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This podcast focused on the importance of mental health in families, emphasizing communication, stigma reduction, and support strategies for emotional well-being. Punam interviews Deepali Sansi, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has worked in Mental Health for more than 10 years. You can find her at: deepali-sansi-lmft-44190911b Deepali Sansi has been working at Buckelew Programs for the past four years and brings over a decade of experience in the mental health field. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and currently serves as an Assistant Program Director for the 988 Suicide Prevention Program. She is certified in Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT) and has extensive experience treating individuals with depression, anxiety, and trauma-related disorders. Her clinical expertise includes facilitating evidence-based therapeutic modalities such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Seeking Safety groups, and Art Therapy. Deepali is deeply passionate about working with families and adults who have experienced trauma, supporting them in building resilience and achieving meaningful recovery. She holds two graduate degrees: a Master's in Clinical Psychology from Delhi, India, and a Master's in Counseling with a concentration in Marriage and Family Therapy from Golden Gate University in San Francisco She comes with strong multicultural competence and experience working with diverse populations, Deepali is committed to helping individuals enhance self-esteem, develop insight, and cultivate healthy relationships that promote lasting and meaningful change.

#152: On today's episode, psychotherapist and founder of Therapy in the City,  joins the podcast for a conversation about what it actually means to heal.So many of us spend our lives chasing happiness while trying to avoid pain, but what if the very thing we're resisting is what allows us to experience the deepest joy?Aliza explains why healing isn't about becoming happy all the time, but about learning to embrace the full human experience. The girls unpack why discomfort isn't something to escape, why uncertainty is one of life's greatest teachers, and how letting go of control can completely transform the way we experience life. The girls get into:why pain is required for joywhy avoiding your emotions creates more sufferingprocessing your feelings instead of escaping themaccepting the full human experienceembracing life's dualitieswhy happiness isn't the goal of healingletting go of control and embracing uncertaintywhy some people naturally experience emotions more intenselythe Biosocial Theory and why mental health isn't always rooted in traumawhy you are not your thoughts, emotions, or past experiencesthe difference between your first thought and your second thought (more on rewiring the brain)why high achievers often struggle to feel their emotionsslowing down, stillness, and the power of the pauseunderstanding shame and where it stems fromwhat Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is and how it helps us healpsychology and spirituality... why healing requires bothredefining what true joy actually looks likedating, attachment styles, and choosing relationships that align with your values& MORE!This episode is for anyone who struggles to relinquish control, finds themselves in patterns of emotional avoidance, or is constantly chasing happiness while resisting pain. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by uncertainty, uncomfortable emotions, or the inevitable ups and downs of life, this conversation will completely reframe what healing actually looks like. Because true joy isn't found in avoiding pain... it's found in learning how to hold both.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Introduction01:09 – What actually brings people to therapy?04:49 – Feeling emotions deeply and learning how to process them05:53 – The Biosocial Theory: Why some people feel emotions more intensely07:03 – Healing isn't only for people with trauma08:04 – You are not your thoughts, emotions, or past experiences09:38 – Stop trying to control what you can't control10:39 – Why healing is about beginning again13:29 – Learning to embrace uncertainty16:48 – Why happiness isn't the destination17:19 – Why pain is required for joy18:05 – Emotional avoidance: Why avoiding your feelings creates more suffering20:26 – You can be self-aware and still be emotionally unavailable21:40 – Logic vs. emotion: Learning to actually feel23:01 – The science behind emotions and slowing them down24:11 – The healing power of the pause, silence, and stillness27:01 – Shame, secrecy, and why they always go together27:48 – What is Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)?34:40 – Becoming comfortable with life's ambiguity36:15 – Psychology, spirituality, and trusting something bigger than yourself37:25 – The three things anxiety usually comes back to38:42 – Why external achievement can never replace internal healing40:27 – What is joy, really?48:21 – Dating, attachment, and choosing relationships that align with your valuesCONNECT BELOW:Follow Aliza hereVisit Therapy in the City hereCONNECT WITH HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

While many people have heard of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) fewer know about Mentalization-Based Treatment (MBT), an evidence-based therapy that is producing remarkable results for people living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). In this episode, host Gabe Howard sits down with Robert P. Drozek, LICSW, a teaching associate in psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and author of “Mentalization: Utilizing Reflection to Heal from Borderline Personality Disorder.” Together, they explore how mentalization—the ability to understand your own thoughts, feelings, and motivations while considering the perspectives of others—can help reduce the emotional instability, relationship challenges, impulsivity, and self-destructive behaviors often associated with borderline personality disorder. Robert explains what happens when intense emotions or fears of rejection disrupt a person's ability to accurately interpret themselves and others. He breaks down how Mentalization-Based Treatment works, what a typical therapy session looks like, and why some people who haven't connected with DBT may find MBT to be a powerful alternative. Listeners Will Learn: ·      Discover how Mentalization-Based Treatment (MBT) was developed and why it is evidence-based ·      Explore the key differences between MBT and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) ·      Find out what happens during a typical MBT therapy session ·      Understand how rigid certainty about yourself or others can fuel emotional suffering Whether you've been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, love someone who has, or simply want to better understand this treatable mental health condition, this conversation offers hope, practical insights, and a fresh perspective on recovery. Listen now! “When (people with borderline personality disorder) are overwhelmed by emotion, they stop reflecting. Mentalization helps them get their minds back online.” ~Robert P. Drozek, LICSW Robert P. Drozek, LICSW, is the clinical director of the Mentalization-Based Treatment Clinic at McLean Hospital in Belmont, Massachusetts. He is a teaching associate in the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, specializing in the treatment of borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder. He is author of the new book, Mentalization: Utilizing reflection to heal from borderline personality disorder—the first book for the general public about mentalization-based treatment. Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Navigating the ups and downs of relationships can feel like learning a new language without a guidebook. When emotions run high, or misunderstandings arise, it's easy to get stuck in frustration or repeat patterns that don't serve us—or our partners—well. How do you ask for what you need, stay true to yourself, and keep the connection strong, all at the same time? In this episode, the discussion explores practical tools rooted in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) that help you strike a balance between self-respect, relationship wellbeing, and getting your needs met. Listeners will discover how to pause and choose more effective responses in moments of conflict, learn key strategies for emotional regulation, and find new ways to approach differences with acceptance and actionable change. Whether you're struggling to communicate a small annoyance or facing recurring arguments, this conversation offers concrete skills to foster growth and resilience in any relationship. Shireen Rizvi is a licensed clinical psychologist, board-certified in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Over the past 25 years, Shireen has conducted research and training in DBT. Her new book, Real Skills for Real Life, co-authored with Dr. Jesse Finkelstein, is available now.   Episode Highlights 03:35 Introduction to DBT therapy. 07:55 Learning relationship skills gradually. 10:49 Marcia Linehan's therapy development. 16:07 Embracing acceptance and change. 21:30 Balancing objectives and relationships. 25:33 Balancing priorities in relationships. 29:02 Understanding Emotion Regulation in DBT. 31:29 Understanding emotional dysregulation. 35:08 Managing conflict in relationships. 40:28 Using DBT skills for anxiety. 43:36 Book and resources overview.   Your Checklist of Actions to Take Identify Your Objective. Clarify what specific outcome you are hoping to achieve before entering a conversation or making a request. Consider Relationship Impact: Reflect on how you want the other person to feel about you and your relationship after the interaction. Prioritize Self-Respect: Decide how you want to feel about yourself based on how you handle a situation, ensuring you act in line with your values. Pause Before Reacting: When emotions run high, intentionally pause and consider your options before responding or reaching out to your partner. Practice Acceptance and Change: Acknowledge areas where acceptance is needed and where change is possible, aiming for a balanced approach in ongoing issues. Prepare Requests Clearly (DEAR MAN Skill): Formulate clear, specific, and assertive requests using tools like the DEAR MAN acronym to increase the likelihood of your needs being met. Monitor Emotional State: Regularly check in with yourself to assess your emotional regulation, especially before and during difficult interactions. Reflect on Interpersonal Patterns: Periodically review your tendencies in conflict (e.g., always prioritizing the relationship or objective) and adjust to create more balance and effectiveness in your interactions.   Mentioned Real Skills for Real Life (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Real Skills for Real Life (*Guilford Press link) (book) The High-Conflict Couple (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) About Dr. Jesse Finkelstein (TheraHive) Marsha M. Linehan  Gottman Institute Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication (Free Guide)   Connect with Dr. Shireen Rizvi Website: shireenrizvi.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/shireen-rizvi-1a5544193 Co-author of the book Real Skills for Real Life: https://www.therahive.com/team/jesse-finkelstein   

Send us Fan MailGreetings adult-children,It was an honor to sit in a deep & meaningful conversation with my colleague & therapist Tricia Giambelluca in this episode about how to break the spell of scapegoat shame & feeling like an imposter in your romantic, work and platonic relationships.We unpacked alot of misinformation about how these trauma loops get passed down to us yet we have the power to release, unpack and transform them without the need to blame and shame ourselves.About Tricia:Tricia is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) who brings over two decades of dedicated experience to her practice at Mobile Counseling of New York. She earned her Master of Science degree from Canisius College in 2007 and has since cultivated extensive expertise in treating trauma, substance abuse, autism spectrum disorders, and anxiety disorders. Fluent in both English and Spanish, Tricia serves a diverse range of clients, including children, teens, adults, veterans, and LGBTQ individuals, ensuring culturally responsive care that honors each person's unique background and experiences.At the heart of Tricia's therapeutic approach is her commitment to Eclectic Therapy, which allows her to thoughtfully adapt treatment to each client's individual needs and goals. Her comprehensive toolkit includes Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Trauma-Focused CBT, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), play therapy, family systems therapy, and mindfulness practices, among many others. Whether working with couples navigating relationship challenges or supporting young people through developmental transitions, Tricia meets clients exactly where they are, creating a foundation for meaningful growth and healing.Tricia finds profound fulfillment in witnessing her clients' transformative journeys, describing it as the most rewarding aspect of her work to watch individuals blossom and develop into someone they never dreamed they could be. When not in session, Tricia enjoys reading, creating diamond art, and kayaking.Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/1082934Mobile Counseling of NY:https://www.mcnys.comTricia's Page: https://www.mcnys.com/clinicians/tricia-giambellucaAs always, I'm offering inner child mentoring sessions & discovery sessions on my website at https://vandanalighthealing.comThe first step to healing recovery is to come out of denial and hiding and not let the past define you.Thank you for listening and see you in the next adult-child podcast episode!Bless you & your inner children,Vandana Atara NoorahSupport the showStay Connected with Vandana Light Healing :✨ Website: vandanalighthealing.com YouTube: @VandanaLightHealing Facebook: VandanaLightHealing Podcast: Hope & Healing LinkedIn: Vandana Atara Noorah Instagram: @vandana_light_healing Amazon Author: Vandana Atara Noorah

Elan Javanfard, M.A., LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist, professor, author, and thought leader in the fields of mental health, mindfulness, and crisis care. He currently serves as Senior Director at Didi Hirsch Mental Health Services, where he focuses on behavioral health redesign and systems-level transformation to improve care for individuals experiencing mental illness, suicidal ideation, and emotional distress. With over a decade of experience, Elan has provided clinical services in diverse settings, including community-based clinics serving individuals with chronic and severe mental illness. His integrative therapeutic approach emphasizes present-focused discovery, mind-body awareness, and the reintegration of the whole self. He has completed extensive clinical training in multiple evidence-based modalities such as Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT), Interpersonal Psychotherapy (IPT), Seeking Safety, Crisis Oriented Recovery Services (CORS), Narrative Family Therapy, and PEERS® (Program for the Education and Enrichment of Relational Skills). He holds advanced certification in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training (ASIST), and Recognizing and Responding to Suicide Risk. Elan is also an Adjunct Professor of Psychology at both Pepperdine University and Touro University, where he lectures on a wide range of topics including evidence-based clinical practices, mindfulness, and suicide prevention. In addition to his academic and clinical work, he is a national speaker and educator, regularly presenting to mental health professionals, faith-based communities, and leadership groups. He is a published author and the creator of Psycho-Spiritual Insights: Exploring Parasha & Psychology, a weekly blog that bridges Jewish thought and psychological wisdom. A respected voice in both clinical and spiritual spaces, Elan blends his expertise in psychotherapy with deep cultural and religious understanding. Elan is a member of the Board of Directors of the Crisis Residential Association, helping shape policy and innovation in alternatives to hospitalization. He lives in the Pico-Robertson community of Los Angeles with his wife and three children. To learn more or get in touch, visit www.elanjavanfard.com, email Elan.Javanfard@gmail.com, or call 424-256-6546. CONNECT WITH DVORA ENTIN: Website: https://www.dvoraentin.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dvoraentin YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@misconceptionspodcast  

Send us Fan MailIn this episode I'm getting a little personal — sharing what it felt like when my marriage ended unexpectedly in 2014 and how the messy, nonlinear years of rebuilding that followed shaped everything, including why I became a coach and why this podcast exists.This isn't a tidy glow-up story. It's an honest look at what rebuilding actually looks like, and five of the most important lessons it taught me:Emotions are survivable — they build, they peak, and they always passThe difference between regret and guilt, and a simple 3-question framework for moving through the hard stuffYou don't need to see the whole staircase — just the next stepRebuilding has no finish line, and why that's actually okayAuthenticity is where real connection lives — with others and with yourselfWhether you're navigating a divorce, an empty nest, a career shift, or any season where life has asked you to rebuild something, this one will meet you where you are.Mentioned in this episode: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) — a skills-based approach to emotional regulation worth looking into Daring Greatly by Brené Brown — on vulnerability and connection Wellness Wake Up intro program — $99 [LEARN MORE HERE] Support the showWant more?For more information about the podcast, visit www.realbraveunstoppable.com. To learn more about your host, Kortney Rivard, visit www.kortneyrivard.comFollow Kortney on Social media:InstagramFacebook

This episode features a conversation with Kaytlyn Gilner, a mental health advocate and host of the "Not So Dumb Blonde" podcast. We delve into the complexities of complex post traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) and borderline personality disorder (BPD), exploring the nuances and overlaps between these diagnoses. If you struggle with intense negative emotions, difficulty with intimacy, low self-esteem, and dissociation, what "diagnosis" should you get? In this episode, Kaytlyn Gilner shares her personal journey of misdiagnosis and the transformative power of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Dr. Kibby and Kaytlyn break down the hot controversy over these diagnoses that pushes back on the stigma of BPD. The recent backlash against the "borderline personality disorder" label argues that a diagnosis like "complex PTSD" recognizes the symptoms as trauma responses better. Dr. Kibby and Kaytlyn discuss the importance of understanding, setting boundaries, and the role of environment in mental health. They also talk about the power of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), the intensive outpatient treatment that teaches how to regulate emotions and relationships, no matter what diagnosis you have. This episode offers insights into how loved ones can support those struggling with intense emotions, emphasizing the need for empathy and structured support. Resources:KulaMind, Dr. Kibby's program to support loved ones of people with emotion dysregulationKatylyn's Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships (DBT-Inspired Workbook):https://tr.ee/9pKDGhjuNUIs It an Actual Red Flag or Anxiety? (DBT-Inspired Workbook):https://tr.ee/GrAOWvyh1VTo connect, collaborate, or attend an event with Kaytlyn:https://linktr.ee/kaytlynmYouTube: NotSoDumbBlondePodcastInstagram: @notsodumbblonde_pod

It's Mental Health Awareness Month — and while we've covered emotional and mental wellbeing a lot on the podcast, we've never explored complex mental health disorders and how to navigate them. Our culture talks endlessly about therapy, but I don't see enough conversations about how to help those struggling with severe mental illness. Because it doesn't always look like venting to your therapist and unpacking childhood trauma. For many people, the issue isn't a lack of self-awareness or needing to dive deeper into their feelings. It's a lack of tools to manage what's happening in real time. So, whether you're struggling with a mental health condition, or this is impacting someone you care about, we're deepening our understanding of personality disorders like Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, and the tools that can help people who are really struggling. With the help of Dr. Suzanne Wallach, we explore how approaches like Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) can shift the focus from why you feel this way to what you do when you feel this way so you have concrete skills, like emotional regulation and distress tolerance — even when you're triggered. Dr. Wallach is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California with a Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology and Doctorate in Psychology. She's a Dialectical Behaviour Therapy expert who works with personality disorders like Borderline, substance abuse and addiction, eating disorders, and complex trauma. She's been on podcasts like Call Her Daddy, and is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to treating complex conditions with compassion and skills-based techniques. Tune in to learn: The truth about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the trauma that leads to it Signs you might be dating a narcissist Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder How to be in relationship with people who have personality disorders The difference between Type 1 and Type 2 Bipolar Disorder When medication is needed, and the different modalities that can help How Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers real-world tools for people with mental disorders Why sequencing and developing distress tolerance in therapy matters more than most people realize When to do psychodynamic/psychoanalytic therapy VS behavioural techniques The difference between between DBT, CBT, and MCT If you've ever felt like talk therapy made you more self-aware but didn't actually change your destructive patterns or improve a mental disorder, this episode might help with a new approach. Wherever you are in your mental health journey, know that you are not alone, and there's life-changing help available. Connect with Dr. Suzanne Wallach:https://suzannewallach.com/  https://www.instagram.com/drsuzannewallach/  For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Full circle moment! My former student-athlete, Kate Daley, is on the pod talking about her journey from college athlete to dual clinician—and how she now helps athletes navigate nutrition, mental health, and recovery.Kate Daley is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Registered Dietitian (RDN), and Certified Eating Disorder Specialist (CEDS). She earned her master's degree from the University of Denver and her undergraduate degree from the University of Connecticut (UConn), where she was a member of the Cross Country and Track & Field teams. Her clinical training included specialized work treating athletes with eating disorders, serving as both a clinical mental health clinician and registered dietitian.Throughout her career, Kate has worked across a variety of treatment settings, including hospitals, athletic departments, private practice, and higher levels of care for both eating disorders and substance use disorders. She currently serves as the Primary Therapist at one of only two residential eating disorder facilities in the country that treat athletes, and she also works with athletes in her private practice, providing both therapy and nutrition services.Kate has presented at conferences and other professional settings on topics including eating disorders, Relative Energy Deficiency in Sport (REDs), Safe Exercise at Every Stage (SEES), sports nutrition, sport psychology, and mental health in the context of sport at all levels—from recreational to Olympic. She has experience working with individuals, families, and groups.Her clinical approach is strength-based and rooted in a humanistic, person-centered philosophy. She utilizes evidence-based modalities including Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT), Emotion-Focused Family Therapy (EFFT), and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).In her dual role as a sport and eating disorder therapist and dietitian, Kate specializes in working with athletes seeking treatment for eating disorders, helping them pursue recovery while continuing in the sport they love.Check out Kate's story here! https://www.thehiddenopponent.org/post/kate-daley-my-un-conventional-comeback-storyLooking to start your career with confidence? Check out the website www.sportsrdsnippets.com to learn more on how I can help you! This episode is sponsored by G2G Protein Bar! If you're a sports RD and are interested in samples, email me at liz@sportsrdsnippets.com or DM Sports RD Snippets on instagram and I'll connect you with Coby Childs for your samples. Looking  to try for yourselves? G2G has also got you covered : Use the code sportsrd15 for 15% your order!  https://g2gbar.com/discount/sportsrd15

Disclaimer: This interview includes in-depth discussions of serious mental health topics, such as personality disorders and other highly sensitive subjects. These topics may be distressing or triggering for some listeners.In this episode of SHE MD, Mary Alice Haney and Dr. Thaïs Aliabadi sit down with Dr. Suzanne Wallach, a leading expert in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), to unpack what every woman should understand about emotional regulation, trauma, and personality disorders. From the difference between borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, and narcissism to the real signs of emotional dysregulation, this conversation brings clarity to topics that are often misunderstood and misdiagnosed.Dr. Wallach breaks down how trauma shapes behavior, why narcissists rarely seek help, and what narcissistic abuse and gaslighting actually look like in relationships. The conversation also explores how to recognize unhealthy patterns, why you should never stay in a relationship where you're being disrespected, and how emotional overwhelm impacts your ability to think clearly or problem-solve in the moment.You'll also learn practical, science-backed tools you can start using immediately, including DBT techniques like the TIPP method for panic attacks and emotional distress. The episode expands into parenting and generational trauma, offering insight on how to raise emotionally healthy children through validation, boundaries, and consistency. If you've ever struggled with your emotions, relationships, or mental health, this episode is filled with actionable strategies to help you regain control and build a more stable, grounded life.Subscribe to SHE MD Podcast for expert tips on PCOS, endometriosis, fertility, hormonal balance, mental health, and more. Share with friends and visit SHE MD website and Ovii for research-backed resources, holistic health strategies, and expert guidance on women's health and well-being.SponsorsMidi: Ready to feel your best and write your second act script? Visit JoinMidi.com today to book your personalized, insurance-covered virtual visit. Ka'Chava: Get 15% off your first order at kachava.com with code SHEMD.Talkiatry: Head to Talkiatry.com/shemd and complete the short assessment to get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes. Ancient + Brave: Go to Ancientandbrave.com/planet and use the code SHEMD for 10 dollars off any purchase. MudWtr: Head to mudwtr.com and grab your starter kit today! Right now, our listeners get an exclusive deal—up to 43% off starter kits, plus free shipping and a free rechargeable frother when you use code SHEMD.Gusto: Try Gusto today at gusto.com/SHEMD, and get three months free when you run your first payroll.What You'll LearnThe difference between borderline personality disorder (BPD), bipolar disorder, and narcissismWhy narcissists rarely self-diagnose, and why they're difficult to treatSigns you may be experiencing emotional dysregulation or unresolved traumaWhat narcissistic abuse and gaslighting actually look likeWhy BPD is often misdiagnosed as bipolar disorderThe role of childhood trauma in personality disordersHow to tell if someone is a narcissist. or just not treating you wellWhy you should never stay in a relationship where you're being disrespectedThe DBT “TIPP” method for panic attacks and emotional overwhelmHow to lower distress quickly and regain control of your thoughtsWhy you can't problem-solve while emotionally floodedThe importance of sleep, nutrition, and physical health in emotional regulationHow to raise emotionally healthy children without shame or overpraiseWhy validation and boundaries must coexist in parentingHow generational trauma develops, and how to break the cycleKey Timestamps(0:00) Introduction to SHE MD(3:16) Welcome Dr. Suzanne Wallach!(4:54) What Is Narcissism?(6:36) Is Narcissism Based On Childhood Trauma?(8:27) Borderline Personality Disorder vs Narcissism?(12:41) Borderline vs Dependent Personality Disorder(13:37) Cluster B Disorders: Higher Risk of Self-Harm & Suicide(14:05) Women Are Overdiagnosed With Personality Disorders(15:58) Many Therapists Avoid Treating Borderline Personality Disorder(22:15) DBT Skills Coaching: 24/7 Support in Crisis Moments(23:36) Thoughts vs Ideation(27:00) How Dr. Suzanne Handle Patients With Suicide Plans(30:29) Does Trauma Come First in Treating Cluster B Disorders(37:35) How to Avoid Raising a Narcissist as a Parent(38:20) Praise Parenting: Where's the Healthy Balance?(42:24) Opposite Parenting Styles After Divorce(48:01) Should Trauma Be the First Focus in Treating DBT?(58:54) How to Recognize BPD or Narcissism: Key Signs & Diagnosis(1:02:44) What Is Bipolar Disorder?(1:04:40) Bipolar vs BPD: Genetics vs Trauma(1:05:05) The TIPP Skill(1:13:45) Rapid Fire QuestionsKey TakeawaysYou can't think clearly during emotional distress. Regulation must come firstPersonality disorders are treatable, and many can go into remissionTrauma often drives behavior, but it doesn't excuse staying in harmful situationsEmotional regulation is a skill that can be learned with the right toolsBoundaries are essential, even when you understand someone's painParenting requires both emotional validation and consistent consequencesSmall daily tools (like breathing or cold exposure) can dramatically reduce anxietyGuest BioDr. Suzanne Wallach is a clinical psychologist and DBT specialist based in Los Angeles. She is the founder of SoCal DBT, where she and her team provide high-fidelity, evidence-based Dialectical Behavior Therapy for individuals, couples, and families. Her work focuses on helping patients regulate emotions, heal from trauma, and build healthier relationships through practical, science-backed tools.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today is Part 2 of a 2 part series featuring Kate & Michelle of the DBT and Me podcast. Today they talk DBT skills and advice for using DBT. Thanks Kate and Michelle for joining us on the podcast! Here's an overview of their podcast: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) was created by a woman named Marsha Linehan in the 1980s. The skills she created are now taught all over the world. DBT can improve depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, and other mental health struggles. We are Kate and Michelle, two mental health therapists in Seattle, WA. We have been teaching DBT groups as a team for years. Whether you've never heard of DBT before or are experienced with DBT skills, this podcast is here to help you use DBT skills in your daily life.The DBT and Me podcast can be found on: IG @dbtandmepodcastFacebookYoutubeEtsySend us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...

Today is Part 1 of a 2 part series featuring Kate & Michelle of the DBT and Me podcast. Today they talk about their lived experience with mental health and next week they talk specifically DBT skills!Here's an overview of their podcast: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) was created by a woman named Marsha Linehan in the 1980s. The skills she created are now taught all over the world. DBT can improve depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, and other mental health struggles. We are Kate and Michelle, two mental health therapists in Seattle, WA. We have been teaching DBT groups as a team for years. Whether you've never heard of DBT before or are experienced with DBT skills, this podcast is here to help you use DBT skills in your daily life.The DBT and Me podcast can be found on: IG @dbtandmepodcastFacebookYoutubeEtsySend us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...

In a world where violent incidents, political upheaval, and shocking news dominate headlines --- from immigration enforcement violence in Minnesota to studies pointing to "nihilistic" violence without clear motives --- many parents and caregivers are left wondering: How do we talk about this with our kids? And more importantly, how do we process our own feelings so that we don't become overwhelmed or paralyzed by fear, uncertainty, or anger?In this episode, Ned speaks with teen mental health and parenting expert Julie Baron, LCSW-C guides listeners through developmental, emotional, and practical frameworks for navigating these conversations with children and adolescents. We'll explore the psychological roots of feeling out of control, the maladaptive ways people try to regain a sense of agency (including in forms of violence), and evidence-based tools from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and her innovative CARE model for parenting that help families cope, connect, and act --- even in uncertainty.Episode Highlights[0:00] - Why we fall back into old parenting habits—and how to change that[3:11] - Julie's work with teens and families using DBT skills[6:39] - How parent and child emotions feed off each other (and escalate)[9:46] - The impact of technology and social media on teen mental health[15:12] - Practical strategies to manage overwhelming news and stress[18:10] - The role of control—and why feeling powerless fuels anxiety[21:33] - Understanding maladaptive coping (and what's underneath it)[23:43] - What we can control: attention and behavior[28:21] - How to talk with kids about scary or overwhelming world events[31:41] - Why connection matters more than saying the “right” thing[36:22] - DBT communication skills: goals, relationships, and self-respect[40:27] - Choosing your parenting battles wisely[44:01] - The power of validation (and how to use it effectively)[46:24] - Why inconsistent parenting responses can backfire[47:45] - Managing stress: increasing healthy “outflows”[49:34] - Final takeaway: connection is the ultimate buffer against stressLinks & ResourcesWhat Works With Teens NewsletterParenting Teens Through ConnectionJulie Baron and Associates: WebsiteLinkedin: Julie BaronInstagram: @parentingteensthroughconnectionFacebook: Julie Baron and AssociatesIf this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference.If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

Garrett Wood is a clinical hypnotherapist and executive well-being coach specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills and subconscious belief change. Since 2007, he has worked with high-achieving professionals, leaders, and entrepreneurs to help them regulatestress, shift limiting beliefs, and recover from burnout. His approach integrates DBT emotional regulation skills with hypnotherapy to help clients access deeper cognitive and physiological change than traditional talk-basedapproaches alone.Through more than 20,000 coaching and hypnotherapy sessions with clients across the United Statesand internationally, Garrett helps high performers develop practical tools for emotional regulation, resilience, and sustainable success. #drdanamzallag, #drdanpodcast, #Happinessjourneywithdrdan,#ddanmotivation, #inspiringinterviews, #drdancbt, #drdantherapy,#drdancoaching, #drdanhappiness,  

What if the stress you feel at work isn't just about deadlines or difficult bosses, but about your attachment style? In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Jack Hinman, founder and executive director of Engage Young Adult Transitions, to talk about how the patterns you develop in early childhood show up in your leadership, ambition, anxiety, and burnout. We break down secure, preoccupied, and avoidant attachment styles, how they influence the way you handle feedback and uncertainty, and why your “relationship operating system” doesn't stop at home. Tune in to understand your patterns and learn how to lead from connection instead of fear. Check out our sponsors: Northwest Registered Agent - Protect your privacy, build your brand and get your complete business identity in just 10 clicks and 10 minutes! Visit https://www.northwestregisteredagent.com/achieverfree Shopify - Sign up for a $1 per month trial, just go to http://shopify.com/anxiousachiever Talkiatry - Head to http://talkiaitry.com/achiever and complete the short assessment to get matched with an in network psychiatrist in just a few minutes. Working Genius - Take the working genius assessment today and get 20% off with code ACHIEVER at working http://genius.com Brevo - Meet brevo, the all in one marketing and CRM platform built to help you connect with customers, boost engagement and grow your business smarter. Go to brevo.com/achiever and use code ACHIEVER50 for 50% off.  In this Episode, You Will Learn 00:00 The heartbreaking monkey experiment that shaped attachment theory. 06:30 What's the difference among secure, preoccupied, avoidant, and disorganized styles? 10:00 What happens when a preoccupied employee has an avoidant boss. 11:15 How does avoidant attachment show up in leadership? 15:45 What “secure” actually looks like at work. 18:45 How to “own the dynamic” in difficult workplace relationships. 20:30 Self-awareness is the foundation of good leadership. 23:00 Why uncertainty and change activate attachment patterns. 25:15 Why connection is both the outcome and the intervention. 28:45 What happens when two anxious leaders feed each other's stress. 31:15 Why “anchors” are essential for healing attachment patterns. 34:45 Tools to regulate attachment triggers. Resources + Links Learn more about Dr. Jack Hinman and Engage Young Adult Transitions HERE! Learn more about Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills and resources HERE! Get a copy of my book - The Anxious Achiever Watch the podcast on YouTube  Find more resources on our website morraam.com Follow Follow me: on LinkedIn @morraaronsmele + Instagram @morraam

Why do you order pizza, pour a glass of wine, or reach for chocolate or chips when you're not actually hungry?It may not be about willpower. And it may not even be about food.In this episode, Lisa Oldson, MD explains how distress tolerance, your ability to sit with uncomfortable emotions without immediately trying to escape them, may be the missing link in sustainable weight loss and healthy habit change.Drawing from research in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dr. Oldson walks you through how increasing psychological flexibility can reduce impulsive eating, late-night snacking, emotional eating, and even binge behaviors.You'll learn:What distress tolerance really is (and what it's not)Why cravings are often about emotional discomfort, not hungerHow urge surfing works to reduce impulsive eatingA simple 5-minute daily practice to build emotional enduranceHow to use TIP skills to calm your nervous system during intense cravingsWhy delaying a binge by even 5 minutes is meaningful progressWhat real improvement looks like (hint: not perfection)If you feel like you “know what to do” but struggle to actually do it, this episode will help you understand why, and give you practical tools to finally make healthy habits stick.Thanks for listening! If you'd like more support during your SMART weight loss & health focused journey, sign up for our FREE newsletter, or check out our program at: www.SmartWeightLossCoaching.com. We would love to help you reach your happy weight, and transform the way you talk to yourself about your body and the number on the scale. Negative thoughts about yourself don't have to take up so much brain space, and we'd be honored to help you reframe those thoughts. Also…We'd be grateful if you'd follow us and share our podcast with your friends & family. We're here to help you improve your health, live longer, healthier, and lose weight the SMART way! This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher: www.ThePodcastTeacher.com.

"By age 40, one in five women has dealt with an eating disorder—twice the rate we see by age 21." – Harvard UniversityWhile society often frames eating disorders as a struggle for teenagers, the reality is that women in midlife are increasingly vulnerable. In this episode, Dr. Rachel Pope addresses the "silent epidemic" affecting millions of women as they navigate the convergence of hormonal shifts, body image pressures, and life transitions.As we continue our New Year's series on weight management and GLP-1 medications, Dr. Pope is joined by internationally recognized expert Dr. Lucene Wisniewski. Together, they discuss the thin line between a healthy focus on nutrition and the onset of disordered eating. Why do perimenopause and menopause create a "biological window of risk"? How do we distinguish between "discipline" and "obsession"?Dr. Lucene Wisniewski, PhD, FAED, is a leader in eating disorder treatment and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) with nearly 30 years of experience. She provides a compassionate, evidence-based look at how women can protect their mental health while pursuing physical wellness.In this episode, we discuss: The Hormonal Connection: Why the menopause transition is a high-risk period for both relapses and "de novo" (new) eating disorders. Effective vs. Rigid Eating: Moving away from black-and-white "food rules" toward a flexible, social, and balanced relationship with fuel. Red Flags in Midlife: How to identify signs of preoccupation, body checking, and the moralization of food. The "Binge-Restrict" Cycle: Why "not eating" is often the biggest trigger for out-of-control eating. Tracking Apps & Tech: When tools like macro-trackers stop being helpful and start becoming a "life stance." ARFID in Adults: Understanding Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder and how it differs from traditional anorexia. Supporting Others: How to broach a conversation with a friend or family member without causing shame (and why you should never do it at the dinner table).National Resources for Help: NEDA Helpline: (800) 931-2237 Crisis Text Line: Text "HOME" to 741741 ANAD Helpline: (888) 375-7767About Our Guest:Dr. Lucene Wisniewski is the Founder and Chief Clinical Officer of the Center for Evidence-Based Treatment (CEBT). She is a Fellow of the Academy for Eating Disorders and an Adjunct Assistant Professor at Case Western Reserve University.Connect with Dr. Wisniewski: Website: cebtohio.comConnect with Dr. Rachel Pope: Website: ourwomanity.com Social Media: @drrachelpope

Many small-town people carry more than their fair share and, in some cases, tie their self-worth to how much they do for others or to their role in their small town (we're lovingly looking at you, farmers and ranchers and Heads of Everything).   In this episode, therapist Anna and our host Rebecca explore burnout, boundaries, and why emotional awareness and resilience can coexist. It's a grounded conversation about choosing alignment over obligation and building healthier communities from the inside out.  About Anna: Welcome! I'm Anna. I am dedicated to helping individuals and families find peace and healing through life's challenges using a holistic approach to therapy. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with a Master's degree in Social Work, I have the privilege of supporting youth and adults facing anxiety, depression, life transitions, relationship difficulties, trauma, behavioral concerns, ADHD, and other challenges. I integrate evidence-based therapies such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Trauma-Focused CBT (TF-CBT), mindfulness practices, and solution-focused techniques. These tools help youth and adults gain insight, develop effective coping strategies, and move toward a more emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually fulfilling life. I believe therapy is a safe space for honest reflection, growth, and healing. Whether you're feeling stuck or simply seeking support in achieving your goals, I'm here to walk with you on your journey in a supportive and compassionate environment. Let's connect—you deserve to feel supported and heard. Outside the therapy room, I find joy in spending time with family and friends, being outdoors, gardening, and enjoying a good cup of coffee. In this episode, we cover: How self-worth often gets tied to roles, productivity, and people-pleasing What burnout really looks like—emotionally and physically Why "grit" doesn't require suppressing feelings How shame and comparison keep people overextended Practical ways to notice when something no longer aligns Links + Resources Mentioned: Anna's website: www.betterdaystw.com Want to get your business in front of our audience? We are looking for podcast sponsors! Each season, we feature a select group of Small Business Partners—brands that share our mission to celebrate small-town life and big ideas. With a 4–6% average Facebook engagement rate (well above the industry average), 2,600+ loyal followers, and 45,000 monthly content views, we have an amazing, highly engaged audience of people who can't wait to learn more about you. When we feature you, your story, and your product/service, it's like a friend's recommendation, because it is. Want to know more? Reach out to us at hello@growingsmalltowns.org We have a membership! Join the GST Club — a virtual support community built for those leading change in small-town America. For $30/month, you'll get twice-monthly live calls with Rebecca, access to a private network of fellow small-town changemakers, replay recordings, frameworks, and early access to GST events. It's for anyone from volunteers and entrepreneurs to city officials who believe small towns deserve big ideas and better leadership. Part think-tank. Part pep-talk. Part creative jam session. All support.  We Want to Hear From You! We really, really do, and if you'll let us, we'd love to feature your actual message just like we did with Terri's (with your permission, of course!) Some of the best parts about radio shows and podcasts are listener call-ins, so we've decided to make those a part of the Growing Small Towns Podcast. We really, really want to hear from you! We're have two "participation dance" elements of the show: "Small town humblebrags": Call in and tell us about something amazing you did in your small town so we can celebrate with you. No win is too small—we want to hear it all, and we will be excessively enthusiastic about whatever it is! You can call in for your friends, too, because giving shout-outs is one of our favorite things.  "Solving Your Small-Town People Challenges": Have a tough issue in your community? We want to help. Call in and tell us about your problem, and we'll solve it on an episode of the podcast. Want to remain anonymous? Totally cool, we can be all secretive and stuff. We're suave like that.  If you've got a humblebrag or a tricky people problem, call 701-203-3337 and leave a message with the deets. We really can't wait to hear from you!  Get In Touch Have an idea for a future episode/guest, have feedback or a question, or just want to chat? Email us at hello@growingsmalltowns.org Subscribe + Review Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of The Growing Small Towns Show! If the information in our conversations and interviews has helped you in your small town, head out to Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Spotify, subscribe to the show, and leave us an honest review. Your reviews and feedback will not only help us continue to deliver relevant, helpful content, but it will also help us reach even more small-town trailblazers just like you!  

In this episode, Alicia discusses her work with Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Radically Open DBT. She explains that she was first exposed to DBT in her predoctoral internship at Marin General Hospital, where part of the rotation was to run a DBT group and fell in love with its practicality and giving people real tools they could take away. She explained that it was great to see clients using the tools and finding success, so she got went and got trained with Marsha Linehan, Ph.D. and Behavioral Tech and made DBT her focus. She explained that DBT is especially helpful for clients who describe themselves as emotionally sensitive or struggle to “ride the wave” of emotions that feel overwhelming. Alicia discusses the five modules of DBT that she works from, including mindfulness, distress tolerance, affect regulation, interpersonal skills, and “walking the middle path,” (which is related to validation and reinforcement in family emotional dynamics). Alicia goes on to explain the use of the modules in working towards emotional awareness, getting through emotional crises, and radical acceptance of emotions. We also discuss coping skills and exposure therapy and how there are tools to expand one's window of tolerance as well as self-soothing skills utilized to sit with one's emotions. We speak on what dialectics in DBT refer to: holding two truths at a time, as opposed to relying on rigid, black-and-white thinking, which can exacerbate feelings of distress and overwhelm. Alicia discusses Radical DBT, or Radically Open DBT, and how it is different from regular DBT as it expands radical openness, self-inquiry, and accepting imperfection in oneself in treating emotional OC (overcontrol) disorders such as Anorexia Nervosa, OCPD, and chronic depression. We discuss how RO DBT benefits clients who experience rigidity in their overcontrol as well as shame, anxiety, and hypervigilance in their daily life. Alicia discusses her website, Therahive, which provides DBT skills online for clients as well as training for therapists to make DBT accessible throughout the world. We discuss how important having a supportive community is for clinicians who are providing DBT and how DBT's model includes a therapist consultation group. Lastly, we discuss phone coaching with clients and how it is utilized with clients who are struggling with self-harm and other behaviors and how therapists navigate personal boundaries around time with family and time off, while also being available for clients in need. Alicia Smart, PsyD is a licensed clinical psychologist in California with over 20 years of clinical experience providing evidence-based mental health care to children, adolescents, adults, and families. She began seeing clients during graduate training and has worked across community mental health, medical, and private practice settings throughout her career. Alicia earned her B.A. in Psychology and Chemistry from New York University and her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology (PsyD) from the California Institute of Integral Studies. She is a DBT-Linehan Certified Clinician and has extensive experience treating mood and personality disorders, trauma, anxiety, grief, ADHD, autism-spectrum presentations, and chronic emotion dysregulation. Her work frequently integrates DBT into suicide risk management, neurodivergent-affirming care, and complex relational systems. She is the Founder and Clinical Director of Guidepost DBT in Corte Madera, California, where she oversees a team of therapists providing comprehensive Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and evidence-based care. In addition to clinical leadership, Alicia provides training, supervision, and consultation to clinicians seeking advanced education in DBT and related approaches. Alicia is also a co-founder of TheraHive, an innovative online DBT skills and learning platform designed to make high-quality DBT education more accessible to individuals and clinicians worldwide.

In this episode, Deborah Adele describes the razor's edge between Self-Expression and Self-Indulgence, using the yoga principle of Satya (Truthfulness). She makes the distinctions for us. Then using modern science, drawing from Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and behavioral techniques from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), I show how to use many of the interventions and ideas to actually put self-expression into practice. Additionally, discover why "dumping" your emotions is not the same as telling the truth, and learn practical skills like the DBT's DEAR MAN framework and the Gottmans' Soft Start-Up formula to communicate effectively without causing harm. Learn how to pause, regulate your nervous system, and speak from your core "Self" energy rather than a reactive "Part."If this episode resonates with your journey toward authentic, kind communication, please like and share to help others find what might also benefit them.

Mental Health: Hope and Recovery Episode Title: How Helen and Valerie (Mostly) Outsmart Negativity Episode 63 | Duration 47:45 Hosts: Helen Sneed & Valerie Milburn EPISODE OVERVIEW On the brink of the new year, Valerie and Helen do a deep search into the reasons why new year's resolutions so often end in failure and negativity. From their exploration, the ways to outsmart negativity and to pursue something better with a positive outcome become clear and doable. They discover that the strongest course for outsmarting negativity is to replace resolutions with goals. As they bring their insights and examples to the table, the path forward with strategic goal-setting becomes clear.  The objective of the episode is to educate and equip the listener with a large body of information that informs and inspires the creation of a manageable path to achieving a heartfelt goal. Included are strategies, skills, methods, and examples from their own lived experiences. Particular focus is on the mechanics of goal-setting: how to build and sustain a feasible plan with manageable steps. How to overcome procrastination, self-doubt, and setbacks. Mindfulness, acceptance, flexibility, and relationships are critical building blocks to outwitting the negativity and doubt that can stop all forward action. For our hosts, the single greatest way to outsmart negativity is to develop a brain that can create optimistic thoughts, nurture the positive, and develop new techniques to dismiss negative expectation. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ·      Why resolutions often fail and goals often lead to real progress  ·      How SMART goals can be a conduit to commitment and success ·      How skills such as mindfulness and acceptance keep you on track and engaged in the positive ·      How to navigate setbacks without abandoning your goals or the capacity to fight negativity TOOLS AND TAKEAWAYS ·      Resolutions vs. Goals:  Resolutions are strict decisions without structure; goals require action, planning, and flexibility ·      SMART Goals provide a framework for effective goal setting with the following criteria. The goal should be: o   Specific  o   Measurable o   Achievable  o   Relevant  o   Time-bound  ·      Dialectical Behavior Therapy: DBT provides a wide range of goal-seeking skills ·      Mindfulness and Acceptance: They offer many options and activities for overcoming negativity and the positive pursuit of goals. ·      Relationships: Support through individuals and community provides accountability, encouragement, and improved self-image. MEMORABLE QUOTES “Big ambition without an achievable plan is a setup for failure.” – Helen “Acceptance is not endorsement—it's simply recognizing reality as it is.” –Valerie “Goals bring values from theory into practice.” – Helen RESOUCES AND LINKS MENTIONED Mental Health: Hope and Recovery Podcast, Episode 9: Goal Setting: A Necessity for Recovery https://mentalhealthhopeandrecovery.com/episode/goal-setting-a-necessity-for-recovery Mindfulness exercise adapted from https://MindfulnessExercises.com Website: https://MentalHealthHopeAndRecovery.com CONNECT WITH US Website: https://MentalHealthHopeAndRecovery.com Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all major platforms RELATED EPISODES Mental Health: Hope and Recovery Podcast, Episode 9: Goal Setting: A Necessity for Recovery https://mentalhealthhopeandrecovery.com/episode/goal-setting-a-necessity-for-recovery Mental Health: Hope and Recovery Podcast, Episode 60: Dialectical Behavior Therapy—The Journey from Pain to Purpose https://mentalhealthhopeandrecovery.com/episode/dialectical-behavior-therapy-the-journey-from-pain-to-purpose  DISCLAIMER This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical advice. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any health-related questions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Download: OVERCOMING BLACK OR WHITE THINKING WORKSHEETWelcome to the Addicted Mind podcast! Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I'm either a success or a complete failure"? This episode is for you.In this episode, we dive deep into the pervasive issue of black-and-white thinking, also known as dichotomous thinking and its impact on addiction recovery. Join Duane Osterlind and Eric Osterlind as they explore how this rigid mindset can create emotional instability and hinder progress. Drawing on principles from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), they discuss practical steps to move from extreme thinking to a more balanced, nuanced approach. You'll learn mindfulness techniques, how to challenge your thoughts, and the importance of embracing the gray areas in life. By the end of this episode, you'll have valuable tools to help you think more dialectically and support your journey to recovery. Plus, don't miss the downloadable worksheet in the show notes to further your practice!Key TopicsUnderstanding black-and-white thinking and its impact on recoveryIntroduction to Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Practical steps to shift towards dialectical thinkingImportance of mindfulness and self-compassionChallenging extreme thoughts and seeking clarificationThe role of language in shaping our perceptionsTimestamps[00:00:00] Introduction and overview of black-and-white thinking[00:02:15] The impact of black-and-white thinking on recovery and relationships[00:06:15] Why our brains default to black-and-white thinking[00:08:40] How to become a gray thinker: Practical steps[00:10:58] Seeking clarification and the role of community support[00:12:42] Reframing negative thoughts and focusing on positives[00:14:11] Call to action: Download the worksheet and join the communitySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of It's All Your Fault, host Megan Hunter interviews Amanda Smith, LCSW, about her groundbreaking new book on self-compassion and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills for people who have borderline personality disorder traits. The discussion explores how incorporating self-compassion into treatment can enhance recovery and improve outcomes.Understanding Self-Compassion in BPD TreatmentThe conversation delves into how self-compassion serves as a vital but often overlooked component in treating borderline personality disorder traits. Amanda Smith draws on 19 years of clinical experience to explain why traditional confrontational approaches often backfire, while self-compassion can help reduce self-destructive behaviors and improve emotional regulation.Research shows that increased self-compassion correlates with better mental health outcomes, healthier relationships, and reduced anxiety and depression. This episode examines how these findings specifically apply to people working to manage borderline personality disorder traits.Questions We Answer in This EpisodeHow has treatment for borderline personality disorder evolved over the past 20 years?What role does self-compassion play in DBT skills training?How can family members support loved ones who cannot access immediate treatment?When should boundaries and limits be introduced in treatment?How does self-compassion affect recovery outcomes?Key TakeawaysSelf-compassion can serve as a replacement skill for self-destructive behaviorsDBT skills can be learned and practiced by family members to support loved onesTreatment approaches work best when starting with validation before introducing structureRecovery is possible with appropriate evidence-based treatmentEarly intervention, even before age 18, can be beneficial when approached appropriatelyThe episode provides hope and practical guidance for anyone impacted by borderline personality disorder traits, while highlighting the importance of combining clinical skill development with self-compassion practices. Listeners will gain insights into both professional and personal approaches to supporting recovery.Additional ResourcesWatch this episode on YouTube!Expert Publications by Amanda L. SmithThe Self-Compassion Workbook for BPDThe Dialectical Behavior Therapy Wellness Planner: 365 Days of Healthy Living for Your Body, Mind, and SpiritThe Borderline Personality Disorder Wellness Planner for Families: 52 Weeks of Hope, Inspiration, and Mindful Ideas for Greater Peace and HappinessExpert PublicationsSLIC Solutions for Conflict: Setting Limits & Imposing Consequences in 2 1/2 StepsProfessional & Personal DevelopmentAmanda Smith's Family DBT courseHCI's courses:Conflict Influencer® - for co-parents (new classes starting January 2026)Conflict Influencer® - for famlies (new classes starting January 2026)High-Conflict Law Certification - for legal professionalsConnect With UsVisit High Conflict Institute: highconflictinstitute.comSubmit questions for Bill and MeganBrowse our complete collection of books and resources in our online store—available in print and e-book formatsFind these show notes and all past episode notes on our websiteImportant NoticeOur discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:46) - Meet Amanda Smith (03:34) - Creating a Life Worth Living (06:03) - Progression Over Time (09:45) - Other Terms (11:54) - Lack of Awareness (13:30) - Addressing with DBT (14:50) - Exceptions and Causes (16:11) - Giving Hope (17:55) - Age Groups (19:51) - When They Can't Get Into Treatment (24:37) - Boundaries and Limits (28:32) - Amanda's New Book (31:57) - Compassion for Self (37:11) - Trying the Opposite (41:59) - The Book (43:32) - Wrap Up

You don't have to choose between the journey and the destination.Most self-improvement and inner peace approaches lean hard in one direction, acceptance without growth, or growth without self-love. But real, sustainable, purpose-aligned change needs both. Inspired by Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), this short talk offers a simple framework for holding acceptance and improvement at the same time. What if you were able to love yourself whilst fixing yourself?Read the how to love yourself whilst fixing yourself blog post.Quick Links:Want to work with me? Book a 1:1 session.You are invited to join The Art Of Self-Connection Community.Grab a copy of one of my books.Help keep my meditations, live sessions, and resources freely available. Donate here.

In this episode of Our Community, host Candice Michel talks with Dr. Bethany Michel, Director of the Child, Adolescent, & Family Division of the DBT Centre of Vancouver, BC, and a sessional lecturer in the Department of Psychology at the University of British Columbia, and Diana Carter, Executive Director of Brookings CORE Response, about oppositional behavior in both children and adults. The discussion explores how early trauma, labeling, and systemic shortcomings contribute to challenging behaviors, emphasizing the need for empathy and understanding. They highlight therapeutic approaches like Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Parent-Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT), the importance of parental perspective, and strategies for building trust and emotional regulation. They stress that difficult behaviors often reflect normal responses to abnormal circumstances and underscore the value of validating experiences, fostering connection, and empowering children and families to develop healthier coping skills. Host: Candice Michel; Guests: Diana Carter, Dr. Bethany Michel The opinions expressed here are those of the individual participants. Curry Coast Community Radio takes no position on issues discussed in this program. If you enjoy this program and want to hear more like it, consider supporting Curry Coast Community Radio. Here’s How. Intro and end music: The Best Is Yet to Come, licensed from audioblocks.com.

Comments or feedback? Send us a text! In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Jesse Finkelstein to discuss Real Skills for Real Life, co-authored with Dr. Shireen Rizvi. The book offers a practical, accessible introduction to Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), translating a well-established clinical framework into skills that can be applied in everyday life.Rather than focusing on diagnoses, Real Skills for Real Life centers on universal human experiences—stress, emotional overwhelm, relationship challenges, and loss—and presents DBT as a compassionate, skills-based approach to navigating them. The conversation broadly explores how DBT balances acceptance and change, why a skills-focused lens can reduce shame, and how evidence-based psychological tools can be used outside the therapy room.This episode is relevant for clinicians, students, and general listeners interested in grounded, practical approaches to emotion regulation, relationships, and resilience in an increasingly complex world.Jesse Finkelstein, PsyDDr. Jesse Finkelstein is a licensed clinical psychologist and DBT trainer based in New York City. He earned his PsyD from Rutgers University, where he received extensive training in DBT under the mentorship of Dr. Rizvi. He has since built a clinical practice specializing in emotion regulation, anxiety, and interpersonal effectiveness.Dr. Finkelstein is known for his engaging teaching style and his ability to translate complex psychological concepts into clear, practical guidance for both clinicians and the general public. In addition to his clinical work, he provides DBT training and consultation and is committed to making evidence-based skills approachable, flexible, and relevant to everyday life.Shireen L. Rizvi, PhD, ABPPDr. Shireen Rizvi is a licensed clinical psychologist, Professor of Clinical Psychology at Rutgers University, and an internationally recognized expert in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. She trained under Dr. Marsha Linehan at the University of Washington and later founded the Rutgers DBT Clinic, where she has played a central role in training clinicians and advancing the dissemination of evidence-based care.Dr. Rizvi's research and clinical work focus on emotion regulation, trauma, and the application of DBT across diverse clinical and real-world contexts. She is board certified in Behavioral and Cognitive Psychology and is the author of numerous peer-reviewed publications and books, including Chain Analysis in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. She is widely respected for bridging rigorous clinical science with compassionate, accessible teaching.Website: https://www.shireenrizvi.comRutgers University Profile / Rutgers DBT Clinic: https://psych.rutgers.edu/academics/clinical-psychology/clinical-faculty/shireen-l-rizviTwitter (X): https://twitter.com/ShireenRizviLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shireen-rizvi-phd/Jesse Finkelstein, PsyDWebsite: https://www.drfinkelstein.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjessefinkelstein/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessefinkelstein/

Read the full transcript here. How can we distinguish “real CBT” from supportive talk - does it include homework, clear goals, or a manualized plan? When therapy “doesn't work,” is it the modality, the match, or weak training? Are common factors enough once symptoms disrupt daily life? Why does fragmented care push patients to choose meds or therapy by luck of first contact? When are meds a useful boost versus a detour from solving life problems? What's distinct about DBT—skills, validation, and balancing change with acceptance? How does radical acceptance cut suffering without excusing harm? Which skills travel across diagnoses? How do we prevent therapist burnout and drift from the model? If we want durable gains, should we favor therapies that teach skills we keep after treatment ends? Shireen Rizvi is a licensed clinical psychologist, board certified in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). She obtained her BA from Wesleyan University and her MS and PhD from the University of Washington. Links: Shireen's Videos Shireen's Books Staff Spencer Greenberg — Host + Director Ryan Kessler — Producer + Technical Lead WeAmplify — Transcriptionists Igor Scaldini — Marketing Consultant Music Broke for Free Josh Woodward Lee Rosevere Quiet Music for Tiny Robots wowamusic zapsplat.com Affiliates Clearer Thinking GuidedTrack Mind Ease Positly UpLift [Read more]

In this in-depth and hope-filled episode of Mental Health: Hope and Recovery, hosts Helen Sneed and Valerie Milburn welcome DBT expert Penny Kruger, LCSW-S, for a powerful conversation about Dialectical Behavior Therapy and why it continues to change lives. Building on their previous DBT episode, Helen and Valerie explore how DBT works in real-world clinical settings, why it is more than just a therapy model, and how it provides practical, life-saving skills for people struggling with intense emotions, impulsive behaviors, and chronic despair. With over 30 years of clinical experience, Penny shares her knowledge and insight on DBT treatment, why validation and transparency matter, and how people can stay engaged in treatment even when they feel demoralized or ready to quit. The episode closes with a guided mindfulness and opposite action exercise led by Valerie. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN What Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is and why it works The core goals of DBT: balancing acceptance and change How DBT helps manage emotional dysregulation and impulsive behaviors What “life worth living” means in DBT Why DBT skills are action-oriented and practical Why validation and transparency are central to healing How DBT fosters long-term hope and recovery Find us on Facebook RESOURCES AND LINKS Crisis Support:  Call or text 988 (U.S.) for immediate mental health help or dial 911. Building a Life Worth Living by Marsha Linehan Available at  https://mentalhealthhopeandrecovery.com Listen/Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Audible Find Helen and Valerie here : Mental Health Hope and Recovery Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts, OR— BRAND NEW: we've included a fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I speak with Shireen Rizvi, PhD and Jesse Finkelstein, PsyD, about their book Real Skills for Real Life: A DBT Guide to Navigating Stress, Emotions, and Relationships. We discuss what Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is, how it can help both ourselves and our kids with big feelings, and get into some of the skills it teaches including distress tolerance, check the facts, and mindfulness.**If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! > > If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice.Know someone who might appreciate this post? Share it with them!We talk about:* 6:00 What is DBT?* 11:00 The importance of validation* 13:00 How do parents manage their own big feelings?* 16:00 How do you support a kid with big feelings, and where is the place for problem solving?* 23:00 Managing the urge to fix things for our kids!* 26:00 What is distress tolerance?* 28:50 “Check the facts” is a foundational skill* 34:00 Mindfulness is a foundation of DBT* 36:45 How the skills taught through DBT are universalResources mentioned in this episode:* Yoto Player-Screen Free Audio Book Player* The Peaceful Parenting Membership* Real Skills for Real Life: A DBT Guide to Navigating Stress, Emotions, and Relationships by Shireen Rizvi and Jesse Finkelstein * Shireen Rizvi's website * Jesse Finkelstein's websites axiscbt and therahive Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:* Instagram* Facebook Group* YouTube* Website* Join us on Substack* Newsletter* Book a short consult or coaching session callxx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team- click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! 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No one listening or watching and they can't go where you don't want them to go and they aren't watching screens. BUT they are being entertained or kept company with audio that you can buy from YOTO or create yourself on one of their blank cards. Check them out HEREPodcast transcript:Sarah: Hey everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast. Today we have two guests who co-authored a book called Real Skills for Real Life: A DBT Guide to Navigating Stress, Emotions, and Relationships.And you may be wondering why we're talking about that on a parenting podcast. This was a really great conversation with Shireen Rizvi and Jesse Finkelstein, the co-authors of the book, about all of the skills of DBT, which is a modality of therapy. We talked about the skills they teach in DBT and how we can apply them to parenting.They talk about how emotional dysregulation is the cause of so much of the pain and suffering in our lives. And I think as a parent, you will recognize that either your own emotional dysregulation or your child's is often where a lot of issues and conflict come from.So what they've really provided in this book—and given us a window into in this conversation—is how we can apply some of those skills toward helping ourselves and helping our children with big feelings, a.k.a. emotional dysregulation. It was a really wonderful conversation, and their book is wonderful too. We'll put a link to it in the show notes and encourage you to check it out.There are things you can listen to in this podcast today and then walk away and use right away. One note: you'll notice that a lot of what they talk about really overlaps with the things we teach and practice inside of Peaceful Parenting.If this episode is helpful for you, please share it with a friend. Screenshot it and send it to someone who could use some more skill-building around big emotions—whether they're our own big emotions or our child's. Sharing with a friend or word of mouth is a wonderful way for us to reach more people and more families and help them learn about peaceful parenting.It is a slow process, but I really believe it is the way we change the world. Let's meet Shireen and Jesse.Hi, Jesse. Hi, Shireen. Welcome to the podcast.Jesse: Thank you so much for having us.Sarah: Yeah. I'm so excited about your book, which I understand is out now—Real Skills for Real Life: A DBT Guide to Navigating Stress, Emotions, and Relationships. First of all, I love the format of your book. It's super easy to read and easy to use. I already thought about tearing out the pages with the flow charts, which are such great references—really helpful for anyone who has emotions. Basically anyone who has feelings.Jesse: Oh, yes.Sarah: Yeah. I thought they were great, and I think this is going to be a helpful conversation for parents. You've written from a DBT framework. Can you explain what DBT is and maybe how it's different from CBT? A lot of people have heard more about cognitive behavior therapy than dialectical behavior therapy.Shireen: Sure. I would first say that DBT—Dialectical Behavior Therapy—is a form of cognitive behavioral therapy. So they're in the same category. Sometimes we hear therapists say, “I do DBT, but I don't do CBT,” and from my perspective, that's not really possible, because the essence of dialectical behavior therapy is CBT. CBT focuses on how our thoughts, behaviors, and emotions all go together, and how changing any one of those affects the others.That's really the core of DBT—the foundation of CBT. But what happened was the person who developed DBT, Marsha Linehan—she was actually my grad school advisor at the University of Washington—developed this treatment because she was finding that standard CBT was not working as well as she wanted it to for a particular population. The group she was working with were women, primarily, who had significant problems with emotion regulation and were chronically suicidal or self-injuring.With that group, she found they needed a lot more validation—validation that things were really rough, that it was hard to change what was going on, that they needed support and comfort. But if she leaned too much on validation, patients got frustrated that there wasn't enough change happening.So what she added to standard CBT was first a focus on validation and acceptance, and then what she refers to as the dialectical piece: balancing between change and acceptance. The idea is: You're doing the best you can—and you need to do better.Jesse: Mm-hmm.Shireen: And even though DBT was developed for that very severe group that needed a lot of treatment, one of the aspects of DBT is skills training—teaching people skills to manage their emotions, regulate distress, engage interpersonally in a more effective way.Those skills became so popular that people started using them with everyone they were treating, not just people who engaged in chronic suicidal behavior.Sarah: Very cool. And I think the population you're referring to is people who might be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I bring that up only because I work with parents, not kids, and parents report to me what their children are like. I've had many parents worry, “Do you think my child has borderline personality disorder?” because they've heard of it and associate it with extreme sensitivity and big feelings.A lot of that is just typical of someone who's 13 or 14, right? Or of a sensitive child—not diagnosable or something you'd necessarily find in the DSM. I've heard it so many times. I say, “No, I don't think your child has borderline personality disorder. I think they're just really sensitive and haven't learned how to manage their big feelings yet. And that's something you can help them with.”With that similar level of emotional intensity—in a preteen or early teen who's still developing the brain structures that make self-regulation possible—how can we use DBT skills? What are a couple of ideas you might recommend when you have a 13-year-old who feels like life is ruined because the jeans they wanted to wear are soaking wet in the wash? And I'm not making fun—at 13, belonging is tied to how you look, what jeans you're wearing, how your hair is. It feels very real.So how might we use the skills you write about for that kind of situation?Jesse: Well, Sarah, I actually think you just practiced one of the skills: validation. When someone feels like their day is ruined because of their jeans, often a parent will say, “Get over it. It's not a big deal.” And now, in addition to fear or anxiety, there's a layer of shame or resentment. So the emotion amplifies and becomes even harder to get out of.Validation is a skill we talk about where you recognize the kernel of truth—how this experience makes sense. “The jeans you're wearing are clearly important to you. This is about connection. I understand why you feel this way.” That simple act of communicating that someone's thoughts and feelings make sense can be very powerful.Alongside that—back to what Shireen was saying—there are two tracks. One is the skills you help your teen practice. The other is the skills you practice yourself to be effective. In that moment, your teen might be dysregulated. What is the parent's emotion? Their urge? What skills can they practice to be effective?Sarah: I love that you already went to the next question I was going to ask, which is: when that kid is screaming, “You don't understand, I can't go to school because of the jeans,” what can parents do for themselves using the skills you describe?Shireen: I often think of the oxygen-mask analogy: put on your own oxygen mask before helping others. That was certainly true for me when I had fussy infants—how do you manage that stress when you are already heightened?What do you need to do to regulate yourself so you can be effective in the moment? Sometimes that's literally taking a time-out—leaving the room for a minute. The kid comes after you about the jeans, and you say, “Hold on, I need a minute.” You sequester yourself in the bathroom. You do paced breathing—a DBT skill that helps regulate your nervous system. You do that for a minute, get centered, and then return to the situation.If you're not regulated and your child is dysregulated, you'll ping-pong off each other and it becomes messier and messier. But if you can regulate yourself and approach calmly, the whole interaction changes.Sarah: It's so interesting because people who've been listening to my podcast or know my work will think, “Oh yeah, these are the things Sarah talks about all the time.” Our first principle of peaceful parenting is parental self-regulation. It doesn't mean you never get upset, but you recognize it and have strategies to get back to calm.And I always say, if you forget everything else I teach about dealing with upset kids, just remember empathy—which is another way of saying validation. I tell parents: you don't have to agree to empathize. Especially with situations like the jeans.I love the crossover between the skills parents are practicing in my community and what you've written about. And again: those flow charts! I'm going to mark up my book with Post-its for all the exercises.One of the things you talk about in the book is problem solving. As parents, we can find ourselves in these intense situations. I'll give an example: a client's daughter, at 11 p.m., was spiraling about needing a particular pair of boots for her Halloween costume, and they wouldn't arrive in time. No matter what the mom said, the daughter spiraled.This is a two-part question: If you've validated and they're still really upset, how do you support a kid who is deep in those intense feelings? And when is the place for teaching problem solving—especially when there is a real logistical problem to solve?Jesse: I'm going to say the annoying therapist thing: it depends. If we think about how emotions impact our thinking on a scale from 0 to 10, it's very hard to engage in wise-minded problem solving when someone is at an 8, 9, or 10. At that point, the urge is to act on crisis behaviors—yell, fight, ruminate.So engaging your child in problem solving when they're at a 9 isn't effective.Often, I suggest parents model and coach distress-tolerance skills. Shireen mentioned paced breathing. Maybe distraction. Anything to lower the emotional volume.Once we're in the six-ish range? Now we can problem solve. DBT has a very prescribed step-by-step process.But it's really hard if someone is so dysregulated. That's often where parents and kids end up in conflict: parent wants to solve; kid is at a 9 and can't even see straight.Sarah: Right. So walk us through what that might look like using the boots example. Play the parent for a moment.Jesse: Of course. I'd potentially do a couple of things. I might say, “Okay, let's do a little ‘tipping the temperature' together.” I'd bring out two bowls of ice and say, “We'll bend over, hold our breath for 30 seconds…”Shireen: And put your face in the bowl of ice water. You left out that part.Jesse: Crucial part of the step.Sarah: You just look at the ice water?Jesse: No, you submerge your face. And something happens—it's magical. There's actually a profound physiological effect: lowering blood pressure, calming the sympathetic nervous system.I highlight for parents: do this with your child, not didactically. Make it collaborative.And then: validate, validate, validate. Validation is not approval. It's not saying the reaction is right. It's simply communicating that their distress makes sense. Validation is incredibly regulating.Then you check in: “Do you feel like we can access Wise Mind?” If yes: “Great. Let's bring out a problem-solving worksheet—maybe from Real Skills for Real Life or the DBT manual. Let's walk through it step by step.”Sarah: And if you have a kid screaming, “Get that ice water away from me, that has nothing to do with the boots!”—is there anything to add beyond taking a break?Shireen: I'd say this probably comes up a lot for you, Sarah. As parents—especially high-functioning, maybe perfectionistic types (I put myself in that category)—if my kid is upset, I feel so many urges to fix it right away. Sometimes that's helpful, but often it's not. They either don't want to be fixed, or they're too dysregulated, or fixing isn't actually their goal—they just want to tell you how upset they are.I have to practice acceptance: “My kid is upset right now. That's it.” I remind myself: kids being upset is part of life. It's important for them to learn they can be upset and the world doesn't fall apart.If they're willing to do skills alongside you, great. But there will be times where you say, “I accept that you're upset. I'm sorry you feel this way. It sounds terrible. Let's reconnect in an hour.” And wait for the storm to pass.Sarah: Wait for the storm to pass.Jesse: I'll say—I haven't been a therapist that long, and I've been having this conversation with my own parents. Yesterday I called my mom about something stressful, and she said, “Jesse, do you want validation or problem solving right now?”Shireen: Love it.Jesse: I thought, “You taught her well.” I was like: okay, therapy works. And even having that prompt—“What would you like right now? Problem solving? Validation? Do you want me to just sit with you?”—that's so useful.Sarah: Yeah. I have to remind myself of that with my daughter, especially when the solution seems obvious to me but she's too upset to take it in. Just sitting there is the hardest thing in the world.And you've both anticipated my next question. A big part of your book is distress tolerance—one of the four areas. Can you talk about what distress tolerance is specifically? And as you mentioned, Shireen, it is excruciating when your kid is in pain or upset.I learned from my friend Ned Johnson—his wonderful book The Self-Driven Child—that there's something called the “righting instinct.” When your child falls over, you have the instinct to right them—pick them up, dust them off, stand them up. That instinct kicks in whenever they're distressed. And I think it's important for them to learn skills so we don't do that every time.Give us some thoughts about that.Shireen: Well, again, I think distress tolerance is so important for parents and for kids. The way we define it in DBT is: distress tolerance is learning how to tolerate stressful, difficult, complicated situations without doing anything to make it worse. That's the critical part, because distress tolerance is not about solving problems. It's about getting through without making things worse.So in the context of an interaction with your kid, “not making it worse” might mean biting your tongue and not lashing out, not arguing, not rolling your eyes, or whatever it is. And then tolerating the stress of the moment.As parents, we absolutely need this probably a thousand times a day. “How do I tolerate the distress of this moment with my kid?” And then kids, as humans, need to learn distress tolerance too—how to tolerate a difficult situation without doing anything to make it worse.If we swoop in too quickly to solve the problem for them—as you said, if we move in too quickly to right them—they don't learn that they can get through it themselves. They don't learn that they can right themselves.And I think there's been a lot written about generations and how parenting has affected different generations. We want our kids to learn how to problem solve, but also how to manage stress and difficulty in effective ways.Sarah: I think you're probably referring to the “helicopter parents,” how people are always talking about helicopter parents who are trying to remove any obstacles or remove the distress, basically.I think the answer isn't that we just say, “Okay, well, you're distressed, deal with it,” but that we're there with them emotionally while they're learning. We're next to them, right? With that co-regulation piece, while they're learning that they can handle those big feelings.Shireen: Yes. Yeah. Yeah.Sarah: I thought it might be fun, before we close out, to do a deep dive on maybe one or two of the skills you have in the book. I was thinking about maybe “Check the Facts.” It would be a cool one to do a deep dive on. You have so many awesome skills and I encourage anyone to pick up your book. “Check the Facts” is one of the emotion regulation skills.Do you mind going over when you would use Check the Facts, what it is, and how to use it?Jesse: Not at all. Check the Facts is, in many ways, a foundational skill, because it's so easy for us to get lost in our interpretation of a situation. So the classic example is: you're walking down the street and you wave to a friend, and they don't wave back. And I don't know about you, but it's easy for me to go to, “Oh, they must be mad at me.”Sarah: Right, yeah.Jesse: And all of a sudden, I'm spinning out, thinking about all the things I could have done to hurt their feelings, and yada yada yada. Then I'm feeling lots of upset, and I may have the urge to apologize, etc.What we're doing with Check the Facts is returning our attention back to the facts themselves—the things we can take in with our senses. We're observing and describing, which are two foundational mindfulness skills in DBT. And then from that, we ask ourselves: “Does the emotion I'm feeling—the intensity and duration of that emotion—fit the facts as I'm experiencing them?”So in many ways, this is one of those cognitive interventions. DBT rests on all these cognitive-behavioral principles; it's part of that broader umbrella. Here we're asking: “Do the facts as I see them align with my emotional experience?”From there, we ask: if yes, then there are certain options or skills we can practice—for instance, we can change the problem. If no, that begs the question: “Should I act opposite to this emotion urge that I have?”So it's a very grounding, centering type of skill. Shireen, is there anything I'm missing?Shireen: No. I would just give a parenting example that happens for me a lot. My kid has a test the next day. He says he knows everything. He doesn't open the book or want to review the study guide. And I start to think things like, “Oh my gosh, he has no grit. He's going to fail this test. He's not going to do well in high school. He's not going to get into a good college. But most importantly, he doesn't care. And what does that say about him? And what does it say about me as a parent?”I hope people listening can relate to these sorts of thoughts and I'm not alone.Sarah: A hundred percent. I've heard people say those exact things.Shireen: And even though I practice these skills all the time, I'm also human and a mother. So where Check the Facts can be useful there is first just recognizing: “Okay, what thoughts am I having in response to this behavior?” The facts of the situation are: my kid said he doesn't need to study anymore. And then look at all these thoughts that came into my mind.First, just recognizing: here was the event, and here's what my mind did. That, in and of itself, is a useful experience. You can say, “Wow, look at what I'm doing in my mind that's creating so much of a problem.”Then I can also think: “What does this make me feel when I have all these thoughts?” I feel fear. I feel sad. I feel shame about not being a good parent. And those all cause me to have more thoughts and urges to do things that aren't super effective—like trying to bully him into studying, all of these things.Then the skill can be: “Okay, are these thoughts exaggerated? Are they based in fact? Are they useful?” I can analyze each of these thoughts.I might think, “Well, he has a history of not studying and doing fine,” is one thing. Another thought: “Me trying to push him to study is not going to be effective or helpful.” Another: “There are natural consequences. If he doesn't do well because he didn't study, that's an important lesson for him to learn.”So I can start to change my interpretations based on the facts of the actual situation as opposed to my exaggerated interpretations. And then see: what does that do to my emotions? And when I have more realistic, fact-based thoughts, does that lead me to have a better response than I would if I followed through on all my exaggerated thinking?Does that make sense?Sarah: Yeah, totally makes sense. Are there any DBT skills that are helpful in helping you recognize when you need to use a skill—if that makes sense? Because sometimes I think parents might spiral, like in the example you're talking about, but they might not even realize they're spiraling. Sometimes parents will say, “I don't even know until it's too late that I've had this big moment of emotional dysregulation.”Jesse: I think there's a very strong reason why mindfulness is the foundation of DBT—for exactly the reason you've just described. For a lot of us, we end up engaging in behaviors that are ineffective, that are not in line with our values or goals, and it feels like it's just happening to us.So having a mindfulness practice—and I want to highlight that doesn't necessarily mean a formal meditation practice—but developing the skill of noticing, of being increasingly conscious of what you're feeling, your urges, your thoughts, your behaviors. So that when you notice that you are drifting, that you're engaging in an ineffective behavior, you can then apply a skill. We can't change what we're not aware of.Sarah: I love that. It's so hard with all the distractions we have and all of the things that are pulling us this way and that, and the busyness. So just slowing down and starting to notice more what we're feeling and thinking.Shireen: There's a skill that we teach that's in the category of mindfulness called Wise Mind. I don't have to get into all the particulars of that, but Wise Mind is when you're in a place where you feel wise and centered and perhaps a little bit calmer.So one question people can ask themselves is: “Am I in a place of Wise Mind right now?” And if not, that's the cue. Usually, when we answer that we're not, it's because we're in a state of Emotion Mind, where our emotions are in control of us.First, recognizing what state of mind you're in can be really helpful. You can use that as a cue: “I'm not in Wise Mind. I need to do something more skillful here to get there,” or, “I need to give myself some time before I act.”Sarah: I love that. So helpful. Before we wrap up, was there anything you wish I'd asked you that you think would be really helpful for parents and kids?Shireen: I just want to reiterate something you said earlier, which is: yes, this treatment was developed for folks with borderline personality disorder. That is often a diagnosis people run screaming from or are very nervous about. People might hesitate to think that these skills could be useful for them if they don't identify as having borderline personality disorder.But I think what you're highlighting, Sarah—and we so appreciate you having us on and talking about these skills—is that we consider these skills universal. Really anybody can benefit.I've done training and teaching in DBT for 25 years, and I teach clinicians in many different places how to do DBT treatment with patients. But inevitably, what happens is that the clinicians themselves say, “Oh, I really need these skills in my everyday life.”So that's what we want to highlight, and why we wrote this book: to take these skills from a treatment designed for a really severe population and break it down so anybody can see, “Oh, this would be useful for me in my everyday life, and I want to learn more.”Sarah: Totally. Yeah. I love it. And I think it's a continuum, right? From feeling like emotions are overwhelming and challenging, and being really emotionally sensitive. There are lots of people who are on that more emotionally sensitive side of things, and these are really helpful skills for them.Jesse: Yeah. And to add on that, I wouldn't want anyone—and I don't think any of us here are suggesting this—it's such a stigmatized diagnosis. I have yet to meet someone who's choosing suffering. Many of us are trying to find relief from a lot of pain, and we may do so through really ineffective means.So with BPD, in my mind, sometimes it's an unfortunate name for a diagnosis. Many folks may have the opinion that it means they're intrinsically broken, or there's something wrong with their personality. Really, it's a constellation of behaviors that there are treatments for.So I want anyone listening not to feel helpless or hopeless in having this diagnosis or experience.Shireen: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.Sarah: Thank you so much. The question I ask all my guests—I'll ask Shireen first and then Jesse—is: if you could go back in time, if you had a time machine, if you could go back to your younger parent self, what advice would you give yourself?Shireen: Oof. I think about this a lot, actually, because I feel like I did suffer a lot when my kids were babies. They were super colicky. I didn't sleep at all. I was also trying to work. I was very stressed. I wish that at that time I could have taken in what other people were telling me, which is: “This will pass.” Right? “This too shall pass,” which is something we say to ourselves as DBT therapists a lot. Time changes. Change is inevitable. Everything changes.In those dark parenting moments, you get stuck in thoughts of, “This is never going to change. It's always going to be this way. I can't tolerate this.” Instead, shifting to recognize: “Change is going to happen whether I like it or not. Just hang in there.”Sarah: I love that. My mother-in-law told me when I had my first child: “When things are bad, don't worry, they'll get better. And also, when things are good, don't worry, they'll get worse.”Shireen: Yes, it's true. And we need both the ups and the downs so we can actually understand, “Oh, this is why I like this, and this is why I don't like this.” It's part of life.Sarah: Yeah. Thank you. And Jesse, if you do ever have children, what would you want to remember to tell yourself?Jesse: I think I would want to remember to tell myself—and I don't think I'm going to say anything really new here—that perfection is a myth. I think parents often feel like they need to be some kind of superhuman. But we all feel. And when we do feel, and when we feel strongly, the goal isn't to shame ourselves for having that experience. It's to simply understand it.That's what I would want to communicate to myself, and what I hope to communicate to the parents I work with.Sarah: Love that. Best place to go to find out more about you all and what you do? We'll put a link to your book in the show notes, but any other socials or websites you want to point people to?Shireen: My website is shireenrizvi.com, where you can find a number of resources, including a link to the book and a link to our YouTube channel, which has skills videos—animated skills videos that teach some of these skills in five minutes or less. So that's another resource for people.Sarah: Great. What about you, Jesse?Jesse: I have a website called axiscbt.com. I'm also a co-founder of a psychoeducation skills course called Farrah Hive, and we actually have a parenting course based on DBT skills—that's thefarrahhive.com. And on Instagram, @talk_is_good.Sarah: Great. Thank you so much. Really appreciate your time today.Jesse: Thank you, Sarah.Sarah: Thank you. This is a public episode. 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Send us a textABA on Tap is proud to present Matt Tapia (Part 2 of 2):Matt Tapia is a dually-credentialed professional, holding licenses as both a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in Arizona and California and a Board Certified Behavior Analyst (BCBA). This unique background allows him to offer a comprehensive, integrated perspective on mental health and behavior, drawing from both clinical counseling and applied behavior analysis.Matt's therapeutic approach is heavily influenced by third-wave behavioral therapies, including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Mindfulness, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). His work focuses on helping individuals, couples, and families navigate a broad spectrum of challenges, such as anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship issues, life transitions, and caregiving stress, particularly for those within the autism and neurodivergent communities.In addition to his clinical practice, Matt serves as a Subject Matter Expert for the Behavior Analyst Certification Board (BACB) where he helps develop and review national exam questions for aspiring BCBAs and RBTs. He holds a master's degree in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University and is an active member of several professional organizations, including the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS). With a commitment to meeting clients where they are, Matt uses a collaborative, team-based approach to help people build meaningful and fulfilling lives.Support the show

LifeStance therapist Threasa Kluever offers helpful insights on Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)—an evidence-based approach that helps individuals build skills for managing emotions, navigating relationships, and improving overall well-being. Tee shares her professional journey and how she came to specialize in DBT, offering accessible explanations of its core components: mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, emotion regulation, and distress tolerance. She breaks down foundational DBT skills—like Wise Mind, DEAR MAN, and radical acceptance—and highlights how these tools can support people facing challenges such as borderline personality disorder, eating disorders, trauma, anxiety, and depression. The conversation also touches on what patients can expect from the typical DBT treatment timeline and why this approach can be especially meaningful for those who are just beginning their mental health journey.

Send us a textABA on Tap is proud to present Matt Tapia (Part 1 of 2):Matt Tapia is a dually-credentialed professional, holding licenses as both a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in Arizona and California and a Board Certified Behavior Analyst (BCBA). This unique background allows him to offer a comprehensive, integrated perspective on mental health and behavior, drawing from both clinical counseling and applied behavior analysis.Matt's therapeutic approach is heavily influenced by third-wave behavioral therapies, including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Mindfulness, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). His work focuses on helping individuals, couples, and families navigate a broad spectrum of challenges, such as anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship issues, life transitions, and caregiving stress, particularly for those within the autism and neurodivergent communities.In addition to his clinical practice, Matt serves as a Subject Matter Expert for the Behavior Analyst Certification Board (BACB) where he helps develop and review national exam questions for aspiring BCBAs and RBTs. He holds a master's degree in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University and is an active member of several professional organizations, including the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS). With a commitment to meeting clients where they are, Matt uses a collaborative, team-based approach to help people build meaningful and fulfilling lives.Support the show

When emotions clash with reason, clarity feels impossible. In this episode, AJ and Johnny sit down with psychologists Dr. Shireen Rizvi and Dr. Jesse Finkelstein — coauthors of Real Skills for Real Life — to explore how Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) turns emotional chaos into calm, actionable wisdom. They break down DBT's balance of change and acceptance, show how to identify “skills deficits” behind recurring struggles, and reveal why mindfulness and emotional awareness are the foundation of resilience. You'll learn how to use DBT's practical frameworks — including the Wise Mind and DEAR MAN skills — to strengthen communication, build emotional regulation, and handle difficult conversations without losing self-respect. Whether you're negotiating at work, managing conflict, or simply trying to understand yourself better, this conversation gives you a playbook for thinking clearly and acting with intention — even under pressure. What to Listen For[00:01:00] What DBT adds to traditional CBT — and why it works[00:02:28] The balance between change and acceptance in personal growth[00:05:06] Reframing emotional struggles as “skills deficits”[00:07:02] Breaking emotional loops and rewriting your story[00:10:28] Understanding “Wise Mind” — integrating logic and emotion[00:16:33] How emotion is data — not distraction[00:20:12] Using mindfulness to expand your perspective and reduce suffering[00:26:42] Building confidence through mastery and self-compassion[00:31:28] DBT frameworks for clarity in high-stakes conversations[00:33:46] Using DEAR MAN, GIVE, and FAST to communicate effectively[00:49:22] How self-respect, values, and truth create lasting confidence A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠unlockyourxfactor.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially.  Visit the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠artofcharm.com/intel ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. If you've put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at ⁠⁠monarch.com⁠⁠ in your browser for half off your first year.  Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠makeheadway.com/CHARM ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use my code CHARM for 25% off. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TODAY to get started  Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Episode resources: Real Skills for Real Life: A DBT Guide to Navigating Stress, Emotions, and Relationships Check in with AJ and Johnny! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit abbieattwoodwellness.substack.comI'm joined by Dr. Regina Lazarovich, a clinical psychologist, Health at Every Size (HAES)–aligned provider, and someone with lived experience of binge eating and perfectionism. Together, we unpack the lesser-discussed connection between high achievement, perfectionism, and binge eating, and how shame and restriction can keep us stuck in painful cycles with food.Tune in as a paid subscriber for more on:*The connection between perfectionism and binge eating — and why it's rarely talked about.*Why restriction (mental, emotional, and physical) often drives binge eating, not “lack of willpower.”*Regina's story of developing binge eating disorder amid academic and cultural pressures.*The shame cycle: how guilt after binge eating fuels renewed restriction and perfectionistic resolve.*Why binge eating is a protective response from the body — not a personal failure.*The impact of immigrant identity, family expectations, and internalized achievement pressure on self-worth and body image.*The moral hierarchy of eating disorders — and how fatphobia shapes which struggles get compassion.*Tangible ways to interrupt the binge–restrict cycle and begin to bring compassion to our relationship with food.*Approaching binge eating through a body-trusting, HAES-aligned lens.This is a bonus episode for paid Substack subscribers. Paid members receive:*Extra full-length conversations like this one*Bonus in-depth essays on body image, food, and movement*Access to the entire archive of paywalled episodes and newsletters*Deeper, more personal reflections and behind-the-scenes insightsSupport the show: Enjoying this podcast? Please support the show on Substack for bonus episodes, community engagement, and access to "Ask Abbie" at abbieattwoodwellness.substack.com/subscribeApply for Abbie's Group Membership:Already been at this anti-diet culture thing for a while, but want community and continued learning? Apply for Abbie's monthly membership: https://www.abbieattwoodwellness.com/circle-monthly-groupSocial media:Find the show on Instagram: @fullplate.podcastFind Abbie on Instagram: @abbieattwoodwellnessPodcast Cover Photography by Anya McInroyPodcast Editing by Brian WaltersThis podcast is ad-free and support comes from your support on Substack. Subscribe HERE.About Regina: Dr. Regina Lazarovich, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, trained teacher of Mindful Self-Compassion, and the founder of the private practice Compass CBT, serving clients across California, New York, and Florida. Dr. Lazarovich has dedicated her fifteen-year career to helping individuals break free from anxiety, panic attacks, OCD, disordered eating, binge eating disorder, body image struggles, people-pleasing, and perfectionism.With a wealth of expertise in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC), Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), Inference-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (I-CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Dr. Lazarovich approaches each client's mental health journey with kindness and understanding. As a Health at Every Size (HAES®) aligned therapist, she wholeheartedly believes that every body deserves care, compassion, and respect.

How are punk rock and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) related? More than you think. In this episode, clinical psychologist and bestselling author Dr. J.J. Kelly — the “punk rock doc” — joins the conversation to break down DBT with raw honesty, humor, and zero fluff. Far from a gimmick, DBT is an evidence-based therapy that blends mindfulness and cognitive behavioral therapy to help people regulate emotions, improve relationships, and move through life's inevitable pain without making things worse. DBT isn't just for young people or people with borderline personality disorder — it's a practical skill set that anyone can use, from corporate execs to teens, from those struggling with bipolar disorder to anyone wanting stronger emotional intelligence. Listener takeaways include: why DBT isn't a fad but a powerful, science-backed approach how to use the four DBT modules: mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness how validation, radical acceptance, and even anger can become tools for connection and growth Whether you're curious about mental health treatments, skeptical of “newer” therapies, or just intrigued by the mashup of punk rock and psychology, this episode will leave you rethinking what emotional resilience really means. Cold Open Transcript: Gabe Howard: Behavioral therapy kind of makes sense. But what is DBT? Dr. J.J. Kelly: It's basically Zen mindfulness meets cognitive behavior therapy. Gabe Howard: And how do those two things merge? Dr. J.J. Kelly: Oh, beautifully. The mindfulness skills and the distress tolerance skills are the Zen stuff. And then the CBT is emotion regulation and interpersonal effectiveness skills. The assertiveness training, how to ask for things, how to say no in accordance with your values in the most effective way possible. Our guest, Dr. JJ Kelly, is a licensed clinical psychologist, EQ coach, and bestselling author making mental health accessible, fun, and stigma-free. Known as "The Punk Rock Doc," she blends humor, authenticity, and evidence-based techniques to help people build emotional resilience and take charge of their lives. As founder of UnorthoDocs, Inc., Dr. Kelly created a vibrant community where young adults learn to manage emotions, build confidence, and cultivate healthier relationships — without outdated therapy methods. Her expertise in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) empowers people to break free from self-doubt and master their emotions. A sought-after speaker and educator, she's authored multiple books and helps thousands transform their lives through courses, coaching, and radical honesty. Her mission: disrupt outdated systems and teach people to be their own therapists. Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Had a great time talking with Dr. Laurie Bruce this week about my old nemesis depression. We cover depression, suicidal ideations, and one of her DBT strategies of radical acceptance. This was a very helpful conversation for me, and I hope you get something out of it! Suicide Prevention Numbers:In the US - Dial 988you can also visit https://988lifeline.org/And here is a list of suicide hotlines in various countries, compiled by Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwideFor more information on Dr. Laurie Bruce, and to listen to her podcast "From Both Sides of the Couch", visit https://www.drlauriebruce.com/You can also search for "From Both Sides of the Couch" on your favorite podcast platform, and you'll find her! Dr. Laurie Bruce BioDr. Bruce is a clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach. She specializes in a type of therapy called Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is a treatment that combines both traditional cognitive and behavioral strategies with Eastern Mindfulness practices. She is also a Certified Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapist. Dr. Bruce is passionate about reducing the stigma of mental illness and sharing resources to the public about mental health, resilience, emotional intelligence, healthy relationships and developing meaning and purpose in our lives. Interested in getting unstuck, gaining confidence, and consistency? Book a free chat with Russ and let's explore if/how I can help! Get my FREE PDF for instant un-stuck-ification when you get my newsletter. My Ready S.E.T. Go method will get you started when getting started is unstartable. Click here for the free PDF. ⚡️ Come see what ADHDBB is all about! We are a community built on action. Join us for daily accountability, peer support with Russ and friends, and a FREE coaching call with Russ when you join. You don't have to wing it alone. We got you.

Hunger, cravings, emotional eating —discover how to distinguish between physical hunger and the urge to eat for comfort or pleasure. In this episode, we unravel the signals your body can send if we're paying attention, and we'll explore practical strategies for responding to them. Tune in to reclaim control and find balance in your relationship with food! Don't worry – we can fuel ourselves and still have fun! LET'S TALK THE WALK! Join here for support, motivation and fun! Wellness While Walking Facebook page Walking to Wellness Together Facebook GROUP Wellness While Walking on Instagram Wellness While Walking on Threads Wellness While Walking on Twitter Wellness While Walking website for show notes and other information wellnesswhilewalking@gmail.com   RESOURCES AND SOURCES (some links may be affiliate links) FOOD AS FUEL AND FUN Ep. 105: We Covered Protein Leverage Hypothesis Ep. 213 Cheetos Are the Perfect Foods – Covered Reducing Reliance on Ultraprocessed Foods The DBT Solution for Emotional Eating: A Proven Program to Break the Cycle of Bingeing and Out-of-Control Eating, Safer et al Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) my.clevelandclinic.org     HOW TO RATE AND REVIEW WELLNESS WHILE WALKING How to Leave a Review on Apple Podcasts on Your iOS Device 1.   Open Apple Podcast App (purple app icon that says Podcasts). 2.   Go to the icons at the bottom of the screen and choose “search” 3.   Search for “Wellness While Walking” 4.   Click on the SHOW, not the episode. 5.   Scroll all the way down to “Ratings and Reviews” section 6.   Click on “Write a Review” (if you don't see that option, click on “See All” first) 7.   Then you will be able to rate the show on a five-star scale (5 is highest rating) and write a review! 8.   Thank you! I so appreciate this!   How to Leave a Review on Apple Podcasts on a Computer  1.   Visit Wellness While Walking page on Apple Podcasts in your web browser (search for Apple Podcasts or click here)  https://www.apple.com/apple-podcasts/ 2.   Click on “Listen on Apple Podcasts” or “Open the App” 3.   This will open Apple Podcasts and put in search bar at top left “Wellness While Walking” 4.   This should bring you to the show, not a particular episode – click on the show's artwork 5.   Scroll down until you see “Rating and Reviews” 6.   Click on “See All” all the way to the right, near the Ratings and Review Section and its bar chart 7.   To leave a written review, please click on “Write a Review” 8.   You'll be able to leave a review, along with a title for it, plus you'll be able to rate the show on the 5-star scale (with 5 being the highest rating) 9.   Thank you so very much!! OTHER APPS WHERE RATINGS OR REVIEWS ARE POSSIBLE Spotify Goodpods Overcast (if you star certain episodes, or every one, that will help others find the show)  Castbox Podcast Addict Podchaser Podbean   HOW TO SHARE WELLNESS WHILE WALKING Tell a friend or family member about Wellness While Walking, maybe while you're walking together or lamenting not feeling 100% Follow up with a quick text with more info, as noted below! (My favorite is pod.link/walking because it works with all the apps!) Screenshot a favorite episode playing on your phone and share to social media or to a friend via text or email! Wellness While Walking on Apple – click the up arrow to share with a friend via text or email, or share to social media Wellness While Walking on Spotify -- click the up arrow to share with a friend via text or email, or share to social media Use this universal link for any podcast app: pod.link/walking – give it to friends or share on social media Tell your pal about the Wellness While Walking website Thanks for listening and now for sharing! : )       DISCLAIMER Neither I nor many of my podcast guests are doctors or healthcare professionals of any kind, and nothing on this podcast or associated content should be considered medical advice. The information provided by Wellness While Walking Podcast and associated material, by Whole Life Workshop and by Bermuda Road Wellness LLC is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment, and before undertaking a new health care regimen, including walking.     Thanks for listening to Wellness While Walking, a walking podcast and a "best podcast for walking"!

Worksheet: Riding the Wave with TIPPPicture this: Your heart is pounding so hard you can hear it in your ears. Your vision starts to tunnel. A wave of pure panic or white-hot anger is washing over every nerve in your body, and all you can think about is doing something—anything—to make it stop.We've all been there. That moment where one decision could change everything. Maybe it's reaching for that drink, lashing out at someone you love, or spiraling into a shame cycle that feels impossible to escape.What if there was a way to survive these moments without making them worse? What if you could actually hack your own nervous system to ride out the storm?In this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind break down TIPP—four powerful crisis survival skills from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) that can literally save your life in these overwhelming moments.These aren't feel-good techniques designed to make you happy. They're emergency tools designed to help you survive a crisis without acting on destructive urges. Each skill works by targeting your body's nervous system in a specific way, giving you concrete actions to take when your emotions feel completely out of control.From the mammalian dive reflex that instantly slows your racing heart, to the surprising power of 60-second intense exercise that burns off adrenaline, you'll learn exactly how to use your body's own wiring to calm yourself down. The brothers also dive into the science behind why longer exhales activate your "rest and digest" system, and how paired muscle relaxation can release stored tension in minutes.But here's the real power: every single time you choose these skills instead of your old destructive behaviors, you're rewiring your brain. You're proving to yourself that you can feel intense pain and survive it without escaping into substances or harmful actions.Whether you're in recovery from addiction, dealing with trauma, or just tired of making decisions in emotional moments that you later regret, these four simple techniques could be game-changers. The best part? You can start using them today.Don't miss the free worksheet download that breaks down each skill with step-by-step instructions you can use in your next crisis moment.Worksheet: Riding the Wave with TIPPKey TopicsThe TIPP Crisis Survival Method - Four science-backed techniques to survive overwhelming emotionsTemperature Technique - Using cold water and ice to activate your mammalian dive reflexIntense Exercise - How 60 seconds of movement burns off dangerous adrenaline surgesPaced Breathing - The nervous system hack that only requires controlling your lungsPaired Muscle Relaxation - Releasing stored tension through breath and muscle workBrain Rewiring Through Crisis Survival - How each successful use builds long-term resilienceDBT and Distress Tolerance - Understanding the therapy approach that created these toolsTimestamp Guide[00:01:00] - The Crisis Moment: What overwhelming emotions feel like and why we need survival skills[00:03:00] - Introduction to DBT: The therapy that balances acceptance and change for real results[00:05:00] - Distress Tolerance Explained: Why these skills survive crises instead of creating happiness[00:08:00] - Temperature Technique: Using cold water to activate your biological brake pedal[00:10:00] - Intense Exercise: How 60 seconds of movement matches and burns off emotional energy[00:12:00] - Paced Breathing: The only organ you can control that connects both nervous systems[00:16:00] - Long-term Brain Rewiring: How crisis survival skills build lasting recovery strengthSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We want to get therapy...great! Which type of therapy should we get?! Oh my gosh the mental health landscape is a giant pain in the ass. Here's a substack article I wrote about it.I got to meet Dr. Laurie Bruce and she agreed to come on the show to talk about the various modalities. Hopefully that helps us make a better choice about the kind of therapy to seek. For more information on Dr. Laurie Bruce, and to listen to her podcast "From Both Sides of the Couch", visit https://www.drlauriebruce.com/You can also search for "From Both Sides of the Couch" on your favorite podcast platform, and you'll find her! Dr. Laurie Bruce BioDr. Bruce is a clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach. She specializes in a type of therapy called Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is a treatment that combines both traditional cognitive and behavioral strategies with Eastern Mindfulness practices. She is also a Certified Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapist. Dr. Bruce is passionate about reducing the stigma of mental illness and sharing resources to the public about mental health, resilience, emotional intelligence, healthy relationships and developing meaning and purpose in our lives. 

Send us a textNavigating Mental Health, Relationships, and Torah Values with The Orthodox TherapistIn this episode, we delve into adult topics on mental health, relationships, and intimacy with Lauren Hofstadter, known as The Orthodox Therapist. Lauren, a licensed mental health counselor, wife, and mother of 10, shares her blend of cognitive behavioral therapy and solution-focused techniques, all within a personalized concierge model that is respectful of Torah values. Currently pursuing a PhD in sexology, she discusses the challenges and intersections of religious life and mental health. The episode also explores the importance of communication, the concept of family purity, and the spiritual significance of the mikvah. Sponsored by David's Cruise Line, this conversation offers a faith-sensitive approach to building resilient, spiritually grounded, and deeply connected lives.EPISODE SPONSORSDAVID'S CRUISE LINEThis episode is generously sponsored by David's Cruise Line: Enjoy the Magic of CruisesDavid Cruise invites you to sail the seas of the world.Experience unforgettable adventures while staying true to your Jewish values, with our private Glatt Kosher restaurant led by a dedicated chef, and a fully equipped onboard synagogue.Just relax — we've got everything covered.Each day brings a new country or city to explore, with no planning or stress.Enjoy extraordinary moments close to nature, in untouched destinations that blend dreamlike beauty with authenticity.An incredible sense of freedom awaits you in front of the Divine vastness of the sea!Visit https://www.davidcruise.com/?lang=en to learn more and get in touch!GUEST BIOLauren Hofstatter is a mother, wife, and dedicated member of the Orthodox Jewish community who brings firsthand understanding and empathy to her faith-based mental health practice. With both a Bachelor's and Master's degree in counseling and certifications in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and ADHD Clinical Services, she's also a PhD candidate in Clinical Sexology — blending academic rigor with deep spiritual insights.Lauren's mission is to offer Orthodox Jewish therapy and faith-aligned coaching that truly honors both emotional wellness and religious values She provides a safe, culturally sensitive space for women and couples to explore emotional disconnection, intimacy challenges, and the weight of spiritual obligations — all within the framework of halacha.Visit Lauren's website here: https://www.orthodoxtherapist.com/And her Instagram page here: https://www.instagram.com/theorthodoxtherapist/CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction 06:32 Tackling Difficult Conversations07:48 Balancing Family and Professional Life14:21 Communication and Relationship Dynamics16:49 Challenges in Intimacy and Seeking Help28:54 Parenting and Educating Children on Sensitive Topics34:20 Media Influence on Relationships34:44 Anonymous Questions on Social Media36:36 Open RelationshCOMMUNITYJoin the Community! Connect with us on socials to discuss Episode 101, share insights, and continue the conversations you want to have:

Parenting often means walking a fine line between setting boundaries and showing warmth, all while managing your own feelings in the process. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Emily chats with Dr. Alissa Jerud about her book Emotion-Savvy Parenting and how recognizing and working with both your emotions and your child's can build stronger connections and a calmer home life.Dr. Jerud shares her approach, Emotion Savvy Parenting, which draws from evidence-based methods such as exposure-based treatments and dialectical behavior therapy skills. She breaks down what makes up our emotional experiences, offers tools like the CARE skills for navigating intense situations, and explores topics such as the limits of gentle parenting, why mid-meltdown logic usually falls flat, and how differing parenting styles between caregivers can create challenges.Listen and Learn: How can parents respond skillfully and effectively to their children while managing their own strong and uncomfortable emotions?Combining respectful parenting and evidence-based therapies to help parents manage their own emotions, maintain firm limits, and model emotional regulation for their childrenThe ways parents navigate the gray areas and overlaps between gentle parenting and autonomy-supportive parenting while avoiding the black-and-white thinking often seen on social mediaParents often step in to fix their child's struggles, but noticing and accepting their emotions and behaviors as they are can help children build resilience and support more effective parentingThe primary and secondary ingredients of emotions, their triggers, how thoughts shape them, and how they show up physically and behaviorally, help parents regulate their own emotions by targeting these different aspects of feelingsQuick, practical ways to manage intense emotions by regulating the body's physiological responseWhy rigid beliefs that children must always obey can create frustration and disconnect, while accepting their emotions and allowing authentic expression supports both kids' and parents' emotional well-beingThe importance of accepting and validating a child's emotions during emotional storms rather than trying to immediately fix or suppress themRecognizing that each child's emotional needs are unique, and effective parenting often means staying present and supportive without trying to immediately fix or validate the emotionResources: Alissa's Website: https://www.alissajerud.com/ Emotion-Savvy Parenting: A Shame-Free Guide to Navigating Emotional Storms and Deepening Connection: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781032544946 Connect with Alissa on Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/emotionsavvydoc/?hl=enhttps://www.facebook.com/emotionsavvydoc/https://www.linkedin.com/in/alissa-jerud-210764174 Emily's Articles:What's Wrong with Gentle Parenting? Psychology TodayThe Truth About Parents Who Yell at Their Kids, Psychology TodayAbout Alissa JerudAlissa Jerud, Ph.D. is a mom of two kids, a licensed clinical psychologist, a Clinical Assistant Professor at the University of Pennsylvania, and author of Emotion-Savvy Parenting: A Shame-Free Guide to Navigating Emotional Storms and Deepening Connection. She has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Washington and completed her postdoctoral fellowship at the University of Pennsylvania's Center for the Treatment and Study of Anxiety. In her private practice, Dr. Jerud specializes in exposure-based treatments for anxiety-related disorders, including obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), social anxiety disorder, panic disorder, specific phobias, and generalized anxiety disorder. Additionally, she specializes in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills training and particularly enjoys helping other parents learn research-backed strategies for accepting, regulating, and tolerating their emotions, as well as their children's. Dr. Jerud also trains other clinicians in exposure-based treatments and frequently gives workshops on anxiety, stress, mental health, parenting, and social support to companies large and small.Related Episodes386. Parents Are Stressed: What Do We Do About It? 373. How to Stop Freaking Out with Carla Naumburg344. Differently Wired Kids with Deborah Reber241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon240. Talking to Kids and Teens About Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance149. How to Not Lose It with Your Kids with Carla Naumburg14. Mindful Parenting9. Children's Emotions: Understanding and Responding to Your Child's EmotionsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm talking with clinical psychologist and author Alissa Jerud about her new book, Emotion Savvy Parenting. We get into how parents can better understand and manage their own emotions—especially in those intense, in-the-moment situations—so they can show up more effectively for their kids. Alissa shares her ART tools (Accept, Regulate, Tolerate), and we talk about strategies for staying grounded during emotional storms, including the ones that hit in very public places.  About Alissa Jerud, PhD Alissa Jerud, PhD is a mom of two kids, a licensed clinical psychologist, a Clinical Assistant Professor at the University of Pennsylvania, and author of Emotion-Savvy Parenting: A Shame-Free Guide to Navigating Emotional Storms and Deepening Connection. In her private practice, Dr. Jerud specializes in highly effective, exposure-based treatments for anxiety-related disorders, including obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), social anxiety disorder, panic disorder, specific phobias, and generalized anxiety disorder. Additionally, she specializes in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills training and particularly enjoys helping other parents learn research-backed strategies for accepting, regulating, and tolerating their emotions, as well as their children's. Dr. Jerud also trains other clinicians in exposure-based treatments and frequently gives workshops on anxiety, stress, mental health, parenting, and social support to companies large and small. Things you'll learn from this episode Why understanding the purpose of emotions matters for helping kids (and ourselves) live more fully and authentically How emotion-savvy parenting begins with our own emotional experience, not just managing our child's behavior Why acceptance is a powerful first step toward emotional regulation and meaningful change How mindfulness helps us observe emotions without judgment, so they don't take over our actions Why developing the skill to tolerate intense emotions can help us navigate parenting challenges with more calm and clarity How the cognitive triangle—linking thoughts, feelings, and behaviors—offers a helpful framework for understanding emotional reactions and building awareness Resources mentioned Dr. Alissa Jerud's website, The Art & Science of Emotions Emotion=Savvy Parenting: A Shame-Free Guide to Navigating Emotional Storms and Deepening Connection by Dr. Alissa Jerud Dialectical Behavioral Therapy or DBT Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is being re-released due to its high relevance for anyone looking to manage their emotions more effectively—which, let's face it, is most of us! Have you noticed that when your emotions run high, you tend to react in ways that don't serve you? This episode introduces a powerful, action-based technique from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) that puts you in control: doing the opposite of what your emotions tell you to do.Join Kelsea and Rachael as they explore how to understand and manage emotions, tolerate distress, and make positive changes. Learn to avoid harmful behaviors and improve relationships. The reality is, distress is an unavoidable part of life. Stop waiting for things to get easier; if you spend your life waiting to get past a difficult point, you'll miss it!Research:https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7381101/(00:00:00) Welcome and personal feelings about life changes.(00:05:50) Why we are talking about opposite action(00:10:35) Doing what you've always done and when it is time to adjust(00:16:33) Stepping out of your comfort zone and taking chances on a scale.(00:19:32) This is NOT an emotion suppressing technique(00:27:06) How to strengthen this area of your brain: the aMCC(00:39:00) How Kelsea and Rachael each put opposite action into practice(00:49:15) The importance of explaining what you are doing to your people (00:53:43) Fear of failure and small steps to making a plan of action(00:58:50) Sadness and its opposite action(01:05:10) The theme of the episodeWant to leave the TTSL Podcast a voicemail? We love your questions and adore hearing from you. https://www.speakpipe.com/TheThickThighsSaveLivesPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The CVG Nation app, for ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠iPhone⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The CVG Nation app, for Android⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Fitness FB Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thick Thighs Save Lives Workout Programs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Constantly Varied Gear's ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Workout Leggings⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this transformative episode of Mindset Master Moments, Dr. Alisa Whyte welcomes Karen Goslin, a seasoned therapist and author of the groundbreaking book "Yellow Paint: Learning to Live Again." With over three decades of experience, Karen shares her journey of self-discovery and healing, inviting listeners to find their own "yellow paint" moments. Through candid conversations, she explores themes of control, worthiness, and the power of vulnerability. Discover how Karen's KG Accountable Therapy Method empowers individuals to reclaim their truth and rebuild self-worth. Tune in for an inspiring dialogue that challenges old narratives and opens new pathways to personal growth.Resources mentioned:Karen Goslin's Book: https://www.amazon.com/Yellow-Paint-Learning-Live-Again/dp/106906842X - This book is a central resource discussed throughout the episode, focusing on self-discovery and healing.KG Accountable Therapy Method: A framework developed by Karen Goslin for healing emotional wounds and rebuilding self-worth.Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Mentioned as a daily practice for clients to manage thoughts and emotions.Radical Acceptance: A technique from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) that helps individuals accept their imperfections and embrace a mindset of "less is more."Emotional Regulation Techniques: Various methods, including mindfulness, to help individuals notice and improve how they live.Yellow Paint e-Therapy Programs and Workbooks: Upcoming resources mentioned by Karen Goslin to further support individuals on their healing journey.

Learn what your Wise Mind is and how to access its intuitive anxiety-panic healing messages. Gina guides you through a quick meditation locating your wise mind which is perhaps not where you expected :) Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors!https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching linkACPGroupCoaching.comTo learn more, go to:Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.comJoin our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership ProgramLearn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership:For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/Here's what's included for $5/month:❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind❤ And more fun surprises along the way!All this in your favorite podcast app! Quote:If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. -Peace Pilgrim Chapters0:27 Introduction to Wise Mind1:56 Exploring Meditation for Clarity6:26 Reconnecting with Body Awareness8:56 Trusting Gut Intuition13:20 Refining Emotional Responses15:35 Choosing vs. Reacting16:20 Closing Thoughts and Questions SummaryIn this episode of the Anxiety Coaches Podcast, we delve into the concept of the "wise mind" and its pivotal role in alleviating anxiety. The wise mind serves as a bridge between our emotional instincts and rational thoughts, guiding us away from the tangled complexities of overthinking. This discussion highlights how our anxiety often stems from cluttered thoughts that distract us from making clear decisions. By recognizing and accessing our wise mind, we can step back from the incessant mental chatter and tap into a deeper intuitive wisdom. We explore practical methods to access the wise mind, emphasizing the significance of connecting with our bodies and employing mindfulness techniques grounded in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). During a guided meditation, we engage in exercises that help us anchor our awareness in our physical sensations, particularly at the core of our being just below the sternum. This practice invites us to breathe into our body, allowing for a state of relaxation and refocusing our awareness away from the mind's chaotic thoughts. As the meditation progresses, we encourage listeners to check in with their intuitive self, seeking guidance on personal challenges or decisions. This process is about observing the thoughts and sensations that arise without judgment. It's crucial to remember that this intuitive feedback can often be more informative than the rational thoughts that our minds overly fixate upon. We emphasize the importance of daily practice, advising our audience to cultivate this connection to their wise mind, especially as it relates to decision-making and navigating through anxiety. #wisemind#anxiety#intuition#gutfeeling#decisionmaking#mindfulness#embodiment#dbt#dialecticalbehaviortherapy#meditation#bodywisdom#innerknowing#mentalhealth#wellbeing#anxietycoach#stress#emotionalregulation#selfawareness#presentmoment#innerguidance#holistichealth#mindbodyconnection#copingskills#emotionalintelligence#selftrust#innervoice#peace#calm#ACP#anxietycoachespodcast#GinaRyan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Learn what your Wise Mind is and how to access its intuitive anxiety-panic healing messages. Gina guides you through a quick meditation locating your wise mind which is perhaps not where you expected :)Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors!https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching linkACPGroupCoaching.comTo learn more, go to:Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.comJoin our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership ProgramLearn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership:For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/Here's what's included for $5/month:❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind❤ And more fun surprises along the way!All this in your favorite podcast app!Quote:If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. -Peace PilgrimChapters0:27 Introduction to Wise Mind1:56 Exploring Meditation for Clarity6:26 Reconnecting with Body Awareness8:56 Trusting Gut Intuition13:20 Refining Emotional Responses15:35 Choosing vs. Reacting16:20 Closing Thoughts and QuestionsSummaryIn this episode of the Anxiety Coaches Podcast, we delve into the concept of the "wise mind" and its pivotal role in alleviating anxiety. The wise mind serves as a bridge between our emotional instincts and rational thoughts, guiding us away from the tangled complexities of overthinking. This discussion highlights how our anxiety often stems from cluttered thoughts that distract us from making clear decisions. By recognizing and accessing our wise mind, we can step back from the incessant mental chatter and tap into a deeper intuitive wisdom.We explore practical methods to access the wise mind, emphasizing the significance of connecting with our bodies and employing mindfulness techniques grounded in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). During a guided meditation, we engage in exercises that help us anchor our awareness in our physical sensations, particularly at the core of our being just below the sternum. This practice invites us to breathe into our body, allowing for a state of relaxation and refocusing our awareness away from the mind's chaotic thoughts.As the meditation progresses, we encourage listeners to check in with their intuitive self, seeking guidance on personal challenges or decisions. This process is about observing the thoughts and sensations that arise without judgment. It's crucial to remember that this intuitive feedback can often be more informative than the rational thoughts that our minds overly fixate upon. We emphasize the importance of daily practice, advising our audience to cultivate this connection to their wise mind, especially as it relates to decision-making and navigating through anxiety.#wisemind#anxiety#intuition#gutfeeling#decisionmaking#mindfulness#embodiment#dbt#dialecticalbehaviortherapy#meditation#bodywisdom#innerknowing#mentalhealth#wellbeing#anxietycoach#stress#emotionalregulation#selfawareness#presentmoment#innerguidance#holistichealth#mindbodyconnection#copingskills#emotionalintelligence#selftrust#innervoice#peace#calm#ACP#anxietycoachespodcast#GinaRyanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you tired of being stuck in the same painful cycle? You know the one – where you can't deal with what's happening, you're angry at the world, and you keep hoping things will magically change. Maybe you're fighting with your spouse, holding grudges, or just feeling completely overwhelmed by life. Here's the truth: all that fighting against reality is actually making your addiction, anxiety, and depression worse. But there's a way out, and it starts with something called radical acceptance. In this episode, Duane and Eric break down this powerful tool from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) that's been helping people escape the addiction cycle. You'll discover why accepting painful situations doesn't mean giving up – it's actually the first step toward real change. They'll walk you through exactly what radical acceptance looks like, share simple statements you can use when emotions feel overwhelming, and give you a clear three-step process to start practicing today. You'll learn why the creator of DBT said "the path out of hell is through misery" and how this counterintuitive approach can finally give you the peace you've been searching for. Whether you're dealing with addiction, anxiety, depression, or just feeling stuck in life, this episode offers hope and practical tools you can start using immediately. Don't miss the free worksheet that goes with this episode to help you put these concepts into action. DOWNLOAD THE WORKSHEET Key Topics • What radical acceptance really means and why it's not giving up  • The difference between pain and suffering – and why fighting reality increases both  • Three simple steps to start practicing radical acceptance today  • When radical acceptance isn't appropriate (like abusive situations)  • Powerful statements to use when emotions feel overwhelming  • How this Buddhist-inspired therapy tool breaks the addiction cycle  • Why accepting grief and loss is essential for healing If you live in California, Idaho, Virginia, or Florida and are looking for counseling or therapy, please visit Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NovusMindfulLife.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We want to hear from you. Please leave us a message or ask us a question: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I sit down with therapist Ethan Sapienza to explore the world of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and other therapeutic approaches. We dive into the origins of DBT, its core modules, and how these practices can benefit everyone - not just those with clinical diagnoses. Ethan breaks down complex therapy concepts into digestible insights, sharing practical skills like the "ice dive" technique for emotional regulation and the DEAR MAN approach for effective communication. We also discuss EMDR, exposure therapy, and the power of facing our fears. This conversation offers a fascinating look into modern therapeutic practices and how they can transform our daily lives, relationships, and self-understanding.Key Takeaway / Points:Origins and core principles of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)The four modules of DBT: mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectivenessPractical DBT skills like "ice dives" for emotional regulationThe DEAR MAN technique for effective communication in relationshipsEMDR therapy and its approach to processing traumatic memoriesExposure therapy and its benefits for overcoming fears and anxietyThe importance of facing our fears and tolerating discomfort for personal growthHow therapy concepts can benefit everyone, not just those with clinical diagnosesThe link between our thoughts, emotions, and behaviorsPractical ways to implement therapeutic techniques in daily lifeFollow Ethan's Practice:Instagram: @behavioralpsychstudiooWebsite: Behavioral Psych StudioSponsors:Thrive Market: Head over to ThriveMarket.com/cameron to get 30% off your first order and a FREE $60 giftCaraway: Visit Carawayhome.com/CAMERON to take an additional 10% off your next purchasePaired: Practice love everyday with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at www.paired.com/cameronCotton: Cotton is the fabric of our lives!Well-Reserved: Visit https://www.well-reserved.com/ and use code CAMERON at checkout for $45 off your first bookingLMNT: Right now LMNT is offering a free sample pack with any purchase, That's 8 single serving packets FREE with any LMNT order. Get yours at DrinkLMNT.com/cameronFollow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogers and @conversationswithcamSubstack: Fill Your CupWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogers and @conversations_with_camYoutube: Cameron RogersProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.