Podcasts about porn addiction

As God's children who are serving in ministry, sometimes the first thing to go in our walk is learning how to rest in Christ. Busyness can be one of the greatest enemies to sustainability and longevity in ministry. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, sits down with West Regional Director Jeff Redmond to discuss what it looks like practically to rest in Christ and some things that he's learned in his walk as a believer and recovery.

Get Your Copy of Porn Free Man Here:

Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreLet's check that we are on the same page as we have a discussion about 'Values'. I am speaking about such things as being able to be Creative, have Integrity, Fitness, Security, Faith, Self Confidence, Wealth, Winning, Honesty and many more.In the cool light of day, we would never purposely/consciously/intentionally trash our Values. They are a part of us and how we do life, want to do life and choose to do life on planet earth.Our Values define us; define who we are; represent who we are; shape who we are. How dare you invite me to just flippantly get rid of one of my Values; destruct, destroy - trash my Values. Why on earth would anyone do that?So, my question is - when Sex/Porn addiction triggers arise and you 'Act out', is the fact of Acting out, an indication that you have just Trashed all of you Values?Can you see patterns of activities and behaviours which show you undermining those dearly held Values, which in other situations, you would and could never undermine or trash your Values. Look how you undermine and trash your Values when emotions - such as conflict with a partner - gets the better of you; also when 'Acting out' beckons. Neural Pathway repetitive hamster wheel patterns of behaviours (from past learned and even inherited scripts from family) may be at work repeatedly, but you did not notice, analyse or give credence to what you were doing? You were actually trashing and undermining your strongly held Values.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior,Support the show

Cruz Gamboa spent 20+ years climbing to the top of General Electric — closing an $800 million deal, leading capital markets across Latin America, and earning a spot in the executive ranks. Then the CEO called to congratulate him. And he felt completely empty.In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra sits down with Cruz Gamboa, founder of Ascend Growth Ventures, to unpack what happens when high-performing men reach the goal — and discover it was the wrong one.Cruz gets raw about work addiction, panic attacks, porn use, daily drinking, a marriage that couldn't survive the grind, and the moment a doctor told him the problem wasn't physical. It was between his ears.If you're a driven man privately wondering why success doesn't feel like enough — this conversation is for you.What you'll take away:-Why work addiction is one of the most socially accepted and least recognized dopamine traps-How identity gets fused to professional title — and what it costs when that title changes-The difference between being curious about your dream and being committed to it-Why lack of self-love is the root cause behind every compulsive pattern Craig sees in clients -How to build a mission big enough that bad days become data instead of disasters-The OKR framework for aligning your goals to your actual purpose — not just your metricsWho this is for: Executives, entrepreneurs, and high-performing men who are winning on paper and quietly asking "is this it?"Connect with Cruz Gamboa:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cruzgamboaWebsite: https://ascendgrowthventures.comWebsite: www.AscendGrowthVentures.comTake the Self-Sabotage Assessment (free): www.mindfulhabitmastery.com/slstPatterns of Power is the essential playbook for high-performing men ready to dismantle reactive habits and step into their full power.Hosted by Craig Perra, founder of The Mindful Habit System.

This episode (336) explores the painful and complicated reality of a young betrayed partner who is trying to recover from betrayal trauma while also carrying childhood trauma and her own history with porn/sex addiction. We begin by validating the sheer complexity of her situation and making clear that she is not crazy, cursed, or hopelessly broken. When betrayal trauma, early trauma, and addiction collide, each one can intensify the others, making the internal experience feel overwhelming and chaotic. At the same time, we explain that these are not necessarily three unrelated problems requiring three separate full-time recoveries. Instead, they are often connected parts of one larger system that needs an integrated healing plan.A central message of the article is that trauma and addiction cannot be treated only at the level of symptoms. Betrayal trauma responses are often attempts to find safety, truth, and protection from further harm. Childhood trauma responses may be old survival strategies that once helped a person endure neglect, abuse, or instability. Addiction often develops as a way to numb, escape, regulate, or cope with overwhelming emotional pain. Using the lens of Internal Family Systems, we describe how wounded parts and protective parts can drive behaviors that may look irrational, destructive, or confusing on the surface, but actually have a deeper protective logic underneath. Reasons are never excuses, but understanding those reasons gives individuals and couples a better map for healing.The article also emphasizes that this partner's own addiction does not cancel out her betrayal pain, and her betrayal trauma does not excuse her own addictive behaviors. Both realities must be held together with honesty, compassion, accountability, and boundaries. We encourage her to begin not by trying to fix everything at once, but by stabilizing her nervous system, building support outside the relationship, stopping ongoing harm, and creating a paced recovery plan. If the relationship itself is constantly destabilizing, a structured break or carefully defined boundaries may be helpful, but only with clear purpose, goals, support, and re-evaluation. Ultimately, the message is one of hope: this situation is complex, but not hopeless; layered, but not impossible; and genuine healing can begin one courageous, supported step at a time.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   Betrayal Trauma, Childhood Trauma & My Own Addiction—Where Do I Even Start?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

TV presenter and broadcaster Ore Oduba joins us for an incredibly raw and unflinchingly honest conversation on pornography addiction, toxic masculinity, and grief.Ore opens up about being introduced to explicit material at just nine years old and the devastating "duality" of spending 30 years hiding his addiction while living a highly successful public life.This discussion dives deep into how repeated exposure to objectifying content rewires how young men see women, and how that culture feeds directly into the online manosphere. Following the tragic loss of his sister to suicide, Ore shares how he channeled his grief into purpose.It's an urgent look at breaking the silence that stops men from seeking help, and the clarity that saved his life: for his children.This episode covers the following themes: Addiction, Shame, Toxic Masculinity, Grief, and Recovery.Need Support?Samaritans: Call 116 123 or visit samaritans.orgNarcotics Anonymous: na.orgAlcoholics Anonymous: alcoholics-anonymous.org.ukMental Health Mates: mentalhealthmates.co.ukShout: https: giveusashout.orgIAPT: https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/adults/nhs-talking-therapies/Better Help

In recent years, the celebrate recovery global ministry has expanded the way churches can become a celebrate recovery ministry by hosting open share group only within their church. God is doing remarkable things through this function of the ministry and lives are being changed & pointed to Christ. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of Celebrate Recovery, sits down with Todd Harris, a CR representative in California to hear his heart and how he believes that a revival is spreading through the nation through this new approach to reaching more people through the church and open share group only. Listen to Todd's passion and heart for Jesus and the ministry of celebrate recovery and be inspired.

Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreIt is worth listening again to the first part of this topic (in a recent past episode) - entitled: Sex Addict - "I am not a Passive-Aggressive by my behaviours!" - This is a continuation of that topic talking about Core Emotional Needs. This is part 2 of how Passive-Aggressive behaviours can show up - as a way of trying to get Core Emotional Needs met.Do you know what are your top 3 most important Core Emotional Needs? Do you FIGHT like this? Do you FLIGHT like this? Do you Freeze like this? - but it is all about repeatedly practised behaviours as a attempt to get depleted Core Emotional Needs met. Some of them are: Approval, Acceptance, Support, Security, Comfort, Respect - amongst others.When Core motional Needs are depleted and at reserve levels, as human beings, we will do one of three things to try to get them met, since they are not negotiable. Critical levels will see us doing Fight, Flight and/or Freeze. Which one of those three do you think that you predominantly use? It may not actually be the obvious one that you first think you do. Listen to the two parts of this podcast and the examples of fight, flight , freeze which I demonstrate.Over 90% of the couples in conflict that we see in The Kairos Centre, have, at the root of their conflict - fight, flight, freeze - as they try to get their Core Emotional Needs met. Often, it will take the form of Passive-Aggressive behaviours. (This is a big deal which needs to be understood well).Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior,Support the show

What if God was pursuing you... even through a YouTube algorithm?In this powerful episode of Your Biggest Breakthrough, we sit down with filmmaker and police officer Jaron Lockridge to discuss faith, addiction, suffering, purpose, healing, and how one unexpected YouTube video became a turning point in his life.Jaron shares his incredible journey from witnessing trauma and brokenness as a police officer to battling a personal faith crisis that nearly pulled him away from God. He opens up about overcoming pornography addiction, discovering a deeper relationship with Christ, and why he felt called to leave successful secular filmmaking behind to create faith-based media that authentically portrays the struggles Christians face.If you've ever questioned God, struggled with shame, wrestled with addiction, felt distant from Him, or wondered why suffering exists, this conversation will encourage and challenge you.Podcast Chapters[00:00] Podcast Preview[01:10] Topic and Guest Introduction:[03:16] Welcome, Jaron Lockridge[04:55] Why He Became a Police Officer[06:30] The Emotional Weight of Law Enforcement[07:28] Success in Secular Filmmaking[08:30] The Faith Crisis That Changed Everything[10:00] The YouTube Video God Used[11:10] Instant Freedom from Addiction[11:50] Why He Transitioned to Christian Filmmaking[13:50] Breaking Free from Hidden Struggles[15:40] Dealing with Pain God's Way[17:02] Reading the Bible Changed Everything[18:20] Why He Created House for the Broken[21:40] Lessons from Law Enforcement and Broken Humanity[26:09] What's Missing in Faith-Based Media[29:55] The Character He Relates to Most[32:28] The Greatest Lesson God Taught Him[35:05] What He Hopes Viewers Experience[37:45] How to Overcome Shame and Find Healing[39:15] Where to Watch House for the Broken and ResourcesResources mentioned:Website: https://cinemaministry.comYouTube: Cinema MinistryFacebook: @cinemaministryInstagram: @CinemaMinistryTikTok: @CinemaMinistryWatch for House for the Broken coming soon to streaming platforms.Guest's bio:Jaron Lockridge is a police officer, filmmaker, writer, director, and the founder of Cinema Ministry Productions. With a lifelong passion for storytelling, he spent years producing independent films while building a career in law enforcement, giving him a unique perspective on both the brokenness and resilience of the human experience.Through his work as a police officer, Jaron has witnessed firsthand the struggles, pain, and challenges people face during some of life's darkest moments. These experiences, combined with his own personal journey of faith, have deeply shaped his approach to storytelling.After a life-changing encounter with God, Jaron felt called to redirect his creative talents from secular filmmaking to creating Christ-centered content that shares the hope of the Gospel. Today, he produces authentic, emotionally honest films and series that explore themes of brokenness, shame, redemption, healing, and God's grace.Jaron is best known for his upcoming faith-based series, House for the Broken, a powerful project inspired by personal experiences and real-life stories. Through filmmaking, ministry, and speaking, he is passionate about helping people discover hope, healing, and purpose through a deeper relationship with Jesus Christ.Call to action:Make sure to visit yourbiggestbreakthrough.com for your FREE access to our e-book and audiobook, "Unstoppable: Divine Intervention in Overcoming Adversity," showcasing six powerful real-life stories. Get ready to be inspired by these mind-blowing breakthroughs!To learn more about Wendie and her Visibly Fit program, visit wendiepett.comTo find out more about Todd and his coaching program for men, find him on the web at toddisberner.com.All the links you need to subscribe to the podcast are at both our websites! And if you feel so inclined, we'd be honored if you were to leave a rating and review of our show. It definitely helps with us being more visible to more people.And if we like it, we might just read your review on the podcast!

