House on Fire

Join the hosts of House on Fire as we dive into the role that self-validation plays in managing overwhelming emotions, building resilience, and maintaining relationships. We'll explore the what, how, where, when, and why behind this skill, sharing practical tips and anecdotes - including an ever-present emphasis on our love for Taylor Swift. Whether you're a parent, a therapist, or someone seeking personal growth, our season one finale will offer valuable insights to help you trust and honor your own experiences. Hop in our 'Getaway Car,' license to validate in-hand, as we draw our first season to a close! 

In this episode of House on Fire, join us for an exploration into the dynamics of validation in relationships — a tool that plays a crucial role in how we connect with others. Tune in as we share personal experiences and anecdotes, offering a candid look at how validation manifests in our own lives. With humor, humility, and empathy, the hosts of House on Fire walk listeners through the six levels of validation. Listen now to discover how validation influences our relationships, amidst both festive, celebratory gatherings and the ordinary moments of our lives!

Join the hosts of House on Fire as we dive into the intricate dynamics of family relationships! Our conversation examines the inherent tensions, conflicts, and harmonies that shape family life, unraveling the complexities of some of our closest bonds. Tune in for insights on navigating conflicts, finding common ground, and fostering deeper connections within your own interpersonal relationships. Through anecdotes and DBT skills, we'll be exploring how to find a synthesis. It's a worthy expedition, and we hope that you'll embark upon it with us!

We're walking a middle path (with a pep in our steps!). Join House on Fire as we dive into the world of workplace dialectics. Discover how striking that balance of opposing ideas and perspectives can enhance connection and alleviate suffering across three common stress points: interpersonal conflict at work, navigating job transitions, and seeking work/life balance. How do Razor Scooters, Khloe Kardashian, and preparing lemonade fit in? Join us to find out, and learn more about finding your workplace equilibrium. 

Step onto the ice with us as we explore the world of mindfulness in athletics with professional goaltender and Olympian, Strauss Mann. In this candid interview, Strauss shares his personal journey from youth hockey to the professional ranks, offering valuable insights into the challenges and triumphs that come with being the last line of defense on the ice. Discover how he harnesses the power of mindfulness to stay focused, composed, and resilient, even when facing slap shots and an arena full of fans. Join us as we explore how the principles of mindfulness can apply to any athlete, regardless of their sport. Whether you're a goalie, a forward, or a fan, there's something here for everyone interested in the intersection of sports and mental well-being.

Anyone else change the channel when those 'back to school' commercials come on? Avoid those early morning wake ups for as long as possible? Notice increasing worry thoughts about schedules and classroom assignments and extracurriculars? As the summer break draws to a close, and the school year begins anew, it's time to delve into the practice of DBT's mindfulness HOW skills to help ease the transition for students, parents, and educators alike. Join the hosts of House on Fire as we welcome special guest Dr. Sarah DeSoye, a clinical and school psychologist with extensive knowledge of all things DBT and 'back to school!' 

Join House on Fire for a candid, heartfelt, and insightful discussion with content creator Lucie Fink! After being a regular Millennial correspondent on NBC's TODAY Show and the face of Refinery29's video team, Lucie is now the President and CEO of Lucie Fink Media. Our conversation follows her journey through the intricacies of motherhood, marriage, and mental health — as always, with an infusion of DBT! Lucie shares valuable lessons, stories, and practical tips that will resonate with anyone navigating the beautiful complexities of building a life worth living. Tune in for a good laugh, as well as a hearty dose of inspiration and empowerment. Connect with Lucie:Instagram: @luciebfinkTikTok: @luciebfinkWebsite: https://www.luciefink.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@luciebfink

Do you ever find yourself worrying about the future? Lamenting the past? Operating on autopilot as you head to work, do the dishes, or even interact with family, friends, and colleagues? DBT has two core sets of mindfulness skills: "WHAT" skills and "HOW" skills. Join us as we explore mindfulness — paying attention to the present moment, on-purpose, non-judgmentally — and learn what the heck those "WHAT" skills are all about. 

Join the hosts of House on Fire as we close out our discussion on attachment with good humor, personal anecdotes, and a bit of skill-building! Bringing some DBT into the mix, we address the parallels between each attachment style and DBT's three states of mind: wise mind, reasonable mind, and emotion mind. A balance between logic and emotions is what we're after, and this episode is all about HOW to own one's attachment style effectively. Let's find wise mind together, and embrace our emotions while honoring logic in our own interpersonal relationships. 

Join House on Fire as we dive into the fascinating world of attachment styles! Whether you heard about it in Psych 101, on TikTok, or from that friend who loves to share advice, it's clear that attachment is often misunderstood and overly simplified in our day-to-day discourse. In this two-parter, we demystify the anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles, shedding light on their impact on relationships. Discover how your attachment style influences the way you relate to others and learn practical strategies for fostering healthier connections through DBT. Tune in and embark on a journey towards deeper connection and personal growth!

Ever find yourself at a skills breakdown point? That moment when your emotional distress is so high that emotion mind is driving the car at full speed, and it's not taking you any closer to using complicated skills or problem solving? House on Fire is here to walk you through this protocol and to facilitate further troubleshooting of DBT's emotion regulation skills. As always, we've also got quite a few of our own examples — from traffic jams to financial discussions to 'hot' topics with loved ones. Join us this episode as we chat through effectively managing extreme emotions! 

On this special interview episode of House on Fire, in honor of National Mental Health Awareness Month, we're speaking with Vaughan Bagley, the Director of Social Impact at MTV Entertainment Group. Join us as we discuss a plethora of topics: from the intersection between mental health, media, storytelling, and action (individual and collective), to Mental Health Action Day, to corporate responsibility in depicting the full continuum of mental health in media. As Vaughan shares, referencing a conversation had with a youth organizer, '1/5 people have a mental health crisis, but 5/5 people have mental health.' Mental health IS health, and we are excited to support a process of enhancing and diversifying accessibility to resources, as well as to work towards destigmatizing and broadening definitions of mental health for all. Sources:https://www.mentalhealthishealth.us/https://www.mentalhealthaction.network/

What if you changed your relationship to experiencing your emotions? Rather than blocking, suppressing, distracting or avoiding your emotions, what if you...felt your feelings...without necessarily acting on them? Mindfulness of Current Emotions means observing, describing, and “allowing” your emotions. This episode is an invitation, a greeting, to both you AND your emotions. Welcome home, friend! The hosts of House on Fire will walk you through this DBT emotion regulation skill with personal anecdotes, good humor, and a good old-fashioned role play. 

"Recovery is like going from living in black and white to living in color." Join the hosts of House on Fire as we chat with Dr. Julie Trim, of Julie Trim, PhD & Associates, about her work specializing in DBT for Eating Disorder Recovery. https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/https://www.theprojectheal.org/https://anad.org/https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/eating-disorders

Our latest episode of House on Fire explores opposite action, a DBT emotion regulation skill, in the context of eating disorders and eating disordered behaviors. Particularly in light of NEDA Week (February 27 - March 5), promoting awareness and spreading hope for those in recovery is of the utmost importance to us at Behavioral Psych Studio. If listening to information on this topic does not feel safe, or may be potentially triggering, we advise listeners to take a break from this month's episode. Additionally, immediate assistance is available for those in need of help. The SAMHSA National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357 is a confidential, free, 24-hour-a-day, 365-days-a-year information and referral service. For anyone experiencing a crisis, immediate help is also available by calling the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988.

It's a New Year, and likely — a relatively similar you! That's okay! And, perhaps this shift from 2022 to 2023 has got you thinking about some problems you may want to solve. Anyone here considering making a change of some sort? Might you be looking for a new job, a more lively neighborhood, a different partner? Well, join House on Fire to chat through Dr. Marsha Linehan's process for problem solving, an emotion regulation skill we know, love, and utilize with frequency. 

Ever notice that your interpretations of a situation, rather than the facts, can lead to strong negative emotions? Ever notice the manifestation of that adage 'Compare and Despair!' in your own life? Episode 10 is all about DBT's Emotion Regulation Skill — Check the Facts! Get out your magnifying glasses and join us at 221B Baker Street for some detective work on our thoughts, especially as we head into the holidays and the new year.  We're also talking The White Lotus, Titanique, and, as always, a little homework review from last month. 

We've set our clocks back, taken out our parkas, and cranked up our radiators — winter is coming, people! Join clinicians at Behavioral Psych Studio as we offer a warm welcome to our first interviewee, Jesse Finkelstein! Jesse is here to chat about his experiences as a DBT clinician, researcher, animator, and creator of The Game of Real Life. AND, that's not all! He's also chatting with us about ABC PLEASE, an especially useful set of emotion regulation skills as we round the corner on those slightly colder, slightly darker winter months. Cue the Game of Thrones theme music, because we've got a whole menu of skills from which to choose!Sources:https://www.talkgood.org/https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/seasonal-affective-disorderhttps://www.bu.edu/articles/2019/seasonal-affective-disorder/

When you think about the holiday season, what emotions, sensations, and judgments come up for you? Maybe you're heading home for the holidays. Maybe you're staying home for the holidays. Maybe you're traveling. Maybe you're working. Whatever you're doing, if you're looking for ways to cope ahead for the holiday season, Episode 8 of House on Fire  touches upon DBT's Emotion Regulation skill of coping ahead, and provides additional DBT-SUD skills like the three states of mind and dialectical abstinence. An episode packed with, as always, a little bit of cheeky humor, playfulness, and some clinician vulnerability. 

Have you ever had thumbs on fire? A desire, so strongly, to text or to email or to post — perhaps something that might not be aligned with your long term, wise mind goals? This month's episode explores Pros and Cons, Adaptive Denial, and Alternate Rebellion through the lens of social media use. Join House on Fire as we chat through these three skills, a heaping ton of recently published social media-oriented literature, Kimmy Schmidt, and Adele Dazeem. Sources:https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8072507/https://opmed.doximity.com/articles/instagram-vs-reality-a-critical-look-at-black-teens-mental-healthhttps://www.jahonline.org/article/S1054-139X(19)30164-8/fulltexthttps://abcdstudy.org/https://sproutsocial.com/insights/guides/social-media-use-by-generation/https://www.proquest.com/docview/2580975116?accountid=10226&parentSessionId=M%2FzYPmwOY6BQ8XS1AEig7IhUE4C7g1aej966H3aSvpc%3D&pq-origsite=summonhttps://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/2785686

Ever find yourself in the midst of an argument or heated exchange with a loved one and wondering — how did we even get here? What are we even talking about right now? Join clinicians at Behavioral Psych Studio as we discuss DBT's STOP skill, a distress tolerance skill that provides space for pausing in the heat of the moment, taking a step back, and proceeding mindfully. As The Supremes sang, "STOP in the Name of Love!"  

Join clinicians at Behavioral Psych Studio as we expand upon our discussion of radical acceptance, a DBT distress tolerance skill, through the lens of traumatic invalidation and supporting our TGNB (Transgender/Nonbinary) loved ones. This episode emphasizes a series of key points, including a hard truth that ruptures may occur within the relationships we value most. AND, it is possible to reach affirming, genuine repairs. Listen, reflect, and celebrate a truth we hold dear: Pride Month is Every Month. Sources:https://www.glaad.org/transgender/resources https://behavioralpsychstudio.com/10-tips-to-support-your-tgnb-transgender-nonbinary-loved-one/https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5996383/

Ever find yourself fighting your reality? Pushing back against those lemons life throws at you — both big and small — and getting trapped in a cycle of suffering?  While pain is an inevitable part of life, suffering does not have to be. Join clinicians at Behavioral Psych Studio as we explore Radical Acceptance, a DBT distress tolerance skill that can be applied to any lemon that life throws at you: whether that's an overflowing toilet, a global pandemic, or a sudden change in plans. Acceptance is not approval, and it is often the birthplace of relief and change. Sources:https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/22/well/mind/radical-acceptance-suffering.htmlhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwNnG7mIu1Ehttps://www.tarabrach.com/books/radical-acceptance/

Ever find yourself struggling to say no? Making excessive apologies, excuses, or caveats at the expense of your self-respect? Ever looking for ways to build or maintain relationships with your family, friends, or colleagues in a way that feels organic and authentic to you? Join clinicians at Behavioral Psych Studio as we explore GIVE and FAST, two Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills that enhance one's interpersonal effectiveness. We're also talking Gwen and Blake, 'situationships,' and PG-13 movies. Sources:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TcGKxLJ4ZGIhttps://www.forbes.com/sites/ashiraprossack1/2020/10/21/how-to-say-no-to-at-work/?sh=326c9c9c4b19http://www.co.grant.mn.us/DocumentCenter/View/2701/Levels-of-Validation-Handout

Ever find it challenging to ask for what you want? To say no? Join clinicians at Behavioral Psych Studio as we delve into one of our most favorite interpersonal effectiveness skills: DEAR MAN. We're talking skills deficits, Bruno, and the long term benefits of being interpersonally effective. Consider the words of Dr. Marsha Linehan, DBT's founder: “Life is not about being right, it is about being effective.”Sources: https://www.newharbinger.com/9781684034581/the-dialectical-behavior-therapy-skills-workbook/https://www.proquest.com/docview/2444585286?accountid=10226&parentSessionId=qy5KTgmaK7E7Od5xmm%2Be89wrndbrQAoRxddUqHjMvmo%3D&pq-origsite=summon

Ever made a New Year's resolution? Ever upheld it for 365 days and then some? Us neither. Join clinicians at Behavioral Psych Studio as we talk about dialectical, flexible thinking in the context of goal setting, snakes, vegetables, and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Sources: https://www.forbes.com/sites/markmurphy/2020/02/11/this-is-the-month-when-new-years-resolutions-fail-heres-how-to-save-them/?sh=6e59f8d9272fhttps://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/a-study-of-800-million-activities-predicts-most-new-years-resolutions-will-be-abandoned-on-january-19-how-you-cancreate-new-habits-that-actually-stick.html