Podcasts about worthlessness

In this episode, we examine the profound effects of parental neglect on adulthood, sparked by a listener's frustration with their parents. I discuss the internalization of worthlessness that arises from dysfunctional childhoods and the distinction between self-worth derived from virtue versus superiority. We confront the challenges of breaking the cycle of emotional detachment and explore themes of repentance and redemption through biblical reflections. I encourage listeners to reflect on their experiences, pursue self-acceptance, and seek truth, fostering personal growth amidst these deep issues.GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK!https://peacefulparenting.com/Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2025

In this episode, I open up about a deeply personal experience—the return of what I call the “worthlessness gremlin.” For years, I believed I had overcome these feelings of low self-worth, but when they unexpectedly resurfaced, I knew it was time to take another deep dive into this shadowy part of myself. Through this journey, I uncovered valuable lessons and found ways to navigate these feelings with greater strength and clarity. If you've ever wrestled with feelings of unworthiness, self-doubt, or low self-esteem, this episode is for you. Together, we'll explore how to face those dark corners within and uncover the healing and growth waiting on the other side.If you haven't already, I encourage you to pick up a copy of my book Whispers of the Soul, which teaches The Wisdom Way to higher consciousness.Order Your Copy of Whispers of the Soul here: https://mybook.to/WhispersofthesoulAbout Anita AdamsI'm Anita Adams, your host, and the founder of Joyful Inspired Living, an organization dedicated to guiding individuals toward their authentic selves for a life of purpose, passion, and joy. Alongside hosting the Joyful Journey Podcast, I offer transformative retreats, workshops, and coaching programs to unlock inner wisdom. I am also the bestselling author of Whispers of the Soul, A Guide to Clarity, Confidence, and Joy.Connect with me via email and explore our community on our website, Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn. Your support means the world to us! Join our community of Joy Makers and Conscious Leaders. Share with friends, and leave us feedback. Subscribe for updates and consider leaving a review to help others discover us. Thank you!Connect with Anita: Email - anita@joyfulinspiredliving.comWebsite - https://joyfulinspiredliving.com/Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/628676761727732Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/anitaadams604/?hl=enLinkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/anitaadamsyvr/Whispers of the Soul Book: https://mybook.to/Whispersofthesoul

Luke 2:1-20 December 22, 2024 Being a night-shift shepherd was not a very reputable position. To be a shepherd was sort of seen as a lower “career” on the social strata, but to the night-shift was even worse. Yet, in God's goodness and sovereignty, He sent His angels to appear to these shepherds! Then these shepherds would be among the first humans to fix their eyes on Jesus – the Savior of the world and the King of all kings!

Luke 2:1-20 December 22, 2024 Being a night-shift shepherd was not a very reputable position. To be a shepherd was sort of seen as a lower “career” on the social strata, but to the night-shift was even worse. Yet, in God's goodness and sovereignty, He sent His angels to appear to these shepherds! Then these shepherds would be among the first humans to fix their eyes on Jesus – the Savior of the world and the King of all kings!

Finally, Darren shares the third enemy that blocks you form your greater potential. This belief is the biggest of the three, and it requires you not just to hack it, but a put a stop to it all together for you to break through your self-limiting beliefs for good. Darren reveals: -Why the belief “I am not” is a lie. -How courage isn't about the absence of fear but acting despite it. -Practical strategies to dismantle feelings of worthlessness and build self-worth.

Feelings of worthlessness seemingly arise for stepmoms from the daily realities of life - no established place inside the family dynamic, giving up much of your time and privacy within your home, not being appreciated for many of the things you do for the stepkids and not knowing how to address parenting issues with your partner. But what if you've unconsiously moved toward situations in life that would act to confirm the way you already feel inside? In this episode I talk about how the step-parenting journey can be seen as a prompt to upgrade yourself and your self-concept as a human being. It's time to claim your value, don't wait for anyone else to give it to you. Book a free call with Tracy and find out if 1:1 coaching or any of her recorded video programs would be a good fit for you! bit.ly/CALLTRACY

Wednesday, 30 October 2024   Then He said to them, “Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men.” Matthew 4:19   “And He says to them, ‘You come – after Me! And I will make you fishers of men'” (CG).   In the previous verse, it noted Jesus walking by the Sea of the Galilee when He came upon Simon, called Peter and Andrew, his brother. They were casting their net. It then noted that they were fishers. Now, it says, “And He says to them, ‘You come – After Me!'”   The word deute is an exclamatory word meaning come. Although we can't know the inflection of Jesus' voice, it was probably something excited and yet directive. Thus “You come – after Me!” is probably close. Of this expression, the Pulpit Commentary says, “There is no thought of continuous following from place to place..., but of immediate detachment from the present sphere of their interest and of attachment to Jesus as their leader.”   He called out to them first with the directive to come and then an explanatory word that they were to be His followers. His choice had been made, and they were now given the opportunity to respond to the call. With that called out, Jesus then continued with a fuller explanation of His intent for them. “And I will make you fishers of men.”   There they were, casting their net into the sea hoping to catch fish. But Jesus now has a greater role to offer them. The idea of fishers of men is not first found here in Scripture. Rather, it goes back to the book of Jeremiah where the Lord judges Israel for its iniquity and then promises restoration. Included in that restoration are the Gentile nations –   “‘Behold, I will send for many fishermen,' says the Lord, ‘and they shall fish them; and afterward I will send for many hunters, and they shall hunt them from every mountain and every hill, and out of the holes of the rocks. 17 For My eyes are on all their ways; they are not hidden from My face, nor is their iniquity hidden from My eyes. 18 And first I will repay double for their iniquity and their sin, because they have defiled My land; they have filled My inheritance with the carcasses of their detestable and abominable idols.' 19 O Lord, my strength and my fortress, My refuge in the day of affliction, The Gentiles shall come to You From the ends of the earth and say, ‘Surely our fathers have inherited lies, Worthlessness and unprofitable things.' 20 Will a man make gods for himself, Which are not gods? 21 ‘Therefore behold, I will this once cause them to know, I will cause them to know My hand and My might; And they shall know that My name is the Lord.'” Jeremiah 16:16-21   Even in the Old Testament, the idea of Gentiles coming to the Lord is expressly stated from time to time. God has a plan, and His purposes for the people of the world have been worked out slowly and methodically. With the advent of the Messiah, that salvific process suddenly went into overdrive.   As noted in the previous commentary, in that verse, many translations say “fishermen.” The problem with that is now found in this verse. The same word just used is used again. Therefore, to be consistent in translation, it would then say in this verse, “And I will make you fishermen of men.”   The redundancy is obvious. And so, a change is made in those versions from “fishermen” to simply “fishers.” To be consistent in translation, simply saying “fishers” in both verses is preferable.   Life application: Jesus used the fishers of men terminology as a metaphor for what these men would be doing. Here we have several things coming together to form a picture of something new – men in an occupation, a net, the sea, fish in the sea, hopes for a harvest of fish, etc. Of course, the main Subject is Jesus, the one directing the scene through His words.   Here we have the words “Come – after Me!” Jesus makes the directive call for a change in what they are doing, even if what they will be doing is mirrored in what they have been doing. He calls men of an occupation to continue in that profession but in an entirely new way. They will remain fishers but with a new type of catch.   The net is the means of catching the fish. The new means is the gospel. The men are going from being members of the Galilean sphere of fishers to members of a body (today we call it the church). In other words, the men comprise the church, not a building or an organizational structure built on making money and doing things with that money.   The sea is emblematic of the chaotic world of humanity. That is seen many times in Scripture. The fish in the sea are those who are caught out of the world by the means of the gospel (the net) through the church (the men) whose intent and purpose it is to find the lost and bring them to salvation (the hopes of the harvest of fish).   This short verse in the early chapter of Matthew, although dealing with Israel under the law at this time, is a picture of a greater process that the Lord will be accomplishing through those He has selected. The harvest will be from Israel under the law at first, but it will eventually extend around the entire world. Jeremiah's prophecy gives hints of this, even from a point in time when it was wholly unknown to the world.   As you read the Bible, look at what is going on in the story or narrative that you are reading and think about what is being said. Then look for parallels of these things elsewhere. Eventually, pictures of the magnificent work of God in Christ become fully developed. Nothing in Scripture is superfluous. Everything has intent, meaning, and purpose.   So, take your time and consider what you are reading. Treasure awaits!   Lord God, what an exciting thing to read Your word and to see how Your plan for the redemption of mankind is detailed there in so many ways. It is glorious to consider what You have been doing and what continues to be done, even until this day. May we respond to the call of the gospel and then to the call to continue furthering this good news as a part of Your redemptive outreach to the world. Amen.

Series: Learn to BlockTitle: The Accuser's Shame Old TricksScripture Reading: Revelation 12:10This is our eighth week learning how to block the fiery arrows of the enemy. Revelation 12:10 refers to Satan as "the accuser." Today we look at some of the accusations made against us by the accuser and how they feed a complex of shame within us.  The accusations we cover are:1. You're Too Sinful to Be Forgiven2. You Haven't Done Enough to be Saved3. Your True Self is Unlovable

Depression isn't always lying to you. Your feelings of worthlessness might reflect an unmet need for purpose and impact. I've battled severe depression for a decade. Through this struggle, I discovered that constantly consuming without creating deepens the despair. This imbalance can make anyone feel invisible and irrelevant. I have a theory on how to break free from this cycle. Comprehensive in-home depression relief that gets to the core of your depression - without antidepressants (partner I believe in). (Use code SCOTTE100 to get $100 off your first program) Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly⁠. ⁠Sleep better, without pills (partner I believe in)⁠ ⁠My book: For When Everything is Burning⁠ Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety(I have partnered with this brand): ⁠iOS ⁠ ⁠Android⁠ ⁠Connect with me on TikTok: Connect on Instagram ⁠Therapy with me (Iowa residents only)⁠ ⁠Work with me (Non-Iowa residents) Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support

In this episode of Counseling Talk, Deepak, Hayley, and Garrett interview Esther Liu about shame and how pastors and counselors can view shame in the light of Scripture and the gospel.Related ResourcesShame Interrupted: How God Lifts the Pain of Worthlessness and Rejection by Ed WelchShame: Being Known and Loved by Esther Liu

Kerri Brinkoeter, Cathy Endebrock, and Marlene McMichael continue the LoveTalk series on negative emotions. Shame, regardless of its origin, causes us to retreat into feelings of isolation and worthlessness. It can also stifle our God-given talents and giftings. However, God intended only abundance for us. We are to approach His throne, not in shame, but in confidence because He has redeemed us. Join the Ladies of LoveTalk for "From Shame to Freedom."

Kerri Brinkoeter, Cathy Endebrock, and Marlene McMichael continue the LoveTalk series on negative emotions. Shame, regardless of its origin, causes us to retreat into feelings of isolation and worthlessness. It can also stifle our God-given talents and giftings. However, God intended only abundance for us. We are to approach His throne, not in shame, but in confidence because He has redeemed us. Join the Ladies of LoveTalk for "From Shame to Freedom."

Before we can truly become "little," we must confront the Pharisee in ourselves. Pharisaism is religious narcissism. The Bible calls it "insolent pride."  The label "narcissist" is widely deployed to refer to people who appear to be too full of themselves, but the truth is, we all have selfish, narcissistic tendencies to some degree that we must wrestle with. I believe this "spirit of judgment" is the main wound of the Fall. Jesus' most dire warnings and strongest words were for the blind Pharisees. . Clinically, narcissism is a spectrum, and there are three "types" that give us useful information on how to deal with it in ourselves and others. Ultimately, Paul says we must "come out!" and unto our Heavenly Father in order to heal this father wound. . If you've never explored the "father wound," here 's a whole series o healing the father wound.      Thank you with all my heart to my newest Friends of the Show, Patricia E; Emily P; Katie R; Nellie K; Carolynn LB; Tina S; Christine C; Stephanie F*; Amber R; Brittany Y; Rebecca M; Bridget McG; Christina C; Phillip B; Laura E; Amelia S; Kevin G; Jean C; Beth L; David C; Deb N; Elizabeth F; Kathleen W; Colleen G; Toni D; Maureen A; Victoria T; Charles F; Amanda P; Heather D; Meghan S; Kathy B; Victoria H; Kellye B; Karen B; Julie B*; Carol E-D; and Shona M, for loving and lifting me! *Extra thank you for your generosity! :) Friends of the Show get all Premium Content!  Our Monthly Meetup Bible study in John is epic! You coming? New Series LOVE the Word® is a Bible study method based on Mary's own practice: lectio without the Latin. Get the book based on Sonja's method in the right margin, How to Pray Like Mary.   L | Listen (Receive the Word via audio or video.)   O | Observe (Connect the passage to your life and recent events.) Are you narcissistic? How narcissistic are you? How do you feel about yourself, knowing you have narcissistic tendencies?  Have you identified the projections inherent in your narcissism? What do you want to say to the Holy Spirit about that? V | Verbalize (Pray about your thoughts and emotions.) Remembering that He loves you and that you are in His presence, talk to God about the particulars of your O – Observe step. You may want to write your reflections in your LOVE the Word® journal. Or, get a free journal page and guide in the right-hand margin. E | Entrust (Rest in the Word.) Dearest Jesus, my love, in the words of little Therese, "For me to become great is impossible." Help me bear with myself and my many imperfections as I seek to follow her means of getting to heaven by a little way--very short and very straight, The Little Way of the Child. Amen + Love Heals. Learn More. Connect Join me (click here) in the Sacred Healing community for our Masterclass and Consultation Group coaching calls, healing prayer livestreams, monthly Bible studies, LOVE the Word® takeaways, a healing masterclass and other courses, a dynamic phone app, and a flourishing community to help you find help, support, and experience deeper healing.  What We Discussed | Show Notes Overview: Minutes 00:00-12:00 – Narcissistic Personality Inventory; Jordan Peterson's Understand Myself personality quiz; Narcissus Minutes 12:01-24:00 – Traits of narcissism; it's a spectrum; the grandiosity and shame yo-yo   Minutes 24:01-36:00 – Three types of narcissism: 1) abuse and neglect; 2) inter-generational; 3) entitlement Minutes 36:01-48:00 – Appeal to the relationship; narcissism as a worthlessness identity wound, a father wound; worthless and Belial; "Come out!" Transcript Friends of the Show: Protected Content. Click Here to sign in 

The Worthlessness of RichesParticipants: Jay Becker, Bryan, and PaulDiscussion Focus: James Chapter 5Key Points:Worthlessness of Riches: Paul, Bryan, and Jay discussed the futility of hoarding wealth and the importance of prioritizing treasures in heaven over earthly riches. They emphasized the consequences of living in luxury and mistreating workers.Hoarding Wealth: The speakers delved into the negative impacts of accumulating wealth without purpose and the ethical implications of not using wealth to benefit others.Spiritual Treasures: Reflecting on the importance of spiritual treasures, the group highlighted the need for a balanced approach to wealth, focusing on how it can be used for God's purposes.Fair Treatment of Others: Emphasizing the significance of fairness and justice, they discussed the biblical mandate to treat workers and others with respect and integrity.Final Judgment Preparation: The conversation touched on the importance of preparing for the final judgment by living a life that prioritizes spiritual values and the eternal kingdom over material possessions.Encouragement to Listeners: The speakers encouraged listeners to share the podcast to spread the message and deepen their understanding of biblical teachings on wealth, humility, and spiritual priorities.

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TW because I believe that , specially as of recently, so many of us have been feeling this way. Whether it's caused by failed relationships, by parents, by failing almost every single thing in your life, at some point, sometimes you just sit there and you start wondering, do I deserve anything good? Am i worthy of love? of friendships? of life?These, are very dangerous and very heartbreaking situations to be in.This episode is a reminder, and I hope it does what I intend it to do, to remind every single one of you, that we all feel unworthy at times, but damnit, YOU are worth more than you could ever imagine. Support the Show.Email me at breakingdownthebreakdown@outlook.comor you can find me on instagram at @breakingdownthebreakdownpod

“You are free to discover yourself as Truth. You are free to rest in that Truth. You are free to be happy, regardless of your body, your thoughts, emotions, or circumstances.”   In this month's podcast, Gangaji begins with a clear exposition on how it is absolutely possible to discover yourself as Truth, no matter your past history. Then in the lively exchange that follows, she speaks to how we deny the truth of ourselves and instead, cling to an identify rooted in our thoughts, emotions, and relative circumstances. Do you dare give up your self-denial?   Learn more about Gangaji, her programs, and event schedule at gangaji.org.

