Podcasts about porn addiction

British independent filmmaker Gregory Mallard joins I Am Refocused Radio to discuss the story behind his feature film Masters and Vices (2025), a project that explores porn addiction and the impact it can have on motivation, anxiety, reputation, relationships, and a person's sense of self. Gregory shares why he chose to tackle such a difficult and often uncomfortable subject, what he learned while writing, directing, and producing the film, and the challenges that come with bringing an independent feature from an idea to the screen. We also explore the responsibility filmmakers carry when addressing sensitive topics, the realities of producing outside the traditional studio system, and Gregory's interest in self-improvement and using storytelling to start conversations people may otherwise avoid. This is a conversation about filmmaking, addiction, consequences, personal growth, and having the courage to tell stories that challenge the audience.Watch Masters and Vices (2025) | Full Movie | HD | Gregory Mallard: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hxq6v-3PcTYSubscribe to Gregory's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@Gregory_MallardBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/i-am-refocused-radio--2671113/support.Subscribe now at YouTube.com/@RefocusedNetworkThank you for your time. 

What is the overall goal of vulnerability and is it the end goal? In this part two episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will finish up this topic on understanding vulnerability and staying in a healthy space as we share through a corporate, one on one testimony and/or small group setting.What are some practical examples of healthy vulnerability in recovery?

When He Says He'll Change: What Real Recovery From Porn Addiction Actually Looks Like With Sathiya Sam, Founder of DeepClean™ After discovering pornography, infidelity, or other secret sexual behavior, one of the hardest questions isn't simply Why did he do it? It's Can he actually change? He may swear he'll never do it again. Delete apps. Install filters. Start therapy. Hand over his phone. Go weeks or months without pornography. And you desperately want to believe that this time is different. But how can you tell the difference between someone who has stopped a behavior—for now—and someone who is actually changing? In this episode, Lora Cheadle sits down with Sathiya Sam, founder of DeepClean™, author of The Last Relapse, and host of The Man Within podcast, for a candid conversation about pornography addiction, betrayal, relapse, and what lasting recovery really requires. Drawing from his own 15-year struggle with pornography and his work helping men recover, Sathiya explains why pornography addiction is rarely solved by willpower, promises, shame, filters, or simply trying harder. Lasting change requires getting underneath the behavior to the emotional wounds, unmet needs, nervous-system patterns, beliefs, and identity that helped create the cycle in the first place. His current DeepClean approach likewise emphasizes addressing underlying emotional wounds, core beliefs, unmet needs, regulation, identity, and relationships rather than measuring success only by abstinence. Lora and Sathiya also address the question so many betrayed partners struggle with: What is my role in his recovery? Because supporting someone is not the same as recovering for them. You cannot love him enough, monitor him enough, become a "superwife," have more sex, make his life easier, or find the perfect words that will make him change. His recovery belongs to him. Your healing belongs to you. And perhaps most importantly, recovery doesn't have to mean returning to the relationship you had before. When someone genuinely addresses the roots of addiction, the goal isn't simply a man who no longer watches pornography. It's a man who knows himself better, regulates himself differently, communicates more honestly, takes responsibility for his needs and behavior, and begins showing up differently in his marriage and his life.   Top 3 Takeaways Stopping the behavior is not the same as healing what created it. A promise to stop, an internet filter, accountability software, or a period of abstinence may change behavior without addressing its roots. Sathiya describes lasting recovery as developing self-awareness, healing underlying emotional wounds and unmet needs, and shifting identity—not merely becoming better at resisting pornography. Look for trends of transformation, not just streaks of abstinence. Instead of asking only, How many days has he been "clean"?, look at what is changing in the man. Can he name his emotions and needs? Regulate himself during difficult conversations? Talk about what he's uncovering without becoming immediately defensive? Take responsibility for his recovery? Communicate honestly about both struggles and progress? As Sathiya explains, a relapse does not automatically erase every bit of growth—and a long streak does not necessarily prove the underlying problem has healed. You can support his recovery, but you cannot do it for him. One of the most painful truths for a betrayed partner is that you cannot make someone want recovery more than they want it themselves. Your job is not to become his accountability partner or work harder for his healing than he does. Your work is getting your own support, processing your pain safely, establishing and upholding your boundaries, and paying attention to what his behavior—not merely his promises—is showing you. Favorite Quotes “He kind of has to want to change more than you want him to change for anything to actually change.” — Sathiya Sam “I would rather be 100% my true self and rejected than 80% my true self and accepted.” — Sathiya Sam “This is not about him not loving her. This is not about him not valuing the marriage or the relationship or their kids.” — Lora Cheadle   About Sathiya Sam Sathiya Sam is the founder of DeepClean™, an author, international speaker, former university researcher and pastor, and host of The Man Within podcast. After his own long struggle with pornography, Sathiya developed a root-focused approach to helping men move beyond addictive behaviors by addressing emotional wounds, unmet needs, regulation, faith, relationships, and identity. His book, The Last Relapse, expands on the principles discussed in this episode, including why lasting freedom requires more than willpower or surface-level behavior modification. Learn more about Sathiya Sam Explore DeepClean Coaching Get The Last Relapse   About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.     Resources & Links Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com Book your $97 Introductory Session: https://introductorysession.com Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle   This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Healing after betrayal often requires more than insight alone. Therapy can provide additional support, stabilization, and guidance as you navigate the emotional impact of infidelity and betrayal trauma.

We've all experienced struggles around oversharing if we've been in ministry any length of time. What do we do with the scenarios? Where does over sharing take place and become unhealthy? Honesty with intention vs information for attention. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, unpacks a part one of a two-part series on understanding, vulnerability, and where we can get stuck with some practical examples. What does healthy vulnerability and unhealthy vulnerability look like?

In this episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Sam and Austin welcome clinical hypnotherapist and master hypnotist Erin from familiesgettinghelp.com. Together, they explore how hypnotherapy functions as a powerful, non-traditional tool in sexual addiction recovery. Erin dispels common pop-culture myths surrounding hypnosis, breaks down the neurochemistry of shame, and demonstrates how tapping into theta brain waves allows clients to rewrite subconscious beliefs formed in childhood. The conversation dives deep into both bottom-up approaches—like shifting core identity and future pacing—and top-down somatic tools you can use in real-time to manage temptation. Whether you are struggling with unwanted behaviors or supporting someone who is, this episode offers actionable insights on integration, emotional regulation, and step-by-step healing.---Families Getting Help helps people break free from the subconscious patterns that drive pornography use, rebuild trust and stronger relationships, and change the inner dialogue that keeps them stuck in unwanted patterns.Learn More: FamiliesGettingHelp.comBook Your Introduction Call Now: https://familiesgettinghelp.com/#ghl-calendar. Discount code: UNASHAMEDFree Automatic Impulse Control Video: Want the free workshop where you learn how to automatically turn down a temptation? Go here - https://help.familiesgettinghelp.com/turndowntemptationsnow ----Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps03:40 - Introducing Guest Erin & Demystifying Hypnotherapy Basics08:33 - The Role of Shame, Dopamine Loops, & Neurochemistry in Addiction12:00 - Brain Waves, Subconscious Memories, & Rewiring Neural Pathways17:15 - Comparing Hypnotherapy to EMDR & Sam/Austin's Personal Experiences24:20 - Bottom-Up Identity Shift vs. Top-Down Somatic Recovery Tools27:50 - Automatic Impulse Control Demonstration: Using Somatic Tools for Urges32:55 - Connecting with Erin (FamiliesGettingHelp.com) & St. George/Zoom Services36:30 - Personal Readiness, Emotional Maturity, & Taking Recovery Ownership41:15 - Advice for Families, Final Takeaways on Identity, & Episode Sign-Off

