Podcasts about this naked mind

What would you do if your child told you that you loved alcohol more than them?  For Kate, this devastating moment was just one of many wake-up calls in her journey with alcohol. Growing up in a home where emotions weren't openly expressed, Kate developed patterns of using alcohol to navigate social situations and ultimately to escape feeling uncomfortable emotions. As her tolerance increased, her drinking became more secretive, hidden from her family in elaborate ways that mirrored behaviors she had observed in her own mother. Her story is a vulnerable, honest look at how alcohol keeps you from feeling emotions—grief, guilt, shame, and even love—and what it took to stop hiding and start healing.  In this eye-opening conversation, Kate shares with Annie how finding This Naked Mind helped her understand the science behind her drinking, empowering her to not just change her behavior but transform her entire relationship with alcohol and emotions. In this episode, Annie and Kate discuss: Kate's childhood experiences with alcohol and her mother's secret drinking The progression from social drinking to daily consumption and hiding Creative methods for obtaining alcohol during COVID restrictions The growing disconnect with her daughter due to prioritizing drinking How alcohol keeps you from feeling emotions while hijacking brain chemistry The final day of drinking and the 3 AM moment of decision to change Discovering This Naked Mind and the failed attempt at moderation The transformative experience of The Path program and health improvements Rebuilding trust with family and becoming a certified coach to help others And other topics… Episode links: Connect with Kate - https://freedomaffect.com/ Start reading This Naked Mind - https://thisnakedmind.com/bookJoin The Path - https://go.tnmprograms.com/the-path-from-this-naked-mind Related Episodes: EP 616: Reader's Question – Getting Past Emotional Drinking Triggers – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-616-readers-question-getting-past-emotional-drinking-triggers/ EP 632: Reader's Question – How To Stop Running Away from Life and Emotions – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-630-readers-question-how-to-stop-running-away-from-life-and-emotions/ Dare to Feel: Agnes's Naked Life | E771 - https://thisnakedmind.com/dare-to-feel-agness-naked-life-e771/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Why do we keep drinking even when we know it's hurting us? For Sammie, the answer lay beneath the surface—in the pain she hadn't faced. Her story shows how unresolved trauma leads to drinking and how ignoring what hurts often feels safer than healing. Until it doesn't. In this episode, she opens up about what it took to stop numbing and start living fully. In this raw and real conversation, Annie and Sammie unpack how unresolved trauma leads to drinking and what it means to finally feel your feelings without fear. From parenting through grief to starting over at 49, Sammie's story is a powerful reminder that it's never too late to break old cycles. In this episode, Annie and Sammie discuss: Early alcohol exposure and teen drinking Losing both parents in 19 days Why drinking became her emotional escape What grief looked like in real life What made her stop for good The power of The PATH and the community Experiencing her first alcohol-free festivals Using nursing experience to help others detox safely Finding meaning in coaching and service How unresolved trauma shows up in everyday choices Why it's never too late to change And other topics… Episode links: Sammie's Sober Heroes - https://www.sammiessoberheroes.com/Start reading This Naked Mind - https://thisnakedmind.com/bookJoin The Path - https://go.tnmprograms.com/the-path-from-this-naked-mind

What if the glass of wine you reach for every evening is actually treating something deeper than just stress? Amy takes us through her journey from teenage experimentation to mommy wine culture, revealing how alcohol became her trusted companion through life's challenges. As a high-functioning professional juggling parenting, caregiving responsibilities, and undiagnosed issues, she found herself using alcohol to treat adult ADHD without even realizing it. It wasn't until her son developed addiction issues that Amy began questioning her own relationship with alcohol. Through family therapy, reading This Naked Mind, and completing The Alcohol Experiment, Amy discovered how alcohol was masking her authentic needs while creating more anxiety and depression. Now alcohol-free for four years, she shares how breaking this cycle led to profound personal growth and genuine joy. In this episode, Annie and Amy discuss: Growing up in a conservative "Leave It to Beaver" household Teenage experimentation with alcohol as rebellion Transitioning from weekend binge drinking to daily wine culture How mommy wine culture normalized problematic drinking Using alcohol to treat adult ADHD without realizing it The connection between disordered eating and alcohol consumption Parenting adopted children with unique challenges How family therapy led to self-discovery Breaking free from alcohol at age 51 Finding authentic joy and peace in midlife And other topics… Episode links: Start reading This Naked Mind - https://thisnakedmind.com/book Join The Alcohol Experiment - www.alcoholexperiment.com Related Episodes: EP 719: Naked Life Story – Katie W. - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-719-naked-life-story-katie-w/ EP 110: Reader Question – I stopped drinking alcohol but now I binge on Netflix and ice cream. What's the deal? - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-110-reader-question-stopped-drinking-alcohol-now-binge-netflix-ice-cream-whats-deal/ EP 678: Reader's Question – How to Stop Restricting Food while Drinking? - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-678-readers-question-how-to-stop-restricting-food-while-drinking/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

In this episode, Dr. Aimee joins Colleen to explain what it really means to have “stored trauma” in the body—and why unresolved trauma often shows up not as flashbacks, but as fatigue, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and habits like nightly drinking. You'll hear how trauma is stored at the cellular level, why cognitive awareness isn't enough to heal it, and what it really takes to feel safe in your own body. Key Takeaways: Trauma isn't defined by an event—it's defined by your body's response to overwhelm, powerlessness, and isolation. Many women don't realize they're stuck in a trauma response because it looks like being “too busy,” “not having willpower,” or “just needing to try harder.” The trauma response shows up biologically, at the cellular level, often causing fatigue, anxiety, inflammation, and shut down. The nervous system doesn't respond to logic—it responds to cues of safety and danger. When your body perceives a threat, you can't use reason to override shame, fear and anxiety. You don't heal trauma by talking about it—you heal it by completing the stress response, regulating the nervous system, and shifting how safe you feel in your body. You can pre-order Dr. Amy's new book Biology of Trauma and get over $400 in bonuses at biologyoftrauma.com.   —Want daily updates from me? Find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@hangoverwhisperer   —Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking.   —Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!   

What if the anxiety you've lived with for years could disappear by changing just one habit? Lauren never questioned the drinking culture she grew up with in the UK, where pubs were central to every social occasion. When the pandemic hit shortly after her move to Canada, she began noticing how alcohol had shifted from enjoyment to an unsatisfying habit. Through research and repeatedly listening to This Naked Mind, Lauren began building an alcohol-free lifestyle that lasts, taking extended breaks from drinking that revealed surprising benefits—including the complete disappearance of her anxiety. In this episode, she shares her journey of ups and downs, the importance of self-compassion after slip-ups, and how she's found more genuine joy and connection without alcohol at the center of her life. In this episode, Annie and Lauren discuss: From British pub culture to questioning alcohol's role How the pandemic revealed problematic drinking patterns The process of building an alcohol-free lifestyle that lasts Why tracking "failures" can be counterproductive The complete disappearance of anxiety after reducing alcohol Discovering genuine joy without drinking The surprising impact on hormone health and overall wellness Finding alternatives to "chasing the high" after activities Recognizing the link between alcohol and emotional stability Creating new traditions beyond drinking culture And other topics… Episode links: Related Episodes: EP 445: Finding Joy with Catherine Gray - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-445-finding-joy-with-catherine-gray/ EP 448: What I Wish I Knew Before My First Drink – The Thief of Joy - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-448-what-i-wish-i-knew-before-my-first-drink-the-thief-of-joy/ EP 20: Reader Question – What do You do about Missing the “High” from Drinking? - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-20-reader-question-what-do-you-do-about-missing-the-high-from-drinking/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

How do our thoughts influence our ability to create lasting change? Overcoming automatic negative thoughts begins with understanding how they shape our behaviors and emotions. In this episode, Coach Sam helps Marion navigate triggers around holiday memories and past trauma, while Coach Mike guides Maria through breaking free from her lifelong pattern of negative self-talk. Both guests struggle with how their thoughts fuel their drinking behaviors—Marion with holiday-related trauma that previously led to heavy drinking, and Maria with the "failure" narrative that pulls her back into old patterns. Through these powerful coaching conversations, we witness how identifying and questioning habitual negative thinking creates the foundation for sustainable change. In Marion's Session: Processing trauma around Christmas and her father's death Learning to feel proud of caring for her father during difficult times Moving beyond the memory of a traumatic assault Understanding how trauma memories can trigger drinking behaviors Discovering that self-worth is inherent, not earned The difference between intellectual understanding and embodied knowing Overcoming automatic negative thoughts by seeing them as memories, not reality Finding presence and contentment by not numbing emotions Approaching painful memories with self-compassion Recognizing that healing comes from wisdom, not just intellectual effort and other topics… In Maria's Session: Identifying habitual negative thoughts like "I'm a failure" and "I'm not good enough" Understanding how negative thinking fuels drinking behaviors Learning the ACT technique for overcoming automatic negative thoughts Questioning whether negative beliefs are actually true Seeing how thoughts exist to protect us, not punish us Breaking the cycle of negative thoughts → difficult emotions → unwanted behaviors Moving from black-and-white thinking to nuanced perspectives Recognizing that thoughts are "just strings of words" with meaning we assign The power of neutralizing thoughts rather than forcing positivity Developing mental resilience by questioning habitual thought patterns and more… Sam Goldfinch is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach, and the founder of Rebel Spirituality and the Rebel Spirituality podcast. He also co-hosts the Present & Sober podcast with Ellie Crowe. Having lived nine years alcohol-free, Sam will show you how to live your best life and uncover the truth of YOU before and beyond your conditioning. Learn more about Coach Sam: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/sam-goldfinch/ Mike Shennan is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. He was a long-time social drinker, and his drinking habits increased in his forties due to various life events. However, he has been alcohol-free since February 23, 2018. By sharing his personal experiences and using techniques from This Naked Mind, Mike supports clients who feel their drinking habits have grown as they age, helping them regain control and create a healthier relationship with alcohol. Learn more about Coach Mike: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/mike-shennan/ Related Episodes: EP 512: Reader Question - How do you get comfortable with your own mind? - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-512-reader-question-how-do-you-get-comfortable-with-your-own-mind/ EP 438: Reader Question – How do you survive the holidays without alcohol? - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-512-reader-question-how-do-you-get-comfortable-with-your-own-mind/ EP 616: Reader's Question – Getting Past Emotional Drinking Triggers - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-616-readers-question-getting-past-emotional-drinking-triggers/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

If you've ever found yourself reaching for a glass of wine after a tough day, but wish you had an easier, healthier alternative - this episode is for you.Today, Anna dives into practical, 5-minute resets: simple, research-backed tools that can help you navigate cravings, manage stress, and regulate your nervous system. Drawing inspiration from global traditions, think mindfulness, breathwork, journaling, movement, and creating your own rituals. It genuinely does just take only a few minutes to reset your nervous system and find real relief. Whether you're sober-curious, cutting back, or already alcohol-free, consider this episode your emotional first-aid kit - compact, reliable, and ready to use. Here are the highlights:00:00 Introduction03:20 Cultural Alternatives to Alcohol09:54 Box Breathing: Stress Relief Technique14:32 Mindfulness as an Alcohol Alternative16:21 Mindfulness Grounding Exercise23:27 Five-Minute Brain Dump Journalling27:44 Create meaningful ritualsAnna's group coaching programme ‘Unstuck!' helps identify your alcohol ‘stories' and beliefs, break the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! programme informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna's self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment: https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD 99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listenerFor the free resources accompanying this series, please head to https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/registrationIf you're loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukMentioned in this episode:https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/experiment

Have you ever rolled your eyes at the idea that breathing could actually help with stress or cravings? You're not the only one. That's exactly what we're getting into today on the Big Drink Rethink.In this episode, Anna Donaghey sits down with Zoë Ewart, a trauma-informed life coach and breathwork facilitator, to challenge the skepticism around breathwork - especially for those rethinking their relationship with alcohol. Together, Anna and Zoë unpack how breathwork isn't just “woo-woo” - it's rooted in biology, neuroscience, and can be a practical, powerful tool for anyone looking to break free from unhealthy patterns. Zoë opens up about her own journey through addiction, and how breathwork rewired her nervous system and changed her life from the inside out. If you're sober-curious, looking for real-world tactics to help you navigate cravings, or just want a fresh take on how to handle stress, this conversation will inspire you to rethink what's possible - one intentional breath at a time.Here are the highlights:00:00 Introduction09:34 Breathing: The Everyday Superpower11:30 "Calm Your Nerves with Breathing"19:45 Resilience and Brain Power29:58 Why Breathwork Gets Overlooked in Recovery38:42 Finding Calm Through Breath Work42:49 Three-Part Breath Relaxation GuideAnna's group coaching programme ‘Unstuck!' helps identify your alcohol ‘stories' and beliefs, break the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! programme informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna's self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment: https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD 99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listenerFor the free resources accompanying this series, please head to https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/registrationIf you're loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukFind out more about Zoë...

How do you rebuild your identity when alcohol has been woven into every aspect of your personal and professional life? Growing up in a rural fishing community where “drinking was a pastime, to put it mildly,” Peggy couldn't even remember her first drink. Her 28-year military career reinforced these patterns in predominantly male trades where working hard and playing hard revolved around alcohol. Finding the courage to stop drinking as a female veteran wasn't straightforward, especially when seeking help could jeopardize her security clearance and career. In this heartfelt conversation with Annie Grace, Peggy shares her journey to freedom from alcohol after retirement, how she navigated the transition, and why she's now training to become a coach to help others find the answers that are already inside themselves. In this episode, Annie and Peggy will discuss: The normalization of alcohol in rural communities and the military. The challenges of questioning ingrained drinking habits. The moment Peggy realized her drinking was no longer serving her. The fear of seeking help for alcohol issues within the military context. The support and understanding found within the This Naked Mind community. The concept of “duck mode” as a powerful tool for maintaining sobriety. Changing social dynamics and navigating friendships without alcohol. The realization of internal strength and wisdom. Peggy's motivation to become a certified coach and guide others, particularly female veterans, on their journey to stop drinking as a female veteran. The transformative power of self-acceptance and kindness. And other topics… Episode links: Email Peggy - info@neaptidecoaching.com Connect with Peggy - neaptidecoaching.com Related Episodes: EP 745: How To Quit Drinking in Your 50s – https://thisnakedmind.com/breaking-through-alcohols-false-relief-joys-naked-life-e745/ EP 561: Naked Life Story – Ben – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-561-naked-life-story-ben/ EP 292: Duck Mode Explained – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-292-reader-question-how-do-i-stay-alcohol-free-at-a-bachelor-bachelorette-party-weekend/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Have you ever felt like you're just going through the motions, outwardly successful but inwardly exhausted? Welcome to The Big Drink Rethink podcast with your host, Anna Donaghey. In today's episode, we're diving into the theme of strategic recovery, with Chloe Stephens, a Flow Coach with thirty years of experience in fitness and well-being. Chloe's exploration into sleep, recovery, and nervous system regulation, empowers her to support her clients holistically, adopting a 360-degree approach to health. Join us as we explore how stress management can transform your life and your relationship with alcohol.Here are the highlights:00:00 Introduction05:20 Normalising stress is dangerous.08:56 Rethink your recovery, go beyond quick fixes.11:01 True recovery involves simple practices like proper breathing and calming the mind.18:20 Chronic technology-driven connectivity disrupts our boundaries.27:05 Incorporate small, intentional pauses throughout the day.33:11 Stay self-aware and regularly check your "battery" levels.35:48 Achieving flow in life improves mental health and balance.38:03 Expanding waistlines and chronic stress aren't inevitable with aging.47:09 Incorporate mindfulness and rituals into daily routines.Anna's group coaching programme ‘Unstuck!' helps identify your alcohol ‘stories' and beliefs, break the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! programme informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna's self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment: https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD 99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listenerFor the free resources accompanying this series, please head to https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/registrationIf you're loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukFind out more about Chloe Stephens:Chloe Stephens - The Flow Coach -...

Is traditional AA the only way to find lasting change? Jenny experienced bullying, sexual abuse, and emotional neglect that left her seeking comfort in alcohol from an early age. Despite trying traditional treatment methods for decades and being told repeatedly that learning how to recover without 12-step programs was impossible, Jenny continued to struggle until discovering This Naked Mind and The Path. After 15 failed treatment attempts and countless hours of therapy, she finally found peace through its science-based approach that addressed the root causes of her drinking. In this moving conversation, Jenny opens up about loss, grief, and ultimately finding joy in sobriety. Trigger Warning: This episode contains sensitive content related to sexual abuse and suicide. Listener discretion is advised. In this episode, Annie and Jenny will discuss: Surviving childhood trauma, bullying, and sexual abuse How emotional neglect can lead to seeking comfort in alcohol The devastating cycle of relapse despite multiple treatment attempts Why traditional AA meetings caused additional trauma How to recover without 12-step programs using science-based approaches Rebuilding life after experiencing devastating loss The power of connection in The Path program Finding self-forgiveness for decades of drinking Why cognitive dissonance makes early sobriety challenging Making a “burn the boats” decision for lasting change Creating boundaries with difficult family members How joy and peace replace anxiety after quitting alcohol And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 550: Reader's Question – Is there hope for long-time drinkers who keep relapsing? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-550-reader-question-is-there-hope-for-long-time-drinkers-who-keep-relapsing/ EP 324: Reader Question – Is AA Wrong? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-324-reader-question-does-annie-grace-think-aa-is-wrong/ EP 485: Happy Days with Gabby Bernstein – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-485-happy-days-with-gabby-bernstein/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Do other people's behaviour trigger you to drink? Today on the Big Drink Rethink, we're exploring a topic that affects many of us: how to manage those moments when other people's behaviour triggers our urge to drink. This episode is inspired by a question from one of my coaching clients, who finds herself frequently wound up by others, and is wondering how to stop being triggered by them.Join me, Anna Donaghey as we look at ways to face these challenges head-on, especially in our busy and unpredictable lives where stress and emotions can run high. I'll be sharing insights on how to accept life's chaos, manage your own responses, and I introduce you to the enlightening concept of Mel Robbins' "Let Them Theory." This approach could be the key to reducing stress and building emotional resilience. Make sure you listen to get some valuable strategies to rethink your relationship with alcohol and find peace amidst the chaos.Here are the highlights:00:00 Introduction05:25 Accept chaos to live peacefully08:39 Address stress instead of using alcohol as a crutch10:09 Focus on living in the moment and accepting things beyond your control13:42 Frustration may stem from unmet expectations18:38 Letting go of control reduces stress and anxiety25:05 Adopting Mel Robbins' "Let Them" theory can reduce stress.Anna's group coaching programme ‘Unstuck!' helps identify your alcohol ‘stories' and beliefs, break the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! programme informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna's self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment: https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD 99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listenerFor the free resources accompanying this series, please head to https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/registrationIf you're loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by...

What happens when the wine you use to take the edge off becomes the very thing keeping you on edge? Julie Lively, alcohol freedom coach and This Naked Mind coach, shares her powerful journey from being caught in mummy wine culture to discovering true freedom beyond the bottle.With four children in six years and a frequently-traveling husband, Julie's nightly wine ritual seemed like the perfect escape—until it wasn't. Without experiencing a dramatic "rock bottom" moment, Julie recognised something more subtle but equally powerful: the drinking she used to alleviate isolation was actually deepening it. After two years on what she calls the "drinking-no-drinking rollercoaster," she finally found her lasting day one.This conversation goes beyond the typical sobriety narrative to explore what truly happens in our bodies and brains when we use alcohol as our primary relaxation tool. Julie shares practical, science-backed techniques for regulating your nervous system without alcohol, from the powerful 4-7-8 breathing method taught to Navy SEALs to simple sensory grounding practices that take just minutes.Whether you're questioning your relationship with alcohol or simply curious about more effective relaxation techniques, this conversation offers practical tools for creating a life where you don't need to take the edge off—because you're no longer living on edge.Jullie's website: https://julielivelycoaching.com/ MEGWeb: https://www.meganwebb.com.au/Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/meganwebbcoaching/ Unwined Bookclub: https://www.alcoholfreedom.com.au/unwinedbookclub ConnectAF group coaching: https://www.elizaparkinson.com/groupcoaching BELLAWeb: https://isabellaferguson.com.auInsta: @alcoholcounsellorisabellaBi-Yearly 6-Week Small Group Challenges: Learn more: https://www.isabellaferguson.com.au/feb-2025-challengeFree Do I Have A Drinking Problem 3 x Video Series: https://resources.isabellaferguson.com.au/offers/JTFFgjJL/checkoutFree HOW DO I STOP DRINKING SO MUCH Masterclass: https://resources.isabellaferguson.com.au/offers/7fvkb3FF/checkoutOnline Alcohol Self-Paced Course: https://resources.isabellaferguson.com.au/offers/fDzcyvWL/checkout

How many times have you woken up with a nasty hangover and sworn that you'll never make that mistake again?   But as soon as the pain goes away, so does the motivation to keep your promise.    In this episode, I teach you how to create an emergency hangover kit. So you are prepared to see your inevitable setbacks as opportunities for growth instead of shameful failures.   Hangovers serve an essential purpose in the healing process. Once you start learning from your mistakes, you will stop repeating them.   —Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of how to get the skills you need to transform your life. Click here to get my free PRIVATE podcast on How to Reduce Drinking by 80%. —NEW! Colleen's doing Q&A episodes! Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    —Want daily updates from me? Find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@hangoverwhisperer  –Click here to take the QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem?  

Today we have Alyssa. She is 30 years old from Vancouver, WA and took her last drink on September 5th, 2024.   Sponsors for this episode include: Better Help – 10% off of your first month Sober Link –   Next Monday, our five-week course called Ditching the Booze. This is our alcohol-free 101 crash course and is included with Café RE membership. All sessions are live and you're tuning in with others who are in the same spot as you. The sessions are also recorded in case you can't attend.   On Tuesday, April 1st, registration opens for our flagship retreat in Bozeman which is always a lot of fun. In addition to our lake hangout, breathwork and recovery workshops, we're also playing laser tag.   [03:20] Thoughts from Paul:   Today Paul talks about why alcohol can be so hard to quit, why the process of quitting can take years and can contain many stops and starts.   Addiction guru Gabor Mate says, “addictions are always a human response to pain, suffering and trauma”. We are constantly in search of homeostasis. When we find something effective at helping us find this relief, it becomes our first technique to use when we are in pain. After drinking long enough, you'll get to the point where you only feel good, or dopamine will only be created when we are drinking.   It takes time after quitting drinking for our body to naturally create dopamine on its own. You will need to learn new routines, create new habits and figure out a way to fill the time that used to be spent drinking. Paul shares with us several other reasons quitting drinking is hard.   Why do you think quitting drinking is so hard? Comment on RE's Instagram page. There's a post for today's episode.   [09:02] Paul introduces Alyssa:   Alyssa lives in Vancouver, WA with her fiancé and two Rotskis. She currently works as a server and in her free time she enjoys reading and traveling with her fiancé. They are currently trying to determine where they are going to move to be closer to family.   Alyssa says she had an early introduction to alcohol but never really considered it an issue until she met her fiancé who doesn't drink. For years, everyone around her drank so she didn't notice her own drinking.   Alyssa's drinking increased slowly but became daily during the pandemic. In 2021 she read Easy Way to Quit Drinking by Allen Carr and was able to stop for a few months.   For Alyssa, her drinking began to create an inner turmoil, and it started to erode her confidence because she was making promises to herself and then breaking them by drinking instead of accomplishing her goals. After quitting for a period of time, Alyssa thought that she would be able to moderate. In time, she says, she was right back where she was.   After moving in with her father while they save up to find their own place, Alyssa says the lack of goals and uncertainty of the future found her drinking more to cope. She was no longer active and was losing self-esteem while anxiety and depression took hold. At the bottom of her heart, Alyssa knew that eliminating alcohol would help fix the way she was feeling.   Alyssa chose a quit date and started seeking sober podcasts and books to prepare, including This Naked Mind. It was after a night out with friends that Alyssa told her fiancé that she didn't want to drink anymore. He was very supportive of her decision and offered to help however he could.   Alyssa continued to read This Naked Mind and participated in a 30-day sober challenge. This paired with the liberation she felt from her decision led to a pink cloud experience for Alyssa. Anxiety and depression started to lift quickly. Going forward, she is trying to figure out what she wants to do in the future, and she believes in sobriety the options are endless.   Alyssa's parting piece of guidance: Just listen to that little voice. Give sobriety as many chances as you gave alcohol.       Recovery Elevator Rule 22: lighten up - let's do our best not to take ourselves too seriously. I love you guys.   RE merch Recovery Elevator YouTube Sobriety Tracker iTunes       

What if the very thing you thought gave you freedom was actually keeping you stuck? As the youngest of three children, Lisa watched her older brothers drink and felt both curious and uneasy about it. In college, drinking felt like freedom. During her international sports career, it was a way to relax, fit in, and manage stress. Over time, what once gave her a sense of independence left her burnt out and disconnected from herself. As anxiety crept in, she began questioning her habits. After reading This Naked Mind, she realized she had the power to change her relationship with alcohol. In this episode, Lisa joins Annie to share how she rediscovered herself, rebuilt trust in her choices, and redefined what freedom really means. In this episode, Annie and Lisa will discuss: - Growing up with mixed feelings about alcohol - Viewing alcohol as a symbol of independence - Navigating the drinking culture in international sports - Experiencing a blackout and waking up injured - Dealing with anxiety and questioning her habits - How This Naked Mind shifted her mindset - The link between alcohol and identity - How psychedelic therapy supported her healing - Reconnecting with her true self and emotions - Finding support and guidance through The PATH - Overcoming the fear of making life changes - Helping others rebuild self-trust through coaching - Using curiosity to make lasting changes - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 480: Reader Question – What is the Correlation Between Alcohol and Anxiety? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-480-reader-question-what-is-the-correlation-between-alcohol-and-anxiety  EP 604: Reader Question – Embracing Your Authentic Self: Overcoming Self-Judgment and Insecurities https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-604-reader-question-embracing-your-authentic-self-overcoming-self-judgment-and-insecurities/  EP 719: Naked Life Story – Katie W. https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-719-naked-life-story-katie-w/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

For Ruby Williams, living in Northern California's wine country, daily drinking became a coping mechanism for a demanding corporate job and the pressures of single motherhood. Even after weight-loss surgery, her struggles with disordered eating transitioned into significant alcohol misuse. At 49, she chose a different path, finding recovery and embracing an alcohol-free life. Ruby's story highlights the challenges of alcohol dependency and the possibility of finding freedom. She discovered a thriving sober community and the alcohol-free movement, offering support and resources for those seeking to reduce alcohol consumption or quit drinking. Learn how Ruby transformed her life and found lasting sobriety.This Naked Mind by Annie Grace is the book that Ruby mentions. 00:00 Introduction 00:22 Ruby Williams history03:01 You are not alone and it is not your fault07:28 I am not addicted14:40 Alcohol free movement21:00 You can heal 21:44 Shame keeps us stuck in a cycle29:37 Tip to reduce or stop drinking alcoholRuby's Bio Ruby Williams is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach on a mission to help those rethinking their relationship with alcohol. She helps her clients create profound mind shifts during sessions that can shrink the role of alcohol in their lives. Connect with Ruby https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIK5urhGIXXTAVenKcfQKawhttps://www.instagram.com/rubywilliamscoaching/https://feellitalcoholfree.buzzsprout.com/https://www.facebook.com/rubywilliamscoachinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/ruby-williams/How's my drinking Quiz: https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/WorriedAboutYourDrinkingQuiz

What does real support look like when making a change? Stacey had her first drink at age 14, but by 15 or 16, life felt harder. She often clashed with her strict mom, leading her to rebel. In college, she bonded with friends over binge drinking, and at first, it felt normal. But over time, blackouts, anxiety, and injuries became more frequent. Her husband pointed it out, but his judgment only pushed her to drink more. When she finally decided to change for herself, she explored different approaches until she found This Naked Mind. In this episode, Stacey joins Annie to share how she built confidence in social settings without feeling like she was missing out, and why true change happens when you choose it for yourself. In this episode, Annie and Stacey will discuss: - Growing up with strict rules and moments of rebellion - Using alcohol to connect and feel more confident - Noticing patterns of binge drinking in social settings - Taking on parenting responsibilities at a young age - Balancing work, family, and drinking habits - Questioning her habits after blackouts and injuries - Facing judgment and pressure from her husband - Quietly choosing change on her own terms - Discovering This Naked Mind and rethinking her habits - Overcoming the pressure to drink socially - Replacing self-judgment with curiosity and awareness - Finding healthier ways to manage anxiety - Looking ahead with confidence and peace - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 180: Reader Question – How Do You Deal with Family Members Who Still Drink? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-180-how-do-you-deal-with-family-members-who-still-drink/  EP 669: Naked Life Story – Megan W. https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-669-naked-life-story-megan-w/  EP 735: Find the Courage to Choose Yourself: Patrick's Naked Life https://thisnakedmind.com/find-the-courage-to-choose-yourself-patricks-naked-life-e735/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

What if the discomfort you're avoiding is the key to healing? Mary has been working on her relationship with alcohol but has kept it to herself out of fear of what others might think if she fails. When she tried to take a break before, she found herself drinking again and wasn't sure how to make a lasting change. Meanwhile, Nancy spent years avoiding her emotions, turning to alcohol after overcoming an eating disorder. Her rocky relationship with her father and siblings made it hard for her to process feelings in a healthy way. In this episode, Coach Rina helps Mary embrace genuine support and let go of the fear of failure. Nancy learns to sit with her emotions, process them healthily, and set boundaries to protect her well-being. In Mary's session: - Keeping her journey private out of fear of failure - Trying to live a healthy lifestyle while drinking  - Recognizing patterns in past attempts to change - Finding support that feels right for her - The power of a compassionate support system - Enjoying an alcohol-free wedding experience - Setting short-term goals for lasting change - Exploring healthier ways to relax and unwind - Focusing on progress, not perfection In Dawn's session: - Struggling to sit with uncomfortable emotions - Using alcohol to cope with difficult feelings - Navigating a complex relationship with family - Fearing a return to old coping habits, like binge eating - Feeling triggered by hurtful words or tone - Understanding anger as a valid emotion - Using awareness to break old patterns - Setting boundaries to support her well-being - Finding healthier ways to process emotions Rina Bowring is a certified TNM Senior Coach. She built a successful career in the outdoor advertising industry, but after discovering This Naked Mind and transforming her relationship with alcohol, she decided to pursue her passion as an alcohol freedom coach. Inspired by the changes she experienced, Rina now shares the TNM method with the Christian community. She is committed to helping people break free from harmful habits, overcome guilt and shame, and rediscover joy. Learn more about Coach Rina: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/rina-bowring/ Related Episodes: EP 246: Reader Question – How Do You Deal With Anger or Emotions When Alcohol-Free? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-246-reader-question-how-do-you-deal-with-anger-or-emotions-when-alcohol-free  EP 616: Reader's Question – Getting Past Emotional Drinking Triggers https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-616-readers-question-getting-past-emotional-drinking-triggers/  EP 620: Reader's Question – Sharing Your Personal Journey with Alcohol: A Guide to Honest Conversations and Healing Connections https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-618-readers-question-annie-graces-tips-for-dealing-with-family-members-who-continue-to-drink-2/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

So, you're not an alcoholic, but you're also kinda wondering if maybe, you'd like to drink less—without being told you can't drink at all. Sound familiar? Chalene's guest, Annie Grace, author of This Naked Mind, is here to flip everything you thought you knew about alcohol, habits, and self-control. They are breaking down how to rethink your relationship with alcohol, ditch the guilt, and figure out if that glass of wine is actually adding anything good to your life. No judgment, no rules—just real talk and some eye-opening facts that might just change the way you drink (or don't!).

I'm back! It's been a hot minute, but we are back from the hospital and things are getting back to the new normal. This episode is about the hospital stay. A couple juicy bits from the book This Naked Mind. Enjoy!

When life feels heavy, what small choices can help you feel lighter? Shanelle had gone weeks without drinking and felt ready to face her emotions in therapy. But as therapy revealed deeper pain, she found herself returning to old habits. Meanwhile, Mary has been struggling with stress while caring for her aging mother. After hospital visits, she often finds herself reaching for a drink, but over time, she has realized it only makes her numb and unable to deal with her emotions. In this episode, Coach Mike helps Shanelle focus on what she can control and navigate the fear of facing past trauma, while Mary learns to manage stress in a way that has her feeling more at peace. In Shanelle's session: - Experiencing progress in early attempts to change - Discovering unhealed trauma through therapy - Using self-awareness to understand hidden trauma - Feeling overwhelmed by emotions and uncertainty - Shifting focus to what she can control - Building emotional strength by facing discomfort - Taking control of habits with small pauses - Breaking habits one choice at a time - Focusing on benefits instead of setbacks In Mary's session: - Struggling with stress while caring for her aging mother - Noticing the urge to drink after difficult visits - Feeling emotionally drained and anxious - Managing stress differently with mindset shifts - Viewing caregiving as a choice, not an obligation - Allowing herself to fully embrace emotions - Discovering healthier ways to manage emotions - Finding gratitude in time spent with her mom - Embracing every moment as an opportunity Mike Shennan is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. He was a long-time social drinker, and his drinking habits increased in his forties due to various life events. However, he has been alcohol-free since February 23, 2018. By sharing his personal experiences and using techniques from This Naked Mind, Mike supports clients who feel their drinking habits have grown as they age, helping them regain control and create a healthier relationship with alcohol. Learn more about Coach Mike: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/mike-shennan/  Related Episodes: EP 158: Reader Question – How Do You Deal with Stress Without Alcohol? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-158-how-do-you-deal-with-stress-without-alcohol/  EP 689: Interview with Dr. Melissa Kalt https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-689-interview-with-dr-melissa-kalt/  EP 748: The Path to Inner Clarity: Alcohol Freedom Coaching https://thisnakedmind.com/the-path-to-inner-clarity-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e748/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

How do you make real, lasting changes when motivation comes and goes? Dwayne has been through major life changes, including the end of two marriages, and has noticed alcohol becoming more present over time. He wants to make a change but struggles to stay consistent. On some days, he can, on other days, he just can't help it. Roz also wants to shift her habits but finds it hard to follow through. She starts off motivated, but after a long day at an emotionally demanding job, having a drink feels like the easiest way to relax. In this episode, Coach Rina helps Dwayne and Roz explore simple, lasting ways to create change. She shows them that while motivation fades, real progress comes from self-awareness and small, steady steps forward. In Dwayne's session: - Struggling to find lasting motivation for change - Finding comfort in his drinking routine - Coping with the end of two long-term marriages - How childhood experiences shaped his drinking habits - Noticing his drinking habits increase over time - Identifying feelings that trigger his cravings - Pausing to check in with emotions before drinking - Focusing on awareness instead of relying on willpower - Recognizing patterns through mindful drinking  - Prioritizing his health and role as a father - Building new habits that align with his goals In Roz's session: - Struggling to stay motivated without relying on her feelings - Using alcohol to relax after a long day at work - Observing how emotions affect her drinking habits - Experimenting with mindful drinking - Feeling bored and lonely without alcohol - Learning to enjoy free time as a chance to rest - Discovering new ways to unwind after work - Staying committed to activities that bring joy - Building small, lasting habits instead of quick fixes Rina Bowring is a certified TNM Senior Coach who built a successful career in the outdoor advertising industry. After discovering This Naked Mind and transforming her relationship with alcohol, she decided to pursue her passion as an alcohol freedom coach. Inspired by the changes she experienced, Rina now shares the TNM method with the Christian community. She wants to help people break free from harmful habits, let go of guilt and shame, and find joy again. Learn more about Coach Rina: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/rina-bowring/ Related Episodes: EP 116: Reader Question – Does Alcohol Really Relax Us? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-116-reader-question-alcohol-really-relax-us/  EP 670: Reader's Question – How Do You Stay Motivated to Be Alcohol-Free? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-670-readers-question-how-do-you-stay-motivated-to-be-alcohol-free/  EP 754: Embracing Joy in the Moment: ​​Alcohol Freedom Coaching https://thisnakedmind.com/embracing-joy-in-the-moment-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e754/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Episode 142: RMA, RFK and the San Patrignano Experiment In this episode of Recovery in the Middle Ages, we take a look at Robert F. Kennedy Jr.'s plan to address addiction in America, which leans heavily on his personal recovery experience and the model of Italy's San Patrignano rehab center. Kennedy's proposal centers around creating “wellness farms” across rural America, where people struggling with addiction can live and work in therapeutic communities, focusing on organic farming and communal living as an alternative to incarceration. This approach is inspired by San Patrignano's long-term, work-based rehab program, which has seen success for those who stick with it. But there's a lot of pushback, as critics point out the lack of medically assisted treatment and the potential for coercive practices, which have plagued San Patrignano in the past. Kennedy's skepticism toward pharmaceutical treatments like methadone and his promotion of alternative therapies like cannabis and psychedelics are also raising eyebrows, with many worried that his approach could undermine evidence-based practices that have proven effective in addiction treatment. Recovery in the News: A study on fruit flies has identified that acetylcholine, a brain signal integral to memory and motivation, plays a crucial role in alcohol-induced sleep disturbances.  A recent survey indicates that nearly half of Americans, particularly younger generations, plan to reduce their alcohol consumption in 2025, driven by health concerns and the rising popularity of non-alcoholic alternatives.  *This podcast does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment.* Please remember to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast on your favorite platform to get the latest episode delivered right to your devices as soon as it's released. LINKS: www.soberliningsplaybook.com We are a listener-supported podcast. If you like what we're doing here at RMA and want to support the show, JOIN THE RECOVERY IN THE MIDDLE AGES PATREON  Our sole mission is to help other people achieve sobriety and become their best, most authentic selves. As little as $3 a month makes a big difference and helps us keep the lights on.  https://www.patreon.com/RecoveryintheMiddleAges As always, we thank you for your support.  RMA ON YOUTUBE FOLLOW US ON TWITTER  Facebook Page We also have a Facebook Group! Request to join the group. It's a private space for continuing the discussion of what Nat and Mike talk about on the podcast. Hope to see you there. PLEASE leave us a 5 star review on I-Tunes if you're enjoying the show and SUBSCRIBE to get the latest episodes.  Email: MikeR@middleagesrecovery.com Natx@middleagesrecovery.com We all have a story. Tell us yours and we'll share it on the show! E-Mail your story to miker@middleagesrecovery.com If you're in trouble with substance abuse and need help, reach out. There are thousands of people who have put problems with addiction in their rear-view mirrors and you can be one of them. While we neither endorse nor condemn any particular program, the sheer number of available AA and NA meetings suggest that reaching out to those organizations would be a good first step, (but maybe not the last step), on your road to recovery.   https://www.aa.org/ https://www.na.org/meetingsearch/ Marijuana Anonymous (just in case): This Naked Mind  

Lots of people want to drink less but the thought of being sober at work events feels far too awkward. It's one thing to tell your friends & family you're cutting back, it's another to have to interact with clients or strangers without a drink in your hand. I'm joined today by Laura Nelson, co-founder of Sober Life Rocks, to talk about how to navigate professional life when you're sober-curious. From planning to attending events, you'll love Laura's tips. Laura Nelson, a certified This Naked Mind coach and international speaker, brings over 20 years of expertise in fostering inclusivity and excellence. Co-founder of Sober Life Rocks and Front Office Rocks, she empowers individuals and organizations to create healthier, more connected lives through inclusive, sober-friendly events. Check out: Her website: www.soberliferocks.com Her new book, 'The Inclusive Event Planner': inclusiveeventplanner.comLinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/14532282/ Tune in each week for practical, relatable advice that helps you feel your best and unlock your full potential. If you're ready to prioritize your health and level up every area of your life, you'll find the tools, insights, and inspiration right here.  Buy Esther's Book: To Your Health - https://a.co/d/iDG68qU Follow Esther on TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@estheravant Follow Esther on IG - https://www.instagram.com/esther.avant Learn more about booking Esther to speak: https://www.estheravant.com Learn more about working with Esther: https://www.madebymecoaching.com/services 

Just started the book "This Naked Mind" by Annie Grace. Sharing some bits of knowledge from this book thus far. It is a great read so far. Give it a go!

What thoughts are you holding on to, and are they still serving you? Souren has been on The PATH but is afraid of falling behind and not making it. This brings feelings of loneliness and not belonging. Meanwhile, Deanna has had a 40-year relationship with alcohol. She used it to deal with stress, anxiety, and trauma but realized it wasn't helping her feel better anymore. Now, after nine months of not drinking, she sometimes hears inner voices pulling her back to old habits. In this episode, Coach Hayley guides Souren as he reframes his thoughts, recognizes his strengths, and focuses on his journey. At the same time, Coach Ruby works with Deanna to explore her inner thoughts with curiosity, understand their meaning, and use them to grow. In Souren's session: - Facing his fear of falling behind and feeling left out - Unpacking feelings of not belonging - Overcoming the urge to give up - Reframing "I'm not going to make it" into positive beliefs - Questioning the beliefs that hold him back - Shifting from self-doubt to self-reliance - Letting go of comparison and embracing your own pace - Using the ACT technique to create lasting change In Deanna's session: - Her thoughts on rehab and This Naked Mind's approach - Using alcohol to handle anxiety, stress, and trauma - Recognizing how alcohol hid both joy and pain - Becoming more present in daily life - Learning to manage her emotions mindfully - Understanding the inner voices pulling her to drink - Responding with curiosity instead of reacting - Rebuilding a stronger relationship with her daughter - Taking control of habits through yoga and meditation - Viewing setbacks as a chance to grow Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Drawing from personal experiences, Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. She believes that with the right mindset, anyone can change their life at any time. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/  Ruby Williams is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach dedicated to helping people rethink their relationship with alcohol. With 19 years of experience in the wine industry, Ruby understands how alcohol can become a regular part of life, especially in social or stressful situations. After finding freedom in 2019, she was empowered to improve her health, lose weight, and achieve lifelong goals. Ruby uses thoughtful questioning to help clients shift their mindset and build a more balanced, fulfilling, and healthier relationship with alcohol. Learn more about Coach Ruby: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/ruby-williams/  Related Episodes: EP 646: Reader's Question – Why Is It So Hard to Become Alcohol-Free? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-646-readers-question-why-is-it-so-hard-to-become-alcohol-free/  EP 670: Reader's Question – How Do You Stay Motivated to Be Alcohol-Free? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-670-readers-question-how-do-you-stay-motivated-to-be-alcohol-free/  EP 741: Overcoming the Fear of Drinking Again: Erin's Naked Life https://thisnakedmind.com/overcoming-the-fear-of-drinking-again-erins-naked-life-e741/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

This week I'm sitting down with Kirby Myers... no no... The Fabulous Kirby Myers. She's a mom, a wife, a business owner, she produces multiple events here in Key West, social media queen and even took to the stage to dance and host a show that I actually got to go see!!! She is also alcohol free and living her best life!! If it seems like this show would NOT be relatable to you because, well who could keep up..... you would be wrong. Kirby is one of the most relatable women I know. You would not believe all of the things she has done for this island!! Kirby.... We love you and thank you for being you! You truly are incredible. IG: Kirbysclosetkw •Missislandqueenkw •Pasionproject •Keysweekly.comSearch ‘Behind the Blonde' Book reference: This Naked Mind by Annie Grace

Episode 141: The Return of RMA-Recovery in the News Edition It's been a minute, we know — but Mike and Nat are BACK, rested, refreshed and ready to serve up a new episode packed with recovery bon mots, musings, and thought-provoking insights. This week we're diving into the latest conversations around sobriety, cultural norms, and health, giving our take on three recent articles from The New York Times that challenge the narrative that drinking is normal and safe. First up: I Quit Drinking Four Years Ago. I'm Still Confronting Drinking Culture by Charles Blow. Blow reflects on his journey to sobriety, unpacking the emotional and cultural challenges faced when stepping away from alcohol. Why does society romanticize drinking while casting suspicion on those who abstain? Next: Alcohol Carries New Risks in Middle Age by Cari Blum. There are clearly heightened health risks associated with alcohol consumption in middle age, and new research reveals just how impactful booze in any quantity is on our health as we age. Finally: When It Comes to Drinking, There Are No Good Answers by Rachael Bedard. This article takes a hard look at the conflicting messages around alcohol consumption, from moderate drinking myths to the growing body of research linking alcohol with serious health concerns, including cancer and liver disease. After a long break, we're back with sharper perspectives, plenty of laughs, and the same witty repartee that RMA is known for throughout the universe. Before I forget, this week's Week in Weird is all about Drones and Orbs, and anal probing! Nat is an expert! *This podcast does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment.* Please remember to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast on your favorite platform to get the latest episode delivered right to your devices as soon as it's released. LINKS: www.soberliningsplaybook.com We are a listener-supported podcast. If you like what we're doing here at RMA and want to support the show, JOIN THE RECOVERY IN THE MIDDLE AGES PATREON  Our sole mission is to help other people achieve sobriety and become their best, most authentic selves. As little as $3 a month makes a big difference and helps us keep the lights on.  https://www.patreon.com/RecoveryintheMiddleAges As always, we thank you for your support.  RMA ON YOUTUBE FOLLOW US ON TWITTER  Facebook Page We also have a Facebook Group! Request to join the group. It's a private space for continuing the discussion of what Nat and Mike talk about on the podcast. Hope to see you there. PLEASE leave us a 5 star review on I-Tunes if you're enjoying the show and SUBSCRIBE to get the latest episodes.  Email: MikeR@middleagesrecovery.com Natx@middleagesrecovery.com We all have a story. Tell us yours and we'll share it on the show! E-Mail your story to miker@middleagesrecovery.com If you're in trouble with substance abuse and need help, reach out. There are thousands of people who have put problems with addiction in their rear-view mirrors and you can be one of them. While we neither endorse nor condemn any particular program, the sheer number of available AA and NA meetings suggest that reaching out to those organizations would be a good first step, (but maybe not the last step), on your road to recovery.   https://www.aa.org/ https://www.na.org/meetingsearch/ Marijuana Anonymous (just in case): This Naked Mind

Mike Shennan joins us to share his remarkable journey to sobriety and how it has laid the foundation for his fulfilling career in coaching. From growing up in a family culture where drinking was routine to facing the challenges of social drinking during his university years in Canada, Mike offers a raw and insightful look into his personal transformation. As he transitioned into marriage and parenthood, his commitment to being a present father starkly contrasted his own father's absence, inspiring a shift towards sobriety and emotional growth.Listeners will uncover the profound shifts that come with overcoming alcohol dependence. Mike and I discuss how influential works like Annie Grace's "This Naked Mind" and Belle Robertson's "Tired of Thinking About Drinking" helped us transition from a willpower-centric approach to one focused on emotional change. Mike also discusses men who choose sobriety, and the strength it shows when these men do the work and make this momentous change! The episode wraps up with an exploration of reclaiming power through self-awareness and energy management. We delve into the transformative power of silence and inner peace, reflecting on how mastering self-coaching can lead to personal growth. Mike shares his passion for meaningful coaching conversations and how they open doors to personal empowerment. Whether you're seeking inspiration for your own journey or looking to understand the dynamics of personal change, this episode offers a wealth of insights and heartfelt stories to ponder.Mike Shennan:Website: www.trailblazerlifecoaching.comInsta:  @trailblazerlifecoaching MEGMegan Webb: https://glassfulfilled.com.auInstagram: @glassfulfilledUnwined Bookclub: https://www.alcoholfreedom.com.au/unwinedbookclubFacebook UpsideAF: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1168716054214678 Small group coaching: https://www.elizaparkinson.com/groupcoaching BELLAWeb: https://isabellaferguson.com.auInsta: @alcoholandstresswithisabellaBi-Yearly 6-Week Small Group Challenges: Learn more: https://www.isabellaferguson.com.au/feb-2025-challengeFree Do I Have A Drinking Problem 3 x Video Series: https://resources.isabellaferguson.com.au/offers/JTFFgjJL/checkoutFree HOW DO I STOP DRINKING SO MUCH Masterclass: https://resources.isabellaferguson.com.au/offers/7fvkb3FF/checkoutOnline Alcohol Self-...

Send us a textWelcome to Season 2, Episode 52 of the Feel Lit Alcohol Free Podcast!We are beyond excited to have the rock star of the alcohol-free movement, Annie Grace, author and founder of "This Naked Mind," join hosts Ruby Williams and Susan Larkin for an eye-opening conversation. In this captivating episode, we dive deep into the journey of living alcohol-free, debunking the myth of "normies" and examining societal perceptions of alcohol. Annie shares her personal experiences, revealing the groundbreaking methods that have transformed countless lives. Are you curious about how brain chemistry impacts addiction or how self-awareness and compassion can help conquer cravings? We've got you covered!But that's not all—Annie opens up about her past struggles, the transformative power of a mindset shift, and gives us a sneak peek into her upcoming book "Live Naked AF".  Ready to embrace progress over perfection? Tune in for a powerful episode filled with empowerment, curiosity, and the tools you need to rediscover your authentic self. Annie Grace, Author, Founder of This Naked Mind, LLCAt age 35, in a global C-level marketing role, Annie was responsible for marketing in 28 countries; and was drinking almost two bottles of wine a night. Knowing she needed a change but unwilling to submit to a life of deprivation and stigma, Annie Grace embarked on a journey to painlessly gain control of alcohol -- for her that process resulted in no longer wanting to drink. Never happier, she left her executive role to write and share This Naked Mind with the world.  Find more information on Annie Grace and This Naked Mind on their website.Free download Annie's new book Live Naked AF!  (before it's published)Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and ask us any questions you have about breaking free from wine or living an alcohol-free lifestyle. Your question could be the highlight of a future episode! Join our Feel Lit AF Facebook Community for amazing support and connection! Watch Episode on Youtube! https://www.youtube.com/@FeelLitAlcoholFreePodcast/videosWebsites:Susan Larkin Coaching https://www.susanlarkincoaching.com/ Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/Follow Susan: @drinklesswithsusanFollow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoachingIt is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any resource or communication on behalf of the podcast or otherwise to be a substitute for such.

Is your fear of being judged holding you back? Molly grew up relying on people's opinions to feel good about herself. As a physician, she struggles to talk about alcohol use without fear of being misunderstood and judged. She worries that people will think something is wrong with her for choosing to live alcohol-free. Since her self-worth has relied heavily on external validation and appearing perfect, being judged by others would hurt her self-esteem. In this episode, Coach Rina helps Molly see that her fear of judgment is really about how she judges herself. By learning to be kinder to herself and letting go of the pressure to be perfect, Molly can start living a more authentic, balanced life. In this episode, Coach Rina and Molly will discuss: - The fear of being judged for choosing to stop drinking - Letting go of the need for external validation - Dealing with the pressure to be perfect - Feeling misunderstood about her choices regarding alcohol - Different views on what healthy drinking looks like - Protecting her professional life while sharing her story - Worrying about what others will think if she drinks again - How her parents' struggles with alcohol shaped her journey - Her choice to parent differently from the way she grew up - Taking ownership of your journey without blaming others - Learning to show compassion to yourself - And other topics… Rina Bowring is a certified TNM Senior Coach who built a successful career in the outdoor advertising industry. After discovering This Naked Mind and transforming her relationship with alcohol, she decided to pursue her passion as an alcohol freedom coach. Inspired by the changes she experienced, Rina now shares the TNM method with the Christian community. She wants to help people break free from harmful habits, let go of guilt and shame, and find joy again. Learn more about Coach Rina: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/rina-bowring/ Related Episodes: EP 540: Reader Question – How do you not force self-compassion? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-540-reader-question-how-do-you-not-force-self-compassion/ EP 604: Reader Question – Embracing Your Authentic Self: Overcoming Self-Judgment and Insecurities https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-604-reader-question-embracing-your-authentic-self-overcoming-self-judgment-and-insecurities/  EP 734: Shed the Fear of Judgment – Alcohol Freedom Coaching https://thisnakedmind.com/shed-the-fear-of-judgment-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-734/

What steps can you take today to get closer to the life you imagine? Meri started drinking regularly in her twenties after a tough breakup. Since then, she has struggled to maintain a healthy relationship with alcohol. Now, in her late forties, she hopes to build a future where alcohol takes up less space in her thoughts and daily life. Lola is a busy mom who often feels tired and stressed at the end of the day. She uses alcohol to relax and “reward” herself for all her hard work. In this episode, Coach Mike helps both women explore their relationship with alcohol, understand the motivations behind their habits, and take steps toward a happier and more balanced life. In Meri's session: - Using alcohol to deal with pain from a breakup - Imagining a healthier, happier version of herself - Focusing on small wins to feel more in control - Why change can feel uncomfortable at first - Being kind to herself while trying new habits - The value of investing time, money, and effort to grow - Viewing setbacks as a normal part of the journey - Embracing a future full of hope and possibilities In Lola's session: - Why alcohol feels rewarding after a busy day - How alcohol influences energy levels over time - Shifting from just surviving to finding joy in daily life - Turning boredom into a chance to try new things - Making daily chores feel better with positive framing - Viewing parenting as a choice, not a chore - Discovering simple and fun ways to relax at home - Rethinking what it means to reward herself - Building a balanced and fulfilling life Mike Shennan is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. He was a long-time social drinker, and his drinking habits increased in his forties due to various life events. However, he has been alcohol-free since February 23, 2018. By sharing his personal experiences and using techniques from This Naked Mind, Mike supports clients who feel their drinking habits have grown as they age, helping them regain control and create a healthier relationship with alcohol. Learn more about Coach Mike: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/mike-shennan/  Related Episodes: EP 116: Reader Question – Does Alcohol Really Relax Us? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-116-reader-question-alcohol-really-relax-us/  EP 358: Reader Question – Why Do I Reward Being Alcohol-Free with a Drink? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-358-reader-question-why-do-i-reward-being-alcohol-free-with-a-drink/  EP 690: Reader's Question – How Long Does It Take To Feel Better After Quitting Drinking? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-690-readers-question-how-long-does-it-take-to-feel-better-after-quitting-drinking/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

How do you face your fears and make changes when your partner isn't ready yet? Charlotta grew up with a parent who struggled with alcohol and drugs, which shaped her views on drinking. As an adult, wine became a way for her and her husband to bond, but over time, she began to feel trapped and unhappy with her life. Meanwhile, Donni has been married for 26 years, and drinking played a big role in her connection with her husband. When she decided to stop drinking, her husband continued, which affected their relationship. Now, Donni feels sad, lonely, and worried about his drinking habits. In this episode, Coach Sam encourages Charlotta to focus on living in the moment, trusting herself, and taking small steps toward the life she dreams of. Coach Mike helps Donni focus on her growth, practice compassion, be patient, and gently share her concerns with her husband. In Charlotta's session: - Feeling trapped in her current life - Her mom's struggle with alcohol and drug use - Sharing a bond with her husband over wine - Imagining what life would look like without alcohol - Charlotta's fears about changing her life - Discovering her true self and identity - Learning to trust herself and listen to her inner voice - Finding peace by focusing on the present - Making changes from within In Donni's session: - The role of alcohol in her relationship with her husband - Dealing with feelings of fear, sadness, and loneliness - How retirement added stress to their relationship - Why it's hard when only one partner stops drinking - Balancing dependence on your partner and personal growth - Focusing on yourself instead of trying to “fix” someone else - How to have tough conversations without creating conflict - Using alcohol to cope with tough emotions and life changes - Inspiring others to change by taking care of yourself first - Sharing ideas gently and giving them time to grow - The importance of patience in making big changes Sam Goldfinch is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach, and the founder of Rebel Spirituality and the Rebel Spirituality podcast. He also co-hosts the Present & Sober podcast with Ellie Crowe. Having lived nine years alcohol-free, Sam will show you how to live your best life and uncover the truth of YOU before and beyond your conditioning. Learn more about Coach Sam: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/sam-goldfinch/   Mike Shennan is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. He was a long-time social drinker, and his drinking habits increased in his forties due to various life events. However, he has been alcohol-free since February 23, 2018. By sharing his personal experiences and using techniques from This Naked Mind, Mike supports clients who feel their drinking habits have grown as they age, helping them regain control and create a healthier relationship with alcohol. Learn more about Coach Mike: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/mike-shennan/  Related Episodes: EP 222: Reader Question – What if my marriage is dependent on alcohol? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-222-reader-question-what-if-my-marriage-is-dependent-on-alcohol/  EP 615: Naked Life Story – Amy Edwards https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-615-naked-life-story-amy-edwards/  EP 636: Reader's Question – The Art of Balancing Your Needs in a Relationship https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-636-readers-question-the-art-of-balancing-your-needs-in-a-relationship/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

What happens when you start questioning a habit you've known your whole life? Michaela grew up in a family where alcohol was always a part of life. Her parents owned a winery, and drinking was normal at every meal. Seeing her dad become happier after a drink, she began to link alcohol with fun. At age 14, she started drinking and continued until her thirties. Over time, Michaela began to black out often. One day, after drinking with friends, she blacked out and got lost on her way home. This moment made her question her drinking habits and led her to discover This Naked Mind. In this episode, Michaela shares with Annie how curiosity and learning about alcohol's effects helped her make lasting changes, and how questioning family and cultural norms around drinking led to a life filled with more clarity, joy, and self-awareness. In this episode, Annie and Michaela will discuss: - Growing up in a wine-loving family - Using alcohol to feel more comfortable in relationships - Embracing the drinking culture at work - Building a personal and social identity around wine - Marriage, motherhood, and drinking patterns - The turning point after years of blackouts - How This Naked Mind helped Michaela see alcohol differently - Learning to say no to wine in a wine-loving family - The American drinking culture that surprised her - Breaking the link between fun and alcohol - How curiosity makes your first experiences without alcohol easier - Finding clarity, joy, and better sleep without alcohol  - The key principles that can help change any habit - Embracing change with curiosity and courage - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 574: Reader's Questions – Is it better to drink in moderation or not at all? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-574-readers-questions-is-it-better-to-drink-in-moderation-or-not-at-all/  EP 618: Reader's Question – Annie Grace's Tips for Dealing with Family Members Who Continue to Drink https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-618-readers-question-annie-graces-tips-for-dealing-with-family-members-who-continue-to-drink/  EP 738: Fun Without the Hangover: Alcohol Freedom Coaching https://thisnakedmind.com/fun-without-the-hangover-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e738/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

What if joy was already here, waiting to be embraced? Joanne has been working on building a healthier relationship with alcohol for the past eight months. Through this journey, she's noticed that her joy feels different. It's sometimes unpredictable, but also more hopeful. She finds it hard to balance work, daily tasks, and future worries with the joy she feels in the moment. In this episode, Coach Rina shares how the brain begins to find balance after changing drinking habits and suggests simple actions to help Joanne focus on the present moment. She also encourages Joanne to let go of big expectations and enjoy the little things in life. In this episode, Coach Rina and Joanne will discuss: - Dealing with unpredictable joy - Balancing work with joyful activities - Feeling content in daily life - The power of staying in the present - How journaling and the 30-day ACT challenge helped Joanne - Building gratitude through everyday moments - Focusing on small actions that bring joy - Redirecting your thoughts by asking better questions - Finding joy by letting go of expectations - And other topics… Rina Bowring is a certified TNM Senior Coach who built a successful career in the outdoor advertising industry. After discovering This Naked Mind and transforming her relationship with alcohol, she decided to pursue her passion as an alcohol freedom coach. Inspired by the changes she experienced, Rina now shares the TNM method with the Christian community. She wants to help people break free from harmful habits, let go of guilt and shame, and find joy again. Learn more about Coach Rina: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/rina-bowring/ Related Episodes: EP 445: Finding Joy with Catherine Gray https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-445-finding-joy-with-catherine-gray  EP 606: Reader Question – Dealing with Discomfort in the Alcohol-free Journey https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-606-reader-question-dealing-with-discomfort-in-the-alcohol-free-journey/  EP 698: Reader's Question – What's the Link Between Alcohol and Depression? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-698-readers-question-whats-the-link-between-alcohol-and-depression/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

How much of your happiness is tied up in habits that no longer serve you? Brandi's parents divorced three times, which made her teenage years hard. Back then, she turned to marijuana to cope. As she got older, she also struggled in her relationships, with both of her marriages ending because of problems with alcohol and emotional distance. Her turning point came when her third husband admitted to cheating while drunk. After going through a period of depression, Brandi met her doctor who recommended that she read This Naked Mind. But it wasn't until she experienced a personal loss and a health scare that she read the book, which kickstarted her journey to freedom. In this episode, Brandi talks to Annie about how she created a healthier balance with alcohol, rebuilt her marriage, and discovered real joy by facing her feelings head-on. In this episode, Annie and Brandi will discuss: - How her parents' divorce affected her childhood - Using marijuana to cope with teen life - Dropping out of college and doing well at work - Balancing work life with social drinking habits - How alcohol affected Brandi's first marriage - Her second marriage and experience as a stay-at-home mom - Lessons from her second divorce - Growing through the struggles in her third marriage - Getting cut off from her family for seven years - Finding This Naked Mind - Dealing with the tragic loss of her first husband - Trying out the 30-day Alcohol Experiment - Brandi's challenges and successes with staying on The PATH - The health scare that changed her relationship with alcohol - Embracing progress over perfection - Learning to socialize without alcohol - What Brandi wishes she had known about alcohol - Body changes when you stop drinking - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 222: Reader Question – What if my marriage is dependent on alcohol? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-222-reader-question-what-if-my-marriage-is-dependent-on-alcohol/  EP 262: Reader Question – How do I deal with death and grief without alcohol https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-262-reader-question-grief-without-alcohol/  EP 356: Reader Question – Do you lose weight when you stop drinking? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-356-reader-question-do-you-lose-weight-when-you-stop-drinking/  EP 430: Reader Question – How can I break free from Mommy Wine Culture? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-430-reader-question-how-can-i-break-free-from-mommy-wine-culture  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Could celebrations feel complete even without alcohol? Lauren's journey with alcohol began in eighth grade at a concert, where she had her first beer because drinking seemed cool. What started as casual drinking soon turned into binge drinking and blackouts. When she realized that alcohol was hurting her marriage and making it hard to be a good parent, she searched online for help and found This Naked Mind. In this episode, Lauren shares her story of moving from a life surrounded by alcohol to building a healthier relationship with alcohol and helping others do the same. In this episode, Annie and Lauren will discuss: - Her first encounter with alcohol - Going from weekend drinking to constant blackouts - Moving to a “drinking town” and working as a bartender - When the bad began to outweigh the good - How drinking made parenting harder for Lauren - The psychology of “the pause” - The beauty behind the “data point” - The surprising truth about alcohol and why we don't know it - Enjoying celebrations without a drink - The principle of “firsts” in living alcohol-free - The power of a gentle approach to change - Embracing your past as part of your journey - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 470: Reader Question – When will I start feeling better without alcohol? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-470-reader-question-when-will-i-start-feeling-better-without-alcohol  EP 568: Reader's Questions – How To Deal with Pressure to Drink from a Loved One? https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/ep-568-readers-questions-how-to-deal-with-pressure-to-drink-from-a-loved-one/  EP 652: Reader's Question – How To Plan an Alcohol-Free Vacation https://thisnakedmind.com/?post_type=podcast&p=34941  Connect with Lauren: Lauren's Website: https://coachlaurenohanlon.com  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Do you find yourself giving alcohol various 'jobs' depending on what you're facing?  While Joy counseled young people about the dangers of alcohol, she secretly beat herself up for drinking more than she wanted to. Feeling torn, she quit her job as a counselor. She had always given alcohol different jobs in her life. First, it helped her fit in with her peers. Then, she used it to manage her grief and, later, to relax after a long day. Throughout her journey, drinking felt like the thing to do because everyone around her was doing it. But when she discovered This Naked Mind, she started picking apart her deeply held beliefs about alcohol. In this episode, Joy shares her incredible journey to living a more wholesome life for herself and eventually finding her way back to the career she loves as a coach. In this episode, Annie and Joy will discuss: - Drinking to mask insecurities and fit in - Blacking out after drinking at 14 - The influence of alcohol in her family history - The health consequences of heavy drinking  - Partying heavily even as an academic student - How alcohol shaped her friendships and relationships - Drinking to mask pain and manage grief - Traveling to find herself  - Counseling others while battling her own drinking - Giving kids the tools to understand alcohol - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 262: Reader Question – How do I deal with death and grief without alcohol: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-262-reader-question-grief-without-alcohol/  EP 439: Naked Life Story – Nat X: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-439-naked-life-story-nat-x  EP 547: Naked Life Story – Claire: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-547-naked-life-story-claire/   Resources Mentioned: Joy's Website: https://www.afreelifecoaching.com  Joy's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/afreelife_/  Joy's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AFreeLifeCoach/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Have you ever sabotaged your progress because it felt easier than standing out? As seven-year-old Helga raced toward the finish line, it was clear she would win. But suddenly, she turned around and let everyone pass her. Why? Because she felt uncomfortable being in the lead. This moment captures a lifelong pattern of holding back when she's about to succeed. Helga even found herself doing the same thing in her relationship with alcohol, feeling like she didn't deserve a better life. In this episode, Coach Mike helps Helga see how her instinct to pull back is really about staying safe. Together, they explore how fear and guilt can actually become tools for growth, and why learning to love herself is the only way to break free. In this episode, Coach Mike and Helga will discuss: - Why we feel nervous about standing out - How negative emotions can benefit us - The problem with loving yourself conditionally - Toning down your true self with alcohol  - How self-sabotage can be a way to protect yourself - Turning negative feelings into tools for growth - Learning to embrace your unique self - Why it feels safer to fit in than stand out - How to stop holding yourself back - Celebrating your wins without guilt - And other topics… Mike Shennan is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who helps people take back control from alcohol, especially those who have seen their drinking habits gradually escalate as they reach mid-life. Using his own experiences and This Naked Mind methods, he guides his clients in changing how they think about drinking. Having lost both parents to alcohol-related illnesses, he is passionate about how drinking can have an impact not just on oneself, but on everyone around them. Learn more about Coach Mike: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/mike-shennan/  Related Episodes: EP 46: Reader Question – How Do I Let Go of Self-Sabotage?: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-46-how-do-i-let-go-of-self-sabotage/  EP 596: Reader Question – Why do I self-sabotage?: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-596-reader-question-choosing-hope-over-doubt/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Is the fear of drinking again keeping you from fully enjoying your life? After going through detox three times, Erin was afraid to drink again. She didn't want to go on vacations or to bars because she was scared. Even though she stayed away from alcohol for years, she still felt stuck because she was often thinking about not drinking. She was eager to step into the next chapter of her life but couldn't leave behind the structure that had supported her. Then, Erin found This Naked Mind, which helped her see that she could live without fear, shame, or anxiety. In this episode, Annie chats with Erin about what it took to change her mindset and finally live a life of true freedom. In this episode, Annie and Erin will discuss: - Why feeling powerless doesn't help - Moving past the fear of drinking again - Learning and growing from mistakes - Feeling lonely on your alcohol-free journey - How ads trick our brains into thinking alcohol is fun - Seeing cravings as a chance to learn - Why she started drinking again during cancer treatment - Her initial resistance to This Naked Mind - Drinking to connect with your partner - The problem with using fear to stay in control - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 41: Relationships, Marriage & Alcohol with Stacey Martino: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-41-relationships-marriage-alcohol-with-stacey-martino/  EP 106: Reader's Question – Why does living alcohol-free feel lonely?: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-106-readers-question-living-alcohol-free-feel-lonely/  EP 184: Reader Question – Does alcohol advertising really work?: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-184-does-alcohol-advertising-really-work-2/  EP 222: Reader Question – What if my marriage is dependent on alcohol?: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-222-reader-question-what-if-my-marriage-is-dependent-on-alcohol/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Are you wondering how to build meaningful connections without drinking? Gregory once turned to substances to win fast friends. But that didn't bring the deep, meaningful connections he really wanted. What he needed to realize, however, was that he had to connect with himself first, and reading This Naked Mind was the first step in the right direction. He took a leap of faith into a new way of life and never looked back. Since his last conversation with Annie on the podcast, he has been focused on his life and fitness goals, even becoming a CrossFit coach. In this “Where Are They Now” episode, Gregory and Hayley chat about the positive changes in his life and explore his journey toward building authentic relationships. In this episode, Hayley and Gregory will discuss: - Turning to substances to win fast friends - How This Naked Mind rocked his world - Truly connecting with himself - How drinking a lot can hinder connection - Having a good time without substances - Growing out of your comfort zone - The power of self-awareness - Gregory's passion for health and fitness - Showing up for yourself even when it's hard - Building authentic connections in a community - Why you need to be gentle with yourself - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 410: Reader Question – Do I need to cut ties with my drinking friends?: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-410-reader-question-do-i-need-to-cut-ties-with-my-drinking-friends  EP 109: Naked Life Story: Greg: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-109-naked-life-story-greg/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Does alcohol really lead to the good life, or is it taking more than it gives? For a long time, Rajinder believed alcohol was necessary to have fun at celebrations and on vacations. From the glass of mimosa on the plane to the pretty cocktail at resort check-in, Rajinder's holidays were always wrapped up in alcohol. But the hangovers were awful, and the plane rides home left her feeling like she needed a vacation from her vacation. It wasn't until she discovered This Naked Mind that she started to question how much alcohol was really adding to or taking away from her experience of fun. In this coaching session, Coach Onowa works with Rajinder to explore the belief that alcohol leads to the good life.  In this episode, Coach Onowa and Rajinder will discuss: - Why we think alcohol equals fun - How advertising shapes our beliefs about alcohol - The illusion of fun that alcohol creates - What fun really feels like  - Why you need to question long-held beliefs - How drinking can take away from real fun - Why it helps to understand how alcohol affects the body - How alcohol numbs not just the bad, but also the good - How drinking can mess with your sleep and mood - Planning alcohol-free vacations - And other topics… Onowa Bjella is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach with over two decades of experience as an educational professional. Having lost her mother at a young age, she understands how people with trauma often turn to alcohol. Onowa helps health-conscious moms like herself embrace self-compassion and take control of their relationship with alcohol. Learn more about Coach Onowa: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/onowa-bjella/  Related Episodes: EP 18: Reader Question – Is Not Drinking Really More Fun?: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-18-reader-question-is-not-drinking-really-more-fun/  EP 164: Reader Question – Are vacations and holidays more fun without drinking?: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-164-are-vacations-and-holidays-more-fun-without-drinking/  EP 184: Reader Question – Does alcohol advertising really work?: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-184-does-alcohol-advertising-really-work-2/ EP 362: Reader Question – Will I ever have fun without drinking alcohol?: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-362-reader-question-will-i-ever-have-fun-without-drinking-alcohol/  EP 652: Reader's Question – How To Plan an Alcohol-Free Vacation: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-652-readers-question-how-to-plan-an-alcohol-free-vacation/  Other Resources: How To Understand Alcohol's Effects on Your Body: https://thisnakedmind.com/alcohols-effects-body/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Have you ever felt like different parts of you are at war?  Cole thought alcohol would always dominate his life. Drinking helped him cope with the grief of losing his father, and before he knew it, he couldn't separate it from his identity. He endured many years of darkness and self-blame, feeling trapped in a war with himself. But one day, he decided it was time for a change. He committed to learning more about himself and soon found This Naked Mind, which gave him the clarity he needed. Not only did he find peace, but he also rediscovered his purpose—helping others as a coach. In this episode, Cole talks with Annie about his journey to finally embracing the different parts of himself. Together, they explore what it takes to move from putting yourself down to treating yourself with kindness. In this episode, Annie and Cole will discuss: - How alcohol provided relief from grief - Drinking as a way to connect with his late father - When alcohol became part of his identity - The downward spiral of self-criticism - The moment that marked his first step to freedom - How This Naked Mind empowered his journey - How journaling helped Cole face his demons - Healing through self-love - How to heal cognitive dissonance - Why “mindful” breaks are useful - Why demonizing part of yourself is counterproductive - Embracing all the different sides of ourselves - Why Cole is passionate about coaching - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 262: Reader Question – How do I deal with death and grief without alcohol: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-262-reader-question-grief-without-alcohol/  EP 654: Reader's Question – Overcoming Subconscious Beliefs Around Self-Worth: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-654-readers-question-overcoming-subconscious-beliefs-around-self-worth/ Other Resources: Monthly Journaling Challenge: https://thisnakedmind.com/tag/monthly-journaling-challenge/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Do you ever feel like you're going along with the crowd just to fit in? Patrick C. liked drinking because it made him more social. Instead of being the shy, quiet kid he used to be, alcohol made him feel more fun and confident. But when he started feeling worse every time he drank, Patrick realized he wasn't drinking because he wanted to. Rather, he was drinking to please people and not let them down. In this episode, Patrick talks to Annie about his journey to a healthier lifestyle, his struggles with anxiety, and how he finally overcame the fear of explaining his choices to others. While Patrick was already on his way to freedom before his mother gave him a weathered copy of This Naked Mind, the book inspired him to finally open up and share his story with his loved ones. In this episode, Annie and Patrick will discuss: - Patrick's experience with anxiety - The pressure young people feel to drink in social settings - How Patrick handles his anxiety now - Facing the fear of life without alcohol - Worrying about being judged for not drinking socially - How This Naked Mind inspired Patrick to write his story - How setting boundaries helps with his new social life - Other ways he has fun with friends now - How choosing yourself first makes it easier to do it again - Why it's important to teach kids about alcohol - How Patrick now inspires his friends and family - Annie's kids' book, Buzz to Buzz Kill - The problem with the message “drink responsibly” - The role alcohol plays in the economy - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 655: Naked Life Story – Maria Warner: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-655-naked-life-story-maria-warner-2/  EP 684: Reader's Question – Why Does Drinking Alcohol Make Me Anxious?: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-684-readers-question-why-does-drinking-alcohol-make-me-anxious/  EP 523: How To Talk To Your Kids About Alcohol TNM Parents: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-523-how-to-talk-to-your-kids-about-alcohol-with-scott-pinyard-and-tnm-parents/  Other Resources: Is Drinking Alcohol Part of a Healthy Lifestyle? – Decoding the Buzz: https://thisnakedmind.com/is-drinking-alcohol-part-of-a-healthy-lifestyle/  Let's Talk About The Idea of "Drinking Responsibly": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EnHkRs0V3xQ  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Episode 501 – The Camaraderie of Sobriety   Today we have Kendra. She is 36 years old from Alexandria, MN and took her last drink on March 22nd, 2024.   Sponsors mentioned in this episode:   Better Help  - code ELEVATOR   There are 4 million podcasts on iTunes with tens of millions of episodes. Do you want to know what the #1 downloaded episode was, for two years straight? Is was an episode titled - What Alcohol Does to your Body, Brain and Health, by the Stanford Neuroscientist Andrew Huberman.   All new registrations for Café RE will be added to our community, which is no longer on Facebook. We have found a place that allows us to make these connections better. Beginning October 1st, all current members will start shifting over there as well.   The theme for this podcast is I am Here, I am Whole. These lyrics mean that yes, we can fix, we can make changes, but while listening to this podcast, reinforce the fact that you are not broken. We are all perfectly imperfect, but in this moment, we are all here and we are all whole.   [06:15] Thoughts from Paul:   Paul shares a story about a recent situation involving his goat Hot Dog and some wiring on his truck. After attempting and failing to fix the issue himself, Paul took his truck to the shop where he purchased the truck topper.   After several hours of troubleshooting and referencing the vehicle's owner manual, they found a fuse had blown. This was five weeks after the incident. What Paul didn't know was that his taillights had been out as well. The man said that Paul was lucky the cops didn't pull him over for a DUI. Paul quickly shared that he had quit drinking to which the man replied that he had as well. The conversation continued for a bit about their mutual sobriety.   One thing Paul has recognized in recovery is that the many teams, committees and organizations he has being involved with are no match for the camaraderie of sobriety. He encourages us to leverage the fact that you don't drink to make deeper connections.   [08:44] Paul introduces Kendra:   Kendra is 36 and has lived her life in Minnesota all her life. She is an RN that works with kidney doctors. For fun Kendra enjoys outdoor activities, spending time with her daughter and has been getting into meditation lately.   About six years ago, Kendra started recognizing that drinking wasn't fostering anything positive in her life. She was going through some major life changes and found herself reevaluating things. Kendra says she didn't have an off switch and found herself drinking too much and being hungover most of the next day. She began to try to quit drinking but found it difficult and she would give into peer pressure a lot.   Over the last three years, Kendra attempted many moderation techniques. She was using a sobriety tracker to see her progress. She started bringing NA options to events, and even if she would still drink, she acknowledges that it was less. While there were no stereotypical rock-bottom events, Kendra recognizes that everyone's rock bottom looks different.   Also, over the last several years Kendra started listening to podcasts about recovery and found the book This Naked Mind by Annie Grace which she feels helped her. She says everything was lining up to push her towards what life could look like without alcohol.   Kendra said she only had eight drinks from January to March this year. Her quit date is a few days after her father's 39th sobriety anniversary. Kendra says that listening to other's stories has been helpful. She finds that being prepared and planning before going to social functions is important.   Kendra's best sober moment: where she can be present with her daughter and remember everything.   Kendra's parting piece of guidance: keep it simple and just try to keep logging those days. One decision at a time and focus on your overall health.   Recovery Elevator You took the elevator down, you got to take the stairs back up. We can do this.   RE on Instagram RE merch Recovery Elevator YouTube Sobriety Tracker iTunes       

If you are truly yourself, will you still belong in your community? Deborah has always been a likable person who fits in effortlessly. But as she steps into her alcohol-free identity, she worries she will lose her connection with her community. In this coaching session, Coach Lance helps her break down her fears around rejection and judgment, showing her that real belonging comes from being unapologetically herself. Deborah discovers that the greatest gift she can offer herself and those around her is the freedom to be her most authentic self. In this episode, Coach Lance and Deborah will discuss: - Her decision to start The PATH with a fake name - The courage to be authentic in a conformist world  - How societal norms shape our relationship with alcohol - The difference between fitting in and truly belonging  - The fear of rejection when stepping into a new identity - Practical tools for embracing authenticity  - The fear of missing out on connection - The unexpected freedom of giving up alcohol - How authenticity can be contagious - The exhausting cycle of being a social chameleon - And other topics… Lance Anthony Scott is a Certified TNM Coach who brings the same passion he once reserved for the arts to his coaching. He believes that both the arts and overcoming alcohol dependency are about truth, authenticity, and expressing a beauty that is honest and real. After breaking out of what he calls “booze jail” using the This Naked Mind methodology, Lance became deeply inspired to support others who, like himself, felt falsely imprisoned by alcohol.  Learn more about Coach Lance: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/lance-anthony-scott/  Related Episodes: EP 675: Naked Life Story – Susie P.: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-675-naked-life-story-susie-p/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Can alcohol really take away the pain—or is it secretly adding to it?  Sarah, a mother burdened by chronic pain and daily pressures, turned to alcohol just to get through the day. But as she depended more on drinking, the impact on her health and happiness grew worse. The pain radiated through her body and she felt increasingly weighed down by feelings of unworthiness. In this coaching session, Sarah reveals the true stakes: her health, her peace, and the moments she fears losing with her children. With Coach Lance's guidance, she faces the truth of her situation and learns that true relief and joy, like enjoying the warmth of the sun as she floats in the pool with her kids, are possible without alcohol. In this episode, Coach Lance and Sarah will discuss: - The core belief driving Sarah to drink - The hidden cost of using alcohol to numb pain - Challenging the belief that alcohol brings relief - The physical and emotional toll of drinking - Slowing down for true healing - The dangerous cycle of drinking to stay productive - The problem with linking productivity to self-worth - True relief beyond alcohol - And other topics… Lance Anthony Scott is a Certified TNM Coach who brings the same passion he once reserved for the arts to his coaching. He believes that both the arts and overcoming alcohol dependency are about truth, authenticity, and expressing a beauty that is honest and real. After breaking out of what he calls “booze jail” using the This Naked Mind methodology, Lance became deeply inspired to support others who, like himself, felt falsely imprisoned by alcohol.  Learn more about Coach Lance: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/lance-anthony-scott/  Related Episodes: EP 719: Naked Life Story - Katie W.: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-719-naked-life-story-katie-w/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Are you really in control of your relationship with alcohol or is it just an illusion? From crushing it in the corporate world to managing life as a working mom, drinking helped Jenn M. wind down, meet new people, and belong in social circles. Alcohol helped her be the best version of herself, and she had it under control. Or so she thought. Over time, as she noticed the effects of alcohol on her mind and body, she began to question her relationship with it. She struggled to draw the line, but it wasn't until she read This Naked Mind that she could really see alcohol for what it was. Now finally free, she has started to focus on creating a life she doesn't want to escape from. In this episode, Jenn takes us through her journey of ups and downs with alcohol, from immersing herself in “mommy wine” culture to navigating major life stressors.  In this episode, Annie and Jenn will discuss: - Why Jenn initially believed alcohol was making her successful - Jenn's struggle to reconcile her success with her drinking habits - How the illusion of control over her drinking kept her stuck  - The early warning signs alcohol was taking a toll on her health - How Jenn struggled to draw the line with her drinking - The pivotal moments that made Jenn question her drinking habits - The perception that drinking was cool in the 1980s  - How feeling like she didn't belong in her family drew her to alcohol - The family secret that exposed the true nature of her relationship with alcohol - Jenn's experience navigating “mommy wine” culture - The struggles of going alcohol-free during vacations and social events - How she discovered This Naked Mind - Alcohol numbing the “real” fun - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 457: Naked Life Story – Zac: https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-457-naked-life-story-zac/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!