The true way to live happy and healthy lives is to live lives aligned with Jesus! In her newest book, Happy and Healthy, my friend Jeanine discusses different strategies and areas of life where we can be anchored in Christ and thrive in our day-to-day lives. These areas include friendships and relationships, insecurity and confidence, faith and waiting seasons, and so much more!GRAB JEANINE'S BOOK HERE: https://a.co/d/5uzQ194PRE-ORDER MY BOOK HERE: www.kirby-kelly.com/you-can-be-free

We are in the season of the restoration of all things as the Lord is soon coming for His Bride the Church, both Jew and Gentile. A Bride who has made herself ready. Revelation 19:7 The Gentiles shall come to You From the ends of the earth and say, “Surely our fathers have inherited lies, Worthlessness, and unprofitable things.” That's the NKJV let's look at the same verse in the NLT translation: “Nations from around the world will come to you (who is you? It's Israel, the people of God) and say, “Our ancestors left us a foolish heritage, for they worshiped worthless idols. What does that mean? I want to ask you to stay with me through this video. I believe it may be one of the most important history lessons you'll ever hear about the church. As the scriptures foretold, I want to show you that the church has inherited lies, doctrine, and practices that seem innocent but are in total opposition to the Word of God. This is what the Lord says: “Stop at the crossroads and look around. Ask for the old, godly way, and walk in it. Travel its path, and you will find rest for your souls. But you reply, ‘No, that's not the road we want!' Jeremiah 6:16 NLT "Because you say, ‘I am rich, have become wealthy, and have need of nothing'—and do not know that you are wretched, miserable, poor, blind, and naked— I counsel you to buy from Me gold refined in the fire, that you may be rich; and white garments, that you may be clothed, that the shame of your nakedness may not be revealed; and anoint your eyes with eye salve, that you may see. As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten. Therefore be zealous and repent. “He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches.  Revelation 3:17-19, 22 CLICK HERE FOR RESOURCES ON PASSOVER: https://www.touroftruth.com/passover

Welcome everyone to our heartfelt space, where we weave hope, wisdom, compassion, and an understanding into the fabric of our conversation about one of life's most profound challenges - grief and loss. We recognize that few experiences come as deeply as the pain of losing a loved one, especially when the loss comes at the hand of a silent battle with inner demons. Today, we're going to be stepping into that realm often shrouded in silence and taboo, the heart-wrenching topic of suicide.We're engaging in a candid conversation with Dr. Keith McNally, whose multifaceted life story includes surviving suicide, as well, if that wasn't enough, a heart attack. Among his many pursuits, now, he is aiming to support suicide survivors, as well as their families.Our guest has a diverse professional background as a social worker, a Doctorate in Educational Leadership, and a survivor's testimony. He also brings a wealth of insight into the labyrinth of human suffering and resilience. And I'd love you to warmly welcome Dr. Keith McNally to our show today! Here's what we talk about:The internal conflicts and struggles faced by individuals dealing with suicidal thoughts.What strategies does Dr. McNally employ to cope with suicidal thoughts?Emotional or psychological states might indicate that someone is at risk of suicidal ideation.What are some common misconceptions or myths surrounding suicide?And much more!  Connect with Dr. Keith McNally!Website: https://www.drkeithmcnally.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drkeithmcnally/Envision Speakers Series - Exploring the Depths of Health and Happiness: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-iktqQp-FG0You don't have to grieve alone, as a coach I can help support you. To discover how grief coaching can help you please book a FREE call with me To access your FREE resource 12 Ways to Heal https://www.understandinggrief.comConnect with me: Website: https://www.understandinggrief.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annedebutteFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/reconnectfromgrief

If you grew up with addiction, abuse, or other forms of trauma in your home, you likely struggle with feelings of worthlessness. Ronni and Jennie unpack how these feelings are generated, and share how they manage/move through them.

There's an infuriatingly common type of liberal who purports to oppose Israel's actions in Gaza while also saying they support "Israel's right to exist", as though Israel's existence is somehow separable from its genocidal murderousness. Reading by Tim Foley.

No Man's Gospel (Galatians 4:8-20) - Pastor Adam Vega

Overcoming Loneliness Part 2-- A Master Class on the Feared Fantasy Technique Featuring Dr. Orly Marmur This is the second of a two-part series on loneliness, featuring the courageous personal work of Dr. Orly Marmur with Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt as co-therapists. After Orly shared her story, we worked on helping her learn to use the Five Secrets, especially the Disarming Technique and Inquiry, to develop closer relationships with others. Jill described the philosophy of this approach as learning to be ”interested” in others—encouraging them to talk about themselves—rather than trying to be “interesting" or "impressive," which is usually a losing battle. We also worked with the Feared Fantasy technique to help Orly deal with her fear of rejection. Essentially, we explained that we would enter an Alice-in-Wonderland Nightmare World where there were two weird rules:. If you think people are judging you or looking down on you, they really are! In this Nightmare World, people are not polite but get right in your face and tell you all the negative thoughts they're having about you. We asked Orly to describe the worst criticisms she thought her friends might have about her. Here's the list: We're not really interested in you. You don't really say or create anything interesting. You are by yourself. We have families. You're not funny enough. You're not fun enough. You're too intellectual. You're too political. You're a liability. Orly bravely took the role of herself to kick things off, and Jill and David played the role of the “friends from hell,” and verbalized these criticisms to Orly. At first Orly struggled to respond effectively to the critical statements. She got stuck defending herself at times, and forgot to express interest in the critic and the specific criticisms. David and Jill modeled more effective responses, using the Five Secrets of Effective Communication, including The Disarming Technique (finding truth in the criticisms), Inquiry (ask for more information with a spirit of curiosity) Thought and Feeling Empathy (acknowledging how the critic was thinking and feeling) “I Feel” Statements (sharing feelings like sadness, shame, and loneliness in an open, respectful way) and Stroking (expressing positive regard for the critic, even in the heat of battle). Orly did a fantastic job, as you'll hear on the podcast, and we did some role reversals to refine certain responses. The goal of the Feared Fantasy is not so much to prepare for rejection in the real world, since very few people would ever say these things in such a harsh and open way. The Feared Fantasy “Monster” actually exists primarily in your own mind. But since most of us never think about the thing we fear, we don't realize or discover that the monster has no teeth. That is to say that by engaging with your greatest interpersonal fears, you discover that if someone were to attack you with over the top vague criticisms, you would survive, and it would reveal something terrible about the other person, not about you! The Feared Fantasy Technique brings this to life in a dramatic, emotional, and vivid way. At the end of the session there was a dramatic reduction in all of Orly's scores on the Emotions Table of her Dailly Mood log. Her Unhappiness dropped from 40 to 0 Anxiety dropped from 100 to 5 Shame went from 85 to 0 Worthlessness dropped from 95 to 0 Loneliness fell from 100 to 10 Self-consciousness fell from 8 to 5 Hopelessness fell from 100 to 5 Stuck and defeated fell from 100 to 0 Resentment fell from 90 to 0 Disappointed in myself fell from 100 to 0 As you can see, there was a dramatic reduction in all of her scores. We asked Orly what the most important healing elements during the session were. What techniques were that were most helpful. Orly said that the empathy from Jill and David was really  important as she felt heard and accepted. The Feared Fantasy Technique also made a huge difference, as it taught her what she wanted, which was to feel intense feelings without doing anything about them. Orly felt that this is the continuation of earlier work that made her realize that she struggles with Emotophobia (which means “the fear of feeling your emotions), and she wanted to increase her capacity to simply feel. Rhonda, Jill, and David want to give a shout out and virtual hug to Orly for a most fantastic session and learning opportunity for all of us. Teaching Points Here are a few teaching points for therapists as well as the general public. The secret of meaningful relationships is to be interested in others instead of trying to be “interesting” or impressive. You do not need to add more accomplishments to the list in order to feel close and loved by others. The Disarming and Inquiry Techniques (which are parts of the Five Secrets of Effective Communication) are extremely important in calming troubled relationships, if used skillfully, because they open the door for the other person to be heard and validated, and hopefully interested in healing and repairing the relationship. When you use the Feared Fantasy Technique, you discover that the rejecting “monster” you feared has no teeth, and you may also discover that you are the one who created it. In other words, the “monster” you've feared was always just the projection of your own self-criticisms! The Feared Fantasy is an intense method that can be helpful when the patient feels “trapped” or intensely afraid of rejection. However, it requires a strong foundation of trust between the therapist and the patient, especially when you respond to the “monster's” criticisms with acceptance and vulnerability. The more “over the top” the criticism is in the feared fantasy, usually, the more successful the method is, because you discover two things: 1) that the extremely harsh criticisms reveal something negative about the critic, rather than about you, and 2) specific criticisms (e.g., “you haven't read enough books”) are very easy to agree with and disarm and do not have to hurt your ego! Rhonda pointed out that during the early empathy phase of the session, Jill and David did “very basic, simple empathy” without any attempt to cheerlead or “help.” Very few therapists can do this, and most therapists don't even realize that their empathy / listening skills are poor. The use of David's empathy scale at the end of every session with every patient can be extremely eye-opening for therapists who are brave, because you will see how your patient really sees you and rates your empathy skills. Effective therapy is highly individualized and rarely or never formulaic. Orly started out by asked for help with symptoms of PTSD that started the day of the horrendous slaughter of many Israeli citizens by the invading Hamas fighters. But the session evolved into something entirely personal involving Orly's relationships with herself and with other people. In the end, Orly worked on accepting herself, connecting with others, and reducing her own perfectionism and perceived perfectionism, a therapeutic agenda that emerged as David and Jill empathized and collaborated with Orly. This led to Orly feeling less lonely, isolated, and numb, and more able to feel her feelings! Follow-up (many weeks later) Orly reported that she has felt “calm and quiet” since her session. She has definitely attempted to use the Disarming and Inquiry Techniques in several relationship situations, but said that the most important change has been her feelings of “inner calm and peace of mind.” She said that she is no longer so invested in doing for others or attempting to show people that she is there for them. She simply lets things unfold naturally and is now able to let go and accept it when things she hoped for don't happen. This may be related to reducing her underlying beliefs around perfectionism and perceived perfectionism that were targeted in the feared fantasy work that she did during the session. Instead of thinking that she has to be impressive in order to be loved, she has learned to accept herself, which is arguably the greatest change a human can make! For those who might be looking for a bottom line, I (David) might summarize Orly's subtle but remarkable change as a boost in acceptance of self and the world—a result that is easy to explain, but difficult for most people to comprehend, and even harder implement in our own lives. A big thanks to you, Orly, for teaching all of us through your own courageous personal work as the New Year unfolds and hopefully offers more world peace and increased love and connection. Thanks for listening! Warmly, Rhonda, Jill, Orly, and David  

