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What if pornography isn't really about sex at all, but about the search for connection? In this episode, I sit down with recovery coach and author Sathiya Sam to explore the deeper roots of porn addiction, the role of shame, identity and intimacy, and why so many men feel disconnected in today's digital world.We also discuss how AI, OnlyFans and emerging technology are reshaping relationships, and what men can do to build genuine connection and lasting freedom. Whether you're struggling yourself or simply trying to better understand the modern challenges men face, this conversation offers practical insights and hope.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Introduction01:54 - How AI Is Changing Pornography05:02 - The K-Shaped Dating Economy10:50 - What Makes Men Vulnerable to Porn Addiction?14:03 - Mother Wounds and Emotional Neglect19:13 - Shame, OnlyFans and the Porn Industry21:40 - Why Porn Is an Intimacy Disorder28:19 - Loneliness and the Need for Connection31:04 - Identity, Self-Worth and Recovery36:03 - Can Porn Ever Serve a Positive Purpose?39:51 - Why More Men Feel Hopeless Today42:06 - Moral Incongruence and Breaking the Cycle48:52 - Purpose, Meaning and Lasting Recovery53:50 - The Future of Porn, AI and Human Relationships01:01:01 - Where to Find Sathiya Sam***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
So we've been talking about the things to be aware of in the language around choices that we make, and the identity pieces connected to our choices, but what are some practical ways and things that we can be doing to combat the challenges against our identity as we take ownership, responsibility and accept God's invitation to honesty and ownership to face our choices while sustaining and maintaining our true identity in Christ? In this part 2 episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will walk us through practical steps to consider and how we change how we talk to ourselves in the midst of mistakes and challenges in life.
Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreNegative thinking is also a form of meditation - meditation on the wrong thing.CBT (Cognitive Behavioural) principles kick in - which tells us - my thinking (whether negative or positive) will always determine and lead to my behaviour. Therefore, a negative schema is being set up, such that negative behaviours are merely following the pre-determine trajectory set in place by cognitive/thinking.Change comes from the principle: "If you can change your mind, you can change your life" ie If you can change your thinking, you can change the trajectory of your life.When you think about a ship's trajectory, visualise the fact of a one degree shift in the rudder and where that ship will be in just one hour. Change is all about small degrees of shifts; no big leaps. Quickly gone = quickly return - when it comes to Sex/Porn/Love Addiction Recovery.At the Kairos Centre, we do not speak about someone gaining sobriety until 1 year from the last acting out. It takes time to rewire the brain and install new neural pathways, coming out of new thinking.May it be said of you: "I am now in control of my life. It was not always so". "How you think when you lose determines how long it will be until you win." — G.K. ChestertonGet some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior,Support the show
In today's episode of The Recovered Dad Podcast, we explore one of the most overlooked danger zones in pornography recovery: when fatigue meets opportunity. What starts as simple exhaustion can quickly become a vulnerable moment when access, isolation, or old habits create the perfect conditions for relapse. We unpack why fatigue is far more than just feeling tired. Whether it's burnout, emotional overload, stress, or simply running on empty, these conditions weaken our ability to respond intentionally. We also discuss how learning to recognize these danger zones, take proactive action, get visible with trusted brothers, and sit with uncomfortable urges can transform the recovery journey. Recovery isn't about eliminating every opportunity to struggle. It's about building the awareness and daily practices that help you respond differently when those moments inevitably come. Top 10 Show Highlights [00:00] Welcome back to The Recovered Dad Podcast as we introduce this week's topic: Navigating the Danger Zone When Fatigue Meets Opportunity. [02:20] We explain how recovery becomes most vulnerable when emotional conditions like fatigue, anxiety, stress, or feeling unappreciated collide with opportunity. [03:45] Real-life examples of personal "danger zones," including being home alone, having unrestricted internet access, and operating without visibility or accountability. [05:00] Why fatigue is more dangerous than most men realize, including the surprising connection between sleep deprivation, impaired judgment, and recovery. [07:00] How practicing radical self-care helps prevent living in burnout and reduces vulnerability to pornography and other unhealthy coping behaviors. [08:30] Learning to treat urges like warning lights on your dashboard instead of commands you have to obey. Every urge carries information if you're willing to pay attention. [11:00] Why getting visible through community and accountability is one of the most powerful tools available when temptation begins to rise. [12:00] The importance of speaking urges out loud in a safe environment instead of carrying them in secrecy, where addiction gains its strength. [13:30] We discuss how learning to sit with urges instead of reacting immediately expands emotional resilience and builds long-term recovery strength. [20:00] We introduce the new 7-Day Reboot Challenge, designed as an accessible first step for men who are ready to begin active recovery through daily practice and community support. Linked Resources Learn More About The Liberation Boot Camp https://www.therecovereddad.com Download the Father's Freedom Framework https://www.therecovereddad.com/fathers-freedom-framework Join the 7-Day Reboot Challenge https://www.therecovereddad.com/reboot
Understanding the difference between the things and choices that we've made compared to who we are in Christ is such an essential part to moving from the pit of despair and shame to the mountain top of life and grace. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of Celebrate Recovery, unpacked some practical things to remember and how we can get stuck in the identity piece when we think about the choices that we've made.
