In Sight

Burnout - it's a phrase that so many of us have heard, but what does it mean, especially for those with a history of trauma? Listen as Dr. Claire Plumbly explains why burnout can be so difficult to recognise, and why it's something that everyone should be aware of.   You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. JOIN HERE. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

Our listener this week shares how she felt manipulated and silenced by her adoptive mother, describing how even her father's death was weaponised against her. Now she's no contact and struggling to speak up in her current relationships, she asks how she can begin to repair the lingering wounds of her childhood.     You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. JOIN HERE. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

As a psychotherapist and counselling psychologist within the NHS, our guest Dr. Natalie Cawley is no stranger to both sides of the therapy chair. Listen as she shares an invaluable look into how her own past has shaped her practice, and the lessons she's learned from 'failed' relationships and working with vulnerable and inspiring people. TW: self-harm, suicide Find out more about Dr. Natalie and 'Just About Coping' at https://www.nataliecawley.com/ and on Instagram at @nataliecawleypsych You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. JOIN HERE. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

Driven by a fierce desire to protect her brother from her mother's 'poison', our listener yearns for a relationship with the sibling she tried desperately to protect. But as Katie and Helen peel back the layers of her complicated family dynamics, our listener learns there's so much more to her story than she first thought.   You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. JOIN HERE. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

Driven by a fierce desire to protect her brother from her mother's 'poison', our listener yearns for a relationship with the sibling she tried desperately to protect. But as Katie and Helen peel back the layers of her complicated family dynamics, our listener learns there's so much more to her story than she first thought.   You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. JOIN HERE. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

As our listener is coming to terms with her emotionally abusive childhood, she asks for our help understanding the lasting impact of suppressing her emotions and 'playing the moods' of her father. After working hard to break the cycle for her own children, she's trying to model healthy communication and relationships for them - but did she do the right thing leaving her marriage?   You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. JOIN HERE. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

Describing her childhood as growing up in a cult, without access to basic necessities and education, our listener this week struggles to come to terms with the declining health of her parents. Listen to Helen and Katie help Emi tap into her healthy anger about being denied the childhood she deserved. TW: religious cult, discussion of death You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. JOIN HERE. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

If you don't cry or dislike when someone around you cries, does that make you cold hearted? That's just one of the concerns that our listener wanted to tackle this week, as Helen and Katie explore her past childhood experiences and the lasting impact it's had on her ability to express her emotions. TW: Physical abuse of a child You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. Coming soon - join the waitlist here. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our guest this weeks describes being 'obsessed' with her mother as a child, seeking her adoration and love above all else. She asks for help drawing a line under the past to be able to move forward with her own family, but is this possible if her mother is still the centre of her world? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. Coming soon - join the waitlist here. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: Suicide Our guest this week shares how she's been living with her husband's mood swings and silent treatment, but now she's tired of feeling responsible for her family's emotions as well as her own. As the self-described "CEO of the household", she fears that if she steps back, the spinning plates she's been carrying for so long will come crashing down. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. Coming soon - join the waitlist here. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Former "good kid" turned trauma therapist, Maggie Nick joins us this week to talk about trauma and the impact her own childhood has on her parenting, including how she was feeling triggered by her children in ways she never expected. Listen as Helen and Katie unpick the relational trauma and shame that needed to be shed before Maggie could silence her inner critic and become the parent she wished she had. •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. Coming soon - join the waitlist here. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Confused by the family dynamics growing up and the blurred lines between parent and child, our guest this week describes a deep need to understand her past before she can fully move forward. She questions whether she was the golden child or the scapegoat within the family that should have protected her all along. Despite going no contact, she shares her fear of an unexpected run-in or being pushed to reconnect by family members minimising the abuse she experienced. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 65 episodes today on our Patreon page including how to identify if you were the scapegoat, golden child or invisible child in your own family. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) When you've spent your life feeling like you're an 'empath' who's an expert at spotting a lie, what do you do when you can no longer trust your instincts? And is it instinct, or is it trauma? That's the dilemma our guest is facing this week, as she asks how she can trust the opinions and actions of others, when she can no longer trust her own. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) We're honoured to have been joined by Matylda live this week, who's asking for help with understanding the dynamic of her relationship, and asks how she can avoid the internal despair she feels at the first sign of conflict. Listen to Helen and Katie share their thoughts on respectful disagreement, unpicking conflict and power dynamics, and the importance of repairing the relationship afterwards.  We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our community is front and centre this week, as we answer YOUR questions! From diagnosing a narcissist to how best to support a sibling, we've loved this opportunity to help our lovely Patrons with the questions that are most important to them. Thank you to everyone that asked a question, we wish we could have covered them all! Fancy asking your own question or even a chance to guest-star on the podcast to read your letter? Look out for more info on your exclusive subscriber-only feed over on our Patreon page. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) We're delighted to be joined by ADHD expert and host of the 'I Have ADHD' podcast Kristen Carder this week as she returns to share her personal story of surviving emotional abuse. We talk about how it feels to be forced into a box that simply doesn't fit, and the key takeaways from thousands of hours of therapy that have helped her reconnect with herself and help thousands of clients. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Whether it's because you're no longer fuelling their ego or you're standing up to their manipulative behaviour, being discarded by a narcissist is one of the most devastating things to experience. Originally released exclusively for our Patreon subscribers, we're sharing the 'Discard' episode of The Freudian Slip to everyone this week.  Enjoyed this episode and want to hear more about the cycle of abuse, family roles, healing strategies and so much more? Unlock instant access to over 60 more in-depth episodes just like this one over on our Patreon page. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Calling all people pleasers, this one's for you! This week we're replaying one of our community's favourite episodes, originally released back in January 2023. If this episode is a refresher for you, we'd like to ask you to reflect on what's changed for you over the past 18 months as you listen - we hope this is a valuable exercise for you, and enjoy the episode. Original: The listener this week is struggling to know whether to stay in her relationship. Feeling unseen and unheard but so in love with her partner, she can't make sense of what's acceptable or not.  Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: mention of childhood illness Stuck in a cycle of breaking up and making up, our listener this week reflects that her upbringing may have led to her missing some red flags in her relationship. But as her patience wears thin and she finally breaks away, the situation is complicated by sharing a workplace. Fearful of what he may be saying about her to their colleagues, she asks if it's possible to stay professional and protect herself at the same time. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. Find What My Bones Know here (aff link) and the recommended exercise on the trauma bond here. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: mentions of physical abuse, disordered eating and cancer With a family unit split down the middle, our listener this week questions why she was punished simply for not being the same as her sister. Each parent picked their favourite daughter and pitted them against each other, in a competition that was rigged from the start. After adding physical distance and being left all but emotionally abandoned, she asks if her family should have done more to repair their relationship, or is she expecting too much? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: physical abuse, abortion, assault, stalking From reading childhood diaries to mocking her physical appearance, this week's listener was shamed and belittled by her family at every opportunity. Even after reaching milestones her parents never thought her capable of, she's still grappling with the feeling that despite her own beautiful family, she will never be able to let go of the deep sadness that's still holding her back. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: Sexual abuse, self-harm This week we hear how our listener is coming to the realisation that she may have been subjected to covert sexual abuse at the hands of her parents. Despite being expected to run the household as a teenager as well as keep her younger sister safe, she's now struggling to connect with her own feelings. Was it really abuse, or is she just being sensitive? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. Domestic violence article referenced: https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/experts-reveal-how-spot-emotional-33201421 We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) A move back to the family farm soon becomes a nightmare for this week's listener. She describes her demanding mother in law causing a scene at birthday parties, arriving unannounced in a fit of anger and refusing to listen to reason. Despite her husband reaching the end of his tether and cutting ties, our listener asks why she's the one wanting to fix things for the sake of her children. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: Violence To those on the outside, our listener's mother has always been the generous, kind and loving parent that's been unfairly denied access to her precious grandchildren. But dig deeper and there's a lifetime of shaming, gaslighting and even excusing physical abuse. Our listener has been given expensive gifts, huge public displays and fancy holidays, but what's the true cost to her and her family? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Family law solicitor Tracey Moloney AKA The Legal Queen joins us on the podcast again this week, this time we're talking about children and grandparents. Do "grandparents' rights" exist? And how can a child be protected from manipulation at the hands of a bitter ex-partner? Find The Legal Queen on TikTok. Note: Tracey specialises in English and Welsh law only, and this episode does not constitute legal advice. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) From spotting insidious emotional abuse in the courtroom to surviving divorce proceedings against a narcissist, we're hearing practical guidance and legal insights from family law solicitor Tracey Moloney AKA The Legal Queen!  This week we're focusing on how to protect yourself during divorce and separation, but fear not - Tracey returns next week to chat about the rights around children and grandparents. Find The Legal queen on TikTok. Note: Tracey specialises in English and Welsh law only, and this episode does not constitute legal advice. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: child loss, sexual assault This week our listener describes living in the shadow of her stillborn sister, as the "replacement child" that didn't stand a chance in a toxic household. Between manipulation and weaponising her disability, her mother has continued to spread the narrative that our listener is volatile, cruel and hateful. She asks if by going no contact, does she really have to lose the family connection she craves? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our listener begins to spot red flags in her brother-in-law's behaviour, including massive invasions of privacy and public shaming of their children. She's worried his ultra-religious views and need for control have not only traumatised his wife, but her children are at risk too. Our listener asks if her sister is somehow enabling his abuse, and more importanly how can she protect her? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Desperate for closure after a string of abusive relationships throughout her life, our listener can't help but cling on to rage and even hatred towards those who wronged her. As acknowledgment and atonement grow ever more unlikely, she asks how to deal with the hurt and anger. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) After a nasty outburst on a family holiday, our listener this week is struggling with words from her mother that can't be unsaid. As the insults chip away at her self-esteem, examples of toxic behaviour in childhood bubble to the surface and she's questioning everything she thought she knew about her role in the family. But is she really unlovable, a bad mother, and ‘broken'? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. TW: This episode talks about sexual abuse. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our listener this week recalls a family conversation about her grandmother's toxic behaviour. However, her mother is oblivious to how she displayed the same behaviour, and the lasting effects it had on our listener. Despite her mother's difficult relationship with alcohol and emotional manipulation, our listener doesn't want to rock the boat by saying how she's feeling and asks, can there ever be healing in confrontation? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Growing up in the shadow of her siblings, our listener has recognised the toxic traits that were always excused and enabled. Despite going low contact, she's struggling with the idea of giving up on her siblings when she's been taught that "family is everything". Can a relationship with her siblings be salvaged, and should it? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our listener this week shares how her kind and generous mother-in-law is "the nicest person you could ever wish to meet", with an enticing ability to keep the peace. But digging deeper, it appears there's so much more to her fawning and people-pleasing behaviour. As worry and exhaustion bubble to the surface, our listener asks how she can protect someone that doesn't believe they deserve protecting? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: Pregnancy loss Despite a history of cold, abusive behaviour from her mother leading to a trail of broken family bonds, our listener is haunted by the notion that 'life is short'. She is questioning whether she was right to go low contact, or will she regret her decision in the future? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) This week we break from the usual format to talk about one of the most surreal weeks we've had, embarking on a whistlestop media tour of Ireland to launch YNTP! Plus, we make In Sight history as we are actually recording in the same room for the first time - catch the video on YouTube! We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You're Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) As her father prepares to reconcile with her abusive mother, our listener feels like she's at breaking point. Her father begs her to put their differences aside for a family wedding, but she can't put her mental health at risk again. For the sake of her father she asks whether a narcissist is capable of change, or is this yet another spin on their Merry-Go-Round relationship? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy' here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.  

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week we chat with previous guest Harriet Shearsmith, author and host of Unfollowing Mum. After Harriet's exclusive early access to 'You're Not the Problem', we hear how the book has impacted her, what she's learned from it and how things have been since we last caught up! In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter  

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week we're sharing one of the most popular episodes of our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. As part of our series examining family roles, we take an in-depth look at the child that ISN'T the golden child. We explore the background and the ramifications of this role - enjoy! Content warning: mention of medical procedures/pain   In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener explains that no matter the situation or her part in it, she always feels like the problem. She describes her husband as a good man with a warm heart, but struggles to communicate with him in a way that helps him understand her needs. She asks, is it simply different love languages, or something else?  Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. Content warning: mention of suicide attempt In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener struggles to come to terms with how differently he is treated compared to his sibling. Despite his brother leaving a trail of chaos and personal attacks, their parents seem to do everything they can to avoid holding him accountable. Our listener asks, what happens now? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Content warning: sexual abuse  This week our listener describes how she managed to break free from a life dominated by her abusive father under the guise of religion. Despite breaking free, she found herself at the mercy of abusive relationships and being silenced by her enabling mother. As she tries to move forward, she asks how to make peace with the traumatic events of her past. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener is questioning whether her husband is emotionally abusive, or are the wounds of her childhood blurring the lines? After years of control and debilitating illness, our listener asks if she should leave - and can she make it on her own if she does? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener is struggling to know how to manage her relationship with her mother. She feels completely invisible, and thinks of herself as an invisible child, but is she? And how does she move forward? Can she have one and hold boundaries? Or is it impossible? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener is struggling to know who she is outside of who she's been told to be. After being in a push pull relationship with a mother who both engulfs and ignores she's left asking...who am I without her? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Our listener this week shares some harrowing stories from her childhood and describes the lasting effects she's spent years processing in therapy. Tired of playing happy families to protect the public image, she asks for help envisioning a future where she can be authentic without having to rewrite her past for someone else's benefit. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen and Katie catch up with previous letter writers to find out how they're doing since the had their letter read out.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen and Katie interview Casey Smith, social media creator, and host of the podcast 'It's Not Normal', where she explores her own experience of growing up with a narcissistic parent and how it's affected her now. In this episode she asks 'How do I learn to lean into my autonomy after being punished for it for so long?'  Find Casey on all the platforms by clicking here. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email insightpodcastuk@gmail.com

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon How do you protect children from a father who's diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but there's a court order that says they have to visit? Listen as Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation and how our listener might cope. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email insightpodcastuk@gmail.com This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Katie and Helen help a listener try to understand what happened in her friendship that became romantic and then became toxic. Can it be saved or is this the end? In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email insightpodcastuk@gmail.com This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen and Katie are releasing an episode from their Patreon show The Freudian Slip. This episode focuses on the Scapegoat child role, and is part one of 4.   In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email insightpodcastuk@gmail.com This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen and Katie break from format again and discuss tips and exercises on how to heal from narcissistic abuse.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email insightpodcastuk@gmail.com This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.