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You can listen wherever you get your podcasts, OR— BRAND NEW: we've included a fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I speak with Shireen Rizvi, PhD and Jesse Finkelstein, PsyD, about their book Real Skills for Real Life: A DBT Guide to Navigating Stress, Emotions, and Relationships. We discuss what Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is, how it can help both ourselves and our kids with big feelings, and get into some of the skills it teaches including distress tolerance, check the facts, and mindfulness.**If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! > > If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice.Know someone who might appreciate this post? Share it with them!We talk about:* 6:00 What is DBT?* 11:00 The importance of validation* 13:00 How do parents manage their own big feelings?* 16:00 How do you support a kid with big feelings, and where is the place for problem solving?* 23:00 Managing the urge to fix things for our kids!* 26:00 What is distress tolerance?* 28:50 “Check the facts” is a foundational skill* 34:00 Mindfulness is a foundation of DBT* 36:45 How the skills taught through DBT are universalResources mentioned in this episode:* Yoto Player-Screen Free Audio Book Player* The Peaceful Parenting Membership* Real Skills for Real Life: A DBT Guide to Navigating Stress, Emotions, and Relationships by Shireen Rizvi and Jesse Finkelstein * Shireen Rizvi's website * Jesse Finkelstein's websites axiscbt and therahive Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:* Instagram* Facebook Group* YouTube* Website* Join us on Substack* Newsletter* Book a short consult or coaching session callxx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team- click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! 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No one listening or watching and they can't go where you don't want them to go and they aren't watching screens. BUT they are being entertained or kept company with audio that you can buy from YOTO or create yourself on one of their blank cards. Check them out HEREPodcast transcript:Sarah: Hey everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast. Today we have two guests who co-authored a book called Real Skills for Real Life: A DBT Guide to Navigating Stress, Emotions, and Relationships.And you may be wondering why we're talking about that on a parenting podcast. This was a really great conversation with Shireen Rizvi and Jesse Finkelstein, the co-authors of the book, about all of the skills of DBT, which is a modality of therapy. We talked about the skills they teach in DBT and how we can apply them to parenting.They talk about how emotional dysregulation is the cause of so much of the pain and suffering in our lives. And I think as a parent, you will recognize that either your own emotional dysregulation or your child's is often where a lot of issues and conflict come from.So what they've really provided in this book—and given us a window into in this conversation—is how we can apply some of those skills toward helping ourselves and helping our children with big feelings, a.k.a. emotional dysregulation. It was a really wonderful conversation, and their book is wonderful too. We'll put a link to it in the show notes and encourage you to check it out.There are things you can listen to in this podcast today and then walk away and use right away. One note: you'll notice that a lot of what they talk about really overlaps with the things we teach and practice inside of Peaceful Parenting.If this episode is helpful for you, please share it with a friend. Screenshot it and send it to someone who could use some more skill-building around big emotions—whether they're our own big emotions or our child's. Sharing with a friend or word of mouth is a wonderful way for us to reach more people and more families and help them learn about peaceful parenting.It is a slow process, but I really believe it is the way we change the world. Let's meet Shireen and Jesse.Hi, Jesse. Hi, Shireen. Welcome to the podcast.Jesse: Thank you so much for having us.Sarah: Yeah. I'm so excited about your book, which I understand is out now—Real Skills for Real Life: A DBT Guide to Navigating Stress, Emotions, and Relationships. First of all, I love the format of your book. It's super easy to read and easy to use. I already thought about tearing out the pages with the flow charts, which are such great references—really helpful for anyone who has emotions. Basically anyone who has feelings.Jesse: Oh, yes.Sarah: Yeah. I thought they were great, and I think this is going to be a helpful conversation for parents. You've written from a DBT framework. Can you explain what DBT is and maybe how it's different from CBT? A lot of people have heard more about cognitive behavior therapy than dialectical behavior therapy.Shireen: Sure. I would first say that DBT—Dialectical Behavior Therapy—is a form of cognitive behavioral therapy. So they're in the same category. Sometimes we hear therapists say, “I do DBT, but I don't do CBT,” and from my perspective, that's not really possible, because the essence of dialectical behavior therapy is CBT. CBT focuses on how our thoughts, behaviors, and emotions all go together, and how changing any one of those affects the others.That's really the core of DBT—the foundation of CBT. But what happened was the person who developed DBT, Marsha Linehan—she was actually my grad school advisor at the University of Washington—developed this treatment because she was finding that standard CBT was not working as well as she wanted it to for a particular population. The group she was working with were women, primarily, who had significant problems with emotion regulation and were chronically suicidal or self-injuring.With that group, she found they needed a lot more validation—validation that things were really rough, that it was hard to change what was going on, that they needed support and comfort. But if she leaned too much on validation, patients got frustrated that there wasn't enough change happening.So what she added to standard CBT was first a focus on validation and acceptance, and then what she refers to as the dialectical piece: balancing between change and acceptance. The idea is: You're doing the best you can—and you need to do better.Jesse: Mm-hmm.Shireen: And even though DBT was developed for that very severe group that needed a lot of treatment, one of the aspects of DBT is skills training—teaching people skills to manage their emotions, regulate distress, engage interpersonally in a more effective way.Those skills became so popular that people started using them with everyone they were treating, not just people who engaged in chronic suicidal behavior.Sarah: Very cool. And I think the population you're referring to is people who might be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I bring that up only because I work with parents, not kids, and parents report to me what their children are like. I've had many parents worry, “Do you think my child has borderline personality disorder?” because they've heard of it and associate it with extreme sensitivity and big feelings.A lot of that is just typical of someone who's 13 or 14, right? Or of a sensitive child—not diagnosable or something you'd necessarily find in the DSM. I've heard it so many times. I say, “No, I don't think your child has borderline personality disorder. I think they're just really sensitive and haven't learned how to manage their big feelings yet. And that's something you can help them with.”With that similar level of emotional intensity—in a preteen or early teen who's still developing the brain structures that make self-regulation possible—how can we use DBT skills? What are a couple of ideas you might recommend when you have a 13-year-old who feels like life is ruined because the jeans they wanted to wear are soaking wet in the wash? And I'm not making fun—at 13, belonging is tied to how you look, what jeans you're wearing, how your hair is. It feels very real.So how might we use the skills you write about for that kind of situation?Jesse: Well, Sarah, I actually think you just practiced one of the skills: validation. When someone feels like their day is ruined because of their jeans, often a parent will say, “Get over it. It's not a big deal.” And now, in addition to fear or anxiety, there's a layer of shame or resentment. So the emotion amplifies and becomes even harder to get out of.Validation is a skill we talk about where you recognize the kernel of truth—how this experience makes sense. “The jeans you're wearing are clearly important to you. This is about connection. I understand why you feel this way.” That simple act of communicating that someone's thoughts and feelings make sense can be very powerful.Alongside that—back to what Shireen was saying—there are two tracks. One is the skills you help your teen practice. The other is the skills you practice yourself to be effective. In that moment, your teen might be dysregulated. What is the parent's emotion? Their urge? What skills can they practice to be effective?Sarah: I love that you already went to the next question I was going to ask, which is: when that kid is screaming, “You don't understand, I can't go to school because of the jeans,” what can parents do for themselves using the skills you describe?Shireen: I often think of the oxygen-mask analogy: put on your own oxygen mask before helping others. That was certainly true for me when I had fussy infants—how do you manage that stress when you are already heightened?What do you need to do to regulate yourself so you can be effective in the moment? Sometimes that's literally taking a time-out—leaving the room for a minute. The kid comes after you about the jeans, and you say, “Hold on, I need a minute.” You sequester yourself in the bathroom. You do paced breathing—a DBT skill that helps regulate your nervous system. You do that for a minute, get centered, and then return to the situation.If you're not regulated and your child is dysregulated, you'll ping-pong off each other and it becomes messier and messier. But if you can regulate yourself and approach calmly, the whole interaction changes.Sarah: It's so interesting because people who've been listening to my podcast or know my work will think, “Oh yeah, these are the things Sarah talks about all the time.” Our first principle of peaceful parenting is parental self-regulation. It doesn't mean you never get upset, but you recognize it and have strategies to get back to calm.And I always say, if you forget everything else I teach about dealing with upset kids, just remember empathy—which is another way of saying validation. I tell parents: you don't have to agree to empathize. Especially with situations like the jeans.I love the crossover between the skills parents are practicing in my community and what you've written about. And again: those flow charts! I'm going to mark up my book with Post-its for all the exercises.One of the things you talk about in the book is problem solving. As parents, we can find ourselves in these intense situations. I'll give an example: a client's daughter, at 11 p.m., was spiraling about needing a particular pair of boots for her Halloween costume, and they wouldn't arrive in time. No matter what the mom said, the daughter spiraled.This is a two-part question: If you've validated and they're still really upset, how do you support a kid who is deep in those intense feelings? And when is the place for teaching problem solving—especially when there is a real logistical problem to solve?Jesse: I'm going to say the annoying therapist thing: it depends. If we think about how emotions impact our thinking on a scale from 0 to 10, it's very hard to engage in wise-minded problem solving when someone is at an 8, 9, or 10. At that point, the urge is to act on crisis behaviors—yell, fight, ruminate.So engaging your child in problem solving when they're at a 9 isn't effective.Often, I suggest parents model and coach distress-tolerance skills. Shireen mentioned paced breathing. Maybe distraction. Anything to lower the emotional volume.Once we're in the six-ish range? Now we can problem solve. DBT has a very prescribed step-by-step process.But it's really hard if someone is so dysregulated. That's often where parents and kids end up in conflict: parent wants to solve; kid is at a 9 and can't even see straight.Sarah: Right. So walk us through what that might look like using the boots example. Play the parent for a moment.Jesse: Of course. I'd potentially do a couple of things. I might say, “Okay, let's do a little ‘tipping the temperature' together.” I'd bring out two bowls of ice and say, “We'll bend over, hold our breath for 30 seconds…”Shireen: And put your face in the bowl of ice water. You left out that part.Jesse: Crucial part of the step.Sarah: You just look at the ice water?Jesse: No, you submerge your face. And something happens—it's magical. There's actually a profound physiological effect: lowering blood pressure, calming the sympathetic nervous system.I highlight for parents: do this with your child, not didactically. Make it collaborative.And then: validate, validate, validate. Validation is not approval. It's not saying the reaction is right. It's simply communicating that their distress makes sense. Validation is incredibly regulating.Then you check in: “Do you feel like we can access Wise Mind?” If yes: “Great. Let's bring out a problem-solving worksheet—maybe from Real Skills for Real Life or the DBT manual. Let's walk through it step by step.”Sarah: And if you have a kid screaming, “Get that ice water away from me, that has nothing to do with the boots!”—is there anything to add beyond taking a break?Shireen: I'd say this probably comes up a lot for you, Sarah. As parents—especially high-functioning, maybe perfectionistic types (I put myself in that category)—if my kid is upset, I feel so many urges to fix it right away. Sometimes that's helpful, but often it's not. They either don't want to be fixed, or they're too dysregulated, or fixing isn't actually their goal—they just want to tell you how upset they are.I have to practice acceptance: “My kid is upset right now. That's it.” I remind myself: kids being upset is part of life. It's important for them to learn they can be upset and the world doesn't fall apart.If they're willing to do skills alongside you, great. But there will be times where you say, “I accept that you're upset. I'm sorry you feel this way. It sounds terrible. Let's reconnect in an hour.” And wait for the storm to pass.Sarah: Wait for the storm to pass.Jesse: I'll say—I haven't been a therapist that long, and I've been having this conversation with my own parents. Yesterday I called my mom about something stressful, and she said, “Jesse, do you want validation or problem solving right now?”Shireen: Love it.Jesse: I thought, “You taught her well.” I was like: okay, therapy works. And even having that prompt—“What would you like right now? Problem solving? Validation? Do you want me to just sit with you?”