Podcast appearances and mentions of Tony Porter

Dr. Wendy is talking to author, educator, and activist Tony Porter. He is co-founder of A CALL TO MEN and internationally recognized for his efforts to prevent violence against women while promoting a healthy, respectful, manhood. He has partnered up with Chispa,  the Latin dating app where Latino & Latina singles can meet singles nearby. 

Morning sermon from 3rd November 2024. Preacher Tony Porter

We pick up where we left off in our last episode with our guest Tony Porter, author of Breaking Out of the Man Box. Iyanla and Tony continue their wide-ranging conversation and unpack how to keep men accountable, how to foster healthy communication, and how to encourage men to support women in leadership roles. Tony also leans in and helps listeners understand how to reframe the dynamics between men and women, how to prevent violence against women, and highlights the harm that the collective socialization of men has on all genders.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla shares the show today with her incredible guest Tony Porter. Tony Porter is an author, TED talk speaker, and activist working to deconstruct and reconfigure masculinity. This episode is all things men: how they relate to themselves, each other, women, and the larger community. In this episode, Tony highlights the sometimes dangerous and unhealthy aspects of the collective socialization of men.  Tony is working to create a better world where men can voice their feelings, express vulnerability, and redefine what it means to be a man. He offers perspectives and insights for all genders to work together to help redefine masculinity. You can watch his TED Talk here. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

To transform our culture from its focus on dominance and hierarchy to one of connection, empathy and collaboration, it's vital that we re-envision the essential (or archetypal) masculine, which changes everything. This rarely tackled topic is the subject of a deeply authentic dialogue among Playwright and activist Eve Ensler and three men working to change men and change the story: Tony Porter, co-founder, A Call To Men; Dallas Goldtooth, Indigenous activist, member of the 1491's Native American comedy troupe; George Lipsitz, board president, African American Policy Forum. This is an episode of the Bioneers: Revolution from the Heart of Nature series. Visit the radio and podcast homepage to learn more.

People are trying to stay cool this week, as super hot temperatures hit many parts of the province. But what about our pets and livestock? How hot is too hot for animals and what can we do to protect them? Tony Porter with the New Brunswick SPCA offers some advice.

Tony Porter is the chief animal protection officer with the NBSPCA.

​Cases of animal neglect and even cruelty are on the rise in this province, according to the New Brunswick SPCA. Jeanne Armstrong spoke to animal protection officer Tony Porter to get a sense of the numbers.

Catch up on Bischop Tony Porter's encouraging message on how to remedy burn out, looking at Elijah in 1 Kings chapter 19.

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Please be aware this conversation contains references to sexual assault and gender-based violence. …How can you practice approaching defensiveness with curiosity in yourself and others?How can we begin to embrace our full humanity by allowing ourselves to engage in all ways of being, not just the ones that were assigned to us based on our sex?What is a small thing you can do this week to create a next turn/ ripple from this conversation? …Burton Patterson is a social worker by trade with experience in the fields of Harm Reduction and Mental Health and Addiction, Sexual Violence Prevention, and Healthy Sexual Education. He specializes working with male-identifying folks in gender-based violence prevention. Watch the Ted Talk from Tony Porter the Burton references in this conversation: ⁠A Call to MenListen to Part One with Burton here. Today, Burton shares stories about his experience educating groups of young men about toxic masculinity, rape culture, and gender-based violence. Abbie and Burton discuss the ripple effect (and how it's true for both helpful and harmful behaviors), the importance of meeting defensiveness with curiosity, and the ways to use challenges as educational moments. Burton explains the difference between toxic and healthy masculinity. Abbie and Burton explore the way meaning is made when it comes to “femininity” and “masculinity.” Abbie wonders about the ways that the small things add up to the big things and how that can help us understand how our ideas around gender formed and Burton uses the metaphor of pulling people out of a river to describe the relationship between prevention and intervention and why we need both. Finally, Abbie asks Burton what new stories we can start telling about gender to create a better social world for all of us.…Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter.Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution....Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Rik Spann. Find Rik on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Listen to our conversation with Rik in ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ep. 8⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠....⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.comFollow me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Subscribe on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Check out my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Learn more about the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CMM Institute.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more about ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CMM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Learn more about

Please be aware this conversation contains references to sexual assault and gender-based violence. …What ideas about gender have you learned from your culture, peers, and family? How can you find ways to call people in instead of calling them out? …Burton Patterson is a social worker by trade with experience in the fields of Harm Reduction and Mental Health and Addiction, Sexual Violence Prevention, and Healthy Sexual Education. He specializes working with male-identifying folks in gender-based violence prevention. Watch this Ted Talk from Tony Porter for more context on today's conversation: A Call to MenIn this conversation, Burton shares his story, including what it was like to grow up in a family of “helpers,” how he learned to see people as people, and why he transitioned from helping on the intervention side of things to the prevention side. Abbie and Burton discuss the narratives around gender that we internalize (whether we recognize it or not). Burton explains why the conversation around gender-based violence and sexual assault is not simply a “women's issue,” why calling people in is more effective than calling people out, and why even the smallest moments matter in the ripple effect. Abbie and Burton explore “The Man Box” and why it is vital to understand instances of sexual assault as parts of a larger pattern rather than individual events. Finally, Burton gives advice on what it looks like to call people in.…Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter.Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution....Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Rik Spann. Find Rik on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Listen to our conversation with Rik in ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ep. 8⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠....⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.comFollow me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Subscribe on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Check out my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Learn more about the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CMM Institute.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more about ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CMM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Learn more about ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Cosmopolis 2045⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Learn more about ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CosmoKidz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Learn more about the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CosmoTeenz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Fellows' work on Instagram.

Celebrate Father's Day with this special episode dedicated to remarkable fathers from all walks of life. Liz and Jamey reflect on fatherhood and guide us through a deep dive into the unforgettable narratives of past guests like Lil Rel Howery, Russell Dickerson, Eugenio Derbez, Giacomo Gianniotti, Sam Baldoni, Shaka Senghor, Kier Gaines, Ted & Jalen Bunch and others. Discover the profound influence of fathers everywhere in this powerful tribute that's sure to leave you with greater appreciation for the Dads in your life. Listen now and learn about: The importance of fatherhood The challenges and joys of raising children The different ways fathers can be present (or not) in their children's lives How to be a better father Sign up for the Man Enough newsletter to get full video episodes and positive masculinity news every Monday: http://manenough.com/newsletter The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company. Timecodes:  04:24 - SAM & JUSTIN BALDONI from 'Seeing Dad As Fully Human' (Man Enough Season 1) 13:02 - CHRISTOPHER RIVAS from 'Beyond The Echo Chamber' (Man Enough Season 2) 14:53 - GIACOMO GIANNIOTTI from 'Awareness is the Superpower' (Man Enough Season 1) 18:16 - SHAKA SENGHOR from 'A Complex Hero' (Man Enough Season 1) 28:24 - ANDY GRAMMER & LIZ PLANK and JAMEY HEATH from 'Daddy Issues' (Man Enough Season 2) 38:20 -TED and JALEN BUNCH from 'Fathering Without Conditions' (Man Enough Season 2) 42:07 - LIL REL HOWERY from 'Strength In Imperfection' (Man Enough Season 1) 47:41 - Growing Up Without a Traditional Father in Your Life 48:04 - KIER GAINES from 'Becoming Your Own Role Model' (Man Enough Season 1) 54:40 - A Special Moment for Fathers Who Are Forging a Brighter Future  55:58 - RUSSEL DICKERSON from 'A New Kind of Cowboy' (Man Enough Season 1) 57:04 - EUGENIO DERBEZ from 'Breaking Through Machismo to Become Your True Self' (Man Enough Season 1) 59:30 - JAMEY HEATH from 'Healing My Broken Parts' (Man Enough Season 1) 01:00:31 - ELDRA JACKSON III from 'Human Work, Not Prison Work' (Man Enough Season 1) 01:02:30 - TONY PORTER from 'Disrupting the Power Imbalance' (Man Enough Season 1) 01:04:02 - RICHARD REEVES from 'Bridging the Gender Gap' (Man Enough Season 2) 01:05:18 - LIZ PLANK from 'Seeing Dad As Fully Human' (Man Enough Season 1) Support Man Enough Man Enough Newsletter: https://manenough.com/newsletter Man Enough book: https://manenough.com/books Boys Will Be Human book: https://boyswillbehuman.com  Follow The Hosts Justin Baldoni https://instagram.com/justinbaldoni https://www.tiktok.com/@justinbaldoni https://facebook.com/justinbaldoni https://twitter.com/justinbaldoni Text Justin: +1 (310) 845-6909 Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://twitter.com/feministabulous http://www.elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://twitter.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://www.jameyheath.com/ SPECIAL OFFERS Beyond Meat  Try the new Beyond Sausage at a retailer near you! Thank you to Beyond Meat for supporting our show! MeUndies  Get 25% off your order plus free standard shipping by going to MeUndies.com/manenough #boys #men #masculinity #fathers #dad #fathersday #fatherhood #childhood #therapy #trauma #celebration #joy #memories #children #parents #father To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Intro: Welcome back to The Wellness Way podcast, where we explore different ways to improve our physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. Today, we have a special guest with us, Tony Porter, a reflexologist with over 15 years of experience. In this episode, we'll be talking about the amazing benefits of reflexology and how it can help improve our overall health and wellbeing.The conversation begins with Tony sharing his early life experience of suffering from polio with his sister. He then explains how reflexology played a crucial role in his recovery and helped him regain his strength and mobility.As the conversation progresses, Tony shares the fascinating story of his father, who was a renowned expert in head massage. He explains how his father's knowledge and experience inspired him to pursue reflexology and how he developed his own unique approach to the practice.Key points:* Reflexology is a natural healing therapy that uses pressure points on the feet, hands, and ears to improve the function of different parts of the body* Tony explains how reflexology works and the different health benefits it can provide, including stress relief, improved circulation, and pain reduction* Philly and Tony discuss the misconceptions and myths surrounding reflexology, and how it is a safe and effective complementary therapy* Tony shares some tips for practicing self-reflexology at home, and how it can be a useful tool for managing stress and promoting relaxationOutro:That's all for today's episode of The Wellness Way podcast. We hope you enjoyed learning about the healing power of reflexology with Tony Porter. And as always, if you have any questions or feedback, you can reach out to us on social media @phillyjlay or sign up to my newsletter at www.phillyjlay.com. Thanks for listening, and we'll see you next time on The Wellness WayYou can follow Philly at:Website: https://phillyjlay.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phillyjlay/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@phillyjlay1Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pippa.lay.1YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@phillyjlayhttps://phillyjlay.com/the-wellness-way-fasterclass/ - Sign up to my online health course ‘The Wellness Way FasterClass'   https://phillyjlay.com/my-book/ - Order a copy of my book ‘The Natural Wellness Journal' now!https://phillyjlay.com/ - Sign up for my FREE newsletter for a weekly dose of health and wellness inspiration.https://phillyjlay.com/product/meditation-album/ - Download my meditation album to help you on your self-healing and manifestation journey.heavening, meditation, healing, sciences, manifestation, wellness, ecology, natural health, wellbeing,: https://www.phillyjlay.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Intro: Welcome back to The Wellness Way podcast, where we explore different ways to improve our physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. Today, we have a special guest with us, Tony Porter, a reflexologist with over 15 years of experience. In this episode, we'll be talking about the amazing benefits of reflexology and how it can help improve our overall health and wellbeing.The conversation begins with Tony sharing his early life experience of suffering from polio with his sister. He then explains how reflexology played a crucial role in his recovery and helped him regain his strength and mobility.As the conversation progresses, Tony shares the fascinating story of his father, who was a renowned expert in head massage. He explains how his father's knowledge and experience inspired him to pursue reflexology and how he developed his own unique approach to the practice.Key points:* Reflexology is a natural healing therapy that uses pressure points on the feet, hands, and ears to improve the function of different parts of the body* Tony explains how reflexology works and the different health benefits it can provide, including stress relief, improved circulation, and pain reduction* Philly and Tony discuss the misconceptions and myths surrounding reflexology, and how it is a safe and effective complementary therapy* Tony shares some tips for practicing self-reflexology at home, and how it can be a useful tool for managing stress and promoting relaxationOutro:That's all for today's episode of The Wellness Way podcast. We hope you enjoyed learning about the healing power of reflexology with Tony Porter. And as always, if you have any questions or feedback, you can reach out to us on social media @phillyjlay or sign up to my newsletter at www.phillyjlay.com. Thanks for listening, and we'll see you next time on The Wellness WayYou can follow Philly at:Website: https://phillyjlay.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phillyjlay/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@phillyjlay1Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pippa.lay.1YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@phillyjlayhttps://phillyjlay.com/the-wellness-way-fasterclass/ - Sign up to my online health course ‘The Wellness Way FasterClass'   https://phillyjlay.com/my-book/ - Order a copy of my book ‘The Natural Wellness Journal' now!https://phillyjlay.com/ - Sign up for my FREE newsletter for a weekly dose of health and wellness inspiration.https://phillyjlay.com/product/meditation-album/ - Download my meditation album to help you on your self-healing and manifestation journey.heavening, meditation, healing, sciences, manifestation, wellness, ecology, natural health, wellbeing,: https://www.phillyjlay.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Over the past year, we have learned, challenged and grown together, thanks to our incredible guests who joined us each week. We are honored to have the chance to check back in with a number of them about how they've grown, found joy, and what's in their hearts and minds today. Hear from Tony Porter, ALOK, Richie Reseda, Eldra Jackson, Emily Baldoni, Rainn Wilson, Emmanuel Acho, Andy Grammer, Shaka Senghor, Jackson Katz, Giacomo Gianiotti, and Sam Baldoni in this dynamic, thoughtful, honest and sometimes funny first season finale. New episodes every Monday

Today's show is dedicated to Sexual Assault Awareness Month and an exploration of toxic masculinity. Inspired by the anger displayed at the Oscars and the Grammy awarded to Louis CK, I dig into some questions I have about the source of this behavior and the ways we can work together to prevent it. I share the following talks and words from others who've spoken on these subjects including lots of my own thoughts. Would love to hear yours.Tony Porter's (A Call to Men) Ted Talk about the "Man Box.".Are there problems with the term toxic masculinity.Jackson Katz's TedxTalk "Violence against women - it's a men's issue" and the bystander approach.How is trauma related to toxic masculinity, "How Trauma Creates Toxic Masculinity"Toxic Masculinity to Male FragilityPrivilege's role in this healing/changing this behavior. Chuck Derry from Gender Violence Institute May 3, 2019Man Enough Podcast and Justin Baldoni's TedTalkHow are we all complicit with the adherence to traditional masculinity in the military.Can women be toxically masculine?  Toxic Masculinity and Toxic FemininitySome other resources mentioned:Ulster County Crime Victims Services yoga and other classes here in Ulster County.People's Place's Empowerment Center Holistic Healthcare Day.Today's show was engineered by Ian Seda of Radio Kingston.Our show music is from Shana Falana !!!Feel free to email me, say hello: she@iwantwhatshehas.org** Please: SUBSCRIBE to the pod and leave a REVIEW wherever you are listening, it helps other users FIND IThttp://iwantwhatshehas.org/podcastITUNES | SPOTIFY | STITCHERITUNES: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/i-want-what-she-has/id1451648361?mt=2SPOTIFY:https://open.spotify.com/show/77pmJwS2q9vTywz7Uhiyff?si=G2eYCjLjT3KltgdfA6XXCASTITCHER: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/she-wants/i-want-what-she-has?refid=stpr'Follow:INSTAGRAM * https://www.instagram.com/iwantwhatshehaspodcast/FACEBOOK * https://www.facebook.com/iwantwhatshehaspodcastTWITTER *https://twitter.com/wantwhatshehas

To transform our culture from its focus on dominance and hierarchy to one of connection, empathy and collaboration, it's vital that we re-envision the essential (or archetypal) masculine, which changes everything. This rarely tackled topic is the subject of a deeply authentic dialogue among Playwright and activist V formerly, Eve Ensler, and three men working to change men and change the story: Tony Porter, co-founder, A Call To Men; Dallas Goldtooth, Indigenous activist, actor and member of the 1491's Native American comedy troupe; George Lipsitz, board president, African American Policy Forum. To see a clip from the recorded panel at the Bioneers Conference, visit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l0nhQWA_5HU This is an episode of the Bioneers: Revolution from the Heart of Nature series. Visit the radio and podcast homepage to find out how to hear the program on your local station and how to subscribe to the podcast.

**EPISODE LINKS** Learn more about Corsight: https://www.corsight.ai/ Register for the Travel & Hospitality Identity Summit: https://events.channelpronetwork.com/travel-hospitality-biometrics-online-summit Download the FindBiometrics Year in Review Report: https://findbiometrics.com/face-biometrics-privacy-and-finance-download-the-19th-annual-findbiometrics-year-in-review-report/ Live from ISC West: FindBiometrics Director of Digital Media and Events Doug OGorden catches up with the leadership of facial recognition specialist Corsight, speaking with the company CEO Rob Watts, and Chief Privacy Officer Tony Porter After discussing some of the new markets Corsight is expanding into – including malls and entertainment venues – the conversation turns to the topic of bias in facial recognition, and concludes with what Watts and Porter expect of the biometrics industry in the coming months.

We discuss a TEDTalks Craig came across recently featuring Tony Porter. In it he discusses some of the programming that boys go through that leads to the disrespect and dangerous ways men treat women.   Watch it here- https://youtu.be/td1PbsV6B80

Tony Porter, CEO of A Call To Men, shares stories from his decades-long crusade to help men invest in a healthier form of manhood, discusses the evolution and controversies of his intersectional methods and reveals the very personal origins of his journey.

Virginia Haufler is Associate Professor in the Department of Government and Politics at the University of Maryland, College Park. Her research focuses on the changing nature of governance in the global political economy, especially the role of transnational corporations and corporate social responsibility. In this conversation, we talk about private power, the blindspots of IR regime theory, transparency in the extractive industry, and the place of ethics within the capitalist structures of the global economy, and much more. Virginia can be found here: https://gvpt.umd.edu/facultyprofile/haufler/virginia Tweets @VHaufler We discussed: "Corporations, Governance Networks, and Conflict in the Developing World," in The New Power Politics: Networks and Transnational Security Governance, eds. Deborah Avant and Oliver Westerwinter), 2016: https://oxford.universitypressscholarship.com/view/10.1093/acprof:oso/9780190604493.001.0001/acprof-9780190604493 Private Authority and International Affairs (ed with Clare Cutler and Tony Porter), 1999: https://sunypress.edu/Books/P/Private-Authority-and-International-Affairs Regime Theory and International Relations (ed. Volker Rittberger), 1995: https://global.oup.com/academic/product/regime-theory-and-international-relations-9780198280293?cc=ro&lang=en&

Pioneering healthy manhood for decades through his organization A Call to Men, Tony Porter—author of Breaking Out of the Man Box, advisor to the NFL, and training facilitator to major sports leagues including the NBA—brings his expertise and humility to a powerful conversation about the actions men can take action to become their authentic selves. With transparency and heart, Tony invites us to disrupt power imbalances, focus on the experiences of Black women, and embrace the humanity of everyone, ourselves included. New episodes every Monday

Tony Porter from A Call to Men joins us to consider the question, "what's a man's role in ending sexual violence?" The #MeToo movement caused men across our society to wrestle with the realization that they could have done something harmful in their past. But “The Man Box”, or the way in which our society teaches young boys about what it means to be a man, taught all these men that what they were doing was right. Things get even more complicated when we consider how all of this intersects with racism and our society's lack of attention on men's mental health.

#vulnerability #malevulnerability #gender #genderexpression #authenticity #manboxculture #tonyporter #brenebrown #lewishowes #connection #emotionalmanagement #anger #strengthisvulnerability #intimacy #healthyrelationships #relationshipcoach #relationshipadvice #selfawareness #maleidentifying Join us, Greg and Leanne, Emotional Empowerment and Relationship Coaches, as we welcome our good friend and fellow podcaster, Binyam Asress to this episode to delve into what Male Vulnerabiilty is, why it's a struggle and what it has to do with "the fuller flavour to savour"! A frank and honest discussion featuring two publicly vulnerable men, (and a woman learning more about male vulnerability) addressing the inherent challenges male identifying folx face when trying to express themselves fully and what we can do to change the narrative. Binyam Asress is a podcaster who can be seen often on Instagram and TickTok, spreading kindness. He first became well known for interviewing his riders for TikTok when he was driving for Uber. His podcast, "Bin Checkin' In" just launched it's 100th episode. Binyam has spent a lifetime studying how people connect...and how we can do so more meaningfully. In his various roles as a father, friend and confidant, he aims to live life on purpose and grow in the midst of community. Find him here: https://www.tiktok.com/@binyamasress https://www.instagram.com/binyamasress/ https://open.spotify.com/show/11FyLlbgm814X9ui4DCjgu Recommended reading for those interested in Male Vulnerability: "The Mask of Masculinity" by Lewis Howes, "Breaking Out of the Man Box - a Call to Men" by Tony Porter, "Men, Women and Worthiness" by Brene Brown.

#vulnerability #malevulnerability #gender #genderexpression #authenticity #manboxculture #tonyporter #brenebrown #lewishowes #connection #emotionalmanagement #anger #strengthisvulnerability #intimacy #healthyrelationships #relationshipcoach #relationshipadvice #selfawareness #maleidentifying Join us, Greg and Leanne, Emotional Empowerment and Relationship Coaches, as we welcome our good friend and fellow podcaster, Binyam Asress to this episode to delve into what Male Vulnerabiilty is, why it's a struggle and what it has to do with "the fuller flavour to savour"! A frank and honest discussion featuring two publicly vulnerable men, (and a woman learning more about male vulnerability) addressing the inherent challenges male identifying folx face when trying to express themselves fully and what we can do to change the narrative. Binyam Asress is a podcaster who can be seen often on Instagram and TickTok, spreading kindness. He first became well known for interviewing his riders for TikTok when he was driving for Uber. His podcast, "Bin Checkin' In" just launched it's 100th episode. Binyam has spent a lifetime studying how people connect...and how we can do so more meaningfully. In his various roles as a father, friend and confidant, he aims to live life on purpose and grow in the midst of community. Find him here: https://www.tiktok.com/@binyamasress https://www.instagram.com/binyamasress/ https://open.spotify.com/show/11FyLlbgm814X9ui4DCjgu Recommended reading for those interested in Male Vulnerability: "The Mask of Masculinity" by Lewis Howes, "Breaking Out of the Man Box - a Call to Men" by Tony Porter, "Men, Women and Worthiness" by Brene Brown.

Welcome to the Bright N Fit podcast! Today is Ep#18: Domestic Violence Awareness - A call for help. This episode was inspired by several podcasts such as 'After Dark' where he speaks with Maheen from www.thisviolenceisnotatragedy.com based in the UK, also by 'Interventions in Domestic Violence' podcast Ep 15 "working with female domestic violence perpetrators" with Dr. David Wexler. By Tony Porter, advocate of the 'A Call to men' https://www.acalltomen.org/about/team/tony-porter/, the story of "Lori", the show 'MAID' on Netflix, NBC news special edition 'Dateline', the story of Lauren McCluskey "She did everything right" https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/video/full-episode-she-did-everything-right-82536005853 and Hollywood movies such as "Enough" with Jennifer Lopez, all of these have a common denominator: Domestic Violence. In this episode I speak about Domestic Violence, Tony Porter's 'the collective socialization of men' concept, as well as valuable information from https://www.thehotline.org/ on Abuse and Domestic Violence such as: What is Abuse? Recognizing the signs of Abuse Power & Control: Break Free from abuse The Power & Control Wheel Common Signs of Abusive Behavior Get help! Create a Safety Plan This is information is shared from public sources, and not intended to provide professional advice. If you are in immediate dangerous, call 911, contact the local authorities, and please be safe. Picture credit: https://www.upr.org/post/survey-about-1-5-utah-women-experience-domestic-violence#stream/0 Don't forget to subscribe, share and send your topic ideas and questions to brightnfit1@gmail.com Follow me on Facebook: @brightnfitbytatiana Follow me on Instagram: @brightnfit1 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/bright-n-fit-by-tatiana/support

Tony Porter is seeking a transformational experience with men - and that does not begin in the head. For Tony, transformation starts in the heart. CEO of A Call To Men, an incredible organization dedicated to preventing violence against women by promoting healthy, respectful manhood, Tony has given TED talks, published a book, and led countless workshops and trainings. This in-depth conversation gets down to his roots, the personal experiences, and deeply held convictions that drive him to be a healer and a hero living and teaching from the heart.

“If it would destroy [a 12-year-old boy] to be called a girl, what are we then teaching him about girls?” ― Tony PorterIn episode #007 of The ManKind Podcast, Brandon Clift and Boysen Hodgsen discuss with the CEO of A Call To Men, Tony Porter, how the "Man Box" has caused boys and men to be the primary target of worldwide scrutiny and blame on all fronts. Who This Episode Is For You If:You want to better understand the role that boys and men play in this world.You're seeking better ways to be a role model for the boys in your life.You want to become a CHAMPION for the rites and safety of Women and Girls.In This Episode You Will:Learn how the "old model" of raising boys has contributed to the majority of violence and harm in today's world.Discover ways in which you can play a role in helping men see a new way of being.Learn how to help support the men in your life with this transition.Did You Enjoy Tony Porter? Here Is How To Find Out More: Tony's TED Talk: WATCH HEREWebsite: A Call To Men WebsiteOrder A Book Of Dares: Order HereAdditional Resources:Subscribe/Rate/Review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐: >>>HERE

In this potent 35-minute conversation, originally recorded at Omega's 2014 Women & Power Conference, Mallika Dutt, Tony Porter and Elizabeth Lesser share stories and perspectives on gender socialization in modern times. Mallika ends the episode by guiding you through a short visualization to promote interdependence.

In this potent 35-minute conversation, originally recorded at Omega's 2014 Women & Power Conference, Mallika Dutt, Tony Porter and Elizabeth Lesser share stories and perspectives on gender socialization in modern times. Mallika ends the episode by guiding you through a short visualization to promote interdependence.

Eyes Wired Open: Constrasting Strategies: Surveilance Technologies in Britain and the US From pervasive video cameras to facial recognition and privacy issues surrounding personal information prompted by the pandemic, government and civil liberty organizations on both sides of the Atlantic are responding with very different strategies to balance the need for security and the privacy of citizens. In this Episode of Engage, “Eyes Wired Open” we speak with former UK Surveillance Camera Commissioner, Tony Porter, and Cindy Cohn, executive director of the Electronic Frontier Foundation to get their thoughts on the UK and the US’s video surveillance strategies. 

Facial recognition technology is in the spotlight as the surveillance watchdog raises privacy concerns over its use by police forces. Are these new technologies making the country safer, or creating a new privacy nightmare?This podcast was brought to you thanks to the support of readers of The Times and The Sunday Times. Subscribe today and get one month free at: thetimes.co.uk/storiesofourtimes.Guests:Fiona Hamilton, crime and security editor, The Times.Tony Porter, former Surveillance Camera Commissioner for England and Wales.Host: David Aaronovitch. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

To transform our culture from its focus on dominance and hierarchy to one of connection, empathy and collaboration, it’s vital that we re-envision the essential (or archetypal) masculine, which changes everything. This rarely tackled topic is the subject of a deeply authentic dialogue among Playwright and activist Eve Ensler and three men working to change men and change the story: Tony Porter, co-founder, A Call To Men; Dallas Goldtooth, Indigenous activist, member of the 1491’s Native American comedy troupe; George Lipsitz, board president, African American Policy Forum.

In Episode 11, Brian chats with Tony Porter (the Surveillance Camera Commissioner) about the biggest surveillance challenges facing the security industry and the impact of the recent case involving Ed Bridges on policing and, indeed, the users of automated facial recognition technology. Also, Brian chats with Phil Wood (Head of the School of Aviation and Security at Buckinghamshire New University) who turns his attentions towards the recent formation of The Security Community and what benefits it will realise for practising security professionals as well as the industry in general.

Jay Taylor is a social worker dedicated to social justice and equality initiatives. Taylor has worked in anti-human trafficking, community health centers, young men’s restorative programing, psychiatric hospitals, university wellness centers, and as an adjunct college professor. His involvement with men’s issues began when he worked with men in anti-human trafficking and domestic violence programs. Today, Jay is a Resource Trainer and Specialist in Violence Prevention for Colleges & Universities and Mental Health Education at A Call To Men, a violence prevention organization and respected leader on issues of manhood, male socialization and its intersection with violence, and preventing violence against all women and girls. We sat down with Jay Taylor during the Coalition to End Sexual Exploitation Summit in 2019, and our conversation about how pornography influences problematic behavior, particularly in men, is still relevant today. You can learn more about A Call To Men and their efforts in the anti-exploitation movement at acalltomen.org.Click here to access the resources discussed in this episode.To learn more about the harms of pornography on consumers, relationships, and its larger societal impacts, visit FTND.org.To support this podcast, click here or text CONSIDER to 43506.As you go about your day we invite you to increase your self-awareness, look both ways, check your blindspots, and consider before consuming.

Today's global pandemic and ongoing racial unrest have shined a blinding light on the systemic inequities that prevent all people in our society from thriving. Claudia speaks with A Call to Men's Tony Porter to reflect on what it feels like to be black in America today and how we can all rise for racial equity and justice.

Tony Porter is an author, educator and activist working to advance social justice issues. As the co-founder and CEO of A CALL TO MEN, Tony is internationally recognized for his efforts to prevent violence against women while promoting a healthy, respectful manhood. Tony’s 2010 TED Talk has been named by GQ Magazine as one of the “Top 10 TED Talks Every Man Should See.” In this powerful episode, Tony shares how to undo racism, sexism, and male supremacy.    Key Takeaways Why is Tony so passionate about domestic violence and prevention work?  You can’t undo racism without addressing sexism and male supremacy.  The transformation we’re looking for happens through vulnerability, through sharing your story.  Boys are taught early on to have a ‘lack of interest’ in girls.  Why does it seem white America has a lack of interest in the struggles of black and brown people? The same applies to heterosexual folks and their lack of interest with gay and trans rights.  More men are open to talking about healthy manhood, but shut down when it comes to women's issues.  There is a minority of men who actually commit acts of violence towards women, but a majority of men will be quiet about it or choose to remain ignorant of it.  The life expectancy of a black transgendered woman is about 33 years old. People in the LGBTQ communities are seeking acceptance. They’re trying to remove the stigmas and labels that are placed on them.   We are so much more alike than we are different.  All black Americans are grieving right now due to the tragedies that have happened in the U.S. they are connected even if they don’t personally know one another. As people march the streets in protest, we are experiencing a historical moment.  How do you inspire young black men and women to keep going forward? How do you inspire allies to keep fighting?  Change is coming! People are fighting for change!  Tony lives in North Carolina and was traumatized by seeing how many confederate flags were flying around during the NASCAR races. However, now NASCAR doesn’t support this and they are standing up against this.  If women could end domestic violence on their own, they would have already. They need male allies speaking up for change. It’s important to meet people where they’re at. You can’t expect them to be at a certain level without helping them through the basics first.  It comes down to breaking unhealthy cycles, cycles you might not even be conscious of. Tony offers some words of wisdom for those that are struggling, angry and afraid for their black sons and daughters.    Continue On Your Journey Acalltomen.org Breaking Out of The Man Box by Tony Porter A Call to Men - TED Talk Tony on Twitter   JRmartinez.com J.R. on Instagram J.R. on Facebook J.R. on Twitter J.R. Youtube Channel   Did you enjoy today’s episode? If so, please head over to iTunes and leave a review. Help others discover the REBIRTH podcast so they, too, can be inspired and motivated by the stories shared in these episodes.

This is part 2 of a 2 part series I would recommend you listen to episode 29 first. Now, this is a new concept for me and it was introduced to me from a friend of mine. She is a counselor who works with sex offenders. She was talking about how they use the information about The Man Box to help them. Now This episode is more than likely going to drift on the political a bit. This isn't a political site. This website is men focused and meant to help men raise strong confident boys to they can be leaders in society. To do that we sadly have to get our political feet wet today. Again I apologize there are way too much politics and tribalism going on in the world today. When there is a line crossed I will take a stand. As a Man Should. So I got to looking at what in the world the man box was. I came across the ted talk by Tony Porter which is the very first video that pops up on youtube. Now Tony started out as a child in the inner city. He talks about how growing up in New York he was taught that Men had to be tough, strong, courageous, dominating, no pain, emotionless except anger and no fear, men are in change which means women are not, That men lead and you just fall in line, Men are superior and women are inferior, Men strong women weak, that women are less valuable. They are the property of men. Now he goes on and talks about his dad atone of his brother's funeral, and how he held his tears in till the women left. He then progresses to a story about a girl name Shiela and his interactions with her.  From here he digresses into the problem with the man box and the problem I have with the man box. Where he says that all men function in the deepest foundations or the man Box we inherently undervalue women which makes us see them as objects. This Man box is the topic of today's discussion. The biggest problem with all the studies I am about to talk about and it will be beaten in your head throughout this episode is that for people who hate stereotypes they love to stereotype when it fits their needs. Now again I do realize that that view is also a stereotype so this just proves my point even more. What is the Man Box? It is a perceived list of values all men are supposed to hold to. Now the “supposed to” is used on purpose because in this argument one side thinks that is how we act and the other side thinks how we don't act. There are academic papers that are pushing this Man Box listed all over the place. There are studies about how The role of masculine norms and gender role conflict. There are studies about Toxic Masculinity The Man Box is also called Toxic Masculinity. This is where so many people get the idea of Masculinity as being bad, and we need to break the Gender norms and such instances as this. They are fundamentally wrong and we will get into these instances later. Now according to Richmond College, The Man Box is described as, A term that researchers use to describe the dominant form of masculinity in the United States at this time is known as Hegemonic Masculinity, which Mark Greene (2013) and others have described as the “Man Box.” Now that Hegemonic Masculinity is a $10 word and I had a 50¢ vocabulary so I did look up and see what Hegemonic masculinity means and it is according to Wikipedia Hegemonic masculinity is defined as a practice that legitimizes men's dominant position in society and justifies the subordination of the common male population and women, and other marginalized ways of being a man From what I see that is the common Alpha Male and Beta Male line of thinking. This is also an incorrect way to look at men.  Now the Term Man Box goes all the way back 40 years ago to an activist named Paul Kivel. His Wikipedia page isn't very filled out so what is listed is. Kivel co-founded the Oakland Men's Project, a community education center focused on preventing male violence, and has been called "an innovative leader in violence prevention. According to one study called, The Man Box: A Study on Being a Young Man in the US, UK, and Mexico a rigid construct of cultural ideas about male identity. This includes being self-sufficient, acting tough, looking physically attractive, sticking to rigid gender roles, being heterosexual, having sexual prowess, and using aggression to resolve conflicts. This is the primary study that I read through and this took a while because of the double standard and I could only handle it at short chunks because of the double standard.  The 7 Pillars of the Man Box In the study the divided the man box up into 7 different categories and they are. Self Sufficiency A man never talks about his feeling if he wants to get respect. Men should figure out their problems on their own. Acting Tough If a man doesn't fight back, he is weak. Men should act strong even if they are nervose or scared. Physical Attractiveness A man has to look good if he wants to be successful. Yet women don't like men who fuss too much with their hair clothes and skin. And if men spend too much time on their looks they aren't manly. Rigid Gender Roles Men should earn the money and women should stay home and take care of the kids. Boys should have to learn how to cook clean or take care of kids. Husbands don't have to do chores Homophobia Gay men are not real men but it is OK to be friends with a gay man. (Yeah figure that one out) Hypersexuality Real Men should have as many sexual partners as they can and never say no to sex. Aggression and Control Real men use violence to get respect. A man should always have the final say in a family, and they should know where their girlfriend or woman is at all times. Already you are seeing the flaws in the man box theory. First, they destroy their argument in the Homophobia category.  Yet let's look at some other problems men are in other studies. Boys are more likely to take risks and partake in risky behaviors. Yes, boys take more risks and the competition of being the best is in all of us. They are more fearless Boys like to show off yet women too like to show off in their own natural way. You have to be successful We all want to be successful. Men are more likely to take the risks needed to have their own business. Engage in watching pornography more Now, this is a problem. I agree. I am starting to look at what porn does to a man's way of thinking. And I am starting to see what Pornography does to a man's thought process. But it isn't an objectification of women like many people want to think. Yet it does take away the connection to your wife if you are married. Yet I would say we need to look at why men turn to porn in the first place. Emotionless This is the natural inclination to stoicism men develop. This is a skill that men require not to turn their emotions off like a switch but to set their emotions off to the side until there is a proper time to process them.  There is a problem with both sexes in that they will run from uncomfortable emotions. They will bury then so that they don't have to experience them. This does cause problems and this problem is again in both sexes. This is where much of the problem of overeating comes in to play, along with alcoholism and drug addiction. Have higher mental health problems This is going to have some finger-pointing. I believe this is from many of the outside influences on the boys as they are growing up. The schools treat boys as if they are broken girls. Boys are not allowed to be boys. There is a fundamental difference between the two sexes and all of the postmodern deconstructionism that is going on in colleges these days adds only more mental health problems and confusion. Attacks on masculinity as being bad adds even more fuel wind to the tempest. There are no healthy debates going on. There is way too much tribalism. All of this has stifled real men and boys from being able to have healthy talks. Trying to fix something that isn't broke only breaks more stuff. More prone to bullying This is an increase across both sexes. This has gone on for centuries. Is bullying a problem? It can be but if you can teach a boy to be stoic and let him understand that each man has the ability to disarm the bully by using confidence. Any time you stand out from the crowd people is going to try to pull you down. This is called The Tall poppy syndrome. I talked about this in episode 23. I also see bullying as a normal rite of passage. It does strengthen you for life. You will face assholes all along your journey you have how do you deal with them? You have teachers who will not like you you will have upper-level managers who see you as a threat. You will have people who will delight in making your life hell. How do you deal with this normal everyday occurrence? You learn from them. One of the best ways to teach confidence for kids in school is to help them learn that they have power. That can mean that they have to bloody a bully's nose at some time. That is actually a good thing it teaches the bully that their actions are not accepted and that you never know who you‘re messing with. So get your kid into some type of martial arts. They learn to fight when it is needed. Lack of friends to talk to Look at young boys they make friends at the drop of a hat. This skill is lost as we get older. Look at 45-year-old men they may only have 1 or 2 close friends. This on their head it isn't because men can't have friends it is because we get caught up in the grind of life. Helping our families. This is a problem but it isn't strictly associated with men I know many women who have only 1 or 2 close friends. Will stand by and watch This is a societal problem. Not only do men stand by and let injustice happen but I see just as many women standing to the side with their phone's camera out and recording. What are men in reality Men actually do the following We protect those close to us We do stand up for those who are our family. If the need arises we will fight. We will resort to violent actions. We may not want to but we will. This is why men go to war. They believe in a cause and are willing to put their lives on the line. This is where many of the Man Box categories are actually put to good use. War is risky so when being raised up this is why boys take more risk. We naturally train ourselves to do fearless activities. It shows us that 90% of the time we won't actually die from being uncomfortable.  We have the needed aggression to do the hard work. That aggression is also used so that we go after what we want. We don't give up just because something is in our way. The lack of emotions that these studies find also helps in protecting our families. WE do have to act in moments of fear and high stress. When loud explosions are going on around us we have to know there is a time and a place for everything and paying attention to the amygdala on a battlefield will often get you shot. This is called Stoicism and it is a good thing for men to have. So we aren't just standing in the middle of a crowd boohooing.  Men serve their community WE have friends and working or running a business is serving the community. We have to take risks to run a business. We can't succumb to fear when making a business decision because it will most likely be the wrong choice. Men provide for their family This is us reaping the rewards of serving the community. Life is a set of transactions and that sounds cold to many who think capitalism is wrong but it is a fact. You cant receive unless you give. This goes with respect, Having a wife, having friends, and having a business. Without many aspects of the Man Box, you cant have a stable society. These social constructs have been with us for many millennia. They serve us well and they are there for a damn good reason. Now I will say I agree with Tony at the end of his talk. Because in all reality I am doing a lot on this site to do what he thinks needs to be done to fix the Man Box. He stats that is it ok to not be dominating. It is OK to have feelings and emotions. It is OK to promote equality, it is OK to have women who are just friends, That it is ok to be whole. That is what I do on this site and this podcast. If you go through and look we talk a hell of a lot about emotions and what they are and why they are good to have. Equality is always something we all strive for real equality not to sacrifice one person's rights gifts and give them to a different person who someone arbitrarily feels needs more rights and special help. We all have the ability to be successful. And there would be more successful with less victim mindset. When we have the stoicism and integrity in your life you can have women as friends.  Other Relaxed Male posts about Toxic Masculinity There is No Toxic Masculinity Because Our Boys Aren't Broken Let Boys be Boys

Now, this is a new concept for me and it was introduced to me from a friend of mine. She is a counselor who works with sex offenders. She was talking about how they use the information about The Man Box to help them. Now This episode is more than likely going to drift on the political a bit. This isn't a political site. This website is men focused and meant to help men raise strong confident boys to they can be leaders in society. To do that we sadly have to get our political feet wet today. Again I apologize there are way too much politics and tribalism going on in the world today. When there is a line crossed I will take a stand. As a Man Should. So I got to looking at what in the world the man box was. I came across the ted talk by Tony Porter which is the very first video that pops up on youtube. Now Tony started out as a child in the inner city. He talks about how growing up in New York he was taught that Men had to be tough, strong, courageous, dominating, no pain, emotionless except anger and no fear, men are in change which means women are not, That men lead and you just fall in line, Men are superior and women are inferior, Men strong women weak, that women are less valuable. They are the property of men. Now he goes on and talks about his dad atone of his brother's funeral, and how he held his tears in till the women left. He then progresses to a story about a girl name Shiela and his interactions with her.  From here he digresses into the problem with the man box and the problem I have with the man box. Where he says that all men function in the deepest foundations or the man Box we inherently undervalue women which makes us see them as objects. This Man box is the topic of today's discussion. The biggest problem with all the studies I am about to talk about and it will be beaten in your head throughout this episode is that for people who hate stereotypes they love to stereotype when it fits their needs. Now again I do realize that that view is also a stereotype so this just proves my point even more. What is the Man Box? It is a perceived list of values all men are supposed to hold to. Now the “supposed to” is used on purpose because in this argument one side thinks that is how we act and the other side thinks how we don't act. There are academic papers that are pushing this Man Box listed all over the place. There are studies about how The role of masculine norms and gender role conflict. There are studies about Toxic Masculinity The Man Box is also called Toxic Masculinity. This is where so many people get the idea of Masculinity as being bad, and we need to break the Gender norms and such instances as this. They are fundamentally wrong and we will get into these instances later. Now according to Richmond College, The Man Box is described as, A term that researchers use to describe the dominant form of masculinity in the United States at this time is known as Hegemonic Masculinity, which Mark Greene (2013) and others have described as the “Man Box.” Now that Hegemonic Masculinity is a $10 word and I had a 50¢ vocabulary so I did look up and see what Hegemonic masculinity means and it is according to Wikipedia Hegemonic masculinity is defined as a practice that legitimizes men's dominant position in society and justifies the subordination of the common male population and women, and other marginalized ways of being a man From what I see that is the common Alpha Male and Beta Male line of thinking. This is also an incorrect way to look at men.  Now the Term Man Box goes all the way back 40 years ago to an activist named Paul Kivel. His Wikipedia page isn't very filled out so what is listed is. Kivel co-founded the Oakland Men's Project, a community education center focused on preventing male violence, and has been called "an innovative leader in violence prevention. According to one study called, The Man Box: A Study on Being a Young Man in the US, UK, and Mexico a rigid construct of cultural ideas about male identity. This includes being self-sufficient, acting tough, looking physically attractive, sticking to rigid gender roles, being heterosexual, having sexual prowess, and using aggression to resolve conflicts. This is the primary study that I read through and this took a while because of the double standard and I could only handle it at short chunks because of the double standard.  The 7 Pillars of the Man Box In the study the divided the man box up into 7 different categories and they are. Self Sufficiency A man never talks about his feeling if he wants to get respect. Men should figure out their problems on their own. Acting Tough If a man doesn't fight back, he is weak. Men should act strong even if they are nervose or scared. Physical Attractiveness A man has to look good if he wants to be successful. Yet women don't like men who fuss too much with their hair clothes and skin. And if men spend too much time on their looks they aren't manly. Rigid Gender Roles Men should earn the money and women should stay home and take care of the kids. Boys should have to learn how to cook clean or take care of kids. Husbands don't have to do chores Homophobia Gay men are not real men but it is OK to be friends with a gay man. (Yeah figure that one out) Hypersexuality Real Men should have as many sexual partners as they can and never say no to sex. Aggression and Control Real men use violence to get respect. A man should always have the final say in a family, and they should know where their girlfriend or woman is at all times. Already you are seeing the flaws in the man box theory. First, they destroy their argument in the Homophobia category.  Yet let's look at some other problems men are in other studies. Boys are more likely to take risks and partake in risky behaviors. Yes, boys take more risks and the competition of being the best is in all of us. They are more fearless Boys like to show off yet women too like to show off in their own natural way. You have to be successful We all want to be successful. Men are more likely to take the risks needed to have their own business. Engage in watching pornography more Now, this is a problem. I agree. I am starting to look at what porn does to a man's way of thinking. And I am starting to see what Pornography does to a man's thought process. But it isn't an objectification of women like many people want to think. Yet it does take away the connection to your wife if you are married. Yet I would say we need to look at why men turn to porn in the first place. Emotionless This is the natural inclination to stoicism men develop. This is a skill that men require not to turn their emotions off like a switch but to set their emotions off to the side until there is a proper time to process them.  There is a problem with both sexes in that they will run from uncomfortable emotions. They will bury then so that they don't have to experience them. This does cause problems and this problem is again in both sexes. This is where much of the problem of overeating comes in to play, along with alcoholism and drug addiction. Have higher mental health problems This is going to have some finger-pointing. I believe this is from many of the outside influences on the boys as they are growing up. The schools treat boys as if they are broken girls. Boys are not allowed to be boys. There is a fundamental difference between the two sexes and all of the postmodern deconstructionism that is going on in colleges these days adds only more mental health problems and confusion. Attacks on masculinity as being bad adds even more fuel wind to the tempest. There are no healthy debates going on. There is way too much tribalism. All of this has stifled real men and boys from being able to have healthy talks. Trying to fix something that isn't broke only breaks more stuff. More prone to bullying This is an increase across both sexes. This has gone on for centuries. Is bullying a problem? It can be but if you can teach a boy to be stoic and let him understand that each man has the ability to disarm the bully by using confidence. Any time you stand out from the crowd people is going to try to pull you down. This is called The Tall poppy syndrome. I talked about this in episode 23. I also see bullying as a normal rite of passage. It does strengthen you for life. You will face assholes all along your journey you have how do you deal with them? You have teachers who will not like you you will have upper-level managers who see you as a threat. You will have people who will delight in making your life hell. How do you deal with this normal everyday occurrence? You learn from them. One of the best ways to teach confidence for kids in school is to help them learn that they have power. That can mean that they have to bloody a bully's nose at some time. That is actually a good thing it teaches the bully that their actions are not accepted and that you never know who you‘re messing with. So get your kid into some type of martial arts. They learn to fight when it is needed. Lack of friends to talk to Look at young boys they make friends at the drop of a hat. This skill is lost as we get older. Look at 45-year-old men they may only have 1 or 2 close friends. This on their head it isn't because men can't have friends it is because we get caught up in the grind of life. Helping our families. This is a problem but it isn't strictly associated with men I know many women who have only 1 or 2 close friends. Will stand by and watch This is a societal problem. Not only do men stand by and let injustice happen but I see just as many women standing to the side with their phone's camera out and recording. What are men in reality Men actually do the following We protect those close to us We do stand up for those who are our family. If the need arises we will fight. We will resort to violent actions. We may not want to but we will. This is why men go to war. They believe in a cause and are willing to put their lives on the line. This is where many of the Man Box categories are actually put to good use. War is risky so when being raised up this is why boys take more risk. We naturally train ourselves to do fearless activities. It shows us that 90% of the time we won't actually die from being uncomfortable.  We have the needed aggression to do the hard work. That aggression is also used so that we go after what we want. We don't give up just because something is in our way. The lack of emotions that these studies find also helps in protecting our families. WE do have to act in moments of fear and high stress. When loud explosions are going on around us we have to know there is a time and a place for everything and paying attention to the amygdala on a battlefield will often get you shot. This is called Stoicism and it is a good thing for men to have. So we aren't just standing in the middle of a crowd boohooing.  Men serve their community WE have friends and working or running a business is serving the community. We have to take risks to run a business. We can't succumb to fear when making a business decision because it will most likely be the wrong choice. Men provide for their family This is us reaping the rewards of serving the community. Life is a set of transactions and that sounds cold to many who think capitalism is wrong but it is a fact. You cant receive unless you give. This goes with respect, Having a wife, having friends, and having a business. Without many aspects of the Man Box, you cant have a stable society. These social constructs have been with us for many millennia. They serve us well and they are there for a damn good reason. Now I will say I agree with Tony at the end of his talk. Because in all reality I am doing a lot on this site to do what he thinks needs to be done to fix the Man Box. He stats that is it ok to not be dominating. It is OK to have feelings and emotions. It is OK to promote equality, it is OK to have women who are just friends, That it is ok to be whole. That is what I do on this site and this podcast. If you go through and look we talk a hell of a lot about emotions and what they are and why they are good to have. Equality is always something we all strive for real equality not to sacrifice one person's rights gifts and give them to a different person who someone arbitrarily feels needs more rights and special help. We all have the ability to be successful. And there would be more successful with less victim mindset. When we have the stoicism and integrity in your life you can have women as friends.  Other Relaxed Male posts about Toxic Masculinity There is No Toxic Masculinity Because Our Boys Aren't Broken Let Boys be Boys  

Gender inequality. Vulnerability. Consent. No doubt, these can be tough subjects to broach with our sons. But if we hope to raise our boys to be respectful, emotionally healthy men, then these are conversations which must be had. Adam explores these themes and more with father of six and Chief Development Officer of A CALL TO MEN, Ted Bunch. Plus, Marc has yet another awkward, dairy-themed encounter with his kids.  As life in quarantine continues, Adam and Marc dig in on the topic of talking to boys about valuing women as equals. This sparks a deeper exploration of how, among themselves, men talk about and ally with women—and how these things have evolved over time. Adam introduces guest Ted Bunch, father of six and chief development officer of A CALL TO MEN, an organization devoted to promoting healthy and respectful manhood and shifting attitudes and behaviors toward women. Adam and Ted cover many topics, including:•  Defining the “Man Box”•  The “collective socialization” of men•  Calling men out using affirmation instead of accusation•  Encouraging young men to be vulnerable•  What “consent” really means•  Techniques for having the “birds and the bees” talk with your son•  Modeling gender equality, and respectful and loving behavior with your spouse•  Raising your son to be his authentic self Also, Marc asks himself (twice), “Did I Just Say That Out Loud?" The guys promote an upcoming episode on the topic of “dad jokes” and invite listeners to leave their best dad joke in the Modern Dadhood voicemail box at 603-431-5465 for a chance to win a prize from Brümate!Happy Mother’s Day, Moms! Links:A CALL TO MENACTM Virtual TrainingsTed Bunch on InstagramA Mighty GirlCaspar BabypantsRed Vault AudioSpencer AlbeeBubby Lewis 

Dale Thomas Vaughn, founder of the Better Man Conference, and my former Sig Ep fraternity brother, is in the house!! He and I had the opportunity to discuss the "7 Pillars of Masculinity" during the COVID-19 pandemic via Facetime. He's an incredibly insightful and intutive dude and I feel lukcy to know him! Dale Thomas Vaughn is a Certified Specialist of Wine, an ASA certified sailor, he's written 9 books (6 of which are published on Amazon), has traveled around the world, run with the bulls, completed the Dual Pilgrim certification from UNESCO by trekking hundreds of miles, lived in Paris, London, and Los Angeles, has built a loving long term relationship, played competitive sports at the highest level, spoken on stages with legends like Gloria Steinem and Tony Porter, earned a master's degree in sociology, co-founded the Better Man conference, the first and largest conference dedicated to engaging men as allies in the equality movements, all while advancing a marketing and business development career with companies like Southwest Airlines, Ticketmaster, and AirTreks. Dale was even in Cirque du Soleil for a day! He believes that there's nothing in the world that can't be learned or achieved if you are interested and can dream it.

DJ NRG - Facebook Colosseum Set 19-04-20 Part 1 of 2 Recording Live on Facebook in loving memory of Alan Leck To see the video, go to https://www.facebook.com/steven.leck/videos/vb.1421511650/10222651622585517/?type=2&video_source=user_video_tab **TRACK LIST.** (With a LOT of Help of Tony Porter ;-) 1. DJ (Ravers Choice) Vibes & Wishdokta - Rave Is A Mystery 2. Ultimate Buzz - Check Da Bass (Scott Brown Mix) 3. Sub Source - Hardcore Euphoria (Bacardi & Coke Mix) 4. Q-Tex - E-Creation ('94 Mix) 5. DJ Maxx Featuring DJ Giangy Featuring DJ Buby – Musica Nevrotica 6. DJ Trix - Move your body 7. Chil FM - Shocker 8. Ramirez – Baraonda 9. Happy Tunes – Vol 1 - The Stomper 10. Ultimate Buzz - Check Da Bass (Bee Happy Mix) 11. Ultimate S.T. – Techno 'Round The World 12. DJ Dell V's Scott Brown - Inferno (Original Mix) 13. Kinetic Pleasure - Get The Feeling (DJ Pleasure Mix) 14. Prezioso Feat. Daphnes – Anybody, Anyway 15. Spy vs. Spy – Dance With Me 16. Sub Source – The Hardcore Anthem 17. Bass Reaction Technophobia (G.Y.T.O.F.T.B. Remix) 18. The Time Frequency - The Bounce 19. De-Viation Crew - De-State Project (Equazion mix) 20. Brothers In Crime – Forever 21. Force & Styles – Frankies Lead 22. Euphony - feelings (Mark Smith remix) 23. Ultimate Buzz - Bounce Master 24. The Mix - Rock The Spot 25. QFX - Whiplash 26. Maui - Feel me tonight 27. Maurizio Braccagni - Bass Solution 28. Charly Lownoise & Mental Theo – Wonderfull Days 29. Speedloader - Suck my Dick 30. Sonar Zone - Opus 5 31. Silk Cuts – 4 32. Mixmatt - Hold On To Your Heart 33. Dr. Who – Love Of My Life 34. Uranus – Flowed On A Vibe 35. Scooter – Friends 36. EKO – Renegade Rewind 37. Bass X - Bass Nation 38. Dymension - move into the rhythm 39. ?? 1.49 40. Highlander - everytime 41. Paul elstak - don't leave me alone 42. Scott brown - now is the time 43. QFX - sianora baby 44. Dyewitness - battle for your mind 45. Sonar Zone - Adrenalin (Scott Brown Remix) 46. DJ NRG - Fanfare 47. Peter piper - Can you feel it 48. Marusha - Raveland 49. Moby - Feeling so real 50. Paul elstak - promised land 51. Happymen - love is you 52. Q-tex - Power of love (Digital Boy Remix) 53. Moratto - radar system 54. Prince ital Joe - United 55. Bass x - hardcore disco 56. Baba yaga - rave planet 57. Digital boy - Mountain of King 58. Kim ono - big in Japan 59. Headcase - critical rhythm 60. Wasteland - live 61. Thunderball - its your dj 62. 2001 - Space Odyssey (vinylgroover) 63. Bass x - hardcore creators 64. Dj Magical - rush hour 65. Trancehistory - doo dey 66. The scotchman - happy vibes 67. El bruto - hypnotizing 68. ?? 3.02 69. Q-tex - equazion pt7 70. Kinetic pleasure - higher 71. Dj issac - bad dreams 72. Water pistol - squirt 73. Q-tex - equazion pt4 74. Scott brown - all I want 75. Scott brown - detonated

The V-Day (Vagina) Episode: Find out why God gave humans tongues and who opposes oral sex as an opening statement during a date. Our guest Tony Porter “explains” what happened when he sent his grandmother an inappropriate pic! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/naturally-unbothered/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/naturally-unbothered/support

Sexual harassment is real and it’s happening earlier in life than you think.  (https://barbaradeebooks.com/books/maybe-he-just-likes-you/) . She takes a look at harassment and #metoo through the eyes of a seventh grader. We're releasing this encore episode as a follow-up to last week's conversation with Tony Porter from A Call To Men. (https://positivelydad.com/podcast/a-call-to-dads/) While men are making progress in supporting women, there is still work to do. It’s an important conversation for all parents and one Barbara says we must have and an issue we must address.

On the last episode of Modern Manhood, we surveyed the landscape of masculinity in the last ten years starting from Tony Porter’s Man Box and the election of Rob For all the way to end of 2017 In this episode, the first of 2020, we continue the conversation with Jake Stika, Executive Director at Next Gen Men, highlighting what caused ripples in the world of gender and masculinity.  Starting from Van Attack in Toronto all the way to the Don Cherry firing, finishing off with what we think the next ten years will look like for us and this world

It’s been ten years since Tony Porter introduced The Man Box to us. A tool and a theory that has shaped the way we see gender with men, and the system that hurts us and hurts others.  But a theory is only as good as it’s proof of concept. And you can say that in the last ten years The Man Box theory has been proven over and over again. On this episode and the one after this of Modern Manhood, we’ll look back at the 2010’s with my friend and the Executive Director of Next Gen Men, Jake Stika. 

It's a double feature as Cathy and Todd interview the CEO of A Call To Men Tony Porter & Author of Raising Good Humans Hunter Clarke-Fields.  

It's a double feature as Cathy and Todd interview the CEO of A Call To Men Tony Porter & Author of Raising Good Humans Hunter Clarke-Fields.  

How can we reduce violence against women, the LGBTQ+ community, and other marginalized communities? It starts with what Ted Bunch calls, the “Man Box.” In this episode, Ted teaches how we can reject the dangerous ideals that keep the Man Box in place, and talks about how his son coming out as gay forced him to confront his own biases. Now, with new motivation to inspire others by sharing their story, Ted and Jalen are a living example of true, unconditional love. Hear from them both in this powerful episode.Find out more about Ted’s organization at: www.acalltomen.comListen to the CEO of A Call to Men, Tony Porter’s TedWomen Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/tony_porter_a_call_to_menGet our weekly audio guides that will help you live your dreams, on your terms: http://www.motivationforblackpeople.com

Air Date: 11/16/2018 Today we take a look at the system of patriarchy from the perspective of how it negatively impacts men in our culture, thereby demonstrating the need for feminism to advocate for all those negatively impacted by patriarchy, regardless of gender Be part of the show! Leave a message at 202-999-3991   SHOW NOTES Ch. 1: What Is the Patriarchy? | Feminist Fridays - @marinashutup - Air Date 11-02-14 An overview of patriarchy with a focus on how it hurts everyone, not just women. Ch. 2: Fight Club and Toxic Masculinity - Folding Ideas - Air Date 8-22-15 Justin Baldoni wants to start a dialogue with men about redefining masculinity - to figure out ways to be not just good men but good humans. In a warm, personal talk, he shares his effort to reconcile who he is with who the world tells him a man should be. Ch. 3: Justin Baldoni: Why I'm done trying to be "man enough" - @TEDTalks - Air Date 12-4-17 Justin Baldoni wants to start a dialogue with men about redefining masculinity - to figure out ways to be not just good men but good humans. In a warm, personal talk, he shares his effort to reconcile who he is with who the world tells him a man should be. Ch. 4: Do Videogame Stereotypes Hurt Men? - PBS Game:Show - Air Date 08-2-13 Games continue the cultural narrative of big and strong men, "manning up" and being the hero. As you play, you kill hundreds or thousands of other men, without regard for the emotional toll on one's psyche. Ch. 5: What Men Do With Their Pain - On The Media - Air Date 5-4-18 Michael Kimmel, a scholar of masculinities studies at Stony Brook University, on the source of this shared frustration — which he calls "aggrieved entitlement" — and about the steps forward for a society that still misunderstands so much about gender. Ch. 6: Tony Porter: A call to men - @TEDTalks - Air Date 12-10-10 Tony Porter makes a call to men everywhere: Don't "act like a man." Telling powerful stories from his own life, he shows how this mentality, drummed into so many men and boys, can lead men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other.   VOICEMAILS Ch. 7: Thoughts on privacy and violence - Erica from Illinois   Ch. 8: Final comments om where feminism went wrong and why we need to fight for everyone hurt by the patriarchy, regardless of gender   THE POST-MIDTERMS MINUTE ('cause they aren't over...) Help Stacy Abrams in Georgia Gov Recount Help Bill Nelson in Florida Sen Recount Help Andrew Gillum in Florida Gov Recount Mississippi Sen. Run Off Nov. 27th: Help Mike Espy Win!  Written by BOTL Communications Director Amanda Hoffman    MUSIC: Opening Theme: Loving Acoustic Instrumental by John Douglas Orr  Great Great Lengths - The Balloonist (Blue Dot Sessions) That Horse Ithica - Sketchbook (Blue Dot Sessions) Homegrown - The Pine Barrens (Blue Dot Sessions) When We Set Out - Arc and Crecent (Blue Dot Sessions) Cicle Veroni - Cicle Kadde (Blue Dot Sessions) Voicemail Music: Low Key Lost Feeling Electro by Alex Stinnent Closing Music: Upbeat Laid Back Indie Rock by Alex Stinnent   Produced by Jay! Tomlinson Thanks for listening! Visit us at BestOfTheLeft.com Support the show via Patreon Listen on iTunes | Stitcher | Spotify | Alexa Devices | +more Check out the BotL iOS/Android App in the App Stores! Follow at Twitter.com/BestOfTheLeft Like at Facebook.com/BestOfTheLeft Contact me directly at Jay@BestOfTheLeft.com Review the show on iTunes and Stitcher!

Tony Porter is what we call an OG when it comes to the work of healthy manhood.  He's been doing #thework of breaking out of the "The Man Box" with A Call to Men for decades.   Tony also speaks about his personal journey of being called out for his sexism while in his career of anti-racism work and how those moments propelled him to become passionate about the work of healthy manhood and anti-sexism.   We also talk about our differing perspectives about toxic masculinity and have a great conversation on accountability.  It's rare to see public conversations of accountability and in March Tony spoke with Ray Rice in a conversation about accountability, what it looks like for Ray and what it looks like going forward for all of us.  A few resources mentioned in this week's episode A Call to Men | Tony Porter's Ted Talk Yesterday, I joined the California Partnership to End Domestic Violence for what was truly a courageous conversation. Beverly Gooden, #WhyIStayed Creator, on Tony Porter’s upcoming discussion with Ray Rice at the Partnership’s Shifting the Lens Conference Follow Let's Talk Bruh on Twitter & Instagram Join our Men's Facebook Group here: Let's Talk Bruh Facebook Group Email us your questions/comments/feedback at letstalkbruh@gmail.com and we'll read and respond to your email on an upcoming episode.

To transform our culture from its focus on dominance and hierarchy to one of connection, empathy and collaboration, it’s vital that we re-envision the essential (or archetypal) masculine, which changes everything. This rarely tackled topic is the subject of a deeply authentic dialogue among Playwright and activist Eve Ensler and three men working to change men and change the story: Tony Porter, co-founder, A Call To Men; Dallas Goldtooth, Indigenous activist, member of the 1491’s Native American comedy troupe; George Lipsitz, board president, African American Policy Forum.

Original broadcast date: June 10, 2016. We usually get wiser with age, but that doesn't mean we have to grow up to wise up. This hour, TED speakers explore what it means to find wisdom at every stage of life. Guests include journalist Joshua Prager, writer Adora Svitak, conservationist Boyd Varty, advocate Tony Porter, and psychiatrist Robert Waldinger.

Design and Video Production by creative agency extraordinaire: Thrillhouse Studios https://thrillhousestudios.com Dr. Tony Porter’s research explores how numbers increasingly are displacing or complementing words, as with numerical rankings and indices, risk models, algorithms associated with Big Data, numerical tracking technologies such as bar codes or Radio Frequency ID tags (RFID), and digitization more generally. Contact Us: Instagram: https://instagram.com/vladmotorykin Facebook: https://facebook.com/likbezshow

This is a conversation with natural life coach Allison Torres. We discuss how consumption (diet) in all its forms shapes us as human beings, how patriarchy in society creates toxic femininity, the nature of psychedelics and much more. Show Notes New Age movement (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_Age) Order of Bards, Ovates and Druids (https://druidry.org/) The mythologist Joseph Campbell (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joseph_Campbell) The psychologist Carl Jung (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carl_Jung) Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome by Joy DeGruy (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/432113.Post_Traumatic_Slave_Syndrome) The scientist Antonie van Leeuwenhoek (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antonie_van_Leeuwenhoek#Recognition_by_the_Royal_Society) Tim Ferris (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tim_Ferriss) The 4 Hour Body by Tim Ferris (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/030746363X/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i2) Why We Love Dogs, Eat Pigs, and Wear Cows: An Introduction to Carnism by Melanie Joy (https://www.amazon.com/Love-Dogs-Pigs-Wear-Cows/dp/1573245054) Glenn Greenwald pig farming article (https://theintercept.com/2017/10/05/factory-farms-fbi-missing-piglets-animal-rights-glenn-greenwald/) Current Affairs Glenn Greenwald interview (https://simplecast.com/s/731e1b1f) Tony Porter (https://www.acalltomen.org/about-us-bios/2016/3/8/tonyporter) Breaking Out of the "Man Box" by Tony Porter (https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Out-Man-Box-Generation/dp/1634506464?SubscriptionId=AKIAILSHYYTFIVPWUY6Q&tag=duckduckgo-d-20&linkCode=xm2&camp=2025&creative=165953&creativeASIN=1634506464) The Mask of Masculinity by Lewis Howes (https://www.amazon.com/Mask-Masculinity-Embrace-Vulnerability-Relationships/dp/1623368626/ref=pd_sim_14_3/132-9753652-0925259?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1623368626&pd_rd_r=5b1f6c5b-3e12-11e9-b080-effca2c605a4&pd_rd_w=95ByK&pd_rd_wg=AMG7L&pf_rd_p=90485860-83e9-4fd9-b838-b28a9b7fda30&pf_rd_r=247DBCBFMDM0KF83HZSF&psc=1&refRID=247DBCBFMDM0KF83HZSF) Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers%E2%80%93Briggs_Type_Indicator) Dan Carlin drug history episode (https://www.dancarlin.com/product/hardcore-history-20-blitz-history-under-the-influence/) Terence McKenna (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Terence_McKenna) Food of the Gods by Terence McKenna (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/51660.Food_of_the_Gods) Enthogens (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Entheogen) Ayahuasca (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ayahuasca) Rhymia Life Advancement Center (https://www.rythmia.com/) The Medical Medium (https://www.medicalmedium.com/) The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey (https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/0743269519) The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319) The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz (https://www.amazon.com/Mastery-Love-Practical-Relationship-Toltec/dp/1878424424/ref=pd_bxgy_14_2/132-9753652-0925259?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1878424424&pd_rd_r=f1022476-3e17-11e9-9741-2bc3fc200bcc&pd_rd_w=GLfKL&pd_rd_wg=wz979&pf_rd_p=6725dbd6-9917-451d-beba-16af7874e407&pf_rd_r=PQBK52R8MWKH65MV5Z8Q&psc=1&refRID=PQBK52R8MWKH65MV5Z8Q) The Anatomy of Peace by The Arbinger Institute (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25480369-the-anatomy-of-peace) Leadership and Self Deception by The Arbinger Institute (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/180463.Leadership_and_Self_Deception) I Hope I Screw This Up by Kyle Cease (https://www.amazon.com/Hope-Screw-This-Up-Falling/dp/1501152092) Wayne Dyer (https://www.amazon.com/Wayne-W.-Dyer/e/B000AQ104Y/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_1) The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/865.The_Alchemist)

The transforming of creative content in Hollywood… In an era where entertainment increasingly mirrors the despair contained within our daily news cycle, one studio in Hollywood is doubling down on creative content that seeks to unite Americans with hope & inclusivity. Co-Founder of Wayfarer entertainment, Farhoud Meybodi, joins the pod to discuss how their brand of TV, Film, and Web-driven content can both speak to the issues of our time, while using art to galvanize change. BIO Co-Owner of Wayfarer Entertainment, Farhoud Meybodi is a Clio Award-winning director, and executive producer focused on premium storytelling content across scripted, unscripted, and branded distribution channels. Unlike many creatives in the entertainment business, Farhoud started his career in law, and spent his mid-twenties climbing up the corporate ladder as a sales and marketing executive for a global luxury brand. This non-traditional background gave Farhoud a marketers mindset – something he draws upon frequently when helping brands, agencies, TV networks, studios and NGOs connect with audiences through the power of human connection and social impact. At his core, Farhoud is passionate about creative storytelling content that entertains, educates and inspires. Mostly recently, Farhoud directed and executive produced Season Four of My Last Days, an award-winning documentary series about life told by courageous people living with a terminal illness, for the CW Network. He received a bronze Clio Award for directing and executive producing “Meet Anthony,” a season three episode of the show profiling renowned street photographer Anthony Carbajal, and his harrowing life experience with ALS. He developed, and executive produced Chefs Without Borders, a documentary series featuring celebrity Chef, Curtis Stone, and Actress/Model, Lindsay Price, as they journey from Los Angeles to Tanzania to live with, and learn from three Indigenous tribes, each representing a unique perspective on food insecurity. Farhoud also developed, executive produced and wrote Man Enough, a dinner conversation series featuring Scooter Braun, Anderson Silva, Justin Baldoni, Matt McGorry, Javier Munoz, Prince EA, Derek Hough, Tony Porter, Aydian Dowling and Jamey Heath that explores the heart of traditional masculinity in America. Farhoud created, developed and executive produced Project Upgrade, an unscripted series for Google featuring YouTube stars, The Merrell Twins, as they set out to design and build a new consumer product with the help of successful, female mentors from Google, Space X, NASA, and Disney. Farhoud has also developed and directed national campaigns for Subaru, Kellogg’s, MetroPCS, and The Ad Council, and sold several scripted pitches to major studios and television networks.

To transform our culture from its focus on dominance and hierarchy to one of connection, empathy and collaboration, it’s vital that we re-envision the essential (or archetypal) masculine, which changes everything. This rarely tackled topic is the subject of a deeply authentic dialogue among Playwright and activist Eve Ensler and three men working to change men and change the story: Tony Porter, co-founder, A Call To Men; Dallas Goldtooth, Indigenous activist, member of the 1491’s Native American comedy troupe; George Lipsitz, board president, African American Policy Forum.

To transform our culture from its focus on dominance and hierarchy to one of connection, empathy and collaboration, it’s vital that we re-envision the essential (or archetypal) masculine, which changes everything. This rarely tackled topic is the subject of a deeply authentic dialogue among Playwright and activist Eve Ensler and three men working to change men and change the story: Tony Porter, co-founder, A Call To Men; Dallas Goldtooth, Indigenous activist, member of the 1491’s Native American comedy troupe; George Lipsitz, board president, African American Policy Forum.

Air Date: 11/16/2018 Today we take a look at the system of patriarchy from the perspective of how it negatively impacts men in our culture, thereby demonstrating the need for feminism to advocate for all those negatively impacted by patriarchy, regardless of gender Be part of the show! Leave a message at 202-999-3991   Episode Sponsors: ActionHeat.com/best or Coupon Code: Best | HRW.org/Best| Madison-Reed.com+ Promo Code: Left Amazon USA| Amazon CA| Amazon UK| Clean Choice Energy Get AD FREE Shows & Bonus Content: Support our show on Patreon!   SHOW NOTES Ch. 1: What Is the Patriarchy? | Feminist Fridays - @marinashutup - Air Date 11-02-14 An overview of patriarchy with a focus on how it hurts everyone, not just women. Ch. 2: Fight Club and Toxic Masculinity - Folding Ideas - Air Date 8-22-15 Justin Baldoni wants to start a dialogue with men about redefining masculinity - to figure out ways to be not just good men but good humans. In a warm, personal talk, he shares his effort to reconcile who he is with who the world tells him a man should be. Ch. 3: Justin Baldoni: Why I'm done trying to be "man enough" - @TEDTalks - Air Date 12-4-17 Justin Baldoni wants to start a dialogue with men about redefining masculinity - to figure out ways to be not just good men but good humans. In a warm, personal talk, he shares his effort to reconcile who he is with who the world tells him a man should be. Ch. 4: Do Videogame Stereotypes Hurt Men? - PBS Game:Show - Air Date 08-2-13 Games continue the cultural narrative of big and strong men, "manning up" and being the hero. As you play, you kill hundreds or thousands of other men, without regard for the emotional toll on one's psyche. Ch. 5: What Men Do With Their Pain - On The Media - Air Date 5-4-18 Michael Kimmel, a scholar of masculinities studies at Stony Brook University, on the source of this shared frustration — which he calls "aggrieved entitlement" — and about the steps forward for a society that still misunderstands so much about gender. Ch. 6: Tony Porter: A call to men - @TEDTalks - Air Date 12-10-10 Tony Porter makes a call to men everywhere: Don't "act like a man." Telling powerful stories from his own life, he shows how this mentality, drummed into so many men and boys, can lead men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other.   VOICEMAILS Ch. 7: Thoughts on privacy and violence - Erica from Illinois   Ch. 8: Final comments om where feminism went wrong and why we need to fight for everyone hurt by the patriarchy, regardless of gender   THE POST-MIDTERMS MINUTE ('cause they aren't over...) Help Stacy Abrams in Georgia Gov Recount Help Bill Nelson in Florida Sen Recount Help Andrew Gillum in Florida Gov Recount Mississippi Sen. Run Off Nov. 27th: Help Mike Espy Win!  Written by BOTL Communications Director Amanda Hoffman    MUSIC: Opening Theme: Loving Acoustic Instrumental by John Douglas Orr  Great Great Lengths - The Balloonist (Blue Dot Sessions) That Horse Ithica - Sketchbook (Blue Dot Sessions) Homegrown - The Pine Barrens (Blue Dot Sessions) When We Set Out - Arc and Crecent (Blue Dot Sessions) Cicle Veroni - Cicle Kadde (Blue Dot Sessions) Voicemail Music: Low Key Lost Feeling Electro by Alex Stinnent Closing Music: Upbeat Laid Back Indie Rock by Alex Stinnent   Produced by Jay! Tomlinson Thanks for listening! Visit us at BestOfTheLeft.com Support the show via Patreon Listen on iTunes | Stitcher| Spotify| Alexa Devices| +more Check out the BotL iOS/AndroidApp in the App Stores! Follow at Twitter.com/BestOfTheLeft Like at Facebook.com/BestOfTheLeft Contact me directly at Jay@BestOfTheLeft.com Review the show on iTunesand Stitcher!

Delve into an insightful and revealing conversation on gender, identity, and false equivalencies in today’s society and political environment with the host of The en(gender)ed podcast, Teri Yuan - as Mike Domitrz asks questions he hears as he travels the world on these topics.   * You are invited to join our community and conversations about each episode on FaceBook at https://www.facebook.com/MutuallyAmazingPodcast and join us on Twitter @CenterRespect or visit our website at http://www.MutuallyAmazingPodcast.com**   OR SCROLL DOWN TO READ THE TRANSCRIPTION   BIO of Teri Yuan: Teri Yuan is the host of the weekly podcast, en(gender)ed, which explores the systems, practices and policies that enable gender-based violence and oppression and the solutions to end it, and uses gender as a lens to better understand power and oppression and its impact in the private realm, so as to better recognize and confront it in the public sphere. Teri's journey as an intersectional feminist began in college, where she studied feminist film criticism, post-colonial pedagogy and cultural criticism. Along the way, she has added to her identity--survivor and advocate. She believes that by developing a cultural literacy around power and abuse of power, we can reclaim how we define liberty in relationships and in civic life and solve many of our most urgent social (justice) challenges.   Links to Teri and Teri’s work: https://engendered.us/ https://twitter.com/engenderedpod https://www.facebook.com/engenderedpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/engenderedpodcast/ https://medium.com/@engendered https://www.linkedin.com/company/engenderedpodcast/ A special link Teri shared discussing “What Do All These Letters Mean” https://www.socialworkhelper.com/2013/07/25/alphabet-soup-the-story-of-lgbtqia/ The article discussing the research Teri referenced is: https://www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/trump-effect-new-study-connects-white-american-intolerance-support-authoritarianism-ncna877886 Book Recommendations: Feminist Theory from Margin to Center by Bell Hooks Love and War by Tom Digby You're More Powerful Thank you Think by Eric Liu  READ THE FULL TRANSCRIPTION of the EPISODE HERE (or download the pdf): **IMPORTANT: This podcast episode was transcribed by a 3rd party service and so errors can occur throughout the following pages: Mike Domitrz: (music) Mike Domitrz: Welcome to the RESPECT Podcast, I'm your host Mike Domitrz from Mikespeaks.com where we help organizations of all sizes, educational institutions and the US military create a culture of respect and respect is exactly what we discuss on this show so let's get started. Mike Domitrz: Welcome to this week's episode of the RESPECT podcast, I want to get right into it so we can meet our guests and get into this conversation. Our guest this weeks is Teri Yuan, Theresa Yuan. Do you prefer Teri or Theresa? Teri Yuan: Teri. Mike Domitrz: Teri, I noticed that when we were communicating back and forth, it was Teri. So but yes, Teri Yuan is the host of the Engendered Podcast, a weekly show that explores the systems, practices, and policies that enable gender based violence and oppression and the solutions to end it. And uses gender as a lens to better understand power and oppression and its impact in the private realm. Mike Domitrz: So as the better recognizing it in the public sphere. So, Teri, thank you so much for joining us. Teri Yuan: Thank you for having me. Mike Domitrz: Oh, our pleasure. What do you think is the place respect has in our current political environment and how does civility play a role in this? Teri Yuan: I think one of the underlying causes of oppression and abusive power is the fact that there is no common definition of what respect and civility and the role of both of those should be in civil society. There's no recognition of the humanity of other people and there's no common definition of what equality and freedom means. Mike Domitrz: So that's a great point. So how do you define equality and freedom? Teri Yuan: Equality is where everybody has access, regardless of your gender, race, class, physical ability, etcetera, to all of the rights and privileges and opportunities that should be afforded to all human beings. And then respect, I think, is recognizing and treating other people with understanding, kindness and compassion. And seeing them as whole human beings. Mike Domitrz: And do you think that part of the conflict that occurs out there is that in your definition of equality, that you said that all people deserve, do you think that's where the conflict occurs? That some people think, "No, not all people, we don't deserve this treatment. Like you earn respect." Now I don't believe that statement, I talk about it a lot on the show. Talk about it when I'm working with corporations and organizations. Mike Domitrz: You don't make somebody earn respect, that is a level of arrogance to think, "You have to earn my ability to treat you with respect." But so how do you explain that to people when they say, "Well nobody deserves anything except the basic right to be alive and breathe?" Teri Yuan: I think that it's innate in us to actually treat each other with respect when we're young, when we're babies. Babies have been known in experiments to really show compassion to other living animals, to living beings, whether it's animals or other people that have been hurt. And so I think what happens is over a time, society sends us messages that create a hierarchy of who deserves more respect or less respect. Or no respect. And those messages then become ingrained in us and reinforced and even if we may not innately believe it, we might not have started out believing it, over time we are rewarded for reinforcing those messages based on who we are. Mike Domitrz: Can you give us an example, Teri, of where that happens in society? Teri Yuan: So I think in my most recent podcast for example, I talk about the construction of gender. I think it's a myth for people to think that feminism is only for women and that it's not for men. And people don't recognize that feminism is about equality of all genders, right? And men think that feminism is something that's a threat to their place in society but the issue is because when we're young we're taught that being a boy means being strong and being powerful and exerting our strength, potentially through violence. Through domination. Those are aspects of our being that may not be natural and yet we are going to be rewarded or punished for not being able to adhere to those norms. Teri Yuan: And so people, boys, young boys who might be not interested in sports or not watch, whatever, the NFL. Might be interested in music, you know, the stereotypes of being interested in drama or creative arts. Those are stigmas that we create for our young boys for not really expressing themselves and exploring their creativity and their passions in a different way than what and how society deems is worthy. Teri Yuan: And so what happens is over time those boys potentially could be targets of bullying. They could not be encouraged by their parents or other members of society to really explore those innate aspects of who they are and what they're interested in. And then as they start repressing those aspects of themselves, it creates an imbalance that may lead to potential health risks, they might seek coping mechanisms that are unhealthy that might lead to addiction. Or maybe exerting their frustration in an unhealthy way in their relationships. Teri Yuan: And so that's an example where equality and feminism actually benefits all of us. Women as well as men. And if we can see that and how the system of male supremacy is actually there to control all of us, then I think that's something that can actually garner more desire and the ability to learn how to communicate with each other respectfully. Mike Domitrz: Yeah there was a video recently of, if I remember it was four or five people, most were actors or performers in Hollywood. One was not, Tony Porter and they're around a dinner table having a conversation, and it was released around the world, and it went viral. People could look it up, I don't remember the exact name of it. But Tony Porter's in it, if they want to look that up. Mike Domitrz: And it's men talking about all the different aspects of sexual violence, society and how we treat respect. But they also talk about the pressures they felt as men growing up. That speak 100 percent to what you're saying right there. That this masculinity that I was supposed to be whether it fit me or not. And how dangerous that can be. And so you do the Engendered Podcast, you're the host of that. You facilitate that conversation. Mike Domitrz: When it comes to gender specifically, what do you think is the biggest misunderstanding that's out there? Teri Yuan: The biggest misunderstanding is that identity in general of all aspects is a binary. That gender is a binary. And that is has to be either or, you're either male or a female. And there are traits that are specific to being, the same trait can exist in both genders, and it could be perceived in different ways. Usually positively, like being assertive can be positive for men. And if you're assertive as a woman, then you could be seen as dominating. You know, as a supervisor, as a manager. Teri Yuan: And so there's a value laid in dichotomy, you know, binary that cuts it in two. And it's really a continuum so I think that's the biggest myth. That gender is a continuum, race is a continuum. Mike Domitrz: So I want to pause there because a lot of people push back on this part of the conversation which is, how is it a continuum if, and I'm not asking as myself, I'm saying this is what we have as the pushback. You know, you hear what I'm about to say all the time. Teri Yuan: Sure. Mike Domitrz: "If somebody is born biologically with a penis and this person over here is born biologically with a vagina, how is there a continuum." "The penis is the male, the vagina's the female" is what we often hear as pushback. Teri Yuan: Well first of all, biology itself or how it's expressed and its possibilities, aren't necessarily binary as well. So for example, the question of just genitalia, you know lots of babies are born without the full expressed genitalia that we attribute to being a boy or a girl. Or the hormonal corresponding, hormones. Teri Yuan: And as you grow older, for example as a woman, if you were to get a hysterectomy, taking away your reproductive organs, does that make you no longer a woman? I mean obvioulsy culturally, society actually deems that's the case. And attaches certain value to women who can no longer bear children. Teri Yuan: But what if you were like, you were born that way? From the beginning. Does that make you less of a woman? Because it's not the vagina or the, that's not the reproductive organ. It's really everything else, the uterus and the fallopian tubes, etcetera. Right? Mike Domitrz: Well let's say somebody makes that argument then. "Okay, if the body has the reproductive possibilities, that's' a female. If the body does not have the reproductive capabilities, that's a male." Let's say somebody makes that argument, now what's the discussion? Teri Yuan: People don't necessarily identify with their reproductive capabilities. You know, there could be women who don't want to have children, does that make them less of a woman? You know because does that make them not a woman because they choose not to express the full potential of their reproductive organs? Teri Yuan: And similarly a man may have the desire to give birth but that doesn't mean that he can and does it make him a woman? And so biology is also different from sexual desire and your identity. So one can identify male or female right? And be born in a different body. Which is what transgender is. Teri Yuan: But then you can also have different sexual desires so regardless of whether you're a male or female embodied, you may have an attraction to male or female traits or people. And so there's so many layers of gender identity that I think the whole thing is a continuum. Even if people who are biologically expressed very much one or the other, it doesn't mean that they have fully those traits that we have identified as belonging to those genders. Mike Domitrz: I think we [inaudible 00:10:53] so brilliant in that. Why do we think that genitalia is the marker? Or why do we think that reproductive parts are the, actual biological body parts are the marker? What if the marker is the brain? And this is where people can get confused, and they go, "Well wait, if you're born with this body, but your brain's saying this, then you need to convert to your body." Mike Domitrz: As if the brain's not as important, like they choose the judgment of which is happening here. The chemical, what they'll say, "imbalance," right. The chemical imbalance versus the just a different chemistry than they have. Mike Domitrz: But so they say the body, the physical being must be what you convert to which is interesting to go, "Well what about the heart, the soul, and the brain. We have to ignore all those and make them something they don't fit in." Is what you're saying, correct? Teri Yuan: Exactly. Yeah and ultimately it does have to do with the brain. And so if our brain is the organ that controls all of these things and the expression of all of them, our brain is not gendered. And so what does it really matter? You know. And I think the main issue is not trying to reinforce these sort of myths of identity in gender but to really go beyond it and to come to a place of acceptance and back to your show, respect. That people can choose to express themselves and define themselves any way they'd like. Teri Yuan: And it's not just gender, it's with race or whatever, you know. National identity, citizenship, you know, etcetera. So that's obvioulsy one of the common challenges that we have in our day politically, right? Mike Domitrz: Right, absolutely. And when it comes to gender, some people who may be listening, going, "Are you implying there's more than two genders?" Is a question and I've had that in audiences when I say, "Hey, inclusive means all genders." And people go, "Whoa, whoa, whoa. All? You mean there's more than two?" Mike Domitrz: So can you explain that? Are there more than two? Are they defined or because there's a spectrum when we say all, we're leaving the possibility open? Teri Yuan: I am not an expert on being able to sort of, I'm not an LGBTQIA expert, so I also want to say that beyond male and female, there's also intersex and obvioulsy asexual. And so how you express your gender, it's the performance of the basically. Teri Yuan: It could be the the physical performance in terms of how you dress, it could be gestures, it could be the things that you like in your sort of day to day activities, that you enjoy doing and how those are associated to particular genders. But ultimately the combination of those three things really determines what your gender identity is. And that's why so many people, even who are heterosexual, they might now consider using the "they/them" pronoun because they're tired of being pushed in this box and trying to fit in. Mike Domitrz: So let's go there because for some people listening, they'll go, "What, did you just say the "they/them" pronoun?" Now for those of us who work in the field, if you work in college campuses, you're aware of what we're discussing right now. Or you may be aware of what we're discussing. Which is when somebody meets someone, they may say, "By what pronoun do you go by?" Or, "I go by this pronoun." And that way people will sit there and go, you know you get the stereotypical, "Is it a "he" or "she?" Mike Domitrz: Which is horrible statement because it's an "it." Right? Versus our "they." Do they identify as a "he" or "she" or "they?" They might identify as they. And people say, "Well why is this?" It allows somebody to be respected in the way they see themselves, it the way that they know themselves to be true of. Mike Domitrz: So this is not uncommon that somebody says, "Well how do you identify?" So for my case, it would be a "he/him" because that's how I identify. But somebody else could be a "her," could be a "they," could be all different possibilities but it's just saying, "How do I see myself." Mike Domitrz: It allows people to be treated right from the start within their identity, is that correct? Teri Yuan: Yes. And I think it's similar to when the Ms. Phrase came out, was it in the 70s? I can't even remember, right, when Ms. Magazine came out, and it was a response to, it was basically Mr. or Mrs. You could only be those two. Or Miss, I guess. So you had Mrs. or Miss. And you were either married or unmarried. And there was nothing in between, and I think- Mike Domitrz: And yet Mr. was always consistent. And that was the argument that, "Hey how come the person that identifies as the male can always be treated the same with Mr. Mike Domitrz: But the woman has to be identified by marriage or not," right. Teri Yuan: Right, right. And then based on whether you're a Miss or a Mrs and it actually helps people calibrate their treatment of you. Right? Which why should that be the case, it should be uniform regardless of your marital status. Teri Yuan: And similarly with they/them, I think what it represents to me is the plurality of identity. You don't want to be boxed into, again, a "she" or "he." And for me especially as someone with, who's Asian American, who's a woman, who has all these other identities that I'm not going to share with you right now. But those other identities aren't necessarily visible and being able to be called they or them, it elevates those other identities in a way that one word and gender would not. Mike Domitrz: Do you think we're moving to the place or do you think it would be more ideal if we move to the place where we're removing gender from the conversation? Teri Yuan: Well I mean I think the goal of equality itself is eventually to make it irrelevant, what you're fighting for, once you get there, right? I definitely don't think we're there at all. We're at the beginning stages of opening up the conversation, and I think we can both recognize from the national climate and how polarized we are that it's going to be a struggle. But I think one of the benefits of having your podcast and this conversation is hopefully to bring other people, regardless of their political affiliations, you know, where they grew up and all the elements that make up their identity that come and see that there are different ideas and opportunities for personal growth. Teri Yuan: And recognizing why people feel certain words are offensive or not, or more offensive or less offensive. And the historical implications of it is something that can really open up dialogue for getting to know each other and hopefully being more compassionate and understanding. Mike Domitrz: Yeah I think it's a really important discussion for people to have. If somebody's listening right now and let's say you're pushing back going, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, you're going against genetics." And actually what we're saying is we're incorporating more genetics. We're taking the genetics of the brain, the chemistry, everything not just the pure physical genetics that people tend to refer to. But if somebody's pushing back right now, I just want to ask you to pause and think, "Why do you need them in the box? Why do you need each of us to fit into a drawer?" Mike Domitrz: Because I know that history will tell you, "Because I can then know where my world is. This is where I learned my world is, and you're saying my world is different. And we don't like change. So let me just put people back in the box." Mike Domitrz: But what value is there in putting people in a box, what value is there in straight categorization of people. It actually places some value higher than others when we do that. It's just a matter of fact. The moment you categorize, that means certain categories are different than others. And therefore we tend to treat differently. Mike Domitrz: So I just throw that out to someone listening right now going, if you're struggling with this, just think why does it matter to you that Jordan identifies this way. Or that Chris identifies this way. And yes, I'm being intentional about the names I chose because then people want to go, "Which are you talking about?" That's the point. Why does that matter if Chris or Jordan are brilliant, if Chris or Jordan bring value to this world, why do you need to know what category they have to fit in in this one area? Mike Domitrz: That's sort of what we're saying here, correct? Teri Yuan: Yeah. I mean I think, you know, it's too long for our discussion, for us to get into now. But I think historically our country was built on basically a colonialist mentality that hasn't really been addressed. And so all of the historical repercussions of white washing and erasing that part of our historical identity has in some ways both rendered it invisible to all of us. Whether it's whatever race or gender we are, we are unaware of our full history. Teri Yuan: And yet at the same time because it's rendered it invisible, we've also had no place to have a discussion for it. And so what it's done is it's created a system where people are trying to connect with one another based on superficial identity constructs, rather than on more deep meaningful values. And the reason people try to put other people in a box is because they crave connection, they crave community. They want to find their tribe. Teri Yuan: And they think that their tribe is based on these things of, "Oh we like to," I'm going to use the sports analogy again, right? "We like to watch the Super Bowl together and have a tailgate," you know, or whatever. But that's just an activity, why do you like that activity? You like it because there's community, there's over time you've built a set of rituals that people engage in, so it's predictive. Teri Yuan: You know that every, I don't know football so well, but every year there's a football season that you can rely on that you could always be able to connect with other people and see. Similarly, people go to church but if we can like look at all of these cultural institutions. And see them as just that, you know, they're just cultural institutions, and peel away the onion to get to who we are as core people, then we don't need to have those sort of artifices to connect with one another. Teri Yuan: We can connect with one another on a deeper level. You know, I care about getting to know you because you and I share the value of treating people with respect and with equality. And that matters to me more than what you do on your weekend or after work, right? And there's a commonality there. Mike Domitrz: Yeah and that's what I always find intriguing. Every now and then I'll meet someone who says, "Mike, hey, one of your best friends is so polar opposite you politically, I don't get that." And I think that's because they're only seeing the political aspect not all the other aspects I see in that person. Mike Domitrz: And that that person brings to this world. And that's true on so many levels. Whether it be gender, sexual orientation, racial, cultural. That when we actually drop the "I identify this way," and walk out as an, "I always have to be connecting with my same identity," I don't have the chance to learn about other people. Mike Domitrz: I don't have the chance to connect on the multiple layers that we are as human beings. And so the more that we're able to drop the, as you said, the institutions, the cultural institutions and just be able to connect on a sincere one on one level. Like, "Hey, what drives you? What inspires you? What angers you?" And be able to have those conversations where real connection happens. It's so powerful. Teri Yuan: Yeah. How do you want to see the world? Mike Domitrz: Yeah. And identifying that way. Right? Like identifying yourself as a loving person. Well see, because if you say, "Well I'm a loving person but those people don't belong," that doesn't sound loving. So are you identifying yourself as a loving person because do your actions then back that up. Now that doesn't mean that I'm not going to be loving to those people who say they don't, they aren't loving because I believe I'm a loving person, I have to be loving to all people. Mike Domitrz: I'm just going to be aware of what energy I let into my life. What I intentionally spend time with energy wise. Teri Yuan: Yeah and I think one of the challenges that we have today that obvioulsy the 2016 election has really exposed, is that people are more willing to remain in their tribe and remain in their community even at the expense of what the values of those communities espouse. Or purportedly espouse. Teri Yuan: And to me, that's very disappointing because there's so much more that they're missing out on. And it's kind of like holding on so dearly, there's also research and I'm sure you've seen these articles recently around how, I don't know if it was just white Americans. But I think it was white Americans who really seek community and sort of defending their white privilege. You know, they're more willing to accept authoritarian rule and they're more willing to give up democratic principles and benefits in their society. Teri Yuan: And that could mean access to facts and access to true values of kindness and empathy and compassion and treating people with equality even though all their lives, they have been engaging in at least in rhetoric, in promoting those values. But now they're willing to give it up because their white privilege is at risk. Teri Yuan: So that's, I think, something that we need to really talk about. Mike Domitrz: Personally I don't know that specific research. That's interesting because you do see it on all, and we do see it on all sides. We see grouping occurring on all sides that say, "Lockdown over here. I'm going to go this way and you're over there and now we're against each other." And neither make sense. Because neither are about love, respect, it's all about my way or the highway which is dangerous when extremes do that. Mike Domitrz: And so, I do not want to imply in any way that one side here is less culpable for their actions than they are. So that's really important but I think it's important for all of us to step back and go, "Where am I potentially lacking living with respect by this choice I'm making?" Mike Domitrz: I think that's an important question. Teri Yuan: Well Mike, I do want to address that point because I think that two often that one of my complaints about the media, mainstream media, is that they're constantly putting forth a false equivalence. Mike Domitrz: Right. Teri Yuan: And I do feel that in some ways, that analogy may be so. Because when someone is doing something, this happens within gender based violence, that community, the violence against women community. Like people, when someone does something wrong, if someone is abusive to their partner and their partner is acting in self defense and happens to use violence in self defense as a response, they are not equally culpable. You know? Teri Yuan: So when you are resisting and trying to defend yourself, that is not the same as the person who actually initiated it and what the intention of that person was. And in the eyes of the law, they both may be treated equally because they both engaged in, based on statutes of assault, they may be actually treated the same way. And so I think similarly when people are trying to sort of erase or minimize our democratic ideals of freedom and equality and the value of fact, and you know, all of our first amendment rights. And others are responding in defense of those, which are the founding principles of our country. Teri Yuan: They are not the same thing. Mike Domitrz: No I'm so glad you brought this up because that's what I was trying to reference. You did it much better than I did. Which is that false equivalency discussion. Which is, yeah that's what we have to be careful of. Not doing that. And I think it's so important. I think we need to have both conversations. Mike Domitrz: Be able to say there's problems on both sides politically right now. In grouping and how people are behaving in groups at times. Especially extreme sides. But at the same time that also means, I should say and at the same time, that does not mean that's okay to use false equivalencies. And that's why I think it's brilliant, the example you gave. Mike Domitrz: That defense from the person in power is different than the person in power causing, starting the harm in the first place. There is a huge difference there. Teri Yuan: Yeah and I think also what happens is, I mean you see these in memes on Twitter all the time with regard to responses to the administration. The best example that I give is someone causes a problem, let's just say the migrant crisis and then they try to minimally address it but not really fix it. And then all of a sudden they get credit for it. Teri Yuan: So it's basically like giving an arsonist credit for trying to put out the fire but not successfully but out the fire that they started. So why are we giving that person credit for something that they actually created but then never fixed. Teri Yuan: And so that's kind of the situation that happens again and again, that I see. And I think it's important to be able to distinguish the person who's trying to put it out because they didn't start it and they're trying to put it out and save that house. Versus the person who's trying to put it out because they realize that people are upset at them for starting that fire and they want to get into everybody's good graces again. Mike Domitrz: That's brilliant. Thank you so much for sharing that. You have three books you recommend. One's Feminist Theory from Margin to Center by Bell Hooks. Another one is Love and War by Tom Digby. And the last one is You're More Powerful than You Think by Eric Liu. Mike Domitrz: We're going to have all of those links for our listeners and viewers to be able to find at respectpodcast.com. We'll also have that obvioulsy in the show notes if you're listening on iTunes. We'll have that available for everybody. Mike Domitrz: Teri, I want to thank you so much for sharing your insights, and your brilliance today. Teri Yuan: Thank you so much Mike for having me. Mike Domitrz: Absolutely. For everyone listening remember you can join the conversation on Facebook in our Facebook discussion group which is the RESPECT Podcast Discussion Group. Mike Domitrz: Look that up on Facebook, join the conversations, after each episode I typically throw a question out so we can all keep the conversation going. And of course, you'll also on our show, respectpodcast.com, learn all about Teri, find out how to connect with Teri and all of the links. Mike Domitrz: Thank you for joining us for this episode of the RESPECT Podcast. Which was sponsored by the Date Safe Project at datesafeproject.org. And remember, you can always find me at mikespeaks.com.  

Host Stephen Brannon and Tony Porter, Senior Divisional Director of Universal Health Services, discuss Suicide Awareness.

To transform our culture from its focus on dominance and hierarchy to one of connection, empathy and collaboration, it’s vital that we re-envision the essential (or archetypal) masculine, which changes everything. This rarely tackled topic is the subject of a deeply authentic dialogue among Playwright and activist Eve Ensler and three men working to change men and change the story: Tony Porter, co-founder, A Call To Men; Dallas Goldtooth, Indigenous activist, member of the 1491’s Native American comedy troupe; George Lipsitz, board president, African American Policy Forum.

To transform our culture from its focus on dominance and hierarchy to one of connection, empathy and collaboration, it’s vital that we re-envision the essential (or archetypal) masculine, which changes everything. This rarely tackled topic is the subject of a deeply authentic dialogue among Playwright and activist Eve Ensler and three men working to change men and change the story: Tony Porter, co-founder, A Call To Men; Dallas Goldtooth, Indigenous activist, member of the 1491’s Native American comedy troupe; George Lipsitz, board president, African American Policy Forum.

We usually get wiser with age, but that doesn't mean we have to grow up to wise up. This hour, TED speakers explore what it means to find wisdom at every stage of life. Guests include journalist Joshua Prager, student Adora Svitak, writers Boyd Varty and Tony Porter, and psychiatrist Robert Waldinger. (Original broadcast date: June 10, 2016)

In this episode, we talk with Chelsey Goodan about her day jobs as a tutor and screenwriter and her side hustles supporting activism and as a board member of “A Call to Men”. Chelsey shares advice on how she balances her work with her activism and details about all the great work she is doing her organization, The Activist Cartel, and different ways we can teach men how to be better feminists. Running an Activist Side Hustle Episode Highlights Find what you really care about and there’s an organic progression of what will come to you. Don’t underestimate the work it will take. Personal discipline goes a long way for getting shit done. You have to hold yourself accountable, but having an accountability partner goes a long way. “Be a person that follows through and is good on their word.” Chelsey Goodan Chelsey Goodan is the founder of The Activist Cartel, a network of women and men dedicated to promoting women’s rights and equality. Every month, she focuses the nationwide group on a political, educational, or philanthropic topic around women’s equality and provides ways to take action. Additionally, Chelsey Goodan is a screenwriter in Hollywood, answering the plea for movies with vibrant, tenacious, and complex female-driven stories. Embracing many facets of the entertainment industry, she has worked on a wide range of films such as Darren Aronofsky’s The Fountain, Jim Carrey’s The Number 23, and Judd Apatow’s Superbad. All of her experiences in film have supremely motivated her to lead the charge in increasing women’s representation. Moreover, her written articles often focus on how women’s progress intersects with men, whether that's turning the infamous former pick-up artist Neil Strauss, author of The Game, into a feminist, interviewing Tony Porter for Lenny Letter, or igniting conversation through humor in her article, “Can I Be the Dad?” On top of it all, Chelsey has run her own tutoring business for the last nine years. Guiding students 8-22 years old, Chelsey assists in everything from Calculus homework to college applications. She specializes in AP History classes and finds that the lessons always inspire her writing and activism since society is so prone to repeat mistakes. Her time spent prepping a big test like the ACT is often underscored by a deep mentorship of her students. Always working to be a positive role model, she finds great meaning from the moments when her teenage girls come to her with their concerns ranging from eating disorders to birth control. Her young boys often share their fears with her first, knowing she’ll have their back when they’re up against stressful parental pressure or an impending bad grade. She continues this mentorship long after she’s finished tutoring them. Chelsey recently became a Board Member for the nonprofit, A CALL TO MEN, which educates and activates men and boys to be a part of the solution in preventing violence and discrimination against women. She organizes their annual Los Angeles fundraiser, which she will host alongside Will Forte, David Wain, Sean Gunn, and Moon Zappa this year. A CALL TO MEN is now working with the Time’s Up leadership to engage men in entertainment to use their influence to advocate for equality. All of her life, Chelsey has been volunteering for equality-based causes, and organizing fundraising events. She grew up in Colorado Springs, graduated from New York University, married Music Producer Charles Goodan, and currently resides in Los Angeles. Follow Chelsey online at: The Activist Cartel: www.theactivistcartel.org Instagram: @chelseygoodanTwitter: @chelseydailey

From birth, many boys are taught that to be a man you have to be competitive and emotionally tough and that vulnerability is a women's domain. How we socialise our children around privilege and entitlement impacts our society tremendously. Even in the most emotionally resourced families, boys and girls often see gender inequality constantly feeding into their subconscious through media, movies and books. This is the basis for what is referred to as male privilege. In this episode, we explore what it mean to be raising children in this culture. Sean Tonnet speaks with Luke Addinsall: therapist, consultant, facilitator and specialist in Mens Issues, whose work with men and families is changing our view on Masculinity and fathering.List of references (eg book titles/websites mentioned) 1. Manhood - Steve Biddulph https://itunes.apple.com/au/podcast/the-new-manhood/id1293479152?mt=2 2. Tony Porter https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=td1PbsV6B80 3. Jackson Katz https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTvSfeCRxe8First aired on 99.9 BayFM Byron Bay on Monday 5 February 2018.Presenter: Sean TonnetCopyright PBB Media 2018Image credit: Liane Metzler on unsplash.com

From birth, many boys are taught that to be a man you have to be competitive and emotionally tough and that vulnerability is a women's domain. How we socialise our children around privilege and entitlement impacts our society tremendously. Even in the most emotionally resourced families, boys and girls often see gender inequality constantly feeding into their subconscious through media, movies and books. This is the basis for what is referred to as male privilege. In this episode, we explore what it mean to be raising children in this culture. Sean Tonnet speaks with Luke Addinsall: therapist, consultant, facilitator and specialist in Mens Issues, whose work with men and families is changing our view on Masculinity and fathering.List of references (eg book titles/websites mentioned) 1. Manhood - Steve Biddulph https://itunes.apple.com/au/podcast/the-new-manhood/id1293479152?mt=2 2. Tony Porter https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=td1PbsV6B80 3. Jackson Katz https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTvSfeCRxe8First aired on 99.9 BayFM Byron Bay on Monday 5 February 2018.Presenter: Sean TonnetCopyright PBB Media 2018Image credit: Liane Metzler on unsplash.com

Brandy captures the stories of his barber and friend of more than twenty years. Tony Porter has been cutting hair since the 80's. But back when trimmers weren't a thing and getting a pass to make house calls in gang territory for cuts wasn't unusual, Tony wasn't thinking of making a career of his craft. […]

Tony Porter is an author, educator and activist working to advance social justice issues and is featured in the documentary Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution.

Tony Porter is an author, educator and activist working to advance social justice issues and is featured in the documentary Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution.

Why are so many people around me suddenly joining men's groups and women's groups? Isn't the notion of segregating ourselves due to gender a little… outdated? After all, so many of our social issues are related to us not knowing and being close to people who are different to us and experience the world in a way which we don't. Don't women's groups and men's groups just reinforce the notion of ‘the other'? And who said gender is so binary anyway?We delve into whether there is still value in having these groups, and what various individuals have gotten out of them, and also speak to a guest who slated men's groups on this very podcast, but is now a big fan!Host: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarGuests: Michelle Lim, relationships coach https://www.michellelim.co Alex Linsley, founded a men's group while a student Ankush Jain, life coach and leader of a men's immersion programme http://ankushjain.co.ukAlec Molloy, member of a men's groupRelated links: Tony Porter's Ted Talk ‘The Man Box' https://www.ted.com/talks/tonyporteracallto_men The Gender Knot www.thegenderknot.comMusic: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons) Sourpatch by Glass Boy (used under Creative Commons)

To transform our culture from its focus on dominance and hierarchy to one of connection, empathy and collaboration, it’s vital that we re-envision the essential (or archetypal) masculine, which changes everything. This rarely tackled topic is the subject of a deeply authentic dialogue among Playwright and activist Eve Ensler and three men working to change men and change the story: Tony Porter, co-founder, A Call To Men; Dallas Goldtooth, Indigenous activist, member of the 1491’s Native American comedy troupe; George Lipsitz, board president, African American Policy Forum.

To transform our culture from its focus on dominance and hierarchy to one of connection, empathy and collaboration, it’s vital that we re-envision the essential (or archetypal) masculine, which changes everything. This rarely tackled topic is the subject of a deeply authentic dialogue among Playwright and activist Eve Ensler and three men working to change men and change the story: Tony Porter, co-founder, A Call To Men; Dallas Goldtooth, Indigenous activist, member of the 1491’s Native American comedy troupe; George Lipsitz, board president, African American Policy Forum.

Tony Porter does his best to convince Chris and guest host Danny Goodwin to care about weed.  

In this episode, Tone-X and Y² talk to Tony Porter, co-founder of A CALL TO MEN and international leader on issues of masculinity, male socialization and its intersection with violence, and preventing violence against all women and girls.

To advocates like Tom Friedman, “Globalization” is a wonderful and natural process to which people need to adjust. To some critics, it is a dangerous pattern that needs to be resisted through public authority. And to others it is a process that is not natural at all, but encouraged by public policy that serves some interests at the expense of others. If globalization were governed, how would that work, and in whose interest? Are there, in fact, efforts to govern aspects of globalization, such as international finance or global environmental threats, now? If so, how do or can they work, in the absence of world government? Tony Porter is one of the world’s leading scholars of business regulation and global governance, especially financial regulation and processes of hybrid public/private rule-making that cross international borders. Some of his recent research has studied creation of transnational rules produced by business associations and international standard-setting bodies; the Financial Stability Board created to coordinate central banks and national financial regulators in the wake of the financial crisis; and influences on international elites from processes such as OECD peer reviews of “best practices” in national governance. Professor Porter’s newest edited volume, Transnational Financial Regulation after the Crisis (Routledge), includes a chapter by our own Professor Lavelle and will be released shortly before his visit to CWRU.

Tony Porter gives a talk at TEDWomen, in which he blatantly removes all volition and agency from women everywhere and places it all on men. Has TED become a bastion for feminist thinking? Join us as we discuss this and the 50th anniversary special of Doctor Who on Tales From The Infrared.

At TEDWomen, Tony Porter of Tides project A CALL TO MEN makes a call to men everywhere: Don't act like a man. Telling powerful stories from his own life, he shows how this mentality, drummed into so many men and boys, can lead men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other. His solution: Break free of the man box.

At TEDWomen, Tony Porter of Tides project A CALL TO MEN makes a call to men everywhere: Don't act like a man. Telling powerful stories from his own life, he shows how this mentality, drummed into so many men and boys, can lead men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other. His solution: Break free of the man box.

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