Podcasts about approval addiction

Dr. Brian Harris built five dental practices, filled his garage with a Lamborghini, a Ferrari, a GT3, and a G-Wagon, and still wasn't any happier than when he had one office. So he did what almost no one does: he sold the practices back to his associates, went back to one location, and doubled down on the craft he actually loves. In this episode, Peter, Craig, Ian, and Brian unpack the real story behind the highlight reel. Why ego drives expansion more than strategy. Why financial success doesn't automatically create fulfillment. Why younger dentists need to rev the RPMs before they chase lifestyle dentistry. And why the ability to walk away from something you built might be the most underrated skill in the profession. Brian also shares what he's learned from nearly a decade running his own mastermind, building Smile Virtual, and doing $400K a month in production as a solo cosmetic dentist. His core message to every dentist listening: connection before conversion. Stop trying to close people. Start organizing your practice and your life around what actually makes you excited to show up. DESCRIPTION The Bulletproof Dental Podcast Episode: 437 HOSTS: Dr. Peter Boulden, Dr. Craig Spodak, and Ian de Jongh Special Guest: Dr. Brian Harris In this episode, Peter Boulden, Craig Spodak, and Ian de Jongh sit down with Dr. Brian Harris, cosmetic dentist, founder of Smile Virtual, and headliner at the 2026 Bulletproof Summit in Scottsdale. Brian shares the unfiltered story of scaling to five practices, realizing he was making less money and carrying more stress, and making the unconventional decision to go back to one office and focus on what he loves. If you've ever wondered whether more locations, more revenue, or more stuff will actually make you happier, this episode is a brutally honest look at what happens when you get everything you thought you wanted and have to recalibrate. TAKEAWAYS - Building multiple locations without the right leadership layer can leave you earning less than you did with one - Ego and approval addiction are often the real drivers behind expansion decisions - The grind phase early in your career is necessary and shouldn't be skipped - Knowing when to take the cul-de-sac back out is just as important as perseverance - Material success (cars, money, status) does not reliably increase happiness - Organizing your practice around what excites you creates better outcomes than chasing what others say you should do - Connection before conversion is the key to case acceptance and long-term practice success - Social media content works best when it's about your patients, not about you - Repetition through tools like Smile Virtual builds consultation skills that translate to real-life case acceptance - Being out of balance isn't a failure if you recognize it and course correct CHAPTERS 00:00 Opening Banter and Introductions 01:09 What Should the World of Dentistry Be Like 02:53 What Would You Tell Your Younger Self 04:29 The Case Against Lifestyle Dentistry Too Early 06:08 The Dip, the Cul-de-Sac, and Knowing When to Walk Away 07:15 What Are You Most Proud Of 09:15 Going from One Office to Five and Back Again 11:25 The Counter Narrative to Build Build Build 13:51 It Was Ego 15:17 A Garage Full of Supercars and the Same Level of Happiness 17:12 The Trap of Chasing Financial Success 18:16 Finding What You Actually Love About Dentistry 21:10 The Value of Loving Your Craft 23:51 The Strivers Curse and Being Out of Balance 26:10 Acknowledging When You're Out of Balance 28:13 Approval Addiction and Learning to Say No 30:20 People Pleasing Beyond the Operatory 32:27 Building a Personal Brand That Serves Patients 35:07 Content Strategy and Making It About Others 37:06 The Elite Mastermind and Finding Your Tribe 41:56 The Danger of Wrong-Fit Groups and Outside Influencers 44:36 Authenticity Over Sales Tactics 46:09 How Smile Virtual Builds Real Consultation Skills 49:46 Brian's Message to Every Dentist Listening 53:18 The Spirit of Service and Why It Wins 55:27 Brian's Megaphone Moment 59:09 Closing and Summit Details REFERENCES - Bulletproof Summit 2026 - https://bulletproofsummit.com/ - Bulletproof Mastermind - https://bulletproofmastermind.com/ - Smile Virtual - https://smilevirtual.com/

Why are we content with just knowing about God when we can intimately know Him? In this message, Pastor Gregory Dickow reveals why intimacy with God is the only answer to the approval addiction driving our world. You are already fully known and fully wanted by God. Learn how to practically experience intimacy with Him and start living from the approval He's already given you.Sunday | May 17, 2026 | 10:30 AMSUPPORT:You can donate to help us reach more lives around the world here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangerschurch.com/give⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WATCH ON YOUTUBE:Subscribe to the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Gregory Dickow YouTube channel⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠REQUEST PRAYER:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit a prayer request⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and we will agree with you.CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Why are we content with just knowing about God when we can intimately know Him? In this message, Pastor Gregory Dickow reveals why intimacy with God is the only answer to the approval addiction driving our world. You are already fully known and fully wanted by God. Learn how to practically experience intimacy with Him and start living from the approval He's already given you.Sunday | May 17, 2026 | 10:30 AMSUPPORT:You can donate to help us reach more lives around the world here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangerschurch.com/give⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WATCH ON YOUTUBE:Subscribe to the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Gregory Dickow YouTube channel⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠REQUEST PRAYER:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit a prayer request⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and we will agree with you.CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Are you overly concerned about what people think? Joyce shares how healing from rejection and embracing your identity in Christ can break approval addiction and lead to lasting freedom.

Trying to win everyone's approval can keep you trapped in insecurity and fear. Learn how accepting God's love and approval sets you free to live with confidence and peace.

Approval addiction is real, and it's driving an epidemic of loneliness that no platform can fix. In this message, Pastor Gregory Dickow reveals why the attention and affirmation the world offers will never satisfy what only intimacy with God can heal. You were fully known before you ever performed for anyone. And you are fully wanted. Sunday | May 10, 2026 | 10:30 AMSUPPORT:You can donate to help us reach more lives around the world here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangerschurch.com/give⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WATCH ON YOUTUBE:Subscribe to the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Gregory Dickow YouTube channel⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠REQUEST PRAYER:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit a prayer request⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and we will agree with you.CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠

Approval addiction is real, and it's driving an epidemic of loneliness that no platform can fix. In this message, Pastor Gregory Dickow reveals why the attention and affirmation the world offers will never satisfy what only intimacy with God can heal. You were fully known before you ever performed for anyone. And you are fully wanted.Sunday | May 10, 2026 | 10:30 AMSUPPORT:You can donate to help us reach more lives around the world here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangerschurch.com/give⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WATCH ON YOUTUBE:Subscribe to the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Gregory Dickow YouTube channel⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠REQUEST PRAYER:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit a prayer request⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and we will agree with you.CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In Podcast 335, Dale Sellers interviews pastor and author Ramfis Moulier about how approval addiction and ministry overwork can damage marriages, families, and intimacy with God—and what it takes to heal and lead from presence, not performance.They also discuss the hidden cost of “doing ministry” for approval. Ramfis shares how a legalistic church culture, unrealistic expectations, and the intoxicating pull of platform affirmation can slowly turn ministry into a substitute for intimacy with God—and even into a rival to a spouse.Through candid stories from Ramfis's life (and themes from his book Ashes), this conversation explores why many pastors feel trapped in overwork, why honesty is often punished in church culture, and how healing begins when leaders choose peace and presence over performance and applause.Show Notes: https://95network.org/95podcast-335-summary-when-ministry-becomes-a-mistress-how-pastors-escape-approval-addiction-and-rediscover-peace-w-ramfis-moulier/Support the show

God Doesn't Plant Seeds He Doesn't Intend to Grow: Breaking Approval Addiction & Learning to Lead (Ep. 188) What if the reason you don't feel loved… is because the real you has never been fully seen? In this powerful episode, with relationship coach and author Lionel Moses, we unpack the connection between approval addiction, imposter syndrome, and leadership—and how so many of us are showing up in life, relationships, and even faith from a place of insecurity rather than identity. When we don't truly love or know ourselves, we perform. We people-please. We lead reactively. And deep down, we wonder why love never quite reaches us. But here's the truth: God doesn't plant seeds He doesn't intend to grow. Through honest conversation and real-life insight, we explore what it means to stop striving for approval and start leading from authenticity—rooted in who God says you are. This episode dives into healing the fear of not being enough, breaking cycles of over-performing, and learning to trust that what God has placed inside you is intentional, purposeful, and meant to flourish. If you've ever felt like an imposter, struggled to feel truly loved, or questioned your ability to lead—this conversation will meet you right where you are and gently call you higher. This episode features relationship coach and author Lionel Moses, whose book The Marriage Seed: How to Cultivate Relationships You Desire and Deserve explores how to build deeper, more authentic connections in every area of life. 

What if approval-seeking isn't about being liked…but about avoiding the feeling of not enough?In this episode, I'm unpacking the truth behind approval addiction—how the fear of criticism is really the fear of feeling small, diminished, or invalid… and how that fear quietly drives patterns like people-pleasing,perfectionism, and keeping the peace at your own expense.I share areal-life example of moving from reactivity to connection (a moment with my 3-year-old granddaughter—she was scared, I felt annoyed… and what unfolded fromthere surprised me)The shift isn't about trying harder to “get it right.”It's about telling the truth.In This Episode, We Explore:*Why approval-seeking is really a fear of “not enough” *How the fear of criticism drives perfectionism and people-pleasing *The connection between approval addiction and control in parenting *How these patterns often begin in childhood as a way to stay connected *A real-life example of moving from reactivity to connection *How self-connection shifts everything—without force or control If this episode resonated, share it with a friend or another mom who might need to hear this today.And if you haven't already, leaving a review helps this message reach more women who are ready for it.Let's Connect:Instagram: @dianesorensen.bbFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/diane.sorensen.589Join the conversation — share your takeaways or questions from today's episode by sending me a message on Instagram or Facebook - your reflections matter. Working Together:Diane Sorensen Coachingis where boundary work becomes the bridge from chaos to connection. You'll learn to transform your triggers,lead with compassion, and create emotionally safe, connected relationships built on authenticity, not approval.Reclaim your CALM, speak your TRUTH, and live FREE→ Submitan inquiry or learn more: www.dianesorensen.net/contact→ Explore free guides and resourcesto support your growth: www.dianesorensen.net/→ Join the weekly newsletter forinsights, tools, and support delivered straight to your inbox: www.dianesorensen.net/email-listBreakthrough session – This 90-minute session takes you through 3 steppingstones, moving from drama &chaos toward empowered connection

Barry confronts “sucking up” as disingenuous flattery used to gain favor with authority, calling it manipulative, rooted in insecurity and the fear of man, and harmful to families and culture. He links this behavior to a modern obsession with being “spectacular,” where showy displays in social media, workplaces, and churches can overshadow truth and substance. Don't let that happen!Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgCHAPTERS00:00 Stop Being a Suck Up00:59 What Sucking Up Means01:39 Spectacle Culture Explained03:31 Ingratiation Tactics at Work05:44 Approval Addiction and Dopamine10:47 Churches Chasing the Show13:54 Biblical Warnings on Deception18:32 Why We Fall for Spectacle19:46 Become Secure as a Man21:36 Join Father Seekers22:48 Final Charge and Sign Off--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

In this episode of Wine After Work, Bryce sits down with Elif Acar-Chiasson, P.E., founder of OPLE Leadership and former COO with over 30 years in the AEC industry. Elif built her consulting practice after living inside what she calls a "broken autonomy model." Brilliant engineers are promoted into leadership roles, then trapped in approval culture where every decision climbs uphill for permission. The leader becomes the bottleneck. The team stops growing. Everyone burns out. Together, Bryce and Elif unpack: • Why technical excellence and leadership requirements are often in conflict • The hidden addiction to approval and control inside engineering firms • Why autonomy is not "do whatever you want," but clear decision ownership with guardrails • How emotional intelligence supports decision-making under pressure • What stepping away from a COO role taught Elif about fit and courage • Why leading with both head and heart is not weakness but maturity • What competitive ballroom dancing at 50 revealed about starting over and discomfort Elif shares a systemic approach to leadership. Instead of coaching one overwhelmed leader in isolation, she looks at the entire decision architecture of a team. Who owns what? Where decisions stall. How trust is built or broken. Her core belief: the most critical structural integrity is not in buildings. It is in teams. About Elif: Elif Acar-Chiasson, P.E., is a Professional Engineer and founder of OPLE Leadership. After 12 years as an executive, including 8 as COO at CSRS/Westwood, she now works with technical professionals who are exceptional at their craft but struggling in leadership roles. She translates emotional intelligence into engineering frameworks and helps teams redesign how decisions are made so leaders are no longer the bottleneck. Originally from Istanbul, Turkey, Elif brings a multicultural lens to leadership and challenges the idea that "people skills" are separate from technical rigor.   https://www.elifchiasson.com/  

In this powerful spiritual talk, Rev. Lee Wolak explores "The Approval Addiction" and how external validation shapes identity, why seeking approval blocks authentic self-worth, and how to reclaim inner authority through Science of Mind principles, mindfulness, and conscious awareness. Discover practical spiritual tools for confidence, self-acceptance, and emotional freedom rooted in lasting inner value.  Sign up for my daily thought and weekly newsletter by clicking this link: https://www.agapespiritualcenter.com/free-affirmations If you find value in what Agape offers spiritually, emotionally, and in community, consider becoming a supporting member. Your recurring contribution helps us continue to share truth, healing, and transformation with the world. Click here to become a supporter: https://www.agapespiritualcenter.com/recurring-contributions/

Today, I interview Robin Goad who grew up believing that if her own mother did not love her enough to protect her, then she must be unlovable. From a young age, she learned to perform. Achievement was praised. Expectations were high. On the outside, she looked confident and capable. On the inside, she was hiding pain and building a life around approval.That pattern followed her into adulthood. She excelled in corporate America, rising into leadership while staying driven by performance and approval. At home, she was in a painful marriage. Then she made a choice that went against her own values, a choice that forced her to confront the life she had been living.But what felt like a nervous breakdown was actually the beginning of something new. Alone and finally facing herself, she uncovered the lie she had been living from for decades. Facing that lie marked the turning point in her life.Today, Robin shows up differently. Through her book Girl by Birth, Woman by Fire and her coaching, she creates space for women to be real and authentic, to tell the ugly raw truth without judgment. She helps women heal from trauma and guides young women in corporate America to discover their superpowers and rise without losing who they are.__________________Robin Goad is a powerhouse technology executive at Amazon Web Services, speaker, and coach who helps ambitious women master the corporate game without losing themselves.With over 30 years of leadership across Fortune 100 companies like Dell and Gartner, she has closed billion dollar deals, earned recognition as Dell's Working Mother of the Year, and built a reputation as a warrior in heels.But Robin's journey was not paved in perfection. It was forged in fire. Behind the titles were battles with childhood trauma, divorce, and a breaking point that forced her to confront the lies she had believed. That moment became her turning point.As the author of Girl by Birth. Woman by Fire., Robin equips women with her R.E.A.L. Framework and The Unwritten Rulebook, practical strategies for thriving in corporate America and in life. Her message is simple and bold: you can achieve extraordinary success without sacrificing your soul.__________________Find Robin here:https://www.therealrobingoad.com/https://www.facebook.com/robin.goad.5/https://www.youtube.com/@robingoad5604/https://www.instagram.com/fiftyfavoredfiguringitout/https://www.tiktok.com/@therealrobingoad/Support the showI'm Dr. Doreen Downing and I help people find their voice so they can speak without fear. Get the Free 7-Step Guide to Fearless Speaking https://www.doreen7steps.com​.

Approval addiction is one of the most overlooked habits keeping smart, capable people stuck. In this episode of UNSUBSCRIBE with Ginny Priem, we break down why seeking external validation feels so powerful, the science behind approval, and how modern culture fuels people-pleasing behaviors.Backed by behavioral science and psychology research, this conversation will help you understand why being liked can quietly cost you your voice, your energy, and your self-trust and how to UNSUBSCRIBE™ from approval addiction without becoming cold or disconnected.If you're ready to stop over-explaining, second-guessing, and living for other people's reactions, this episode is for you.Joe Navarro Article: LINKED HEREThank you to our sponsors:INE+ Nutrition: Get 15% off your Super Greens, Collagen Powder and more with code GIN15. WEBSITEThrifty Traveler: Get cheap flight deals in your inbox. Save $20 off your first year or the Premium subscription with THIS LINK. (Or code GINNYPRIEM at checkout)CONNECT WITH GINNY:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOKUNSUBSCRIBE MERCH#ApprovalAddiction#PeoplePleasing#StopSeekingValidation#PersonalGrowth#SelfTrust#EmotionalBoundaries#UnsubscribePodcast#GinnyPriem

In this soulful solo episode, Tobi Ojekunle dives deep into the emotional trap of people-pleasing — what he calls “the disease to please.” Through the powerful and heartbreaking story of Robin Williams, this episode explores how constantly seeking approval can quietly steal our peace, authenticity, and joy.Tobi shares a heartfelt reflection, ancient wisdom, biblical grounding, and practical, step-by-step tools to help you recognise, unlearn, and heal from this pattern. If you've ever said “yes” when your soul screamed “no,” this episode is your sacred permission to choose yourself.✨ Topics Covered:The root causes of people-pleasingSigns you might be suffering from the disease to pleasePractical healing strategies and boundary-setting tipsBiblical reflection: Galatians 1:10A guided reflection and healing prayer

High performers don't crave praise — they crave safety. In this episode, Julie Holly unpacks why performance became your path to belonging and how to finally stop earning love that was always meant to be received.The Roots of Approval: Why You Keep Proving YourselfYou've achieved so much — but deep down, something still drives you to keep proving. No matter how much success you build, that quiet hum remains: Do enough. Be enough. Don't let anyone down.In this intimate reflection, Julie Holly reveals why performance became your path to belonging. Through the lens of attachment theory, polyvagal insight, and real-life experience, you'll discover how your nervous system learned to equate doing well with being safe — and how to rewrite that pattern from the inside out.You'll learn:Why approval isn't about ego — it's about safety and connection.How your nervous system links performance to survival.The difference between unconditional and conditional attachment — and how it shaped your adult identity.How approval takes many forms: applause, silence, avoidance, or even belonging in unsafe spaces.Why high performance can become a survival response instead of an authentic expression.How recalibration at the identity level begins freeing your body and mind from old attachment loops.This episode offers both compassionate understanding and practical application — blending science, story, and soul to help you stop striving for what you already carry.

You've earned the applause — so why does it still feel off? In this episode, we explore why affirmation can't anchor your identity, and how obedience, not approval, is the path to real peace.You've said yes when everything in you whispered no.You've chased the next achievement, the next “well done,” hoping it would finally feel like enough.And yet… something inside still aches.This episode of The Recalibration is for the high-capacity human who's done everything right — but quietly wonders why applause still feels hollow.Julie Holly brings emotional clarity, biblical insight, and deep identity wisdom as she explores why social validation can't hold what only obedience can anchor. You'll hear a vulnerable personal story, a powerful contrast between Peter and Jonah, and the deeper reason so many high performers struggle with approval addiction — even after success.Inside this episode:Why people-pleasing often begins as a safety strategyHow Peter's denial and Jonah's resistance both stem from identity misalignmentThe nervous system's role in approval-seekingWhy performance drains but presence restoresWhy obedience — not applause — is the only secure anchorToday's Micro Recalibration: Obedience isn't just about saying yes — it's about choosing alignment even when it costs you something socially. That could look like disappointing others, releasing an image you've curated, or following God's whisper instead of the crowd's cheer.Where am I saying yes to people but no to God?Write down one place you're called to obey — even if it costs approval.If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Send us a textSeason 4, Episode 9 Moving Through Approval Addiction Today we're tackling one of the most hidden addictions in ministry: the need for approval. From people-pleasing to perfectionism, many clergy struggle with measuring their worth by others' opinions. In this episode, we'll explore why pastors are especially vulnerable, the heavy costs of approval addiction, and practical tools to break free. You'll hear stories, research, and spiritual wisdom to help you lead with authenticity, courage, and conviction.If you've ever found yourself saying “yes” when you wanted to say “no” or preaching for applause instead of truth—this episode is for you.

You've proven yourself a thousand times over — but still feel like you can't stop. This episode is your permission to rest, receive, and remember: you don't have to earn what God already said was yours.If you're the kind of person others rely on — high performer, high achiever, leader — then you likely built your life on effort. But what happens when that effort turns into performance? When striving becomes your safety net?In this episode, we name the invisible weight so many High Capacity Humans carry: the belief that they must earn their identity, their value, their belonging.Julie shares a story from a client who had it all on paper — but couldn't stop performing. And she reflects on her own journey of realizing: you don't have to earn what God already gave you.You'll also hear the powerful recalibration story of former NFL linebacker Sam Acho, who stopped pretending and began leading from the unshakeable truth of who he already was.This isn't just an invitation to slow down. It's an invitation to stop striving and start living like you're already approved.In this episode, you'll learn:How high achievers unconsciously link performance to worthWhy identity recalibration matters more than behavioral changeWhat Sam Acho's story reveals about public strength and private struggleHow faith and nervous system safety intersect in true transformation

When your identity fuses with what you produce, burnout is inevitable. This episode helps high-capacity humans recalibrate from performance to presence — before their purpose gets buried under pressure.If the results stopped, would you still know who you are?For high performers, that question feels risky. Because somewhere along the way, “doing well” became the same as “being worthy.”In this episode of Identity-Level Recalibration, we're exploring what happens when performance starts shaping identity — and how that slow slide leads to invisible burnout, fractured self-trust, and quiet resentment.Here's what we unpack together:Why success often deepens the approval trapThe subtle difference between identity-fused performance and healthy excellenceHow “helpfulness” and “achievement” become self-protectionWhy burnout is often a symptom of disconnection, not overworkWhat to learn from Anne Morriss' recalibration after public failureWhy celebration is more than a feel-good tool — it's a psychological exit ramp from overidentification (See Episode 38)How to spot identity foreclosure — and where we covered it previouslyIf you've built a life on results, this conversation will feel both tender and clarifying. Because you're not your wins. And when your identity is secure, your leadership becomes sustainable.Micro-Recalibration:Ask yourself: If this project fell apart — would I still know who I am?Let it lead to a deeper recalibration: What do I want to be true about me that isn't tied to output?For leaders:Think of someone you lead who's quietly attaching their worth to performance.Affirm who they are becoming — not just what they produce.That's how we build cultures of identity, not burnout.Need help seeing what you've outgrown?Download the Misalignment Audit in the show notes.The offer? Clarity. The cost of waiting? Compounding misalignment.RESOURCES:#25 Why You Default to Overgiving, Overthinking, or Overworking#38 How Small Wins Build Momentum When You're Burned OutIf this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

You've mastered the art of keeping the peace — but it's quietly costing you. If approval has become your access point to belonging, it's time to recalibrate your identity and stop trading alignment for acceptance.You've heard it your whole life: “You're so steady.” “You're the calm one.” “You make everyone feel better.”And while you've taken pride in that — you're also tired.Tired of holding space for everyone else while quietly carrying your own unmet needs.Tired of reading the room, softening your truth, adapting your tone — just to keep the peace.High-capacity humans become emotionally bilingual — fluent in what others need from us. But slowly, our own voice fades.In today's episode of Identity-Level Recalibration, we're getting honest about what happens when your identity becomes fused with emotional management. Because when affirmation becomes your access point to belonging… you stop showing up fully. Not because you're hiding — but because you're curating.This is identity performance — dressed up as emotional intelligence.We'll explore:Why emotional fluency becomes emotional fatigueThe hidden toll of always being “the steady one”What happens when misalignment hides behind competenceThe difference between servant leadership and self-erasureHow to break free from approval-based identityYou'll also hear how Lisa Bevere — author, leader, and founder — once silenced her voice to be the “supportive wife” the church expected… and how she chose obedience over image and stepped into vertical alignment.This episode includes a Micro-Recalibration to help you recognize where you're performing to be liked — and what it's costing you in identity.Today's Micro-Recalibration:Name one area where you've been performing for approval — and ask yourself what it's cost.Not in energy. In identity.Where are you showing up to manage perception instead of speaking from clarity?What version of you are you keeping alive just to keep others comfortable?What belief about love, peace, or leadership is asking you to disappear?If you lead a team, a company, or a household — this matters. Your clarity will set the emotional tone — not your compliance.If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

If you've been hesitating, second-guessing, or shrinking to stay liked — this episode is your invitation to lead from identity, not approval. You're already confirmed. Now it's time to live like it.How much of your life is quietly shaped by the need for permission?You don't need applause to live aligned. You don't need validation to act on what you already know is true. But most high-capacity humans — especially those carrying unseen responsibility — are stuck in a quiet habit of identity delay.We call it wisdom. Caution. Responsiveness.But the deeper truth?Waiting for permission is just fear in disguise.In this episode, we name the hidden cost of approval-seeking — and why delaying your next step until others feel comfortable will fragment your identity, drain your leadership energy, and slow your God-given momentum.You'll learn:The signs of identity delay and how it shows up in high-performing livesWhy borrowed confidence never sustains clarityWhat it looks like to shift from external approval to vertical alignmentHow Daymond John modeled identity-led leadership (long before Shark Tank)A practical recalibration to stop asking for applause and start living alignedThis episode isn't about being loud or rebellious — it's about being anchored.When you stop shrinking to be understood, you step into the authority of who God already made you to be.Today's Micro-Recalibration:Make one decision without asking for applause, feedback, or permission.Even if it's small — move from the version of you that's already been confirmed by God. And if you lead others, model identity-led leadership by letting them see what obedience looks like — even when it's misunderstood.Want more?Download the Misalignment Audit — and if you're ready for a full recalibration, schedule an Insight & Alignment call.If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Even Jesus was misunderstood — and He didn't perform to be seen. This episode invites you to anchor your worth in what God already declared, so you can lead from identity, not insecurity.If you've been quietly performing, over-functioning, or bending to be understood — this one's for you.In today's faith-forward episode, we return to the story of Jesus' baptism and wilderness (Matthew 3–4) to remember: your identity is declared by God, not earned in the wilderness.You'll hear how even Jesus, the Son of God, resisted the temptation to perform — staying rooted in truth, not applause. He healed in secret. He withdrew from the crowds. He didn't need validation to stay aligned — and neither do you.We'll explore how high-capacity humans often confuse approval with alignment, and why Identity-Level Recalibration is essential when your assignment grows but your support system shrinks.If you're navigating:the ache of being misunderstood,the pressure to prove your worth,or the fatigue of living for applause……this episode will recalibrate your heart and anchor your leadership in something unshakable.Today's Micro-Recalibration:Read Matthew chapters 3 and 4. Slowly. Notice how identity is declared before the test.Then reflect:Where are you performing for approval?Where are you questioning what God already confirmed?Where can you stop proving and start trusting?Your security isn't in who sees you — it's in Who sent you.If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Gregory Dickow opens up about the pain that drove him to search for God—and how discovering His approval brought real freedom. In this honest and powerful conversation with his son, Rob, they unpack the roots of insecurity, performance, and people-pleasing. They also discuss how your purpose becomes clear when you stop striving and start seeing God for who He really is.SUPPORT:You can donate to help us reach more lives around the world here: ⁠https://www.lifechangerschurch.com/give⁠WATCH ON YOUTUBE:Subscribe to the Gregory Dickow YouTube channelREQUEST PRAYER:Submit a prayer request and we will agree with you.CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL:InstagramFacebookTikTokYouTubeX

Send us a textBrett knows firsthand what it means to be addicted—not to substances, but to approval. As someone who spent years chasing validation to fill an inner emptiness, Brett's story sheds light on a lesser-known but deeply relatable struggle: the addiction to being liked, needed, and praised. Growing up without a strong sense of emotional fulfillment, Brett learned to shape-shift, perform, and people-please in order to feel worthy. But no amount of applause could quiet the inner voice that whispered, you're not enough.Brett's Website Support the show

Most pastors want to be liked and respected by their congregations. This desire is part of the reason they are motivated to serve others. However, approval addiction can become a major barrier to leadership. When people pleasing becomes the priority, pastors often do more harm than good in their congregations. Marty Duren joins Josh and Sam to discuss this important topic. The post Approval Addiction, People Pleasing, and How Pastors Can Let Go appeared first on Church Answers.

Do you worship the idol of approval? What happens to us when we worship approval? What's the difference between God's approval and man's approval? In today's episode, Tanya shares how 1 Samuel 10:17-27 encourages us to find our worth in what God says of us. If you're listening on Spotify, comment below one takeaway from today's episode! Read the Bible with us in 2025! This year, we're exploring the Historical Books—Joshua, Judges, 1 & 2 Samuel, and 1 & 2 Kings. Download your reading plan now. Your support makes TMBT possible. Ten Minute Bible Talks is a crowd-funded project. Join the TMBTeam to reach more people with the Bible. Give now. Like this content? Make sure to leave us a rating and share it so that others can find it, too. Use #asktmbt to connect with us, ask questions, and suggest topics. We'd love to hear from you! To learn more, visit our website and follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter @TenMinuteBibleTalks. Don't forget to subscribe to the TMBT Newsletter here. Passages: 1 Samuel 10:17-27

Send us a textIn the first three episodes of this series, Pastor Harris touched on one key topic in each teaching. In episode one, “The Performance Snare”, Pastor Harris discussed the topic of Justification and that we are completely forgiven and have become fully pleasing to God.  We no longer have to fear failure.  In the second episode, “Approval Addiction”, Pastor Harris touched on the topic of Reconciliation and that we are totally accepted by God and we no longer have to fear rejection. In the third episode, “The Blame Game”, Pastor Harris delivered a message of Propitiation and that we know we are deeply loved by God and no longer have to fear punishment nor do we have to punish others.Jericho was in the Roman province of Judea, the very wealthy lived here including King Herrod and he stayed there five months out of the year so it had to be pretty nice. In and around Jericho there were other palaces as well. The reason it was so popular had to do with the weather and its geographical location. It's situated some 833 feet below sea level in what is now known as the Jordan River Valley. It's the site of the world's largest oasis supported by the world's largest natural spring. In addition, its climate is ideal, it is virtually summer time all year round. Date palms can be found everywhere and citrus fruits of all varieties abound. The fences and the trellises are covered by flowers. The city was and is a tropical paradise. This is true even today, and was also true in the time of Jesus.  Even the great Egyptian Queen Cleopatra vacationed there in the winter. However, not only was Jericho very beautiful, it was also very prosperous. Some of this had to do with the tourism the city had attracted. Yet that was only a small part of it.  The vast majority of its wealth had to do with a great highway that passed through the city. The great trading caravans of antiquity made their journey there from India and Arabia. Crossing into the lands of Judea at the forge of the Jordan River located three miles east of Jericho.  Here in this city, the great caravans would stop and resupply and remit their border tolls making it the tax center of Judea. The tax collectors and publicans of Jericho were very wealthy but paid a huge price for their wealth.. They were hated by everyone in their country and they should have been hated.  For the most part they were all dishonest and crooked, it is not hard to imagine that these tax collectors had a real image problem.  Many of them wanted to change but they had believed the fourth great lie that Pastor Harris will talk about in this episode, and that is this, “I am what I am and I cannot change.”Support the show

Send us a textIn the first two episodes of this series, Pastor Harris touched on one key topic in each teaching. In episode one, “The Performance Snare”, Pastor Harris discussed the topic of Justification and that we are completely forgiven and have become fully pleasing to God.  We no longer have to fear failure.  In the second episode, “Approval Addiction”, Pastor Harris touched on the topic of Reconciliation and that we are totally accepted by God and we no longer have to fear rejection.In this episode Pastor Harris will walk us through the third or four lies that Satan tells us. This third lie can even be seen as a game we play.  Pastor Harris refers to this as “The Blame Game”. When playing this Blame Game we may tell ourselves lies like this, “I am not responsible for what I do, someone else is.”  Has anyone out there listening ever played this game?  Hopefully Pastor Harris's insights can shed some light on this game we play and how we might win, lose or simply choose not to play as we all work to move forward.Now before we kick off this teaching, I wanted to give those listening a heads up that about 12 minutes into this original recording, something altered the recording speeds which in-turn altered Pastor Harris' voice a touch.  Fear not, it's not your device, the issue has to do with the original recording from 10 years ago. It's a small issue but we can't let these small issues get in the way of publishing these important teachings.Support the show

Do you find yourself stuck in the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing and approval-seeking? In this episode, we explore how approval addiction can hinder your potential and steal your joy. You'll learn how to break free from this cycle by anchoring your self-worth in biblical truth and living for God's approval instead of the opinions of others. Discover practical tips to align your mindset with your identity in Christ, find freedom in faith, and live with confidence and purpose. If you're ready to stop chasing approval and embrace the life God designed for you, this episode is for you.   I hope this episode blesses you! Xoxo, Tanya   Episode Resources: GFL Episode Catalog   5 Ways To Connect With Me: 1️⃣ FREE CALL: Book your FREE Coaching Call now! Get personalized and practical strategies for work-life balance. Start your grace-filled life and leadership journey ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/workwithme   2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/community   3️⃣ FREE WORKSHOP: Watch my FREE “Conquer Your Email Inbox” workshop! It's your key to jumpstart productivity ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/workshop   4️⃣ COACHING: Are you READY to have better Work-Life BALANCE? Are you ready to up-level your productivity and efficiency? Get on the waitlist for my NEW small group coaching program:  The Productive Leader Academy. It's the accountability and guidance you need to implement rock solid systems that will catapult your productivity! ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/pla   5️⃣CONTACT: Leave me a question or comment ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/contact   "Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they're meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! Thank you so much for sharing and helping us become Spirit-driven, peaceful leaders!"    If you can relate, please consider rating and reviewing my show! It helps me reach more people – just like you – to help them change their future. Don't forget to follow the show so you don't miss any episodes! And, if you're feeling really generous, I'd be SO honored if you would share this podcast with someone.   Click here to view our privacy policy.

Send us a textLast week Pastor Harris started a series of sermons in which he will examine four of the major lies that Satan uses to destroy the lives of far too many people.  We looked at the first of these lies in the last episode which is this, “I must meet certain standards of behavior so I can feel good about myself.”  In this episode, Pastor Harris will deal with the next lie which is this, “I must be approved by certain others to feel good about myself.”  This leads to a condition Pastor Harris refers to as Approval Addiction.  This condition is totally linked to the fear of rejection that is one of our deepest human fears. We do not want to feel rejected.  We seek approval from others and we do this because we are biologically wired with a longing to belong.  We fear being cut off, demeaned or isolated. In other words we fear being alone and above all else we dread change.  The greater this fear becomes the more we experience a need for acceptance and it really can become an addiction. Our problem relates to the fact that we often seek approval from the wrong source. Those sources are often those around us, they can often ignore or reject us. So rather than turn to them, we should really be turning to someone who can love us unconditionally and that someone, as we all know, is our God.  Right now because of the condition of sin, a state in which we are born, we find ourselves alienated from God, the only one who really counts in our lives.  And that is why we have such an oppressive fear of not belonging. That problem is sin, we begin to overcome these fears when we realize that we need God more than we need other people. When we call upon him he will never reject us and he will never forsake us.  In theological terms we call this process reconciliation.  And that will be Pastor Harris's remedy to Approval Addition that he will be teaching today.Support the show

Show Main Idea: We dive into understanding our identity in Christ, finding security in God's provision. Through practical steps—confession, renewing the mind, and embracing the fear of God—we'll learn how the Holy Spirit empowers us to live with freedom from human opinion. With a renewed perspective, we'll discover how to walk confidently in God's approval, anchored in His truth. Show Notes: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-534-fear-of-man-steps-to-overcome-approval-addiction/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.

Show Main Idea: This lesson examines how a misplaced desire impacts our identity, breeds insecurity, and prevents genuine spiritual growth. Through practical self-reflection and biblical insights, we begin learning how to discern this idol, redirecting our hearts toward God's approval as the true anchor of our identity. Show Notes: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-532-fear-of-man-understanding-the-root-of-approval-addiction/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/

Send JKO a Text MessageDo you often find yourself asking, “What will people think?” when facing challenges or making decisions? From social science and scripture, we explore how this fear of judgment and need for approval can limit our ambitions, silence our authenticity, and create unnecessary stress in our lives. Learn how to break free from people-pleasing and live fulfilled even in the trenches of life. If you often hesitate, restricted and held back by the fear of other people's opinions, this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeThe prison of other people's opinions can sentence us to self-silence, compromised decisions, and restricted growthThe mental and emotional toll of worrying about others' opinions can make us physically and psychologically sickPeople are usually more focused on their own struggles than on our lives; we all have our own individual messesGrounding our worth in God's purpose not on human approval, will give us peace, confidence and fulfillmentKey Scriptures: Proverbs 29:25, Galatians 1:10 and Romans 8:1References in this episodeCharles Cooley- Looking glass selfSelf-Determination Theory in Psychology2 Corinthians 3:18Who You Are When No One's Looking: Choosing Consistency, Resisting CompromiseJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Ask David How Can I Change an SDB (Self-Defeating Belief)? How Can I Cope with Intense Public Speaking Anxiety? Featuring Rhonda Barovsky, Psy.D., Matthew May, MD, Jason Meno and David Burns, MD (Jason is an AI Scientist on our Feeling Great App Team) Anonymous asks: How can I change an SDB (Self-Defeating Belief)? Hiranmay asks: How can I deal with my intense anxiety before public speaking. Answers to Your Questions Note: These answers below were written BEFORE the podcast, and the live discussion always adds new and different angles. Today, Jason Meno, our beloved AI guy on our app team, also chimes in on the many super questions submitted by Andrew (#3 - #10.) 1. Anonymous asks: How can I change an SDB? Dear Dr. Burns, I'm an avid listener of the Feeling Good podcast and for the past few weeks, an avid user of the Feeling Great app. Thank you for your incredible work and dedication to making people everywhere feel better about themselves. I have a question about self-defeating beliefs that I'm hoping you can address, either on the show or on your website. You have mentioned on several occasions that SDBs are the root cause of negative thoughts and consequently of negative feelings. Yet, to me it doesn't feel like SDBs are really addressed enough on the podcast. There seem to only be a handful of episodes covering the topic. It also seems there is a very limited toolbox of methods to use on SDBs, almost like dealing with them is considered an afterthought. If SDBs really are the cause of it all, shouldn't the primary focus be on defeating them first and only then, on defeating negative thoughts? I'm just a little bit lost when it comes to defeating SDBs, which seem to be way harder to deal with than negative thoughts. Any insights or thoughts on the subject will be greatly appreciated. Sincerely, Anonymous David's reply Dear Anonymous, Will start a new Ask David with your excellent question. Thanks, david First, you can look up Self-Defeating Beliefs in the search function on my website, and you'll find many great examples. Here's what I got just from "Self-Defeating Belief." You could also search for a specific type, like Perfectionism, Perceived Perfectionism, Achievement Addiction, Love Addiction, Approval Addiction, Submissiveness, etc. In general, there are two approaches to any SDB. Four approaches can be used in this order: Do a Cost-Benefit Analysis of the SDB. If Disadvantages outweigh Advantages, use Semantic Technique to modify the SDB. Do an experiment to see if the SDB is actually valid. Use the Feared Fantasy Technique to put the lie to the SDB at the gut level. Here's our latest thinking, which is a step beyond the four steps above. Do a Daily Mood Log on one specific moment when you were struggling with your SDB. We will discuss these ideas in greater depth on the show, of course! You can also find a great deal on SDBs in my books, like Feeling Good, the Feeling Good Handbook, and more. But right now, I don't even know what SDB you might want help with / more information about. Also, in the Feeling Great App, there's a terrific class called "Your PhD in Shoulds." It includes a lesson on perfectionism. 2. Hiranmay asks: How can I deal with my intense anxiety before public speaking without working on the negative thoughts I have afterwards, like “I am going to mess this up” “People are going to notice something obviously wrong in my presentation that I missed, and I will look like a fool.“ “This talk is important, it must go well! Here's his email: Dear Dr. Burns, I love your books and the feeling good podcast. They have made such a huge difference in my life (in a good way of course). I have an “ask David” question on acute anxiety: If I have to play a badminton match or give a presentation, I usually get some or a lot of anxiety the day before the big event as well as the morning of. I then use all the methods you have taught, and the anxiety reduces. However, it usually comes back with a bang just before I give the talk or play a match. Cognitive techniques are not very helpful to me 30 minutes or 5 minutes before the presentation or match. I don't have the time to sit down and write my thoughts or cannot focus at all on my thoughts. Are there any strategies to reduce this form of acute “relapse” or nerves. Here are some more details: Event: 30 minutes before my presentation. I just entered the seminar room, and the first speaker is about to start their talk. I am next. I can feel my heart starting to pound and I am getting the familiar sense of anxiety and nerves. Thoughts: “I am going to mess this up”. “People are going to notice something obviously wrong in my presentation that I missed, and I will look like a fool“. “This talk is important, it must go well”. Although to be honest, this is my analysis of what my thoughts were after the fact. 5-15 minutes before the presentation, I usually just notice my thoughts racing. To reiterate: I am not looking for help with working on these thoughts after the presentation. Any strategies to acutely deal with anxiety or rather relapse of anxiety when I don't have time to use all the wonderful TEAM tools would be very helpful. Thanks so much. Best, Hiranmay (pronounced he-run-may) living in Basel, Switzerland. David's Reply Sure, as a starting point I'd like to see your work with these thoughts on a Daily Mood Log. Do you have one that you could send me, with the percents filled in, etc. That will allow me to see what your strategies are on challenging these thoughts, and whether you can knock them out of the park, or only challenge them “somewhat.” Best, david You can see Hiranmay's excellent DML if you check here. David Continues Hi Hiranmay, It sounds like are not interested in help with the thoughts you recorded in your email below, since this, by definition, is “after the presentation.” If you like, you could perhaps “make up” some thoughts you might be having BEFORE you start to speak. As someone who has had, and recovered from crippling public speaking anxiety, I have tons of powerful techniques, but would need some help from you so I'll have something to go on. By the way, I absolutely DO NOT BELIEVE you when you say those are not the thoughts you are having in the minutes before you begin to speak! So, your requirement that we are not allowed to work on them is a bit of a hindrance. As an aside, I will include this in an Ask David podcast, if that is okay! Sincerely, david I asked H to send me a copy of his Daily Mood Log, which was really well done, and responded with a few suggestions. Then I sent this note: David's Subsequent Response One thing I noticed on your Daily Mood Log is your fear of making a mistake, or having a critical question from someone in the group, or not being able to impress your audience sufficiently. These fears are common in public speaking anxiety. We've all struggled with them at one time or another, I think!  I have changed my focus from needing to impress the audience with myself or my talk, and instead I try to remember to try to impress them with themselves, and how awesome they are. Here's an example. I once gave a presentation on the serotonin theory of depression for about 1,000 psychiatrists at a prominent medical school in Texas. It was going well and suddenly a man at the rear stood up and started shouting something like this: “I'm so sick of all you establishment researchers thinking you know so much and ignoring my work. I have discovered the cause and cure for depression in my laboratory. (He claimed it was some kind of vitamin deficiency.) But everyone is ignoring my work (and more ranting and raving.) There was a chilled silence in the room. Here's how I responded: “I appreciate was you're saying, and I agree. I think our current focus on deficiencies in brain serotonin is extremely misguided, and predict, as you say, that research will show that the chemical imbalance theory of depression is not valid. And often, the most important breakthroughs come from laboratories like yours, where someone who is unknown discovers the actual cause of an illness after being ignored for years and years. I'd be honored if you'd approach me at the end of my talk so I can learn more about your pioneering research!” Notice I did not defend myself, but tried to make HIM feel good. At the end of my talk, about 20 or more people came crowding up to the podium with questions and such. I saw him at the back of the group, pushing his way to the front. I braced for another attack. He said, “Dr. Burns, that was the best presentation I've ever heard by far on the serotonin theory of depression. If you would give me permission, I would love to show your slides to my students and colleagues!” I have very little fear of being attacked by people in the audience, and I now speak all the time in front of groups. I used to have paralyzing public speaking anxiety. But the monsters I feared were all in my brain! Warmly, david   Andrew asks 8 cool questions! (#3 - #10) which are listed below, along with my answers. Jason Meno also sent some awesome answers, which you'll find below as well, right after my answers to the 8 questions.  

In this episode, Pastor Mueller dives into Proverbs 29:25, exposing the trap of the fear of man. With helpful illustrations and personal insight, he shows how the opinions of others can confine us, much like a majestic eagle caught in a trap. Discover the freedom that comes when we put our trust fully in the Lord and rise above the snare of insecurity.This is the fourth sermon in a special series that will contain all of the sermons and workshops delivered at the 2024 Thee Generation Youth Summit at Falls Baptist Church in Menomonee Falls, WI this past October 9-11, 2024.Don't forget to make plans to join hundreds of others young people next October 8-10, 2025 for our annual meeting in Menomonee Falls, WI. For more information, please visit theegeneration.org/tgys. If you've been encouraged by this podcast, please take the time to give us a five-star rating and write a brief review. That would help tremendously in getting the word out and raising the visibility of the Thee Generation for others. For more faith inspiring resources and information about joining Thee Generation, please visit theegeneration.org.

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In this podcast episode, Cherisse and Mollie Walker discuss the importance of finding rest and restoration through faith and self-care. They explore the challenges of anxiety, depression, and health issues, emphasizing the need for professional help and the power of self-reflection and journaling. Mollie shares her journey of overcoming the need for approval and learning to prioritize her own needs, including the practice of silent retreats and engaging in women's Bible study. The episode encourages listeners to seek God's approval above all, to ask themselves what they truly need, and to not feel guilty for taking time for self-care. Cherisse and Mollie highlight that all scripture points us back to Jesus and the beauty of finding lessons in life's difficult seasons. Opening and Introductions (00:00:01) Cherisse and Mollie introduce the podcast and discuss the importance of finding rest in God. Starting with Psalm 1 (00:02:09) Cherisse discusses the significance of Psalm 1 and the action words used in it. Introduction to Molly (00:04:34) Cherisse introduces Mollie, highlighting her faith, personal struggles, and advocacy work. Mollie's Personal Introduction (00:06:06) Mollie shares details about her family, struggles with infertility, and her journey to self-discovery. How Cherisse and Mollie Met (00:08:30) Cherisse and Mollie discuss their first meeting and the start of their friendship. Normalizing Struggles (00:10:55) Cherisse and Mollie discuss normalizing struggles with anxiety, depression, and seeking professional help. Embracing Self-Care and Therapy (00:13:39) Cherisse and Mollie discuss the importance of self-care, seeking therapy, and embracing vulnerability. Learning to Say No (00:16:09) Mollie shares the importance of learning to say no and being released from societal expectations. Mollie's Current Season and Finding Rest (00:18:55) Mollie shares her recent health struggles and the importance of finding rest in God. Learning to Rest in God (00:20:06) Mollie shares her journey in learning to find rest in God and the removal of the need for approval. Embracing Self-Care (00:21:46) The importance of acknowledging personal needs and seeking rest, godly counsel, and self-care without feeling guilty. Incorporating Rhythms and Practices (00:23:02) Mollie discusses incorporating practices like silent retreats, Bible study, and self-care into daily rhythms. Joy-Filled List (00:28:32) Mollie shares the concept of creating a joy-filled list and its impact on finding joy in different aspects of life. Advice to Younger Self (00:31:59) Mollie reflects on the importance of seeking God's approval and releasing unnecessary pressure, encouraging trust in the journey. Psalm 1: 00:02:09 Tennessee Fertility Associates: 00:06:48 Enneagram personality test: 00:04:34 Therapist: 00:11:49 Retreat house: 00:15:40 Silent Retreats and Rest Retreats: 00:23:02 Lectio Divina: 00:23:27 The Chronological Bible Study: 00:23:27 Deuteronomy 31:6 Scripture: 00:27:36 Joy Filled List: 00:29:35 Connect with Mollie Walker on Instagram @mollie_e_walker  www.tnfertilityadvocates.com  Follow the podcast and leave a 5 Star review then share with a friend who could be encouraged from todays message.  Lets connect on www.instagram.com/cherissehixson  send me a DM or email me cherissehixson@hotmail.com and let me know what touched your heart.

The benefits of flying under the radar.HERE'S HOW:Today, practice secrecy by thoughtfully considering these questions:Who is one person you can be secretly kind to?What is one way you can let go of others' expectations and trust yourself?What invisible limits have you put on your relationships that is holding you back from truly being known?As you consider these questions, take action on one or all of them. No matter the result, thank God for the courage to express your freedom that comes from a confidence in his love.Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.

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In this episode of The Accidental Creative podcast, we dive into the topic of approval addiction and how it can hinder our effectiveness as leaders and creative professionals. Whether you have a formal leadership position or not, we all have the capacity to lead and influence others. However, when we prioritize being liked over making progress and speaking truthfully, it can negatively impact our ability to lead effectively. Host Todd Henry shares insights and strategies from his book Herding Tigers on how to overcome this approval addiction and focus on being effective, even if it means not always being liked. Key learnings from this episode:1. The tension between being liked and being effective is common in everyday interactions and collaboration.2. Prioritizing being liked over being effective can hinder our ability to lead and make progress.3. Speaking the truth with empathy is crucial. Consider the context, timing, and how the other person is likely to receive your words.4. Refusing to engage in conversations that involve gossip or throwing team members under the bus helps to maintain trust and create a positive work environment.5. Balancing the desire to be liked with the desire to be effective requires self-awareness and a willingness to prioritize progress over perception.Get three quick ideas to start your week off right. Subscribe to 3 Things at ToddHenry.com/subscribe.Mentioned in this episode:Indeed: Get a $75 sponsored job credit to start your search at Indeed.com/creative EarnIn: Life doesn't happen bi-weekly, so why should payday? Download the EarnIn app on the Apple or Google app store. Fabric:Join the thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply today in just minutes at meetfabric.com/accidental

Are you showing up as the real you—or are you caught in the trap of approval addiction? In this episode, Lance Witt is sharing how you can shine authentically and live for an audience of One. Discussion Questions:  What was your favorite part of the conversation between Pastor Julie and Lance Witt? Lance shared the signs and symptoms of approval addiction:  You are constantly gauging people's responses to you. You are afraid to be honest. You hate disappointing others. You put too much weight on criticism or praise. Has there ever been a time when you've seen one or more of these revealed in your life? What was one thing Lance said that was the biggest reminder of truth for you?3. How does being our true self lead to intimacy? 4. Lance talked about identifying internal scripts from our past. Can you think of any internal scripts you've needed to replace with God's truth? 5. What is one quirky, fun, or unique thing that makes you—you?Resources: Lance Witt's BooksShownotes PlusLearn more about Sisterhood Ask a Question

Don't let the fear of people's opinions keep you from your greatness. You don't have to live for others' approval; you have Almighty God's approval. Your best days are still ahead, and together we can make a difference in this world with the message of God's hope and love. To give visit JoelOsteen.com/GiveHopeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.