Officially Unofficial

After a year long hiatus we are BACK for the most (allegedly) romantic day of the year! Coming in hot with our predictions for the Ins and Outs of dating trends for 2022, hère is a non exhaustive (but exhausting) list of things we discuss! Big kiss. ❤️. Is Catfishing Lite socially acceptable Going to THERAPY is hot Dating apps and why Raya sucks Polyamory Men who are SEX POSITIVE are scary??? Exploring kinks Dating your lifelong friends Dating co-workers Height preferences Checklists for value systems Checklists for physical appearance

This week we're joined by Annelise McCarthy a fabulous speaking coach who also understands why the hell were all scared of making the first move, rejection and our own shadows. Tune in and flirt with one another! As always, with consent x

We all make mistakes, and it’s time we acknowledge how truly toxic we’ve been. Sorry! In this episode, Nat & B go through every single dating habit they’ve ever said they’ve hated and all the times they’ve been complete hypocrites. Love you xx

 This episode we are speaking to Angie and Joyce, two incredible women leading the sex and consent conversation in Australia through their education program Consent Labs! Sexual assault is mentioned in this episode so please bear that in mind when tuning in. We love you and love CONSENT!

 On this weeks edition we speak to Declan Edwards, a happiness researcher and the founder of @bu_coaching to find out what the hell makes us genuinely happy... tune in, as always for an exciting, existential crisis. To do the happiness score card test click hère: http://Happinessscorecard.com.au

 This week we discuss rejection in all the forms it manifests with good friend of the show, self-professed ‘weird friend from Melbourne’ Penelope. Tune in for a guide to how to reject someone kindly and effectively, the different types of rejection that exist and a recap of our very single Valentine’s Day. It’s our one year anniversary by the way! And we hope you have enjoyed it as much as we have.

Did you know you can hire a match maker? Or a dating coach? Or that there’s a dating app out there for active people called GoGetter Dating? Andrea is all of those things combined as well as a tech-founder and all round incredible human. She joins us to tell us about her journey moving from NYC to Sydney & starting her own app!

We were joined by our first guests of 2021! James & Anthony talk to us about Lebanese dating culture vs. Australian. We cover date fails, red flags & other hilarious topics. Sadly our guests aren’t on social media but you can still follow us on @officiallyunofficial.pod (IG & tiktok)! Love you xo

It was a year and a half and now it’s really not over because 2021 is going to be just as interesting. But! In the interest of staying positive and relevant, we unpack the year of love that was, is and will be! Topics covered: plagues, one couple’s annual sex marathons, celibacy and who knows what else. Happy New Year!

HAPPY HOLIDAYS. We discuss all things love and dating this holiday season after being away for a while because we were busy (lazy). From flirting during the festive season to Boxing Day and breadcrumbing to confronting family conversations and why you should or shouldn’t text your ex TUNE IN. Love you all xox

 We finally went on dates! Hooray! Here’s a run down on what to actually say considering we truly don’t know ourselves. Also is it okay to talk about politics yet? Can you get controversial? What is the first question you should actually ask on a date? All this and so much less on this weeks episode of Officially Unofficial. PS we’re not sorry about not booking a guest as promised, please just deal with it

 Yes we’ve more or less all been there. Time to get over something that really never existed (sorry not sorry). Sources cited: not many. Opinions had: plenty. We run through the fallibility of situantionships that taunt and tease our course of modern love!! And mention John Wick for no tangible reason. Tune in! We’re BACK

 Sexologist/psychologist/friend of the show/legend Michaela is back to discuss five simple ways you can combat the age old hell that is mismatched LIBIDOS in a sexual relationship. Tune in for tips from a professional! Note: there are five recommendations for both partners because hey, in a relationship everyone’s needs matter.

 Hello! In news that surprises no one, we’re talking about sex. But considering we’re both good Greek virgins we got an actual expert in the field to chat with us. Tune in to hear sexologist Michaela discuss consent, communication and coitus - and we hope you truly and sincerely go get f**** after listening xx (Michaela: @michaelajo91 + @bettertogetherrelationships) Mentioned in the episode: B’s favourite flower is a sunflower if anyone ever takes her on a date. Also, more importantly, feminist porn directors to look up the work of: Courtney Trouble, Candida Royalle, Shine Louise Houston, Abiola Abrams.

We go back to basics and yell at each other about a topic of our choice. Today it’s ghosting! Bon soir, spooky hoes.

 We talk to one of our former flames!!! They gave us insights and reality checks!!! And now everyone needs therapy!!! Tune in.

Sotia is back and more controversial than ever. We didn’t believe it was possible and yet, here we are, shocked and BREATHLESS. Perfect episode for anyone currently living with a partner they want to dump but don’t want to break the lease. Also who are weddings for??? Asking for a friend.

Can you BANG a priest? We asked a friend who tried & the outcome was hilarious. If you’ve ever wondered where does one find a hot priest, what kind of dates can you go on & is sex even on the table - then tune in to find out! Thank you Sotia, our first female guest and our most fearless one yet for joining us!

