy” podcast. Kolari is a frequent guest on Nationwide morning shows and podcasts in the US and Canada. Her advice can also be found in many Canadian and US magazines such as; Today's Parent, Parents Magazine and Canadian Family.Kolari's powerful parenting model is based on the neurobiology of love, teaching parents how to use compassion and empathy as powerful medicine to transform challenging behavior and build children's emotional resilience and emotional shock absorbers.Jennifer's wisdom, quick wit and down to earth style help parents navigate modern-day parenting problems, offering real-life examples as well as practical and effective tools and strategies.Her highly entertaining, inspiring workshops are shared with warmth and humour, making her a crowd-pleasing speaker with schools, medical professionals, corporations and agencies throughout North America, Europe and Asia.One of the nation's leading parenting experts, Jennifer Kolari, is a highly sought- after international speaker and the founder of Connected Parenting. A child and family therapist with a busy practice based in San Diego and Toronto, Kolari is also the author of Connected Parenting: How to Raise A Great Kid (Penguin Group USA and Penguin Canada, 2009) and You're Ruining My Life! (But Not Really): Surviving the Teenage Years with Connected Parenting (Penguin Canada, 2011).

In this episode, Ned challenges the destructive cultural narrative that young men need to "get it out of their system" in their twenties, sharing insights from a recent father-son gathering and introducing Adam Lane Smith's transformative framework for masculine leadership based on four areas of safety that men must provide: resource safety, protection, emotional safety, and bonding safety. This episode is essential listening for any father who wants to shape his sons into men of character and teach his daughters what to look for in a partner.(00:00:00) - Father-Son Night(00:02:00) - Challenging "Get It Out of Your System" Mentality(00:03:00) - Working It INTO Your System vs. OUT of Your System(00:05:00) - The Abundance Mindset vs. Hoarding(00:07:00) - Four Areas of Safety Men Must Provide(00:08:00) - Resource Safety and Protection(00:08:00) - Emotional Safety and Bonding Safety(00:09:00) - Teaching These Principles to Family(00:10:00) - Earning the Right to Speak Into Your Children's Lives----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

If you've ever questioned where you stand with your partner or second-guessed their love, this will help you feel more grounded, connected, and secure. This episode first aired on June 21, 2021 (Episode 251), and I'm bringing it back because so many of you said it hit home.  Ever replayed a conversation, overread a text, or felt on edge when your partner seemed distracted even when nothing was “wrong”? That kind of relationship anxiety can keep you chasing reassurance. I'm joined by my colleague Georgi, a marriage and family therapist on our Growing Self team, to talk about why security can feel slippery and what it takes to build emotional safety that lasts. We look at how attachment injuries, big and small, quietly shape how you show up in love. Early experiences, broken trust, and even subtle disappointments can make connection feel risky and drive patterns like jealousy, anger, or withdrawal. Together, we talk about interrupting those cycles, hearing what your anxiety is trying to say, and inviting your partner into repair with curiosity rather than blame. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Introduction: Why It's Hard to Feel Secure in Your Relationship 07:05 How Attachment Shapes Emotional Safety and Trust 10:40 When Insecurity Shows Up as Anger or Jealousy 18:50 What Fuels Insecurity: Attachment Injuries and Unmet Needs 26:25 Inviting Your Partner In and Re-building Connection 30:35 Responding With Empathy Instead of Defensiveness 35:40 The House Analogy: Re-building Trust Brick by Brick 37:15 Emotional Safety as the Core of a Healthy Relationship As you listen, notice what shows up for you. When anxiety spikes, what story starts running—and how do you usually respond? Do you shut down, reach for control, or start hunting for proof that you're okay? Try pausing to ask what you truly need in that moment: comfort, reassurance, or a steadier sense of safety within yourself. If communication is adding to the tension, try my Communication that Connects Masterclass. It's a simple way to step out of those conflict loops and have conversations that build understanding. It includes a workbook so you can practice right away! You might also like my How Healthy Is Your Relationship? quiz. It's quick, gives you language for what's happening, and points to where your relationship could use more care. Want ongoing support between episodes? Find me on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. I share fresh tools and encouragement to help you create the love, happiness, and success you deserve. If this episode sparked something, or an idea for a future topic, I'd love to hear from you. Let's talk! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

Have you ever stayed in a relationship just to avoid being alone? Did staying make you feel better or worse over time? Today, Jay sits down with writer and relationship coach Quinlan Walther to explore what it truly means to build healthy, lasting relationships. Quinlan, known for her viral reflections on love and self-trust, explains the difference between wanting a relationship and being ready for one. She compares it to grocery shopping when you’re hungry, a reminder that desperation often drives us to make poor emotional choices. Together, they explore how self-awareness, emotional safety, and self-trust form the foundation for a genuine connection. Quinlan introduces her “Four C’s of Self-Trust”: curiosity, capacity, compassion, and commitment, a framework for strengthening one’s relationship with the self before seeking partnership. Jay and Quinlan confront the hard truths about modern love, how expectations, attachment wounds, and emotional burnout often distort our perception of what love should feel like. They explore the difference between chemistry and compatibility, reminding listeners that while excitement can spark a connection, it’s shared values and emotional maturity that sustain it. Quinlan emphasizes that relationships are not meant to fill our emptiness but to reflect our growth. Through stories and practical wisdom, she explains how the healthiest relationships allow space for vulnerability, accountability, and change, rather than perfection. Jay reflects on his own marriage, highlighting how communication, patience, and self-reflection create emotional safety and deepen love over time. In his interview, you'll learn: How to Know If You’re Ready for Love How to Build Self-Trust Before Dating How to Create Emotional Safety in Relationships How to Tell Chemistry from Compatibility How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt How to Heal After a Breakup How to Stop Repeating Unhealthy Patterns How to Grow Together Without Losing Yourself Real connection isn’t about finding someone to fix or complete us, it’s about growing into the version of ourselves that can give and receive love freely. Every heartbreak, disappointment, and moment of self-reflection brings us closer to understanding that love begins within. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:24 Wanting vs. Being Ready for Love 04:07 The Four C’s of Self-Trust 06:41 Relationships Should Help You Grow 10:32 Building Stability and Emotional Safety 13:27 When Requests Become Unreasonable 15:15 Love Within Someone’s Capacity 17:57 Are You Exhausted From Dating? 22:05 Does the Spark Really Matter? 23:28 When Attraction Misleads You 25:16 Compatibility vs. Chemistry 27:52 How Black-and-White Thinking Hurts Love 31:10 Is Love Alone Ever Enough? 32:43 What True Commitment Looks Like 36:39 Learning to Show Up for Yourself 39:35 Healing Family Wounds and Finding Peace 42:19 Breaking the Criticism–Withdrawal Cycle 49:31 Your Partner Reflects How You Love Yourself 51:14 Dating is Discernment, Marriage is Devotion 55:16 Real Change Takes Time 58:10 Why Every Relationship Needs Boundaries 59:47 How to Set Healthy Boundaries 01:01:21 Stop Compromising Your Own Boundaries 01:02:42 Are Soulmates Real? 01:05:01 What Should Love Feel Like? 01:08:59 Do You Want a Partner or a Spouse? 01:13:11 How to Move On After a Breakup 01:16:47 You Are Not Hard to Love 01:19:32 The Lessons Hidden in a Heartbreak 01:21:40 Quinlan on Final Five Episode Resources: Quinlan Walther | Website Quinlan Walther | Instagram Quinlan Walther | TikTok Quinlan Walther | YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Send us a textIf your partner asked for space and your whole body has been bracing ever since, you are not broken. You're in survival mode.On this episode of Love Shack Live, we're speaking directly to you, the partner who's been asked for space.You know that feeling of walking around with your stomach in knots, checking your phone every few minutes, wondering if reaching out will make things worse? You're not crazy for feeling this way. When someone you love pulls away, your nervous system sounds the alarm. To your body, space feels like danger.In this episode, we'll start right where you are, in the middle of the panic and confusion, and show you the first skill that can help you find steady ground again. It's a simple practice we call Sit Your Butt Down and Breathe, and it's how we begin every single day inside the Love in Limbo: 30-Day Roadmap.Before you can repair a relationship, you have to repair your sense of safety. Before you can communicate clearly, you have to calm the noise inside your own body. Until you do, every text, every silence, and every shift in tone will feel like proof that it's either saved or over.The question we'll answer today: How do you give someone space without losing yourself, or the relationship, in the process?You'll learn how to tell the difference between giving space and abandoning yourself, how to quiet the inner chaos, and how to start responding from calm instead of reacting from fear.Episode Resources: If you're ready to stop spinning and start finding your calm again, join us inside the Love in Limbo: 30-Day Roadmap, the step-by-step journey for rebuilding clarity, confidence, and connection during space: https://stacibartley.com/30-day-roadmapNot sure where to start? Take the free Relationship Space Assessment to discover how this space is impacting you, and what to do next: https://space-assessment.scoreapp.com/Timestamps: 01:34 Sit Your Butt Down and Breathe: A Guided Practice04:05 The Importance of Self-Regulation10:31 Emotional Safety and the Roadmap12:19 The Dynamics of Space in Relationships22:05 Anxious vs. Avoidant: Different Coping Mechanisms31:51 Real Questions from Listeners36:47 Addressing Confusion in Daily Activities37:38 Understanding Relationship Drift39:28 The Importance of Relationship Skills39:47 Admitting Wrong and Apologizing41:14 Becoming the Best Version of Yourself42:40 The Lease Option Contract for Love43:28 The Reality of Relationship Entropy45:22 Handling Separation and Emotional Capacity55:19 Deciding on Divorce or Fighting for Marriage58:47 Learning to Let Go and Self-Preservation01:00:07 The Love and Limbo Roadmap01:04:01 Breathe Like a Badass01:06:34 Final Thoughts and Resources

