Podcasts about Nine days

In our next series, we will examine the laws of The Three Weeks.  May our learning be a merit for our brave soldiers in the IDF, and for full healing for our brothers and sisters in Israel. In our next lesson we continue to discuss eating meat and drinking wine at a Seudat Mitzvah during the Nine Days. Our learning is dedicated L'Iluy Nishmat Captain Daniel Perez HY"D who was killed in battle on October 7th, 2023.

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In this episode, John Hampson makes his return to the show to discuss the writing and recording of the hit 2000 single from Nine Days, “If I Am.” Though the song didn't hit the massive mainstream heights of “Absolutely (Story of a Girl),” it was a successful follow-up single that remains a fan favorite to this day. Written from real-life relationship experience, the song is earnest, heartfelt, and still resonates decades later, as the muse for the lyrics is now John's wife.  Chris DeMakes A Podcast is brought to you by DistroKid, the ultimate partner for taking your music to the next level. Get 30% off your first YEAR with DistroKid by signing up at ⁠http://distrokid.com/vip/demakes For bonus episode of The After Party podcast, an extensive back catalog of past After Party episodes, early ad-free releases of new episodes of Chris DeMakes A Podcast, full video versions of episodes, and MUCH more, head to the Patreon at ⁠http://www.ChrisDeMakes.com Follow Chris DeMakes A Podcast on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/chrisdemakesapodcast/⁠ Join the Chris DeMakes A Podcast community on Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/2643961642526928/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Between The Lines, Chelle and Leanne chat with acclaimed Australian author Toni Jordan about her powerful new novel Tenderfoot. Set in Brisbane in 1975, Tenderfoot follows Andie Tanner, a serious and determined young girl whose world revolves around her father and the racing greyhounds they keep beneath their home. Andie dreams of becoming a greyhound trainer herself, imagining a future built around the dogs and family she loves. But life quickly becomes far more complicated than she expected. When Andie loses the stability and people she depends on, she's forced to navigate a world shaped by secrets, addiction, grief and survival — all while trying to hold onto a sense of who she is and what kind of future might still be possible. In our conversation with Toni, we discuss: Writing coming-of-age stories shaped by hardship and resilience Capturing Brisbane in the 1970s The role of greyhound racing culture in the novel Creating young protagonists with strength and emotional depth Family complexity, addiction and survival Why Andie's voice feels so authentic and compelling This is a moving and beautifully observed novel about growing up too quickly, learning who to trust, and finding a way forward when life doesn't unfold as expected. If you enjoy character-driven historical fiction with emotional depth and richly drawn Australian settings, this episode is for you. About the Book Tenderfoot is a coming-of-age novel set in 1970s Brisbane following Andie Tanner, a young girl whose life centres around her father and their racing greyhounds. When tragedy and instability shatter the world she knows, Andie must navigate a far more difficult reality shaped by secrets, addiction and survival while trying to reclaim her future. About the Author Toni Jordan is the bestselling author of Addition, Nine Days, Dinner with the Schnabels and Prettier if She Smiled More. Her novels are known for their emotional insight, memorable characters and distinctly Australian storytelling. Toni lives in Melbourne and Tenderfoot is her eighth novel. Join Our Book-Loving Community Chelle and Leanne created Between The Lines because they love books and great conversations — and wanted to share both with you.

By Eric Mohr - Today we want to remind ourselves of two Pentecost narratives that a few biblical authors recount in some detail. What does the Bible have to say about any parallels between the Israelites' 50 days to Pentecost at the base of Mt. Sinai, and Christ's many disciples' 50-day wait for Pentecost in

Big things are on the horizon for Betsy! A book deal, a beach move, a birthday. Tune in to this Q & A to get to know the woman behind The Art of Living Big and The Navigate Method. With lots of laughs and a few tears, this one is a great one to watch or listen to. Check out the video version on YouTube. Transcript:  Welcome to The Art of Living Big, where we explore how to live intentionally and with more joy. I’m Betsy Pake, your host, master, coach, and creator of the Navigate Method. Here to help you listen in to your true desires, elevate your standards, and live life to the fullest. Now, let’s go live big  All right, I’m excited. I’m excited to do this. I’m excited, and Feels very official. actually am, um, nervous, which is weird, ’cause I d- I mean, I’ve had this podcast for how long? Like 10 years. But I’m nervous, because I feel like we’re not… Yeah, we’re not just ask- can’t believe I’m not nervous, but I’m just excited for it. All right, I’m excited too. Okay, so let’s tell everybody who you are that’s listening. So I’m, I’m Joy, and I am Betsy’s ops person, um, her virtual assistant, go-to person hopefully. And, uh, I Yeah. job. It’s been an honor and a privilege to work for someone so innovative and caring and, , I , I can’t say enough good things about Navigate. I’m an No. member myself. I am Yeah. be working for you now years later after I completed the program. But, , I love my job. Yeah. Oh, that makes me happy. And now you can add podcast host Yeah, a resume. I don’t know about that. We’ll see. So this episode is gonna be a little different than typical. My birthday’s next week, which I wanna say, like, I don’t care, whatever, but I do. I think I do kinda care. I think I’ve always tried to not care, but I think it’s kind of fun that my birthday’s next week. , I’ll be 55, and my birthday is on 5/15, and I feel like the numbers are all, like… I feel like it’s kinda magical, and I don’t know why. I’m not, , a numerology buff or anything , but , it just feels like 55 and then this. So I’m excited to kinda do this. And so I thought what we would do is, , we asked on Instagram just for, , questions of what people had. ready. Yeah, and you’ve got them ready. Okay, and then you had some other ones of your s- your own that I don’t necessarily know all of them, , so yeah. So we’ll… we can just dive in and see where the conversation takes us. I know. I’m excited. Okay. So also I wanna say about 5:15, that’s a special number for you, isn’t it? Yeah, well, uh, uh, I think because it’s my birthday, I always am looking for 5:15. Like, I’m always… I think it’s, like, a message from my mom. I do too, because we post your podcast at 5:15. Yeah. Yes, that’s right, yeah. We post it at 5:15 a- on Thursday mornings. Yeah, yeah. That’s, I like it, and I feel like it feels balanced and also, , I know this is a weird thing, but like 5-1-5, it feels balanced, and it feels like the one is, uh… It’s not a hyphen, but a what would go this way? Do you know what I mean? Up and down. So it feels like 5-5, which feels like a mirroring and- Like, , it’s not infinity, it’s not an eight, but it feels like that to me. Like, kind of chaotic, but also measured, you know? So anyway, I love the 515, yeah. Yeah, I, I like numbers too, but I’m a, I’m an even number person. Yeah. pump gas without ending on an even number. It’s so weird. Oh, really? Yeah. I know it’s weird. I love that. It is weird. So But thanks. love that ’cause it’s weird. Are you ready for your first question? Okay. Yeah, I think so. Okay. ., So this is a question that kind of encompasses everything that you do, so it’s a good starting point, I feel like. Okay. you help women decide whether to stay or leave, and you left. , So looking back, was there a single moment that you knew, or was it a slow build that you only saw clearer in the rearview mirror? Oh, okay. That’s a really good question. I’m so scared right now. Okay. So here’s what I think to answer this question. I wanna, like, zoom way, way out, and I’m gonna start with, like I’m gonna s- I’m gonna start, like, when I’m a kid, and you’re gonna be like, “Oh my God. Is she gonna tell her whole life story?” But for those of you that are listening that are fairly new, so I believe that we are always doing things, our actions are coming from a place of trying to keep us safe. Like, emotionally safe or physically safe, right? And so even if we’re doing things sometimes that is clear that that’s not helpful, it’s because our brains think that it’s keeping us safe, and part of the reason it thinks it’s keeping us safe is ’cause we’re alive, and it’s our, our unconscious mind’s prime directive is to keep us alive. So whatever we’re doing is hypothetically working ’cause you’re alive, okay? So when I was in high school, my mom died in a car accident, and pretty soon after that my dad got remarried. Now, he was married to my mom and, , f- by all accounts was happy enough, you know? And then he started dating somebody, I would say within, , eight or nine months of my mom dying, and then they got married very quickly. It wasn’t, , the best relationship. They’re all still alive, so I wanna be careful of how I speak about it. But it wasn’t… I, I, I was se- 17 by the time they got married, and it wasn’t a safe relationship for me, and so I think I did a lot of accommodating to- Feel safe. So I would get in trouble for a lot of things, and I had never been a kid that ever got in trouble. Do you know what I mean? , My, my mother was always so, so kind and , respectful of my sister and I. So that whole relationship, I think, really changed the dynamic of how I experienced relationships. And I think I was pretty, like when we think about attachment theory, like I think I was securely attached and then became anxious after my mom died in that whole experience. Okay. So now, when the question is, like, when you got d- divorced, was it all at once or was it a, a, you know, slow burn? I wanna say… I- I’m gonna tell you my journey of … Joy’s like, “This is a longer answer than I expected.” But the, , the jour- the journey of, of… Let me tell you why I am so chic. Because I have been married several times. And so to answer that question I’m like, “Well, which time?” Okay. When I was in college, I got married right after college, and, I got divorced very quickly. … We didn’t have kids. Like, there was no… And so I know that that was a marriage. We had a wedding. It… But in my brain it doesn’t feel like one. It feels like such a blip, and I was so young, and honestly, I was coming right off the heels of my mom dying, like five years before or something. Do you know what I mean? , It all feels very blurry. And so then years later I met my son’s dad, and that was my second marriage, but felt like my first. It operated like my first. And more importantly, my third marriage operated like my second. I sound very chic, Joy. I’m very chic. Um, so my first marriage, I think I, I, I… What I have found in my relationships in general, marriages or otherwise, is that I have chosen people that I could try and heal that relationship with my dad. Like, I’m gonna tell you something’s wrong, and you’re gonna ignore me and tell me I’m misreading it, which is what happened when I was young. And so I would find people unconsciously that I could play that out because that felt safe, because that was so familiar, right? And so I, I think that I did that with my first marriage, and I was not mature enough to recognize that there was something going on within me. And then I got divorced when my son, m- and I have a trans son, so when my son was four. And then again, you know, replayed stuff. Had some terrible relationships in between all of that. And then married my last, my last and final. I will never get the government involved ever again. So my, my most recent marriage, and that was a marriage that lasted… We were married for 12 years. We were together, like, 15 years. And I think I was playing the same exact thing out, but the difference this time, and what I teach inside the Navigate method, is that we can trust ourselves, right? That we can find the, our side of the street and heal our side of the street. That we can use the relationship as a mirror to figure ourselves out so much deep, much deeper. And so I think I knew almost immediately that my marriage wasn’t good, and for a lot of circumstances, I stayed for a long time. I think I didn’t wanna fail again. I think my , r- you know, relationship with my, then my daughter at that time was complicated, ’cause she was getting sick as a teenager, and there was just a lot of things going on where, , it didn’t… I couldn’t leave. And I say I couldn’t. I had options, but, , I, I didn’t feel like I could leave, and I didn’t want to. I wanted desperately for it to be good. And what I realize now is that going through that whole process and actually using it to heal myself, and now I would say I’m absolutely securely attached, earned secure, because I earned it back. But that relationship, although, , one of the most heinous in my life I think, I’m the most grateful for it. It changed me in such profound ways because I did the work, because I looked at it, because I paid attention and didn’t say, “I’m gonna let…”, I was like, “I’m not letting…” This is, it, to me, and I’m gonna say this too as we continue this conversation, in my relationships, any of them, I’m not the only one in them. And so, you know, if you brought my former husband, any of select one, any of the many former husbands, like they may have a totally different story, and it doesn’t mean they’re wrong. It just means that’s our versions, and there’s a truth in there somewhere in the middle, right? But to me, I’m like, that relationship was so profoundly, , harmful to me that it forced me into change, and for that I am incredibly, incredibly grateful. So to answer the question, it didn’t happen all at once, but the clarity of, oh, I’m healed enough to do this on my own, I get it, sort of unraveled within, , I would say, like, the last six or eight months. If that makes sense. That is a very answer to that question. sense. and you needed the backstory to, to complete that, Yeah. Yeah. that. Yeah, yeah. Okay, Okay. question. Okay. It’s okay, it’s okay. Okay. What’s something that you believed about your own marriage right up until the end that turned out not to be true? Oh, question. God, that’s a good question. Is that one of yours, or is that one that we got in? That’s one that was the myth. What is some… Say it again, something that’s true What is was true. about your own marriage right up until the end that turned out not to be true? That’s… That there was something I could have done to save it. I don’t think there was anything I could have done. I think lots of times we try and make sense of things, and we’re like, “If I could have done this better,” or, “Maybe if I had just learned how to cook dinner better,” or I had… Do you know what I mean? Like, we think of all the things, and now I recognize that what was happening, just like for him, none of what I was doing had to do with him. It was, had to do with this old story. The same thing for him. What he was doing and how he was responding and how he was interacting with me had nothing to do with me, and there was nothing I could have done, and I think that actually brings me a lot of peace. But it, uh, it took me a,, a long while, even after we were divorced, for me to get to that. Yeah. good answer. I think, I think that’s probably a common answer because as women, I think we feel like we maybe could try this, maybe we could try this, Yeah. and, and maybe there’s nothing else and I, yeah, and I think, not to interrupt you, I’m sorry. , That’s why we go to couples counseling, and I don’t have anything against couples counseling. But I think that what happens is we go, and then we talk about problems that have happened, and you’re talking about the problem, but the problem actually isn’t the issue. It’s the reasons that you got to the problem. So if everybody would just go their own way and figure out their own crap, you, y- you wouldn’t have to, like, rehash a situation for two months, you know? Like, I, I could have rehashed so many different situations, and we never, ever, ever… It’s clear we never could have come to a conclusion ’cause it was our own crap we were bringing in. I, I was responding to stuff because of me and who I was, and he was responding s- to stuff because of him. Yes, absolutely. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Okay. It’s okay. It’s okay, Bessie. you’re great. You’re doing really good. I know. I don’t know. Okay, people assume the woman who teaches this work has it all figured out. Mm-hmm. ending are you still making sense of? Oh, I think one of the biggest things, and I think if people follow me for a long time, I think they understand that I often will even say, people, like, “I’m on this path with you. I don’t think we ever have it all figured out.” And I think one of the biggest mistakes I could ever make as a leader or as a coach would be to make people feel like I had it all figured out. ‘Cause I never want anybody to, um, need me forever. Like I always say to my clients, “I want you to want me forever, but I don’t want you to need me. I want you to have your own tools and your own ways of thinking so I, I’ll never have it all figured out, and I think there’s always things to uncover. One of the things that I think I do really well is I will sit and think about stuff, and I won’t… Or I, I say I won’t. It’s not that I never, but I try. I do, not avoid hard thoughts. I make room for hard thoughts. And so as I come up against things I haven’t had, don’t have figured out, there’s always new things to uncover and I will figure them out. If that makes sense. So I know I’m not necessarily answering the question, but it’s just, like I don’t have the, to let, make a list of all the things I don’t have figured out. It’s everything. You know? Like there’s so much, ’cause I am not one that, that pushes the idea that I do. I think that’s– I mean, because we’re always evolving and, and changing and figuring stuff out as we Yeah. And you question, but… yeah, and you know sometimes when I get really overwhelmed, uh, with work, and then I’ll say like, “I’m just gonna go sit,” and you’re always like, you’re good at “What the…” Yeah, and you’re like, “What the hell? What the heck?” I’m like, “I’m just gonna go sit and just be quiet for 15 minutes and see what happens.” normal.” Yeah. “Let me do 800 things that Yeah, you always tell me. Yeah, I love it. Okay, so this is about your birthday. Oh, okay. um, okay. So you’re about to turn 55. Mm-hmm. that you thought you would have figured out by now that you haven’t, have you made peace with that? I think I thought I would- grow up and have, like, a family and, like, the father of the bride house and the white picket fence and a husband that adored me. I’ve never ever, ever, I’ve never ever had anybody in my life that adored me. I think I thought I would, have, uh probably more kids than just one. I think, you know what I mean? I think there was, I, I think there’s so much of my life that isn’t what I thought it was gonna be and I think it’s because what I thought it was gonna be was created before my mom died and when she died it, like, scrambled eggs, you know what I mean? And, and I really like where I ended up right now, you know? So I think it’s not… Martin adores you. Dean Martin does adore me but only See? wants to. He’s ve- he’s al- he’s taught me more about consent. Like, consent is, is a, a subject that comes up sometimes in the Navigate group, right? Like with your husband, like, you know, if he wants sex and I don’t want sex and how, can I say no and all of those things. I swear to God I learned more about consent from my freaking cat. Like, it makes sense. , You have to ask permission to grab at somebody. So yeah. Okay. Um, let’s see. Oh, I love this question. I love this question. , What is a pattern that you see in almost every woman who comes to you that she swears does not apply to her? . I know what it is and I’m just trying to formulate it. Um, I think, well, I think first of all every woman thinks that their husband’s behavior is their fault. Like if they could do something different then things could be different and I think that they take a lot of ownership of his behavior instead of letting him own it and that becomes really heavy. And you think that Yeah, I think- that at the time? Yeah. Yeah. I think they don’t realize it and then I think as we move through the program then they start to recognize it but I don’t think it’s just like if you’re listening and you’re like, “Oh yeah,” I think that’s not a thing you can just hear and go, “Oh okay.” I think you have to, like, internalize it and I think going through the program helps you, like, viscerally understand that and I think that’s like the shift, a big shift that happens for people Mm-hmm. Because, yeah, maintaining somebody else’s life is impossible. Okay, this is another question that pertains to the work you do in Navigate. , So you’ve been clear that you don’t push women towards staying or leaving Mm-hmm. the Navigate program. Um, has that ever cost you a client that you’d wish you’d been more direct with? Like where I wish they had left or I wish they had stayed? I know, I know personally, I can tell you that as a, a former Navigate person, hearing some of the stories, sometimes, you know, part of you, the girlfriend side of you wants to be like, you gotta get out of there.” Yeah. you, you’re very good about not, , Yeah. that on anyone and letting them arrive at those decisions themselves. So I guess, that is the question. — Has it ever cost you a client that you’ve y- you would– were more direct with? yeah. I, I’m gonna say no, and the reason that I’m gonna say no is because it’s not that I think, “Oh, they should leave,” but I left, and then I went back, and then I had to leave again a couple years later, which we can talk about that. But, like, that process was so important for me that I need people to have their own process because that’s the only way we trust ourselves. And part of this program is, is getting women to a place where they know themselves so deeply, and if I’m putting any pressure on any of that, then that whole foundation crumbles. Mm-hmm. is there part of me that’s like, “Give me his phone number”? Yeah, and sometimes I’ll say that. Do you know what I mean? Like, ’cause there is the girlfriend side of you that’s like, “Girl. Oh my God.” But, but also, , the overarching goal and purpose, and I… , and again, I’m gonna go back to, like, when I said I was so grateful for my former husband this last relationship because I feel like this is my purpose. This is why I’m here on this planet, and I never, ever, ever could have got here if I hadn’t had that relationship. Oh my God, I’m so grateful for that relationship. But that’s how come I know not to push anybody anywhere. Mm-hmm. Yeah. good answer. this is kind of a piggyback question,, what is a piece of your own advice that you’ve struggled to take? A piece of my own advice I struggle to take I, I’m gonna say this.  I don’t typically give advice unless I’ve lived it. I think that one of the things that anyone that’s worked with me would say is that I will say, I’ll even say, like, “Hey, I’m open to being wrong. You decide what feels right to you.” And even in my personal relationships, I’ll say, “I’m open to being wrong,” ’cause I’m open to learning. I’m really open to learning and seeing things in a different way. I love when I can see things in a different way., I think in my… If I were to say, is there something that, advice I should take, it’s just that I can’t control everything. Like, I, uh,, you know, we all have that desire to want to have some sense of control of the world and the universe, and you just can’t. You can’t make people do what you wanna, want them to do. You can only invite. You know, the you can’t lead a horse to water. It’s the same with me, I guess.  Like, I can know the things, and there’s gonna be days where I’m, I bypass myself just because I’m human. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Good. Okay, let’s see. Hmm. Okay. You live alone. What does a hard night actually look like for you, and what do you do? A hard night. So, Is there any hard nights alone? yeah, I mean, I think, yeah, I know, right? There’s been some debate on Instagram on any of my posts where I say I’m not lonely. I don’t get lonely. I get bored. I don’t get lonely. And so now I’m gonna say something, and I’m open to being wrong if this w- people were to label this as lonely. But one of the things that I found is that I had limited friendships when I was married, and those friendships- Sort of disintegrated, and I had to create all new friendships. And I think I had hard nights in the beginning in that that was really confusing to me. Nothing happened. I, I still w- I wouldn’t be shocked if somebody reached out to me and said, “Oh my God, I haven’t talked to you in so long. You wanna go get a coffee?” ‘Cause nothing happened, but there was just a shift, and I think there was an energetic shift to me, and that felt confusing because I… Nothing had happened. So, so there were nights, especially in the beginning, I think, where it was more like confusing of like, “How do I make friends? Like, what did I do? Why w- at this, , vulnerable moment did the people that were in my life disappear?” And I think there’s, again, it had nothing to do with me. And so, um, I think the hard nights were just that like, “How do I rebuild my life?” And kind of figuring that out. That makes And then the… And there’s ice cream for nights like that. But I think most of the time, like, I have pretty good nights. , I have my routines, you know? I, I work, and then I make dinner, and then I sit on the couch, and I like to watch YouTube videos. I, I have YouTube, like the subscription, so I don’t have commercials. And I love going down the rabbit hole of documentaries, and I watch all a bunch of stuff about the Gilded Age, and I’m into, like, uh, uh, you know, how they run stuff. Like, I watched this documentary the other day on how they run the Atlanta airport. It’s so fascinating. How they run cruise ships., So I, I’m into stuff, and I’m interested and curious. And then when I get tired, I get in bed, and you know, people have heard me talk about my evening routine with the bed. But like, I get in my BedJet heated up bed and crick it away while I read or watch TV. , .. and I have a lot of friends that I message with. , We use Voxer, and you and I use Voxer. But , we message about stuff all the time. Like, you’re having a glass of wine and you’re like say- You know, like, there’s a lot of interaction that I have with people now that’s friends that live all over., It does take up time and, and space in a good way.. And that is the part that’s like I’m never really lonely, ’cause I have all these structures around me that if I w- want somebody, I could just reach out. But I think in the beginning it was that, like, reorienting and how do I recreate my life. Mm-hmm. Well, I think every woman too that, , is watching will, feel like, you know, when they’re alone or their husband’s out of town, it’s almost like a Yeah, really. Yeah. cool. Yeah, yeah. I got a message from a friend the other day, um, and she reached out to me a couple months ago, and I hadn’t heard from her, like, in years. And I was talking to her, she lives in New York, and I was talking to her a lot on Voxer when we met, and,, she’s a business owner, too, and you know what I mean, we commiserated on all that stuff. Uh, and it was when I was living with my husband. We were married at the time. And anyway, the other day we were messaging and she said, “You know, Betsy, you need to go back and listen to your voice in the messages that you would leave me back in like 2023, 2024,” early 2024. She’s like, “You sound like a completely different person, like it doesn’t even sound like you.” And I was like, “Really? That’s so weird.” And she was like, “Yeah, like you’re… The joy, you’re way more excited, like you sound alive.” And she kept saying, “Go back and listen. Go back and listen.” So I scrolled back and I saw, like the last time we had messaged, like 2023, I think it was, October, and I couldn’t listen. I just was like, “I don’t wanna revisit her.” Like I, I looked at the message for a long time. I could see it, you know? And I just couldn’t hit play. I was like, “I’m just gonna let her rest,” you know? Yeah. It was interesting. Yeah, that’s interesting and, and profound really. It’s Yeah, yeah. like you’ve moved on from that person all the way. Yeah, yeah. And I just didn’t wanna like… It felt like digging up a grave, you know? It felt like, like a, I don’t know, like a betrayal. Like just let her be. So yeah, it was kinda interesting. Okay, this, this one may be a long answer, so Oh. ready? Need opposed to the other ones where I feel like I’ve talked. Okay. Okay. Okay, so, um- Tell us the moment that you realized it was time to leave in your marriage, your Yeah. Um, I think that in my marriage, I was very depleted, and I think I tried really hard. When I look back, and I don’t recognize this as much now, but I remember at the time, and even maybe like a year after I lived in my own apartment, if someone said, “Describe your marriage, give me one word-” It would have been frustrating and, like, frustrating. Like, it was very frustrating. It probably was for him, too. So again, I’m just gonna reiterate that this isn’t anything… This isn’t about him. This is about me. It was very frustrating, and I think that I had a moment when I… I’m gonna say something very strange, I think., I hired somebody to hypnotize me because some of the feedback that I would get online felt really crushing in a weird way, and people would comment on my clothes or my big glasses or whatever, but it felt very deeply injured me. And I was like, “What is that?” Now, if I had been in, , an incredible relationship where I felt, , supported and loved, like, maybe it wouldn’t have, but it did. And it got to the point where I remember one day I was laying on the floor in my home office, and I was like, “I don’t know if I can keep doing this.” Now, I started the Navigate method when I was still married, so that’s something we can talk about. But I, I was laying on the floor, and I was like, “I don’t know if I can do this anymore.” Like, this feels like such important work to me, but I… And was given to me, which we can talk about that. And so, “But I don’t know if I can do it.” And so a friend of mine was like, “You need to hire this guy, Joseph Cloth.” He and I were in a coaching group together, and she was like, “You should hire Joseph.” And I was like, “Oh yeah, I should.” So I reached out. It, it wasn’t cheap. I mean, it was thousands and thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars to be hypnotized so that I could get rid of feeling awful when people commented. But we had to get to, like, the root cause, and the root cause was I am bad. Now, if somebody said to me, like, “What do you think is the root cause of your…” I would never, ever, ever had said I am bad. So he had me do this whole exercise. It took me, like, two weeks of, like, crying all night. Like, like I really sat with it. Like, what is this? And I… And, and I think because I’m a coach, I could get to, like, this deep, deep, deep root. And go back to the first story I told you. When, after my mom died and my dad started dating somebody, and when they got married, I would tell him, “This isn’t… This doesn’t feel right. Like, the things that are being said to me feel terrible. I… This isn’t good.” And he would say, “You’re misunderstanding. It- you’re wrong.” You’re misinterpreting that and, you know, stop trying to mess up my life. And I think I internalized that to, like, don’t trust yourself. You can’t rely on your own feelings. They’re not right. And, you know, uh, y- y- you’re bad. And so w- he hypnotized me, and I came out of that hypnosis with clarity, like, “Oh, I’m not bad.” And I… That means that I deserve good things and good people around me that love me. And, uh, and I, and, and it shifted. I n- I, I don’t g- give a rat’s ass about what anybody says online in the weirdest way. In fact, I love it. I’m like, “Well, that making you feel something, and that’s good.” You know? Um, but I think that was a big part in my shift of, like, what is it that I deserve? And that’s something that we work on in the Navigate method. Like, what is it that I deserve? Is it true that this is what I deserve? You know? And, and I’m gonna keep saying this just because I feel like it’s so important, my former husband deserved different than he had with me. It wasn’t the right match. Do y- do you know what I mean? And so, um, when I got that, I think that was a huge piece of my clarity. But again, it’s layers. You know what I mean? Like, you gotta, like, do the work and look at the stuff and, like, unpack it all. That’s good. Yeah. I have not yet been hypnotized. That’s why I wore my non-black glasses today because can’t handle the negativity. I think it’s funny. And then it’s funny ’cause people will be like, “I hate your glasses. I love your glasses.” And then sometimes they’re like, “Why do you dress in such big clothes?” That’s a big one I get. “Why are you dressed in such baggy clothes? You’re so little. Why are you in such big clothes?” I’m like, “‘Cause I don’t want you looking at my body.” how people feel like they can say whatever they wanna say. It’s so terrible. Like, It’s funny ’cause they, I don’t think they’d say it in real life, you know? But- they probably don’t. It’s all Yeah a screen and on a keyboard. Keyboard it, it makes it way more obvious if somebody loves my glasses and says, “Where’d you get those?” And somebody hates them, then it’s not the glasses. It’s the person that’s viewing the glasses. so true. Yes. So I just go, “Oh, whatever. I ain’t bad.” I actually was like, “Let me do these today,” because Yeah. no one will say, “Why sh- why are they both wearing black glasses?” Wait. Hey, I know. Freaking damn big g- black glasses, yeah. That one’s funny okay. Um, okay, so… Oh, okay, so you’ve… This is kind of an all-encompassing. So you’ve built a business, a podcast, a method, a book deal. Yeah. is the thing that you’re quietly most proud of that no one knows about? Um, so I will say, let’s see. And the book, let’s just comment on the book ’cause someone will be like, “She has a book?” Years ago, years and years ago, I wrote a book, but this isn’t the book that we’re talking about now. So we’re in the process of writing a book. I have an agent, and we’re writing a book., And we’ll know more about that around Christmastime, but it’ll be out next year. , So what is the thing that I’m most proud of that nobody knows about? Mm-hmm. I think my ability to be open to new ideas. I got divorced from my second husband, ’cause I’m very chic. Just a reminder, I’m very chic and I’m not afraid of change. , But I got divorced, you know, from my son’s dad, and we remained really good friends. And years and years later, I asked Oliver, I said, “Have you ever heard me say anything bad about Dad?” And he said, “No. Why would you?” And that made me so proud, because he was like, “Why would you say anything bad?” ‘Cause he had never, ever heard me say anything bad. And you know what? I love his dad. I love his dad. His dad is part of him, and I’m really proud of the relationship that we have. Is it perfect? No. Do I wish parts of it were different, especially over the past few years? Yeah, absolutely. But we have really been good partners and good co-parents in the best way that we could, and I think that’s because, uh, of him as well as because I am open and not afraid of being wrong. And when I say wrong, like, I’m not afraid of, of being like, “Okay, maybe that wasn’t right. Maybe I didn’t handle that right. Maybe I c- … I’m open to hearing other people’s experience of me and taking that into account and apologizing where I need to.” So I’ve always been really proud of that. When Oliver was little, we did holidays together with his wife, and then I’ve I mean, his kids have been to my house. Like, we’ve maintained a, a f- really friendly relationship, which I’m always been really grateful for. That’s awesome. Yeah. It’s awesome for Oliver. Yes. uh, something that’s just, uh, you Yeah stress away from the child of any Yeah. whether married or, or, you know, going through a divorce or a separation, just to take that away, that stress away from the, child in that Yeah. is awesome, so… we still have every Friday, every Friday at 3:00 we have a family meeting. Now Oliver is 24, but he’s got some challenges. And so every Friday we meet and talk with him, see how his week has been, where he struggled, where we can support him. And so, you know, that’s always been like a team effort. So I think that that’s like just an important piece of my whole journey, you know? Awesome. Okay, let’s see where we’re at. , Oh, this is probably my favorite question. It’s one of the– my favorite. So I have a,, I have a question that has nothing to do with Navigate Okay. Okay. Okay. that you wish someone would ask that they never ask? , What is something I could go… I should’ve… I, you mentioned this, this question to me earlier and I thought, “Oh, how would I answer that?” And I still don’t know. I wish they would ask that they never ask. it and come back to it? Well, you know, one thing I’ll say is I think, and this goes back to one of the earlier questions, is that I think lots of times people think, and I’m not gonna be answering the question exactly, but a roundabout way. I think lots of times people think, “Well, Betsy’s fine,” because I present as fine. And I think just I’m a human like anybody else, and I think there have been challenges. I know when I moved into my apartment, I had a lot of challenges in my nervous system when I moved and lived alone, not because I didn’t like being alone, but because I was so used to scanning to manage other people’s emotions, that the lack of knowing if I was, I’m gonna use air quotes, “in trouble”. But again, remember like I had this thing from when I was young, it had nothing to do with my husband. So, uh, is that I, I, I didn’t know if I was in trouble ’cause I wasn’t around anybody. And so I… So I think the thing that I wish, not necessarily people would ask me, but I think that people could recognize, was that everything that I share is truly because I have done the work. Like, I have walked through it. Like, I have thought about it deeply, and I think that if, you know, if somebody were to ask me something, I think it would just be like something totally different from anything that we talk about. Do you know what I mean? , Like what do you, why do you love the ocean so much? I, I’m gonna cry. Like, why do you love the ocean so much? Like, I think … Well, that’s weird. That’s gonna make me cry, Joy. We’ll, we’ll cut that out. Um think you should cut it out. By the way, I’m I mean, your audience already knows you’re looking to move to the Yeah. proud of you for making that decision and doing that. It’s so brave of you. And, Yeah. um, you clearly, you clearly love it so much that it’s emotional for you. So I’m Yeah. for you to do that. And I think that, like, for a long time the ocean was, like … When I thought about the beach, and if people have listened to the podcast forever,, That– I, I don’t think I’ve ever seen you tear up, so I, I think Yeah. something you shouldn’t cut out because it’s real Yeah. Yeah. I, I’m so happy for you because, um, like you said the other day, you know, we were talking with, um, a group of women that, that were s- that was saying like, “Uh, just wish I could get on the other side of this. Like, I wish I could take out all of the middle ground, the hard stuff.” Yeah. you said something so profound, which was, you know, that’s going to be the stuff that makes you that next person. That– Going through that is going to yield, you know, the, the person that you’re growing to be. So sometimes you just have to go through those hard things first. It’s like getting forged, you know? It’s like pottery, is like you mold it and then you stick it in the fire, and it’s the fire that makes it so beautiful. And so yeah, I think that trying to cut out the middle or t- not trying to go through the hard stuff, I think, like you don’t have to know what it’s gonna be like to get… Like, how long is it gonna be? How bad is it gonna be? You don’t have to know. All you have to know is today. All you have to know is, like, this moment. Can I handle this moment? Okay, I’m good. I’m good. What about this moment? Okay, I’m good. Like, I think we get so far ahead of ourselves, but it’s such important work to, like, move through. And, you know, I could go into the whole woo-woo, which I love to do, , i- which is like y- you know, you were meant to come here and go through this. You were meant to, like, have this experience. And, you know, I have a belief that… And other people can believe differently, but I think,, if I hadn’t gone through this, like, thing where I, I believe leaving my former husband this last time, becoming the person that I needed to become, and then leaving, was my life’s journey. I know that sounds so weird, but, like, that was a huge part of my life’s journey, and I think, I think, I would have come back in some other reincarnation and had to do it again. And now I get to, like, graduate from it ’cause I freaking went through it, you know? And I was… And we always say in the program, with bravery and integrity. Like, how do we move forward things with bravery and integrity? And I feel like I was able to do that. Did I do everything perfect? No, but I tried really hard to be in integrity with, with… And clear, you know, in, in what I wanted. Yeah. this question. What’s Okay. favorite movie? Okay, so my favorite movie ever, when you first w- asked me this question, like when you mentioned it yesterday, I think, um, I al- I loved Elizabethtown years ago. I have ADHD. it. Yeah, it’s really good. But, but I have, like, ADHD, so, like, I don’t remem- if you told me to tell you what Elizabethtown was about, I wouldn’t be able to tell you. I, I’ll leave a m- a movie and I’ll be like, “That was so good.” And then outside the theater someone could be like, “Tell me about it,” and I’ll be like, “I don’t know, but I was entertained.” You know? So, uh, so but I will say my favorite movie ever, and I could tell you all about it, is Everything Everywhere All at Once. And when I… I’ve seen this movie like three different times. Every time I’ve seen it I wanted so badly to talk to somebody about it, like, in depth. Like, everybody in my life, I was like, “You know, you need to see that movie. Can we talk about it?” But it is a movie about the, like, the unis- universe, like collective consciousness, basically. And you get to see every piece of your life all at once as if you had made every decision differently than you did, and you, in the end, still recognize that this life matters, that this, where you ended up, was exactly right. Even with all the other metaverses in the world that could’ve happened, where you are is exactly right. And there’s also a greater story about a mother and a daughter, and it’s about her having, the mother having to see the daughter in every other universe to see all the sides of her before she could really love her in this one. And I just think it’s so profound. It’s such a good, it’s such a good movie. And, like, it’s the kind of movie you watch it once and you’re like, “What the fuck just happened to me?” And then you gotta watch it again and, like, every time I’m on a airplane I’m like, “Oh, let me see if they have it on there.” It’s so good. You know what else was a really good movie? And I’ve watched it twice, and the second time it didn’t hit the same time as the first time. But it was called, um, Nine Days, I think it was called. And it was about these souls that are auditioning to get to have a life, and they want it so bad. Oh. Oh, wow. and it’s, it makes you go, “Oh my God, I’m so lucky to be here.” Like, I’m, this is so fucking cool that I get to be here. And hard stuff. They want hard stuff. Like, they don’t just want fun, great stuff. Like, they want the hard stuff, too. Like, it is the range of emotion that is, like, the biggest gift that we have, and I think we- Try and stay so far away from anything that feels, like, uncomfortable or bad, but it’s part of the gift, ’cause when you do that, then, m- you know, like I cry thinking about going to the beach. Like, I can’t even say it because I g- had the fucking bad, and now I get to have the good, and I can’t even stand it, I’m so excited. It’s happy tears. But I think we move away from hard, and, and I see this in the program too, and I get it. Of like, I don’t wanna go through this, it’s gonna be hard. And I say like, “Let it be. What’s gonna happen on the other end?” Like, what if it ends up great? Like, I have this sign in my bathroom, and it’s in my bathroom only because, um, I see it every day, but sometimes on the internet people are like, “Why is that in your bathroom?” But it says, um, what if it’s great? What if it’s great? Like, we are really good at catastrophizing, being like, “This is terrible. My kids are gonna suffer.” Like, well, what if it’s great? What if your kids get to see you do something totally different? What if they get to see a whole new side of you? What if they get to experience you in real love or their dad having real lo- like, what if it’s great? I just, I, like, let’s spend as much time there, you know? Yep. 100%. Yeah. Yeah. So I just realized by your movies that I, um, may need to try some different movies out, ’cause I was thinking about Steel Magnolias, Parenthood, and yeah. Yeah, totally. You need to watch Everything Everywhere All at Once. Yeah. think, well, I’ve r- Is that a book? ‘Cause I think I might have read the book. Oh, I know. yeah. But it’s a movie, like Jamie Lee Curtis is in it, and it’s really good. Yeah, watch that for I sure. Yeah. Okay. Well, we’re, we’re getting to the bottom of these questions. You’ve done a great job. Uh, let’s Okay. I have one. Um, so are you open to dating? Oh, no. Why? I know, that was so fast, wasn’t it? Okay, so let’s tell the story about, like, the… Okay, so I wanna say this. I feel whole and complete, and I would w- and I, I’m gonna make sure I’m not telling myself a lie. I feel whole and complete. I don’t feel like I’m missing anybody. The idea of having somebody and finally having someone in my life that actually likes me, like, I don’t feel like I don’t, I don’t feel like I have been in relationships in the past where people even liked me. So, the idea of having somebody like me, that actually would feel really good to have somebody like me. , I think I have had to fight my own ageism and really look at that from my own perspective. When I look outside of myself, I see women in their 50s and 60s that are beautiful, and I think absolutely they deserve love. And then when I look at myself, I immediately go, “She’s too old. I’m too old. Nobody’s gonna wanna date me at 55.” Like, I’m, I have gray hair. I… Do you know what I mean? Like, I do the, a little of that. So with that said, it would have to be a… I am s- I have such a filter now. , I s- smell, like, red flags. , It would have to really be someone that’s really spectacular. If you ever hear, if anybody listening ever hears of me dating, just know that they are, like, the freaking bomb. And I have joked that I would only date somebody if they had a yacht, which was very safe here in Atlanta ’cause nobody has a yacht. But now I’m going to the beach, so I feel like my v- my v- Venn diagram of overlap could be different. So with that said, I think that, yeah, I think it would have to be somebody great. There was one day that Joy and I were talking and w- I was like, “We’re gonna… I’m gonna get on a dating app.” And I had applied for, um, Raya, which is like which is, , for celebrities basically. But I was like, “I have enough followers. I think I could get into Raya.” But I didn’t. I- they put me on a wait list. And so then I was like, “Well, it could be my age. It could also be my content.” Do you know what I mean? Like, my content is gonna fil- filter out a, a lot of guys that wouldn’t be the right match, and so I feel grateful for that. So what did I get on? , I don’t– Was it? Hinge. It I got on Hinge. Oh, okay. Yeah. I lasted 24 hours, Mm-hmm. I asked for my money back and got it. It was a I got… 24 It was a whirlwind 24 hours. I was just disgusted by every freaking question. I, the… Men tried to introduce intimacy so quickly, and I am, like, I have a super filter for that. , Oh my God, was that funny or what? oh my God. hours, but it was s- I mean, I, I’m, I don’t mean to say it was funny, but It was funny, yeah. Betsy called me, she’s like, “I’m out, I’m off of it.” Yeah. joined it.” It was like, I joined it that night, and I was like, I think I had a glass of wine, and I was like, “I’m gonna do it.” And then by the next morning, I was like, “Screw this.” And somebody asked me out, and I said yes, and I liked that they were decisive. They were like, “Meet me here.” And then when I said, “I can’t do that on a Friday at lunch. , I run a company. Like, I don’t know what you think I’m doing.” And they wanted me to drive 40 minutes to meet them for lunch at like a cafeteria. And, and, and they were like, “I don’t know. The app says it’s 20.” And so I was like, “Oh, are you calling me a freaking liar? Are you try-,” like, I… And I got in the shower, and I was angry because some man was telling me what to do or telling me who I was, and I was like, “Oh, I’m not… This isn’t for me., I’m just not there yet.” And I, I don’t, I don’t know that there’s more evolving that I have to do, but I definitely think I need to, um, I wanna say like relax a little bit, but also, no. , I sensed that as like a… There was a rhetorical pattern there, right? Of like, “You don’t know what you’re saying. I know the truth, and you can- you’re gonna do what I say,” even though he didn’t say it in that way. That’s the… , and he gave this emoji of the what? I don’t know. You know, like, huh? my God, wow. And so I just was like, “I’m not doing that. I’m not… I am not ever playing that out with somebody else,” of like, “You know better than me.” I know m- the most about my life than anybody else. Like, I know me, and, and I know that’s too far for me to drive because I do important things too, buddy. But I was so… I, I mean, you can even hear it in my voice now. , I just… So no, I’m not dating ’cause I don’t want to. like a quick answer, a quick Yeah. tell you that’s probably the right answer. I was on a podcast recently, an, an interview. It’s not live yet. But she asked me like what d- what’s dating like, and I was like, I, I, I was almost confused by the question ’cause I was like, well, I… And I was like, I, I, I don’t know. I, yeah, I j- I was like, “I don’t know.” Like, I don’t know. I don’t know. Ask somebody else, not me. I have an a- amazing life, and to fit somebody else into that life… And you know, I’m moving to the beach, and I’m going down next weekend to look for my apartment, and I decided I’m gonna rent for a little while till I figure it out. The people who have come out of the woodwork to be kind to me, to… And, and actually, when people are listening to this, I’m probably on a airplane. So have come out of the woodwork to be kind to me, to offer to bring me out. You know, my birthday, I’m gonna be there on my birthday. There’s people bringing me out on my birthday that I don’t know, that know me from the internet, you know? Um, it- that ha- offered to help me find pla- that videotaped, like- These, this is one place you’d might really like at the beach. And, , took so much time to help me. I- it was a lesson in, like, you deserve to have people be kind to you. It’s okay to let people help you. , It was a moment, you know, where I was like, “Okay, this is a lesson in, , let people love you,” you know? And so maybe I’ll get there, and this is, like, the first piece, you know? That’s awesome. I’m excited for you. And, too. you I’m excited for you to come down and visit. least expect it. I’m talking about if there’s Yeah. a, you know, Yeah. partner in your future, it will yeah. least And like, it, I think. yeah. And like I’m, I’m g- I think I, I am a great partner. Like, I think I’m a really good partner, so I just gotta find the really good partner to partner with that. , I’m not afraid to have hard conversations. I listen. I’m a- available for new ideas. I like to try new things., I will do the things you’re into, but, like, I need the reciprocal, you know? So I will wait until I find that. Also, the yacht. Awesome. Yes. Got that. Well, we’ve gone through, um, a lot of these. Yeah. And we’ve been talking for an hour, which we could talk for two hours. It’s fine. But, I know. yeah. Are we done with all the questions? There’s one more, , it’s if the podcast ended tomorrow and you never coached another woman, would you feel like you did what you came here to do? Oh, you know what’s so weird is even when you said that, I was like, “No.” Like, I, like this is such, like, my purpose. I don’t know that I’ll ever not do it. Do you know, like, sometimes I think about retiring. My sister just retired, and I’m like, “I can’t imagine not doing this.” , It’s just so much of how I think and who I am. , Okay, so wait, what’s the question? If I ever don’t do it, then If, is. To do? I came here to do. Yeah. Years ago, I had this mentor when I lived out in the suburbs, and I had this mentor in my life who, you know, would give all these examples of things he had done or worked with people on or… You know, when we were working together, he would say, like, “I had this client once who…” And I remember saying to him, like, “You’ve, uh, I can’t imagine, like, having such a big impact on everybody. , you’ve had such a big impact.” And he said, “Yeah, if I died tomorrow, I know I would have given more than I took, and that feels good to me.” I, I think that only recently, like maybe in the last year, have I started to recognize Mostly because women on the internet are so incredibly kind to me. But only recently have I started to realize how much of an impact even just the podcast has made, or those videos that I do on Instagram. A- and I wanna mention something about that. But those videos, I think, , people are so kind to tell me how much that impacted them and changed their life, and changed how they thought about themselves. And so I think I could safely say that I’ve given more than I’ve taken, and, and I don’t know that it needs to be that way. I don’t need to give more than I get. That, I’m open to that being more of both. D- does that make sense? , Mm-hmm. like, I, I am open to receiving, and I think maybe for a long time I wasn’t. We talked about this in the group the other day of like, how open are you to receive, and to receive help, and to receive? And I think that I was closed for a long time ’cause I had to be so hyper independent. But anyway, so I would say yes, I, I think I’ve done what I came here to do, and I wanna keep doing it ’cause I think there’s more. Yeah. That’s a great ending. I think you are a phenomenal asset to women. I think that watching and working with you and watching you do what you do Yeah. it’s amazing. Yeah, thank you. Thank you. I’m grateful to do it, and I’m grateful that you were able to help me today with all these questions. Yeah, we Thanks, Joy. Our first it. official podcast. May th- may there be more. Thanks so much, Joy. You’re welcome. Have a great day. Thanks for joining me on The Art of Living Big. I hope today’s episode sparked something within you, maybe pushed you to dream a little bit bigger and live a little larger. Don’t forget to subscribe. Leave us a review and share this podcast with someone you know who might need a little inspiration today. You can find me over on Instagram at Betsy Pake and on my YouTube channel. Remember, the world is vast. Your potential is endless, and your life, it’s yours to shape. Until next time, keep reaching, keep exploring, and keep living big.

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Matt just got back from nine days at Walt Disney World with his family of 7, including 2 babies, and somehow it turned out to be his favorite trip ever and his least stressful one. In this episode, we break down what actually made it work, including the room request at Saratoga Springs that changed everything and a Lightning Lane rule Disney doesn't tell anyone about. Matt walks through the full trip: driving down in a Sprinter van, a split stay between Animal Kingdom Lodge and Saratoga Springs, the Magic Kingdom day that fell apart and why leaving early was the right call, and the Animal Kingdom evening that turned into one of the best nights of the whole vacation. We also cover a current Disney Plus subscriber discount with rooms starting at $99 a night and a Savanna view at Animal Kingdom Lodge for $369, and we break down a listener question about whether to book that Savanna view room or a resort view at Boardwalk. Chapters 02:29 What Adventures by Disney actually is and why people love it 04:22 2027 reservations are open: what to book now and why 05:18 The Disney Plus subscriber summer discount and current room pricing 06:04 Room rates breakdown: All-Star Sports, Port Orleans, Art of Animation, Saratoga, Animal Kingdom Lodge 07:22 Listener question: Savannah view at Animal Kingdom Lodge vs. resort view at Boardwalk 12:44 Driving to Disney in a Sprinter van: what worked and what surprised him 17:00 Split stay recap: Animal Kingdom Lodge first night, then Saratoga Springs 18:55 Room requests at Saratoga Springs and why it was the most important decision of the trip 25:22 Knowing when to leave: the Magic Kingdom day that wasn't working 30:10 The thing families forget: characters and shows are mostly done by 5 p.m. 32:09 The Lightning Lane two-hour window Disney doesn't advertise

She was 26 years old, self-employed, literate, and by every account exceptional. Bridget Cleary was a dressmaker in rural County Tipperary who made her own money, kept her own chickens, and lived life largely on her own terms — which, in 1895 Ireland, made her unusual. It may also have made her a target. When Bridget fell ill in late February 1895, her husband Michael didn't call a doctor. He called Jack Dunne — a local man known throughout the community as an expert in fairy belief and folk cures. Dunne's diagnosis was swift and devastating: the woman in the bed was not the real Bridget Cleary. The fairies had taken her. What lay in that cottage was a changeling — a fairy impostor wearing his wife's face. What followed was nine days of escalating ritualistic abuse, witnessed and participated in by Bridget's own father, her cousins, and her neighbors. There were multiple people in that cottage on the night of March 14th, 1895. There were multiple opportunities to stop what was happening. Nobody did. Michael Cleary dragged his wife to the fireplace. He demanded she repeat her own name three times to prove she was human. She did. He didn't believe her. He held her over the flames, then seized a household oil lamp and poured the burning fuel over her body. Bridget Cleary died that night, burned beyond recognition, while the people who knew and loved her stood in the room and watched. In this episode of Hitched 2 Homicide, we tell the complete story of the burning of Bridget Cleary — from the remarkable life she lived, to the fairy belief system that made her murder possible, to the cover-up, the shallow grave near a fairy fort, and the trial at Clonmel Assizes in July 1895 that sent nine people to the dock including her husband, her father, her cousins, her neighbors, and the so-called fairy expert Jack Dunne himself. This is Irish true crime at its most haunting. It is a story about superstition and obsession, about community silence and female independence, about a woman who was too much herself in a world that couldn't handle it. And it is, ultimately, a story about what happens when the people who are supposed to protect you decide you are something other than human. Bridget Cleary was not a fairy. She was not a changeling. She was a woman. And she deserved so much better than the world she lived in. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction 05:14 Who Was Bridget Cleary? 12:06 Fairy Belief in Victorian Ireland and Types of Fairies 24:26 The Illness and Jack Dunne's Diagnosis 28:53 Nine Days of Ritualistic Abuse 41:09 The Night of March 14th, 1895 47:03 The Cover-Up and the Shallow Grave 51:00 The Arrests — Nine People in the Dock 54:50 The Trial at Clonmel Assizes 59:52 The Verdicts and Sentences 1:03:38 Bless Your Heart #BridgetCleary #IrishTrueCrime #TrueCrime #TrueCrimePodcast #Changeling #IrishHistory #FairyMurder #FolkHorror #VictorianIreland #Hitched2Homicide #MichaelCleary #JackDunne #DarkHistory #IrishFolklore #TrueCrimeCommunity Support the show JOIN THE  HITCHED 2 HOMICIDE IN-LAWS AND OUTLAWS START KRIS CALVERT'S BOOKS TODAY FOR FREE H2H WEBSITE H2H on TWITTER H2H on INSTA Send Kris and Rob a Message! sources used for this podcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Irma and Karen talk about how different platforms – Instagram, Facebook, X, Substack and author websites – help sell books (or don't!)Then Karen chats to Toni Jordan about how to successfully inject serious subjects with humour, the book to film process of Addition, why she structures her life to the nth degree but with writing is completely unstructured, how to approach writing as a business and why networking should be reframed, why being a skilled public speaker is important as a writer, how she has managed to make a living as a writer, the painful experience of having a book that didn't sell well, and how that then led to her greatest career high.About ToniToni Jordan is an award-winning, internationally best-selling author of 8 novels. Her debut novel Addition was longlisted for the Miles Franklin Award and has recently been made into a film. Her novel Nine Days was awarded Best Fiction at the 2012 Indie Awards, and Our Tiny, Useless Hearts was longlisted for the Dublin Literary Award. Toni is a physiologist who has also completed a PhD in creative writing and she lives in Melbourne.Show Notes'Social Media is Dead – Old School Marketing Tactics for Creatives' by Creative Plus Business‘Millions of Followers? For Book Sales, it's Unreliable' on the New York Times‘If you get a million views on a social media post, how many books will you sell?' on Nicola Washington's substack post about a viral Tweet about a book event that no one showed up to.Find out more about Irma and KarenVisit Irma Gold's website, or follow her on Instagram and FacebookVisit Karen Viggers' website, or follow her on Instagram and FacebookFollow Secrets From the Green Room on Instagram and Facebook

oin cornhole champion Jonah Goldberg as he asks the most important questions of our time, including: What does media bias have to do with the quadruple-amputee murderer? Did Jonah Goldberg write a 2011 book on Canadian prime ministers? Just what was so arrogant about John Rawls' liberalism? Show Notes:—GLoP Culture Podcast—Friday's Dispatch Podcast—Jonah's LA Times column—Chris Caldwell: “The End of Trumpism”—Jonah's G-File on what Trumpism looks like—Carl Trueman Remnant—Harvey Mansfield Remnant—Jonah's review of Nine Days in The Dispatch—John Rawls: A Theory of Justice—Jonah's book: Suicide of the West—Jonah on Andrew Sullivan's podcast—Jonah's Wednesday G-File—Rep. Swalwell stuttering over privatizing TSA The Remnant is a production of ⁠The Dispatch⁠, a digital media company covering politics, policy, and culture from a non-partisan, conservative perspective. To access all of The Dispatch's offerings—including access to all of Jonah's G-File newsletters—⁠click here⁠. If you'd like to remove all ads from your podcast experience, consider becoming a premium Dispatch member ⁠by clicking here⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

He survived the biggest missing persons response in recent Arizona history. He has watched the press conferences. He saw the reward announcement. He knows there is a million dollars on the table, and he knows his image has been seen across the country. He is not doing nothing. This episode is about the part of the investigation that doesn't get a press conference: what a perpetrator does behaviorally when they have been carrying this kind of secret for over a month, how the FBI tracks those behavioral changes without tipping their hand, and what is happening inside the relationships of the people close to whoever took Nancy Guthrie. Retired FBI Special Agent Jennifer Coffindaffer walks through all of it — the digital forensics trail built from pre-operational surveillance documented back to June 2025, what a million-dollar public reward does to a perpetrator's psychology, how multi-perpetrator loyalty erodes under sustained pressure, and what needs to happen in the next 30 days to keep

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Twelve-year-old Ryan “RJ” Davis is safe after disappearing for nine days in what investigators called a suspicious case that gripped Chickasha and much of rural Oklahoma--as his parents face numerous counts including child sex charges. Drew Nelson reports.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

She wasn't a pawn — Lady Jane Dudley was shaped by power, politics and purposeFor centuries she has been remembered as Lady Jane Grey: the tragic, passive “Nine Days' Queen.” - But what if that story is wrong?In this episode of History Rage, host Paul Bavill is joined by historian and author Dr Joanne Paul to rage against one of Tudor history's most persistent myths — the erasure of Lady Jane Dudley and the deliberate sidelining of the Dudley dynasty from her story.This conversation dismantles the idea of Jane as a helpless victim of ruthless men and instead reveals a highly educated, politically aware young woman who understood exactly what the Tudor succession crisis meant — and what it might cost her. Drawing on contemporary evidence, Dr Paul explores Jane's agency, intelligence and religious conviction, and explains why the Dudleys became convenient scapegoats once Mary I reclaimed the throne.As the discussion widens, the episode exposes the brutal realities of Tudor power: shifting loyalties, manufactured villainy, and the dangerous fiction of “legitimate” succession. From Edward VI's handwritten Device for the Succession to the execution of John Dudley and the astonishing rehabilitation of Robert Dudley under Elizabeth I, this is a deep dive into how dynasties rise, fall — and rise again.Crucially, this episode also restores women to the centre of the narrative. From Jane Dudley herself to Jane, Duchess of Northumberland, the Dudley women emerge as formidable political operators whose influence shaped events long after the axe fell.If you think you know the story of Lady Jane Grey, this episode will change your mind.Key themes exploredWhy “Lady Jane Grey” is a historical misnomerJane Dudley's education, intellect and political awarenessThe Dudley family's central role in the Tudor succession crisisEdward VI's intentions — and misconceptions — about successionScapegoating, propaganda and Tudor myth-makingThe power and resilience of Dudley womenRobert Dudley's improbable rise at Elizabeth I's courtWhat the Dudleys reveal about loyalty, ambition and survival in Tudor EnglandFestival Info:The Katherine of Aragon Festival Talks are on January 31st and February 1st 2026 at Peterborough Cathedral:Tickets are available at: https://peterborough-cathedral.org.uk/about/history/katharine-of-aragon/kofa_26/ About the guestDr Joanne Paul is a historian, writer and public historian specialising in Tudor politics, power and reputation. She is the author of The House of Dudley, a groundbreaking study of one of Tudor England's most misunderstood dynasties, and has consulted on major television productions including My Lady Jane.Follow & contact Dr Joanne PaulSocial Media: @drjoannepaulBook: The House of Dudley: https://uk.bookshop.org/a/10120/9781405937191About History RageHistory Rage is the podcast where historians stop being polite and start getting angry — debunking myths, challenging lazy narratives and reclaiming complexity from centuries of oversimplification.Follow History RageWebsite: https://historyrage.comPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/historyrageSocial media: @HistoryRage (all major platforms)Support the podcastJoin Patreon for live episode recordings, exclusive content and the coveted History Rage mugListen ad-free via Apple Podcasts or PatreonLeave a review — it helps more people find the showShare the rage with a friend and grow the movementIf you enjoyed this episode, you might also like:Episode 252: Dr Joanne Paul on the myth of Thomas More's martyrdom: https://pod.fo/e/34939eEpisode 171: Joanna Strong rages against the “Bloody Mary” label: https://pod.fo/e/299de6Until next time — stay angry. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Featuring Matt Anderson and Ben De Bono Kooky Christmas season is back, and this time we uncover the unsettling combination of the technological, the material, and the occult. VOTE FOR AN UPCOMING EPISODE TOPIC HERE:...

Featuring Matt Anderson and Ben De Bono Kooky Christmas season is back, and this time we uncover the unsettling combination of the technological, the material, and the occult. VOTE FOR AN UPCOMING EPISODE TOPIC HERE:...

David Freyne's new Eternity shoves a thematically rich afterlife scenario into a romcom-shaped container, resulting in an above-average example of the genre that nonetheless feels like it's only scratching the surface of its narrative potential. That leaves us with a lot of logistical questions to mull in our discussion of the film — several of which Tasha addressed in her pair of conversations with Freyne over at Polygon — and also a lot of points of contrast when we bring Hirokazu Kore-eda's After Life back in for Connections. After Life and Eternity look and feel very different as they navigate the ins and outs of their respective postmortem bureaucracies, but both are ultimately concerned with characters being forced to make a single choice that will define their afterlives, what that choice says about what truly matters, and what the things we most value say about us.  Those ideas pop up again in Your Next Picture Show, where Tasha offers an enthusiastic recommendation for the 2020 Edson Oda film Nine Days as an unofficial companion piece to After Life. Please share your thoughts about After Life, Eternity, or anything else in the world of film, by sending an email or voice memo to comments@nextpictureshow.net, or leaving a short voicemail at (773) 234-9730. Next Pairing: Josh Safdie's Marty Supreme and Robert Rossen's The Hustler Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brian Orlando is not just the morning drive co-host at Long Island's 94.3 The Shark, but a second-generation psychic who uses the energy of song to help guide others.  His powerful status connects him with not only the local community but with music legends like Corey Taylor (Slipknot), Gavin Rossdale (Bush), and Kevin Martin (Candlebox).  A unique journey that added another talent to his resume, as he is also the author of Rock and Soul Tarot.Hosts Rich DeSisto and Steve Raymond uncover how Brian leveraged authentic conversations, not just typical interviews with rockstars to create unforgettable moments on-air, including on-the-spot performances and even a live radio proposal! You'll hear how he convinced musicians to jam live in the studio, stories about partnering with stars from Anthrax to Candlebox, and his heartfelt approach to radio philanthropy.  Like organizing a 24-hour telethon for Angela's House and a star-studded mental health awareness campaign after Chris Cornell's death.Brian opens up about how music saved his life as a teen, the healing power of songs like Blondie's "Heart of Glass," Soul Asylum's "Runaway Train," and Candlebox's "Far Behind," and the parallels between tarot and rock storytelling. Discover his journey from truck driver to on-air talent, the challenges of breaking into radio, navigating rejection, and his honest reflections on personal growth, intuition, and mental health.Topping it off, Brian shares a group tarot reading for radio professionals facing transitions and offers motivational advice for creators, broadcasters, and music fans confronting change.Whether you're into radio, classic rock, tarot, or stories of resilience and reinvention, this conversation is packed with behind-the-scenes tales, learning moments, and inspiration for anyone passionate about music, broadcasting, or self-discovery.(00:00) "Brian's Selfless Journey Through Radio"(5:13) Kazoo-Talica Charity Promotion(8:49) "Unexpected Interview and Connection"(12:13) "Song Mashup Instructions"(15:51) The Humility of Psychic Work(16:55) Music's Healing Power(20:26) "Candlebox Memories and Friendship"(24:53) Angela's House Charity Telethon Idea(27:31) "Chris Cornell Tribute Broadcast"(32:52) Father's Critique of Radio DJs(35:46) "Weekend Radio Memories, 2008"(39:58) "Radio: More Than a Novelty"(41:46) Radio Job Rejection Reflections(46:12) Rigid Interviews Lack Connection(46:53) Radio Career Connection Story(51:53) "Radio Audition Leads to Opportunity"(54:33) "Overcoming Comparison and Moving Forward"(57:20) "Embracing Change and New Paths"(59:51) "Rock and Soul Tarot Promo"Click here to make a donation to Angela's HouseClick here to purchase Rock n Soul TarotYou can download or stream every episode of AIRCHECK from Apple Podcasts, and Spotify. You can also listen on YouTube. Ask your Smart Speaker to “Play Aircheck Podcast”.If you're a radio vet with a story to tell we want to hear from you.Email us at Aircheckme@gmail.comFollow us on Facebook: facebook.com/aircheckmeTell us what you think and your favorite episode!

She was married nine days.Nine days before someone took everything from her.Jennifer Bryan Judd's murder in 1992 shocked the quiet town of Baxter Springs, Kansas — a newlywed found stabbed to death in her own kitchen.For over three decades, her family has waited.Now, new DNA testing could finally bring answers.Cold Case Kansas takes you inside the evidence box — exploring forensic details, suspects, and the people who refuse to give up hope.Listen to “Nine Days a Bride” now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen.Promo: @murdershelfbookclubMusic: Ashes To Dust by PlaylistsonsSources: https://www.fourstateshomepage.com/news/crime/cold-cases/32-year-old-cold-case-gets-a-new-look-in-a-southeast-kansas-homicide/amp/https://crimeblogger1983.blogspot.com/2018/03/the-unsolved-murder-of-jennifer-judd.htmlhttps://crimesolverscentral.com/blog/post?name=the-unsolved-murder-of-jennifer-judd-a-32-year-old-23442Socials: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coldcaseks?_r=1&_t=ZP-91N8a87XzJeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cold_case_kansas?igsh=MXV6eHh6M2EzZG8yYg%3D%3D&utm_source=qrFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/17KsDEAoCG/?mibextid=wwXIfr

This week's Throwback Thursday episode revisits Episode 147 from March 20th, 2023, which features Nine Days frontman John Hampson sharing the story behind the band's breakout 2000 hit “Absolutely (Story of a Girl).” With its unforgettable chorus and heartfelt lyrics, the song propelled the band to MTV and Top 40 radio success, becoming a defining anthem of early-2000s pop rock. Hampson reflects on the personal inspiration behind the track, the whirlwind that followed its release, and the song's lasting cultural presence, including its clever appearance in the Oscar-winning film Everything Everywhere All At Once. Chris DeMakes A Podcast is brought to you by DistroKid, the ultimate partner for taking your music to the next level. Get 30% off your first YEAR with DistroKid by signing up at ⁠http://distrokid.com/vip/demakes For bonus episode of The After Party podcast, an extensive back catalog of past After Party episodes, early ad-free releases of new episodes of Chris DeMakes A Podcast, full video versions of episodes, and MUCH more, head to the Patreon at ⁠http://www.ChrisDeMakes.com Follow Chris DeMakes A Podcast on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/chrisdemakesapodcast/⁠ Join the Chris DeMakes A Podcast community on Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/2643961642526928/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A suitcase goes missing for nine days across multiple airlines and countries, and we turn the chaos into a clear, repeatable travel system. Alexa walks through the exact steps that lowered stress, sped up delivery, and maximized reimbursements while touring, teaching, and performing on the road.We start with prevention that pays off when things go wrong: layer-by-layer packing photos, a simple cloud inventory, suitcase shots, and bright identifiers that make claims painless. You will hear which items should never leave your carry-on, why sentimental or irreplaceable pieces either stay home or stay with you, and how old, overstuffed luggage quietly raises your risk of damage. We dig into AirTags and Tiles, airline bag-tracking apps, and when travel insurance is worth it for long or complex trips—plus how it filled the gap when airline reimbursement fell short.Then we get tactical. At the first hint of a delay, work every channel: line up at the gate desk, rebook in the app, and call the airline at the same time. If your bag does not arrive, head straight to the baggage desk before leaving the airport, file a claim, and lock down your reference number. Keep every receipt, scan everything, and centralize notes, photos, tags, and forms. Learn how to contact partner airlines to find the last scan, what daily allowances typically cover, and how to choose versatile essentials that carry you through work and play without wasting money. We also cover deadlines for delayed, damaged, and lost luggage, passenger rights under US DOT, EU 261, and the Montreal Convention, and how to coordinate benefits across the airline, your insurer, and your credit card.Travel smarter, not harder. Save this playbook for your next trip, share it with a friend who checks bags, and tell us your wildest lost-luggage story on socials. If this helped, subscribe, leave a quick review, and pass it along to your favorite traveler.Please support our show by shopping through Eagle Creek: https://alnk.to/gVNDI6N and/or feel free to donate to:http://paypal.me/TheROAMies And it means the world to us when you subscribe, rate and share our podcast. Alexa and RoryThe ROAMiesFollow us at:http://www.TheROAMies.com@The ROAMies: Facebook and Instagram YouTube and X.

On this day in Tudor history, 7th November 1565, Sir Edward Warner, soldier, courtier, Member of Parliament, and twice Lieutenant of the Tower of London, died at his Norfolk home. He was a man who lived at the heart of Tudor politics, serving four monarchs, guarding rebels and queens alike, and somehow surviving the shifting loyalties of an age where one wrong step could mean the scaffold. Warner fought in Scotland, helped defend Norwich during Kett's Rebellion, and rose high under Edward VI, only to fall when he sided with Lady Jane Grey and the Duke of Northumberland. Under Mary I, he found himself imprisoned in the very Tower he had once commanded. When Elizabeth I came to the throne, his fortunes reversed again, until another scandal erupted involving Lady Katherine Grey, sister of the “Nine Days' Queen", who somehow became pregnant while in his custody. Sir Edward Warner's story is one of duty, compassion, and danger, a Tudor survivor who lived through rebellion, imprisonment, and redemption. Join me, Claire Ridgway, as we uncover the life of this remarkable - and often forgotten - man of the Tudor age. #TudorHistory #OnThisDay #TowerOfLondon #KatherineGrey #ElizabethI #HenryVIII #AnneBoleynFiles  

Shocking new research reveals how anyone with $750 can intercept unencrypted satellite data, exposing everything from government secrets to in-flight Wi-Fi traffic. Find out why decades-old vulnerabilities are still open and who actually wants it that way. Study: The World's Satellite Data Is Massively Vulnerable To Snooping You Only Need $750 of Equipment to Pilfer Data From Satellites, Researchers Say Hackers Dox Hundreds of DHS, ICE, FBI, and DOJ Officials DHS says Chinese criminal gangs made $1B from US text scams cr.yp.to: 2025.10.04: NSA and IETF Why Signal's post-quantum makeover is an amazing engineering achievement Court reduces damages Meta will get from spyware maker NSO Group but bans it from WhatsApp How I Almost Got Hacked By A 'Job Interview' New California law requires AI to tell you it's AI The European Union issued its first fines under the AI Act, penalizing a French facial recognition startup €12 million for deploying unverified algorithms in public security contracts Wikipedia Says AI Is Causing a Dangerous Decline in Human Visitors Texas hit with a pair of lawsuits for its app store age verification requirements Australia shares tips to wean teens off social media ahead of ban. Will it work? California enacts age-gate law for app stores Meta is asking Facebook users to give its AI access to their entire camera roll Meta poached Andrew Tulloch, co-founder of Thinking Machines Lab, with a compensation package rumored to reach $1.5 billion over six years Even top generals are looking to AI chatbots for answers Roku's AI-upgraded voice assistant can answer questions about what you're watching Tesla debuts a steering wheel-less taxi for two Waymo and DoorDash Are Teaming Up to Deliver Your Food via Robotaxi Host: Leo Laporte Guests: Jacob Ward, Harper Reed, and Abrar Al-Heeti Download or subscribe to This Week in Tech at https://twit.tv/shows/this-week-in-tech Join Club TWiT for Ad-Free Podcasts! Support what you love and get ad-free shows, a members-only Discord, and behind-the-scenes access. Join today: https://twit.tv/clubtwit Sponsors: Melissa.com/twit ZipRecruiter.com/twit deel.com/twit zscaler.com/security zapier.com/twit

Shocking new research reveals how anyone with $750 can intercept unencrypted satellite data, exposing everything from government secrets to in-flight Wi-Fi traffic. Find out why decades-old vulnerabilities are still open and who actually wants it that way. Study: The World's Satellite Data Is Massively Vulnerable To Snooping You Only Need $750 of Equipment to Pilfer Data From Satellites, Researchers Say Hackers Dox Hundreds of DHS, ICE, FBI, and DOJ Officials DHS says Chinese criminal gangs made $1B from US text scams cr.yp.to: 2025.10.04: NSA and IETF Why Signal's post-quantum makeover is an amazing engineering achievement Court reduces damages Meta will get from spyware maker NSO Group but bans it from WhatsApp How I Almost Got Hacked By A 'Job Interview' New California law requires AI to tell you it's AI The European Union issued its first fines under the AI Act, penalizing a French facial recognition startup €12 million for deploying unverified algorithms in public security contracts Wikipedia Says AI Is Causing a Dangerous Decline in Human Visitors Texas hit with a pair of lawsuits for its app store age verification requirements Australia shares tips to wean teens off social media ahead of ban. Will it work? California enacts age-gate law for app stores Meta is asking Facebook users to give its AI access to their entire camera roll Meta poached Andrew Tulloch, co-founder of Thinking Machines Lab, with a compensation package rumored to reach $1.5 billion over six years Even top generals are looking to AI chatbots for answers Roku's AI-upgraded voice assistant can answer questions about what you're watching Tesla debuts a steering wheel-less taxi for two Waymo and DoorDash Are Teaming Up to Deliver Your Food via Robotaxi Host: Leo Laporte Guests: Jacob Ward, Harper Reed, and Abrar Al-Heeti Download or subscribe to This Week in Tech at https://twit.tv/shows/this-week-in-tech Join Club TWiT for Ad-Free Podcasts! Support what you love and get ad-free shows, a members-only Discord, and behind-the-scenes access. Join today: https://twit.tv/clubtwit Sponsors: Melissa.com/twit ZipRecruiter.com/twit deel.com/twit zscaler.com/security zapier.com/twit

Shocking new research reveals how anyone with $750 can intercept unencrypted satellite data, exposing everything from government secrets to in-flight Wi-Fi traffic. Find out why decades-old vulnerabilities are still open and who actually wants it that way. Study: The World's Satellite Data Is Massively Vulnerable To Snooping You Only Need $750 of Equipment to Pilfer Data From Satellites, Researchers Say Hackers Dox Hundreds of DHS, ICE, FBI, and DOJ Officials DHS says Chinese criminal gangs made $1B from US text scams cr.yp.to: 2025.10.04: NSA and IETF Why Signal's post-quantum makeover is an amazing engineering achievement Court reduces damages Meta will get from spyware maker NSO Group but bans it from WhatsApp How I Almost Got Hacked By A 'Job Interview' New California law requires AI to tell you it's AI The European Union issued its first fines under the AI Act, penalizing a French facial recognition startup €12 million for deploying unverified algorithms in public security contracts Wikipedia Says AI Is Causing a Dangerous Decline in Human Visitors Texas hit with a pair of lawsuits for its app store age verification requirements Australia shares tips to wean teens off social media ahead of ban. Will it work? California enacts age-gate law for app stores Meta is asking Facebook users to give its AI access to their entire camera roll Meta poached Andrew Tulloch, co-founder of Thinking Machines Lab, with a compensation package rumored to reach $1.5 billion over six years Even top generals are looking to AI chatbots for answers Roku's AI-upgraded voice assistant can answer questions about what you're watching Tesla debuts a steering wheel-less taxi for two Waymo and DoorDash Are Teaming Up to Deliver Your Food via Robotaxi Host: Leo Laporte Guests: Jacob Ward, Harper Reed, and Abrar Al-Heeti Download or subscribe to This Week in Tech at https://twit.tv/shows/this-week-in-tech Join Club TWiT for Ad-Free Podcasts! Support what you love and get ad-free shows, a members-only Discord, and behind-the-scenes access. Join today: https://twit.tv/clubtwit Sponsors: Melissa.com/twit ZipRecruiter.com/twit deel.com/twit zscaler.com/security zapier.com/twit

Shocking new research reveals how anyone with $750 can intercept unencrypted satellite data, exposing everything from government secrets to in-flight Wi-Fi traffic. Find out why decades-old vulnerabilities are still open and who actually wants it that way. Study: The World's Satellite Data Is Massively Vulnerable To Snooping You Only Need $750 of Equipment to Pilfer Data From Satellites, Researchers Say Hackers Dox Hundreds of DHS, ICE, FBI, and DOJ Officials DHS says Chinese criminal gangs made $1B from US text scams cr.yp.to: 2025.10.04: NSA and IETF Why Signal's post-quantum makeover is an amazing engineering achievement Court reduces damages Meta will get from spyware maker NSO Group but bans it from WhatsApp How I Almost Got Hacked By A 'Job Interview' New California law requires AI to tell you it's AI The European Union issued its first fines under the AI Act, penalizing a French facial recognition startup €12 million for deploying unverified algorithms in public security contracts Wikipedia Says AI Is Causing a Dangerous Decline in Human Visitors Texas hit with a pair of lawsuits for its app store age verification requirements Australia shares tips to wean teens off social media ahead of ban. Will it work? California enacts age-gate law for app stores Meta is asking Facebook users to give its AI access to their entire camera roll Meta poached Andrew Tulloch, co-founder of Thinking Machines Lab, with a compensation package rumored to reach $1.5 billion over six years Even top generals are looking to AI chatbots for answers Roku's AI-upgraded voice assistant can answer questions about what you're watching Tesla debuts a steering wheel-less taxi for two Waymo and DoorDash Are Teaming Up to Deliver Your Food via Robotaxi Host: Leo Laporte Guests: Jacob Ward, Harper Reed, and Abrar Al-Heeti Download or subscribe to This Week in Tech at https://twit.tv/shows/this-week-in-tech Join Club TWiT for Ad-Free Podcasts! Support what you love and get ad-free shows, a members-only Discord, and behind-the-scenes access. Join today: https://twit.tv/clubtwit Sponsors: Melissa.com/twit ZipRecruiter.com/twit deel.com/twit zscaler.com/security zapier.com/twit

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It is forbidden to sew brand new garments during the Nine Days, starting from Rosh Hodesh Ab. Repairing garments, however, such as mending tears, sewing a patch or sewing a button that had fallen, is allowed. One should not purchase new garments or new shoes during the Nine Days. Before the Nine Days, starting from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz, it is customary not to wear new garments, as we do not recite the Beracha of "She'hehiyanu" during this somber period, but one may purchase new garments to wear them after Tisha B'Ab. Starting from Rosh Hodesh Ab, however, one should not purchase new garments even if he does not intend to wear them until after Tisha B'Ab. This Halacha applies only to significant articles of clothing. Items such as hosiery, socks and undergarments, the purchase of which does not bring special joy, may be bought during the Nine Days. The Ben Ish Hai (Rav Yosef Haim of Baghdad, 1833-1909) writes that if a garment becomes available at a bargain price during the Nine Days, and the item will be more expensive after Tisha B'Ab, then one may purchase it during the Nine Days. Hacham Bension Abba Shaul (Israel, 1924-1998) ruled that if one's shoes were torn during the Nine Days, he may purchase a new pair. If a person realized before Tisha B'Ab that he does not have footwear for Tisha B'Ab – meaning, shoes or slippers that don't contain leather – then he may buy a pair of shoes to wear on Tisha B'Ab. He may wear them for the first time on Tisha B'Ab, because he wears them for the purpose of mourning, and this does not bring him special joy. If he has other shoes that are permissible for Tisha B'Ab, then he should preferably wear that other pair rather than purchase a new pair. But if he would otherwise need to go barefoot, he may certainly purchase a new pair of shoes. Regardless, Rav Yaakob Haim Sofer (Baghdad-Jerusalem, 1870-1939) writes in Kaf Ha'haim (551:96) that already before Rosh Hodesh Ab, one should make sure that he has suitable shoes for Tisha B'Ab. If somebody makes clothing for a living, he may continue working until the onset of the week of Tisha B'Ab, at which point he must refrain. However, if a tailor is very poor and needs to continue working so he can afford his basic necessities, then he may continue working even during the week of Tisha B'Ab, and, if necessary, even on Tisha B'Ab itself. If somebody owns a factory that manufactures clothing, and he would incur a loss by shutting the factory down during the Nine Days, as he would still be required to pay his employees, he may keep the business running. Even on Tisha B'Ab itself, a person is permitted to work when this is necessary to avoid a substantial financial loss, and so certainly during the Nine Days, one may continue manufacturing new clothing when a considerable loss is at stake. Generally, it is forbidden to knit or embroider during the Nine Days. However, if a woman is learning to knit in order to pursue knitting as a profession and earn a livelihood, then she may knit as part of her training during the Nine Days. Hacham Ovadia Yosef explained that teaching young women skills that they can use to earn a living and support their families is an important Misva – especially if these skills allow them to work from home and thus avoid compromises in Seniut (modesty) that are sometimes made when working outside the home. Therefore, it is entirely permissible to teach these classes during the Nine Days. Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (Jerusalem, 1910-1995) was asked whether girls' summer camps that offer sewing and embroidery as activities may allow these activities to continue during the Nine Days. He replied that given the importance of attracting youngsters to summer programs run under religiously observant auspices, this may be allowed. If even a single knitting class is cancelled, Rav Shlomo Zalman said, it is possible that a girl or several girls will not want to join such a program, and will thus end up participating in programs that are not run in accordance with Halacha and Torah values. Therefore, the knitting activities can proceed as usual during the Nine Days. Women who knit for their emotional wellbeing, such as to keep themselves busy or as a way to effectively handle feelings of anxiety and the like, may knit during the Nine Days. Knitting for Misva purposes is allowed during the Nine Days. It is thus permissible to prepare threads for Sisit. Hacham Ovadia also ruled that if a pillow needs to be sewn to be used at a Berit Mila, this may be done during the Nine Days. Women who spin thread for a living may continue their work during the Nine Days. Producing threads does not bring joy like producing articles of clothing, and so this is permissible.

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Although it is customary to refrain from eating meat during the Nine Days (from the 2 nd of Ab through Tisha B'Ab), Hacham Ovadia Yosef ruled that eating meat is allowed for health purposes. For example, if a physician advised a patient to eat meat for his health, or if a patient is recovering from illness or from a procedure and he wishes to eat meat to make him feel stronger, he may do so. In fact, Hacham Ovadia ruled that since meat during the Nine Days is forbidden by force of custom, and not according to the strict Halacha, there is room to allow anyone who feels a medical need to eat meat to do so. However, Hacham Ovadia cautioned that a healthy person who has no need for meat, but simply wants to eat some meat during the Nine Days, must not do so, and violating this custom without a valid reason constitutes a grievous sin. Additionally, if a patient's medical need can be met by eating fish, then this should be preferred. A pregnant woman who experiences a craving for meat may – and, in fact, must – be given meat, as failing to satisfy a craving for a particular food during pregnancy could endanger the fetus. A woman within thirty days after childbirth, and a woman who is nursing an infant, may eat meat in order to maintain her strength. Hacham Ovadia considered the possibility of allowing even a woman during menstruation to eat meat if she feels the need, as she might be weakened by the loss of blood, though he remained uncertain about this leniency. One who eats meat during the Nine Days for medical reasons does not require Hatarat Nedarim (annulment of vows) before eating meat. Normally, one who discontinues a custom must first perform Hatarat Nedarim, but in this case, since the custom allows eating meat for health purposes, the patient does not break the "vow" by eating meat. However, a patient with a chronic condition that will always require him to eat meat during the Nine Days, who thus needs to permanently discontinue the practice of refraining from meat, should perform Hatarat Nedarim. Is it permissible to feed meat to children during the Nine Days? When it comes to non-kosher food, there is a debate among the Rishonim as to whether one may feed children food that is forbidden Mi'de'rabbanan – by force of Rabbinic enactment. All agree that one may not feed a child food that the Torah itself forbids, but the Rashba (Rav Shlomo Ben Aderet of Barcelona, Spain, 1235-1310) maintained that foods proscribed by the Rabbis may be fed to children. According to the Rashba, it would certainly be permissible to feed children meat during the Nine Days, as meat is forbidden in this period only by force of custom. The Rambam, however, ruled that no forbidden food may be fed to children, even food which the Torah permits but the Sages prohibited. Accordingly, the Mishna Berura ruled that one may not feed meat even to very young children during the Nine Days. Hacham Ovadia Yosef, however, disagreed, arguing that meat is not forbidden at all during the Nine Days, and we refrain from meat only by force of custom. Moreover, the Magen Abraham (Rav Abraham Gombiner, Poland, 1635-1682) maintained that the custom to refrain from meat during the Nine Days from the outset did not include children. Another reason to permit feeding meat to children is that according to some opinions, this custom has the status of a vow, and children are allowed to eat food proscribed merely by force a vow. Additionally, a number of Poskim noted the frailty of children, particularly in modern times, such that denying meat to children who are accustomed to eating meat could adversely affect their health. And, it is permissible to feed children food whose permissibility is subject to a debate among the Poskim, and the practice to refrain from meat during the Nine Days is not universally accepted. For all these reasons, Hacham Ovadia maintained that children should not be denied meat during the Nine Days. The only exception he made was for a twelve-year-old boy, who, since he will soon become a bar-mitzvah, should be trained not to eat meat during this period. (It is worth noting that when it comes to fasting, Hacham Ovadia felt very strongly that children should not be allowed to fast, as they require food for their health. He ruled that children under the age of bar-mitzvah – even twelve-year-olds – should not fast, even on Yom Kippur, and that Rabbis should announce in the synagogue on Yom Kippur that parents should return home to make sure their children eat.) It is permissible during the Nine Days to eat meat and drink wine at a Se'udat Misva – meaning, a meal that constitutes a Misva. One who wishes to eat meat at a Se'udat Misva does not require Hatarat Nedarim, because the custom itself allows eating meat at such an event, and thus the "vow" is not being broken. One example is the meal celebrating a Berit Mila. All guests who were invited to participate in the meal may partake of meat and wine, but clearly a person who does not know the family cannot just show up at the meal in order to enjoy meat and wine. Although it is permissible to eat meat at a Berit, one may not take some meat home from the meal; eating meat is allowed only at the meal itself. The leftover meat should either be frozen or distributed to the needy. However, the infant's father, the Mohel and the Sandak are allowed to eat meat that entire day. For them, the day of the Berit is a Yom Tob, and so they may eat meat at any point during that day, even after the meal. Meat may be eaten at a Berit even in the case of a "Mila She'lo Bi'zmanah" – a Berit that was performed after the infant's eighth day because he was sick and unfit for circumcision on the eighth day. However, if the baby was deemed healthy enough for a Berit Mila before the Nine Days, the Berit may not be delayed until the Nine Days for the purpose of serving meat and wine, as it is forbidden to unnecessarily delay a Berit. And if the Berit was unnecessarily postponed until the Nine Days, meat and wine may not be eaten at the meal. Hacham Bension Abba Shaul (Israel, 1924-1998) ruled that if the Berit was cancelled at the last minute because the infant became sick and unfit for circumcision, the meat that was prepared for the Se'uda may be eaten, despite the fact that no Berit took place. He bases this ruling on the principle that if a person genuinely tried performing a Misva, but was unsuccessful due to circumstances beyond his control, he is nevertheless credited with the fulfillment of a Misva. Since he planned to perform the Misva and attempted to do so, he receives credit for a Misva despite the outcome. Hence, if the infant suddenly became unfit for Berit Mila, the parents are nevertheless considered to have fulfilled the Misva of giving him a Berit that day, and thus the meal qualifies as a Se'udat Misva, where meat and wine may be served. The customary Zohar recitation conducted on the night before a Berit does not qualify as a Se'udat Misva, and thus meat may not be eaten at this event. This is the ruling of Hacham Ovadia Yosef. The meal at a Pidyon Ha'ben is considered a Se'udat Misva, and thus meat is allowed. If a boy turns thirteen during the Nine Days, and a meal is held on his birthday to celebrate the occasion, then this meal qualifies as a Se'udat Misva, and meat may be served. However, if the meal is held on a different day, and not on his birthday, then meat may not be eaten at the meal. If the boy's birthday is Ereb Rosh Hodesh Ab, the meal should be postponed until after Tisha B'Ab. A Siyum celebration following the completion of the study of a Masechet (tractate of Gemara) constitutes a Se'udat Misva, and meat may be eaten at such an event. All those invited to participate in the meal may eat meat, even if they were not involved at all in the learning of the Masechet. If a Siyum is made in a meat restaurant, those who happen to be in the restaurant may listen to the Siyum and eat meat (though it would certainly be inappropriate to intentionally go around to meat restaurants in the hope of finding a Siyum). Hacham Ovadia Yosef ruled that it is permissible to specifically schedule the completion of a Masechet for the Nine Days, though one who finished a Masechet before the Nine Days may not intentionally leave the final line for the Nine Days for the purpose of eating meat. Although some people look askance at the widespread practice to arrange Siyum celebrations for the Nine Days in order to permit meat, many great Rabbis not only approved of this practice, but even encouraged it. Some explained that by celebrating Torah learning we actually make a significant contribution to the rebuilding of the Bet Ha'mikdash. And it is told that the Ba'al Shem Tob (founder of Hasidism, 1698-1760) specifically arranged his Torah learning such that he would make a Siyum during the Nine Days – not because he craved meat and wine, but rather because this weakened the power of the Satan. The Satan wields great strength during this time of year, and one way we overpower the Satan is by increasing our Torah learning and celebrating our learning accomplishments. In fact, the letters that spell Satan's name – Samech, Mem, Alef and Lamed – can be read as an acrostic representing the phrase "Siyum Masechet En La'asot" – "Do not make a Siyum of a Masechet," or "Se'udat Misva En La'asot" – "Do not make a Se'udat Misva." The Satan specifically does not want us to conduct Siyum celebrations, and so we are encouraged to do so during this period when the Satan's strength is at its height. Thus, as many great Sages encouraged making Siyum celebrations during the Nine Days – and especially in light of the fact that to begin with, meat and wine are forbidden during this period only by force of custom – one should not object to those who make Siyumim for the sake of permitting meat and wine. Hacham Ovadia writes that it is improper for several people to divide a Masechet between them, such that each studies only a small portion, for the sake of conducting a joint Siyum. The Jewish community of Izmir, Turkey, had the custom not to allow meat at a Siyum during the Nine Days, and to eat fish, instead. Hacham Ovadia ruled that members of that community who settled in Eretz Yisrael may adopt the lenient practice of eating meat at a Siyum. A mourner in the twelve-month period of mourning for a parent, Heaven forbid, may attend a Siyum celebration as long as no music is played. As music is not permitted at a Se'udat Misva during the Nine Days, a mourner is allowed to attend and partake of meat and wine.

Although it is customary to refrain from meat and wine during the Nine Days, this restriction applies only on weekdays. On Shabbat, one may eat as much meat and wine as he wishes, without any restrictions. One may partake of meat during Se'uda Shelishit even the meal extends after sundown. And when Tisha B'Ab falls on Shabbat, and the fast is thus postponed until Sunday, there are no restrictions regarding the foods allowed during the final meal before the fast on Shabbat afternoon. One may have as lavish a meal as he wants, including meat and wine. Whereas generally several restrictions apply to the final meal eaten before Tisha B'Ab, these restrictions do not apply when Tisha B'Ab begins on Mosa'eh Shabbat. The question arises as to whether one may taste on Ereb Shabbat during the Nine Days a meat dish that is being prepared for Shabbat. Generally, it is proper to taste the Shabbat foods before Shabbat to ensure that they are flavorful. Rav Haim Vital (1542-1620) writes that this is a very important Misva, for just as cooks preparing food for a king must taste the food before it is served, this must be done for the honor of Shabbat, as well. It has been explained that this is the deep meaning of the passage in the Musaf prayer recited on Shabbat, "To'ameha Haim Zachu" – "Those who taste it have earned life." Is this permissible on Ereb Shabbat during the Nine Days, when partaking of meat is forbidden? Hacham Ovadia ruled that this is allowed, for two reasons. Firstly, he notes the Shulhan Aruch's ruling in a different context that if one tastes a small morsel of food to check its flavor, he does not recite a Beracha. This shows that tasting food does not qualify as an act of Halachic eating, and thus tasting a meat dish is allowed during the Nine Days. Secondly, Hacham Ovadia writes, the great value and importance of tasting the Shabbat foods overrides the custom to refrain from meat during the Nine Days. Some poskim ruled that one who tastes the meat dish on Ereb Shabbat must then remove it from his mouth without swallowing, but Hacham Ovadia maintained that the food may be swallowed, because of the two reasons mentioned above. Rav Yisrael Bitan writes that in conversation with Hacham Ovadia, the Hacham made it clear that this leniency applies only after Hasot (Halachic midday) on Friday, and that one may taste only an amount less than a Rebi'it of the meat dish. If meat was prepared for Shabbat during the Nine Days, and some of the meat is left over after Shabbat, Hacham Ovadia permits eating the leftovers, particularly if one eats the leftovers for Se'uda Rebi'it (the meal eaten after Shabbat, also known as "Melaveh Malka"), and especially if one normally eats meat during the Se'uda Rebi'it. Although meat is forbidden on weekdays during the Nine Days, nevertheless, meat left over from Shabbat is allowed. One may not intentionally cook more than he deems necessary for Shabbat so that he will have leftover meat for after Shabbat, but if he cooked food for Shabbat and some meat is left over, it may be eaten after Shabbat. There are several reasons given for this leniency. The Hida (Rav Haim Yosef David Azulai, 1724-1806) bases this Halacha on the Gemara's discussion regarding meat that Beneh Yisrael brought with them into Eretz Yisrael from the desert. During the forty years Beneh Yisrael spent in the desert, Shehita (slaughtering) was not required; they were allowed to kill an animal through any means and then partake of its meat. Once they crossed into Eretz Yisrael, this became forbidden, as Shehita was then required for meat to be permitted. The Gemara writes that if some leftover meat which was produced without Shehita was brought into Eretz Yisrael, then "Ho'il Ve'ishteri Ishteri" – since it was permissible, it remained permissible, even though meat produced this way was no longer allowed. Similarly, the Hida writes, since meat prepared for Shabbat was allowed on Shabbat, it remains permissible even after Shabbat. Although there is some discussion as to whether we may indeed permit food on the basis of the concept of "Ho'il Ve'ishteri Ishteri," when it comes to meat during the Nine Days, which is forbidden only by force of custom, there is room for leniency. Others explain that since this food was prepared for the purpose of a Misva, it is considered special and there is a Misva to eat it. Yet another explanation is the concern of "Bal Tash'hit" (wasting), as the food would otherwise have to be discarded. In one of Hacham Ovadia's earlier works (Kol Sinai), he wrote that we should not object to those who rely on this leniency and eat during the Nine Days meat that was left over from Shabbat – implying that this is not the optimal practice. However, Rav Yisrael Bitan notes that in his later works Hacham Ovadia writes that this is indeed permissible, and thus one may eat leftover meat after Shabbat without any reservations. Summary: Although we refrain from meat and wine during the Nine Days, there are no restrictions on what one may eat on Shabbat during the Nine Days; one may enjoy as much meat and wine as he wishes on Shabbat during the Nine Days. Before Shabbat, it is permissible – and in fact proper – to taste the Shabbat foods to ensure they are flavorful, even the meat dishes, but this should be done after midday on Friday, and only very small amounts may be tasted. If there is leftover meat from Shabbat, it may be eaten after Shabbat, preferably as part of the Se'uda Rebi'it meal after Shabbat. However, one may not intentionally prepare more meat than is needed for Shabbat so that he will have leftovers.

The Mishna in Masechet Ta'anit (26b) states that one may not eat meat or drink wine during the final meal before Tisha B'Ab. This is the only restriction on the consumption of meat mentioned by the Mishna or Gemara. On the level of strict Halacha, one is permitted to eat meat during the days preceding Tisha B'Ab, and even on the day before Tisha B'Ab, except during the last meal before the fast. However, customs were accepted among many Jewish communities to abstain from meat already earlier. The Shulhan Aruch (Orah Haim 551:9) brings three customs. Some refrain from eating meat already from after Shabbat Hazon (the Shabbat immediately preceding Tisha B'Ab); others observe this restriction throughout the Nine Days; and others follow the practice not to eat meat throughout the entire three-week from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz through Tisha B'Ab. The Shulhan Aruch writes that everyone should follow his community's custom. Of course, this prohibition applies only on weekdays. According to all customs, one may eat meat on Shabbat, even the Shabbat before Tisha B'Ab. These customs developed for two reasons: 1) as part of our obligation to reduce our joy during this period when we are to reflect upon the destruction of the Bet Ha'mikdash; 2) the destruction of the Bet Ha'mikdash resulted in the discontinuation of the offering of sacrifices, such that G-d no longer has meat, as it were, so we, too, should not enjoy meat. The Gemara (Baba Batra 60b) states that there were those who, after the destruction of the Bet Ha'mikdash, decided to abstain from meat and wine, since there were no longer animal sacrifices or wine libations offered to G-d. However, they were told that by this logic, they should also refrain from grain products, because flour offerings (Menahot) could no longer be offered, and even from water, because the water libations (Nisuch Ha'mayim) were no longer offered. Quite obviously, we cannot live this way, and so we are not required to abstain from those products which were offered in the Bet Ha'mikdash. Nevertheless, as part of our effort to focus our attention on the tragedy of the Hurban (destruction) in the period leading to Tisha B'Ab, the custom developed to refrain from meat. Notably, not all communities accepted these restrictions. The Maggid Mishneh (Rav Vidal of Tolosa, Spain, late 14 th century) writes that in his area, the custom was to permit meat except on Ereb Tisha B'Ab. The Meiri (Provence, 1249-1315) writes that there was a practice among the exceptionally pious to refrain from meat on Ereb Tisha B'Ab, but even they did not refrain from meat before that day. Regardless, the Shulhan Aruch emphasizes that people whose communities observe the custom to refrain from meat during this period must adhere to the custom. Those who violate this practice are included in King Shlomo's stern warning in Kohelet (10:8), "U'foretz Geder Yishechehu Nahash" – "He who breaches a fence, a snake shall bite him." Even if a restriction that applies on the level of custom, and not as strict Halacha, is binding and must be obeyed. Nevertheless, since refraining from meat is required only by force of custom, there is greater room for leniency than there is when dealing with strict Halachic prohibitions. Thus, it has become accepted to permit meat when a Siyum celebration is held, and one should not ridicule those who rely on this leniency. In fact, it is told that Rav Moshe Feinstein (1895-1986) would conduct a Siyum every night during the Nine Days in the place where he would spend his summers, so that the people could eat meat. Since the prohibition to begin with is observed by force of custom, and not on the level of strict Halacha, the leniency of a Siyum is perfectly legitimate. In practice, when should we begin abstaining from meat? The accepted custom in our Syrian community is to begin refraining from eating meat from the second day of Ab. Although different opinions exist regarding the consumption of meat on Rosh Hodesh Ab, our custom follows the view of the Hida (Rav Haim Yosef David Azulai, 1724-1806) permitting the consumption of meat on this day. This was also the custom in Baghdad, as mentioned by the Ben Ish Hai (Rav Yosef Haim of Baghdad, 1833-1909), and this is the generally accepted custom among Sepharadim. One who does not know his family's custom can follow this practice and begin refraining from meat on the second day of Ab. The Kaf Ha'haim (Rav Yaakov Haim Sofer, Baghdad-Jerusalem, 1870-1939) cites an earlier source (Seder Ha'yom) as ruling that Torah scholars should follow the stringent practice of abstaining from meat already from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz. However, recent Poskim – including Hacham Ovadia Yosef – ruled that since nowadays people are frailer than in the past, and Torah scholars need strength to continue their studies and their teaching, they should not observe this stringency. They should instead follow the more common custom to refrain from meat only after Rosh Hodesh Ab. One who wishes to eat a meat meal late in the day on Rosh Hodesh Ab should ensure not to recite Arbit early, before sundown. Once he recites Arbit, he in effect ends Rosh Hodesh, and begins the second day of Ab when eating meat is forbidden. One who wishes to recite Arbit early on Rosh Hodesh Ab must ensure to finish eating meat beforehand. The custom among the Yemenite Jewish community was to follow the Mishna's ruling, and permit eating meat except during the final meal before Tisha B'Ab. However, Hacham Ovadia Yosef ruled that once the Yemenites emigrated to Eretz Yisrael, they should follow the rulings of the Shulhan Aruch, and abstain from meat during the Nine Days. This prohibition applies even to meat that is not fresh, such as it if was canned or frozen. The Nehar Misrayim (Rav Aharon Ben Shimon, 1847-1928) records the custom among the Jewish community in Egypt to permit eating chicken during the Nine Days. As mentioned earlier, one of the reasons for the practice to refrain from meat is that we commemorate the loss of sacrificial meat in the Bet Ha'mikdash. Accordingly, Egyptian Jews permitted eating chicken, as chickens were not brought as sacrifices. This is the custom among Jews of Egyptian background even today. The Shulhan Aruch (551:10), however, explicitly includes chicken in his formulation of the custom to refrain from meat during the Nine Days. The Mishna Berura writes that one who is unable to eat dairy products (such as if he suffers from a milk allergy), and thus has limited options for food during the Nine Days, may eat chicken. If one needs to eat meat for health reasons, he should preferably eat chicken instead of beef, as there is greater room for leniency when it comes to chicken. Hacham Ovadia Yosef writes that if one removed the meat from a dish that consisted also of other food – such as if the meatballs were removed from the spaghetti – then, strictly speaking, the remaining food is permissible. Nevertheless, it is customary to be stringent in this regard and refrain from eating food which had been cooked together with meat. If parve food was prepared in a meat pot, the food may be eaten during the Nine Days, since it does not have meat in it. Even if the pot had been used with meat less than 24 hours before it was used to cook the parve food, the parve food may be eaten. This food contains the taste of meat, but not actual meat, and it is thus entirely permissible during the Nine Days. (In fact, according to the ruling of the Shulhan Aruch, this parve food may be eaten together with milk or yoghurt. The meat taste in this food has the status of "Noten Ta'am Bar Noten Ta'am" – a "second degree" taste, as the pot absorbed the taste of the meat, and the parve food then absorbed the taste from the pot. At this point, the taste does not forbid the food from being eaten with milk.) Hacham Ovadia Yosef allowed eating soup from bouillon cubes or bouillon powder during the Nine Days. It is permissible to eat fish during the Nine Days, though some have the custom not to eat fish during the final meal before Tisha B'Ab. One is allowed to eat synthetic meat during the Nine Days. Although one might have thought that this should be avoided due to the concern of Mar'it Ha'ayin – meaning, a person eating synthetic meat might be suspected of eating actual meat – we do not have the authority nowadays to enact new prohibitions out of this concern. If a person forgot that it was the Nine Days, or forgot about the restriction against eating meat, and he recited a Beracha over meat but then remembered that it is forbidden, he should take a bite of the meat, because otherwise his Beracha will have been recited in vain, in violation of the severe prohibition of Beracha Le'batala (reciting a blessing in vain). This is a far more grievous transgression than partaking of meat during the Nine Days – which, as we explained, is forbidden only by force of custom – and it is therefore preferable to take a bite of the meat so that the blessing will not have been recited in vain. (This resembles the case of a person who prepared to eat a dairy food within six hours of eating meat, and remembered after reciting the Beracha that he may not eat the dairy food. In that case, too, he should take a bite of the dairy food so the Beracha will not have been recited in vain. This applies also to someone who recited a Beracha to eat before praying in the morning, and then remembered that he may not eat because he had yet to pray. Even on fast days – except Yom Kippur, when eating is forbidden on the level of Torah law – if someone recited a Beracha over food and then remembered that eating is forbidden, he should take a small bite of the food.) If a person owns a meat restaurant, he is permitted to operate the restaurant during Nine Days, even in a Jewish community, where most or all of his customers are Jews. Given the leniencies that apply, such as permitting meat at a Siyum, and when necessary for health reasons, it is not for certain that the people coming to eat will be violating the custom to refrain from meat. As such, operating the restaurant does not violate the prohibition against causing people to sin. However, it is proper for the restaurant owner to place a visible sign at the entrance to the restaurant informing people of the widely-accepted custom to refrain from eating meat during the Nine Days. Just as many observe the custom to refrain from meat during the Nine Days, it is also customary to refrain from wine during this period. Although the practice in Jerusalem was to be lenient in this regard, and drink wine during the Nine Days, the practice among other Sephardic communities is to refrain from wine. This was also the custom in Arab Soba (Aleppo), as documented in the work Derech Eretz, and this is the practice in our community. There are two reasons for this custom. First, wine brings a feeling of joy, and during the month of Ab, until Tisha B'Ab, we are to reduce our joy and reflect on the destruction of the Bet Ha'mikdash. Secondly, we refrain from wine because we can no longer pour wine libations on the altar. Of course, wine – like meat – is permissible on Shabbat during the Nine Days. The restriction applies only on weekdays. It is permissible to drink other alcoholic beverages during the Nine Days, such as beer and whiskey. Cognac, however, is a type of wine, and is therefore forbidden. One should not drink grape juice during the Nine Days, but grape soda is allowed. Cakes that are baked with grape juice instead of water are allowed during the Nine Days unless the taste of grape juice is discernible, in which case one should refrain from these cakes. Vinegar made from wine is permitted for consumption during the Nine Days, because it has an acidic taste and does not bring enjoyment. Similarly, juice extracted from unripe, prematurely-harvested grapes is permissible. The Shulhan Aruch allows drinking wine at Habdala on Mosa'eh Shabbat during the Nine Days. The Rama (Rav Moshe Isserles, Cracow, 1530-1572), however, writes that according to Ashkenazic custom, the Habdala wine is given to a child to drink. The Shulhan Aruch also writes that one may drink during the Nine Days the cup of wine over which Birkat Ha'mazon is recited. When three or more men ate together, and they recite Birkat Ha'mazon with the introductory Zimun, it is customary for the one who leads the Zimun to hold a cup of wine during Birkat Ha'mazon which he then drinks after Birkat Ha'mazon, and according to the Shulhan Aruch, this cup may be drunk during the Nine Days. However, Hacham Ovadia Yosef rules that since nowadays people generally do not make a point of reciting Birkat Ha'mazon over a cup of wine, this is not permitted during the Nine Days.

The Nine Days before Tisha B'Av are a time when we remember what we've lost—the Beis Hamikdash, of course, and so much more.In this very special episode, I sit down with four amazing siblings from Ramot, Yerushalayim—Moshe (15), Nachi (13), Aaron (12), and Leah (9)—who share their story about their little brother Shmuly a”h, who passed away when he was only two years old.They talk about how they remember him, how their family keeps his memory alive, and how his short life still makes a big difference in their home. From a special memory box with Shmuly's toys, to birthday cards they write him every year, these kids show us what real love, pain, and nechama look like.We also speak about how missing Shmuly helped them understand what it means to miss the Beis Hamikdash—and how their pain helped them feel more for other people in Klal Yisrael who are also going through hard times.When Nachi says, “When Mashiach comes, Shmuly will come too,” it's a reminder that our personal tefillos and dreams are all part of the bigger picture of geulah.This episode is emotional, inspiring, and so real. It will help you think about the Nine Days in a whole new way—with heart, with hope, and with love for all of Am Yisrael.

Hacham Ovadia Yosef ruled that if a person needs to undergo surgery during the Nine Days (from Rosh Hodesh Ab through Tisha B'Ab), and the procedure could be delayed until after Tisha B'Ab without endangering his health, then he should postpone the operation so as not to have it done during the Nine Days, which is an inauspicious time. Although it is customary not to make weddings during the three-week period from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz through Tisha B'Ab, it is permissible to get engaged during this period, and even during the Nine Days – and even on Tisha B'Ab itself. One may also host an event to celebrate the engagement, though without a festive meal. If a couple is getting married after Tisha B'Ab, wedding-related purchases may not be made during the Nine Days. These include clothes and other items for the wedding, as well as furniture and utensils for the couple's home. If, however, there will not be enough time after Tisha B'Ab to make the necessary purchases, or if the products might not be available after Tisha B'Ab, and the groom has yet to fulfill the Misva of Periya Ve'ribya (procreation) – and thus the wedding should not be delayed – then the purchases may be made during the Nine Days. One should not have his house painted or redecorated during the Nine Days. Work that is necessary for basic living – such as repairing plumbing, doors or windows – is allowed, but work that merely enhances the home, such as painting, wallpaper and carpeting, should not be done during this period. It goes without saying that building luxury items such as a tennis court or swimming pool may not take place during the Nine Days. In a synagogue, however, even work to enhance the building is permitted during the Nine Days, as it is a Misva to glorify the house of prayer. If a Jewish painter has no other source of income, and if he does not work during the Nine Days he will have no money for his basic necessities, then according to some Poskim – including Hacham Ovadia Yosef – he may be allowed to work during this period. If a Jewish painter was unable to complete before Rosh Hodesh Ab a job for which he was hired, and he if does not complete it during the Nine Days he would suffer a financial loss – as he has other jobs lined up for after Tisha B'Ab – there may be room to allow him to finish the painting work during the Nine Days. In such a case, a competent Posek should be consulted for guidance. If one hired a non-Jewish painter, and he wishes to continue working during the Nine Days so he can complete the job, the Jewish customer should try to convince him to agree to postpone the work until after Tisha B'Ab, even if this entails paying some compensation. If the painter cannot be convinced, then he may be allowed to complete the work during the Nine Days. The Ben Ish Hai (Rav Yosef Haim of Baghdad, 1833-1909) brings from an earlier source that one should not purchase wood during the Nine Days, in commemoration of the loss of the "Aseh Ha'ma'aracha" – the firewood on the altar in the Bet Ha'mikdash. Since we mourn in this period the destruction of the Bet Ha'mikdash, and the loss of the ability to offer sacrifices on the altar, it is appropriate to refrain from purchasing wood. Hacham Ovadia Yosef writes that according to this explanation of the custom, it applies only to the purchase of firewood, since it commemorates the loss of the firewood on the altar. However, Hacham Abdullah Somech (Baghdad, 1813-1889), in his Zibheh Sedek, writes that one should refrain from purchasing firewood during this period because we lost on Tisha B'Ab the building of the Bet Ha'mikdash, which was made from wood. According to this reason, purchasing wood even for building purposes should be forbidden. Hacham Ovadia Yosef concludes that since the Ben Ish Hai did not mention the reason given by Hacham Abdullah, it seems that it was not accepted. Therefore, although one may not purchase firewood during the Nine Days (such as if he wishes already then to prepare for the winter), he may purchase wood for construction purposes, or to build furniture, if he is planning to build after Tisha B'Ab. Hacham Ovadia Yosef ruled that in Israel, contractors who build homes with the intent of selling them for a profit may continue their work during the Nine Days, due to the housing shortage in Israel. Generally, one should not build during the Nine Days for the purpose of earning a profit, but Hacham Ovadia felt that given the urgent need for more homes in Eretz Yisrael, construction on residential buildings should not be suspended during the Nine Days. Rav Yisrael Bitan clarified that although Hacham Ovadia wrote this in the early years of the State of Israel, when the country saw a very large influx of immigrants, creating a dire housing shortage, this is true even today, when, thank G-d, many new couples are marrying and need homes. On Tisha B'Ab itself, however, the work should be discontinued. One whose new home becomes ready during the Nine Days may move in, assuming that this is his primary residence into which he is moving to more comfortably accommodate his family, and he is not moving for luxury purposes. He may even host a Hanukat Ha'bayit celebration during the Nine Days after moving in– and he in fact should do so rather than delay the celebration. Although it is customary to conduct the Hanukat Ha'bayit within a year of moving into a new home, it is nevertheless preferable to have the event as soon as possible, and so one who moves into a new home during the Nine Days should host the Hanukat Ha'bayit immediately. Light refreshments may be served at the event, but music may not be played. Normally, when hosting a Hanukat Ha'bayit, the homeowner wears a new garment and recites the Beracha of "She'hehiyanu." When the event is held during the Nine Days, one should wear the new garment and recite "She'hehiyanu" after Tisha B'Ab, as it is customary not to recite this Beracha during the Three Weeks. One should not purchase fine jewelry during the Nine Days. Nevertheless, a jeweler may continue operating his business during the Nine Days. Since people purchase jewelry more frequently nowadays than in the past, such purchases do not bring special joy as they used to, and so there is room to be lenient for somebody who earns a livelihood from selling jewelry. One may purchase a new car during the Nine Days if he needs it for his livelihood. If, however, he wishes to buy a new car as a luxury, not as a necessity, then he should wait until after Tisha B'Ab, unless the car will cost more money if he delays. It would seem that there is no distinction between buying and leasing in this regard. One may purchase new Torah books during the Nine Days, and if he needs more space for the new books, he may buy new bookshelves. In general, one may purchase furniture that is needed for basic living, but not furniture that is needed for luxury purposes. One may buy simple clothing, such as socks, but one may not buy more significant garments, such as a suit. However, this is permissible if the price will be significantly higher after Tisha B'Av. One may buy material during the Nine Days to be used for making clothing after Tisha B'Ab.

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Generally speaking, the restrictions observed during the three-week period of Ben Ha'mesarim – from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz through Tisha B'Ab – apply equally to both and women. The question was asked regarding an unmarried girl who would like to take a haircut before going on a date, or an engaged girl who wishes to take a haircut before spending time with her fiancé. Ashkenazic practice is to refrain from haircutting through the Three Weeks, and Sephardic practice is to refrain from doing so from Shabbat Hazon (the Shabbat immediately preceding Tisha B'Ab). Is there room to permit a girl to take a haircut during the Three Weeks or the Nine Days if she finds this necessary for purposes of courtship, or for her fiancé? When it comes to a female mourner, the Shulhan Aruch (Y.D. 390:5) rules that a woman in mourning for an immediate family member may take a haircut already after the seven-day Shiba period, whereas the Rama, whose rulings are followed by Ashkenazim, forbids haircutting even for women until after the thirty-day Sheloshim period. Accordingly, Hacham Ovadia Yosef ruled that a Sephardic girl who wishes to cut her hair may do so, even after Shabbat Hazon, since the restrictions of Ben Ha'mesarim are treated more leniently than the laws of mourning. Moreover, it seems clear from Hacham Ovadia's rulings that any Sephardic woman who feels the need to cut her hair, for any reason, may do so, even after Shabbat Hazon. An example would be a woman who needs to immerse in a Mikveh and wishes to cut her hair to make the preparations for her immersion easier. As for Ashkenazic girls, Hacham Ovadia ruled that they may, if necessary, cut their hair until Shabbat Hazon. Although Ashkenazic practice forbids a female mourner from haircutting during Sheloshim, the laws of the Three Weeks are observed only by force of custom, and not as strict Halacha, and so there is greater room for leniency. After Shabbat Hazon, however, an Ashkenazic girl should not take a haircut. Hacham Ovadia showed that this is the position also of Rav Moshe Feinstein (1895-1986) and Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (1910-1995). Summary: Ashkenazim refrain from haircutting during the three weeks from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz through Tisha B'Ab. An Ashkenazic girl who wishes to cut her hair for a date, or an engaged Ashkenazic girl who wishes to take a haircut so she looks good for her fiancé, may do so until Shabbat Hazon (the Shabbat preceding Tisha B'Ab). Sepharadim refrain from haircutting from Shabbat Hazon through Tisha B'Ab, but a Sephardic woman who feels a need to take a haircut for any reason during this week may do so.

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One of the customs which we observe during the Nine Days – from Rosh Hodesh Ab through Tisha B'Ab – is to refrain from meat. The Mishna establishes that eating meat is forbidden only during the Se'uda Mafseket – the final meal before Tisha B'Ab – but the custom was accepted to refrain from meat throughout the period of the Nine Days (except, of course, on Shabbat). A number of companies today sell synthetic meat – products made from soy or other ingredients but resemble meat, and are eaten as meat substitutes. Are such products permissible for consumption during the Nine Days? Hacham Bension Abba Shaul (Jerusalem, 1924-1998) writes that although the concept of Mar'it Ha'ayin – avoiding actions which appear as Halachic violations – forbids eating something which appears prohibited, this rule does not apply to something which is forbidden only by force of Minhag (accepted custom). When something is forbidden by the strict Halacha, then we must be concerned about Mar'it Ha'ayin, but not when it is forbidden only on the level of Minhag. Therefore, Hacham Bension writes, it is permissible during the Nine Days to eat vegetarian products which resemble meat, but during the Se'uda Mafseket, when meat is forbidden on the level of strict Halacha, it may be eaten only privately, but not in public view. Summary: Synthetic meat products – meaning, products which resemble meat but are made from soy or other ingredients – may be eaten during the Nine Days. However, during the Se'uda Mafseket right before Tisha B'Ab, such products may be eaten only in private, but not in a public setting.

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This Halacha was developed from multiple transcriptions of Rabbi Eli Mansour's lectures in the "Beki'im BaHalacha" series. The original audio recordings for this Halacha were delivered on the following dates and can be accessed here: 06-24-25 Audio File ; 06-25-25 Audio File ; 06-26-25 Audio File ; 06-29-25 Audio File The Three Weeks , spanning from Shiba Asar BeTammuz (the 17th of Tammuz) through Tisha B'Av , is a time designated for national mourning over the tragedies that befell Am Yisrael throughout history—most notably the destruction of both Bateh Mikdash. Our Sages instituted a number of customs and halachot during this period to reduce our joy and help us internalize the gravity of the losses. While the Nine Days and week of Tisha B'Av carry stricter restrictions, even from the start of the Three Weeks, there are behaviors and activities that should be avoided due to their association with excessive joy, lightheartedness, or distraction from mourning. Entertainment and Recreational Outings The Rambam writes (Hilchot Ta'aniyot 5:1) that the proper response to communal suffering is to reflect and act—not to carry on with business as usual. For this reason, it is customary to avoid outings and events that are designed purely for fun or celebration . This includes: Attending concerts, comedy shows, musical performances, or theater productions Going to amusement parks, carnivals, bowling alleys, or arcades Group activities or trips organized for entertainment and leisure Recreational barbecues, parties, or similar festive gatherings The She'elat Ya'abets and Ben Ish Hai (Parashat Devarim) both emphasize avoiding such joyous outings during this period. Rav Moshe Feinstein (Iggerot Moshe, O.C. vol. 3, siman 87) also addressed recreational gatherings and ruled that they should be avoided even when music is not involved. Sports and Physical Activity Recreational sports are another category of concern. While physical activity for health is permitted, engaging in sports for fun—especially if competitive and emotionally charged—should be avoided. Casual jogging or gym workouts for health reasons are permitted . Joining in competitive team sports, tournaments, or pickup games, especially those that attract crowds or bring heightened excitement, are discouraged . Swimming for fitness may be permitted during the Three Weeks, but not during the Nine Days. The Mishna Berura (O.C. 551:16) cites that joyous activity should be limited even during the early part of the Three Weeks, especially when it mimics festivity. Poskim such as Rav Shmuel Kamenetsky extend this to include sporting events with celebratory atmospheres. Shopping for Enjoyment During the Three Weeks, one should refrain from shopping for enjoyment , even if no Beracha Shehechiyanu would be required. This includes: Buying new clothing, shoes, jewelry, accessories, or electronics Making home décor upgrades or indulging in hobby-related purchases Shopping sprees or window-shopping done for leisure Essential purchases (like school supplies or items urgently needed) are permitted. If one finds a limited-time deal or discount that will not be available later, they may buy the item during the Three Weeks but should wait to use it until afterward , if possible. This is ruled by Rav Moshe Feinstein and others (Iggerot Moshe, O.C. vol. 3, siman 80). Travel and Leisure Trips The Three Weeks are also considered a time of danger (see Shulchan Aruch O.C. 551:18), and for this reason, many refrain from leisure travel or long road trips. Rav Ovadia Yosef (Yechave Da'at 1:37) writes that unless there is a real need, vacation trips should be postponed until after Tisha B'Av. This includes: Cruises, resort stays, or beach vacations National parks or nature sightseeing trips Visiting distant relatives for enjoyment rather than necessity However, if the travel is required for business, medical needs, family obligations, or other pressing reasons, it is permitted—though one should still avoid turning it into a joyous excursion. Maintaining the Right Tone Some mistakenly believe that the Three Weeks require sadness or depression. On the contrary, the Torah teaches that a Jew must always serve Hashem with joy (Devarim 28:47). But during periods of national mourning, the tone of that joy must be subdued and introspective. The Gemara in Ta'anit 30b teaches, "Mi'shenichnas Av, mema'atin b'simha"—as the month of Av begins, we reduce our joy. We do not eliminate joy, but we avoid external expressions of frivolity and celebration. This balance is echoed by the Aruch HaShulchan (O.C. 551:23) , who writes that one's behavior during these days should reflect a seriousness and awareness of our national losses, even if one continues to smile, work, and engage with others normally. Summary During the Three Weeks, one should avoid: Concerts, shows, amusement parks, and festive outings Competitive or recreational sports done for fun Unnecessary shopping for non-essential or luxury items Travel taken for leisure or vacation Parties and gatherings unrelated to Misvot This helps us remain focused on the deeper meaning of this period—a time to reflect, mourn, and yearn for the rebuilding of the Bet HaMikdash.

The Halacha below was generated by AI based on multiple classes given by Rabbi Eli Mansour in the Bekiim B'Halacha series. Click on any of the dates below to hear the original audio file. This write-up has been reviewed, but if any errors remain, we welcome corrections. 06-16-25; 06-17-25 One of the more commonly encountered questions during the Three Weeks concerns music. Is it permissible to listen to music during this period? What about recorded music, or music intended to help a person focus, relax, or stay awake? And is singing permitted even if instruments are not? This Halacha examines the nature of the restriction, its halachic basis, and when—if ever—music might be allowed. What Is the Source for This Custom? The custom to refrain from music during Ben HaMesarim is not explicitly found in the Gemara. Rather, it evolved as part of the broader mourning practices adopted after the destruction of the Bet HaMikdash. Music brings joy and emotional upliftment, and is therefore seen as inappropriate during a period meant for national reflection and sorrow. The Rambam (Hilchot Ta'aniyot 5:14) writes that after the Hurban (destruction of the Bet HaMikdash), the Sages enacted decrees to limit expressions of joy, such as music and dancing. Although this was not originally specific to the Three Weeks, over time the practice was incorporated into this period to align with the overall spirit of mourning. Does This Apply to All Music—Even Recorded? Yes. Most Poskim today apply the restriction to both live and recorded music. Even if the original decree referred to instruments and public festivities, recorded music triggers the same emotional experience of joy and is therefore avoided. This includes music played casually at home, in the car, or on headphones. Background music in stores or commercials is not the listener's intent and may be permitted. Some Poskim draw a distinction between upbeat, celebratory music versus neutral or calming music. However, the general rule is to avoid music that provides emotional enjoyment. What About Music for Practical Use—Exercise, Focus, or Sleep? There is room for leniency when music serves a functional purpose rather than entertainment. For example: A person using soft background music to help them focus while working or studying. Someone who cannot fall asleep without relaxing music. A person who requires rhythmic music for exercise or therapy. In such cases, some authorities are lenient, especially before Rosh Hodesh Ab. Still, one should try to use instrumental or neutral tracks and avoid upbeat or joyous songs. Is Singing Without Instruments Permitted? Yes. Singing without instruments is generally permitted throughout the Three Weeks, including the Nine Days. However, one should refrain from overly joyous or festive singing. This is especially true during learning or prayer, where singing a Pasuk or Zemirot is part of the experience. Even singing Shabbat Zemirot at home is encouraged as part of Oneg Shabbat. Music at a Se'udat Misva At a Se'udat Misva—such as a Brit Mila, Pidyon Haben, Siyum Masechet, or Sheva Berachot—some authorities permit live or recorded music, even during the Three Weeks. The joy is centered around the Misva, and therefore the usual mourning restrictions are eased. Still, many avoid music during the Nine Days (Rosh Hodesh Ab through Tisha B'Ab) even at a Se'udat Misva unless absolutely necessary. Summary Music is generally avoided during the Three Weeks as part of mourning the Hurban (destruction of the Bet HaMikdash). The restriction includes both live and recorded music. Leniency exists for functional uses (focus, sleep, exercise), especially before Rosh Hodesh Ab. Singing without instruments is permitted, particularly for prayer or learning. Music at a Se'udat Misva may be allowed but should be avoided during the Nine Days unless warranted.

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