Podcasts about emotion regulation

This week's Full of Beans episode tackles one of the most critical (and controversial) topics in eating disorder care: are eating disorders really untreatable, or are we simply using the wrong tools?We're joined by the brilliant Dr. Anita Federici, clinical psychologist and international DBT trainer. Dr. Federici has worked with those considered “treatment-resistant” and asks an important question: is it the person who's resistant, or is the system failing to meet their needs?Key TakeawaysThe limitations of traditional CBT models in eating disorder care The importance of DBT's acceptance-based approach The importance of understanding trauma, neurodivergence & emotional dysregulation in recoveryThe reality of two contradictions existing: I want to recover AND I need to engage in my eating disorder. The danger of labels like "terminal anorexia" and "severe and enduring"Why the system may be treatment resistant, not the individualThe vital role of clinicians in holding hope for their patients The ethical dilemma of the assisted dying billTimestamps: 04:50 – DBT vs CBT in eating disorder treatment 16:10 – Treatment-resistant or treatment-mismatched? 24:30 – The assisted dying bill: ethical concerns 33:00 – Who gets labelled “terminal” and why? 42:00 – Why hope isn't optional, it's essentialTrigger warning: This episode discusses eating disorders, suicidal ideation and assisted dying. Connect with Us:

Daily stress turns many of us into emotional bombs. Who knows when we'll blow up unless we can be effectively diffused! Today, Coach Kelsey Coppinger helps us reflect on the spiritual practices of Jesus and what they teach us about self-control.For your gift of any amount.....Everyday Outreach  goes back to the Bible to help you discover how to share the hope of the Gospel in everyday ways with neighbors, co-workers, friends, and family - right where God has planted you. Click here to get your copies today.Thank you for supporting the mission of Christ.

Ever wonder why your child can't sit still during lessons? Why they melt down when they're wearing certain clothes? Or why they're suddenly screaming at you when they haven't eaten in hours? The answer might lie in sensory processing—a critical yet often overlooked component of learning and behavior.In this illuminating conversation, occupational therapist Sarah Collins unpacks how our sensory systems influence every aspect of learning and daily life. Beyond the familiar five senses we all know, she explains how our vestibular system (balance), proprioception (body awareness), and interoception (internal body signals) create the foundation for successful learning and emotional regulation.Sarah reveals the surprising connection between body awareness and emotion regulation, backed by research showing that children who struggle to sense what's happening in their bodies often have difficulty managing their emotions. This knowledge transforms how we understand "difficult" behaviors—what looks like defiance or lack of focus might actually be sensory overwhelm.The homeschooling environment offers unique opportunities to accommodate sensory needs. Instead of forcing children to adapt to one-size-fits-all learning environments, parents can create flexible spaces that support each child's sensory profile. Maybe your child comprehends better while gently rocking, standing, or even upside down! As Sarah explains, "calm" doesn't necessarily mean "still"—it means the nervous system is regulated enough to process information effectively.Most powerfully, Sarah shares practical strategies for identifying sensory needs and adapting environments accordingly. From morning routines that incorporate movement to sensory-friendly workspaces, these approaches can dramatically improve learning outcomes. She also discusses how to balance competing sensory needs when siblings have different—sometimes opposite—requirements for successful learning.Ready to transform your homeschool experience? Listen now to discover how understanding sensory processing can lead to less frustration, more enjoyment, and deeper learning for your entire family.CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.TheBrainyMoms.com Email: info@TheBrainyMoms.com Social Media: @TheBrainyMoms Our sponsor's website: www.LearningRx.comSandy's TikTok: @TheBrainTrainerLadyDr. Amy's brand new IG: @DrAmySaysGraceDr. Amy's website: www.AmyMoorePhD.com

In this episode, Dr. Hardison constructed psychological profiles for each of the court cards in the cups suit including positive and negative personality traits and a list of psychological conditions she thinks would be most prominent with this suit. These profiles will help you understand these court cards at a deeper level. And at the end of the episode, she shares the Emotion Regulation Spread she created that was inspired by the traits and characteristics of the cups suit.Companion Blog on ⁠⁠healingthrutarot.com⁠⁠ that goes with this podcast episode ⁠⁠click here⁠⁠Affiliate links below - it helps me out a little if you purchase from these links.⁠⁠The Light Seers Tarot⁠⁠⁠⁠Rider Waite Smith Tarot⁠⁠Your Tarot Court⁠⁠⁠The Divining Sisters Series Novels⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Healing Thru Tarot Spread Ebooks for saleTo purchase my ⁠Healing Thru Tarot Life Path and Purpose spread eBook or any of my 5 spread ebooks ⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠In this 5th spread ebook in the Healing Thru Tarot Spread Ebook line, I include 15 custom spreads I've created to help you identify and align with your life path and sail to success. Spreads like the life path alignment spread, lightwork path guidance spread, conquering obstacles on my path spread, advice from my future self-spread, and karmic healing path spread will help you position yourself to step into your full power and achieve the purpose you incarnated to fulfill. Plus many more spreads offering guidance and advice to get on path and stay on track. $12 on healingthrutarot.comMy social⁠⁠Biolink for all my social accounts⁠⁠Insta ⁠⁠@healingthrutarot⁠⁠⁠⁠Pinterest account⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠healingthrutarot.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠author.heatherhardison.com⁠⁠⁠Enjoying the podcast? Buy me a coffee for a couple of bucks. ⁠⁠click here⁠⁠Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast is not a substitute for consulting a mental health care professional. All information included herein, including information relating to physical, mental, emotional, psychological, and spiritual health, is for educational or entertainment purposes only. While I utilize my psychological knowledge and background in everything I do in life, I am not acting in the role of a psychologist when offering my thoughts in these episodes. Seek professional help for psychological and emotional issues as they arise.As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases when you use my affiliate links.

Have you noticed a pattern in your life where you use food to solve all the things? Whether you are cold, tired, behind schedule or intimidated or unsure or angry, does your brain say "should we eat something?" Even if you aren't hungry at all?This is exactly how emotional eating makes us act:  We find ourselves using the same action (eating) to respond to any kind of feeling rather than stopping to discern what's actually happening and choosing a response from the many available options.Well, my friend, you are not alone! Emotional eating is fairly common and "just trying to stop" is rarely successful.Join Georgie and Christina in today's episode, which is the third and final installment of our Emotion Regulation series as we cover some of the more advanced skills that we teach our clients to help them leave behind emotional eating and binge eating.Find Part 1 of the episode HERE.Find Part 2 of the episode HERE.Check out the graphic on Emotion Regulation tools here: https://photos.app.goo.gl/ZbhXbx4mmeuQKEYSAConnect with Georgie and the Confident Eaters Coaches: WebsiteFacebookInstagramHave you ever thought, "I know what to do, I just need to consistently do it"? Who hasn't? Sometimes we need accountability. Sometimes we need specific strategies, new tools, or a bit of help. If you are want help to become a confident, sensible eater with 1:1 personalized attention, sign up at ConfidentEaters.com.

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...   Simple, effective emotion regulation strategies that actually work for 6-year-olds when disappointment over losing takes over—and how to use them in a way that feels supportive, not controlling. When to step in and what to say—a breakdown of the best parenting approaches before, during, and after a game to help your child manage big feelings in the moment (and build skills for the future). The secret to teaching good sportsmanship outside of game time—why some of the most powerful lessons happen when no one's keeping score. How the exact same words you say to your child can be either validating and invading - and what makes the difference so you can avoid the latter.  How to keep things fun while still building resilience—because not every moment needs to be a teaching moment (and knowing when to step back is just as important). Unpacking the root drive of competitiveness in children so you know how to best channel this toward healthy and socially acceptable behaviors.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

In der 94. Folge bringt Anja hotte Transfer News für Tabea, Josi und euch mit. Gut das die Osterzeit ohne Glasfaser, mit minimaler Bildschirmzeit und dem frischen Patenkind Berta recht gemütlich war, denn das haut selbst den coolsten VAR aus dem bequemen Rollsessel. Wie immer gibts Quiz und Buchtipps-vibes am Ende und hier schon mal den Ausblick für die nächsten wilden Tage: Arsenal - Kemme reist zurück zu ihrer alten Wirkungsstätte Anja - Outfitchecks für anstehende Arzttermine Josi - versucht Emotionregulation "auf schaaf" zu übersetzen Sheepsheep,... los geht`s.

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...   - What are sensory seeking and sensory inhibiting behaviors and drives?   - How you can determine whether your child's "aggressive behaviors” are actually sensory seeking - and how this changes the interventions you use.   - Are these behaviors volitional? Our answer might surprise you!   - What to do if your child's aggressive behaviors don't seem to be fueled by a reaction to anything in the environment (aka, they hit the kid next to them seemingly out of nowhere.)   - The occupational therapy strategies that parents can use with your kids to activate their sensory input systems.   - Why helping kids understand themselves opens the door to allowing them to build their regulation toolkit.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

How do children learn to understand and regulate the emotions? In this episode, I sit down with professor and psychologist Kristen Lindquist to explore how kids develop the ability to recognize, label, and regulate their emotions. We talk about the power of language in shaping emotional growth, the fine line between validating feelings and overwhelming kids with labels, and how temperament plays a role in emotional development.I WROTE MY FIRST BOOK! Order your copy of The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans Here: https://bit.ly/3rMLMsLSubscribe to my free newsletter for parenting tips delivered straight to your inbox: draliza.substack.com Follow me on Instagram for more:@raisinggoodhumanspodcast Sponsors:YNAB: Listeners of Raising Good Humans can claim an exclusive three-month free trial, with no credit card required at “www.YNAB.com/humans.” Good Ranchers: Free bacon, ground beef, seed oil free chicken nuggets, or wild-caught salmon in every order for a year + $40 off with HUMANS goodranchers.com Quince: Go to Quince.com/humans for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.Wayfair: Head over to Wayfair.com and find something that's just your style todayGabb: For the best deals, sign up to Gabb today– no contract required–at GABB.com/HUMANSSakara: Head to Sakara.com and check out The Essentials Bundle. And donʼt forget to tell them how you heard about them at checkout (podcast - Raising Good Humans)Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you noticed a pattern in your life where you use food to solve all the things? Whether you are cold, tired, behind schedule or intimidated or unsure or angry, does your brain say "should we eat something?" Even if you aren't hungry at all?This is exactly how emotional eating makes us act:  We find ourselves using the same action (eating) to respond to any kind of feeling rather than stopping to discern what's actually happening and choosing a response from the many available options.Well, my friend, you are not alone! Emotional eating is fairly common and "just trying to stop" is rarely successful. Join Georgie and Christina in today's episode, which is part 2 of our Emotion Regulation series as we cover some of the more advanced skills that we teach our clients to help them leave behind emotional eating and binge eating. Find Part 1 of the episode HERE. Check out the graphic on Emotion Regulation tools here: https://photos.app.goo.gl/ZbhXbx4mmeuQKEYSAConnect with Georgie and the Confident Eaters Coaches: WebsiteFacebookInstagramHave you ever thought, "I know what to do, I just need to consistently do it"? Who hasn't? Sometimes we need accountability. Sometimes we need specific strategies, new tools, or a bit of help. If you are want help to become a confident, sensible eater with 1:1 personalized attention, sign up at ConfidentEaters.com.

Question: How does nature help with regulation and balance?   Dave's forest therapy training - https://anft.earth/   Emotion Regulation tip #1 - let things be complicated Science and mystery Concrete concepts around ourselves and our bodies as well as spiritual or less concrete concepts around ourselves   Emotion Regulation tip  #2 - we regulate when we provide a space For each other (co-regulation) For ourselves (self-regulation) We are a part of nature and regulate within nature. We are constantly in a process of shedding and restoring. God designed us with internal and externally connected regulation methods.   Emotion Regulation tip #3 - getting out of our own way of regulating How do we accidentally get in the way of regulating naturally? Origins of forest therapy with the advent of tech/media Benefits of the natural world on our cardiovascular system   Emotion Regulation tip #4 -find the blue spaces and the green spaces 3 specific outlined mechanisms for emotion regulation in nature:  foster positive emotions Signals parasympathetic nervous system or rest/wellbeing state  connection and care of nature as respite, rebuilds energy   Emotion Regulation tip #5 - practice grounding Finding a sense in our body that we have a firm foundation, tethered to the ground or our seat Often feel “ungrounded” in chaotic world and holding 3-5 emotions at any given time Increasing vagal tone Links: ANFT website - https://anft.earth/ Enoch story (Genesis 5)  Noah Kahan, Stick Season - https://youtu.be/iWG6apzIWAk?si=EBS0Ll7biACsxNob Inside Out - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2096673/ Job 38-42   Research: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_trees_can_make_you_happier#:~:text=Those%20who%20gazed%20at%20a,break%20from%20our%20frenzied%20lifestyles. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0272494424000987#:~:text=In%20everyday%20life%2C%20people%20are,et%20al.%2C%202019).

Welcome to Part 2 of our in-depth review of Grant Bosnick's 'Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership.' In this episode, we delve into the significance of hydration for brain health, discovering 'aha' moments through creative insights, and the influential power of expectations on our well-being and success. We also explore the neuroscience behind staying mentally strong and regulate emotions effectively through improved sleep patterns. Join us as we unravel these fascinating research-backed strategies to enhance your self-leadership skills. Welcome back to SEASON 13 of The Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast, where we connect the science-based evidence behind social and emotional learning and emotional intelligence training for improved well-being, achievement, productivity and results—using what I saw as the missing link (since we weren't taught this when we were growing up in school), the application of practical neuroscience. I'm Andrea Samadi, an author, and an educator with a passion for learning and launched this podcast 6 years ago with the goal of bringing ALL the leading experts together (in one place) to help us to APPLY this research in our daily lives. And we will now resume PART 2 of our 4-PART review, to sum up last year, 2024, and our entire year studying one book, Grant Bosnick's “Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership: A Bite Size Approach Using Psychology and Neuroscience” that we first dove into with our interview on EP #321[i] the end of January 2024. The goal was that each week, we focused on learning something new, (from Grant's book) tied to the most current neuroscience research, that builds off the prior week, to help take us to greater heights this year. It honestly shocked me that this series took the entire year.  Last week, we began with PART 1[ii] and the first 5 chapters of the book. Today we will review chapters 6-9 of Grant Bosnick's Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership. ((On today's EPISODE #356 PART 2 of our review of Grant Bosnick's Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership, we will cover)): ✔ EP 327 Chapter 6[iii] “The Hydrated Brain” ✔ EP 330 Chapter 7[iv]“Aha Moments, Creative Insights/the Brain” ✔ EP 333 Chapter 8[v] “Exploring the Power of Expectations” ✔ EP 335 Chapter 9[vi] “The Neuroscience Behind Staying Strong and Clear-Headed” If you have not yet taken the leadership self-assessment, or if you would like to re-take it to see if the results are different for you than last year, you can click the link here to find the quick test.   Self-Assessment Results 2024 vs 2025 I re-took the assessment for 2025, and did notice some similarities and some differences. See what you notice about yourself. I noticed that pathways 2 and 3 are my high areas of focus this year, and that I can drop pathway 6 from my focus. What about you? If you have a few minutes to spare, take this leadership self-assessment again, and see if you notice any changes in yourself for 2025. Did any of your pathways of focus shift since last year? REMEMBER: We are either moving forward into growth, or backwards to safety. (Abraham Maslow). EP 327 Chapter 6 “The Hydrated Brain”   For this episode, I remember wondering how on the earth can we narrow the focus of this topic of health and wellness that Bosnick covers thoroughly in Chapter 6? Dr. Peter Attia[vii], a Canadian-American physician, known for his medical practice that focuses on the science of longevity, says that “exercise might be the most potent “drug” we have for extending the quality and perhaps quantity of our years of life.” He created a rule that he thought would help narrow this focus and it was called “Attia's Rule”[viii] where he suggests that can't even talk about this topic, unless you have reached a certain level of health yourself. I agree, as this is one area we have been focused on this podcast, and I notice that as I strengthen one area, I lose sight of another. It's an ongoing quest for balance, and I wouldn't say I've mastered the balance yet. We dove deep into Attia's Rule on our EP back in October 2022, “Using Neuroscience to Improve Fitness, Longevity and Overall Health.”[ix] Dr. Attia says that nutrition and health arguments are a waste of your time until you've completed a certain set of criteria. He says don't bother defending this topic unless you can: Dead hang for a minute (try this! I honestly thought I was going to die when I did this 2 years ago). I'm not sure I could do it today with the signs of osteoporosis showing up in my fingers (and noticeable when I type). Wall sit for two minutes. (This wasn't difficult for me the fact that I regularly hit the hiking trails). Have a VO2 max of at least 75th percentile for your age group. (Mine is showing 37 right now which was the same as it was in 2022. Interesting that I'm hiking less these days, but have kept the same VO2 max). I think it's important to notice just how vast this topic of health and wellness really is. We mentioned the Top 6 Health Staples[x] on our last episode, that we created back in 2020 when our podcast took a turn towards mental and physical health and wellness, (that we just can't escape) and I wasn't surprised to see Stanford Professor Dr. Andrew Huberman post on Twitter/X that he would like to see a Superbowl Commercial promoting healthy habits. The time for mental and physical health is here, and we cannot deny the connection between the two. We met Dr. Bruce Perry on EP 168[xi] where we dove into his famous book What Happened to You, that he co-authored with Oprah, and the last Kindle book I purchased was Gabor Mate's When the Body Says No: The Hidden Costs of Stress[xii] When I look back at why I chose to highlight “The Hydrated Brain” I honestly think it was because this topic is so vast. Hydration is something that might be emphasized with athletes, but it wasn't something anyone had emphasized with me (unless they were connected to the sports world). To narrow this topic of health and wellness down a bit, did YOU know that keeping our brain hydrated helps us with: Improving concentration and cognition Helping to balance our mood and emotions Maintaining a good memory Boosting our brain's reaction time Increasing blood flow and oxygen to the brain Preventing and relieving headaches Reducing stress Grant Bosnick shared with us in this chapter: “That our brain is 75% water and when our brain is functioning on a full reserve of water, we will be able to think faster, be more focused and experience greater clarity and creativity?” (Chapter 6, Bosnick). Grant reminds us that “everyone is unique and needs different amounts of water per day (but suggests) an adequate intake for men is roughly around 3 liters (100 fluid ounces) a day, (and) for women it's about 2.2 liters (74 fluid ounces) a day. What do you think? Could you improve your water intake? Just by thinking about ways to improve our brain health, we will over time begin to move the needle in the direction of physical health and wellness, which was the concept that Grant wanted us to uncover in Chapter 6. This is just one small idea, (in this HUGE topic) but if we can tackle one idea at a time, we will move in the direction of health and wellness. REVISIT THIS EPISODE TO REVIEW THIS CONCEPT IN DEPTH EP 330 Chapter 7 “Aha Moments, Creative Insights/the Brain” This pathway #3 came out as MEDIUM importance (orange score) for me, alongside mindfulness and flow last year, but this year, this is my second highest pathway of focus. Look to see where pathway 3 showed up for you last  year, and if it's different for you this year. What I loved about Grant Bosnick's book is that he opens up chapter 7 with a story of how insight was used by an organization to help solve the problem with the high number of babies that were dying within a month of their birth, specifically in developing countries.  This organization he wrote about, solved this specific problem using a thought process that took insight using “materials and human resources that could be used to address this issue” (Chapter 7, Bosnick) by building incubators made out of Toyota cars that were readily available in these developing areas. Instead of using their analytical mind and thinking “how do we get more incubators to these areas” someone on their team used insight and creativity to come up with the best solution to use the resources they had readily available to them, locally. So how do we think up these creative ideas? Grant asks us to ponder where we have our best ideas. In the shower? While exercising? At your desk while doing work? Just before falling asleep or waking up? While walking or hiking? While taking with a friend? Grant suggests that few people will come back with “at their desk while working” since this type of creativity involves breaking away from the analytical, thinking mind, and tapping into our “nonconscious” (Chapter 7, Bosnick) part of our brain. It was here I had to look deeper into how this type of thinking happens, and I found the fascinating book, The Eureka Factor: AHA Moments, Creative Insight and the Brain by John Kounios and Mark Beeman. If you want to dive deeper into the science behind insight and creativity, I highly suggest reading this book. I wanted to know HOW to create these “AHA” Moments at will, not by chance and this is what these two cognitive neuroscientists who wrote this book, set out to do. Their goal of writing this book was to “explain how these Eureka experiences happen—and how to have more of them to enrich our lives and empower personal and professional success.” (The Eureka Factor). In the very beginning pages of The Eureka Factor, we learn that “insight is creative” (Page 9, The Eureka Factor, Kounios and Beeman) and when the authors went on to define “what creativity is” they suggest to not define it (yet) since “everyone intuitively recognizes creativity when he or she sees it” (Page 9, The Eureka Factor, Kounios and Beeman). I thought back to when we covered “Improving Creativity” on PART 4 of The Silva Method[xiii] on ((“Improving Creativity and Innovation in our Schools, Sports and Modern Workplaces”)) and we tapped into Dr. Andrew Huberman's research on creativity here. Dr. Huberman explains that “when we see something that's truly creative, it reveals something to us about the natural world and about how our brains work….It must reveal something that surprises us” for it to be truly creative. So, going back to The Eureka Factor, John Kounios suggests that “creative insight is not an exotic type of thought reserved for the few. In fact, (he says) it's one of the few abilities that define our species….most humans—have insights. It's a basic human ability.” (Page 11, The Eureka Factor, Kounios and Beeman). While reading further into The Eureka Factor, I came across an image that helped to explain this idea so we can ALL improve our ability to generate new and creative insights that will empower our personal and professional lives. IMAGE CREDIT: The Eureka Factor (Kounios, Beeman) Page 24 If someone were to ask me “Where do I begin to improve my ability to create NEW insights in my life?” I would say, start here: STEP 1: Go somewhere quiet and think.  We've mentioned a few times on this podcast that “Every man has the natural and inherent power to think what he wants to think, but it requires more effort to do so”[xiv] (Wallace D. Wattles). I recently heard Professor Hod Lipson[xv] from Columbia University, speaking about the future with AI, and while his whole presentation was forward-thinking, eye opening and brilliant, what caught my attention the most was when he mentioned that while working with students with AI and robotics, the hardest part for them was to come up with a name for their robot, because he said “it takes a lot of effort to be creative.” Take the time needed for this process. STEP 2: You might think you are stuck, and like the image suggests in the show notes, you might see a brick wall in front of you, metaphorically speaking, but know that there is always a solution to every problem. You just haven't figured it out yet. It's here that I share ways I've moved past where I'm stuck, and that's by using The Silva Method. I'm reminded daily that many of our current listeners found us from the first episode we did with this 4-part series that ended with an episode on “How to Be More Creative and Innovative”. When you feel stuck, take a break. STEP 3: Keeping your mood positive, break away from where you feel stuck, and do something that makes you happy. It could be going for a walk, or a hike, or playing tennis like the image from The Eureka Factor. Just break away and divert your attention away from the problem. If you are in a meditative state, just be sure to have positive, elevated emotions flowing through you. Looking at the image in the show notes from The Eureka Factor, we see a person playing tennis. You can use whatever method you want here (The Silva Method of Meditation, your own mindfulness practice, going for a walk) or whatever it is for YOU where you access those feelings of calmness and peace. STEP 4: Be open to new ideas that might pop into your head. Be prepared for ideas that might be completely opposite to how you were originally thinking of solving the problem. We are all different here. Think back to the beginning of this episode, when Grant Bosnick asked us to consider where our creative ideas flow into our minds. Mine come in that time just before I go to sleep, or just as I'm waking up. Others might come in the shower, or while exercising. Be open to NEW ideas coming into your mind, and be ready to write them down. STEP 5: Know that there is much work going on from your unconscious mind. You'll will become more self-aware in this process. Grant Bosnick lists a few inventions that were developed this way, in chapter 7 on Insight, and I found an article that lists “Great Eureka Moments in History: From Issac Netwon to Sir Paul McCartney, (where) inspiration arrived suddenly”[xvi] to help these inventors move forward with their famous AHA Moments. I personally think it's amazing how we acquire wisdom. When we suddenly “see” something that escaped us for so long. I can only imagine the room from Grant Bosnick's opening story when that one person said “why don't we make incubators out of Toyota cars?” completely shifting what EVERYONE was thinking. We ended this EP with one of my favorite poems from Stewart Edward White who explains how AHA Moments of Learning can change us forever. He writes: “Curious how we acquire wisdom! Over and over again, the same truth is thrust under our very noses. We encounter it in action; we are admonished of it; we read it in the written word. We suffer the experience; we gradually assent to the advice; we approve, intellectually, the written word. But nothing happens inside us. Then, one day, some trivial experience or word or encounter stops us short. A gleam of illumination penetrates the depth of our consciousness. We see! Usually it is but a glimpse; but on rare occasions a brilliant flash reveals truth fully formed. And we marvel that this understanding has escaped us so long.” REVISIT THIS EPISODE TO REVIEW THIS CONCEPT IN DEPTH EP 333 Chapter 8 “Exploring the Power of Expectations” where we will dive into a topic that I mark as high importance in my life, right up with breathing. When I took my self-assessment last year, the topic of expectations showed up as low priority for me to focus. Not because it's not important to me, but because I've already made this topic of high importance. Expectations came out for me in the RED category, with a low score of 8% (last year) along with goals and time management, that I also put high importance with on a daily basis.  This year, pathway 1 came out as an area of MEDIUM focus for me, and I can tell right now, that the area I need to work on is “time management.” If you've taken the self-assessment, look to see if Expectations (in pathway 1) are of a low, medium or high priority for you to focus on this year. Before looking at Grant Bosnick's thoughts about the topic of expectations, where he begins chapter 8 by asking us “what did you expect?” I had to do some research first, to see what is already out in the world, and there was a lot out there, on the science behind expectations. DID YOU KNOW: That when our expectations are met or exceeded, this “increases our dopamine levels, which leads to increased happiness and well-being, which helps maximize our performance by setting up the conditions of flow and insight, which leads to more productivity and increased confidence?” (Chapter 8, Grant Bosnick) Conversely, did you know that “if our expectations are not met, that it dramatically decreases our dopamine levels, we feel disappointment and stress, resulting in poor performance and decreased confidence?” (Chapter 8, Grant Bosnick, Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership, Page 84/85). On the EP we went deep into the Science of Expectation, and we looked at a book by David Robson called The Expectation Effect where this author showed us how “our beliefs, in themselves, shape your health and well-being in profound ways, and that learning to reset our expectations (about these issues) can have truly remarkable effects on our health, happiness and productivity.” (David Robson) SOME TIPS ON HOW TO USE THE NEUROSCIENCE OF EXPECTATIONS IN OUR DAILY LIFE: KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I'M EXPECTING (of myself and others): Understanding the science, helps me to keep my expectations tied to myself, and not others, to avoid disappointment and stress.  I expect to achieve my goals, (by putting in the necessary work) keep myself in good health (physical and mental) and will not just THINK about these expectations, but will do the hard work, take the action necessary to achieve them. This way, I'm not just “thinking” of what I expect to occur, I'm actually doing something with those thoughts. If I'm ever feeling “disappointed” with something in my life, a good question to ask is “what did you expect?” and see if I can backtrack to my thoughts. Was I using the science to flood my brain with dopamine, (with something within my control-that I could take action towards) or not. USE POSITIVE EXPECTATION TO BUILD RESILIENCE FOR A HEALTHIER VERSION OF MYSELF: Understanding the science behind our expectations, and especially David Robson's work, where we learned that “people with a more positive attitude towards their later years are less likely to develop (certain age-related diseases)” (David Robson, The Expectation Effect) making a strong case for expecting exceptional mental and physical health in the future. Again, it goes without saying that we can't just “think” ourselves into good health. We need to do the work here in order to expect results to occur. CONTINUE TO EXPECT GOOD THINGS (for myself and others) Knowing that “expectations and beliefs can influence—indeed are already influencing your life in many other surprising and powerful ways. (David Robson, The Expectation Effect) makes me believe in some of the rituals I've heard of over the years, like lucky charms. I learned from David Robson's The Expectation Effect, that “superstitions and rituals can boost perseverance and performance across a whole range of cognitive tasks, and (that) the advantages are often considerable.” (Page 198, The Expectation Effect). Whether you are a professional athlete, singer, public speaker, or someone like me who just wants improved results, there is a science to having a lucky charm, or something that brings you the promise of success, to help you to create a feeling of control during those high stress times we all face. Don't dismiss the power of a lucky rock with a goal written on it, or whatever it is that holds significance to you with your future goals, or something that has meaning to you, that you expect to occur in your future. REVISIT THIS EPISODE TO REVIEW THIS CONCEPT IN DEPTH EP 335 Chapter 9 “The Neuroscience Behind Staying Strong and Clear-Headed” Chapter 9, covering “The Neuroscience of Emotion Regulation” which showed up on my leadership self-assessment (in pathway 4 last year AND again this year) as a low, RED score, of 20%. This is not because it's not something I don't need to pay attention to, this is something I pay attention to daily, right up there with physical health that's also listed in Pathway Four of Grant's Self-Leadership Map. Look to see if Emotion Regulation (pathway 4) is of a low, medium or high priority for you to focus on this year. EMOTION REGULATION AND SLEEP: In a world where we are hit daily by external stimuli, how on the earth can we be proactive to stay mentally strong and clear-headed so we have improved executive control to manage our emotions and regulate them? This took me straight to the work of Dr. Andrew Huberman, and Dr. Matthew Walker who recorded an episode called “Improve Sleep to Boost Mood and Emotion Regulation.”[xvii] It was here where I learned just how important sleep is for keeping a strong, clear mind, so we can use this strength to acknowledge and regulate our emotions, like Bosnick suggested in chapter 9 of his book. Dr. Walker, a professor of neuroscience and psychology at the University of California, Berkeley and the host of The Matt Walker Podcast, gave example after example that proved that when you've NOT had a good night's sleep, things that wouldn't bother you (when you've slept well), begin to aggravate, or grate on you more. Here's what I found to be remarkable on this topic, something I had not ever heard before. DID YOU KNOW THAT “the greater amount of REM sleep you are getting, (where our dreams occur) the greater amount of emotional detox you will get the next day.” Matt Walker and Dr. Andrew Huberman. Dr. Walker went on to explain that “the brain chemical noradrenaline (that's responsible for our stress reaction) completely shuts off during REM sleep, and serotonin (that plays a role with our mood) decreases, while acetyl choline (that carries messages from our brain to our body through nerve cells) increases by up to 30% in some parts of the brain (and can be even more active than when we were awake).  Dr. Walker concluded that the decrease of stress related brain chemicals is what makes “REM sleep was the perfect condition for overnight therapy.” If we want to improve our emotion regulation, the science is pointing directly to improving our sleep. On this episode, we dove deep into the 4 stages of sleep and suggestions to improve our sleep is something I've been working on for the past 5 years. There is a lot to this, and I'm still working on improving ALL the macroingredients of a good sleep (suggested by Dr. Walker), that include QQRT, or knowing the quantity (amount of sleep), quality (fragmented vs continuous), regularity (sleeping/waking around the same time) and timing (sleeping in alignment with my chronotype).  Dr. Walker explains these areas with Dr. Huberman, and if you do wonder where you can improve, I highly suggest their 6-part series on sleep. TIPS FOR IMPROVING EMOTION REGULATION BY IMPROVING OUR SLEEP: Here are three tips that I took away from the neuroscience of self-regulation, that I've been working on, to see if improving my sleep in these areas, could possibly improve emotion regulation. 1. KNOW HOW MUCH DEEP RESTORATIVE SLEEP WE ARE GETTING EACH NIGHT:  We all know the importance of knowing how much sleep we are getting to be well-rested the next day, (how many hours or the quantity) but it's also important to keep an eye on the QUALITY or amount of DEEP RESTORATIVE sleep we are getting each night. When I looked at the graphic I included when I wrote this EP back in June 2024, using the WHOOP wearable tracker, I can tell you that with focus and effort in this area, I've been able to improve the number of hours of restorative sleep I was getting last year, to this year, by 14%, hitting most nights with sufficient restorative sleep. Do you know how many hours of restorative sleep you are getting each night? 2. KNOW HOW MUCH REM SLEEP WE ARE GETTING: Keeping an eye on how much REM sleep we getting, is my next tip, since we know it's important for consolidating new memories, learning and motor skills. We also just learned that the more REM sleep we are getting, we can say we are getting some good overnight therapy, restoring ourselves mentally. You can find sleep trackers that can help you to measure and track these important ingredients of a good sleep for yourself, and see how much REM sleep you are getting each night, while keeping in mind that “the greater amount of REM sleep you are getting, the greater amount of emotional detox you will get the next day.” (Dr. Walker) Remember, we are working on ways to help with our emotion regulation, and it seems to me, that an easy way to do this, would be to see how we can improve our REM sleep.   3. APPLY THE SCIENCE OF SLEEP TO IMPROVE EMOTION REGULATION: Since “during REM sleep the stress chemicals are turned off” helping us to “strip away the emotion from the memory” we can take this understanding a step further, and see if we are able to solve any of our problems during sleep. Dr. Huberman and Dr. Walker went into great detail about this concept[xviii] that I've actually witnessed first-hand. They described what happens in REM sleep to be like “Behavior-Desensitization” and I had the opportunity to see the stages of this process, done by someone skilled and trained in trauma and the brain, working with someone I know well, who has experiences significant trauma in their life, starting at an early age. Using a series of techniques, the trained therapist took the client safely from talking about a traumatic memory from their childhood, (with extreme emotion attached) to where they could say out loud that the memory had lost its emotional load and no longer gave them an emotional reaction. This is exactly what happens to our brain during REM sleep and why it's mentally restorative. Putting these tips all together, and knowing that improving the quality, and quantity of sleep is linked to improving emotion regulation, I'm working hard to improve restorative sleep and REM sleep, each month.  It's all just a balancing act, though, and working on one part of our health at a time. REVISIT THIS EPISODE TO REVIEW THIS CONCEPT IN DEPTH REVIEW and CONCLUSION: To review and conclude this week's episode #356 on PART 2 of our review of Grant Bosnick's Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership, we covered a review of the strategies that can help us to implement each concept, from chapters 6, 7, 8, and 9. ✔ EP 327 Chapter 6[xix] “The Hydrated Brain” ✔ EP 330 Chapter 7[xx]“Aha Moments, Creative Insights/the Brain” ✔ EP 333 Chapter 8[xxi] “Exploring the Power of Expectations” ✔ EP 335 Chapter 9[xxii] “The Neuroscience Behind Staying Strong and Clear-Headed” While listening to each episode can be a helpful review, so can revisiting your leadership self-assessment to see what might have changed for you this year from last. I hope this review of chapters 6-9 of Grant Bosnick's Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership have helped you to think of NEW ways of thinking and taking the necessary action, that will drive you towards whatever it is that you are working on this year. With that thought, I do want to thank you for tuning in, and we will see you next time, with a review of the next 4 chapters. See you next time. REFERENCES: [i] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #321 with Grant ‘Upbeat' Bosnick  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/insights-from-grant-upbeat-bosnick/   [ii]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #355 Mastering Self-Leadership REVIEW PART 1 (Grant Bosnick) https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/mastering-self-leadership-with-neuroscience/   [iii]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #327 “The Hydrated Brain” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/neuroscience-meets-social-and-emotional-learning-podcast-episode-327-recap/   [iv] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #330 “AHA Moments, Creative Insights and the Brain”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/understanding-self-leadership-and-the-neuroscience-of-goals/   [v] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #333 “Exploring the Power of Expectations” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/exploring-the-power-of-expectations-in-episode-333/   [vi]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #335 “The Neuroscience Behind Being Strong and Clear Headed” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/mastering-emotion-regulation-the-neuroscience-behind-staying-strong-and-clear-headed/   [vii] Peter Attia https://peterattiamd.com/   [viii] Attia's Rule https://miloandthecalf.com/2023/02/08/the-attia-rule-some-tests-of-strength-for-longevity/#:~:text=Awhile%20back%20longevity%20expert%20Peter,a%20person%20fit%20for%20longevity.   [ix]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast “Using Neuroscience to Improve Fitness, Longevity and Overall Health.”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/brain-fact-friday-on-using-neuroscience-to-improve-fitness-longevity-and-overall-health/   [x] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast BONUS EPISODE Recorded for Podbean's Wellness Week “The Top 5 Health Staples” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/bonus-episode-a-deep-dive-into-the-top-5-health-staples-and-review-of-seasons-1-4/   [xi]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EP 168 “Dr. Bruce Perry and Steve Graner: What Happened to You?”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/dr-bruce-perry-and-steve-graner-from-the-neurosequential-network-on-what-we-should-all-know-about-what-happened-to-you/   [xii] Gabor Mate When the Body Says No: Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection Published https://www.amazon.com/When-Body-Says-No-Hidden/dp/178504222X   [xiii] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE 264 “The Neuroscience Behind The Silva Method: Improving Creativity and Innovation in our Schools, Sports and Modern Workplaces”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/the-neuroscience-behind-the-silva-method-improving-creativity-and-innovation-in-our-schools-sports-and-modern-workplaces/   [xiv] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE 315 “Thinking and Acting in This Certain Way PART 2 Review of Wallace D. Wattles The Science of Getting Rich book https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/part-2-review-of-wallace-d-wattles-the-science-of-getting-rich-on-chapter-4-thinking-and-acting-in-a-certain-way/   [xv] https://www.me.columbia.edu/faculty/hod-lipson   [xvi] “Great Eureka Moments in History: From Issac Netwon to Sir Paul McCartney, inspiration arrived suddenly” by Dan Falk, Published September 2, 2005 https://magazine.utoronto.ca/research-ideas/culture-society/great-eureka-moments-in-history-famous-inspirational-moments/   [xvii] Dr. Matt Walker: Improve Sleep to Boost Mood & Emotional Regulation | Huberman Lab Guest Series  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S_SrHS8FvMM   [xviii] Dr. Matt Walker: Improve Sleep to Boost Mood & Emotional Regulation | Huberman Lab Guest Series https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S_SrHS8FvMM   [xix]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #327 “The Hydrated Brain” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/neuroscience-meets-social-and-emotional-learning-podcast-episode-327-recap/   [xx] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #330 “AHA Moments, Creative Insights and the Brain”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/understanding-self-leadership-and-the-neuroscience-of-goals/   [xxi] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #333 “Exploring the Power of Expectations” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/exploring-the-power-of-expectations-in-episode-333/   [xxii]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #335 “The Neuroscience Behind Being Strong and Clear Headed” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/mastering-emotion-regulation-the-neuroscience-behind-staying-strong-and-clear-headed/  

Practical strategies for managing our emotional lives.Dr. Ethan Kross, author of the international bestseller Chatter, is one of the world's leading experts on emotion regulation. An award-winning professor in the University of Michigan's top ranked Psychology Department and its Ross School of Business, he is the Director of the Emotion and Self-Control Laboratory.In this episode we talk about:What an emotion actually is The myth that we should only experience positive emotions Why sometimes avoidance is a smart strategyThe six emotional "shifters"  we can use to regulate our emotionsThe role of our sensesHow to use mental time travel to shift perspectiveAnd the role of our surroundings, relationships, and culture Related Episodes:#365 The Voice in Your Head | Ethan KrossThe Neuroscience Of: Emotional Regulation, Relationships, Body Image, And Intuition | Emma SeppäläSign up for Dan's newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://meditatehappier.com/podcast/tph/ethan-kross-902See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Our brains hold our relational history—all the joys, all the ruptures, all the repairs. And even in the most difficult childhood or parenting circumstances, the science of relationships and connection can give us hope for whole-brain and whole-life transformation.Therapist, bestselling author, and mom—Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is seeking a connection revolution that brings neurobiology and practical relational wisdom to bear on both how we were parented, how we parent, and how we relate throughout our lifespan.In this conversation with Tina Bryson, we discuss:The science of childhood relational development and growth into strong, adaptive adultsThe brain as our most social organ—capable of holding a lifetime of relational and emotional historyHow to emotionally co-regulate with another person to achieve a calm, peaceful, and vibrant relationshipNeuroplasticity and our ability to change with intention toward our deepest held valuesAnd we explore how the science of connection, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology sheds light on how we were parented, and impacts how we might parent ourselves and how we relate to everyone.Books by Dr. Tina BrysonThe Way of Play (Tina's latest book!)The Whole-Brain ChildNo-Drama DisciplineThe Yes BrainThe Power of Showing UpFollow Tina BrysonTinaBryson.com Instagram X The Center for ConnectionShow NotesDr. Tina Bryson: an expert in neurobiology, parenting, child development, and attachment theory.Highlighting Tina's unique perspective as both a clinician and science-engaged researcher.This conversation focuses on parenting, but it's relevant for everyone—whether you're a leader, mentor, or someone reflecting on your own upbringingThe importance of connection, attunement, and emotional regulation in today's world."I feel so aware that this is not an easy time to be a child or a teenager in the world."Kids today face unique challenges that are very different from previous generations:More stimulation, information, and pressure than ever before.Earlier onset of puberty and adolescence, with young adults taking longer to launch."We often talk about the challenges of youth, which are absolutely real, but we don't want to forget that in many ways, the world is actually safer."Positive shifts in youth well-being: fewer teen pregnancies; safer environments (cars, car seats, public spaces)l greater awareness of mental health, substance use, and emotional well-beingWhat Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home, by William Stixrud and Ned JohnsonThe brain is a social organ—we are profoundly shaped by the people around us."A huge contributor to some of the struggles youth are having is because their grownups are not thriving."Interpersonal neurobiology teaches that children's well-being is tied to their caregivers' ability to regulate their own emotions.Takeaway: Parents who are anxious, reactive, or dysregulated create environments where their children struggle to regulate their emotions."The greatest gift we can give each other is a calm presence."“History is not destiny.”Emotional offloading or outsourcingSafe haven or safe harbor: cozy, safe, calm“My mom will never listen.”Understanding teenagers“Please don't chase your child and force connection.”Non-eye contact feels less intrusive and they'll open up moreUnderstanding Attachment & The Four S's: Safe, Seen, Soothed, SecureSecure attachment is a key predictor of well-being in children and adults.Attachment is built through repeated experiences of the Four S's:Safe: "Do I feel physically and emotionally secure with this person?"Seen: "Does this person understand and acknowledge my emotions and experiences?"Soothed: "When I'm in distress, does this person help me feel better?"Secure: "Do I trust that this person will be there for me consistently?"Set an intention: "When my child walks through the door, I want them to feel at rest, safe, and accepted."Practical Parenting Tip: If your child pushes you away, don't force connection. Instead, say: "I can see you need some space right now. I'm here whenever you're ready to talk."Managing Teen Independence: When teens ask for space, don't take it personally. Instead, try: "I'm here if you want to talk later.""Would you be open to a short walk or helping me in the kitchen?"The basics of attachment theory: John Bowlby and Mary AinsworthMama BearsNot just brain, but whole nervous systemSecure Relating: Holding Your Own in an Insecure World, by Sue Marriot and Ann Kelley"Without awareness, we don't have choice."—Dan SiegelHistory is not destiny. We can rewire our brains and create new, healthier patterns in relationships.The availability of your presence creates a secure environmentRegulation & Emotional ResilienceDefinition of Regulation: The ability to monitor and modify emotional states rather than reacting impulsively.It's NOT about being emotionless—it's about responding intentionally”When we mess up, the research shows that as long as we make the repair, the rupture itself was actually beneficial.”Tina Bryson's Fragility Formula: Adversity minus support or plus too much support = fragility. Adversity plus the right amount of support = resilience.Real-Life Example: The Yahtzee IncidentTina shares a personal story of losing her temper while playing Yahtzee with her kids.She repaired the rupture by apologizing, taking responsibility, and asking for a do-over.Pink Flags vs. Red FlagsPink Flags: Subtle signs that you're getting dysregulated (irritability, sarcasm, tension)Red Flags: Full-blown loss of control (yelling, throwing things, shutting down)The Three R's of Parenting: Regulation, Responding, RepairingThe Window of ToleranceGentle Parenting vs  Responsive, Respectful, Regulated, Intentional parentingRegulation: Managing your emotions firstResponding: Engaging with your child in a safe, attuned wayRepairing: Acknowledging when you mess up and making amendsReduce pressure—kids should not feel they must "perform" to be loved.The Power of Breathwork: The Physiological SighQuick, evidence-based technique to reduce stress and reset the nervous system.Take a double inhale through the nose, followed by a longer exhale."It's the quickest thing we know to calm the nervous system."Non-eye-contact conversations (e.g., driving in the car) help teens feel less pressured.The science of thriving vs. surviving: "Survive and thrive are not separate categories. What we do in survival moments can lead to thriving."The River of Well-Being: A Person is Like a Boat on a RiverThe FACES Model for Well-Being (essentially a definition of thriving)Flexible: Open to change and new ideasAdaptive: Able to adjust based on new circumstancesCoherent: Emotional and cognitive stabilityEnergized: Engaged and present in lifeStable: Grounded and consistentFamily Dinner Time: Keeping it light, being more presentPractical Exercise to Regulate Emotions: The Deep Physiological SighTurn down the reactivity of your nervous system“The key is: Make your exhale longer than your inhale.”“At his worst is when he needs you the most.”Pre-frontal cortex development: Not mature until late-20s.“The prefrontal cortex is changeable throughout the lifespan.”The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child, Dan Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonThe YES Brain Approach: Four pillars that cultivate resilience in children BRIE (like the cheese)Balance (emotional regulation)Resilience (bouncing back from challenges)Insight (self-awareness and growth mindset)Empathy (understanding others' experiences)"Thriving isn't about avoiding hardships—it's about learning how to navigate them."Recognize your influence: "Your child's nervous system mirrors yours. Take care of yourself first."Discipline and moralityHarsh, punitive discipline doesn't change behavior or develop a moral compass. It teaches them to hide the behavior.Healthy Guilt vs Toxic Shame“The way we don't get kicked out of our group is our conscience.”Guilt “is one of your superpowers.”“No one can lose each other's love.”Give yourself permission to wait and not respond in the moment.“My number one job is to keep you safe.”No lecturing. “What do you think I would say here?” “What's your plan to keep yourself safe?”Tina Bryson on Faith and SpiritualityHealthy spirituality leads to feeling safe, seen, soothed, and secure.The power of narrative and journaling: Making sense of our lives and integrating our brains*Parenting from the Inside Out,* Dan Siegel and Mary Hartzell*The Power of Showing Up,* Dan Siegel and Tina BrysonPractical Exercise: Acknowledging, Noticing, and Accepting“Negative emotions does not mean something's wrong.”“Emotions are important information, but they don't make the final decision.”Are your emotions making the decision?Curiosity in order to bring softness and nurture.Practice daily regulation: Set a personal cue (e.g., getting in the car) to check in with your emotions.Embrace repair: "Making mistakes in parenting is inevitable—what matters is how you repair them."Parenting is about progress, not perfection. "Every small shift you make has a ripple effect on your child's well-being."Pam King's Key TakeawaysWe're inherently wired for connection, and our brains store all of our relational history.Rupture is inevitable, but our capacity for repair can strengthen our bonds with each other when we make the effort to reconnect.Thriving involves and integrates all our most intense emotions. We get closer to thriving when we can learn to regulate and integrate our inner emotional experience.Attuning and paying attention to our nervous system is a core emotional and relational skill—and goes a long way in healthy, intimate relationships.We were all children once. We were all parented, for better or for worse. Learning to integrate every aspect of our relational history can keep us on the path to thriving.About Tina BrysonDr. Tina Bryson is an expert in applying interpersonal neurobiology and neuropsychology to maybe the most central part of human life: our closest, most intimate relationships. A bestselling co-author (with Dan Siegal) of THE WHOLE-BRAIN CHILD and NO-DRAMA DISCIPLINE, she has written several other books on parenting and the brain. Her latest book on the science of play came out in January 2025.Tina is a psychotherapist and the Founder and Executive Director of The Center for Connection. She speaks and advocates widely, has appeared across media outlets like TIME Magazine, “Good Morning America,” Huffington Post,Redbook, The New York Times, and The Wall Street Journal.Her doctoral research explored attachment science, childrearing theory, and the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology. But Tina emphasizes that before she's a parenting educator, or a researcher, she's a mom.Tina is an absolutely brilliant and motivating and encouraging communicator, breaking down the science of connection in a way that's clear, realistic, humorous, and immediately helpful.For more resources from Tina, including her books, and science-packed relationship tips, visit https://www.thecenterforconnection.org/ and tinabryson.com. About the Thrive CenterLearn more at thethrivecenter.org.Follow us on Instagram @thrivecenterFollow us on X @thrivecenterFollow us on LinkedIn @thethrivecenter About Dr. Pam KingDr. Pam King is Executive Director the Thrive Center and is Peter L. Benson Professor of Applied Developmental Science at Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy. Follow her @drpamking. About With & ForHost: Pam KingSenior Director and Producer: Jill WestbrookOperations Manager: Lauren KimSocial Media Graphic Designer: Wren JuergensenConsulting Producer: Evan RosaSpecial thanks to the team at Fuller Studio and the Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy.

“Men aren't emotional.” “Men are more logical than their female counterparts.” “Men don't cry.” These are all things you've heard whether they've been directed at you or not. But the reality paints a different story. Men are emotional. But that's not to say that we ought to let ourselves be led by our emotions alone. Dr. Ethan Kross understands this well as a man who researches how we, as humans, both feel and react to those feelings. Today, we talk about how to deal with intrusive thoughts, how to address the dark thoughts we often experience, what it actually means to “control” your emotions, how to become more emotionally fit, and how you can regulate your emotions – even the “negative” ones – so they don't regulate you. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Unwritten Rule About Men and Emotions 01:57 - Emotional Strength: A Navy SEAL's Perspective 03:32 - Can We Control Our Emotions? 06:57 - Dark Thoughts and Emotional Awareness 08:15 - Myths About Managing Emotions 13:43 - Emotions: Tools for Resilience and Growth 15:55 - The Link Between Love, Hate, and Emotional Investment 20:41 - The Art of Emotion Regulation 26:07 - Emotional Fitness: A Multi-Tool Approach 30:14 - The Power of Mental Time Travel 41:17 - Public Speaking and Emotional Influence 49:39 - Over-Regulation and Exhaustion 52:26 - Leveraging Environmental Regulators 55:10 - The Value of Negative Emotions 59:13 - The Power of Finding Common Ground 01:00:38 - Closing Thoughts and How to Connect with Ethan Kross Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

DOI: 10.13056/acamh.13662 In this Papers Podcast, Dr. Nicky Greaves discusses her JCPP Advances Clinical Review paper ‘Emotion regulation difficulties and differences in autism including demand-avoidant presentations—A clinical review of research and models, and a proposed conceptual formulation: Neural-preferencing locus of control (NP-LOC)'. Learning Objectives 1. Insight into a definition of emotion regulation and emotion dysregulation and what the research says about the emotion regulation difficulties and differences in autistic young people. 2. The impact of core autistic features on emotion regulation in autistic individuals and the relationship between emotion regulation difficulties and demand-avoidant presentations in autism. 3. Effective and ineffective strategies for emotion regulation and the current models for emotion regulation differences for autistic young people. 4. How emotion regulation abilities develop in neurotypical populations. 5. Insight into the Neural Preferencing Locus of Control (NP-LOC) formulation hypothesis in autism and how the NP-LOC model can contribute to our understanding of anxiety and depression in autistic individuals. 6. The practical implications for education and clinical practice and the impact of early interventions and social understanding on emotion regulation in autistic children.

Have you noticed a pattern in your life where you use food to solve all the things? Whether you are cold, tired, behind schedule or intimidated or unsure or angry, does your brain say "should we eat something?" Even if you aren't hungry at all? This is exactly how emotional eating makes us act:  We find ourselves using the same action (eating) to respond to any kind of feeling rather than stopping to discern what's actually happening and choosing a response from the many available options.Well, my friend, you are not alone! Emotional eating is fairly common and "just trying to stop" is rarely successful. Join Georgie and Christina in today's episode as we cover some of the more advanced skills that we teach our clients to help them leave behind emotional eating and binge eating.Connect with Georgie and the Confident Eaters Coaches: WebsiteFacebookInstagramHave you ever thought, "I know what to do, I just need to consistently do it"? Who hasn't? Sometimes we need accountability. Sometimes we need specific strategies, new tools, or a bit of help. If you are want help to become a confident, sensible eater with 1:1 personalized attention, sign up at ConfidentEaters.com.

Discover how to use the power of play to strengthen your child's emotional regulation and foster meaningful connection, with Dr. Abbré McClain and Dr. Jacqueline Salazar.   In this episode, we explore:   - How play and relationships can be foundational elements for teaching kids emotional regulation skills.   - Why coregulation doesn't have to be so serious and can be employed through play and playfulness.   - The therapeutic function of play interventions and how they work in play therapy.   - How to adapt play strategies for different developmental stages and unique children.   - Why playing with your kids is different from entertaining them, and how child-led play can be less exhausting for parents.   - Quality over quantity: How even small moments of playfulness can make a big difference in strengthening parent-child bonds.   If you're looking for practical ways to build emotional regulation skills while bringing more joy and connection into your family's life, this episode is filled with actionable insights to get you started!     LEARN MORE ABOUT: Dr. Abbré McClain Dr. Jacqueline Salazar   READ THEIR BOOK:

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   - Dysregulation isn't just a result of negative emotions, kids can also become dysregulated from positive emotions too.   - Embracing your child's excitement before you help them start to down-regulate can be a more successful (and fun) strategy.   - Specific strategies for transitioning your child from those big, exciting moments into calming down in a way that is targeted to their development and nervous system.   - The key questions to ask yourself to help you determine exactly how to pick and choose your parenting battles when it comes to family gatherings.   - The difference between structured and unstructured playtime - and the pros and cons of each.   - Our mom-tips for an activity that is helpful and containing for kids who have “buzzy energy” in these situations.   - How to “pre-regulate” your child before they become dysregulated.     REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:

#206 Today's guest is Dr. Mark Zachary Rosenthal—a clinical psychologist and an Associate Professor in the Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences department and the Psychology & Neuroscience department at Duke University. He is also the director of the Duke Center for Misophonia and Emotion Regulation (CMER), where he pioneers research on misophonia, emotional functioning, borderline personality disorder, virtual reality, digital health, and behavioral therapies. We are also joined by Grace Heppes, the Outreach and Education Coordinator for CMER. In this episode, we discuss:+ How our body generates emotions & the purpose of our emotions+ Reasons that certain people have dysregulated emotions + Why dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) is so unique & its key principles+ A hack for finding a qualified, DBT-based clinician + The connection between suicidal ideation & emotion dysregulation + What misophonia is & how people's views of it have changed over time+ How people react to misophonia triggers & why this ties to emotion regulation+ The realities of living with misophonia + Tools to help people struggling with misophonia MENTIONED + CMER Website+ CMER InstagramSHOP GUEST RECOMMENDATIONS: https://amzn.to/3A69GOCSTARBUCKS GIFTCARD GIVEAWAY: Want coffee on me?! Each month I'll be randomly choosing a winner to receive a Starbucks giftcard! To enter this giveaway, all you have to do is leave a review of the podcast on Spotify and/or Apple Podcasts and DM me on a screenshot of your review on Instagram. Win bonus entries by tagging the podcast on your Instagram story or TikTok! Good luck!LET'S CONNECT+ Instagram (@shepersistedpodcast)+ Website (shepersistedpodcast.com)+ YouTube (Sadie Sutton: She Persisted Podcast)+ Twitter (@persistpodcast)+ Facebook (@shepersistedpodcast)+ TikTok (@shepersistedpodcast)+ inquiries@shepersistedpodcast.com© 2020 She Persisted LLC. This podcast is copyrighted subject matter owned by She Persisted LLC and She Persisted LLC...

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     - How to incorporate the parenting knowledge you've acquired without losing sight of your own gut instincts.    - Understanding what your job as a parent is when your child feels thwarted (and why making them stop yelling might not be your true end goal)   - Unpacking the underlying question of: What do I do if my child is screaming volitionally as a manipulation tactic?   - Whether your child is in a full-blown tantrum or just slightly dysregulated, the key strategies for addressing their underlying struggle.   - How to respond to the behaviors (like yelling, eating, spitting, etc.) that you have no true control over.   - How to find that middle space between not making your child feel responsible for your feelings without having to abandon all your own needs.    

Daily stress turns many of us into emotional bombs. Who knows when we'll blow up unless we can be effectively diffused! Today, Coach Kelsey Coppinger helps us reflect on the spiritual practices of Jesus and what they teach us about self-control. We would like to send you our brand new "Scripture Absorption Journal." Think of the impact you could make if you soaked in God's Word daily and became so saturated in His wisdom and love that you couldn't help but share it!Daily prompts, weekly reflection pages, and a Bible reading tracker will help you focus and become spiritually fit for the New Year!Click the link here and get your copy today with a gift of any amount.Thank you for supporting the mission of Christ.

SHINING WITH ADHD #174: Building Emotion Regulation for ADHD Kids with Dr. Siggie CohenThe Childhood Collective11/13/2024SUMMARYAll feelings are allowed, right? So… what do I do when my child becomes aggressive and slams the door in my face? Or throws a tantrum at the store and everyone is staring? The reality of emotions is that they will come and go… but some moments seem to last forever! In this fascinating interview with beloved parenting expert, Dr. Siggie Cohen, we dive into one of our most-requested topics: ADHD and emotional regulation. MEET DR. SIGGIE COHENDr. Siggie Cohen is a Child Development Specialist that has been working with families of all kinds for almost 4 decades. Her EBP Method provides parents and caregivers with practical tools to feel more empowered, better understand both their child's behaviors and emotions, and feel less guilty. She is also a mother of 3 and runs a private practice in California. LINKS + RESOURCESEpisode #174 TranscriptDr. Siggie's Instagram Dr. Siggie's websiteThe Childhood Collective InstagramHave a question or want to share some thoughts? Shoot us an email at hello@thechildhoodcollective.comMentioned in this episode:Customizable ADHD PrintablesIf you are an ADHD parent who is drowning in the chaos of forgotten lunches, lost homework, or bedtime battles…you are not alone. ADHD parents often find themselves giving hundreds of reminders that often result in yelling and frustration. Instantly download these printable routines and work with your child to create a routine that is customized to your family's needs. Use the exclusive code “PODCAST” for 10% off! PrintablesHoliday Gift Guide 2024Check out our holiday shopping guides for ADHD kids, teens, moms, and dads. Here's to stress-free shopping and gift they will love. Holiday Gift Guide 2024Creating Calm CourseCreating Calm is a video-based course that will teach you simple, step-by-step strategies to help you parent a happy and independent child with ADHD (ages 4-12 years old). Whenever and wherever you have an internet connection. Use the code PODCAST for 10% off!Creating Calm Course

Get science-backed strategies to raise kids who are compassionate, kind, and successful in today's chaotic world with Melinda Wenner Moyer.   In this episode, we explore:   - How becoming a parent shifted Melinda's attention to applying science and research to answer her most pressing parenting questions   - One of the most surprising and counterintuitive things Melinda learned when she started to dig into the research on parenting.   - How to approach challenging topics, like race, authentically and in age-appropriate ways without needing a “script.”   - Diving into Carol Dweck's research study using fixed vs growth mindset language with kids and how it affected their perseverance (Spoiler: Kids who were given fixed mindset messaging showed less resilience.)    - Why kids lie, the best ways we can respond when they do, and how this can impact how likely they are to be open with us as they get older.   - How attachment security impacts our kid's ability to be confident, curious, flexible, and compassionate    If you're looking to raise kind, resilient kids who feel safe being honest with you, this conversation is filled with insights to help you make that happen!       LEARN MORE ABOUT MELINDA: https://www.melindawennermoyer.com/   READ MELINDA'S BOOKS:

In this episode of Welcome to Group Therapy we discuss consuming the news while maintaining your mental health.  In our discussion we cover: How we consume the news & how we feel doing so The 24 hour news cycle  Common emotional responses to consuming the news  Coping with news consumption How the news shows up in therapy.  Google Scholar Shorts Article: Social Media News Headlines and Their Influence on Well-Being: Emotional States, Emotion Regulation, and Resilience Social Media News Headlines and Their Influence on Well-Being: Emotional States, Emotion Regulation, and Resilience (mdpi.com) Additional Resources: https://hr.jhu.edu/wp-content/uploads/JHEAP_Negative-News-Coverage-and-Mental-Health.pdf https://www.apa.org/monitor/2022/11/strain-media-overload Disclaimer: Welcome to Group Therapy Podcast is not a replacement for therapy, is not actual group therapy, nor will specific therapeutic advice be given on the show. Although we are all licensed therapists, we are not YOUR therapist. It is meant to be for educational and entertainment purposes only. Follow us on social media! Instagram: @welcometogrouptherapypod TikTok: @welcometogrouptherapypod Threads: @welcometogrouptherapypod Submit your podcast topic requests here! Dr. Justin Puder @amoderntherapist Dr. Kristen Casey @drkristencasey Dr. Jessica Rabon @jessicaleighphd Kristen Gingrich LCSW, CADC, CSS @notyouraveragethrpst

In honor of ADHD Awareness Month, we're talking about how mindfulness can reduce symptoms of ADHD with Dr. Lidia Zylowska.   In this episode we explore:   - Does having ADHD make it harder to engage in mindfulness and meditation practices? (Spoiler: Yes, but there are things we can do about that!)   - What the research reveals about mindfulness in teens and adults with ADHD and the science of how a mindfulness practice strengthens neurological deficits in the brain.   - Parenthood requires so much executive functioning, sensory stimulation, and stress, so often this is when the strategies we've been using to manage symptoms of ADHD fall apart.   - Concrete strategies, like the best time of day, introducing aspects of physicality, and logistical considerations for how to incorporate mindfulness practice into your life when sitting still feels too difficult or daunting.   - Tips for identifying what helps you personally feel less flooded that can serve as your go-to's when things start to feel scattered, stuck, or overwhelming.   - The importance of self-compassion in mindfulness and how this is an often overlooked, yet key piece of mindfulness practices.   If you're curious about how mindfulness can make a real difference for those with ADHD, this episode is a must-listen!     LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. LIDIA: https://lidiazylowska.com/   READ LIDIA'S BOOKS:

Dr. Anita Federici is a Clinical Psychologist and the Owner of The Centre for Psychology and Emotion Regulation. She serves an Adjunct Faculty position at York University and is a distinguished Fellow of the Academy for Eating Disorders (AED). From 2019 - 2022, Anita served as the elected Co-Chair for the Suicide and DBT Special Interest Group (SIG) for the AED and currently sits on the SIG Oversight Committee.Anita has had a considerable impact on the field through her leadership, advocacy work, and expertise. To date, she has provided more than 375 lectures, workshops, and invited talks on eating disorders, MED-DBT, compassionate care for complex needs, and developing differential care pathways that integrate biotemperament-based approaches, experts-by-experience, and ethical care. She has developed a robust training program, a wide network of allied health professionals, and a treatment centre in an underserved and rural region of Ontario. Her passion for inspiring and invigorating hope for clients and clinicians is at the heart of her work.Known for her engaging and authentic style of training, Anita has become a highly sought-after consultant. She works extensively with hospitals and community organizations nationally and internationally offering team training, implementation support, and program development with a special focus on creating differential care pathways for clients who do not respond to traditional treatment approaches. Her work has been presented at international conferences and published in peer-reviewed journals and invited book chapters.Anita Federici, Ph.D C.Psych (she/her)Fellow, Academy for Eating Disorders(FAED)Owner, Clinical DirectorThe Centre for Psychology and Emotion RegulationAdjunct Faculty, Graduate Studies, York UniversityOur Hosts:Linda and John (Jack) Mazur founded a nonprofit 501(c)3 organization in 2022 in memory of their daughter, Emilee which provides peer support, social connection, and education for adults with eating disorders, their family members, and communities. For more information or to contact them go to: www.theemileeconnection.comLinda and John (Jack) Mazur wrote, Emilee: The Story of a Girl and Her Family Hijacked by Anorexia, to honor their daughter's wish to raise awareness, evoke compassion, and foster change in how eating disorders are viewed and treated.Paperback, Kindle, Audiobook: https://www.amazon.com/Emilee-Story-Family-Hijacked-Anorexia/dp/170092012XLinda and Jack can also be reached through the book website:  https://emileethestoryofagirl.com or at Linda.john.mazur@gmail.comEllen Bennett is the director of KMB for Answers, a non-profit charity providing educational and financial support for mental health professionals as well as assistance for families in search of resources. For more information about Ellen Bennett and the foundation founded in memory of her daughter Katlyn, go to: www.Kmbforanswers.com

Understanding Sleep with Dr. Christine Won: Importance, Disorders, and Practical TipsIn this episode, Christine welcomes Dr. Christine Won, an Associate Professor of Medicine at Yale University and a leading expert in sleep medicine. Dr. Won shares insights on how sleep disorders uniquely affect women, the importance of sleep, common misconceptions about sleep deprivation, and practical strategies for mitigating fatigue. They explore the differences in individual sleep needs, the potential inaccuracies of consumer sleep tracking devices, and the impact of sleep on emotional regulation. Dr. Won also discusses sleep disorder symptoms, the influence of hormonal changes on women's sleep, and provides tips for healthcare professionals dealing with sleep deprivation. Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of how to prioritize sleep for better health and productivity.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:15 The Importance of Sleep and Misconceptions03:00 Understanding Personal Sleep Needs04:30 Wearable Devices and Sleep Tracking06:35 Stages of Sleep Explained10:44 Sleep and Emotional Regulation11:44 Challenges in Medical Training and Sleep13:05 Fatigue Mitigation Strategies16:28 Sleep Disorders in Women20:18 Signs of Poor Sleep Health22:31 Final Thoughts and Conclusion

This week licensed therapist Kati Morton discusses attachment and how that can show up in therapy, she also digs into emotion regulation and finding healthier ways to do it, and finally she talks about attachment in our romantic relationships and how to better manage it. Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything ep. 237 | Your mental health podcast 1. Hi Kati! I hope you are well, I absolutely love your videos and you are helping me so much. My question is attachment related. I was in therapy for a year and now ended a few months ago and I am really struggling to cope now. I have an anxious attachment style and severe abandonment issues. Since the beginning of therapy I've been super attached to my therapist and feared therapy ending. I told her about everything I was feeling and we worked on therapy ending quite a lot, but we didn't really do any attachment work... 01:38 2. Hey Kati, could you talk about emotional regulation please? I have been talking to a friend about self and co-regulation. Could you possibly explain a bit about how they relate to each other and how to learn how to self regulate? I think it is coming from an anxious attachment style for me and I'm really struggling to self regulate but it's so difficult to reach out. It's something I am coming to realize I struggle with and I feel like it will strain my relationship with my best friend because she is dealing with me a lot at the moment. She is amazing and is so understanding but I don't want to put this on her. We have already talked a bit about it. 14:42 3. I second the idea of emotional regulation. I never learned that skill. All I learned from observation was to not show anyone how I feel. That's problematic for those of us on the spectrum. I just realized I've had meltdowns in the past. I thought that's what “crying” or “being mad” was. So I want to process and regulate better going forward. 21:07 4. Hi Kati!! Could you talk about why self harm helps relieve our intense emotions in the moment of self harming? Could you also talk about why someone touching where we self harm can be so triggering? My friend grabbed my wrist the other day and I freaked out. 24:48 5. Hi Kati! Whenever I can‘t see my partner for longer periods of time (due to travel for work or holidays), I miss him but simultaneously get a strong urge to pick a fight and break up. I really spiral, feel worthless and unloved and am disgusted with myself. Similarly, as soon as my therapist is away on holiday and I wish I had a session, I freak out and want to quit therapy for good. This seems to be a weird pattern throughout my relationships I can‘t quite get a handle on. Where can this come from and how do I address it? I really struggle to not impulsively act on my feelings. In case that's important: I have ADHD and suffer from CPTSD due to emotional and physical abuse during childhood. Thanks for everything you do! 28:17 6. Hi. I recently broke up with my long term partner. It was very hard but not dramatic, I just fell out of love, but it triggered many feelings of fear about aging and loneliness. I feel sometimes like I'm a bad person that is not deserving of love and I feel guilt about the breakup. 35:41 #podcast #psychology #katimorton PUBLISHED BOOKS Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month) SOCIAL X https://twitter.com/KatiMorton TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton YouTube https://www.youtube.com/katimorton Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katimorton Patreon https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1/ Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1/ PARTNERSHIPS Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Partnerships: Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/askkatianything/support

Join me for a deep dive into the essential aspects of emotional regulation in parenting with clinical psychologist, Dr. Amber Thornton.    In this episode we explore:   - Cognitive, emotional, physical, and physiological regulation - the differences between all four and how this knowledge can help you feel more grounded.   - Dr. Amber shares her PCR Method that parents can use to identify and manage their own dysregulation.   - How to understand your parenting triggers (because we all have them!) so you can use more effective strategies tailored to your unique nervous system.   - Gain practical approaches for reparenting yourself to meet the needs of your younger self.   - Why being an imperfect parent is actually beneficial, and even optimal, for your child's development!   - How understanding the scientific principles of attachment theory can help reduce fear and lower the stakes we feel in parenthood.   Discover practical strategies to help you navigate the challenges of parenthood while fostering a healthier connection with your children.     LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. AMBER: https://www.dramberthornton.com/   READ DR. AMBER'S BOOK:

As a parent, it's almost certain that you've experienced moments of losing your cool one, two, or countless times when dealing with your children. Parenting presents the opportunity to enhance your skills in various areas, including emotional regulation. That's why we have invited Dr. Samantha Schindelheim, an expert in the “art” of co-regulation, to join us on the show! @samschind @tmb.psych Dr. Samantha Schindelheim is a licensed clinical social worker dedicated to supporting parents. She equips parents with effective therapeutic techniques that have shown success in addressing a range of challenges faced by individuals and families. Her primary focus is on providing validation, encouragement, and practical solutions to all the families she assists. Mastering the ability to remain calm and imparting this skill to your children is a significant challenge in parenthood. Let's hope that Dr. Sam can guide us through the journey ahead!

Are you finding yourself turning to food when emotions run high? In this episode, we'll uncover the powerful connection between emotional regulation and overeating. Discover how unresolved feelings can trigger cravings and binge eating, and learn practical strategies to break the cycle. With relatable examples and insights, we'll explore why food becomes a coping mechanism and how you can find peace with eating by addressing the emotions beneath your urges. If you've ever felt stuck in the battle between food and feelings, this episode is for you. It's time to find freedom and heal your relationship with food My Website: https://www.heatherheynen.com Follow me: IG: @heynencounselingandcoaching FB: Heather Heynen YouTube: Heather Heynen Wellness Link to my Online Course: End Binge Eating, Overeating & Emotional Eating For Good mindful-eating-mastery-overcome-binge-eating-over-eating-emotional-eating Link to my Online Course: Natural Appetite Regulation: Actionable & Simple Strategies for Weight Loss And Normalizing the Appetite https://heather-heynen-s-school.teachable.com/p/natural-appetite-regulation-strategies-and-skills-for-weight-loss-weight-maintenance Link to my Online Course: When You're Ready To Stop The Weight Loss Medication: A Comprehensive Guide To Natural Weight Maintenance & Mastery weight-maintenance-mastery-exactly-how-to-keep-the-weight-off-after-drug-based-weight-loss Link to my ebook High Protein, Easy Recipes: my-downloadable-530035 Please support this show's affiliates: Kion Aminos: Highest quality essential amino acids for appetite control & muscle maintenance Use my link to save 20% at Kion Aminos | Weight Loss & Wellness For Real PhysiVantage: The Best Whey Protein, Collagen & More https://physivantage.com/?ref=HEATHERHEYNEN Enter Discount Code HEATHERHEYNEN at checkout Thorne Supplements (High Quality Supps) Get 10% off with this link: https://www.thorne.com/u/PR1256243 5Strands: Affordable, easy food intolerance testing for humans and pets!  https://www.5strands.com/#HeatherHeynen. Enter Discount Code HeatherHeynen at checkout The information in this podcast is intended to provide broad understanding and knowledge of healthcare topics. This information is for educational purposes only and should not be considered complete and should not be used in place of advice from your physician or healthcare provider. We recommend you consult your physician or healthcare professional before beginning or altering your personal exercise, diet or supplementation program. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather1422/support

Are you feeling overwhelmed by stress and looking for quick ways to reset? In this episode on the Habits and Hustle podcast, I talk with clinical psychologist Dr. Jenny Taitz to discuss practical strategies from her new book "Stress Resets" that can help you manage stress and regulate emotions in just minutes.  We discuss evidence-based techniques like the "3-minute breathing space" and "opposite action" that can interrupt negative thought patterns and help us respond more effectively to stressful situations. We also dive into how to positively impact those around us, as emotional regulation is contagious, and much more.  Dr. Jennifer L. Taitz is a licensed clinical psychologist, board-certified in cognitive behavioral therapy, and one of the first psychologists to receive Linehan Board Certification in DBT. She specializes in treating a wide range of mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and borderline personality disorder, using evidence-based approaches such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Dr. Taitz is an Assistant Clinical Professor at UCLA, has authored books on emotional eating and relationships, and maintains a private practice offering telehealth services to clients in New York and California. What We Discuss: (00:02) Stress Reset (06:47) Emotion Regulation and Therapy Costs (14:15) Managing Stress and Medication Awareness (24:09) Overcoming Rumination Through Positive Techniques (28:57) Shared Humanity and Mind Resets (32:34) Body Resets and Stress Relief (41:56) Utilizing Exercise for Mental Health (47:43) Mindfulness-Based Stress Relief Techniques (56:16) Therapy Approaches and Rumination (01:02:56) Positive Contagious Stress Resets …and more! Thank you to our sponsors: BiOptimizers: Want to try Magnesium Breakthrough? Go to https://bioptimizers.com/jennifercohen and use promo code JC10 at checkout to save 10% off your purchase. Find more from Jen:  Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/ Instagram: @therealjencohen   Books: https://www.jennifercohen.com/books Speaking: https://www.jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagement Find more from Jennifer L. Taitz, PsyD, ABPP: Website:  https://drjennytaitz.com/  Instagram: @drjennytaitz Book: Stress Resets

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...     - How there is a lot of weight put on attending all the birthdays your child gets invited to, and hear us share a permission-granting reframe you can tell yourself when you feel that pressure.   - How to work toward identifying the aspect of birthday parties that are overwhelming for your child - and what the most common triggers are (like transitions, loud sounds, lots of kids) to help you get started.   - Why it actually makes sense that this is so hard for parents when kids struggle with birthday parties. What social stakes are at play, and how to balance those with what is best for your kid.   - How to celebrate the birthday boy or girl in a manner that is more realistic for your child, but that allows them to still feel included and fosters their peer relationships.   - What you can do before the birthday party to help prepare your child for what they can expect and how to navigate their dysregulation if they get overwhelmed once you're there.   - Two psychologist-mom's recommendations of exactly how to respond (when to nurture them and when to push them) when your child gets clingy at a birthday party.     WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT SIMILAR TOPICS:  

I'm joined by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe to discuss effective discipline strategies and how to approach those tough parenting moments with warmth, compassion, and understanding - for yourself and your child.   In this episode, we dive into:   - The profound impact of coregulation and why it's a crucial first step we don't want to skip if we want the discipline and lessons we're trying to teach our kids to stick.   - How to navigate those “bad behavior” moments by rethinking the entire framework of discipline (Spoiler Alert: It starts with a mindset shift to help you understand how there is actually no such thing as “bad" behaviors.)   - The up-side of having a more sensitive, reactive, or explosive kid - and how to nurture their more sensitive side to bring out their best qualities and help them manage their big emotions so they are more in control of their behaviors.   - The powerful role of connection in discipline, including how to create a safe space where your child can learn and grow, even in the midst of challenging behaviors.   - Strategies for parents struggling to keep their cool, working through feelings of guilt or shame, and understanding that it's never too late to implement new parenting approaches.   If you've ever felt overwhelmed by traditional discipline methods or wondered how to discipline your child in a way that strengthens your bond, this episode is for you!       LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. VANESSA LAPOINTE: https://drvanessalapointe.com/   READ DR. VANESSA'S BOOKS:

In  episode 502 of Passion Struck, we tackle a subject that's hitting hard in our world right now: cynicism. Cynicism creeps into our thoughts, erodes our connections, and chips away at our belief in one another. To help us untangle this, we have an extraordinary guest, Dr. Jamil Zaki, a professor of psychology at Stanford University and an expert in empathy and kindness. His new book, Hope for Cynics: The Surprising Science of Human Goodness, reveals how we can overcome cynicism through hopeful skepticism.Dr. Zaki shares powerful insights from over two decades of research on how to escape the cynicism trap and boost your mental well-being. We discuss the myth of the cynical genius, how to combat polarization, and foster a more unified world. Dr. Zaki also delves into his personal journey, including how his parents' difficult divorce influenced his study of empathy and understanding others.Full show notes and resources:  https://passionstruck.com/jamil-zaki-science-of-human-goodnessSponsorsBabbel: Unlock the power of learning a new language with Babbel's innovative system. Passion Struck listeners can get 60% off their subscription at Babbel.com/PASSION.Hims: Regrow your hair before it's too late! Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/PASSIONSTRUCK.Quince: Experience luxury for less with Quince's premium products at radically low prices. Enjoy free shipping and 365-day returns at Quince.com/PASSION.For more information about our sponsors and promo codes, visit: passionstruck.com/dealsIn this episode, you will learn:The impact of cynicism on personal and social livesThe role of cynicism in US politics and worldwideHow cynicism affects society's ability to address major issuesThe harmful effects of cynicism on health, relationships, and careersThe misconception that cynics are smarter and socially smarterThe importance of adopting hopeful skepticism to combat cynicismThe case study of Microsoft's organizational cynicism under Steve BallmerConnect with Jamil Zaki: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamil-zaki-b0b4a9192/Order Passion StruckUnlock the principles that will transform your life! Order my book, Passion Struck: Twelve Powerful Principles to Unlock Your Purpose and Ignite Your Most Intentional Life. Recognized as a 2024 must-read by the Next Big Idea Club, this book has earned accolades such as the Business Minds Best Book Award, the Eric Hoffer Award, and the Non-Fiction Book Awards Gold Medal. Order your copy today and ignite your journey toward intentional living!Catch More Passion StruckCan't miss my episode with Angela Duckworth on the Keys to Achieving Long-Term SuccessListen to my interview withBJ Fogg on How Tiny Habits Can Transform Your LifeWatch my episode with Dacher Keltner on the Hidden Power of Moral BeautyCatch my interview with Katy Milkman on Creating Lasting Behavior Change for GoodIf you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review! Even one sentence helps. Be sure to include your Twitter or Instagram handle so we can personally thank you!

Is your child explosive? Do you struggle to keep your own emotions in-check, then feel guilty after you lose your cool?   We're all working with the same equipment and understanding the basics of what is happening in our and our kid's brains when we're dysregulated can have a huge impact on how often we're able to stay calm in the face of life's chaos.   I am honored to be joined once again by Dr. Dan Siegel to explore:   - The "window of tolerance" - what it is and how to use it to help you and your child stay grounded, even during stressful moments.   - Dan performs his Yes/No Exercise that listeners can follow along with and use to learn how to become a more effective regulator of your own threat response.   - There is no such thing as being perfect, real secure attachment boils down to proper repair after you lose your cool. Learn effective strategies and tools for facilitating this in your relationship with your child.   - Everyone has an inane temperament and personality traits (like sensitivity, intensity of their reactions, and their response to novelty), but those proclivities become intensified by our attachment relationships.   - How to apply these strategies to kids who don't fit the mold - who are sensitive, explosive, neurodiverse, or quick to become dysregulated.   - Dan's views as a psychiatrist on how medication and clinical interventions can be properly used with children.   - How to look at any diagnosis from the perspective of integration versus disintegrations - and by looking at it this way, what that mean for treatment.     LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. DAN SIEGEL: https://drdansiegel.com/   A FEW OF DAN'S BOOKS FOR PARENTS TO GET STARTED WITH:

Emotion Regulation Individual Therapy for Adolescents (ERITA) and its internet-delivered version (IERITA) is just one of a couple of treatments developed specifically to address nonsuicidal self-injury (NSSI) among adolescents. In this episode, Dr. Johan Bjureberg from the Karolinska Institute in Stockholm, Sweden walks us through in detail each of the 11 sessions of IERITA and IERITA's 6 parallel sessions for parents.Learn more about Dr. Bjureberg's work here, and follow the Bjureberg Research Lab and their projects and publications at https://bjureberglab.se/. Below are links to his research on ERITA/IERITA referenced in this episode:Bjureberg, J., Ojala, O., Hesser, H., Häbel, H., Sahlin, H., Gratz, K. L., Tull, M. T., Knutsson, E. C., Hedman-Lagerlöf, E., Ljótsson, B., & Hellner, C. (2023). Effect of internet-delivered Emotion Regulation Individual Therapy for Adolescents with Nonsuicidal Self-Injury Disorder: A randomized clinical trial. JAMA Network Open, 6(7), e2322069.Bjureberg, J., Sahlin, H., Hedman-Lagerlof, E., Gratz, K. L., Tull, M. T., Jokinen, J., Hellner, C., & Ljotsson, B. (2018). Extending research on emotion regulation individual therapy for adolescents (ERITA) with nonsuicidal self-injury disorder: Open pilot trial and mediation analysis of a novel online version. BMC Psychiatry, 18, 326.Bjureberg, J., Sahlin, H., Hellner, C., Hedman-Lagerlof, E., Gratz, K. L., Bjarehed, J., Jokinen, J., Tull, M. T., & Ljotsson, B. (2017). Emotion regulation individual therapy for adolescents with nonsuicidal self-injury disorder: A feasibility study. BMC Psychiatry, 17, 411.Want to have a bigger role on the podcast?:Should you or someone you know be interviewed on the podcast? We want to know! Please fill out this Google doc form, and we will be in touch with more details if it's a good fit.Want to hear your question and have it answered on the podcast? Please send an audio clip of your question (60 seconds or less) to @DocWesters on Instagram or Twitter/X, or email us at thepsychologyofselfinjury@gmail.comWant to be involved in research? Send us a message at thepsychologyofselfinjury@gmail.com and we will see if we can match you to an active study.Want to interact with us through comments and polls? You can on Spotify!Follow Dr. Westers on Instagram and Twitter/X (@DocWesters). To join ISSS, visit itriples.org and follow ISSS on Facebook and Twitter/X (@ITripleS).The Psychology of Self-Injury podcast has been rated as one of the "10 Best Self Harm Podcasts" and "20 Best Clinical Psychology Podcasts" by Feedspot  and one of the Top 100 Psychology Podcasts by Goodpods. It has also been featured in Audible's "Best Mental Health Podcasts to Defy Stigma and Begin to Heal." Goodpods Top 100 Parents Podcasts Listen now to The Psychology of Self-Injury: ExploringSelf-Harm & Mental Health podcast Goodpods Top 100 Research Podcasts Listen now to The Psychology of Self-Injury: ExploringSelf-Harm & Mental Health podcast 

Stacy Nakell, LCSW, explores the importance of skin-based connection in early attachment, the role of touch in physiological and emotional regulation, and the development of body-focused repetitive behaviors like skin-picking and trichotillomania. Interview with Elizabeth Irias, LMFT. Earn CE credit for listening to this episode by joining our low-cost membership for unlimited podcast CE credits for an entire year, with some of the strongest CE approvals in the country (APA, NBCC, ASWB, and more). Learn, grow, and shine with Clearly Clinical Continuing Ed by visiting https://ClearlyClinical.com.

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Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...     2:15 - Catharsis theory, letting out our feelings of anger, frustrating, or rage with aggressive behaviors (that do not hurt others) can be beneficial.   3:20 - Does teaching aggressive behaviors, even socially acceptable ones like punching a pillow, lead our kids' brains to pair their angry urges with aggressive actions?   7:52 - Working to understand the root of your child's anger can inform how you respond to each unique situation and the strategies you teach them to tap into to regulate their nervous system.   14:18 - If you want to mitigate children pairing aggressive urges with aggressive behaviors, try offering them a wide range of coping strategies so that doesn't become their automatic, go-to response.   17:20 - Going through the full fight-or-flight response can prevent us from storing these negative emotions inside of our body.   20:13 - Finding the middle ground that works best for your unique family - not encouraging explosive behaviors while also not always repressing your child's (and your own) anger.     REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:   Additional podcast episodes on the topic of anger: 204. The science of “mom-rage” and how to use mindfulness as a tool for being less reactive with Diana Winston     WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU:   Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Dr. Raines is a distinguished clinical investigator at the Southeast Louisiana Veterans Health Care System and an Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the LSU School of Medicine. With a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Florida State University, she has over 13 years of clinical experience, specializing in treating patients with anxiety and related conditions, including those which intersect with hoarding behaviors. She has published an number of peer reviewed articles focusing on hoarding disorder and its associated psychological aspects.  Dr. Raines is the Chair of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT) Research and Professional Development Committee and a member of the Association of VA Psychologist Leaders (AVAPL), and Division 12 of the American Psychological Association (APA). Further, she serves as an Associate Editor for the Journal of Psychopathology and Behavioral Assessment. . We at Food Junkies Podcast are interested in her article "Hoarding and Eating Pathology: The Mediating Role of Emotion Regulation” which explores the relationship between hoarding behaviors and eating disorders and obesity. Today we explore the co-occurance of hoarding and eating pathologies, and if this dynamic may help us understand food addiction as well.  Follow Amanda: Website: https://riseocdandanxiety.com The content of our show is educational only. It does not supplement or supersede your healthcareprovider's professional relationship and direction. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified mental health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition, substance use disorder, or mental health concern.      

We're diving into the complexities of raising boys during a transformative time in history with our special guest, Ruth Whippman. Ruth is an acclaimed author whose latest book, BoyMom, masterfully blends memoir, cultural critique, and reporting.   In this episode, we explore:   Brain Development: The differences in brain development between boys and girls, highlighting why baby boys need more intensive caregiving in their early months and how these differences impact emotional regulation and attachment.   Cultural and Social Influences: Insights into contemporary boyhood, including the evolution of feminism, the #metoo movement, and the nature vs. nurture debate in the development of boys versus girls.   Emotional and Relational Intelligence: The importance of teaching boys emotional intelligence and relational skills to mitigate the report of a loneliness epidemic that teen boys and young adult men are facing.   Early Attachment Relationships: Understanding the importance of early attachment relationships and how they set the blueprint for future interpersonal skills and emotional well-being.   Practical Parenting Strategies: Realistic advice for parents on how to foster empathy, emotional intelligence, and strong moral values in boys, moving beyond traditional gender norms.   Join us for this enlightening and heartfelt episode as we delve into the essential work of redefining masculinity and creating a more emotionally inclusive world for our boys.       LEARN MORE ABOUT RUTH: https://www.ruthwhippman.com/   GET RUTH'S LATEST BOOK: BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity   CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES:

We all are well aware of the importance of managing stress when it comes to overall health and weight loss.  Less stress reduces cortisol levels as well as decreasing the likelihood of stress-induced cravings and overeating.  And one of the most effective tools to combat stress is controlled breathing. In this episode we introduce a device that is designed to help individuals, particularly children, achieve calmness through a combination of slow breathing, visual focus, and auditory regulation using white noise. The device is intended to teach users how to achieve states of relaxation and composure, which are essential for managing stress and anxiety effectively. To dive into this device, we welcomed back Dr. Matthew Lederman to the show.  Dr. Lederman  co-founded WeHeal with his wife Dr. Alona Pulde with the intent to focus on a holistic approach to health that integrates nutrition, lifestyle, and emotional well-being. The WeBe Kalm device fits into this philosophy by providing a practical method for emotional self-regulation. It has been praised for its effectiveness in helping children and adults manage their emotions and improve their overall well-being by fostering mindfulness and calmness in stressful situations​.      

