Podcasts about porn addiction

During messy and hard times, including the holidays, the enemy may try to break the momentum of our recovery journey. What are some ways that we can maintain the incredible life-giving momentum that He has begun in our recovery journey? What are some things that we can be aware of as we continue step-by-step? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of celebrate recovery, will unpack some practical reminders and how to maintain momentum and prevent relapse in our recovery journey.

We were created for one purpose alone: to know God and live a godly life that brings honor and glory to him in everything we think, say, and do.Learn more about the ministry of The Purity Coach at  http://www.thepuritycoach.comSHARE HOW GOD IS USING THIS PODCAST!Support the show

If you've ever wondered why you can't “just stop” watching porn—why you cycle through cravings, shame, self-promises, and relapse—this episode will change the way you see your struggle forever. Because the truth is, porn addiction is not a willpower problem. It's a nervous system problem.In this episode, I'm joined by my friend and colleague Chris Chandler, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), trauma specialist, and one of the most grounded, brilliant men I know in the world of addiction neuroscience, trauma healing, and nervous system regulation. Together, we break down the deep biological, emotional, and spiritual roots of pornography addiction and why most men stay stuck for years without ever understanding why.We explore polyvagal theory, the fight-flight-freeze response, and how sympathetic activation, dorsal vagal shutdown, and ventral vagal connection shape everything—from your cravings and emotional triggers to your patterns of withdrawal, anxiety, and relational disconnection.This isn't just another conversation about “trying harder.”This is about learning how your body, brain, and nervous system actually work—and how to regulate yourself in moments of anxiety, craving, emotional pain, conflict, and stress.We discuss practical strategies for recovery, including:Vagus nerve regulationBreathwork for anxietyEmbodiment practices that increase emotional presenceIFS (Internal Family Systems) for understanding your protective partsHealthy boundaries and relational repairMindfulness for addictionAnd why the opposite of addiction is connection, not sobrietyIf you're ready to stop feeling defeated…If you're ready to stop fighting your body and start understanding it…If you're ready to step into grounded masculinity, emotional depth, and real long-term recovery…Explore more of Chris's work at: https://www.breathtobones.com/Learn more about his program at: https://www.joinrelay.app/Link to Blog Article for this EpisodeIf you're ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You'll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.Grab my Free eBook and Free Workshop for more strategies to overcome porn addiction, rewire your brain, and rebuild your lifeSupport the showNo More Desire

As a pastor, where do you go when you need help?Do you believe the church is in an epidemic?Porn addiction is not just in the home, it is in the church as well. Listen to Dr. Mark Laaser and special guest Dustin Daniels as he shares his story of failure to victory, and the importance of God's purity for the church.  Send us a text

In Episode 309, Mark & Steve address a PBSE listener's questions about "Integrity abuse," which is a relational pattern where one partner chronically violates core commitments—honesty, transparency, fidelity, emotional responsibility, and safety—through secrecy, deceit, manipulation, and strategic omission. Unlike overt emotional or verbal abuse, integrity abuse often operates quietly, making it harder to recognize and name. It creates a manufactured version of reality in which the betrayed partner unknowingly lives while the addict maintains a separate, hidden world of acting out. Although integrity abuse frequently accompanies addiction, it is distinct from addiction and stems from repeated choices to conceal, distort, and protect a double life.These behaviors—gaslighting, compartmentalization, minimization, rewriting history, exploiting trust, and creating a false sense of safety—form an entire system designed to avoid accountability while keeping the partner emotionally invested and off-balance. This system is often maintained for years, leading the partner to doubt her instincts, question her sanity, and internalize the blame for relational confusion she cannot fully understand. The manipulation is so subtle and sustained that partners often sense something is wrong long before they have language for it, but they are repeatedly led to believe the problem lies within themselves.When the truth is finally revealed, the impact on the partner is profound: identity collapse, reality collapse, hypervigilance, panic, sexual shutdown, emotional isolation, and deep attachment injury. She realizes she has not only been betrayed but has been living inside a fabricated version of her relationship. Naming integrity abuse gives betrayed partners validation and helps addicts grasp the full extent of the harm caused—not just through acting out, but through the systemic erosion of safety and truth. This clarity becomes the foundation for authentic recovery, real accountability, and the rebuilding of trust based on transparency rather than illusion.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  What is "Integrity Abuse" and How does it Impact the Betrayed Partner?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

JOIN THE 7 DAY RESET - ▶️ www.therebuiltman.com/7dayreset   In this powerful episode of The Rebuilt Man Podcast, Coach Frank Rich tackles one of the most important questions a man can ask:   "What kind of man am I becoming?"   If you've been battling pornography, inconsistency, lack of purpose, or the feeling that you're living beneath your potential, this episode is for you.   Frank exposes the hard truth behind relapse and identity: The real battle isn't against lust, temptation, or dopamine; it's against the version of you that settles.   In this episode, you'll discover the Rebuilt Man philosophy, why most traditional methods fail (blockers, willpower, prayer without discipline, and 12-step dependency), and how true transformation happens when a man rebuilds identity, discipline, and self-leadership from the inside out.   Frank also breaks down the Reboot Your Life 12-Week Framework, a proven system designed to help men take control of their mind, body, habits, purpose, and leadership.   If you're tired of surviving and ready to become the man God created you to be — lean in.   Key Takeaways The real question is: What kind of man are you becoming?   You're not fighting dopamine — you're fighting the weaker version of yourself.   A Rebuilt Man leads himself first before leading his family and calling.   Freedom begins with structure, predictability, and simple systems.   Service is the hallmark of true masculinity — not self-absorption.   A weak body leads to a weak mind — fitness and discipline matter.   Growth happens through discomfort, not escape.   The finish line isn't quitting porn — it's becoming a man you respect.   You don't need more willpower — you need a path, brotherhood, and guidance.   The world doesn't need more "sober" men — it needs Rebuilt Men.     Join the Brotherhood   If you're ready to stop fighting alone and step into a container built for growth, support, and freedom:   ➡ Join The Rebuilt Man Skool Community — Free 7-Day Trial www.TheRebuiltMan.com/7dayreset   Inside you'll gain access to: Daily accountability Weekly coaching The 7-Day Reset The 12-Week "Reboot Your Life" Framework And a brotherhood of men who refuse to quit   – Follow Coach Frank: IG - https://www.instagram.com/coachfrankrich   YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@CoachFrankRich   Website - https://www.rebuiltrecovery.com/homepage  

Sometimes in recovery, we can confuse struggling in an area of recovery with the reality of defining freedom. What does freedom look like and does that mean we won't struggle if we are to say we are walking in freedom? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery will provide some language around helping us reframe what it means to walk in freedom with codependency as we struggle to live life on life's terms.

