Done with Debauchery

During the second half of my conversation with Nadine Mulvina, host of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, we discuss the topic of sober travel. As two sober girls, we understand the unique challenges that come with traveling while staying sober. We share our personal experiences of traveling and offer valuable tips to help listeners stay on track while exploring the world - particularly the importance of having a plan. Whether you're a seasoned traveler or embarking on your first sober trip, we have invaluable insights and tips for making your trip a success.⁣ ⁣ Connect with Nadine:⁣⁣ Instagram @the.soberbutterfly⁣⁣ thesoberbutterfly.com/ ⁣

In this two-part episode, I have the privilege of speaking with Nadine Mulvina, the host of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, about her journey to sobriety. Nadine opens up about the events that led to her drinking and substance use and the impact college drinking culture had on her addiction while she was trying to cope with trauma. She shares about her time living in Mexico and how some of the events she experienced there lead her to an emotional rock bottom and ultimately, her decision to get sober. Nadine's journey towards sobriety wasn't easy, and she speaks openly about the challenges she faced along the way.⁣ ⁣ Tune in next week for part two of our conversation!⁣ ⁣ Connect with Nadine:⁣ Instagram @the.soberbutterfly⁣ https://thesoberbutterfly.com/ ⁣

In this episode, I tell you all about the experience of my first sober vacation to Mexico for my best friends wedding. I share about how my mindset going into the trip was important in maintaining my sobriety, not being tempted to drink despite the challenge of being surrounded by alcohol at an all inclusive resort and how it felt being able to remember all the special moments and connecting more deeply with friends and family. Throughout the episode, I offer insights and advice for anyone who may be considering a sober vacation or attending a special event while sober.

This week I'm joined by Tawny Lara, the Sober S*xpert. We have an honest and fun conversation about such a wide range of topics. Tawny tells me about her old party girl lifestyle, how her sobriety journey started with a promise to herself on her 30th birthday, why it's important to date yourself and all about sober sex. Whether you're single or attached, this is an amazing episode to listen to.⁣ ⁣ Connect with Tawny⁣ Instagram @tawnymlara⁣ https://www.tawnylara.com/⁣ ⁣

Jon Lupin, also known as The Poetry Bandit, shares his story of how he went from a life of daily drinking, blacking out and disappearing for hours to his life now - 7 years sober and the owner of his is own business. Jon is an amazing storyteller and you'll want to keep hearing more as he takes you through what it was like reentering the dating scene as a newly sober and divorced man and shares some of his not so great early dating experiences.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Connect with Jon⁣⁣ Instagram @the_poetrybandit⁣⁣ https://www.etsy.com/ca/shop/thepoetrybandit ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Shop The Poetry Bandit on Amazon⁣⁣ https://www.amazon.com/s?i=stripbooks&rh=p_27%3AThe+Poetry+Bandit&s=relevancerank&text=The+Poetry+Bandit&ref=dp_byline_sr_book_2

Guess who's back with the first episode of 2023! This week is a solo episode where I talk about my intentions for the upcoming year, one of the biggest gifts I've received through my sobriety and how I'll be celebrating my upcoming one year sobriety milestone.

The final episode of 2022 includes a recap of my first sober Christmas, reasons why you should try Dry January and a thank you message to all my listeners.

This week I'm joined by David Thompson, President and Co-founder of Clearsips. David is almost 9 years alcohol free and is here to share what led him to give up alcohol and eventually start an Ontario-based, family-owned business dedicated to bringing premium, great-tasting non-alcoholic drinks to Canadians.⁣ ⁣ David's knowledge of non alcoholic wine and spirits is unmatched and he's seen firsthand the evolution of the non alcoholic beverage industry. Now he's helping make premium non alcoholic options more accessible.⁣ ⁣ Tickets to Clearsips Dry January Tasting Event⁣ https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/dry-january-non-alcoholic-wine-spirits-tasting-by-clearsips-tickets-495329522937⁣ ⁣ Shop + Follow Clearsips⁣ https://clearsips.ca⁣ @clearsips

Amy C Willis is back! Amy leads the conversation as we discuss substance use and addiction in the 2SLGBT+ community. Amy shares her own experience as a queen woman who previously had an alcohol addiction, the connection between gay bars as safe spaces and substance use and the rates of addiction in the community.⁣ ⁣ Connect with Amy⁣ Instagram @msamycwillis⁣⁣ Hol + Wel www.holandwell.com/⁣ ⁣ The 5 Step Guide to Kick-Start Your Sobriety Workbook by Amy C Willis⁣ https://www.holandwell.com/5-steps-to-sobriety⁣ ⁣ Lose the Booze Group Coaching Program Starting January 2, 2023⁣ https://www.holandwell.com/groupcoaching⁣ ⁣ Amy's Article for The Progressive⁣ https://progressive.org/op-eds/big-alcohol-fuels-addiction-lgbtq-community-willis-220816/⁣ ⁣ Sarah Kate's Non Alcoholic Sparkling Punch With Spiced Rum⁣ https://www.somegoodcleanfun.com/blog/non-alcoholic-harvest-sparkling-punch⁣

My best friend is here! In this episode, I'm joined by my long time best friend, Alicia. We discuss how our friendship and drug use started in high school, how our substance use changed when I moved to a new city shortly after graduating, and what her relationship with alcohol is now. Alicia also shares her perspective on what it was like to watch from another city as I drank and what it's like when your best friend gets sober.

In this episode, I share all the details of my first sober birthday. This birthday weekend had everything from a pottery class, and a psychic medium, to going to an NBA game. This was the most fun birthday that I'd had in a very long time, and I did it all without alcohol.

I'm taking this week off to celebrate my birthday! I didn't want to leave you without an episode so today's episode is a rerelease of a special episode that was originally released in October on The Sober Butterfly Podcast. Now you can listen to it directly in the Done with Debauchery feed.⁣ ⁣ Once again, Nadine Mulvina and I link up for a lot of laughs and to talk about sobriety. We discuss three controversial topics that are often brought up in sobriety and share our personal experiences and opinions. Topics included are non alcoholic drinks, being ‘Cali sober' and Dry Drunk vs Emotional sobriety.⁣ ⁣ You can watch the full episode on my YouTube channel⁣ https://www.youtube.com/@donewithdebauchery⁣ ⁣ Connect with Nadine Mulvina⁣⁣⁣ Instagram @the.soberbutterfly⁣⁣⁣ The Sober Butterfly Podcast⁣

Amy C Willis joins me this week to talk all things sobriety. Amy knew there was more to life than just alcohol. Now she is 6 years sober, living a life she loves while helping others recover through her work as a sobriety and mindset coach. This conversation also highlights why alcohol is a feminist issue and how big alcohol companies are specifically targeting women to try and get us to drink more alcohol.⁣ ⁣ Connect with Amy⁣ Instagram @msamycwillis⁣ Hol + Wel www.holandwell.com/

Elizabeth Dopp, the host of St. Louis Sober, shares her sobriety journey and so much of herself in this episode. She opens up about how her drinking used to affect her life and relationships, why getting sober for someone else doesn't work and how she struggled with mental health issues during her drinking years that improved drastically once she got sober. ⁣ ⁣ Connect with Elizabeth⁣ Instagram @elizabeth_dopp and @stlouissober⁣ TikTok @elizabethdopp⁣

This week I'm joined by Nadine Mulvina from The Sober Butterfly Podcast as we talk sober celebrities. We share who some of our favourites are, who we relate to most and which newly sober celebs inspire us! We had so much fun recording this episode and hope you enjoy listening.⁣⁣ ⁣ We're drinking Château del-ISH Non-Alcoholic Sparkling Rosé and Smoky Bay 0.0% Chardonnay.⁣ ⁣⁣ Connect with Nadine Mulvina⁣⁣ Instagram @the.soberbutterfly⁣⁣ The Sober Butterfly Podcast⁣

I'm bringing you a solo episode this week! I'm sharing a few life updates including making new sober friends, hosting my first sober girls get together in Toronto and discussing feelings I've been experiencing regarding my sobriety feeling “too easy”.⁣ ⁣ Listen to this episode to find out what podcast I'm featured as a guest on and where you can listen to the episode right now!

Stephanie shares how for a long time she was chasing the feeling she got from her first night drinking, to what her life was like throughout her college years while she was in her addiction to how her life has changed with 13 years of recovery and sobriety behind her.⁣  ⁣ In this conversation, Stephanie gives me a different perspective of Alcoholics Anonymous based on her experiences, why it was important for her to find a sponsor and community that she identified with and how being of service is such an important active part of her recovery. You don't want to skip this episode!⁣ ⁣ This episode contains mentions of sexual assault and other sensitive topics relating to mental health. Listener discretion is advised.⁣ ⁣ Connect with Stephanie⁣ Instagram @stephanieissober⁣ Twitter @stephsoberlife ⁣ ⁣ Sweetest Freedom Market⁣ https://www.sweetestfreedommarket.com/