 We run through all the dating trends that emerged during lockdown in the hopes that we will never have to hear them AGAIN. Hooray flattening the curve!

IT IS OUR TENTH EPISODE! And we’re back in the flesh! We’ve come to the conclusion we occasionally have an attitude problem on this podcast so today we are changing the pace and being positive AND we’re talking about green flags: the emerald gems that are the positive things you look for in a partner. What do you actually like about people? What do you actually like about yourself? Questions to ask tbh, because it’s time to feel good if not GREAT.

Vibrator sales are skyrocketing across the globe and zoom sex parties are officially (unofficially?) a thing, so we decided to pull a Salt n Pepa and talk about sex. For more information on virtual sex parties head to: https://www.killingkittens.com/ and for more of us follow us on officiallyunofficial.pod

 Our podcast producer Dale has finally joined us to reveal his sultry, velvet voice and his debaucheries on Hinge! Tune in to hear what it was like for one man pretending to be two women.

We went on a double date with two strangers à la Zoom, and there really isn't any concise way to sum up what happened. So here's a forty minute attempt. Shout out to our producer Dale who pretended to be two women on Hinge to find these men for us, and to Shay and Kayne for their enthusiastic participation. PS Sorry for going radio silent for the past few weeks, but we're back and hope everyone is staying healthy, safe, positive and INSIDE.

  WE DON'T HAVE ANY SHOW NOTES FOR THIS. But we do have our first guest and he loves an insta dm here: @graeson.a 

Do you have a type? Are types even worth having? Turns out, you probably won't marry the same cookie-cutter you've been dating time and time again anyway, so might be time to shake things up. We explore the laws of attraction (turns out, not what we originally thought it was, thank God for search engines) and what it ACTUALLY means to be attracted to someone. Or everyone. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: D.B. Dillard-Wright Ph.D. defines the "Laws of Attraction" in Psychology Today. Guy Redden extends on this theory, the pseudo-science behind it and "New Thought Philosophy" in the Journal of Australia. INSIDER explains the scientific and visual cues that explain why you're attracted to someone. The Nine Signs You're HANGRY For Love (or just desperate) by Your Tango. The University of Western Ontario conducted a study into why you won't end up marrying your type.

On this week's episode we're discussing exes and whether it's worth (or even if it's possible) being friends with them. From dividing and conquering your mutual friends to tactfully pulling off a PDA (public display of disaffection), broken relationships present new challenges. Are you ready to be friends?  What do you consider a friend to even be? How many friends do you actually need?  These are the questions that sent us spiralling and we hardly answer. Rule of thumb though: how you treat someone who’s wronged you says more about you than it does about them!!! Be self-aware!! Articles mentioned in this episode: "What are ways you can be a good ex?" by Farah Khedre in Identity "How To Be A Good Ex To Someone" by Delia Cai in GQ "5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting Back Together With an Ex" by Meghan Nesmith in Man Repeller

In our second episode, we discuss the myth* that is CLOSURE. Does it exist? Can you really ever have all the questions you may come up with answered by a former flame? Does it even help you in the grand scheme of things? Do you actually want to know the real answer anyway? Tune in to hear ways to give someone closure, times (only one of us) has found it, and all the arguments (mainly against) surrounding the post-break up phenomenon that is closure. LINKS TO CONTENT DISCUSSED: Psychology Today: “no one can give you closure but yourself" Definition: Urban Dictionary Social psychologist Arie Kruglanski in The Conversation on: coining the phrase “closure” in the 1990s Lauren Jarvis-Gibson in Tought Catalog on Closure: "Love mattered and closure doesn’t make it not matter.” Anonymous in Chicago NOW on Closure: “A conversation that was meant to close the door sometimes seems to open ten more windows.” *open to interpretation, we unsurprisingly assume no responsibility for what is discussed.

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY! It's our first (UNOFFICIAL) Episode! In celebration of all those who love, despise and don't particularly care for the Hallmark holiday, we go through the harrowing tales of our worst dates before lightening the mood with a few ideas on how to treat your partner (and yourself, of course). MENTIONED IN THIS PODCAST: B's worst date ever, in 9Honey. Cat Person, by Kate Roupenian in The New Yorker.

It's our first (OFFICIAL) episode! And today we start with the rebirthing stage that is being dumped. We take you through our most memorable experiences of being dumped (think a Facebook status change), break-ups in pop culture, the art of dumping and how to do it right. Or wrong. Who knows? Everyone should be dumped at least once in their lives tbh*. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Every article that referenced Brad & Jen touching at the SAG Awards (just Google it) Melanie Greenberg Ph.D in Psychology Today on the Neuroscience of Relationship Break Ups Maria Yogoda in VICE on The New Breakup Equation Our problematic Queen Gwyneth Paltrow's GOOP on 20 Ways To Break Up With Your Boyfriend *We don't condone unwarranted dumping for the sake of personal development, just FYI.