You open porn, planning to watch for a few minutes.Then hours disappear.It's not just a self-control problem. Repeated overstimulation trains your brain to crave higher dopamine, making focus, motivation, and real intimacy feel less rewarding.As your reward system adapts, the prefrontal cortex—the part responsible for impulse control—has a harder time stopping the behavior.In this episode, Dr. Trish Leigh explains what gooning does to the brain, why porn rewires the reward system, and how neuroplasticity makes recovery possible.What Gooning Does To Your Brain | The Science of Porn Addiction and Dopamine Hijack
Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreYou really are not as bad as yo think you are. Honestly!Your sense of who you really are has gone adrift. Try the exercise in today's video, to reclaim right perspectives over time. Self compassion is needed - toward self. Don't be that hard on yourself. Too much self chastisement and insufficient praise and acknowledgement of an achievement, has enhanced that self deprecation. Stop it now!Do the exercise for at least 30 days. Get to know you. Get to like you. Get to like you. The glass is half full and not always half empty - in your thinking.Become more self compassionate and therefore, more self caring. You are worth it. You deserve it.You really cannot love your close other, at the level that you think you do, if you don't love yourself first! Challenge me on that one!We need to get you to a place of "Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all. Well it's me of course". (And you say it with a smile). Ok - I will let go of forcing you to say it with a smile - to start with, but it needs to come.Begin the exercise described and be faithful in practising it for at least 30 days - consistently.Take small incremental steps. The Kairos Centre does not work with quick fixes; otherwise quickly in, quickly undone and out. Rather - let's see 'here a little; there a little; a little bit here and a little bit there". Remember the Pothole poem:A poem by Portia Nelson: There's a Hole in My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self- Discovery Verse I: I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk I fall in. I am lost ... I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. Verse II: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I am in the same place. But, it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out. Verse III: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in ... it's a habit ... but, my eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately. Verse IV: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. Verse V: I walk down another street.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior,Support the show
Shame thrives in secrecy—but healing doesn't. In this deeply honest conversation, Dan sits down with Craig Perra, a former attorney whose secret life of pornography, strip clubs, prostitution, and compulsive sexual behavior nearly destroyed everything he cared about. After years of trying therapy, recovery groups, and identifying himself as a "sex addict," Craig reached a breaking point. What happened next completely changed how he viewed healing. Together, Dan and Craig explore why destructive behaviors often serve as coping strategies, how shame can keep us trapped, and why true healing begins with self-leadership instead of self-hatred. They discuss: • Why all behavior is need-seeking behavior • The hidden role shame plays in compulsive sexual behavior • Why some experts are moving away from the "sex addiction" label • How Parts Work helps people understand—not fight—themselves • The difference between suppressing urges and building real integrity • Practical hope for anyone feeling stuck in cycles of secrecy Whether you're personally struggling, supporting a spouse, or simply trying to understand how lasting change happens, this episode offers a compassionate and thought-provoking perspective on healing. And if you'd like futher help creating lasting change, check out how you can work with Dan and his team to reach your goals. Resources: Free offer from Craig: Text "Dan sent me" to 877-356-5573 for a free pdf of Craig's 175 page workbook on breaking bad habits and addictions. You can also find Craig Perra at these other locations: Patterns of Power Podcast The Mindful Habit System Instagram YouTube Facebook Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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Do you ever feel unfocused, unmotivated, distracted, restless, or disconnected from the life you actually want to live? Do you have a deep desire to build something meaningful, show up with more discipline, and finally break free from porn addiction, but it feels like your brain keeps getting in the way?In this episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with Ania Hulsman, a peak performance coach who specializes in helping neurodivergent, creative, and “gloriously unboxable” people learn how to work with their wiring instead of constantly fighting against it.Together, we talk about the connection between ADHD and porn addiction, dopamine, technology addiction, low motivation, procrastination, focus, structure, emotional regulation, and what it actually takes to build a lifestyle that supports lasting recovery from pornography.One of the biggest ideas in this conversation is that many men are not failing because they are lazy, weak, or hopeless. They are struggling because their brain, body, nervous system, and daily environment have been trained toward stimulation, novelty, escape, and instant gratification. When ADHD, dopamine dysregulation, smartphone addiction, short-form content, stress, shame, and pornography all come together, the brain can begin to crave relief more than real connection.But that does not mean you are broken, my friend.It means you need to understand your brain and build a recovery lifestyle that actually supports it.In this conversation, Ania and I discuss why ADHD and pornography addiction often go hand in hand, how dopamine drives motivation and focus, and why porn can create a vicious cycle of stimulation, crash, shame, and low motivation. We also talk about how technology and smartphones may be training our brains to become more distracted, restless, and disconnected from God, family, work, purpose, and real life.This episode is not just about information. It is about practical recovery. We talk about building structure, creating morning rhythms, using accountability, reducing digital stimulation, supporting the body through movement and nutrition, and learning how to stop treating your brain wiring like a moral failure.If you are a man who struggles with porn addiction, ADHD symptoms, compulsive sexual behavior, procrastination, technology addiction, or a constant need for stimulation, this episode will help you see your recovery in a deeper and more hopeful way.The heart of this episode is simple: you do not overcome porn addiction by hating your brain into submission. You overcome it by understanding your brain, supporting your body, regulating your nervous system, building meaningful structure, deepening your connection with God, and creating a life you no longer need to escape from.Check out more from Ania Hulsman at aniahulsman.com, where she helps neurodivergent, creative, and “gloriously unboxable” people better understand their wiring, build supportive structures, and lead from a place of grounded wholeness.If you are ready to take your recovery deeper, visit nomoredesire.com to access my free recovery resources, including the free workshop, The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn, and the free ebook, The 10 Tools to Conquer Cravings.You are not broken. Your brain has been trained, and by the grace of God, it can be retrained. Keep learning, keep growing, and keep building a mindset and lifestyle for lasting recovery from porn.To find out more or get in touch with Ania Hulsman, visit aniahulsman.com. And if you want more honest, unfiltered conversations like this one, visit her podcast: Neurodivergent Unplugged: Messy, Magnificent Stories from Unlikely Rebels.Link to Blog Article for this EpisodeVisit No More Desire Tools for Recovery for recovery tools and training, including my free eBook, Workshop, The RAIL Method ™ and more to help you break free from porn.If you're tired of trying to quit porn on your own, the No More Desire Academy gives you a structured path to recovery through coaching, brotherhood, practical tools, and step-by-step training. Learn more about the Academy.If you want deeper, more personalized support, I also offer 1-on-1 porn addiction recovery coaching. We'll work directly on your patterns, emotional triggers, recovery plan, and long-term growth. Learn more about working 1-on-1 with Jake Kastleman.God bless.MUSIC: My gratitude for the music in this episode (in order of appearance) goes to Ievgen Poltavskyi, Viacheslav Starostin, Yevhen Astafiev & Viacheslav Starostinfrom Pixabay.Support the showNo More Desire
Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating
Porn can be “occasional” and still run your life. If you've ever said “I'll stop” and then found yourself right back in the same loop, this conversation puts language to what's happening and gives you a grounded path forward.We're joined by GT Tan, a mental and sexual wellness coach and executive reboot strategist, to talk about porn addiction recovery in a way that goes beyond shame and willpower. We unpack what addiction really means when frequency varies, why porn is often a symptom of something deeper, and how stress, anxiety, loneliness, and unresolved pain can turn porn into a default coping tool. GT also explains porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED), including how ED can show up as partial or inconsistent erections, and why it matters to look at the full picture, from relationship dynamics to bloodwork, hormones, sleep, and diet.From there we get practical: identifying triggers, setting boundaries in a culture where sexual content is everywhere, and building long-term sobriety rather than short-term abstinence. We also touch on dating and intimacy, including why authenticity matters and why rejection can be a major relapse trigger if you don't have a solid foundation first.If you want a healthier relationship with sex, confidence, and connection, listen through and then subscribe, share the episode with a friend, and leave a quick review so more people can find it.Send us Fan Mail Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comicWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077
In this episode (340), we respond to a deeply painful submission from a betrayed partner who is trying to determine whether she can stay in a marriage where her husband's recovery journey seems to be destroying her own healing journey. She discovered in 2024 that her husband had a long history of pornography addiction, alcoholism, escapism, attempted infidelity, trickle truths, and repeated broken promises. At the same time, she has been carrying an overwhelming personal load: mothering three children, navigating a long custody dispute, starting a new job after finishing college, managing the household, dealing with childhood sexual trauma and PTSD, and eventually experiencing a nervous breakdown and hospitalization.We emphasize that the first issue is not whether the marriage can be saved, but whether there is safety and stabilization. Her husband's alcohol-fueled rage, property damage, suicidal crisis, hospitalization, shame spirals, emotional attacks, and mental health diagnoses all point to the need for professional intervention, psychiatric care, risk assessment, and a clear safety plan. We also make clear that while diagnoses such as PTSD, borderline personality disorder, depression, anxiety, ADHD, alcoholism, and sex addiction can help explain behavior, they do not excuse harmful impact. His pain is real, but it cannot make her responsible for managing his emotions, preventing his collapse, or absorbing his volatility.The episode's core message is that his recovery must become his responsibility, not hers. A betrayed partner's overfunctioning can easily look like loving support, but if she is managing his emotions, protecting him from consequences, organizing his recovery, and sacrificing her own stability, the system becomes unsustainable and potentially dangerous. Any decision about staying cannot be based on his potential, temporary remorse, or the “flicker of a good man” she still sees in him; it must be based on sustained, observable, accountable change over time. Before true coupleship work can happen, there must be parallel healing: he must build and lead his own recovery system, and she must prioritize her safety, capacity, trauma healing, boundaries, and support network.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: When His Recovery Journey Is Destroying Her Healing JourneyLearn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreConsider these Life Stages by Dr Thomas Armstrong, Ph.D (www.institute4learning.com):"Here are what I call the twelve gifts of the human life cycle:1. Prebirth: Potential – The child who has not yet been born could become anything – a Michelangelo, a Shakespeare, a Martin Luther King – and thus holds for all of humanity the principle of what we all may yet become in our lives.2. Birth: Hope – When a child is born, it instills in its parents and other caregivers a sense of optimism; a sense that this new life may bring something new and special into the world. Hence, the newborn represents the sense of hope that we all nourish inside of ourselves to make the world a better place.3. Infancy (Ages 0-3): Vitality – The infant is a vibrant and seemingly unlimited source of energy. Babies thus represent the inner dynamo of humanity, ever fueling the fires of the human life cycle with new channels of psychic power.4. Early Childhood (Ages 3-6): Playfulness – When young children play, they recreate the world anew. They take what is and combine it with the what is possible to fashion events that have never been seen before in the history of the world. As such, they embody the principle of innovation and transformation that underlies every single creative act that has occurred in the course of civilization.5. Middle Childhood (Ages 6-8): Imagination – In middle childhoood, the sense of an inner subjective self develops for the first time, and this self is alive with images taken in from the outer world, and brought up from the depths of the unconscious. This imagination serves as a source of creative inspiration in later life for artists, writers, scientists, and anyone else who finds their days and nights enriched for having nurtured a deep inner life.6. Late Childhood (Ages 9-11): Ingenuity – Older children have acquired a wide range of social and technical skills that enable them to come up with marvelous strategies and inventive solutions for dealing with the increasing pressures that society places on them. This principle of ingenuity lives on in that part of ourselves that ever seeks new ways to solve practical problems and cope with everyday responsibilities.7. Adolescence (Ages 12-20): Passion – The biological event of puberty unleashes a powerful set of changes in the adolescent body that reflect themselves in a teenager's sexual, emotional, cultural, and/or spiritual passion. Adolescence passion thus represents a significant touchstone for anyone who is seeking to reconnect with their deepest inner zeal for life.8. Early Adulthood (Ages 20-35): Enterprise – It takes enterprise for young adults to accomplish their many responsibilities, including finding a home and mate, establishing a family or circle of friends, and/or getting a good job. This principle of enterprise thus serves us at any stage of life when we need to go out into the world and make our mark.9. Midlife (Ages 35-50): Contemplation – After many years in young adulthood of following society's scripts for creating a life, people in midlife often take a break from worldly responsibilities to reflect upon the deeper meaning of their lives, the better to forge ahead with new understanding. This element of contemplation represents an important resource that we can all draw upon to deepen and enrich our lives at any age.10. Mature Adulthood (Ages 50-80): Benevolence – Those in mature adulthood have raised families, established themselves in their work life, and become contributors to the betterment of society through volunteerism, mentorships, and other forms of philanthropy. All of humanity benefits from their benevolence. Moreover, we all can learn from their example to give more of ourselves to others.11. Late Adulthood (Age 80+): Wisdom – Those with long lives have acquired a rich repository of experiences that they can use to help guide others. Elders thus represent the source of wisdom that exists in each of us, helping us to avoid the mistakes of the past while reaping the benefits of life's lessons.12. Death & Dying: Life – Those in our lives who are dying, or who have died, teach us about the value of living. They remind us not to take our lives for granted, but to live each moment of life to its fullest, and to remember that our own small lives form of a part of a greater whole".Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior,Support the show
Triggers, triggers, triggers. In celebrate recovery our goal is not to eliminate triggers from someone's life, but to help prepare someone to face them with health, courage, and strength. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, wraps up the conversation around triggers with some practical tools to help us face those with courage and strength. He gives us some tools and ways that will enable us to stay on a healthy road to recovery and not live in a place of condemnation, but of conviction that leads to healing and growth.
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Can porn addiction destroy emotional intimacy in marriage? Discover how pornography rewires the brain, damages attachment, destroys trust, and slowly disconnects couples emotionally—even before they realize it's happening. The answer may be far more devastating than most couples realize. In this episode of Beauty Beyond Betrayal, Lisa explores how pornography affects not only sexual behavior, but also the brain, emotional attachment, trust, and the covenant bond of marriage itself. Using biblical truth, neuroscience, and current research on pornography addiction and relational trauma, you'll discover: • How pornography rewires the brain's reward and attachment systems • Why porn often creates emotional disconnection long before couples recognize it • The hidden impact pornography has on the betrayed spouse • How pornography damages trust, vulnerability, and emotional intimacy in marriage • Three immediate steps to begin walking away from pornography and rebuilding connection Whether you're struggling with pornography yourself, healing from betrayal, or fighting for your marriage after sexual addiction, this episode offers practical hope and biblical truth for the journey ahead. Scriptures: Genesis 2:25, Matthew 5:28, James 5:16, Romans 12:2 Free Resource for Couples: Download Lisa's new ebook: AFTER THE DISCOVERY A 5-Step Emergency Healing Guide for Couples Facing Betrayal Your first steps after an affair, pornography discovery, or sexual betrayal. :: NEXT STEPS 7 PILLARS OF HEALING FROM BETRAYAL TRAUMA Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood: Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Email: info@lisalimehouse.com WEBSITE: www.lisalimehouse.com Got a question you want answered? ASK HERE
• breaking the porn to masturbation loop through clear rules • shifting from selfish impulses to service and obedience • using permission requests to slow down urges and earn rewards • setting penalties for porn use and unauthorized touching • treating mistakes as training data instead of disappearing • reducing porn like a withdrawal habit with audits and tracking • building discipline for sharper focus and better life goals • choosing a chastity cage Go to my Fet Life. You join my chastity society, the Crown and Cage Chastity Society. Go to lockedinlust.com. You can purchase the MACH2 Vice. My PROMO code CHASTITYQUEEN, all caps, all one word and it is stackable. You can leave Me a tip here on my podcast under support the show link Try to connect with your local BDSM community. Fetlife is a great way to see others in similar FLR and chastity lifestyles. You can check out Mine in Fetlife at Chastity-Queen. It's a free to join. Hugs, Chastity Queen Locked In Lust 15% OFF:CHASTITYQUEEN Use Discount Code:CHASTITYQUEEN for 15% OFF ANYTHING at www.lockedinlust.com Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showSUPPORT ME in 2 ways! XOXO1: https://paypal.me/TiffanyTheQueen?country.x=CA&locale.x=en_USOR2: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1992649/supportCHASTITY IS FREEDOMI LOVE YOU
In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Austin shares how keeping a small journal of unfiltered “Dear God” letters for six months became a record of his recovery, transformed his relationship with God, improved communication with his wife, and supported about four months of sobriety. He describes feeling prompted to write “I'm a porn addict in recovery. Ask me anything.” on a poster board and sit at Utah Valley University; after three hours, one student approached, discussed shame and feeling unlovable, and later asked to keep talking. Sam connects this to his own prayer for guidance to expand the platform, then joins Austin in Salt Lake City near City Creek Mall to hold the sign with Austin, where several strangers engage in meaningful conversations. They discuss de-shaming addiction, the most common question they received, and invite listeners to try writing letters to God and email Sam to get involved.Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com01:17 Letters to God04:00 Sobriety Breakthrough04:36 Share About Your Porn Addiction07:30 Finding The One08:40 Why Vulnerability Matters11:04 Taking It to Salt Lake12:06 De-Shaming Porn Addiction14:50 Hard Questions Real Answers16:30 Hope Without Pressure
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Host Steve Cuss sits down with Matt Wenger for a candid conversation about addiction, intimacy, and healing. Together, they unpack the complexities of sexual addiction, the ripple effects it has on loved ones, and why recovery is best understood as a "team sport." Matt highlights the power of vulnerability, group support, and true intimacy as antidotes to the false connections addiction promises. Steve and Matt also shine a light on betrayal trauma experienced by partners, offering hope, empathy, and pathways toward healing for everyone impacted. Episode Resources: Explore Matt's work at the Begin Again Institute Understanding the Signs and Causes of Betrayal Trauma Romans (from the New Testament) - It is mentioned in the context of discussing sin as an infection or condition rather than solely a moral issue. Read The Great Commandment (in Luke, Matthew, and Mark's gospels) Read Romans 8:38-39 Read Romans 7 (Paul discuss sin struggles) More about Matt Wenger This episode of Being Human is from our vault. Sign up for Steve's Newsletter & Podcast Reminders Capable Life Newsletter Get the Assets & Liabilities pdf and the Life Giving List Join Steve at an Upcoming Intensive Capable Life Intensives Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sometimes when we think about triggers, there's some big and obvious triggers that we are well aware of. But sometimes there's those triggers that seem to come out of nowhere, whether it's a dream, memory, old song, Relationship conversation and more. What do we do when these triggers hit us out of left field? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, unpacks this important topic and gives us some practical tools to help us face these triggers and even help us to maintain a healthy posture and lens toward the triggers to learn and grow through them to stay on the road to recovery.
Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreLife Stages (not Midlife Crises!) is about how Human Development is divided into distinct Stages. Here is a reminder of those Stages:Prenatal -> infancy -> early childhood -> middle childhood -> adolescence -> early adulthood -> middle adulthood -> late adulthood.It is stating the obvious, but recognise (and not only pay lip-service) to the fact that each Stage is marked by certain unique traits, patterns, behaviours, thought processes and its own individual characteristics. Therefore, each Stage has its own challenges - where it can feel like an unfair moving of the goal posts; an unfair shift which impacts the dynamics of the relationship and the (signed!) Manifesto terms of partnership role which you each had signed up to at the beginning of the relationship or had evolved over time. It is reasonable for one partner to cry 'foul' and 'unfair' - when they are experiencing the shifts; a moving of the goal post.We are all developing as Human Beings. That continues until we leave planet Earth! There will be these milestones. They will raise challenges.We will need to negotiate our way through how our unique individual self, with our culture - ever evolving - creates challenges in relationships and puts pressures upon it.Since it is an ongoing lifetime process, there are times when partners may be left scratching their heads and asking 'What just happened' or 'What's going on' and not be able to readily find answers or an explanation; made worse because the changing and evolving other partner, may also not themself understand or know why they are doing or not doing those certain actions/inaction and are left scratching their own head.The couple may need input from a Therapist.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior,Support the show
What if freedom from porn is actually possible? Not behavior management. Not white-knuckling. Not “doing better this time.” Real freedom.In this episode, we sit down with three Christian men who used to struggle deeply with pornography and are now walking in freedom. Three stories. Three different seasons of life. One honest conversation about what actually works.Aaron leads the Whole Man Project and disciples men fighting for sexual integrity every week. Aiden is 22, newly married, and got free before dating his now wife. Judah is 22, single, and learning how to pursue purity while waiting for marriage.We talk about what porn took from them, what finally changed, and what they wish every struggling guy knew.We'll talk about:The moment porn stopped being accidental and became a secret battleWhy “marriage will fix it” is one of the biggest lies Christian men believeThe difference between sobriety and actual freedomWhat finally broke the cycle after countless “I'm done for good” momentsThe one thing that consistently helps men get freeHow to fight porn when the struggle started before pubertyWhat to do if you only watch “once in a while” but still feel stuckHow to talk to a future spouse about porn without destroying trustHow freedom changes dating, intimacy, and marriageAI porn, fantasy chats, deepfakes, and what Gen Z is up against nowWhether total freedom is actually possibleThis episode is not about shame. It is about truth, freedom, and what to do when you are tired of starting over.If you spiraled this week, feel hopeless, or secretly think this is just who you are now, this conversation is for you.Let's talk about it
In this episode (338), we explore a new but increasingly common form of betrayal: porn addiction escalating into AI-generated sexual fantasy, including the use of a partner's image or likeness as the “character” in altered images, videos, or written sexual scenarios. The betrayed partner who wrote in described a long marriage marked by hidden pornography, years of sexual disconnection, fantasy-based online behavior, and now AI-created sexual content involving her own image. We make it clear that this does not become intimacy simply because the partner's image is involved. If the behavior is rooted in secrecy, objectification, fantasy, comparison, escape, and compulsive sexual gratification, then it remains part of the addiction cycle.We explain that AI has become a powerful new playground for the addict brain because it offers endless novelty, personalization, and control. The limbic system, which seeks pleasure and avoids pain, can rationalize almost anything when addiction is active. An addict may tell himself, “It's my wife, so it's okay,” or “This is better than traditional porn,” but those rationalizations miss the deeper reality. Using a partner's likeness in AI fantasy without true relational connection and consent is not healing; it can actually amplify betrayal trauma by turning the partner into an object inside the addiction system. We also challenge the idea that “AI therapy,” cold turkey, or private willpower can resolve a decades-long compulsive sexual pattern.The path forward requires both clarity and courage. The betrayed partner cannot choose recovery for the addict, but she can choose strong boundaries, outside support, betrayal-trauma healing, and a life that is not dependent on whether he finally “gets it.” The addict, meanwhile, must stop trying to do recovery on his own terms and seek real help—professional intervention, group support, daily accountability, transparency, sobriety boundaries, and long-term lifestyle change. AI may be the newest form of synthetic sexual escape, but the solution remains the same: real recovery, real accountability, real repair, and a return to authentic human connection.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: When Porn Addiction Evolves into AI Fantasy Using the Partner as the “Character”Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
We love that this ministry puts us on a path and trajectory with other fellow strugglers in life that we call forever family. Sitting down and having heart-to-heart conversations is such a gift and, in this episode, that gift was so appreciated. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, sits down with Noah Whitaker, celebrate recovery representative of North Dakota, to have a conversation around recovery and specifically step 10 and how we can serve in a healthy posture and not out of codependency. They also discuss why and how celebrate recovery is so vital for the entire family and the impact on Noah's life growing up in recovery.
Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreHuman beings have a life cycle. Each stage is marked by subtle adjustments to cope with the social, economical, cultural and sometimes, chronic stressors of the stage. Here is just one version of Life Stage age grouping categories. There are variants. Let us look at one version. Each stage looking at the different phases of life: Infant (Birth- 2 years): Changes in schedules – bedtime, routine etc., strangers and chaos can cause anxiety during this phase.Child (3-9 years): Separation anxiety can be seen as the children start going to school. Social skills and peer relationships are developed during this stage.Adolescent (10-19 years): Peer pressure, romantic relationships and independent identity are common changes during puberty. These may bring about strong emotional reactions and behavioural risks.Young adult (20-29 years): Beginning college, taking up a job, starting a family and buying a house are some of the significant events during this stage and may demand moving out of your comfort zone.Adult (30-39 years): Managing family and career growth along with increased responsibilities may lead to stress.Middle age (40-60 years): First signs of aging and effects of lifestyle, menopause in women, children leaving the house, grandchildren arriving, career peak – all these things may all take a toll on a person's mental and physical health.Independent old age (Age 60 onward): More signs of aging and lifestyle effects. Retirement, health problems and medications may cause a strain on a person in this stage.Dependent old age (Optional stage): The feeling of being dependent and requiring assistance may disturb a person and may reduce their ability to enjoy life.End of Life: This is the time when a person realizes that he/she has come close to the end and may require a lot of pep talk and love and care.Why are these stages of interest? Life Stages are NOT Mid-life crises, as some like to call them. Often said in a negative or derogatory way. Each stage has its own issues that may need help to negotiate through. But what if a partner is going through Life Stage changes in different ways and at different points in life? That is a recipe for much conflict and can feel like that partner is 'moving the goal posts' by doing behaviours outside of the norm in the relationship.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior,Support the show
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As God's children who are serving in ministry, sometimes the first thing to go in our walk is learning how to rest in Christ. Busyness can be one of the greatest enemies to sustainability and longevity in ministry. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, sits down with West Regional Director Jeff Redmond to discuss what it looks like practically to rest in Christ and some things that he's learned in his walk as a believer and recovery.
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Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreLet's check that we are on the same page as we have a discussion about 'Values'. I am speaking about such things as being able to be Creative, have Integrity, Fitness, Security, Faith, Self Confidence, Wealth, Winning, Honesty and many more.In the cool light of day, we would never purposely/consciously/intentionally trash our Values. They are a part of us and how we do life, want to do life and choose to do life on planet earth.Our Values define us; define who we are; represent who we are; shape who we are. How dare you invite me to just flippantly get rid of one of my Values; destruct, destroy - trash my Values. Why on earth would anyone do that?So, my question is - when Sex/Porn addiction triggers arise and you 'Act out', is the fact of Acting out, an indication that you have just Trashed all of you Values?Can you see patterns of activities and behaviours which show you undermining those dearly held Values, which in other situations, you would and could never undermine or trash your Values. Look how you undermine and trash your Values when emotions - such as conflict with a partner - gets the better of you; also when 'Acting out' beckons. Neural Pathway repetitive hamster wheel patterns of behaviours (from past learned and even inherited scripts from family) may be at work repeatedly, but you did not notice, analyse or give credence to what you were doing? You were actually trashing and undermining your strongly held Values.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior,Support the show
Cruz Gamboa spent 20+ years climbing to the top of General Electric — closing an $800 million deal, leading capital markets across Latin America, and earning a spot in the executive ranks. Then the CEO called to congratulate him. And he felt completely empty.In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra sits down with Cruz Gamboa, founder of Ascend Growth Ventures, to unpack what happens when high-performing men reach the goal — and discover it was the wrong one.Cruz gets raw about work addiction, panic attacks, porn use, daily drinking, a marriage that couldn't survive the grind, and the moment a doctor told him the problem wasn't physical. It was between his ears.If you're a driven man privately wondering why success doesn't feel like enough — this conversation is for you.What you'll take away:-Why work addiction is one of the most socially accepted and least recognized dopamine traps-How identity gets fused to professional title — and what it costs when that title changes-The difference between being curious about your dream and being committed to it-Why lack of self-love is the root cause behind every compulsive pattern Craig sees in clients -How to build a mission big enough that bad days become data instead of disasters-The OKR framework for aligning your goals to your actual purpose — not just your metricsWho this is for: Executives, entrepreneurs, and high-performing men who are winning on paper and quietly asking "is this it?"Connect with Cruz Gamboa:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cruzgamboaWebsite: https://ascendgrowthventures.comWebsite: www.AscendGrowthVentures.comTake the Self-Sabotage Assessment (free): www.mindfulhabitmastery.com/slstPatterns of Power is the essential playbook for high-performing men ready to dismantle reactive habits and step into their full power.Hosted by Craig Perra, founder of The Mindful Habit System.
This episode (336) explores the painful and complicated reality of a young betrayed partner who is trying to recover from betrayal trauma while also carrying childhood trauma and her own history with porn/sex addiction. We begin by validating the sheer complexity of her situation and making clear that she is not crazy, cursed, or hopelessly broken. When betrayal trauma, early trauma, and addiction collide, each one can intensify the others, making the internal experience feel overwhelming and chaotic. At the same time, we explain that these are not necessarily three unrelated problems requiring three separate full-time recoveries. Instead, they are often connected parts of one larger system that needs an integrated healing plan.A central message of the article is that trauma and addiction cannot be treated only at the level of symptoms. Betrayal trauma responses are often attempts to find safety, truth, and protection from further harm. Childhood trauma responses may be old survival strategies that once helped a person endure neglect, abuse, or instability. Addiction often develops as a way to numb, escape, regulate, or cope with overwhelming emotional pain. Using the lens of Internal Family Systems, we describe how wounded parts and protective parts can drive behaviors that may look irrational, destructive, or confusing on the surface, but actually have a deeper protective logic underneath. Reasons are never excuses, but understanding those reasons gives individuals and couples a better map for healing.The article also emphasizes that this partner's own addiction does not cancel out her betrayal pain, and her betrayal trauma does not excuse her own addictive behaviors. Both realities must be held together with honesty, compassion, accountability, and boundaries. We encourage her to begin not by trying to fix everything at once, but by stabilizing her nervous system, building support outside the relationship, stopping ongoing harm, and creating a paced recovery plan. If the relationship itself is constantly destabilizing, a structured break or carefully defined boundaries may be helpful, but only with clear purpose, goals, support, and re-evaluation. Ultimately, the message is one of hope: this situation is complex, but not hopeless; layered, but not impossible; and genuine healing can begin one courageous, supported step at a time.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: Betrayal Trauma, Childhood Trauma & My Own Addiction—Where Do I Even Start?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
TV presenter and broadcaster Ore Oduba joins us for an incredibly raw and unflinchingly honest conversation on pornography addiction, toxic masculinity, and grief.Ore opens up about being introduced to explicit material at just nine years old and the devastating "duality" of spending 30 years hiding his addiction while living a highly successful public life.This discussion dives deep into how repeated exposure to objectifying content rewires how young men see women, and how that culture feeds directly into the online manosphere. Following the tragic loss of his sister to suicide, Ore shares how he channeled his grief into purpose.It's an urgent look at breaking the silence that stops men from seeking help, and the clarity that saved his life: for his children.This episode covers the following themes: Addiction, Shame, Toxic Masculinity, Grief, and Recovery.Need Support?Samaritans: Call 116 123 or visit samaritans.orgNarcotics Anonymous: na.orgAlcoholics Anonymous: alcoholics-anonymous.org.ukMental Health Mates: mentalhealthmates.co.ukShout: https: giveusashout.orgIAPT: https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/adults/nhs-talking-therapies/Better Help
In recent years, the celebrate recovery global ministry has expanded the way churches can become a celebrate recovery ministry by hosting open share group only within their church. God is doing remarkable things through this function of the ministry and lives are being changed & pointed to Christ. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of Celebrate Recovery, sits down with Todd Harris, a CR representative in California to hear his heart and how he believes that a revival is spreading through the nation through this new approach to reaching more people through the church and open share group only. Listen to Todd's passion and heart for Jesus and the ministry of celebrate recovery and be inspired.
What if God was pursuing you... even through a YouTube algorithm?In this powerful episode of Your Biggest Breakthrough, we sit down with filmmaker and police officer Jaron Lockridge to discuss faith, addiction, suffering, purpose, healing, and how one unexpected YouTube video became a turning point in his life.Jaron shares his incredible journey from witnessing trauma and brokenness as a police officer to battling a personal faith crisis that nearly pulled him away from God. He opens up about overcoming pornography addiction, discovering a deeper relationship with Christ, and why he felt called to leave successful secular filmmaking behind to create faith-based media that authentically portrays the struggles Christians face.If you've ever questioned God, struggled with shame, wrestled with addiction, felt distant from Him, or wondered why suffering exists, this conversation will encourage and challenge you.Podcast Chapters[00:00] Podcast Preview[01:10] Topic and Guest Introduction:[03:16] Welcome, Jaron Lockridge[04:55] Why He Became a Police Officer[06:30] The Emotional Weight of Law Enforcement[07:28] Success in Secular Filmmaking[08:30] The Faith Crisis That Changed Everything[10:00] The YouTube Video God Used[11:10] Instant Freedom from Addiction[11:50] Why He Transitioned to Christian Filmmaking[13:50] Breaking Free from Hidden Struggles[15:40] Dealing with Pain God's Way[17:02] Reading the Bible Changed Everything[18:20] Why He Created House for the Broken[21:40] Lessons from Law Enforcement and Broken Humanity[26:09] What's Missing in Faith-Based Media[29:55] The Character He Relates to Most[32:28] The Greatest Lesson God Taught Him[35:05] What He Hopes Viewers Experience[37:45] How to Overcome Shame and Find Healing[39:15] Where to Watch House for the Broken and ResourcesResources mentioned:Website: https://cinemaministry.comYouTube: Cinema MinistryFacebook: @cinemaministryInstagram: @CinemaMinistryTikTok: @CinemaMinistryWatch for House for the Broken coming soon to streaming platforms.Guest's bio:Jaron Lockridge is a police officer, filmmaker, writer, director, and the founder of Cinema Ministry Productions. With a lifelong passion for storytelling, he spent years producing independent films while building a career in law enforcement, giving him a unique perspective on both the brokenness and resilience of the human experience.Through his work as a police officer, Jaron has witnessed firsthand the struggles, pain, and challenges people face during some of life's darkest moments. These experiences, combined with his own personal journey of faith, have deeply shaped his approach to storytelling.After a life-changing encounter with God, Jaron felt called to redirect his creative talents from secular filmmaking to creating Christ-centered content that shares the hope of the Gospel. Today, he produces authentic, emotionally honest films and series that explore themes of brokenness, shame, redemption, healing, and God's grace.Jaron is best known for his upcoming faith-based series, House for the Broken, a powerful project inspired by personal experiences and real-life stories. Through filmmaking, ministry, and speaking, he is passionate about helping people discover hope, healing, and purpose through a deeper relationship with Jesus Christ.Call to action:Make sure to visit yourbiggestbreakthrough.com for your FREE access to our e-book and audiobook, "Unstoppable: Divine Intervention in Overcoming Adversity," showcasing six powerful real-life stories. Get ready to be inspired by these mind-blowing breakthroughs!To learn more about Wendie and her Visibly Fit program, visit wendiepett.comTo find out more about Todd and his coaching program for men, find him on the web at toddisberner.com.All the links you need to subscribe to the podcast are at both our websites! And if you feel so inclined, we'd be honored if you were to leave a rating and review of our show. It definitely helps with us being more visible to more people.And if we like it, we might just read your review on the podcast!
In this episode (335), we respond to a courageous submission from a betrayed partner who is navigating early recovery with her partner after multiple discovery days. Both partners have trauma histories, both are in individual therapy, and both are trying to understand what healthy sexual intimacy can look like after porn addiction, betrayal trauma, and past sexual coping patterns. Her questions center on lingerie, fantasies, kinks, dressing up, and whether these elements can ever be part of authentic intimacy—or whether they inevitably feed the pornified parts of the brain. We honor the depth and maturity of her questions because this is one of the most complex areas couples face in recovery.We emphasize that healthy sexuality cannot be reduced to a simple list of approved or forbidden behaviors. Lingerie, fantasy, experimentation, or sexual play may feel empowering and connecting for one couple, while feeling objectifying, unsafe, or triggering for another. The real questions are about intention, impact, consent, safety, presence, and whether each partner feels seen as a whole person. For the addict in recovery, this means asking whether he is truly present with his partner or superimposing old fantasy templates onto her. For the betrayed partner, it means asking whether she is freely choosing sexual expression or performing out of fear, people-pleasing, comparison, or the need to feel desirable and enough.We also discuss the role of a sex fast as a potentially powerful tool in recovery when it is done with transparency, structure, purpose, and ideally professional guidance. Taking sex off the table for a season can help reduce compulsive dependence on sex, create safety for the betrayed partner, and allow the couple to build other areas of intimacy that may have been neglected. But we caution that a sex fast should not become avoidance, silence, or emotional distancing. In the end, the goal is not to create a fear-based sexual relationship or to let pornography continue defining the bedroom. The goal is for the couple to consciously create a sexual relationship based on being rather than performing—where both partners are safe, present, authentic, fully seen, and deeply connected.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: Healthy Sexuality or Pornified Performance? Navigating Lingerie, Fantasies, Kinks, etc., and Authentic Intimacy in RecoveryLearn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, global field director of celebrate recovery, will continue the conversation of understanding how our childhood can play into our present day today. What are some other things that we need to be aware of and how our present behavior might be connected with a root from our past, that needs our attention. Listen in and explore some thoughts and reflective questions to think about as we lean into the greater part of our story to take to the One who heals the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
You quit porn…But somehow you still feel off.Flat. Restless. Disconnected from real life.Because recovery is not just about stopping porn.It's about dopamine regulation.Scrolling. Gaming.Sports betting. Constant stimulation.Over time, your brain adapts to fast dopamine.So normal life starts feeling quieter.Focus drops. Motivation feels inconsistent. Real connection feels harder.In this video, Dr. Trish Leigh explains why recovery is not really about a “90-day reset.”It's about whether your brain relearns regulation.How Long Does It Take To Recover From A Porn Addiction?