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreWhat is 'Manly'?: A conversation with Damian Andrews of SHAIR.Care Podcast (Australia) in 2023.Impediments to having great relationships:Disruption in the bonding in early childhood development with the significant caregivers (usually parents), is a key factor. The male (a father) plays a very important role. Masculinity cannot be entirely and comprehensively supplemented by a mother. It is not “do as I say”, it is “do as you see me doing”. The eyes take in the largest amount of information during the communication process.What gets set up in childhood, plays out in adulthood, in how we interact with others; seeking to bond, yet avoid repeat hurt. It is called Insecure Attachment. Insecure Attachment in Adulthood, often presents as “Love Addiction”, where the individual is not so much chasing Love, but connection; acceptance; to be inclusive; to be wanted; to be secure.The stuff of Sex, Porn, Love Addiction is indiscriminate. It impacts, in a significant way, women, children, men, LGBTQI community - cutting across all of the societal stratas and ages - (aged 9 to 75). The scale of addiction is staggering and is at pandemic levels:•          12% of all internet websites contain pornography.•          25% of all search engine queries—68 million per day—relate to sex.•          35% of all downloads are pornographic.•          70% of men aged 18–24 visit porn sites monthly.•          Average first exposure: 11 years old.•          1 in 5 pastors struggle with pornography.•          Over 50% of practising Christians report occasional porn use.•          Neurodivergent individuals show higher compulsive-use rates. Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Help someone: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreHelp is here for you: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelpGary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior, psychology, codependency, sex life, neuroscience, sex ed, sober, sobriety, sexual dysfunction, relationship issues, sex coach, sexual, trauma, ptsd, sex science, The sex porn love Addiction Podcast, The Singles Partners Marrieds and Long Time Marrieds Podcast, Gary McFarlane, porn addiction, what neuroscience says, neuroscience, young adults, sex, sex addict, porn, recovery, porn addiction issue, porn addiction in teens, sex addiction in teens, sex hormones, hormones,Support the show

Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, we sit down with men's rights advocate Chloe Roma to unpack the modern “gender war,” men's mental health, and how online hate culture like the “kill all men” trend reshaped her life and purpose. Chloe shares her personal story of growing up watching her father be emotionally abused, how social media exposed her to extreme misandry, and why she decided she “couldn't stay quiet anymore.” Together we dive into men's advocacy, the men's suicide crisis, childhood trauma, adoption, the impact of domineering mothers, and the very real cost she's paid for speaking up, including being doxxed, threatened, and pushed to a near-fatal suicide attempt.You'll also hear a raw conversation about modern feminism, double standards between men and women, and how pornography addiction, OnlyFans culture, and early exposure to explicit content are rewiring an entire generation. We talk about the crucial role of wives and mothers in a man's life, how women can become powerful advocates for their husbands and sons, why body shaming, emotional abuse, and manipulation of men are minimized, and what healthy boundaries and accountability actually look like in marriages and relationships. If you care about men's mental health, marriage, masculinity, women's role in men's healing, and breaking toxic feminist echo chambers, this episode will challenge your beliefs and give you language, perspective, and practical insight you can take back into your home and your community.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

This episode (#308) focuses on a partner whose body has completely shut down sexually after decades of betrayal, manipulation, and sexual violation—including being touched while unconscious. We explain how her body has not suddenly changed since disclosure; it has been adapting for years to a marriage that was unsafe long before she understood why. This long-term exposure to deception and boundary-breaking creates what we call “complex trauma shaping,” where the nervous system rewires itself to avoid sexual intimacy because it associates vulnerability with danger.We also dive deeply into the concept of Integrity Abuse Disorder and how the husband's years of secrecy, gaslighting, and emotional inconsistency created an “intentionally manipulated reality” for his wife. Even though he may now be in recovery, his emotional reactions—his “sad tantrums”—trigger her old trauma and reinforce the message that he values sexual access more than her emotional safety. This dynamic retraumatizes her and deepens her shutdown, proving to her body that intimacy remains unsafe.Healing requires him to take responsibility for the full impact of his actions by engaging in what Dr. Minwalla calls “mountain work”—seeing the complete devastation the betrayal caused. Only then can he show up with true empathy, accountability, and emotional regulation. For her, healing means continuing to listen to her body, honoring its wisdom, and working with professionals to slowly rebuild safety. When both partners engage in this work, intimacy can eventually be rebuilt—not through pressure or obligation, but through genuine safety, trust, and connection.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   Why My Body Shuts Down:  Understanding Sexual Trauma Responses After Years of BetrayalLearn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