In this episode of the Raising Confident Girls podcast, Melissa Jones shares insight into raising daughters who are deeply empathetic and sensitive.Through personal stories and practical tools, she offers guidance on how to support big-feeling girls by helping them anchor their emotions, validate their experiences, and build emotional awareness. Tune in to discover:How to support sensitivity as a strengthTools to help your daughter manage emotional overwhelmWays to teach self-awareness and emotional balanceIf your daughter feels everything, this short pep talk is for you.If you know a parent who could benefit from this conversation, share this episode with them! Let's work together to raise the next generation of confident girls.Melissa's Links:• Website • Instagram • Facebook• TikTok• LinkedIn

Episode #1044 Feel like every argument with your wife turns into a courtroom battle? You explain, defend, try to fix it, and somehow it only gets worse. In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men who are tired of walking on eggshells and ready to lead differently. You'll learn what DEER Mode really is and why it keeps you stuck. You'll also get real examples of how to stop reacting and start creating emotional safety so your wife can relax and reconnect. Whether she says she needs space, shuts down for days, or tells you she's not in love with this version of you, this episode shows you how to respond without chasing, fixing, or folding. This is about shifting out of panic mode and into calm leadership. It's about taking full ownership without losing your edge. When your wife feels safe, everything changes. And when you stop letting fear run the show, you finally show up as the man you were built to be. If this hits home and you want to take the next step, check out the free training that breaks down how to fix your marriage without more talking or therapy at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales.

In this episode we talk about how Letting go of control, comfort, and old coping patterns isn't easy. Change asks us to allow, to trust, and to let in — all things that can feel terrifying if we've spent years surviving by keeping walls up. In this episode, we talk about how to know when it's time to loosen control, why “fine” isn't the same as fulfilled, and what helps us feel safe enough to soften. Because true courage isn't about forcing change — it's about allowing growth to happen where safety and honesty meet.  THREE TAKEAWAYS 1. Letting go isn't giving up — it's trusting yourself enough to stop forcing outcomes. 2. Safety comes from consistency, empathy, and ownership — not control. 3. Real courage begins when we allow vulnerability to meet safety.                      The courage to stop managing everything begins with one brave thought: maybe I'm safe enough now to let go.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words      Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Keep It Clean, Keep It Dirty!In marriage, passion and purity both matter — but too many couples lose the spark trying to stay “perfect.”In this episode of The 'NEW' Marriage, we talk about balancing emotional connection with physical desire — why healthy sexuality is vital to long-term love, and how to keep things real, playful, and sacred at the same time.We dive into how shame, fear, and conditioning can kill attraction, and what it takes to create a relationship that's both emotionally safe and sexually alive.

Gugs Mhlungu speaks to Leigh Joy, Relationship expert, exploring a new dating trend called Floodlighting, where oversharing on a first date creates the illusion of vulnerability. They explore the roots of this behaviour and how it differs from trauma bonding and love bombing. 702 Weekend Breakfast with Gugs Mhlungu is broadcast on 702, a Johannesburg based talk radio station, on Saturdays and Sundays Gugs Mhlungu gets you ready for the weekend each Saturday and Sunday morning on 702. She is your weekend wake-up companion, with all you need to know for your weekend. The topics Gugs covers range from lifestyle, family, health, and fitness to books, motoring, cooking, culture, and what is happening on the weekend in 702land. Thank you for listening to a podcast from 702 Weekend Breakfast with Gugs Mhlungu. Listen live on Primedia+ on Saturdays and Sundays from 06:00 and 10:00 (SA Time) to Weekend Breakfast with Gugs Mhlungu broadcast on 702 https://buff.ly/gk3y0Kj For more from the show go to https://buff.ly/u3Sf7Zy or find all the catch-up podcasts here https://buff.ly/BIXS7AL Subscribe to the 702 daily and weekly newsletters https://buff.ly/v5mfetc Follow us on social media: 702 on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TalkRadio702 702 on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talkradio702 702 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkradio702/ 702 on X: https://x.com/Radio702 702 on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@radio702 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this short episode of the Raising Confident Girls podcast, host Melissa Jones kicks off her new series, Parent Pep Talk, with a powerful reminder: parenting isn't about getting it perfect—it's about staying connected.Through personal stories and honest reflections, Melissa shares how being present and truly listening can do more for your daughter's confidence than having all the answers.In this episode, you'll learn:Why emotional safety matters more than perfect parentingThe power of listening without jumping in to fixHow asking the right questions builds trust and resilienceSimple ways to show up with presence and vulnerabilityIf you've ever felt the pressure to do it all “right,” this episode will encourage you to slow down, connect, and trust that being there is more than enough.If you know a parent who could benefit from this conversation, share this episode with them! Let's work together to raise the next generation of confident girls.Melissa's Links:• Website • Instagram • Facebook• TikTok• LinkedIn

This is a special episode because I'm joined by my life consultant, Rachel Hughes, for a rich conversation about the nervous system, trauma, and the journey of healing. Rachel has been a deeply influential voice in my own process—teaching me what it means to feel safe in my body and how to gently restore that sense of safety when it's lost.Together, we explore the importance of understanding triggers, cultivating self-compassion, and practicing emotional regulation in everyday life. This conversation highlights the power of creating safety in small, consistent ways—and the hope that emerges when we begin to truly heal.Rachel created the course reclaimig you alongside Abi Stumvoll: https://justinandabi.com/courses/reclaimingyou/Follow Rachel on instragram: https://www.instagram.com/rachelhughesconsulting/Get your free Wholehearted Living journal prompts. https://calm-sun-843.myflodesk.com/x5yo2oyoyuBook a free discovery coaching call: www.ella-hooper.comFollow me on Instagram:@ella.hooper_

In this episode, we dive into an enlightening conversation with Cindy Stibbard, a certified divorce and relationship coach and the founder of Divorce Redefined. Cindy shares her journey of dealing with infidelity, navigating the breakdown of her marriage, and ultimately finding purpose in helping others. The discussion touches on the importance of addressing conflict in relationships, emotional safety, and the value of independence and self-worth. Cindy offers practical advice for both single and married listeners on how to build healthy relationships, whether it involves staying and working through tough times or knowing when to move on.IN THIS EPISODE:- (06:20) Deciding Whether to Stay or Go- (15:09) The Importance of Emotional Safety- (22:21) Cindy's Personal Marriage Experience- (39:19) The Two-Year Rule for Relationships- (43:09) The Dangers of Codependency- (47:16) The Strength of Being Single- (54:28) Dealing with Betrayal and InfidelityRESOURCESCheck out my How to Attract Devoted Masculine Men Masterclass HERE My FREE eBook The Magnetic WomanApp rec: BumbleFeminine Embodiment HERECONNECT WITH CHARLENE On Instagram @mscharlenebyars On YouTube @chosentrainingWork with me HERECONNECT WITH CINDYOn Instagram HEREHis Links HERE

In this episode, our returning guest expert (and favorite friend of the podcast!) Dr. Nacchi Felt joins us to unveil the brand-new Cycle of Accountability—the life-direction loop that helps ADHD brains point their power at the right targets.Inside the loop:Alignment — Name your values (think truth, responsibility, gratitude) so decisions stop feeling random.Accountability — Drop the “shoulds.” Hold yourself to what you care about.Attention — Your attention is your presence. Reclaim it as your birthright.Attachment — Safe relationships supercharge the loop and keep you present.But here's the deeper truth: safety and acceptance are the foundation that make this loop possible. Being “safe” means you can be fully seen and still contained—someone can sit with you in your hardest moments without pulling away. That's a rare experience for many ADHDers, and therapy or coaching can provide a version of that safety while you learn to build it yourself. From playful co-regulation with a child to a friend's honest reassurance, relationships that combine honesty and containment create fertile ground for growth. When you experience that kind of attachment, it not only soothes your nervous system—it also strengthens your alignment with your values and makes accountability feel natural, not forced. You're not going to want to miss this episode!More from Dr. Felt here!Clearheaded: The ADHD Guide for Turning Overwhelm into Clarity, Calm, and Control

In this second part of The Stories We Tell Ourselves series, Chelsea and Mike get into how the stories we carry in early parenthood shape connection, intimacy, and identity.They unpack why emotional disconnection and constant stress make couples feel distant, how to rebuild psychological safety, and why nervous-system regulation is key to closeness.You'll learn:How to externalize negative stories and stop the spiral of resentmentWhat “matrescence” and “patrescence” really mean for your identity as parentsWhy emotional safety is the foundation for physical intimacy after a babyPractical ways to reconnect and repair when you're both running on emptyWhether you're feeling stuck in survival mode or missing the spark in your marriage, this episode offers real talk and practical tools to help you feel like a team again.Keywords: emotional disconnection after baby, intimacy after baby, postpartum marriage help, matrescence, new parent identity, nervous system regulation, relationship coaching, postpartum relationship adviceMentioned past episodes and links: Regulation and the Nervous SystemEmotional or Physical Connection, Which Comes First?MatresenceBook a connection call with us here to learn more about how we support pregnant, postpartum, and current parents in their relationships.

Episode 201 - Never Letting Go First - The Disney Hug Rule and Dad's Role in Emotional SafetyThe Disney Hug Rule is an unofficial but widely recognized guideline observed by Disney characters at the parks: when a child initiates a hug, the character does not let go until the child decides to end the embrace. This rule is rooted in empathy and kindness, ensuring that children feel fully comforted and emotionally supported during their magical experience. It acknowledges that the child may need the hug for as long as they choose because "you never know how much that child may need that hug." Characters are trained to hold the hug patiently, making guests feel valued and loved, which creates lasting memories for families visiting the parks. While not a strict official policy, it is a purposeful practice reflecting Disney's commitment to connection and warmth.Applying this rule to parenting, especially for dads with their children and in loving relationships with wives or partners, it suggests a powerful lesson: in love and care, one should be patient and fully present, holding onto the emotional connection as long as the other person needs it. In parenting, this means giving children the safety and security of emotional availability, allowing them to lean in for comfort and support without rushing away. For dads, this embodies nurturing presence and unconditional love—being there physically and emotionally until the child naturally pulls away, building trust and a secure bond.Similarly, in relationships with wives and partners, adopting the spirit of the Disney Hug Rule advocates for sustained emotional presence and affection. It means holding on emotionally and physically, being patient and receptive to the partner's needs for closeness and reassurance. This approach strengthens intimacy and fosters a deep sense of being loved and valued, reinforcing a respectful and empathetic partnership.Dads can use the Disney Hug Rule—never letting go first when hugging their kids—as a powerful tool for teaching emotional safety and trust. This approach communicates to children that their feelings and needs are important and respected, allowing them to decide when they are ready to end a moment of closeness. By consistently hugging until the child lets go first, dads send the message that they are a safe, patient, and attentive presence, which promotes confidence and reassurance in the child's relationship with their parentPractical Ways to Apply the RuleAlways let children end the hug, no matter their age—this transfers a sense of control, respect, and security to the child, showing that their comfort is the priority.Use hugs as moments of genuine connection, being fully present without distractions, which helps children feel seen and valued.Reinforce emotional safety by embracing feelings—whether a child is sad, excited, or anxious, the lingering hug lets them know their emotions are accepted and supported.Promote body autonomy and consent by allowing kids to choose when physical affection ends—this underpins future emotional intelligence and healthy boundaries.Integrate this practice into daily routines: before school, at bedtime, or during moments of distress, turning each hug into a brief but impactful lesson in trust and comfort.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