Welcome back to Season 11 of the Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast! In episode 335, we delve into the neuroscience of emotion regulation, a crucial skill for personal and professional success. Host Andrea Samadi continues the 18-week self-leadership series inspired by Grant Bosnick's book, focusing on strategies to enhance our ability to manage emotions effectively. We explore practical tips from Bosnick, such as labeling emotions, creating distance from them, and reframing situations to view them more positively. Additionally, we highlight the importance of sleep for emotion regulation, drawing insights from experts like Dr. Andrew Huberman and Dr. Matthew Walker. Discover how improving your sleep quality can lead to better emotional control and overall well-being. Join us as we connect the dots between neuroscience, sleep, and emotional intelligence to help you achieve greater heights in 2024 and beyond. On today's episode #335 we continue with our 18-Week Self-Leadership Series based on Grant Bosnick's “Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership: A Bite Size Approach Using Psychology and Neuroscience” that we first dove into with our interview on EP #321[i] the end of January.  The goal was that each week, we focused on learning something new, (from Grant's book) that builds off the prior week, to help take us to greater heights in 2024.   For Today, EPISODE #335, we are moving on to Chapter 9, covering “The Neuroscience of Emotion Regulation” which showed up on my leadership self-assessment as a low, RED score, of 20%, but again, not because it's not something I don't need to pay attention to, this is something I pay attention to daily, right up there with physical health that is listed in Pathway Four of Grant's Self-Leadership Map. If you've taken the leadership self-assessment[ii], look to see if Emotion Regulation is of a low, medium or high priority for you to focus on this year. Before looking at what Grant Bosnick has to say about Emotion Regulation in Chapter 9 of his book, I looked around to see what else I could find on this topic. We actually have already covered this topic as one of the six social emotional learning competencies that we launched this podcast with, back in August, 2019[iii] and we called that episode “Self-Regulation: The Foundational Learning Skill for Future Success.”  In this early episode, we defined self-regulation as “the ability to manage your emotions and behavior in accordance of the situation. It includes being able to resist highly emotional reactions to upsetting stimuli, to calm yourself down when you get upset, adjust to a change in expectations and (the ability) to handle frustration”[iv] In other words, it's the ability to bounce back after a setback or disappointment, and the ability to stay in congruence with your inner value system.  HOW TO HELP OUR CHILDREN WITH EMOTION REGULATION: We covered some tips on this early episode to help our children to practice this skill, and strengthen their “self-regulation” muscles, beginning with: Naming the emotion they are experiencing at a given moment, with a strategy (like stopping to take some deep breaths when something frustrates or overwhelms them) so they can keep working, and move forward. Uncovering what motivates each of us to develop intrinsic motivation that can help propel us forward. Taking brain breaks, or “unfocused moments” that allow for the brain to solve problems during these resting states. WHAT GRANT BOSNICK SUGGESTS FOR EMOTION REGULATION: Then we covered some tips to help us to continue to strengthen these self-regulation skills in the workplace, and I wondered what Grant Bosnick had to say in chapter 9 of his book on this topic. Within the second paragraph of this chapter, he explains the science behind emotion regulation when he outlines that “neuroscience has shown us that the exact same feelings we get from a physical threat also occur as social and emotional threats.” (Page 91, Chapter 9, Emotional Regulation, Bosnick).  This took me back to working with children with this foundational learning skill, that determines future success, and the whole idea that “social and emotional threats” can impact us (stop us in our tracks) exactly as if there was a actual physical threat (like coming face to face with a bear in the forest). In Chapter 9, Grant explains some different ways to regulate our emotions, and he uses a graphic to demonstrate how to move forward, while regulating our emotions, instead of spiraling out of control, downwards, and it begins with where we focus our attention. If we focus on the emotional aspects, he tells us “it will drive us into a downward spiral” but if we learn to “focus on the nonemotional aspects, or distance ourselves (from whatever it is that is bothering us) this is the start to creating an upward spiral.” (Page 94, Chapter 9, Emotional Regulation, Bosnick).    IMAGE CREDIT: Image 9.2 from Grant Bosnick's Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership TIP 1: LEARN TO LABEL OUR EMOTIONS: Bosnick agrees with the steps we created to build emotion regulation in our children, as he also mentions the importance of being able to name or label the emotion that you are having first. TIP 2: DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM EMOTIONS THAT ARE BOTHERING YOU TO PROVIDE TEMPORARY RELIEF: Then he suggests to find ways to distance yourself from the emotion (he calls this attentional deployment) to give you temporary relief from the situation. He mentions seeing the issue through someone else's eyes, and I remember Dr. Maiysha Clairborne sharing this strategy back on EP 289[v] when she explained the importance of stepping into someone else's shoes when you are in conflict with them, to feel what they feel, and even stepping back and looking at the entire problem from above (outside of anyone's shoes) to gain a new perspective. TIP 3: REFRAME THE CONFLICT: Next Bosnick suggests “reappraisal or reframing” the conflict, by looking at it in a more positive way. He mentions that mindfulness can help us to “take a step back, lower anxiety, bring attention to the moment, become less judgmental about what is happening, help the brain to not attach meaning to the emotions and be open to new meaning and new connections.” (Page 97, Chapter 9, Emotional Regulation, Bosnick). He suggests looking at the situation from someone else's point of view to reframe it. TIP 4: LEARN TO REGULATE OUR EMOTIONS BY FINDING STRATEGIES THAT KEEP US STRONG, AND CLEAR HEADED: It's his last technique of “response modulation” that caught my attention the most, because we've all experienced this. Once we are hit with an emotion about something, he asks “is it better to suppress it, or acknowledge it?” (Page 99, Chapter 9, Emotional Regulation, Bosnick). He says “when we feel strong, clear-headed and have executive control, it is better to acknowledge the emotion so we can regulate it.” (Page 100, Chapter 9, Emotional Regulation, Bosnick). EMOTION REGULATION AND SLEEP: So in a world where we are hit daily by external stimuli, how on the earth can we be proactive to stay mentally strong and clear-headed so we have improved executive control to manage our emotions and regulate them? This took me straight to the work of Dr. Andrew Huberman, and Dr. Matthew Walker who recently recorded an episode called “Improve Sleep to Boost Mood and Emotion Regulation.” [vi] It was here where I learned just how important sleep is for keeping a strong, clear mind, so we can use this strength to acknowledge and regulate our emotions, like Bosnick suggested. Dr. Walker, a professor of neuroscience and psychology at the University of California, Berkeley and the host of The Matt Walker Podcast, gave example after example that proved that when you've NOT had a good night's sleep, things that wouldn't bother you (when you've slept well), begin to aggravate, or grate on you more. Here's what I found to be remarkable on this topic, something I had not ever heard before. DID YOU KNOW that "The greater amount of REM sleep you are getting (where our dreams occur), the greater amount of emotional detox you will get the next day?" (Dr. Matthew Walker). Dr. Walker went on to explain that “the brain chemical noradrenaline (that's responsible for our stress reaction) completely shuts off during REM sleep, and serotonin (that plays a role with our mood) decreases, while acetyl choline (that carries messages from our brain to our body through nerve cells) increases by up to 30% in some parts of the brain (and can be even more active than when we were awake).  Dr. Walker concluded that the decrease of stress related brain chemicals is what makes “REM sleep was the perfect condition for overnight therapy.” If we want to improve our emotion regulation, the science is pointing directly to improving our sleep. Diving deep into the 4 stages of sleep and suggestions to improve our sleep is something I've been working on for the past 5 years. There is a lot to this, and I'm still working on improving ALL the macroingredients of a good sleep (suggested by Dr. Walker), that include QQRT, or knowing the quantity (amount of sleep), quality (fragmented vs continuous), regularity (sleeping/waking around the same time) and timing (sleeping in alignment with my chronotype).  Dr. Walker dives deep into all these areas with Dr. Huberman, and if you do wonder where you can improve, I highly suggest their 6-part series on sleep.  TIPS FOR IMPROVING EMOTION REGULATION BY IMPROVING OUR SLEEP: Here are three tips that I took away from the neuroscience of self-regulation, that I've been working on, to see if improving my sleep in these areas, could possibly improve emotion regulation. KNOW HOW MUCH DEEP SLEEP WE ARE GETTING EACH NIGHT: We all know the importance of knowing how much sleep we are getting to be well-rested the next day, (how many hours or the quantity) but it's also important to keep an eye on the QUALITY or amount of DEEP RESTORATIVE sleep we are getting each night.   Most of us could all sleep a bit longer (or I'll speak for myself here) because this is one area that's hard to do living in Arizona. If I want to beat the summer heat, we need to wake up early to exercise before the heat advisory warnings go off around 8am, and this means that to get one benefit, (daily exercise) it comes at the cost of losing some sleep.  In addition to knowing I need to improve how long I'm sleeping, (and ways to offset waking up early for exercise) it's also being sure that I'm getting quality sleep each night. This is my current area of focus that I've been tracking the past few months. You can see from the diagram in the show notes that there are some nights I went above my average of 2 hours 22 minutes of restorative sleep, measuring this using the Whoop wearable tracker, and other nights I was far below. When I looked at what was happening in my life on those days where restorative sleep was low, there wasn't anything that stood out, other than when I began to pay attention to ALL areas of sleep (QQRT-quality, quantity, regularity and timing), restorative sleep improved. There are many type of trackers you can use to track restorative sleep. The tracker I use tells me how much deep sleep I'm getting (that's physically restorative) and how much REM sleep (that's mentally restorative). KNOW HOW MUCH REM SLEEP WE ARE GETTING: Keeping an eye on how much REM sleep we getting, is my next tip, since we know it's important for consolidating new memories, learning and motor skills. We also just learned that the more REM sleep we are getting, we can say we are getting some good overnight therapy, restoring ourselves mentally. You can find sleep trackers that can help you to measure and track these important ingredients of a good sleep for yourself, and see how much REM sleep you are getting each night, while keeping in mind that “the greater amount of REM sleep you are getting, the greater amount of emotional detox you will get the next day.” (Dr. Walker) I noticed this number improved just by forcing myself to stay in bed a little bit longer, even if it was only waking up, and saying “try to go back to sleep for another 15 or 20 minutes” and this improved REM sleep, since the REM sleep rich phase is at the end of the night. You can see the purple areas on the graph of my REM sleep in the show notes, right at the end of my sleep. If I had not pushed to stay asleep till after 5:00am (my internal clock would have me getting up at 4am) then I would have missed out on some valuable REM sleep here. If you can measure this for yourself, you can find ways to increase this valuable sleep stage for yourself. I'll also add that if you can remember your dreams, especially the ones just before you wake up, you can learn a lot about yourself, increasing your self-awareness. Remember, we are working on ways to help with our emotion regulation, and it seems to me, that an easy way to do this, would be to see how we can improve our REM sleep.   APPLY THE SCIENCE OF SLEEP TO IMPROVE EMOTION REGULATION: Since “during REM sleep the stress chemicals are turned off” helping us to “strip away the emotion from the memory” we can take this understanding a step further, and see if we are able to solve any of our problems during sleep. Dr. Huberman and Dr. Walker went into great detail about this concept[vii] that I've actually witnessed it first-hand. They described what happens in REM sleep to be like “Behavior-Desensitization” and I had the opportunity to see the stages of this process, done by someone skilled and trained in trauma and the brain, working with someone I know well, who has experiences significant trauma in their life, starting at an early age. Using a series of techniques, the trained therapist took the client safely from talking about a traumatic memory from their childhood, (with exteme emotion attached) to where they could say out loud that the memory had lost its emotional load and no longer gave them an emotional reaction. This is exactly what happens to our brain during REM sleep and why it's mentally restorative. Putting these tips all together, and knowing that improving the quality, and quantity of sleep is linked to improving emotion regulation, I'm working hard to improve restorative sleep and REM sleep, each month.  I hope these tips have given you some insight on NEW ways that sleep can improve our emotion regulation. REVIEW AND CONCLUSION To review and conclude this week's episode #335 on Chapter 9 on “The Neuroscience of Emotion Regulation” We looked at where we covered self-regulation in our early days of this podcast back in August of 2019, with some tips for teaching this skill to our children or students. This skill is one of 6 social and emotional skills that are finally being taught in our schools today. This is a foundational skill for future success. We looked at Grant Bosnick's suggestion to regulate emotions in his book, Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership with his chart that suggests: TIP 1: Labelling our emotions, and looking for a way to distract/create distance from them to provide temporary relief. If we focus on the emotional aspects, he tells us “it will drive us into a downward spiral” TIP 2: If we learn to “focus on the non-emotional aspects, or distance ourselves (from whatever it is that is bothering us) this is the start to creating an upward spiral.” TIP 3: Reframing the emotion, or changing the way we think about it, by looking at the problem from a different perspective, can help to see it in a more positive way. TIP 4: In Bosnick's last technique of “response modulation” he mentioned that once we are hit with an emotion about something, he asks “is it better to suppress it, or acknowledge it?” (Page 99, Chapter 9, Emotional Regulation, Bosnick). He says “when we feel strong, clear-headed and have executive control, it is better to acknowledge the emotion so we can regulate it.” (Page 100, Chapter 9, Emotional Regulation, Bosnick). CONNECTING THE SCIENCE OF SLEEP TO IMPROVE EMOTION REGULATION: This led us to dive deeper into the neuroscience of emotion regulation with the work of Dr. Andrew Huberman and Dr. Matthew Walker, known as The Sleep Diplomat. “Sleep moves the needle on almost every aspect of brain and body health” Matt Walker Before listening to Dr. Walker's most recent episode with Dr. Huberman, I had no idea that the research would point to a direct correlation with a good night's sleep and our emotion regulation. DID YOU KNOW that “The greater amount of REM sleep we are getting, the greater amount of emotional detox we will get the next day?” (Dr. Matthew Walker).   Grant Bosnick said that “when we feel strong, clear-headed and have executive control, it is better to acknowledge the emotion so we can regulate it.” (Page 100, Chapter 9, Emotional Regulation, Bosnick). It therefore makes sense to me that in order to strengthen emotion regulation, then we must therefore strengthen our sleep. 3 TIPS FOR IMPROVING EMOTION REGULATION BY MEASURING OUR SLEEP: KNOW HOW MUCH DEEP SLEEP WE ARE GETTING EACH NIGHT KNOW HOW MUCH REM SLEEP WE ARE GETTING KNOW THAT INCREASING REM SLEEP= OVERNIGHT THERAPY  Finally, how will we know if we are improving our emotion regulation by improving our sleep? Ask yourself how well you are doing with this. Remember: When we feel strong, clear-headed and have executive control, (it is better to acknowledge the emotion so) we will be able to better manage our emotions.  (Page 100, Chapter 9, Emotional Regulation, Bosnick). This is a work in progress for me, but without asking anyone else, I know that the research is accurate when it shows that “sleep deprivation increases reactivity in the amygdala by 60%.”[viii] To best way to improve reactivity in the amygdala, is by getting sufficient sleep. Improving all the ingredients of sleep (quality, quantity, regularity and timing). I also know that when I'm getting a good night sleep, my senses are more activated, and I can see more beauty in the world, especially with others around me. I'm more accepting of myself, and know that I'm stronger and more peaceful, which is what Grant Bosnick suggested for being able to improve this foundational success skill. This translates to the work I'm doing, looking at the world through a different lens where life becomes more joyful, creating hope that anything is possible (for myself and others). And all of this came from connecting the science behind a good night's sleep to emotion regulation. I hope this episode has given you some helpful ideas, and we will see you next time, as we move to chapter 10 of Grant Boswick's book on the Science Behind Persuading and Influencing. REVIEW In this 18-week Series that we began in the beginning of February, (after I was inspired to cover Grant's book after our interview the end of January) we are covering: ✔ Powerful tactics from this Grant Bosnick's award-winning book that illustrates how change and achievement are truly achievable both from internal ('inside out') and external ('outside in') perspectives. ✔Listeners will grasp the immense power of self-leadership and its transformative effect on personal growth and success by applying the neuroscience Grant has uncovered in each chapter. ✔Explore practical strategies for habit formation and the impact of a self-assessment system. ✔Gain insights from Grant's expert advice on maintaining a balance between strengths and weaknesses while chasing after your goals. ✔Embark on an intellectual journey that has the power to elevate personal achievement and self-awareness to uncharted levels while we map out our journey over this 18-week course. REFERENCES: [i]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #321 with Grant ‘Upbeat' Bosnick  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/insights-from-grant-upbeat-bosnick/   [ii] Self-Assessment for Grant Bosnick's book https://www.selfleadershipassessment.com/   [iii] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #14 “Self-Regulation: The Foundational Skill for Future Success” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/self-regulation-the-foundational-learning-skill-for-future-success/   [iv] How Can We Help Our Kids with Self-Regulation https://childmind.org/article/can-help-kids-self-regulation/amp/   [v]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #289 with Dr. Maiysha Clairborne on “What Hold Us Back: Getting to the Roots of Our Doubts, Fears and Beliefs”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/maiysha-clairborne-md-on-what-holds-us-back-getting-to-the-root-of-our-doubts-fears-and-beliefs/   [vi] Dr. Matt Walker: Improve Sleep to Boost Mood & Emotional Regulation | Huberman Lab Guest Series  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S_SrHS8FvMM   [vii] Dr. Matt Walker: Improve Sleep to Boost Mood & Emotional Regulation | Huberman Lab Guest Series  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S_SrHS8FvMM   [viii] IBID      

Individuals with BPD often struggle with patience and emotion regulation. Listen in today for some self reflection questions as well as one action oriented step you can take to begin enhancing this skill today! May is BPD Awareness Month! Consider joining our recovery oriented, positive community today here: ⁠⁠https://fromb2b.mn.co/⁠⁠ Do you want a new perspective? Start with scheduling a session with Rose here: ⁠https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/individual-sessions/ ⁠ To schedule with Jay, click here: ⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/contact-2/⁠ Please remember that this podcast or the B2B Community is not a replacement for therapy or clinical services. We are mindset coaches and want to offer this content for the betterment of the BPD community. We offer mindset coaching only for individuals nationally and internationally. ⁠Jump start your recovery today!⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rose-skeeters/support

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     1:53 - What "positive parenting" really is from a psychological perspective.   4:20 - Our child's development is not always linear, it's important to consider their regulation level and other situational factors when we set our expectations of them.   5:20 - As parents, we're often more triggered when our elementary-aged and older kids exhibit "bad behaviors."   7:19 - How to have a productive conversation with your child to pregame, collaboratively problem solve, and reflect on hot moments together once they are back in a regulated state.   9:10 - For older kids, you may need more structured behavioral interventions beyond just validating emotions and reflecting their feelings back to them.   14:17 - How to tailor your parenting approach to your unique child, rather than just accepting universal parenting strategies that may not be a good fit for you and your family.     ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

Dr. Anita Federici is a Clinical Psychologist and the Owner of The Centre for Psychology and Emotion Regulation. She serves an Adjunct Faculty position at York University and is a distinguished Fellow of the Academy for Eating Disorders (AED). From 2019 - 2022, Anita served as the elected Co-Chair for the Suicide and DBT Special Interest Group (SIG) for the AED and currently sits on the SIG Oversight Committee. Anita has had a considerable impact on the field through her leadership, advocacy work, and expertise. To date, she has provided more than 375 lectures, workshops, and invited talks on eating disorders, MED-DBT, compassionate care for complex needs, and developing differential care pathways that integrate biotemperament-based approaches, experts-by-experience, and ethical care. She has developed a robust training program, a wide network of allied health professionals, and a treatment centre in an underserved and rural region of Ontario. Her passion for inspiring and invigorating hope for clients and clinicians is at the heart of her work.  Known for her engaging and authentic style of training, Anita has become a highly sought-after consultant. She works extensively with hospitals and community organizations nationally and internationally offering team training, implementation support, and program development with a special focus on creating differential care pathways for clients who do not respond to traditional treatment approaches. Her work has been presented at international conferences and published in peer-reviewed journals and invited book chapters.  Follow Anita: https://www.psychology-emotionregulation.ca  The content of our show is educational only. It does not supplement or supersede your healthcare provider's professional relationship and direction. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified mental health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition, substance use disorder, or mental health concern.  

Dr. Anita Federici is a Clinical Psychologist and the Owner of The Centre for Psychology and Emotion Regulation. She serves an Adjunct Faculty position at York University and is a distinguished Fellow of the Academy for Eating Disorders (AED). From 2019 - 2022, Anita served as the elected Co-Chair for the Suicide and DBT Special Interest Group (SIG) for the AED and currently sits on the SIG Oversight Committee. Anita has had a considerable impact on the field through her leadership, advocacy work, and expertise. To date, she has provided more than 375 lectures, workshops, and invited talks on eating disorders, MED-DBT, compassionate care for complex needs, and developing differential care pathways that integrate biotemperament-based approaches, experts-by-experience, and ethical care. She has developed a robust training program, a wide network of allied health professionals, and a treatment centre in an underserved and rural region of Ontario. Her passion for inspiring and invigorating hope for clients and clinicians is at the heart of her work.  Known for her engaging and authentic style of training, Anita has become a highly sought-after consultant. She works extensively with hospitals and community organizations nationally and internationally offering team training, implementation support, and program development with a special focus on creating differential care pathways for clients who do not respond to traditional treatment approaches. Her work has been presented at international conferences and published in peer-reviewed journals and invited book chapters.  The content of our show is educational only. It does not supplement or supersede your healthcare provider's professional relationship and direction. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified mental health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition, substance use disorder, or mental health concern.