In this episode (335), we respond to a courageous submission from a betrayed partner who is navigating early recovery with her partner after multiple discovery days. Both partners have trauma histories, both are in individual therapy, and both are trying to understand what healthy sexual intimacy can look like after porn addiction, betrayal trauma, and past sexual coping patterns. Her questions center on lingerie, fantasies, kinks, dressing up, and whether these elements can ever be part of authentic intimacy—or whether they inevitably feed the pornified parts of the brain. We honor the depth and maturity of her questions because this is one of the most complex areas couples face in recovery.We emphasize that healthy sexuality cannot be reduced to a simple list of approved or forbidden behaviors. Lingerie, fantasy, experimentation, or sexual play may feel empowering and connecting for one couple, while feeling objectifying, unsafe, or triggering for another. The real questions are about intention, impact, consent, safety, presence, and whether each partner feels seen as a whole person. For the addict in recovery, this means asking whether he is truly present with his partner or superimposing old fantasy templates onto her. For the betrayed partner, it means asking whether she is freely choosing sexual expression or performing out of fear, people-pleasing, comparison, or the need to feel desirable and enough.We also discuss the role of a sex fast as a potentially powerful tool in recovery when it is done with transparency, structure, purpose, and ideally professional guidance. Taking sex off the table for a season can help reduce compulsive dependence on sex, create safety for the betrayed partner, and allow the couple to build other areas of intimacy that may have been neglected. But we caution that a sex fast should not become avoidance, silence, or emotional distancing. In the end, the goal is not to create a fear-based sexual relationship or to let pornography continue defining the bedroom. The goal is for the couple to consciously create a sexual relationship based on being rather than performing—where both partners are safe, present, authentic, fully seen, and deeply connected.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Healthy Sexuality or Pornified Performance? Navigating Lingerie, Fantasies, Kinks, etc., and Authentic Intimacy in RecoveryLearn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, global field director of celebrate recovery, will continue the conversation of understanding how our childhood can play into our present day today. What are some other things that we need to be aware of and how our present behavior might be connected with a root from our past, that needs our attention. Listen in and explore some thoughts and reflective questions to think about as we lean into the greater part of our story to take to the One who heals the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

You quit porn…But somehow you still feel off.Flat. Restless. Disconnected from real life.Because recovery is not just about stopping porn.It's about dopamine regulation.Scrolling. Gaming.Sports betting. Constant stimulation.Over time, your brain adapts to fast dopamine.So normal life starts feeling quieter.Focus drops. Motivation feels inconsistent. Real connection feels harder.In this video, Dr. Trish Leigh explains why recovery is not really about a “90-day reset.”It's about whether your brain relearns regulation.How Long Does It Take To Recover From A Porn Addiction?

Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreGrab your popcorn, peanuts and a drink, this is a long episode. It is a bonus episode, bringing it all together in one episode.I was interviewed by Seen&heard (an organisation supporting those traumatised by boarding school attendance) - for whom I am one of their Directory of experienced Therapists working with those different Traumas.In this very personal and up close interview of me and my journey through childhood, adulthood and life, I look at various issues, including Insecure Attachment and its significant impact on me; transitioning from being the Solicitor, career changing to become the Therapist; title 't' Traumas & big 'T' Traumas.Intergenerational scripts from past family which adversely impacts us and sets up subsequent family members towards a trajectory; training to counsel Singles, Couples, Partners, Marrieds; me becoming a Psychosexual/Sex Therapist; then a specialist trained Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Therapist - where each of those Addictions are quite distinct from each other; specialist support for impacted partners - separate from the Addict - (particularly female partners traumatised by learning about the Sex/Porn/Love Addiction); Co-addictions and what is waiting in the wings when you try to get rid of Porn or Sex Addiction.Eye Movement Desensitisation Repossessing (EMDR); SHAME+ NARCISSISM = SEX/PORN ADDICTION; need for a 12 Steps Support Group; need to Diagnose the childhood development issues first - before a Recovery Programme; my Diagnostic sessions & the world's first Video-on-Demand (pre-recorded videos with workbooks) Recovery Programme; what is 'Love Addiction'.It is not weakness to need help from others at some point in our lives; it may be counselling for mental health issues. Compulsions get passed on to the next generation - the children; becoming sensitised to partner's body; Therapy with The Kairos Centre is about moving as much insights from the Unconscious into the Conscious.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior,Support the show

Get Your Copy of Porn Free Man Here:

Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreWhat is passive-aggressive behaviour? Do you fight like this? Passive-aggressive behaviour is when you express negative feelings indirectly instead of openly talking about them. It is a defence used to protect self. It might stem from early experiences and has become a way to protect self. It might also include feelings of rejection, fear, mistrust, insecurity and/or low self-esteem. It is often vindictive and a way of doing "fight' with someone.It is a way of expressing negative feelings, rather than talking openly about the issue which as caused upset. It is a way to communicate anger and other forms of distress, without openly acknowledging the emotions. It might take the form of action or inaction. An example might be, the person who attends an event (unwillingly), then is rude or hostile. Alternatively, it might be that they avoid the event and give a partner the “silent treatment.” That is overt aggression, adopted as a communication style, as revenge for an upset caused to them.Someone who uses passive aggression may feel angry, resentful, or frustrated, but they act neutral, pleasant, or even cheerful. They then find indirect ways to show how they really feel. They might say one thing, but do something quite contrary. They may do the thing they do not want to do and brood and complain whilst doing it.They might do something that seems kind (on the surface), but is opposite to the other person's expectation and preference. For example, someone who knows you are trying to lose weight, purposely buys a large sugary birthday cake for you.Passive aggression is a common coping mechanism that many people use from time to time, especially when they want to avoid direct conflict. People who engage in passive aggression may feel just as aggressive or hostile as those who adopt more overt forms of aggression.Anger, frustration, and displeasure are normal emotions. People who rely on passive aggression rather than direct communication to show these emotions often grew up in a family where that behaviour was common. It might not have felt safe for them to directly express their feelings as a child.Passive aggressive behaviour takes many forms but can generally be described as a non-verbal aggression that manifests in negative behavior - like these other examples:Limit/curtail communication: when clearly there is a problematic issue presentAvoiding/Ignoring/evading: because anger won't allow you to address the issue calmly Procrastinating: intentionally putting off something and knowing it will adversely affect the other person(s)Obstructing/deliberately stalling/preventing somethingAvoiding situations: where competition might show you in an unfavourable lightAmbiguity/cryptic/unclear: not fully engagingSulking/silent treatment/sullen/dogmatic: in order to get attention or sympathy.Purposely late: knowing that will offendThwarting/frustrating someone expectation: to be 'bloodyminded'Purposely forgetting key matters: to show a blatant disregard and disrespect Limiting/withholding/avoiding Intimacy: known to be liked by the other personMaking Excuses/coming up with reasons: for not doing thingsVictim role: so as to avoid taking responsibility for own roleGet some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior,Support the show

