Podcasts about this naked mind

Today we have Lori. She is 58 years old from Vancouver, Canada. She took her last drink on February 21st, 2024.   This episode brought to you by: Better Help – 10% off of your first month #sponsored Café RE – the social app for sober people   [03:11] Thoughts from Paul:   Paul shares that his second book, Dolce Vita, is currently in the editing process and should be out by November this year. This was also the name of the bar he owned Spain when he was in his 20's. The name is Italian for “the good life” which Paul once thought he could find at the bottom of a bottle. He began to notice that his Dolce Vita had an expiration date that would get shorter and shorter over time.   The thing Paul thought was delivering the dolce vita was slowly and methodically destroying any chance of having one. It wasn't until he finally ditched the booze that the good life actually showed up. He learned that the sweetness wasn't in escaping life, it was finally showing up for it.   The good life is right here in front of us all, right here in this moment, as long as we stay away from a drink today.   [09:19] Paul introduces Lori:   Lori is 58 years old and lives in the suburbs of Vancouver, Canada. She has been married for 37 years, and they have two grown children and one grandchild. Lori has been a realtor for 35 years and for fun she enjoys golf and physical fitness.    Lori shares that she had a great childhood, but her mother was an alcoholic, and it affected her negatively throughout the years. In high school, Lori aspired to be an actress and craved attention. Having an already outgoing personality, it just got bigger when she was drinking and garnered more attention.   Lori had a lot of resentments towards her mother over the years and admits she treated her poorly. They did not make amends before her mother passed, and Lori says that is when her drinking started ramping up. On the outside, everything was going well with her career and her kids, but the weekends revolved around drinking.   Some mornings Lori would wake up depressed, regretful of her actions the night before and be plagued with the “not again” feelings. Lori and her husband would discuss cutting back on drinking and she acknowledges that he only drank as much as he did because of her.   In 2022 Lori was able to quit drinking for 77 days with the help of This Naked Mind and participated in two 30-day alcohol experiments. Then something negative happened and Lori found herself reaching for a glass of wine. Before long she was drinking at any time of day, hiding alcohol in her sock drawer and sneaking shots of moonshine.   After a weekend trip with some friends where Lori could not get the happy buzz that she was looking for from the alcohol, she knew that something had to change. She joined the RE Ukelele course and decided to stick around. With the help and encouragement of some fellow members, she started to believe that maybe she could be alcohol-free.   Lori began going to a lot of chats with Café RE, first with the camera off just taking notes. She began to participate by asking questions and listening. The community has helped Lori find her mantra to hit the pillow sober every night. The first 30 days felt like the calendar was moving backwards, but she kept going.   Lori still stays social with her friends but has recently been feeling like she is at a crossroads. Some events that used to be fun no longer are and she is feeling a shift. The RE community means a lot to her and she is currently seeking more sober connections local to her.   Some of the bright lights in sobriety for Lori are the ability to be heard, being reliable, and she now feels better physically as well as mentally.   Lori's parting piece of guidance: please decide your “whys” If the cons outweigh the pros, you need to take alcohol out of your life.   Recovery Elevator You took the elevator down, you gotta take the stairs back up. We can do this. I love you guys.     RE on Instagram Recovery Elevator YouTube Sobriety Tracker iTunes     

In this midyear news roundup episode of Recovery in the Middle Ages, Mike and Nat discuss the most significant addiction and recovery stories of 2025. From the federal crackdown on kratom's potent opioid-like compound to San Francisco's hard pivot away from harm reduction, we're breaking down what these changes mean for people in and around recovery. We'll also explore why New York's overdose death rate just dropped like a rock, how Scotland's first legal injection site is making waves, and why India's rehab clinics are overflowing.  It's our first episode since February so buckle up. We've got some personal updates and reflections on the last five months that will be of interest to one and all. *This podcast does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment.* Please remember to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast on your favorite platform to get the latest episode delivered right to your devices as soon as it's released. LINKS: We are a listener-supported podcast. If you like what we're doing here at RMA and want to support the show, JOIN THE RECOVERY IN THE MIDDLE AGES PATREON  Our sole mission is to help other people achieve sobriety and become their best, most authentic selves. As little as $3 a month makes a big difference and helps us keep the lights on.  https://www.patreon.com/RecoveryintheMiddleAges As always, we thank you for your support.  RMA ON YOUTUBE FOLLOW US ON TWITTER  Facebook Page We also have a Facebook Group! Request to join the group. It's a private space for continuing the discussion of what Nat and Mike talk about on the podcast. Hope to see you there. PLEASE leave us a 5 star review on I-Tunes if you're enjoying the show and SUBSCRIBE to get the latest episodes.  Email: MikeR@middleagesrecovery.com Natx@middleagesrecovery.com We all have a story. Tell us yours and we'll share it on the show! E-Mail your story to miker@middleagesrecovery.com If you're in trouble with substance abuse and need help, reach out. There are thousands of people who have put problems with addiction in their rear-view mirrors and you can be one of them. While we neither endorse nor condemn any particular program, the sheer number of available AA and NA meetings suggest that reaching out to those organizations would be a good first step, (but maybe not the last step), on your road to recovery.   https://www.aa.org/ https://www.na.org/meetingsearch/ Marijuana Anonymous (just in case): This Naked Mind  

Why is it so hard to rethink our drinking and what does it actually look like to drink less without going “all or nothing”? In this special summer mini-series of The Big Drink Rethink, host Anna Donaghey revisits her most downloaded conversation with broadcaster and writer Adrian Chiles. Adrian shares his personal, honest journey from heavy to moderate drinking, not by swearing off alcohol, but by noticing when “enough is enough” and finding what works for him.Adrian's story brings clarity and realism to moderation, highlighting how even small changes can spark more joy, presence, and satisfaction, when we are conscious of what we drink.Here are the highlights:00:00 Introduction04:41 Adrian's story: heavy drinking, shocking discoveries, and the wake-up call07:12 Counting units: the power of writing it all down09:29 Challenging “all or nothing”, why moderation might work for you11:22 The impact of simply removing the drinks you don't want13:00 Mindful drinking and choosing what genuinely brings you joy15:03 Why the first drink is magical (and the fifth, not so much)23:06 Most people really do drink less than you think27:20 Why “alcoholic” is an unhelpful label30:08 Track your drinking, make it simple, take away the shame33:52 The challenges and freedoms of moderation35:22 Setting non-negotiables so the “sweet spot” can become your reality

Today we have Rachel. She is 48 years old and lives in Minneapolis, MN. She took her last drink on August 28th, 2018.   This episode brought to you by: Better Help – 10% off of your first month #sponsored Sober Link – learn more and save $50 off of a device     Come join us in beautiful Bozeman, Montana this August 6th – 10th for our annual flagship retreat. We have a few camping spots as well as a few spots left in the men's cabin.   [02:50] Thoughts from Paul:   Healing can look a bit like a paradox and Paul shares several examples showing this. Tying this same idea into ditching the booze we can say that quitting drinking can make you feel more anxious at first, when it's actually making you calmer in the long run. Quitting drinking can make you feel more emotional and raw when it's actually making you more resilient. Sobriety can make you feel bored at first, but it's actually clearing space for hobbies and adventures that you'll deeply enjoy.   Healing can hurt at first, but look out, brighter days are just on the horizon. Can you do this? Absolutely. Will there be stumbles, bad days? Without a doubt.   You can do this, you are doing this and you're further along on your AF journey than you think. Keep moving forward.   [06:30] Paul introduces Rachel:   Rachel is 48 and lives just outside of Minneapolis, MN. She is married and they have three cats. She is a director in financial services and for fun she enjoys reading, writing and attending meet ups with other sober people.   Alcohol was always present when Rachel was growing up. She was an achiever in school and had already completed some college before graduating high school. Drinking was not a focus for her through her school years, and she didn't start drinking until later in her life.   Around 2008 during the national financial crisis, Rachel says her drinking changed. Being a bond trader during this time was tough due to the uncertainty of the future. Rachel found herself having a drink after work and it became part of habit loop for her: go to work, come home, have a drink.  Over the next 7 to 10 years, that one drink turned into multiple bottles.   Rachel was desperate to figure out how to solve this issue without drinking and tried moderation with no luck. She began reading books like This Naked Mind and listening to podcasts like RE. She felt the stories on the podcast were relatable because they were normal people and not the stereotypical bum under a bridge with the brown paper bag.   After hearing suggestions of trying to quit for 30 days, Rachel decided to try it and has been sober ever since. She says the first three days were hard but within seven days she was sleeping better than she ever had. Rachel began substituting wine with sparkling water and while it was tough at first, it became her new habit. She also joined Café RE and found community there and in AA.   Rachel recently self-published a book called Functional: A High Performer's Guide to Achieving Freedom from Alcohol. She says she wrote a book that she wishes were available to her when she got sober. Many of the books out there have glaring rock bottom moments which Rachel said she didn't have. She believes that it may sometimes be harder for people without a rock bottom to quit because it isn't as obvious that they need to.   Rachel's best advice to somebody that is functional is to just try to quit for 30 days and use it as a time of self-discovery.   Recovery Elevator It all starts from the inside out. I love you guys. We can do this.   Café RE – the social app for sober people RE on Instagram Recovery Elevator YouTube Sobriety Tracker iTunes       

This week, the Besties sit down with Ashley Young. A mom, wife, and founder of Fizzy and Free to talk about what it means to ditch the nightly wine ritual and find yourself again in the chaos of motherhood.Ashley opens up about her journey from being a nightly drinker to finding sobriety, peace, and purpose. She shares the real-life challenges of being a mom in a wine-obsessed world, how she landed in the hospital from a 12-day bender, and what finally pushed her to stop hitting reset and start building something better. Not just for herself but for other moms who feel like they're drowning in expectations and the overwhelming chaos of motherhood.Expect honest conversations about:The sneaky way alcohol becomes part of a mom's identityThe pressure of "mommy wine culture" and social media highlight reelsCreating small, sustainable change vs. all-or-nothing thinkingHow to support yourself (or a friend) when stuck in the “Day One” cycleWhat freedom really looks like after alcoholPlus, hear how Fizzy and Free was born, how Lisa Frank inspired Ashley's branding, and why sometimes a sticker on your body (or a bowl of M&Ms) is the dopamine hit you need.Highlights from this episode:Ashley's candid take on postpartum expectations and losing yourself in motherhoodDevan and Kelsey's reflections on foster parenting, early intervention, and navigating “mom guilt”The magic of Annie Grace's This Naked Mind and the science behind alcohol cravingsFlash round fun (including Ashley's Imagine Dragons hype songs and guilty pleasure desserts)Connect with Ashley Young:Instagram & Facebook: @fizzyandfreeSign Up for Ashley's Free Workshop on August 1st: Stop Hitting Reset — 5 Tools to Break the Nightly Wine CycleIf you loved this episode, share it with your bestie, leave a review, and don't forget to hit subscribe. All episodes are available on Spotify & Apple Podcasts.You can also follow Devan and Kelsey for more unfiltered conversations about real life, motherhood, and building a life on your terms on their Instagram @twobestieswithamic