Many guys struggle with the idea that they have trauma... I get it, its hard to admit that our parents made mistakes and hurt usThis is why I want to give you a new framework. A new approach. A new perspectiveOne that does not dismiss the pain or challenges you went through. But keeps the focus on what really matters most for your porn recovery today - the heartIn this episode, Shawn will unpackWhy trauma can be a difficult concept for guys in recoveryHow the focus on wounds helps guys start to heal the deeper roots of their addictionWhy suppression is at the heart of your woundsKeeping the focus on what you still carry today, rather than just events from your childhoodInner child work and the steps towards real healing from your wounds

One of the powerful things about principle seven of celebrate recovery is that we have an opportunity to sit with the Father and allow Him, the teacher to speak. What if we slowed down long enough to ask what He is saying to us and what He is teaching us about ourselves and others and how we move forward as believers in Jesus Christ? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of celebrate recovery, walks us through an exercise that he and his wife practice together to allow God's word to marinate and saturate their hearts toward change.

What is a "gooner" and what do they have to do with so-called porn addictions? DB sits down with Dr. Nikky Prause, a clinical scientist and researcher who's written on everything from asexuality to penis size preference to compulsive sexual behavior. And we found her in a pretty interesting way... from a YouTube video that claims to be a look into a real gooner's life and struggles, all revolving around a porn addiction. Dr. Prause was a featured expert -- but what's her side of the story? IN THIS EPISODE: The YouTube video in question, "Inside Gooning: The Internet's Porn Epidemic"; Season 13 episode "Secrets of a Sex Cult: When Pleasure Gets Weaponized with Ellen Huet"; Dr. Prause's Medium article "'Pornography addiction' is not a diagnosis"; more of Dr. Prause's research on the Liberos website; Dr. Prause's research on asexuality on ResearchGate; and our ethical porn recs, Dipsea and Cheex! Not even sponsored, not even affiliate links -- we just love them. ABOUT OUR GUEST: Dr. Prause is a clinical scientist. Her training at Indiana University focused in neuroscience and statistics. She also holds a license in California as a clinical psychologist. Her research focuses on the effects of sexual behaviors on general health. TAKE OUR SMUT QUIZ: Find your page-turning turn-on with our new SMUT QUIZ! In just 5 questions, you'll get right to the good stuff with curated pages, poems, and audios. No slow burn. No fluff. Just pleasure.; Take the quiz here: https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz  ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education — delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it's the sex ed you've always wanted. Season 14 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies -- you name it. We're here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. GET IN TOUCH: Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.com CONNECT WITH US: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast; TikTok: @sexedwithdb; Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast; YouTube: Sex Ed with DB; X: @sexedwithdb SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 14 SPONSORS: Uberlube, Magic Wand, Nancy, and Happy V. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here! DISCOVER SEX POSITIVE EVENTS IN YOUR CITY: Subscribe to our newsletter for S.E.X I.R.L: your curated monthly list of sex-positive events, spaces, and experiences happening in person across major cities. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS: Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" SEASON 14 TEAM: Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her); Producer and Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them); Social Media & Communications Manager: Iva Markicevic Daley (she/her) MUSIC: Intro theme music: Hook Sounds; Background music: Bright State by Ketsa; Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa.; Thank you Ketsa!

In episode 345, a couple is facing the enormous aftermath of pornography addiction, sexual betrayal, deception, failed disclosure, and trickle truth. The husband reports that he is now 18 months sober, has become rigorously honest and transparent, participates in therapy and 12-step recovery, and is working to sit with his wife's pain without defensiveness. Yet his wife's trauma remains intense. She has maintained a boundary of no physical contact for approximately 18 months, frequently expresses disgust and anger toward him, and periodically insists that she wants a divorce while demanding that he be the one to file. The critical reality is that his recovery does not erase the impact of his past choices. Sobriety, honesty, and improved behavior matter tremendously, but they cannot dictate the pace of her healing or guarantee that she will ultimately want reconciliation.At the same time, understanding the source of a betrayed partner's anger does not mean that every form of communication should continue indefinitely. If the marriage is going to have a genuine chance, patterns of contempt, humiliation, name-calling, aggression, defensiveness, and retaliation must progressively give way to healthier communication and individual accountability. The husband must continue owning the tremendous harm he caused while recognizing that his job is to create the best possible environment for his wife's healing—not to control or perform that healing for her. Likewise, although she did not cause the betrayal or deserve its consequences, she is ultimately the only person who can pursue her own healing, recover her voice and agency, and determine what she authentically wants. Both partners need to move away from “I did this because you did that” and toward taking responsibility for how each chooses to show up now.The deeper question is therefore not simply whether he should file for divorce because she tells him to. He can authentically say that he does not want a divorce, respects her right to choose one, and still wants to give the marriage an opportunity to heal. But neither partner should remain indefinitely trapped in a painful holding pattern. With professional support, they need to identify what reconciliation would actually require, what each person's deepest wants and needs are, whether those needs are compatible, and whether both genuinely want to undertake the work necessary to build a fundamentally different relationship. If both choose reconciliation, the long-term goal must be a return to true partnership rather than a permanent dynamic of offender and victim, guilty spouse and judge. If one or both ultimately determine that reconciliation is no longer possible, healing must continue individually so that both can move toward lives of greater honesty, wholeness, safety, and peace.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   My Addiction Shattered My Wife; She Wants a Divorce, but I Don't. Now What?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Why do we worship and celebrate recovery? It's a question that's important for us to answer so that we understand that it's not just something we do apart from recovery but it's something that is very much setting the table and a part of the recovery process. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of celebrate recovery, will unpack his personal experiences around a recent celebrate recovery worship meeting, and some takeaways that he learned about the value of worship in a celebrate recovery meeting. Most of all, why it's more important than we realize.

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In today's interview clip, Jim Ramos talks to Ted Shimer, Founder of The Freedom Fight (thefreedomfight.org), an online porn addiction recovery program, and the author of the book, The Freedom Fight: The New Drug and the Truths that Set Us Free. Shimer teaches you the 6 scientific roots of your porn use and gives you practical steps for eradicating them from your life for good. Listen to the full episode here! Check out his book here! (https://tinyurl.com/freedom116) Want to protect your marriage? Get our free ebook: 7 Guardrails to Protect Your Marriage Before It's Too Late. https://meninthearena.org/pages/7-marriage-guardrails  Has Men in the Arena helped you make a change in your life, small or large? We want to hear your impact story! https://meninthearena.org/pages/hero-stories  You can start a ministry to father the fatherless in your church! Learn how with our sponsor, Kids Outdoor Zone at https://kidsoutdoorzone.com/arena.

Why does a man with everything going right for him quietly fall apart on the inside? Jeremy Lipkowitz was a PhD student at Duke studying the genetic code that supposedly explains what a human being is. On the outside it looked like a life going exactly to plan. In private he was losing to a compulsion nobody around him knew about, and the more he achieved the worse it got. Eventually he stopped trying to fix himself from the outside, left the program, flew to Myanmar, and ordained as a monk.He has spent the last decade teaching men to do what he did, without religion, dogma, or drugs. His show is Unhooked and his work is at https://unhookedacademy.com/We talk about where shame actually comes from, what happens to you around day four of a silent retreat, and whether moderation is possible with anything engineered to hook you. Late in the episode we get into whether there is anything behind all of this. He says no. I made my case anyway. Neither of us moved, and that exchange might be my favorite part of the conversation.

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Father wounds and childhood emotional neglect can shape porn addiction in ways many men do not recognize. You may believe you simply have a problem with lust or self-control, while pornography has quietly become a way to manage loneliness, powerlessness, shame, stress, or a deeper hunger to feel like you have what it takes.In this episode, I sit down with Chris Bruno, founder of Restoration Project and Restory Counseling, to explore the unhealed boy behind pornography addiction. Chris helps men recover their hearts through the interconnected work of fatherhood, brotherhood, sonship, and storywork.We discuss how every father wound begins with an unmet father hunger: a boy's need for his father's attentive face, life-giving words, guidance, and blessing. Sometimes that wound comes through obvious abuse, abandonment, or harshness. Other times it develops through the quieter drought of childhood emotional neglect—a home where a boy was provided for but never deeply known, guided through his emotions, or welcomed into manhood.Chris explains why porn addiction can become a coping mechanism and survival strategy. Pornography may offer a counterfeit sense of power, control, accomplishment, connection, or masculine initiation. Understanding this deeper story does not excuse our adult choices. It gives us the clarity and compassion necessary to take meaningful responsibility for them.We also explore practical storywork for addiction recovery, the difference between sexual desire and emotional activation, how to move from resentment into grief, and why healing brotherhood must offer more than a weekly accountability report.Brother, the boy who first reached for pornography may have been trying to survive emotions and experiences he did not know how to carry. He does not need more humiliation. He needs honesty, compassion, protection, and mature leadership.But the adult man must eventually take the lead.Recovery is not merely about removing pornography. It is about healing the emotional roots of porn addiction, recovering healthy masculinity, building meaningful relationships, and creating a life that offers something better than escape.Timestamps00:00 Chris Bruno and Restoration Project02:29 How Father Wounds Begin06:02 Emotional Neglect and the Quiet Drought08:42 Honor Requires Honesty10:32 Your First Story and Second Story14:34 What Porn Cravings Really Mean15:29 The STAB Craving Framework17:46 The Story Beneath My Own Addiction20:35 Counterfeit Initiation into Manhood24:35 Sexual Energy as Creative Energy26:11 Desire Versus Sexual Activation28:59 Storywork for Porn Addiction Recovery33:32 Wounds, Losses, and Survival37:02 Big Trauma and a Thousand Paper Cuts38:21 Ownership Without Victimhood41:43 Moving from Resentment into Grief44:13 Brotherhood Beyond Accountability47:15 How Men Can Share Their Stories49:50 Connect with Chris BrunoWhen you understand the story beneath your pornography use, you can begin building a recovery plan around your actual emotional, relational, biological, neurological, and spiritual needs.To work with Chris Bruno and his team, go to restorationproject.net or restory.lifeYou can also check out his podcasts here: The Restorative Man PodcastThrive Marriage Lab PodcastLink to Blog Article for this EpisodeVisit No More Desire Tools for Recovery for recovery tools and training, the free online community, my free eBook, Workshop, The RAIL Method ™ and more to help you break free from porn.If you're tired of trying to quit porn on your own, the No More Desire Academy gives you a structured path to recovery through coaching, brotherhood, practical tools, and step-by-step training. Learn more about the Academy.If you want deeper, more personalized support, I also offer 1-on-1 porn addiction recovery coaching. We'll work directly on your patterns, emotional triggers, recovery plan, and long-term growth. Learn more about working 1-on-1 with Jake Kastleman.My gratitude for the music in this episode (in order of appearance) goes to Ievgen Poltavskyi, NastelBomand Viacheslav Starostinfrom Pixabay.Support the showNo More Desire

Episode 344—Long-term betrayal and integrity abuse can severely disrupt a betrayed partner's ability to trust her own perceptions. After repeatedly sensing that something was wrong, being told she was mistaken, and later discovering that her intuition had been accurate, she may become intensely hypervigilant. When a new concern arises—such as inappropriate boundaries with a coworker—she may feel certain that more occurred while simultaneously questioning whether her nervous system is simply expecting the worst. This confusion does not mean she is irrational or broken; it means her natural intuition has become entangled with fear, traumatic memory, grief, and protective vigilance.Polygraphs, formal disclosures, accountability systems, and additional facts may be valuable parts of the recovery process, but they cannot become the sole source of safety. No test is perfectly accurate, and even a favorable result may not quiet a traumatized brain that has learned to distrust reassurance. The betrayed partner's Information-Gathering or Investigator Part may believe that enough details will finally guarantee she is never blindsided again, but complete certainty is impossible in any relationship. Healing does not mean returning to a pre-betrayal state or forgetting what happened. It means carrying the past differently, allowing its meaning to change as both partners develop new skills, boundaries, support systems, and patterns of behavior.The partner can begin rebuilding intuition by observing progressive evidence rather than depending on promises or perfection. She can watch whether her spouse is proactive in recovery, transparent, accountable, emotionally grounded, open to feedback, connected to support, and willing to maintain appropriate boundaries without being managed by her. At the same time, she can strengthen her own identity, self-worth, emotional grounding, support network, and confidence in her ability to respond if betrayal happens again. Her job is not to police his recovery but to become increasingly capable of seeing the relationship clearly and freely choosing whether to remain in it. Her intuition has not disappeared; with time, support, verification, and self-trust, it can be retuned into a wiser and more resilient source of discernment.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   After his Gaslighting, Betrayal and Integrity Abuse, My Intuition is Broken!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Sometimes boundaries can be misinterpreted as a means to reject, control, or even push people away as a sense or source of punishment. But what is the heart behind boundaries? What was God's design in scriptures that we can learn from the value and importance of boundaries. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of celebrate recovery, discusses boundaries and the heart behind them and what our posture should be as we practice boundaries with the people around us in Ministry and our recovery.

The partner in this situation (Episode 343) recognizes that her husband's honesty about two recent relapses represents meaningful progress after years of pornography use, self-gratification, betrayal, and deception. However, the aftermath of those relapses remains deeply damaging. He spirals into shame, discouragement, and self-condemnation, creating a heavy emotional atmosphere in the home and leaving her feeling responsible for stabilizing him while she is also trying to process her own grief and betrayal trauma. His requests that she pursue him, cuddle him, initiate affection, or make him feel wanted become especially painful when he later rejects her or questions whether her efforts are genuine.Although unresolved grief, childhood wounds, and protective parts may help explain why addiction and shame become activated, they do not excuse the behavior or make his partner responsible for healing him. His shame functions like a bucket full of holes: no amount of external reassurance can fill what he has not learned to repair internally. When he seeks sexual or emotional validation from the person he has just harmed, he risks using her as a confessor, rescuer, and sexual absolver. Real accountability goes far beyond admitting the relapse. It requires him to tolerate difficult emotions, contact his sponsor, therapist, group, or recovery support, examine what led to the relapse, identify the deeper needs he was attempting to meet, and develop a specific plan for changing his recovery practices.For the betrayed partner, healthy boundaries include taking physical or emotional space, declining to become his primary emotional regulator, and participating in affection or sexual intimacy only when it feels authentic and safe for her. She can acknowledge his honesty without taking responsibility for his shame, and she can refuse to remain in a cycle where she is asked to pursue him only to be rejected or interrogated. He does not need to be perfect, but he does need to stand up, lead his recovery, respect her healing process, and protect her from additional harm. Genuine connection becomes possible when he owns his recovery and she remains loyal to her safety, truth, boundaries, and healing.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   He's Honest About Relapses, But His Spiraling Shame and Neediness Cycle is Exhausting!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

  Why does shame keep you trapped in pornography, affairs, or other sexually destructive behaviors—even when you genuinely want to change? Shame does not simply make you feel bad about what you have done. It can activate the brain's stress response, increase the urge to escape, and drive you back toward the very behavior you promised yourself, your spouse, and God you would stop. This creates a painful cycle: shame produces emotional distress, sexual behavior offers temporary relief, and the secrecy and damage that follow create even more shame. In this episode of Marriage Redesigned with Lisa Limehouse, formerly the Beauty Beyond Betrayal podcast, Lisa explains: The critical difference between healthy guilt and destructive shame How the shame–cortisol–escape cycle reinforces compulsive sexual behavior Why pornography and affairs can become forms of emotional escape How secrecy protects addiction and prevents genuine healing The difference between biblical conviction and condemnation Three practical, Christ-centered steps you can take toward freedom today Freedom from shame does not mean avoiding responsibility. It means learning to face the truth, accept accountability, and step into the light without believing that your worst decisions have become your permanent identity. Scriptures Referenced 2 Corinthians 7:10 James 5:16 1 John 1:9 Romans 8:1 2 Corinthians 5:17 1 Corinthians 10:13 Psalm 32 If betrayal has left you and your spouse feeling overwhelmed, confused, or emotionally unstable, download Lisa's new free couple's resource, We Are Not Crazy. It will help you understand what betrayal does to the brain, body, emotions, and marriage—and give you language for beginning the healing process together. Download your free copy through the link in the show notes. Marriage Redesigned with Lisa Limehouse Formerly the Beauty Beyond Betrayal podcast God heals people. Transformed People heal marriages. And your marriage can be redesigned. :: NEXT STEPS Couple's Free Resource:  We are not Crazy For Women:  7 PILLARS OF HEALING FROM BETRAYAL TRAUMA Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Email:   info@lisalimehouse.com WEBSITE:  www.marriageredesigned.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE

Join The Rebuilt Man Brotherhood - www.skool.com/rebootyourlife   You love your wife.   You'd do anything for your family.   But if you've been struggling with p*rn, you may have noticed something that's difficult to admit...   You don't desire your wife the way you used to.   Most men assume it's stress.   Age.   Marriage.   Or that "the spark" is simply gone.   But what if the real problem isn't your relationship at all?   In this episode, Coach Frank Rich explains how years of porn consumption can rewire your brain's reward system, redirect your desire, and quietly damage intimacy long before a marriage reaches a breaking point.   You'll learn why your wife isn't competing with another woman—she's competing with a supernormal stimulus engineered to hijack your brain's dopamine system—and, more importantly, how your brain can heal.   If you're a husband who wants to rebuild intimacy, restore attraction, and become the man God created you to be, this episode is for you.     In This Episode You'll Learn Why p*rn changes the way your brain experiences desire   The neuroscience behind dopamine and "supernormal stimuli"   Why real intimacy begins to feel less exciting over time   How p*rn quietly creates emotional distance inside marriage   Why this isn't simply a lust problem   How your brain can heal through neuroplasticity   Why identity transformation—not willpower—is the key to lasting freedom   Practical steps to rebuild your marriage and become fully present again   Get your copy of Porn Free Man If this episode resonated with you, Porn Free Man is the next step.   Inside the book, Coach Frank Rich walks you through the exact identity-based framework that's helped more than 1,800 men break free from porn and rebuild every area of their lives.   Learn how to stop managing addiction and start becoming the man who no longer wants, needs, or desires porn.  

What if some of the traits that make porn addiction harder to overcome—perfectionism, emotional intensity, anxiety, hyperfocus, sensitivity, and relentless drive—could eventually become strengths in your recovery?In this episode, I'm sharing a conversation from when I joined Ania Hulsman on her podcast, Neurodivergent Unplugged. We dig into my personal history with neurodivergence and porn addiction, including what it was like growing up highly sensitive, socially anxious, perfectionistic, and constantly overwhelmed by emotions I didn't know how to manage.For years, I thought these parts of me were weaknesses. Small things could create enormous emotional reactions. I put tremendous pressure on myself to perform, move faster, fit in, and get things right. When I couldn't handle the intensity inside me, I found ways to escape—first through video games and food, and eventually through pornography, alcohol, and other addictive behaviors.But recovery helped me understand something important: pornography wasn't simply a sexual problem. It had become one of the ways I regulated anxiety, pressure, emotional overwhelm, and the feeling that I wasn't okay.And that changed the way I approached recovery.Instead of spending my life fighting my brain, I began learning how to work with it. I developed routines that support my emotional and biological needs, learned how to regulate my nervous system, reduced digital overstimulation, built stronger spiritual practices, and stopped treating every difficult thought or emotion as evidence that something was wrong with me.Today, many of the traits I once hated about myself have become some of my greatest strengths as a husband, father, coach, teacher, and creator.In this conversation, Ania and I explore what that transformation looked like—and what it may mean for sensitive, driven men who are trying to quit porn and build lasting sobriety.Episode Chapters00:16 Neurodivergence, sensitivity, and porn addiction03:45 Building a recovery mindset and lifestyle07:13 When emotional intensity feels like a curse09:27 How escape behaviors developed in my life15:40 Spirituality and the beginning of recovery23:24 Self-judgment, parts work, and emotional mindfulness28:00 Perfectionism, control, and performance34:26 Realizing my brain worked differently38:19 Sensitivity, masculinity, and suppressed emotion42:16 When a neurodivergent strength doesn't fit the environment49:15 Masking, professionalism, and authenticity54:01 Systems thinking, hyperfocus, and perfectionism57:10 How reducing smartphone use changed my mental health1:02:21 Redefining success through presence1:06:17 Morning routines, breathwork, and nervous system regulation1:09:14 Prayer, gratitude, and getting out of self-focus1:17:18 Hyperfocus, burnout, and learning to respect your capacity1:20:25 The one change I would make to our relationship with technologyBuild a Recovery Lifestyle That Works With YouIf you keep relapsing despite genuinely wanting to quit porn, I want you to look deeper than the behavior. What emotional state are you trying to escape? What pressure are you carrying? What does your nervous system need? Where are you overstimulated, depleted, disconnected, or demanding too much from yourself?The goal is not simply to become better at resisting pornography. It is to build a life where peace, connection, faith, purpose, and real relationships become more desirable than escape.Check out Ania's podcast: Neurodivergent UnpluggedLink to Blog Article for this EpisodeVisit No More Desire Tools for Recovery for recovery tools and training, including my free eBook, Workshop, The RAIL Method ™ and more to help you break free from porn.If you're tired of trying to quit porn on your own, the No More Desire Academy gives you a structured path to recovery through coaching, brotherhood, practical tools, and step-by-step training. Learn more about the Academy.If you want deeper, more personalized support, I also offer 1-on-1 porn addiction recovery coaching. We'll work directly on your patterns, emotional triggers, recovery plan, and long-term growth. Learn more about working 1-on-1 with Jake Kastleman.God bless.My gratitude for the music in this episode (in order of appearance) goes to Ievgen Poltavskyi, kaveesha Senanayake& Viacheslav Starostinfrom Pixabay.Support the showNo More Desire

It's a beautiful prayer that we read every single week at Celebrate Recovery. This prayer, written by Reinhold Niebuhr, is more than just a rote group of words that we recite for convenience to close out our CR services and small groups. No, these are deeper words with a great meaning to help us in our day-to-day recovery interactions. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, recites the prayer and gives some thoughts around the meaning for some central phrases in this important prayer.

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Do you want to grow up before you grow old.  In this episode my friend and therapist Caleb discuss his journey out of porn and his insights on growing up through the story of Peter Pan.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform.  Just use the following link to get started.  if you are using a mobile device signup using the link on your web browser BEFORE you  download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=84c412c67f81c7a9fa2da045d969987b45464bf0-f9c81a7a-030e-4efe-b164-86d10b099404If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  If you want to reach out to Vern with recovery questions,  have a free zoom call with him, or find out how you can move towards your porn recovery goals then reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a  porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you're saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You'll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we'll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you'll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you've been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you're in the right place. It's time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreSex Addiction prevalence in the couple's relationship is likely to create tension, conflict , hurt and damage to trust and therefore undermine to couple's relationship. Repair will be needed and almost certainly third party trained help will be beneficial.When "Mrs Porn" is on her way out and a distance down the road - not necessarily having been gone for a long period - but going is detectible - it's time to work on repairing the couple. Up until then, the couple have different work to do and different journeys, before joint work.What is a Repair Attempt? Consider this - from The Gottman Institute: "A repair attempt is any statement or action — verbal, physical, or otherwise — meant to diffuse negativity and keep a conflict from escalating out of control. In his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, John Gottman, Ph.D., calls repair attempts a secret weapon of emotionally intelligent couples. His ground breaking research shows “the success or failure of a couple's repair attempts is one of the primary factors in whether [a] marriage is likely to flourish or flounder.”What do we do when our repair attempts fall flat? The simple act of making repair attempts is not enough. Knowing your partner, by understanding their "Needs"/Love Language/Apology Language/The Five Loves (in my book The Art Of Loving) - will help to devise ways to effectively de-escalate a conflict/argument -often arising from the betrayal. Each has lost their best friend.Conflict is inevitable and is not necessarily bad. It is very hard to remain in conflict with someone you are touching and embracing. The block is letting go of pride and actually making the first move to touch the other person. You should try it!All our deepest fears stem from our desire for connection (to be secure) and significance. Our deepest fears are therefore to lose connection and lack significance.There are 7 A's of an effective confession - as a first step towards Repair & Rebuilding connection. They are:1.    Address everyone involved: admit to your role which contributed to the conflict - to every person who has been directly affected.2.    Avoid “if”, “but” and “maybe”: do not use words that shift the blame to others or appear to minimise or excuse your guilt.3.    Admit specifically: identify the specific behaviour which you need to change.4.    Acknowledge the hurt: show that you are trying to understand the way someone must havefelt by your behaviour.5.    Accept the consequence: the consequence may have been severe and restitution may benecessary.6.    Alter your behaviour: explain to the person you offended how you plan to alter your behaviour in the future. 7.    Ask for forgiveness (and allow the other person time). (Forgiveness is one of the most valuable gifts possible. It is very important to understand true Forgiveness, before giving it. A part of Forgiveness is a promise never to again raise the issue against the person! (That can be very tough to uphold).Sex Addict - this applies to you: "If you board the wrong train, it is no use running along the corridor in the other direction" — DietrichBonhoefferGet some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior,Support the show

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What if your porn cravings are not only about sexual desire—but also about anger, resentment, stress, and emotions you have never learned how to process?For much of my life, simmering anger and frequent porn cravings were both part of my internal baseline. I treated them as separate struggles. Eventually, I began to recognize that they were often connected to the same deeper emotional pressure.In this episode, I explore the relationship between anger and porn addiction and explain why unresolved resentment can make pornography feel like an appealing form of relief. When we suppress anger, judge ourselves for feeling it, or continually replay the ways others have hurt us, our nervous system remains activated. Porn can then become a way to escape the pressure temporarily without resolving what is underneath it.I am joined by bestselling author and nationally syndicated radio host Brant Hansen, author of Unoffendable. Together, we discuss how anger can function like a dashboard warning light: it may be telling us that something feels threatening, unjust, painful, or out of alignment, but it should not be allowed to take control of the wheel.Brant and I also explore the practical meaning of forgiveness. Forgiveness does not require pretending that nothing happened, removing healthy boundaries, restoring trust immediately, or remaining in an unsafe relationship. It means releasing our commitment to resentment and refusing to let another person's actions continue occupying our inner life.If anger, relationship conflict, stress, or unresolved pain regularly trigger porn cravings for you, this conversation will help you begin understanding the deeper pattern and responding with greater presence, responsibility, humility, and faith.To learn more about Brant Hansen, including his books, podcast, and speaking, go to: branthansen.comTake the Next Step in Porn Addiction RecoveryLink to Blog Article for this EpisodeVisit No More Desire Tools for Recovery for recovery tools and training, including my free eBook, Workshop, The RAIL Method ™ and more to help you break free from porn.If you're tired of trying to quit porn on your own, the No More Desire Academy gives you a structured path to recovery through coaching, brotherhood, practical tools, and step-by-step training. Learn more about the Academy.If you want deeper, more personalized support, I also offer 1-on-1 porn addiction recovery coaching. We'll work directly on your patterns, emotional triggers, recovery plan, and long-term growth. Learn more about working 1-on-1 with Jake Kastleman.God bless.My gratitude for the music in this episode (in order of appearance) goes to Ievgen Poltavskyi, and Viacheslav Starostinfrom Pixabay.Support the showNo More Desire

What if pornography isn't really about sex at all, but about the search for connection? In this episode, I sit down with recovery coach and author Sathiya Sam to explore the deeper roots of porn addiction, the role of shame, identity and intimacy, and why so many men feel disconnected in today's digital world.We also discuss how AI, OnlyFans and emerging technology are reshaping relationships, and what men can do to build genuine connection and lasting freedom. Whether you're struggling yourself or simply trying to better understand the modern challenges men face, this conversation offers practical insights and hope.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Introduction01:54 - How AI Is Changing Pornography05:02 - The K-Shaped Dating Economy10:50 - What Makes Men Vulnerable to Porn Addiction?14:03 - Mother Wounds and Emotional Neglect19:13 - Shame, OnlyFans and the Porn Industry21:40 - Why Porn Is an Intimacy Disorder28:19 - Loneliness and the Need for Connection31:04 - Identity, Self-Worth and Recovery36:03 - Can Porn Ever Serve a Positive Purpose?39:51 - Why More Men Feel Hopeless Today42:06 - Moral Incongruence and Breaking the Cycle48:52 - Purpose, Meaning and Lasting Recovery53:50 - The Future of Porn, AI and Human Relationships01:01:01 - Where to Find Sathiya Sam***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

PBSE, Episode 342—Lying in addiction can take many forms, including outright denial, omission, minimization, exaggeration, deflection, gaslighting, and carefully constructed half-truths. Even when the subject of the lie appears trivial, the impact on a betrayed partner can be enormous because each new deception reinforces the message that reality is still being hidden and that she must remain vigilant to discover the truth. Repeated dishonesty is not merely a bad habit; it can become a form of integrity abuse that undermines a partner's safety, informed choices, and ability to trust her own perceptions.For many people, lying developed early as a protective response to punishment, instability, humiliation, rejection, or abandonment. Understanding these origins can help us approach the wounded and frightened parts of ourselves with compassion, but it cannot become an excuse for continuing to harm others. Habitual lying also reflects emotional immaturity because it attempts to avoid the normal discomfort of adulthood—disappointment, accountability, difficult conversations, consequences, and being seen accurately. Recovery begins when we honestly acknowledge that protecting our comfort, reputation, or immediate gratification has often taken priority over the safety of the person we say we love.Real integrity is built through repeated action rather than promises. We must practice moving toward discomfort, tell the truth before being discovered, and immediately correct any lie, omission, or distortion once we recognize it. This may require therapy, trauma work, accountability, recovery support, and clear relational boundaries, but no one else can make the central choice for us. Lasting change occurs when honesty becomes part of who we are—not simply a strategy to preserve the relationship—and when our partner can increasingly see that our words, actions, values, and priorities finally match.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   Why Do I Keep Lying to My Partner About the Stupidest Little Things?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

So we've been talking about the things to be aware of in the language around choices that we make, and the identity pieces connected to our choices, but what are some practical ways and things that we can be doing to combat the challenges against our identity as we take ownership, responsibility and accept God's invitation to honesty and ownership to face our choices while sustaining and maintaining our true identity in Christ? In this part 2 episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will walk us through practical steps to consider and how we change how we talk to ourselves in the midst of mistakes and challenges in life.

In today's episode of The Recovered Dad Podcast, we explore one of the most overlooked danger zones in pornography recovery: when fatigue meets opportunity. What starts as simple exhaustion can quickly become a vulnerable moment when access, isolation, or old habits create the perfect conditions for relapse. We unpack why fatigue is far more than just feeling tired. Whether it's burnout, emotional overload, stress, or simply running on empty, these conditions weaken our ability to respond intentionally. We also discuss how learning to recognize these danger zones, take proactive action, get visible with trusted brothers, and sit with uncomfortable urges can transform the recovery journey. Recovery isn't about eliminating every opportunity to struggle. It's about building the awareness and daily practices that help you respond differently when those moments inevitably come.     Top 10 Show Highlights [00:00] Welcome back to The Recovered Dad Podcast as we introduce this week's topic: Navigating the Danger Zone When Fatigue Meets Opportunity. [02:20] We explain how recovery becomes most vulnerable when emotional conditions like fatigue, anxiety, stress, or feeling unappreciated collide with opportunity. [03:45] Real-life examples of personal "danger zones," including being home alone, having unrestricted internet access, and operating without visibility or accountability. [05:00] Why fatigue is more dangerous than most men realize, including the surprising connection between sleep deprivation, impaired judgment, and recovery. [07:00] How practicing radical self-care helps prevent living in burnout and reduces vulnerability to pornography and other unhealthy coping behaviors. [08:30] Learning to treat urges like warning lights on your dashboard instead of commands you have to obey. Every urge carries information if you're willing to pay attention. [11:00] Why getting visible through community and accountability is one of the most powerful tools available when temptation begins to rise. [12:00] The importance of speaking urges out loud in a safe environment instead of carrying them in secrecy, where addiction gains its strength. [13:30] We discuss how learning to sit with urges instead of reacting immediately expands emotional resilience and builds long-term recovery strength. [20:00] We introduce the new 7-Day Reboot Challenge, designed as an accessible first step for men who are ready to begin active recovery through daily practice and community support.     Linked Resources Learn More About The Liberation Boot Camp https://www.therecovereddad.com Download the Father's Freedom Framework https://www.therecovereddad.com/fathers-freedom-framework Join the 7-Day Reboot Challenge https://www.therecovereddad.com/reboot

Understanding the difference between the things and choices that we've made compared to who we are in Christ is such an essential part to moving from the pit of despair and shame to the mountain top of life and grace. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of Celebrate Recovery, unpacked some practical things to remember and how we can get stuck in the identity piece when we think about the choices that we've made.

You open porn, planning to watch for a few minutes.Then hours disappear.It's not just a self-control problem. Repeated overstimulation trains your brain to crave higher dopamine, making focus, motivation, and real intimacy feel less rewarding.As your reward system adapts, the prefrontal cortex—the part responsible for impulse control—has a harder time stopping the behavior.In this episode, Dr. Trish Leigh explains what gooning does to the brain, why porn rewires the reward system, and how neuroplasticity makes recovery possible.What Gooning Does To Your Brain | The Science of Porn Addiction and Dopamine Hijack

Shame thrives in secrecy—but healing doesn't. In this deeply honest conversation, Dan sits down with Craig Perra, a former attorney whose secret life of pornography, strip clubs, prostitution, and compulsive sexual behavior nearly destroyed everything he cared about. After years of trying therapy, recovery groups, and identifying himself as a "sex addict," Craig reached a breaking point. What happened next completely changed how he viewed healing. Together, Dan and Craig explore why destructive behaviors often serve as coping strategies, how shame can keep us trapped, and why true healing begins with self-leadership instead of self-hatred. They discuss: • Why all behavior is need-seeking behavior • The hidden role shame plays in compulsive sexual behavior • Why some experts are moving away from the "sex addiction" label • How Parts Work helps people understand—not fight—themselves • The difference between suppressing urges and building real integrity • Practical hope for anyone feeling stuck in cycles of secrecy Whether you're personally struggling, supporting a spouse, or simply trying to understand how lasting change happens, this episode offers a compassionate and thought-provoking perspective on healing. And if you'd like futher help creating lasting change, check out how you can work with Dan and his team to reach your goals. Resources: Free offer from Craig: Text "Dan sent me" to 877-356-5573 for a free pdf of Craig's 175 page workbook on breaking bad habits and addictions. You can also find Craig Perra at these other locations: Patterns of Power Podcast The Mindful Habit System Instagram YouTube Facebook  Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

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Do you ever feel unfocused, unmotivated, distracted, restless, or disconnected from the life you actually want to live? Do you have a deep desire to build something meaningful, show up with more discipline, and finally break free from porn addiction, but it feels like your brain keeps getting in the way?In this episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with Ania Hulsman, a peak performance coach who specializes in helping neurodivergent, creative, and “gloriously unboxable” people learn how to work with their wiring instead of constantly fighting against it.Together, we talk about the connection between ADHD and porn addiction, dopamine, technology addiction, low motivation, procrastination, focus, structure, emotional regulation, and what it actually takes to build a lifestyle that supports lasting recovery from pornography.One of the biggest ideas in this conversation is that many men are not failing because they are lazy, weak, or hopeless. They are struggling because their brain, body, nervous system, and daily environment have been trained toward stimulation, novelty, escape, and instant gratification. When ADHD, dopamine dysregulation, smartphone addiction, short-form content, stress, shame, and pornography all come together, the brain can begin to crave relief more than real connection.But that does not mean you are broken, my friend.It means you need to understand your brain and build a recovery lifestyle that actually supports it.In this conversation, Ania and I discuss why ADHD and pornography addiction often go hand in hand, how dopamine drives motivation and focus, and why porn can create a vicious cycle of stimulation, crash, shame, and low motivation. We also talk about how technology and smartphones may be training our brains to become more distracted, restless, and disconnected from God, family, work, purpose, and real life.This episode is not just about information. It is about practical recovery. We talk about building structure, creating morning rhythms, using accountability, reducing digital stimulation, supporting the body through movement and nutrition, and learning how to stop treating your brain wiring like a moral failure.If you are a man who struggles with porn addiction, ADHD symptoms, compulsive sexual behavior, procrastination, technology addiction, or a constant need for stimulation, this episode will help you see your recovery in a deeper and more hopeful way.The heart of this episode is simple: you do not overcome porn addiction by hating your brain into submission. You overcome it by understanding your brain, supporting your body, regulating your nervous system, building meaningful structure, deepening your connection with God, and creating a life you no longer need to escape from.Check out more from Ania Hulsman at aniahulsman.com, where she helps neurodivergent, creative, and “gloriously unboxable” people better understand their wiring, build supportive structures, and lead from a place of grounded wholeness.If you are ready to take your recovery deeper, visit nomoredesire.com to access my free recovery resources, including the free workshop, The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn, and the free ebook, The 10 Tools to Conquer Cravings.You are not broken. Your brain has been trained, and by the grace of God, it can be retrained. Keep learning, keep growing, and keep building a mindset and lifestyle for lasting recovery from porn.To find out more or get in touch with Ania Hulsman, visit aniahulsman.com. And if you want more honest, unfiltered conversations like this one, visit her podcast: Neurodivergent Unplugged: Messy, Magnificent Stories from Unlikely Rebels.Link to Blog Article for this EpisodeVisit No More Desire Tools for Recovery for recovery tools and training, including my free eBook, Workshop, The RAIL Method ™ and more to help you break free from porn.If you're tired of trying to quit porn on your own, the No More Desire Academy gives you a structured path to recovery through coaching, brotherhood, practical tools, and step-by-step training. Learn more about the Academy.If you want deeper, more personalized support, I also offer 1-on-1 porn addiction recovery coaching. We'll work directly on your patterns, emotional triggers, recovery plan, and long-term growth. Learn more about working 1-on-1 with Jake Kastleman.God bless.MUSIC: My gratitude for the music in this episode (in order of appearance) goes to Ievgen Poltavskyi, Viacheslav Starostin, Yevhen Astafiev & Viacheslav Starostinfrom Pixabay.Support the showNo More Desire

Porn can be “occasional” and still run your life. If you've ever said “I'll stop” and then found yourself right back in the same loop, this conversation puts language to what's happening and gives you a grounded path forward.We're joined by GT Tan, a mental and sexual wellness coach and executive reboot strategist, to talk about porn addiction recovery in a way that goes beyond shame and willpower. We unpack what addiction really means when frequency varies, why porn is often a symptom of something deeper, and how stress, anxiety, loneliness, and unresolved pain can turn porn into a default coping tool. GT also explains porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED), including how ED can show up as partial or inconsistent erections, and why it matters to look at the full picture, from relationship dynamics to bloodwork, hormones, sleep, and diet.From there we get practical: identifying triggers, setting boundaries in a culture where sexual content is everywhere, and building long-term sobriety rather than short-term abstinence. We also touch on dating and intimacy, including why authenticity matters and why rejection can be a major relapse trigger if you don't have a solid foundation first.If you want a healthier relationship with sex, confidence, and connection, listen through and then subscribe, share the episode with a friend, and leave a quick review so more people can find it.Send us Fan Mail Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comicWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

In this episode (340), we respond to a deeply painful submission from a betrayed partner who is trying to determine whether she can stay in a marriage where her husband's recovery journey seems to be destroying her own healing journey. She discovered in 2024 that her husband had a long history of pornography addiction, alcoholism, escapism, attempted infidelity, trickle truths, and repeated broken promises. At the same time, she has been carrying an overwhelming personal load: mothering three children, navigating a long custody dispute, starting a new job after finishing college, managing the household, dealing with childhood sexual trauma and PTSD, and eventually experiencing a nervous breakdown and hospitalization.We emphasize that the first issue is not whether the marriage can be saved, but whether there is safety and stabilization. Her husband's alcohol-fueled rage, property damage, suicidal crisis, hospitalization, shame spirals, emotional attacks, and mental health diagnoses all point to the need for professional intervention, psychiatric care, risk assessment, and a clear safety plan. We also make clear that while diagnoses such as PTSD, borderline personality disorder, depression, anxiety, ADHD, alcoholism, and sex addiction can help explain behavior, they do not excuse harmful impact. His pain is real, but it cannot make her responsible for managing his emotions, preventing his collapse, or absorbing his volatility.The episode's core message is that his recovery must become his responsibility, not hers. A betrayed partner's overfunctioning can easily look like loving support, but if she is managing his emotions, protecting him from consequences, organizing his recovery, and sacrificing her own stability, the system becomes unsustainable and potentially dangerous. Any decision about staying cannot be based on his potential, temporary remorse, or the “flicker of a good man” she still sees in him; it must be based on sustained, observable, accountable change over time. Before true coupleship work can happen, there must be parallel healing: he must build and lead his own recovery system, and she must prioritize her safety, capacity, trauma healing, boundaries, and support network.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  When His Recovery Journey Is Destroying Her Healing JourneyLearn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Triggers, triggers, triggers. In celebrate recovery our goal is not to eliminate triggers from someone's life, but to help prepare someone to face them with health, courage, and strength. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, wraps up the conversation around triggers with some practical tools to help us face those with courage and strength.  He gives us some tools and ways that will enable us to stay on a healthy road to recovery and not live in a place of condemnation, but of conviction that leads to healing and growth.

Can porn addiction destroy emotional intimacy in marriage? Discover how pornography rewires the brain, damages attachment, destroys trust, and slowly disconnects couples emotionally—even before they realize it's happening. The answer may be far more devastating than most couples realize. In this episode of Beauty Beyond Betrayal, Lisa explores how pornography affects not only sexual behavior, but also the brain, emotional attachment, trust, and the covenant bond of marriage itself. Using biblical truth, neuroscience, and current research on pornography addiction and relational trauma, you'll discover: • How pornography rewires the brain's reward and attachment systems • Why porn often creates emotional disconnection long before couples recognize it • The hidden impact pornography has on the betrayed spouse • How pornography damages trust, vulnerability, and emotional intimacy in marriage • Three immediate steps to begin walking away from pornography and rebuilding connection Whether you're struggling with pornography yourself, healing from betrayal, or fighting for your marriage after sexual addiction, this episode offers practical hope and biblical truth for the journey ahead. Scriptures: Genesis 2:25, Matthew 5:28, James 5:16, Romans 12:2 Free Resource for Couples: Download Lisa's new ebook: AFTER THE DISCOVERY A 5-Step Emergency Healing Guide for Couples Facing Betrayal Your first steps after an affair, pornography discovery, or sexual betrayal. :: NEXT STEPS 7 PILLARS OF HEALING FROM BETRAYAL TRAUMA Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Email:   info@lisalimehouse.com WEBSITE:  www.lisalimehouse.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Austin shares how keeping a small journal of unfiltered “Dear God” letters for six months became a record of his recovery, transformed his relationship with God, improved communication with his wife, and supported about four months of sobriety. He describes feeling prompted to write “I'm a porn addict in recovery. Ask me anything.” on a poster board and sit at Utah Valley University; after three hours, one student approached, discussed shame and feeling unlovable, and later asked to keep talking. Sam connects this to his own prayer for guidance to expand the platform, then joins Austin in Salt Lake City near City Creek Mall to hold the sign with Austin, where several strangers engage in meaningful conversations. They discuss de-shaming addiction, the most common question they received, and invite listeners to try writing letters to God and email Sam to get involved.Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com01:17 Letters to God04:00 Sobriety Breakthrough04:36 Share About Your Porn Addiction07:30 Finding The One08:40 Why Vulnerability Matters11:04 Taking It to Salt Lake12:06 De-Shaming Porn Addiction14:50 Hard Questions Real Answers16:30 Hope Without Pressure

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Host Steve Cuss sits down with Matt Wenger for a candid conversation about addiction, intimacy, and healing. Together, they unpack the complexities of sexual addiction, the ripple effects it has on loved ones, and why recovery is best understood as a "team sport." Matt highlights the power of vulnerability, group support, and true intimacy as antidotes to the false connections addiction promises. Steve and Matt also shine a light on betrayal trauma experienced by partners, offering hope, empathy, and pathways toward healing for everyone impacted. Episode Resources: Explore Matt's work at the Begin Again Institute Understanding the Signs and Causes of Betrayal Trauma Romans (from the New Testament) - It is mentioned in the context of discussing sin as an infection or condition rather than solely a moral issue. Read The Great Commandment (in Luke, Matthew, and Mark's gospels) Read Romans 8:38-39  Read Romans 7 (Paul discuss sin struggles) More about Matt Wenger This episode of Being Human is from our vault. Sign up for Steve's Newsletter & Podcast Reminders Capable Life Newsletter Get the Assets & Liabilities pdf and the Life Giving List Join Steve at an Upcoming Intensive Capable Life Intensives Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sometimes when we think about triggers, there's some big and obvious triggers that we are well aware of. But sometimes there's those triggers that seem to come out of nowhere, whether it's a dream, memory, old song, Relationship conversation and more. What do we do when these triggers hit us out of left field? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, unpacks this important topic and gives us some practical tools to help us face these triggers and even help us to maintain a healthy posture and lens toward the triggers to learn and grow through them to stay on the road to recovery.

What if freedom from porn is actually possible? Not behavior management. Not white-knuckling. Not “doing better this time.” Real freedom.In this episode, we sit down with three Christian men who used to struggle deeply with pornography and are now walking in freedom. Three stories. Three different seasons of life. One honest conversation about what actually works.Aaron leads the Whole Man Project and disciples men fighting for sexual integrity every week. Aiden is 22, newly married, and got free before dating his now wife. Judah is 22, single, and learning how to pursue purity while waiting for marriage.We talk about what porn took from them, what finally changed, and what they wish every struggling guy knew.We'll talk about:The moment porn stopped being accidental and became a secret battleWhy “marriage will fix it” is one of the biggest lies Christian men believeThe difference between sobriety and actual freedomWhat finally broke the cycle after countless “I'm done for good” momentsThe one thing that consistently helps men get freeHow to fight porn when the struggle started before pubertyWhat to do if you only watch “once in a while” but still feel stuckHow to talk to a future spouse about porn without destroying trustHow freedom changes dating, intimacy, and marriageAI porn, fantasy chats, deepfakes, and what Gen Z is up against nowWhether total freedom is actually possibleThis episode is not about shame. It is about truth, freedom, and what to do when you are tired of starting over.If you spiraled this week, feel hopeless, or secretly think this is just who you are now, this conversation is for you.Let's talk about it

We love that this ministry puts us on a path and trajectory with other fellow strugglers in life that we call forever family. Sitting down and having heart-to-heart conversations is such a gift and, in this episode, that gift was so appreciated. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, sits down with Noah Whitaker, celebrate recovery representative of North Dakota, to have a conversation around recovery and specifically step 10 and how we can serve in a healthy posture and not out of codependency. They also discuss why and how celebrate recovery is so vital for the entire family and the impact on Noah's life growing up in recovery.

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