Podcasts about Emotional safety

Lisa Feldman Barrett is a Canadian-American neuroscientist renowned for her pioneering work on how the brain constructs emotion through prediction. In this Moments episode, she explains how the brain doesn't simply react to the world but continually anticipates it, drawing on past experience to shape what we feel, perceive and fear. She reveals why anxiety is often a replay of old predictions - and how to rewire meaning and ease the learned patterns that keep us stuck. Listen to the full episode here: Spotify: https://g2ul0.app.link/nCVkRtwSrYb Apple: https://g2ul0.app.link/Ozv6oJzSrYb Watch the Episodes On YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/%20TheDiaryOfACEO/videos Lisa Feldman Barrett: https://lisafeldmanbarrett.com/

Step into this calming Inner Child guided meditation designed to help you overcome the fear of the unknown and restore deep emotional safety - with Taoist monk and teacher, David James Lees.When the fear of the unknown rises, the mind tightens and the body moves into protection. This soothing Inner Child guided meditation helps you release emotional tension, calm survival-driven thinking, and reconnect with a deep sense of inner safety. You'll gently explore the root of uncertainty, soften old conditioning, and create space for trust, clarity and courage to emerge.Through grounding breathwork, visualisation, and compassionate Inner Child work, this meditation guides you back to your natural state of ease and flow. You'll learn to meet fear with presence, restore emotional balance, and align with the Taoist principle of allowing rather than resisting. Use this practice whenever uncertainty feels overwhelming or when you want to strengthen your ability to move forward with confidence, peace, and self-trust.⚠️ PLEASE DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS MEDITATION WHILE DRIVING OR OPERATING MACHINERYThis meditation can be practised daily or whenever you need it. Learn more about our online consultations, events and shop: https://www.wuweiwisdom.comSubscribe to David's FREE Journal: https://davidjameslees.substack.com/Other teachings and guided meditations you may enjoy:Untangling Fear of the Unknown: Taoism, Flow & Inner Child Healing https://youtu.be/TxWWryjPOK0?si=PKX3uvvBDgHnbWcXINNER CHILD PLAYLIST https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq&si=7TkslLfvthRWePOIGUIDED MEDITATION PLAYLIST https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9NQ_PWX4zIA12P7BftG6a18lIWFDjL35&si=bWWub6YyoZpXhFubIs there a question you'd like answered on the show? Submit it at: https://bit.ly/askusyourquestion Join our free Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity  If you love our work, you can now make a small donation to help fund the continued production of our weekly teachings by buying us a 'virtual coffee'! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/wuweiwisdom Book an online Golden Thread Process & Inner Child Consultation with David: https://www.wuweiwisdom.com/therapies-for-body-mind/ Follow us on Instagram: @wuweiwisdomSign up to receive a relaxing guided meditation gift, plus our weekly newsletter + offers via email: https://www.wuweiwisdom.com/signup -Disclaimer: This podcast and any associated teaching and comments shared are not a substitute for professional therapy, mental health care, crisis support, medical advice, doctor diagnosis, or professional healthcare treatment. Our show episodes provide general information for educational purposes only and are offered as suggestions for you and your professional therapist or healthcare advisor to consider and research.Music by Earth Tree Healing

PEOPLE HEAL WHERE THEY FEEL SAFE. You can't rush transformation; you can only make it safe to happen. Emotional safety isn't soft—it's strategic. Clients won't explore what feels dangerous, but they will open up where peace is modeled. Key Takeaways: Safety begins with your tone, pace, and posture. A calm presence regulates the entire session. Validation is more powerful than advice. Action Guide: In your next session, slow your pace and soften your tone. Ask yourself, “Would I feel safe being coached by me right now?” Read the Life Coach Blog Become a S&S Life Coach Join the Coaching FB Community —> HERE Find me @coachlauramalone on IG —> HERE Your 5 star review on Apple Podcasts means a ton✨

Transform Your Life and Relationships This Black Friday! Get 14 Days Free Inside the Personal Development School's All-Access Pass — including 65+ courses, live webinars, and a thriving global community: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/black-friday?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=black-friday&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-11-10-25&el=podcast When someone you love suddenly shuts down and says “I'm fine,” it can be confusing, painful, and triggering — especially if you know something's off. In this episode, Thais Gibson and Mike de Zio dive deep into what's really happening when a dismissive avoidant (DA) or fearful avoidant (FA) pulls away. They explore how shutting down is rarely about spite or indifference — it's a subconscious protection strategy. Through personal stories and actionable steps, Thais and Mike explain how to understand these patterns, respond without pushing your partner away, and create safety for honest reconnection.

Is your wife saying she doesn't feel safe with you?Are your kids staying away from you in certain situations?Do your wife and kids shy away from sharing their emotions with you?If so, there's a lack of emotional safety in your family relationships.And, if you want loving relationships with your kids…And an intimate relationship with your wife…You need to create emotional safety.Learn how in today's episode.(And, by the way, it doesn't mean that you have to be “emotionally perfect” to build emotional safety).Watch on YouTube here.Dr. Mike P.S. Apply to be a member of our Founder's Group of Grounded in God in 2026. We're looking for 5-7 men who are ready to move from pressure and performance to peace, power and purpose. CLICK HERE to apply. https://mikefraziermd.mykajabi.com/grounded-in-god

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Gaslighting Revisited: What You Need to Know!We brought this episode back because so many of you keep asking about gaslighting, narcissistic behavior, and emotional manipulation in marriage. Gaslighting isn't just lying — it's a tactic that distorts your reality, makes you doubt yourself, and slowly disconnects you from your own voice.In this revisited episode, we break down:What gaslighting actually is (and what it isn't)How narcissistic patterns show up in everyday marriage conflictWhy emotional manipulators rely on confusion and self-doubtThe subtle signs that you're being conditioned to question yourselfHow to rebuild confidence, clarity, and emotional safetyIf you've ever felt like you're “too sensitive,” “misremembering,” or “the problem” — this episode is for you.

Welcome to the Heal and Restore Podcast with Randy and Cathy Boyd—where we dive into real conversations that help you heal, grow, and strengthen your relationships.In today's powerful and deeply personal episode, we're exploring Emotional Safety—the cornerstone of every healthy relationship. Without it, love struggles to take root. With it, trust, vulnerability, and connection can truly flourish.We'll talk about how unhealed wounds from the past—abuse, shame, and trauma—can quietly erode emotional safety, making it hard to open up, trust, or feel seen. You'll learn how to identify the signs of emotional insecurity, rebuild trust after it's been broken, and create relationships where both hearts feel safe to be real.Through truth, compassion, and courage, healing begins. By the end of today's episode, you'll walk away with practical insights and a renewed understanding that emotional safety isn't built overnight—it's nurtured through honesty, empathy, and consistency.If this conversation speaks to your heart, be sure to follow, rate, and share the Heal and Restore Podcast. Because when we feel safe to be ourselves, that's when true healing—and true love—can begin.