If you've ever wondered why you feel numb, disconnected, or unable to access the full depth of your emotions—this episode may hit closer to home than anything you've heard before.In today's episode, I dig into one of the most overlooked factors in porn addiction recovery: your relationship with your physical body. We talk about why so many men feel emotionally flat, why empathy feels harder than it should, and why your motivation and sense of direction can feel so distant—even when you're trying your best to change.And the truth is not what most of us were taught.Porn addiction isn't just a “mind” problem.It's not just a spiritual issue.It's not even primarily about willpower.Porn addiction is deeply tied to emotional numbness—numbness created by years of disconnecting from your body.Neuroscience is very clear: when your insula (the brain's interoception center) becomes weakened through compulsive behaviors, overstimulation, and technology addiction, your ability to feel, connect, empathize, and motivate yourself declines dramatically.In other words:The less connected you are to your body, the easier it is to get stuck in porn. And the more embodied you become, the easier recovery becomes.I also share my personal journey—how I unknowingly detached from my body through achievement addiction, overstimulation, and constant phone use… and how reconnecting with my body changed my emotional life, my marriage, and my recovery.This episode will help you understand:Why you feel numb—and how to reverse itWhy empathy feels hard—and how to get it backWhy porn cravings stay strong—and how embodiment dissolves themWhy your identity feels shaky—and how to anchor it againHow to restore the body–mind connection that drives true recoveryIf you're ready to experience real emotional presence, deeper connection with your wife, healthier masculinity, and the strength required to overcome porn addiction long-term, this episode is a must-listen.This is not about willpower. It's about embodiment. It's about reconnection. It's about becoming whole again.Listen now and learn how to feel again.Link to Blog Article for this EpisodeIf you're ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You'll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.Grab my Free eBook and Free Workshop for more strategies to overcome porn addiction, rewire your brain, and rebuild your lifeSupport the showNo More Desire

In Celebrate Recovery, we no doubt learned that boundaries and guidelines are essential to keeping us on the right track. Whether it's the small group guidelines, following the DNA or other leadership components, practicing keeping our ministry safe is important. However, how can legalism and becoming the security guard, hinder the healing process and break connection from us and others that God has called us to lead? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will unpack this important topic to help us lean into Grace versus rigidity and rules that separates us from the important connections in our life.

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreWhat is 'Manly'?: A conversation with Damian Andrews of SHAIR.Care Podcast (Australia) in 2023.What is Man-ness? There is still a caveman instinct inside of us as men. Has the image got distorted as men try to metamorphize ourselves to fit what society tells us a man should be. Trying to fit what we are really not, is hard work. At some point there may be an increased desire to self-soothe and escape into cyberworld for a while – using sex, porn and/or other compulsive behaviours. Consider this poem: Children Learn What They LiveAuthor: Dorothy Law NolteIf a child lives with criticism, he [she] learns to condemn.If a child lives with hostility, he [she] learns to fight.If a child lives with ridicule, he [she] learns to be shy.If a child lives with shame, he [she] learns to feel guilty.If a child lives with tolerance, he [she] learns to be patient.If a child lives with encouragement, he [she] learns confidence.If a child lives with praise, he [she] learns to appreciate.If a child lives with fairness, he [she] learns justice.If a child lives with security, he [she] learns to have faith.If a child lives with approval, he [she] learns to like himself [herself].If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he [she] learns to find love in the world.Templates and scripts from batons and intergenerational patterns passed on, are already shaping the developing brain in such an early formative time, which will set up patterns that continue to play out in adulthood. Therefore, significance must be given to this period in the man's life.(Let's build upon this in the subsequent episodes of this interesting podcast chat).Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Help someone: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreHelp is here for you: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelpGary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior, psychology, codependency, sex life, neuroscience, sex ed, sober, sobriety, sexual dysfunction, relationship issues, sex coach, sexual, trauma, ptsd, sex science, The sex porn love Addiction Podcast, The Singles Partners Marrieds and Long Time Marrieds Podcast, Gary McFarlane, porn addiction, what neuroscience says, neuroscience, young adults, sex, sex addict, porn, recovery, porn addiction issue, porn addiction in teens, sex addiction in teens, sex hormones, hormones,Support the show

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes: Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/  Is quitting porn addiction supposed to feel this hard? If you're exhausted from white-knuckling urges, managing triggers, and constantly trying not to slip… this episode will change everything. The truth is, the path how to porn doesn't have to be exhausting — it's only exhausting when you don't know what to do. Most men aren't lacking effort or willpower… they're just missing the map. In this episode, I break down the three hidden root causes that keep men stuck in the porn cycle, even when they've tried filters, accountability, cold showers, and “just being more disciplined.” More importantly, he shows you how to solve each one — through real client stories, emotional breakthroughs, and clear next steps you can implement right now. Inside this episode: The real reason willpower alone doesn't work Why most men are trying to manage porn urges instead of resolving them How emotional awareness (not just self-control) changes everything The #1 lie shame tells you — and how to break out of the shame loop for good Why disconnection, not lust, is often the real trigger behind porn use How to build emotional connection and intimacy (even if you're scared to open up) If you've ever thought: “I'm doing everything I can… why am I still stuck?” — this episode will give you answers. You'll learn how to identify the real emotional root behind porn use, stop spinning your wheels, and take the first clear step toward freedom.  

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Most men battling porn addiction think their problem is “lust,” “self-control,” or “not being disciplined enough.” But for millions of men, the real issue is something far deeper—and far more common—than they realize.In this powerful and eye-opening episode, I sit down with Dr. Doug Carpenter, licensed psychologist and author of the groundbreaking book Secret Shame, to uncover the hidden link between male sexual abuse, childhood sexual trauma, shame, and porn addiction.What Doug reveals in this conversation is staggering—and every man needs to hear it.For decades, men have been suffering in silence. Many grew up believing that what happened to them wasn't “real” abuse. Others felt that their body's response meant they “wanted it,” “caused it,” or that something was fundamentally wrong with them. Most never told anyone.But the truth is this:Male sexual trauma is far more common than reported—and its impact on a man's sexuality, masculinity, and identity is enormous.And for many, it becomes the hidden engine powering porn addiction, compulsive sexual behavior, PIED (porn-induced erectile dysfunction), and emotional avoidance in adulthood.In this episode, we unpack how early exposure, sexual imprinting, and shame wire the brain toward addictive behavior—and how men can finally begin to heal through neuroscience-backed practices, spiritual grounding, trauma-informed support, and masculine emotional leadership.This is not a heavy, dark episode. This is a hopeful one—filled with clarity, compassion, truth, and a real recovery roadmap.In This Episode, We Explore:Why one in six men have experienced some form of sexual abuse—and why most don't disclose for 25+ yearsHow childhood sexual trauma, early sexual exposure, and porn imprint the developing brainThe neuroscience behind compulsive sexual behavior and why willpower alone failsThe truth about sexual identity confusion and why it's the #1 side effect of male sexual abuseWhy your body's response during abuse does not define your sexuality, masculinity, or identityHow shame becomes the fuel source for porn addictionThe survivor's journey from victim → survivor → thriverHow to start healing sexual shame and rebuilding healthy masculinityWhy trauma-informed therapy and brotherhood are essential for overcoming pornWhat real recovery looks like when men stop fighting themselves and start understanding themselvesExplore more of Doug's work at HusbandMaterial.com.Want to dive deeper into his insights? Visit: douglascarpenter.comLink to Blog Article for this EpisodeIf you're ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You'll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.Grab my Free eBook and Free Workshop for more strategies to overcome porn addiction, rewire your brain, and rebuild your lifeSupport the showNo More Desire

What do you do when you find out the person you love has been hiding something from you?In this painfully honest episode, Jenna Zint sits down with us to talk about discovering her husband's porn addiction and what actually happens to your heart, your trust, and your identity when the truth comes out.If you have ever been hit with that gut-drop moment where you start thinking, “Wait… what else don't I know?” this conversation is for you. Jenna talks openly about the messy parts: the insecurity, the anger, the questions, the shame, the hope, and the slow, awkward rebuild that most people never talk about.We talk about:What the first 24 hours after finding out really feel likeThe emotions that make sense and the ones that keep you stuckHow to know if it is a one-time mistake or a patternWhat to do if this happens while you are dating or engagedHow to ask honest questions without turning into the detective girlfriendWhat real freedom from porn actually looks likeRed flags that someone is not ready for marriageHow to heal when you are the one who is hurtingWhat rebuilding trust and intimacy looks like when everything feels different nowIf you have ever asked yourself, “Was I not enough?” or wondered whether God can redeem something this painful, this episode will give you clarity, peace, and a way forward.

In episode 307, Mark & Steve respond to an all-too-common history and situation submitted by a betrayed partner. Healthy sexual intimacy after betrayal cannot simply return to what it once was; it must be rebuilt on a new foundation of authenticity and safety. Because pornography shapes the brain and rewires arousal patterns, couples often find themselves questioning what's real, what's healthy, and whether desire is rooted in connection or in old fantasy. Many partners struggle to trust, and many addicts struggle to trust themselves, creating a complex emotional landscape that must be navigated with care. This healing begins by evaluating intention and headspace—asking not what partners want to do sexually, but why they want to do it and what meaning it carries.From there, intimacy must be rebuilt through trust and transparency. Couples need to be able to talk openly about sexual preferences, fears, boundaries, and emotional needs before engaging physically. Silence or lack of objection is not consent; safety must be mutual, expressed, and explicit. Boundaries should be set outside of arousal states, and couples may need to slow down significantly—sometimes even stepping back to basics like hand-holding or non-sexual touch—while they rebuild a foundation that can hold the weight of deeper connection.Ultimately, recovering sexual intimacy after sexual toxicity is an evolving journey, not an achievement. It requires vulnerability, patience, and willingness to explore together rather than perform or comply. When couples move intentionally through this process—anchoring their sexuality in meaning, emotional presence, collaboration, and shared values—they often find themselves creating a sexual connection that is deeper and healthier than anything they experienced before recovery.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   How Do We Discover/Recover Healthy Sexual Intimacy After Sexual Toxicity and Betrayal?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Jeremy Lipkowitz breaks down porn addiction, how it affects your relationships, and why it's more common than people think. He also talks about his time as a Buddhist monk and what that life taught him about discipline, desire, and mindfulness. _____ -BetterHelp: If you're struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III _____ Jeremy Lipkowitz joins us for a deep, honest conversation about porn addiction, how it develops, and the real ways it impacts mental health, relationships, intimacy, and self-worth. We explore what porn addiction actually is, how it shows up in everyday life, and why so many people struggle with shame and secrecy around it. Jeremy also shares his powerful story of becoming a Buddhist monk, how mindfulness reshaped his relationship with desire, and what monastic life taught him about emotional regulation, discipline, and self-compassion. If you're curious about addiction, mindfulness, or the psychology behind our habits, this episode hits all the big questions. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@secondhandtherapypod.com Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

One of the most challenging parts of the recovery journey is found in Principle 6 and Step 8. This is where we pause to honestly survey the damage caused by our past hurts, habits, and hang-ups—acknowledging how our actions have affected both ourselves and others. It's a step that can feel difficult, but it's also one of the most life-changing as we begin to move toward making amends and finding true freedom.In today's episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, is joined by his dear friend and brother in Christ, Mac Owen, Global Director of Celebrate Recovery. Together, they unpack the value and purpose of making amends and how this powerful step brings healing and restoration to our journey.

The panel is joined by Colin O'Gara, Head of Addiction Services at St John of God University Hospital.

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre"Narcissism because of Sex Addiction - Yuk! That's not me".Many clients initially (but silently and violently) object to any suggestion that there is Narcissism at work. I am never suggesting they have NPD (Narcissist Personality Disorder), but that they WILL have traits from Narcissism.Here is one definition of Narcissism which I use: "Narcissism is the way we conceptualise how we will look after ourselves. In its pathological form, it refers to people who seem incapable of acknowledging or taking sufficient account of the reality of other people and their separate existence. Narcissistic Personality Disorder describes those who exemplify an extreme form of this characteristic. The primary purpose of Narcissism is to compensate for experience, usually in early childhood, when ordinary expectable needs were not met adequately. The Narcissist denies dependence on others and denies even that others exist except as players in the Narcissist's drama. Other people are required to meet the narcissist's needs for recognition and value, but without relationship being reciprocated.The narcissist gives nothing, but demands others give everything. Therefore the original horrific experience of unmet need and the shame and vulnerability that goes with it, is denied and defended against.Traits include being the centre of attention; little interest in others; craves recognition and praise. They are performers and want others to keep on clapping and not stop; controls and dominates interaction with others; has to be right; cannot admit to ever being wrong and never apologises; insists on things being done their way; always makes the choices and decisions. Reliance on another is not acknowledged"."Gary, let me show you evidence that I do not seek attention, take little interest in others, don't crave recognition or attention, let alone a performer and want claps. How dare you...."Until I unfold their behaviours and leave them with 'food for thought' to reflect upon; including going back to my definition of Sex Addiction to see 'the function which the addiction serves'.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Help someone: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreHelp is here for you: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelpGary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior, psychology, codependency, sex life, neuroscience, sex ed, sober, sobriety, sexual dysfunction, relationship issues, sex coach, sexual, trauma, ptsd, sex science, The sex porn love Addiction Podcast, The Singles Partners Marrieds and Long Time Marrieds Podcast, Gary McFarlane, porn addiction, what neuroscience says, neuroscience, young adults, sex, sex addict, porn, recovery, porn addiction issue, porn addiction in teens, sex addiction in teens, sex hormones, hormones,Support the show