Lauren Swan shares her raw journey of overcoming a lifetime of believing she was unworthy of receiving kindness, support or treats for herself in this powerful episode of Choosing Change. From struggling financially and feeling "not good enough" to spiraling over small gifts, Lauren opens up about how ingrained mindsets of lack held her back - and the tools she used to start seeing herself as deserving. Her transformation from always giving to others but never receiving to budgeting "treat money" just for herself provides inspiration and practical steps for anyone working to overcome feelings of unworthiness and learn to accept the good things in life.   CHOOSING CHANGE INSTAGRAM: #choosingchangepodcast CHOOSING CHANGE SHOW NOTES: https://www.lizziemoult.com/blog/13-lauren-swan  

In this episode, we discuss what a true man is by contrasting true manhood with the sons of worthlessness. Throughout the Old Testament, especially in the book of 1 Samuel, a recurring title shows up -- son of worthlessness. A son of worthlessness is what a man should not be. The life of a worthless man is a life a man must reject in order to be a true, godly man. To learn more about our ministry, visit: afci.usTo support our ministry and this podcast, visit: https://pushpay.com/g/acfiusa?fnd=yxHf05h0MbuQZgrnfWrSmQ&fndv=Lock&lang=en&src=pcgl

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Are the "physical" symptoms of depression specific or non-specific? How do you treat schizophrenia with TEAM? Why don't more shrinks help themselves? Healthy vs unhealthy negative feelings-- what's the difference? Questions answered in this podcast: 1. Laura asks: Why don't you include the physical symptoms of depression in your assessment tests? 2. Fred asks: How would you use TEAM-CBT to treat individuals with schizophrenia? 3. Author not known: Why don't the therapists you treat with TEAM treat themselves using self-help techniques? 4. Zach: How does David understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy emotions? Is there any overlap between EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and David's TEAM-CBT?   The following are David's written responses to these questions. However, in the podcast, Rhonda and David discuss them, and their answers together may differ or enlarge on the material below. Also, in some cases, the written answers contain additional information not included in the live podcast. 1. Laura asks: Why don't you include the physical symptoms of depression in your assessment tests? Author: Laura asks a question about post #248: “David and Rhonda Answer Your Questions about Exercise, Empathy, Euphoria, Exposure, Psychodynamic Therapy, and more!” Comment: Fabulous, David. Bless you. Have you done a show on assessments? I'll be honest about my confusion. Some of the measures that you have developed almost seem too simple to be accurate. For example, the depression test isn't sensitive to any of the physical manifestations of the illness. Anyway, I was just curious about that. David's Reply Thanks, Laura! Good questions! First, the so-called physical symptoms of depression are non-specific and not uniquely associated with depression. Only the core emotional symptoms are good indicators of depression: feeling down, hopeless, worthless, unmotivated, and not enjoying life. If you want to measure physical symptoms, they won't give you much information about depression, but at least they need to be worded correctly, which they aren't in most assessment tols. For example, you can measure weight gain, OR weight loss, in single and separate items, but not in the same item. But if you go to a mall and ask how many people have had weight gain, you'll probably find that more than 50% report weight gain, but this is rarely due to depression, rather it is due to overeating! Similarly, a significant fraction will say yes to a question about weight loss, and in the vast majority of cases this will be due to dieting, not depression. Similarly with the other poorly thought out physical symptoms, like trouble sleeping. The reliability of my depression measures has typically been .95 or better, as compared with measures like the Beck or PHQ9 that have only .78 to .80 reliability coefficients (called “coefficient alpha.”) I have observed a phenomenal lack of critical thinking behind most current psychological tests for depression, anxiety, and other variables of interest to clinicians and researchers. You also asked about apps for anxiety, like OCD, as opposed to depression. The Feeling Good App causes rapid and significant reductions in, not one, but seven categories of negative feelings, including feelings of depression, anxiety, guilty/shame, inadequacy, loneliness, hopelessness and anger. Thanks so much! Finally, I have to confess my bias toward trying hard to make things simple, so we can all understand what we're talking about! When things are overly complicated or hard to “get,” I usually feel fairly suspicious about the person who is trying to “teach.” In college I always had the policy that if I can't understand what the teacher is trying to say, the teacher has a problem! My thinking today is pretty similar! I've always appreciated teachers who keep things simple for us mere mortals who appreciate having things explained clearly and in everyday words. Best, david 2. Fred asks: How would you use TEAM-CBT to treat individuals with schizophrenia? Hi David, Do you have any schizophrenia thought experiments? Most of my clients struggle with voices. I tell them there is always a good voice, which I believe is the Holy Spirit woven into every person at birth. I also tell them to welcome the voices and listen for what they need, because the voices need to be welcomed back into the body - the "family" - of the person, according to Internal Family Systems. I welcome your thoughts. I am not a therapist so anything I say or do needs to fit my role as a recovery coach. Fred South Bend, Indiana David's Reply. Thanks, Fred, great question. I have treated many individuals with schizophrenia, but they have rarely or never asked for help with the voices they hear. I like to set the agenda for each patient, finding out what they specifically want help with. And individuals with schizophrenia respond very well to TEM-CBT, both the individual treatment model for depression and anxiety, as well as the interpersonal model for relationship problems. An experience early in my career highlighted the folly of trying to challenge the delusions of individuals with schizophrenia. A young man, a new patient, seemed uncomfortable and when I inquired, he explained that the receptionist, Lucretia, was listening in because she could “hear” our thoughts and our conversation. I explained that Lucretia did not have much money, and that if he wanted we could do an experiment to test his belief. I put a $20 bill on the desk and said that if Lucretia knocked and came into the office, she could have the money. So I did that and Lucretia did not knock on the door or appear in the office. I asked the young man what he concluded from our “experiment.” He said that she “knew” it was an experiment since she could “hear” our thoughts, and didn't come in because she didn't want us to know she was “listening in” on our dialogue! That's an excellent example of what happens when the shrink tries to set the agenda, as opposed to helping patients with what THEY want help with! In my experience, you can help individuals with schizophrenia with self-esteem, anxiety, and relationship problems with psychotherapy, and they do feel and function somewhat better, but they still, sadly, have schizophrenia. This is my thinking only, and others may differ. I know that Aaron Beck and many of his followers have done research studies claiming they can help schizophrenia with traditional CBT. I am skeptical, but have not read those studies or evaluated the data with a critical eye! So who knows? Maybe they have some decent results. Best, david 3. Author not known asks: Why don't the therapists you treat with TEAM treat themselves using self-help techniques? Why can't the TEAM-CBT therapists who have done personal work with you on the podcasts do that work themselves in self-help mode?" They know all the techniques and have all the tools. With no qualifications, I have my own theory on that, which is actually based on TEAM. I don't know how to give myself the level of E=empathy required to move on to the next stage. So I guess my question could be reworded as "Is it possible to give yourself sufficient empathy in self-help mode?" or "Are there techniques or tools you can use to give yourself empathy in self-help mode?" David's Response Thanks, cool question! Blind spot, especially in relationship problems To get experience in the “patient” role Sometimes, we all need a little help from a friend, and that can sometimes be vastly faster than trying to do everything on your own. But in terms of empathy, I believe you CAN treat yourself with empathy, warmth, and compassion, and that is actually one of the keys to recovery, whether or not you're in treatment with a shrink!   4. How does David understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy emotions? Is there any overlap between EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and David's TEAM-CBT? Hi Dr. David and Dr. Rhonda, I have a question if you have a chance, and maybe this is better for an Ask David. David talks about healthy emotions sometimes, and this feels like a faint through-line to EFT model. Does David have a framework for understanding healthy emotions or emotional needs? When a client is grieving, David encourages the tears to flow and notes it's an expression of how much the client valued something. David also demonstrates what EFT would call protective anger, when using the counterattack method, “I'm tired of listening to your BS.” And lastly David demonstrates what EFT labels self-compassion while using the acceptance paradox and 5 secrets responses to critical thoughts. Thanks, Zach David's Response Thanks for the excellent question. I have to confess that I don't know much about EFT, but I think there's a lot of overlap in different “therapies” since many people “borrow” ideas from other experts, and get so excited about them that they call them their own, and simply give them a new name, claiming to have something entirely new. And it sounds like there are some definitely similarities between my TEAM-CBT and what is called “EFT.” If this is true, I'm certain I didn't do the “borrowing” since I don't attend to the work of others in the field, for better or worse. At any rate, I have always taught my students that each negative feeling has a healthy and an unhealthy version, as you can see in the following table. The main difference is that the healthy version results from valid negative thoughts, and the unhealthy version results from distorted negative thoughts. However, in the past 25 years or so, I've taken a new look at so-called “unhealthy negative feelings” in my TEAM-CBT. There, we reframe the negative feelings, showing what's beautiful and awesome about each one. IN other words, we genuinely try to sell the patient on NOT changing. Paradoxically, this approach, which I call Positive Reframing, seems to melt the patient's resistance to change, and that nearly always opens the door to the possibility of rapid change. Healthy vs Unhealthy Negative Feelings Healthy Version Unhealthy Version Sadness, grief when you've lost someone or something you loved Depression, worthlessness, hopelessness Healthy fear when you're in danger Anxiety, nervousness, worry, and panic, and phobias Healthy remorse when you've hurt someone you love Neurotic guilt, blaming yourself for something you're not entirely, or at all, responsible for Healthy inadequacy and awareness of your very real shortcomings and limitations Worthlessness, inferiority Missing someone you love Desperate loneliness, abandonment, feeling unlovable Discouragement when you fail or when things don't work you Hopelessness Sharing your anger in the spirit of love and respect Unhealthy anger, aggression, acting out your anger with the goal of hurting or upsetting the other person, or getting back at them   Thanks so much for listening today! Warmly, Rhonda and David  

100 - So Much Worthlessness by The Worthless Podcast

Welcome back, everybody.  Alright, alright, alright. You may already notice the sound of my voice has shifted, the tone has shifted, and that is on purpose. Actually, I've never thought of this, but it's true. I often show up when I'm ready to do a podcast. I sit in front of my microphone, I'm in front of my desk, I take a deep breath and I just talk to you from a place of centeredness and calm, gathering as much wisdom as I can. That is a part of what I'm bringing today. But my other hope is I want to shift the tone a little bit because that's what you have to do when you're addressing this particular topic, which is motivation during depression. We're talking about how to get things done during depression. That's what we're here for today. Thank you for being here. My name is Kimberley Quinlan. I'm a marriage and family therapist. I'm an OCD and anxiety specialist, and a lot of what I do is manage depression. That is because nearly 85% of cases of an anxiety disorder also have depression. That's because anxiety is hard and it creates these feelings of depression inside us.  Today, I wanted to talk about how to cultivate motivation during depression because so often when we're talking about either just managing depression or managing another mental health condition, you're usually required to do a lot of homework, use a lot of skills, and also go about daily functioning. That is really hard when you're experiencing depression.  DEPRESSION MOTIVATION CYCLE One thing I wanted to talk about first is just to get you guys familiar with what we call the depression motivation cycle. This is something that I talk to my clients about. I wouldn't say it's a science-based theory, but definitely, I think a lot of us will resonate with this. What I mean by the depression motivation cycle is when you have depression, you experience symptoms of depression, which I'll share here in just a few minutes. But you experience these symptoms that cause you to then have lower motivation. But when you have lower motivation, you tend to not get to your daily functioning activities and you tend to maybe avoid some of the hard things in your life, which then causes more depression. And then once you have more depression, that often ends up leading you back into the cycle of having even less motivation because you're feeling so hopeless, and the cycle continues and continues and widens and widens and spreads throughout your life. My hope today is that we can work towards breaking that cycle. I'm not going to overpromise that we will break it today because I'm always going to be as honest and realistic as I can with you guys. I don't want to oversell that this is going to be a simple snap of the fingers, I have the solution for you. No, there's a slow, gradual breaking of this cycle.  Number one, do I believe you can do this work? Absolutely. I want to heavy-load you with confidence at the front end, but also very much validating that it's a process, it's a practice. I want you to be as gentle with yourself as you can as we talk about this today.  Let's take a breath, but let's also stay in our mindset.  COMMON DEPRESSION SYMPTOMS & HOW TO GET MOTIVATED In understanding motivation during depression, we must consider, like I just said, common depression symptoms. We must understand them. One of the common depressive symptoms is hopelessness. Hopelessness is feeling like there is no hope for you. You might be having a lot of depressive thoughts such as, “What's the point? There's no hope. It's not getting better.” These are symptoms of hopelessness. In addition to hopelessness, or maybe instead of hopelessness, if you have depression, you may experience the depression symptom of helplessness. Helplessness is where you feel like no one can help you. That your problem is different or separate to other people's or too big than everybody else's, and that there's no one out there that can help you. That's important to notice because one of the lies depression tells us is you are the only one that has this particular type of depression and you are the only one that can't be helped, and that that means something about you. There's some innate flaw about you that makes your life hopeless. It's all lies. I just want you to know that. Another common depression symptom is worthlessness—feeling like you're not enough, you're not worthy. You don't deserve to be here, to be loved, to be in connection with. Maybe you feel like you don't deserve kind, wonderful, loving things or even pleasure. Worthlessness isn't a very common piece of depression. As you can imagine, just hearing these words that I'm saying, it's a horrible feeling. It's a very deep, dark, gray place to be, and it's not your fault.  Another common depression symptom is sleepless nights. You're unable to sleep or oversleeping, sleeping day and night, hitting the alarm over and over again, turning it off, going back to bed, not getting to your daily functioning. Another huge one is exhaustion. People with depression will often go from many, many medical tests because they're so exhausted and they think it must be a medical condition. You definitely should seek medical care and have an assessment always. But often it's not a medical condition; it's a common symptom of depression.  In depression, no motivation to do anything is common. In depression, no motivation to eat, to exercise, to engage in daily activities is also very, very common. Often daily functioning will be depleted completely if it's a severe case of depression.  My hope today, first of all, to acknowledge this for you and validate this for you and hopefully bring a ton of hope, is to also talk about concepts that can help boost your motivation during depression because it's not your fault. But there are ways we can slowly climb out of this deep, dark hole that we often can get into when we have depression. BOOSTING MOTIVATION WHEN DEPRESSED  Okay, let's do it. We're going to talk about how you can increase your motivation during depression. The first thing I want to encourage you to do is to embody this idea of becoming a kind coach. Now, for those of you who have read The Self-Compassion Workbook for OCD—that's a book I wrote in 2021—it talks a lot about the kind coach. Maybe you're already familiar with it. Or recently in Episode 343, we did a whole episode about talking back to anxiety, and that was all about using the kind coach voice to help get you through these difficult times. We also talked that you could also use that skill with depression.  What I mean by the kind coach is that when things are hard, when you are suffering, you tend to yourself in a way that is kind and you coach yourself forward. Often what we do is we criticize ourselves forward. Meaning we say, “Get up, you lazy thing, and just get your teeth brushed,” or “You're such a loser if you don't brush your teeth,” and we use self-criticism to motivate. I'm here to tell you, the science shows us that self-criticism, while it does get people to do things for the short term, it actually for the long term makes people more depressed. It reduces motivation, it increases procrastination, it lowers a person's self-esteem and their sense of wellbeing. We want to take the pedal off of using self-criticism and move our pedal and accelerator towards talking to ourselves and coaching ourselves in a way that is kind.  What I'm not saying is that's saying, “You're the best, you're wonderful.” That's fine. If you want to try that, you can. But the kind coach from my perspective doesn't usually talk like that. It's usually encouraging like, “Just do one thing at a time. You can do it. One more minute,” and really focusing in on what are your strengths and how can we highlight those, and also what are your challenges and how can we not use those against you. We all have challenges. Let's say you're someone who has a challenge with time management. Maybe in that area, we really lean on, “What strengths do I have that I can rely on when it comes to time management,” instead of just saying, “You suck at time management, there's no point.” I want you to practice being a kind coach. If you want more information about that, go back to listening to Episode 343.  Another way to boost motivation when depressed is what we call activity scheduling. Now this is a science-based skill that we use when we are practicing cognitive behavioral therapy, which is an evidence-based treatment for depression. Now for those of you who have taken Overcoming Depression, which is our online course for depression, if you're interested, you can go to CBTSchool.com and you can enroll in that course. It's an on-demand course where you can learn exactly the same skills that I would give my clients, but you'll be using them on your own. It's a self-led course and you have unlimited access to all of those strategies and skills. But we talk a lot about this behavioral skill of activity scheduling.  What I mean by that is, one of the biggest things that takes motivation away is a lack of routine, a lack of structure in our day. What we do when we first start treating someone with depression, or we're starting to target depression, is we break the day up into sections. It might be two sections in the morning and two sections in the afternoon and one in the evening, and we'll say, “Okay, you just have to do one thing in each of those sections.” You get to pick. It could be as simple as brushing your teeth, but you'll put it in your schedule and you're going to give yourself permission that that's the only thing you have to do in that section if you're unable to do that at the present.  Let's say that you're more in a high functioning area and you're already doing a lot, but you're also engaging in a lot of depressive rumination. We might actually keep your schedule the same, but schedule in times during your schedule to check in, use some skills, maybe do some journaling, maybe using some mindfulness activities and so forth. But we can actually use the scheduling to reduce problematic behaviors.  