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Cam Lambert shares how years of hidden pornography addiction eventually led to devastating consequences, public exposure, and hopelessness. But when everything came crashing down, God used brokenness, confession, and Christian community to completely transform his life.This is a powerful testimony about shame, redemption, repentance, discipleship, and the hope found in Christ. Based on a conversation from the Calibrate Conversations podcast.Timestamps:0:04:04 — Hidden Sin Turns Into Double Life0:06:21 — First Time Seeing Christians Confess Sin0:07:24 — The Text Message Confession That Changed Everything0:08:26 — Arrested, Exposed, And Certain His Life Was Over0:10:05 — Choosing Between Porn And The Bible0:11:43 — Why Jail Became A Turning Point0:13:19 — “I Had Nothing Left To Hide”0:16:17 — Turning His Past Into Ministry For Other Men0:27:08 — The Alarming Pornography Statistics Inside The Church0:49:42 — Over 400 Men Sign Up For Fight Club MinistryCheck out Cam's Ministry @TheOneLostSheepMinistries Website: https://theonelostsheep.comJoin us weekly as we strive help people embrace God's standard for sexuality! Other ways to listen:https://linktr.ee/calibrateconversations#Pornography #Truth #Jesus
Unfortunately, the American church is full of people who wear the mask of hypocrisy. And it's not just sexual sin. Many “deeds of the flesh” are indulged in, like anger, envy, gossip, and greed. But you would never know it because many who sit in churches every Sunday have learned to play the Christian part so well, it's hard to know what's true or what's just an act. Vinny Pappas joins the podcast to share how the Lord exposed the hypocrisy in his life, and how that was crucial in leading him out of sexual sin. Resources: Pure Life Ministries Residential Program 20 Truths that Help in the Battle with Porn Addiction (Video Series) By Steve Gallagher 20 Truths that Help in the Battle with Porn Addiction (40 Day Study Journal) By Steve Gallagher At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry (Book) By Steve Gallagher Have Any Questions for Us?
Joined this week by Lamar Skinner. Lamar opens up about the battle that nearly kept him stuck — addiction to pornography, self-doubt, shame, and constantly making excuses for the man he had become. He shares the real moments that forced him to take ownership of his life, including a simple moment on a lawn mower where he realized nobody was coming to save him and change had to start with him.We dive deep into what it actually takes to break destructive habits, face the truth head-on, and build standards that don't bend when life gets hard. Lamar talks about leaning into faith, embracing discipline, and becoming the type of man who leads himself first so he can lead others well.This conversation is raw, honest, and packed with perspective for any man who knows he's capable of more but feels stuck in the cycle of comfort, shame, or inconsistency. Enjoy.Follow Lamar's Journey @rebuild_the_man // @luckytinesazInterested in my private coaching & FREE workouts? Link below.http://www.nockperformance.com/BrainTree Nutrition: Use code "NOCK" for 15% off at https://www.braintreenutrition.com/?ref=NOCKUse code "NockP" for 10% off at https://ollin.co/
In the recovery journey, we are lifelong learners. Sometimes things can show up and give us information that is so important that we lean into so that we can understand our greater story. The goal is not to keep us stuck there or even shame or blame our family system, but understand it so that we can ultimately grow toward healing. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, global field director of celebrate recovery will unpack this important topic and help us consider some things to think about so that we can continue the growth process.
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Addiction destroys in the dark. Freedom begins in the light. This week on the Known Legacy Podcast, Brian Becker — certified executive coach, author, and speaker — joins Bill and Travis for a raw and powerful conversation about addiction, confession, healing, and restoration. For years, Brian kept his struggle with pornography hidden, believing silence would protect him and his family. Instead, it slowly eroded trust, intimacy, and connection. In this episode, Brian courageously shares the moment he finally confessed the truth, the painful aftermath that followed, and the incredible freedom, healing, and hope God brought through honesty and surrender. If you or someone you know is battling addiction, shame, secrecy, or isolation, this conversation is a reminder that healing is possible and no one is too far gone for redemption. Don't miss this powerful episode with Brian Becker. Pick up Brian's book Tender Lions here: https://tenderlions.org/the-book/ Get your own Wake up Guide and seven day reset: https://mailchi.mp/knownlegacy/the-wake-up-guide Join our weekly mens study - Adrenaline Shot - every Thursday morning at 6:45 am Central. https://soldiersforfaith.com/bible_study/soldiers-adrenaline-shot/ Pick up your own copy of More Than You at www.morethanyoubook.com join our email list! https://mailchi.mp/knownlegacy/sign-up-page Chapters (00:00:01) - Known Legacy Podcast(00:03:43) - What Advice Would Your Junior High Self Give You?(00:07:34) - What Would Your Junior High Self Tell You?(00:07:55) - Meet the Board of Directors(00:08:47) - Tender Lions: A Junior High Self-talk(00:12:17) - Brian Becker on Healing From The Hurt of His Dad(00:15:38) - Kurt Angle on His Addiction to Pornography(00:20:05) - Pornography Is Not Worth It...(00:24:20) - Bill on His Wife's Porn Addiction(00:29:51) - Brian On Confessing His Sin
Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on behavior, but underneath the struggle is often something much deeper:A hungry heart longing to be filled by God instead of numbed through escape.In this episode, Shawn and Helena unpack humility, surrender, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus meet the deeper places of your heart.Using Andrew Murray's book Humility: The Beauty of Holiness as a foundation, this conversation explores how real freedom grows through dependence on God, intimacy with the Holy Spirit, and learning to empty ourselves of self-reliance so we can be filled with truth and life.In this episode:why heart hunger matters in porn recoveryhow humility creates space for healing and freedom with JesusHelena's story of coming out of depression through surrender and filling herself with Christthe difference between suppressing desire and bringing it to Godhow intimacy with Jesus changes porn recovery, marriage, and parentingwhy lasting freedom from porn requires more than discipline alone--If you've ever known what you should do… but still struggled to trust God deeply in your recovery journey, this episode will help things start making sense.
Grief is one of the most complex aspects of the recovery journey that we will all walk through. There is an element of grief in all of our stories that we may not even be aware of. Some grief has a funeral that follows, and some grief doesn't. In this episode, RodneyHolmstrom, global field, director of Celebrate recovery, will unpack and help us understand how some of the losses of what never was or shattered dreams are just as important to grieve and organize toward healing as any other aspect of grief. Healing happens when we organize and name the grief with God and safe community.
One of the schemes from the enemy is to convince us to keep those past stories and the scary parts of our heart in hiding and in that dark cave. But there is a high cost to hiding and staying in a place of secrecy. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, global field director of celebrate recovery, will unpack the importance of our story and understanding how naming all parts of our story leads to healing so that we can walk in healing and a new beautiful story that God has painted for us.