EMPOWERED POLY

#polyamory #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationshipadvice #breakingup #breakups #endingarelationship #shiftingarelationship #polyamorous #openrelationship #openrelationships #relationshipcoaching #howtobreakup #managingabreakup In this episode, we take a look at how to mindfully frame a breakup in a healthy way, managing our feelings, holding space for the other person and dealing with potentially challenging or difficult breakups. During this podcast, we actually had a slight misunderstanding. Leanne had offered the idea of bringing to your partner how you would like to be broken up with, and Greg misheard this as "ask your partner how they'd like to be broken up with". Subsequently, Leanne didn't correct him, but went with the flow (as she is wont to do) and assumed she'd said it incorrectly. We missed that left turn and ended up in Albuquerque (if you know, you know). Ultimately, it all turned out fine in the end with some important discussion. Trigger warning: we mention situations where someone may be at risk and need to leave immediately, and we also mention getting help if you are in danger from yourself or others. These are not discussed in detail. Reference to the book "Illunimata: a Return to Prayer" by Marianne Williamson.

#openrelationship #polyamory #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching As Relationship Coaches specializing in consensual non-monogamy and polyamory, we see a lot of stress occurring around meeting your partner's partner (your "meta"). So in this episode we ask...What are some things to consider when you are deciding whether or not you want to meet your meta(s)? Why might your partner be feeling obligated to meet their meta(s)? Why do some people choose not to meet their meta(s)? We chat about all of these and then give you some great TIPS for those of you who decide to go ahead and meet your meta(s).

#sexualhealth #safersex #polyamory #sexuallytransmitteddiseases #std #sexuallytransmittedinfections #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #polycoach #relationships #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching In this VERY IMPORTANT episode, we discuss what sexual health is, address the stigma of STIs and how we can help normalize having "the talk", disclosure, consent, and Leanne's journey with her own STI. Disclaimer: The contents of this episode should not be used in place of medical advice. We encourage you to consult with your local STI health clinic or doctor when making decisions around your health. NOTE: Cytomeglovirus, although discusssed, is not considered an STI. (Apologies for the sound quality for Leanne - her lapel mic wasn't working!)

#consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #poly #polyamorous #polyamory #openingup #disentangling #mononormativeprogramming #codependency #enmeshment #boundaries #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #ENM #CNM Opening Up from being monogamous, whether you're solo poly or from a couple, is very challenging no matter which relationship dynamic you choose on the consensual non-monogamy spectrum. We take a look at what the most challenging aspects of Opening Up are, and how you can navigate them, including codependency, enmeshment, disentangling, autonomy, boundaries and communication. If you want to learn more about what to consider when Opening Up, or even if you've already opened up, but are struggling and want to know if there was something you should be tending to, this is the episode for you! Trigger warning: abusive relationships are mentioned, no detail given.

#consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #poly #polyamorous #polyamory #kitchentablepoly #triads #cohabitation #triangulation What is it we are drawn to in seeking out Kitchen Table Poly? What are some of the challenges and how can we manage them? In this episode we take a swim in the deeeeeep end of the poly pool...where you and your metamours (your partner's partners) hang out, socialize, and maybe even live together! Sometimes Triads organically occur in these situations, and our special guest and friend, Sex, Love & Relationship Coach Ellecia Paine, knows from her own experience what opportunities and challenges KTP offers. You can find Ellecia online at elleciapaine.com, on IG @elleciapaine and you can follow her podcast, "Nope, We're NOT Monogamous" on Spotify, Google and Apple.

#consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #poly #monopoly #polyamorous #polyamory #monogamous #openingup #relationships #relationshipdynamics #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching In this episode we dive into one of the more challenging relationship dynamics on the planet - the Polyamorous and Monogamous pairing. We will share with you our personal experiences as well as our experiences as Relationship, Sexuality and Empowerment coaches as we chat about poly-bombing, guilt, helicopter partnering, ambiamorous-ness, relationship snobbery, disentangling, KTP (kitchen table poly - where partners and metas feel comfortable enough to spend time together) and parallel poly (keeping relationships separate) and relationship identities. We'll give you some things we found helpful when navigating the particularly bumpy landscape of this challenging but also very rewarding relationship dynamic.

#monogamy #openingup #polyamory #polyamorous #monopoly #griefinrelationships #relationshipstructures #relationshipdynamics #relationshipcoaching #poly #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #relationshipadvice In this episode we tackle the grief that comes, as Greg puts it, as "many little deaths" when opening up a previously monogamous relationship. It isn't easy and many of us struggle, even unconsciously, with moving through the grief as we adjust to all the changes that come with opening up. The messages that we receive all of our lives about what love is and isn't create conflict in our minds as we grapple with pushing back against our identities, societal norms and expectations others have of us. NOTE: our definition of "solo poly" was incomplete. Here's a blog that explain many nuances to the term in this person's experience of it: https://solopoly.net/2014/12/05/what-is-solo-polyamory-my-take/ If you're struggling with grief, please reach out to us at support@leannemillion.com or support@gregmillion.com. Here is Leanne's Poly Playlist on Spotify reference in the episode: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4qMkzemGbyazOaY7q0gcAf?si=ca0b191b3c0d4d41 And the song she was struggling to remember is: "I'm Free" by The Soup Dragons ...AND there is another one on the list called "Free" by Donovan Frankenreiter.

#relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #sexuality #polyamory #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #newrelationshipenergy #emotionalmanagement #fomo If you struggle to manage your own NRE (New Relationship Energy) or you know it's impacting your other relationships, this one is for you! We share some of our experiences with NRE, how it can affect you and your behaviour and what you can do about creating more balance. While we're all ultimately responsible for managing our emotional reactions, being a compassionate partner is about taking responsibility for our own behaviour and mitigating negative effects of NRE, creating a safe space for honest dialogue about it, and preventing resentment from building up. NOTES: Asexual individuals can experience sexual arousal, but not always. NRE can be brought about through touch without sexual arousal. Also any limited information agreement should still allow for information about whether fluid exchange occurred during intimacy. Want one-on-one/ couple's or triad/quad coaching? Feel free to reach out to support@leannemillion.com or support@gregmillion.com. If you'd like a copy of our "Check-In" list, shoot us a message! Our Facebook Group name has changed from EMPOWERED NOW to EMPOWERED POLY Relationship Support and Advice - please join us! https://www.facebook.com/groups/2723042208009580 Websites and blogs: gregmillion.com and leannemillion.com IG: @leannemillion and @thegregmillion

#ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory #relationshipcoaching #coupleprivilege #hierarchyinenm #healthyrelationships #autonomy #unicornhunting #vetopower This is the continuation of our interview with Michael Love (co-host of the ENM Talk Podcast and co-admin of the Ethical Non-Monogamy FB group) because we had so much to chat about! In Part 1 we covered what couple's privilege and hierarchy are and how we all found autonomy in our relationships. In THIS episode we discuss veto power and unicorn hunting. You can find Michael's podcast ENM Talk Podcast on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPfgHA1i6Zrh6I05f-rkFxQ as well as anywhere you like to listen. And if you'd like to join his Facebook ENM Community group you can find it here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/enmgroup

#ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory #relationshipcoaching #coupleprivilege #hierarchyinenm #healthyrelationships #autonomy #unicornhunting This was such an awesome interview with Michael Love (co-host of the ENM Talk Podcast and co-admin of the Ethical Non-monogamy FB group) that we had to keep going and ended up creating 2 parts! We discuss what couple's privilege is and how it impacts relationships, how you can work toward more autonomy and why you may want to, and what hierarchy is in this context. And in part TWO we get into veto power and unicorn hunting! You can find Michael Love's ENM Talk Podcast here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPfgHA1i6Zrh6I05f-rkFxQ as well as anywhere you like to listen. And if you'd like to join his Facebook ENM Community group you can find it here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/199655087914476

#toxicrelationships #toxicbehaviour #emotionalmanagement #boundaries #healthyrelationships #relationshipcoaching #faultvsresponsibility #healingwounds #emotions Yep, we thought this one would be easy...but it's complicated! Join us, Greg and Leanne, Empowerment and Relationship Coaches, as we tackle what exactly we can do about toxic behaviour in a relationship. Are you experiencing toxic behaviour in a relationship? Or maybe you're the one with the toxic habits? We ALL have learned behaviour that we would like to change. Watch for the moment when I (Leanne) use hurtful humour to deflect...and you can bet I apologized once I realized I'd done it. Oof. Book mentioned: "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" by Mark Manson Reach out if you would like a copy of the notes we used for this podcast by emailing us at: support@leannemillion.com or support@gregmillion.com!

#vulnerability #malevulnerability #gender #genderexpression #authenticity #manboxculture #tonyporter #brenebrown #lewishowes #connection #emotionalmanagement #anger #strengthisvulnerability #intimacy #healthyrelationships #relationshipcoach #relationshipadvice #selfawareness #maleidentifying Join us, Greg and Leanne, Emotional Empowerment and Relationship Coaches, as we welcome our good friend and fellow podcaster, Binyam Asress to this episode to delve into what Male Vulnerabiilty is, why it's a struggle and what it has to do with "the fuller flavour to savour"! A frank and honest discussion featuring two publicly vulnerable men, (and a woman learning more about male vulnerability) addressing the inherent challenges male identifying folx face when trying to express themselves fully and what we can do to change the narrative. Binyam Asress is a podcaster who can be seen often on Instagram and TickTok, spreading kindness. He first became well known for interviewing his riders for TikTok when he was driving for Uber. His podcast, "Bin Checkin' In" just launched it's 100th episode. Binyam has spent a lifetime studying how people connect...and how we can do so more meaningfully. In his various roles as a father, friend and confidant, he aims to live life on purpose and grow in the midst of community. Find him here: https://www.tiktok.com/@binyamasress https://www.instagram.com/binyamasress/ https://open.spotify.com/show/11FyLlbgm814X9ui4DCjgu Recommended reading for those interested in Male Vulnerability: "The Mask of Masculinity" by Lewis Howes, "Breaking Out of the Man Box - a Call to Men" by Tony Porter, "Men, Women and Worthiness" by Brene Brown.

#authenticintimacy #authenticityinrelationships #sexualfreedom #selfadvocacy #intimacy #autonomy #newrelationshipenergy #feelingtakenforgranted #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #monogamy #ENM #poly #authenticity Greg and Leanne share their own personal discoveries about what intimacy is and isn't, how it can be nurtured and how it can be lost, and how it's different from sex. Getting vulnerable about how intimacy shows up in relationships and how we often take it for granted is what this episode is all about. They look at how much we value sex as a form of intimacy and how sexual autonomy might look if one person isn't feeling sexual. Does sex have to be at the heart of our shared intimacy? They examine the issue from both a monogamous relationship p.o.v. and also touch on new relationship energy and how it can impact established relationships for poly/CNM folx.

#chronicillness #chronicconditions #chronicpain #mentalhealth #relationshipcoaching #relationshipadvice #relationships #autonomy #listentoyourpartner #relationshipbuilding #healthyrelationships In this episode Relationship and Emotional Wellness coaches Leanne and Greg Million offer their insight into the challenges of coping with chronic illness or conditions within a relationship. They provide perspective about how to help your partner, how to respect their independence and how to connect using these 4 pillars: Listen, Self-care, Relationship Building and Being Real. For more details check out Leanne's blog article here: https://www.leannemillion.com/2021/08/29/managing-chronic-illness-conditions-in-a-relationship/ This episode is lovingly dedicated to the memory of Leanne's father, Mel Maschmeyer 1944-2021.

#compersion #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory #nonmonogamous #polyamorous #jealousy #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #sexuality Greg, an Emotional Empowerment Coach, and Leanne, a Relationship and Sexuality Coach explain the term "compersion" as used by the Poly/CNM community. They explore it's origins, why people think they need it, and how it feels to have it, in both comfortable and uncomfortable ways.

#groupsex #threesomes #orgies #multiplepartners #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmongamy #monogamish #openrelationships #polyamory #sexualautonomy #safesex #elleciapaine #relationshipcoach #sexcoach #sexadvice #relationshipadvice Join Greg and Leanne in welcoming fellow Love, Sex and Relationship Coach, Ellecia Paine to the show! Sometimes a silly yet still very informative discussion about sex with multiple partners at once including things like how to address STI safety, offering really practical advice about how to manage your physical and emotional well being as well as what challenges, red flags and joys might be encountered when engaging with more than one intimate partner at a time. A must-see for those curious, who want to try or who just really enjoy group sex! Where you can find Ellecia: www.elleciapaine.com www.elleciapaine.com/course www.facebook.com/elleciapaine www.instagram.com/elleciapaine Download the SPIEL .pdf: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1pVSpJsvvgCKmpJ6ixmouvrue9vD3YLwN/view?usp=sharing

#relationshipadvice #compassion #communication #relationshipcoach #polyamory #consensualnonmonogamy #ENM #poly #selfadvocacy #autonomy #authenticity #vulnerability Join Emotional Wellness and Relationship coaches Greg and Leanne Million as they explore what being a compassionate partner is, and what it isn't. With a slight detour into what the differences and similarities are between a Relationship Anarchist and Greg's coined term, "Relationship Autonomist", the Millions explore compassionate partnering and surprise even themselves with how much it means to them. NOTE: This is a poly-friendly podcast, and the content is applicable to all types of relationships. IMPORTANT: While it is important to self-advocate in our relationships, if you feel unsafe, please consult a local therapist, social worker or shelter to help you plan an exit strategy.

#polyamory #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #nonmonogamy #boundaries #nonmonogamynewbies #couplesprivilege #hierarchicalpolyamory #disentangling So...you're considering Polyamory or Consensual Non-Monogamy? Or you've already started the journey and hit a few road bumps? Greg and Leanne Million Relationship, Sexuality and Emotional Wellness Coaches offer up some advice based on their years of combined and separate experiences in exploring Poly and CNM. Everything from Unicorn Hunting (though they don't use that term in this episode) to hierarchy, to the importance of disentangling as a couple and many more important considerations are explored. If you'd like a copy of the list of 26 Tips for Those New to Poly/CNM, feel free to email them at support@leannemillion.com or support@gregmillion.com.

#polyamory #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #needtofeelspecial #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #empowerment #boundaries #polyrelationships Greg and Leanne delve into what we can do in our Poly/CNM relationships - OR any relationship structure - to address the very foundational need to feel special. There are things we can request, advocate for and create for our relationships to foster and recognize our unique connection with each person in our lives.

​​#jessicafern​ #polysecure​ #authorlove​ #nonmonogamy​ #ethicalnonmonogamy​ #polyamory Greg and Leanne are completely jazzed to have had the opportunity to meet with the author of "Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy", Jessica Fern! She unpacks some really important points for us, offers a lot of insight, and was just a joy to talk with! Jessica is a psychotherapist, public speaker and trauma and relationship expert. Reach out to her at www.jessicafern.com, and you can get a copy "Polysecure" on Audible, Kobo, at Thorntree Press, Indigo or on Amazon. Note: Please excuse the sound quality at times, as Leanne had to rely on her laptop mic and there was some distortion over Zoom. ​

#jealousy #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationships #howtomanagejealousy Join Greg and Leanne, Wellness and Relationship Coaches, as they examine what creates jealousy in consensual non-monogamy, how it feels and how to manage it, both from the perspective of the partner experiencing jealousy and the partner who is witnessing jealousy. Some additional tips if you're partner is jealous: give reassurances, avoid oversharing or making comparisons between partners. Join us next time for our interview with JESSICA FERN author of the book POLYSECURE! Also remember to listen until the end for our outtakes!! :)

In this episode Leanne and Greg provide an overview of various relationship structures, discuss why new terminology is being developed and used and address some misconceptions about these structures. Leanne mentions that the graphic will be added in post production but for a host of reasons, we decided against that. However, if you would like to access the graphic that Leanne created on this topic, please reach out to support@leannemillion.com. #relationshipstructures #relationshipdynamics #relationshiporientation #ethicalnonmonogamy #monogamy #relationshiptypes

Greg, an Emotional Wellness and Empowerment coach and his wife, Leanne, a Relationship and Sexuality Coach discuss what it means to have Relationship Autonomy, why it works for them, how it compares to Relationship Anarchy and how it can be applies to all types of relationships. NOTE: Be sure to listen until the end to see the outtakes! Check out their websites to reach out with topic suggestions or questions: leannemillion.com and gregmillion.com Or send an email to: support@leannemillion.com or support@gregmillion.com #autonomy #relationshipgoals #communication #sovereignty #personalresponsibility #relationshipanarchy #polyamory

In this episode, coaches Leanne and Greg dive into the often-touted precept "You can't love anyone unless you love yourself". Join them as they grapple with this popular notion, share their own experiences and what they've noticed about how "true" this idea really is. They also share points made by Lisa Voth in her article "Self Love is Bullshit" (link below) and the work of Stan Tatkin on relational blueprints that Lisa cites. https://www.lisavoth.ca/single-post/2018/01/08/self-love-is-bullshit You can find us on YouTube also: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCj41-4xONgkjbbf4goWwvVg Feel free to connect with us here to offer topic suggestions or for coaching info: support@gregmillion.com or support@leannemillion.com #selflove #selfcare #loveisforeveryone #relationships #youreworthy #lifecoaches

In a recent poll in their Facebook Group "EMPOWERED NOW: Relationship Support and Advice for ALL", the #1 information topic requested was Long Term Relationship Challenges. In this episode coaches Greg and Leanne get vulnerable about their own struggles in their MANY long term relationships. They discuss how to address boredom, being stuck in a rut, disconnecting from your partner and intimacy issues by using tips and tools to create opportunities for connection and communication. #longtermrelationships #healthyrelationships #relationshipchallenges #intimacy #connection #communication

Trigger warning. In this episode, coaches Leanne and Greg talk about what consent is, what it isn't, who can give consent and what red flags to look for in case someone isn't capable of speaking up when they are uncomfortable. They share their own experiences and hope to inspire others to be able to seek enthusiastic consent in their relationships always. This episode uses some graphic sexual terms, profanity and refers to sexual assault. NOTE: Please be informed about the age of consent laws where you live and abide by them. #consent #healthyrelationships #boundaries #sexualassault #sexuality

Greg and Leanne Million, Personal Development and Relationship Coaches, discuss Dr. Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages and Dr. Weiss' Five Sex Languages that Leanne has tweaked in order to better represent areas she thought were important. Leanne's Eight Sex Languages are explained and they cover what the languages are, how you can incorporate them into your relationships and what they've learned about their own Love and Sex Languages. To find out what your Sex Languages are, send an email to: support@leannemillion.com and you'll be sent a link to her Sex Languages Quiz. #lovelanguages #sexlanguages #connection #betterrelationships

Greg and Leanne Million, coaches in Personal Development and Relationships, offer tips on using tools instead of creating rules within relationships. If you or someone you know tries to control the behaviour of others by establishing rules, Greg and Leanne show how this is ineffective and what can be done instead. By changing the focus to communication, and by recognizing the other person's autonomy over their own decisions, the tools they share help create a safe space in which everyone's needs are considered. To connect with Greg or Leanne or learn more about the coaching services they offer visit them at: https://www.gregmillion.com/ or https://www.leannemillion.com/ #relationshipadvice #communication #healthyrelationships #controllingbehaviour

Greg and Leanne Million, Personal Development and Relationship Coaches, and special guest Ivy Padmos (their non-binary adult child) discuss their own gender identity and sexual and romantic orientations. They cover the basic terminology, what good allyship looks like and challenges they've faced in their personal journeys navigating gender identities as well as sexual and romantic orientations. To find out more about Ivy Padmos and her Open Letter Project, you can find her on Instagram: @poisoniveh and @openletterproject. To get a list of the Terminology used in this podcast or to reach out to Leanne or Greg you can do so through their websites: leannemillion.com or gregmillion.com. #LGBTQ2IA+ #genderidentity #sexualorientation #romanticorientation #comingout #allyship