Let's get honest for a second. Porn addiction isn't really about sex. It's about connection… about loneliness, shame, and the ache to feel close to something when life feels empty or overwhelming. My guest for this episode, Sathiya Sam, knows that pain deeply. After a 15-year struggle with porn addiction, he rebuilt his life and now helps others do the same through his Deep Clean program - a compassionate, science-meets-spirituality approach that helps people stop using porn and start building real connection again. We're talking about what really drives addiction, the role of purpose and community in recovery, how to protect kids in this new digital world, and what AI “relationships” mean for the future of intimacy. It's a deep, human conversation about healing, hope, and the real work of reclaiming yourself. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Porn Addiction Is About Connection, Not Willpower 01:17 Sathiya Sam's Recovery Story and Deep Clean Method 07:21 Purpose, Boredom, and the Root Causes of Porn Use 13:44 Protecting Kids From Early Exposure 18:24 AI, Loneliness, and Synthetic Intimacy 30:11 Healing Through Community and Real Connection 34:32 Why Your Partner Shouldn't Be Your Accountability Partner 39:34 First Steps to Quit Porn for Good Sometimes the hardest part is admitting you need a little help, and the bravest thing you can do is take that first step. If you're ready to start your own growth and healing journey, you can get support from Sathiya here: https://www.sathiyasam.com/growing-self. Let them know Dr. Lisa sent you! ❤️ You don't have to carry this by yourself. Real change is possible… and it starts with connection. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self P.S. I'd also love to hear what resonated for you or what ideas you'd like me to explore next. Let's keep the conversation going!

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes: Most men think they're failing because they're not strong enough, disciplined enough, or spiritual enough to stop watching porn. But what if the real problem isn't you — it's the process you're using? In this episode, I break down 5 key reasons why men stay stuck in cycles of porn addiction — and how to finally break free. Whether you're trying to quit pornography yourself or you're a wife wanting to understand why he keeps falling back into it, this episode will help you get clarity. We'll walk through: Why most men don't actually know what to do to find freedom from porn What a skill gap looks like when it comes to rebuilding self-worth and emotional control Why identifying real pornography triggers (not just surface-level ones) matters How motivation shifts when the pressure to “never mess up” gets too high What hidden blockers (like shame or relationship disconnection) often sabotage progress You'll hear real stories from men I've coached, and I'll give you clear tools to apply if you want real porn addiction recovery — not just white-knuckle sobriety. This episode is especially helpful for men who feel stuck, and for wives who live in fear that “it'll just come back one day.” You'll see how the solution isn't more control or hypervigilance — it's about building the skills and clarity that lead to long-term relapse prevention. If you're ready to overcome porn urges, understand the root cause of pornography addiction, and feel confident in your growth — this episode is for you.  

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Porn addiction is more prevalent than you may think! Justin Todd and Bernadette Fiaschetti discuss this powerful, and growing addiction candidly.Justin Todd is a serial entrepreneur who has spent the past twelve years working in the behavioral healthcare space.  As co-founder of AddictionResource.net, his mission is to equip visitors of the site with critical information surrounding substance abuse, treatment options, and everything else related to mental health.  Justin has just recently launched PornAddiction.org to help everyone who suffers with porn addiction to receive understanding, guidance and free help. Justin lives in beautiful Traverse City, MI with his wife and two young sons. WEBSITE: AddictionResources.net 

JOIN THE 7 DAY RESET - ▶️ www.therebuiltman.com/7dayreset   In this Q&A episode of The Rebuilt Man, Coach Frank and Coach Arnold tackle two core issues men face on the road to freedom: staying consistent when motivation dies, and breaking the shame cycle after a relapse. You'll learn why motivation is a short-lived dopamine hit, especially in a brain overstimulated by porn, and how discipline, non-negotiables, and identity create real momentum. Then the guys unpack the difference between guilt ("I did something bad") and shame ("I am bad"), how shame fuels relapse, and how to reframe slips into data, not identity. Expect practical structure (Daily 5–style habits), powerful mindset shifts, and a path to heal early shame around sexuality so you can rebuild integrity and walk in freedom.   You'll learn Why discipline beats motivation (and how to build it daily)   Reframing "I'm inconsistent" → you're consistent in the wrong direction   How to recover after a relapse without starting from zero   Guilt vs. shame and how shame keeps the cycle alive   Healing early sexual shame and rebuilding identity     Call to Action: If you're tired of waiting for motivation to show up and ready to start building real structure and freedom in your life — join the FREE 7-Day Porn Reset today.   ▶️ www.therebuiltman.com/7dayreset   – Follow Coach Frank: IG - https://www.instagram.com/coachfrankrich   YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@CoachFrankRich   Website - https://www.rebuiltrecovery.com/homepage

This episode (#306) addresses a common but painful question from betrayed partners: “Is my spouse a narcissist, or just showing narcissistic tendencies?” Mark and Steve explain that while the term “narcissist” has become a cultural buzzword, true narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is rare and defined by a complete absence of empathy. In contrast, addicts in denial often appear narcissistic because they're reacting defensively from fear and shame. Their hurtful behaviors—blame-shifting, gaslighting, and emotional withdrawal—mimic narcissism but stem from self-protection, not superiority.The hosts emphasize that what matters most isn't the label but the destination. Whether the issue is narcissism, addiction, or emotional immaturity, the key question is: Where is this relationship heading if nothing changes? The described situation clearly reflects an abuse cycle—one fueled by denial, volatility, and manipulation. For the addict, breaking that cycle means pausing reactivity, taking full ownership, and seeking specialized recovery help rather than generic therapy. True healing begins only when defensiveness gives way to empathy and accountability.For the betrayed partner, safety and support come first. Isolation only deepens the trauma, so finding community through trusted friends, family, or support groups like S-Anon and SALifeline is essential. She must set firm boundaries and remember that protecting her partner from consequences is not the same as loving him. The episode closes with practical resources—including books like The Gaslighting Recovery Workbook and Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents—and a hopeful reminder that even deeply wounded couples can rebuild when they both commit to truth, humility, and genuine change.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   Is My Partner a "Narcissist" of does he just have Narcissistic Tendencies?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

One of the most challenging disciplines in recovery is the act of stopping and pausing to examine our ways and test them, write them down in a journal and then act of them so that we can stay on the road to recovery. What is the purpose of the crossroads and daily inventory part of this recovery journey? How can this process help us be proactive during life's greatest challenges?In this podcast, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of Celebrate Recovery, will give us some practical benefits of the daily inventory process to keep us on the road to recovery toward health and restoration.

Addiction vs. Habit? ~ Why do I feel compelled to tell others about my porn addiction in graphic detail? Listen to caller's personal dramas four times each week as Dr. Kenner takes your calls and questions on parenting, romance, love, family, marriage, divorce, hobbies, career, mental health - any personal issue! Call anytime, toll free 877-Dr-Kenner. Visit www.drkenner.com for more information about the show (where you can also download free chapter one of her serious relationships guidebook).

Unfortunately it is all too common for those who struggle with pornography to have some sort of sexual abuse in their past. But why? Does the abuse cause the addiction, or is there simply a correlation? The jury is still out on this question.  Although everyone's story is different, pastor and counselor Austin Conner, MDiv, PLPC helps connect the dots on why and how those with sexual abuse in their background might be more susceptible to pornography.  When you understand more about what abuse does to a person's view of themselves, their sexuality, and the world around them, you will grow in your empathy and understanding for those who are stuck in an addictive cycle with pornography. Finally, an important resource for those with sexual abuse in their background is the book On The Threshold of Hope: Opening the Door for Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Diane Langberg.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes: After 38 years of porn addiction, today's guest finally broke free—not through willpower, blockers, or accountability partners, but by uncovering the root cause behind his compulsive pornography use. In this powerful interview, we talk about how he spent decades stuck in the cycle of porn relapse, shame, secrecy, and failed attempts to quit… and how everything changed once he learned how to identify the emotional patterns driving the urges. If you've ever wondered why quitting porn feels impossible, why willpower never lasts, or why traditional porn addiction recovery strategies fail, this episode is a game-changer. You'll hear the exact moment he realized porn wasn't the real problem, how understanding his emotional triggers led to lasting transformation, and how he built the confidence and self-worth he never thought was possible. We go deep into topics like: • Why porn becomes a coping mechanism, not just a bad habit • How emotional pain, stress, and shame fuel pornography cravings • The difference between surface-level behavior control vs. root-cause healing • Why “just stop watching porn” never works long-term • The skills he learned that finally made permanent freedom from porn possible It's a story about clarity, courage, and rebuilding life without pornography—and it proves that even after decades of struggle, healing from porn addiction is possible when you work on the real issue beneath the urge. If you're tired of fighting urges, tired of relapse, or tired of feeling broken because of porn, this episode will give you hope—and a practical path forward.

In this episode, Coach Craig Perra tackles one of the most controversial and important topics in the church today: why so many faith-based porn recovery programs fail—and how they may actually make things worse (unintentionally of course).Drawing on over a decade of coaching pastors, Christian leaders, and men of faith, Craig exposes the hidden disconnect between sin-based approaches and neuroscience. He explores why shame-based recovery fuels relapse, why “perfect sobriety” is an illusion, and how Internal Family Systems (IFS) offers a Christ-aligned, science-backed path toward healing.

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This is a battle that the enemy of your soul loves to keep in the dark. But we'd like to bring it out into the light—and provide hope for anyone who is caught in the trap of porn addiction. In this episode of our ongoing series, Dealing with Your Addictions, John and Austin unpack the reasons why so many people get hooked—and how understanding the roots of it can be the first step toward freedom. The gravitational pull of pornography is impossible to ignore for both men and women. No one just wakes up addicted to pornography. Instead, there is a story to be told about how you got there and why you stay there.  Listen as John and Austin discuss how porn can become all-consuming as well as the growing accessibility and depravity of online sexual content. You'll also learn 5 reasons why you may find yourself addicted to porn, including:  Modeling of early caregivers Influence of peers Isolation and secrecy The rapidly evolving digital landscape Your personal neurobiology John and Austin also provide some specific strategies you can apply right now to reshape your heart and mind around this topic. When you understand the factors around porn addiction, you'll be in a better place to figure out how to take steps that will lead to freedom—which you'll hear more about in next Wednesday's episode. Also, look for a BONUS EPISODE coming out this Friday covering the topic of: “The Connection Between Abuse and Porn Addiction”. This will shed further light on the factors that may influence you, your self-perception and your vulnerability to addictive cycles. Connect with us & Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! Website: withyouintheweeds.com Instagram: @withyouintheweeds Facebook: @withyouintheweeds            X: withyou_weeds

This episode (#305) opens with a raw letter from a betrayed partner who discovered her husband had been using social media photos of women they both knew—friends, clients, even family—to fuel his sexual fantasies. Her anguish—“How could he ever love me if he could do this?”—captures the emotional devastation of betrayal trauma. We discuss how porn and sex addiction warp the brain's functioning, turning sexual stimulation into a survival need. When addiction takes over the limbic brain, logic, empathy, and morality shut down, producing behavior that makes no sense to the healthy mind.For betrayed partners, healing begins not with fixing him, but with caring for themselves. That means seeking outside support, reframing “How do I get over this?” into “How do I attend to my trauma?” and embracing acceptance—not as approval, but as facing reality so they can make empowered choices. From there, the partner can form clear, self-protective boundaries based on her authentic needs. Boundaries aren't about controlling the addict—they're about safeguarding one's own integrity and safety.For addicts, true recovery demands brutal honesty and a willingness to dismantle the lies that keep them in the “secret sexual basement.” They must uncover the emotional roots of their addiction, stop reacting defensively, and take proactive leadership in rebuilding trust. Healing requires outside accountability, transparency, and a daily commitment to growth. Ultimately, both partners must walk their own journeys—she toward safety and truth, he toward honesty and maturity. Whether they reunite or not, redemption is possible when both confront reality with courage, humility, and integrity.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  My Porn Addicted Partner uses photos of Family & Friends to Fantasize! What Do I Do?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

JOIN THE 7 DAY RESET - ▶️ www.therebuiltman.com/7dayreset   Check out the Altared Manhood podcast - https://www.youtube.com/@AltaredManhood   On this special edition of The Rebuilt Man podcast, we're sharing a recent conversation Coach Frank had with Ralph Johnson, Jerry Batista, and Tim Couet on the Altared Manhood podcast. In this conversation, Coach Frank and the guys address the epidemic of porn addiction in the modern church and discuss actionable steps that men can take to break free and lead themselves and their families more successfully.  Connect & Take Action Join The Rebuilt Man Brotherhood for a free 7-day trial and get access to live coaching, accountability, and the tools to finally break free.   ▶️ www.therebuiltman.com/7dayreset   – Follow Coach Frank: IG - https://www.instagram.com/coachfrankrich   YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@CoachFrankRich   Website - https://www.rebuiltrecovery.com/homepage  

The holidays are upon us and that can bring some opportunities to grow or triggers that can set us back if we're not careful. What are some practical ways that we can face those relationships in our family of origin, hometown, or others that might bring up triggers from our past? In this podcast, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of celebrate recovery, will unpack some practical tools and ways that we can proactively face those triggers to help build strength and maintain momentum that would in turn keep us on the road recovery instead of taking us backward. 

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Prior to admitting his addiction, Joshua was a prominent magazine publisher, award-winning journalist, film festival founder, and politician in central Maine. Early on, he recognized recovery was far more than just quitting the negative behavior of his addiction. It was about answering the questions: "Why did I become an addict, how did that make me the person I am today, what must I do to become the person I was truly born to be?"In 2017, Joshua launched ThatCornCoach.com. He has also contributed articles about recovery to TheFix.com and Recovery Today magazine.His most recent book, I am Reading This Book About Porn Addiction for a Friend, introduces readers who are struggling in early recovery, or looking for more information about a suspected addiction. It includes symptoms, stories of addicts Shea have worked with, and a series of activities to personalize the process.His third book, Porn, and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything was released in July 2020. It looks at how the world of online pornography changed overnight during the COVID-19 Coronavirus outbreak with analysis and interviews from current and former pornography addicts, "cam models" who use sites like Chaturbate and OnlyFans, and a bevy of mental health and addiction professionals. Online pornography exploded during the pandemic right under most people's noses.He is also the author of The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships (2018), a memoir about his descent during the final days of his addiction and He is a Porn Addict…Now What? (2019) written for female partners of male porn addicts who are grappling with the revelation their loved one is an addict. It was co-written with Tony Overbay, LMFT.Shea currently makes his full-time living as a certified pornography addict and certified betrayal trauma coach.Shea has given more interviews about pornography addiction than anybody on Earth since 2018. He has appeared on over 350 podcasts, television and radio shows using his personal story to promote the ideas that porn addiction spans all demographics and those with a problem should seek help before it is too late, as it became in his case.Sober since early 2014, Joshua still lives in Central Maine with his wife and two children, four dogs and eight cats. https://thatcorncoach.com/http://www.yourlotandparcel.org

When I first began my recovery journey, I believed the answer to ending porn addiction was more control — more willpower, more discipline, more “try harder.”But the truth is, that mindset only deepened my shame and made me fight harder against myself.In this episode, I sit down with Jeremy Lipkowitz — a former Buddhist monk, mindfulness teacher, and founder of The Unhooked Academy — to explore a radically different path to freedom from porn addiction.We dive deep into the power of mindfulness and self-compassion as tools to overcome shame, heal the mind, and rewire the brain for peace and presence. This conversation bridges neuroscience, psychology, and Buddhist philosophy, showing you how mindfulness can create real, lasting change from the inside out.

In Episode 304, Mark and Steve address a powerful letter from a partner whose relationship began in betrayal—her husband secretly continued sexual involvement with his ex while dating her and later maintained years of hidden pornography use. Despite countless promises to quit, he lied, relapsed, and gaslighted her, leaving her emotionally and physically wrecked. They affirm that what she's experiencing is genuine betrayal trauma, not overreaction, describing how chronic deceit and emotional abuse erode safety, identity, and even bodily health.The hosts urge her to stop carrying responsibilities that were never hers—monitoring his devices, managing his guilt, or offering premature forgiveness. Healing, they explain, begins with reclaiming her independence and self-worth. That requires professional therapy, strong boundaries, and releasing the roles of “policewoman,” “confessor,” and “absolver.” For the relationship to have any chance of survival, the truth must come out in full through a professionally guided disclosure process, possibly with a polygraph, so she can finally make informed choices about her future.For the husband, Mark and Steve insist that real recovery is proactive, structured, and honest. He must stop reacting only when caught and instead pursue transparency and leadership in his healing. Whether through Dare to Connect or another structured program, addicts need daily accountability and consistent engagement. Ultimately, they stress that rebuilding trust takes time and integrity—measured not in promises but in patterns. For the partner, the focus now is learning to trust herself again; for the addict, it's becoming truly trustworthy. Only then can real recovery and genuine connection begin.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  In a relationship Filled with Betrayal—How Can I Trust He will NOT Betray Me Again?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Recovery is hard. Sometimes it's easy to shift our thinking into behavioral management and even our recovery as a whole toward management versus healing. But in celebrate recovery, one of the things we lean into is not managing our recovery but walking in a posture of healing. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will unpack some of the differences between management versus healing in our recovery journey and some of the fruit we experience when we choose to surrender control in this healing journey.

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Trusting the process can seem so cliché, but is such a critical part to our healing journey. What do I do when things feel hopeless and like it's pointless to continue the process? On the flipside, why should I keep doing the work if I found relief in the good seasons of life?In this podcast, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery will unpack the important conversation of why trusting the process is important regardless of the season we are in currently.

In this episode, I'm joined by my good friend Coach Frank Rich for one of the most eye-opening and urgent conversations we've ever had on this show. We dig deep into the disturbing ways artificial intelligence is now intersecting with the porn industry—from deepfake technology to fully AI-generated adult content. It's not just impacting adults anymore—this tech is trickling into high schools, being used to bully, humiliate, and emotionally destroy kids. This is a conversation every father, husband, and leader needs to hear.   Frank and I explore how AI porn is evolving faster than laws can keep up, how it's rewiring minds, damaging marriages, and becoming a hidden epidemic in homes across the world. But it's not all doom and gloom—we also share stories of transformation, tools to protect your family, and how to have honest, shame-free conversations with your kids about sex, technology, and identity. If you care about protecting your family in the digital age, this one is a must-listen.       Episode Highlights & Timeline:   [0:00] – Introduction [2:18] – AI's alarming infiltration into the porn industry—from deepfakes to AI-generated performers [4:01] – My raw reaction: learning about deepfake porn for the first time [6:10] – Is AI porn found on mainstream sites like Pornhub? Frank breaks it down [8:45] – Why the porn industry has always driven tech innovation [9:36] – Men monetizing themselves with deepfakes—how that's happening [12:25] – High schoolers using AI to create and share fake nude images of classmates [14:00] – Why I use Bark to monitor my kids' devices—and how it's changed our conversations [17:00] – AI is evolving faster than the laws designed to regulate it [22:28] – How I talk to my sons about sex, porn, and masturbation—with honesty and no shame [30:20] – The sobering reality of porn-induced erectile dysfunction in young men [33:00] – Modeling healthy marriage and intimacy for your kids [41:24] – A redemption story: how David saved his marriage and reclaimed his life [49:14] – The hidden cost of porn: time, presence, and connection [51:18] – Watching a little boy get ignored by his phone-distracted dad—and the mirror it held up for me [53:47] – Final thoughts: let's stay alert, have the hard conversations, and lead with love       5 Key Takeaways:     1. AI-generated porn is dangerously realistic—and widely accessible. What once sounded like sci-fi is now mainstream and emotionally devastating. 2. Teens are weaponizing deepfake technology. Fake nudes created via AI are being used for bullying, revenge, and harassment in schools. 3. Don't wait to talk to your kids. The average age of first exposure to porn is 8–11. Have the talk early, openly, and without shame. 4. Porn addiction steals your presence—and your purpose. Whether it's five minutes or five hours, it erodes your integrity and disconnects you from what matters most. 5. Redemption is real. Frank's programs have helped countless men rebuild their lives, their faith, their marriages, and their connection to their kids.         Links & Resources:   David's story - https://youtu.be/dh-Enf6z-I8 FRANKS COMMUNITY- https://www.therebuiltman.com/7dayreset BARK - thedadedge.com/bark Full show notes: TheDadEdge.com/1388     If this episode opened your eyes or helped you in any way, please take a moment to rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Let's continue these hard but necessary conversations—and raise a generation of men and women who lead with purpose, presence, and integrity.

Kendra has specialized in working with Partners of Sex & Porn Addicts for over 5yrs. She engages with her clients from an eclectic approach that allows them to process through the betrayal trauma they've experienced to find healthy coping skills to apply while on their healing journey towards recovery. Kendra balances support while holding her clients accountable for taking back their power on the path to wholeness.  In This EpisodeKendra's websiteBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-trauma-therapist--5739761/support.You can learn more about what I do here:The Trauma Therapist Newsletter: celebrates the people and voices in the mental health profession. And it's free! Check it out here: https://bit.ly/4jGBeSa———If you'd like to support The Trauma Therapist Podcast and the work I do you can do that here with a monthly donation of $5, $7, or $10: Donate to The Trauma Therapist Podcast.Click here to join my email list and receive podcast updates and other news.

Delanie Fischer chats with Brittany Moore, who shares her experience being married to Steve Moore, a past guest on Self-Helpless and someone who has struggled with porn addiction (and now helps others overcome it). She describes how she found out, the impact it's had on her, and where her and Steve are now after 20 years of marriage. Plus: + The Unexpected Way Brittany Found Out  + The Signs She Noticed But Didn't Understand + Potential Isn't Enough, You Need This Too Self-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com EPISODES RELATED TO THIS TOPIC: Is It Porn Addiction? Inside the Impact, Neuroscience, and Recovery with Steve Moore and Mark Kastleman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2230ec70/is-it-porn-addiction-inside-the-impact-neuroscience-and-recovery-with-steve-moore-and-mark-kastleman 7 Shocking Truths About Codependency And Addiction with Heidi Rain: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24c74079/7-shocking-truths-about-codependency-and-addiction-with-heidi-rain Sex and Love Addiction with Sex Addiction Therapist, Alex Katehakis: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/316e9795/sex-and-love-addiction-with-sex-addiction-therapist-alex-katehakis When You're A High Functioning Addict (And Modernizing The 12 Steps) with Dr. Samantha Harte: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/233469a8/when-youre-a-high-functioning-addict-and-modernizing-the-12-steps-with-dr-samantha-harte Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices