Not Your Average Man

Have you ever given yourself a grade on how you're doing as a husband and father? If you did right now, what would it be? Fatherhood is one of the greatest gifts and responsibilities a man can have, and for that reason, you should be constantly striving for an A+. This doesn't mean you will hit the mark every time, but your role as a father is important enough to strive for that. Join our conversation with Curt Storring, founder of Dad.Work if you want to gain an understanding and skill set of what it is to be an elite dad. After all, you owe it to your wife, your kids, and yourself to become the best version of yourself, the man God created you to be. You can find more about Dad.Work on Instagram, Curt's podcast, and the Dad.work website.   Looking for a Father's Day gift for yourself or a dad you might know? Well our devotional was just released!  Men's Devotional for Dads (@amazon- https://a.co/d/gcBKVnC) A Year of Prayers, Guidance, and Wisdom features: 52 Weeks of Specific Prayer that apply to the topics discussed. Powerful Scripture and God's truths ensuring that Dad has spiritual guidance for the whole year. Uplifting and Inspirational Affirmations that apply to all stages of fatherhood and reflect on God's truth for the theme of that reading. Anecdotes of Real Dads, including stories and real testimonials offering guidance on refocusing on God and strengthening faith.  

Balancing Work, Family, and Ministry Responsibilities can be a challenging task for any Christian man. It is important to prioritize and manage your time effectively to ensure that you are fulfilling your responsibilities in each area of your life. In this episode we touch on setting priorities, prioritizing quality time, and seeking help. As a Christian man, your faith and family should always come first. It is important to establish clear priorities in your life and allocate time accordingly. This means setting boundaries at work and making sure that you are not neglecting your family or ministry responsibilities. Balancing work, family, and ministry responsibilities doesn't just mean fitting everything into your schedule. It's important to prioritize quality time with your family and to invest in your relationships with them. This means being fully present and engaged during family time, and making sure that your ministry activities are fulfilling and effective. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Whether it's delegating tasks at work, asking for support from your church community, or hiring a babysitter to give you a break, there are always resources available to help you balance your responsibilities. Make sure to Follow us and give us a Review. Also, check us out on YouTube - https://youtube.com/@notyouravergaeman  

Have you ever been so filled with pride that God had to take you down to just about nothing to reach you? Today's guest, Dr. Dusty Brackett, knows all about that. And he shares his story of how God, in His grace and mercy, rid him of his pride and rebuilt his life from the ground back up, to help him become a man He could use for His glory. Dusty is the executive pastor at Liberty Church in York, SC. He's a speaker, wedding officiant, and an author. You can find out more about Dusty through his website, dustybrakcett.com.   FOLLOW & Give us a REVIEW Also, check us out on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@notyouravergaeman    

What would you do as an atheist living with addiction and shame if God was in relentless pursuit of you? Would you fight it in pride or would you humbly surrender and give way to His love despite how undeserving you felt? On todays episode, you'll hear the story of John Barrow, an average man whose life was radically changed by the love of Christ. This is an episode you don't want to miss.   Make sure to Follow and give us a Review   We'd love to hear from you - email@notyouraverageman.com   SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, and COMMENT on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLenR_MyRmIuoDRuaN-k9_WFgNhCyV5kyH  

If you knew every word you say and everything you did was recorded and put onto the Internet tomorrow for all to see, would that change your behaviors at all? Join us on this episode as we discuss the importance and impact of being a man of integrity.   Please make sure to Follow and comment. Don't forget to tell you buddies and brothers. Feel free to contact us at email@notyouraverageman.com    

Have you ever considered doing a fast? Do you know where to begin or what the purpose or benefits of fasting even are? On this episode we're talking about fasting and becoming a man who faithfully prays. Join us for this judgment free and encouraging episode that will help you become a better than average prayer warrior. Make sure to FOLLOW and give us a REVIEW. 30 Day Praying for Your Wife Challenge [free] https://expeditionmarriage.org/30-day-praying-for-your-wife-challenge/ e5 Men - Husbands Fasting for Their Wives - https://www.e5men.org/ Expedition Marriage with Chris & Jamie Bailey (Marriage Podcast) Ep. 89: When Your Husband Won't Pray With You Feel free to reach out to us on email@notyouraverageman.com and watch us on YouTube - https://youtube.com/@notyouraverageman     #christianman #menspodcast #christianpodcast #godlyman #godlyhusband     Check out the Not Your Average Man podcast. A place where we talk about the topics and the issues affecting men today. A place where we call one another up to become better than your average man, to become the man God created you to be.

