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What’s the truth about who Jesus says you are? While the journey through this question can bring a level of anxiety and nervousness to some in the beginning, it often ends with affirmation and peace. Join Kami, Becky and Steph as they celebrate the release of a new Jesus-Centered resource called Namesake and zone in on the question of “Who does Jesus say you are?” Along the way, they share personal stories of defining moments in their own lives when Jesus revealed their true identity. Related Links and Articles: Namesake by Stephanie Hillberry- http://mylifetree.com/namesake Season 1, Episode 18: On loving ourselves- https://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-on-loving-ourselves/ Season 1, Episode 15: Supporting your friends with infertility- https://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-what-your-infertile-friend-wishes-you-knew/ Season 2, Episode 10: Finding Freedom at the Bottom of the Glass - https://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-finding-freedom-at-the-bottom-of-the-glass/ Free Download: Taking A Retreat with Jesus- https://www.mylifetree.com/taking-retreat-jesus-free-download/

Stuck in an argument pattern you can’t break free from, or dodging someone you need to confront? Yeah—we can relate. Saying hard things stinks. Join Becky and Steph as they share stories of confrontation from their own lives, including initiating conflict, saying no, and the general discomfort that comes from disappointing people. With a mixture of ideas that have helped them, plus confessions of conflict gone awry, you’ll leave the episode with a challenge to let Jesus help you find your ideal balance between grace and conflict. We’d love to hear how you approach hard conversations. Share your story on Instagram (www.instagram.com/theysaypodcast/) or on Facebook (www.facebook.com/TheySayPodcast-1748081382104595/) with your ideas and questions. Related Links and Articles: - Why Nobody Wants To Be Around Christians Anymore- https://www.mylifetree.com/shop/nobody-wants-go-church-anymore/ - Paying Ridiculous Attention to Jesus Podcast- https://www.mylifetree.com/paying-ridiculous-attention-to-jesus/ - How to say a beautiful No per Kami’s friend: “I’m so honored that you thought of me—what an exciting opportunity! Right now I have other priorities for this season and I’m saying no, but I’m looking forward to hearing about the great things that happen from this.”

How many glasses of wine is too many? If I drink every weekend, is that too much? Does my loved one have a drinking problem? Do I? Get ready to tackle a touchy subject with grace and hope. After encountering several blog posts, texts, and talks on booze, Steph, Kami, and Becky decided to dive into a candid discussion on drinking. From “How much is too much?” to “Do I have a problem?” they share openly about their complicated relationship with alcohol, offer encouragement and hope, and end with a call for freedom for everyone who’s struggling to resist that next glass, or praying for a loved one to do the same. Tag us on Instagram (www.instagram.com/theysaypodcast/) or on Facebook (www.facebook.com/TheySayPodcast-1748081382104595/) with your ideas and questions. Related Links and Articles • MyLifetree Easter Page- https://www.mylifetree.com/easter/ • Sarah Bessey Article- http://sarahbessey.com/quit-drinking/ • My Name Is Mommy, And I’m An Alcoholic- http://www.scarymommy.com/alcoholic-mom/ • Women Are Drinking as Much as Men Article- https://www.nytimes.com/2016/10/25/well/eat/women-are-drinking-as-much-as-men.html • Alcoholics Anonymous- http://www.aa.org/ • Al-Anon Family Groups- http://www.al-anon.org

Dr. Tasha Levert joins Kami and Steph for a conversation about sex and intimacy. She offers answers to some of our most pressing questions, like “How often should I be having sex?” and “How do I get out of a rut with my spouse?” plus a few great ideas that you can try immediately in your relationship. Listen in for the first of many talks on sex and relationships with Dr. Levert. What do you want to ask Tasha about sex and intimacy? Tag us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/theysaypodcast/) or on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/TheySayPodcast-1748081382104595/) with your ideas and questions. Related Links and Articles • Jesus-Centered Life on Lifetree- https://www.mylifetree.com/jesus-centered/ • Center Your Life and Drawn In on Lifetree - https://www.mylifetree.com/shop/drawn-in/ and https://www.mylifetree.com/shop/jesus-centered-devotions-center-life-jesus/ • TashaLevert.com • No hey hey in the Vajayjay- http://www.hellodearest.org/no-hey-hey-in-the-va-jay-jay/ • Connect with Tasha on Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/tashalevert/ • Connect with Tasha on Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/tasha.levert

Women will talk about almost everything, including what we wore three days ago and which new diet program our neighbor is trying. So why is it that we have a hard time talking candidly about money? (Ahem—your latest bargain win doesn’t count….) Kami and Steph tackle the taboo topic in this episode with a few compelling money factoids that may surprise you, plus two real life money stories from their life. Hopefully this will be the first of many talks on Jesus and “the green stuff” in our lives. What do you want to talk about or ask us about money? Tag us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/theysaypodcast/) or on (https://www.facebook.com/TheySayPodcast-1748081382104595/) with your ideas and questions. Related Links and Articles: • Destination Life- https://www.group.com/product/9781470748449-destination-life.do?from=ac#_ga=1.63077039.1251417567.1488410910 • Real Simple article on women and money- http://www.realsimple.com/work-life/money/money-planning/womenandmoney • Stats on Jesus and money references- http://www.preachingtoday.com/illustrations/1996/december/410.html • Let’s Talk About Money Devotion- http://www.mylifetree.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/they-say-7-day-money-devotion.web_.pdf • Steph’s spending freeze link- http://simplelifelab.com/would-you-try-a-spending-freeze/

Have you ever noticed how one negative comment can ruin your whole day? Or how a criticism stays stuck in your mind long after a compliment does? We're calling this "critic's math," and talking about how to overcome this imbalanced equation and find our true identity in Jesus. In this episode, Kami and Steph dive into the swirl of voices competing for right to identify us and discover how to look to Jesus as the only true reflection of yourself. Wrapping up with examples from Romans 10 and “The Jesus-Centered Life” they share the truth the Holy Spirit provides when it comes to our identity. We'd love to hear your heart on this topic! Tag us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/theysaypodcast/) or on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/TheySayPodcast-1748081382104595/) Related Links and Resources: • Namesake on Group.com- https://www.group.com/product/9781470742775-namesake.do?from=ac&cx=0 • Namesake on Amazon- https://www.amazon.com/Namesake-Revealing-Jesus-Centered-Coloring-Experience/dp/1470742772/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1487695641&sr=8-1&keywords=Namesake+Coloring+Book • Jon Acuff on Critic’s Math- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O1rilTmlc4k • Jesus-Centered Life- https://www.mylifetree.com/shop/the-jesus-centered-life/ • Free 21 Day Jesus-Centered Devotion- https://www.mylifetree.com/21-day-devotional-series-2/ • Paying Ridiculous Attention To Jesus Podcast- https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/paying-ridiculous-attention/id1146587944?mt=2

Whether it’s eating the same thing over and over, or moving through the same daily routine like a zombie, or having the same argument in our head again and again, we’ve all experienced times when we’re stuck in a rut. In the episode, Kami, Becky and Steph talk about getting stuck in the blahs, focusing on three common root causes that keep us in ruts. Wrapping up with the Apostle Paul’s challenge to find contentment even in ruts, they leave with some practical ideas and mini experiments we can all try when we want to get unstuck. Kami, Becky and Steph want to hear your ideas for how you like to get out of rut. For instance, Kami shared about a friend who keeps a gratitude jar, fills it throughout the year, and then reads her notes on New Year’s Eve. What’s worked for you? Post your thoughts on Instagram (see below). Related Links and Articles: Lent Resources- https://www.mylifetree.com/lent/ Jesus-Centered Bible- https://www.mylifetree.com/jesus-centered/ 7 Ideas to refresh your routine with Jesus- https://www.mylifetree.com/7-ideas-to-refresh-your-routine-with-jesus/ They Say Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/theysaypodcast/

Detoxing. It’s not just for the body anymore. Join Kami and Steph as they dive into the world of detoxification and discuss cleansing your body, your mind and even your soul. Also, don’t miss some honest talk about their good, and not-so-good stories of detox. Don’t forget to join us on our brand-new They Say Instagram account to see photos of Kami in her personal sauna/toaster. Related Links and Articles: Lifetree Adventures- https://lifetreeadventures.com/ They Say Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/theysaypodcast/ 2 Week Jesus-Centered Diet Challenge- https://www.mylifetree.com/they-say-podcast-2-week-diet-challenge/

During this pre-spring season, talk of getting "bikini ready" starts circulating around us women folk, frequently followed by critical statements about our thighs, hips, stomachs or other less-than-flattering body parts. In other words, it's the perfect time to get real about our body image issues, and to encourage each other. In this episode, Becky and Steph welcome blogger and author, Jami, from Sacred Ground, Sticky Floors, to talk about a recent post she wrote called "A Fat Girl's Guide to Knowing Jesus." She shares her story--and recent breakthrough--with her body image struggles, and about a new challenge she's starting on her blog in February on this topic. We can't wait to see what unfolds. Links from this episode: http://sacredgroundstickyfloors.com/ http://sacredgroundstickyfloors.com/2016/12/07/the-fat-girls-guide-to-knowing-jesus/ https://www.mylifetree.com/jesus-centered-bible/ http://www.mylifetree.com/the-dieting-experiment-thats-not-a-diet/ http://www.mylifetree.com/the-dieting-experiment-thats-not-a-diet-part-two/ http://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-praying-gods-will/ http://instagram.com/theysaypodcast

Kami, Becky and Steph wrap up the final episode in this three-part series on hygge, the Danish art of cozy. In this final episode we talk about creating hygge for others, including ideas for making your spaces inviting, how to be hospitable, and how to reach out to others during lonely winter months. We'd love to hear or see your ideas about creating togetherness and community--tag us on Instagram (@theysaypodcast) or share on Facebook. We can't wait to see your hygge ideas! Don't forget to join us on our brand-new They Say Instagram account! And in case you missed it, here's parts one and two of this three-part series. Becky, Kami and Steph had a chance to attend a pre-release viewing of The Shack movie and shared a few of their first impressions of the film (scheduled to release March 3, 2017). To see a preview of the film yourself, visit http://theshack.movie. Related Links and Articles: Part one: defining hygge: https://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-part-1-hygge-the-danish-art-of-cozy/ Part two: creating hygge in your spaces: https://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-part-2-hygge-in-your-spaces/ The story of Mary and Martha: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luke+10%3A38-42 Magnolia Market: https://shop.magnoliamarket.com/ They Say Podcast on Instagram @TheySayPodcast

Join Kami, Steph, and Becky for part two of a three-part series on the Danish word, hygge. In this episode, we talk about cultivating presence--both enjoying the presence of Jesus and being present with others--and how our physical environment can help us live more in the moment. We also share a lot of fun ideas for bringing more coziness into your home and your workplace, including tips for lighting, accessories, and comforts that you'll want to try. Speaking of trying, we have a hygge challenge for you from this episode, which is to find a corner of a room somewhere in your home that you can cozy up and spend time in Jesus presence. Then share your space by tagging us on Instagram (@theysaypodcast) or sharing on Facebook. We can't wait to see your hygge creations. Don't forget to join us on our brand-new They Say Instagram account! And in case you missed it, here's part one of this three-part series. “Company is coming” video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBwELzvnrQg Free printable Jesus-Centered Journal inserts, including a Bible reading plan and food diaryhttps://www.mylifetree.com/jesus-centered-journal-shop-page/

In this episode, Kami, Becky and Steph introduce you to a Danish word that we predict is going to take over the web. It's called "hygge," and it's the Danish art of cozy. In this part one of three, we'll discuss why hygge is so awesome, what it has to do with Jesus, and how it can frame the start of a new season with the deep, no-pressure sigh we all need. Don't forget to join us on our brand-new They Say Instagram account! https://www.instagram.com/theysaypodcast/ Stay tuned for parts 2 and 3, coming soon! More from this Episode: Resource Gush: New Year's Challenge- Free Download: https://www.mylifetree.com/new-year-2017/ Looking for a way to kick start your new year? But maybe you're already failing at those new year's resolutions? Try this free download for planning and goal setting with Jesus in 2017. >>Download Now Related Links and Articles: (Podcast) Hey friend, let's chat: https://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-lets-get-to-know-each-other-better/ (Podcast) A friend tells you when you have spinach in your teeth: https://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-friend-tells-spinach-teeth/ This Instagram update gave me a wake-up call: https://www.mylifetree.com/this-instagram-update-was-my-wake-up-call-to-notice-people/ How I learned to pay ridiculous attention to Jesus: https://www.mylifetree.com/learning-pay-ridiculous-attention-jesus/#

Let's face it, ladies--every time we spend an hour on hold canceling the membership that started out as "free" and ended up in 6 months of "5.99" charges (which of course our husband found on the statement), we don't feel like we're winning as an adult. Join Steph, Kami, and Becky as they share their biggest "adult fails," including $1,299 in toll fee charges and a bedroom ceiling crawling with praying mantises (seriously). You know it's going to be a good one when Steph says, "Since we started this podcast I 've wanted to find a way to work this story into an episode." In other words, be prepared to laugh out loud. More from this Episode: Resource Gush: SoulFeed College Care Packages SoulFeed is a great way to stay connected to your young adult who may need some extra guidance in this season of becoming an adult. Each month a care package is delivered with useful items, delicious snacks and helpful reminders on how to be a good person and stay connected to Jesus. There are both monthly and single box options This is a great way to stay connected to a young person in your life SoulFeed.com Related Links: http://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-lets-get-to-know-each-other-better/ http://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-friend-tells-spinach-teeth/ http://www.mylifetree.com/this-instagram-update-was-my-wake-up-call-to-notice-people/

Join Stephanie and Becky with our special guest Rick Lawrence from the Jesus-Centered Life as we talk about marriage. You met him, you fell in love. So why is it that all the sudden now you feel like everything is a giant battle. Join the lively discussion on marriage, humility, patience, repentance and ultimately how God uses marriage to get everything in our lives out into the light. Gabbit: http://www.mylifetree.com/conversation-apps/ They Say Episode 008: http://www.mylifetree.com/podcast-when-their-relationship-seems-better-than-yours/ My Husband and I Don’t Always Agree on Politics, and That’s Okay: http://www.mylifetree.com/my-husband-and-i-dont-always-agree-on-politics-and-thats-okay/ This ridiculously simple trick is improving my marriage: http://www.mylifetree.com/this-ridiculously-simple-trick-is-improving-my-marriage/

Dear friends: Your blister on your toe at Disneyland is not a national prayer disaster. Join us as we interview our friend Jami about foster care, blogging and praying for God's will.

Kate's doing it. So is Gwenyth. Glennon and Brene talk about it, and so does your best friend. Everyone is saying that we need to do a better job of loving ourselves.

As three friends who work together, Becky, Kami and Steph talk about the ups and downs of real-life friendships, especially the challenges of balancing quality time with work, family, and...well...sleep. We'll dish on what qualities we look for in a friend, what makes us feel guilty as friends, and the big hangups that keep girl friendships on the fritz.

"My life's a mess. I'm basically grazing carbs from the fridge for dinner, binge-watching Netflix as my nightly exercise, and have converted my dining room table into my full-time closet because I can't manage to put laundry away EVER." If this sounds at all familiar, we have the episode for you. Join Becky, Kami and Steph as we share our current feelings about getting back on track, what goals we've personally set for this month, and the sneaky traps we're trying to avoid when it comes to discipline and making changes.

Alright--we admit that at first you might think infertility is kind of a Debbie-Downer topic. BUT WAIT! We learned that one in eight couples struggle with infertility, which means there's a really good chance that someone you know is dealing with it right now (and because it's such a private issue, you may not even know it). One thing we've realized along our infertility journey is how much people want to say and do the right things for their friends and family facing infertility...but don't always how. Here are some insider tips to help.

As a Mom are you more like the campaign manager for your kids' world? Driving the car pool, handling the master scheduling, driving their priorities and filling out all the paperwork. Imagine a world where your kids are setting their own priorities, keeping up with their chores, and achieving their goals. Impossible? We don't think so. Join special guest Cris Alsum as she shares her insights into helping your kids set goals and manager their own time.

“Mommmmmm, I’m BORED!” It’s the kind of thing that can drive a mom crazy. Nevermind bringing your kids into this world through blood, sweat and tears; when school breaks rolls around you are now expected to be Master Entertainer, Chauffeur, Caterer, Tutor, and Event Coordinator. Join special guest Andrea Ridder as she shares her surprising perspective on boredom and how she's turning it into a good thing.

Hi They Say friends! It's episode 11 and you've been listening to us for a few months now so we thought it'd be fun to share some things we've learned about you and give you a chance to know us better. We (co-hosts Kami and Steph, with producer Becky) put questions in a hat and spend this episode answering them. Fair warning: we totally talk about hair. We also share some fun statistics we've learned about you since launching the show.

Sometimes it feels like smartphones, texting, and social media are the BEST THING that's ever happened to our relationships (seriously--how did we ever grocery shop or coordinate dinner plans without texts?). But in spite of the convenience of our snappy digital communications, there are other times when we feel lonely, overwhelmed, and disconnected. To help with these less pleasant feelings, Kami, Becky and I (Steph) created a challenge to reduce our technology use in favor of high quality time with the people we love. Friends, we totally failed the challenge. Listen to what happened...

From the moment your child is born it feels like the countdown to graduation begins. Eighteen-years–that’s how long you have them. And then suddenly your parenting is done. Except that it really isn’t. Eighteen-years-old seems like the parenting finish line, but the reality is much more encouraging…and complicated. Whether your child is graduating from high school or from diapers, Kami and Steph discuss why milestones aren’t all they’re cracked up to be when it comes to parenting. Listen for the full story in this episode.

Do you ever look around and think, "Geez that couple is so great. They just seem to be getting it right. I wonder what their secret is?" And then, rather than feel warm and fuzzy and filled with hope for relationships around the world because of this awesome couple blazing a trail of bliss for everyone to follow, you just feel... ...bad. Bad because your relationship, like a pimply teenage girl standing next to a supermodel, doesn't measure up. Bad because it feels like compared to everyone else, you must be doing this whole couple-thing wrong. Hey guess what--you're not doing it wrong. When it comes to other couples, things aren't always as they seem. Tune into this episode to see what we mean. At the end you'll remember that the supermodel standing next to your pimply teenage face is actually just another pimply face (with maybe better makeup on).

Hope for when life feels like it's passing you by Doesn't it sometimes feel like life stalls out? One minute you're moving along and then suddenly you find yourself waiting for the next milestone (getting married, getting a "career" job, having a baby) while everyone else passes you by. Whether it's a small milestone or a big one, missing life's "deadlines" can make us feel like we aren't measuring up, and waiting on the sidelines gets lonely. If this is you, you're not alone. Kami, Stephanie, and Becky all share stories about when their lives deviated from "the plan," and how they've found hope while waiting for God's timing. **Also, if you're wondering why this episode features Barbie, it will quickly make sense when you start listening...

As parents there's nothing harder than seeing our kids struggle with persistent fears. And parents dealing with kids with anxiety face this challenge every day. In this episode, Kami and Steph shine a light on this seldom-discussed topic of anxiety in kids, tackle the questions we're afraid to ask (ex. is my kid mentally ill?), and offer a message of hope and peace at the end.

When our producer, Becky, recently suggested a two-week dieting experiment that involved Jesus, we jumped on board. In a world full of dieting programs (we've tried SO many of them), plus 30-day bikini body challenges, it felt adventurous to try something radically different. In this second part of our series, we reconnect with Kami to see how's she's doing now that the challenge is over, plus she shares the most heartfelt story (seriously). We also get to hear from Becky about how her experiment went, and to marvel at how creative God is. Here's what we mean...

When our producer, Becky, recently suggested a two-week dieting experiment that involved Jesus, we jumped on board. In a world full of dieting programs (we've tried SO many of them), plus 30-day bikini body challenges, it felt adventurous to try something radically different. In this part one of a two-part series, we hear from Kami personally about how her experiment went. Here's what happened...

We don’t have to tell you that moms feel guilty about a lot of things. According to social media and fancy surveys, one of the things we feel the most guilty about is what we’re feeding our kids. We worry that it’s not healthy enough, or “clean” enough, or varied enough. And we worry what other parents will think about our choices. Here’s why we think all this worry needs to STOP.

When Kami realized that she was being targeted by a mean girl–and that the mean girl was her teenage daughter–she needed a discipline tactic that would work. But after trying all the best advice and still getting nowhere, she tried a different path. It involved puffy paint, and it totally worked. Listen to find out why.

Kami shares a surprising secret she learned about parenting from a parent-teacher conference. The story starts with her crying on the floor of her son’s classroom with a tampon, a nickel, and a tooth in her hand and ends with Jesus showing up in the midst of her weakness as a parent, and her kids as the ultimate winners.