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We're diving into the internet's obsession with the trad wife aesthetic — is it about embracing femininity or just repackaged patriarchy? We unpack what it means to choose a traditional role vs. being boxed into one, the fine line between romanticizing domesticity and reinforcing outdated ideals, and why there should be space for all expressions of womanhood, traditional or not.

Let's unpack what makes posting on social media so cringe. Are we being perceived as someone who isn't present or wants attention? What's the underlying perception but also, why do we care? Oh right, we care a lot.

We're are approaching 28 and feeling… reflective. In this episode, we celebrate a decade of friendship between Sam and Mel by looking back on Mel's party era, wild memories, and the people we've been along the way. Sam shares the saga of her scammer ex (yes, really), and we dive into why friendship feels like the most grounding, important relationship in our lives right now in the late 20s.

We used to roll our eyes at the girlies posting their European summer content… and now, maybe we are them. In this episode, we unpack how hating hard enough may have manifested our own international travel dreams. From current plans to future destinations, we're chatting all things travel, vision boarding, and romanticizing our lives abroad. Is it manifestation or just really good timing?

We survived Coachella car camping… barely. In this episode, we're breaking down our full weekend—starting with the 7.5 hour wait to get into the lot (traumatizing), our favorite moments from the festival, the hinge date that ghosted Sam mid-Chella, and the unexpected celeb run-ins that made it all worth it. It's giving dusty, delulu, and kind of iconic.

From influencer Hinge encounters taken to TikTok to the depths of ScaryTok, we're taking you on a chaotic scroll through the internet this week. We also talk about the rise of "queerbaiting" in pop culture and the concept of fame. Of course, we spiral over the 7-part Hailey and Justin Bieber TikTok deep dive. Is it a conspiracy or just too much free time? You decide.

Tumblr is making a comeback, and so is everything that came with it—think messy, effortless, and just a little chaotic. We're diving into the resurgence of the Tumblr-era aesthetic, from the return of that skinny body trend (ugh) to the rise of animal print and the art of not giving a f*ck. Plus, we take a nostalgic trip down memory lane, revisiting our own Tumblr pages and the “young, wild, and free” energy that shaped an era.

Ever have those days when your energy's at zero, but you still need to function like a grown-up? Same. In this episode, we're spilling the tea on what we do to survive (and maybe even thrive) when we're running on fumes. From staying hydrated, doing the least with a workout, to putting on an outfit that makes us feel cute, we've got all the low-effort tips for turning a lazy day into a good day. So grab your water bottle, get cozy, and listen to how we power through those "meh" days with minimal effort and maximum vibes!

Spring is here, which means it's time to soft launch our summer selves!

Year four at Coachella—can you believe it?! This time, we're switching things up and camping (yes, you read that right). In this episode, we're breaking down what we're packing, our plan for the porta potties and camp showers. Plus, outfit inspo, the vibes we're chasing, and of course, some classic yapping about what we've learned from years past. Let's get into it!

… or is the bar just on the floor? This episode, we're diving into the chaos of modern dating—how apps have completely changed the game, whether confidence is actually just disguised ego, and if we're supposed to lower our standards just to find a decent date. Plus, how many dates does it really take to know it's not working? And, of course, we're sharing the pettiest reasons we've ever called it quits. Buckle up, this one gets real.

We're officially in our ten-year reunion era—and we ended up on the planning committee. In this episode, we break down the realities of planning an event like this—budgets, RSVPs, and trying to make everyone happy. Plus, whether or not it's worth addressing decade-old drama. Do people actually want to reunite, or are we all just showing up to silently judge? Let's talk about the nostalgia, the nerves, and the reality of what a ten-year reunion really looks like.

Time for a seasonal reset! In this episode, we're talking about shedding—letting go of the old to make space for the new. From decluttering our closets (why is it so hard to let go of clothes we never wear?) to revamping routines, switching up our spaces, and even questioning if we really need to dermaplane our faces, we're covering it all. Plus, the struggle of parting with old habits (RIP nightly sweet treats) and making room for things that actually serve us. Tune in for some spring-cleaning-for-the-soul energy!

In this episode, we're joined by Brittany Howard—Mel's sister-in-law—who's about to make a huge move to Amsterdam! We chat all about the journey that led her here, from bad relationships and karmic lessons to the big, life-changing moments that made her take the leap. She's moving for love (how beautiful is that?!) and sharing how this relationship is allowing her to embrace every side of herself—including her femininity in a whole new way. Plus, we get into what it's like to pick up and move across the world, the excitement, the fears, and everything in between. Buckle up for an episode full of love, self-discovery, and big life changes! @beehow @beebournedoula

Before everything went down—the TikTok ban, the inauguration, the LA fires—we sat down to chat about the state of the internet and life itself. We're breaking down Spencer Pratt's iconic crowd work and how he took over TikTok after losing his home, the possible new battle of Instagram vs. YouTube for the next it girl crown, and our personal crisis over whether we all have brain rot. Are we finally entering an era of being offline and present… or is that just wishful thinking? Tune in for the pre-chaos hot takes.

Time for some solo time with Mel! She's diving into everything on her mind—from the overwhelming state of the world (fires, politics, and all the chaos) to the little things keeping her grounded. To bring some light into the mix, she's also sharing her Ins for 2025—covering everything from self-care to creating meaningful connections and hosting spaces for people to escape the noise.

It's a solo episode with Sam! She's taking some time to reflect on how 2024 wrapped up, and what the year overall felt like. Sam also shares what's on her vision board for the year ahead, from personal growth to career goals and everything in between. Plus, a quick correction—Mel's episode will officially go live next week instead, so stay tuned for that! Welcome back!!! We're so excited to be back to posting and can't wait to see what 2025 brings!

What's marriage really like after the “I do's”? In this episode, we sit down with Krystal to chat about her first two years of marriage. Plus, we get into what it's like to trade the hustle and bustle of city life for the slower pace of a small town. We discuss everything from adjusting to new routines to finding joy in the simple things.

In this deeply personal episode, we're opening up about my sister Krystal's journey—from battling childhood cancer to navigating the challenges of toxic relationships. We dive into the ways these experiences shaped her, our family, and the bond we share as siblings. It's a story of resilience, heartbreak, and ultimately, healing the broken connections that life's hardships can create. Join us as we reflect on the past, honor Krystal's strength, and talk about what it takes to rebuild and move forward together. Thank you to Krystal for coming on and sharing her story! Love youuuu! Krystal's IG: @krystalcervantes31

We are in the holiday spirit! We're sharing our plans for the season which consists of travel and creating the perfect activities. Time to start planning New Years!! Is it a cozy night in or are we getting ready to rage? Maybe both?

Need some holiday gift inspo? In this episode, we're sharing our ultimate Christmas wishlists that double as the perfect gift guide! From must-have goodies to thoughtful surprises, we've got ideas for the girls in your life. Tune in for fun, festive vibes and all the holiday shopping tips you need! LTK Linkmel LTKsam LTKEpisode thumbnail art by @kieronpiper

Grab a cocktail glass (or three) and join us for a festive tasting! In this episode, we're diving into a flight of three holiday-inspired drinks—because nothing says Christmas like getting lit. Join us for a crantini, cran mocktail, and a santa shot!

It's officially time to get festive! In this episode, we're talking all about what gets us into the holiday spirit—from decorating for Christmas (team real tree or fake tree?), to our favorite holiday movies, music, and all the cozy vibes that make this season magical. Whether you're already in full festive mode or need a little help getting there, we've got you covered.

Mel takes us on a recap of her dreamy anniversary trip to Mammoth and Big Sur!

We're diving into the importance of doing digital decluttering! ✨ We're talking about unfollowing people who don't spark joy anymore—whether it's randoms, old Hinge matches, or even your ex (it's time). We also get into cleaning up your feed by archiving those cringe-worthy pics and saying goodbye to influencers who don't inspire you. It's all about making your digital space feel as fresh and aligned as your IRL one. Tune in for tips, laughs, and a much-needed cleanse of your online life!

It's that time of year—Black Friday season! We're spilling all the details on our Black Friday wishlist, from gadgets we've been obsessing over to those splurge-worthy items we're hoping to snag on sale. We'll go through what's in our carts, what we're crossing our fingers will get a good discount, and all the deals we're keeping an eye on.

In this episode, we're talking about handling the holiday season when you thrive on socializing but also risk burning out with all the gatherings, parties, and family events. We dive into tips on managing expectations, pacing yourself, and balancing the need for connection with the inevitable moments of overwhelm. From family dinners to holiday parties, we chat about navigating it all without losing your spark—or your sanity.

Are single men are the new crazy cat ladies? We dive into why seemingly great, single guys might raise a few eyebrows—like, what's really going on there? Are they secretly sketchy, or just embracing their independence in a new way? We chat about how this phenomenon flips the usual narrative, join us as we hilariously debate whether it's cute, concerning, or just the new normal for single men in 2024!

In this episode, we dive into what it's like being the last single friend in the group. We chat about all the mixed feelings—everything from feeling left behind and dealing with the pressure to settle down, to embracing your independence and finding joy in your solo journey.

Let's dive into the big question: How long is too long to wait for a proposal? Whether you've been dating for a few years or a decade, figuring out the “right” timeline for engagement can be tricky. We talk about societal expectations, personal timelines, and what we think are red flags (or green flags!) when it comes to waiting for that next step. It's all about having a conversation and knowing what YOU and your partner wants.

We're diving into the 80/20 theory in relationships—how to balance finding someone who checks all the boxes while being realistic about no one being “perfect.” We also get into the chaos of on-again, off-again relationships and what they might be teaching us. Sam opens up about getting honest with herself and what she truly wants in a relationship, does she know? Join us as we explore what it means to settle, to hold out for more, and to figure out what's worth fighting for.

In this episode, we're spilling all the latest pop culture tea you need to know! From Aspyn Ovard's jaw-dropping comeback and spicy divorce drama to the internet's favorite new show Agatha All Along and morning girl taking over your feeds, there's a lot to unpack. Plus, we dive into shocking updates on the Menendez brothers and so much more. If you're craving the juiciest news and some fun, unfiltered takes, don't miss out on this week's episode.

In this episode, we're diving into all things Friendsgiving! From planning the perfect menu and fun drink ideas to creating a cozy, welcoming vibe, we cover everything you need to host a Friendsgiving everyone will love. We'll talk about organizing who brings what, fun game ideas, and a few tips to keep it new and fun. Grab your friends, pick out your favorite recipes, and let's make this Friendsgiving the best one yet!

In the spirit of shorter episodes, we are giving you a quick run down on whats been going on lately! From dog updates to meeting two girls at Guinness, the high of Sam's Europe trip, and... the time Mel's neighbor tried to break in?! Yep, it's been a whirlwind.

We dive into a fun discussion about what we might be too old for this Halloween! From costumes to partying, we're reflecting on whether we've really outgrown some of the spooky season's traditions, or if age is just a number. We share what our perfect Halloween might look like and leave you wondering—are we ever really too old for Halloween fun?

Sam catches us up on her two weeks in Europe, and how she is still recovering. This trip brought out a lot of feelings and reminders of how life is changing, for the better! Tune in for the latest on Sam's travels, pottery ventures, and what she's been reflecting on post-trip.

Mel gives a life update and dives into some personal reflections. She shares how far she's come emotionally and financially, expresses gratitude for the journey, and talks about her excitement for her partner Logan's new career in real estate. Mel also reflects on growing from young adulthood to nearing 30, wishes she had been a theater kid (Wicked, anyone?), and chats about the movies she's recently watched. Plus, she opens up about feeling a bit nervous as the upcoming election approaches.

We sit down with our friend Linny to talk about the big 3-0! We dive into everything from making decisions with your gut and navigating dating in your 30s to embracing your Saturn return and the life changes that come with it. We also chat about aging (sunscreen, anyone?), evolving personal style, and how our bodies change as you enter this new decade. So much to cover and we had so much fun doing it. p.s. we lost footage of linny at the end but you can find her on Instagram @linnylevesque

We dive into the psychology of fear with our friend Linny, an OCD therapist, who gives us her expert take on why we enjoy scary movies, what's really behind those intrusive thoughts, beliefs in paranormal and more. If you've ever wondered why fear can be so fascinating, this one is for you! Tune in for a mix of insight, spooky stories, and a chat on the inner workings of our minds.

We're diving into the fine line between oversharing, venting, and just plain yapping. When is it too much? Where do you draw the line between healthy venting and learning to self-soothe? We chat about personal experiences with unloading our thoughts, and how to figure out when it's time to stop talking.

We're reflecting on all the exciting moments from the past quarter! From our quarter 3 birthday celebrations to Mel bringing home a new dog, and Sam's planning a last minute European trip—there's so much to catch up on. We're talking about the highlights, the behind-the-scenes of our recent episodes, and everything that's been going on.

In this episode, we dive into how reconnecting with your childhood joy might just be the key to finding happiness as an adult. From embracing playfulness to rediscovering simple pleasures, we explore how bringing childlike fun back into your life can make everything feel a little lighter. We also share some creative ideas on how to reignite that youthful spark and weave it into your everyday adult life.

We're Perfect, Even When We Make Mistakes: A Journey of Self-Forgiveness. In this episode, we're getting real about how the mistakes we make shape who we are. We dive into the power of self-forgiveness and how to move through those tough moments with love and grace. If you've ever struggled with letting go of a misstep, this one's for you—because learning to embrace the lessons in our mistakes is what really helps us grow.

As the heat wave leaves us, we're sharing our favorite ways to feel grounded and refreshed this autumn! We're embracing cooler weather with comforting rituals and activities and food we're looking forward to. Tune in for tips on everything from skincare routines to soul-soothing activities that'll help you make the most of the fall season.

Let's talk about how to carry all the good vibes from brat summer into our fall energy. While we're summer girls at heart, there's something about this fall that just feels right. Whether it's the rebellious spirit of brat summer rolling into brat autumn (or should we say brautumn?), we're ready to embrace the crisp air, comfort food, and all the cozy activities. Join us as we find new ways to channel that bratty, carefree energy into a season of warmth and self-care.

We're going into last week's emotional rollercoaster of interviewing Sam's ex's new EX girlfriend, Anna. We opened up about the cheating, how it impacted both of us, and what it was like to face it head-on with listening into Anna's story. It turned into a moment of real healing and connection, something we didn't expect but really needed. Tune in for an honest and heartfelt recap of that powerful conversation.

Late twenties means finding that sweet spot between stability and spontaneity. In this episode, we explore how important it is for us to build an established life while still leaving room for adventure—whether it's creating a community that feels like home, traveling to new places, or just letting loose and enjoying the moment. Let's talk about what really matters as we navigate this exciting stage of life.

Let's sit down with Sam's ex's now ex-girlfriend, Anna, after he was caught cheating. We're diving into more drama from within their relationship. But it's not just about the scandal—Anna's got a story of her own, and we're getting to know her beyond the relationship. Tune in for juicy details, some real talk on cheating, and a fresh perspective from Anna herself. If you missed the first episode, you missed the cheating storytime, so don't miss that one either! Please be so kind to Anna for getting vulnerable on the internet to share her story with us this week. It's not easy and we really just wish the best for everyone involved!Follow Anna! @anna_grantham_

What is a girl to do when she finds out her boyfriend cheated on her? Oh duh, reach out to his last girlfriend that he also cheated on to trauma bond and record a podcast episode..or two. Let's welcome Anna as she opens up and tells us all the tea of discovering she was cheated on.

Join us as we spill the tea on everything pop culture this week!We're talking about Sam's unexpected DM from an old flame just before her birthday, the most thrilling moments from the Olympics, and why Miley Cyrus is forever a Disney legend. Let's take a trip down memory lane with our favorite Disney originals and chat about how impossible it's getting to keep up with all the new content. And yes, we're diving deep into the latest It Ends With Us drama.

It's time to hang up the bikinis to dry. With summer winding down, are you feeling that end of summer FOMO creeping in? In this episode, we're talking about the envy of watching everyone jet off on those dreamy Euro vacations and the struggle of balancing time between family and friends. Join us for a fun and relatable chat as we navigate the bittersweet vibes of summer's end and find ways to make the most of what's left!