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Send us a textBrett knows firsthand what it means to be addicted—not to substances, but to approval. As someone who spent years chasing validation to fill an inner emptiness, Brett's story sheds light on a lesser-known but deeply relatable struggle: the addiction to being liked, needed, and praised. Growing up without a strong sense of emotional fulfillment, Brett learned to shape-shift, perform, and people-please in order to feel worthy. But no amount of applause could quiet the inner voice that whispered, you're not enough.Brett's Website Support the show
Most pastors want to be liked and respected by their congregations. This desire is part of the reason they are motivated to serve others. However, approval addiction can become a major barrier to leadership. When people pleasing becomes the priority, pastors often do more harm than good in their congregations. Marty Duren joins Josh and Sam to discuss this important topic. The post Approval Addiction, People Pleasing, and How Pastors Can Let Go appeared first on Church Answers.
Do you worship the idol of approval? What happens to us when we worship approval? What's the difference between God's approval and man's approval? In today's episode, Tanya shares how 1 Samuel 10:17-27 encourages us to find our worth in what God says of us. If you're listening on Spotify, comment below one takeaway from today's episode! Read the Bible with us in 2025! This year, we're exploring the Historical Books—Joshua, Judges, 1 & 2 Samuel, and 1 & 2 Kings. Download your reading plan now. Your support makes TMBT possible. Ten Minute Bible Talks is a crowd-funded project. Join the TMBTeam to reach more people with the Bible. Give now. Like this content? Make sure to leave us a rating and share it so that others can find it, too. Use #asktmbt to connect with us, ask questions, and suggest topics. We'd love to hear from you! To learn more, visit our website and follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter @TenMinuteBibleTalks. Don't forget to subscribe to the TMBT Newsletter here. Passages: 1 Samuel 10:17-27
Send us a textIn the first three episodes of this series, Pastor Harris touched on one key topic in each teaching. In episode one, “The Performance Snare”, Pastor Harris discussed the topic of Justification and that we are completely forgiven and have become fully pleasing to God. We no longer have to fear failure. In the second episode, “Approval Addiction”, Pastor Harris touched on the topic of Reconciliation and that we are totally accepted by God and we no longer have to fear rejection. In the third episode, “The Blame Game”, Pastor Harris delivered a message of Propitiation and that we know we are deeply loved by God and no longer have to fear punishment nor do we have to punish others.Jericho was in the Roman province of Judea, the very wealthy lived here including King Herrod and he stayed there five months out of the year so it had to be pretty nice. In and around Jericho there were other palaces as well. The reason it was so popular had to do with the weather and its geographical location. It's situated some 833 feet below sea level in what is now known as the Jordan River Valley. It's the site of the world's largest oasis supported by the world's largest natural spring. In addition, its climate is ideal, it is virtually summer time all year round. Date palms can be found everywhere and citrus fruits of all varieties abound. The fences and the trellises are covered by flowers. The city was and is a tropical paradise. This is true even today, and was also true in the time of Jesus. Even the great Egyptian Queen Cleopatra vacationed there in the winter. However, not only was Jericho very beautiful, it was also very prosperous. Some of this had to do with the tourism the city had attracted. Yet that was only a small part of it. The vast majority of its wealth had to do with a great highway that passed through the city. The great trading caravans of antiquity made their journey there from India and Arabia. Crossing into the lands of Judea at the forge of the Jordan River located three miles east of Jericho. Here in this city, the great caravans would stop and resupply and remit their border tolls making it the tax center of Judea. The tax collectors and publicans of Jericho were very wealthy but paid a huge price for their wealth.. They were hated by everyone in their country and they should have been hated. For the most part they were all dishonest and crooked, it is not hard to imagine that these tax collectors had a real image problem. Many of them wanted to change but they had believed the fourth great lie that Pastor Harris will talk about in this episode, and that is this, “I am what I am and I cannot change.”Support the show
Send us a textIn the first two episodes of this series, Pastor Harris touched on one key topic in each teaching. In episode one, “The Performance Snare”, Pastor Harris discussed the topic of Justification and that we are completely forgiven and have become fully pleasing to God. We no longer have to fear failure. In the second episode, “Approval Addiction”, Pastor Harris touched on the topic of Reconciliation and that we are totally accepted by God and we no longer have to fear rejection.In this episode Pastor Harris will walk us through the third or four lies that Satan tells us. This third lie can even be seen as a game we play. Pastor Harris refers to this as “The Blame Game”. When playing this Blame Game we may tell ourselves lies like this, “I am not responsible for what I do, someone else is.” Has anyone out there listening ever played this game? Hopefully Pastor Harris's insights can shed some light on this game we play and how we might win, lose or simply choose not to play as we all work to move forward.Now before we kick off this teaching, I wanted to give those listening a heads up that about 12 minutes into this original recording, something altered the recording speeds which in-turn altered Pastor Harris' voice a touch. Fear not, it's not your device, the issue has to do with the original recording from 10 years ago. It's a small issue but we can't let these small issues get in the way of publishing these important teachings.Support the show
Do you find yourself stuck in the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing and approval-seeking? In this episode, we explore how approval addiction can hinder your potential and steal your joy. You'll learn how to break free from this cycle by anchoring your self-worth in biblical truth and living for God's approval instead of the opinions of others. Discover practical tips to align your mindset with your identity in Christ, find freedom in faith, and live with confidence and purpose. If you're ready to stop chasing approval and embrace the life God designed for you, this episode is for you. I hope this episode blesses you! Xoxo, Tanya Episode Resources: GFL Episode Catalog 5 Ways To Connect With Me: 1️⃣ FREE CALL: Book your FREE Coaching Call now! Get personalized and practical strategies for work-life balance. Start your grace-filled life and leadership journey ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/workwithme 2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/community 3️⃣ FREE WORKSHOP: Watch my FREE “Conquer Your Email Inbox” workshop! It's your key to jumpstart productivity ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/workshop 4️⃣ COACHING: Are you READY to have better Work-Life BALANCE? Are you ready to up-level your productivity and efficiency? Get on the waitlist for my NEW small group coaching program: The Productive Leader Academy. It's the accountability and guidance you need to implement rock solid systems that will catapult your productivity! ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/pla 5️⃣CONTACT: Leave me a question or comment ➡︎ https://gracefilledleader.com/contact "Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they're meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! Thank you so much for sharing and helping us become Spirit-driven, peaceful leaders!" If you can relate, please consider rating and reviewing my show! It helps me reach more people – just like you – to help them change their future. Don't forget to follow the show so you don't miss any episodes! And, if you're feeling really generous, I'd be SO honored if you would share this podcast with someone. Click here to view our privacy policy.
Send us a textLast week Pastor Harris started a series of sermons in which he will examine four of the major lies that Satan uses to destroy the lives of far too many people. We looked at the first of these lies in the last episode which is this, “I must meet certain standards of behavior so I can feel good about myself.” In this episode, Pastor Harris will deal with the next lie which is this, “I must be approved by certain others to feel good about myself.” This leads to a condition Pastor Harris refers to as Approval Addiction. This condition is totally linked to the fear of rejection that is one of our deepest human fears. We do not want to feel rejected. We seek approval from others and we do this because we are biologically wired with a longing to belong. We fear being cut off, demeaned or isolated. In other words we fear being alone and above all else we dread change. The greater this fear becomes the more we experience a need for acceptance and it really can become an addiction. Our problem relates to the fact that we often seek approval from the wrong source. Those sources are often those around us, they can often ignore or reject us. So rather than turn to them, we should really be turning to someone who can love us unconditionally and that someone, as we all know, is our God. Right now because of the condition of sin, a state in which we are born, we find ourselves alienated from God, the only one who really counts in our lives. And that is why we have such an oppressive fear of not belonging. That problem is sin, we begin to overcome these fears when we realize that we need God more than we need other people. When we call upon him he will never reject us and he will never forsake us. In theological terms we call this process reconciliation. And that will be Pastor Harris's remedy to Approval Addition that he will be teaching today.Support the show
Show Main Idea: We dive into understanding our identity in Christ, finding security in God's provision. Through practical steps—confession, renewing the mind, and embracing the fear of God—we'll learn how the Holy Spirit empowers us to live with freedom from human opinion. With a renewed perspective, we'll discover how to walk confidently in God's approval, anchored in His truth. Show Notes: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-534-fear-of-man-steps-to-overcome-approval-addiction/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
Show Main Idea: This lesson examines how a misplaced desire impacts our identity, breeds insecurity, and prevents genuine spiritual growth. Through practical self-reflection and biblical insights, we begin learning how to discern this idol, redirecting our hearts toward God's approval as the true anchor of our identity. Show Notes: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-532-fear-of-man-understanding-the-root-of-approval-addiction/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/
Send JKO a Text MessageDo you often find yourself asking, “What will people think?” when facing challenges or making decisions? From social science and scripture, we explore how this fear of judgment and need for approval can limit our ambitions, silence our authenticity, and create unnecessary stress in our lives. Learn how to break free from people-pleasing and live fulfilled even in the trenches of life. If you often hesitate, restricted and held back by the fear of other people's opinions, this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeThe prison of other people's opinions can sentence us to self-silence, compromised decisions, and restricted growthThe mental and emotional toll of worrying about others' opinions can make us physically and psychologically sickPeople are usually more focused on their own struggles than on our lives; we all have our own individual messesGrounding our worth in God's purpose not on human approval, will give us peace, confidence and fulfillmentKey Scriptures: Proverbs 29:25, Galatians 1:10 and Romans 8:1References in this episodeCharles Cooley- Looking glass selfSelf-Determination Theory in Psychology2 Corinthians 3:18Who You Are When No One's Looking: Choosing Consistency, Resisting CompromiseJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter
Ask David How Can I Change an SDB (Self-Defeating Belief)? How Can I Cope with Intense Public Speaking Anxiety? Featuring Rhonda Barovsky, Psy.D., Matthew May, MD, Jason Meno and David Burns, MD (Jason is an AI Scientist on our Feeling Great App Team) Anonymous asks: How can I change an SDB (Self-Defeating Belief)? Hiranmay asks: How can I deal with my intense anxiety before public speaking. Answers to Your Questions Note: These answers below were written BEFORE the podcast, and the live discussion always adds new and different angles. Today, Jason Meno, our beloved AI guy on our app team, also chimes in on the many super questions submitted by Andrew (#3 - #10.) 1. Anonymous asks: How can I change an SDB? Dear Dr. Burns, I'm an avid listener of the Feeling Good podcast and for the past few weeks, an avid user of the Feeling Great app. Thank you for your incredible work and dedication to making people everywhere feel better about themselves. I have a question about self-defeating beliefs that I'm hoping you can address, either on the show or on your website. You have mentioned on several occasions that SDBs are the root cause of negative thoughts and consequently of negative feelings. Yet, to me it doesn't feel like SDBs are really addressed enough on the podcast. There seem to only be a handful of episodes covering the topic. It also seems there is a very limited toolbox of methods to use on SDBs, almost like dealing with them is considered an afterthought. If SDBs really are the cause of it all, shouldn't the primary focus be on defeating them first and only then, on defeating negative thoughts? I'm just a little bit lost when it comes to defeating SDBs, which seem to be way harder to deal with than negative thoughts. Any insights or thoughts on the subject will be greatly appreciated. Sincerely, Anonymous David's reply Dear Anonymous, Will start a new Ask David with your excellent question. Thanks, david First, you can look up Self-Defeating Beliefs in the search function on my website, and you'll find many great examples. Here's what I got just from "Self-Defeating Belief." You could also search for a specific type, like Perfectionism, Perceived Perfectionism, Achievement Addiction, Love Addiction, Approval Addiction, Submissiveness, etc. In general, there are two approaches to any SDB. Four approaches can be used in this order: Do a Cost-Benefit Analysis of the SDB. If Disadvantages outweigh Advantages, use Semantic Technique to modify the SDB. Do an experiment to see if the SDB is actually valid. Use the Feared Fantasy Technique to put the lie to the SDB at the gut level. Here's our latest thinking, which is a step beyond the four steps above. Do a Daily Mood Log on one specific moment when you were struggling with your SDB. We will discuss these ideas in greater depth on the show, of course! You can also find a great deal on SDBs in my books, like Feeling Good, the Feeling Good Handbook, and more. But right now, I don't even know what SDB you might want help with / more information about. Also, in the Feeling Great App, there's a terrific class called "Your PhD in Shoulds." It includes a lesson on perfectionism. 2. Hiranmay asks: How can I deal with my intense anxiety before public speaking without working on the negative thoughts I have afterwards, like “I am going to mess this up” “People are going to notice something obviously wrong in my presentation that I missed, and I will look like a fool.“ “This talk is important, it must go well! Here's his email: Dear Dr. Burns, I love your books and the feeling good podcast. They have made such a huge difference in my life (in a good way of course). I have an “ask David” question on acute anxiety: If I have to play a badminton match or give a presentation, I usually get some or a lot of anxiety the day before the big event as well as the morning of. I then use all the methods you have taught, and the anxiety reduces. However, it usually comes back with a bang just before I give the talk or play a match. Cognitive techniques are not very helpful to me 30 minutes or 5 minutes before the presentation or match. I don't have the time to sit down and write my thoughts or cannot focus at all on my thoughts. Are there any strategies to reduce this form of acute “relapse” or nerves. Here are some more details: Event: 30 minutes before my presentation. I just entered the seminar room, and the first speaker is about to start their talk. I am next. I can feel my heart starting to pound and I am getting the familiar sense of anxiety and nerves. Thoughts: “I am going to mess this up”. “People are going to notice something obviously wrong in my presentation that I missed, and I will look like a fool“. “This talk is important, it must go well”. Although to be honest, this is my analysis of what my thoughts were after the fact. 5-15 minutes before the presentation, I usually just notice my thoughts racing. To reiterate: I am not looking for help with working on these thoughts after the presentation. Any strategies to acutely deal with anxiety or rather relapse of anxiety when I don't have time to use all the wonderful TEAM tools would be very helpful. Thanks so much. Best, Hiranmay (pronounced he-run-may) living in Basel, Switzerland. David's Reply Sure, as a starting point I'd like to see your work with these thoughts on a Daily Mood Log. Do you have one that you could send me, with the percents filled in, etc. That will allow me to see what your strategies are on challenging these thoughts, and whether you can knock them out of the park, or only challenge them “somewhat.” Best, david You can see Hiranmay's excellent DML if you check here. David Continues Hi Hiranmay, It sounds like are not interested in help with the thoughts you recorded in your email below, since this, by definition, is “after the presentation.” If you like, you could perhaps “make up” some thoughts you might be having BEFORE you start to speak. As someone who has had, and recovered from crippling public speaking anxiety, I have tons of powerful techniques, but would need some help from you so I'll have something to go on. By the way, I absolutely DO NOT BELIEVE you when you say those are not the thoughts you are having in the minutes before you begin to speak! So, your requirement that we are not allowed to work on them is a bit of a hindrance. As an aside, I will include this in an Ask David podcast, if that is okay! Sincerely, david I asked H to send me a copy of his Daily Mood Log, which was really well done, and responded with a few suggestions. Then I sent this note: David's Subsequent Response One thing I noticed on your Daily Mood Log is your fear of making a mistake, or having a critical question from someone in the group, or not being able to impress your audience sufficiently. These fears are common in public speaking anxiety. We've all struggled with them at one time or another, I think! I have changed my focus from needing to impress the audience with myself or my talk, and instead I try to remember to try to impress them with themselves, and how awesome they are. Here's an example. I once gave a presentation on the serotonin theory of depression for about 1,000 psychiatrists at a prominent medical school in Texas. It was going well and suddenly a man at the rear stood up and started shouting something like this: “I'm so sick of all you establishment researchers thinking you know so much and ignoring my work. I have discovered the cause and cure for depression in my laboratory. (He claimed it was some kind of vitamin deficiency.) But everyone is ignoring my work (and more ranting and raving.) There was a chilled silence in the room. Here's how I responded: “I appreciate was you're saying, and I agree. I think our current focus on deficiencies in brain serotonin is extremely misguided, and predict, as you say, that research will show that the chemical imbalance theory of depression is not valid. And often, the most important breakthroughs come from laboratories like yours, where someone who is unknown discovers the actual cause of an illness after being ignored for years and years. I'd be honored if you'd approach me at the end of my talk so I can learn more about your pioneering research!” Notice I did not defend myself, but tried to make HIM feel good. At the end of my talk, about 20 or more people came crowding up to the podium with questions and such. I saw him at the back of the group, pushing his way to the front. I braced for another attack. He said, “Dr. Burns, that was the best presentation I've ever heard by far on the serotonin theory of depression. If you would give me permission, I would love to show your slides to my students and colleagues!” I have very little fear of being attacked by people in the audience, and I now speak all the time in front of groups. I used to have paralyzing public speaking anxiety. But the monsters I feared were all in my brain! Warmly, david Andrew asks 8 cool questions! (#3 - #10) which are listed below, along with my answers. Jason Meno also sent some awesome answers, which you'll find below as well, right after my answers to the 8 questions.
In this episode, Pastor Mueller dives into Proverbs 29:25, exposing the trap of the fear of man. With helpful illustrations and personal insight, he shows how the opinions of others can confine us, much like a majestic eagle caught in a trap. Discover the freedom that comes when we put our trust fully in the Lord and rise above the snare of insecurity.This is the fourth sermon in a special series that will contain all of the sermons and workshops delivered at the 2024 Thee Generation Youth Summit at Falls Baptist Church in Menomonee Falls, WI this past October 9-11, 2024.Don't forget to make plans to join hundreds of others young people next October 8-10, 2025 for our annual meeting in Menomonee Falls, WI. For more information, please visit theegeneration.org/tgys. If you've been encouraged by this podcast, please take the time to give us a five-star rating and write a brief review. That would help tremendously in getting the word out and raising the visibility of the Thee Generation for others. For more faith inspiring resources and information about joining Thee Generation, please visit theegeneration.org.
Tällä kertaa istumme vieraan kanssa alas pohtimaan mistä syntyy liiallinen miellyttämisen tarve ja mitä asialle kannattaa tehdä, jotta ongelmat eivät ehdi eskaloitua. Pohdimme mm. mistä tällainen tarve syntyy meissä ihmisissä? Mitä eroa on ystävällisyydellä ja miellyttämisellä? Mitä tarkoittaa termi approval addiction? Mitkä ovat haitallisen miellyttämisen tunnusmerkit, joita emme aina tunnista? Miten opetella sanomaan "ei" kun sille on paikkansa? Miten muut ihmiset reagoivat kun krooninen miellyttäjä lakkaa miellyttämästä? Onko miellyttämisellä hermostollinen perusta? Vaihteleeko miellyttämisen tarve eri sukupuolien välillä? Miten ylläpitää tervettä tasapainoa toisten huomioon ottamisen ja omien tarpeiden välillä? Näitä ja muita teema kysymyksiä kanssani pohtii sosiaali- ja kulttuuriantropologi (VTM), ratkaisukeskeinen valmentaja (LCF Life Coach) ja mindfulness-ohjaaja Johanna Pohjola. Linkit Optimal Performance - Hyvinvointiluennot ja verkkovalmennukset: https://www.optimalperformance.fi - Kuntosali ja valmennuskeskus, Helsinki: https://www.opcenter.fi Johanna Pohjola - Verkkosivu: https://www.johannapohjola.com/ - IG: https://www.instagram.com/johanna_pohjola/ - IG: https://www.instagram.com/vapaaksi_miellyttamisesta/
End The Approval Addiction - Take back dominion over your actions, your mood, your results. Here's How I Can Help 1 - Get a copy of my book REMOVE THE BLOCKS if you want to clarify your purpose, clear the limiting beliefs and pain of the past and earn with ease while living in line with your purpose - https://mibusiness.lpages.co/rbbook 2. Get a REMOVE THE BLOCKS private session with me - 90 minutes, come with 1 issue, leave with a clear next step strategy - Find out more at https://mibusiness.lpages.co/unlock There is no more time to live a financially restricted and unfulfilled life
“God longs for us to bring our need for approval to Him, for Him to satisfy our desire and to free us from approval addiction to truly live pleasing to Him and others in secure identity.” - @janicechinchern Janice continues our current sermon series, The Freedom You Long For with a sharing on Approval Addiction & Secure Identity. Deep within all of us is a desire for approval, which originates from God's original design for us to desire righteousness and a life of good, and the ultimate aim of be pleasing in God's eyes. Where we often end up disillusioned and disappointed is when we seek the approval of others and not God himself. In rediscovering the revelation of the Father's acceptance of us, we are able to grow into the freedom that God has called us to, and into the identity that He has given us by grace.
In this podcast episode, Cherisse and Mollie Walker discuss the importance of finding rest and restoration through faith and self-care. They explore the challenges of anxiety, depression, and health issues, emphasizing the need for professional help and the power of self-reflection and journaling. Mollie shares her journey of overcoming the need for approval and learning to prioritize her own needs, including the practice of silent retreats and engaging in women's Bible study. The episode encourages listeners to seek God's approval above all, to ask themselves what they truly need, and to not feel guilty for taking time for self-care. Cherisse and Mollie highlight that all scripture points us back to Jesus and the beauty of finding lessons in life's difficult seasons. Opening and Introductions (00:00:01) Cherisse and Mollie introduce the podcast and discuss the importance of finding rest in God. Starting with Psalm 1 (00:02:09) Cherisse discusses the significance of Psalm 1 and the action words used in it. Introduction to Molly (00:04:34) Cherisse introduces Mollie, highlighting her faith, personal struggles, and advocacy work. Mollie's Personal Introduction (00:06:06) Mollie shares details about her family, struggles with infertility, and her journey to self-discovery. How Cherisse and Mollie Met (00:08:30) Cherisse and Mollie discuss their first meeting and the start of their friendship. Normalizing Struggles (00:10:55) Cherisse and Mollie discuss normalizing struggles with anxiety, depression, and seeking professional help. Embracing Self-Care and Therapy (00:13:39) Cherisse and Mollie discuss the importance of self-care, seeking therapy, and embracing vulnerability. Learning to Say No (00:16:09) Mollie shares the importance of learning to say no and being released from societal expectations. Mollie's Current Season and Finding Rest (00:18:55) Mollie shares her recent health struggles and the importance of finding rest in God. Learning to Rest in God (00:20:06) Mollie shares her journey in learning to find rest in God and the removal of the need for approval. Embracing Self-Care (00:21:46) The importance of acknowledging personal needs and seeking rest, godly counsel, and self-care without feeling guilty. Incorporating Rhythms and Practices (00:23:02) Mollie discusses incorporating practices like silent retreats, Bible study, and self-care into daily rhythms. Joy-Filled List (00:28:32) Mollie shares the concept of creating a joy-filled list and its impact on finding joy in different aspects of life. Advice to Younger Self (00:31:59) Mollie reflects on the importance of seeking God's approval and releasing unnecessary pressure, encouraging trust in the journey. Psalm 1: 00:02:09 Tennessee Fertility Associates: 00:06:48 Enneagram personality test: 00:04:34 Therapist: 00:11:49 Retreat house: 00:15:40 Silent Retreats and Rest Retreats: 00:23:02 Lectio Divina: 00:23:27 The Chronological Bible Study: 00:23:27 Deuteronomy 31:6 Scripture: 00:27:36 Joy Filled List: 00:29:35 Connect with Mollie Walker on Instagram @mollie_e_walker www.tnfertilityadvocates.com Follow the podcast and leave a 5 Star review then share with a friend who could be encouraged from todays message. Lets connect on www.instagram.com/cherissehixson send me a DM or email me cherissehixson@hotmail.com and let me know what touched your heart.
Ever found yourself agreeing to plans you'd rather skip, just to keep the peace? Or maybe you've laughed off a joke that rubbed you the wrong way because you didn't want to rock the boat. Welcome to my latest exploration, where Seth Wusk digs into the tangled web of people-pleasing and narcissism. This isn't your run-of-the-mill pep talk. We're taking a hard look at how seeking others' approval can erode our genuine self-expression and joy. It's about recognizing the difference between being a good friend or colleague and losing yourself in the mirage of external validation.Join us as we challenge the notion that people-pleasing is a benign habit. The truth is, it may be laced with narcissistic threads, subtly woven into our interactions. We discuss the irony of how trying to be at the center of everyone's positive regard can actually push us to the sidelines of our own lives. I'll guide you through the maze of people-pleasing behaviors, illuminating how they stem from a desire to control perceptions rather than fostering authentic connections. With candid insights, this conversation is an invitation to step into a life where your choices echo your true self, unfettered by the need for applause.Support the showTo get in touch with Me (coach Seth) My email- lifecoachseth@gmail.com My Website- https://www.lifecoachseth.com My downloadable step-by-step guide to YOUR secret code for fulfilling success-https://lifecoachseth.com/reveal-your-authentic-success-code/An interesting blog article on life fulfillment, and how to achieve it - https://lifecoachseth.com/2023/03/11/life-fulfillment-what-it-is/An interesting article on choosing medication or therapy for mental health resolutions-https://lifecoachseth.com/2023/02/13/mental-health-resolutions-medication-or-therapy/My Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/sethlusk_lifecoach My Facebook Group Community- https://www.facebook.com/groups/791672441409550 My Personal Development Book on Amazon- (American Market) ...
The benefits of flying under the radar.HERE'S HOW:Today, practice secrecy by thoughtfully considering these questions:Who is one person you can be secretly kind to?What is one way you can let go of others' expectations and trust yourself?What invisible limits have you put on your relationships that is holding you back from truly being known?As you consider these questions, take action on one or all of them. No matter the result, thank God for the courage to express your freedom that comes from a confidence in his love.Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.
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In this episode of The Accidental Creative podcast, we dive into the topic of approval addiction and how it can hinder our effectiveness as leaders and creative professionals. Whether you have a formal leadership position or not, we all have the capacity to lead and influence others. However, when we prioritize being liked over making progress and speaking truthfully, it can negatively impact our ability to lead effectively. Host Todd Henry shares insights and strategies from his book Herding Tigers on how to overcome this approval addiction and focus on being effective, even if it means not always being liked. Key learnings from this episode:1. The tension between being liked and being effective is common in everyday interactions and collaboration.2. Prioritizing being liked over being effective can hinder our ability to lead and make progress.3. Speaking the truth with empathy is crucial. Consider the context, timing, and how the other person is likely to receive your words.4. Refusing to engage in conversations that involve gossip or throwing team members under the bus helps to maintain trust and create a positive work environment.5. Balancing the desire to be liked with the desire to be effective requires self-awareness and a willingness to prioritize progress over perception.Get three quick ideas to start your week off right. Subscribe to 3 Things at ToddHenry.com/subscribe.Mentioned in this episode:Indeed: Get a $75 sponsored job credit to start your search at Indeed.com/creative EarnIn: Life doesn't happen bi-weekly, so why should payday? Download the EarnIn app on the Apple or Google app store. Fabric:Join the thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply today in just minutes at meetfabric.com/accidental
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In life, we all want to be loved, supported by, and appreciated by others. This can be detrimental to success when Approval Addiction gets in the way of personal development, transparent conversation, and not setting correct boundaries. On this episode we are going to dive into how to overcome the need for approval in order to live a more fulfilled, connected, and gratitude- filled life. Let's talk about it! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
When we seek other people's approval over God's, we run into trouble. #love #freedom #relatioships
Are you showing up as the real you—or are you caught in the trap of approval addiction? In this episode, Lance Witt is sharing how you can shine authentically and live for an audience of One. Discussion Questions: What was your favorite part of the conversation between Pastor Julie and Lance Witt? Lance shared the signs and symptoms of approval addiction: You are constantly gauging people's responses to you. You are afraid to be honest. You hate disappointing others. You put too much weight on criticism or praise. Has there ever been a time when you've seen one or more of these revealed in your life? What was one thing Lance said that was the biggest reminder of truth for you?3. How does being our true self lead to intimacy? 4. Lance talked about identifying internal scripts from our past. Can you think of any internal scripts you've needed to replace with God's truth? 5. What is one quirky, fun, or unique thing that makes you—you?Resources: Lance Witt's BooksShownotes PlusLearn more about Sisterhood Ask a Question
Approval addiction is the result of seeking other people's opinions to determine your own self-worth. Just like any substance addiction, approval addiction is terribly self-limiting and comes at a hefty cost. Today, I offer some guidance towards recovery as a fellow – recovering – approval addict. AND! Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is now live and available to all! Join us! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube to get even more good stuff!
This week, Pastor Dan and Pastor Joe discuss Joe's Approval of Dan (or lack thereof), talk about parent/child approval dynamics, and delve deeper into this week's sermon about Finding Freedom from "Approval Addiction."To watch this week's sermon, check it out on our Facebook page www.facebook.com/cometoconnect or head over to cometoconnect.com/most-recent-sermon
Special Guest Pastor Bryan Koch brings a message on finding freedom from Approval Addiction.
Eric Vickery and Alex Nottingham JD MBA discussed the psychology of dental practices taking insurance. Alex discussed how his father, a Pankey-trained dentist, felt he had to start taking insurance towards the middle of his career due to pressure, and how that made him unhappy. Eric explained how eliminating insurance can provide freedom and noted they have helped over 100 offices to change their relationship with insurance companies. They both noted it is easier to be out of network when more dentists are in that position and it's easier for everyone else to be in that position. Lastly, they discussed the fear around taking insurance and how it can be a successful marketing tool.HIGHLIGHTS[0:10] Conversation on Insurance Freedom with Eric Vickery, President of Coaching at All Star Dental Academy[02:00] Eric Vickery and Alex Nottingham JD MBA Discuss the Benefits of Removing Insurance from Dental Practices[03:25] The Impact of Insurance on Dentistry and Personal Life[05:33] Growing a Practice Through Referrals and Value-Added Services[06:47] The Psychology of Insurance Freedom[08:34] Overcoming Fear and Approval Addiction in Insurance-Based Practices[10:23] Insurance Coverage and Effective Communication[11:44] In-Network vs Out-of-Network Insurance Coverage for Medical Practices[13:50] Exploring the Benefits of Membership Plans for Dentists[15:55] Insurance Plans and Dental Practices[17:02] Achieving Insurance Freedom in DentistryRESOURCES [WEBINAR] Free Yourself from Dental Insurance Dependence Learn more about All-Star Dental Academy Subscribe to Dental All-Stars Podcast Write a Review on iTunes Visit Dental-All-Stars Podcast Website ~ [WEBINAR] Free Yourself from Dental Insurance Dependence: https://1.allstardentalacademy.com/webinar-freedom ~ Learn more about the All-Star Practice Growth Summit on May 19-20, 2023 in Fort Lauderdale ~ 2-day event for dentists and team Case presentation, influence, phone skills, scheduling, and lots of fun!
How to improve case acceptance by lessening your need to hear “YES.” Today on the show, we are delighted to have Shelly VanEpps, and our topic is One Step to Overcoming Approval Addiction. Shelly is currently a treatment coordinator and one of All-Star Dental Academies' Mastery Coaches. By working on the business with her clients, […] The post One Step to Overcoming Approval Addiction appeared first on All-Star Dental Academy.
Do you find yourself seeking approval, affirmation or validation from others everyday? Is that how you define your self worth? Simply seeing yourself as others see you, or based on what they think or say about you? Well it's time to admit your approval addiction and seek to change. Approval and affirmation should not be your seratonin rush to regulate your emotions. Look inside to find happiness, purpose and meaning, then find the strength to pursue it. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/a2d--from-addict-to-disci/support
Feb 26, 2023 - Approval Addiction - Matt. 6:1-18 by First Baptist Cullman
“In this episode of the Someone Get's Me Podcast, I share how to overcome approval addiction. Approval addiction comes in so many different forms. You can see how it applies to you, or if you know who this applies to, you can share this episode with them. Approval Addiction is when we filter from the outside and script and act the way we think someone wants us to approve of. This creates inner discord and repression and unresolved grief and anger. As children, we go from being dependent to independent. The third step many people miss is when we become interdependent. This means we know we give and receive. The art of reciprocity in our adult interactions makes a healthy adult. To live an authentic and aligned life, we must let go of approval addiction and use the principles of the universe, love, kindness, and generosity. Being addicted to the opinion of others is an unenlightened way to live, and many people are stuck living this way. Our brain tells us we all should be alike, yet we are all individuals. Approval Addiction comes in many forms. Codependency is one of them. The first way to beat approval is to remind yourself that you are in charge. You don't need anyone else's approval. Remind yourself that you are in charge by using mantras or putting post-it notes as reminders. You're in charge of your life. How you live it and align with what you think, say, and do is 100% on you. The second way to beat approval addiction is to be open and receptive to counsel. Allow yourself to be open to people who have gone before you and know the way. Hearing the counsel of others It's an exchange. Connecting with another of like mind is the exchange the reciprocity. The third way to beat approval addiction is to give yourself permission to step out of situations so that you can follow your own guidance and intuitions like your own energy. It doesn't mean you have to get a divorce or get rid of all your friends. It does mean getting out of your own way. How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need are a community and a mentor. Join our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme. Follow Dianne's Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen. Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com Dianne's Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com Website: https://www.visionsapplied.com Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your unique gift; let your light shine.
Don't let the fear of people's opinions keep you from your greatness. You don't have to live for others' approval; you have Almighty God's approval. Your best days are still ahead, and together we can make a difference in this world with the message of God's hope and love. To give visit JoelOsteen.com/GiveHopeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Curing YOUR Social Anxiety— The Ridiculously Cheap and Awesome Shame-Attacking Marathon Jacob Towery, MD Michael Luo Today, we are joined by Dr. Jacob Towery and Michael Luo to promote their upcoming, two-day Social Anxiety Marathon. Jacob Towery, MD is an adolescent and adult psychiatrist and therapist in private practice in Palo Alto, California. Michael Luo is a fourth year medical student at the Chicago Medical School. More on them at the end of the show notes, but here's the scoop. Jacob and Michael will be offering a mind-blowing, two-day marathon for anyone who struggles with social anxiety, which includes shyness, public speaking anxiety, and performance anxiety. They will both be present, along with more than ten experts in TEAM-CBT, coaching participants in the latest tools for quickly overcoming all social anxiety. And here's the amazing thing. You can come and attend, and transform your life, for only a $20 donation to one of their four listed amazing charities. For information / registration, click here How cool is that? Don't pass this up. It will be an in-person, hands-on training experience designed to free you from the fears that narrow your life. You will learn and participate in cognitive therapy exercises, identifying and smashing the distorted thoughts that trigger social anxiety, as well as the Self-Defeating Beliefs that trigger social anxiety like the Spotlight and Brushfire Fallacies, the Approval Addiction, and more. They will also illustrate and lead you in a wide variety of Interpersonal Exposure Techniques, including Smile and Hello Practice, Self-Disclosure (which Michael demonstrates in real time on today's show), Rejection Practice, Flirting Training, Shame Attacking Exercises, and more. David claims that Jacob is likely the world's top expert in Shame Attacking Exercises, and we illustrate several on the podcast. Rhonda described a Shame Attacking Exercise that I challenged her with. It was incredibly terrifying, but turned out really well! David also described the impact of self-disclosure on a wealthy and powerful businessman he treated who was so insecure that he was even terrified to be around his wife and children. People who are socially anxious nearly always try hard to hide their negative feelings out of a sense of shame, so others, even friends and family and colleagues, typically aren't aware of how they feel inside. Michael courageously discloses his own negative thoughts that triggered feelings of social anxiety at being around Jacob, his mentor. Maybe I'll make a mistake. I might be wasting Jacob's time. Then he might not want to mentor me. These thoughts caused feelings of loneliness and shame. I felt much closer to Michael when he disclose these feelings. Jacob added that he was totally unaware that Michael had been struggling with these thoughts and feelings. The treatment of social anxiety is profoundly serious, because we are involved in changing the lives of people who are suffering and lonely and inhibited, but the treatment can also be fun, hilarious and of course, enlightening. Michael wraps up the show by describing the transformation this training has had on his own life. If you wish to attend, act rapidly because space is limited and will be given out on a first-come, first-serve basis. I hope you can attend, and make sure you let Rhonda and David know about your experiences! Thanks for listening today! Rhonda, Jacob, Michael, and David
Not caring what other people think can be a challenging mindset to adopt, especially if you have a tendency to worry about what others think of you. However, it can also be a liberating and empowering mindset that allows you to focus on your own goals and values rather than being influenced by the opinions of others. My new book "Live Better Now" is available on Amazon... This is an all-ages read to help you focus on what's most important to live a better life now! Amazon: amzn.to/3csfVGw Zach Rance, Certified Life Coach | Certified Nutritionist Questions, Comments, or Business Inquiries Visit: https://lifecoachzach.com/ Instagram: @ZachRancey --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/zachrance/message
Looking for external validation has become so common that we sometimes fail to recognize it as a problem. External validation is surprisingly addictive. Moving past that addiction is a process, and it takes time.Subscribe to daily devotions e-mails: https://wcm.link/ddsub
TRIGGER WARNING: In this episode, my guest and I dive into the following topics: Physical Assault on a Child, Removing children from their home, Attempted Sexual Assault. If you need to pause or stop listening to this episode, please honour that. Thank you. Per The State of America's Children, a child is removed from their home and placed into foster care EVERY TWO MINUTES. In this episode, my guest Kimberly Valerie speaks about how she was removed from her childhood home at a young age in Canada. Yet, her siblings remained. After having an experience in a juvenile detention center for two days, she decided she never wanted to get into trouble again. Instead, she chose to over-achieve, become successful, be "the strong one" and live by all of the things that defines you in society as "making it". Except mentally, spiritually, and emotionally, she was so exhausted with her life. So much so that it impacted her physically and she developed a life threatening disease. The one thing that broke her free from the addiction of approval: tapping into her subconscious. I invite you to join our conversation as Kimberly Valerie and I discuss: Childhood abuse Trauma Foster Care Survival Rejection Opposition Dementia Reconciliation Addiction High-Achiever Breast cancer Sympathetic nervous system Breath work Real Estate Honourable Mentions https://www.itdidntbreakme.com/ (Share how YOU overcame a situation) https://www.afs4kids.org/blog/29-surprising-foster-care-facts/ (29 Surprising Foster Care Facts) https://bakken-young.com/strong-for-others/ (Being Strong For Others Can Stunt Your Own Self-Healing) https://www.oacas.org/childrens-aid-child-protection/fostering/ (Ontario Association of Children's Aid Societies ) https://www.verywellhealth.com/stress-and-risk-factors-for-breast-cancer-430440 (Stress as a Risk Factor for Breast Cancer and Recurrence) https://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/ss/slideshow-listen-to-body (How to Listen to Your Body) Where can you find Kimberley Valerie? Website: https://www.kimberleyvalerie.com/ (https://www.kimberleyvalerie.com/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberley.valerie/ (https://www.instagram.com/kimberley.valerie/) ————— This podcast is hosted by https://www.authenticallybeyou.com/ (Bianca Kesha Hughes). Known for authenticity and heart-work services, Bianca is the ultimate trailblazer in the mental health and wellness field as a therapist, coach, speaker, and podcast host, inspiring her audience to let go of the illusion of perfectionism. Ready to learn more? Contact her https://www.authenticallybeyou.com/ (here)! ————— If you would love to connect with Bianca, join her in these following spaces: https://authentically-be-you.ck.page/3f2e85ebda (Insights and Inspirations) https://www.itdidntbreakme.com (Podcast Website) https:// https://www.facebook.com/authenticallybu (Facebook) https://www.instagram.com/authenticallybeyou (Instagram) Interested in inviting Bianca to speak so she can inspire your audience?https://www.authenticallybeyou.com/biancaspeaks ( Click here) and fill out a short form. ————— Have you been moved by what you heard in this week's episode of "It Didn't Break Me"? I invite you to leave an honest review of how this episode impacted you. Also, share this podcast with a friend. We all have a friend that needs it! Song Credit: Encore by King Sis This is a https://crackersinsoup.com/ (Crackers In Soup) production.
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Welcome to the Transformation Church Podcast! Each week you can be a part of the weekly sermon delivered at TC by one of our Pastors. You can join us and listen to each message and then catch our Weekly Follow-Up Podcast on each Wednesday where Executive Pastor Justin Oswald and Lead Pastor Brad Livingston have an in-depth discussion about this week's message. Thank you for taking the time to connect with us and with God through this message! This week Pastor Brad Livingston brings the message from the Reframe series with "The Approval Addiction".
Approval Addiction is wrecking the lives of PK's. Diagnosing the trauma early can lead to separating from patterns and habits that destroy relationships for decades. This incredibly powerful episode with Doc Farris will help Pastors and PK's alike. It's a must listen. Follow Doc Farris on Facebook Follow Doc Farris on Instagram
if we are not careful, everyone will find themselves living for someone else's approval because most of us are not secure enough in the approval of God. Living to please God means at times you're going to make decisions that are going to disappoint people. And you will only go as far in faith as you were comfortable with that truth. If you cannot live without people's approval then you have already probably hit the lid on your life. But if you will live for God, if his approval will be enough, there is no limit to where He may take you. you cannot please people and please God at the same time, so which one will you choose?
Do you find yourself incredibly concerned about what other people think about you? Whether we call it people-pleasing, reputation worship, or approval addiction, our desire to be well-liked can cause us to make all sorts of poor, sometimes even self-destructive decisions. On today's lagniappe episode, I will explore a church that Paul highly esteemed, and understand why he thought so highly of the church! We will also ask ourselves some hard questions about our need for approval, and explore how we can have vision for our lives - vision that will help us keep first things - God things - first! Join me for this episode that is near to my heart! (RAR2022EP03)