Heart for Excellence

It’s not about me. We are here for a reason. What’s the meaning of life? To Vince, it’s giving glory to God by doing good works to others. Whenever it gets bad, like, for example, when he got in a car wreck putting up campaign signs, Vince asks himself, “What is the next right next […] The post What is the next right next step? (Ep #66) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

We, as men, can’t have watered down beliefs. We have to stand up for the people who can’t stand up for themselves. That’s why, for example, you’ll find Vince Santini at pro-life rallies, courts, and the campaign trail. Please listen in as Vince explains why he volunteers as a sponsor for couples going through marriage […] The post Can’t have watered down beliefs (Ep #65) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Henry shares how the ministry of presence helped him to make sense of his 4-year-old son’s death. Jake died in his arms after a 2-year fight with bone cancer. Henry doesn’t even remember the first year after his son’s passing. Please listen in to the small miracles that helped him get over the hump. More […] The post Ministry of Presence (Ep #64) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Henry shares how his 4-year-old son’s death left him still struggling to forgive God. Jacob’s situation was so grim that even the doctor cried when giving a prognosis. Two years of 25 days a month hospital stays, and multiple 14-hour surgeries turned him into a zombie. Please listen in as Henry describes how this trial […] The post Still struggling to forgive God (Ep #63) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Tammy shares how she learned that without God, healing wouldn’t be complete. After having a terrible argument with a teenage daughter, she woke up the next day and said to her husband: “I’m going to church. I’m taking my kids. You can either how with me and save our family or don’t, and I don’t […] The post Without God, healing won’t be complete (Ep #62) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Tammy shares how she became obsessed with, “I’ve got to be enough.” She became the busiest unemployed person. In fact, Tammy became a pageant director. A broken person mentoring young women not to be broken! Please listen in as Tammy tells the story of how the internal box that allowed her to forget about molestation […] The post I’ve got to be enough (Ep #61) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Tammy shares a series of experiences that lead her to believe no wasn’t an option for her. Even though amazing parents adopted her, seven years of molestation led her to promiscuous relationships, rape, abortions, and an eating disorder. Please listen in as Tammy explains how the feelings of not belonging in her family resulted in […] The post No wasn’t an option (Ep #60) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Tracy shares what helped him to answer the question, “Do I have what it takes?” He starts with a story of a donkey as an example of how to learn not only what we want, but also what we don’t want. Tracy also talks about how Jesus helps him to overcome childhood insecurities as well […] The post Do I have what it takes? (Ep #59) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Tracy shares how he tried to bang in the missing piece by looking for love in all the wrong places. He never knew his father and all he remembers is a deep empty hole. Please listen in on how Big Brothers, Big Sisters set Tracy on the right path as well as what helped him […] The post Trying to bang in the missing piece (Ep #58) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Gordy shares how, when he let God in, things started moving in his marriage. Like most men, he dragged his feet because he didn’t think he needed help. Even once he started, one of the counselors fired him and his wife, because he felt they were too far gone as a couple. Please listen in […] The post When you let God in, things start moving (Ep #57) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Gordy shares how forgetting what’s behind and pressing to what’s ahead allowed him to create TWFG from scratch. In fact, the first insurance business he built was stolen from him. What is now a 600 million dollar business, started as a landing pad for mistreated insurance agents, just like him. Rapid business growth, however, had […] The post Forgetting what’s behind and pressing to what’s ahead (Ep #56) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Jeff shares how he inspires men never to stop being a dad, regardless of what the score is. For him, it started when he brought his daughter home at 22. That night he realized that his daughter is not a puppy, and this will be a lifelong journey. Jeff talks about what Suit Up ministries […] The post Never stop being a dad, regardless what the score is (Ep #55) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

We discuss with Jeff Springer how dads are the source of men’s confidence. To this day, Jeff remembers the sick feeling in his stomach whenever his dad dropped him off home. He had to turn all the lights on and blast the radio because he didn’t want to think about the reality that he won’t see […] The post Dads are the source of men’s confidence (Ep #54) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Bonnies describes how “the word of God healed every corner of my heart.” Through the Confidential Abortion Recovery & Education at PCN, she realized that the Lord never left her or forsook her. Please listen in as Bonnie describes how she got free to the point that she wanted to shout it from the rooftops. […] The post The word of God healed every corner of my heart (Ep #53) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Bonnie describes what “running from myself” looks like. She ran from the pain, never able to be peaceful. Work became a medication for self-esteem and Bonnie always needed a man to feel complete. She asked God a million times for forgiveness but never received it. Please listen in as Bonnie describes the sequence of events […] The post Running from myself (Ep #52) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Bonnie shares how a desperate need to deal with something resulted in the most course changing decision of her life. At 17 she has never known the terror as she found out that she was pregnant with a guy from a church youth group. Please listen in as Bonnie describes what lead her to an […] The post A desperate need to deal with something (Ep #51) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Chris answers why does a loving God bring up guilt? It may sound insensitive to confront heavy stuff in your heart. However, in Chris’ case, God offered a path of reconciliation and freedom from stuffing down abortion. Please listen in as we discuss how unresolved guilt affects us day to day, how to receive forgiveness […] The post Why does a loving God bring up guilt? (Ep#50) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Chris shares how being churched but not taught resulted in not having the foundation to question abortion. He was 27, it wasn’t convenient, and he just wanted to off the baby problem. In fact, it took him a few minutes to make the decision. Please listen in as Chris talks about what helped him to […] The post Churched but not taught (Ep #49) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Trevor and Marek discuss why is there so much anger? We start by defining what anger is and what causes us to lash out. Then we shift into practical advice on how to break the cycle and use the times we fall short as opportunities to strengthen our relationships. Heart for Excellence Episode #47 with […] The post Why is there so much anger? (Ep #48) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Trevor and Marek discuss how our guests made the transition from “Me First.” It’s tempting for us men to think that we are the only ones struggling, but we ALL wrestle with the SAME things. In this episode, you will learn about the benefits of transitioning from selfishness and the importance of finding the guys […] The post The transition from “Me First” (Ep #47) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Lee shares how his IT project management experiences led him to conclude that “I don’t control squat.” Like for all of us, it’s a constant struggle of wanting to micromanage rather than surrender to God. Please listen on a discussion of how to balance the paradox of giving all the power to the Holy Spirit […] The post I don’t control squat (Ep #46) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Lee shares how he deals with the frustrations of the “what have I accomplished?” question. It started with Lee getting kicked out of a Bible college even though he was a Bible club president and rode a bus on purpose just so that he could evangelize. It continues with some of his current efforts like […] The post What have I accomplished? (Ep #45) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Woo shares how even with all the spiritual growth he is still wrestling with giving. Please listen in to hear what keeps Woo from getting discouraged by the fact that he still doesn’t consider himself a cheerful giver. Woo also gives his tips for what helps him whenever he gets tempted not to give. We […] The post Still wrestling with giving (Ep #44) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Woo knew that his love of money wasn’t a good thing. He tried to justify it to the point of negotiation with God. “If I get this much money, I’m going to give you this much.” All he thought about was his next investment and how to grow wealth. Everything changed when a business bankruptcy […] The post Love of money (Ep #43) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Through drugs, crimes, prison Chris reflects how God introduces trials to purify us. He experienced God’s goodness, and he is on fire. Please tune in to hear how this very drive helped him to work his way up in the construction industry, find his wife Amber and overcome a slip-up. Chris finishes up by sharing […] The post God introduces trials to purify us (Ep # 42) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Chris by his life’s example shares how when we don’t have an identity; we’ll take anything. He wanted to be a quarterback so that people could see him as the head. Over time, Chris ended up peddling drugs to be the person who gets you what you need. Drugs fed his identity crisis, and he […] The post When we don’t have an identity; we’ll take anything (Ep #41) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Chris shares how what led him to do stupid things for acceptance, to the point where he told himself “I want to stop, but I cannot stop.” From growing up as a biracial kid who never quite fit in, to a free-spirited father who didn’t tell him who he was so that he could stand […] The post I want to stop, but I cannot stop (Ep #40) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Sean talks about what got him to realize that “If you know the voice of self, you’ll know when it’s not God.” Even then, one thing is to be sensitive to the voice of God, another is to follow. Sean shares what helps him to encourage people to get out of their comfort zone. Be […] The post If you know the voice of self, you’ll know when it’s not God (Ep #39) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Sean shares how he finally got to the point of asking “God, shield me from me.” Since nobody modeled for him what being a good husband or a father looks like, he tried to make it to what he thought it should be. Consequently, Sean outlines the sequence of events that led him to buy his […] The post God, shield me from me (Ep #38) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Sean shares by his example of how a person doesn’t backslide overnight. Even though his mother prayed to the point of bloodshed eyes, he never developed a personal relationship with Christ. Sean shares how not having a dad speaking into his life made him wrestle with his identity. It was only in the Navy when […] The post A person doesn’t backslide overnight (Ep #37) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Andrew shares how he learned that grief is love with no place to go. Autistic kids have very specialized interests, which may seem odd to people but may turn into great careers. Now that he learned to channel his passions, Andrew is traveling with SkillCorps to Prague. He will bring evidence-based practices to the local […] The post Grief is love with no place to go (Ep #36) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Andrew shares personal lessons learned on finding the energy to press on. Particularly when he lost contact with the person he learned French for and left his job. Andrew decided to continue to try new things not because they are easy, but because they are hard. That’s what gave him the courage to apply for […] The post Finding the energy to press on (Ep #35) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Bill, Trevor and Marek talk about who they became as a result of their dads. We come to a conclusion that criticism kills the spirit of our children. What follows is a discussion of what happens when fathers don’t communicate love to their children and how to break the cycle. We wrap up by thanking […] The post Criticism kills the spirit of our children (Ep #34) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Bill, Trevor and Marek talk about the relationships they had with their fathers to answer the question “How to become a better dad?” In the process we discover that we all became that which we didn’t like. What follows is a discussion of what helped three men, from three different generations, to break the cycle. […] The post How to become a better dad? (Ep #33) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Bill shares the doubts and emotions he experienced when he asked himself “Why did my daughter get shot?” More specifically, how he dug deeper, past the clichés. Finally, Bill gives an example of how this trial helped him to be there for his brother who is still having a hard time dealing with the death […] The post Why did my daughter get shot? (Ep #32) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Forgiving ourselves tends to be most difficult. Particularly when the person we wronged is either dead or deeply hurt by our actions. Marek shares the process that helped him forgive himself for not appreciating his mom who passed away years ago. Trevor shares the progress and lessons he learned as he tries to forgive himself […] The post Forgiving Ourselves (Ep #31) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Forgiving others is difficult because we tend to think that we are right. It’s the other person’s responsibility! In this episode we talk about the difficulty of taking the first step and the temptations of giving others the judgement treatment. Yet, forgiving others is so freeing! We share practical steps that will encourage you to […] The post Forgiving Others (Ep #30) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Jason shares how he initially thought that all he needs to do is give his life to Jesus and he’ll be “good.” It wasn’t until he started giving things to Christ, that he realized that surrender leads to victory. That’s how he transitioned from a boy to a man ready for the Lord. In this […] The post Boy to a man ready for the Lord (Ep #29) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Jason shares how he came to the Lord. The temptations of attention held him back for a long time. From a bad kid, through a successful employee, all the way up to taking over a bible study! Everything changed when he held his daughter for the first time. Heart for Excellence Episode #28: Jason Lee […] The post The temptations of attention (Ep #28) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Clayton shares how the power of testimonies at the Advance allowed him to let go of feelings he’s been stuffing down for a long time. It didn’t stop there. Hearing what God did with the speakers afterwards, gave Clayton confidence that God will do the same in his life … if he just lays it […] The post The power of testimonies (Ep #27) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Clayton shares the blessings of having close friendships with guys who love Jesus as well as guys who were not interested in the Bible. Further, how his strong identity in Christ helped him experience that God doesn’t just put together broken pieces. He makes something better. More specifically how a shattered patella and an Army […] The post Identity in Christ above all callings (Ep #26) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Billy shares how the indifference in his marriage woke him up to take action and ask himself “Is this the best that I can do?” That’s what started his approval addiction recovery. Then, Billy talks about how realizing that he has a choice led him to seek out life giving relationships. Heart for Excellence Episode […] The post Approval addiction recovery (Ep #25) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Billy’s earliest memory is his mom telling him “I wish I had aborted you.”  In this episode, Billy shares how this memory led him to approval addiction as well as drinking so that he could escape the role of being a husband and a father. Heart for Excellence Episode #24: Billy Turner (Part 1) For […] The post Approval addiction (Ep #24) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Matthew Ognisty (Part 3): To see the video of this episode please click here (YouTube), to hear the sound please click play below ⬇️ The post How does a young man keep his ways pure? (Ep #23) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Matthew Ognisty (Part 2): To see the video of this episode please click here (YouTube), to hear the sound please click play below ⬇️ The post How to do the right thing when emotions get in the way? (Ep #22) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Matthew Ognisty (Part 1): To see the video of this episode please click here (YouTube), to hear the sound please click play below ⬇️ The post Turning to God after father’s death (Ep #21) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Please learn from Marek’s mistakes: To see the video of this episode please click here (YouTube), to hear the sound please click play below ⬇️ The post Marek’s divorce mess transformation (Ep #20) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Please learn from Trevor’s mistakes: To see the video of this episode please click here (YouTube), to hear the sound please click play below ⬇️ The post Trevor’s divorce mess transformation (Ep #19) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Relationships are the best mirrors of ourselves: To see the video of this episode please click here (YouTube), to hear the sound please click play below ⬇️ The post Post break up Strategies (Ep #18) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Men’s Advance Debrief (Part 3): To see the video of this episode please click here (YouTube), to hear the sound please click play below ⬇️ The post What causes men to hesitate in spiritual battle? (Ep #17) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.

Men’s Advance Debrief (Part 2): To see the video of this episode please click here (YouTube), to hear the sound please click play below ⬇️ The post Spiritual Combat Effectiveness (Ep #16) appeared first on Love Proficiency Coaching.