How much of an impact did your dad have on your life? Were you one of the kids who grew up without your biological father in the home?  Fathers have spent too much time abdicating their roles and responsibility when it comes to creating a legacy for Jesus.  Join us on this episode as we talk about the impact that fatherlessness and uninvolved fathers are having and how you can create a legacy in your family creating the kind of father who you would want for your own grandchildren. Please FOLLOW and REVIEW. Also, you can reach out to us at email@notyouraverageman.com You can also watch and SUBSCRIBE to us on YouTube @notyouraverageman.  

Did you know that this life you're living is a race? Not a race to see who wins, but a race to get to the finish line strong. Do you ever stop and wonder how you're doing on it? Well, any good runner will tell you that if you want to finish strong you'll need to be running light. But how do you do that spiritually? On this episode we're joining Pastor Matt Burrell from Liberty Church in York, SC as he answers that question and takes us through the beginning of Hebrews while challenging us to keep on running strong. You can find Pastor Matt Burrell at - Email: pastorburrell@experiecneliberty.org  Websites: Experienceliberty.org  Pastormattburrell.com  Growtogetherministries.com   Make sure you FOLLOW and give us a REVIEW! You can also find us on You Tube @notyouraverageman

How do I fight temptation? How do I stick to my beliefs when I'm at work or with my friends? Has pornography affected anyone else's life but mine? How do I become who God wants me to be? Will I ever feel like I measure up? Why do I feel so alone? If you're a man, a husband, or a father, and you have questions like these then you're in the right place. Husbands, whether you feel like you should or not, you don't have all the answers. The good news is, you're not supposed to.  Sometimes as a man, not having the answers or even desiring to ask a question, feels a lot like inadequacy. But the truth is, it's wisdom. Wisdom to know the extent of your knowledge, the humility to not be arrogant or prideful, and the desire to grow and learn.  Join Brad @Unrelentingpursuit_ and Chris @expedition_marriage on episode 18, Questions Men Ask, of the Not Your Average Man podcast while we discuss some of these questions and the answers that go with them.  Find us on YouTube (https://youtube.com/@notyouraverageman) where you can also answer the question posed in the Podcast and posted in the COMMUNITY section. *** If you're a wife, share this with your husband! ***

Do you know your 5 Fold Giftings and how they relates to your life? On our last episode we joined Gareth Tedford and learned about the 5Fold giftings from Ephesians, and this week, we get more into those Royal giftings and learn exactly how they can help you see your own life through a very different, God-given lens. So Join us on part 2 of this 2 part series and find out how you can discover what your giftings are and see the ways they play out in your day to day life -beyond just in the church- giving more continuity to your Christian walk and helping you become better than your average man.  Don't forget to give us a REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, COMMENT, LIKE, and drop by the COMMUNITY Page Also on YouTube: https://youtu.be/sbSjcayZR-s   _______________   Links / References: Books / Subject Matter: The Permanent Revolution: by Alan Hirsch & Tim Catchim. https://www.amazon.com/Permanent-Revolution-Apostolic-Imagination-Practice/dp/0470907746/ref=sr_1_1?crid=WJ09KBO81803&keywords=the+permanent+revolution&qid=1673025306&s=books&sprefix=The+Permanent+%2Cstripbooks%2C128&sr=1-1 5Q, by Alan Hirsch. https://www.amazon.com/5Q-Reactivating-Original-Intelligence-Capacity/dp/0998639303/ref=sr_1_1?crid=YP9ZOS1L2OSJ&keywords=5q+alan+hirsch&qid=1673025134&sprefix=5Q+%2Caps%2C187&sr=8-1 The Forgotten Ways, by Alan Hirsch. Reactivating Apostolic Movements. https://www.amazon.com/Forgotten-Ways-Reactivating-Apostolic-Movements/dp/1587433869/ref=pd_bxgy_img_sccl_2/137-4785662-3558432?pd_rd_w=HIH0j&content-id=amzn1.sym.7f0cf323-50c6-49e3-b3f9-63546bb79c92&pf_rd_p=7f0cf323-50c6-49e3-b3f9-63546bb79c92&pf_rd_r=DAPD69AG2HNAXN3XWFVT&pd_rd_wg=HrJJb&pd_rd_r=154baee7-4959-4857-9f81-651e95f47f9a&pd_rd_i=1587433869&psc=1   Websites: https://5qcentral.com/ A wealth of further resources can be found here.   videos / webinars https://5qcentral.com/tests/ Here you will find a set APEST / 5Q diagnostic tests to explore and discover your 5-fold gifting profile (Or of course, invite Gareth to come to your church / group for an interactive 5-Fold discovery workshop) Contacting with Gareth: https://linkedin.com/in/garethtedford Email: strong.spear@icloud.com

You can watch this on YouTube.   We are so excited to have a special guest, Gareth Tedford, for a two part series. We are talking about the Five-fold gifts, also known as the Royal Gifts, from Ephesians 4:11-16. So, if  you're not sure what those are, you're definitely going to want to hear this episode. It can change the way you see your life in light of the Kingdom. A little about our guests. Gareth became a follower of Jesus at the age of 15 in Northern Ireland. Through college and the early part of his career, opportunities for strategic projects and leadership advancement would often come his way, both in the secular/professional world and in his church/ministry world. After moving as a family to Texas in 2009, Gareth was invited in November 2011 to attend a workshop on the importance of Apostolic gifting in church planting, where he discovered the depth, significance and purpose of the 5-Fold gifts outlined in Ephesians 4:11-16. A section of scripture that he had been reading throughout his life suddenly took on new meaning and life, and a discovery of who God had made him to be suddenly placed his career, family and ministry life into context. And we're hoping that by listening to these episodes, the same amazing insights can happen for you too. In collaboration with staff at his church, Gareth helped curate training materials and has been teaching and coaching on 5-Fold gifting for nearly 10 years, leading workshops and interactive discovery sessions with church leadership teams and small groups. _______________ Links / References:   Books / Subject Matter: The Permanent Revolution: by Alan Hirsch & Tim Catchim. https://www.amazon.com/Permanent-Revolution-Apostolic-Imagination-Practice/dp/0470907746/ref=sr_1_1?crid=WJ09KBO81803&keywords=the+permanent+revolution&qid=1673025306&s=books&sprefix=The+Permanent+%2Cstripbooks%2C128&sr=1-1 5Q, by Alan Hirsch. https://www.amazon.com/5Q-Reactivating-Original-Intelligence-Capacity/dp/0998639303/ref=sr_1_1?crid=YP9ZOS1L2OSJ&keywords=5q+alan+hirsch&qid=1673025134&sprefix=5Q+%2Caps%2C187&sr=8-1 The Forgotten Ways, by Alan Hirsch. Reactivating Apostolic Movements. https://www.amazon.com/Forgotten-Ways-Reactivating-Apostolic-Movements/dp/1587433869/ref=pd_bxgy_img_sccl_2/137-4785662-3558432?pd_rd_w=HIH0j&content-id=amzn1.sym.7f0cf323-50c6-49e3-b3f9-63546bb79c92&pf_rd_p=7f0cf323-50c6-49e3-b3f9-63546bb79c92&pf_rd_r=DAPD69AG2HNAXN3XWFVT&pd_rd_wg=HrJJb&pd_rd_r=154baee7-4959-4857-9f81-651e95f47f9a&pd_rd_i=1587433869&psc=1   Websites: https://5qcentral.com/ A wealth of further resources can be found here. videos / webinars https://5qcentral.com/tests/ Here you will find a set APEST / 5Q diagnostic tests to explore and discover your 5-fold gifting profile (Or of course, invite Gareth to come to your church / group for an interactive 5-Fold discovery workshop) Contacting with Gareth: https://linkedin.com/in/garethtedford Email: strong.spear@icloud.com   Make sure to FOLLOW and Give us a REVIEW Also, you can reach us by email@notyouraverageman.com or on our YouTube channel (https://youtube.com/@notyouraverageman)  

Society puts a lot of pressure on men to do things just right.  There's such a big fear of failure amongst men.  We need to find the perfect way to be..    This way is too masculine and toxic, you're being too strong, too tough,  but this way is too soft, you're being a pushover, you're not leading at all, ….   It's like we have to find the Goldilocks “just right” bed.    An average man seeks the world for wisdom on how to be a man.  He seeks to become a good man for his own benefit and praise, or he gets paralyzed by fear from the uncertainty and he gives up.   An above average man looks to the Lord for guidance on how to be not only a good man, but a Godly one.  He is faithful, trustworthy, respected and respectful, and he is completely surrendered to the Lord.  Go be more than just an average good man, be an above average Godly man.   Make sure to Follow and give us a Review. Also, you can check us out on YouTube at https://youtube.com/@notyouraverageman. Check out Episode 15 on YouTube. You can also reach us at email@notyouraverageman.com  

This week we finish our talk about living a life with out regrets. And if you are like the majority of people who live in this world, you have your share of regrets. But is it possible to get through this life regret free? And if you have regrets, what are you supposed to do with them? Chad Byers continues to be part of the roundtable as Chris and Brad discuss regrets and also finish the “Top 10 List” of Regrets Secular Men report having on this 2nd part of a 2 part series. Make sure you Follow, Review and COMMENT. Also, make sure you visit the COMMUNITY section in the YouTube platform (https://www.youtube.com/@notyouraverageman/community) for resources and to engage with other men trying to be better than average.

This week we are talking about living a life with out regrets. And if you are like the majority of people who live in this world, you have your share. But is it possible to get through this life regret free? And if you have regrets, what are you supposed to do with them? Chad Byers joins the roundtable as Chris and Brad discuss regrets and also start on a “Top 10 List” of Regrets Secular Men report having on our 1st part of a 2 part series. Make sure you SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, and COMMENT. Also, make sure you visit the COMMUNITY section in the YouTube platform for resources and to engage with other men trying to be better than average.

Men are fixers. 
 Research shows that when we're able to identify and talk about our emotions we move them from the amygdala (the fight, flight or freeze, or the reactive center of the brain) to the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain that is rational and able to solve problems. If you want to fix problems, you need to actually DO what fixes them. And that means, like it or not, we have talk about our emotions. Join Chris & Brad as we talk about how to either Deal with the FEELs or let the FEELs deal with us....usually by coming out in anger, defensiveness, and avoidance.   Make sure to FOLLOW and give us a RATING. Also, catch us on YouTube - https://youtube.com/@notyouraverageman Not only do you get to see us, but be part of the COMMUNITY!

If you're like the average man, you probably enjoy being the hero every once in a while when the opportunity arises. But it takes an above average man to know how he can show up as the hero in ways the average man might miss. Many of those occasions show up around the holidays, especially when it comes to dealing with extended family and boundaries. If you want to understand what boundaries are, why you need them, why your family needs them, and know how to apply them, listen in on today's episode as we unpack it all. ______________________________ Not Your Average Man is a podcast for any man wanting to be better than average in their Christian walk. Chris Bailey, Counselor and founder of Expedition Marriage, along with Brad Valencia, Marriage Coach and founder of Unrelenting Pursuit, are here to take on all the challenges and discuss all the issues and topics that affect men today. No matter where you may find yourself in life, they're here to encourage you, equip you, and support you in becoming better than your average man. Make sure to FOLLOW and give us a REVIEW. Also, you can check us out on YouTube (https://youtube.com/@notyouraverageman), where you can be a part of our Community. We'd love to hear from you, so Contact US: @email@notyouraverageman.com

Do you get overwhelmed by having too many priorities? Do you struggle saving no and then end up getting even more overwhelmed? You're not alone. A lot of men find themselves stressed out to the point where their home and work life suffers. They're finding themselves stuck in a life of mediocrity when it comes to work, being a husband, and being a father. If this is you, then join us on this episode where Chris and Brad are talking about letting go of all the priorities and exchanging them for A SINGLE priority. Listen in and learn how saying no might be exactly what you need to become that better than average man.    Make sure to FOLLOW and give us a REVIEW!!!   Also, you can check us out on YouTube - @notyouraveragemanhttps://www.youtube.com/@notyouraverageman

Are you “situationally aware?” If an attack on your character, your integrity, your family happened, would you find yourself prepared? Or would you be caught off guard in a scramble.   Being a man who is prepared automatically gives you the upper hand in a battle. Whether the enemy is in real life combat or the enemy is engaging in a spiritual battle, your head needs to be on a swivel if you want to see them coming. Join us today for some practical preparedness for any attack that will come your way.   Make sure to FOLLOW and please give use a Review. Also, we'd love to hear from you at email@notyouraverageman.com.

Welcome back for part 2 of our Getting Real About Porn series with our special guest Matt Cline, the founder of Restored Ministries. If you missed part one, go back and check out episode 7 and then come back and join us. Last time we talked about the temptation and consequences of pornography, and this episode Matt will be sharing with us what needs to be done to get out from under those temptations and the addiction of it.  Being better than an average man, we all need to be in this battle. https://www.Restoredministries.ca Follow on Instagram: @restored_community Take the 1st steps at becoming free as Matt mentioned on the podcast by getting a copy of the Full Life Disclosure at https://restoredministries.ca/notyouraverageman  

Are you one of the 64% of Christian men who watches pornography? Maybe you're one of the over 28k that is viewing it every second.  On this week's Not Your Average Man podcast, we are honored to welcome Matt Cline with Restored Ministries (https://restoredminnistries.ca).  Matt is the founder of Restored Ministries and is a leading voice in Canada on pornography. His teachings have reached thousands of people in over 70 countries. He has made it his life's mission to help people break free from the darkness that pornography is and get back into the light.  If you are held captive to all of the destruction of pornography, it's time to find your freedom. And if you're not, it's almost a guarantee you know someone who is.  Listen for you, listen for them. Freedom and hope is there to be found. Take it and share it. Join us for part one of this two part series . Make sure to FOLLOW or SUBSCRIBE and leave us a REVIEW!!!   Matt Cline lives in Edmonton with his wife, Louise, and two young sons. He is the director of Restored Ministries, focused on leading men and women out of sexual bondage and into a life of freedom and impact. Restored Ministries has influenced people in over 75 countries around the world and has seen countless lives radically changed. Formerly, Matt played hockey for Hockey Canada and in the Western Hockey League.

Wouldn't it be nice to have the work you're putting in, the tasks you're doing at home, and all the sacrifices you're making be appreciated? And for that matter, why does the focus often seem to be on what you're not doing instead of all that you are? Well, we hear you and we get it, but perhaps there's a bigger picture unfolding that you might not be seeing. Join our conversation today as we talk about what it is to be unseen, unappreciated, and yet, still called to more.  Dealing with passivity or insecurities? Check out these past episodes:  Ep 3: Confessions of a Passive Husband Ep. 5: My Weakness that ALMOST took me out Have feedback or something you want to discuss? Drop us a line at email@notyouraverageman.com You can watch us on YouTube. Don't forget to Follow us so you don't miss out on future episodes where we discuss some real issues and also hear from other better than average men.

Do you know your biggest weakness? The Enemy sure does, and he's not afraid to use it to go after you, just like he did Brad. He went after him where he was most vulnerable and exposed and led him down a road he never thought he'd go down. Listen in today so you can learn how to stand guard in your own life, and to hear how the Lord redeemed all that the enemy meant for destruction in Brad's.   Have feedback or something you want to discuss? Drop us a line at email@notyouraverageman.com   You can watch us on YouTube. Don't forget to Follow us so you don't miss out on future episodes where we discuss some real issues and also hear from other better than average men.  

Does who you say you are or how you identify yourself line up with who God says you are? It's so easy to call yourself a husband, a father, a business owner, an engineer, or whatever else it may be, but how often do you refer to yourself as God's chosen child and part of His royal priesthood?  Who you say you are and who you believe you are will affect how you show up in your life. The last area you want to settle for average in is with your identity. Join us as we dive in to the truth of 1 Peter 2:9 and how it impacts your everyday life.    Please Follow us and give us a Review! Also, feel free to reach out to us at email@notyouraverageman.com   *** Soon to be on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7dAXvszs9JhJaeFe9Kaglw ***

Chris went all the way from Greece to Japan and back just to avoid conflict. Sure, it was for lunch at Epcot, but there still is quite a bit of distance between the two. Believe it or not, many men would go to even more extreme lengths to avoid conflict or to avoid an upset wife. You might even be one of them. On today's episode Chris not only confesses his struggle in life as a passive husband, but he's also sharing all the different ways it affected his marriage and his children, and what steps he took to “recover”. If you think you might struggle with passivity, there's hope. You don't need to always settle for what everyone else wants. There really is a better way. Join us to learn what it is!   Have feedback or something you want to discuss? Drop us a line at email@notyouraverageman.com   Don't forget to Follow us so you don't miss out on future episodes where we discuss some real issues and also hear from other better than average men.

Do you call yourself a Christian? Is that because you believe in God? Or maybe is it just the way you grew up or always thought of yourself? Or, do you call yourself a Christian because you truly want to be seen as someone who follows Christ in the way you live your life? In this episode, we push into what it really is to be a Christian, not just by proclaiming it, but also by living it in your daily life. We're talking all about what Jesus expects of us as men who follow Him. We invite you to join us so you can find out how truly living for Jesus will impact your life.     Have feedback or something you want to discuss? Drop us a line at email@notyouraverageman.com Don't forget to Follow us so you don't miss out on future episodes where we discuss some real issues and also hear from other better than average men.  

Do you want to be better than the average man? Are you tired of being forced into the box of whatever society says being a man even is? We are Chris Bailey, Christian Counselor and Marriage Coach with Expedition Marriage (https://expeditionmarriage.org), and Brad Valencia, Certified Marriage Coach with Unrelenting Pursuit (https://www.unrelentingpursuit.org).   As two guys with marriage ministries and marriage podcasts, we see a common problem—our primary audience is women. Men, we know you're out there and we know you want to grow too, and that's why we wanted you to have your own place. A place where we can talk about the subjects and struggles that men are dealing with; a place where you can find comradery with other men who are striving to be better too. So, here we are...without our wives...talking about real issues, challenging ourselves and calling men like you up alongside of us, to become better than your average man. There's no better time to join us than right now!   Have feedback or something you want to discuss? Drop us a line at email@notyouraverageman.com Don't forget to Follow us so you don't miss out on future episodes where we discuss some real issues and also hear from other better than average men.

Welcome to the Not Your Average Man podcast. We're here to help you become the man God created you to be by talking about the real issues men face today. We're not a mans club where you need to be a power athlete or a successful business professional, and there are no requirements for you to have big muscles and a beard, although you totally can. That's actually the point. No matter what kind of man you are, you're a man created in the image of God and He has plans for you. Plans to help you become a man that represents Him well in all aspects of your life. So whether you're at work, on the field, at home with your wife, or spending time with the kids, we want to help knock out anything getting in your way and keeping you from fully living out a life after God. If you're tired of the world telling you what kind of man you need to be, then we hope you join us in this holy pursuit of becoming better than your average man.  Make sure you subscribe or follow to be sure you don't miss any episodes. Feel free to reach out to Chris & Brad with questions, comments, or topics you'd like to hear talked about at email@notyouraverageman.com.