—that's so useful.Sarah: Yeah. I have to remind myself of that with my daughter, especially when the solution seems obvious to me but she's too upset to take it in. Just sitting there is the hardest thing in the world.And you've both anticipated my next question. A big part of your book is distress tolerance—one of the four areas. Can you talk about what distress tolerance is specifically? And as you mentioned, Shireen, it is excruciating when your kid is in pain or upset.I learned from my friend Ned Johnson—his wonderful book The Self-Driven Child—that there's something called the “righting instinct.” When your child falls over, you have the instinct to right them—pick them up, dust them off, stand them up. That instinct kicks in whenever they're distressed. And I think it's important for them to learn skills so we don't do that every time.Give us some thoughts about that.Shireen: Well, again, I think distress tolerance is so important for parents and for kids. The way we define it in DBT is: distress tolerance is learning how to tolerate stressful, difficult, complicated situations without doing anything to make it worse. That's the critical part, because distress tolerance is not about solving problems. It's about getting through without making things worse.So in the context of an interaction with your kid, “not making it worse” might mean biting your tongue and not lashing out, not arguing, not rolling your eyes, or whatever it is. And then tolerating the stress of the moment.As parents, we absolutely need this probably a thousand times a day. “How do I tolerate the distress of this moment with my kid?” And then kids, as humans, need to learn distress tolerance too—how to tolerate a difficult situation without doing anything to make it worse.If we swoop in too quickly to solve the problem for them—as you said, if we move in too quickly to right them—they don't learn that they can get through it themselves. They don't learn that they can right themselves.And I think there's been a lot written about generations and how parenting has affected different generations. We want our kids to learn how to problem solve, but also how to manage stress and difficulty in effective ways.Sarah: I think you're probably referring to the “helicopter parents,” how people are always talking about helicopter parents who are trying to remove any obstacles or remove the distress, basically.I think the answer isn't that we just say, “Okay, well, you're distressed, deal with it,” but that we're there with them emotionally while they're learning. We're next to them, right? With that co-regulation piece, while they're learning that they can handle those big feelings.Shireen: Yes. Yeah. Yeah.Sarah: I thought it might be fun, before we close out, to do a deep dive on maybe one or two of the skills you have in the book. I was thinking about maybe “Check the Facts.” It would be a cool one to do a deep dive on. You have so many awesome skills and I encourage anyone to pick up your book. “Check the Facts” is one of the emotion regulation skills.Do you mind going over when you would use Check the Facts, what it is, and how to use it?Jesse: Not at all. Check the Facts is, in many ways, a foundational skill, because it's so easy for us to get lost in our interpretation of a situation. So the classic example is: you're walking down the street and you wave to a friend, and they don't wave back. And I don't know about you, but it's easy for me to go to, “Oh, they must be mad at me.”Sarah: Right, yeah.Jesse: And all of a sudden, I'm spinning out, thinking about all the things I could have done to hurt their feelings, and yada yada yada. Then I'm feeling lots of upset, and I may have the urge to apologize, etc.What we're doing with Check the Facts is returning our attention back to the facts themselves—the things we can take in with our senses. We're observing and describing, which are two foundational mindfulness skills in DBT. And then from that, we ask ourselves: “Does the emotion I'm feeling—the intensity and duration of that emotion—fit the facts as I'm experiencing them?”So in many ways, this is one of those cognitive interventions. DBT rests on all these cognitive-behavioral principles; it's part of that broader umbrella. Here we're asking: “Do the facts as I see them align with my emotional experience?”From there, we ask: if yes, then there are certain options or skills we can practice—for instance, we can change the problem. If no, that begs the question: “Should I act opposite to this emotion urge that I have?”So it's a very grounding, centering type of skill. Shireen, is there anything I'm missing?Shireen: No. I would just give a parenting example that happens for me a lot. My kid has a test the next day. He says he knows everything. He doesn't open the book or want to review the study guide. And I start to think things like, “Oh my gosh, he has no grit. He's going to fail this test. He's not going to do well in high school. He's not going to get into a good college. But most importantly, he doesn't care. And what does that say about him? And what does it say about me as a parent?”I hope people listening can relate to these sorts of thoughts and I'm not alone.Sarah: A hundred percent. I've heard people say those exact things.Shireen: And even though I practice these skills all the time, I'm also human and a mother. So where Check the Facts can be useful there is first just recognizing: “Okay, what thoughts am I having in response to this behavior?” The facts of the situation are: my kid said he doesn't need to study anymore. And then look at all these thoughts that came into my mind.First, just recognizing: here was the event, and here's what my mind did. That, in and of itself, is a useful experience. You can say, “Wow, look at what I'm doing in my mind that's creating so much of a problem.”Then I can also think: “What does this make me feel when I have all these thoughts?” I feel fear. I feel sad. I feel shame about not being a good parent. And those all cause me to have more thoughts and urges to do things that aren't super effective—like trying to bully him into studying, all of these things.Then the skill can be: “Okay, are these thoughts exaggerated? Are they based in fact? Are they useful?” I can analyze each of these thoughts.I might think, “Well, he has a history of not studying and doing fine,” is one thing. Another thought: “Me trying to push him to study is not going to be effective or helpful.” Another: “There are natural consequences. If he doesn't do well because he didn't study, that's an important lesson for him to learn.”So I can start to change my interpretations based on the facts of the actual situation as opposed to my exaggerated interpretations. And then see: what does that do to my emotions? And when I have more realistic, fact-based thoughts, does that lead me to have a better response than I would if I followed through on all my exaggerated thinking?Does that make sense?Sarah: Yeah, totally makes sense. Are there any DBT skills that are helpful in helping you recognize when you need to use a skill—if that makes sense? Because sometimes I think parents might spiral, like in the example you're talking about, but they might not even realize they're spiraling. Sometimes parents will say, “I don't even know until it's too late that I've had this big moment of emotional dysregulation.”Jesse: I think there's a very strong reason why mindfulness is the foundation of DBT—for exactly the reason you've just described. For a lot of us, we end up engaging in behaviors that are ineffective, that are not in line with our values or goals, and it feels like it's just happening to us.So having a mindfulness practice—and I want to highlight that doesn't necessarily mean a formal meditation practice—but developing the skill of noticing, of being increasingly conscious of what you're feeling, your urges, your thoughts, your behaviors. So that when you notice that you are drifting, that you're engaging in an ineffective behavior, you can then apply a skill. We can't change what we're not aware of.Sarah: I love that. It's so hard with all the distractions we have and all of the things that are pulling us this way and that, and the busyness. So just slowing down and starting to notice more what we're feeling and thinking.Shireen: There's a skill that we teach that's in the category of mindfulness called Wise Mind. I don't have to get into all the particulars of that, but Wise Mind is when you're in a place where you feel wise and centered and perhaps a little bit calmer.So one question people can ask themselves is: “Am I in a place of Wise Mind right now?” And if not, that's the cue. Usually, when we answer that we're not, it's because we're in a state of Emotion Mind, where our emotions are in control of us.First, recognizing what state of mind you're in can be really helpful. You can use that as a cue: “I'm not in Wise Mind. I need to do something more skillful here to get there,” or, “I need to give myself some time before I act.”Sarah: I love that. So helpful. Before we wrap up, was there anything you wish I'd asked you that you think would be really helpful for parents and kids?Shireen: I just want to reiterate something you said earlier, which is: yes, this treatment was developed for folks with borderline personality disorder. That is often a diagnosis people run screaming from or are very nervous about. People might hesitate to think that these skills could be useful for them if they don't identify as having borderline personality disorder.But I think what you're highlighting, Sarah—and we so appreciate you having us on and talking about these skills—is that we consider these skills universal. Really anybody can benefit.I've done training and teaching in DBT for 25 years, and I teach clinicians in many different places how to do DBT treatment with patients. But inevitably, what happens is that the clinicians themselves say, “Oh, I really need these skills in my everyday life.”So that's what we want to highlight, and why we wrote this book: to take these skills from a treatment designed for a really severe population and break it down so anybody can see, “Oh, this would be useful for me in my everyday life, and I want to learn more.”Sarah: Totally. Yeah. I love it. And I think it's a continuum, right? From feeling like emotions are overwhelming and challenging, and being really emotionally sensitive. There are lots of people who are on that more emotionally sensitive side of things, and these are really helpful skills for them.Jesse: Yeah. And to add on that, I wouldn't want anyone—and I don't think any of us here are suggesting this—it's such a stigmatized diagnosis. I have yet to meet someone who's choosing suffering. Many of us are trying to find relief from a lot of pain, and we may do so through really ineffective means.So with BPD, in my mind, sometimes it's an unfortunate name for a diagnosis. Many folks may have the opinion that it means they're intrinsically broken, or there's something wrong with their personality. Really, it's a constellation of behaviors that there are treatments for.So I want anyone listening not to feel helpless or hopeless in having this diagnosis or experience.Shireen: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.Sarah: Thank you so much. The question I ask all my guests—I'll ask Shireen first and then Jesse—is: if you could go back in time, if you had a time machine, if you could go back to your younger parent self, what advice would you give yourself?Shireen: Oof. I think about this a lot, actually, because I feel like I did suffer a lot when my kids were babies. They were super colicky. I didn't sleep at all. I was also trying to work. I was very stressed. I wish that at that time I could have taken in what other people were telling me, which is: “This will pass.” Right? “This too shall pass,” which is something we say to ourselves as DBT therapists a lot. Time changes. Change is inevitable. Everything changes.In those dark parenting moments, you get stuck in thoughts of, “This is never going to change. It's always going to be this way. I can't tolerate this.” Instead, shifting to recognize: “Change is going to happen whether I like it or not. Just hang in there.”Sarah: I love that. My mother-in-law told me when I had my first child: “When things are bad, don't worry, they'll get better. And also, when things are good, don't worry, they'll get worse.”Shireen: Yes, it's true. And we need both the ups and the downs so we can actually understand, “Oh, this is why I like this, and this is why I don't like this.” It's part of life.Sarah: Yeah. Thank you. And Jesse, if you do ever have children, what would you want to remember to tell yourself?Jesse: I think I would want to remember to tell myself—and I don't think I'm going to say anything really new here—that perfection is a myth. I think parents often feel like they need to be some kind of superhuman. But we all feel. And when we do feel, and when we feel strongly, the goal isn't to shame ourselves for having that experience. It's to simply understand it.That's what I would want to communicate to myself, and what I hope to communicate to the parents I work with.Sarah: Love that. Best place to go to find out more about you all and what you do? We'll put a link to your book in the show notes, but any other socials or websites you want to point people to?Shireen: My website is shireenrizvi.com, where you can find a number of resources, including a link to the book and a link to our YouTube channel, which has skills videos—animated skills videos that teach some of these skills in five minutes or less. So that's another resource for people.Sarah: Great. What about you, Jesse?Jesse: I have a website called axiscbt.com. I'm also a co-founder of a psychoeducation skills course called Farrah Hive, and we actually have a parenting course based on DBT skills—that's thefarrahhive.com. And on Instagram, @talk_is_good.Sarah: Great. Thank you so much. Really appreciate your time today.Jesse: Thank you, Sarah.Sarah: Thank you. This is a public episode. 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When emotions clash with reason, clarity feels impossible. In this episode, AJ and Johnny sit down with psychologists Dr. Shireen Rizvi and Dr. Jesse Finkelstein — coauthors of Real Skills for Real Life — to explore how Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) turns emotional chaos into calm, actionable wisdom. They break down DBT's balance of change and acceptance, show how to identify “skills deficits” behind recurring struggles, and reveal why mindfulness and emotional awareness are the foundation of resilience. You'll learn how to use DBT's practical frameworks — including the Wise Mind and DEAR MAN skills — to strengthen communication, build emotional regulation, and handle difficult conversations without losing self-respect. Whether you're negotiating at work, managing conflict, or simply trying to understand yourself better, this conversation gives you a playbook for thinking clearly and acting with intention — even under pressure. What to Listen For[00:01:00] What DBT adds to traditional CBT — and why it works[00:02:28] The balance between change and acceptance in personal growth[00:05:06] Reframing emotional struggles as “skills deficits”[00:07:02] Breaking emotional loops and rewriting your story[00:10:28] Understanding “Wise Mind” — integrating logic and emotion[00:16:33] How emotion is data — not distraction[00:20:12] Using mindfulness to expand your perspective and reduce suffering[00:26:42] Building confidence through mastery and self-compassion[00:31:28] DBT frameworks for clarity in high-stakes conversations[00:33:46] Using DEAR MAN, GIVE, and FAST to communicate effectively[00:49:22] How self-respect, values, and truth create lasting confidence A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠unlockyourxfactor.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially.  Visit the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠artofcharm.com/intel ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. If you've put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at ⁠⁠monarch.com⁠⁠ in your browser for half off your first year.  Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠makeheadway.com/CHARM ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use my code CHARM for 25% off. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TODAY to get started  Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Episode resources: Real Skills for Real Life: A DBT Guide to Navigating Stress, Emotions, and Relationships Check in with AJ and Johnny! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gabe and a friend got lemon tattoos. A listener writes in asking about whether they are supposed to make up with their friend's partner who has become disrespectful to the friend. Then, Dr. Shireen Rizvi and Dr. Jesse Finkelstein join the show to talk about Dialectical Behavior Therapy, their book Real Skills For Real Life, and what tactics we can use to emotionally regulate and get out of painful patterns. In hypotheticals... geese! And finally, Allison has some thoughtful questions about Gabe's writing on bottom surgery for trans men.Check out all of our content on Patreon, Ad Free! Watch the full episodes of TLDRI, listen to the full episodes of The Variety Show, watch the International Question and Topix videos, join us for a monthly livestream, PLUS MORE:https://www.patreon.com/justbetweenusThis has been a Gallison ProductionProduced by Melisa D. Monts and Diamond MPrint ProductionsPost-Production by Coco LlorensProduction Assistance by Melanie D. WatsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Join me for a fun chat with Jesse Finkelstein, my publisher at Page Two Publishing. We discuss what publishers really look for in authors and why hybrid publishing has been an excellent fit for me. Whether you're aspiring to write your own book or are simply curious about the publishing process, we have valuable insights to share. Plus, I give you the inside scoop on my upcoming book, The Referable Client Experience, and some awesome bonuses for those who grab a copy early! Resources and links mentioned in this episode can be found on the show notes page at http://www.staceybrownrandall.com/383