Cam Lambert shares how years of hidden pornography addiction eventually led to devastating consequences, public exposure, and hopelessness. But when everything came crashing down, God used brokenness, confession, and Christian community to completely transform his life.This is a powerful testimony about shame, redemption, repentance, discipleship, and the hope found in Christ. Based on a conversation from the Calibrate Conversations podcast.Timestamps:0:04:04 — Hidden Sin Turns Into Double Life0:06:21 — First Time Seeing Christians Confess Sin0:07:24 — The Text Message Confession That Changed Everything0:08:26 — Arrested, Exposed, And Certain His Life Was Over0:10:05 — Choosing Between Porn And The Bible0:11:43 — Why Jail Became A Turning Point0:13:19 — “I Had Nothing Left To Hide”0:16:17 — Turning His Past Into Ministry For Other Men0:27:08 — The Alarming Pornography Statistics Inside The Church0:49:42 — Over 400 Men Sign Up For Fight Club MinistryCheck out Cam's Ministry  @TheOneLostSheepMinistries  Website: https://theonelostsheep.comJoin us weekly as we strive help people embrace God's standard for sexuality! Other ways to listen:https://linktr.ee/calibrateconversations#Pornography #Truth #Jesus

In this episode, I sit down with Noah B.E. Church, author of Wack: Addicted to Internet Porn, to talk about how internet porn rewires the male brain, contributes to porn-induced erectile dysfunction, and trains men away from real intimacy.Noah shares his personal story of early exposure to internet porn, escalation, PIED, and the long road back to healthy sexuality. We discuss why so many men can feel aroused by porn but disconnected with a real partner, and how the brain can be retrained through sobriety, emotional maturity, and real-life intimacy.We also break down the neuroscience of porn addiction, including sensitization, desensitization, hypofrontality, and the dysfunctional stress response. In simple terms, porn can make the brain more reactive to triggers, less sensitive to real pleasure, weaker in moments of craving, and more likely to use porn as an escape from stress, loneliness, shame, anxiety, or boredom.But this episode is not just about the damage porn can cause. It is about recovery.Noah and I talk about why quitting porn can feel like ending a toxic relationship, how porn addiction can distort masculine identity, and why real recovery is not just about stopping a behavior. It is about rebuilding a life: daily habits, emotional regulation, values-based living, healthy masculinity, and learning to move toward the man you want to become.If you have wondered how porn affects the brain, why PIED happens, or how to rewire your brain from porn addiction, this episode will give you clarity and hope.Find out more about Noah and his work here: https://linktr.ee/noahbechurch Link to Blog Article for this EpisodeVisit No More Desire Tools for Recovery for recovery tools and training, including my free eBook, Workshop, The RAIL Method ™ and more to help you break free from porn.If you're tired of trying to quit porn on your own, the No More Desire Academy gives you a structured path to recovery through coaching, brotherhood, practical tools, and step-by-step training. Learn more about the Academy.If you want deeper, more personalized support, I also offer 1-on-1 porn addiction recovery coaching. We'll work directly on your patterns, emotional triggers, recovery plan, and long-term growth. Apply here to explore coaching with Jake Kastleman.Support the showNo More Desire

Unfortunately, the American church is full of people who wear the mask of hypocrisy. And it's not just sexual sin. Many “deeds of the flesh” are indulged in, like anger, envy, gossip, and greed. But you would never know it because many who sit in churches every Sunday have learned to play the Christian part so well, it's hard to know what's true or what's just an act. Vinny Pappas joins the podcast to share how the Lord exposed the hypocrisy in his life, and how that was crucial in leading him out of sexual sin.   Resources: Pure Life Ministries Residential Program 20 Truths that Help in the Battle with Porn Addiction (Video Series) By Steve Gallagher 20 Truths that Help in the Battle with Porn Addiction (40 Day Study Journal) By Steve Gallagher At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry (Book) By Steve Gallagher   Have Any Questions for Us?

Joined this week by Lamar Skinner. Lamar opens up about the battle that nearly kept him stuck — addiction to pornography, self-doubt, shame, and constantly making excuses for the man he had become. He shares the real moments that forced him to take ownership of his life, including a simple moment on a lawn mower where he realized nobody was coming to save him and change had to start with him.We dive deep into what it actually takes to break destructive habits, face the truth head-on, and build standards that don't bend when life gets hard. Lamar talks about leaning into faith, embracing discipline, and becoming the type of man who leads himself first so he can lead others well.This conversation is raw, honest, and packed with perspective for any man who knows he's capable of more but feels stuck in the cycle of comfort, shame, or inconsistency. Enjoy.Follow Lamar's Journey @rebuild_the_man // @luckytinesazInterested in my private coaching & FREE workouts? Link below.http://www.nockperformance.com/BrainTree Nutrition: Use code "NOCK" for 15% off at https://www.braintreenutrition.com/?ref=NOCKUse code "NockP" for 10% off at https://ollin.co/

In the recovery journey, we are lifelong learners. Sometimes things can show up and give us information that is so important that we lean into so that we can understand our greater story. The goal is not to keep us stuck there or even shame or blame our family system, but understand it so that we can ultimately grow toward healing. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, global field director of celebrate recovery will unpack this important topic and help us consider some things to think about so that we can continue the growth process.

Get Your Copy of Porn Free Man Here:

Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreLet's talk about how well you really know yourself. Remember that the addiction behaviours are all about self-soothing to manage emotions; a time of escape from life's issues for a while. It means that many other life skills for managing emotions such as stress, pressure, anxiety, upset and other normal emotions, may never have been learned in childhood, because the addiction behaviours became the 'go-to' drug of choice.Core Emotional NeedsWhich are your top 3 Core Emotional Needs? Is it Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, Attention, Comfort, Encouragement, Respect, Security or Support? Be aware of your top 10 Core Emotional Needs, but even more importantly, be very sure that you know your top 3 core emotional needs. The very fact that we are human, means that we have these 10 core emotional needs, which have to be met. When life and circumstances do not keep these needs topped up and some dwindle beyond our critical level, then we will react, often unconsciously. Fight or flight will soon demand attention when our core emotional needs are not being met. Fight can take the form of creating conflicts, but not being aware that we are being more contentious than usual! Flight means that we move away from a situation, into a place where we think our needs will be better met. That can take the form of longer hours at work because work or the people in the work place bring a form of comfort. They are danger zones unless we begin to read the signs. Our partner plays a part in meeting our Core Emotional Needs, but they are not responsible. They cannot meet all of those needs. All of the systems within which we interact (such as work, home life, social, sports etc) play a part in meeting those needs, not one person only. In the survey to determine the top 10 Core Emotional Needs, most women can identify with the need for Security within their top 3. Most men chose Respect. Couples do an Exercise with me to identify their top 3 most important Core Emotional Needs.When you have ranked your top 3, try ranking your partner's top 3. Then have a discussion. What you do not know, then you cannot affect or do much about. What you know about and can see, then you can affect for good – or chose not to – but you now have choice! Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior, psychology, codependency, sex life, neuroscience, sex ed, sober, sobriety, sexual dysfunction, relationship issues, sex coach, sexual, trauma, ptsd, sex science, The sex porn love Addiction Podcast, The Singles Partners Marrieds and Long Time Marrieds Podcast, Gary McFarlane, porn addiction, Support the show

Addiction destroys in the dark. Freedom begins in the light. This week on the Known Legacy Podcast, Brian Becker — certified executive coach, author, and speaker — joins Bill and Travis for a raw and powerful conversation about addiction, confession, healing, and restoration. For years, Brian kept his struggle with pornography hidden, believing silence would protect him and his family. Instead, it slowly eroded trust, intimacy, and connection. In this episode, Brian courageously shares the moment he finally confessed the truth, the painful aftermath that followed, and the incredible freedom, healing, and hope God brought through honesty and surrender. If you or someone you know is battling addiction, shame, secrecy, or isolation, this conversation is a reminder that healing is possible and no one is too far gone for redemption. Don't miss this powerful episode with Brian Becker. Pick up Brian's book Tender Lions here: https://tenderlions.org/the-book/ Get your own Wake up Guide and seven day reset: https://mailchi.mp/knownlegacy/the-wake-up-guide Join our weekly mens study - Adrenaline Shot - every Thursday morning at 6:45 am Central. https://soldiersforfaith.com/bible_study/soldiers-adrenaline-shot/ Pick up your own copy of More Than You at www.morethanyoubook.com join our email list! https://mailchi.mp/knownlegacy/sign-up-page Chapters (00:00:01) - Known Legacy Podcast(00:03:43) - What Advice Would Your Junior High Self Give You?(00:07:34) - What Would Your Junior High Self Tell You?(00:07:55) - Meet the Board of Directors(00:08:47) - Tender Lions: A Junior High Self-talk(00:12:17) - Brian Becker on Healing From The Hurt of His Dad(00:15:38) - Kurt Angle on His Addiction to Pornography(00:20:05) - Pornography Is Not Worth It...(00:24:20) - Bill on His Wife's Porn Addiction(00:29:51) - Brian On Confessing His Sin

Your body isn't “broken” if it can respond in private but shuts down with a real partner. That pattern can be a LOUD clue that you're dealing with PED/psychological erectile dysfunction, where anxiety, attention, and conditioning override what your body can physically do. I dig into the mind body disconnect that shows up as weak erections, fast finishes, numb sensation, or that awful moment when you finally have time together and nothing works. I will get pointed and specific about what trains the problem: porn and compulsive masturbation that turn sex into a quick, lonely hit. When arousal is built on scrolling, novelty, and a tight grip, real intimacy can feel slower, harder to access, and less “perfect” than fantasy. That's when performance anxiety spikes and your brain starts demanding more extreme stimulation just to show up. I also challenge the easy blame game in relationships and talk about what actually increases desire in long term partnerships: effort, shared labour, and treating your partner like someone you want, not someone you manage life with. Treat your body like a cherished sports car and see what happens!* TIP ME ON THE PODCAST.  IT'S EASY! Try to connect with your local BDSM community. Fetlife is a great way to see others in similar FLR and chastity lifestyles. You can check out Mine in Fetlife at Chastity-Queen. It's a free to join. Hugs, Chastity Queen Locked In Lust 15% OFF:CHASTITYQUEEN Use Discount Code:CHASTITYQUEEN for 15% OFF ANYTHING at www.lockedinlust.com LOVE SHOP 15% OFF Sex Toys & MORE Get 15% OFF sex toys, lingerie and more, using PROMO CODE: CHASTITY QUEEN Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched!Start for FREE15% OFF Shoe Freaks-PROMO%CHASTITYQUEEN GET your 15% OFF ANYTHING when you buy SEXY Shoes, heels & Stripper Boots at Shoe Freaks Canada!www.SMBSM.com - Chastity Cages 10% OFFGet reasonably priced chastity cages, chastity belts, chastity wear, + chastity accessories.THRONE WISH LISTBuy Me something anonymously or send Me a note telling Me who you are and I will thank you. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showhttps://www.linktr.ee/ChastityQUEEN

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on behavior, but underneath the struggle is often something much deeper:A hungry heart longing to be filled by God instead of numbed through escape.In this episode, Shawn and Helena unpack humility, surrender, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus meet the deeper places of your heart.Using Andrew Murray's book Humility: The Beauty of Holiness as a foundation, this conversation explores how real freedom grows through dependence on God, intimacy with the Holy Spirit, and learning to empty ourselves of self-reliance so we can be filled with truth and life.In this episode:why heart hunger matters in porn recoveryhow humility creates space for healing and freedom with JesusHelena's story of coming out of depression through surrender and filling herself with Christthe difference between suppressing desire and bringing it to Godhow intimacy with Jesus changes porn recovery, marriage, and parentingwhy lasting freedom from porn requires more than discipline alone--If you've ever known what you should do… but still struggled to trust God deeply in your recovery journey, this episode will help things start making sense.

In this episode (#333), we address a question from a betrayed partner who is about three years into sex addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing with her partner. Although he has been sober, involved in 12-step recovery, working with a sponsor, and the couple has gone through formal therapeutic disclosure, she still experiences intrusive mental images connected to his past acting out. We explain that these images are not evidence that she is failing in her healing. They are trauma responses. The early season of discovery, trickle-truth, searching for evidence, finding secret accounts and online ads, and trying to piece together reality created a chain of traumatic events that the nervous system may continue to store as danger.We discuss how intrusive thoughts can feel “random,” even when they are not. A betrayed partner may be triggered not only by obvious reminders of the betrayal, but also by subtle cues such as a tone of voice, silence, emotional distance, stress, fatigue, or even positive closeness. The body can remember danger before the conscious mind understands why. Because of this, healing includes learning to distinguish the past from the present through grounding tools, breath work, somatic calming, the 5-4-3-2-1 technique, journaling, orienting to current safety, and sometimes trauma-focused professional help such as EMDR, brainspotting, somatic therapy, or work with a CSAT or partner trauma specialist. The goal is not to erase memory, but to reduce the intensity, frequency, and dominance of the trauma response.We also emphasize that the addict in recovery can play a powerful role in helping rebuild present-day safety. When his partner is triggered, his job is not to collapse into shame, become defensive, or demand that she “move on.” Instead, he can stand shoulder to shoulder with her against the trauma, respond with genuine curiosity, validate the pain his actions caused, and use the language of safety: “I can see something is coming up for you. What do you need from me right now?” Proactive transparency, consistent check-ins, emotional vulnerability, and accountability help reduce the partner's need for hypervigilance. Ultimately, the measure of healing is not whether intrusive images never appear again, but whether they become less intense, less frequent, easier to recover from, and less able to rob the partner of peace in the present.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Why Do Intrusive Mental Images Still Hit Me—Even Years Into His Recovery?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Get Your Copy of Porn Free Man Here:

Grief is one of the most complex aspects of the recovery journey that we will all walk through. There is an element of grief in all of our stories that we may not even be aware of. Some grief has a funeral that follows, and some grief doesn't. In this episode, RodneyHolmstrom, global field, director of Celebrate recovery, will unpack and help us understand how some of the losses of what never was or shattered dreams are just as important to grieve and organize toward healing as any other aspect of grief. Healing happens when we organize and name the grief with God and safe community.

YOU HEARD IT RIGHT! SHRINK THAT DICK! If you like guided dominance, erotic hypnosis style audio, or just a no-nonsense approach to sexual self-control, press play and LISTEN to the end. Subscribe, share this with someone who's curious about chastity training, and leave a review telling us what rule would be hardest for you to keep.SEND ME A TIP ON BUZZSPOUT THROUGH THE LISTENER SUPPORT FEATURE!  Try to connect with your local BDSM community. Fetlife is a great way to see others in similar FLR and chastity lifestyles. You can check out Mine in Fetlife at Chastity-Queen. It's a free to join. Hugs, Chastity Queen Locked In Lust 15% OFF:CHASTITYQUEEN Use Discount Code:CHASTITYQUEEN for 15% OFF ANYTHING at www.lockedinlust.com LOVE SHOP 15% OFF Sex Toys & MORE Get 15% OFF sex toys, lingerie and more, using PROMO CODE: CHASTITY QUEEN Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched!Start for FREE15% OFF Shoe Freaks-PROMO%CHASTITYQUEEN GET your 15% OFF ANYTHING when you buy SEXY Shoes, heels & Stripper Boots at Shoe Freaks Canada!www.SMBSM.com - Chastity Cages 10% OFFGet reasonably priced chastity cages, chastity belts, chastity wear, + chastity accessories.THRONE WISH LISTBuy Me something anonymously or send Me a note telling Me who you are and I will thank you. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showhttps://www.linktr.ee/ChastityQUEEN

Are you a man of integrity? Not just outwardly. Not just publicly. But privately. Deep in your heart. When nobody else is watching. SHARE HOW GOD IS USING THIS PODCAST!Support the show

It's easy to believe the part of us that pulls us toward porn addiction is evil. We condemn it, suppress it, shame it, and try to control it. But often, that inner war only keeps the cycle of porn cravings, relapse, and self-hatred alive.In this episode, I sit down with Conor McMillen to discuss how IFS for porn addiction can help men understand the addictive part of the mind with more calm, curiosity, and compassion.IFS, or Internal Family Systems, teaches that the mind is made up of different “parts.” Some parts try to manage our lives through discipline, control, perfectionism, or self-criticism. Other parts rush in to numb pain through porn, fantasy, food, video games, work, scrolling, or other escape routes. These parts may use destructive strategies, but they are often trying to protect us from deeper wounds.We discuss parts work for addiction, protector parts, firefighter parts, exiled parts, shame and porn addiction, emotional regulation, sexual shame, and why porn is often a coping mechanism for deeper pain like loneliness, worthlessness, rejection, fear, abandonment, and the belief that we are not enough.Conor also guides me through a live parts-work process around attraction, arousal, shame, and old beliefs about sexuality. What comes up is powerful: beneath distorted sexual craving, there can be innocent desires for connection, joy, beauty, play, emotional safety, and healthy relationship with the feminine.This conversation is not about excusing porn or minimizing the damage addiction causes. It is about learning how to take responsibility without self-hatred. It is about understanding the root cause of porn addiction so we can stop simply managing behavior and start healing from the inside out.If you've wondered why you keep going back to porn, why shame doesn't create lasting sobriety, or how to work with cravings instead of being controlled by them, this episode will give you a practical, compassionate framework for recovery through Self-leadership, emotional healing, and deeper inner integration.Connect with Conor: InternalFamilySystems.org ConorMcMillen.com Men's backpacking retreats: conor@internalfamilysystems.orgLink to Blog Article for this EpisodeVisit No More Desire Tools for Recovery for recovery tools and training, including my free eBook, Workshop, The RAIL Method ™ and more to help you break free from porn.If you're tired of trying to quit porn on your own, the No More Desire Academy gives you a structured path to recovery through coaching, brotherhood, practical tools, and step-by-step training. Learn more about the Academy.If you want deeper, more personalized support, I also offer 1-on-1 porn addiction recovery coaching. We'll work directly on your patterns, emotional triggers, recovery plan, and long-term growth. Apply here to explore coaching with Jake Kastleman.Support the showNo More Desire