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3190: Ellen Boeder explores how emotional safety is essential for deep, lasting connection in romantic relationships. She outlines how nervous system regulation, authentic expression, and trust-building practices create the conditions for vulnerability and intimacy to thrive. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotional-safety-is-necessary-for-emotional-connection/ Quotes to ponder: "Emotional safety is what allows us to let our guard down and be authentic with our partners." "When we feel safe, our nervous system is regulated enough to access the higher brain functions necessary for connection." "Without emotional safety, the parts of ourselves that are scared, ashamed, or hurt stay hidden." Episode references: Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges: https://www.amazon.com/Polyvagal-Theory-Neurophysiological-Emotion-Communication/dp/0393707008 Healing Developmental Trauma by Laurence Heller and Aline LaPierre: https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Developmental-Trauma-Resolution-Nervous/dp/1583944893 Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3190: Ellen Boeder explores how emotional safety is essential for deep, lasting connection in romantic relationships. She outlines how nervous system regulation, authentic expression, and trust-building practices create the conditions for vulnerability and intimacy to thrive. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotional-safety-is-necessary-for-emotional-connection/ Quotes to ponder: "Emotional safety is what allows us to let our guard down and be authentic with our partners." "When we feel safe, our nervous system is regulated enough to access the higher brain functions necessary for connection." "Without emotional safety, the parts of ourselves that are scared, ashamed, or hurt stay hidden." Episode references: Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges: https://www.amazon.com/Polyvagal-Theory-Neurophysiological-Emotion-Communication/dp/0393707008 Healing Developmental Trauma by Laurence Heller and Aline LaPierre: https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Developmental-Trauma-Resolution-Nervous/dp/1583944893 Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.How Emotional Safety Unlocks Real Intimacy in Marriage!You can't experience true intimacy without emotional safety. Cass and Kathryn explore how creating safety — not just comfort — allows vulnerability, honesty, and physical closeness to thrive. If you've ever wondered why intimacy fades even when everything “seems fine,” this episode explains why safety is the foundation for passion and connection.

In this episode, Heath and Jamie dive deep into the tension between masculinity, communication, and intimacy. They explore how respect, tone, and ego shape connection—and what it takes to rebuild trust when love starts to feel unbalanced. #SaveTheDatePodcast #RespectAndLove #RelationshipRealTalk #HealthyCommunication

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Emotional Safety vs. Emotional Comfort: Why Most Couples Get It Wrong!There's a big difference between feeling emotionally safe and just being emotionally comfortable.In this episode, Cass and Kathryn unpack the fine line between emotional safety, comfort, and real connection — and why couples who confuse them slowly lose passion and trust. If your relationship feels “peaceful” but distant, this one's for you.

WelcomeHello, Lovelies. It is Juliette here, and today I am joined by the luminous Dr Deb Barnett. Dr Deb's journey is one of devotion, inner rebuilding, and feminine truth. From decades inside clinical psychology to redefining how women meet love, she discovered that safety in the body, self intimacy, and fullness are what make a woman truly magnetic.In this conversation, we move through the territory of feminine sovereignty, nervous system safety, dating without hunger, and the art of receiving without shrinking. We explore softness as strength, self touch and joy as nourishment, and the power of choosing yourself first so love can rise to meet you.Episode Summary In this episode, Dr Deb and I walk through her profound journey into feminine sovereignty and self intimacy. From decades in clinical psychology to realising that women do not simply need mindset work but nervous system safety, body presence, and self nourishment, she shares how true magnetism begins within. We speak about dating without hunger, the courage to soften without losing power, and how a woman becomes irresistible when she stops performing and starts receiving. Dr Deb also opens up about her work supporting women to cultivate fullness, joy, and emotional safety, helping them not just look confident but live as women who are already chosen by themselves first, and how she continues to guide through embodiment, tenderness, and truth.Key Takeaways A Woman Filled FirstWhen you are sourced from within, you are not reaching. You are not grasping. You are already full. Love becomes a choice, not a lifeline.Safety Creates DesireThe nervous system sets the tone. When your body feels held, you soften. You trust. You meet intimacy without bracing.Self Intimacy Is the BeginningBefore you open to someone else, you learn to open to yourself. Touch, presence, stillness, pleasure that feeds rather than performs.Dating Without HungerYou are not auditioning. You are not proving. You sit in your truth and allow who is meant for you to rise toward you.Softness Holds PowerSoft does not mean small. Soft is honest. Soft is rooted. Soft is a woman who can feel, and stay.Play Brings You Back to Your BodyJoy is medicine. Curiosity is connection. When you delight in your own company, the world feels it.Resources and Links

Is humility making yourself small… or living in the truth? Joe and Father Boniface unpack humility as honesty—seeing ourselves as we are before God—and why that frees us to use our real gifts in service (yes, even taking the seat that has your name on it). We explore self-forgetfulness, how affirmation heals the reflex to self-protect, and practical ways to grow from self-concern into self-gift. Throughout, we keep all three lenses in view: integrity with ourselves, charity toward others, under a living relationship with God.Key IdeasHumility is truth: neither self-inflation nor false modesty, but an honest acceptance of who we are before God—and using our gifts accordingly.Concrete example: sometimes the humble act is to take the role or “reserved spot” that's yours, because it serves the community best.Know your tilt: some of us oversell; others undersell—humility learns our tendency and seeks honest mirrors (trusted people who can praise and correct).Self-forgetfulness grows from being loved and affirmed; emotional safety reduces self-protective focus and opens us to others.A simple path: notice insecurity triggers, share them with someone who loves you, receive affirmation there—and then go build that same affirmation in others this week.Links & ReferencesConrad Baars, affirmation and emotional development — Conrad Baars Institute (official): https://www.conradbaars.comPope Francis, Gaudete et Exsultate (On the Call to Holiness in Today's World) — official Vatican text: https://www.vatican.va/content/francesco/en/apost_exhortations/documents/papa-francesco_esortazione-ap_20180319_gaudete-et-exsultate.htmlCTA If this helped, please leave a review or share this episode with a friend.Questions or thoughts? Email FatherAndJoe@gmail.comTags Father and Joe, Joe Rockey, Father Boniface Hicks, humility, honesty, meekness, truth, sainthood, virtue, self-forgetfulness, affirmation, Conrad Baars, emotional safety, trauma and healing, self-knowledge, self-possession, self-gift, narcissism, ego, vanity, false modesty, discernment, service, vocation, speaking gifts, leadership, community, parenting, children, interior freedom, relationships, relationship with God, relationship with self, relationship with others, Benedictine spirituality, Catholic podcast, practical spirituality, growth, healing, gratitude

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Asking For Permission vs Begging for Forgiveness!What's healthier in marriage — asking for permission or begging for forgiveness later?Cass and Kathryn dive into this controversial topic to expose the hidden power dynamics behind control, trust, and freedom in relationships. Learn how couples unknowingly create resentment by walking on eggshells, and how to build a marriage where honesty and accountability replace guilt and fear.

Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizHighlights from the EpisodeHow Sex Turns Transactional: Tarah shares a story from a recent couples session: “If you do this and you do it well, I'll give you sex.” Sound familiar? Turns out, it's more common than we think.Both Partners Are Responsible: EJ and Tarah reflect on their own patterns of expectation, let-down, and the rewards/punishments that silently build up over time.Unspoken Stories Drive Anxiety: Ever felt relief when your partner wasn't expecting sex… or disappointment when connection didn't lead there? You're not alone. Opening up those stories, rather than burying them, is the first step to real change.Emotional Safety is Key: The hosts discuss how building a foundation of emotional safety—being able to share, be transparent, and give verbal appreciation—creates true desire and real intimacy.Actionable Tools: From ‘The Frisky Scale' (yes, really!) to conversation starters on how you want to feel valued outside the bedroom, EJ and Tarah give you practical ways to break the transaction cycle.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode of Dr. Marianne-Land, Dr. Marianne Miller explores one of the most misunderstood experiences in eating disorder recovery: binge eating and shame. She explains why binge eating is not caused by lack of willpower. It develops from deprivation, unmet emotional needs, and internalized shame. You will learn how restriction fuels binge urges, how shame keeps you stuck, and how compassion-based recovery helps you rebuild trust with food and your body. Why Binge Eating Isn't About Willpower Many people believe binge eating happens because they lack control. In truth, binge eating is a biological and emotional response to restriction. When your body senses scarcity, it does what it was designed to do: it pushes you to eat. Dr. Marianne discusses how diet culture and fear-based food rules create deprivation and shame. The body responds to this deprivation by seeking safety through eating, sometimes in large quantities. The solution is not to control yourself more, but to give your body the consistent nourishment and compassion it needs. How Shame Fuels the Binge Cycle Shame is one of the strongest emotional drivers of binge eating. After a binge, thoughts like “I failed again” or “I'll start over tomorrow” appear. Those thoughts lead to more restriction, which triggers another binge. Dr. Marianne explains how shame disconnects you from your body and keeps you in a cycle of punishment and control. The shift begins when you replace blame with curiosity. Asking “What does my body need right now?” helps you reconnect to your needs instead of silencing them. The Biology Behind Binge Eating Binge eating is a predictable response to restriction. When your body does not receive enough food, hunger hormones increase, reward pathways in the brain intensify, and cravings become urgent. Binge eating is your body's attempt to restore balance. Mental restriction has the same effect. When you label foods as bad or forbidden, your body perceives danger and increases urgency around those foods. Regular meals, adequate nutrition, and permission to eat satisfying foods restore body trust and calm the nervous system. Emotional Safety and Recovery Binge eating is often a way to self-soothe when emotions feel too big or overwhelming. If you have been taught that sadness, anger, or fear are unsafe, food may have become your most accessible form of comfort. Dr. Marianne talks about creating emotional safety through self-soothing, sensory grounding, and compassion. When your nervous system feels supported, the intensity of binge urges begins to soften. From Control to Compassion Recovery is not about fighting yourself into change. It begins when you stop using control as protection and start practicing compassion. Dr. Marianne shares ways to replace critical self-talk with kind, curious reflection. Instead of saying “I have no willpower,” try “My body is asking for care.” That language shift helps rewire your nervous system to expect gentleness instead of punishment. Reclaiming Pleasure and Satisfaction Food is meant to be enjoyable, not a test of discipline. When you allow yourself to experience satisfaction without guilt, eating becomes calmer and more connected. Dr. Marianne encourages listeners to practice mindful eating, notice textures and flavors, and reconnect with the sensory experience of food. Pleasure is not indulgence; it is information that helps you understand what your body needs. Content Caution This episode includes open discussion about binge eating and emotional distress related to food and body image. Please listen with care and take breaks as needed. Who This Episode Helps This episode is for anyone who feels stuck in binge-restrict cycles or wants to understand the emotional roots of binge eating. It is also helpful for clinicians supporting clients with binge eating disorder, and for neurodivergent listeners who need a sensory-attuned and trauma-informed approach to recovery. Related Episodes on Binge Eating Binge Eating in Midlife: Why It Starts (or Resurfaces) in Your 30s, 40s, 50s on Apple & Spotify. Binge Eating Urges: Why They Happen & How to Manage Them Without Shame on Apple & Spotify. How to Manage Triggers & Cravings During Recovery From Binge Eating & Bulimia on Apple & Spotify. Join the Binge Eating Recovery Membership If you are ready to heal your relationship with food, Dr. Marianne invites you to join her Binge Eating Recovery Membership at drmariannemiller.com. This membership offers accessible lessons, community support, and practical tools to help you move beyond shame, regulate emotions, and create consistency with food without dieting or control. Inside, you will learn how to rebuild body trust, reduce binge frequency, and practice compassionate recovery at your own pace.

Are you stuck in the cycle of trying to be the perfect parent? In this transformative episode of Live and Be Great, host Latonya McDonald sits down with Todd Sarner, renowned Marriage and Family Therapist and founder of Transformative Parenting, to explore how perfectionism, pressure, and digital distractions silently shape family life — and how to break free for good.Together, they unpack what it means to lead with calm, build emotional connection, and raise resilient kids in today's overstimulated world. You'll discover practical, science-based tools for emotional regulation, secure attachment, and conscious parenting — without losing your sanity or yourself.

In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, relationship coach Ellecia Paine dives into the emotional cost of silence in open relationships and polyamory.If you've ever swallowed your truth to keep the peace, or stayed quiet because you were scared of rocking the boat, this conversation will help you find the courage to speak up with honesty and compassion.You'll learn how to:→ Recognize when you're betraying yourself by staying quiet→ Understand the fears that keep you silent in non-monogamy (rejection, loss, shame)→ Speak your truth without exploding or shutting down→ Create emotional safety for hard conversations with partners or metamours→ Reconnect to your own inner honesty and nervous system safetyBecause pretending your desires don't exist won't protect your relationship, it'll rot it from the inside.Your truth might hurt for a moment, but hiding it will hurt forever.Send us a textFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We're confident FLOW will reignite your spark! Support the show

In this insightful episode of The Feminine Frequency, Amy Natalie welcomes licensed mental health counselor and best selling author, Jessica Baum, for a deep conversation on attachment, emotional safety, and the path to relational healing.Together, they explore how childhood experiences and early caregiver relationships shape adult dynamics and attachment styles—and what it takes to move toward secure attachment from within. Jessica shares wisdom from her book SAFE, highlighting the importance of insourcing safety, working with protector parts, and recognizing the difference between familiar relationship patterns and those that are truly healthy.The conversation emphasizes that healing doesn't happen in isolation—it happens in relationship. Amy and Jessica unpack the role of co-regulation, the power of nervous system awareness, and how to cultivate emotional safety both within and beyond romantic partnerships. They also introduce listeners to a powerful new tool: The Wheel of Attachment, which offers a fresh and embodied approach to understanding attachment theory.This episode is an invitation for listeners to explore the inner work that allows for deeper connection, self-trust, and conscious love.Themes: Secure attachment as the foundation for healthy, conscious relationshipsHow childhood wounds influence adult relational dynamicsThe importance of co-regulation and nervous system healingReparenting and building internal safetyUnderstanding and integrating protector partsIdentifying familiar (yet unhealthy) patterns in loveSeeking support outside of romantic partnershipsThe Wheel of Attachment as a transformative self-awareness toolSpecial Offer

Summary: Calm doesn't equal quiet. In this episode, Isa reframes “good” classrooms as regulated, connected spaces—not silent ones—and shares three practical shifts: pre-frame transitions with connection, normalize natural “volume waves,” and model regulation out loud so children can borrow your calm. The goal isn't quiet compliance; it's safe, confident learners—and a teacher who trusts the noise. LET'S CONNECT!We would love to connect with you!  Here are all the ways we can support you in your early education career!The Teacher's Lounge Website:     theearlyeducationteacherslounge.comPodcast:   The Teacher's Lounge For Early EducationFacebook:  The Early Education Teacher's LoungeInstagram:  @eecteacherslounge

In today's Monday Meditation, Alison guides you through a calming 5-minute visualization to help you feel safe and connected in love. If you've ever struggled with anxious attachment or felt you had to earn love, this practice will gently remind your body what secure, unconditional love feels like. Perfect for: Anyone healing from anxious attachment, learning to feel safe in love, or wanting to experience relationships from a place of calm confidence rather than fear. Listen When: – You feel triggered or anxious in your relationship – You're practicing self-soothing after conflict – You want to connect to the feeling of secure love before bed Single Women 40+

Being alive at the end of your birth is different than being kept safe. In this episode Mel invites midwife and psychotherapist Dr Athena Hammond to talk about emotional safety during childbirth, how to enhance emotional safety and some strategies for nervous system preparation. This is part 1 of a 2 part series. Episode 175 is about the possibility of post-traumatic growth, a helpful discussion for women who feel emotionally and mentally traumatised by their birth experience who are looking for hope. Our guest for this episode is Dr Athena Hammond from @thebirthcounsel. You can learn more about Athena at www.thebirthcounsel.com.au If you have concerns for your well-being there is help for you at: The Gidget foundation Australia COPE This episode has been generously sponsored by Poppy Child from @popthatmumma. She is offering great birth rebellion listeners 25% off the Birth box which includes the oxytocin bubble tracks. This is an example of a nervous system calming technique discussed in our episode today. Use the code “Melanie” at the check out to claim your discount. Just go to hypnobirthing-positive-birth.com/birthbox You can watch this episode on YouTube here Get more from the Great Birth Rebellion Podcast Join the podcast mailing list to access the resource folder from each episode at www.melaniethemidwife.com Join the rebellion and show your support! Grab your Great Birth Rebellion merchandise now at www.thegreatbirthrebellion.com Follow us on social media @thegreatbirthrebellion and @melaniethemidwife If this podcast has improved your knowledge or pregnancy, birth or postpartum journey please consider thanking us financially by leaving a tip to support the ongoing work of this podcast. Disclaimer The information and resources provided on this podcast does not, and is not intended to, constitute or replace medical or midwifery advice. Instead, all information provided is intended for education, with it's application intended for discussion between yourself and your care provider and/or workplace if you are a health professional. The Great Birth Rebellion podcast reserves the right to supplement, edit, change, delete any information at any time. Whilst we have tried to maintain accuracy and completeness of information, we do not warrant or guarantee the accuracy or currency of the information. The podcast accepts no liability for any loss, damage or unfavourable outcomes howsoever arising out of the use or reliance on the content. This podcast is not a replacement for midwifery or medical clinical care. The transcript below was generated with ai and may contain errors.

Every family has its own rhythm. Some love cooking together, some bond over board games and some, believe it or not, enjoy arguing for fun. To them, debating ideas and challenging each other isn't conflict; it's connection.But what feels like playful banter to one person can feel like chaos, criticism, or even emotional danger to another. So how do you know when spirited debate crosses the line? And how do you create a home where everyone feels heard and safe, whether they love to spar or prefer peace and quiet?In this episode, we'll explore why some families naturally fall into patterns of “recreational arguing,” what emotional needs this dynamic can meet, and how to find the right balance between healthy expression and emotional safety.Jennifer's Takeaways:Recreational Arguing in Families (00:00)Neuroscience Behind Recreational Arguing (01:43)Balancing Fun Debates with Emotional Safety (03:39)Teaching Kids Awareness and Respect (06:00)Managing Intense Family Interactions (07:38)Meet Jennifer KolariJennifer Kolari is the host of the “Connected Parenting” weekly podcast and the co-host of “The Mental Health Comedy” podcast. Kolari is a frequent guest on Nationwide morning shows and podcasts in the US and Canada. Her advice can also be found in many Canadian and US magazines such as; Today's Parent, Parents Magazine and Canadian Family.Kolari's powerful parenting model is based on the neurobiology of love, teaching parents how to use compassion and empathy as powerful medicine to transform challenging behavior and build children's emotional resilience and emotional shock absorbers.Jennifer's wisdom, quick wit and down to earth style help parents navigate modern-day parenting problems, offering real-life examples as well as practical and effective tools and strategies.Her highly entertaining, inspiring workshops are shared with warmth and humour, making her a crowd-pleasing speaker with schools, medical professionals, corporations and agencies throughout North America, Europe and Asia.One of the nation's leading parenting experts, Jennifer Kolari, is a highly sought- after international speaker and the founder of Connected Parenting. A child and family therapist with a busy practice based in San Diego and Toronto, Kolari is also the author of Connected Parenting: How to Raise A Great Kid (Penguin Group USA and Penguin Canada, 2009) and You're Ruining My Life! (But Not Really): Surviving the Teenage Years with Connected Parenting (Penguin Canada, 2011).

In this episode, Ned challenges the destructive cultural narrative that young men need to "get it out of their system" in their twenties, sharing insights from a recent father-son gathering and introducing Adam Lane Smith's transformative framework for masculine leadership based on four areas of safety that men must provide: resource safety, protection, emotional safety, and bonding safety. This episode is essential listening for any father who wants to shape his sons into men of character and teach his daughters what to look for in a partner.(00:00:00) - Father-Son Night(00:02:00) - Challenging "Get It Out of Your System" Mentality(00:03:00) - Working It INTO Your System vs. OUT of Your System(00:05:00) - The Abundance Mindset vs. Hoarding(00:07:00) - Four Areas of Safety Men Must Provide(00:08:00) - Resource Safety and Protection(00:08:00) - Emotional Safety and Bonding Safety(00:09:00) - Teaching These Principles to Family(00:10:00) - Earning the Right to Speak Into Your Children's Lives----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

If you've ever questioned where you stand with your partner or second-guessed their love, this will help you feel more grounded, connected, and secure. This episode first aired on June 21, 2021 (Episode 251), and I'm bringing it back because so many of you said it hit home.  Ever replayed a conversation, overread a text, or felt on edge when your partner seemed distracted even when nothing was “wrong”? That kind of relationship anxiety can keep you chasing reassurance. I'm joined by my colleague Georgi, a marriage and family therapist on our Growing Self team, to talk about why security can feel slippery and what it takes to build emotional safety that lasts. We look at how attachment injuries, big and small, quietly shape how you show up in love. Early experiences, broken trust, and even subtle disappointments can make connection feel risky and drive patterns like jealousy, anger, or withdrawal. Together, we talk about interrupting those cycles, hearing what your anxiety is trying to say, and inviting your partner into repair with curiosity rather than blame. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Introduction: Why It's Hard to Feel Secure in Your Relationship 07:05 How Attachment Shapes Emotional Safety and Trust 10:40 When Insecurity Shows Up as Anger or Jealousy 18:50 What Fuels Insecurity: Attachment Injuries and Unmet Needs 26:25 Inviting Your Partner In and Re-building Connection 30:35 Responding With Empathy Instead of Defensiveness 35:40 The House Analogy: Re-building Trust Brick by Brick 37:15 Emotional Safety as the Core of a Healthy Relationship As you listen, notice what shows up for you. When anxiety spikes, what story starts running—and how do you usually respond? Do you shut down, reach for control, or start hunting for proof that you're okay? Try pausing to ask what you truly need in that moment: comfort, reassurance, or a steadier sense of safety within yourself. If communication is adding to the tension, try my Communication that Connects Masterclass. It's a simple way to step out of those conflict loops and have conversations that build understanding. It includes a workbook so you can practice right away! You might also like my How Healthy Is Your Relationship? quiz. It's quick, gives you language for what's happening, and points to where your relationship could use more care. Want ongoing support between episodes? Find me on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. I share fresh tools and encouragement to help you create the love, happiness, and success you deserve. If this episode sparked something, or an idea for a future topic, I'd love to hear from you. Let's talk! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

Send us a textIf your partner asked for space and your whole body has been bracing ever since, you are not broken. You're in survival mode.On this episode of Love Shack Live, we're speaking directly to you, the partner who's been asked for space.You know that feeling of walking around with your stomach in knots, checking your phone every few minutes, wondering if reaching out will make things worse? You're not crazy for feeling this way. When someone you love pulls away, your nervous system sounds the alarm. To your body, space feels like danger.In this episode, we'll start right where you are, in the middle of the panic and confusion, and show you the first skill that can help you find steady ground again. It's a simple practice we call Sit Your Butt Down and Breathe, and it's how we begin every single day inside the Love in Limbo: 30-Day Roadmap.Before you can repair a relationship, you have to repair your sense of safety. Before you can communicate clearly, you have to calm the noise inside your own body. Until you do, every text, every silence, and every shift in tone will feel like proof that it's either saved or over.The question we'll answer today: How do you give someone space without losing yourself, or the relationship, in the process?You'll learn how to tell the difference between giving space and abandoning yourself, how to quiet the inner chaos, and how to start responding from calm instead of reacting from fear.Episode Resources: If you're ready to stop spinning and start finding your calm again, join us inside the Love in Limbo: 30-Day Roadmap, the step-by-step journey for rebuilding clarity, confidence, and connection during space: https://stacibartley.com/30-day-roadmapNot sure where to start? Take the free Relationship Space Assessment to discover how this space is impacting you, and what to do next: https://space-assessment.scoreapp.com/Timestamps: 01:34 Sit Your Butt Down and Breathe: A Guided Practice04:05 The Importance of Self-Regulation10:31 Emotional Safety and the Roadmap12:19 The Dynamics of Space in Relationships22:05 Anxious vs. Avoidant: Different Coping Mechanisms31:51 Real Questions from Listeners36:47 Addressing Confusion in Daily Activities37:38 Understanding Relationship Drift39:28 The Importance of Relationship Skills39:47 Admitting Wrong and Apologizing41:14 Becoming the Best Version of Yourself42:40 The Lease Option Contract for Love43:28 The Reality of Relationship Entropy45:22 Handling Separation and Emotional Capacity55:19 Deciding on Divorce or Fighting for Marriage58:47 Learning to Let Go and Self-Preservation01:00:07 The Love and Limbo Roadmap01:04:01 Breathe Like a Badass01:06:34 Final Thoughts and Resources

In this episode of the Raising Confident Girls podcast, Melissa Jones shares insight into raising daughters who are deeply empathetic and sensitive.Through personal stories and practical tools, she offers guidance on how to support big-feeling girls by helping them anchor their emotions, validate their experiences, and build emotional awareness. Tune in to discover:How to support sensitivity as a strengthTools to help your daughter manage emotional overwhelmWays to teach self-awareness and emotional balanceIf your daughter feels everything, this short pep talk is for you.If you know a parent who could benefit from this conversation, share this episode with them! Let's work together to raise the next generation of confident girls.Melissa's Links:• Website • Instagram • Facebook• TikTok• LinkedIn

Episode #1044 Feel like every argument with your wife turns into a courtroom battle? You explain, defend, try to fix it, and somehow it only gets worse. In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men who are tired of walking on eggshells and ready to lead differently. You'll learn what DEER Mode really is and why it keeps you stuck. You'll also get real examples of how to stop reacting and start creating emotional safety so your wife can relax and reconnect. Whether she says she needs space, shuts down for days, or tells you she's not in love with this version of you, this episode shows you how to respond without chasing, fixing, or folding. This is about shifting out of panic mode and into calm leadership. It's about taking full ownership without losing your edge. When your wife feels safe, everything changes. And when you stop letting fear run the show, you finally show up as the man you were built to be. If this hits home and you want to take the next step, check out the free training that breaks down how to fix your marriage without more talking or therapy at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales.

In this episode we talk about how Letting go of control, comfort, and old coping patterns isn't easy. Change asks us to allow, to trust, and to let in — all things that can feel terrifying if we've spent years surviving by keeping walls up. In this episode, we talk about how to know when it's time to loosen control, why “fine” isn't the same as fulfilled, and what helps us feel safe enough to soften. Because true courage isn't about forcing change — it's about allowing growth to happen where safety and honesty meet.  THREE TAKEAWAYS 1. Letting go isn't giving up — it's trusting yourself enough to stop forcing outcomes. 2. Safety comes from consistency, empathy, and ownership — not control. 3. Real courage begins when we allow vulnerability to meet safety.                      The courage to stop managing everything begins with one brave thought: maybe I'm safe enough now to let go.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words      Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Keep It Clean, Keep It Dirty!In marriage, passion and purity both matter — but too many couples lose the spark trying to stay “perfect.”In this episode of The 'NEW' Marriage, we talk about balancing emotional connection with physical desire — why healthy sexuality is vital to long-term love, and how to keep things real, playful, and sacred at the same time.We dive into how shame, fear, and conditioning can kill attraction, and what it takes to create a relationship that's both emotionally safe and sexually alive.

In this short episode of the Raising Confident Girls podcast, host Melissa Jones kicks off her new series, Parent Pep Talk, with a powerful reminder: parenting isn't about getting it perfect—it's about staying connected.Through personal stories and honest reflections, Melissa shares how being present and truly listening can do more for your daughter's confidence than having all the answers.In this episode, you'll learn:Why emotional safety matters more than perfect parentingThe power of listening without jumping in to fixHow asking the right questions builds trust and resilienceSimple ways to show up with presence and vulnerabilityIf you've ever felt the pressure to do it all “right,” this episode will encourage you to slow down, connect, and trust that being there is more than enough.If you know a parent who could benefit from this conversation, share this episode with them! Let's work together to raise the next generation of confident girls.Melissa's Links:• Website • Instagram • Facebook• TikTok• LinkedIn

This is a special episode because I'm joined by my life consultant, Rachel Hughes, for a rich conversation about the nervous system, trauma, and the journey of healing. Rachel has been a deeply influential voice in my own process—teaching me what it means to feel safe in my body and how to gently restore that sense of safety when it's lost.Together, we explore the importance of understanding triggers, cultivating self-compassion, and practicing emotional regulation in everyday life. This conversation highlights the power of creating safety in small, consistent ways—and the hope that emerges when we begin to truly heal.Rachel created the course reclaimig you alongside Abi Stumvoll: https://justinandabi.com/courses/reclaimingyou/Follow Rachel on instragram: https://www.instagram.com/rachelhughesconsulting/Get your free Wholehearted Living journal prompts. https://calm-sun-843.myflodesk.com/x5yo2oyoyuBook a free discovery coaching call: www.ella-hooper.comFollow me on Instagram:@ella.hooper_

In this episode, we dive into an enlightening conversation with Cindy Stibbard, a certified divorce and relationship coach and the founder of Divorce Redefined. Cindy shares her journey of dealing with infidelity, navigating the breakdown of her marriage, and ultimately finding purpose in helping others. The discussion touches on the importance of addressing conflict in relationships, emotional safety, and the value of independence and self-worth. Cindy offers practical advice for both single and married listeners on how to build healthy relationships, whether it involves staying and working through tough times or knowing when to move on.IN THIS EPISODE:- (06:20) Deciding Whether to Stay or Go- (15:09) The Importance of Emotional Safety- (22:21) Cindy's Personal Marriage Experience- (39:19) The Two-Year Rule for Relationships- (43:09) The Dangers of Codependency- (47:16) The Strength of Being Single- (54:28) Dealing with Betrayal and InfidelityRESOURCESCheck out my How to Attract Devoted Masculine Men Masterclass HERE My FREE eBook The Magnetic WomanApp rec: BumbleFeminine Embodiment HERECONNECT WITH CHARLENE On Instagram @mscharlenebyars On YouTube @chosentrainingWork with me HERECONNECT WITH CINDYOn Instagram HEREHis Links HERE

In this episode, our returning guest expert (and favorite friend of the podcast!) Dr. Nacchi Felt joins us to unveil the brand-new Cycle of Accountability—the life-direction loop that helps ADHD brains point their power at the right targets.Inside the loop:Alignment — Name your values (think truth, responsibility, gratitude) so decisions stop feeling random.Accountability — Drop the “shoulds.” Hold yourself to what you care about.Attention — Your attention is your presence. Reclaim it as your birthright.Attachment — Safe relationships supercharge the loop and keep you present.But here's the deeper truth: safety and acceptance are the foundation that make this loop possible. Being “safe” means you can be fully seen and still contained—someone can sit with you in your hardest moments without pulling away. That's a rare experience for many ADHDers, and therapy or coaching can provide a version of that safety while you learn to build it yourself. From playful co-regulation with a child to a friend's honest reassurance, relationships that combine honesty and containment create fertile ground for growth. When you experience that kind of attachment, it not only soothes your nervous system—it also strengthens your alignment with your values and makes accountability feel natural, not forced. You're not going to want to miss this episode!More from Dr. Felt here!Clearheaded: The ADHD Guide for Turning Overwhelm into Clarity, Calm, and Control

In this second part of The Stories We Tell Ourselves series, Chelsea and Mike get into how the stories we carry in early parenthood shape connection, intimacy, and identity.They unpack why emotional disconnection and constant stress make couples feel distant, how to rebuild psychological safety, and why nervous-system regulation is key to closeness.You'll learn:How to externalize negative stories and stop the spiral of resentmentWhat “matrescence” and “patrescence” really mean for your identity as parentsWhy emotional safety is the foundation for physical intimacy after a babyPractical ways to reconnect and repair when you're both running on emptyWhether you're feeling stuck in survival mode or missing the spark in your marriage, this episode offers real talk and practical tools to help you feel like a team again.Keywords: emotional disconnection after baby, intimacy after baby, postpartum marriage help, matrescence, new parent identity, nervous system regulation, relationship coaching, postpartum relationship adviceMentioned past episodes and links: Regulation and the Nervous SystemEmotional or Physical Connection, Which Comes First?MatresenceBook a connection call with us here to learn more about how we support pregnant, postpartum, and current parents in their relationships.

How to pass the 4 pillars of manhood to your kids Why celebrating vulnerability matters more than perfect discipline How to normalize hard conversations about sex, money, and struggle The long view: Becoming a tender-hearted grandpa starts now FULL SHOW NOTES LEARN about joining the Fall 2025 DadAwesome Accelerator Cohorts SUMMARY Some days you feel like a C-grade dad, and that's when presence matters most. In this episode, Josh Krehbiel shares how he's learning to create emotional safety for his kids, celebrate vulnerability over performance, and pursue the long view of becoming a tender-hearted grandfather. You'll hear about the four pillars of manhood, why crock-pot freedom beats microwave solutions, and how to get to the rocking chair with love on your heart. TAKEAWAYS Marking moments matter: Creating manhood ceremonies and intentional milestones leaves lasting impressions on your kids, even if the follow-up isn't perfect. Celebrate vulnerability first: When your kids fail or confess something hard, make it about their openness before addressing consequences—this builds emotional safety. Reject passivity, accept responsibility, lead courageously, and be fueled by the future: These four pillars of manhood provide a framework for raising boys and girls with character. Pursue purity as a top priority: The war for purity as a father protects your ability to show physical affection and have compassion without contamination. Freedom is crock-pot, not microwave: Breakthrough comes through long-suffering love and staying present, not by trying to manhandle change. GUEST Josh Krehbiel is the lead founding pastor of Every Day Church in Roseville, Minnesota—a community focused on prayer, discipleship, and sending out leaders and movements. Along with his wife Katie, Josh is passionate about raising up the next generation through worship, ministry, and authentic family connection. They have four children: three teenagers and a five-year-old. Josh is also a songwriter and worship leader who believes in the power of declaring truth over families through music and prayer.   LINKS Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Download a free chapter of the DadAwesome book Raising Modern-Day Knights by Robert Lewis Everyday Church, Roseville, Minnesota   QUOTES "When failure happens we celebrate the vulnerability first because the most important thing is connection and felt safety." "I want to get to the rocking chair with love on my heart and grandkids who say grandpa is kind." "Freedom doesn't happen through manhandling it happens through long suffering love and staying present in the crock pot not microwave." "Your kids don't feel safe because you think they're safe they feel safe when you celebrate their vulnerability over their performance." "The war for purity as a father protects your ability to show physical affection with compassion instead of contamination."

Send us a textEpisode 191 - When Conflict or Silence Feels Like Love: What Fighting and Avoidance Say About Your FamilyIs your family stuck in conflict—either yelling and arguing or avoiding everything in silence? In this episode, family relationship coach Tina Gosney explains how conflict styles shape marriage, parenting, and your relationship with adult children—and how to move from destructive patterns to constructive conflict and emotional safety. In this episode of Coaching Your Family Relationships, Tina Gosney, Family Life Educator and Family Relationship Coach, breaks down the hidden conflict styles that shape your marriage, your parenting, and your relationship with your family.You'll discover:Why yelling, arguing, or “unfiltered honesty” can feel like love and connection in some familiesWhy silence, sweeping things under the rug, or avoiding tough conversations can feel like safety in othersHow destructive conflict, conflict avoidance, and constructive conflict each shape your family relationshipsWhat happens when highly religious families label conflict as “sinful” and shut it downHow parents—whether raising kids or relating to adult children—set the emotional tone for the whole familyWhy fighting doesn't always mean connection, and silence doesn't always mean peacePractical steps to create emotional safety, better communication, and genuine connection at homeWhether your home has been marked by explosive arguments or cold silences, this episode will help you understand your conflict style and begin practicing constructive conflict that leads to healing, intimacy, and lasting connection.Join Tina Gosney's live workshop on October 9th: End Family Disconnection and Rebuild Relationships that Last. Learn how to change the emotional climate of your family—even if no one else changes first. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Emotional safety is the foundation of lasting intimacy and trust in marriage. In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into what it really means to feel safe with your spouse, and being able to share thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities without fear of judgment or rejection.We'll explore the signs of emotional safety, the common behaviors that destroy it, and practical ways to create a safe space where both spouses feel understood, respected, and supported. From breaking patterns like criticism, stonewalling, or dishonesty, to building habits of empathy, validation, and open communication, this conversation will help you strengthen the bond in your marriage and deepen your connection.If you want more trust, better conflict resolution, and deeper intimacy with your spouse, this episode is for you.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

If sex feels disconnected, mechanical, or just not happening, then the real block might not be desire… it might be safety.In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we share why emotional safety is the foundation of intimacy and how it creates the conditions for passion, polarity, and lasting connection. What you'll hear in this episode:What emotional safety really means and why “not fighting” isn't enoughHow polarity and turn-on are fuelled by safety in both masculine and feminine energyWhat is the hidden cost of ignoring safety, and how does it erode intimacy over timeWhat are some simple, daily practices that build safety, trust, and connectionWhy safety is the foundation of better sex and not just more sex.If you're craving sex that feels alive, nourishing, and deeply connected, this episode is your reminder: it all starts with safety. OUR NOVEMBER 20–24 GROUP RETREAT IS A FULL TANTRA EXPERIENCE AND REGISTRATION IS NOW OPENHere's what you'll experience:• Practices that bring your body into safety so pleasure can expand• Tools to rewire old patterns of shame, disconnection, or performance• Sacred intimacy rituals that turn sex into something nourishing and electric• Private time to take everything you've learned into your own bed

What if the change your child needs starts with you? This episode explores how rethinking your role through an attachment lens can unlock new ways to connect, support, and truly understand your child. Discover what happens when you stop trying to fix and start seeing differently. You may never look at parenting the same way again.What to expect in this episode:Why real change begins when caregivers feel just as empowered as their kidsHow an attachment-based lens helps reframe behavior and connectionWhat reflective parenting looks like and why it builds trust over timeHow to move from “fixing” to truly listening and understandingWhy belonging matters more than we think in classrooms and homesAbout Tania Johnson, R.PsychTania is a registered psychologist and co-founder of the Institute of Child Psychology. Originally from South Africa, she holds an Honours degree in psychology and a Master's in counselling from City University of Seattle. Tania brings a global perspective to her work, having taught in Taiwan and trained at the Cancer Treatment Centers of America in Chicago. A former foster parent and current supervisor for emerging clinicians, she draws from attachment theory to support meaningful connections between children and caregivers. Tania is known for turning research into practical strategies that parents can apply in daily life. Connect with TaniaWebsite: Institute of Child Psychology Facebook: Institute of Child Psychology Instagram: instituteofchildpsych YouTube: Institute of Child Psychology Related Links:EP153: Trusting Complex Kids & Helping Them Trust Us https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-153-trusting-complex-kids-helping-them-trust-us/id1565976964?i=1000648999971EP207: Rebuilding Trust with Teens: Cleaning the Slate Conversations https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep207-rebuilding-trust-with-teens-cleaning-the/id1565976964?i=1000700897363Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools for Parents at https://impactparents.com/gift.Read the full blog here:https://impactparents.com/how-to-build-trust-and-emotional-security-in-kids Connect with Impact Parents:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparentsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParentsLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparentsSponsors"Cognitive Ergonomics from the Inside Out" – A New ADHD InterventionDo you recognize current ADHD interventions fall short? At DIG Coaching, we've developed a groundbreaking field of engineering called Cognitive Ergonomics from the Inside Out. Discover a fresh approach to ADHD care that looks beyond traditional methods.Learn more at www.cognitive-ergonomics.com

“We're taught how to fall in love, but not how to stay there.” So in today's must-listen episode, I chat with renowned relationship repair expert Baya Voce, MSW, to learn the art of repair, and how to maintain love and connection through conflict.Arguments happen (they're an important part of relationships and individuation!) — but they don't have to break your bond. In this powerful episode, we dive into proven tools for transforming conflict into deeper connection, and Baya's strategies for building better communication, boundaries, and emotional safety.If you're in love, want love, or care about love, this is your roadmap for working towards interdependence, rebuilding trust, and creating love that lasts.With an MSW from Columbia University, Baya specializes in couples counselling and MDMA-assisted couples therapy research, and is supervised by the incredible Esther Perel!  Her work has been featured in a TED Talk, on Vice, Forbes, MTV, and ABC, and her videos on everything from boundaries, to using AI for therapy, to navigating jealousy, have been viewed by millions.Tune in as we explore:

Send us a textIn this episode of the Relaxing To Love podcast, Teal Riege explores the reasons why emotionally healthy men may initially feel boring compared to the excitement of emotionally unavailable partners. She discusses the impact of nervous system imprinting on attraction, the difference between trauma bonding and real connection, and how to retrain oneself to embrace healthy love. Teal emphasizes the importance of recognizing emotional safety and building a secure foundation for relationships, encouraging listeners to reflect on their attachment styles and patterns in love.Takeaways:Emotionally healthy men can feel boring due to past trauma.Nervous system imprinting affects our attraction to partners.Stability in relationships may feel less exciting than chaos.Recognizing emotional safety is crucial for healthy connections.Trauma bonding creates a cycle of craving chaos and drama.True connection is calm and emotionally nourishing.Craving excitement can indicate an unhealthy attachment style.Retraining your nervous system can help embrace healthy love.Building attraction takes time and emotional safety.You are not broken; healing is a process.Schedule Your 30-Minute Relationship Audit Today: https://calendly.com/tealeriege/auditFollow Teal on Insta Here:https://www.instagram.com/tealelisabeth_/Download Teal's Relax into Love Guided Meditations here: https://www.tealelisabeth.com/meditationsJump into the Love Life Accelerator Here:https://www.tealelisabeth.com/accelerator Learn more about her Soul Rebirth Course here: https://www.tealelisabeth.com/soul-rebirthLearn more about her Sacred Union Course here:https://www.tealelisabeth.com/sacred-unionEmail Teal anytime here: teal@relax-into-love.comSupport the show

Episode #168: Can authentic connections change your perspective on life? Join me, Kimberly Lovi, as we explore transformative insights from my recent journey to Charlotte, where I had the privilege of collaborating with Leonard Wheeler on a major campaign. A visit to Gordon's barbershop revealed powerful lessons on humility and the true essence of connection amidst his personal health battles. We discuss the enlightening cultural contrasts between Charlotte and Los Angeles, particularly the openness about faith, which left a lasting impression on us. This episode promises a wealth of reflection on the value of material possessions in the face of life's challenges and the importance of embracing authenticity, support, and respect for diversity. Moreover, we dive deep into the significance of personal accountability and self-reflection when navigating conflicts. Learn how owning your part and being honest with yourself can not only build trust but also open doors for more meaningful conversations. We touch on the necessity of emotional safety and the role of a supportive network in expressing vulnerability. Through personal stories, we reinforce the message that it's okay not to be okay, and that genuine feelings can fortify relationships and foster deeper connections. This episode is a heartfelt reminder of the power of authenticity in overcoming life's challenges. Chapters: (00:00) Transformative Insights and Authentic Connections (13:13) Navigating Authentic Self-Reflection and Connections Follow Kimberly on Instagram and TikTok @kimberlylovi or @iconicnationmedia  WATCH us on YouTube and view our brand new studio! 

You can say all the right things and still miss each other. Discover why emotional honesty—not performance—is the gateway to real connection, and how to break the cycle of surface-level intimacy without sacrificing strength.What if the very thing that makes you successful is also what's silently distancing you from your partner?In today's episode of The Recalibration, we explore emotional honesty in marriage — and why it's so hard for high-capacity humans to access it. You might be articulate, self-aware, and transparent… and still be emotionally unavailable. Julie Holly shares her own journey of emotional detachment disguised as leadership, revealing how high performers often substitute control and composure for true vulnerability — not out of malice, but out of protection.This episode blends real-world storywork, neuroscience, and relationship research from Dr. John Gottman to uncover the invisible gap between what we say and how we actually connect. It's not about mastering conflict scripts or fixing communication. It's about recalibrating identity — so your presence matches your power.You'll hear:Why emotional honesty feels risky to high achieversHow “transparency” can still be a maskWhat Gottman's bids for connection reveal about nervous system safetyHow tiny missed moments create emotional shutdownWhy ILR is not mindset work — it's identity work that restores intimacyHow to lead your marriage with presence, not performanceWhether you're in a long-term relationship or simply desiring deeper emotional connection, this episode invites you to stop calculating and start connecting.Today's Micro Recalibration:Where have I been withholding emotional honesty to protect an image?What truth — even a small one — could I share today that would build intimacy, not distance?For Couples (Recalibration Together):What's one moment recently where you felt I turned toward you — or didn't?This is the kind of clarity that recalibrates more than just your marriage — it shifts your whole life.Linked Resources:Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. AllenderIf this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

In this candid episode, Alicia gets real about something most stepmoms won't say out loud: you want to be over your partner's past… but reminders keep ambushing you—kids' faces, old photos, in-law stories, even the house you live in. She explains why your brain grabs the past when you don't feel safe, the hidden cost of re-hashing old wounds, and a step-by-step plan to stop using history as ammunition so you can build the future you actually want.Who this is for:Stepmoms who feel caught between “I'm fine” and “I'm about to bring up 2014 again.” If you've ever tossed a decades-old moment into a current disagreement, this one's for you.What you'll learn:Why the past feels so present: Safety responses, stepfamily triggers, and the comparison trap (you're not “first,” so it feels like you'll never “come first”).The real cost of holding on: Erosion of trust, the resentment loop, and how re-reading old chapters keeps you from writing new ones.Six tools to move forward (without pretending it never happened):Catch the trigger in real timeSeparate past from presentJournal it (hello, Ex-Files) instead of dumping it on your partnerChoose your future over your fear (simple visualization prompt)Forgiveness vs. boundaries (what each one actually does)Shift the self-talk: from “I'll never measure up” to “I am the present and the future”Key takeawaysWhen you don't feel safe, your brain reaches for “proven” past evidence to protect you. That doesn't mean it serves your relationship now.The more you punish your partner for the past, the less space there is to create something new—today.You are not in competition with their past. You are their present and future.Boundaries protect you; expectations attempt to control them. Keep them separate.If the roles were reversed, you wouldn't want your old chapters thrown at you either.Related episodes & resourcesEpisode 111 – Spiraling: Why It Happens & How to Feel Safe Again → aliciakrasko.com/111Episode 110 – The Secret Journal Every Stepmom Should Have (Your “Ex-Files”) → aliciakrasko.com/110Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

When we feel safe in our relationships, we feel we can show up with more vulnerability.  When we show up with more vulnerability, we create more emotional and physical intimacy.  But oftentimes, the behaviors we are engaging in in our relationships put the other person into protective mode rather than feeling safe, and so we struggle to create the connected relationships we really desire.  In this podcast we will talk about ten ways we can create more of a safe space for our person. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #218 Honest Relationships #243 Having More Honest Communication #244 The Relationship Circle #284 Why Vulnerability Matters #295 Safety in the Relationship Circle #326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe #331 Sense of Self #332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head #333 Sense of Self and Dating #334 Sense of Self and Marriage #341 Choosing to Be All In #344 Are You a Safe Place for Vulnerability? #347 The Self Care of Relationship Repair #357 How to Be More Understanding #359 10 Ways to Be a Safer Spouse #364 Relationship Neglect Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/  

Why can't women just understand men? Why can't men just understand women? The short answer is, “we're not supposed to.” If we were, we wouldn't really have any need for each other, would we? My guest today, Adam Lane Smith, has made it his life's work to get closer to helping men understand women and help us understand our own natural tendencies in relationships. Today, Adam and I talk about emotional starvation, the concept of CEO/COO between men and women, the ‘red flags' that your marriage is struggling, what men and women do to cause each other pain, and how men can lead in their relationships much more effectively. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Finding Purpose and Chasing It 00:59 – Building a 200-Year Family System 02:51 – Two Worlds: Secure vs Insecure Attachment 05:55 – Teaching People Safety vs Creating Secure Attachment 07:27 – Maslow's Hierarchy and Emotional Safety 10:46 – Safety for Men as Peace 14:19 – Security Starts Outside the Relationship 17:38 – Rebuilding a Marriage After Decades 20:53 – Invalidation and Dismissal in Relationships 22:23 – Venting vs Bringing Concerns 27:18 – The Purpose of Female Feelings as Data 29:36 – Men and Women's Brains Are Meant to Interlink 32:05 – The Ancient Fear of Not Being Believed 37:25 – Emotional Starvation in Relationships 40:38 – Signs She's Thriving or Starving Emotionally 45:13 – Four Levels of Safety Women Need 48:24 – Level 1: Physical Safety 50:07 – Level 2: Resource Safety 52:00 – Choosing the Right Woman for Your Circle 55:08 – Defining Masculine and Feminine Roles 58:32 – How Men Decide and Women Refine 01:02:05 – Level 3: Emotional Safety 01:04:29 – Level 4: Bonding Safety Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ ⁠(free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ In this enlightening episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes Sarah Sloane, sex and kink educator from the Hashtag Open app, for an essential conversation about consent, sexual communication, and finding partners who truly align with your desires. This episode tackles everything from making consent conversations sexy to navigating ethical porn, kink exploration, and the realities of dating after divorce. Sarah breaks down how to make consent attractive rather than awkward, emphasizing that consent is temporary and can be withdrawn at any time. We explore the "hell yes" versus "hell no" standard for enthusiastic consent and practical ways to slow down sexual encounters for better awareness and communication. The conversation addresses how to teach consent early through body autonomy and why being honest about your boundaries actually makes you more attractive to compatible partners. We dive into listener questions from Matt, who's navigating dating after an abusive marriage with no prior dating experience, and Christi, whose 20-year marriage is strained by concerns about her husband's porn use. Sarah offers guidance on video dating as the pandemic norm, using apps like Hashtag Open for specific interests, and the importance of yes/no/maybe lists for discovering preferences without shame. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction & Sarah's Early Life 03:41 - Discovering Kink & Initial Curiosity 07:38 - Power Exchange & Emotional Safety in BDSM 11:59 - Consent, Boundaries & Clear Communication 16:13 - Self-Worth, Validation & Identity 20:46 - Shame, Judgment & Cultural Programming 26:17 - Healing from Trauma Through Play 31:03 - BDSM & Somatics: Embodiment Work 36:42 - Rewriting Scripts Around Pleasure & Worthiness 43:20 - Advice for Beginners & Empowered Exploration