How to pass the 4 pillars of manhood to your kids Why celebrating vulnerability matters more than perfect discipline How to normalize hard conversations about sex, money, and struggle The long view: Becoming a tender-hearted grandpa starts now FULL SHOW NOTES LEARN about joining the Fall 2025 DadAwesome Accelerator Cohorts SUMMARY Some days you feel like a C-grade dad, and that's when presence matters most. In this episode, Josh Krehbiel shares how he's learning to create emotional safety for his kids, celebrate vulnerability over performance, and pursue the long view of becoming a tender-hearted grandfather. You'll hear about the four pillars of manhood, why crock-pot freedom beats microwave solutions, and how to get to the rocking chair with love on your heart. TAKEAWAYS Marking moments matter: Creating manhood ceremonies and intentional milestones leaves lasting impressions on your kids, even if the follow-up isn't perfect. Celebrate vulnerability first: When your kids fail or confess something hard, make it about their openness before addressing consequences—this builds emotional safety. Reject passivity, accept responsibility, lead courageously, and be fueled by the future: These four pillars of manhood provide a framework for raising boys and girls with character. Pursue purity as a top priority: The war for purity as a father protects your ability to show physical affection and have compassion without contamination. Freedom is crock-pot, not microwave: Breakthrough comes through long-suffering love and staying present, not by trying to manhandle change. GUEST Josh Krehbiel is the lead founding pastor of Every Day Church in Roseville, Minnesota—a community focused on prayer, discipleship, and sending out leaders and movements. Along with his wife Katie, Josh is passionate about raising up the next generation through worship, ministry, and authentic family connection. They have four children: three teenagers and a five-year-old. Josh is also a songwriter and worship leader who believes in the power of declaring truth over families through music and prayer.   LINKS Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Download a free chapter of the DadAwesome book Raising Modern-Day Knights by Robert Lewis Everyday Church, Roseville, Minnesota   QUOTES "When failure happens we celebrate the vulnerability first because the most important thing is connection and felt safety." "I want to get to the rocking chair with love on my heart and grandkids who say grandpa is kind." "Freedom doesn't happen through manhandling it happens through long suffering love and staying present in the crock pot not microwave." "Your kids don't feel safe because you think they're safe they feel safe when you celebrate their vulnerability over their performance." "The war for purity as a father protects your ability to show physical affection with compassion instead of contamination."

Send us a textEpisode 191 - When Conflict or Silence Feels Like Love: What Fighting and Avoidance Say About Your FamilyIs your family stuck in conflict—either yelling and arguing or avoiding everything in silence? In this episode, family relationship coach Tina Gosney explains how conflict styles shape marriage, parenting, and your relationship with adult children—and how to move from destructive patterns to constructive conflict and emotional safety. In this episode of Coaching Your Family Relationships, Tina Gosney, Family Life Educator and Family Relationship Coach, breaks down the hidden conflict styles that shape your marriage, your parenting, and your relationship with your family.You'll discover:Why yelling, arguing, or “unfiltered honesty” can feel like love and connection in some familiesWhy silence, sweeping things under the rug, or avoiding tough conversations can feel like safety in othersHow destructive conflict, conflict avoidance, and constructive conflict each shape your family relationshipsWhat happens when highly religious families label conflict as “sinful” and shut it downHow parents—whether raising kids or relating to adult children—set the emotional tone for the whole familyWhy fighting doesn't always mean connection, and silence doesn't always mean peacePractical steps to create emotional safety, better communication, and genuine connection at homeWhether your home has been marked by explosive arguments or cold silences, this episode will help you understand your conflict style and begin practicing constructive conflict that leads to healing, intimacy, and lasting connection.Join Tina Gosney's live workshop on October 9th: End Family Disconnection and Rebuild Relationships that Last. Learn how to change the emotional climate of your family—even if no one else changes first. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Emotional safety is the foundation of lasting intimacy and trust in marriage. In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into what it really means to feel safe with your spouse, and being able to share thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities without fear of judgment or rejection.We'll explore the signs of emotional safety, the common behaviors that destroy it, and practical ways to create a safe space where both spouses feel understood, respected, and supported. From breaking patterns like criticism, stonewalling, or dishonesty, to building habits of empathy, validation, and open communication, this conversation will help you strengthen the bond in your marriage and deepen your connection.If you want more trust, better conflict resolution, and deeper intimacy with your spouse, this episode is for you.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

If sex feels disconnected, mechanical, or just not happening, then the real block might not be desire… it might be safety.In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we share why emotional safety is the foundation of intimacy and how it creates the conditions for passion, polarity, and lasting connection. What you'll hear in this episode:What emotional safety really means and why “not fighting” isn't enoughHow polarity and turn-on are fuelled by safety in both masculine and feminine energyWhat is the hidden cost of ignoring safety, and how does it erode intimacy over timeWhat are some simple, daily practices that build safety, trust, and connectionWhy safety is the foundation of better sex and not just more sex.If you're craving sex that feels alive, nourishing, and deeply connected, this episode is your reminder: it all starts with safety. OUR NOVEMBER 20–24 GROUP RETREAT IS A FULL TANTRA EXPERIENCE AND REGISTRATION IS NOW OPENHere's what you'll experience:• Practices that bring your body into safety so pleasure can expand• Tools to rewire old patterns of shame, disconnection, or performance• Sacred intimacy rituals that turn sex into something nourishing and electric• Private time to take everything you've learned into your own bed

What if the change your child needs starts with you? This episode explores how rethinking your role through an attachment lens can unlock new ways to connect, support, and truly understand your child. Discover what happens when you stop trying to fix and start seeing differently. You may never look at parenting the same way again.What to expect in this episode:Why real change begins when caregivers feel just as empowered as their kidsHow an attachment-based lens helps reframe behavior and connectionWhat reflective parenting looks like and why it builds trust over timeHow to move from “fixing” to truly listening and understandingWhy belonging matters more than we think in classrooms and homesAbout Tania Johnson, R.PsychTania is a registered psychologist and co-founder of the Institute of Child Psychology. Originally from South Africa, she holds an Honours degree in psychology and a Master's in counselling from City University of Seattle. Tania brings a global perspective to her work, having taught in Taiwan and trained at the Cancer Treatment Centers of America in Chicago. A former foster parent and current supervisor for emerging clinicians, she draws from attachment theory to support meaningful connections between children and caregivers. Tania is known for turning research into practical strategies that parents can apply in daily life. Connect with TaniaWebsite: Institute of Child Psychology Facebook: Institute of Child Psychology Instagram: instituteofchildpsych YouTube: Institute of Child Psychology Related Links:EP153: Trusting Complex Kids & Helping Them Trust Us https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-153-trusting-complex-kids-helping-them-trust-us/id1565976964?i=1000648999971EP207: Rebuilding Trust with Teens: Cleaning the Slate Conversations https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep207-rebuilding-trust-with-teens-cleaning-the/id1565976964?i=1000700897363Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools for Parents at https://impactparents.com/gift.Read the full blog here:https://impactparents.com/how-to-build-trust-and-emotional-security-in-kids Connect with Impact Parents:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparentsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParentsLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparentsSponsors"Cognitive Ergonomics from the Inside Out" – A New ADHD InterventionDo you recognize current ADHD interventions fall short? At DIG Coaching, we've developed a groundbreaking field of engineering called Cognitive Ergonomics from the Inside Out. Discover a fresh approach to ADHD care that looks beyond traditional methods.Learn more at www.cognitive-ergonomics.com

“We're taught how to fall in love, but not how to stay there.” So in today's must-listen episode, I chat with renowned relationship repair expert Baya Voce, MSW, to learn the art of repair, and how to maintain love and connection through conflict.Arguments happen (they're an important part of relationships and individuation!) — but they don't have to break your bond. In this powerful episode, we dive into proven tools for transforming conflict into deeper connection, and Baya's strategies for building better communication, boundaries, and emotional safety.If you're in love, want love, or care about love, this is your roadmap for working towards interdependence, rebuilding trust, and creating love that lasts.With an MSW from Columbia University, Baya specializes in couples counselling and MDMA-assisted couples therapy research, and is supervised by the incredible Esther Perel!  Her work has been featured in a TED Talk, on Vice, Forbes, MTV, and ABC, and her videos on everything from boundaries, to using AI for therapy, to navigating jealousy, have been viewed by millions.Tune in as we explore:

High performers are often praised for their drive, precision, and reliability. But what if what looks like ambition... is actually anxiety? In this episode, Jean Dorff—founder of The Empowering Story and author of Broken Silence—explores a quiet truth many professionals carry: that what the world sees as excellence may actually be a trauma response. From over-editing emails to automatic “yeses,” we explore how fear-based striving can become a silent survival strategy. ✨ This isn't about pathologizing success. It's about understanding the invisible labor survivors perform to stay “safe” in environments that reward compliance over authenticity. We'll cover: Why trauma survivors often perform for safety at work How hypervigilance becomes perfectionism in disguise What burnout looks like when it's rooted in self-erasure Three micro-boundaries that support nervous system healing How healing your work habits can shift workplace culture This is a space for reflection, not shame. Whether you're navigating leadership, rebuilding from burnout, or just beginning to unlearn old survival strategies, this episode is here to help you pause—and breathe.

Send us a textIn this episode of the Relaxing To Love podcast, Teal Riege explores the reasons why emotionally healthy men may initially feel boring compared to the excitement of emotionally unavailable partners. She discusses the impact of nervous system imprinting on attraction, the difference between trauma bonding and real connection, and how to retrain oneself to embrace healthy love. Teal emphasizes the importance of recognizing emotional safety and building a secure foundation for relationships, encouraging listeners to reflect on their attachment styles and patterns in love.Takeaways:Emotionally healthy men can feel boring due to past trauma.Nervous system imprinting affects our attraction to partners.Stability in relationships may feel less exciting than chaos.Recognizing emotional safety is crucial for healthy connections.Trauma bonding creates a cycle of craving chaos and drama.True connection is calm and emotionally nourishing.Craving excitement can indicate an unhealthy attachment style.Retraining your nervous system can help embrace healthy love.Building attraction takes time and emotional safety.You are not broken; healing is a process.Schedule Your 30-Minute Relationship Audit Today: https://calendly.com/tealeriege/auditFollow Teal on Insta Here:https://www.instagram.com/tealelisabeth_/Download Teal's Relax into Love Guided Meditations here: https://www.tealelisabeth.com/meditationsJump into the Love Life Accelerator Here:https://www.tealelisabeth.com/accelerator Learn more about her Soul Rebirth Course here: https://www.tealelisabeth.com/soul-rebirthLearn more about her Sacred Union Course here:https://www.tealelisabeth.com/sacred-unionEmail Teal anytime here: teal@relax-into-love.comSupport the show

Episode #168: Can authentic connections change your perspective on life? Join me, Kimberly Lovi, as we explore transformative insights from my recent journey to Charlotte, where I had the privilege of collaborating with Leonard Wheeler on a major campaign. A visit to Gordon's barbershop revealed powerful lessons on humility and the true essence of connection amidst his personal health battles. We discuss the enlightening cultural contrasts between Charlotte and Los Angeles, particularly the openness about faith, which left a lasting impression on us. This episode promises a wealth of reflection on the value of material possessions in the face of life's challenges and the importance of embracing authenticity, support, and respect for diversity. Moreover, we dive deep into the significance of personal accountability and self-reflection when navigating conflicts. Learn how owning your part and being honest with yourself can not only build trust but also open doors for more meaningful conversations. We touch on the necessity of emotional safety and the role of a supportive network in expressing vulnerability. Through personal stories, we reinforce the message that it's okay not to be okay, and that genuine feelings can fortify relationships and foster deeper connections. This episode is a heartfelt reminder of the power of authenticity in overcoming life's challenges. Chapters: (00:00) Transformative Insights and Authentic Connections (13:13) Navigating Authentic Self-Reflection and Connections Follow Kimberly on Instagram and TikTok @kimberlylovi or @iconicnationmedia  WATCH us on YouTube and view our brand new studio! 

You can say all the right things and still miss each other. Discover why emotional honesty—not performance—is the gateway to real connection, and how to break the cycle of surface-level intimacy without sacrificing strength.What if the very thing that makes you successful is also what's silently distancing you from your partner?In today's episode of The Recalibration, we explore emotional honesty in marriage — and why it's so hard for high-capacity humans to access it. You might be articulate, self-aware, and transparent… and still be emotionally unavailable. Julie Holly shares her own journey of emotional detachment disguised as leadership, revealing how high performers often substitute control and composure for true vulnerability — not out of malice, but out of protection.This episode blends real-world storywork, neuroscience, and relationship research from Dr. John Gottman to uncover the invisible gap between what we say and how we actually connect. It's not about mastering conflict scripts or fixing communication. It's about recalibrating identity — so your presence matches your power.You'll hear:Why emotional honesty feels risky to high achieversHow “transparency” can still be a maskWhat Gottman's bids for connection reveal about nervous system safetyHow tiny missed moments create emotional shutdownWhy ILR is not mindset work — it's identity work that restores intimacyHow to lead your marriage with presence, not performanceWhether you're in a long-term relationship or simply desiring deeper emotional connection, this episode invites you to stop calculating and start connecting.Today's Micro Recalibration:Where have I been withholding emotional honesty to protect an image?What truth — even a small one — could I share today that would build intimacy, not distance?For Couples (Recalibration Together):What's one moment recently where you felt I turned toward you — or didn't?This is the kind of clarity that recalibrates more than just your marriage — it shifts your whole life.Linked Resources:Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. AllenderIf this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

In this candid episode, Alicia gets real about something most stepmoms won't say out loud: you want to be over your partner's past… but reminders keep ambushing you—kids' faces, old photos, in-law stories, even the house you live in. She explains why your brain grabs the past when you don't feel safe, the hidden cost of re-hashing old wounds, and a step-by-step plan to stop using history as ammunition so you can build the future you actually want.Who this is for:Stepmoms who feel caught between “I'm fine” and “I'm about to bring up 2014 again.” If you've ever tossed a decades-old moment into a current disagreement, this one's for you.What you'll learn:Why the past feels so present: Safety responses, stepfamily triggers, and the comparison trap (you're not “first,” so it feels like you'll never “come first”).The real cost of holding on: Erosion of trust, the resentment loop, and how re-reading old chapters keeps you from writing new ones.Six tools to move forward (without pretending it never happened):Catch the trigger in real timeSeparate past from presentJournal it (hello, Ex-Files) instead of dumping it on your partnerChoose your future over your fear (simple visualization prompt)Forgiveness vs. boundaries (what each one actually does)Shift the self-talk: from “I'll never measure up” to “I am the present and the future”Key takeawaysWhen you don't feel safe, your brain reaches for “proven” past evidence to protect you. That doesn't mean it serves your relationship now.The more you punish your partner for the past, the less space there is to create something new—today.You are not in competition with their past. You are their present and future.Boundaries protect you; expectations attempt to control them. Keep them separate.If the roles were reversed, you wouldn't want your old chapters thrown at you either.Related episodes & resourcesEpisode 111 – Spiraling: Why It Happens & How to Feel Safe Again → aliciakrasko.com/111Episode 110 – The Secret Journal Every Stepmom Should Have (Your “Ex-Files”) → aliciakrasko.com/110Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

When we feel safe in our relationships, we feel we can show up with more vulnerability.  When we show up with more vulnerability, we create more emotional and physical intimacy.  But oftentimes, the behaviors we are engaging in in our relationships put the other person into protective mode rather than feeling safe, and so we struggle to create the connected relationships we really desire.  In this podcast we will talk about ten ways we can create more of a safe space for our person. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #218 Honest Relationships #243 Having More Honest Communication #244 The Relationship Circle #284 Why Vulnerability Matters #295 Safety in the Relationship Circle #326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe #331 Sense of Self #332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head #333 Sense of Self and Dating #334 Sense of Self and Marriage #341 Choosing to Be All In #344 Are You a Safe Place for Vulnerability? #347 The Self Care of Relationship Repair #357 How to Be More Understanding #359 10 Ways to Be a Safer Spouse #364 Relationship Neglect Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/  

Emotional safety is more than just a buzzword. It's the foundation for healing and thriving in every area of your life. But for many women, creating emotional safety can feel like an abstract idea. And honestly, it wasn't until I really started to dig into it as a coach that I understood what it truly meant.In this episode, I break down why emotional safety isn't about being calm or waiting for others to “make” you feel safe, but rather starts when you go first. That means acknowledging your emotions and taking the steps to regulate your own nervous system, even when everything around you feels out of control.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/274Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

Why can't women just understand men? Why can't men just understand women? The short answer is, “we're not supposed to.” If we were, we wouldn't really have any need for each other, would we? My guest today, Adam Lane Smith, has made it his life's work to get closer to helping men understand women and help us understand our own natural tendencies in relationships. Today, Adam and I talk about emotional starvation, the concept of CEO/COO between men and women, the ‘red flags' that your marriage is struggling, what men and women do to cause each other pain, and how men can lead in their relationships much more effectively. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Finding Purpose and Chasing It 00:59 – Building a 200-Year Family System 02:51 – Two Worlds: Secure vs Insecure Attachment 05:55 – Teaching People Safety vs Creating Secure Attachment 07:27 – Maslow's Hierarchy and Emotional Safety 10:46 – Safety for Men as Peace 14:19 – Security Starts Outside the Relationship 17:38 – Rebuilding a Marriage After Decades 20:53 – Invalidation and Dismissal in Relationships 22:23 – Venting vs Bringing Concerns 27:18 – The Purpose of Female Feelings as Data 29:36 – Men and Women's Brains Are Meant to Interlink 32:05 – The Ancient Fear of Not Being Believed 37:25 – Emotional Starvation in Relationships 40:38 – Signs She's Thriving or Starving Emotionally 45:13 – Four Levels of Safety Women Need 48:24 – Level 1: Physical Safety 50:07 – Level 2: Resource Safety 52:00 – Choosing the Right Woman for Your Circle 55:08 – Defining Masculine and Feminine Roles 58:32 – How Men Decide and Women Refine 01:02:05 – Level 3: Emotional Safety 01:04:29 – Level 4: Bonding Safety Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ ⁠(free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ In this enlightening episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes Sarah Sloane, sex and kink educator from the Hashtag Open app, for an essential conversation about consent, sexual communication, and finding partners who truly align with your desires. This episode tackles everything from making consent conversations sexy to navigating ethical porn, kink exploration, and the realities of dating after divorce. Sarah breaks down how to make consent attractive rather than awkward, emphasizing that consent is temporary and can be withdrawn at any time. We explore the "hell yes" versus "hell no" standard for enthusiastic consent and practical ways to slow down sexual encounters for better awareness and communication. The conversation addresses how to teach consent early through body autonomy and why being honest about your boundaries actually makes you more attractive to compatible partners. We dive into listener questions from Matt, who's navigating dating after an abusive marriage with no prior dating experience, and Christi, whose 20-year marriage is strained by concerns about her husband's porn use. Sarah offers guidance on video dating as the pandemic norm, using apps like Hashtag Open for specific interests, and the importance of yes/no/maybe lists for discovering preferences without shame. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction & Sarah's Early Life 03:41 - Discovering Kink & Initial Curiosity 07:38 - Power Exchange & Emotional Safety in BDSM 11:59 - Consent, Boundaries & Clear Communication 16:13 - Self-Worth, Validation & Identity 20:46 - Shame, Judgment & Cultural Programming 26:17 - Healing from Trauma Through Play 31:03 - BDSM & Somatics: Embodiment Work 36:42 - Rewriting Scripts Around Pleasure & Worthiness 43:20 - Advice for Beginners & Empowered Exploration

Jamie Lynn is a marriage and family therapist, FHM cover model, and returning guest on the podcast. She openly shares her personal journey through abuse, healing, and professional growth, offering insight into mental health, narcissism, and self-worth. Her experience gives her a powerful and compassionate voice in both therapy and public conversations. 00:00:00 – Intro 00:01:12 – Clarifying The Drama 00:02:25 – Is He a Narcissist or Just Not Into You? 00:03:37 – Patterns vs Red Flags 00:04:50 – Empathy or Lip Service? 00:06:02 – Women and the Victim Mindset 00:07:15 – Misusing Pop Psychology 00:08:27 – Victimhood as an Identity 00:09:40 – Manipulation Through Guilt 00:10:53 – The Trap of Empath Label 00:12:05 – Nobody Really Cares 00:13:18 – “That Won't Work for Me” Syndrome 00:14:30 – Linking Therapy & Fitness 00:15:43 – Physical Health, Mental Health 00:16:55 – Skirting Around the Truth 00:18:08 – What Body Positivity Hides 00:19:20 – Therapists and Avoidance 00:20:33 – CBT vs Real Change 00:21:46 – Rewiring the Brain 00:22:58 – Behavioral Activation Basics 00:24:11 – Depression vs Inactivity 00:25:24 – The “Just Move” Advice Debate 00:26:36 – Labeling People Isn't Helpful 00:27:49 – Diagnosing Doesn't Fix It 00:29:01 – Narcissist vs NPD 00:30:14 – Court-Ordered Therapy Explained 00:31:27 – Behavior Without Remorse 00:32:39 – Stop Dating Red Flags 00:33:52 – Healing Without Closure 00:35:04 – Bullet Removal Analogy 00:36:17 – Imposter Syndrome or Self-Doubt 00:37:30 – Split Thinking in Success 00:38:42 – The Root is Low Self-Esteem 00:39:55 – Specific vs Situational Confidence 00:41:07 – Authenticity vs Insecurity 00:42:20 – Childhood Trauma & Belief 00:43:32 – Abusive Home Life 00:44:45 – Religious Confusion & Abuse 00:45:57 – Growing Through Education 00:47:10 – Forgiveness Is For You 00:48:22 – Letting Go of Justice 00:49:35 – Closure Is Not Reconnection 00:50:48 – Resentment Bonds You 00:52:00 – Forgiveness and Spiritual Freedom 00:53:13 – Narcissist Still Controls You 00:54:25 – Heal to Stop Obsessing 00:55:38 – Abundance as Antidote 00:56:51 – Betrayal Still Hurts 00:58:03 – Forgiveness Is Daily Work 00:59:16 – Busy Over Bitter 01:00:28 – Power of Forward Vision 01:01:41 – No One Is Coming to Save You 01:02:53 – How She Met Her Ex 01:04:06 – Attracted to Power 01:05:18 – First Signs of Manipulation 01:06:31 – Creating Jealousy Early 01:07:43 – Triangulation Tactics 01:08:56 – Control Through Insecurity 01:10:08 – Going to Therapy After Abuse 01:11:21 – Why She Chose Psychology 01:12:34 – Knowing Her Purpose Early 01:13:46 – Happiness Through Work 01:14:59 – Not Idle, Not Depressed 01:16:11 – Focus on the Future 01:17:24 – Saving Herself, Not Waiting 01:18:36 – First Red Flags in Marriage 01:19:49 – Idealizing False Safety 01:21:02 – Ignoring the Warning Signs 01:22:14 – When Love is a Trauma Bond 01:23:27 – Psychological Abuse Isn't Loud 01:24:39 – The Power of Projection 01:25:52 – Living for Someone Else 01:27:04 – Silence as a Weapon 01:28:17 – Leaving Without Closure 01:29:30 – Self-Worth After Breakup 01:30:42 – Dating While Healing 01:31:55 – Falling Into Old Patterns 01:33:07 – Looking for Safe Chaos 01:34:20 – Why Trauma Feels Like Home 01:35:33 – Fantasy Relationships 01:36:45 – Emotional Safety vs Excitement 01:37:58 – Recognizing Real Love 01:39:10 – Drama Isn't Chemistry 01:40:23 – Trust Takes Time 01:41:35 – Slow is Safe 01:42:48 – Conflict Avoidance Patterns 01:44:01 – Learning to Speak Up 01:45:13 – Boundaries Are Self-Love 01:46:26 – When to Walk Away 01:47:38 – Coaching vs Counseling 01:48:51 – What Clients Really Need 01:50:04 – Accountability Over Validation 01:51:16 – The Truth About Change 01:52:29 – Helping People Who Won't Help Themselves 01:53:41 – Final Thoughts on Narcissism 01:54:54 – Leaving the Past Behind 01:56:06 – Stay Grounded in Reality 01:57:19 – The Power of Reflection 01:58:31 – Own Your Healing 01:59:44 – Thank You Jamie Lynn

Subscribe to the video podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@DrTazMD/podcastsIn this episode, Dr. Taz sits down for a heartfelt conversation with Sophie Grégoire Trudeau about tending to our emotional health and mental well-being. They explore topics including emotional literacy, brain health, trauma recovery, and the importance of community and connection in maintaining mental wellness. They also delve into the power of personal and familial healing and emphasize the significance of slowing down, being present, and nurturing authentic relationships. About Sophie Grégoire TrudeauBest-selling author, celebrated public speaker, and passionate mental health advocate, Sophie Grégoire Trudeau has championed gender equality, female empowerment, youth self-esteem, and the importance of physical activity for over two decades.In her first book, Closer Together: Knowing Ourselves, Loving Each Other, Sophie explores the science behind brain health, emotional intelligence, and our unique emotional signatures, drawing on her personal journey and interviews with renowned experts.Stay ConnectedConnect further to Hol+ at https://holplus.co/- Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on future episodes of hol+.Subscribe to the audio podcast: https://holplus.transistor.fm/subscribeSubscribe to the video podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@DrTazMD/podcastsFollow Dr. Taz on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtazmd/https://www.instagram.com/liveholplus/Connect with Sophie Grégoire Trudeauhttps://www.instagram.com/sophiegregoiretrudeauhttps://sophiegregoiretrudeau.com/Host & Production TeamHost: Dr. Taz; Produced by Rainbow Creative (Executive Producer: Matthew Jones; Lead Producer: Lauren Feighan; Editors: Jeremiah Schultz and Patrick Edwards)02:42 Exploring Emotional Literacy03:20 The Impact of Early Life Experiences07:05 The Global Mental Health Crisis14:57 The Importance of Emotional Safety29:51 The Language of Love is Slow33:27 The Emotional Load Carried by Women36:41 The Role of Social Connections in Wellness40:44 Navigating Family Dynamics and Raising Teenagers50:50 The Influence of Social Media on Mental Health54:11 The Importance of Community and Connection56:08 Sophie Grégoire Trudeau's Personal Journey

Are you a people pleaser? A nice guy/gal? It's one of the most quietly destructive behaviors - and it's also surprisingly common. In today's conversation, I'm joined by Oliver Robert Lucas to talk about the causes of and solutions to people pleasing.Oliver works with men to overcome nice guy tendencies, insecurities and other behaviors that keep them stuck. You can find him here:https://www.youtube.com/@OliverCowlishawhttps://www.olivercowlishaw.com/work-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/oliverrobertlucas/Chapters:00:00 Intro01:43 Sacred Combat?03:21 The Importance of Physical Confidence10:14 Male Bonding Through Martial Arts18:00 The Role of Emotional Safety in Men's Work26:45 Overcoming People Pleasing Tendencies30:27 The Pain of Self-Abandonment38:59 Expressing Desire and Facing Rejection42:40 The Power of Honest CommunicationResources:Learn more about themed journaling and Introspective Writing here: https://youtu.be/XRzGthevzTsGet my Introspective Writing Course: https://shanemelaugh.com/iw/Oliver's video about the friend zone illusion: https://youtu.be/llbB5ayOVsw

In this episode I dive into one of the most attractive things that men can do and why so many have lost it. I get into my impressions on the death of the old way of masculinity and what is being ushered in now.Listen in to learn about the difference between informing and connecting, mature masculinity, whether we are regressing, male muses, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:14 Intro and Welcome 00:14 - 01:34 Masculinity and What's Missing 01:34 - 03:39 Loss of Purpose and Brotherhood 03:39 - 05:10 New Masculinity and Presence 05:10 - 07:50 Informing vs Connecting 07:50 - 10:09 The Chair Metaphor and Emotional Blocks 10:09 - 12:13 Warrior Archetype and Focus 12:13 - 14:21 Attraction and Emotional Safety 14:21 - 16:11 Archetypes and Transition Time 16:11 - 18:45 Stages of Male Development 18:45 - 21:51 Attachment, Culture, and Bonding 21:51 - 22:04 Closing and Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com

Christi and Josh talk about the nervous system, childhood wounds, and why the motivation behind our spouse's anger or criticism is deeper than we often give them credit for.If you're looking to have an understanding of your pain cycle and how to cultivate a deeper sense of emotional safety in your marriage, this episode is for you.Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction1:15 Christi and Josh update on life this summer6:15 Josh shares what's coming for season 67:50 Introduction to the emotionally safe marriage 10:40 Your spouse's motivation in the pain cycle18:30 The nervous system, childhood wounds, and your pain cycle29:17 A practice for interrupting your pain cycle and seeing your spouse 32:25 Learning what feels “safe” for you Show Notes: If you're interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkoutDownload NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

In this episode, we explore how your nervous system, subconscious, and body are constantly scanning for emotional safety—even when your logical mind doesn't quite know why something feels off. You'll learn why your body might respond to subtle relational red flags long before your brain catches on, especially when someone seems kind, generous, or emotionally available on the surface. These intuitive hits aren't irrational—they're rooted in lived experience, stored patterns, and how your brain and body protect you. We also look at how disconnection from your body often starts in childhood—when you had to override your instincts to survive or stay connected. As adults, this can make it harder to trust yourself, your gut, or your internal signals. But healing doesn't require perfection—it starts with quiet awareness, small check-ins, and beginning to believe your body again.   Three Takeaways: Sometimes what feels “off” isn't about logic—it's your body remembering what it learned before you could name it. The people who drain or confuse you the most often disregard your boundaries in subtle ways. Emotional safety is felt, not proven. You're allowed to trust what your body is telling you.   Your nervous system doesn't need evidence.  It needs you to listen.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!        

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Our hearts yearn for it. We long for a sense of emotional safety with God, with others, but also within ourselves. Yet for many of us, there's a war going on within us over our sense of emotional safety, and there can be a lot of confusion as to what it even means. View Post […]

Journey to Deep Rest Series | The Nurturer | Nova Nidra for Emotional Safety & Soft StrengthLet this gentle Yoga Nidra practice return you to the sanctuary within. A space where your sensitivity is sacred and your emotions are not too much. Guided by the archetype of Cancer, this is a call back to trust, tenderness, and rest. Some wounds don't need to be fixed... They need to be felt.00:13 Welcoming Words from Ayla Nova00:53 Preparing the Body for Deep Rest03:15 Nervous System Orientation & Physiological Sighs05:45 Yoga Nidra Practice BeginsSession Focus:• Holding space for the soft and the hard• Exploring the Nurturer archetype—emotional wisdom, sensitivity, intuition• Healing resentment and restoring tenderness• A journey through the five koshas to reclaim your presence and peace• Integration of self-care, boundaries, and rest as sacred birthright This practice is especially powerful during times of emotional burnout, when you've been holding too much for too long. It invites you to feel without fear, and to return home to your being.Suggested Sankalpa (Intention):• I am nurturing• I am protected• I am blessed• I amPranayama & Energetic Suggestions: • Physiological sighs for immediate down-regulation• Breath as a tide—softening and soothing the edges• Visualization of cocoon, release, and rebirthPrepare for the Session:• Lie down somewhere safe and supported• Use pillows or props to feel truly held• Cover your eyes or dim the lights• Invite your softness to leadAfter Your Practice:Write what softened.What emerged.What are you ready to let go of, or hold more gently?I read all your comments, and they remind me why this work matters.

This one's for you who's longing to be known. Today, we are joined by dear friends of The Grove— Rachel Baldwin, Kerri Stanfill, and Susan Robinson— for a vulnerable conversation about what it really means to be seen, loved, and surrounded by a real community.  But where do we begin? How do we create a space where people feel safe to be known — not only when we win, but also when we ache?Through wisdom and practical encouragement, Rachel, Kerri, and Susan invite us to go first — in vulnerability, in confession, in reaching out, in showing up. They discuss the power of presence, the courage it takes to initiate, and why we don't have to have it all together to start forming or maintaining our meaningful relationships. For the woman longing for deeper friendship but unsure where to begin, this episode is filled with grace and guidance for taking that first brave step.Whether you're flourishing in community or feeling forgotten on the sidelines, you'll leave this conversation reminded that you're not alone.

You don't just marry your partner's strengths—you marry their triggers too. If you've found yourself walking on eggshells to avoid setting them off… or shutting down because you feel like you're too much… you're not alone. But let's be clear: tip-toeing isn't emotional maturity—it's disconnection in disguise. In this episode, we unpack how to create real emotional safety in your marriage—so you can stop spiraling and start feeling heard, seen, and safe again.

Dr. Alexandra sits down with author and speaker Jennifer Pastiloff for a heartfelt conversation centered on vulnerability, new beginnings, and embracing joy through trying times. Jen's candid sharing of her personal journey reminds us that we're constantly given opportunities to evolve ourselves, heal, and step more deeply into our authenticity. Jen and Dr. Alexandra also discuss navigating the "messy middle" after a breakup or divorce, and how we can begin again in life after facing bumps in the road. Jen's new book, Proof of Life: Let Go, Let Love, and Stop Looking for Permission to Live Your Life, is out today and explores all of these topics and many more.You'll come away from this episode with:Hope & permission to live a bigger and more beautiful lifeReminders for how to cultivate emotional safety in your intimate partnerships, which will pave the way for deeper connectionA deeper understanding of the importance of "I Got You" people—the supportive folks in your circle who reflect your best self back to you—and clues for how to find themEmpowerment to feel joy and search for beauty even in the most difficult or heartbreaking chapters of your life“Your Midyear Refresh” on MasterClass: masterclass.com/yourmidyearrefreshCouple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: pesi.com/dralexandraProof of Life: Let Go, Let Love, and Stop Looking for Permission to Live Your Life by Jennifer PastiloffOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Have you ever asked yourself: "My wife calls me 'nice,' but why does it feel like a subtle insult?" "Why am I constantly chasing connection, and how do I stop walking on eggshells?" "What does it really mean to lead in my marriage without being controlling?" If you've ever felt like, "I don't even know what happened—she just drifted," this episode is your wake-up call to reclaiming your magnetic masculine presence. Welcome back to The Dad Edge Podcast. This is Week 3 of our 4-part solo series called The Magnetic Masculinity Series—where we're unpacking how to attract your wife back, not through tactics, but by becoming the man she's instinctively drawn to again. In Week 1, we talked about resentment—how it leaks into marriage when we ignore the signs. In Week 2, we revealed the emotional weight she's carrying—the invisible labor that most men never see. And now in Week 3, we're diving into the Masculine Pull: what it truly means to lead with strength, not submission. Because here's the truth: she doesn't want a man who obeys. She wants a man she can trust to lead—not control, not dominate—but lead with clarity, strength, and grounded presence.  Extraordinary marriages start here In this vital episode, we dig into: The Critical Difference Between Pleasing and Pursuing: Understanding why pleasing is approval-seeking and kills attraction, while pursuing is confident, directional, and inviting. Masculine Presence vs. Anxious Attachment: Learn to cultivate a calm, grounded energy that can handle her emotions without needing to fix them, creating safety and desire, rather than asking "Are we okay?" every time she's quiet. Rebuilding Polarity: Why Attraction Dies When Roles Blur: Discover how the charge between masculine and feminine energy gets lost when roles become indistinguishable, and why becoming more stable (not more emotional) is the key to reigniting that spark. This conversation offers the blueprint for becoming the magnetic man your wife is drawn to, leading with a quiet consistency that speaks louder than words. Here's what research and relationship dynamics highlight: Studies suggest that relationships lacking clear polarity or directional leadership often report a 30% decrease in passionate intimacy over time. Men who embody calm, grounded presence are perceived as 40% more attractive and trustworthy by their partners. When a man consistently takes initiative with empathy, couples report a 25% increase in feelings of partnership and mutual respect. www.thedadedge.com/friday213 www.thedadedge.com/mastermind Intimate conversation starters