The dopamine trap: Is Asia’s conservative culture driving a porn addiction crisis? Synopsis: On Wednesdays, The Straits Times takes a hard look at Singapore's social issues of the day with guests.Asia holds the highest rate of problematic pornography use in the world at nearly one in five people, according to a study which researchers term 'Asian Paradox'. While casual viewing can be healthy for adults in some instances, this taboo weaponises the dopamine hit for tech-savvy youths. In this episode, assistant podcast editor Lynda Hong sits down with Dr Peter Chew, Associate Professor of Psychology at James Cook University Singapore, to unpack this silent epidemic.They explore the neuroscience behind the digital dopamine trap, why a teenager's developing brain is vulnerable, and why symbolic website bans are failing. Dr Chew also dismantles common misconceptions, explaining the crucial difference between clinical addiction and religious guilt; how sex education should change; and why abstinence-only programmers cause higher unwanted pregnancies. Highlights (click/tap above): 4:25 Why is porn so devastating to a teenager? 6:40 Does porn addiction lead to sex crimes? 10:05 What does treatment entail? 12:38 Approaching the topic of sex and pornography with youths 16:24 Moral implications towards sex education Read ST’s Opinion section: https://str.sg/w7sH Follow Lynda Hong on LinkedIn: https://str.sg/Gm2v Host: Lynda Hong (lyndahong@sph.com.sg) Produced and edited by: Teo Tong Kai Executive producers: Danson Cheong and Lynda Hong Follow In Your Opinion Podcast here and get notified for new episode drops: Channel: https://str.sg/w7Qt Apple Podcasts: https://str.sg/wukb Spotify: https://str.sg/w7sV Feedback to: podcast@sph.com.sg --- Follow more ST podcast channels: All-in-one ST Podcasts channel: https://str.sg/wvz7 Get more updates: http://str.sg/stpodcasts The Usual Place Podcast YouTube: https://str.sg/theusualplacepodcast --- Get The Straits Times app, which has a dedicated podcast player section: The App Store: https://str.sg/icyB Google Play: https://str.sg/icyX --- #inyouropinionSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this PBSE episode (#332), we explore what it means when an addict says he is changing but continues to keep the “addiction door” cracked open. A betrayed partner may see signs that look like recovery—porn blockers, monitoring software, more honesty, fewer obvious acting-out behaviors—but still discover that her partner is seeking sexualized content through social media thirst traps, scanning, fantasy, or other loopholes. We make clear that this is not simply a “lesser version” of the original problem. If the addict is still using sexualized material for arousal, escape, objectification, secrecy, dopamine, or emotional regulation, then he is still engaging the addiction system.The article distinguishes between technical sobriety and real recovery. Technical sobriety asks, “Did this technically count as porn?” Real recovery asks, “Why am I still seeking sexualized escape outside my relationship?” Half-in, half-out recovery often happens when an addict wants the benefits of recovery—less shame, fewer consequences, a calmer partner, restored trust—without fully surrendering the addiction itself. He may comply with outward recovery tasks while still protecting hidden outlets, loopholes, or emotional escape routes. We challenge addicts to ask hard questions: What am I still protecting? What do I get from these behaviors? What emotions am I trying not to feel? Am I more committed to technical innocence or true relational safety?For betrayed partners, the article offers strong validation: you are not overreacting when these “edging” behaviors still feel like betrayal. Continued sexualized attention outside the relationship can communicate comparison, rejection, humiliation, and abandonment, even when the addict insists it is “not as bad” as before. Partners cannot force addicts into integrity, but they can find their voice, define what safety requires, and refuse to call half-surrender full recovery. Ultimately, the article teaches that there is no “door number three” where an addict can keep the perks of addiction while enjoying the trust and intimacy of a healed relationship. Real hope begins when the addict closes the door fully and chooses transformation over loopholes.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Half-In, Half-Out Recovery: He Says He's Changing but Keeps the “Addiction Door” Cracked OpenLearn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

One of the schemes from the enemy is to convince us to keep those past stories and the scary parts of our heart in hiding and in that dark cave. But there is a high cost to hiding and staying in a place of secrecy. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, global field director of celebrate recovery, will unpack the importance of our story and understanding how naming all parts of our story leads to healing so that we can walk in healing and a new beautiful story that God has painted for us.

Yes—God loves you deeply. Yes—He is passionate about you. But ultimately your life is not about you. It's about Him: He is THE REAL King! SHARE HOW GOD IS USING THIS PODCAST!Support the show

In this episode, a young man asks Frank Turek how he might better battle lust. Frank gives the answer of most christians. I give a different answer according to the words of the Apostle Paul. To access the sources for this episode, visit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pwb_kA0YCIITo become a subscriber of this podcast, visit:⁠⁠https://anchor.fm/seth-hensley/subscribe⁠

Join our ADHD Program Here: https://bit.ly/48KW6Er  

Get Your Copy of Porn Free Man Here:

Welcome to episode #269!

Porn addiction does not just damage sexual integrity. It damages trust, emotional safety, emotional intimacy, and the ability to be fully known in marriage.In this episode of No More Desire, I talk about how porn addiction affects marriage, why it creates emotional distance from your wife, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust after porn addiction.Many men who struggle with porn addiction do not only struggle with cravings. They struggle with closeness, emotional presence, defensiveness, shame, people pleasing, and the ability to sit with their wife's pain without shutting down or trying to control her emotions.Porn often functions as counterfeit intimacy. It imitates being wanted, desired, comforted, and close—but without vulnerability, responsibility, or real emotional connection. It promises relief, but afterward it leaves a man more disconnected from himself, his wife, God, and his values.That is why porn addiction recovery cannot only be about quitting porn. It has to become a mindset and lifestyle shift. We have to become men who can tell the truth, regulate our emotions, hold healthy boundaries, listen without defending, repair consistently, and build real connection through ownership.In this episode, I cover: Why porn addiction destroys trust in marriage  How emotional disconnection fuels cravings and relapse  Why men often shut down when their wife is hurting  The difference between taking responsibility and trying to control her emotions  How anger, defensiveness, people pleasing, and performance keep men stuck  Why healthy boundaries are essential for porn addiction recovery  How masculine leadership means self-leadership  How men can rebuild trust and emotional connection after porn addiction This week, I invite you to ask yourself three questions every morning: Who do I want to be in my home today?  What is one action that would build trust today?  Where am I most likely to perform, hide, or become resentful? Then choose one specific action that helps you become more honest, grounded, trustworthy, and present.If your marriage feels disconnected right now, healing is possible. But it will not come through pressure, performance, or simply trying to be “nice.” It will come as you become a man who can face discomfort without running, tell the truth without hiding, listen without defending, and build trust through steady action.Link to Blog Article for this EpisodeVisit No More Desire Tools for Recovery for recovery tools and training, including my free eBook, Workshop, The RAIL Method ™ and more to help you break free from porn.If you're tired of trying to quit porn on your own, the No More Desire Academy gives you a structured path to recovery through coaching, brotherhood, practical tools, and step-by-step training. Learn more about the Academy.If you want deeper, more personalized support, I also offer 1-on-1 porn addiction recovery coaching. We'll work directly on your patterns, emotional triggers, recovery plan, and long-term growth. Apply here to explore coaching with Jake Kastleman.Support the showNo More Desire

Most men are journaling, but they're still stuck.In this episode, we break down why journaling often doesn't lead to real change, and what actually does.If you've ever tried to “be more aware,” write out your feelings, or stay consistent with journaling but still find yourself falling back into porn, this episode will help you see why.We walk through a different approach to journaling, one that moves from emotional expression to clarity.Because healing doesn't come from dumping your thoughts, it comes from understanding what's actually happening beneath them.

In this episode (#331), we respond to a betrayed partner who discovered her husband's ongoing porn use while she was pregnant and has since caught him multiple times in the same painful cycle: he apologizes, promises to stop, briefly improves, becomes defensive, grows distant, and eventually lies again. The most recent betrayal was especially devastating because he told her he no longer watched porn only hours before she discovered the truth. Now postpartum, exhausted, and emotionally wounded, she still loves him deeply and sees him as her best friend, but she does not know how to help him understand that this is no longer “just porn.” We emphasize that regardless of whether he accepts the label of addiction, the deception, defensiveness, minimization, and repeated betrayal are already causing serious damage.We describe the common cycle that many betrayed partners experience: the addict engages in questionable or compulsive behavior, secrecy and emotional volatility increase, the partner senses something is wrong, and then her love, patience, and hope are often used—consciously or not—to keep the pattern going. Over time, the partner may become inconsistent, fearful, self-doubting, or silent in an attempt to preserve the relationship, while the addict becomes more defensive and the coupleship erodes. Trust drops, intimacy becomes unsafe, and both people become better at surviving the relationship than thriving in it. If this continues too long, the relationship can reach a tragic place where love still exists, but the partner can no longer stay.The core invitation to the betrayed partner is to stop putting down the mirror and stop silencing her voice. She cannot force him into recovery, but she can clearly and consistently reflect the impact of his choices: how the porn, lying, gaslighting, defensiveness, and inaction affect her, their trust, and their marriage. She can set boundaries, lower vulnerability and intimacy when trust is low, and build an outside support system that does not depend on him. The message is urgent: do not wait until the relationship has bled out emotionally. If he will not face his porn addiction or compulsive behavior, she must find her own voice now and move forward in truth, safety, support, and self-respect.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   If He will NOT face His Porn Addiction—You as a Partner MUST find Your Voice NOW!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Get Your Copy of Porn Free Man Here:

One of the richest parts of celebrate recovery is understanding that it's not a behavioral management process but a transformational heart process. It's so important to understand how we find ourselves in these unhealthy spaces of habits. One of the ways that we combat the addictions and habits begin to lose their power is by addressing the lies that live beneath them. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, global field, director of celebrate recovery, will unpack how lies form and how the hurts and trauma from our past create unhealthy tracks to become our unhealthy lies and how we ultimately lead to God's truth toward healing and new healthy practices.

This week on the Agents of Recovery Podcast Coach Wendell and Coach Blu welcome AOR first guest, Drew Boa, a leading expert in overcoming pornography addiction from The Husband Material Academy, sharing his personal journey, therapeutic approaches like Internal Family Systems, and practical tools for recovery. Discover how understanding inner parts, healing childhood wounds, and embracing sexuality can transform lives and relationships. This is a powerful episode! Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Agents of Recovery Podcast01:14 Welcoming Drew Boa: The First Guest02:30 Drew's Journey: From Struggle to Healing04:35 Understanding the Inner Child12:02 The Impact of Early Exposure to Pornography14:54 The Power of Internal Family Systems21:55 Healing Through Self-Compassion24:32 The Ripple Effect of Healing on Relationships28:14 Creating Safe Spaces for Open Conversations30:32 Understanding Sexual Arousal and Desire31:51 The Impact of Pornography on Relationships33:52 Navigating Shame and Deception in Relationships35:57 The Need for Equal Support in Healing39:00 Healing After Betrayal: A Threefold Approach41:47 Validating Feelings and Finding Freedom45:52 The Transformative Power of Community and Support47:53 Introducing Husband Material: A Movement for Change54:06 The Journey of Recovery and EmpowermentFor More ResourcesOutgrow Porn Book - https://outgrowporn.comHusband Material Program - https://husbandmaterial.comHusband Material Book - https://outgrowporn.comSam Jolman - The Sex Talk You Never Got - https://samjolman.com guest linksWebsite - https://husbandmaterial.comInstagram - https://instagram.com/drewboa

In the recovery process, it can be painful to acknowledge and admit some things from our past, and present that are causing havoc on our life and relationships. The retraining and redeeming process is not always easy and can become an obstacle to continuing the road to recovery. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of celebrate recovery, will unpack some of the ways things seem to get harder on our journey and confuse us toward possibly giving up on the healing journey. What are some things that we can be aware of to be encourage in the hard struggle that can be indicators toward healing, change, and growth?

All of us have experienced getting "stuck" when it comes to sin and struggles. It's disheartening when we so desperately desire freedom but keep falling into the same traps. Is there anything you can do when trying harder doesn't lead to the transformation you're longing to experience? Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill shares how he helped a Christian leader overcome a porn addiction through finding satisfaction in Jesus. You'll become captivated with the Good Shepherd's vision of a flourishing life with him and learn how to partner with grace to experience real change from the inside out.  This special episode was recorded from a teaching on spiritual formation at a Soul Shepherding retreat — we'd love for you to join us!  Resources for this Episode: Attend a Soul Shepherding Retreat Deeply Loved: Receiving and Reflecting God's Great Empathy for You Donate to Support Soul Shepherding and Soul Talks