Tara shares her journey to sobriety beginning in her teen years when her drinking began, how she dealt with codependency in toxic relationships and faced mental health challenges but through it all, there was something inside of her that would not let her addiction win. Through sobriety, she was forced to face all parts of herself and today she is 9 years sober and living a life that wouldn't be possible if she didn't stop drinking. This episode contains mentions of domestic abuse, suicide attempts and other sensitive topics relating to mental health. Listener discretion is advised. Connect with Tara Instagram @helloiamtara

Going out as a newly sober person can be scary, especially when so many social events seem to revolve around alcohol. In this week's episode, I'm sharing four tips to help you set boundaries for yourself and prepare you to show up to social situations during early sobriety feeling confident in your decision to not drink alcohol.

My talk with Nick Devine was absolutely divine! Nick is the co-founder of Edna's Non Alcoholic Cocktail Company, a Canadian non alcoholic ready to drink cocktail company. In this episode, we talk about all things Edna's, from what inspired Nick to create the company, how the ingredients chosen give these drinks their unique flavours and the rising demand for non alcoholic drink options. Instagram: @ednascocktails Shop Edna's: https://www.ednascocktails.com/

On this week's episode, I'm joined by Natalie Eberhart. Natalie shares how she went from living a party lifestyle, seeing sober celebrities online and thinking “That could never be me” to now being 9 months sober in her mid 20's. Natalie also shares how getting sober has improved her relationship with her boyfriend and has allowed her to make new and deeper connections with friends.⁣ ⁣ If you're feeling scared about what a sober life might look like, this episode is for you!⁣ ⁣ Connect with Natalie⁣ Instagram: @natalieeberhart⁣ Tiktok: @_girlgonemild

Am I an alcoholic? I asked myself this question many times before getting sober from alcohol. In this episode, I discuss what my drinking looked like before I stopped, how I compared my drinking to others and what became one of the most important messages I received from a stranger while trying to get sober.

This week, I'm joined by Sarah Kate from Some Good Clean Fun. Sarah shares how her relationship with alcohol changed after becoming a mom, what let to her to rethink her drinking, why having delicious non-alcoholic drink options is important and why she started Some Good Clean Fun, an alcohol-free lifestyle platform for women who are sober and sober curious. Connect with Sarah Kate https://www.somegoodcleanfun.com/ This Naked Mind by Annie Grace https://www.amazon.ca/This-Naked-Mind-Discover-Happiness/dp/0525537236/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3J5S2QXXBLAC3&keywords=this+naked+mind&qid=1661810195&sprefix=this+naked+mind%2Caps%2C81&sr=8-2

My first episode as solo host of Done with Debauchery is an honest one. I open up about my first time drinking, how my relationship with drugs and alcohol grew over the years and what led to my decision to remove alcohol from my life completely. I also get into what you can expect to hear on the show moving forward! Thank you for sticking with me and I can't wait to share more with you.

There have been some changes happening behind the scenes, but we're back this week with a new episode! Join us as we recap our successes in Dry and No Buy July and share an important announcement related to the future of the show and what the Done with Debauchery podcast and social media pages will look like going forward.

Most people may believe that the opposite of addiction is sobriety, however many influential mental health professionals have pointed out that connection is the opposing force to addiction. Advancing technology and the pandemic has made us the most digitally connected civilization, but is this true connection? Join us as we discuss how ever-increasing addictions may be the product of a severely disconnected world and how we can become more connected in a disconnected world. Show Mentions: https://www.ted.com/talks/johann_hari_everything_you_think_you_know_about_addiction_is_wrong?language=en https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201509/the-opposite-addiction-is-connection

It's peak summer and the perfect time to reevaluate your behaviours. Enter Dry July and No Buy July! It's a thing! Wellness lives beyond removing behaviours and this month we are committing to diving deep. Listen in and join us for the next 31 days as we give up more vices. Are you willing to join? https://www.dryjuly.com/

This week, Keisha and Dennise get super personal about their recent journey to a life without debauchery. Keisha celebrates 100 days sober and shares her experience of a sober weekend getaway, including tips we can all use heading into the summer season! Dennise speaks about her recent (aka 100th) attempt at failed moderation and coming back to abstaining each and every time.

Childhood experiences and relationships have the ability to shape our lives. This can be the difference between living a healthy, fulfilling life or one of struggle. Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) are more likely to display a number of behaviour traits and are more inclined to particular mental health disorders. The source of these behaviours and/or conditions is often overlooked and misunderstood. We hope this episode brings awareness, compassion and reflection to those who may have grown up in homes with high levels of substance use. Free Resource: Al-anon is a support program for people whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking, such as families and friends of alcoholics. Alateen is a specific program for young people, and is made up of mostly teenagers al-anon.org/ Show Mentions: https://www.amazon.ca/Adult-Children-Alcoholics-Janet-Woititz/dp/1558741127 https://www.verywellmind.com/common-traits-of-adult-children-of-alcoholics-66557 https://psychcentral.com/blog/imperfect/2016/06/you-dont-outgrow-the-effects-of-an-alcoholic-parent#10-Ways-growing-up-with-an-alcoholic-parent-can-affect-you-as-an-adult https://www.mentalhelp.net/parenting/what-happens-to-children-of-alcoholic-parents/ https://www.infiniterecovery.com/mental-health/adult-children-of-alcoholics-characteristics-personality-traits-and-effects-of-alcoholism-on-families-when-living-with-an-alcoholic-parent/

Growing up with a parent that has an active substance use disorder can have a huge impact on the children in the affected household. Shockingly, 1 in 8 kids grows up in this type of home environment. A much more common occurrence than most people think! These children are vulnerable to a laundry list of physical and mental health issues. Join us on this week's episode where we shed light on the challenges kids in SUD homes may experience. Free Resource: Al-anon is a support program for people whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking, such as families and friends of alcoholics. Alateen is a specific program for young people, and is made up of mostly teenagers https://al-anon.org/ Show Mentions: https://www.verywellmind.com/the-effects-of-parental-alcoholism-on-children-67233 https://www.addictioncenter.com/alcohol/growing-up-alcoholic-parents-affects-children/ https://www.samhsa.gov/data/sites/default/files/report_3223/ShortReport-3223.html https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/brochures-and-fact-sheets/parenting-prevent-childhood-alcohol-use

We have all seen the memes ‘It's 5 o'clock somewhere' or ‘mom juice' and maybe even mindlessly giggled upon reading some. Mommy wine culture has become increasingly widespread in the last couple of years. It's a source of camaraderie, memes, marketing, and stress management for modern moms, but one that is not without huge, and often overlooked, health risks. This week we talk about the toxicity and health risks of society's mindless embrace of mommy wine culture. It's not all yoga pants, rose and SUVs. There is a dark side to moms and increasing alcohol consumption. The impacts are felt throughout families and society. Show Mentions: Max Lugavere https://www.instagram.com/maxlugavere/ SNL Skit: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=2363524547125404 https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/daily-quotidien/190624/dq190624b-eng.htm https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/Real-Look-Mommy-Wine-Culture https://www.healthline.com/health-news/the-rise-of-mommy-juice-culture-and-its-impact-on-kids https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/parenting/a34655653/wine-mom-jokes-danger/

Often experienced and not discussed is the comorbidity of substance use and disordered eating. These two behaviours often go hand in hand with an estimated 50% of substance users also struggling with disordered eating. What came first; substance use or disordered eating? Does one predicate our tendency toward the other? Is using food, drugs, or alcohol even about the vice? Or are we just grasping at anything to soothe our emotional discomfort? Join us on this week's episode as we dive into all these questions and more! Show Mentions: https://vertavahealth.com/blog/addiction-and-eating-disorders/ https://keltyeatingdisorders.ca/wp-content/uploads/2016/03/Eating-Disorders-and-Substance-Abuse.pdf https://nedc.com.au/eating-disorders/eating-disorders-explained/disordered-eating-and-dieting/

This week we're joined by our first guest Nichole Wurth of WildlyAlive.com and host of the Same Team Podcast. Nichole discusses her own experiences with different types of addictions, her relationship with her body, how these two can be linked and what it means to get on the same team as your body. Connect with Nichole at https://wildlyalive.com

April is Alcohol Awareness Month! The month is all about education on alcohol use, addiction denial, and destigmatization - all things Done with Debauchery stands behind. Keisha shares surprising information on the stars! And finally, we close things out by both getting vulnerable about our length of time sober and the validity of our voices. We hope this episode empowers your unique journey as you explore your relationship with alcohol and other substances. Show Mentions: https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/2022/04/10937095/jupiter-neptune-conjunction-pisces-meaning-effects-april-2022 https://www.alcohol.org/awareness-month/

Have you heard the term ‘hungry ghost'? Coined by the infamous Gabor Mate, the hungry ghost is a symptom of addictive behaviours and relates to an ongoing attempt to fill or cope with an unmet need through addictive behaviour. The issue with the addict's strategy is that the core need is left unmet, we never feel fulfilled. In our experience, when we removed the core coping mechanism other ones popped up more frequently (cue online shopping and endless gummy bears). This week we talk about some of the emotional motivators and replacement behaviours we have been experiencing in early sobriety. Addictions are not just substances, so if you find yourself endlessly scrolling or unable to stop working this episode is also for you! Show Mentions: ‘In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts', Gabor Mate https://www.addictioncenter.com/community/addiction-replacement/ https://www.healthline.com/health/dopamine-addiction#motivation

Pink cloud syndrome - an experience of elation, excitement and joy in early sobriety. As we discuss in this week's episode, it's not always clear skies ahead. Listen in as Dennise and Keisha chat about their experiences in early sobriety, the pink cloud and challenges this label and experience may bring. Show Mentions: https://www.aperoazero.ca/boites/p/cafelimo https://www.healthline.com/health/pink-cloud https://www.addictiongroup.org/blog/pink-cloud/

Moderation - is it possible? The million-dollar question for people who may consider themselves a ‘problem drinker'. Most people start their sober journey through multiple attempts at moderation. We create rules around how much, what days, places, people we can drink around. I know we did! Our failed attempts at moderation were part of our process of becoming fully abstinent from alcohol. Grab your fav non-alcoholic cocktail and join us as we break down our experiences with attempted moderation, reintroducing alcohol, and the dreaded label of relapse! Show Mentions: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-relapse-22106

Binge drinking and blackouts are synonymous in North American drinking culture. As teens, we jump into binge drinking as a means to escape, become more ‘adult', and deal with the discomfort these transitional years bring. Binge drinking and blackouts are normalized and celebrated throughout teen and young adult culture and sets us up for increased high-risk behaviours, possible medical issues, and an increased risk of alcohol use disorder. Join us as we attempt to remember the things we actively forgot and the risks we were unaware we were taking each and every time we drank in excess. Show Mentions: https://www.cdc.gov/alcohol/fact-sheets/binge-drinking.htm https://www.addictioncenter.com/alcohol/blacking-out/ https://www.thewalkercenter.org/blog-posts/what-happens-when-you-black-out https://verdugopsych.com/alcohol-induced-blackout-how-does-alcohol-impact-memory/ https://www.healthline.com/health/what-causes-blackouts#prevention

Do traditional substance use labels feel like they don't fit? Society identifies substance use as black and white – extreme abuse/physical addiction or moderate/normal. What do you do when you feel like either extreme is not you? This can leave you feeling isolated and misunderstood as you begin to question your use. Enter ‘Gray Area Drinking', a term that is gaining in popularity and one we both identify with. Pop on your headset and follow along as we breakdown gray area drinking, the stigma around labels and our personal experiences with AA. Show Mentions: Jolene Park – Gray Area Drinking https://www.ted.com/talks/jolene_park_gray_area_drinking https://grayareadrinkers.com/ AA – Worldwide https://www.aa.org/aa-around-the-world

Have you ever left a conversation questioning your experience, feelings, and judgments? It's possible you experienced gaslighting. Join Dennise and Keisha, as they break down the subtle and not so subtle ways you may experience gaslighting with friends and family in early sobriety. Plus take away tips we have found to deal with it(aka boundaries)! So grab your fav non-alcoholic drink and let's get into it! Show Mentions: https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/12/19/18140830/gaslighting-relationships-politics-explained https://www.verywellmind.com/is-someone-gaslighting-you-4147470#:~:text=Gaslighting%20is%20a%20form%20of,question%20their%20judgments%20and%20reality Be who you are and say what you feel quote by Bernard Baruch

Have you attempted Dry January or Sober October only to find yourself having cocktails at a birthday party one week in? In this episode, Dennise and Keisha break down the importance of knowing your why. Identifying your motivations for sobriety will be an absolute game changer for staying accountable. Join us as we break down the difference between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation and why the latter is a sobriety tool you do not want to overlook. Show Mentions: Intrinsic Motivation https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-intrinsic-motivation-2795385

Meet Dennise & Keisha - co-creators and hosts of the Done with Debauchery Podcast. This episode gives you all the deets on who we are, how we became friends, our current relationship with drugs and alcohol, and most importantly, our favourite pizza place! We also discuss our intentions for creating this podcast and what we hope our listeners will gain as they follow along. Show Mentions: Blondies Pizza https://www.instagram.com/blondies_pizza/ Blackout – Remember the Things I Drank to Forget by Sarah Hepola