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Curious about non-monogamy? Join us for a fascinating journey through 40 years of open relationships! Ever wondered how someone's upbringing shapes their view on sex and love? John shares his eye-opening experiences from Catholic school rebel to swinger club owner. You'll be surprised by his candid stories of threesomes, roller rink hookups, and personal growth! Want to explore open relationships with your partner? This video is packed with insights on honesty, boundaries, and self-discovery. Learn how therapy and sobriety transformed John's approach to intimacy and trust. Discover the secrets of maintaining healthy connections in the swinging lifestyle! Ready to dive deeper into the world of ethical non-monogamy? Subscribe to our channel for more open discussions on threesomes, swinging, and alternative relationships. Visit openlove101.com for exclusive content, free guides, and info on our private community. Let's explore the open lifestyle together! #non-monogamyjourney #sexualidentityexploration #authenticrelating #relationshipadvice #openrelationship CHAPTERS: 00:00 - Intro 00:38 - John's Upbringing 04:54 - Parents Influence on Childhood 08:59 - Alcohol and Sexuality Impact 10:51 - Early Sexual Experiences 12:49 - Sobriety and Sex Life Transformation 16:19 - Importance of Boundaries in Relationships 19:10 - Inner Work and Sexual Well-being 20:47 - Recap of Key Insights 21:54 - Final Thoughts on Personal Growth 23:04 - Join Our Email List & Openlove 101 Plus
Some kinds of jealousy can just feel totally overwhelming. They may even make you feel rage. Justice jealousy is definitely one of them. Justice jealousy—a term that was coined by Jessica Fern (one of our favorite authors and recurring PWF guest)—can happen when your partner wasn't able to provide something for you in the past, and then you witness them providing that same thing to one of their other partners. Ouch! The feelings that come up in these situations can be strong. So we're here to give you strong frameworks, ideas, and tools that can help you understand, unpack, and work towards finding a resolution. (Spoiler alert, resolution might not look like what you had in mind when justice jealousy is in the picture!) In this episode, we talk about: — Why it's important to know the difference between jealousy and envy — What underlying issues can fuel strong feelings of justice jealousy — Why it may be more helpful to focus on empathy and understanding instead of strict ideas of fairness — The complexities of relationship repair in situations of justice jealousy — Communication, forgiveness, healing, and the tools that can help you work through justice jealousy and its related issues Resources mentioned in this episode: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy by Jessica Fern Imago Dialogue: Episode 129 of Playing With Fire Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Get the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything here Read the transcript of this episode here Music: Dance of Felt by Blue Dot Sessions
Send us a textEp 560: Breaking Taboos, Embracing Kink, and Pleasure with Dr. Nazanin Moali, aka Dr. Naz of the Sexology Podcast.Navigating Intimacy and Embracing Desire with Dr. Nazanin Moali. Join Ruan Willow as she engages in a captivating discussion with Dr. Naz, a clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist, who is dedicated to helping individuals and couples achieve fulfilling sex lives. Dr. Naz shares her unique journey from post-revolution Iran to becoming a trusted expert in intimacy and relationships in Los Angeles. In this episode, they explore the complexities of kinks and fantasies, the challenges of sexless marriages, and the importance of communication in relationships. Dr. Naz emphasizes the significance of breaking down societal taboos surrounding sexuality, and how understanding our own desires can lead to deeper connections. Tune in for insights on fostering a more authentic love life and the transformative power of sexual self-discovery.Timeline:00:21 - Dr. Naz is a clinical psychologist, Certified sex therapist03:47 - Misconceptions in society about what kink means06:06 - Going to sex therapy can be a good tool for some people12:59 - Even when you're dating, experiment with saying no to non sexual things20:02 - Many women blame society for not being able to experience an orgasm26:26 - There's nothing wrong with enjoying porn that you don't actually want to do27:53 - The orgasm gap gets misrepresented as a knowledge gap35:24 - Do you feel that midlife couples have less frequent sex than younger generations40:05 - Being transparent about sexual experiences with your therapist is very important47:44 - Part of your work is doing sex education for people struggling with sexual health50:16 - So do you find yourself ever suggesting sex toys for clients too51:46 - Your podcast about science of sex and pleasure53:40 - Many people find boredom is a big issue in their relationship58:16 - What advice do you have for people looking to improve their sexuality01:00:30 - I want people to keep in mind that whatever you like, you're not defectiveQuotes from Dr. Naz"There's nothing wrong with that. But you definitely need to cherish your desires.""Whatever you like, you're not defective. There's a galaxy of people out there that are interested in that."Find out more: Nazanin Moali, Ph.D., CST (she/her/hers) Psychologist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist www.oasis2care.comCreator and Host of Sexology Podcast http://www.sexologypodcast.com/Facebook @oasis2carkeIG @sexologypodcastShow notes created with the assistance of headliner appRuan's latest audiobook releases:Never Say, Never Swing, Friends to Lovers https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/neversayneverswingaudiobookProtectors: A Warrior's Requiem, Chronicles of Protectors, Superheroes, music themes, time travel, sexy intimate relations https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/protSupport the showSubscribe for exclusive episodes: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/subscribeSign up for Ruan's newsletters: https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillowhttps://linktr.ee/RuanWillowI Dare You book https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/idareyouthesaturdaysexchallenge
Some podcast apps may not display links from our show notes properly, so we have included a list of links at the end of this description. * In the context of non-monogamy, compersion or the emotion of positive empathy is understood as sharing our partner's joy regarding their other intimate relationship or relationships. Drawing upon her seminal research with consensually non-monogamous individuals, author and mindful dating and relationship coach, Dr. Marie (two-un) Thouin, unravels the complexity of compersion in her recent book, What is Compersion?, the first ever book to offer a comprehensive model of compersion and a practical roadmap to cultivating it. * In this episode, Dr. (two-un) Thouin is joined by Poarch Creek Two-Spirit Indigequeer activist, artist, sex therapist, and somacultural theorist Dr. Roger Kuhn in a conversation exploring compersion as a roadmap for radical love in monogamous and non-monogamous consensual relationships. * This episode was recorded during a live online event on August 8th, 2024. You can also watch it on the CIIS Public Programs YouTube channel. A transcript is available at ciispod.com. To find out more about CIIS and public programs like this one, visit our website ciis.edu and connect with us on social media @ciispubprograms. * We hope that each episode of our podcast provides opportunities for growth, and that our listeners will use them as a starting point for further introspection. Many of the topics discussed on our podcast have the potential to bring up feelings and emotional responses. If you or someone you know is in need of mental health care and support, here are some resources to find immediate help and future healing: * -Visit 988lifeline.org or text, call, or chat with The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by dialing 988 from anywhere in the U.S. to be connected immediately with a trained counselor. Please note that 988 staff are required to take all action necessary to secure the safety of a caller and initiate emergency response with or without the caller's consent if they are unwilling or unable to take action on their own behalf. * -Visit thrivelifeline.org or text “THRIVE” to begin a conversation with a THRIVE Lifeline crisis responder 24/7/365, from anywhere: +1.313.662.8209. This confidential text line is available for individuals 18+ and is staffed by people in STEMM with marginalized identities. * -Visit translifeline.org or call (877) 565-8860 in the U.S. or (877) 330-6366 in Canada to learn more and contact Trans Lifeline, who provides trans peer support divested from police. * -Visit ciis.edu/ciis-in-the-world/counseling-clinics to learn more and schedule counseling sessions at one of our centers. * -Find information about additional global helplines at befrienders.org. * LINKS * Podcast Transcripts: https://www.ciispod.com/ * California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS) Website: https://www.ciis.edu/ * CIIS Public Programs YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/ciispublicprograms * CIIS Public Programs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ciispubprograms/ * Mental Health Care and Support Resources: https://988lifeline.org/ https://thrivelifeline.org/ https://translifeline.org/ https://www.ciis.edu/ciis-in-the-world/counseling-clinics https://befrienders.org/
Monogamous romantic relationships have been seen as the norm for a long time. They're the kind most commonly represented in the media, often as the only “right” kind of relationship. However, open relationships, polyamory, and other consensual non-monogamous relationships are more common than you might think. People with ADHD often find ways of living life outside of the typical standard. This could include being non-monogamous!Martha Kauppi is a marriage and family therapist and sex therapist. She is the author of the book Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (And Their Clients). Listen to this conversation on jealousy, reaching agreements with your partner, and what consensual non-monogamy really is.Related resourcesPolyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (And Their Clients) by Martha Kauppi8 Steps To Opening Up: Starting The Conversation About Non-Monogamy, a Free eBook by Martha KauppiMartha Kauppi's website, www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.comTimestamps(00:55) Why learn about consensual non-monogamy?(04:04) What is consensual non-monogamy?(05:36) What is the biggest misconception about non-monogamy?(08:40) Building a relationship that works for you, not just what you see in the media(11:46) Viewing non-monogamy as an option in life(15:42) Moving toward consensual non-monogamy in a relational way(21:03) How would you start a conversation about opening your currently monogamous relationship?(24:20) Tips for working through jealousy (25:35) What is compersion?(30:13) It's OK if non-monogamy isn't for you! (32:10) Where can you find Martha? For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn
Monogamous romantic relationships have been seen as the norm for a long time. They're the kind most commonly represented in the media, often as the only “right” kind of relationship. However, open relationships, polyamory, and other consensual non-monogamous relationships are more common than you might think. People with ADHD often find ways of living life outside of the typical standard. This could include being non-monogamous!Martha Kauppi is a marriage and family therapist and sex therapist. She is the author of the book Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (And Their Clients). Listen to this conversation on jealousy, reaching agreements with your partner, and what consensual non-monogamy really is.Related resourcesPolyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (And Their Clients) by Martha Kauppi8 Steps To Opening Up: Starting The Conversation About Non-Monogamy, a Free eBook by Martha KauppiMartha Kauppi's website, www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.comTimestamps(00:55) Why learn about consensual non-monogamy?(04:04) What is consensual non-monogamy?(05:36) What is the biggest misconception about non-monogamy?(08:40) Building a relationship that works for you, not just what you see in the media(11:46) Viewing non-monogamy as an option in life(15:42) Moving toward consensual non-monogamy in a relational way(21:03) How would you start a conversation about opening your currently monogamous relationship?(24:20) Tips for working through jealousy (25:35) What is compersion?(30:13) It's OK if non-monogamy isn't for you! (32:10) Where can you find Martha? For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
Irene's first "serious" dive into exploring non-monogamy came towards the end of her Master's program when she and a new partner both came to their relationship not really wanting monogamy... Yet, neither of them had done this before, they didn't have many resources to guide them, and they were in a brand new relationship together. And, those were just the hurdles they knew existed. Spoiler alert: They ended up finding some hidden ones as well! As Irene describes it, opening their relationship was chaos. Today, she takes us back to the beginning and shares with us how she and her partner moved through the chaos together while also healing themselves as individuals. The journey has not been easy and we're incredibly grateful to Irene for her vulnerability in sharing her story. Irene combines her own lived experiences with her extensive training in yoga therapy and her background in clinical sexual health counseling to bring an in-depth understanding of the mind and body to her coaching work. She is also the author of the bestselling book The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy. Please check out all of Irene's work on her website. Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet! Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing
Have you ever wondered what it's like to step beyond the traditional boundaries of love? Since your divorce, have you been curious about exploring polyamory or open relationships? In this replay episode from Season 3, we dive into one of our boldest topics yet—consensual non-monogamy! Intimacy guides, Andre Lazarus and Susannah Rose, share how shifting from monogamy to an open relationship brought them the deepest connection and intimacy they've ever experienced.In this episode's new intro, I spill the tea on my non-monogamy journey after divorce—because why not? From learning the art of “not putting all my eggs in one basket” to realizing how hard it is to find men who actually get non-monogamy, it's been a wild ride. Let's just say, love triangles sound way sexier in theory! Thankfully, Andre and Susannah's story shows there's hope for deeper, meaningful connections—even when you're coloring outside the lines.Follow Andre on IGFollow Susannah on IG: Virtual Ladies Night Pajama Party:
Deeper Sex - A Sex Positive Podcast Exploring Fantasies And Boundaries
Guess what! We've been live for 6 months already, and we have a big surprise coming up for you! We are closing out Season 1 of the Deeper Sex Podcast to come back with Season 2 and offer something even more exciting and useful to you and your lover, in and out of the bedroom. We believe that sex should not be the driver of arguments and unhappiness for a couple. Nor should it be taboo. We have witnessed, tried and tested on our own skin how it can be used to heal from trauma, fears, and to grow. What's coming: We are taking the intimacy and sacred sexuality practices that have completely revolutionised our way of loving, and are putting them into very simple practical terms for you so, that everyone can apply and practice them in their own bedroom. If this is calling you, sign up for our waitlist to join our upcoming workshops. == Meanwhile, don't miss: >> Our fav books “50 Misconceptions Of Sex” by Alexa Vartman “Wild Nights” by David Deida (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you) >> Catch up on these episodes 13: How To Be Sexually “Open” Even If You're Monogamous Learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner. Listen on Apple or Spotify. 6: There's No Shame In “Dirty” Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Taboos into Passion Learn about how to share sexual fantasies with your lover, overcoming fear, shame and taboos. Listen on Apple or Spotify 5: How Did We Do It?? From Failed-Marriage Misery to Cosmic Sex, Hot-Tub Orgies and Play Parties in a Castle Learn more about the hosts' conservative backgrounds and how they “fell” into the amazing, sexually liberated world of Consensual Non Monogamy. Listen on Apple or Spotify == Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” == TIME STAMPS 01:54 You Helped Us Grow 03:25 Deeper Sex Content In Season 2 04:16 Sex At the Intersection Between Sexuality, Curiosity, Healing And Personal Growth 05:25 A Surprise For You: Get It Here! 07:52 10 Prompts To Start Deeper Conversations With Your Partner 08:15 Your Reading List to Get Ready For Season 2 == Questions? DM us or email us == Sign up for our workshops waitlist here
Join John and Jackie as they dive into the fascinating world of swinger terminology. Ever wondered what terms like "unicorn," "soft swap," or "airtight" mean? Join us as we play a fun game hosted by Courtney, where we define and discuss various terms used in the lifestyle. We share our reactions, insights, and some hilarious moments along the way. Whether you're new to the lifestyle or a seasoned participant, this episode is packed with enlightening information and plenty of laughs. Tune in and expand your swinger vocabulary with us!
Join John and Jackie in this blast from the past episode as they discuss what to do when you have a bad experience inside a lifestyle club or swinger party! If you have ever had a bad experience, you are not alone! Through out the years, many of our followers have reached out with their own stories and asking for advice when the night does not go as planned. So be sure to listen or watch this episode and see what you can do if you find yourself in a similar situation!
When romantic partners move in together, something they need to figure out is how to manage their finances. Will your money be shared or separate? And who will pay for what? These conversations can be tricky to navigate in general, but they become even more complex when you have multiple partners. In today’s episode, we’re going to dive into money management in polyamorous relationships. We’ll explore financial considerations for poly folks, the financial benefits of being polyamorous, and more. I am joined once again by Laura Boyle, author of the new book Monogamy? In this Economy? Sue runs a blog called Ready for Polyamory. Her first book titled, Ready for Polyamory: A Pragmatic Guide to Consensual Non-Monogamy, was released in 2021. Some of the specific questions we discuss include: Why are more and more people (including monogamous couples) keeping their finances separate today? What are the most common financial arrangements that polyamorous people make? How can poly folks successfully navigate conflicts around money? How do polyamorous people manage money when partners have drastically different incomes, expenses, and debts? What are some of the financial advantages to having multiple partners? You can learn more about Laura and her work by visiting her website. You can also follow her on the socials @readyforpolyamory. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world's only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that’s neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.
Ken provides education on how gay male relationships (couples or polycules) can establish ground rules agreements for Consensual Non-Monogamy using the Who What When Where Why structure.
If you’ve never lived with multiple partners before, figuring out how to navigate this kind of situation can pose some challenges. For example, how do you determine where everyone will sleep? How do you navigate things like personal space, chores, and scheduling conflicts? In today’s show, we're going to discuss practical tips on cultivating happy and harmonious living arrangements for polyamorous individuals. My guest is Laura Boyle, author of the new book Monogamy? In this Economy? Sue runs a blog called Ready for Polyamory. Her first book titled, Ready for Polyamory: A Pragmatic Guide to Consensual Non-Monogamy, was released in 2021. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include: What are the most common living arrangements for polyamorous folks? How can poly people navigate issues like leases, mortgages, and even biases from landlords that might make it difficult to live with more than one partner? How can “new relationship energy” complicate living situations? What are the most common conflicts that arise when a new partner moves in? You can learn more about Laura and her work by visiting her website. You can also follow her on the socials @readyforpolyamory. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Are you looking for a space that celebrates diverse perspectives, explores new frontiers and brings all of your favorite people together? The Annual Sexological Conference hosted by Sexual Health Alliance is where sexuality leaders gather. Get your ticket to be inspired, educated, and empowered. Head over to SexualHealthAlliance.com, select the Annual Sexological Conference page and save your spot today! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.
John and Jackie dive into the important topic of body image within the lifestyle community. They share insights on how everyone, regardless of their appearance, can find a place and feel accepted in lifestyle clubs, parties, and events. John and Jackie discuss common concerns from those new to the lifestyle, emphasizing that attraction is diverse and subjective. They highlight the inclusivity and acceptance found in lifestyle spaces, contrasting it with the often judgmental atmosphere of mainstream nightclubs. This episode is a must-listen for anyone feeling apprehensive about their appearance and considering joining the lifestyle community.
John and Jackie answer a follower submitted question in today's episode! "Have You Ever Faced Discrimination in the Swingers Lifestyle?" In today's episode, they discuss their experience with people judging their relationship and how they deal with the stigma that comes from being in a "non-traditional" relationship. Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let's explore it together :)
John and Jackie sit down in this blast from the past episode and talk about Swinging in the Lifestyle and a few questions they received regarding swinging alone. They share about their journey navigating through the lifestyle and how they have grown as a couple. Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let's explore it together :)
As owners of lifestyle clubs, we hear all the common complaints from members about single guys, so we figured we make a video and share some things NOT to do as a single male at swingers clubs. AVOID these at all costs if you want to connect and play well with others! Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let's explore it together :)
In this episode of our sex positivity podcast, Denise and Lyndsey dive into the world of Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) with expert Martha Kauppi. Discover the types of CNM, the difference between CNM and infidelity, and the importance of setting up agreements with your partner. Martha shares valuable resources for those exploring CNM. Contact Martha! https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/ https://www.instagram.com/martha_kauppi/?hl=en https://www.youtube.com/@MarthaKauppiLMFTIRI/featured Buy Her Book or Download Her Free Resources! https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/book https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/polyamory-relationship-skills-handout-set https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/free-training https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/blog Contact Us! Website: https://www.sexpositivityunfiltered.com/ Email: SPUpodcast@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spupodcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexpositivityunfiltered/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@spupodcast/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sexpositivityunfiltered/support
In this special bonus episode, Whit Missildine interviews Jessica Fern. Jessica Fern is a renowned psychotherapist, trauma and relationship expert, and the author of two books: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy, and Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. To find out more about Jessica and her work, you visit her website jessicafern.com or find her on Instagram @jessicafern411.Producers: Whit Missildine, Andrew WaitsContent/Trigger Warnings: sexual themes, explicit language Social Media:Instagram: @actuallyhappeningTwitter: @TIAHPodcastWebsite: thisisactuallyhappening.comSupport the Show: Support The Show on Patreon: patreon.com/happeningWondery Plus: All episodes of the show prior to episode #130 are now part of the Wondery Plus premium service. To access the full catalog of episodes, and get all episodes ad free, sign up for Wondery Plus at wondery.com/plus Shop at the Store: The This Is Actually Happening online store is now officially open. Follow this link: thisisactuallyhappening.com/shop to access branded t-shirts, posters, stickers and more from the shop. Transcripts: Full transcripts of each episode are now available on the website, thisisactuallyhappening.comIntro Music: "Illabye" – Tipper ServicesIf you or someone you know is struggling with the effects of trauma or mental illness, please refer to the following resources:National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Text or Call 988 National Alliance on Mental Illness: 1-800-950-6264National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
We went to an incredible open relationship workshop in Austin, Texas called "True Sex and Wild Love" and here is recap in case you missed it! (And yes we talk about the pink thing.) The event was hosted by Aubrey Marcus, CEO of Onnit, a company that makes and markets nutritional supplements, fitness equipment, and more in the spirit of optimizing human performance, and his fiance Whitney Miller, who is a relationship coach. (And they both happen to be in an open relationship.) The guest speaker at their event was Dr. Wednesday Martin, author of the award-winning book "Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free". It was incredible to hear Dr. Martin talk about the benefits of open relationships from her scientific perspective and the research about the critical time period when monogamous couples seek variety (is it the man or woman?!). And finally of course, we talk about this mysterious pink thing. Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let's explore it together :)
In this special bonus episode, Whit Missildine interviews Heath Schechinger and Lily Lamboy of the Modern Family Institute @modernfamilyinstitute, collaborators on our six-part miniseries, “The 82%: Modern Stories of Love and Family.” In this conversation we discuss the historical roots of the nuclear family and monogamy, how family and relationship structures have changed over the 20th century, the contemporary landscape of diverse families and Consensual Non-Monogamy, and the future of love and family. Dr. Heath Schechinger is a therapist, researcher, and organizer, known for his groundbreaking work within the realm of family and relationship diversity. In addition to his role as Co-Founder and Executive Director of the Modern Family Institute, he serves as the Founding Co-Chair of the American Psychological Association Division 44 Committee on Consensual Non-monogamy, and an Affiliate Faculty at the renowned Kinsey Institute. Dr. Schechinger's work sheds light on the elements that cultivate healthy relationships and the rise of non-nuclear family and relationship configurations. He has authored multiple empirical publications and clinical resources and his work has been featured in major media outlets such as The New York Times, BBC, Vogue, and Time Magazine.Dr. Lily Lamboy is a social impact executive, educator, artist, and scholar with over 15 years of experience building complex systems to support human flourishing. She currently serves as the Co-Founder and Managing Director of the Modern Family Institute. Prior to founding the Modern Family Institute, Dr. Lamboy led the Diversity, Equity & Inclusion functions at both Stripe and Blue Shield of California. She received her PhD in Political Science from Stanford University, where she also taught in the Feminist, Gender & Sexuality Studies and Rhetoric programs, receiving the Gores Award for Excellence in Teaching, Stanford's top prize for education. She has authored peer-reviewed articles addressing persistent sources of social inequality in publications including Cambridge University Press, Theory and Research in Education, and the International Panel on Social Progress. As an artist, she strives to make pieces that inspire lasting change in how we love, act, and organize our society. If you'd like to find out more about the Modern Family Institute, donate to help advance their work, or get engaged, please visit their website, modernfamilyinstitute.org. Producers: Whit MissildineContent/Trigger Warnings: sexual themes, explicit language Social Media:Instagram: @actuallyhappeningTwitter: @TIAHPodcastWebsite: thisisactuallyhappening.comSupport the Show: Support The Show on Patreon: patreon.com/happeningWondery Plus: All episodes of the show prior to episode #130 are now part of the Wondery Plus premium service. To access the full catalog of episodes, and get all episodes ad free, sign up for Wondery Plus at wondery.com/plus Shop at the Store: The This Is Actually Happening online store is now officially open. Follow this link: thisisactuallyhappening.com/shop to access branded t-shirts, posters, stickers and more from the shop. Transcripts: Full transcripts of each episode are now available on the website, thisisactuallyhappening.comIntro Music: "Illabye" – Tipper ServicesIf you or someone you know is struggling with the effects of trauma or mental illness, please refer to the following resources:National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Text or Call 988 National Alliance on Mental Illness: 1-800-950-6264National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Friendships Paradigms: Monogamy and Polyamory and Platonic Partnerships Patricia discusses the concept of monogamy and polyamory in friendships and platonic partnerships. She explores how the traditional view of monogamy has a hierarchy when one person enters a romantic relationship. Neurodivergent folks often have closer friendships that are more like platonic partnerships. Patricia shares her insights on the importance of defining communication patterns and expectations in friendships. She also reflects on the challenges of permanence and attachment wounds in relationships. HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways The traditional view of monogamy can impact friendships when one person enters a romantic relationship. Defining communication patterns and expectations in friendships is important for maintaining connection and avoiding attachment wounds. The challenges of permanence can affect neurodivergent individuals, leading to feelings of disconnection and uncertainty. Embracing blended parts and honoring individual needs in relationships is essential for creating healthy and fulfilling connections. Additional Takeaways Understanding the dynamics of relationships through the lens of attachment theory, particularly in the context of neurodivergent individuals. Exploring the nuances of polyamory and monogamy in modern society and how they intersect with platonic partnerships. Unpacking the concept of primary and secondary relationships within the framework of monogamous norms. Delving into attachment injuries and how they can impact friendships and romantic connections. Gaining insights into navigating blended parts within relationships and the challenges they may present. Examining the shifts in relationships when one party enters a new romantic relationship, especially in the context of monogamous views. Learning about communication patterns and compatibility in friendships and partnerships, particularly in the realm of polyamory. Discovering strategies for healing attachment wounds and fostering healthier relationships, as discussed in Jessica Fern's book "Polysecure." Reflecting on the differences in communication styles between individuals and how they can affect relationship dynamics. Exploring the complexities of non-monogamous relationships and platonic partnerships in the modern world. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness and open communication in maintaining strong friendships and romantic connections. Considering the impact of societal norms on relationships and how they influence our perceptions of friendship and partnership. Embracing the diversity of relationship structures and finding resonance in the experiences shared by individuals navigating polyamory, monogamy, and platonic partnerships. Sound Bites "Attachment wounds and the challenges of permanence in relationships" "Polyamory and platonic partnerships" "Feeling left behind in a friendship" Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction 01:50 Monogamy and Platonic Partnerships 11:48 Defining Communication Patterns 15:24 Feeling Left Behind in Friendships 23:21 Permanence and Limited Communication 26:06 Embracing Blended Parts in Relationships PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy by Jessica Fern Episode 109: The Power of Attachment Styles with Jessica Fern https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-109-the-power-of-attachment-styles-and-the-highly-sensitive-person-hsp-jessica-fern-ms/ Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Want to have your cake and eat it too? Well, it takes two to tango. But, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. And, that's enough old proverbs (for now) :) Being in a swinging or poly relationship DOES take consent and understanding from all parties involved, but how do you do that? Well, we've got the video for you because that's the question we address today! Let the discussion begin!
Send us a Text Message.In this intimate and enlightening conversation, Irene Morning, a somatic pleasure coach and author of 'The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy,' shares her personal and professional journey. She discusses moving from yoga therapy to coaching individuals exploring non-monogamous relationships, the deep need for somatic support and embodiment work, and the impact of trauma on romantic and sexual exploration. Irene offers valuable insights on self-care, navigating conflict, and the role of pleasure in healing. Practical advice for those curious about non-monogamy and a simple daily action step to enhance pleasure are also featured.In this Episode:Exploring Self-Care PracticesThe Complexity of Relationships Journey into Non-MonogamyNavigating Complex PTSD and Non-Monogamy The Role of Pleasure in Healing Somatics and Relationship Dynamics Tips for Exploring Non-MonogamyConnect with Irene:https://www.irenemorning.comIG: @irene_morningIrene's book, The Polyamory Paradox, is a trauma-aware, body-based approach to navigating modern relationships, especially if you have a history of trauma. It's written with examples primarily from non-monogamous contexts, but the tools and information in it are relevant to everyone.It's available as a free download on her website: https://www.irenemorning.com/book-launch My resources:Deep Rest MeditationNourished For Resilience Workbook Book a free Exploratory CallFind me at www.nourishednervoussystem.comand @nourishednervoussytem on Instagram
When it comes to consent, what's usually discussed is getting consent from the person with whom you would like to have a physical interaction. What's not talked about as much is giving consent to your partner on what you're comfortable with them doing with others so that they don't cross any boundaries you may have. The tricky part to this whole thing is doing it without being too controlling or possessive. After all, shouldn't each person have the right to their own body and actions? (You're not the boss of me!) Let the discussion begin!
You know what they say, "The only thing constant is change." And that includes playing with couples in our open marriage. How it started is not how it is today. How we go about it. What we do while we're playing. The things we think about. The things we do with our partner. What's ok and what's not. Check it out!
In this episode, John and Jackie explore the concept of transforming negative experiences in the lifestyle into valuable learning opportunities. The conversation revolves around handling discomfort, setting boundaries, and fostering positive communication within the swinging community. Reflecting on past experiences, Jackie shares personal insights on the significance of being an advocate for oneself. The discussion touches on the challenges of vocalizing boundaries and preferences, highlighting the evolution of communication skills over time.
Some kinds of jealousy can just feel totally overwhelming. They may even make you feel rage. Justice jealousy is definitely one of them. Justice jealousy—a term that was coined by Jessica Fern (one of our favorite authors and recurring PWF guest)—can happen when your partner wasn't able to provide something for you in the past, and then you witness them providing that same thing to one of their other partners. Ouch! The feelings that come up in these situations can be strong. So we're here to give you strong frameworks, ideas, and tools that can help you understand, unpack, and work towards finding a resolution. (Spoiler alert, resolution might not look like what you had in mind when justice jealousy is in the picture!) In this episode, we talk about: — Why it's important to know the difference between jealousy and envy — What underlying issues can fuel strong feelings of justice jealousy — Why it may be more helpful to focus on empathy and understanding instead of strict ideas of fairness — The complexities of relationship repair in situations of justice jealousy — Communication, forgiveness, healing, and the tools that can help you work through justice jealousy and its related issues Resources mentioned in this episode: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy by Jessica Fern Imago Dialogue: Episode 129 of Playing With Fire Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Get the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything here Music: Dance of Felt by Blue Dot Sessions
Open Relationship Advice: How To Handle Fear & Jealousy John and Jackie answer a follower submitted question in this week's episode! Do you have any advice or techniques to help alleviate self-doubt and stress and is it common for the wife to take the leadership role in the lifestyle adventure? Listen hear John and Jackie's answer!
In this episode, John and Jackie delve into the intricacies of friendships when one person is in an open relationship. Courtney shares her experiences as the friend in an open relationship, facing both positive and negative reactions from friends in monogamous relationships. The conversation explores the dynamics, challenges, and societal perceptions surrounding open-relationships within friend circles.
Today we talk about threesomes because they are amazing! What guy (and even lots of gals) doesn't fantasize about a threesome experience?! In fact, it's one of the most popular ways to break into the lifestyle and we'll tell you why in our video!
In this episode, John and Jackie respond to a viewer's question about reconciling religious beliefs with an open relationship. John and Jackie share their personal journeys of questioning and deconstructing religious beliefs as they explored open relationships John and Jackie encourage you to embrace your authentic self, challenge societal norms, and recognize the strength in holding strong, shared values within your relationships.
In this episode, we answer one of your questions posted in the YouTube comments in one of our videos: What about the folks you're dating? Do they know about your relationship and how do they fit in? And if there are issues, why did you continue and why not just stop? A very good series of questions, I might add!
In this episode, John and Jackie discuss the complexities of dealing with uncomfortable boundaries in open relationships. The episode explores various approaches to handling discomfort when partners want to explore activities that may challenge established boundaries. They touch on options such as refraining from the activity, finding ways to ease discomfort, and introducing play partners to fulfill certain desires. They emphasize the importance of communication, honesty, and self-reflection in navigating these sensitive situations
#116 So what happens when your partner is honest (which of course you want them to be) and they share something with you... And that honest something makes you sad, makes you angry, makes you scared, or worse. What do you do now with that? That's what we talk about today!
#112 A couple asked us the other day if it's bad to fantasize about someone else while being intimate with your partner. Is that wrong? Is it cheating? Is it bad? Let's dive into this rabbit hole of fantasy talk and where it could go!
#113 The other day we did some coaching for a couple who wanted some help with their open relationship. They had finally found a third person who was interesting and attractive to both of them and they wanted this person to be part of their throuple. The couple was both excited about it, but as time went on, the woman in the relationship became more encompassed in her fear, which then of course triggered some of her partner's fears (based on past relationships). So at this point, he wants the third person on board, but she doesn't.
In today's episode, John and Jackie explore the reasons why non-monogamous relationships may fail. Listen in as they discus the crucial aspects of communication, consideration of partner's feelings, managing expectations, and the significance of respecting boundaries. They also share personal insights and experiences, emphasizing the importance of open and honest discussions in navigating the challenges of consensually non-monogamous relationships.
#111 Ok so you're interested in this consensual non-monogamy thing, but how do you tell your partner about it? How do you approach the topic and introduce them to CNM without freaking them out?! Watch this video (perhaps together) and discover how!
#110 We had a comment/question from a couple in an open relationship where the wife is having a much easier time finding play partners than the husband, which led him to ask the question: How do I find more play partners? Let's jump in and discuss that!
Mellissa McCracken is a trauma informed substance abuse counselor working in an acute treatment setting in Los Angeles. In this episode we explore consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and open relationships all in the context of sexual recovery and more. Mellissa brings her expertise and wisdom within the LGBTQI+ community into this valuable conversation. Please join us to learn more about these often-misunderstood terms and definitions. Music Credit: Neil Freebern, Freebernmusic.com
Have you ever wondered why there is so much stigma, secrecy and shame surrounding consensual non-monogamy? When after all, it is consensual! And why is it anyone else's business anyways? Join us with Sex Researcher, Dr Amy C Moors from the Kinsey Institute, as we learn all about her research indicating that consensual non-monogamy is more popular than we may have guessed and how it affects our trust, satisfaction, sexual health and happiness when measured against people in a monogamous relationship.
Have you ever wondered why there is so much stigma, secrecy and shame surrounding consensual non-monogamy? When after all, it is consensual! And why is it anyone else's business anyways? Join us with Sex Researcher, Dr Amy C Moors from the Kinsey Institute, as we learn all about her research indicating that consensual non-monogamy is more popular than we may have guessed and how it affects our trust, satisfaction, sexual health and happiness when measured against people in a monogamous relationship.
In this episode, we are joined by Ellecia Paine to talk about the ins and outs of coming out as polyamorous to friends and family. Ellecia is a non-monogamy coach and host of the podcast, “Nope! We're Not Monogamous”. In addition to opening up about how polyamory was used against her family in a custody case, Ellecia also shares the wisdom she has gained from working with her clients who are in open relationships. If you'd like to send us a
In the first half of this episode, April interviews Scott about his bisexuality and the double standard we sometimes see in the world of Consensual Non-Monogamy toward bisexual men. They further discuss some struggles Scott has faced in coming out in the South and how at 51 years old he’s beginning to embrace his sexuality with pride and intellectual aggression. In the second half they talk about their first foray in the the world of gay circuit parties, what happened with Scott at the party and how April kissed a gay man that thought she was trans. Then they describe exactly what happened at the end of the circuit party as Scott took someone back the hotel while April and 2 friends lay in the bed next to them and watched the night unfold.
Are you feeling stagnant or stale in your long-term relationship? Are you tired of feeling responsible for maintaining the passion in your marriage? Feeling like the only choices on the table are to live as roommates, have an affair or get divorced? What if there is another way? What if we've been taught a very narrow view of what a healthy, committed relationship might entail? This episode is for anyone who wants to renegotiate the terms of their long-term relationship AND for those committed to liberation in all its forms. About our guest... Terra Anderson (they/them) is a leading force for pleasure and intimacy in the LGBTQIA+ community. With almost 20 years of experience working in embodiment and sexuality and over 20,000 hours fine tuning their expertise in gender justice, Terra's unique approach to healing joins the powers of activism and pleasure to help LGBTQIA+ people to live more empowered, empleasured, and liberated lives. Terra is the founder of Embody Emerge, a somatic sex therapist, a pleasure and intimacy coach, and a published researcher exploring the impacts of oppression on the body. Through their work, Terra aims to move us closer to a world where pleasure for all can be prioritized as the navigational force by which we heal together, grow, and carve meaningful lives. RESOURCES Terra's website: www/embodyemerge.com Terra on Instagram @embodyemerge Talks at Google EP 249: Dan Savage and Esther Perel: Love, Marriage and Monogamy Book: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non Monogamy by Jessica Fern
Candice Horbacz is a fascinating woman. She's had quite a career trajectory, from a former adult entertainment performer, to an entrepreneur in the production and Web3 space, to an organizer of spiritual retreats centered on psychedelics and wellness. She's a mother to two boys, a wife, and the podcast host of Chatting With Candice! Her mission is to inspire people to expand their curiosity, think independently, and not be afraid of our messiness. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: How Candice went from porn star to podcast host and health and wellness entrepreneur What is consensual non-monogamy? What are the benefits and how would someone practice consensual non-monogamy? What are the dangers? What are some other non-traditional relationship styles? Connect with Candice IG: https://www.instagram.com/evalovia/?hl=en Website: https://www.chattingwithcandice.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/candicehorbacz/?hl=en ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy's books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook and Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sandy-weiner9/message
We're all familiar with the term “open relationship.” Some more than others. While this kind of romance doesn't always work out, it's very rare that someone winds up dead as a result. Back in 2015, 22-year-old Ryan Zimmerman of Corbin, KY was struggling with his identity. He was looking to discover who he was as a person by connecting with like-minded people on the internet. That's when he met a man who excitedly welcomed him into polyamorous relationship. The only problem with the arrangement was that Ryan Zimmerman soon went missing… Written by Michael Dunphy Jr., Executive Produced by Michael Ojibway. Support Our Sponsors: Honeylove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to https://www.honeylove.com/choir! #honeylovepod Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions and manage your expenses the easy way by going to https://www.rocketmoney.com/invisible. BetterHelp: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at https://betterhelp.com/invisiblechoir and get on your way to being your best self. Fabric by Gerber Life: Protect your family today with Fabric by Gerber Life by applying at https://www.meetfabric.com/invisible Warby Parker: Try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free at https://warbyparker.com/choir Visit Invisible Choir on the web: Patreon - Invisible Choir Premium: https://www.patreon.com/InvisibleChoir Website: https://www.invisiblechoir.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InvisibleChoirPodcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/invisiblechoir/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/InvisibleChoir Written/Audio Sources: Woman charged in Mercer County death of Columbus man sentenced to 30 years to life in prison | News | hometownstations.com Marion woman sentenced to life with parole in killing, dismemberment | WANE 15 Ohio Woman Gets Life Sentence for Murdering and Dismembering 21-Year-Old Whose Torso Was Found in State Park Life in Prison | The Daily Standard Stories Mixing vinegar and bleach can be deadly. Thousands make this mistake every year Ryan Zimmerman Arrest made - PressReader Marion woman sentenced to life in prison for Ohio murder | WBAT Arrests made in Zimmerman murder | The Berne Witness Woman pleads guilty to aggravated murder | The Daily Standard Stories Transition, Rejection, and Murder: A Miami Valley Murder Mystery Marion woman arrested in dismembering; her wife/second suspect dies by suicide | WANE 15 Indiana Woman Sentenced For 2015 Murder, Dismemberment Of Husband's Lover In Ohio Two Marion women are suspected to be involved in a 2015 homicide | WBAT One of the Most Bizzare murder mysteries in modern history - 6 year investigation Human Remains found in Mercer County - Jan. 2016 Update: Human Remains found Mercer County Woman charged in case of human remains found in Ohio; 2nd suspect took her own life, police say Mercer County Sheriff announces arrest in Ryan Zimmerman case Shocking & Disturbing Interrogation & Confession by Indiana woman - Sarah Buzzard Police interview! Interrogation of Sarah Buzzard for murder 22-year-old Ryan Zimmerman ‘Someone obviously took advantage of his heart': Ryan Zimmerman's brother pays tribute Sarah Buzzard sentenced in Ryan Zimmerman death Woman charged in Mercer County death of Columbus man sentenced to 30 years to life in prison | News | hometownstations.com Music & Sound Effect Sources Opening Track: “The Birth of a Planet” by Falls Closing Track: “The Search” by CJ-0 Music & Sound Effect Sources All music and sound effects used with express permission under unlimited blanket license authority from Epidemic Sound ® and SoundStripe ®. Individual sources are available via request at info@invisiblechoir.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Today we're joined by Irene Morning, MS, to discuss her book, The Polyamory Paradox, and to pick her brain about somatic coaching, her writing, and more!Irene is a somatic pleasure coach, intimacy educator, polyamorous human, and author of the bestselling book, The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy. Through her coaching, workshops, writing, and in-person sex-positive events, she guides others in creating relationships that fulfill their unique needs and desires. Both her work and personal life revolve around the belief that centering our own pleasure is not only healing on an individual level, but also in service of interdependence and collective well being. Join Beducated for 40% off their yearly pass and level up your sex life at https://beducate.me/pd2332-multiamory with promo code multiamoryThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices