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Welcome to Daily Bitachon , we're continuing from yesterday's class where we spoke about the lesson from Rabbi Mattisyahu Salomon connecting Chanukah and the story of Yosef and the brothers. They both have one theme, which is that while things are happening they might seem like a comedy of errors but it's really being planned from the beginning. It's not a coincidence and then we save you at the end, but actually everything that was happening was the goal was to save you. Now we find the connection in that area between Shabbat as well. Before that, let's explain a part of Al HaNissim that I never understood. We end after we thank Hashem for the miracles, the wonders, the salvation, we thank Hashem for the nechamos , for the, simply it means comforts. What is the nechama of Chanukah ? I know there's nechama in Shabbat Nachamu , the Shabbat after Tisha B'Av , but what is the nechama in Chanukah ? First we have to understand what does nechama mean? People translate it as comfort or console, but the way to understand the word is always to look in the Torah especially the first time a word shows up and the first time the word shows up is at the end of Bereshit where God is upset with creation before he brings the Mabul and it says Vayinachem about Hashem . Hashem was minachem . Now he wasn't comforted by the tragic downturn of society, rather Rashi says Vayinachem means he had a change of heart, a change of mind, and he says anytime the word Vayinachem shows up that's what it means. So when we use it as the word comfort it's because the way you comfort someone is by changing their way of looking at things what we call a reframe. That's what a nechama is and based on what Rabbi Mattisyahu Salomon told us the nechama of Chanukah was that we saw when the miracle of Chanukah came out like Rabbeinu Yonah says in Shaarei Teshuva from the Midrash it's not that I was in the darkness and then God lit up the light night for me but rather if not for the darkness there would be no light. I went into the darkness to create the light and Chanukah showed that to me and that was the nechama of Chanukah to realize that the darkness is purposeful. If I didn't fall I wouldn't get up. If I wasn't in the dark I would not have been in the light. That's the nechama of Chanukah . That's also connected to Shabbat . How so? The Midrash in Pirkei D'Rabbi Eliezer chapter twenty says that when Adam HaRishon sinned he was sent out of Gan Eden and he was sitting on Har HaMoriah . He was sent out on a Friday and he spent the entire Shabbat there, Friday afternoon, Shabbat , he spent there on Har HaMoriah till the end of Shabbat . For those hours starting from Chatzos on Friday till Motzei Shabbat which is thirty-six hours the hidden light was lit. There was no darkness. Darkness descended on the world when Motzei Shabbat came and that's why we do Borei Meorei HaEish , we light the candle on Motzei Shabbat because that's when we needed fire for the first time. So Adam HaRishon is sitting outside Gan Eden on Shabbat and it says that the Shabbat was protecting him. Nothing went wrong. He watched the Shabbat and Shabbat watched him. That's what the Midrash says: כי אשמרה שבת אל ישמרני. I watch Shabbat , Shabbat watches me. Shabbat was protecting Adam and it says Shabbat was comforting Adam . Shabbat gives nechama . He was sitting outside and he was full of thoughts and confusion and Shabbat was comforting him. And the Midrash says a Pasuk shene'emar : ברוב שרעפי בקרבי תנחומיך ישעשעו נפשי. When I have a lot of thoughts in my head, a lot of turbulence in my head, your words tanchumecha , your comforting words cause me to be delighted and take me out of my depression. That's my source that Shabbat gave nechama to Adam HaRishon . And the commentaries ask where do I see that in the Pasuk ? And they say it's a chida , an earlier rabbi that brings this mnemonic even the Arizal . Sarapai , Tanchumecha , B'rov sarapai tanchumecha , the letters of Shabbat . Shabbat brought the nechama . Shabbat is a time that gives us the ability to look at things in a different light, to reframe situations. We see this in מזמור שיר ליום השבת. מזמור שיר ליום השבת which doesn't talk about Shabbat was written by Moshe Rabbeinu on a scroll when the Jews were still in Mitzrayim to read on Shabbat to give them nechama , to give them comfort, to look at things in a different way. What's the different way? בפרוח רשעים כמו עשב. Why is it that the wicked are blossoming like grass? And the answer is l'hishamedam adei ad , to destroy them. Grass is there for the lawnmower. The wicked that are sprouting will eventually be taken down. The Egyptians are successful but eventually taken down. So Shabbat was a time of nechama . Shabbat gave them comfort and that is an important Shabbat and Chanukah connection especially when... of the superpower when Shabbat and Chanukah come together. It's a time to look back on situations that are difficult, in the current situations that we're in that are difficult and to be able to find nechama there, to be able to find comfort and understand and look at it differently. I'll give you one little example of what a nechama type thought is. This story happened a few years ago to one of my nieces. She wanted to go to a certain seminary in Israel and she didn't get accepted. And they used all different kind of pulls and connections and nothing worked. She had to go to her second choice seminary and she wasn't very happy about it. All her friends were going to the other seminary, the one that she was going to she didn't know anybody, she ended up with a roommate that she didn't know and at the time I remember she wasn't really very happy. Lo and behold, the new roommate that she meets likes this young lady, my niece, and eventually suggests her for her cousin and they get married. If not for that second seminary, she would not have met her husband so to say. So what looked like a bad event of not going to the seminary that you wanted, really God was actually plotting and planning your shidduch . And this is everything in life. And to end on a global level, the מדרש פסיקתא דרב כהנא says about the Jewish people: Don't you see, don't you get it? I knocked out the Romans- I'm sorry, I knocked out the Babylonians, I knocked out the Medians, I knocked out the Greek, I'm in the middle of knocking out the final galut of Edom , and you're complaining? Don't you know I'm going someplace, I have a goal? And that's part of the miracle of Chanukah to tell us al hanechamot to realize that just like Chanukah , all those trials and tribulations created the miracle of Chanukah , so too all that we're going through, goal is to create that big miracle of the times of Mashiach .
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In the beginning of this week's Parashat Vayishlach, Ya'akov Avinu is preparing to confront Esav, who wanted to kill him. Rashi tells us that Ya'akov prepared himself in three ways: sending gifts, praying, and strategizing for a potential battle. Why did Rashi list them in this order—placing tefillah second, between sending gifts and preparing for war? The Be'era Parashah explains that Rashi is teaching a fundamental principle about tefillah. Hashem built into the nature of the world that prayer works. And just as giving gifts and preparing for war are normal hishtadlut that people do, so too tefillah operates within the natural order. It is not considered miraculous to have prayers answered. For this reason, the Maharsha writes that although the Gemara teaches that a miracle performed for a person can deduct from his merits, anything attained through tefillah—even the greatest salvations—does not take away any merits, because tefillah is never considered a miracle. This understanding should give us tremendous chizuk. The answering of tefillah is part of how the world was created to function. Tefillot are so powerful that they can change decrees no matter how impossible the odds may appear. Chazal tell us that in Shamayim it had been decreed that Esav would marry Le'ah and Ya'akov would marry Rachel—"the older for the older, and the younger for the younger." The Alshich adds that Le'ah had four overwhelming hurdles preventing her from marrying Ya'akov. First, the heavenly decree had designated her for Esav. Second, the Pasuk testifies to Rachel's beauty. Third, the Pasuk tells us that Ya'akov loved Rachel. And fourth, Ya'akov worked for seven years for Rachel and took great precautions not to be deceived by Lavan. Yet Le'ah prayed so intensely, so persistently, with so many tears that her eyes became tender. And through those tefillot, she overturned the decree and all the natural odds. Chazal say that the greatness of tefillah is such that not only did Le'ah avoid marrying Esav, she even preceded Rachel to marry Ya'akov. And because of those same tefillot, she gave birth to six of the twelve Shevatim—the Bechor, the Kehunah, the Levi'im, the Meluchah, and the lineage of Mashiah—all emerging from her prayers. The Pasuk in Parashat Vayera says that the angels were sent to destroy Sedom while Avraham was still standing before Hashem. The next Pasuk tells us that Avraham prayed for Sedom to be spared. The Seforno explains: even though the decree had already been issued and the angels had already arrived in Sedom, Avraham still prayed, because he understood the ways of Hashem. As Chazal tell us Even if a sharp sword is already touching a person's neck, he should still pray, because tefillah can work no matter how desperate the situation seems. This past year, a woman received the difficult news that she had a tumor, lo 'alenu. At that time, she strengthened herself in guarding her speech and devoted herself to encouraging others to do the same. She was told that she would need the strongest form of chemotherapy. The doctors warned her of every side effect—especially that it was absolutely guaranteed she would lose all her hair. She asked them if there was anything at all she could do to avoid this. Their answer was clear: with the dosage she required, there was a one-hundred-percent certainty she would lose every strand. But she strengthened herself with the knowledge that with Hashem, nothing is fixed. She poured her heart into tefillah—not only for a full recovery, but also that she should not lose any of her hair. Today, Baruch Hashem the tumor has been completely removed. And amazingly, she did not lose even one strand of hair throughout the entire process. The doctors had no explanation. But the explanation is clear. She prayed to the Creator of the world—the One Who decides whether hair falls out or remains. Tefillah is wondrous, and Hashem created it to work as part of the natural order of the world. The more a person recognizes Hashem's power and involvement in every aspect of his life, the deeper, stronger, and more effective his tefillah becomes. Shabbat shalom.
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The Pasuk says in Parashat Re'eh: "וברכך ה' אלוקיך בכל אשר תעשה"-Hashem your G-d will bless you in everything you do. Our Rabbis learn from here our obligation to put in our Hishtadlut, our effort, to accomplish what we want. Along with this obligation comes a very big test that everyone faces on a daily basis- to be able to put in the effort, yet realize the whole time that Hashem is really the One getting everything done. Hashem wants the world to run בדרך הטבע , through nature, so in order to camouflage His presence, He makes it look like we are the ones accomplishing. But in truth, it is all Hashem. The Mesilat Yesharim calls our Hishtadlut a tax to pay. Once we have fulfilled the quota, Hashem sends His blessing down. Shlomo Hamelech summed it up in a Pasuk in Mishle: "סוס מוכן ליום מלחמה" We have to get the horse ready to go out and fight in battle. An army cannot go out to war expecting a miracle. Rabbenu Bachya says that if they do, they will lose. They have to make all of the necessary preparations to fight. But the Pasuk concludes: "לה' התשועה" The victory of the war is entirely in the hands of Hashem. The'בוטח בה- one who trusts in Hashem, knows that once he puts in his effort he can feel comfortable with the knowledge that he did his part. Then, whatever happens is the will of Hashem for his best. A person should never feel that his efforts were wasted , even if he didn't see his desired results. For example, a man worked on a sale for six weeks, and then it all fell through. His time was not wasted, he paid six weeks' worth of tax, and that opened the pipeline for Hashem to send blessing when He sees fit. If a person went to three doctors and didn't yet come up with a solution for his health issue, he didn't waste his time. He did his Hishtadlut, he paid his tax, and now he should feel great knowing that he did his part. If there is ever a situation where a reasonable Hishtadlut is not possible, then the person becomes exempt from Hishtadlut, and he can totally rely on Hashem. For example, if a person had an ailment, and tried one method to cure it, yet it didn't work, and then tried another, and a third, and still no results, and the doctors say that there is nothing else to try. At that moment, the person becomes exempt from Hishtadlut, and he can totally rely on Hashem for a cure. Rabbi Yechezkel Abramsky, זכר צדיק לברכה, used to tell over the following story which happened to him. He was taken to Siberia against his will along with a group of people. They were told to remove their shoes, their jackets and their shirts. They had to walk on snow and ice for miles. The Rabbi had a condition from a very young age that he was very sensitive to the cold, and he would frequently get sick from being exposed to even moderately cold temperatures. His mother, he recalls, used to send him to school in many layers of clothing to protect him. He still had this condition now, and he knew that many people had died in Siberia from being exposed to the frigid temperatures. On his first walk on the ice, he turned to Hashem and said, "The Gemara tells us: '-הכל בידי שמים חוץ מצינים ופחים"Everything is in the hands of Heaven except for cold and hot," which means that if a person goes outside in the winter without a jacket and gets sick, he brought that upon himself. Hashem commanded us to guard our health; we are not allowed to act recklessly. The Rabbi continued. "When I had extra layers and jackets I put them on to protect myself. But now, I don't have that ability, so I am exempt from that obligation. All that is left is the בידי שמים part. Now Hashem, it is only in Your hands. Please, save me from getting cold here." The Rabbi testified, that for over a year and a half in Siberia, he never felt cold even once. It is not the clothing that warms us up, it is Hashem. When we have the ability to help ourselves, we are obligated to. But when there is nothing for us to do, we can totally rely on Hashem. Those who are able to see through nature and recognize that everything is really Hashem, will not only pass this very big test, but they will reap the rewards both in this world and in the next.
This episode learns through the first and last two pesukim of Eichah to see the message contained therein.
Daily Halacha Podcast - Daily Halacha By Rabbi Eli J. Mansour
The Halacha below was generated by AI based on multiple classes given by Rabbi Eli Mansour in the Bekiim B'Halacha series. Click on any of the dates below to hear the original audio file. This write-up has been reviewed, but if any errors remain, we welcome corrections. 06-16-25; 06-17-25 One of the more commonly encountered questions during the Three Weeks concerns music. Is it permissible to listen to music during this period? What about recorded music, or music intended to help a person focus, relax, or stay awake? And is singing permitted even if instruments are not? This Halacha examines the nature of the restriction, its halachic basis, and when—if ever—music might be allowed. What Is the Source for This Custom? The custom to refrain from music during Ben HaMesarim is not explicitly found in the Gemara. Rather, it evolved as part of the broader mourning practices adopted after the destruction of the Bet HaMikdash. Music brings joy and emotional upliftment, and is therefore seen as inappropriate during a period meant for national reflection and sorrow. The Rambam (Hilchot Ta'aniyot 5:14) writes that after the Hurban (destruction of the Bet HaMikdash), the Sages enacted decrees to limit expressions of joy, such as music and dancing. Although this was not originally specific to the Three Weeks, over time the practice was incorporated into this period to align with the overall spirit of mourning. Does This Apply to All Music—Even Recorded? Yes. Most Poskim today apply the restriction to both live and recorded music. Even if the original decree referred to instruments and public festivities, recorded music triggers the same emotional experience of joy and is therefore avoided. This includes music played casually at home, in the car, or on headphones. Background music in stores or commercials is not the listener's intent and may be permitted. Some Poskim draw a distinction between upbeat, celebratory music versus neutral or calming music. However, the general rule is to avoid music that provides emotional enjoyment. What About Music for Practical Use—Exercise, Focus, or Sleep? There is room for leniency when music serves a functional purpose rather than entertainment. For example: A person using soft background music to help them focus while working or studying. Someone who cannot fall asleep without relaxing music. A person who requires rhythmic music for exercise or therapy. In such cases, some authorities are lenient, especially before Rosh Hodesh Ab. Still, one should try to use instrumental or neutral tracks and avoid upbeat or joyous songs. Is Singing Without Instruments Permitted? Yes. Singing without instruments is generally permitted throughout the Three Weeks, including the Nine Days. However, one should refrain from overly joyous or festive singing. This is especially true during learning or prayer, where singing a Pasuk or Zemirot is part of the experience. Even singing Shabbat Zemirot at home is encouraged as part of Oneg Shabbat. Music at a Se'udat Misva At a Se'udat Misva—such as a Brit Mila, Pidyon Haben, Siyum Masechet, or Sheva Berachot—some authorities permit live or recorded music, even during the Three Weeks. The joy is centered around the Misva, and therefore the usual mourning restrictions are eased. Still, many avoid music during the Nine Days (Rosh Hodesh Ab through Tisha B'Ab) even at a Se'udat Misva unless absolutely necessary. Summary Music is generally avoided during the Three Weeks as part of mourning the Hurban (destruction of the Bet HaMikdash). The restriction includes both live and recorded music. Leniency exists for functional uses (focus, sleep, exercise), especially before Rosh Hodesh Ab. Singing without instruments is permitted, particularly for prayer or learning. Music at a Se'udat Misva may be allowed but should be avoided during the Nine Days unless warranted.
The Torah tells us in this week's parashah, Chukat, that the nation of Kena'an waged war against Bnei Yisrael. Rashi explains that they weren't actually Kena'anim, but Amalekim who disguised themselves as Kena'anim. Their goal was that when the Jews would pray to Hashem to save them from Kena'an, their prayers would go unanswered—because in reality, the attackers were Amalek. The next pasuk says that the Jews made a neder: if Hashem would help them succeed in the war, they would donate all the spoils to Him. And indeed, the next pasuk states: וַיִּשְׁמַע ה׳ בְּקוֹל יִשְׂרָאֵל וַיִּתֵּן אֶת־הַכְּנַעֲנִי וַיַּחֲרֵם אֶתְהֶם וְאֶת־עָרֵיהֶם וַיִּקְרָא שֵׁם־הַמָּקוֹם חָרְמָה Hashem heard their voice, gave them victory, and they fulfilled their promise by dedicating everything to Him. We find a similar idea with Yaakov Avinu when he fled from Esav. He made vows to Hashem in the merit of being protected. Although in general Chazal discourage making nederim, they allow it in times of distress. The Gemara in Masechet Eruvin (64a) learns from the vow the Jews made regarding their war against Amalek the tremendous power of using one's money for mitzvot in order to receive Hashem's extra mercy. The Gemara explains that if a convert passes away without any heirs, his possessions become ownerless. If someone acquires them and suddenly becomes wealthy, that wealth is at risk due to ayin hara. But if he uses part of it for a mitzvah, like buying a sefer Torah, the mitzvah protects the rest of the wealth. Another opinion says this also applies to someone who marries a woman who brings a large dowry into the marriage; he should use part of that money for mitzvot to guard it. A third opinion adds that even someone who profits handsomely from a business deal should invest part of the earnings in mitzvot to protect the rest from ayin hara. A final opinion mentions a sofer who writes tefillin. Rashi explains that even buying tefillin helps guard the wealth. However, the Maharsha explains differently: even a sofer who doesn't make much must use part of his earnings for mitzvot. Why? Although he may not have ayin hara on him, he might think his parnasah is coming from his skill and beautiful handwriting, forgetting that Hashem is the One giving him success. That attitude— כֹּחִי וְעֹצֶם יָדִי עָשָׂה לִי אֶת הַחַיִל הַזֶּה —can itself be a danger. To counter that, he must give some of his earnings to Hashem to express true recognition that He is providing. The Maharsha explains this is why the Gemara uses the case of Bnei Yisrael's war with Amalek as a proof rather than Yaakov's flight from Esav. In war, they could have believed it was their own strength that brought the victory. But they showed they knew it came from Hashem by pledging everything to Him. And this is why the Pasuk uses the words אם נתן תתן regarding the Jewish people's vow. Meaning אם נתן -if it will look like things are happening on their own in the natural way of the world, then please Hashem, תתן - we want to recognize that you are the One giving us the victory. The Me'iri writes similarly: people with yirat shamayim constantly reflect that their success comes only from Hashem. That awareness makes them enthusiastic to use what they have in Hashem's service. May we always remember that all we have and achieve is from Hashem, and may our recognition fill us with sincere hakarat ha-tov that drives us to give back with open hearts. Shabbat Shalom.