Michelle is joined by Dr. Jesse Finkelstein, co-founder of TheraHive. They discuss the unique services TheraHive offers and how TheraHive aims to overcome some of the larger systemic barriers many clients face to accessing formal DBT resources. Throughout the episode, they highlight the importance of making DBT approachable and talk about ways this can be done.RELEASE DATE: October 9, 2024Support the showIf you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-518237601617Check out our Etsy shop for DBT-inspired items and our journaling workbook (only $7.50!): https://www.etsy.com/shop/dbtandmeOur book, "DBT for Everyone" is available! Order your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Dbt-Everyone-Pitfalls-Possibilities-Better/dp/1839975881/Consider providing ongoing support to the podcast by becoming a patron at https://www.patreon.com/dbtandmeYou can join our facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dbtandmepodcastCheck out our other podcast, The Couch and The Chair, on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-couch-and-the-chair/id1554159244) or on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3MZ8aZPoRKxGmLtFcR4S4O)If you need support/have questions, email us at dbtandmepodcast@gmail.com

Step into the heart of blues music with Blues Radio International's Jesse Finkelstein as your guide. In a special duet interview, Jesse sits down with the dynamic duo Susan Tedeschi and Derek Trucks, whisked away from the vibrant energy of The Blues Foundation's 2012 Blues Music Awards in Memphis. Together, they explore the soulful depths of blues music, sharing personal anecdotes, insights into the culture, and the secrets behind their musical alchemy. From the joys of songwriting to navigating the highs and lows of a life in music, this conversation promises to be a harmonious blend of passion, wisdom, and rhythm. So, tune in and let their words serenade your soul. #Interview #BluesRadioInternational from the 2012 #BluesMusicAwardsGuests: Susan Tedeschi & Derek TrucksHost: Jesse FinkelsteinYear: 2012Producer: Audrey MichelleFind more at BluesRadioInternational.net/

John Primer, recently inducted into the Blues Hall of Fame, performs live at the 2023 Blues Music Awards on Edition 636 of Blues Radio International, with music from James Cotton, Dawn Tyler Watson, Bruce Katz and Champion Jack DuPree.Photograph by Laura Carbone.Find more at BluesRadioInternational.net/

Joe Waters performs at the Orpheum Memphis in the 2024 International Blues Challenge Finals. The IBC is coordinated & hosted by the Blues Foundation in Memphis, TN. Each year, blues societies from around the globe send challengers to compete against one another for a chance to win the big prizes at the finals in Memphis. Out of 140 acts, Joe made it & won! Congratulations Joe!Joe took home the 1st place prize in the Solo/Duo Category. Hailing from the Columbus Blues Alliance, he amazes & entertains with his dynamic multi-instrument solo performance.Thank you to The Blues Foundation for their continued support of our efforts to document blues music, it's musicians & community. Thank you to Dawn Hopkins for the house mix, Joe Whitmer for his unwavering support of our work & to Kimberly Horton for her understanding of our passion for blues music. PLEASE JOIN THE BLUES FOUNDATION TODAY AT: WWW.BLUES.ORGAudio Production by Audrey Michelle & Jesse Finkelstein for Blues Radio International. Audience recording by Audrey Michelle for BRI. 2024IBC Master Mix by Dawn Hopkins of Ardent Studios, Memphis. You're amazing Dawn!#JoeWaters #BluesFoundation #TheBluesFoundation #Internationalblueschallenge2024 #internationalblueschallenge #bluesmusic #blues #acoustic #acoustic #ibc #orpheummemphisFind more at BluesRadioInternational.net/

ABOUT THIS EPISODE: In this episode, host Megan Cole talks to Jesse Finkelstein. Jesse is the co-founder and co-chief executive officerof Page Two Books. Page Two published Namwayut: We Are All One: A Pathway to Reconciliation by Chief Robert Joseph which won the 2023 Bill Duthie Booksellers Choice Award. In their conversation Jesse talks about how she became involved in the BC publishing community, what sets Page Two apart, and what excites her about the future of publishing. Visit BC and Yukon Book Prizes: https://bcyukonbookprizes.com/ About Namwayut: https://bcyukonbookprizes.com/project/namwayut/ About Page Two: https://pagetwo.com/ ABOUT JESSE FINKELSTEIN: Jesse Finkelstein has spent her entire career in books. Prior to co-founding Page Two, Jesse held several management roles at publishing houses, including that of COO of D&M Publishers and associate publisher at Raincoast Books. She holds a master's degree in publishing from Simon Fraser University and is adjunct professor in publishing at the university. She serves on the board of Creative BC, an organization devoted to supporting the growth of cultural industries. ABOUT MEGAN COLE: Megan Cole the Director of Programming and Communications for the BC and Yukon Book Prizes. She is also a writer based on the territory of the Tla'amin Nation. Megan writes creative nonfiction and has had essays published in Chatelaine, This Magazine, The Puritan, Untethered, and more. She has her MFA in creative nonfiction from the University of King's College and is working her first book. Find out more about Megan at megancolewriter.com ABOUT THE PODCAST: Writing the Coast is recorded and produced on the territory of the Tla'amin Nation. As a settler on these lands, Megan Cole finds opportunities to learn and listen to the stories from those whose land was stolen. Writing the Coast is a recorded series of conversations, readings, and insights into the work of the writers, illustrators, and creators whose books are nominated for the annual BC and Yukon Book Prizes. We'll also check in on people in the writing community who are supporting books, writers and readers every day. The podcast is produced and hosted by Megan Cole.

Get ready for an unforgettable musical journey as we dive deep into the heart and soul of the blues! In this special edition of Blues Radio International's Memphis Sessions, we are thrilled to bring you an exclusive musical interview with none other than the 2022 Blues Music Award nominee for Best Acoustic Guitarist and Grammy Award-nominated acoustic virtuoso, Catfish Keith!Join your hosts Jesse Finkelstein and Audrey Michelle as we sit down with the one and only Catfish Keith to explore his incredible musical journey, influences, and his unique approach to the blues. With roots that run deep in the rich soil of American blues, Catfish Keith has crafted a distinctive style that's both authentic and innovative.Prepare to be spellbound by Catfish Keith's masterful guitar work, storytelling, and profound insights into the world of blues music. From Delta blues to Piedmont fingerpicking, he's a true connoisseur of acoustic blues, and this session promises to be a captivating showcase of his talents.This is a must-listen for all blues aficionados and music lovers alike. Catfish Keith's performances are nothing short of mesmerizing, and his stories will transport you to the heart of the blues tradition.Don't miss out on this exceptional episode of Memphis Sessions with Catfish Keith, exclusively on Blues Radio International. Hit that subscribe button, turn on your notifications, and be ready to experience the blues in its purest, most authentic form.Thank you to The Blues Foundation for supporting us in our mission to bring blues music, it's musicians & culture to the people who need it most. Podcast Engineering & Post Production by Audrey Michelle for Blues Radio InternationalAudio Recording by Jack Gauthier of Lakewest Recording Audio Mixing & Mastering by Michael Wolf of Datflys Concert Videos Stay connected with us:Website: www.bluesradiointernational.netFacebook: facebook.com/bluesradiointernationalInstagram: @bluesradiointernationalTwitter: @bluesbri#CatfishKeith #BluesMusic #AcousticGuitar #BluesRadioInternational #MemphisSessions #bri #blues foundation #MusicInterview #BluesMusicAwards #GrammyNomineeFind more at BluesRadioInternational.net/radio-show

Kimberly Horton The Blues Foundation President & CEO on The Blues Radio International Podcast 2023 Blues Music Awards Memphis Session with your hosts, Jesse Finkelstein & Audrey MichelleLet us give Kimberly a big round of congratulations for her acceptance of this prestigious position. She will carry us forward into a new, dynamic reality for blues music & it's community. We cannot wait to see what you do next! Congratulations Kim!Find more at BluesRadioInternational.net/radio-show

Should BPD be called a 'Personality Disorder' or is there a better way to categorize it? Jesse Finkelstein is an illustrator and doctoral student in clinical psychology. He is currently pursuing his doctorate at the Rutgers University Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology. His research interests include DBT and the dissemination of therapeutic interventions, especially for sexual and gender minorities. Follow him on Instagram @talkisgood Check out his DBT Game of Real Life ------------------------------------------------ Thank you so much for tuning into this Show! If you've enjoyed it then share, subscribe, and leave a review if you haven't already :) Join us on social media: Instagram: @bpdbravery Facebook: www.facebook.com/BPD-Bravery-Borderline-Personality-Disorder-401267653957962 and feel free to contact us via email at braverybpd@gmail.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bpd-bravery/support

David Crosby on Blues Radio International in a BRI Archives Edition from 5 12 2013 interview where David sits down with Jesse Finkelstein for an, "uplifting experience" in Boca Raton, FL.We love & remember David Crosby for his many endearing charms & qualities. He will forever remain dear to our hearts.For full video visit: www.youtube.com/bluesradiointernational#DavidCrosby #bluesradiointernationalFind more at BluesRadioInternational.net/radio-show

Great stories begin in unexpected places. Trena White could not have foreseen the incredible journey she embarked on as she decided to build her brand. But now, a decade into being a Co-founder, Trena has many wonderful lessons about entrepreneurship to share. Trena White is a veteran book publisher and co-founder of innovative book publishing firm Page Two, which publishes non-fiction books by leading industry experts. Page Two offers a faster path to market, more creative control, and deep engagement in authors' launch strategies. Co-founders Trena and Jesse Finkelstein launched in 2013 to help thought leaders, subject matter experts, and organizations publish their contributions. Page Two has published several books selling over a million copies and its authors have been translated into dozens of languages around the world. Trena is a nominee for the RBC Women of Influence Trailblazer Award. Before launching Page Two, she was publisher of Douglas & McIntyre and Greystone Books, Canada's largest independent book publisher at the time; and an editor at McClelland & Stewart, now an imprint of Penguin Random House. Page Two sets itself apart from other publishing companies by building more collaborative relationships with its authors. While traditional publishing focuses on retail sales, Page Two takes an in-depth look at how the book and its publishing strategy serve the greater needs of the client's brand and eventual goals. The vision, methodology and niche of Page Two are all unique and fuel its success in the industry.  Entrepreneurs look for opportunities Before they founded Page Two, Trena and Jesse were in senior roles together at a publishing company that was in the process of going bankrupt. Bigger companies considered buying it, but first - they wanted to see the numbers! Trena had to create models to show buyers what was possible.  All of this financial modeling gave Trena and Jesse an idea. What if they took what they had learned and created something entirely new? Not to be swayed from their big vision, they decided to launch Page Two while they were suddenly out of work and Trena was home with a brand new baby. Trena and Jesse were coworkers who respected one another's perspective - but this leap of faith turned them into both Co-founders and great friends. They got to work collaborating, planning and building a publishing company different from all the rest.  Action is better than perfection Is there something in your own business you're waiting to perfect before really getting started? Are you letting perfectionism hold you back?  Trena recalls the grassroots nature of their launch in 2013, and it'll inspire you to ditch perfectionism for good. Page Two began finding clients using good old-fashioned networking and word of mouth. They even started serving those clients without official templates or systems!  Trena and Jesse didn't have time to waste. They made plans and ran them past lawyers, branding experts and friends in publishing to make sure they held water. Page Two was a big dream that had to succeed, because the alternative was unthinkable.  What does scaling your business look like? Every brand is unique, and each has different requirements as they scale and grow. For Page Two, Trena discusses a process of deepening - Adding depth to their customer service and working more closely with their authors, rather than experiencing rapid growth.  Rather than a plan to work with more authors, Trena reminds us of the importance of doing business with intention. At Page Two, they are becoming more and more selective about the authors they work with, leading to better outcomes through successful collaboration. Long-term, they're appointing heads of each department so that they can step back and envision what's next.  Page Two rose out of a need for better relationships between thought leaders and the people who publish them. But it's grown into a thriving brand that Trena and Jesse - and the authors who publish there - can truly be proud of. Enjoy this story of the power of collaboration, leaps of faith and bold action. Quotes “In the traditional publishing model, there were a lot of constraints that made book publishing tricky for the kinds of people who had built a lot of intellectual property and had built businesses. Our vision was to start a new kind of publishing company where the author really partnered with us to develop their book in a way that made sense for them and their broader business goals.” “We started to imagine, what would it look like if we took parts of this initial vision that we had created for someone else and ran with it our way? And created something new and different so that we could explore our idea of what publishing could look like for entrepreneurs and subject matter experts? That was the beginning of Page Two.” “The clock was ticking. We didn't have day jobs anymore! We had to make this work or…what? Neither of us wanted to leave book publishing. We both felt really inspired to create something new.” “When we work with an author, we start at the very beginning about where their book fits into their other products and services. In most cases it's meant to lift up the other services they're offering as part of their company. We want to be careful that the book represents the company's brand and it will support their other services meaningfully.” “When we work with an author, we don't license the rights to the book. This might sound technical but it's critical. When you work in traditional publishing, you sign an agreement that says the publisher owns the rights to the copyright. We don't do that. With Page Two, there are no constraints to what you do with the work. If an author publishes a book and you want to put three chapters in a workbook, you would be free to do that - and you wouldn't normally be able to.” “I was quite naive about what a business partnership would look like! Jesse and I had only worked together for a year. It could have gone so badly, but we have an amazing and really special partnership. Deep down, we have really similar values. When things get tricky and we're debating a question of how to handle something, we have compatibility at quite a deep level that has carried us through.” Links mentioned in this episode: Visit Page Two's company website at www.pagetwo.com   Follow Page Two on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/pagetwo   Follow Page Two on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/pagetwo_books/   Connect with Trena White on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/trenawhite

We've set our clocks back, taken out our parkas, and cranked up our radiators — winter is coming, people! Join clinicians at Behavioral Psych Studio as we offer a warm welcome to our first interviewee, Jesse Finkelstein! Jesse is here to chat about his experiences as a DBT clinician, researcher, animator, and creator of The Game of Real Life. AND, that's not all! He's also chatting with us about ABC PLEASE, an especially useful set of emotion regulation skills as we round the corner on those slightly colder, slightly darker winter months. Cue the Game of Thrones theme music, because we've got a whole menu of skills from which to choose!Sources:https://www.talkgood.org/https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/seasonal-affective-disorderhttps://www.bu.edu/articles/2019/seasonal-affective-disorder/

Dave Keyes, 2022 Blues Music Award Nominee for Instrumentalist Piano joined BRI in this exclusive session during the Blues Music Awards in Memphis. Dave delivers love, humor & wisdom through his music.   Dave sat down at the keyboard, and played four of his original songs, including those he played hours later to a full house at The Blues Foundation's  Blues Music Award ceremony. The songs are:1) Shake, Shake, Shake - recorded with Bernard Purdie2) That's What The Blues Are For - recorded with Mike T. Lewis3) Faith, Grace, Love & Forgiveness4) 7 O'Clock Somewhere5) Custom Station IDYou can find out more about Dave Keyes  on his website: www.davekeyes.comThank you to The Blues Foundation for your continued support in our efforts to preserve blues music & document its musicians & community. We are forever grateful. @TheBluesFoundation This video is made possible by the support of The Blues Foundation. If you enjoy the content you're watching, please consider a donation at:  www.blues.orgHosts Jesse Finkelstein & Audrey Michelle of BRISound Recording by Jack Gauthier of Lakewest Recording Podcast Production & Audio Mix by Audrey Michelle of BRI #DaveKeyes #bluesradiointernational #datflys #datflysconcertvideos #ThebluesfoundationFind more at BluesRadioInternational.net

As a result of the pandemic as well as prior to it, anxiety, depression, and substance abuse have increased, and it is vital that people, especially women, talk openly about these topics so that we can live a meaningful life free of shame around our emotions. In this episode, Jesse Finkelstein, PsyM, joins the podcast to have an open dialogue about mental health, including how we can understand our emotions, what to do when we are feeling hard emotions, and how we are all constantly changing. Jesse discusses the issues he sees with the mental health community regarding its treatment of women and the lack of accessibility to effective mental health care. He also shares some of his expertise on how we can better manage our emotions through utilizing Dialectical Behavioral Therapy techniques, including mindfulness. Key highlights Jesse talks about how the mental health community and society views women and the ways in which womens' experiences are pathologized, leading most women to feel shame around the topic. All of our emotions are valid, and we do ourselves a disservice when we try to tell ourselves we shouldn't feel something. Jesse discusses how important it is to look at our emotions without judgment. Emotional suppression is not sustainable and is a waste of internal resources. Denying and invalidating our emotions furthers us from our goals. Jesse shares the most powerful thing you can do when you are feeling hard emotions. Give yourself some grace. Everyone is doing the best they can with what they know and the tools they have. How do DBT skills apply to partnerships? How should we respond when our partner or loved one is having intense emotions? Jesse shares the three interpersonal effectiveness skills involved in DBT The importance of identifying what dysregulation in emotions looks like for you and being aware of when you are becoming dysregulated. Jesse also talks about how to get through intense dysregulation without making the situation worse. How Jesse helps his clients tap into their voice. He explains what practicing mindfulness looks like and how to do it. It is a fact that our brains are malleable and changeable. We can always do better. Powerful Quotes "The foundation of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is mindfulness. It is very hard to know if you are at an 8 or if you're at a 6 if you are not mindful of your experience." "You can practice mindfulness when you are washing your dishes. You can practice it as you're walking down the street. Mindfulness is not necessarily about relaxation. It is really training your brain to be present. The more present we are, the more skillful we can be in other areas of our life." "It takes time and practice, and our brains are malleable. We can, with effort, and by changing habit, rewire our neurons to engage in a more meaningful life. This is not impossible. We have the flexibility." Episode resources: Click here to join the FREE 2-day event on November 15th & 16th ambershaw.com/wellness-revolution-event Connect with Jesse: Instagram: @talkisgood Website: www.talkgood.org Connect with Amber Instagram: @msambershaw  TikTok: @msambershaw Website: ambershaw.com

Jesse Finkelstein, PsyM, is on a mission to make effective mental health treatments accessible to everyone, especially in these turbulent post-pandemic times when nearly 20% of adults in the US are experiencing a mental health illness.  Jesse is a doctoral student in clinical psychology at Rutgers University and a DBT therapist. He is also the creator of The Game of Real Life, a one-of-a-kind card game rooted in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). In the episode we discuss: Making a career pivot to engage more directly with mental health and well-being Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, what it is, and Jesse's dedication to this work Mindfulness meditation and well-being daily practices How to make our thoughts more effective Identifying helpful vs. unhelpful thoughts Being more intentional about our internal dialogue The validity of our feelings, how to acknowledge and accept feelings.  My experience in Landmark Forum Pain, grief, and loss and how the things that cause us pain also reveal what's important to us Creating a self-compassion toolbox The Game of Real Life is a fun and accessible way to learn how to cope effectively and achieve your goals within the framework of a card game. Based on the principles of DBT, the game offers skills to increase the quality of relationships, develop mindfulness, reduce stress, and prevent burnout. Learn more about Jesse on the podcast blog and follow along on IG: @talkisgood Want to chat about this episode? Text me

Jack Sullivan of Blues Music Magazine sits down with Jesse Finkelstein & Audrey Michelle of Blues Radio International.  A quarterly blues music publication, is coming up on its 10th year on the presses. You will hear how the publication started, what Jack & his colleagues are doing in the present to spread the good word of blues music, how blues continues to conceptually change & adapt to modern music tastes & what the magazine is doing to expand it's reach to younger audiences.Jack is a treasure trove of blues music history.  Having first discovered the blues while living in New York as a young man. At the age of 16, a friend turned him on to BB King. The concert held at the Avery Fisher Hall changed his idea of what direction his life would go, he became a blues man.  "You know, if he can make something of his life, I can too." -Jack SullivanRecorded in Memphis, TN, USA during the 2022 Blues Music Awards Thank you to The Blues Foundation for your continued support of our efforts to preserve & document the blues music genre.  Hosts: Jesse Finkelstein & Audrey Michelle  Videography: Michael Wolf of Datflys Concert Videos  Audio Recording: Jack Gauthier of Lakewest Recording Video Production, graphics, audio mixdown: Audrey MichelleOn Site Administrator: Beth Rudolph

Radio Edition #544 for 7/4/2022 Samantha Fish performs live at the 2022 Tampa Bay Blues Festival, with music from Charlie Musselwhite, Bukka White, and Mississippi Heat.REPORT YOUR RECEPTION HERE Worldwide Shortwave Transmission Schedule Monday 0200 GMT/Sunday 9:00pm ET 9955 kHz,  Friday 0230 GMT/Thursday 9:30pm ET 9955 kHz  via WRMI, Radio Miami InternationalYou can always find more live blues music content on our website: Blues Radio International#SamanthaFish #BluesRadioInternational #livemusic #bluesradio

Gabe Stillman performs live at the 2022 Blues Music Awards in Memphis on Radio Edition #545 of Blues Radio International, with music from Junior Wells, Ronnie Earl and Janiva Magness.Click here for access to all of our shortwave radio broadcasts!REPORT YOUR RECEPTION HERE Worldwide Shortwave Transmission Schedule Monday 0200 GMT/Sunday 9:00pm ET 9955 kHz,  Friday 0230 GMT/Thursday 9:30pm ET 9955 kHz  via WRMI, Radio Miami International

Life is hard – conflict with loved ones, managing money, climate change, political turmoil, and economic and racial inequality. We have plenty of reasons to feel stressed out, depressed, and angry. Luckily, there are skills available to help us stay present and manage our emotions effectively. Jesse Finkelstein, doctoral student in clinical psychology, researcher, and clinician at the Dialectical Behavior Therapy clinic at Rutgers University, joins the pod to share those skills and tools. In this episode, we discuss Dialectical Behavior Therapy and how we can use this tool to increase the quality of relationships, develop mindfulness, reduce stress, and prevent burnout. For more go to: www.scottmlynch.com Want to receive weekly emails where I breakdown step-by-step processes to master your mindset and practical growth tips? Sign up for my free weekly newsletter. Our mind is our most powerful tool. It's time to start investing in it. Join 143 other students pre-enrolled in my academy. Follow me on social for more inspiration: Instagram Facebook TikTok Twitter Start setting goals and achieving them: Schedule a one-on-one session. Join the private Facebook Group: Motivated Minds. Want to be featured in a future episode? Leave a review here (even one sentence helps)! Sponsors mentioned in this episode: HashDash Music by: Blaize Trulson

Working with a ghostwriter can be confusing and complex. In this episode, we are joined by an expert in each of these fields, to help thought leadership practitioners get a better grasp of the possibilities. Dan Gerstein is the founder and CEO of Gotham Ghostwriters, where he uses his talents to connect authors with speakers looking for help, focusing on matching both people's needs and personality. Jesse Finkelstein is the co-founder and Principal of Page Two, a publishing agency helping non-fiction authors navigate the full range of options while providing high-level support for a wide variety of organizational publishing activities. We start the conversation by discussing the concept of ghostwriting, and the tasks available to those who perform that function. Dan helps us understand that ghostwriters can write every word of a book, or work as a developmental editor— or anything in between! All the while, their duty is to maintain focus on the expertise, reputation, and authority of the client. With a firm grasp of the writer in hand, we move to the publishing side. Jesse clarifies the mysterious business of publishing. We learn about the various methods of publishing, the need for an established platform, and why authors want to retain the rights to their book — as they do with their other intellectual property. This episode takes us from page to print and everything in between! Three Key Takeaways: * It's easier than ever to publish a thought leadership book, the task a ghostwriter can help you accomplish is standing out and making an impact. * Before starting a thought leadership book, you need to know your unique value proposition and how it fits into the world. · Publishers look at more than the content of your book. They want to see that you have a strategy, and that the book aligns with your larger business model.

PLAYLIST EDITION #540Michael Burks performs live at the 2009 Blues Music Awards in Memphis, with music from Ruth Brown, Delbert McClinton, Kenny Neal, Bob Margolin & Bob Corritore & Big Jack Johnson with Kim Wilson:  on Edition 540 of Blues Radio International.Broadcast production by Jesse FinkelsteinPodcast engineering by Audrey MichelleBoth for Blues Radio International

Edition 539 of Blues Radio International, Chris Duarte performs live in South Florida, with music from John Mayall, Alberta Hunter & Robert Nighthawk.Photography by Jay Skolnick of J Skolnick Photography

Let's talk DBT as I'm always open to exploring a variety of therapeutic techniques to self-soothe. Today's special guest is a DBT therapist and doctoral student in clinical psychology - Jesse Finkelstein, PsyM. Jesse is also the creator of the new dialectical behavior therapy pocket guide - The Game of Real Life. In this episode, we explore the power of DBT therapy, effective thoughts, accepting and acknowledging feelings for change and growth, pain and purpose, science and spirituality, emotional freedom, mindful shifts during these difficult times of catastrophic current events, and more evidence-based tools.SPONSORS SPECIAL OFFERS hereCONNECT WITH JESSE talkisgood.orgtherahive.comig @talkisgoodTHE GAME OF REAL LIFE with cards and 92-page pocket guidePurchase from Penguin Random HouseCONNECT WITH RAQUELLE + YOMig @raquellemantraSpotify shakti playlist fb page /yourownmagicfb group your own magicJOIN ‘YOUR OWN MAGIC'yourownmagic.lifeMembership site with guided meditations, journaling prompts,+ more spiritual toolsYour Own Magic Secret Facebook GroupHas YOM helped or inspired you in any way?If you feel the nudge, leave a rating and review.Your support helps us and means so much. Thank you!CREATE YOUR PODCAST with the same host I use - RedCircleYOUR OWN MAGIC SPONSORS~ 2022 ~new sponsorship system as of 2022, so the sponsor mentioned in the intro may not be in the episode or in show notes.  SPONSORS SPECIAL OFFERS hereSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/your-own-magic/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

WEEKLY BLUES MUSIC RADIO BROADCASTPLAYLIST EDITION # 538  for 5/22/2022Lil Ed & The Blues Imperials live from the 2009 Blues Music AwardsAlso featuring, Albert Collins, Bonnie Raitt, Eddie Taylor & Horojo Trio   on Edition 538 of Blues Radio International.#bluesradiointernational #bluesmusic #liledandthebluesimperials

Jessie Finkelstein, a therapist specializing in Emotional Regulation Disorder (BPD) and DBT therapy, shares his expertise. He is the creator of the online portal TheraHive and The Game of Real Life, both of which help anyone build DBT skills. #BPD #DBT Live MIHH recording in Minneapolis Fri May 20th 8pm at Sisyphus Brewery. For tix or more info go here. https://dojour.us/e/15598More about Jesse and The Game of Real Life can be found at:www.TalkGood.orgCourses in DBT can be found at www.TheraHive.comSupport Our Sponsors!This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp online counseling. To get 10% off your first month go to www.BetterHelp.com/mental Must be 18. For those under 18 you will be redirected to or can go directly to TeenCounseling at www.teencounseling.com WAYS TO HELP THE PODCAST______________________Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review. It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2—————————————————————————Spread the word via social media. It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod --------------------------------------------------------Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod Become a one-time or monthly donor via Paypal or Zelle (make payment to mentalpod@gmail.com)------------------------------------------------------------------------------Try Our Sponsor's Products/Services---------------------------------------------------See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oh hey, Self Lovers!  Today we're joined by Jesse Finkelstein. He is the creator of the card game, “The game of real life”  The game of real life teaches you the best ways to deal with the conflict. It is the perfect amalgamation of learning and having fun at the same time! You can get the game here TIMESTAMPS (04:43) - What makes Jesse 'JESSE'? (05:30) - Does Curiosity kill the Cat ? (06:48) - Jesse's Origin Story  (07:34) - Jesse's thoughts about the coaching industry  (11:51) - Introduction to Jesse's Game  (17:12) - Jesse's thoughts on feelings aren't facts (24:56) - How to Play Jesse's Game  (28:24) - Where can people buy the Game? (29:25) - The process of creating the game  (30:59) - How does Paul Operationalise his Coaching of Self Love  (41:35) - What can someone do to make their life easier/ fun? (44:05) - How is Self Love Different from Self Care? (48:20) - What does Self Love mean to Jesse? (49:09) - A Tip from Jesse, Validating his experiences (51:03) - Rapid Fire Round (54:05) - Where can people find Jesse? (55:10) - Last words from Jesse EPISODE LINKS   If you're #obsessed with Jesse -   Checkout Jesse's IG - https://www.instagram.com/talkisgood/ His website - https://www.talkgood.org/ Sign up for the email newsletter at the bottom of the Website: PaulFishman.Love Dm me on Instagram: @PaulFishman Youtube: Paul Fishman TikTok: @Paul.Fishman  

Are you wondering how you can independently access your emotional freedom? We're talking with Jesse Finkelstein, founder & creator of The Game of Real Life, to discuss how to practice vulnerability, cultivate more self-compassion & build your emotional regulation toolkit. Jesse dives into dialectical behavioral therapy, how emotional attachments and blocks can get in the way of success, and the importance of cultivating the right community and being present. Jesse is a doctoral student in clinical psychology at Rutgers University and a DBT Therapist and the creator of the upcoming The Game of Real Life, a one-of-a-kind card game rooted in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). He is also a researcher and clinician at the Dialectical Behavior Therapy clinic at Rutgers University, where his main areas of research include the use of technology and new media to deliver effective psychotherapeutic interventions.  
Show Notes: -Going from designer to therapist: how Jesse made this transition -Recognizing purpose in life: one decision that changes everything -The difference between cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) -Practices of acceptance & emotional regulation in DBT -Having compassion for one's emotional experience -Navigating the balance between acceptance & change -The complex emotion of shame and how it gets in the way of us finding emotional freedom -Thinking in extremes and its role in creating dysregulation & disconnection -Holding the belief that multiple truths can co-exist -Metabolic energy and its role in learning, creating & building something new -Emotional avoidance is one of the greatest ways we suffer & is counterproductive to processing our emotions -Compassion means validating our experience & accepting our emotions -Cait shares a quote from Jesse's Instagram: the science of how we are all connected -Loving Kindness and practicing vulnerability as tools to help us accept that we are all connected -ABC please: accumulate positive experiences, Build mastery by doing things we enjoy, and Cope ahead by rehearsing a plan ahead of time -Shifting the belief, “The world is a dangerous place” by having new experiences via exposure therapy -The 4 components of DBT: Interpersonal effectiveness (getting what you want & setting limits); mindfulness; tolerating distress; and emotional regulation -Jesse shares more details on his game, “The Game of Real Life” and how it can support people build & grow their emotional toolkit Resources: -Check out the website for “The Game of Real Life” -DBT-RU YouTube Video Series -TheraHive (DBT Online Skill Courses) -Brene Brown, “Atlas of the Heart” -Jesse's Instagram: @talkisgood -Cait's Instagram: @caitrossco -Cait's Website -Lindsay's Instagram: @myvitalside -The Vital-Side Membership Join our community: bit.ly/rewirethepodcast Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: bit.ly/rewiredisclaimer

Wee Willie Walker & Anthony Paule deliver some soulful blues music at the 2018 Blues Music Awards at the Blues Radio International recording space in Memphis.Find video of this session on our Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4A6S9_LpHrkFor Blues Radio International:Sound by Jack Gauthier of Lakewest RecordingPhoto by Jay Skolnick of J Skolnick Photography

Come down to Memphis during the 2018 Blues Music Awards with Blues Radio International for this uplifting musical interview  hosted by 2019 Keeping The Blues Alive Award Recipient, Jesse Finkelstein with blues music great, Keb Mo.#keepingthebluesalive #bluesradiointernational #thebluesfoundationOn Location Audio Engineering & music studio mixes by Jack Gauthier of Lakewest Recording Studio (2018.)Podcast engineering & mastering by: Audrey Michelle of True Definition Media (2022)All performances, logos, trademarks & host likenesses are protected by copyright of Blues Radio International & are used strictly for the purposes of bringing joy & uplifting anyone with the healing power of the blues music genre, by BRI, exclusively. 

Heidi Holton performs a blues music originals &  classics , from our exclusive session on the Viral Anti Viral World Tour.  Classic blues music works are beautifully preserved in these renditions arranged by the talented Heidi Holton. This time, we go to Murphy, North Carolina where we meet up with our dear friend for some beautiful music. We must thank Nathan Baerreis of NB Photography in Murphy, North Carolina, USA for his stunning on site camera work & audio recording. Thank you for helping us document this time, your work is beautiful, breathtaking.Video Production by: Audrey Michelle of Blues Radio International, Heidi Holton & Nathan Baerreis.#KeepingTheBluesAlive #BluesRadioInternational #HeidiHolton #NBPhotography

Winner of the 2020 International Blues Challenge Lee Oskar Harmonica Award & 2nd Place Winner in the Solo/Duo Category! Join Jesse & Audrey as we sit down for some blues, folk, rebetico, swing & ragtime music fun with our friend, Felix Slim. We had such a great time with Felix Slim, we are sure you will enjoy this!Don't forget to pick up his latest blues music release, "Overseas Blues."Discover more about Felix here:www.felixslim.comhttps://www.facebook.com/felixslimProduction by Audrey Michelle & Felix Slim for Blues Radio International#KeepingTheBluesAlive#FelixSlim#BluesRadioInternational#bluesmusic#ragtime#folkmusic#swingmusic#acousticguitar#spanishguitar#spanishblues#internationalblueschallenge#leeoskarharmonica#rebetico#gypsyjazz#bluesradio

Michael's new book How to Begin: Start Doing Something that Matters is now available at www.HowToBegin.com. It's launch week for How to Begin. I've had a love-hate relationship with this book - mostly love - for about a year and a half, so it's pretty exciting to finally stumble into the sunlight, blinking and going, “It's arrived! It's here!” And that's why today's guest is so perfect; Jesse Finkelstein is the co-founder of Page Two, the company who published and partnered with me for this book, and The Coaching Habit and The Advice Trap, as well. Get‌ ‌book‌ ‌links‌ ‌and‌ ‌resources‌ ‌at‌ https://www.mbs.works/2-pages-podcast/  Michael reads two pages from his upcoming book, ‘How To Begin.' [reading begins at 8:15] Hear us discuss:  ‘Unicorn business partners': “If you can find a wonderful partner, it's everything, but can also be the worst thing.” [3:45] | “I found it very freeing once I gave myself permission to not only hold onto the people who would support me on the journey, but to abandon the people and structures that would weigh me down.” [12:36] | Finding the courage to say ‘no' and dealing with the aftermath: “It's often to everyone's benefit if you're able to look honestly at a relationship or structure, and let it go.” [13:18] 

Making a Scene Presents an Interview with Rumblin TroubleRumblin' Trouble is a blues duo formed by Ana Todorovic (vocal) and Marko Mosic (guitar). Though we've played together since 2013, the first big moment for Rumblin' Trouble was the interview with Jesse Finkelstein and Audrey Michelle of Blues Radio International on May 1, 2020, where we got a chance to present our original songs to a wider audience. From there, we've played on some online festivals: Blues Society of Nepal, World Unity Open Mic (Philadelphia), Lockdown Music TV (London), Crossroads Confined Countdown Festival (Paris). Since we've found joy and inspiration in playing songs of our music heroes, many of those covers were published on Aardvark Blues FM official Facebook page, and our version of “Wheel Within Wheels” was featured on Rory Gallagher's official Facebook page. Just a year after our first interview, on May 1, 2021, we published our first and independent album called “Up To You” with ten original songs.

Maria Muldaur BRI Podcast: Discovering Authentic Blues & Americana In The South & Learning From (& Living With) Doc Watson.Still an active member of the blues music & folk music communities, Maria tells us the story of pre-internet times when if you wanted to find someone, you went & sought them out, in person.  That is exactly what she did when she hopped a bus down into the American South with hopes of cold calling Doc Watson in search of a musical education.Jesse Finkelstein is your host. @BluesRadioJessePodcast engineering by Audrey Michelle @bluesradioaudreyPhotography by Jay Skolnick, Photographer of record for BRI

In April 2015 Multiple Blues Music Award Winner Samantha Fish joined Blues Radio International in BRI Studio B.Friends with the blues. Music. Talk. News. Keeping the Blues Alive.More Samantha Fish music content, start here with her acoustic performance from this session of, "Dead Flowers."https://youtu.be/HpxFWtXaBpkIf you like what you see there, make sure you subscribe! More videos, every week!youtube.com/bluesradiointernationalSound by Jack Gauthier of Lakewest RecordingPodcast Production & Engineering by Jesse Finkelstein & Audrey Michelle#KeepingTheBluesAlive#BluesRadioInternational#SamanthaFish

Jesse Finkelstein is co-founder and principal at Page Two, an innovative publishing company that helps experts publish game-changing books. She also serves on the board of Creative BC, an organization devoted to supporting the growth of cultural industries. Jesse and Richelle have an educational conversation about understanding the world of hybrid publishing.

It's no surprise that Vancouver-based Page Two Books is making a name for itself as an outstanding book publisher.  Launched in 2013 by Jesse Finkelstein and Trena White, Page Two is one of the few hybrid publishers that offers print on demand or trade publishing. It also has a well-earned reputation for rigor throughout its processes.   Talking to Published Author Show host Josh Steimle, Trena said Page Two doesn't usually refer to itself as a hybrid publisher, because so many things set it apart.   Beyond Hybrid Publishing  She explains: “We have not typically used that (hybrid) phrase ourselves, because we feel that we're bringing a level of professionalism that you don't always see in the space.”  While authors do pay Page Two to produce their book and provide the support expected from a publisher. They handle absolutely everything, including editing, design, production and sales and marketing, and distribution.   Page Two doesn't license their rights to the book, so an author retains total ownership of the book content and their intellectual property, which is very critical, because they are typically entrepreneurs and experts who are using that IP in all kinds of ways. When a book sells, an author earns 90 to 100% of the proceeds of the sale, depending on how it is sold.  But what really sets Page Two apart is the rigor they apply throughout the entire process. With the editorial process alone, a book can go through multiple rounds of substantive editing to sharpen the content, structure, and stories.   “We're quite rigorous about our approach to setting the book up for sale in the market and digging into titles, subtitle, pricing, and all of those things that play into bringing the book to market. In the hybrid space, we are quite unusual in that rigor,” says Trena.  The Author's Broader Goals  When Page Two begins working with an author, they do not think of a book as an object that comes to market. Trena says Page Two aims for peer-to-peer relationships with their author clients. They will work with an author around:  Understanding how a book fits into an author's goals Integrating the book into the author's products and services  Ensuring the book and it's design into the author's brand Making a cover stand out on Amazon Trade Publishing Or Print On Demand?  Trena explains that the approach to publishing depends on an author's goals and where their audience is based.   “For instance, if an author wants to get a book into the market as fast as they can, print on demand is a better option for people who need to move quickly. The cycle to create the book and the production timeline is shorter, and the distribution timeline is shorter, too,” says Trena.  For an author like Phil Jones, who worked with Page Two to write and publish Exactly What To Say, it soon became apparent that there was a much broader market for the book. Exactly What To Say  began as print on demand, but then became a trade publishing project. The book has now been translated into more than 15 languages!  Making Book Distribution Easy  Page Two works with a distribution company called Macmillan Distribution, which is a large, multinational publisher, Macmillan takes on select smaller publishers for sales and distribution. The company sells Page Two books and is able to open up new opportunities.   “For example,” says Trena, “they've just sold one of our business books into FedEx locations across the US. That's the kind of opportunity that you don't see through print on demand sales.”  The Importance of Audience  Trena says one of the big keys to success for nonfiction authors is thinking well ahead about building an audience, even years before the book exists. She says authors must build a following and begin marketing before the launch date.  “Try and find ways to connect with your audience so that when the book exists you can engage them. Amazing things happen when you do that,” she notes.  A stellar example is author Joey Remini, an entrepreneur who specializes in tinnitus and vertigo. Joey has built a following and an audience over the years, with 1000s of people in her Facebook group. She offers different tiers of training and courses. When she published her book Rock Steady late last year, she sold a phenomenal 7000 copies in the first week.   Learn more: If you appreciated this episode, listen to:  Mortgage Banker In Awe Of Power Of Books Sets Up Publishing Company  And:  She Built a $19M Business Helping Life Coaches Write Books  LINKS LinkedIn FaceBook Twitter Instagram PageTwo.com  SUBSCRIBE TO THE PUBLISHED AUTHOR PODCAST  If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or anywhere else you listen to podcasts. You can also watch episodes of the podcast on YouTube.  And if you want to spread the word, please give us a five-star review (we read every single one!) and share this page with your friends.   We also share valuable snippets from podcast episodes on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, and Facebook.  ABOUT THE HOST  The Published Author Podcast is hosted by Josh Steimle, founder of Published Author. Josh is a book author himself and his article writing has been featured in over two dozen publications including Time, Forbes, Fortune, Mashable, and TechCrunch. He's a TEDx speaker, the founder of the global marketing agency MWI, a skater, father, and husband, and lives on a horse farm in Boston. Learn more at JoshSteimle.com.

Steady Rollin' Bob Margolin, legendary blues music guitarist, educator, multiple award winning artist, musician and very dear friend to us here at Blues Radio International.  There is no doubt when you hear the name Bob Margolin you think of blues music, Muddy Waters & the band that Bob spent the better part of a decade playing guitar for.   However, Bob is also a music educator who has introduced blues music to many youths & young adults through the Pinetop Perkins Foundation.  The Foundation provides educational workshops for youths by top blues musicians from all around the world.  There is a new mission, The Pinetop Assistance League which helps elder musicians in their twilight years.Joined by Jesse Finkelstein & Audrey Michelle Bob talks about his friendship with legendary blues man, Pinetop Perkins & how he is carrying his wishes forward through his work with PPF & PPE.#KeepingTheBluesAlive#BluesRadioInternational#BobMargolin

Jesse Finkelstein sits down with blues legend, John Mayall during the 2016 Blues Music Awards in Memphis for this exclusive interview on Blues Radio International.For pictures and video of this session, please visit us at: bluesradiointernational.net2019 Keeping The Blues Alive Award RecipientYou can join us on social media come find us and say, "hi!" facebook.com/bluesradiointernationalinstagram.com/bluesradiointernationalyoutube.com/bluesradiointernationaltwitter.com/bluesbritwitch.tv/bluesradiointernationalAlso: Soundcloud, snapchat, linkedin or wherever you get your social media fix.Sound by Jack Gauthier of Lakewest StudiosPhotography by Jay Skolnick Podcast Engineering by Audrey Michelle of True Definition Media

Jesse Colin Young with Jesse Finkelstein sitting down in BRI Studio C for this exclusive session on Blues Radio International.For pictures and video of this session, please visit us at: bluesradiointernational.net2019 Keeping The Blues Alive Award RecipientYou can join us on social media come find us and say, "hi!" facebook.com/bluesradiointernationalinstagram.com/bluesradiointernationalyoutube.com/bluesradiointernationaltwitter.com/bluesbritwitch.tv/bluesradiointernationalAlso: Soundcloud, snapchat, linkedin or wherever you get your social media fix.Sound by Jack Gauthier of Lakewest StudiosPhotography by Jay Skolnick Podcast Engineering by Audrey Michelle of True Definition Media

"I hope there are a lot of prospective authors out there who really internalize your multidimensional concept of "The Only" and who start realizing that they have a concept that shines in that Only kind of way." - Jesse Finkelstein What does it take to be an author today? The Power Of The Only isn't just about individuals. It is also about shifting old systems to carve a new path. It is about not being afraid to be "The Only" to create what's next.  And that is what's happening right now. "Onlys" like you are creating what's next.  Industries, old structures, and traditional ways of thinking are being disrupted. That's what Jesse Finkelstein, Co-Founder of Page Two Books, has been doing in the publishing industry for years. Her work is evolving the traditional publishing model to help thought leaders, subject matter experts, and organizations publish leading non-fiction books. Jesse has spent her entire career in books. She has held several management roles at publishing houses, including COO of D&M Publishers and Associate Publisher at Raincoast Books, the Canadian publisher of Harry Potter. Despite the pandemic, Page Two is continuing to grow.  They recently built an in-house audiobook program and announced a new global distribution program. Jesse shares how a devastating career moment gave her the foundational courage to launch her company and how a phone call from another “Only” in the industry gave her the ability to see the gift in the challenge. "I thought that I was in it for the books for a long time, but I realized it's actually about the authors." - Jesse Finkelstein In today's show, we talk about what it takes to be an author, the differences between traditional and hybrid publishing, and what inspired Jesse to create a company that supports authors by sharing their Only with the world. Jesse Finkelstein discusses her journey in traditional publishing, how she navigated being the only woman on a management team, and how to survive in competitive industries while maintaining your integrity. "It really takes a village to publish a book." - Jesse Finkelstein Show Notes: What it takes to be an author When Jesse Finkelstein first started imagining a career in books What hybrid publishing is How hybrid publishing differs from traditional publishing Why integrity is so important How Jesse uses mantras in her work The value of traditional publishing today Advice for people thinking about writing a book How to utilize your unique market differentiator Brand and Resource Mentions The Good Fight by Liane Davey “We all have something to contribute -- to our families, to our communities, to our workplaces -- that is really unique to us.” - Jesse Finkelstein 3 Pieces of Advice or Action Steps: Come to the table being as clear as possible about your unique market differentiator Be very open Elbow grease "Across the board, publishers are some of the most innovative entrepreneurs I've ever seen, no matter what their model is." - Jesse Finkelstein Connect with Jesse Finkelstein: LinkedIn | Instagram | Twitter | Page Two Thanks for being a part of this bold and powerful conversation on The Power of The Only! Whether you feel like the only one in your company, industry, or community or the only woman in the room, we're here to support you in stepping up, speaking up through power, presence, and representation, and to make an impact in your personal and professional life. Want even more insider tips, resources, and training to help you own your voice and power and step into your leadership.  Join me in my free, invite-only  YOU, Amplified!™ community! You can also join the conversation on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube and Twitter. Learn more about this episode of The Power of The Only with Angela Chee at www.angelachee.com/36

Here is Roosevelt Collier in this special interview with Jesse Finkelstein discussing the history of sacred steel, playing music in church and at home with family members & how he ended up playing sacred steel when it wasn't even his first choice.  He also plays for us four solo instrumentals in this edition of the Blues Radio International Podcast.For more live music & interviews visit: BluesRadioInternational.net You can also find us anywhere you consume social media.#KeepingTheBluesAlive#RooseveltCollier#BluesRadioInternational

We went to the home studio of Danielle Nicole & Brandon Miller for a very uplifting stop on the Viral Anti Viral Word Tour in Kansas City, MO. Danielle & Brandon always make beautiful music together and this time we get to talk about the status of touring, finding new meaning in music, finding inspiration & appreciating each other. A big thank you to Danielle & Brandon who generously set up many cameras to make this session extra special. We can't thank you enough for sharing with the world.To catch up with Danielle and Brandon check out:Daniellenicolemusic.comYou can find us on Instagram @bluesradiointernationalTwitter: @bluesBRIVisit us on Facebook for more news, talk & interviews: facebook.com/bluesradiointernationalMore live music and interviews on our website: www.bluesradiointernational.netVideo production & stream engineering by: Audrey Michelle & Brandon Miller

Today on Blues Radio International with Jesse Finkelstein & Audrey Michelle,  we take you to Los Angeles,  California for some uplifting tunes from Alastair Greenes new release,  A New World Blues from Whiskey Bayou Records. The record features Tab Benoit drums & Corey Duplechin on bass but, today you will enjoy the beautiful acoustic takes on "Living Today" & "Bayou Mile." We even get Alastair to serenade us on his beautiful National Guitar with "Walking in Circles.""LIVE BLUES FOR PLANET EARTH"Full video session available on Facebook & Youtube:Facebook.com/bluesradiointernationalYoutube.com/bluesradiointernational#keepingthebluesalive#alastairgreene#bluesradiointernational#jesseandaudreyProduction & stream engineering by Audrey Michelle of True Definition Media Audrey Michelle

Tonight we bring you some beautiful blues piano from New Orleans with our friend, Keiko Komaki. We talk about her recent musical projects & discuss what it has been like for her being home now more than ever. Keiko explains what her musical journey has been like & talks about the incredible friends she has made along the way.Thank you Keiko for taking the time to talk with us and share your beautiful music. We are looking forward to seeing you again in person, sooner than later.LIVE BLUES FOR PLANET EARTH#KeepingTheBluesAlive#keikokomaki#bluesradiointernationalProduction by Audrey Michelle of True Definition Media

Jesse Finkelstein is an Emeritus Fellow of the American College of Trial Layers. For over a decade, he made the list of "Best Lawyers in America," and was admitted to argue cases in front of the Supreme Court. Faced with a health condition, he left his practice and faced a very different everyday reality. Realizing that now was the time to re-claim some of the dreams from his youth, he founded Blues Radio International in 2012 allowing him to help blues music, and musicians, reach listeners worldwide. He also co-founded two record labels. He forges new relationships with friends and business associates in and out of the music business wherever he goes. His thoughts about mid-life changes and how to reach others in ways that are not only helpful to them, but that also give new meaning to his own life, are profound, creative, and inspirational. He is a dear member of my extended family. He lifts me up every time I talk to him, and our conversation for this podcast was a natural choice for my first episode here on Deep Dives in Extraordinary Times. http://www.bluesradiointernational.net --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/marie-trout/message

A fantastic conversation with Jesse Finkelstein, Co-Founder and Principal of Page Two Publishing, a Vancouver, Canada-based non-fiction publisher with a strong focus on author support. We discussed how that support has changed over the process of moving to remote, as well as dealing with the realities of a global pandemic. Jesse shared insights on how Page Two handled the transition as an internal organization, as well as how they pivoted to supporting authors in new ways during a challenging time. Page Two Publishing is the publisher of Greg's first book "Code Your Way Up: Rise to the Challenge of Software Leadership". Don't forget to subscribe, share and review so we can get the word out to more 'Upside Down Offic-ers'. Have a comment or idea for the show? Email us at remotelyprepared@upsidedownoffice.com or visit us at www.upsidedownoffice.com. We'd love to hear from you.

The world of publishing is evolving. Technology and customer needs are constantly shaping the way we consume information and get inspired. Jesse Finkelstein is a publishing executive that is at the forefront of this evolution. As Founder of Page Two Books, leader in publishing strategies, innovator of new publishing approaches, and a nominated finalist of the 2019 RBC Canadian Women Awards, her innovative ideas are helping authors shape the best possible material. In a candid conversation with Joe Jackman, she explores how her publishing model is built to better support authors, how Seeking Insight Everywhere leads the emotional and courageous journey of publishing, and what ultimately needs reinvention in the publishing world today. 

Listen in as Melanie Parish talks to co-founder and principal at Page Two Books, Jesse Finkelstein, about adapting to disruptions in regards to the COVID-19 pandemic. Page Two Books is a publishing company aimed at helping authors of non-fiction books. Jesse discusses how the company focuses on getting the message across from authors to the readers despite the current pandemic. Aspects of physical distancing are also talked about in this episode. Specifically, on how her team works on bringing on years of expertise while maintaining safety during the current circumstances.Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share!Here's How »Join The Experimental Leader community today:melanieparish.comYouTube

Gabe and a friend got lemon tattoos. A listener writes in asking about whether they are supposed to make up with their friend's partner who has become disrespectful to the friend. Then, Dr. Shireen Rizvi and Dr. Jesse Finkelstein join the show to talk about Dialectical Behavior Therapy, their book Real Skills For Real Life, and what tactics we can use to emotionally regulate and get out of painful patterns. In hypotheticals... geese! And finally, Allison has some thoughtful questions about Gabe's writing on bottom surgery for trans men.Check out all of our content on Patreon, Ad Free! Watch the full episodes of TLDRI, listen to the full episodes of The Variety Show, watch the International Question and Topix videos, join us for a monthly livestream, PLUS MORE:https://www.patreon.com/justbetweenusThis has been a Gallison ProductionProduced by Melisa D. Monts and Diamond MPrint ProductionsPost-Production by Coco LlorensProduction Assistance by Melanie D. WatsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy