Stay-at-FULL Motherhood | SAHM, Prioritize, End Distraction, Get it Done, Rushing, Flailing, Mom Guilt

This week we're talking about what we're rushing through in life, why we do it, and - to paraphrase Ferris Bueller - how to stop and look around once in a while so we don't miss it all. Take a listen and then come sign up for a free discovery call at joryancoaching.com.

On this week's episode we're talking about releasing the stress from your body using the metaphorical model of the stress bucket. You're already using tools to help yourself: Now learn to assess whether they are truly helping you or simply adding to your stress. Take a listen and then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching.

This week we're talking about those hunches we feel when we KNOW there's something that's meant for us alongside motherhood…IF we could only find the time for it. We're never GOING to make the space for what we want if we don't allow ourselves the opportunity to build our capacity to be with what feels hard or uncomfortable in the body. Take a listen and learn how to do this in a way that doesn't overwhelm, and that ultimately results in you living the life you want.

On this week's episode we're talking about going for what you want FREE FROM the lie that you must deplete yourself in order for your kids to thrive. We might not be able to get out of the daily chores we resent taking up our time, but we can tie them to transformational practices that allow us to create a life we love where everyone is thriving. Take a listen and then come sign up for a free discovery call at joryancoaching.com to find out if working together in my private coaching program is right for you.

In this week's episode I'm outlining my four-step process to staying FULL in your motherhood and alongside it. Being a mom was never meant to deplete you or take you away from who you really are. Take a listen, and then come sign up for a free discovery call to find out if my private coaching program is right for you. www.joryancoaching.com

Today we're talking about HOME and how to stop focusing on what it is you need to GET DONE in order to feel at home and start focusing on feeling the safety of home within your body first. Take a listen and then come sign up for a free discovery call at joryancoaching.com.

Two years ago I gave up my to-do list because I found myself to be living my life by it and letting it define WHO I AM. I had become more function than human being. And I decided things needed to change. The very best thing you can do for yourself if you're feeling like you don't know who you are anymore is come out of the to-dos in your head and go into your body, where you can access the patterning of play that already exists from your childhood. Through short bursts of daily play, you can learn to follow the sensations of your body on the path back to your true, authentic self. She's been in there all along. Take a listen, and then come sign up for a free discovery call at joryancoaching.com to find out if my private coaching program is right for you.

When you're telling yourself that you don't know what it is you WANT for yourself, this is not about confusion or lack of clarity. It's about not wanting to feel the emotions that come up in your body when you risk going after your dream. Take a listen to this week's episode, and then come sign up for a free discovery call with me at www.joryancoaching.com or at the link in my bio on Instagram @joryancoaching.

On this week's episode we're talking about how we often overwhelm ourselves with big projects to avoid the pain of change. Breaking things down into small steps that we can easily get done one day at a time allows us to come at the project FROM a place of success instead. Take a listen and then come sign up for a free discovery call at www.joryancoaching.com or on Instagram @joryancoaching.

On this week's episode we're talking about why we don't need to wait for more understanding, more clarity, or even a diagnosis as to what's going on within ourselves and the world around us in order to go for what we want. Now is the perfect time to see who you want to be in the world and what you can bring to it at a time when people are telling themselves they have no agency at all, and no choice but to wait around and see what the world will continue to throw at them. Take a listen and then come sign up for a coaching call at www.joryancoaching.com to find out more about working together.

One of the many lessons I'm taking from the TV show ‘Adolescence' is that creativity is the antidote to the pain and frustration we all experience in our lives. In this episode, we're talking about why creativity matters so much and why it's so important to make time for it as a mom. Take a listen and then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching or at www.joyfullmamacoaching.com.

When we become moms, our conditioning around how a “good mom” should be instantaneously kicks into gear. And each story we tell ourselves about how we should show up is experienced through the lens of what has already happened to us in our past. In today's episode, we explore how to let go of the SHOULDS and show up as the truest version of ourselves with the freedom and agency that's always available to us. Take a listen and then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching or at www.joryancoaching.com.

This weekend I asked my 5-year-old what it means to relax. And she blew me away with her answer: “Relaxing is being yourself.” On this week's episode we're talking about what it means to be yourself and how to find safety in it. Take a listen and then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching or at www.joryancoaching.com.

Watching events on the world stage and then the Oscars stage this weekend made me think about just how much gratitude is demanded of us. Saying “thank you” enough seems to be the secret to getting what you want. But when is it ever THANKS enough? And who gets to decide? Tune into this week's episode and then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching or at www.joryancoaching.com.

In this week's episode we look at the recent trend of shouty moms online telling you to GET UP AND START DOING with a power that can easily match that of your inner critic if you let it. And we explore the power of you defying these critics and choosing to do things your way. Take a listen and then come sign up for a free consult call at joryancoaching.com.

On this week's episode we're talking about the simple lifestyle adjustments that can help ease your anxiety when the big changes you want to make to bring yourself back into true alignment feel like too much to take on. Take a listen and then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching or at www.joryancoaching.com.

On this week's episode we explore how to wake up worry-free when you're used to starting your day with a familiar feeling of dread as the first anxious thoughts leap into your brain. Learn how to stop being reactive to the circumstances you're worried about and to welcome the information your worry is here to give you instead. Take a listen and then come follow me over on Instagram @joryancoaching or at www.joryancoaching.com.

Have you noticed how things tend to happen as they're needed in your life, not necessarily when you want them to? Do you believe that there are lessons to be taken from everything you experience, even when it feels like an adverse experience as you're actually going through it? In this week's episode we're exploring how everything is happening FOR you, and how the circumstances in your life can bring new awareness and new CHOICE around what you experience in your life from that point on. Take a listen and then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching or at www.joryancoaching.com.

We think we have no time for what we want to do because of the kids. And nothing we've tried so far in an attempt to GET more time (meal plans, cleaning schedules, decluttering hacks) has ever worked… …because we've been focusing on all the wrong things. In this week's episode, I'll show you where to put your focus to create the changes you want to see in just two minutes a day. Take a listen and then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching or on my website www.joryancoaching.com.

When things seem really hard and it feels impossible to understand why we, as humans, do what we do and make the choices we make, it's worth remembering that we all want to be loved, and accepted, and to feel like we're enough, and we're always going to feel better when someone else tells us that we ARE all of those things. Because in that brief moment, we feel less afraid of being NONE of those things…and that fear can truly run everything in our lives if we let it. On today's episode we're talking about finding safety for all of those things within ourselves so that we can stop giving weight to the words of other people and our own inner critic, and start to live our lives from a place of love not fear. Take a listen and then come let me know what you need help with over at www.joryancoaching.com.

On this week's episode, we're talking about making changes in your life and the anxiety that often holds you back from actually going for it. When you realize that you're sick and tired of letting it have so much power over you, you quickly reach a tipping point that shifts you into a decision to face the anxiety head on. Listen in to the episode to find out how to feel safe in doing this, and then come see me over on Instagram @joryancoaching to sign up for a free consult call.

If you're determined to do things differently this year so you can create changes in your life, this episode is for you. But first we're going to let go of the word “determined” and replace it with “allowing” because what you're going to do this year is allow yourself to return to your natural state of wholeness without the gripping, worrying about how to get there, anxiously controlling how you SHOULD be and how everyone else is SUPPOSED to be… You're going to start this year fresh with total acceptance of where you're at right now - and move from there. Take a listen and, if you'd like my support in feeling less anxiety and creating more of what you want for yourself in 2025, book a free consult call at www.joryancoaching.com.

As we celebrate the New Year, I hope you'll take this moment to also celebrate YOU. Because who you are is worth celebrating, and if you're busy making New Year's resolutions, I invite you to make them from a place of celebrating who you are NOW. NOT focusing on all the things in you that need fixing before you can be celebrated - if, indeed, you ever let yourself be celebrated at all. Listen in for questions to ask yourself this New Year's that will shift your focus to all the ways you've shown up in your magic in 2024, and set you up to continue to make your dreams happen in 2025. Then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching or at www.joryancoaching.com. Wishing you a very Happy New Year!

On today's episode - as we finish getting ready for Christmas - we're talking all about PERSPECTIVE, which may well come in handy as we navigate some difficult moments with our families over the next few days. We're always trying to make sense of things - the thoughts we think and the emotions we feel - and we're always trying to give them meaning…when nothing is really good or bad at all. There is only our perspective, which has been shaped by the lived experience we've had so far, and is an attempt by our brains to keep us from suffering the same pain and hurt we felt in the past. Rather than trying to reframe that perspective to feel better, the most loving thing we can do for ourselves is to feel the emotions that come up in our bodies. Take a listen, and then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching or www.joyfullmamacoaching.com.

This time of year can often disappoint, given the very high expectations we - and those around us - have for it. But while we're busy telling ourselves it's because of the gift we didn't receive or the lack of kind words spoken, we're missing the opportunity to FEEL the disappointment that's been trapped in our bodies since WE first felt like a disappointment as a child. In this episode, we talk about how to do this, why we might want to, and why the desire to avoid it often wins - keeping us stuck with disappointing holidays year after year. Come take a listen and then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching or www.joyfullmamacoaching.com.

On this week's episode we're talking about how we all want to feel better about ourselves and what's going on in the world, but that the answer is never to try to “fix” what we think is wrong with us. Because there IS nothing wrong with us - we are inherently right, and good, and worthy exactly as we are. What we want to do instead is to show ourselves understanding and compassion and curiosity - just as we do a good friend, Come take a listen to explore how we do that so you can finish out 2024 telling yourself - in the words of Mark Darcy in Bridget Jones' Diary: “I like you, very much. Just as you are.” www.joyfullmamacoaching.com

Inspired by the TV show “WeCrashed” we're talking on this week's episode about being in the messy middle of going for what you want. Even when your brain gets busy offering you all the evidence that what you want is NOT meant for you, you can choose to stay true to that knowing in your heart that it is all already yours, no matter what path you pick to get yourself there. Take a listen to find out how to do this and then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching or at www.joyfullmamacoaching.com .

This week we're talking about kindness and how the familiar holiday-season message to BE KIND TO OTHERS fails to include the all-important reminder to be kind to ourselves. At a time when many of us are feeling triggered by family members and struggling with how we react to them, we explore how to gain a deeper understanding of ourselves, which is the greatest act of kindness of all. Take a listen and then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching or at www.joyfullmamacoaching.com .

When we're feeling resentment, we often get stuck in it, and think the only way to escape is to hash it out until the other person agrees to behave differently. But what if that resentment is actually directed towards ourselves? And what if ruminating on it is never going to help us anyway? In today's episode we talk about why FEELING resentment is your way out of it. Take a listen and then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching.

When you're not willing to pay attention to your desire to rest, this directly affects the quality of attention you pay your kids when they talk. Rest is a practice, just like focus and connection are too and in this episode we explore why it's worth practicing, even through the discomfort that inevitably comes with it. Take a listen then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching or www.joyfullmamacoaching.com.

In this episode I share all the things I used to desperately want to do for myself but believed I'd never have time for. Take a listen to find out how I started making each one a part of my everyday. Then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching. See you there!

In this week's episode we're talking about choosing your own identity rather than letting what's happened to you or something someone else said define it for you. Come take a listen and then send me a message to let me know what identity you are choosing for yourself in this phase of your life now. www.joyfullmamacoaching.com

In today's episode we're talking about why you can't ever seem to finish one thing before starting the next. SPOILER ALERT…it's not the kids! Take a listen and then come find me over on Instagram @joryancoaching. I'd love to chat about how coaching can help to you follow that pull to do what you were always meant to do alongside your motherhood - without needing a plan for getting it done. www.joyfullmamacoaching.com

Inspired by the TV show ‘Tiny Beautiful Things', this week's episode takes a look at how our past is holding us back from going for what we want and what to do now we've decided to move forward. Take a listen, then come say hello over on Instagram @joryancoaching.

You're stuck in the fear that people are mad at you all the time. But it's not because they are; it's because you're mad at yourself. Yes, it might stem from a childhood with chronically angry parents, but you're also angry that YOU didn't speak up. You couldn't, then. It's ok. You can now. Yet there's something you want that you're not speaking out loud. The only madness is in staying silent and stuck. In this week's episode we talk about how to let ‘mad' be your fuel to move so that you can create exactly what you want for yourself.

Welcome to Season 2 of Stay-At-FULL Motherhood! Today we're exploring how to make the changes you want when it feels awful to do so - based on my experience of moving the family across the country this summer. Take a listen and then come let me know what change you're currently struggling to make by sending me a message over on Instagram @joryancoaching .

What you focus on is always going to be what you create for yourself. When you learn to bring your awareness to what you're thinking about, and talking about, and worrying about, and getting excited about, you can see where you're placing your focus in your life. And once you see this, you then get to CHOOSE whether you want to continue on in what you're currently experiencing or focus on something different. YOU are a powerful creator and in this episode, I share my own story about how I created exactly what I wanted for myself in my life as a stay-at-home mom-of-three. Take a listen, then come sign up for a free discovery call at my Instagram bio under joryancoaching .

All-or-nothing thinking comes up a lot for SAHMs - namely in telling us we just can't do what WE want to do because everything will fall apart if we do. In this episode, we look at the good news behind why your brain goes to thinking this way, and how you can work WITH it to go for what you want alongside your motherhood. Take a listen and then come sign up for a free discovery call at www.joyfullmamacoaching.com .

This week's episode is inspired by the song ‘Follow You' by Imagine Dragons after I heard within the lyrics the simple two-step secret to happiness for SAHMs. Take a listen to stop hiding from yourself what you already know in your body to be true, even as your mind pushes you to reason you way out of believing it. And then come sign up for a free 20-minute discovery call to find out if working together on building your self-esteem so you can do what you were always meant to do alongside your motherhood is right for you. www.joyfullmamacoaching.com

We're all trying to make motherhood easier - by researching tips, tricks and hacks on the internet and looking for systems someone else has created that are guaranteed to transform our lives from messy to mastered. But the thing is, we already know everything we need to know; there's just one thing we don't want to DO…and that's to feel the feelings that are bound to come up when we start to approach trying to make a change in our lives at home. In today's episode, we explore why we would WANT to feel those feelings and the benefits of being in the discomfort of doing so - so that we can truly accept where we are now AND move forward with the changes we want to make. Take a listen and then come sign up for a free discovery call at www.joyfullmamacoaching.com .

It can be disheartening or even devastating when Mother's Day doesn't go as you hoped - especially when you see other moms being so lovingly celebrated on social media, while you're left with nothing. In this episode we look at why Mother's Day so often disappoints, what it really means for you, and what you can do about it. Listen in, then come sign up for a free discovery call with me at www.joyfullmamacoaching.com .

We all know that good and sufficient sleep is important for our health and wellbeing, and we also know we're not the only ones out there depriving ourselves of sleep through our bedtime procrastination - or in other words postponing going to bed without there being any external circumstances that force us to do so. In this episode, we explore why we do it and what the real solution is - and it doesn't involve being stricter with ourselves or being more disciplined! Take a listen, and then come sign up for a free discovery call with me at www.joyfullmamacoaching.com .

When we're feeling guilty about not contributing financially, this is often not about the money at all. There IS a gap here, but it might not be monetary; instead it could well be about the gap between your expectations of stay-at-home motherhood and your reality as you're now living it. Listen to today's episode, which explores this gap, your resentment towards your partner, and the information it gives you about your longing for something more, and then come sign up for a free discovery session at my website: www.joyfullmamacoaching.com

When we've been rushing and running late for many years, we see this as part of our identity - just WHO we are. But this is not who we are, it's how our nervous system is responding to a perceived danger or threat, and we can help ourselves by bringing ourselves back to a feeling of safety. Learn more at www.joyfullmamacoaching.com .

We were taught as kids to hand our authority over to others - someone else always knew best. So it's no surprise that you still tend to do that now - after all it's what is known and safe. But it didn't feel good in your body when you did that as a kid, and it definitely doesn't feel good now. You can learn to trust what your body is telling you about what's right for you - and that starts with slowing down enough to listen to it. Listen to today's episode and then come sign up for a free discovery call with me at www.joyfullmamacoaching.com .

Our brains are always looking for evidence of what we already believe. But YOU get to decide to open yourself up to what else is possible for you alongside motherhood any time you want to. Listen to today's episode and then come sign up for a free discovery call with me at www.joyfullmamacoaching.com .

This week we're celebrating Episode 50 of the Stay-at-FULL Motherhood podcast by loving where we're at right now. To sign up for a free discovery call with me, visit my website at www.joyfullmamacoaching.com .

As stay-at-home moms we have so much more power than we think we do to create the experience we want for ourselves. We can step into our more empowered selves any time we want to, yet we so often take this away from ourselves by not seeing the CHOICE that's available to us in any given moment. In this episode we talk about why it's important to regard yourself enough to listen to what YOU have to say about what you want to create and how to take that first step towards it. Each and every time you do this, you add another piece to your blueprint of healthy self-esteem. Living your life YOUR way with permission from no-one but yourself is all about being willing to step into the unknown and try the new thing. And learning through experience that it's safe for you to do this - and that nothing will fall apart when you do. Come take a listen then sign up for a free discovery call with me at: www.joyfullmamacoaching.com

What are you moving towards? Do you know where you're headed? Are you clear on what you're intentionally choosing for yourself? It's very easy to get caught up in all the DOING and perpetually seeing problems that need fixing…until you reach a point where you've lost touch with why you started doing the thing at all. In today's episode we're talking about bringing ourselves back to what we originally wanted when we started out on a path, checking that that dream is still alive in us, and ultimately coming home to the desires we have in the life we want now. Listen to the episode then come sign up for a free discovery call at my website www.joyfullmamacoaching.com .

When we don't see our power to choose, we make ourselves helpless. We believe that something or someone outside of us is responsible for creating the situations and circumstances we find ourselves in. But we always have the power to choose, and the most loving thing we can do for ourselves this Valentine's Day - and every other day - is give ourselves permission to access more choice in each moment. Listen to today's episode and then come sign up for a free discovery call at www.joyfullmamacoaching.com .

When we stop seeing things in black-and-white, we NEVER have to wait for the life we want now. Listen to this week's episode to hear lots of imperfection as I step into the colors, and to learn why your brain clings to your to-do list as much as it does your black-and-white thinking. And then come join my Facebook group Drop In After Drop-off for SAHMs for short daily meditation and movement practices.