The After Party: A podcast about sobriety, from The Sober Kates

A quick hello to shower Little Kate with love as she hits a momentous milestone, 5 years of continued sobriety. Follow us for more at @thesoberkates on Instagram.

Join The Sober Kates this week to hear their super hyped up and highly anticipated "Biggest Announcement EVER!"

The Kates are thrilled to chat with Tawny Lara this week about everything from drunk sex and iffy consent, sober sex - alone, with a new partner, or with a partner that drinks, and personal views of identifying as bi. Tawny is an NYC-based millennial who writes about the intersection of sex and sobriety. Her work is featured in Playboy, Men's Health, Huffington Post, Writer's Digest, Mic, The Temper, Audiofemme, a sex column for SheSaid, and two essay collections: The Addiction Diaries(LaunchPad 2020) and the forthcoming reimagining of Sex and the Single Girl (Harper Perennial 2022). She is the co-host of Recovery Rocks podcast and story developer for the Webby-award winning podcast, F*cking Sober.

Play along with the Kates this week while they play another unsurprisingly fast game of Never Have I Ever. Find out which Kate never paid for a drink in her life, and which one severely injured herself doing a drunken cheerleading stunt. Also: the Kates help a listener with a very important question and discuss when life gets less hard.

Kerry Benson, MS, RD is a registered dietitian, best-selling book author, and co-founder of The Sober Dietitians. Along with Diana Licalzi, MS, RD, she co-authored "Drinking for Two: Nutritious Mocktails for the Mom-to-Be" and "Mocktail Party: 75 Plant-Based, Non-Alcoholic Recipes for Every Occasion." Prior to becoming a dietitian, Kerry worked in a research lab for more than six years studying the effects of alcohol exposure during pregnancy on the developing brain. This experience sparked her interest in the topic of drinking, particularly in the context of pregnancy. Kerry has been alcohol-free for over six months. Any views expressed in this podcast are my own and are not endorsed by any professional organization or employer, past or present. Any statements made are intended to be general and are not a substitute for individualized medical advice. -Kerry Benson, MS, RD Website: thesoberdietitians.com Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok: @thesoberdietitians Mocktail Party and Drinking for Two are available on Amazon.com, Barnes & Noble, Target, and anywhere books are sold.

This week, the Kates are joined by 1000 Hours Dry founder Kayla Lyons for a conversation about the strength of sober community, her road to sobriety, her motivation for founding 1000 Hours Dry, and the importance of inclusiveness when it comes to promoting sobriety.

The things we turn to to fill ourselves up can take a lot of forms—alcohol, drugs, and even other people. This week, the Kates are joined by actress, author, and podcast host Brianne Davis as she shares her recovery from sex and love addiction, how SLA has been normalized, how substance use can mask SLA addiction, and how she's learned to love herself on her own terms. If you think you might be suffering from sex and love addiction, you can find more resources here: Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous Intergroup Philly

For their second episode about sober fatherhood, the Kates are joined again by Producer Derek to discuss his accidental road to fatherhood, his accidental road to sobriety, how he manages parenting stress, and how removing alcohol has given him the gift of connection with his son. They also get a visit from 7 year old Noah who talks about what his dad's sobriety means to him.

In a Father's Day episode of The After Party, we're joined by superdad Chris Marshall of Austin's Sans Bar, who opens up about his relationship with his father, his own journey to sobriety, his initial fears around fatherhood, and his road to becoming a dad himself through fostering and adoption. We also discuss drinking dad culture and how sobriety helps him to show up better for his kids. Happy Father's Day to all the wonderful dads out there!

The Kates round out May - Mental Health Awareness Month - with licensed therapist, retired party girl, and @therapyforwomencenter founder Amanda E. White, LPC. Listen to hear all about Amanda's very own experiences being in recovery from substance use disorder and an eating disorder. These Philly sober ladies also talk boundaries : what are they? And how can we stick to them? You can find more about Amanda at : IG: @therapyforwomen @therapyforwomencenter Website: therapyforwomencenter.com

This episode Big Kate speaks about her new life as a step-mom. Plus, why it's okay to not want children. Can you guess which Kate has baby fever and which Kate is waiting?

The Kates are joined by their cousins today! Listen in as Kate and Kate talk to their cousins Trish and Danielle on what it is like to be a sober mom. They dive into their take on the "mommy wine" culture, share their favorite sober mom resources and describe how sobriety influences their parenting. 

Celebrate Sober Moms this month! The Kates spend time with Mackenzie, a sober mother from Albany, NY. Mackenzie's extraordinary journey will take you through the reasons she got sober and how sobriety has helped her be more a more present mom. Find Mackenzie at : @mackenzie_i_r on Instagram and www.soberirl.com/albany

Another round of listener questions for the Kates! Join in as they discuss telling family they are sober, how to join society again after sobriety and what it is normal to daydream about! Happy Thursday y'all!

The Sober Kates talk to the one and only, Dave, of Betweens Acts and LK's husband. Kate and Kate dive deep with Dave, as he takes us through his own relationship with booze. This is a flip-side perspective from a partner who drinks and how he was able to support LK in her sober journey. TW: chats and stories about drinking. You can find out more about Dave + @betweenactsmusic here: www.instagram.com/betweenactsmusic/ www.youtube.com/channel/UCDUhpWmyiPu2UPIHYMdlUWw

Join Kate and Kate for our April edition of the HOUSE PARTY! This month we have our sober friends Lex (@onelesspartygirl) and Jess (@jessica_jeanine) joining us. Lex @onelesspartygirl onelesspartygirl.com Jessica @jessica_jeanine Check out Jess' project "Our Closet Project"- providing free clothing for sober women! Stay tuned for more in person events, as well as a place to donate.

The Kates are going through changes. Learn about how they plan deal with their new futures, what they've been up to the last 3 weeks, and how Big Kate feels about turning 4 (years sober!).

The Sober Kates celebrate ONE YEAR of the The After Party. Listen up as the ladies celebrate their very successful freshman year by interviewing each other again.

Happy 4 years of sobriety to my best friend. You mean the world to me. Here is a letter to profess my love. That is all.

Welcome to the second episode of the "House Party". This week, the Kates hand the mic over to Julia, Sinead and Jamie. Tune in to hear their stories of getting sober, what helps them stay sober and their random would you rather answers. Find them on IG: Sinead- @sineadstewart www.sineadstewart.com Jamie - @jamieisfancyaf https://www.soberirl.com/longisland/ @jonjeremymusic - sober musician

Today the Kate's cover the growing trend in quarantine called Social Isolation!! We are now a year into this pandemic and can no longer hide around the corner from our enemy-- loneliness. Find out what the Kate's have done to connect with friends. They also talk about how they are keeping healthy.

Should sobriety be a business? The Sober Kates share their input in the great debate. Plus: how addiction cycles have a tendency to manifest and repeat themselves.

The Sober Kates answer all your latest must know questions! Plus, why TSK considering rebranding as the "SSRI Kates". ****Disclaimer: This podcast may include some triggers regarding drinking and it includes mature content. These stories and experiences are our own and what has worked for us may not necessarily work for you. This is not a substitution for treatment of any kind.****

The Sober Kates turn over The After Party mic. Introducing their new monthly segment, “House Party”. First guests include Alix, Megan, & Karla. Listen to their sober journeys, how they stay sober, and what's next. Find them on IG: Alix - @bettermeddler Meg - @gramsbymerg Karla -@karla_is_sober https://www.soberirl.com/karla/

Ex Party People, Retired Black-Out Artists, is it okay to admit you had fun and good memories in your drinking days-- before the darkness took over, the good times ran out, and shame and rock bottom moved in? The Sober Kates discuss the space they hold for their party girl pasts and how to always be proud of the journey.

Omar Pinto is a recovery and life coach and the host of the brand new “Omar Pinto Coaching Podcast”. This week he joins The Kates to talk about his recovery journey and personal growth through 18 years of sobriety. Four years ago, “O” was crucial to the Kates' early sobriety — listen along as he transforms their lives again. www.omarpinto.com ****Disclaimer: This podcast may include some triggers regarding drinking and it includes mature content. These stories and experiences are our own and what has worked for us may not necessarily work for you. This is not a substitution for treatment of any kind.****

And they're back! The Sober Kates pop 2021 off by realizing they can't be sober influencers--because they hate social media! Plus, find out how Little Kate is feeling for her 4 YEAR Soberversary! ****Disclaimer: This podcast may include some triggers regarding drinking and it includes mature content. These stories and experiences are our own and what has worked for us may not necessarily work for you. This is not a substitution for treatment of any kind.****

The Kate's recap the year from hell, 2020. Tune in to hear some of their highs from their "new normal" of a world . Also included are some tips on how to stay sober during the holiday season.

The Sober Kates deep dive into Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages--Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.  Find out your love language at www.5lovelanguages.com and see how you compare to the ladies.

Listener questions! You asked The Sober Kates about: weird cravings, using the word "forever", booze alternatives, how to find sober friends, and dealing with a partner that still drinks. The ladies weigh-in on all these great Q's and of course, some stuff no one asked about. Let's get The After Party started!

The Sober Kates catch up after a week off. The ladies walk us through their experience with EFT/Tapping, a mental health misdiagnosis, and another COVID cliffhanger.

Thanksgiving - the holiday of ultimate overindulgence. Drink til you wobble on Thanksgiving Eve, then gobble til you puke. Or is it vice versa? The Sober Kates explore what this celebrated gluttony and debauchery means for those of us with substance abuse disorder. The ladies provide their 5 best tips on making it through the long weekend.

The Sober Kates discuss the rise of #CALISOBER aka abstaining from alcohol but smoking weed. Listen up as the ladies chat about their history with pot and if it's in their sober fanny pack. Also - they dive into what being “sober” means to them, and the decriminalization and legality of drugs.

Election Day 2020 has descended upon us*. With both Kates back in the US of A, and their votes officially in, how are they dealing with setting boundaries, dealing with social media and talking politics. Will America's nightmare continue or end? Also: Big Kate returns to work on the road and the joy of interacting with people again. Little Kate recaps her trick or treating experience. *Episode recorded before election day

A long overdue episode: Boundaries. The Kates discuss everyone's favorite buzzword. Learn how they set boundaries in their sobriety and how it feels when boundaries are set against them. Also, the benefits of setting them and the dangers of not. Plus! a whole lot of "GFY"s.

This week The Sober Kates discuss passions found in sobriety. And sometimes how passion is lost. Plus! A resolution to Little Kate's Covid Cliffhanger.

This Thirsty Thursday, the Kates get b-a-s-i-c with everyone's favorite fall activities: pumpkin patches, Halloween, and struggling with the crushing weight of their own existence. Hear how they're coping with shorter days and sweater weather while still staying sober.

COVID, isolation, economic downturns, an election year—with all the stress on people's mental health, it seems like relapses are at an all time high. The Kates discuss Dax Shepard's relapse, addiction gaslighting, their own struggles with relapsing, the blurry definition of a relapse, and where they draw the line. Also: aura pictures, anniversaries, emotional rock bottoms. If you're struggling at all, PLEASE REACH OUT.

Everything's feeling pretty heavy these days, so the Kates get light and see who's done the most (or least?) Highlights: getting kicked out of bars, peeing on things, drinking on planes, and more. Play along at home!

Sobriety as a trend: helpful, or harmful? Do sober months actually benefit anyone? Did you know alcohol increases depression and anxiety? For the soberish or sober-curious, sobriety challenges can be a gateway to a new and improved life or a temporary break from their old one. But for people in the sober community, 'temporary' sobriety can minimize the struggles they've been through. The Kates are here to talk us through all the nuances of sober challenges, and remember: everyone has their own journey!

This week, the Kates are joined by Rachel Brady of Shots to Shakes to discuss her journey to sobriety, leaning on alcohol as a coping mechanism, the return of Saturn, what's in her sober fanny pack, rehearsing for therapy, the commodification of sobriety, performative vulnerability, and her forthcoming podcast!

Turning another year older used to mean blackouts and bar nights. Now it means reflection, introspection, and appreciating the journey they've been on. Learn how the Kates are celebrating themselves more in sobriety, navigating birthdays without alcohol, and what the perfect birthday looks like now.

Sobriety isn't all sunshine and roses. In an extra vulnerable Thirsty Thursday, the Kates open up about what they've been struggling with lately—Little Kate is coping with the anniversary of her brother's death and all the emotions that brings with it. Big Kate has been trying to navigate conflict in a long distance relationship during a global pandemic. Hear about their struggles, their successes, and what they're doing to find their way through while staying sober.

This week, the Kates answer everything you've ever wanted to know—and more. Join them for another entertaining Thirsty Thursday as they discuss their goals in sobriety, how to support the sober people in your network, whether their younger selves would appreciate who they became, and which five people they'd have at their dream dinner. Stay until the end to find out which Kate you should bet on in a fight to the death.

In an extra beautiful episode of The After Party, these two beauts reflect on beauty and self-worth in drinking and sobriety: what ‘beauty' used to mean to them and how they strived to be beautiful, how their perceptions and standards of beauty have changed in sobriety the beauty of vulnerability, and how sobriety has helped them to love themselves better.

Lou Redmond is an author, meditation guide, transformational coach, and sobriety is his superpower. When the Kates were in early sobriety, they listened to a podcast interview with Lou that helped reinforce the journey they were on. This week, it comes full circle as Lou joins the podcast to discuss his experience with alcohol and substance abuse, his journey to sobriety, the power of words, non-alcoholic beverages, and how he overcame his fear, spontaneously quit his job, and found his truth.

It's one for the normies! This week at The After Party, the Kates give advice to people with sober friends: what to say, what not to say, how to approach sobriety with curiosity, and how to best support them (hint: never say you liked them better when they drank.) Also: being triggered by hand sanitizer and neighborhood peep shows.

Amy C. Willis is a sobriety and mindset coach and the founder of HOL + WELL. This week she joins the Kates to talk about the impact of grief on her drinking, relapses and recovery, and her journey into holistic wellness for herself and ultimately the start of her business, HOL + WELL.

The Sober Kates play 'Never Have I Ever', uncensored and unfiltered. Is the Kate that finishes first the winner or the loser? If you're not into learning if The Kates have been bottomless in a hot tub, Fast forward past the lewd and crude to where they chat about greatest fears and childhood dreams.

This week on The After Party, a very special wedding-themed announcement. Also, how to plan a sober wedding, whether sober couples have a responsibility to accommodate drinkers, and the beauty of being present on your wedding day.

Let's talk about sex, baby. This week, 'Thirsty Thursday' takes on a whole other meaning when the Kates get real about their sexual histories. From losing their virginities, drunken hookups turning from empowerment to embarrassment, the difference between sex and intimacy, what's harder: sober sex or drunk sex, and tampon mishaps. All this and a surprise engagement announcement on an unsurprisingly raunchy edition of The After Party.