DEPRESSION MOTIVATION TIPS  Now, one of my go-to depression meditation tips for everybody is to set realistic goals and expectations for yourself. One of the things I notice about people with depression, and I'm also including myself here because I too have struggled with depression during different seasons of my life, is that we really want to achieve a lot with our lives. We have this idea of what life should look like. We have this idea of how great it can be, which is such a wonderful quality. But the flip side of that wonderful quality is that we have such rigid expectations for ourselves, and when we don't meet them, we beat ourselves up.  Often what we can do is we can check in with these expectations and these unrealistic goals. We can check and say, “Okay, is this helping me be motivated?” Almost always, it's no. Let's say I'm sitting across from a patient in my office, I might say to them, “What would be a goal that you actually feel like you can achieve this week or today or this month?” When they set the bar a little lower, all of a sudden, a tiny inkling of motivation comes into them. From that place, they start to move forward. Whereas if they set these really high goals, they can't access motivation. It's so huge, it just feels hopeless. Again, it feels helpless. They feel worthless, those themes of depression. The motivation doesn't light up inside them and they don't do any of it. They don't take even a baby step. If that's you, I don't want you to feel called out; I want you to feel understood. I want you to feel validated. I'm hoping that you can give yourself permission to set a goal that's realistic, and it's just for now. I know what you're thinking. You're thinking, “Well, geez, I'm never going to amount to anything if I set this low bar.” But the truth is, we start small and then we increase it over time.  Another thing to consider when addressing motivation during depression using your activity scheduling is incorporate self-care and healthy habits and whatever that means for you. If you're someone who has depression and you're not eating because of it, you're going to have a low energy. When you have low energy, you don't have any motivation to do anything. Incorporating scheduled meals, even if they're not even that healthy to start with. It could be just whatever you can tolerate for the time being. But getting that nutrition into your body may be also what helps with motivation.  If you're someone who is so depressed, unable to be out in nature and exercise, which we know based on science helps with depression, maybe you could schedule three minutes where you look out the window if that's all you can do, or take a hike with a friend, or maybe just sit outside on a chair. Whatever it may be. I really don't want to put expectations on you guys. I think it's very personal, so you'll have to think for yourself, “What is one thing I could do today that would really cultivate self-care?” A really important thing when you're depressed is, it's so important. I really want to emphasize this: Finding a support group, a team of support—a loved one, a family member, a friend, a therapist—support groups, actual structured groups is so important to help with that cycle of depression too. Remember we talked about that cycle of depression and motivation? Sometimes just feeling like you're not alone in and of itself can create a little motivation, or feeling like you're not alone can reduce that depression just a little bit, which can then help with that motivation piece.  One other thing to consider here, and I myself do this with my best friend, is I use her not only as support, but as an accountability buddy. I'll tell you, actually, something I've struggled with recently is, as many of you know, we've gotten a puppy and out the window went my exercise plan. My exercise plan is so important for me in managing my medical condition, but it went out the window. I messaged her and I said, “Listen, I don't want you to feel any responsibility about this, but I am just telling you, this is what I'm committing to. You don't have to do anything. I'm just telling you so that you're my accountability buddy. Every day that I do the thing I said I'm going to do, I'm going to send you a thumbs up emoji.” I said, “You don't even have to do anything. I just need you to be there so I can be my sounding board.” There have been other seasons in my life where I've had things that I needed to get done, and I would say to her, “Can you be my accountability? Do you have the capacity?” She's like, “Yes, of course. What do you need?” I'll say, “I need you to text me on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday to remind me to do such and such.” That's fine too. Again, that doesn't make you a loser. It doesn't mean that you're weak. It doesn't mean anything. It just means we're using effective skills to get you back on the bandwagon.  Now, that being said, there are some key components of getting motivated during depression and these key components, also what I would call a mindset, is leaning towards your values, getting really clear about what is it that you want out of your life. Again, let's go realistic, but let's look at the long term. Sometimes when we are depressed, the whole future looks like it's hopeless. What we want to do is kindly get in touch with your why. Like what can you bring to the table? Why are you here? What do you want? What can you bring to the table for others or for yourself? I want to slow down here a little. I get that you might have no answers to that right now, and that's okay. It might be as simple as just going, “Okay, what's one value of mine that I want to lean on during this difficult time?” Values can help us make decisions about what's best for us.  Another mindset shift that I want you to move towards is, don't live your life according to what depression is telling you to do. Make choices based on the direction of your life you're wanting to go. If you used to love swimming, try swimming again. If you used to love drawing, try doing more drawing, even if you're depressed. Because what we know is that those hobbies, personal interests, more creative expression using your body, can actually create spaces for you where you're opening your mind up to other things, not just putting your attention on your depression. A lot of my patients have said that they don't want to go out and be with people or go on a hike or something, but once they're there, they deeply feel the benefit of it. Sometimes it's a matter of putting our attention on how you'll feel once you get that thing done. Try to find things that bring you some joy or some fulfillment. But again, for this first part, don't put too much pressure on that either because you mightn't feel a lot of that to start with. But over time and with repetition, you will. Another really important piece, and you're already hopefully doing it right now, is to lean on the people who are sources of inspiration for you. Hopefully, if it's me, I'm honored. For me, it's often like poetry, people who've been through it. I love Jeff Foster. He is a poet who has had depression and suicidal ideation and he's just talks about it in such a beautiful, mindful way. I find it to be a very safe landing place when you're feeling really down. And then the last thing to consider when addressing motivation for depression is, actually, after you've done any activity that you had to muster up a lot of energy to do, you celebrate. If you miss the celebrating part, you miss an opportunity to generate more motivation to keep going. If you do something hard and you go, “Whatever, it's no big deal. I should have been able to do it yesterday,” you're missing an opportunity. What I want you to do is throw a mini party in your mind. Or if that's impossible, just text someone and say, “I did a hard thing today and it was...” and tell them what it was, so that you are celebrating, you are rewarding, you are congratulating yourself for taking steps towards these small victories. It's so important.  And then the last thing I'm going to offer to you, which is a catchall for all of this is, don't do it alone. If you have access, like I said before, to a therapist, a support group, it doesn't even have to be a paid one; it could be a Facebook group. But being in a community, being in a group of people who get what it's like for you can be a game changer. If you do have access to professional help, absolutely go and get help because they often will bring your attention to things you weren't noticing, thought patterns that you didn't realize that you had, and that can be so incredibly beneficial.  Now, with all of that said, I want to also emphasize this idea of, again, my voice hopefully is a little different and I'm trying to cheer you on. Let's go. You could totally do this. Baby steps. What I want to remind you of is, surround yourself with people who lift you up, who have a high vibe if you can. If you haven't got access to those people in real life, lean on singers and celebrities and even social media platforms that are encouraging, that are inspirational. A lot of my clients have said that Pinterest has been even helpful for them in that they go onto Pinterest and they google inspiring quotes. That could actually be something so simple that gets them up to brush their teeth. I hope that's helpful. If you are interested in looking into Overcoming Depression, our online course, talking a lot about different skills you can use, go to CBTSchool.com or reach out to a therapist in your area. I really hope that this has sparked a little teeny tiny light inside you, and if so, I will be so happy.  Do not forget, it is a beautiful day to do the freaking hard things. Do not forget it. Write it on a piece of paper and read it off as many times as you need to remind yourself it's okay that it's hard, it's not a bad thing that it's hard, and that you can do those hard things. Sending you love. Have success. I'm sending you every ounce of love that I have. Talk to you soon.

Jesus points out that not all suffering or affliction is the direct result of Sin. When the disciples assumed that the man born blind was being punished because of sin…John 2-3 2 His disciples asked Him, “Rabbi (Teacher), who [a]sinned, this man or his parents, that he would be born blind?” 3 Jesus answered, “Neither this man nor his parents sinned, but it was so that the works of God might be displayed and illustrated in him Scripture is just as clear, however, that sickness may be the direct result of sin. Because some of the Corinthian Christians had abused and unworthily participated in the Lord's Supper, Paul told them, 30 That [careless and unworthy participation] is the reason why many among you are weak and sick, and a number sleep [in death] 1 Cor 11:30 Physical weakness, sickness, and even death can result from persistent sinning. When Ananias and Saphira lied to the church about the proceeds from the sale of their property, they also lied to the Holy Spirit. Their wickedness caused them to die on the spot, (Acts 5:1–11). At the end of 1Timothy we hear Paul giving some instruction to Timothy on handing a few tough situations. He reminds him to 'fight the good fight when contending with false teachers, keeping your faith - leaning completely on God and absolute trust and confidence in His guidance, and having a good conscience, for some people have rejected their moral compass and have made a shipwreck of their faith. Among these are Hymenaeus and Alexander who I have handed over to Satan, so that they will be disciplined and taught not to blaspheme. - they were expelled from the safety of the church. Perhaps the man did repent. He may be the one spoken of in 2 Corinthians, whom Paul said should be forgiven and comforted and for whom they should reaffirm their love, “in order that no advantage be taken of us by Satan; for we are not ignorant of his schemes” (2:5–11). A disciplined brother is still a brother and is never to be despised, even when unrepentant (2 Thess. 3:14–15). And if he repents, he is to be forgiven and restored in love (Gal. 6:1–2). Idle words: We will be accountable for every idle/careless word. We are held accountable to our WORDS - which the bible helps us to see, are powerful! A follower of Jesus moves into obedience, forfeits the old life, moves into being transformed by the power of the Holy Spirit, move into purpose filled living with blessings and let's go of the 'worldly things'. https://biblereasons.com/idle-words/ Jesus said, “I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken” (Matthew 12:36). The KJV translates “every empty word” as “every idle word”; the ESV says, “every careless word.” The Greek phrase is rema argos, meaning “careless or inactive or unprofitable words.” In context, Jesus is contrasting the “good things” within a good person with the “evil things” in the heart of an evil person. We are admonished to make the best use of our words, because words express what is in our hearts: “The mouth speaks what the heart is full of” (Matthew 12:34). Other passages give additional insight. Ephesians 4:29 sets the standard: “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” James 3:8 advises us on how hard it is to control the tongue: “No human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.” Then in James 4:11–12, “Brothers and sisters, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on it. There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you—who are you to judge your neighbor?” Given the weighty consequences of our words—even our “careless” ones—we must learn to yield our body's members, including our tongues, to the control of the Holy Spirit—the only One who can tame the tongue. “Set a guard over my mouth, LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips” (Psalm 141:3). Scripture for Jesus talking about demons being cast out of a person, going to dry places, coming back with 7 others finding the house is swept clean. Luke 11 24“When a demon is cast out of a person, it goes to wander in a waterless realm, searching for rest. But finding no place to rest, it says, ‘I will go back and reoccupy the body I left.' 25When it returns, it finds the person like a house swept clean and made tidy, but empty. 26Then it goes and enlists seven demons more evil than itself, and they all enter and possess the person, leaving that one in a much worse state than before.” Destroyer(s) words over HUMANITY are LIES You must know what God says about you, you must know His voice, His word and carry it with you everywhere you go Jesus is the LIGHT Lucifer was the Light BEARER/Bringer Deception - scripture references: https://www.openbible.info/topics/deceivers Counter voice - may sound reassuring but it's very destructive Complaining grows the demonic strength/hold and their logs against you will grow Destroyer brings emptiness and art of distraction and self-focus Keeping us away from God's word and purpose for us Self-worth is IN CHRIST - scripture references: https://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Self-Worth Matthew 22:39-40 37Jesus answered him, “ ‘Love the Lord your God with every passion of your heart, with all the energy of your being, and with every thought that is within you.' 38This is the great and supreme commandment. 39And the second is like it in importance: ‘You must love your friend in the same way you love yourself.' 40Contained within these commandments to love you will find all the meaning of the Law and the Prophets.” How are you going to love others AS you love yourself, if you're not loving yourself? LEARN WHAT LOVE IS (and what it is NOT) Love - agape - unconditional love - this is how we are to love others Why did Jesus need to come to earth? 1 John 3:8 For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that He might destroy the works of the devil Why did Jesus have to die? Colossians 1:13 For he has rescued us from the kingdom of darkness and transferred us into the Kingdom of his dear Son, Who is the author of Confusion? Conflicts and rebellions have their source in Satan, the author of confusion in both the physical and spiritual worlds. Physical evils in nature and among mankind are among Satan's works that Jesus came to overcome and destroy. From Here's a list of Traps:Complaining,Isolation,Self-pity,Apathy,Shame,Self-doubt,Depression,Worthlessness,despair Send all prayer requests as well as find all resources (including the course on How To Pray – (Myth Busting) by Kellee and Ron here on Kellee's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/KelleePope www.KelleePope.com www.LoudmouthPodcasting.com www.K2Media.us www.Gripped.us

Welcome to The Dr. Daf Show! Today we're talking to BJ Garrett about how her traumatic experiences deepened her relationship with Christ. We discuss how to spiritually heal from having an abortion, what it was like to become a mother at 15, and how to develop a healthy relationship with sex after experiencing sexual trauma and abuse. Check out BJ's website: https://bjgarrett.com/  Read BJ's book: https://bjgarrett.com/book/  — || PURCHASE MY FRAGRANCE: https://www.fineforever.com Use discount code: DRDAF for 10% OFF all purchases. || SPONSORS: Go to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code DAF, and get UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! || LET'S CONNECT ON INSTAGRAM: Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/drmichelledaf/  Follow the Dr Daf Show on IG: https://www.instagram.com/drdafshow/  Follow Fine Forever on IG: https://www.instagram.com/fineforever/  || SUBSCRIBE TO MY OTHER CHANNELS: Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/GhanaGoddess05  My YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.MichelleDaf  Mornings with Michelle: https://www.youtube.com/@morningswithmichelle  Dr. Daf Show CLIPS Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drdafshowclips  Thank you for listening! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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What can we do to create a more empowered life for ourselves and tap into our intuition?This week's guest is Susan Burrell, the author of “Live Your Empowered Life” and host of the “Empowering Chats with Susan Burrell Podcast.” Susan is also an intuitive healer and a spiritual guide who helps her clients through life's many crossroads.In our conversation, Susan shares how she first got into this type of work and the many ways we shut down our own intuition throughout the course of our lives. We talk about the role that the patriarchy plays in the world and the importance of inviting in the divine feminine, the journey from worthless to worthy and how we can get there, ways to lead with love even in times of political turmoil, and the many lessons our travels can teach us.If you enjoy this episode, please feel free to rate and review the podcast on whatever app you're listening on, and share with a friend!CONNECT WITH SUSANWebsite: https://www.susanburrell.com/Empowering Chats Podcast: https://www.susanburrell.com/podcastsInsight Timer Meditations: https://insighttimer.com/susanburrellBook: https://www.susanburrell.com/bookFree Gift: https://www.susanburrell.com/free-gift-meditationInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/liveyourempoweredlife/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/susanburrellpage/Twitter: https://twitter.com/LYILSusanLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susanburrell/CONNECT WITH THE SHOWWebsite: WellnessAndWanderlust.netInstagram: www.instagram.com/wellnessandwanderlustblogFacebook: www.facebook.com/wellnessandwanderlustblogTwitter: www.twitter.com/moses_says

Award-winning author, inspirational speaker, and life coach, Yeager is familiar with shame's oppression at a personal level. Tina wrestled with isolation from peers, body image, and low self-esteem issues, even trending into eating-disordered behavior. In this episode, Tina and I discuss her book Upcycled: Craft for a Purpose. She shares her story and also provides tools on overcoming worthlessness, isolation, and loneliness. You can purchase Tina's book Here  

For additional notes and resources check out Douglas' website.Scripture: Ecc 2:11; 1 John 2:17; Ps 51:12; Eph 3:16; Eph 4:14. (Also Wis 9:4)Key phrases:* "In captivity": True freedom is found in Christ, not the world.* "How strange": The world (and worldly Christians) think it strange when one lives wholeheartedly for God (1 Pet 4:4). Yet Christ finds it "strange" that we do not live this way.* "Unnecessary cares": So many of our burdens and pains are self-inflicted. Multiplying money, land, houses, works of art, travel, collections of stamps or coins -- or anything else without God in mind -- leads us to a state of being "never at peace or free from care.":* Worthlessness of money": What is highly valued among people is often detestable in the sight of God (Luke 16:15). How much of our income goes to supporting a higher standard of living than necessary? (Has this placed us in debt? -- one indicator that we are overextending.)* "Fickle praise": The praise and honor sought by men and women is often not the praise we should be seeking -- from the one who will say to us, "Well done, good and faithful servant."* True foundation": To avoid drifting spiritually, taken away from Christ by the ground shifting under out feet, we must live in him.Next: "On How to Hear the Words of God" (Book 3, Chapter 3), with excerpts from "On the Inward Voice of Christ" (Book 3, Chapter 1) and "On Truth Without the Noise of Words" (Book 3, Chapter 2).

What is shame? Is there a difference between shame and guilt? How does shame impact our lives? What gives shame power over our lives? How can someone Biblically overcome shame? Pastor Matt has some ideas about all that in this episode of NorthWoods Church Matters. Book mentioned: Shame Interuptted: How God Lifts the Pain of Worthlessness and Rejection by Edward T. Welch.  

In this week's podcast episode, Joanna is talking about how this past week she celebrated my 52nd birthday and how she always carves out some time to reflect on the past year. She looks at where she has grown, what she has accomplished, and what has transformed. She also discusses how when she does this self-reflection, she realizes that she is not living in alignment with trusting herself.   Here are this week's reflection questions:  What steps can you take every day to unhook from your inner critic? How does our Inner Critic focus on fear in our daily lives? In what ways can you stay engaged in actions and activities that continue to bring more possibilities to your life?

AN INVITATION TO MEN TO MEDITATE ON THEIR WORTHLESSNESSWhat do we lie about?  How do we misrepresent ourselves?  Why do we misrepresent ourselves?Often we are lying to convey value and esteem that we do not possess.  We lie about who we are, what we are, how qualified we are so that others will think well of us.  We are stealing other's impression of us.  We lie to lay calm to esteem that we do not possess.Our worthlessness becomes a big part of our SHADOW.  We then do many things to keep this shadow piece of our worthlessness covered and camouflaged.  In extreme cases, as is the case with people with Narcissistic personalities, people go to extraordinary steps to maintain this denial of one's worthlessness.What if we steered directly into our worthlessness?  This is a third chakra practice we can take on.  Let's face our worthlessness.  Let's sit in it.  Let's accept our worthlessness.  What follows from there?Do we die?  Do we disappear?  What is left after we have relinquished the drive to establish our worth?  What is left after we have stopped making efforts to convey our worth to others?—Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.orgwww.OmRupani.org

Repeatedly telling the story of “not good enough” is a familiar habit to most of us, an aspect our human conditioning. But what does it have to do with who you truly are? In this exchange, Gangaji, simply and directly shares how to bring an end to the story and “step into freedom.” 

Kevin Jess talks about the feeling of worthlessness and how the media may drive this feeling.

We're here to talk about Weekend Loneliness.  Ooof, we've all felt it. So, how the fuck do we deal with it? LINKS  Read ‘No plans and nowhere to go: The Friday night fear of being alone' Metro News Follow @thespace_podcast on Instagram    Watch @thespace_podcast on TikTok   Follow @novapodcastsofficial on Instagram   CREDITS Host: Casey Donovan @caseydonovan88 Writer: Amy Molloy @amymolloy Executive Producer: Elise Cooper Editor: Adrian Walton  Listen to more great podcasts at novapodcasts.com.au   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

God loves you. People say it all the time, but do you ever wonder if it's true? When we struggle with feelings of worthlessness and doubt, it can be hard to believe that we really matter to God. Let's discover more about God's love together in this message. ABOUT THIS MESSAGEThis message was originally presented as a part of a series called Ever Wonder Why? Find out more about the series here: www.life.church/everwonderwhyOur current series, At the Movies, can only be seen at a Life.Church location or at Life.Church Online. Each week on YouTube, we're highlighting one of our favorite messages—but you can check out www.life.church/atthemovies to find a location or attend Life.Church Online anytime. See you At the Movies!WE'RE OPENWe're continuing to monitor guidelines and best practices for gathering in a safe way. Learn more about everything we're doing to keep you safe and how you can help by using hand sanitizer, washing your hands often, and more: https://www.life.church/updatesFind a time and attend a service with us: http://www.life.church/locationsNEXT STEPSHave you made a decision to follow Jesus? You may be wondering what's next on your journey. We want to help! Let us guide you to your next steps in your walk with Christ: https://www.life.church/nextABOUT LIFE.CHURCHWherever you are in life, you have a purpose. Life.Church wants to help you find your next step. Our hope is that your journey will include joining us at a Life.Church location throughout the United States or globally online at https://www.live.life.church. Find locations, videos, and more info about us at https://www.life.church or download the Life.Church app at https://www.life.church/app. FIND US ON SOCIAL MEDIAFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/life.churchInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/life.churchTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/lifechurchTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifechurchCONNECT WITH PASTOR CRAIGYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/craiggroeschelFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/craiggroeschelInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/craiggroeschelTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/craiggroeschelTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@craiggroeschel#lifechurch #craiggroeschel #feelingsofworthlessness

On this episode of the Enneagram 4 Confessions podcast Zach begins a new series on welcoming all parts of ourselves (thoughts, feelings, emotions) to the table of our lives in order to find wholeness and healing. In this episode in particular Zach takes a look at welcoming the feeling of worthlessness in order to bring wholeness and healing in the areas of our lives in which we feel worthless. 

Have you ever felt like fear stopped you? Or equated Risk to Failure, and Failure to Worthlessness?  Put yourself out there, and make fear powerless, and embarrassment survivable as No Big Deal.  Together, let's get out of our own heads, and step out to win some & learn some, and celebrate, with a touch of Grace.