Podcasts about parentification

Sarah Ann Saeger, LPC, LCADC, LAMFT, is an Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist who specializes in complex trauma, addiction, and relationships. She is trained in IFS and an array of somatic,attachment-informed therapies. Sarah shares psychoeducation and reflections on parts work and the healing journey on her Instagram and Substack platforms. She is dedicated to helping survivors embrace the wisdom of their whole selves, and she supports survivors in her PA-based therapy practice.In this episode, we explore parentification: what it is, how it develops, and the ways it can continue to shape our lives after childhood.We discuss what can happen when a child grows up feeling responsible for the emotional well-being of others, learns to suppress their own needs, and takes on roles that were never theirs to carry. We also unpack the many nuances of these experiences, recognizing that family, culture, and generation has its own context. In addition, we talk about what it can look like to incorporate Internal Family Systems (IFS) into the work of complex trauma and parentification. We discuss how these early roles can show up in adult relationships through familiar relational patterns and reenactments. This includes why we may find ourselves drawn to partners who reinforce what once felt familiar, along with the grief that can come from recognizing what we needed but didn't receive.FOLLOW SARAH:INSTA: @sarahannsaegerMORE INFO: LinktreeWORKBOOK: The Internal Family Systems Workbook For CPTSDSTAY CONNECTED:INSTA: @trustandthriveTIKOK: @trustandthriveTHREADS: @trustandthriveFACEBOOK: bit.ly/FBtaramontEMAIL: trustandthrive@gmail.com

Some kids learn early on that the way to be loved is to be useful. They take on the emotional or practical care of their parents in a process known as parentification, and today Dr. Rick and Forrest explore the costs of being a “gifted child.” They discuss the “bargain” these kids make: suppressing their authentic self in order to fulfill a role and earn love. Over time, this bargain can harden into a false self that makes it difficult for the person to connect with their true wants and needs. They then walk through four tracks that allow us to reclaim authenticity: becoming visible to yourself, building a coherent narrative, reconnecting with what you gave up, and renegotiating relationships. Topics include the paired extremes of grandiosity and depression, why so many capable adults go blank when asked what they actually want, and why understanding a pattern isn't the same as changing it. This episode is heavily influenced by psychologist Alice Miller's classic book The Drama of the Gifted Child. Key Topics: 0:00: Intro: what is parentification? 9:18: Examining your own childhood 13:18: Grandiosity and Depression 18:37: Peer-entification, self-narratives, and adult relationships 23:29: Emotional insight and grief 27:09: Tracks to healing 35:10: Track 1: Becoming more visible to yourself 39:26: Track 2: Building a coherent narrative 45:21: Track 3: Reparenting 50:49: Track 4: Building a new bargain 1:05:26: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Take our audience survey: https://rickhanson.com/survey/ Sponsors Level up your bedding with Quince. Go to Quince.com/BEINGWELL for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel like you're the “parent” in your relationship — managing everything while your partner just... coasts? You're not alone. And it's not just you being controlling.  Host Cate Osborn talks with ADHD coach Kristen Carder (host of I Have ADHD, author of the upcoming You're Not in Trouble) about why ADHD relationships so easily slide into parent-child dynamics, and how to climb back out. They get into why resentment is the red flag to watch for, and Kristen's favorite mantra for “de-centering” an overfunctioning partner (“there is no sun — we're equals here”). Plus eldest daughter syndrome, and why chicken nuggets for dinner is sometimes the healthiest choice you'll make all day. Honest, funny, and genuinely useful if you've ever wondered whether you're parenting your partner instead of loving them. For more on this topic  Listen: Sorry, I Missed This: When ADHD turns chores into conflict Watch: ADHD expert answers 8 top questions on romantic relationships For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ever feel like you're the “parent” in your relationship — managing everything while your partner just... coasts? You're not alone. And it's not just you being controlling.  Host Cate Osborn talks with ADHD coach Kristen Carder (host of I Have ADHD, author of the upcoming You're Not in Trouble) about why ADHD relationships so easily slide into parent-child dynamics, and how to climb back out. They get into why resentment is the red flag to watch for, and Kristen's favorite mantra for “de-centering” an overfunctioning partner (“there is no sun — we're equals here”). Plus eldest daughter syndrome, and why chicken nuggets for dinner is sometimes the healthiest choice you'll make all day. Honest, funny, and genuinely useful if you've ever wondered whether you're parenting your partner instead of loving them. For more on this topic  Listen: Sorry, I Missed This: When ADHD turns chores into conflict Watch: ADHD expert answers 8 top questions on romantic relationships For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Et si certains enfants portaient un rôle qui n'est pas le leur ? Dans cet épisode de En devenir, Céline Taverriti et Aïmed abordent un phénomène souvent méconnu : la parentification. Parfois, sans en avoir conscience, un enfant peut prendre une place d'adulte au sein de sa famille. Il devient un soutien émotionnel, un confident ou ressent le besoin de protéger ses parents. Ces situations, souvent invisibles, peuvent avoir des conséquences sur son développement, son équilibre et ses relations futures. Cette émission propose de mieux comprendre la parentification, d'identifier les mécanismes qui peuvent s'installer au sein de la famille et de retrouver une place juste pour chacun. Une émission pour se découvrir, grandir et s'épanouir en famille.

Barlas Günay is a registered psychologist and certified meditation and mindfulness teacher based in the Netherlands, who over the past 13 years has guided thousands of people across the globe through profound journeys of healing and self-discovery. Trained in both the USA and Canada, he is the founder of Accept and Act, a healing platform offering online psychotherapy and a membership-based self-reparenting community with a combined following of over 100,000 across social media. He specializes in (childhood) trauma recovery, relationships, and holistic psychology, with a particular focus on the transformative practice of self-reparenting. His mission is to help as many people as possible heal from their traumas, reconnect with themselves, and step into life as conscious, free, and authentic adults and parents, because he believes that when individuals heal, the world becomes a safer, happier place for all.In this episode, we share a conversation around complex trauma and the nuance that can show up from these childhood experiences. We explore the potential impacts of childhood complex trauma, how the nervous system might response, and examples of survival responses. We hold space for the real and valid grief that may arise related to working through these wounds. We also discuss how trauma can influence our sense of safety in relationships, and why healing is less about "fixing" and more on holding compassion for parts of ourselves that did what they needed to do to survive.As always, this episode is not a replacement for therapy or individualized care. We simply hope to bring validation and education around these heavy topics. We hope you can take care of yourself in whatever ways support you, whether that's taking a step away from listening or simply checking in with what's coming up for you.FOLLOW BARLAS:INSTA: @acceptandactTIKTOK: @acceptandactFACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/acceptandact/STAY CONNECTED:INSTA: @trustandthriveTIKOK: @trustandthriveTHREADS: @trustandthriveFACEBOOK: bit.ly/FBtaramontEMAIL: trustandthrive@gmail.com

Looking for ADHD support this summer? My entire 'ADHD Women's Wellbeing Series' is on offer this July. Head here to learn more about the workshops and use code JULY to get 35% off.Some of the deepest childhood wounds don't come from parents who shouted or hurt us. Sometimes they come from parents who simply never had the tools to truly see us.On this week's episode of The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast, I'm joined by Sian Crossley, a London-trained psychotherapist, author and the founder of Break the Cycle Coaching.With a background in both private practice and the NHS, Sian specialises in helping adults understand and heal from the lasting impact of emotionally immature parenting. Through her writing, courses and online community, she helps thoughtful, self-aware people untangle patterns like people pleasing, self-doubt and over-responsibility, so they can build healthier boundaries and more authentic relationships. She's the author of How to Heal from Emotionally Immature Parents, and now lives in Malaysia with her two young children, working with clients and audiences around the world.In this episode, Sian and I talk about what emotionally immature parenting actually looks like, even in a childhood where all the practical boxes were ticked. We explore why feeling unseen can leave a lasting impact, how undiagnosed neurodivergence in a parent's generation often went unnamed and unsupported, and why grief and acceptance matter more than forgiveness when it comes to healing. Sian also shares the foundations of emotionally mature parenting, and how small, consistent changes, like simply asking a child how they feel, can start to break old patterns without anyone needing to be perfect.In this episode, we cover:What emotionally immature parenting really looks like, even in a "good enough" childhoodThe difference between big T and little T traumaHow undiagnosed neurodivergence in parents shapes the way love and connection are shownParentification, and what it means when a child becomes their parent's emotional supportWhy grief and acceptance matter more than forgiveness when healing childhood traumaThe "and, not but" technique for holding two truths about a parent at onceWhy childhood memories can feel fragmented after emotional neglectBreaking generational cycles without overcorrecting as a parentThe four foundations of emotionally mature parenting: regulation, self-awareness, empathy and boundariesWhy asking a child how something made them feel can change everythingTimestamps:00:00 - Welcome, and introducing Sian Crossley and her book02:40 - What emotionally immature parenting actually looks like05:03 - Why feeling unseen can matter more than what was provided practically06:15 - Parentification and becoming a parent's emotional support07:51 - Kate's own story: a late ADHD diagnosis and family patterns11:34 - Where healing actually begins14:48 - Why too much empathy for parents can get in the way of healing17:16 - Breaking the cycle without overcorrecting as a parent22:41 - Why fragmented childhood memories are so common25:23 - Grief, acceptance and why forgiveness isn't the goal34:03 - The "and, not but" technique for holding two truths39:05 - The four foundations of emotionally mature parenting45:04 - How to work with Sian

Most people think enmeshment is love. They think it's loyalty/ being a close family or maybe it's just caring deeply about the people around them, but what if the reason you struggle to make decisions, set boundaries, trust yourself, or put your partner first has nothing to do with love and everything to do with enmeshment? In this powerful conversation, we sit down with therapist Aliza Shapiro to unpack one of the most misunderstood relationship dynamics: enmeshment. We explore how family loyalty can sometimes become control, why so many eldest children become parentified, how cultural expectations shape our identities, and what it takes to build healthy relationships without losing the people we love. Whether you're constantly seeking your parents' approval, feel responsible for everyone else's emotions, or struggle to put your own needs first, this episode will help you understand where those patterns come from and how to begin changing them. If you've ever felt guilty for choosing yourself, this conversation is for you.

"Es ist Sonntagabend. Du bringst die Kinder ins Bett, machst das Licht aus — und dann merkst du: Gleich ist die Wohnung still. Und dann kommt alles hoch." Wenn du dich darin wiedererkennst — wenn du merkst, dass du funktionierst, aber gleichzeitig selbst Halt brauchst — dann ist diese Folge für dich. 27 Prozent der Väter, die sich bei uns melden, haben Angst, ihre Kinder zu verlieren. In dieser Episode erklären dir Ralf Hofmann und Felix Heller, warum die meisten Väter den gleichen Fehler machen: Sie verdrängen ihren Schmerz, um für die Kinder zu funktionieren. Und genau das macht sie emotional unerreichbar — das Gegenteil von dem, was sie wollen. Die gute Nachricht: Das Single-Father-Paradox löst sich auf, wenn du bereit bist, hinzuschauen. Mit Forschung von John Bowlby, Stephen Porges, Robert Emery und Brené Brown zeigen wir dir, was psychologisch passiert.

Weaponized incompetence is not manipulation and not laziness. It is the adult expression of a childhood survival strategy where deliberate failure protected the child from engulfment or punishment for being capable.This video walks through the real psychology behind weaponized incompetence and the childhood blueprint living underneath both partners. The over-functioner is running a parentification wound. The strategically incompetent partner is running an engulfment and shame-of-competence wound.Kenny Weiss is the creator of the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. This teaching maps weaponized incompetence to survival personas, parentification, and blueprint collision.Weaponized incompetence in marriage is rarely manipulation. Deliberate failure traces to a childhood where the child's competence was punished by a controlling parent or absorbed by an engulfing parent. Strategic helplessness became the only way to keep a small zone of self.The over-functioning partner is almost always running a parentification wound. The easy child, the responsible one, the little adult who managed mom's moods learned that worth equaled usefulness and that stopping would collapse the family.The over-functioner and the strategically incompetent partner form a blueprint collision. Her competence keeps him incompetent. His incompetence keeps her competent. The fight is not about chores.The Emotional Authenticity Method™ addresses weaponized incompetence at the blueprint level. Its six steps move from somatic down-regulation through earliest memory tracing to Feelization, which builds a new emotional addiction to the Authentic Self instead of the survival role.Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication, and childhood trauma recovery specialist and the creator of the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. He is the author of Your Journey To Success and Your Journey To Being Yourself.TOPICS COVERED: weaponized incompetence, weaponized incompetence in marriage, strategic helplessness, mental load, emotional labor, over-functioning partner, parentification, engulfment, codependence, Worst Day Cycle, Authentic Self Cycle, Emotional Authenticity Method, Kenny Weiss, childhood blueprint, survival persona, blueprint collision0:00 — The Pattern Nobody Names Correctly1:30 — Why Calling It Manipulation Misses Everything3:00 — The Childhood Blueprint Behind Strategic Failure5:30 — Parentification and the Over-Functioning Partner8:00 — How the Worst Day Cycle Locks Both Sides In11:30 — Why Couples Therapy Cannot Reach This13:00 — Blueprint Collision and the Ghost in the Fight15:00 — The Authentic Self Cycle Inside This One Issue17:30 — The Emotional Authenticity Method as the Rewire20:30 — Identity Close

Co-parenting conversations can escalate fast, especially when an ex is reactive, manipulative, dismissive, or unreasonable. It's tempting to defend yourself, fire back, or make a quick decision just to escape the pressure. But that kind of response rarely moves things forward, and it can leave kids carrying the emotional weight of adult conflict.In this episode, we share practical tools to help you communicate with an ex in a way that is calm, clear, and solution-focused. You'll learn our 5 A's Framework for navigating hard co-parenting conversations, along with strategies for handling pressure, staying grounded, and setting healthy boundaries with confidence.We also open up about a painful moment in our own blended family story, when Kim felt pressured by her ex into making a major decision before she had time to think clearly or consult with Mike. From that experience, we share what we wish we had known then, and how these tools can help you protect your marriage, create greater stability for your kids, and build more peace in your home.Be sure to grab the free downloadable worksheet for this episode to help you plan your next hard conversation and put these tools into practice.You'll Discover:Why reactive communication with an ex often fuels ongoing conflict How to use the 5 A's Framework for clearer, more cooperative co-parenting conversations Three strategies for handling pressure-filled moments with greater steadiness A simple tool for setting healthy boundaries with an ex How consistency can build trust, influence, and greater stability for your kidsResources from this Episode:CLICK HERE to grab your free co-parenting communication worksheetEpisode 211. 8 Warning Signs Your Ex is Manipulating Your Child's Heart and MindEpisode 218. How to Positively Influence You Kids' Character When Your Ex Undermines Your Values Episode 207.  4 Big Myths About Parenting When an Ex Has Different Rules and How to Build Consistency  Episode 232. 5 Principles to Manage Contact Between Homes and Promote Your Child's WellbeingEpisode 229. The Heavy Burdens Kids Carry: Loyalty Binds, Parental Allegiance and How to HelpEpisode 175. 8 Tips to Protect Kids From Stress and Tension When Moving Between HomesEpisode 161. How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification [ with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]Episode 112. 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt the KidsEpisode 42. Our Challenging Story of Parental Alienation - and 6 Tips For YouEpisode 91. Is Your Husband's Hostile Ex-Wife Invading Your Life, Stealing Your Joy and Confidence?Episode 194. Powerful Tips for Effectively Connecting with Your Angry or Distant Child [with Amy J.L. Baker]Episode 226. How Two Homes Raise Kids That Thrive:  A Blueprint for Caring Parents [with Jay & Tammy Daughtry]Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

In this emotionally insightful episode of Nerdy Bitz, The Reverend Tracy returns with a brand-new TL;DL titled “Gilmore Girls, Parentification, And The Romanticization Of Enmeshment.” Using the beloved television series Gilmore Girls as the centerpiece of the discussion, The Reverend Tracy takes a deeper psychological look at the show's famous “best friend mother” dynamic and why so many audiences mistake emotional enmeshment for healthy parenting.While Gilmore Girls is often celebrated for its fast dialogue, quirky charm, and close-knit relationships, this episode explores the darker emotional implications underneath Lorelai and Rory Gilmore's relationship dynamic. The Reverend Tracy examines how the show unintentionally normalizes parentification — a psychological pattern where children take on emotional responsibilities, burdens, or relational roles that are developmentally inappropriate for them.Throughout the episode, she discusses how children placed into emotionally adult roles often become caretakers, mediators, therapists, or emotional support systems for their parents long before they are emotionally equipped to carry those responsibilities. What may appear “cute,” “mature,” or “best-friend-like” on the surface can actually create long-term difficulties involving boundaries, emotional regulation, identity formation, conflict management, and adult relationships later in life.The episode breaks down:What parentification actually isThe difference between closeness and emotional enmeshmentWhy “best friend parenting” can blur emotional boundariesHow children in enmeshed households often suppress their own emotional needsThe psychological consequences of children becoming emotional caretakersHow media romanticizes unhealthy family dynamicsWhy emotionally immature parenting is often misunderstood as relatabilityThe long-term effects parentification can have on anxiety, guilt, people-pleasing, and adult relationshipsThe Reverend Tracy also explores why audiences are frequently drawn to these relationship dynamics in television and film, especially when unhealthy emotional dependency is framed as loyalty, closeness, or unconditional love. Using examples from Gilmore Girls, she highlights how unresolved trauma and emotional loneliness can shape parenting styles in ways that feel normal to viewers who experienced similar family structures growing up.Rather than attacking the series itself, the discussion uses Gilmore Girls as a lens to better understand the importance of healthy boundaries, emotional maturity, and allowing children to fully experience childhood without carrying adult emotional burdens.Support Friends Talking Nerdy on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠.As always, we wish to thank Christopher Lazarek for his wonderful theme song. Head to his ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for information on how to purchase his EP, Here's To You, which is available on all digital platforms.Head to Friends Talking Nerdy's⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠for more information on where to find us online.

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In a culture that increasingly fears family, we wanted to talk about something we believe is deeply valuable: sibling relationships.In this episode, we reflect on our own experiences growing up, the beauty of watching our children bond, and why we believe siblings can become one of life's greatest support systems.Family is not perfect. But by the grace of God, sibling relationships can become a lifelong source of love, strength, accountability, and joy.00:49 Trust God With Family Size02:20 Our Sibling Backgrounds03:53 Thomas and Sister Bond06:10 Watching Our Kids Bond07:11 Siblings as Lifelong Support09:45 Parentification and Shared Care11:51 Adult Friendships vs Siblings16:22 Faith and Jesus Had Siblings17:59 Encouragement for Parents20:06 Security and Shared Burdens22:45 How We Foster Sibling Bonds23:11 Sharing Rooms Benefits24:04 Let Them Bond Alone24:23 Birth Order Dynamics26:29 Sibling Love Stories29:19 Kids Close in Age30:50 Build Common Ground35:15 Homeschool Togetherness37:31 Age Segregation Critique38:50 Shout Out Siblings39:50 Repair Sibling Bonds42:26 Closing

The deepest wound in complex trauma is not emotional intensity. It is the learned loss of connection to yourself. In this episode, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof open the next chapter of the CPT series by starting where the roots go deepest: self-abandonment. This is the pattern they chose to name first—and intentionally so—because when the nervous system learns that staying connected to the self is unsafe, nearly every other complex trauma response grows from that adaptation. Self-abandonment is not a personality flaw or a lack of self-awareness. It is a body-based survival strategy. From a neurosomatic perspective, it is a state-dependent loss of interoceptive access—a patterned inhibition of internal signals that the nervous system learned in order to stay attached, stay safe, and maintain stability in the relational environment. And like every other output explored in this series, it made complete sense at the time it formed. The conversation moves through the neuroscience of dissociation and how it is inseparable from self-abandonment, the brain regions involved, and what their altered activity actually looks like in everyday life. It explores the fawn response—including its lesser-discussed dimension of sexual fawning—and the specific pathways through which emotional neglect and parentification set the stage for chronic self-erasure. Jennifer and Elisabeth also trace how masking—whether in the context of neurodivergence, complex trauma, or systemic oppression—is another expression of the same root pattern: authenticity does not feel safe, so the self gets hidden. But this episode does not stop at the wound. Both hosts share what the growth edge of this pattern has actually looked like for them—what building interoceptive capacity from the ground up felt like in practice—and how self-attunement, the skill of staying present with internal experience without becoming overwhelmed by it, gradually became accessible rather than threatening. This is not a quick-fix episode. It is an honest, grounded map of one of the most pervasive and least visible patterns in complex trauma—and a clear-eyed account of what actually changes it.   In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why self abandonment is a survival adaptation rooted in the nervous system, not a character flaw How interoceptive access becomes inhibited under chronic relational threat, and what that feels like day to day The neuroscience of dissociation: which brain regions are involved and how their altered activity drives functional disconnection Why emotional neglect, even without overt harm, sets the stage for chronic self erasure How parentification creates a nervous system template of self abandonment that persists long into adulthood What fawn response is, how it operates neurologically, and why sexual fawning is a real and undernamed expression of it How masking across contexts including neurodivergence, complex trauma, and racial and systemic oppression overlaps with and compounds self abandonment What self attunement actually is as a nervous system skill and how it is different from insight or emotional processing alone Why healing is capacity-based rather than cathartic, and what that means for pacing How both hosts have rebuilt interoceptive access over time and what that process has opened up for them Chapters 0:00 - The Deepest Wound in Complex Trauma Is Not Emotional Intensity 0:38 - Welcome: Who This Episode Is For 1:27 - Introducing the CPT Series and Why We Start With Self Abandonment 2:53 - Defining Self Abandonment as a Nervous System Output 4:21 - Pete Walker, Fawn Responses, and How the Child Learns to Attune Outward 4:47 - The Neuro Somatic View: Interoceptive Access Under Chronic Threat 6:08 - Embodiment as the Opposite of Self Abandonment 6:35 - Collective and Intergenerational Dimensions of Self Abandonment 7:55 - What Self Abandonment Looks Like in Real Life: A Case Study 9:21 - Dissociation: What It Actually Is and Why It Is Inseparable From Self Abandonment 10:42 - Brain Science: The Insula, Hippocampus, Amygdala, and Thalamus 14:35 - The Fawn Response and Sexual Fawning 18:17 - Self Attunement: The Opposite of Self Abandonment 21:06 - Rebuilding Interoception: Starting Small 27:19 - Emotional Neglect as the Root of Self Abandonment 29:13 - Parentification and the Template of Self Erasure 31:21 - Masking: Neurodivergence, Systemic Oppression, and Complex Trauma 36:19 - What Growth Has Actually Looked Like for Jennifer and Elisabeth 40:20 - Stress Bucket Dysmorphia and Learning Your Real Capacity Resources and Links NSI Foundations Bundle for coaches and practitioners: neurosomaticintelligence.com/foundations Two week Rewire Trial of guided neuro somatic training: rewiretrial.com Learn more about Jennifer's work at her YouTube channel: Sacred Synapse https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23   Trauma Rewired podcast  is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. 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In this episode, Exy talks about having to skip through childhood and be an adult in most struggling African homes. The culture of calling you first born, first boy, first daughter, smart one, calm one is a guise of adulting children for the convenience of not having to bother with their emotional needs.

If your mom called you her best friend and your dad called you his confidant, you were not in a close family, you were parentified. This video explains parentification, emotional incest, and the survival persona that keeps you over-functioning in every adult relationship.This video is for the high-functioning, emotionally exhausted adult who runs every household, every project, and every relationship while quietly wondering why nothing feels like enough. It is for the over-giver, the over-thinker, the middle-aged adult finally setting boundaries with a parent, and the single parent terrified of passing this pattern to their kids. Inside, Kenny Weiss explains why parentification is not just having too much responsibility as a child, why it is a form of emotional incest, why your survival persona is built on the sentence "I only matter if I am useful," and how the chessboard you grew up on is the only board you have ever been taught to play on.You will learn how parentification creates the Worst Day Cycle™ of trauma, fear, shame, and denial that runs underneath your love addiction, your love avoidance, and your compulsive caretaking. You will learn how the Authentic Self Cycle™ of truth, responsibility, healing, and forgiveness rewrites the blueprint, and how the six-step Emotional Authenticity Method™ takes you from somatic down-regulation through Feelization, the step where the new emotional addiction to being yourself replaces the old addiction to being useful.Parentification is emotional incest in nature, the dynamic where the parent uses the child for intimacy, companionship, advice, and emotional regulation, the things they should be getting from another adult. The umbilical cord that should flow from parent to child gets reversed, and the parent drains the emotional life out of the child to regulate themselves. The parent is almost always unconscious that this is happening, and the culture rewards the dynamic by calling it a tight knit family.The parentified child learns one identity sentence that becomes the operating system of their adult life, "I only matter if I am useful." From that sentence, the survival persona is built, the falsely empowered version that drags everybody to the finish line, the disempowered version that collapses and people-pleases, or the adapted wounded child that bounces between both. None of these are personality, all of them are trauma adaptations.TOPICS COVERED: parentification, emotional incest, enmeshment, parentified child, reversed umbilical cord, codependence, codependent caretaker, survival persona, falsely empowered, disempowered, adapted wounded child, family of origin trauma, childhood emotional neglect, love addict, love avoidant, over-functioning partner, compulsive caretaker, boundaries with parents, setting boundaries with mom, setting boundaries with dad, Worst Day Cycle, Authentic Self Cycle, Emotional Authenticity Method, Kenny Weiss, emotional blueprint, generational trauma, healing parentification, why nothing has worked, why therapy did not work

In this episode of The Light Inside, we delve into the complex interplay between trauma, visibility, and reintegration (healing). Our guest, Steve Sapourn, shares his deeply personal journey of working through the lasting effects of sexual abuse trauma. Steve speaks with striking honesty about the struggle to feel worthy, known, and fully seen while also carrying the impulse to remain hidden and unnoticed.We explore the concept of witnessing as a powerful tool for healing. Witnessing involves the paced, relational experience of staying with what once felt too overwhelming to hold, without rushing it or turning it into a character verdict. This approach can help restore sequencing, meaning, and contact, thereby softening self-attack, reducing performative coping, and making more room for intimacy, grief, worthiness, and repair.Steve shares his experiences with various therapeutic approaches, including traditional talk therapy and somatic practices. He emphasizes the importance of understanding one's nervous system and how it can be conditioned by early trauma. Steve also discusses the need for clinicians to provide a clear framework for therapy, helping clients understand the goals and processes involved.Throughout the conversation, we touch on the challenges of couples therapy, the importance of building trust, and the role of self-compassion in the healing journey. Steve's story is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of being truly seen and held within relational spaces. Subscribe on Substack for additional clinical resources as we explore how witnessing can help reintegrate unresolved trauma, reduce shame, and foster a deeper sense of connection and belonging.Timestamps[00:01:46] Healing through witnessing trauma.[00:04:29] Witnessing as an alternative.[00:10:39] Trust building in therapy sessions.[00:12:44] Physiological responses in relationships.[00:16:58] Nervous system and therapy dynamics.[00:20:45] Performance in therapy sessions.[00:24:44] Predictive nature of the brain.[00:29:12] Childhood trauma and self-identity.[00:34:34] Vulnerability and personal growth.[00:37:55] Inner child healing through love.[00:42:47] Inner child's resilience and strength.[00:45:40] Growth through self-acceptance.[00:50:49] Self-acceptance and emotional support.[00:54:22] Parentification in childhood experiences.[01:02:49] Hero's journey and personal growth.[01:06:22] Worthiness of being helped.[01:11:08] The importance of witnessing.[01:12:34] New learning and the past.CreditsHost: Jeffrey BeseckerGuest: Steve SapournExecutive Program Director: Anna GetzProduction Team: Aloft Media GroupMusic: Courtesy of Aloft Media GroupConnect with host Jeffrey Besecker on LinkedIn.

A presidential assination would be destabilizing during normal times, but there is something NOT normal happening in Paradise. This solo episode has Christy chatting about easter eggs, parentification, 3D printers and much more!Email us: KillerFunPodcast@gmail.comFollow us on Facebook: fb.me/KillerFunPodcastAll the Tweets, er, POSTS: https://x.com/KillerFunPodInstagram: killerfunpodcast

Whitney is joined by therapist Emma Mahony to break down one of the most unflinching portrayals of a parentified child on television: Fiona Gallagher from Shameless. Through neglect, addiction, manipulation, and moments of genuine heartbreak, they explore what it does to a child when taking care of your family becomes your entire identity. Emma Mahony is a mental health therapist based in London whose work centers on helping people understand the patterns they grew up with and how to move toward healthier, more conscious relationships with themselves and others. Emma's website: https://www.ecmtherapy.co/Emma's IG: emma.in.therapyEmma's TikTok: @emma.mahonyWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if your anxiety about money didn't start in adulthood, but in your dysfunctional family during childhood?Growing up with financial instability doesn't just affect your bank account. It can train your nervous system to live in survival mode — forcing you to grow up too fast and quietly shaping how you date, marry, and handle responsibility.In this episode, pediatric cardiac ICU physician Liz shares her story of financial chaos, parentification, and how that hyper-responsibility followed her into adulthood and marriage.We cover:How money stress creates “parentified” kidsWhy responsibility can feel like survivalHow financial trauma affects relationshipsIf you grew up worrying about money, feel responsible for everyone, or struggle to rest — this episode is for you.Share Your StoryGet the Book or FREE chapters: It's Not Your FaultGet Dakota's FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidWatch the Documentary: KennyWatch the Trailer: Kenny (3:31 min)Shownotes

ResourcesEpisode 232.  5 Principles to Manage Contact Between Homes and Promote Your Child's WellbeingArticle from Navesink Wellness Center:  When Your Child Becomes Your Confidant:  The Trap of Emotional SafetyEpisode 161.  How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification? [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]Episode 229. The Heavy Burdens Kids Carry: Loyalty Binds, Parental Allegiance, and How to Help  Episode 84. How to Cope with Sadness, Anxiety, and Longing While Your Kids are GoneSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

If you've ever wrestled with the question, “How often should my child be in contact with their other parent during my time?”, you've probably realized this isn't really about phone calls. It's about the invisible pressure kids feel to stay emotionally connected to both homes simultaneously and the tension it creates for everyone.If you want your home to be a place of peace and predictability, but you keep getting derailed by “just one more check-in", this episode is for you. The problem isn't a lack of love. The problem is that frequent, parent-driven contact can quietly create loyalty binds, disrupt routines, and place adult anxiety on a child's shoulders.We'll share five principles for healthy cross-home communication, so your child can feel settled, your home can have stability, and you and your spouse can stay united instead of stuck in the same argument about how the other home seems to be intruding on ours.You'll walk away with helpful insight that'll help you decide what's best for your kids: prioritize child-driven connection when possible, create respectful boundaries when needed, protect household rhythms, evaluate your unique co-parenting context, and choose quality over quantity.Because the win isn't “constant access.” The win is a child who feels lighter and freer to love everyone without feeling responsible for meeting unrealistic expectations and managing two homes simultaneously. You'll Discover:How “well-meaning” check-ins can unintentionally create pressure, guilt, or loyalty binds for kidsThe 5 guiding principles to create stability and reduce emotional burden across two homesPractical boundary ideas that protect routines without cutting off connectionA 2-question filter to decide whether your current communication pattern is helping or harmingWhy “quality over quantity” is often the best path to a stronger connection (especially for teens)Resources from this Episode:Episode 161.  How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification? [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]Episode 229. The Heavy Burdens Kids Carry: Loyalty Binds, Parental Allegiance, and How to Help Article from Navesink Wellness Center:  When Your Child Becomes Your Confidant:  The Trap of Emotional SafetyIn Their Shoes - Helping Parents Better Understand and Connect with Children of Divorce by Lauren ReitsemaEpisode 212.  3 Negotiation Strategies to Increase Collaboration and Influence in Your Co-Parenting Relationship Episode 113.   How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued, or Dismissed by Your Former Spouse  Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession 

If you've ever felt that jolt of panic when your child shares that they've been spending time with "daddy's new girlfriend" or "mommy's new boyfriend"……you're not alone. That moment can trigger fear, jealousy, grief, and of course, a protective instinct that makes you want to react fast.  And sometimes that turns into a moment we later regret.In this episode, we'll help you slow down and respond with wisdom instead of emotion. You'll learn how to make a helpful first impression (even if you don't feel ready), how to reduce tension that fuels loyalty binds, and move toward a healthier co-parenting dynamic without just pretending everything is “fine.” You'll DiscoverWhat to do when you feel unsettled by your ex's “recoupling” How to protect your kids from getting stuck in the middle and stay focused on their well-being How to set a healthy tone with the new partner (and your ex), so you can  avoid common missteps that often strain co-parenting  Resources from this Episode:Episode 229.  The Heavy Burdens Kids Carry:  Loyalty Binds, Parental Allegiance, and How to HelpEpisode 226. How Two Homes Raise Kids that Thrive:  A Co-Parenting Blueprint for Caring Parents [with Jay & Tammy Daughtry]Episode 161.  How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification? [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]Episode 162. How to Healthy Step-Parent/Step-Child Dynamics Avoid the Pitfalls of Step-Parentification [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]For Stepparents:Episode 44:  Why does my Husband's Ex Think I'm the Enemy?Episode 45:  How to Cooperate More with Your Spouse's Uncooperative ExEpisode 91:  Is Your Husband's Hostile Ex-Wife Invading Your Life, Stealing Your Joy and Confidence? Episode 170. Co-Parenting Pitfalls for Bio and Step Parents:  How to Avoid "Milestone Mishaps"Ready for some extra support?We're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

What happens when one parent leans on a child emotionally and you are determined not to do the same?Many protective parents notice it quietly at first.Their child starts worrying about the other parent.They feel responsible for adult emotions.They try to comfort, reassure, or stabilize situations that are far beyond their role.And when you are isolated, overwhelmed, or under constant pressure, the temptation to lean back can feel very real.In this episode, Sybil explores why children are so often pulled into adult emotional roles after abuse, separation, or high conflict co parenting and why resisting that pull is one of the most protective parenting choices you can make.This episode is not about shaming parents who are struggling.It is about understanding impact, preserving family hierarchy, and keeping children emotionally safe even when the other parent does not.Links to episodes mentioned: Episode 56: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-56-start-healing-from-moral-injury-with-guest-dr/id1633920067?i=1000621633927Episode 50: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-50-how-narcissistic-abuse-leads-to-moral-injury/id1633920067?i=1000616005777Parenting to Combat Coercive Control Live Workshop, Feb 18th 2026: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coercive-control Download the free script guide, Protective Parenting Scripts for Hard Moments: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/parentingscriptsPlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies! Choosing Your Battles Freebie Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie ...

The impact of parentification on children Guest:Rivendri Govender,Educational Psychologist by Radio Islam

If you've ever watched your child's mood shift the moment they step into a handoff…Or felt the sting of being kept at arm's length for reasons you can't explain… You're not imagining it. In blended families, kids often carry emotional burdens they were never meant to hold.In this episode, we name two of the most common “under-the-surface” struggles: loyalty binds (when a child feels torn between a bio parent and a stepparent) and parental allegiance (when a child feels pressure to align with one parent over the other). We share real-life stories, including the quiet pain behind the rejection of a stepparent's sweet gesture, and the way a joyful moment can suddenly collapse into guilt after a call with the other parent.But we don't stop at awareness. We give you a plan. We'll help you slow down, step into your child's shoes, and create emotional safety. We'll help step-parents stay hopeful and keep expectations realistic. And we'll challenge bio parents to protect their kids from adult tension by choosing the neutral zone (where curiosity lowers the temperature and kids are freed to love without feeling responsible for anyone's emotions).The win isn't perfect co-parenting or flawless moments.  It's this: kids get out of the middle, pressure starts to lift, and your home has room for trust, connection, and peace to grow. You'll Discover:The difference between a loyalty bind and parental allegiance, and how each one shows up in real life. How emotion coaching helps your child process hard feelings without forcing apologies or rushing an unrealistic "fix".  What step-parents can do to cope with rejection (and why “crockpot bonding” protects your heart and builds trust over time). The subtle ways parents accidentally tighten the bind and what to say/do instead to keep kids free to love everyone in both homes. How to find and stay in the neutral zone when insecurity, fear, jealousy, or discomfort hits.  Resources from this Episode:Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships by Patricia PapernowEpisode 222.  Step-by-Step Guide:  Facing Painful Pushback Without Making Things Worse (part 1 of 2)Episode 72. The Best Way to Create Healthy, Bonded RelationshipsEpisode 159. How to Stay Hopeful as a Stepparent When You're Continually Rejected and HurtEpisode 161.  How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification? [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]  Episode 210.  Is your child pulling away?  Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and LoveEpisode 211.  8 Warning Signs Your Ex Is Manipulating Your Child's Heart and MindReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

In this episode, I'll mentor three people LIVE through real-life situations that people like us from broken families face:A separated mom with adult kids asks: How do I support my kids through the fallout without pushing them, guilt-tripping them, or putting them in the middle?A man, wounded by his parents' divorce and his struggles with alcoholism, asks: Is it actually worth digging up the past to heal, and can writing really help?A young woman, whose parents' divorce has dragged on for five years, has moved back in with her mom, who overshares a lot. She asks: How do I set boundaries with my mom and navigate my relationship with my dad?Ask a question anonymously on the showGet Dakota's FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidGet the Book or FREE chapters: It's Not Your FaultShownotes

Lawrence Joss explores the deeper systemic roots of parental alienation, revealing how alienation unfolds gradually through subtle family dynamics rather than appearing overnight. He and Dr. Charlie unpack how cultural norms, family structures, and early relational patterns shape the roles parents step into, and how those roles can quietly shift power, boundaries, and attachment inside the family system.Key TakeawaysParental alienation is a gradual process.Negative talk about a parent is common in relationships.Cultural norms influence parenting roles significantly.In some cultures, mothers are primarily caregivers.Fathers often take on structural roles in parenting.Understanding alienation requires a cultural lens.Parental roles can vary widely across different societies.The dynamics of family relationships are complex.Emotional care is often seen as a mother's role.Structural care is typically associated with fathers.Chapters0:00 – Safety, Survival & Early Alienation Patterns 2:05 – What the Systemic Lens Reveals 5:40 – When Problems Become Relational 9:20 – Cultural & Structural Pressures on Families 11:55 – Alienation as a Gradual Process 14:40 – Boundary Breakdowns & Role Confusion 17:55 – Power Shifts: Children Elevated to Partner Role 21:25 – Why Kids Choose the Unpredictable Parent 25:40 – Subtle Behaviors That Shift Family Hierarchy 28:30 – Parentification & Emotional Oversharing 31:55 – Long-Term Effects on Attachment & Identity 35:50 – Attraction Patterns & the Drama TriangleIf you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:Email - familydisappeared@gmail.comLinktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)Connect with Dr Charlie Azzopardi:Website: https://ift-malta.com/⁩Courses (IFT Malta): https://ift-malta.com/courses-2/European Journal of Parental Alienation (EJPAP):https://ift-malta.com/elementor-1206/Please donate to support PAA programs:https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom partThis podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-hostGlaze Gonzales- Podcast ManagerConnect with Lawrence Joss:Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

In this podventure, we discuss the episode “Home is Where the Hurt Is,” in which it seems like we're in for a typical sitcom-esque story about Curt and his schemes. But this time, we get a peek behind the scenes and learn that Curt's home life isn't very sitcom-esque at all. Curt tries to hide the messy truth from Lucy and Whit, but their concern for him pushes them to dig deeper. Does Curt need help? And more importantly, will he accept it? Also, a little nugget of phone lore, milk on tap, and how to communicate your level of seriousness.TW: Alcoholism and Parentification

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Whitney shares three life-changing practices that reduced her anxiety—meditation with red light therapy, using Brick to limit social media, and consuming news only in written form. She then answers a caller's question about being the parentified golden child expected to solve all family problems while maintaining surface-level relationships with a mother and sisters who refuse deeper connection. Red light therapy: https://amzn.to/48i5OyN 00:00 October at Calling Home: Illness and End of Life Caregiving 04:40 Three Changes That Dramatically Reduced My Anxiety 14:28 Q&A: The Golden Child Who Had to Solve Everything 19:28 When Children Are Trapped Between Victim and Perpetrator Parents 22:51 The Golden Child Who Doesn't Feel Golden 25:42 How to Maintain Relationships Without Real Connection Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles. Have a question for Whitney? Call in and leave a voicemail for the show at 866-225-5466 Join the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠ Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhit Follow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft ⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity⁠⁠ Learn more about ad choices. Visit podcast.choices.com/adchoices This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The kids are at home, the holiday activities are seemingly endless and you probably need a break. So welcome back to the podcast that's not just any parenting podcast. On the show today: You're officially excused from ever attending your child's sport practice. Don't believe us? Just ask the professional soccer player Abby Wambach. Plus, are you an eldest daughter? Well, so is Taylor Swift and the birth order theory might explain a lot. And, magicians are having a moment. But this time it's not just for the kids. So get the girls over, put the kids to bed and enjoy some whimsy. And our recommendations:

On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith chats with Chantelle about her experiences of growing up with a teen mum, parentification and how she used her experiences to inspire her work as a child protection social worker.Harriet's books:Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqdeCycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you'd had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Emotional repression is often invisible to high performers, and it can be one of the biggest barriers to sustainable success. In this episode of Trauma Rewired, we explore how trauma-shaped survival responses like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn can create patterns of overwork, perfectionism, and emotional disconnection. You'll learn how subconscious repression differs from conscious suppression, how shame and perfectionism drive overachievement, and why even big business milestones can feel hollow when your nervous system isn't safe enough to process emotions. Our guest, Margy Feldhuhn, shares her journey from multi–seven-figure business growth fueled by survival patterns to building capacity for joy, presence, and connection through Neurosomatic Intelligence (NSI) tools and regular emotional processing. We break down the health risks, relational costs, and business consequences of chronic repression and give you strategies to expand your emotional capacity so you can actually enjoy the success you've built. Timestamps 00:00 – Why Anger Matters and the Cost of Suppression 04:06 – Honoring Anger and Boundaries 06:06 – How Chronic Fight Shows Up in Life 09:45 – Early Conditioning and Nervous System Patterns 13:00 – Trauma, Parentification, and the Fight Response 15:43 – Impact on Relationships and Work 21:21 – The Neuroscience of the Fight Response 31:41 – Physical and Health Effects of Chronic Fight 39:28 – Anger vs. Chronic Fight: Key Differences 42:09 – Processing Anger Safely 49:36 – Boundaries, Regulation, and Aligned Action 53:38 – Final Takeaway: Fight as Pattern, Anger as Compass Topics Discussed in This Episode: How trauma survival responses show up in high performers The difference between suppression and repression The role of shame and perfectionism in overachievement Why business milestones can feel empty How repression impacts health, relationships, and leadership capacity Emotional hygiene for sustainable success Recognizing survival patterns in entrepreneurial decision-making Building nervous system capacity to enjoy success The ripple effect of emotional processing in business and life Practical tools to move from repression to authentic presence

In this episode of 2 Girls 1 Blunt, the ladies dive into everything from zoo scandals to ugly baby fears, all while navigating the chaos of adulthood.We kick things off with the viral Danish zoo controversy asking people to donate their pets as food (yes, really). From there, we spiral into sex talk, STDs, and a wild story about almost defending a roommate with a kettlebell. The girls also debate whether men or women have more holes, unpack childhood trauma, and expose the weirdest family dynamics. 2 Girls 1 Blunt is a comedy podcast hosted by two unapologetic stoner comedians from Boston, Jaime Lee Simmons and Emily Wade. They deliver raw, relatable humor on dating, mental health, and everyday chaos, sharing personal stories that will have you laughing, crying, and feeling high on life. Each episode features interviews with comedians and entertainers, diving into wild stories, childhood trauma, and unforgettable life experiences.

Ready to break free from burnout and self-sabotage?Join The Capacity Gap Workshop, register FREE at https://rewirecapacity.com The fight response is often misunderstood as a personality flaw, but it's actually a deeply wired survival adaptation shaped by past experiences and trauma. In this episode of Trauma Rewired, we explore the difference between healthy, time-bound anger and the chronic fight state, how they're created in the brain and body, and why learning to process anger is essential for emotional safety and healthy connection. You'll learn how the amygdala, hypothalamus, periaqueductal gray, insular cortex, and prefrontal cortex interact during a fight response, and how trauma can train the brain to see threat everywhere. We break down the health consequences of chronic fight, the relational patterns it creates, and why suppression of anger doesn't make it go away — it stores it in the body. From personal stories to neuroscience, this conversation offers tools to recognize the signals of fight mode, regulate your state, and reclaim anger as a clarifying force for setting boundaries and protecting what matters — without living in constant defense mode. Timestamps 00:00 – Why Anger Matters and the Cost of Suppression 04:06 – Honoring Anger and Boundaries 06:06 – How Chronic Fight Shows Up in Life 09:45 – Early Conditioning and Nervous System Patterns 13:00 – Trauma, Parentification, and the Fight Response 15:43 – Impact on Relationships and Work 21:21 – The Neuroscience of the Fight Response 31:41 – Physical and Health Effects of Chronic Fight 39:28 – Anger vs. Chronic Fight: Key Differences 42:09 – Processing Anger Safely 49:36 – Boundaries, Regulation, and Aligned Action 53:38 – Final Takeaway: Fight as Pattern, Anger as Compass Topics Discussed in This Episode: The difference between healthy anger and the chronic fight response How trauma conditions the nervous system for constant defense The role of the amygdala, hypothalamus, PAG, insula, and PFC in fight mode How suppression of anger impacts physical and mental health Chronic fight patterns in relationships and work Tools for processing anger safely Why anger can be a clarifying force for boundaries Rewiring fight mode through neuroplasticity and somatic tools How parentification and early childhood experiences shape fight response The health consequences of chronic sympathetic activation

This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about one of the things that robs kids of a care-free childhood: being parentified. When kids are forced to grow up too soon and become adults in childhood, kids can take on adult-like responsibilities and burdens. In this episode, we talk about the difference between healthy responsibility for kids and parentification and talk about the impact of having childhood stolen from us and being burdened before we're developmentally ready.Article: Were you a ‘parentified child'? What happens when children have to behave like adults By Nivida ChandraGot a quandary, query, or question? Submit your Q (anonymously) to Asking For A Friend...Creators & Guests Simon Paluck - Host Jake Ernst - Host Hello, hi! Follow us on Instagram: @notatherapypodcast⁣Jake Ernst: @mswjakeSimon Paluck: @directedbysimonOriginal music composed by Kat Burns and performed by KASHKA.

In this episode, we sit down with Richard Grannon for a raw and wide-ranging conversation about trauma, perception, and the psychology of narcissism. He shares insights on how narcissistic dynamics take root, why the popular use of the term often misses the mark, and how childhood wounds shape adult identity and behavior. We explore the cost of outsourcing meaning-making, the traps of victimhood and blame, and the deeper process of reclaiming one's internal authority. This is a conversation about power, responsibility, and what it takes to stop living in a reality defined by your past.Time Stamps (00:00) Start(00:37) Introduction to Richard Grannon and His Work(02:29) Richard Grannon's Personal Journey(05:48) Defining Narcissism Clinically(09:15) Childhood Conditions Leading to Narcissism(12:28) Different Types of Narcissism(12:59) The Over-Pathologization of Society(17:22) Critique of Modern Psychology(30:18) The Role of Purpose and Suffering in Modern Life(45:36) Exploring the Mystical Tradition and Self-Awareness(45:56) Rites of Passage and Cultural Context(46:39) The Individual vs. The Collective(54:24) Narcissism and Therapy(59:12) AI and Narcissism(01:08:02) Codependency and Childhood Influences(01:20:36) Parentification and Emotional Incest(01:23:18) Reflections on Fatherhood and Personal Choices(01:25:47) Conclusion and Final ThoughtsGuest Linkshttps://www.richardgrannon.com/https://www.instagram.com/richard.grannon/Connect with UsSubscribe to Here for the Truth FridaysTake the Real AF Test NowDiscover Your Truth Seeker ArchetypeJoin our membership Friends of the TruthWatch all our episodesConnect with us on TelegramAccess all our links

Leah Purcell grew up in a small town caring for her mum Florence. Her options after graduation were nursing or working at the meatworks. But after a push from her meatworks boss, Leah defied her own expectations for herself (R)Leah is now an acclaimed actor, playwright, and stage and film director.She grew up in the Queensland country town of Murgon. Although she came from a big family, it was just her and her mum for most of her childhood.Her dad lived in town, but didn't acknowledge her as his daughter.Leah's mum Flo was well respected. For a time she was the only Aboriginal woman allowed in the lounge area of the pub, which was a whites-only zone.Leah grew up with her Aunties and Uncles yarning around the kitchen table, and became a vivid storyteller herself.When she left school, it was expected she would go to work in the local meatworks, or become a nurse.But one of Leah's bosses at the meatworks refused to give her a permanent position, because he'd seen her in the local high school musical. When he told Leah she had a real talent, it helped change Leah's idea of herself.And so after her mum passed away, Leah left her small town.In Sydney she set off on her path to becoming an actor, a playwright and eventually a film director.Her first play 'Box the Pony' was inspired by her mother and grandmother's life story, and it became a huge hit.Today Leah is recognised as one of Australia's most important voices in the performing arts.Further informationLeah was awarded an Order of Australia in 2021 for her services to the performing arts. She released her feature film, The Drover's Wife in 2022. Leah played the lead role and also wrote and directed the film.Find out more about the Conversations Live National Tour on the ABC website.This episode of Conversations explores parentification of children, children raising parents, mixed families, racism, rural Australia, family dynamics, writing, books, plays, theatre, Andrew Denton, fathers and daughters, NAIDOC, Aboriginal, Indigenous, talent, film industry, acting, love, origin stories, life story.

In this episode, we explore the importance of prioritizing emotional well-being and its impact on both personal growth and family dynamics. Discover practical strategies for nurturing your mental health, including engaging with self-help books, joining supportive communities, and finding creative outlets for your emotions. We'll discuss how these steps not only enhance your resilience but also create a safe and nurturing environment for your children, setting a positive example for them to follow. Tune in for insightful tips and encouragement to help you thrive emotionally and foster a harmonious family life! Ready to Fast-Track Your Breakup Recovery? Join my FREE upcoming webinar "How to be Happier, Healthier, and More Successful After a Breakup or Divorce."  Grab your webinar spot here: https://www.angieday.com/webinar/ Take the free quiz to discover your Relationship Attachment Style: Start the quiz here: https://www.angieday.com/free-quiz/  If you think you or someone you love may be struggling after a breakup or divorce and you'd like help with this or any other topic, feel free to reach out to me. Email me at:  angie@contactangieday.com Voicemail me at:  https://www.speakpipe.com/TheBacktoHappyPodcast

Explore the Neurosomatic Intelligence Coaching Certification: https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/ What if the invisible responsibilities you carried as a child are still shaping your adult life? In this episode of Trauma Rewired, we explore parentification—a hidden form of childhood trauma where children are forced to become the emotional or physical caretakers of their parents. Whether you managed your parent's emotions or became “the responsible one” too early, these patterns can wire your nervous system for survival rather than safety—and the impact is long-term. Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof unpack how emotional and instrumental parentification lead to chronic stress, emotional repression, gut dysfunction, and deeply rooted perfectionism. You'll learn why healing isn't about changing your parents, but about reclaiming autonomy in your own nervous system through boundary setting, grief integration, and somatic repatterning. We break down how these early adaptations become nervous system defaults—like freeze, fawn, and shame—and how to begin shifting them using neuro-somatic tools that regulate stress, restore connection, and return you to your body. This episode is both validating and empowering: you are not broken—you were overloaded. And healing starts when you stop carrying what was never yours to hold. Topics discussed in this episode: ● What parentification is and why it's often invisible ● The difference between emotional and instrumental parentification ● How parentification leads to chronic shame, perfectionism, and nervous system dysregulation ● The impact of childhood stress on gut health and inflammation ● How emotional repression starts in childhood and lives in the body ● Why boundaries feel threatening—but are essential for healing ● The link between freeze, fawn, and CPTSD ● How nervous system repatterning rewires your relational responses ● The role of somatic practice in processing stored grief and guilt ● Why your healing won't change others—but it will change you ● How to reclaim your emotional autonomy and rewrite survival-based wiring Explore the Neurosomatic Intelligence Coaching Certification:https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/ Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer on the Brain Based Membership site: https://www.rewiretrial.com Find Trauma Rewired on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRewired Connect with us on social media: @trauma.rewired Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846 FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use our exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911. We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast. We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs. We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis. Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved. We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at traumarewired@gmail.com All rights in our content are reserved This episode was produced by ClipGrowth - Podcast Video Editing, SEO & YouTube Strategy ClipGrowthAgency.com

What a privilege to have Lauren Reitsema back on the show to dive deeper into how we can authentically bond and connect with kids who are navigating divorce and blended family dynamics. Lauren's passion for relationship skills began in middle school after her parents' divorce, leading her to pursue Communication Studies at TCU. She's the author of In Their Shoes, helping parents connect with children of divorce, and Relationship Essentials, which offers tools for healthy communication and boundaries.For over 15 years, Lauren has taught relationship skills to teens, adults, and professionals. As President of The Center for Relationship Education in Denver, she inspires others to value and invest in their most important relationships.Lauren vulnerably shares from her own journey as a child of divorce and blending, offering practical guidance and real encouragement for both bio and step parents. We explore why it's critical to understand the identity crisis many kids face, lean into hard emotions like grief, and the power of empathy and patience to lower resistance and build genuine, lasting connections. Join us as we unpack Lauren's wisdom. It's truly a game-changer for every blended family.You'll Discover:The impact of broken family identity and why kids struggle to accept changing family dynamicsStrategies for step-parents to manage rejection and disappointment with patience and perseverance.The critical difference between seeking compliance versus nurturing an authentic connection.How embracing the struggle rather than avoiding it can lead to transformative growth and healing.How to create and craft a relationship with your stepchild as you go, without expectation, while honoring the child's pace.  Resources from this Episode:In Their Shoes by Lauren ReitsemaEpisode 40. Uncover the Unspoken Feeling of Kids in Blended Families [Special Resource:  In Their Shoes]Relationship Essentials by Lauren Reitsema and Joneen Mackenzie To connect with Lauren:  lauren@myrelationshipcenter.orgPast episodes with Lauren:Episode 173. Expert Guidance for Holiday Success Episode 161. How to Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification? Episode 172. How do Healthy Step-Parent/Step-Child Dynamics Avoid the Pitfalls of Step-Parentification?Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionAre you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

We know how heartbreaking it can be when your child starts pulling away from you.  It can leave you wondering if your ex is negatively influencing them behind the scenes. We've lived it. In this deeply personal episode, we open up about the painful season we went through with Kim's daughter, Annika. We talk through how to recognize the signs of manipulation, avoid common parenting missteps, and respond in ways that protect your child's emotional well-being.  All while preserving your connection. Plus, we share the powerful strategy we call “the pebble in the shoe” and how it can shift distorted narratives over time and help your child embrace the truth. If it seems like you're living under a black cloud, and you're feeling discouraged or defeated, there is hope. You're not alone, and your story isn't over.You'll Discover:How to identify subtle signs that your co-parent may be manipulating your child — and how you can respond effectivelyHelpful ways to communicate with a hurt, angry, rejecting, distant child.A powerful strategy (“the pebble in the shoe”) to gently counter misinformation without escalating conflictThe importance of remaining steady and staying connected even when your child is distancing themselves from youResources from this Episode:Episode 210. Is Your Child Pulling Away?  Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and LoveArticle by Dr. Bob Evans:  17 Primary Alienation StrategiesEpisode 194. Powerful Tips for Effectively Connecting with Your Angry or Distant Child [ with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker]Book by Amy J.L. Baker:  Parenting Under Fire - How to Communicate with Your Hurt, Angry, Rejecting, Distant ChildEpisode 195. Connecting with Kim's HARD Child - Facing the Challenges of Parental AlienationEpisode 161. How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]Episode 112. 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt the KidsEpisode 113. How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued, or Dismissed by Your Former SpouseEpisode 175. 8 Tips to Protect Kids From Stress and Tension When Moving Between HomesEpisode 33. How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your Kids Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession Leave a Review in Apple PodcastsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts. Your review will help others find our podcast. Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

The Green Shoe Society Anthem At The Green Shoe Society, we own our lives, all of it. We fix what we want to fix and leave the rest behind. We set healthy boundaries, not because we have to, but because we choose to. We go after what we want in life, unapologetically. We are strong in all the best ways and we also let ourselves be soft, vulnerable, and imperfect. We don't beat ourselves up for needing rest. In fact, we take it, guilt-free. We say yes when it feels right, and no when it doesn't, without regret. We seek pleasure and joy, and we leave shame, guilt, and all those invisible ties behind. We stop worrying so much about what others think. We stop giving so many fucks. We learn to listen to our bodies, to trust them, to honor them. We stand tall when we need to, but we're also okay with letting go of the need to take on the world. We focus on our little corner of the world and celebrate the hell out of it. We give ourselves permission to feel all of life the good, the bad, the messy, and the beautiful. We've already busted through so many fucking paradigms, and now? The last one is our own mental cage. We are feminists. We are truth seekers. We are bullshit breakers. We live with passion and playfulness, singing like rock stars in our cars, or on the stage. We love the earth and all she gives us. We are good stewards, honoring her in everything we do. We dance to our record player, we sing with our hairbrush as our microphone, and we let ourselves be free. We are The Green Shoe Society and we're just getting started. What is your green shoe?!  If this anthem speaks to you, then consider me your life coach. If you're ready to stop waiting and start living the life you've been craving, I'd love to work with you one on one in my private coaching program...The Renegade Sessions. Together, we'll break free from what's holding you back and create the life you've been waiting for. Life is short, Wildflower, and you've already waited long enough. It's time to step into your most authentic life. I can't wait to meet you and help you make it happen. Visit me at amyloganlife.com to get started.

What if your greatest fears could lead you to your most authentic life?In this expansive Process episode, Jessica welcomes writer and TBM member, Ziza, as she shares her profound journey from self-doubt and people-pleasing to manifesting her dream life in Italy. Ziza shares openly about growing up with untethered parents, adopting patterns of parentification, shape-shifting, and relying on external validation due to deep-rooted fears of abandonment. Discover how she navigated a four-year rut in career before landing her dream job—by reconnecting with her inherent worthiness and listening to her intuitive pings. Jessica and Ziza explore how embracing life's worst moments can revive and reshape your character, and why true expansion often requires releasing control to trust life's mystical surprises. Learn how subconscious reprogramming through TBM practices helped Ziza exchange "good" for "great," prioritize her inner voice, and ultimately manifest a profound, authentic life. This episode powerfully reminds us that what's meant for you will never miss you, and it's never too late to courageously pursue your dreams.Find the Complete Show Notes Here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Join the Pathway MembershipReprogram your limiting beliefs and step into your most magnetic self! The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.JOIN HEREUse code EXPANDED for 20% first month  Get the latest from TBMLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join HereThe Authenticity Challenge Manifest the life you *actually* want. JOIN NOWBrand New Video Series! Channeling with Lacy: Your Energetic Update for Manifesting + All New STRIPPED DI & EMBODIED DIFree live call on How to Stay Magnetic in 2025? Drop your email here and get the replay!Access FREE Safe DI bundle hereAccess brand new Magic Dark Playlist inside the TBM App – Join the Pathway (use code EXPANDED for 20% first month) New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestShare a voice note of your manifestation story to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: Kajabi Try Kajabi all-in-one business platform free for 30 days with TBM link! Sunday for Dogs - 40% off with code TBM. Get 40% off a two week trial of Sundays. Go to sundaysfordogs.com/TBM or use code TBM at checkout. In This Episode We Talk About:The impact of childhood experiences on self-worth and manifestationHow immigrant roots shaped Ziza's identity and internalized beliefsParentification, hyper-independence, and learning to trust supportThe bridge job as a stepping stone to deeper alignmentWhy the “money” block is never just about moneyThe power of subconscious reprogramming in shifting scarcity mindsetsThe importance of sitting with fears and dissolving their chargeHow stillness and presence enhance manifestationThe role of energetics in receiving unexpected opportunitiesManifesting a dream move to Italy through self-trust and surrenderParenting with awareness—breaking cycles while maintaining balanceSetting boundaries with the inner critic to avoid fear-based decision makingWhy expansion requires discomfort, trust, and deep inner listeningHonoring where you are now instead of chasing the next goal Mentioned In the Episode: Dark Side of the Light Chasers by  Debbie FordListen to Lacy on the goop podcast Manifesting the Life you WantCheck out the Free Clarity Exercise mentioned in this epFind our authenticity challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Embodied DI, Feel Your Feelings DI, and the Clear Your Aura DI) Connect with Ziza!@zizavita on IG Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@Lacyannephillips@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

In this episode, we explore how children are drawn into adult roles—whether through emotional or logistical parentification. We examine the family conditions that create these dynamics, share real-life examples, and discuss how these experiences impact you as an adult. We'll also explore how the very skills you developed to survive can both help and hinder you later in life, and provide actionable strategies for reclaiming your inner child and healing generational patterns. Join The Family Cyclebreakers Club: www.callinghome.co/join Have a question for Whitney? Call in and leave a voicemail for the show at 866-225-5466. Follow Whitney on Instagram: www.instagram.com/sitwithwhit Subscribe to Whitney's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@whitneygoodmanlmft Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of InnerViews, host Ivory Bennett sits down with Montina Myers-Galloway, a licensed clinical mental health counselor, TEDx speaker, and advocate for Black women healing from parentification. Together, they explore the impact of adultification and emotional burdens placed on Black youth in foster care and juvenile justice. Montina shares how professionals can create trauma-informed spaces, support mental well-being, and empower youth to reclaim their narratives. This conversation is a must-listen for those committed to breaking cycles and fostering emotional healing in child welfare.

When a child is forced to carry the emotional or practical burdens of their caregivers, it can result in lasting trauma that often manifests in adulthood as emotional repression, perfectionism, and various mental health challenges. Parentified children are deprived of their natural developmental experiences—play, exploration, and carefree living—which are essential for discovering themselves and their environment. Healing these deep-rooted wounds requires addressing where the trauma resides in both the body and mind, a process explored through neurosomatic techniques. In today's episode, Elisabeth and Jennifer dive into the different types of parentification and the long-term impacts it can have on a child's emotional and relational well-being. They share personal stories of their own experiences with parentification and how they've worked through their trauma using neurosomatic methods and the principle of minimum effective dose. The episode also unpacks the roles of shame and guilt as common byproducts of parentification, offering insights into how to repattern these emotional responses to build healthier relationships. While the effects of parentification can run deep, healing is possible. By recognizing how it shows up in our lives and working with our nervous systems to cultivate safety, we can set boundaries and honor our needs. This process creates the foundation for genuine healing and growth. If this topic resonates with you, tune in to learn more about breaking free from the cycle of parentification and reclaiming your sense of self. Topics discussed in this episode: The two types of parentification and how they differ The patterns of compensation that develop in parentified children How parentification impacts the nervous system The connection between parentification and gut dysfunction The nuanced nature of parentification and its complexities The role of shame and guilt in the experience of parentification Adult relationships that mirror parent-child dynamics How to repattern internal reactions through neurosomatic techniques The importance of learning to reparent yourself for healing and growth     Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program and sign up for the next cohort now! https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com   Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer on the Brain Based Membership site: https://www.rewiretrial.com   Connect with us on social media: @trauma.rewired   Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846   FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired   This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.com Trauma Rewired podcast  is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear.  We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being.  If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.  If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.  We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available.  We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast. We  invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.  We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.  Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.  We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at traumarewired@gmail.com  All rights in our content are reserved