If you've ever wondered why alcohol cravings can feel so powerful or why breaking habits is so tough, this episode is for you.In this special summer mini-series of the Big Drink Rethink, Anna Donaghey recaps essential brain science insights from past episodes and breaks down how simple psychology can empower your sober-curious journey through the summer.Anna revisits some of the podcast's most powerful, brain-based insights from understanding why our cravings aren't a sign of weakness, to simple tips for outsmarting decision fatigue, and the magic of neuroplasticity. Anna breaks down the core motivations driving our drinking habits and shows how small tweaks in our routines can create lasting, meaningful change.Here are the highlights: 00:00 Introduction06:25 The brain seeks pleasure and avoids pain to ensure survival08:15 Humans prefer familiar habits to conserve brain energy13:05 Habits aren't about the substance but the brain's expectations; altering routines can change this14:11 Alcohol creates an artificial high with negative consequences20:50 Alcohol hinders decision-making, creating a negative cycle24:04 Emotional sobriety involves facing and staying with feelings without using alcohol as an escape27:58 You can change and evolve with your decisions.

Monica Olano, founder of Cali Sober Mom, a trusted source to learn about and discover safe and effective cannabis products, host of the Cali Sober Mom Podcast, cannabis brand ambassador and reform advocate, is the Cali Sober Mom. Monica's journey into cannabis began on June 18, 2022 when she faced severe complications during the birth of her twins. The distressing experience led to postpartum depression and anxiety, which she initially coped with through alcohol, severely affecting her ability to care for her three young children. Her condition worsened despite psychiatric help, but determined to change, she embarked on a sobriety journey on April 3, 2023, exploring medical marijuana as an alternative coping mechanism. Her sobriety journey was significantly influenced by books like "This Naked Mind" by Annie Grace and "Quit Like a Woman," by Holly Whitaker, which exposed the manipulative tactics of the alcohol industry. Embracing a sober lifestyle, Monica found relief in cannabis edibles and beverages, which helped her become more present and calm. This inspired her to create a podcast to share her journey and educate others about the benefits of cannabis over alcohol, leveraging her background in digital marketing and sales to connect with industry professionals and envision her own cannabis-related ventures. Monica's advocacy extends to social justice issues, particularly the socio-economic impacts of cannabis legalization and the disproportionate incarceration of nonwhite individuals for minor drug offenses. Balancing her roles as a mother, entrepreneur, and advocate, she remains committed to promoting healthier alternatives and broader societal change, driven by a desire to challenge harmful industries and improve health and justice outcomes.

Do sunny holidays, BBQs, and lazy afternoons have you reaching for another drink almost on autopilot? Summer can bring all sorts of triggers for drinking, but it doesn't have to be that way.In this practical, supportive episode, Anna Donaghey shares five brilliant, totally free tools to help you stay in control of your drinking this summer whether you're sober-curious, moderating, or just want to be more intentional.This episode will help you to enjoy the long summer days without ‘beer fear' and all the other feelings of self-regret and recrimination that can follow after drinking too much. Here are the highlights: 00:00 Introduction: Why summer stirs up drinking scripts03:05 Tool 1: The SUN Framework: Spot, Update & Nourish your summer stories08:39 Tool 2: Visualisation – Design summer events in your mind to feel confident and in control16:42 Tool 3: Moderation strategies: Hydration, skipping fizz, alternating drinks (“zebra striping”), and making mornings matter24:36 Tool 4: Quick reset exercises: Breathing, mindfulness, emotional check-ins, and changing your physical state29:39 Tool 5: Journaling: Capture your progress, reflect on your wins, and anchor your new summer story

TW: This episode discusses sensitive topics related to alcohol use, addiction, and mental health. Are you searching for how to stop drinking without calling yourself an alcoholic? That's the question Coaches Bill, Lisa, and Pam answer in this episode, as they courageously share their journeys of finding freedom from alcohol. Coach Bill explains how This Naked Mind helped him quit drinking without adopting the label of "addict," while Coach Lisa reflects on how The Path offered her a safe, supportive space to learn about herself and stop judging her relationship with alcohol. Tune in as they explore how self-compassion, curiosity, and community can help you create the life you deserve. In this episode, Coach Bill + Coach Pam discuss: Choosing This Naked Mind because it showed him how to stop drinking without calling yourself an alcoholic Seeking a program that uplifted him and showed him his inherent power. The profound shift from despair to helping others find freedom. Practicing grace, compassion, and kindness towards himself in the process. Overcoming fear with curiosity to examine what was "underneath the drinking." The beauty of connecting with others in the This Naked Mind community. The realization that The Path shows you the way to feel your inherent awesomeness. Moving from a mindset of perfection to one of continuous progress. …and more In this episode, Coach Lisa + Coach Pam discuss: Feeling truly "seen" for the first time by This Naked Mind content. Finding security and safety within The Path program, realizing she wasn't alone. Learning to stop judging herself and building self-trust. How alcohol forced a conversation that led to designing a life she's excited to wake up to. The understanding that her "anxiety" was her inner wisdom desperate to be heard. The profound feeling of hope and possibility on her first alcohol-free Christmas morning. The truth that there's "no VIP line to freedom" – every step matters and consistency builds self-trust. …and more Coach Bill is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who turned his personal struggle into his life's mission. Starting his relationship with alcohol at 16 to cope with trauma and lack of community support, Bill spent 40 years trapped in cycles of negativity and dependency before finding freedom through This Naked Mind on December 27, 2021. He believes there's a better way than traditional recovery methods and specializes in helping LGBTQAI+ individuals explore their unique path to alcohol freedom through honest self-exploration in a completely safe, judgment-free environment. Learn more about Coach Bill: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/bill-masters/ Coach Lisa is a Certified Senior This Naked Mind Coach and Designing Your Life Coach. After breaking free from daily drinking in 2018, she now helps high-achieving women overcome anxiety and disconnection through intentional, alcohol-free living. Lisa's coaching blends science-backed mindset work with practical life design strategies, guiding women to create lasting change and authentic joy. With over two decades of leadership in international sport, she brings a grounded, compassionate presence to clients navigating burnout, reinvention, and self-discovery. Learn more about Coach Lisa: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/lisa-kwiatkowski/ BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month at ⁠⁠http://BetterHelp.com/NAKEDMIND|BetterHelp.com/NAKEDMIND⁠⁠ Quince: For your next trip, treat yourself to the luxe upgrades you deserve from Quince. Go to ⁠⁠http://Quince.com/naked|Quince.com/naked⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Hungryroot: Get 40% off your first box + a free item for life at ⁠⁠http://Hungryroot.com/mind|Hungryroot.com/mind⁠⁠ with code mind Shopify: Start your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠http://Shopify.com/mind|Shopify.com/mind⁠

Is the British drinking culture changing and what does that mean for sober summer socialising? In this episode, host Anna Donaghey sits down with Chris Cardone: US World Class Bartender, award-winning mixologist, and ten years sober. Chris lifts the lid on a radical rethink in hospitality and what it means to create proper, delicious, inclusive drinks experiences whether or not alcohol is involved.Listen to learn more about the world of mixology, making bars inclusive spaces for everyone and to get some summer non-alcoholic drinks inspiration!Highlights:00:00 Introduction02:12 Chris's journey from “Cocktail” VHS inspiration to dive bars and world-class competitions05:56 Why Chris chose sobriety in the most alcoholic industry on earth 10:52 How drinking expectations in hospitality shaped (and challenged) his identity13:30 Pushback, social media backlash, and why Chris almost left the bar world for good15:57 You don't need to drink to be a world-class mixologist16:53 It's not about taking sides, but creating inclusive experiences for all20:09 How venues can support every guest, whatever they are drinking 28:10 How bar design, music and even lighting shape what we drink36:04 Why connection should be the heart of social spaces46:34 Chris's favourite summer drinks and tips for experimenting at home

Click here to register for the neural rewrite masterclass! How to escape your negative self-talk. Click here to watch this episode on YouTube!  What happens when you're the person everyone counts and you're secretly falling apart? In this episode, Colleen sits down with tech founder, entrepreneur and coach Mike Hardenbrook for an honest conversation about what it looks like when high-functioning people hit their limit. Mike opens up about the moment his drinking stopped working, why success can be a mask for burnout, and what it really takes to start living from self-trust instead of self-discipline. Mike's story is proof that you don't have to lose everything to change—but you do have to stop pretending everything's fine. If you're tired of performing under pressure, this episode will show you how to walk away from the bad habits that aren't serving you anymore without losing your edge--or the fun version of yourself.  Mike has also developed a brand of supplements specifically for drinkers looking to cut back that have been shown to reduce alcohol cravings up to 60% and correct the nutritional deficiencies caused by regular drinking.  Find Mike: Mike's Instagram  Mike's Website.  Click here to shop for the Cloud 9 supplements mentioned in the interview.   Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc  YouTube: @hangoverwhisperer —Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!   

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What happens when your biggest insecurities surface every time you enter a social situation? Rachel relies on drinking to overcome anxiety at networking events, transforming into her "bubbly self." Chris battles a cycle of progress and setbacks, especially when family visits trigger old patterns. Coach Bill helps them learn how to set healthy boundaries with alcohol while building authentic confidence that doesn't depend on liquid courage. In Rachel's session: Addressing imposter syndrome and social anxiety at networking events Reframing feelings of inferiority into curiosity about potential mentors Recognizing "not belonging" thoughts as internal stories, not reality Planning alcohol-free alternatives like dinners with comfortable colleagues Maintaining social connections while learning how to set healthy boundaries with alcohol Practicing presence without staying too long at after-work events And more topics… In Chris' session: Breaking cycles of progress and setbacks in alcohol-free journeys Navigating family disappointment and social pressure around drinking Identifying relationships overly dependent on alcohol consumption Preparing non-alcoholic drink alternatives for social situations Challenging beliefs about needing alcohol to be interesting Developing exit strategies for overwhelming social gatherings And more… Coach Bill is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who turned his personal struggle into his life's mission. Starting his relationship with alcohol at 16 to cope with trauma and lack of community support, Bill spent 40 years trapped in cycles of negativity and dependency before finding freedom through This Naked Mind on December 27, 2021. He believes there's a better way than traditional recovery methods and specializes in helping LGBTQAI+ individuals explore their unique path to alcohol freedom through honest self-exploration in a completely safe, judgment-free environment. Learn more about Coach Bill: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/bill-masters/ Related Episodes: EP 622: Reader's Question – Effective Strategies for Setting Boundaries with Family |https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-620-readers-question-effective-strategies-for-setting-boundaries-with-family/ EP 439: Naked Life Story – Nat X  | https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-439-naked-life-story-nat-x/ EP 670: Reader's Question – How do you stay motivated to be alcohol-free? | https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-670-readers-question-how-do-you-stay-motivated-to-be-alcohol-free/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Click here to register for the Rewrite Neural Pathways to Escape Negative Self-Talk Workshop on July 12th Click here to watch this episode on YouTube   Do you have confidence and discipline in most areas of your life, and feel befuddled as to why your drinking feels so hard to control?   If your drinking feels out of alignment with your values, your goals, or your sense of self, this episode will give you a clear understanding as to what's really going on, and also five powerful, science-based strategies that will help you stop yourself from over-drinking—without relying on willpower, restriction, or shaming yourself into submission.  Whether you're trying to moderate, avoid shame spirals, or feel more in control after a stressful day, these tools will help you reset your nervous system, reconnect with your values, and get your brain off autopilot so you can build new habits that align with who you really are.

What if you could enjoy socializing without alcohol and actually feel more connected? Regina's story is a powerful reminder that alcohol doesn't have to be part of the equation. From her early days of using alcohol to fit in, to the realization that alcohol was no longer serving her, Regina shares how her relationship with alcohol shifted. Through challenges and growth, she learned how to enjoy socializing without alcohol and found deeper, more authentic connections. Join Regina and Coach Cole as they dive into her journey and explore how breaking free from alcohol can unlock real social joy. In this episode, Cole and Regina discuss: Growing up with family mental health and addiction challenges First drinking experience at 12 and using alcohol for emotional release How to enjoy socializing without alcohol when it's been your connection tool Understanding the difference between social drinking and problem drinking Family patterns of addiction and mental health struggles Using alcohol as a coping mechanism for anxiety and trauma Postpartum psychosis and the wake-up call to change The power of "This Naked Mind" and cognitive dissonance concepts Finding empowerment through alcohol-free experiences Learning how to enjoy socializing without alcohol at concerts and events Practical strategies for maintaining alcohol freedom and other topics…

My guest this week is Tabin Almond who shares her powerful journey from high-functioning drinking to lasting sobriety. In this episode: Tabbin grew up in a drinking culture and entered the boozy world of advertising. She tried AA but couldn't relate – the labeling and negative focus didn't resonate. Her breast cancer diagnosis became a pivotal moment  Tabbin read This Naked Mind and had coaching support to stop drinking for good. She's now a certified alcohol-free coach working with professionals and organisations. She's written a book called Bottling Up Trouble – which explores the hidden costs of alcohol in the workplace. There are some fascinating statistics in her book – including the fact that: 94% of people lie about alcohol-related sick days. The book also examines how workplace drinking culture impacts productivity, safety, inclusion, and wellbeing. Tabbin encourages companies to shift away from booze-centric bonding events and lead with empathy. She has a free assessment tool which you can access here:-  bottlinguptrouble.com – this assessment tool enables both leaders and employees to review any problem areas and start a dialogue Her book advocates for compassion, culture change, and better health education around alcohol. More Info Subscription membership – you can join up HERE. To access our website, click HERE. If you would like a free copy of our “Annual Tracker” or our e-book 66 Days to Sobriety, please email janet@tribesober.com. If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community, just email janet@tribesober.com. Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today Read more about our program and subscribe HERE Help us to Spread the Word! We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share. If you enjoyed the podcast, then please leave us a 5-star review on Apple podcasts. Take a screenshot of your review, and DM it to Tribe Sober's Instagram page – see PS below for instructions. We'll send you something special to say thank you! We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning. You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter, TikTok and Instagram. You can join our private Facebook group HERE. PS: How to Leave a Rating/Review in Apple Podcasts (on an iOS Device) Open the Podcasts app. EASY. Choose “Search” from the bottom row of icons and enter the name of the show (e.g. Recover Like a Mother) into the search field. Select the show under Shows (not under Episodes). Scroll down past the first few episodes until you see Ratings & Reviews. Click Write a Review underneath the displayed reviews from other listeners. You'll then have the option to rate the show on a 5-star scale and write a review (you can rate without writing too but it's always good to read your experience).  

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Why do I need wine every night now when I used to be able to control my drinking? Ronna faced this exact question during the pandemic when her occasional wine with dinner transformed into a nightly necessity for coping with grief and stress. As a musician and pastor's wife, she grew up in a family where alcohol was normalized, but a series of devastating losses—including her sister-in-law's suicide and her mother's death just ten days apart—pushed her daily drinking from social habit to survival tool. After discovering This Naked Mind and learning the science behind alcohol addiction, Ronna realized she wasn't weak or destined to repeat family patterns—she was simply human, responding to an addictive substance during unimaginable pain. In this episode, Ronna joins Coach Cole to share her 448-day journey from shame and hiding to freedom and self-compassion. Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of suicide and family loss. Coach Cole and Ronna discuss: Growing up in a family where alcohol was normalized and expected Starting drinking as a teenager and touring musician lifestyle The slow progression from wine with dinner to daily necessity How pandemic stress amplified existing drinking patterns Dealing with devastating family losses including suicide and death Using alcohol as a tool to cope with grief and stop overthinking The shame of hiding drinking while in a visible church position Discovering This Naked Mind and learning addiction science Realizing "why do I need wine every night now" had scientific answers Finding freedom in "I drink as much as I want, I just don't want to" Choosing self-compassion over shame about past drinking And other topics…

If you're drinking more than you want to, but every time you try to cut back it feels like one more thing to do… this episode is for you. Today, I'm sharing the real story that kept me stuck in the drinking cycle for years—the one that has nothing to do with alcohol:

What would you do if your child told you that you loved alcohol more than them?  For Kate, this devastating moment was just one of many wake-up calls in her journey with alcohol. Growing up in a home where emotions weren't openly expressed, Kate developed patterns of using alcohol to navigate social situations and ultimately to escape feeling uncomfortable emotions. As her tolerance increased, her drinking became more secretive, hidden from her family in elaborate ways that mirrored behaviors she had observed in her own mother. Her story is a vulnerable, honest look at how alcohol keeps you from feeling emotions—grief, guilt, shame, and even love—and what it took to stop hiding and start healing.  In this eye-opening conversation, Kate shares with Annie how finding This Naked Mind helped her understand the science behind her drinking, empowering her to not just change her behavior but transform her entire relationship with alcohol and emotions. In this episode, Annie and Kate discuss: Kate's childhood experiences with alcohol and her mother's secret drinking The progression from social drinking to daily consumption and hiding Creative methods for obtaining alcohol during COVID restrictions The growing disconnect with her daughter due to prioritizing drinking How alcohol keeps you from feeling emotions while hijacking brain chemistry The final day of drinking and the 3 AM moment of decision to change Discovering This Naked Mind and the failed attempt at moderation The transformative experience of The Path program and health improvements Rebuilding trust with family and becoming a certified coach to help others And other topics… Episode links: Connect with Kate - https://freedomaffect.com/ Start reading This Naked Mind - https://thisnakedmind.com/bookJoin The Path - https://go.tnmprograms.com/the-path-from-this-naked-mind Related Episodes: EP 616: Reader's Question – Getting Past Emotional Drinking Triggers – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-616-readers-question-getting-past-emotional-drinking-triggers/ EP 632: Reader's Question – How To Stop Running Away from Life and Emotions – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-630-readers-question-how-to-stop-running-away-from-life-and-emotions/ Dare to Feel: Agnes's Naked Life | E771 - https://thisnakedmind.com/dare-to-feel-agness-naked-life-e771/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Why do we keep drinking even when we know it's hurting us? For Sammie, the answer lay beneath the surface—in the pain she hadn't faced. Her story shows how unresolved trauma leads to drinking and how ignoring what hurts often feels safer than healing. Until it doesn't. In this episode, she opens up about what it took to stop numbing and start living fully. In this raw and real conversation, Annie and Sammie unpack how unresolved trauma leads to drinking and what it means to finally feel your feelings without fear. From parenting through grief to starting over at 49, Sammie's story is a powerful reminder that it's never too late to break old cycles. In this episode, Annie and Sammie discuss: Early alcohol exposure and teen drinking Losing both parents in 19 days Why drinking became her emotional escape What grief looked like in real life What made her stop for good The power of The PATH and the community Experiencing her first alcohol-free festivals Using nursing experience to help others detox safely Finding meaning in coaching and service How unresolved trauma shows up in everyday choices Why it's never too late to change And other topics… Episode links: Sammie's Sober Heroes - https://www.sammiessoberheroes.com/Start reading This Naked Mind - https://thisnakedmind.com/bookJoin The Path - https://go.tnmprograms.com/the-path-from-this-naked-mind

What if the glass of wine you reach for every evening is actually treating something deeper than just stress? Amy takes us through her journey from teenage experimentation to mommy wine culture, revealing how alcohol became her trusted companion through life's challenges. As a high-functioning professional juggling parenting, caregiving responsibilities, and undiagnosed issues, she found herself using alcohol to treat adult ADHD without even realizing it. It wasn't until her son developed addiction issues that Amy began questioning her own relationship with alcohol. Through family therapy, reading This Naked Mind, and completing The Alcohol Experiment, Amy discovered how alcohol was masking her authentic needs while creating more anxiety and depression. Now alcohol-free for four years, she shares how breaking this cycle led to profound personal growth and genuine joy. In this episode, Annie and Amy discuss: Growing up in a conservative "Leave It to Beaver" household Teenage experimentation with alcohol as rebellion Transitioning from weekend binge drinking to daily wine culture How mommy wine culture normalized problematic drinking Using alcohol to treat adult ADHD without realizing it The connection between disordered eating and alcohol consumption Parenting adopted children with unique challenges How family therapy led to self-discovery Breaking free from alcohol at age 51 Finding authentic joy and peace in midlife And other topics… Episode links: Start reading This Naked Mind - https://thisnakedmind.com/book Join The Alcohol Experiment - www.alcoholexperiment.com Related Episodes: EP 719: Naked Life Story – Katie W. - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-719-naked-life-story-katie-w/ EP 110: Reader Question – I stopped drinking alcohol but now I binge on Netflix and ice cream. What's the deal? - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-110-reader-question-stopped-drinking-alcohol-now-binge-netflix-ice-cream-whats-deal/ EP 678: Reader's Question – How to Stop Restricting Food while Drinking? - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-678-readers-question-how-to-stop-restricting-food-while-drinking/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

In this episode, Dr. Aimee joins Colleen to explain what it really means to have “stored trauma” in the body—and why unresolved trauma often shows up not as flashbacks, but as fatigue, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and habits like nightly drinking. You'll hear how trauma is stored at the cellular level, why cognitive awareness isn't enough to heal it, and what it really takes to feel safe in your own body. Key Takeaways: Trauma isn't defined by an event—it's defined by your body's response to overwhelm, powerlessness, and isolation. Many women don't realize they're stuck in a trauma response because it looks like being “too busy,” “not having willpower,” or “just needing to try harder.” The trauma response shows up biologically, at the cellular level, often causing fatigue, anxiety, inflammation, and shut down. The nervous system doesn't respond to logic—it responds to cues of safety and danger. When your body perceives a threat, you can't use reason to override shame, fear and anxiety. You don't heal trauma by talking about it—you heal it by completing the stress response, regulating the nervous system, and shifting how safe you feel in your body. You can pre-order Dr. Amy's new book Biology of Trauma and get over $400 in bonuses at biologyoftrauma.com.   —Want daily updates from me? Find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@hangoverwhisperer   —Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking.   —Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!   

What if the anxiety you've lived with for years could disappear by changing just one habit? Lauren never questioned the drinking culture she grew up with in the UK, where pubs were central to every social occasion. When the pandemic hit shortly after her move to Canada, she began noticing how alcohol had shifted from enjoyment to an unsatisfying habit. Through research and repeatedly listening to This Naked Mind, Lauren began building an alcohol-free lifestyle that lasts, taking extended breaks from drinking that revealed surprising benefits—including the complete disappearance of her anxiety. In this episode, she shares her journey of ups and downs, the importance of self-compassion after slip-ups, and how she's found more genuine joy and connection without alcohol at the center of her life. In this episode, Annie and Lauren discuss: From British pub culture to questioning alcohol's role How the pandemic revealed problematic drinking patterns The process of building an alcohol-free lifestyle that lasts Why tracking "failures" can be counterproductive The complete disappearance of anxiety after reducing alcohol Discovering genuine joy without drinking The surprising impact on hormone health and overall wellness Finding alternatives to "chasing the high" after activities Recognizing the link between alcohol and emotional stability Creating new traditions beyond drinking culture And other topics… Episode links: Related Episodes: EP 445: Finding Joy with Catherine Gray - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-445-finding-joy-with-catherine-gray/ EP 448: What I Wish I Knew Before My First Drink – The Thief of Joy - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-448-what-i-wish-i-knew-before-my-first-drink-the-thief-of-joy/ EP 20: Reader Question – What do You do about Missing the “High” from Drinking? - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-20-reader-question-what-do-you-do-about-missing-the-high-from-drinking/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

How do our thoughts influence our ability to create lasting change? Overcoming automatic negative thoughts begins with understanding how they shape our behaviors and emotions. In this episode, Coach Sam helps Marion navigate triggers around holiday memories and past trauma, while Coach Mike guides Maria through breaking free from her lifelong pattern of negative self-talk. Both guests struggle with how their thoughts fuel their drinking behaviors—Marion with holiday-related trauma that previously led to heavy drinking, and Maria with the "failure" narrative that pulls her back into old patterns. Through these powerful coaching conversations, we witness how identifying and questioning habitual negative thinking creates the foundation for sustainable change. In Marion's Session: Processing trauma around Christmas and her father's death Learning to feel proud of caring for her father during difficult times Moving beyond the memory of a traumatic assault Understanding how trauma memories can trigger drinking behaviors Discovering that self-worth is inherent, not earned The difference between intellectual understanding and embodied knowing Overcoming automatic negative thoughts by seeing them as memories, not reality Finding presence and contentment by not numbing emotions Approaching painful memories with self-compassion Recognizing that healing comes from wisdom, not just intellectual effort and other topics… In Maria's Session: Identifying habitual negative thoughts like "I'm a failure" and "I'm not good enough" Understanding how negative thinking fuels drinking behaviors Learning the ACT technique for overcoming automatic negative thoughts Questioning whether negative beliefs are actually true Seeing how thoughts exist to protect us, not punish us Breaking the cycle of negative thoughts → difficult emotions → unwanted behaviors Moving from black-and-white thinking to nuanced perspectives Recognizing that thoughts are "just strings of words" with meaning we assign The power of neutralizing thoughts rather than forcing positivity Developing mental resilience by questioning habitual thought patterns and more… Sam Goldfinch is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach, and the founder of Rebel Spirituality and the Rebel Spirituality podcast. He also co-hosts the Present & Sober podcast with Ellie Crowe. Having lived nine years alcohol-free, Sam will show you how to live your best life and uncover the truth of YOU before and beyond your conditioning. Learn more about Coach Sam: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/sam-goldfinch/ Mike Shennan is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. He was a long-time social drinker, and his drinking habits increased in his forties due to various life events. However, he has been alcohol-free since February 23, 2018. By sharing his personal experiences and using techniques from This Naked Mind, Mike supports clients who feel their drinking habits have grown as they age, helping them regain control and create a healthier relationship with alcohol. Learn more about Coach Mike: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/mike-shennan/ Related Episodes: EP 512: Reader Question - How do you get comfortable with your own mind? - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-512-reader-question-how-do-you-get-comfortable-with-your-own-mind/ EP 438: Reader Question – How do you survive the holidays without alcohol? - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-512-reader-question-how-do-you-get-comfortable-with-your-own-mind/ EP 616: Reader's Question – Getting Past Emotional Drinking Triggers - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-616-readers-question-getting-past-emotional-drinking-triggers/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

How do you rebuild your identity when alcohol has been woven into every aspect of your personal and professional life? Growing up in a rural fishing community where “drinking was a pastime, to put it mildly,” Peggy couldn't even remember her first drink. Her 28-year military career reinforced these patterns in predominantly male trades where working hard and playing hard revolved around alcohol. Finding the courage to stop drinking as a female veteran wasn't straightforward, especially when seeking help could jeopardize her security clearance and career. In this heartfelt conversation with Annie Grace, Peggy shares her journey to freedom from alcohol after retirement, how she navigated the transition, and why she's now training to become a coach to help others find the answers that are already inside themselves. In this episode, Annie and Peggy will discuss: The normalization of alcohol in rural communities and the military. The challenges of questioning ingrained drinking habits. The moment Peggy realized her drinking was no longer serving her. The fear of seeking help for alcohol issues within the military context. The support and understanding found within the This Naked Mind community. The concept of “duck mode” as a powerful tool for maintaining sobriety. Changing social dynamics and navigating friendships without alcohol. The realization of internal strength and wisdom. Peggy's motivation to become a certified coach and guide others, particularly female veterans, on their journey to stop drinking as a female veteran. The transformative power of self-acceptance and kindness. And other topics… Episode links: Email Peggy - info@neaptidecoaching.com Connect with Peggy - neaptidecoaching.com Related Episodes: EP 745: How To Quit Drinking in Your 50s – https://thisnakedmind.com/breaking-through-alcohols-false-relief-joys-naked-life-e745/ EP 561: Naked Life Story – Ben – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-561-naked-life-story-ben/ EP 292: Duck Mode Explained – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-292-reader-question-how-do-i-stay-alcohol-free-at-a-bachelor-bachelorette-party-weekend/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Is traditional AA the only way to find lasting change? Jenny experienced bullying, sexual abuse, and emotional neglect that left her seeking comfort in alcohol from an early age. Despite trying traditional treatment methods for decades and being told repeatedly that learning how to recover without 12-step programs was impossible, Jenny continued to struggle until discovering This Naked Mind and The Path. After 15 failed treatment attempts and countless hours of therapy, she finally found peace through its science-based approach that addressed the root causes of her drinking. In this moving conversation, Jenny opens up about loss, grief, and ultimately finding joy in sobriety. Trigger Warning: This episode contains sensitive content related to sexual abuse and suicide. Listener discretion is advised. In this episode, Annie and Jenny will discuss: Surviving childhood trauma, bullying, and sexual abuse How emotional neglect can lead to seeking comfort in alcohol The devastating cycle of relapse despite multiple treatment attempts Why traditional AA meetings caused additional trauma How to recover without 12-step programs using science-based approaches Rebuilding life after experiencing devastating loss The power of connection in The Path program Finding self-forgiveness for decades of drinking Why cognitive dissonance makes early sobriety challenging Making a “burn the boats” decision for lasting change Creating boundaries with difficult family members How joy and peace replace anxiety after quitting alcohol And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 550: Reader's Question – Is there hope for long-time drinkers who keep relapsing? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-550-reader-question-is-there-hope-for-long-time-drinkers-who-keep-relapsing/ EP 324: Reader Question – Is AA Wrong? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-324-reader-question-does-annie-grace-think-aa-is-wrong/ EP 485: Happy Days with Gabby Bernstein – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-485-happy-days-with-gabby-bernstein/ Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

What happens when the wine you use to take the edge off becomes the very thing keeping you on edge? Julie Lively, alcohol freedom coach and This Naked Mind coach, shares her powerful journey from being caught in mummy wine culture to discovering true freedom beyond the bottle.With four children in six years and a frequently-traveling husband, Julie's nightly wine ritual seemed like the perfect escape—until it wasn't. Without experiencing a dramatic "rock bottom" moment, Julie recognised something more subtle but equally powerful: the drinking she used to alleviate isolation was actually deepening it. After two years on what she calls the "drinking-no-drinking rollercoaster," she finally found her lasting day one.This conversation goes beyond the typical sobriety narrative to explore what truly happens in our bodies and brains when we use alcohol as our primary relaxation tool. Julie shares practical, science-backed techniques for regulating your nervous system without alcohol, from the powerful 4-7-8 breathing method taught to Navy SEALs to simple sensory grounding practices that take just minutes.Whether you're questioning your relationship with alcohol or simply curious about more effective relaxation techniques, this conversation offers practical tools for creating a life where you don't need to take the edge off—because you're no longer living on edge.Jullie's website: https://julielivelycoaching.com/ MEGWeb: https://www.meganwebb.com.au/Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/meganwebbcoaching/ Unwined Bookclub: https://www.alcoholfreedom.com.au/unwinedbookclub ConnectAF group coaching: https://www.elizaparkinson.com/groupcoaching BELLAWeb: https://isabellaferguson.com.auInsta: @alcoholcounsellorisabellaBi-Yearly 6-Week Small Group Challenges: Learn more: https://www.isabellaferguson.com.au/feb-2025-challengeFree Do I Have A Drinking Problem 3 x Video Series: https://resources.isabellaferguson.com.au/offers/JTFFgjJL/checkoutFree HOW DO I STOP DRINKING SO MUCH Masterclass: https://resources.isabellaferguson.com.au/offers/7fvkb3FF/checkoutOnline Alcohol Self-Paced Course: https://resources.isabellaferguson.com.au/offers/fDzcyvWL/checkout

How many times have you woken up with a nasty hangover and sworn that you'll never make that mistake again?   But as soon as the pain goes away, so does the motivation to keep your promise.    In this episode, I teach you how to create an emergency hangover kit. So you are prepared to see your inevitable setbacks as opportunities for growth instead of shameful failures.   Hangovers serve an essential purpose in the healing process. Once you start learning from your mistakes, you will stop repeating them.   —Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of how to get the skills you need to transform your life. Click here to get my free PRIVATE podcast on How to Reduce Drinking by 80%. —NEW! Colleen's doing Q&A episodes! Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    —Want daily updates from me? Find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@hangoverwhisperer  –Click here to take the QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem?  

Today we have Alyssa. She is 30 years old from Vancouver, WA and took her last drink on September 5th, 2024.   Sponsors for this episode include: Better Help – 10% off of your first month Sober Link –   Next Monday, our five-week course called Ditching the Booze. This is our alcohol-free 101 crash course and is included with Café RE membership. All sessions are live and you're tuning in with others who are in the same spot as you. The sessions are also recorded in case you can't attend.   On Tuesday, April 1st, registration opens for our flagship retreat in Bozeman which is always a lot of fun. In addition to our lake hangout, breathwork and recovery workshops, we're also playing laser tag.   [03:20] Thoughts from Paul:   Today Paul talks about why alcohol can be so hard to quit, why the process of quitting can take years and can contain many stops and starts.   Addiction guru Gabor Mate says, “addictions are always a human response to pain, suffering and trauma”. We are constantly in search of homeostasis. When we find something effective at helping us find this relief, it becomes our first technique to use when we are in pain. After drinking long enough, you'll get to the point where you only feel good, or dopamine will only be created when we are drinking.   It takes time after quitting drinking for our body to naturally create dopamine on its own. You will need to learn new routines, create new habits and figure out a way to fill the time that used to be spent drinking. Paul shares with us several other reasons quitting drinking is hard.   Why do you think quitting drinking is so hard? Comment on RE's Instagram page. There's a post for today's episode.   [09:02] Paul introduces Alyssa:   Alyssa lives in Vancouver, WA with her fiancé and two Rotskis. She currently works as a server and in her free time she enjoys reading and traveling with her fiancé. They are currently trying to determine where they are going to move to be closer to family.   Alyssa says she had an early introduction to alcohol but never really considered it an issue until she met her fiancé who doesn't drink. For years, everyone around her drank so she didn't notice her own drinking.   Alyssa's drinking increased slowly but became daily during the pandemic. In 2021 she read Easy Way to Quit Drinking by Allen Carr and was able to stop for a few months.   For Alyssa, her drinking began to create an inner turmoil, and it started to erode her confidence because she was making promises to herself and then breaking them by drinking instead of accomplishing her goals. After quitting for a period of time, Alyssa thought that she would be able to moderate. In time, she says, she was right back where she was.   After moving in with her father while they save up to find their own place, Alyssa says the lack of goals and uncertainty of the future found her drinking more to cope. She was no longer active and was losing self-esteem while anxiety and depression took hold. At the bottom of her heart, Alyssa knew that eliminating alcohol would help fix the way she was feeling.   Alyssa chose a quit date and started seeking sober podcasts and books to prepare, including This Naked Mind. It was after a night out with friends that Alyssa told her fiancé that she didn't want to drink anymore. He was very supportive of her decision and offered to help however he could.   Alyssa continued to read This Naked Mind and participated in a 30-day sober challenge. This paired with the liberation she felt from her decision led to a pink cloud experience for Alyssa. Anxiety and depression started to lift quickly. Going forward, she is trying to figure out what she wants to do in the future, and she believes in sobriety the options are endless.   Alyssa's parting piece of guidance: Just listen to that little voice. Give sobriety as many chances as you gave alcohol.       Recovery Elevator Rule 22: lighten up - let's do our best not to take ourselves too seriously. I love you guys.   RE merch Recovery Elevator YouTube Sobriety Tracker iTunes       

What if the very thing you thought gave you freedom was actually keeping you stuck? As the youngest of three children, Lisa watched her older brothers drink and felt both curious and uneasy about it. In college, drinking felt like freedom. During her international sports career, it was a way to relax, fit in, and manage stress. Over time, what once gave her a sense of independence left her burnt out and disconnected from herself. As anxiety crept in, she began questioning her habits. After reading This Naked Mind, she realized she had the power to change her relationship with alcohol. In this episode, Lisa joins Annie to share how she rediscovered herself, rebuilt trust in her choices, and redefined what freedom really means. In this episode, Annie and Lisa will discuss: - Growing up with mixed feelings about alcohol - Viewing alcohol as a symbol of independence - Navigating the drinking culture in international sports - Experiencing a blackout and waking up injured - Dealing with anxiety and questioning her habits - How This Naked Mind shifted her mindset - The link between alcohol and identity - How psychedelic therapy supported her healing - Reconnecting with her true self and emotions - Finding support and guidance through The PATH - Overcoming the fear of making life changes - Helping others rebuild self-trust through coaching - Using curiosity to make lasting changes - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 480: Reader Question – What is the Correlation Between Alcohol and Anxiety? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-480-reader-question-what-is-the-correlation-between-alcohol-and-anxiety  EP 604: Reader Question – Embracing Your Authentic Self: Overcoming Self-Judgment and Insecurities https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-604-reader-question-embracing-your-authentic-self-overcoming-self-judgment-and-insecurities/  EP 719: Naked Life Story – Katie W. https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-719-naked-life-story-katie-w/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

For Ruby Williams, living in Northern California's wine country, daily drinking became a coping mechanism for a demanding corporate job and the pressures of single motherhood. Even after weight-loss surgery, her struggles with disordered eating transitioned into significant alcohol misuse. At 49, she chose a different path, finding recovery and embracing an alcohol-free life. Ruby's story highlights the challenges of alcohol dependency and the possibility of finding freedom. She discovered a thriving sober community and the alcohol-free movement, offering support and resources for those seeking to reduce alcohol consumption or quit drinking. Learn how Ruby transformed her life and found lasting sobriety.This Naked Mind by Annie Grace is the book that Ruby mentions. 00:00 Introduction 00:22 Ruby Williams history03:01 You are not alone and it is not your fault07:28 I am not addicted14:40 Alcohol free movement21:00 You can heal 21:44 Shame keeps us stuck in a cycle29:37 Tip to reduce or stop drinking alcoholRuby's Bio Ruby Williams is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach on a mission to help those rethinking their relationship with alcohol. She helps her clients create profound mind shifts during sessions that can shrink the role of alcohol in their lives. Connect with Ruby https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIK5urhGIXXTAVenKcfQKawhttps://www.instagram.com/rubywilliamscoaching/https://feellitalcoholfree.buzzsprout.com/https://www.facebook.com/rubywilliamscoachinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/ruby-williams/How's my drinking Quiz: https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/WorriedAboutYourDrinkingQuiz

What does real support look like when making a change? Stacey had her first drink at age 14, but by 15 or 16, life felt harder. She often clashed with her strict mom, leading her to rebel. In college, she bonded with friends over binge drinking, and at first, it felt normal. But over time, blackouts, anxiety, and injuries became more frequent. Her husband pointed it out, but his judgment only pushed her to drink more. When she finally decided to change for herself, she explored different approaches until she found This Naked Mind. In this episode, Stacey joins Annie to share how she built confidence in social settings without feeling like she was missing out, and why true change happens when you choose it for yourself. In this episode, Annie and Stacey will discuss: - Growing up with strict rules and moments of rebellion - Using alcohol to connect and feel more confident - Noticing patterns of binge drinking in social settings - Taking on parenting responsibilities at a young age - Balancing work, family, and drinking habits - Questioning her habits after blackouts and injuries - Facing judgment and pressure from her husband - Quietly choosing change on her own terms - Discovering This Naked Mind and rethinking her habits - Overcoming the pressure to drink socially - Replacing self-judgment with curiosity and awareness - Finding healthier ways to manage anxiety - Looking ahead with confidence and peace - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 180: Reader Question – How Do You Deal with Family Members Who Still Drink? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-180-how-do-you-deal-with-family-members-who-still-drink/  EP 669: Naked Life Story – Megan W. https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-669-naked-life-story-megan-w/  EP 735: Find the Courage to Choose Yourself: Patrick's Naked Life https://thisnakedmind.com/find-the-courage-to-choose-yourself-patricks-naked-life-e735/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

What if the discomfort you're avoiding is the key to healing? Mary has been working on her relationship with alcohol but has kept it to herself out of fear of what others might think if she fails. When she tried to take a break before, she found herself drinking again and wasn't sure how to make a lasting change. Meanwhile, Nancy spent years avoiding her emotions, turning to alcohol after overcoming an eating disorder. Her rocky relationship with her father and siblings made it hard for her to process feelings in a healthy way. In this episode, Coach Rina helps Mary embrace genuine support and let go of the fear of failure. Nancy learns to sit with her emotions, process them healthily, and set boundaries to protect her well-being. In Mary's session: - Keeping her journey private out of fear of failure - Trying to live a healthy lifestyle while drinking  - Recognizing patterns in past attempts to change - Finding support that feels right for her - The power of a compassionate support system - Enjoying an alcohol-free wedding experience - Setting short-term goals for lasting change - Exploring healthier ways to relax and unwind - Focusing on progress, not perfection In Dawn's session: - Struggling to sit with uncomfortable emotions - Using alcohol to cope with difficult feelings - Navigating a complex relationship with family - Fearing a return to old coping habits, like binge eating - Feeling triggered by hurtful words or tone - Understanding anger as a valid emotion - Using awareness to break old patterns - Setting boundaries to support her well-being - Finding healthier ways to process emotions Rina Bowring is a certified TNM Senior Coach. She built a successful career in the outdoor advertising industry, but after discovering This Naked Mind and transforming her relationship with alcohol, she decided to pursue her passion as an alcohol freedom coach. Inspired by the changes she experienced, Rina now shares the TNM method with the Christian community. She is committed to helping people break free from harmful habits, overcome guilt and shame, and rediscover joy. Learn more about Coach Rina: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/rina-bowring/ Related Episodes: EP 246: Reader Question – How Do You Deal With Anger or Emotions When Alcohol-Free? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-246-reader-question-how-do-you-deal-with-anger-or-emotions-when-alcohol-free  EP 616: Reader's Question – Getting Past Emotional Drinking Triggers https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-616-readers-question-getting-past-emotional-drinking-triggers/  EP 620: Reader's Question – Sharing Your Personal Journey with Alcohol: A Guide to Honest Conversations and Healing Connections https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-618-readers-question-annie-graces-tips-for-dealing-with-family-members-who-continue-to-drink-2/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

So, you're not an alcoholic, but you're also kinda wondering if maybe, you'd like to drink less—without being told you can't drink at all. Sound familiar? Chalene's guest, Annie Grace, author of This Naked Mind, is here to flip everything you thought you knew about alcohol, habits, and self-control. They are breaking down how to rethink your relationship with alcohol, ditch the guilt, and figure out if that glass of wine is actually adding anything good to your life. No judgment, no rules—just real talk and some eye-opening facts that might just change the way you drink (or don't!).

When life feels heavy, what small choices can help you feel lighter? Shanelle had gone weeks without drinking and felt ready to face her emotions in therapy. But as therapy revealed deeper pain, she found herself returning to old habits. Meanwhile, Mary has been struggling with stress while caring for her aging mother. After hospital visits, she often finds herself reaching for a drink, but over time, she has realized it only makes her numb and unable to deal with her emotions. In this episode, Coach Mike helps Shanelle focus on what she can control and navigate the fear of facing past trauma, while Mary learns to manage stress in a way that has her feeling more at peace. In Shanelle's session: - Experiencing progress in early attempts to change - Discovering unhealed trauma through therapy - Using self-awareness to understand hidden trauma - Feeling overwhelmed by emotions and uncertainty - Shifting focus to what she can control - Building emotional strength by facing discomfort - Taking control of habits with small pauses - Breaking habits one choice at a time - Focusing on benefits instead of setbacks In Mary's session: - Struggling with stress while caring for her aging mother - Noticing the urge to drink after difficult visits - Feeling emotionally drained and anxious - Managing stress differently with mindset shifts - Viewing caregiving as a choice, not an obligation - Allowing herself to fully embrace emotions - Discovering healthier ways to manage emotions - Finding gratitude in time spent with her mom - Embracing every moment as an opportunity Mike Shennan is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. He was a long-time social drinker, and his drinking habits increased in his forties due to various life events. However, he has been alcohol-free since February 23, 2018. By sharing his personal experiences and using techniques from This Naked Mind, Mike supports clients who feel their drinking habits have grown as they age, helping them regain control and create a healthier relationship with alcohol. Learn more about Coach Mike: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/mike-shennan/  Related Episodes: EP 158: Reader Question – How Do You Deal with Stress Without Alcohol? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-158-how-do-you-deal-with-stress-without-alcohol/  EP 689: Interview with Dr. Melissa Kalt https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-689-interview-with-dr-melissa-kalt/  EP 748: The Path to Inner Clarity: Alcohol Freedom Coaching https://thisnakedmind.com/the-path-to-inner-clarity-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e748/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

How do you make real, lasting changes when motivation comes and goes? Dwayne has been through major life changes, including the end of two marriages, and has noticed alcohol becoming more present over time. He wants to make a change but struggles to stay consistent. On some days, he can, on other days, he just can't help it. Roz also wants to shift her habits but finds it hard to follow through. She starts off motivated, but after a long day at an emotionally demanding job, having a drink feels like the easiest way to relax. In this episode, Coach Rina helps Dwayne and Roz explore simple, lasting ways to create change. She shows them that while motivation fades, real progress comes from self-awareness and small, steady steps forward. In Dwayne's session: - Struggling to find lasting motivation for change - Finding comfort in his drinking routine - Coping with the end of two long-term marriages - How childhood experiences shaped his drinking habits - Noticing his drinking habits increase over time - Identifying feelings that trigger his cravings - Pausing to check in with emotions before drinking - Focusing on awareness instead of relying on willpower - Recognizing patterns through mindful drinking  - Prioritizing his health and role as a father - Building new habits that align with his goals In Roz's session: - Struggling to stay motivated without relying on her feelings - Using alcohol to relax after a long day at work - Observing how emotions affect her drinking habits - Experimenting with mindful drinking - Feeling bored and lonely without alcohol - Learning to enjoy free time as a chance to rest - Discovering new ways to unwind after work - Staying committed to activities that bring joy - Building small, lasting habits instead of quick fixes Rina Bowring is a certified TNM Senior Coach who built a successful career in the outdoor advertising industry. After discovering This Naked Mind and transforming her relationship with alcohol, she decided to pursue her passion as an alcohol freedom coach. Inspired by the changes she experienced, Rina now shares the TNM method with the Christian community. She wants to help people break free from harmful habits, let go of guilt and shame, and find joy again. Learn more about Coach Rina: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/rina-bowring/ Related Episodes: EP 116: Reader Question – Does Alcohol Really Relax Us? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-116-reader-question-alcohol-really-relax-us/  EP 670: Reader's Question – How Do You Stay Motivated to Be Alcohol-Free? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-670-readers-question-how-do-you-stay-motivated-to-be-alcohol-free/  EP 754: Embracing Joy in the Moment: ​​Alcohol Freedom Coaching https://thisnakedmind.com/embracing-joy-in-the-moment-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e754/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Episode 142: RMA, RFK and the San Patrignano Experiment In this episode of Recovery in the Middle Ages, we take a look at Robert F. Kennedy Jr.'s plan to address addiction in America, which leans heavily on his personal recovery experience and the model of Italy's San Patrignano rehab center. Kennedy's proposal centers around creating “wellness farms” across rural America, where people struggling with addiction can live and work in therapeutic communities, focusing on organic farming and communal living as an alternative to incarceration. This approach is inspired by San Patrignano's long-term, work-based rehab program, which has seen success for those who stick with it. But there's a lot of pushback, as critics point out the lack of medically assisted treatment and the potential for coercive practices, which have plagued San Patrignano in the past. Kennedy's skepticism toward pharmaceutical treatments like methadone and his promotion of alternative therapies like cannabis and psychedelics are also raising eyebrows, with many worried that his approach could undermine evidence-based practices that have proven effective in addiction treatment. Recovery in the News: A study on fruit flies has identified that acetylcholine, a brain signal integral to memory and motivation, plays a crucial role in alcohol-induced sleep disturbances.  A recent survey indicates that nearly half of Americans, particularly younger generations, plan to reduce their alcohol consumption in 2025, driven by health concerns and the rising popularity of non-alcoholic alternatives.  *This podcast does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment.* Please remember to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast on your favorite platform to get the latest episode delivered right to your devices as soon as it's released. LINKS: www.soberliningsplaybook.com We are a listener-supported podcast. If you like what we're doing here at RMA and want to support the show, JOIN THE RECOVERY IN THE MIDDLE AGES PATREON  Our sole mission is to help other people achieve sobriety and become their best, most authentic selves. As little as $3 a month makes a big difference and helps us keep the lights on.  https://www.patreon.com/RecoveryintheMiddleAges As always, we thank you for your support.  RMA ON YOUTUBE FOLLOW US ON TWITTER  Facebook Page We also have a Facebook Group! Request to join the group. It's a private space for continuing the discussion of what Nat and Mike talk about on the podcast. Hope to see you there. PLEASE leave us a 5 star review on I-Tunes if you're enjoying the show and SUBSCRIBE to get the latest episodes.  Email: MikeR@middleagesrecovery.com Natx@middleagesrecovery.com We all have a story. Tell us yours and we'll share it on the show! E-Mail your story to miker@middleagesrecovery.com If you're in trouble with substance abuse and need help, reach out. There are thousands of people who have put problems with addiction in their rear-view mirrors and you can be one of them. While we neither endorse nor condemn any particular program, the sheer number of available AA and NA meetings suggest that reaching out to those organizations would be a good first step, (but maybe not the last step), on your road to recovery.   https://www.aa.org/ https://www.na.org/meetingsearch/ Marijuana Anonymous (just in case): This Naked Mind  

Lots of people want to drink less but the thought of being sober at work events feels far too awkward. It's one thing to tell your friends & family you're cutting back, it's another to have to interact with clients or strangers without a drink in your hand. I'm joined today by Laura Nelson, co-founder of Sober Life Rocks, to talk about how to navigate professional life when you're sober-curious. From planning to attending events, you'll love Laura's tips. Laura Nelson, a certified This Naked Mind coach and international speaker, brings over 20 years of expertise in fostering inclusivity and excellence. Co-founder of Sober Life Rocks and Front Office Rocks, she empowers individuals and organizations to create healthier, more connected lives through inclusive, sober-friendly events. Check out: Her website: www.soberliferocks.com Her new book, 'The Inclusive Event Planner': inclusiveeventplanner.comLinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/14532282/ Tune in each week for practical, relatable advice that helps you feel your best and unlock your full potential. If you're ready to prioritize your health and level up every area of your life, you'll find the tools, insights, and inspiration right here.  Buy Esther's Book: To Your Health - https://a.co/d/iDG68qU Follow Esther on TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@estheravant Follow Esther on IG - https://www.instagram.com/esther.avant Learn more about booking Esther to speak: https://www.estheravant.com Learn more about working with Esther: https://www.madebymecoaching.com/services 

What thoughts are you holding on to, and are they still serving you? Souren has been on The PATH but is afraid of falling behind and not making it. This brings feelings of loneliness and not belonging. Meanwhile, Deanna has had a 40-year relationship with alcohol. She used it to deal with stress, anxiety, and trauma but realized it wasn't helping her feel better anymore. Now, after nine months of not drinking, she sometimes hears inner voices pulling her back to old habits. In this episode, Coach Hayley guides Souren as he reframes his thoughts, recognizes his strengths, and focuses on his journey. At the same time, Coach Ruby works with Deanna to explore her inner thoughts with curiosity, understand their meaning, and use them to grow. In Souren's session: - Facing his fear of falling behind and feeling left out - Unpacking feelings of not belonging - Overcoming the urge to give up - Reframing "I'm not going to make it" into positive beliefs - Questioning the beliefs that hold him back - Shifting from self-doubt to self-reliance - Letting go of comparison and embracing your own pace - Using the ACT technique to create lasting change In Deanna's session: - Her thoughts on rehab and This Naked Mind's approach - Using alcohol to handle anxiety, stress, and trauma - Recognizing how alcohol hid both joy and pain - Becoming more present in daily life - Learning to manage her emotions mindfully - Understanding the inner voices pulling her to drink - Responding with curiosity instead of reacting - Rebuilding a stronger relationship with her daughter - Taking control of habits through yoga and meditation - Viewing setbacks as a chance to grow Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Drawing from personal experiences, Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. She believes that with the right mindset, anyone can change their life at any time. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/  Ruby Williams is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach dedicated to helping people rethink their relationship with alcohol. With 19 years of experience in the wine industry, Ruby understands how alcohol can become a regular part of life, especially in social or stressful situations. After finding freedom in 2019, she was empowered to improve her health, lose weight, and achieve lifelong goals. Ruby uses thoughtful questioning to help clients shift their mindset and build a more balanced, fulfilling, and healthier relationship with alcohol. Learn more about Coach Ruby: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/ruby-williams/  Related Episodes: EP 646: Reader's Question – Why Is It So Hard to Become Alcohol-Free? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-646-readers-question-why-is-it-so-hard-to-become-alcohol-free/  EP 670: Reader's Question – How Do You Stay Motivated to Be Alcohol-Free? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-670-readers-question-how-do-you-stay-motivated-to-be-alcohol-free/  EP 741: Overcoming the Fear of Drinking Again: Erin's Naked Life https://thisnakedmind.com/overcoming-the-fear-of-drinking-again-erins-naked-life-e741/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

This week I'm sitting down with Kirby Myers... no no... The Fabulous Kirby Myers. She's a mom, a wife, a business owner, she produces multiple events here in Key West, social media queen and even took to the stage to dance and host a show that I actually got to go see!!! She is also alcohol free and living her best life!! If it seems like this show would NOT be relatable to you because, well who could keep up..... you would be wrong. Kirby is one of the most relatable women I know. You would not believe all of the things she has done for this island!! Kirby.... We love you and thank you for being you! You truly are incredible. IG: Kirbysclosetkw •Missislandqueenkw •Pasionproject •Keysweekly.comSearch ‘Behind the Blonde' Book reference: This Naked Mind by Annie Grace

Episode 141: The Return of RMA-Recovery in the News Edition It's been a minute, we know — but Mike and Nat are BACK, rested, refreshed and ready to serve up a new episode packed with recovery bon mots, musings, and thought-provoking insights. This week we're diving into the latest conversations around sobriety, cultural norms, and health, giving our take on three recent articles from The New York Times that challenge the narrative that drinking is normal and safe. First up: I Quit Drinking Four Years Ago. I'm Still Confronting Drinking Culture by Charles Blow. Blow reflects on his journey to sobriety, unpacking the emotional and cultural challenges faced when stepping away from alcohol. Why does society romanticize drinking while casting suspicion on those who abstain? Next: Alcohol Carries New Risks in Middle Age by Cari Blum. There are clearly heightened health risks associated with alcohol consumption in middle age, and new research reveals just how impactful booze in any quantity is on our health as we age. Finally: When It Comes to Drinking, There Are No Good Answers by Rachael Bedard. This article takes a hard look at the conflicting messages around alcohol consumption, from moderate drinking myths to the growing body of research linking alcohol with serious health concerns, including cancer and liver disease. After a long break, we're back with sharper perspectives, plenty of laughs, and the same witty repartee that RMA is known for throughout the universe. Before I forget, this week's Week in Weird is all about Drones and Orbs, and anal probing! Nat is an expert! *This podcast does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment.* Please remember to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast on your favorite platform to get the latest episode delivered right to your devices as soon as it's released. LINKS: www.soberliningsplaybook.com We are a listener-supported podcast. If you like what we're doing here at RMA and want to support the show, JOIN THE RECOVERY IN THE MIDDLE AGES PATREON  Our sole mission is to help other people achieve sobriety and become their best, most authentic selves. As little as $3 a month makes a big difference and helps us keep the lights on.  https://www.patreon.com/RecoveryintheMiddleAges As always, we thank you for your support.  RMA ON YOUTUBE FOLLOW US ON TWITTER  Facebook Page We also have a Facebook Group! Request to join the group. It's a private space for continuing the discussion of what Nat and Mike talk about on the podcast. Hope to see you there. PLEASE leave us a 5 star review on I-Tunes if you're enjoying the show and SUBSCRIBE to get the latest episodes.  Email: MikeR@middleagesrecovery.com Natx@middleagesrecovery.com We all have a story. Tell us yours and we'll share it on the show! E-Mail your story to miker@middleagesrecovery.com If you're in trouble with substance abuse and need help, reach out. There are thousands of people who have put problems with addiction in their rear-view mirrors and you can be one of them. While we neither endorse nor condemn any particular program, the sheer number of available AA and NA meetings suggest that reaching out to those organizations would be a good first step, (but maybe not the last step), on your road to recovery.   https://www.aa.org/ https://www.na.org/meetingsearch/ Marijuana Anonymous (just in case): This Naked Mind

Is your fear of being judged holding you back? Molly grew up relying on people's opinions to feel good about herself. As a physician, she struggles to talk about alcohol use without fear of being misunderstood and judged. She worries that people will think something is wrong with her for choosing to live alcohol-free. Since her self-worth has relied heavily on external validation and appearing perfect, being judged by others would hurt her self-esteem. In this episode, Coach Rina helps Molly see that her fear of judgment is really about how she judges herself. By learning to be kinder to herself and letting go of the pressure to be perfect, Molly can start living a more authentic, balanced life. In this episode, Coach Rina and Molly will discuss: - The fear of being judged for choosing to stop drinking - Letting go of the need for external validation - Dealing with the pressure to be perfect - Feeling misunderstood about her choices regarding alcohol - Different views on what healthy drinking looks like - Protecting her professional life while sharing her story - Worrying about what others will think if she drinks again - How her parents' struggles with alcohol shaped her journey - Her choice to parent differently from the way she grew up - Taking ownership of your journey without blaming others - Learning to show compassion to yourself - And other topics… Rina Bowring is a certified TNM Senior Coach who built a successful career in the outdoor advertising industry. After discovering This Naked Mind and transforming her relationship with alcohol, she decided to pursue her passion as an alcohol freedom coach. Inspired by the changes she experienced, Rina now shares the TNM method with the Christian community. She wants to help people break free from harmful habits, let go of guilt and shame, and find joy again. Learn more about Coach Rina: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/rina-bowring/ Related Episodes: EP 540: Reader Question – How do you not force self-compassion? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-540-reader-question-how-do-you-not-force-self-compassion/ EP 604: Reader Question – Embracing Your Authentic Self: Overcoming Self-Judgment and Insecurities https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-604-reader-question-embracing-your-authentic-self-overcoming-self-judgment-and-insecurities/  EP 734: Shed the Fear of Judgment – Alcohol Freedom Coaching https://thisnakedmind.com/shed-the-fear-of-judgment-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-734/

What steps can you take today to get closer to the life you imagine? Meri started drinking regularly in her twenties after a tough breakup. Since then, she has struggled to maintain a healthy relationship with alcohol. Now, in her late forties, she hopes to build a future where alcohol takes up less space in her thoughts and daily life. Lola is a busy mom who often feels tired and stressed at the end of the day. She uses alcohol to relax and “reward” herself for all her hard work. In this episode, Coach Mike helps both women explore their relationship with alcohol, understand the motivations behind their habits, and take steps toward a happier and more balanced life. In Meri's session: - Using alcohol to deal with pain from a breakup - Imagining a healthier, happier version of herself - Focusing on small wins to feel more in control - Why change can feel uncomfortable at first - Being kind to herself while trying new habits - The value of investing time, money, and effort to grow - Viewing setbacks as a normal part of the journey - Embracing a future full of hope and possibilities In Lola's session: - Why alcohol feels rewarding after a busy day - How alcohol influences energy levels over time - Shifting from just surviving to finding joy in daily life - Turning boredom into a chance to try new things - Making daily chores feel better with positive framing - Viewing parenting as a choice, not a chore - Discovering simple and fun ways to relax at home - Rethinking what it means to reward herself - Building a balanced and fulfilling life Mike Shennan is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. He was a long-time social drinker, and his drinking habits increased in his forties due to various life events. However, he has been alcohol-free since February 23, 2018. By sharing his personal experiences and using techniques from This Naked Mind, Mike supports clients who feel their drinking habits have grown as they age, helping them regain control and create a healthier relationship with alcohol. Learn more about Coach Mike: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/mike-shennan/  Related Episodes: EP 116: Reader Question – Does Alcohol Really Relax Us? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-116-reader-question-alcohol-really-relax-us/  EP 358: Reader Question – Why Do I Reward Being Alcohol-Free with a Drink? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-358-reader-question-why-do-i-reward-being-alcohol-free-with-a-drink/  EP 690: Reader's Question – How Long Does It Take To Feel Better After Quitting Drinking? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-690-readers-question-how-long-does-it-take-to-feel-better-after-quitting-drinking/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

How do you face your fears and make changes when your partner isn't ready yet? Charlotta grew up with a parent who struggled with alcohol and drugs, which shaped her views on drinking. As an adult, wine became a way for her and her husband to bond, but over time, she began to feel trapped and unhappy with her life. Meanwhile, Donni has been married for 26 years, and drinking played a big role in her connection with her husband. When she decided to stop drinking, her husband continued, which affected their relationship. Now, Donni feels sad, lonely, and worried about his drinking habits. In this episode, Coach Sam encourages Charlotta to focus on living in the moment, trusting herself, and taking small steps toward the life she dreams of. Coach Mike helps Donni focus on her growth, practice compassion, be patient, and gently share her concerns with her husband. In Charlotta's session: - Feeling trapped in her current life - Her mom's struggle with alcohol and drug use - Sharing a bond with her husband over wine - Imagining what life would look like without alcohol - Charlotta's fears about changing her life - Discovering her true self and identity - Learning to trust herself and listen to her inner voice - Finding peace by focusing on the present - Making changes from within In Donni's session: - The role of alcohol in her relationship with her husband - Dealing with feelings of fear, sadness, and loneliness - How retirement added stress to their relationship - Why it's hard when only one partner stops drinking - Balancing dependence on your partner and personal growth - Focusing on yourself instead of trying to “fix” someone else - How to have tough conversations without creating conflict - Using alcohol to cope with tough emotions and life changes - Inspiring others to change by taking care of yourself first - Sharing ideas gently and giving them time to grow - The importance of patience in making big changes Sam Goldfinch is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach, and the founder of Rebel Spirituality and the Rebel Spirituality podcast. He also co-hosts the Present & Sober podcast with Ellie Crowe. Having lived nine years alcohol-free, Sam will show you how to live your best life and uncover the truth of YOU before and beyond your conditioning. Learn more about Coach Sam: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/sam-goldfinch/   Mike Shennan is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. He was a long-time social drinker, and his drinking habits increased in his forties due to various life events. However, he has been alcohol-free since February 23, 2018. By sharing his personal experiences and using techniques from This Naked Mind, Mike supports clients who feel their drinking habits have grown as they age, helping them regain control and create a healthier relationship with alcohol. Learn more about Coach Mike: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/mike-shennan/  Related Episodes: EP 222: Reader Question – What if my marriage is dependent on alcohol? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-222-reader-question-what-if-my-marriage-is-dependent-on-alcohol/  EP 615: Naked Life Story – Amy Edwards https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-615-naked-life-story-amy-edwards/  EP 636: Reader's Question – The Art of Balancing Your Needs in a Relationship https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-636-readers-question-the-art-of-balancing-your-needs-in-a-relationship/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

What happens when you start questioning a habit you've known your whole life? Michaela grew up in a family where alcohol was always a part of life. Her parents owned a winery, and drinking was normal at every meal. Seeing her dad become happier after a drink, she began to link alcohol with fun. At age 14, she started drinking and continued until her thirties. Over time, Michaela began to black out often. One day, after drinking with friends, she blacked out and got lost on her way home. This moment made her question her drinking habits and led her to discover This Naked Mind. In this episode, Michaela shares with Annie how curiosity and learning about alcohol's effects helped her make lasting changes, and how questioning family and cultural norms around drinking led to a life filled with more clarity, joy, and self-awareness. In this episode, Annie and Michaela will discuss: - Growing up in a wine-loving family - Using alcohol to feel more comfortable in relationships - Embracing the drinking culture at work - Building a personal and social identity around wine - Marriage, motherhood, and drinking patterns - The turning point after years of blackouts - How This Naked Mind helped Michaela see alcohol differently - Learning to say no to wine in a wine-loving family - The American drinking culture that surprised her - Breaking the link between fun and alcohol - How curiosity makes your first experiences without alcohol easier - Finding clarity, joy, and better sleep without alcohol  - The key principles that can help change any habit - Embracing change with curiosity and courage - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 574: Reader's Questions – Is it better to drink in moderation or not at all? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-574-readers-questions-is-it-better-to-drink-in-moderation-or-not-at-all/  EP 618: Reader's Question – Annie Grace's Tips for Dealing with Family Members Who Continue to Drink https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-618-readers-question-annie-graces-tips-for-dealing-with-family-members-who-continue-to-drink/  EP 738: Fun Without the Hangover: Alcohol Freedom Coaching https://thisnakedmind.com/fun-without-the-hangover-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e738/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

What if joy was already here, waiting to be embraced? Joanne has been working on building a healthier relationship with alcohol for the past eight months. Through this journey, she's noticed that her joy feels different. It's sometimes unpredictable, but also more hopeful. She finds it hard to balance work, daily tasks, and future worries with the joy she feels in the moment. In this episode, Coach Rina shares how the brain begins to find balance after changing drinking habits and suggests simple actions to help Joanne focus on the present moment. She also encourages Joanne to let go of big expectations and enjoy the little things in life. In this episode, Coach Rina and Joanne will discuss: - Dealing with unpredictable joy - Balancing work with joyful activities - Feeling content in daily life - The power of staying in the present - How journaling and the 30-day ACT challenge helped Joanne - Building gratitude through everyday moments - Focusing on small actions that bring joy - Redirecting your thoughts by asking better questions - Finding joy by letting go of expectations - And other topics… Rina Bowring is a certified TNM Senior Coach who built a successful career in the outdoor advertising industry. After discovering This Naked Mind and transforming her relationship with alcohol, she decided to pursue her passion as an alcohol freedom coach. Inspired by the changes she experienced, Rina now shares the TNM method with the Christian community. She wants to help people break free from harmful habits, let go of guilt and shame, and find joy again. Learn more about Coach Rina: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/rina-bowring/ Related Episodes: EP 445: Finding Joy with Catherine Gray https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-445-finding-joy-with-catherine-gray  EP 606: Reader Question – Dealing with Discomfort in the Alcohol-free Journey https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-606-reader-question-dealing-with-discomfort-in-the-alcohol-free-journey/  EP 698: Reader's Question – What's the Link Between Alcohol and Depression? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-698-readers-question-whats-the-link-between-alcohol-and-depression/  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

How much of your happiness is tied up in habits that no longer serve you? Brandi's parents divorced three times, which made her teenage years hard. Back then, she turned to marijuana to cope. As she got older, she also struggled in her relationships, with both of her marriages ending because of problems with alcohol and emotional distance. Her turning point came when her third husband admitted to cheating while drunk. After going through a period of depression, Brandi met her doctor who recommended that she read This Naked Mind. But it wasn't until she experienced a personal loss and a health scare that she read the book, which kickstarted her journey to freedom. In this episode, Brandi talks to Annie about how she created a healthier balance with alcohol, rebuilt her marriage, and discovered real joy by facing her feelings head-on. In this episode, Annie and Brandi will discuss: - How her parents' divorce affected her childhood - Using marijuana to cope with teen life - Dropping out of college and doing well at work - Balancing work life with social drinking habits - How alcohol affected Brandi's first marriage - Her second marriage and experience as a stay-at-home mom - Lessons from her second divorce - Growing through the struggles in her third marriage - Getting cut off from her family for seven years - Finding This Naked Mind - Dealing with the tragic loss of her first husband - Trying out the 30-day Alcohol Experiment - Brandi's challenges and successes with staying on The PATH - The health scare that changed her relationship with alcohol - Embracing progress over perfection - Learning to socialize without alcohol - What Brandi wishes she had known about alcohol - Body changes when you stop drinking - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 222: Reader Question – What if my marriage is dependent on alcohol? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-222-reader-question-what-if-my-marriage-is-dependent-on-alcohol/  EP 262: Reader Question – How do I deal with death and grief without alcohol https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-262-reader-question-grief-without-alcohol/  EP 356: Reader Question – Do you lose weight when you stop drinking? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-356-reader-question-do-you-lose-weight-when-you-stop-drinking/  EP 430: Reader Question – How can I break free from Mommy Wine Culture? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-430-reader-question-how-can-i-break-free-from-mommy-wine-culture  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!

Could celebrations feel complete even without alcohol? Lauren's journey with alcohol began in eighth grade at a concert, where she had her first beer because drinking seemed cool. What started as casual drinking soon turned into binge drinking and blackouts. When she realized that alcohol was hurting her marriage and making it hard to be a good parent, she searched online for help and found This Naked Mind. In this episode, Lauren shares her story of moving from a life surrounded by alcohol to building a healthier relationship with alcohol and helping others do the same. In this episode, Annie and Lauren will discuss: - Her first encounter with alcohol - Going from weekend drinking to constant blackouts - Moving to a “drinking town” and working as a bartender - When the bad began to outweigh the good - How drinking made parenting harder for Lauren - The psychology of “the pause” - The beauty behind the “data point” - The surprising truth about alcohol and why we don't know it - Enjoying celebrations without a drink - The principle of “firsts” in living alcohol-free - The power of a gentle approach to change - Embracing your past as part of your journey - And other topics… Related Episodes: EP 470: Reader Question – When will I start feeling better without alcohol? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-470-reader-question-when-will-i-start-feeling-better-without-alcohol  EP 568: Reader's Questions – How To Deal with Pressure to Drink from a Loved One? https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/ep-568-readers-questions-how-to-deal-with-pressure-to-drink-from-a-loved-one/  EP 652: Reader's Question – How To Plan an Alcohol-Free Vacation https://thisnakedmind.com/?post_type=podcast&p=34941  Connect with Lauren: Lauren's Website: https://coachlaurenohanlon.com  Ready to take the next step on your journey?  Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious!