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Episode 165Pathological Demand Avoidance: The Lived Experience, with Kendahl DamashekBarry and Dave speak with Kendall Damashek, a parent coach and expert on the topic of PDA. Kendall shared her personal and professional insights into PDA, explaining it as a survival drive for autonomy and equality rather than a pathology. She discussed the physiological and nervous system responses that individuals with PDA experience, emphasizing that these are not conscious choices but reactions to perceived threats to autonomy. Kendall addressed common misconceptions, such as labeling PDA behaviors as oppositional or defiant, and highlighted the importance of understanding the internal experience of those with PDA, and she provided practical strategies for parents and caregivers, including giving more autonomy, fostering equality, providing nervous system safety, and lowering demands.Learn more on our website!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, we're getting PERSONAL. We've got a family update (send Karina's husband some love!), your unhinged confessions- including lying about your weight on your driver's license AND starting your own fan account- and we're spilling all of our “firsts.” Plus, how much PDA is TOO much PDA? And motherhood's latest lesson: kids hear, remember, and REPEAT. EVERYTHING. Tune in, Queens! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What does a year of applying the PDA lens actually look like in a real family? Justin joined the Paradigm Shift Program in the summer of 2025 and is back a year later to share what shifted, what is still hard, and what he has learned along the way.Justin is a father of two, works in cybersecurity, and lives in Ohio. His 13-year-old PDA son spent years in a specialized school before school refusal led the family to unschooling. In this episode Justin shares how he tracks his son's indicators using an app he built himself, how he navigated the screen time question through the 4S Framework, and the creative accommodation strategies - including fart pills! - that have made daily life genuinely more workable.Key TakeawaysHow Justin Found PDA and What the First Year of Applying It Looked Like | 00:01:35 Justin first encountered PDA through social media, and it was a video about equalizing after school that made things click. Before that, the best explanation he had for his son was that he was a very independent kid who could not take no for an answer. Years of consequences and putting a foot down made things worse, and his son eventually hit burnout. What changed for him after the Paradigm Shift Program was not one dramatic shift but a series of small parenting changes: putting shoes on for his son instead of asking, using declarative language, doing the fart pill game twice a day instead of twice-daily battles over medication.Tracking Indicators With a Custom App: What the Data Showed | 00:17:09 Justin built his own app to track his son's indicators every day, including activation levels, swearing, connection signals like sitting on his lap or info dumping, and accommodations like safe nervous system presence. One pattern he identified through tracking was that loose teeth reliably raised his son's baseline activation, something he would not have connected without the data. He shares the tracking log with his son's therapist as a way of showing progress that is otherwise hard to describe. The trend line on panic attack and meltdown frequency, intensity, and duration over twelve months - all of which have improved - is the clearest evidence for him that the approach is working.Screens, Safety, and the 4S Framework | 00:26:06 Working in cybersecurity made screens a particularly fraught topic. Justin researched parental monitoring tools and now uses one called Qustodio, which applies consistent limits across all devices and sends alerts for concerning language in Roblox chats. What shifted was not removing screen time but understanding it through the 4S Framework: his son's Roblox game development is simultaneously a screen, a special interest, and a social connection tool. Giving him more regulated access while monitoring content allowed the relationship with screens to become a genuine strength rather than a daily battleground.The Fart Pills and the Scrub Daddy shower: Creativity After a Year of Practice | 00:14:52 Two examples illustrate what a year of accommodation practice can look like. His son's twice-daily medication had become a twice-daily fight until Justin gamified it: the pills became fart pills, his son plays a capybara hiding in a cave, and taking the pills makes the farts weapon-level. The battle dissolved. For showering, Justin told his son's Scrub Daddy sponge incorrectly that you put shampoo in dry hair and get in the shower with clothes on, then let his son correct and teach the right way. His son was in the shower within five minutes. Both strategies layer humor, equality, play, and novelty together, which Justin describes as exhausting but very effective improv.Advice for Parents Who Are Where Justin Was a Year Ago | 00:38:12 Justin's advice is not to try to do everything at once. When he looked at the full picture of constraints, accommodations, and nuance, it felt impossible. What helped was making one small change, watching how it landed, and building from there. Putting shoes on for his son instead of asking him to put them on was a small change with an immediate impact. Learning declarative language and noticing that his son would respond to statements when he would not respond to ten direct questions was another. He also names having a larger purpose, wanting the best outcome for his son, as what helped him stay with the approach even when it was hard.Relevant ResourcesParadigm Shift Program — My signature program where Justin developed the tools and frameworks he describes applying across the past year, including cost-benefit decision making, the 4S Framework, and creative accommodation strategies.Understanding PDA — Free class where I teach the nervous system disability framework, the four S framework, and the foundational concepts Justin describes applying throughout this episode.Tracking Progress — Free class on the three dimensions I teach parents to track: nervous system activation, basic needs access, and connection and engagement, all of which Justin built into his custom app.School, Screens and Siblings — Free class directly relevant to Justin's experience navigating school refusal, unschooling, and the screen time question through a cost-benefit lens.Mentioned in this episode:Free Live WorkshopI'm offering a free live workshop this month: "Supporting your PDA child or teen through burnout without breaking yourself in the process."Free Live Workshop Registration

Welcome to another edition of This Week in Autistic Culture, our Sunday magazine podcast that brings together the stories, conversations and ideas shaping Autistic culture each week.Content note: This episode contains discussion of suicide, suicidal ideation and public harassment.This week, Angela and Simon reflect on the death of Professor Jason Arday and the pressures that can come with being a highly visible Autistic person. They discuss public scrutiny, the way successful Autistic people can be placed on impossible pedestals, and what happens when institutions fail to protect people during periods of intense vulnerability.They also turn to Robbie Williams following his recent comments about being Autistic, asking why autism is so often used to explain someone's struggles or differences, but rarely recognised as part of the creativity, innovation and perspective behind their success.Later, Angela takes us inside the 2026 Neurodiversity Index Report, including the striking gap between the number of employers who believe their workplaces are neuroinclusive and the neurodivergent employees who actually feel supported.As always, we'll also take you through everything happening across the Autistic Culture Podcast Network this week, with new episodes exploring writing, drinking and masking, Autistic menopause, autism therapy, PDA, Reddit and more.Plus, we head to the Community Notice Board for books, events and opportunities from across the wider Autistic community.

Right now, every Mamamia subscriber is automatically entered to win a $5,000 Dreamworld holiday for four; flights, accommodation, express passes and more included. Subscribe here to enter. T&Cs apply. Would you go topless in front of your dad? Mia Freedman puts the question to Outlouders after one Sports Illustrated model — and Baywatch reboot star — does exactly that on a family holiday, and the internet has a lot to say. Plus, Amelia Lester unpacks the celebrity couple everyone's obsessed with right now, and asks why some couples radiate real chemistry while others can't fake it no matter how much red-carpet PDA they throw at us. Also, Emily Vernem is skipping the cleanse and doing a clog instead — she'll explain exactly what that means. And, this week's reccos cover a movie, a perfume and more. Get access to Very Peri, Mamamia's exclusive perimenopause series, for just $59. 25 world-leading experts, over 20 on-demand sessions, available now. We’ve sorted through the noise so you don't have to. Go to veryperi.com.au today. You hot? Same. Recommendations Em recommends The End of Oak Street with Anne Hathaway and Ewan McGreggor. Mia recommends doing a special concealer hack and technique she's been trying. Amelia recommends The Dupe Spot perfumes for those nostalgic, hard to find perfumes you love. Keen for more? Check out the Mamamia Out Loud newsletter. What To Listen To Next: Listen to our latest episode: The Lindsay Clancy Conversation Listen: The Part of Hayden Panettiere's Story Everyone's Missing Listen: The Fake Bump Conspiracy Continues. Anne Hathaway Edition. Listen: Logies Recap & The Melbourne Lawyer Fired for a TikTok Listen: The Miranda Kerr Diet Discourse & Are You A Ring Picker? Listen: No Influencers allowed. Seriously. Discover more Mamamia Podcasts here including the very latest episode of Parenting Out Loud, the parenting podcast for people who don't listen to... parenting podcasts. SUBSCRIBE here: Support independent women's media You can now watch our show in full length video on the Apple Podcast app - make sure your phone is up to date and we can't wait for you to see Mamamia Out Loud on Apple What to read: Your emotional support water bottle tells me everything I need to know about you. The 7 best and most underrated TV shows of 2026 (so far). HOLLY WAINWRIGHT: 'Turns out there are 4 different styles of friendship.' 'I watch movies for a living, but this is where I draw the line.' THE END BITS: Check out our merch at MamamiaOutLoud.com GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening. Send us an email at outloud@mamamia.com.au Share your story, feedback, or dilemma! Send us a voice message. Join our Facebook group Mamamia Outlouders to talk about the show. Follow us on Instagram @mamamiaoutloud and on Tiktok @mamamiaoutloud CREDITS: Hosts: Amelia Lester, Mia Freedman & Emily Vernem Acting Group Executive Producer: Emeline Gazilas Executive Producer: Grace Rouvray Video Producer: Michael Kean Associate Producer: Tessa Kotowicz Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land on which we have recorded this podcast. Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Gene breaks down the Bills' joint practice with the Browns in Cleveland. Betting analyst PJ Glasser shares his tips for wagering on MLB playoff futures and college football, with a surprise pick mixed in. Plus, should quarterbacks engage in PDA on the practice field?

Eine Geburt kommt selten genau so, wie man sie sich vorgestellt hat. In der neuen Folge von „muttivierend ehrlich“ sprechen Maria und Olivia offen von ihren Schwangerschaften, der intensiven Vorbereitung, ihrer Angst vor der Geburt und dem Wunsch nach einer PDA. Was zunächst nach einem normalen Verlauf aussieht, entwickelt sich plötzlich zu einer stressigen Ausnahmesituation mit einem sekundären Kaiserschnitt. Es geht um Kontrolle, Vertrauen, Angst, die Rolle der Begleitperson und die Frage, was nach einer schwierigen Geburt emotional zurückbleibt und weshalb kein Geburtsplan in Stein gemeißelt ist. Am Ende zählt nur eines: Mutter und Kind sind gesund.

When I first started learning about PDA six years ago, so much of what I encountered was focused on behavior. What I was not seeing discussed was something I kept observing in my own family, and have since seen in thousands of families I have worked with: the way cumulative nervous system activation can disable a child or teen from accessing the things they need to stay alive.In this episode, an excerpt from the Understanding PDA Masterclass, I walk through what basic needs struggles actually look like across five domains: toileting, sleep, hygiene, eating, and safety. I share why I conceptualize PDA as a nervous system disability, how the survival drive for autonomy can override other survival instincts, and why paradoxically the most effective intervention for a basic needs struggle is often to stop focusing on it directly.Key TakeawaysWhy PDA May Be a Nervous System Disability, Not a Behavioral Disorder | 00:00:00 I define PDA as a survival drive for autonomy and equality that consistently overrides other survival instincts, including the instinct to eat, sleep, stay safe, maintain hygiene, and use the bathroom. This is what makes it distinct from other neurotypes and what led me to begin theorizing it as a nervous system disability. This also makes it distinct from "a behavioral problem". The challenges our children face are physiological, and this is part of what I am researching with the University of Michigan.The Fire, the Traffic, and the River: When Autonomy Overrides Safety in the Moment | 00:03:30 On a night of camping when my son was four and a half, he kept moving toward the campfire the more we told him to stay back, to the point where I had to physically restrain him from running into it. I have heard similar accounts from families of children running toward oncoming traffic or accelerating into a lake when told to move away. These are extreme examples that I share to show how the survival drive for autonomy can override the instinct to stay safe in real time. They are not defiance. They are a nervous system response that has overridden the instinct that should have protected the child.Five Basic Needs and What Struggles Can Look Like | 00:06:32 Toileting struggles can include regression to diapers, UTIs from withholding, accidents, and refusing to use the toilet. Sleep struggles can include a non-twenty-four-hour cycle, intensifying bedtime resistance, and needing to co-sleep at eleven or twelve years old with no prior history of it. Hygiene can include refusing tooth brushing, bathing, nail cutting, or hair cuts. Eating can present as extreme restriction, similar to ARFID but without the body image component, or as compulsive eating. Safety struggles can range from running toward traffic or fire to self-harm, suicidal ideation, or harming others. Two PDA children can have the same root cause and look dramatically different across all five domains.The Paradox: Focusing on the Basic Need Often Makes It Worse | 00:11:09 When my son stopped eating, every instinct told me to find strategies to make him eat. I went to feeding therapy. I tried every approach in the moment. But for a PDA child, focusing attention and gentle pressure on eating registers as a loss of autonomy and can intensify the avoidance. What I have seen across thousands of families is that bringing down cumulative nervous system activation across all domains, not in the moment of the basic need struggle, is what allows the control to release and the need to become accessible again. That is the paradigm shift.Doubt, Fluctuation, and Why Basic Needs Must Be Part of the PDA Profile | 00:09:34 Because basic needs struggles fluctuate, parents are often doubted or doubt themselves. A child may brush their teeth at the beginning of the week and refuse by Friday. They may eat one food for months and then drop it. They may have had no toileting issues and then regress at age eight. This fluctuation is a feature of the cumulative model, not evidence that the disability is inconsistent. Basic needs have largely been left out of the behavioral literature on PDA. I believe they belong at the center of the profile, because if a child cannot access safety, sleep, eating, hygiene, or toileting, their health and survival are at risk.Relevant ResourcesUnderstanding PDA — The free masterclass from which this episode is excerpted, covering the full nervous system disability framework and basic needs indicators described here.Burnout — Free class with context for the burnout threshold at which basic needs struggles tend to intensify and become most disabling.Tracking Progress — Free class on the three dimensions I track with families, including basic needs access as a primary indicator of whether cumulative nervous system activation is coming down.Paradigm Shift Program — My signature program where the basic needs framework, cost-benefit decision making, and the full accommodation toolkit are taught across twelve weeks of live coaching.Mentioned in this episode:Free Live WorkshopI'm offering a free live workshop this month: "Supporting your PDA child or teen through burnout without breaking yourself in the process."Free Live Workshop Registration

In this full-length episode of the Dear Dyslexic Podcast, Dr Shae Wissell sits down with Nick Nagzam, host of The Inclusive Shift, to explore neurodiversity in the workplace, parenting neurodivergent children, and the importance of creating environments where people can thrive. Nick shares how his understanding of neurodiversity deepened following the diagnoses of his two sons, one autistic with a PDA profile and ADHD, and the other with ADHD. What began as a personal journey became a professional mission, leading Nick to establish a neurodiversity employee resource group within his workplace and advocate for greater awareness, inclusion and flexibility. Together, Shae and Nick discuss the realities of workplace stigma, the ongoing debate around remote and hybrid work, and why outcome-focused leadership can help organisations unlock the strengths of neurodivergent employees. They also explore the challenges and rewards of parenting, supporting emotional regulation, managing screen time, navigating school experiences, understanding PDA, and accessing support services. This thoughtful and honest conversation offers practical insights for employers, leaders, parents and neurodivergent individuals, while highlighting the importance of flexibility, understanding and self-compassion. In this episode, you'll learn about: Neurodiversity advocacy in the workplace Building awareness and inclusion initiatives Flexible work, productivity and wellbeing Challenges of return-to-office policies Raising neurodivergent children Understanding ADHD, autism and PDA Family routines and support strategies The role of self-compassion for parents and carers Key takeaway: "No one is designed to fit a standard operating system. We need to create environments that recognise and support individual differences." About Dear Dyslexic Podcast Dear Dyslexic Podcast is produced by re:think dyslexia, hosted by Dr Shae Wissell, sharing lived experience stories, expert insights and practical conversations that support neurodivergent people to thrive. Learn more about re:think dyslexia: https://rethinkdyslexia.com.au/ Stay Connected To stay up to date with our latest episodes, resources and events, follow us on Facebook, LinkedIn and Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, rate and review the podcast on your favourite podcast platform. Listen to more Dear Dyslexic Podcast episodes: https://open.spotify.com/show/0jx91no... Need Support? If any of the topics discussed in this episode have caused distress, support is available: Lifeline: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 13YARN: 13 92 76 re:think dyslexia Helpline: 1800 13 6327

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JOIN US FOR WEEKLY BONUS EPISODES ON PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/swiftologist MANY years before All Too Well (10 Minute Version)  broke the internet, Taylor Swift spent three months dating Jake Gyllenhaal...and upon reflection, we'd argue it's the single most important relationship of her career, creatively.  We rebuild the 2010 timeline: the sudden PDA, the tabloid ambush, the age-gap commentary, and the decade it took for the fallout to turn into a ten-minute song. There are also many TERRIFYING paralels to another intense 3 month situationship...so, if you've ever wondered how a short-lived 2010 romance became the emotional backbone of an entire album, the bone collectors are here with every receipt.

Jack and Rhian are joined by Moe Ari Brown, Hinge’s Love and Connection Expert to dive into queer dating and Hinge’s 2026 LGBTQ+ DATE Report. Drawing on surveys with over 31,000 LGBTQ+ daters globally, we unpack everything from clarity-building chemistry to the unique pressures queer people face navigating modern dating without traditional relationship blueprints. Moe goes into detail on must-haves for queer relationships, the shift away from rigid timelines, safety concerns around PDA, and practical advice for ending connections with care rather than ghosting. Chapters 02:17 – Unlearning hookup app habits 04:17 – How clarity transforms the dating experience 11:54 – Queer relationships beyond rigid heterosexual timelines 15:03 – Why everyone worries if their date likes them 18:17 – Top non-negotiables for LGBTQ+ daters 20:11 – Why queer daters prioritise values over finances 22:43 – Freedom and exhaustion of lacking relationship blueprints 27:13 – Navigating non-monogamy without existing models or blueprints 31:06 – Why queer daters want actions over words 34:47 – Social media’s impact on queer PDA anxiety 38:05 – Low-stakes gestures to build warmth on dates 42:12 – Distinguishing genuine affection from love bombing behaviour 45:30 – Sentence starters for pace and communication check-ins 48:37 – Origins and evolution of Hinge’s LGBTQ+ reports 52:06 – Breaking the ghosting cycle with honest closure 52:56 – Better texting habits and ending connections gracefully 54:25 – Conversation starters for alignment and pace discussions 56:39 – The single most actionable dating takeaway revealed All chapter timecodes are approximate. Want more Well Well Well? Check out our other JOY Podcasts for more on LGBTIQ+ health and wellbeing at joy.org.au/wellwellwell. If there's something you'd like us to explore on the show, send through ideas or questions at wellwellwell@joy.org.au Find out more about LGBTIQ+ services and events in Victoria and South Australia at thorneharbour.org. Produced by: Jack Crnjanin & Rhian Graco-Ilves

Gary With The Tea opens this hour with a media mogul's relationship that's lasted four decades without a wedding ring, and a reality TV star who may be staging a comeback after a controversial exit from her show. Then a hip-hop mogul and his girlfriend are making headlines for their very public PDA — but it's what happened between them months ago that makes this story so interesting. Then it's Wellness Wednesday with Dr. MJ Collier, and this hour gets real. A new executive order from the White House is shaking up childhood vaccine policy in ways that could affect every parent and grandparent listening — and Dr. Collier breaks down exactly what's changing, which vaccines are being reclassified, and why insurance coverage could disappear for some shots. Listeners call in with health questions that range from a shocking digestive issue to a torn-up knee, and one caller asks a question about intimacy after a medical procedure that has the whole studio cracking up. Dr. Collier also shares a supplement tip for liver health that one of his patients swears by.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There is a lot of noise in the PDA space right now, and some of it is making parents doubt themselves and feel more confused rather than less. So I am re-airing this episode from May 2025 because I think it will help you feel more confident in the path you are on.In this episode I share a story from a feeding support group that crystallized for me why PDA is a distinct experience, not one that can be folded into autism, ADHD, or anxiety strategies without losing something critical. I walk through two examples of content I have seen in the PDA space that would have sent me spiraling five years ago, and I close with a Buddhist concept called the near neighbor enemy that gave me the strength to say something I know is controversial.Key Takeaways The Support Group Story and What It Clarified | 00:01:39 Shortly after moving to Michigan, my husband and I organized a babysitter and drove to a support group for families of Autistic children with feeding challenges. All the other children played in another room with their special interests. One non-speaking child sat calmly with a car magazine. Others played with trains and Legos while their parents talked. I wept on the way home, because I knew with certainty there was no version of that scenario that was possible for my son. He could not have gotten in the car. If he had come, he would have needed undivided attention the entire time and any lapse would have produced a meltdown or destruction of the other children's things. The behavioral feeding therapy that had worked beautifully for these families would have produced panic attacks for mine. PDA Becoming Trendy and What That Is Costing Families | 00:10:56 As PDA awareness has grown, I have noticed content that lumps PDA strategies in with ADHD or Autism approaches and presents them as interchangeable. Two examples I have seen recently: correcting behavior an hour after a meltdown once a child is regulated, and movement breaks every few minutes to help complete homework. Both of these may work beautifully for ADHD children. But for a PDA child who is still well past their threshold of tolerance, going back an hour later to discuss the behavior will most likely push them straight back into activation. A parent trying either of these strategies with a PDA child and seeing them fail is likely to conclude they are doing it wrong, when the issue is not implementation but neurotype fit. PDA Is Not an Anxiety-Driven Need for Control | 00:16:36 When PDA gets folded into the anxiety frame, it leads to recommendations about building frustration tolerance and increasing exposure. That is often exactly the right approach for anxious children. I have panic disorder myself and have worked hard on my own exposure and frustration tolerance. But PDA is not anxiety. It is a survival drive for autonomy rooted in the way the nervous system perceives safety and threat, and it can disable access to basic needs in a way that anxiety alone typically does not. Treating them as equivalent leads families toward strategies that do not fit and away from the ones that do. The Near Neighbor Enemy: Why Sameness Undermines Compassion | 00:18:14 A concept from Buddhist practice helped me find the courage to say something I knew was controversial. A near neighbor enemy is something that resembles a value but undermines it. The near neighbor of love is control. The near neighbor of fierce compassion is sameness, the idea that calling different things the same is itself a form of compassion. When we call PDA the same as Autism, ADHD, or anxiety in the name of inclusion, we erase the specific logic, the lived experience, and the sense of belonging that PDA families need and deserve. Difference is not division. It is precision. Why This Distinction Has Brought Peace to Thousands of Families | 00:19:31 The premise of my work is that PDA is a distinct neurotype with its own nervous system logic and its own approach to accommodation. That premise, not a technique or a strategy, is what has shifted things for my family and for the thousands of families I have worked with. When a parent finally has the right logic for their child's brain, they stop blaming themselves for strategies that were never going to work. They stop doubting their observations. And they start making decisions that actually fit the situation they are in.Relevant Resources Understanding PDA — Free class where I teach the nervous system disability framework and the unique logic of the PDA nervous system that distinguishes it from autism, ADHD, and anxiety.Burnout — Free class with context for the burnout period I describe, and why strategies designed for other neurotypes can deepen rather than relieve burnout in PDA children.Paradigm Shift Program — My signature program where the distinct logic of the PDA nervous system is practiced as an embodied skill across twelve weeks, with live coaching and a community of families who share the same experience.

In Part 3 of our deep dive with Nick, Dr Shae continues the conversation about the realities of parenting neurodivergent children while navigating your own neurodivergent traits. Nick reflects on how neurodivergence often becomes more visible within families as children are diagnosed and parents begin to recognise similar characteristics in themselves. Although he has not received a formal diagnosis, he shares his journey of understanding how his brain works, identifying his triggers, and developing strategies that support both himself and his family. Together, Dr Shae and Nick discuss the lessons he's learned through podcast interviews, practical organisational tools such as using a physical diary, and the ongoing challenge of staying regulated and choosing supportive language during difficult moments. Nick also speaks openly about parenting a son with a PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance/Pervasive Drive for Autonomy) autism profile, sharing insights into the strong need for autonomy that can shape behaviour and family dynamics. The conversation explores bedtime challenges, including recent sleepwalking experiences, and the importance of flexibility, understanding, and self-compassion in family life. Throughout the episode, Nick offers an honest perspective on the ups and downs of parenting and the value of giving yourself permission to not have all the answers. This episode is a reassuring reminder that many parents are navigating similar challenges. Understanding yourself is often an important step towards supporting your children, and self-care is not a luxury but a necessity. Key Takeaways Neurodivergence is often recognised across multiple generations within families. Understanding your own brain can help you better support your children. Small practical strategies can make a meaningful difference in everyday life. Parenting neurodivergent children requires flexibility, patience, and self-awareness. PDA profiles are often linked to a strong need for autonomy and control. Parents need to prioritise their own wellbeing and mental health. Giving yourself grace is an important part of the parenting journey. About Dear Dyslexic Podcast The Dear Dyslexic Podcast amplifies the voices, experiences and expertise of people from the dyslexia and broader neurodivergent communities, creating conversations that inform, empower and inspire. Learn more about re:think dyslexia: https://rethinkdyslexia.com.au/ Stay Connected Thanks for listening to Dr Shae and the Dear Dyslexic Podcast, proudly produced by re:think dyslexia, a certified social enterprise. To stay up to date with our latest episodes, resources and events, follow us on Facebook, LinkedIn and Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, rate and review the podcast on your favourite podcast platform. Listen to more Dear Dyslexic Podcast episodes: https://open.spotify.com/show/0jx91no... Need Support? If any of the topics discussed in this episode have caused distress, support is available: Lifeline: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 13YARN: 13 92 76 re:think dyslexia Helpline: 1800 13 6327

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C&R talk Dodgers losing streak, & new Yankee! The topic is "seizing the moment!" They take calls from across the country! Are PCA & Ohtani neck & neck for MVP, or is it Shohei by an arm? They talk Justin Herbert's PDA & welcome in 'MIKE WHO RUNS THIS TAKE!' Plus, 'MID WEAK MAJOR,' & they're ready for NFL preseason!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Covino & rich touch on Justin Herbert's PDA! They welcome in 'MIKE WHO RUNS THIS TAKE!' Plus, 'MID WEAK MAJOR,' & they're ready for NFL preseason!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In hour 2 of The Drive, Zach and Phil continue to take a deep dive into the Broncos and their time out at training camp today. Zach shares about Riley Moss and how well he's looked at practice the past two weeks. Is Moss in store for a contract extension at some point this season? The guys squash any idea of Jahdae Barron competing with Moss for the second cornerback position. Is JaQuan McMillian also in store for a contract extension? Today's "Three Count" includes Will Lutz putting on a show for the fans while kicking field goals today at practice, Justin Herbert going viral for showing some PDA with his fiancée on the football field after practice, and Akron running a promotion in which a fan will script the team's opening drive. We preview tonight's Hall of Fame game as NFL football returns for the first time since the Super Bowl. 

Jack Fritz celebrates Spike Eskin's upcoming 50th birthday and discusses his own fitness routine and weekend plans. They analyze Justin Herbert's awkward PDA at Chargers practice and announce Joe Giglio's new book about Philadelphia sports history.

Looking for further guidance and support on⁠⁠ ADHD Women's Wellbeing⁠⁠? Check out my resource library ⁠⁠here⁠⁠ or search for any topic on the ⁠⁠Podcast here⁠⁠. If you've ever lost your patience with your child and then felt terrible about it, or wondered why what works for every other family just doesn't seem to work for yours, this ADHD parenting compilation episode is for you. Today's episode is all about parenting in neurodiverse families and the real day-to-day of parenting neurodivergent children when you're often navigating your own ADHD at the same time. We hear from four guests across four different conversations, each bringing something distinct. Jessie Hewitson on what PDA actually is and how low-demand parenting can change everything. Dr Casey Ehrlich on why meltdowns are a nervous system response, not a discipline problem, and what it looks and feels like to go through the paradigm shift every PDA parent has to make. Kristen Pressner on giving up the search for a scaled solution and learning to become a brain friend instead. And Dr Tamara Rosier on the window of tolerance, why ADHD people have a narrower one, and what we can do about it in the moment. None of this is about perfection. It's about understanding, acceptance, compassion, and choosing options that feel more aligned with your family, without judgement. In this episode, we cover: What pathological demand avoidance (PDA) is, how it shows up and why it's so often misunderstood Why low demand parenting is not about giving in, but about lowering anxiety and keeping connection How meltdowns are a threat response in the nervous system, not a sign of bad parenting or a bad child The paradigm shift: moving from trying to fix your child to understanding how their brain actually works Why interest, not importance, motivates the ADHD brain and what that means for family life Kristen Pressner's concept of being a brain friend, and how a judgment-free household helps everyone thrive What the window of tolerance is and why ADHD narrows it The difference between hyper and hypo arousal and simple tools to move between states Dr Tamara Rosier's pool metaphor for understanding big emotions in neurodiverse families Why co-regulation starts with you, and how managing your own nervous system first makes everything easier Timestamps: 00:00 - Welcome and introduction to this week's compilation 03:27 - Jessie Hewitson: what is PDA and how does it show up 05:12 - Why PDA is inconsistent and so hard to explain to schools and relatives 07:15 - Kate on recognising PDA traits in her own children 08:07 - Low demand parenting and why the hierarchy has to shift 11:27 - Dr Casey Ehrlich: moving out of fixing mode and into acceptance 13:47 - Why a meltdown is a threat response, not a lack of skills 16:52 - The new baseline: treating dysregulation like a panic attack, not a behaviour problem 18:30 - Casey's own journey to a paradigm shift through Buddhism and radical acceptance 22:10 - Kristen Pressner: why there is no scaled solution in a neurodiverse family 24:00 - Interest versus importance: how the ADHD brain actually gets motivated 28:00 - How Kristen's family members responded to their diagnoses 31:15 - The brain friend concept and creating a judgment free household 39:21 - Dr Tamara Rosier: what the window of tolerance is 41:10 - Hyper versus hypo arousal and how ADHD narrows the window 44:05 - How Kate's window shrinks across a busy day and what she does about it 45:24 - Practical tools for widening the window and staying regulated 49:05 - Co-regulation and why the pool metaphor helps families understand big emotions Links and Resources: Find my popular ADHD Women's Wellbeing workshops and resources on my website ⁠⁠here⁠⁠. Follow the podcast on Instagram: ⁠⁠@adhd_womenswellbeing_pod⁠⁠ Get my book, The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit (also available in ebook and audiobook) ⁠⁠here⁠⁠ Join the More Yourself membership community ⁠⁠here⁠⁠ Get Jessie Hewitson's book: ⁠ADHD: How to Raise a Happy Child with ADHD⁠ Connect with Jessie Hewitson on ⁠Instagram⁠ Visit Dr Casey Ehrlich's website: ⁠atpeaceparents.com⁠ Connect with Dr Casey Ehrlich on ⁠Instagram⁠ Learn more about Kristen Pressner and watch her TEDx talk: ⁠kristenpressner.com⁠ Visit Dr Tamara Rosier's website: ⁠tamararosier.com⁠ Connect with Dr Tamara Rosier on ⁠Instagram⁠ Kate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach, podcast host, author and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed women with ADHD find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity, and clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is A Fan Favorite Rerun Episode What ADHD teens actually need from their parents can feel confusing, exhausting, and emotional—and if you've ever wondered whether you're getting it “right,” this episode will bring relief. I sat down with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, a pediatric psychologist, parent coach, and author of Love the Teen You Have, for a deeply validating and practical conversation about parenting teens with ADHD. You'll walk away feeling supported, encouraged, and equipped with tools you can use right away.We explore why she wrote her book, the real meaning behind its title, and the myths that leave so many parents feeling defeated. We dig into how to stay connected when your teen is pushing boundaries, why unconditional love changes everything, and what it truly looks like to support ADHD teens with executive function, emotional regulation, and respect. We also get honest about step-parenting, hormone changes, and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with the teen years. Dr. Lockhart offers practical scripts, mindset shifts, and strategies to help you navigate tough moments with confidence and compassion.Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart is a pediatric psychologist, parent coach, and author who has been featured in The New York Times, Parents, HuffPost, and The Today Show. After feeling disconnected from her own mom as a teen, she wrote her book to help parents build the closeness she once wished for. Love the Teen You Have is available now.Episode Highlights:[0:35] Introducing Dr. Lockhart + her book[2:19] Why she wrote it + radical acceptance[3:45] Parenting vs. loving the child you have[6:14] Unconditional acceptance as transformation[7:37] The myth that “good parenting = good results”[10:11] Rejection sensitivity + separating facts from stories[13:35] ADHD catastrophizing vs. teen behavior[16:24] PDA vs. ODD[18:11] Teens seeking connection through conflict[21:06] Gentle parenting vs. permissive parenting[23:05] The “redo” + modeling regulation[25:39] Repairing after rupture[28:32] Hormones, puberty, and emotional upheaval [34:30] What ADHD adults need to know about teen brains[36:43] Can you be a friend and a parent?[39:25] Step-parenting + connection first[42:09] What schools need to understand[44:24] Where to find Dr. LockhartLinks and Resources:

Seven years ago I created a huge spreadsheet trying to find the cause of my son's meltdowns. How many hours outside, how many minutes on screens, how many calories eaten, and much much more. But I couldn't find a consistent pattern. Something that triggered him one day might be barely noticed another. The problem was, my logic was wrong.In this episode, an excerpt from our free Understanding PDA Masterclass, I explain why the standard ABC framework of antecedent, behavior, consequence fails for PDA children and introduce the cumulative nervous system activation model: how drops build in the bucket over weeks, months, and years toward a tipping point, and why what you do this week may determine whether your child can brush their teeth three weeks from now.Key TakeawaysWhy the Spreadsheet Did Not Work | 00:00:00 When my son went into burnout, I tracked everything: screen time, calories, sleep, fresh air, meltdown frequency. I was looking for the antecedent - the thing that happened right before the blowup - that would tell me the cause. What I now know is the reason the spreadsheet could not find the pattern is that the logic of the PDA nervous system is not event-based. It is cumulative. The antecedent is not the primary cause. It is the tipping point.The ABC Framework and Why It Does Not Apply to PDA | 00:01:45 The ABC framework - antecedent, behavior, consequence - is the foundation of most behavioral approaches in schools, therapy, and parenting. For some neurodivergent children it can be useful: the fluorescent lights went on, the meltdown followed, the consequence was leaving the room. For PDA children, the same surface-level event can produce completely different responses on different days, because the behavior is not caused by that event in isolation. It is caused by the cumulative level of nervous system activation that has been building in the system toward a threshold of tolerance over days, weeks, months, and in some cases years.TDrops in the Bucket Toward a Threshold | 00:03:19 I use a glass of water to illustrate the threshold of tolerance: the point at which cumulative nervous system activation tips past the window and begins to disable basic needs. Every subconsciously perceived loss of autonomy or equality is a drop. With a PDA child, we may have fifteen drops before we have even finished breakfast. Those drops build continuously, which is why burnout can feel sudden, especially for internalized PDA teens who masked successfully for years before suddenly being unable to leave their room. My son's escalation into burnout felt like an autistic regression because it was so rapid, but looking back, the drops had been building in the system for years without anyone seeing it.Why Behavior Fluctuates and Why That Makes It Hard to Trust the Disability Framework | 00:09:40 A PDA child may be able to brush their teeth at the beginning of the week but not by Friday. My older son's test scores drop between the start of the school year and the end, not because he has lost the skill or knowledge but because cumulative activation has made it harder to access. When things fluctuate like this, parents can doubt whether what they are seeing is really a disability, because the inconsistency does not match how we think disabilities look. This fluctuation is actually a feature of the cumulative model: accommodation brings activation down, and the child moves away from their threshold. Activation builds it back up.Two Out of Three Is Enough | 00:12:58 You do not have to accommodate perfectly for this model to work. Every accommodation removes a drop from the bucket. Every activation adds one. If your co-parent is not yet on board, your accommodations are still helping, just more slowly. If your child is in a school that is adding drops while you remove them at home, progress will be slower but not impossible. The practical implication is that what you do this week, this month, in the next three weeks, is directly connected to what you will see in basic needs access, nervous system reactivity, and connection and engagement a month from now.Relevant ResourcesUnderstanding PDA — The free masterclass from which this episode is excerpted, covering the full nervous system disability framework including the cumulative activation model and threshold of tolerance described here.Burnout — Free class with context for the burnout threshold I describe, including why escalation into burnout can feel sudden even when the activation has been building for years.Tracking Progress — Free class on how to track the three dimensions that reflect cumulative nervous system activation over time: nervous system reactivity, basic needs access, and connection and engagement.Paradigm Shift Program — My signature program where the cumulative activation model is applied practically, with live coaching to help parents identify where drops are being added and removed in their specific family system

The one who melts down at the smallest request, who seems to dig in the moment you say "do this."...you know this child.  In this episode I sit down with Casey Ehrlich, PhD — social scientist, founder of At Peace Parents, and a leader in the first peer-reviewed PDA research in the United States — to talk about PDA: what it is, why it's a nervous system response rather than defiance, and what actually helps. PDA isn't defiance. It's a survival-level drive for autonomy — and once you see that, you respond to the child in front of you completely differently. PDA most often stands for pathological demand avoidance, but many autistic people prefer pervasive (or persistent) drive for autonomy — because autonomy is right at the root of what activates the nervous system. Casey defines it as a survival drive for autonomy and equality that can override other survival instincts like eating, sleeping, toileting, and even safety. We talk through what PDA actually looks like in young children, why behavior that reads as oppositional or manipulative is so often a nervous-system response, and the practical, compassionate shifts that help a dysregulated child feel safe again — in the classroom and at home. We'll talk about: ●  what PDA stands for — and why many autistic people prefer "pervasive drive for autonomy" ●  why demand avoidance is a nervous system response, not manipulation or defiance ●  the five characteristics Casey looks for, including equalizing behavior ●  why we flip the order for PDA kids: nervous system and autonomy first ●  the difference between independence and autonomy ●  real strategies: signals of safety, declarative language, and rhythms over routines In This Episode, You'll Learn •  What PDA is, and why "pervasive or persistent drive for autonomy" may describe it better •  How a survival drive for autonomy can override eating, sleeping, toileting, and safety •  Why "equalizing behavior" can look oppositional but is actually a nervous-system response •  How to read the early signals that a child is moving toward fight-or-flight •  Why reducing spoken language and using declarative language lowers perceived demands •  How to send signals of safety with your face, tone, and body — and why getting low matters •  What the "four S's" — safe nervous system, screens, sensory/novelty, special interest — reveal about regulation •  Why repair and felt safety, not teaching, are the moves in the hard moment Key Takeaways •  PDA is a nervous system response, not defiance or manipulation •  Autonomy is at the root — a perceived loss of autonomy activates the survival brain •  For PDA kids, think nervous system and autonomy first, then sensory, executive function, and communication •  Independence is doing a task alone; autonomy is having a genuine say in what happens •  Signals of safety often matter more than words •  Declarative language lowers the demand a child perceives •  Think rhythms, not rigid routines — even a chosen routine can start to feel like lost autonomy •  Compassion over compliance — always Try This •  Pause and ask whether a behavior might be a nervous-system response to a perceived demand •  Lower the demand: swap questions and directions for declarative, observational statements •  Get low to the child's level and soften your face, tone, and pace •  Offer real autonomy — a genuine say, not just a choice between two adult-chosen options •  Reduce spoken language during escalation and wait for the child to re-engage •  Build in rhythms instead of rigid routines •  In the hard moment, focus on repair and felt safety, not on teaching the lesson Related Resources & Links

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We are back with part three of our series on neurodivergence, and this time we are getting into the real, lived, messy parts of parenting a neurodivergent child. We answer listener questions about food rejection, power struggles, hiding or dumping supplements, and how to stay out of a fear mindset as a parent. We talk about the difference between PDA and ADHD in how a child experiences pressure, why relationship has to come before food, why saying no can actually be a sign of progress, and why every child and every stage requires a different approach. This one is honest about our own mistakes along the way too. Subscribe for new episodes every week. Find us at rewildrenew.com. Click here to learn about our "A Powerful You" program and join the interest list. When you join the list you get access to a beautiful guided meditations and the first to know when doors open Click here to join our newsletter list. To learn more about Amie, Eileen and ReWild ReNew, visit www.ReWildReNew.com _______________ DISCLAIMER: This podcast and all related content published or distributed by or on behalf of ReWild ReNew, Amie Jones, and Eileen Crispell is for informational purposes only and may include information that is general in nature and that is not specific to you. Any information or opinions provided by guest experts or hosts featured within the website or on ReWild ReNew's Podcast are their own; not those of Amie Jones or Eileen Crispell or ReWild ReNew. Accordingly, Amie Jones, Eileen Crispell and ReWild ReNew cannot be responsible for any results or consequences or actions you may take based on such information or opinions. This podcast is presented for exploratory purposes only. Published content is not intended to be used for preventing, diagnosing, or treating any specific illnesses or conditions. If you have, or suspect you may have, a health-care, emotional, or spiritual emergency, please contact a qualified professional for support and treatment.

702.Are you raising a child with neuro-differences? As I delve deeper into working with parents whose children meet criteria for the PDA diagnostic label, I'm learning more and more about neurodiversity—and why it's so important to not only support but affirm a person's neurodiversity. Are you raising a child with neuro-differences? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor offers some ways to be a more neurodiversity-affirming parent.Further listening: What to do if your child has an extreme need for control and autonomyProject Parenthood is hosted by Dr. Nanika Coor. Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Find transcripts on the Quick and Dirty Tips WebsiteLinks: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When autonomy is low, meaning has to be high. That is what I learned during the two years I spent as a full-time caregiver for my older son, isolated in our home, and putting myself physically between him and his eighteen-month-old brother when things got bad. In this episode I share how I found a sustaining "why" during that period, and how other families I have worked with have found theirs. I also introduce a practical tool I call the "hang your hat on the day" goal: a way of redirecting from goals that depend on another person's behavior to goals that are entirely within your own control, so that you can give yourself genuine credit for what you are doing every single day.Key Takeaways When Autonomy Is Low, Meaning Has to Be High | 00:00:00 Parenting a PDA child or teen introduces an almost constant rock-and-a-hard-place dynamic: every choice has a cost, and there is no option that gives you genuine autonomy without a trade-off. When you want to go to the gym, there is a cost when you come back. When your partner takes over for a few hours, there is a cost to their energy level. That sustained low autonomy is depleting in a way most people around us will never understand, and what I have found, from my own experience and across the families I work with, is that meaning is the variable that makes it sustainable. We need a "why" that gets us through the day. How I Found My "Why" in the Basement | 00:01:46 I was in the basement of our home in Michigan, putting myself between my older and younger sons when things got violent, feeling my own violent rage moving through me that I want to name as normal rather than shameful. My older son needed constant undivided attention and dopamine or he would go after his brother, and I was isolated, sensory overwhelmed, and out of resources. I had been reading Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning and had a seed planted about the idea that a clear why makes almost anything endurable. In that moment in the basement I realized: my entire doctorate had been on nonviolence and grassroots peace building and there I was, finally practicing it. Not theoretically. In my own basement. That was enough meaning to sustain me through that period. What Other Families Have Found as Their Why | 00:06:27 The meaning does not have to be mine. Across the thousands of families I have worked with, the sustaining whys have included: healing intergenerational trauma, becoming the parent they wished they had, practicing becoming a less judgmental person, learning non-reactivity as a skill, learning about disability and neurodiversity in a way that changes how they move through the world, and healing themselves through the relationship with their child. None of these are about outcomes for the child. They are about what the parent is becoming through the practice of showing up, which is the only part any of us actually controls. Why Goals That Depend on Your Child Will Undermine You | 00:08:29 One of the most consistent patterns I see across the families I work with, and in myself, is attaching goals to things another person has to do: my child will go back to school in the fall, my child will be independent by this age, my partner will come on board if I explain it clearly enough. When these goals drive our sense of progress, we are setting ourselves up for a particular kind of suffering, because we have no control over another person's nervous system or choices. The shift I ask parents to make is not to stop wanting those things. It is to stop basing today's measure of success on whether they happened. The Hang Your Hat on the Day Goal | 00:10:06 This is the practical tool that helped me through the most acute period of caregiving and that I return to now in harder seasons. The hang your hat goal is the one thing within your own control that you can point to at the end of a day and say: I did that. Some days it is "I showed up more regulated than I would have a year ago." Some days it is "I stayed in the PDA lens for most of the day even though I fell back into the old pattern at bedtime." Some days it is "I brushed my teeth, I ate enough to stay alive, and I did not scream at my kids." All of these count. None of them depend on what your child did. And giving yourself genuine credit for what you did, even when no one else can see it, is one of the most sustainable things you can do for your own nervous system over the long term. Relevant Resources Finding Meaning — Free class where I go deeper into the meaning-making framework described in this episode, including how to identify a sustaining why that is true for your specific life and journey.Burnout — Free class with context for the burnout period I describe, including the two years of intensive caregiving that led me to Viktor Frankl and the hang your hat goal.Paradigm Shift Program — My signature program where meaning-making, the hang your hat goal, and the full accommodation framework are practiced together across twelve weeks with live coaching and a community of families in the same season.Mentioned in this episode:July Try Before You Buy Special Offer!For a whole month you can trial all the pre-recorded parts of our proven effective coaching program - including over 500 private podcast episodes - for just $49. This special offer ends July 31. Use the link below to learn more.Try Before You Buy

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The office is not always the most supportive place to work. In Part 1 of this Deep Dive series, host Dr Shae speaks with Nick Nagzam about his work and his podcast, The Inclusive Shift, and his journey into advocating for neurodiversity inclusion at work after his two sons were diagnosed (autism with a PDA profile and ADHD, and ADHD). Nick shares how he founded a neurodiversity resource group at his workplace, partners with the DEI team to promote awareness days and fundraising events, and aims to help employees feel safer being themselves. They discuss workplace stigma and misunderstanding, the benefits and challenges of working from home for neurodivergent people, and the importance of individualized support and outcomes-based leadership. They also note concerns about organizations pushing employees back into offices and the mistrust mindset of “if I can't see you, you're not working.” 00:00 Welcome to Dear Dyslexic 00:38 Meet Nick Nagzam 01:37 Nick's Neurodiversity Journey 03:06 Workplace Awareness Calendar 04:40 Stigma and Support Gaps 05:35 Remote Work Realities 09:20 Flexibility for Individuals 11:06 Breaking the Nine to Five Box 12:22 Future of Work Generations 14:11 Wrap Up and Resources About Dear Dyslexic Podcast The Dear Dyslexic Podcast amplifies the voices, experiences and expertise of people from the dyslexia and broader neurodivergent communities, creating conversations that inform, empower and inspire. Learn more about re:think dyslexia: https://rethinkdyslexia.com.au/ Stay Connected Thanks for listening to Dr Shae and the Dear Dyslexic Podcast, proudly produced by re:think dyslexia, a certified social enterprise. To stay up to date with our latest episodes, resources and events, follow us on Facebook, LinkedIn and Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, rate and review the podcast on your favourite podcast platform. Listen to more Dear Dyslexic Podcast episodes: https://open.spotify.com/show/0jx91no... Need Support? If any of the topics discussed in this episode have caused distress, support is available: Lifeline: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 13YARN: 13 92 76 re:think dyslexia Helpline: 1800 13 6327

Erin Lamb has been a speech language pathologist for 26 years. She runs a Baltimore nonprofit with its own school for autistic kids. She has a Ph.D. She still missed her own daughter's autism. Why does autism get missed in girls? Most of the foundational autism research was done on boys. As Erin puts it, everything she knew about autism she learned from boys in the 90s, because that's what the research was done on. That research shaped the training, and the training shaped what people picture when they hear the word autism. Girls who talk early, who mask well, or whose struggles get read as anxiety often reach their teens before anyone says it out loud. This is a Seen and Heard episode, so Erin gets the floor. She walks Rob through what a day actually looks like in a house with a kid in autistic burnout, with a PDA profile and ARFID, where separation anxiety is the most clinically significant thing in the room. She's honest about what it costs her. "People are like, what are you doing this weekend? And my answer is always caregiving. Because I do not know. I cannot plan." Then she tells us what changed. She calls it outsourcing the panic. If the school professional isn't panicking, why is she? She handed the worry to the people whose job it is to worry, and her daughter started coming back to her within weeks. She also gives the best description of an autistic kid this show has had. In the wrong environment it's like parenting all the kids from Willy Wonka at once. In the right one, with the right accommodations and supports, her kid is Charlie. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR Why a speech language pathologist with 26 years of practice missed autism in her own daughter What a day really looks like with a kid in autistic burnout, a PDA profile, and ARFID What outsourcing the panic means, and how she started doing it Who her daughter actually is: the Lorax, Willy Wonka, and Charlie What she wishes the outside world, and the autism community, understood TERMS FROM THIS EPISODE Autism in girls: autism is underdiagnosed in girls largely because the foundational research was conducted on boys, so the diagnostic picture most clinicians trained on describes boys. Girls who mask well or present as anxious are routinely missed. PDA, pathological demand avoidance: a profile in which an autistic person's nervous system treats demands as threats, even small or pleasant ones. Approaches that add pressure usually make it worse. ARFID, avoidant restrictive food intake disorder: more than picky eating. A child avoids whole categories of food by texture, smell, or fear, to the point that nutrition and growth are affected. Autistic burnout: exhaustion and loss of previously held skills following a long stretch of masking, sensory overload, and unmet needs. Recovery takes fewer demands and real rest, not more pushing. Outsourcing the panic: Erin's strategy of handing specific worries to the professionals whose job it is to hold them, instead of carrying every worry herself. ABOUT ERIN LAMB Erin Lamb is the President and CEO of Gateway Maryland, the Baltimore nonprofit formerly known as HASA, which has served Maryland families for nearly 100 years. She's a licensed speech language pathologist, holds a Ph.D. in public policy, and is the mom of two neurodivergent teenage daughters. SPONSOR This episode is sponsored by Mightier, a biofeedback emotional-regulation gaming program for kids, developed and tested at Boston Children's Hospital. Kids wear a heart-rate monitor and play games that get harder when they get dysregulated and easier as they calm down, so they practice regulating themselves in the moment. Read Rob's full review at theautismdad.com/mightier-review and use code theautismdad22 for 10% off. #ad RESOURCES Gateway Maryland: gatewaymaryland.org Rob's full Mightier review: theautismdad.com/mightier-review More Seen and Heard episodes: listen.theautismdad.com Find Rob at theautismdad.com, and on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube at The Autism Dad.

What does shame have to do with PDA? And why do behavioral approaches fail so consistently for this neurotype even when implemented well? I speak with Dr. Gillian Boudreau, a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in autism, ADHD, and anxiety across children, families, and adults, to explore the roles of shame and power in PDA children and teens.Dr. Boudreau draws on her early career supporting high-need autistic students in a school system, her psychodynamic training, and her work with families to explain why these children frustrate adults, why that frustration is data, and what it looks like to help parents construct a resilient narrative from a place of compassion rather than blame.Key Takeaways What the Adults Around PDA Children Are Feeling and Why It Matters | 00:12:00 In her second year supporting high-need students in a school system, Dr. Boudreau shifted from behavioral interventions to asking the adults on the team a different question: what is this child bringing up in you? The answers were consistent: I feel like I don't know what I'm doing, I feel powerless, I feel like I'm going to lose control. Through a psychodynamic lens, clients often make helpers feel the very way they feel inside and cannot express. When the adults named their own feelings of shame and powerlessness, and the team began offering children more autonomy and genuine collaboration before demanding compliance, the big behaviors began to shift in ways that star charts had not produced. Shame Is at the Root on Both Sides | 00:52:00 PDA children often carry years of cumulative shame - due to numerous factors - and w hen a child in that much pain escalates, adults respond from their own activated shame response. This produces a shame-blame cycle that makes everything worse. Hurt People Hurt People | 01:00:00 One of the most common fears parents bring to Dr. Boudreau is whether their child has empathy, whether they are raising someone who will become abusive. Her response is direct: true sociopathy is extraordinarily rare, and PDA nervous systems are characterized by overactive fear and often hyperempathy. She uses an example from my own family to illustrate radical empathy as a clinical stance: if a child locked someone in a basement, the question to ask is not what is wrong with this child, but what level of threat must they have been perceiving in their body to do that? Why PDA Children Cannot Help But Call Out Arbitrary Power Structures | 01:05:39 Dr. Boudreau describes PDA as a nervous system that is exquisitely sensitive to the emotional electricity of agenda and control. From an evolutionary perspective, she suggests that the presence of PDA across the population may serve a function: some nervous systems are wired to detect and resist arbitrary or exploitative power dynamics that others have learned to tolerate. The problem is not the sensitivity. The problem is that schools and many family systems are not built to respond to it without escalating into shame cycles.What Parents Need Most: A Resilient Narrative and Permission to Grieve | 01:15:15 When Dr. Boudreau works with parents of PDA children, she starts by helping them catch their own shame response at the root before it cycles back toward the child. She holds space for grief, including grief for the life and the parenting experience that was expected. She also shares what she knows from seeing many PDA journeys longitudinally: this will likely turn out to be pretty cool at some point. The goal is not to minimize the hardship but to help parents construct a narrative that has room for the full palette of human emotion.Relevant Resources Clear Connection Psychology on Instagram — Dr. Gillian Boudreau's Instagram where she shares content and resources on emotional safety, connection, and supporting all brains and hearts across children, families, and school systems.PDA North America: PDA-Affirming Providers Directory — A directory of PDA-affirming providers maintained by PDA North America, referenced in this episode as a resource for families looking for clinicians who understand the PDA profile.Turning Passive Into Active: A Building Block of Ego and Fundamental Mechanism of Defense — Reference document on the concept Dr. Boudreau introduces in this episode as the psychological term underlying what I call equalizing behavior in PDA children and teens.Understanding PDA — Free class where I teach the nervous system disability framework and the neuroception logic that underlies the shame and power dynamics Dr. Boudreau describes in this episode.Burnout — Free class with context for the burnout period I describe in this episode, including the six months with my younger son and why the shame-blame cycle is most dangerous when a child is deepest in burnout. 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After hearing one TV host declare that French kissing should end after a few years together, we had some serious questions. Do long-term couples still pash, or does it eventually become a thing of the past? Ricki and Tim compared their own relationships, shared very different takes on PDA, and heard from listeners who proved there's no one right way to keep the romance alive.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

00.00: Intro 03.00: Study of happiness after visiting Paris 07.00: Poop shoes 11.25: Top 6 - Things that bird flu is going to ruin 17.30: More prepared for a dinner party than a disaster 22.25: Hayley & Claude 29.20: MAFS update 36.20: When did you weaponise crying? 46.25: Ooshie trading 51.30: Where were you dumped 1.03.05: Fact of the day 1.13.05: Hayley is going around offending people 1.18.55: SLP - Do you like PDA? 1.24.30: How bad was the lie before the date? 1.29.50: Pants break 1.33.40: QLP - Have you seen the Odessy? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Send us Fan MailWhich PDAs actually need treatment? Can maternal voice and scent shape language outcomes? Should we cool at 35 weeks? And did stepping away from probiotics come at a cost? This week's Journal Club takes on five papers that push back on standard practice. Ben reviews the SMART-PDA trial and a comparative study of PDA pharmacotherapy, Daphna covers the MIND trial on multisensory maternal interventions and a Pediatrix database study on NEC after the FDA probiotic warning, and Ben rounds out the main segment with a national look at hypothermia in 35-week infants with HIE. Ben and Eli wrap the week with Neo News on rising vitamin K refusal.Support the showAs always, feel free to send us questions, comments, or suggestions to our email: nicupodcast@gmail.com. You can also contact the show through Instagram or Twitter, @nicupodcast. Or contact Ben and Daphna directly via their Twitter profiles: @drnicu and @doctordaphnamd. The papers discussed in today's episode are listed and timestamped on the webpage linked below.Enjoy!

Brendan Mahan's concept of The Wall of Awful has taken on a life of its own. While originally geared toward ADHD, it's also extremely applicable to other neurodivergent folks including autism, AuDHD, OCD, and PDA.In short, there are a bunch of tough emotions built up over time between you and tasks that are difficult for you (whether or not anyone else believes they are easy). While you may instinctively figure out how to sidestep or smash through the issues, it's not really addressing the deeper problem that still affects you the next time.Brendan's book, The Wall of Awful, comes out Sep 1 2026, and you can learn an overview of the concepts at the YouTube videos listed under #3 belowConnect with Brendan / Mentioned in episode:The Wall of Awful book & resources, and if you're buying on Amazon here's my affiliate linkFriendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults by Caroline Maguire, book, affiliate link2 short vids explaining the Wall of Awful & strategies for going through & over it by Jessica McCabe of How to ADHDAuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We are kicking off a new series on autism, ADHD, OCD, and neurodivergence, and why this conversation matters so much right now. In this episode we introduce a three part approach we keep coming back to: nutrition, environment, and soul, and we talk about why going to war on behavior almost never works, because behavior is communication. We touch on PDA (pathological demand avoidance), low demand parenting, and why creating safety often does more healing than any chart, sticker, or therapy technique ever could. Subscribe for new episodes every week. Find us at rewildrenew.com. Click here to learn about our "A Powerful You" program and join the interest list. When you join the list you get access to a beautiful guided meditations and the first to know when doors open Click here to join our newsletter list. To learn more about Amie, Eileen and ReWild ReNew, visit www.ReWildReNew.com _______________ DISCLAIMER: This podcast and all related content published or distributed by or on behalf of ReWild ReNew, Amie Jones, and Eileen Crispell is for informational purposes only and may include information that is general in nature and that is not specific to you. Any information or opinions provided by guest experts or hosts featured within the website or on ReWild ReNew's Podcast are their own; not those of Amie Jones or Eileen Crispell or ReWild ReNew. Accordingly, Amie Jones, Eileen Crispell and ReWild ReNew cannot be responsible for any results or consequences or actions you may take based on such information or opinions. This podcast is presented for exploratory purposes only. Published content is not intended to be used for preventing, diagnosing, or treating any specific illnesses or conditions. If you have, or suspect you may have, a health-care, emotional, or spiritual emergency, please contact a qualified professional for support and treatment.

If you've lowered demands for your PDA child or teen but still aren't seeing much progress, this episode is for you. It explains one of the most common sticking points I hear from families: that due to the name - Pathological Demand Avoidance - parents focused on lowering demands, when what their child needs more is increased autonomy and equality.This episode is an excerpt from my free Understanding PDA Masterclass. In it I walk through the distinction between demands as a surface-level behavior and autonomy and equality as the root-level mechanism. To help make the difference clear, I describe how in a typical morning autonomy losses often accumulate before a child even gets out the door.Key Takeaways Demands Are the Surface. Autonomy Is the Root | 00:00:00 The name Pathological Demand Avoidance points toward the behavior: avoidance of demands. But if we think about PDA as a pervasive drive for autonomy, we get closer to the actual mechanism. Parents who have lowered demands and are not seeing progress are often still inadvertently signaling a loss of autonomy through expectation, energy, agenda, or position of authority, even when the demand itself has been removed. The surface level behavior is demand avoidance. The root level cause is neuroception of a loss of autonomy or equality. My Younger Son's School Refusal: The Autonomy Mechanism in Real Time | 00:01:33 For two weeks, my younger son could not get his body to go to school. Each evening he would tell me he genuinely wanted to go the next morning, naming specific things he looked forward to. When I asked whether he would like me to prompt him in the morning, he said no, because if you do, then I will not go. That is the PDA mechanism: in his thinking brain, with full autonomy and no external expectation, going to school felt possible. The moment an agenda or a prompt from me entered, his amygdala would register a loss of autonomy, activate the threat response, and make going impossible. A Morning Audit: Fifteen Activations To Start The Day | 00:06:02 I walk through a typical first hour of a day with a PDA child to illustrate how many autonomy and equality losses can accumulate before the family has even left the house. Being woken up by a parent or an alarm is an externally imposed loss of autonomy. Being expected to come downstairs, eat, eat in a particular place, be told what is and is not available for breakfast, clean up the plate, get dressed, put on shoes, pack a backpack, receive a gentle correction after pushing a sibling on the way to the car: each one registers in the amygdala as a threat event. In a loving, gentle household with no intentional pressure, there can be fifteen or more of these activations in forty-five minutes. That cumulative load is what makes PDA disabling, not any single demand. Equality Is as Important as Autonomy | 00:04:50 The equality piece is often underemphasized. It includes any energy of another person being above the PDA child in stature, authority, or position: not getting the most ice cream, not being first down the stairs, not getting the last word, having a parent try and teach them something in the moment of a behavior. Even gentle parenting's recommendation to take the child aside after a dysregulation and debrief produces this perception, because the parent is placing themselves above as the teacher and the explainer. The child is not in the right part of their brain to receive it, and the teaching itself is perceived as another activation.Relevant Resources Understanding PDA — The free masterclass from which this episode is excerpted, covering the six characteristics of PDA including the survival drive for autonomy and equality described here.Burnout — Free class with context for how cumulative autonomy losses build over time to the point of disabling access to basic needs.Paradigm Shift Program — My signature program where the shift from a demand lens to an autonomy and equality lens is practiced as an embodied skill over twelve weeks of live coaching.

Send us Fan MailIn this Journal Club, Ben and Daphna dig into two new papers on PDA management in our smallest patients. First, the SMART-PDA pilot RCT from Souvik Mitra and colleagues, which uses comprehensive hemodynamic screening to selectively treat high-volume shunts in infants born before 26 weeks, and whose striking Bayesian signal for reduced pulmonary hemorrhage and NEC stopped the trial early. Then a companion JAMA Network Open comparative effectiveness study across four pharmacotherapy regimens. Along the way, Ben shares hemodynamics pearls from his Montreal training: why left ventricular output, LA:Ao ratio, and transductal velocity matter more than PDA diameter alone.----Selective early medical treatment of the patent ductus arteriosus in extremely low gestational age infants: a pilot randomised controlled trial (SMART-PDA). Mitra S, Hebert A, Castaldo MP, Disher T, El-Naggar W, Dhillon S, Alhassen Z, Koo J, Katheria AC, Hyderi A, Kumaran K, Ting J, Surak A, Larocque J, Pepper D, Hornberger L, Makoni M, Weisz DE, Jain A, Bacchini F, Cameron-Nola AJJ, Hatfield T, Dorling J, McNamara PJ, Thabane L.Arch Dis Child Fetal Neonatal Ed. 2026 May 18:fetalneonatal-2026-330462. doi: 10.1136/archdischild-2026-330462. Online ahead of print.PMID: 42150872Pharmacologic Therapies for Patent Ductus Arteriosus in Extremely Preterm Infants. Mitra S, Jain A, Ting JY, Ben Fadel N, Drolet C, Abou Mehrem A, Soraisham AS, Jasani B, Louis D, Lapointe A, Dorling J, Khurshid F, Hyderi A, Kumaran K, Toye J, Harabor A, Weisz DE, Stavel M, Morin A, Bhattacharya S, Lalitha R, Afifi J, Augustine S, Castaldo MP, Hatfield T, Su YC, Shah PS; Canadian Neonatal Network Investigators.JAMA Netw Open. 2026 Jun 1;9(6):e2617477. doi: 10.1001/jamanetworkopen.2026.17477.PMID: 42262753 Free PMC article.Support the showAs always, feel free to send us questions, comments, or suggestions to our email: nicupodcast@gmail.com. You can also contact the show through Instagram or Twitter, @nicupodcast. Or contact Ben and Daphna directly via their Twitter profiles: @drnicu and @doctordaphnamd. The papers discussed in today's episode are listed and timestamped on the webpage linked below.Enjoy!

Six months into her tenure at City Hall and Mayor Katie Wilson has a message for Seattle: things are going great, actually. On this episode of Seattle Nice, hosts Erica C Barnett, David Hyde and Sandeep Kaushik dig into Publicola's two-parter with the mayor: a "spicy" interview that covers everything from whether she's the next "sweeps" mayor to whether Chief Shon Barnes keeps his job. Plus, why the council keeps finding out about Wilson's legislation the same way the rest of us do: by reading PubliCola. And what she's doing to fix the tense relationship with the council. Also: a school lunch program got ambushed the same day the mayor bragged about it.World Cup hangover / promise. Seattle's role in the World Cup is over and Sandeep is back to driving his gas-guzzler to work at Pioneer Square, but the vibes (and the Occidental Park jumbotron) haven't fully left. Will Wilson pedestrianize more of downtown for good?The Pioneer Square playbook. Sandeep makes the case that the PDA-led shelter-and-services push that cleared the neighborhood for the World Cup actually worked, and that Wilson wants to replicate it citywide. One catch: there's no money in the budget for it yet.The "Sweeps" Mayor Dilemma: Erica presses Wilson on encampment removals. Wilson's answer boils down to political triage: stop all sweeps and you lose the "political will" to build more shelter. $175 million hole. We discuss the deficit and the looming push for new progressive revenue (capital gains? JumpStart again?), and why Wilson admits there's "no silver bullet."SPD budget in the crosshairs and Chief Barnes stays, for now. Every department's been told to model budget cuts, including police, even as SPD keeps hiring at a pace the city may not be able to afford (starting pay tops $126K after six months). But will they actually cut officers? In the middle of that squeeze, Wilson confirms she's retaining Chief Shon Barnes. The council relationship: still a mess, but improving? Wilson owns some of the dysfunction from the shelter-legislation fight earlier this year, admitting her office was "slow to staff" council relations. There are reportedly efforts now to rebuild those one-on-one relationships, but meetings aren't going great yet.Looking Back: How does Wilson's first six months compare to former Mayor Bruce Harrell?Read the two-part interview in PubliCola:Mayor Katie Wilson at Six Months In: "Incredibly Proud of What We're Accomplishing" (Part 1)Mayor Katie Wilson Says She's "Doing a Reset" on Housing Agenda, "Very Hopeful" About Police Chief (Part 2)If you appreciate the in-depth, behind-the-scenes coverage of Seattle politics, help us keep the lights on. We're a bare-bones operation trying to expand into video, and we can't do it without our listeners. https://www.patreon.com/seattlenice  Send us a text! Note that we can only respond directly to emails realseattlenice@gmail.comThanks to Uncle Ike's pot shop for sponsoring this week's episode! If you want to advertise please contact us at realseattlenice@gmail.comSupport the showYour support on Patreon helps pay for editing, production, live events and the unique, hard-hitting local journalism and commentary you hear weekly on Seattle Nice. 

When an autistic child or teen consistently pushes back against daily expectations, traditional parenting and teaching methods often default to high-pressure enforcement. This pattern routinely triggers escalating defensive behaviors, creating a continuous loop of friction that strains the entire family system. In this encore conversation, Sandra McConnell, an advocate known as the PDA Mama Bear, joins Emily Kircher-Morris to unpack the nuanced framework of pervasive demand avoidance and explore how it reshapes typical social navigation. They talk about ways to shift the focus away from top-down behavior tracking, and why common behaviorist tools like point charts or sudden restrictions fail to foster authentic growth for youth with this cognitive profile. TAKEAWAYS PDA represents a distinct neurodivergent profile rooted in a protective baseline of sensory anxiety and a heightened resistance to coercion. Traditional behavioral adjustments such as top-down discipline, sudden restrictions, and performance rewards lose their utility when applied to youth with deep demand avoidance patterns. Apparent behavioral compliance can hide severe internal masking and exhaustion, which often surfaces later as profound burnout and sudden academic avoidance. Manifestations of demand avoidance often vary between protective escape patterns and a desire to control the immediate household environment. Shifting the caregiver approach from a position of top-down authority to that of an instructional mentor lowers daily pressure and builds authentic family trust. Protecting a child's long-term social and emotional development requires moving away from absolute compliance demands to focus instead on reducing baseline nervous system stress. This week's special CE training for mental health professionals features Dr. Christopher Willard, and is titled, "The New 3 R's: Mindfulness-Based Resilience, Regulation, and Relationships." The training is live online Friday, July 10 from 2:00 to 3:30 pm Eastern, and is approved for 1.5 APA and NBCC continuing education hours. Everyone who registers can earn those credits by watching the event live, or can choose to watch it later. Register here. Sandra McConnell is a blogger, speaker, and trainer on Autistic Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). She conducts webinars, workshops and conferences all across the country to train and inform people about PDA. She has two graduate certificates in Learning Differences & Neurodiversity specializing in Executive Functioning and Autism (Landmark College, 2021); a certification in PDA through the UK-based, OCN-accredited organization Neurodivergent Education Support and Training (NEST, 2020); a master's degree in Forensic Psychophysiology (Argosy University, 2006); and a bachelor's degree in Psychology and Criminology (UNM, 2000).  Sandra lives in Maryland, USA, with her husband, who's ADHD, her 13-year-old son, who's PDA, her 10-year-old son, who's ADHD, and her 6-year-old daughter, who's TBD. BACKGROUND READING Sandra's website The Neurodiversity Podcast is on Facebook, Instagram, BlueSky, and you're invited to join our Facebook Group. For more information go to www.NeurodiversityPodcast.com If you'd like members of your organization, school district, or company to know more about the subjects discussed on our podcast, Emily Kircher-Morris provides keynote addresses, workshops, and training sessions worldwide, in-person or virtually. You can choose from a list of established presentations, or work with Emily to develop a custom talk to fit your unique situation. To learn more, visit our website.

On Jacobin Radio, the team behind the People's Game podcast continue their unique coverage of the 2026 World Cup, analyzing the men's football games on the field as well as the political, social and economic subtexts of the world's most popular sporting event. Guest hosts Alan Minsky and Meleiza Figueroa are joined by Laurent Dubois, a professor of history at the University of Virginia. Laurent has two bodies of work of equal importance to the People's Game: one on the history and culture of the Atlantic world, focusing on the Caribbean, Haiti, North America, and France, the second on fútbol, with a focus on the game in Africa, France, and the African diaspora. Laurent sings the praises of the French national team, who remain the favorites to win the tournament, celebrates a strong showing by Haiti, marvels at the brilliance of African diasporic players on countless teams, and explains why African soccer has developed so spectacularly in recent decades. Then we're joined by Hartzell Gray, a DSA- and PDA-endorsed candidate for Congress and Missouri's 4th District. Until recently, Hartzell was the voice of Kansas City's Major League Soccer team. He shares his thoughts about late capitalism's greatest spectacle coming to his hometown — including the harrowing ICE raids across the Kansas City metropolitan area that coincided with the tournament. Jacobin Radio with Suzi Weissman features conversations with leading thinkers and activists, with a focus on labor, the economy, and protest movements.

This episode is an excerpt from a lesson inside the Paradigm Shift Program. I'm sharing it because the PDA lens is the foundation that all other skills in my work rest on, and it is not something most parents are going to hear explained anywhere else.In this lesson I walk through exactly what the PDA lens is, why it has to be learned as a skill rather than just understood intellectually, and how to begin applying it. I also address the most common thought that comes up when I introduce the concept of deliberately signaling equality: am I training my child to be a bad adult? And why the answer, through the logic of this lens, is no.Key Takeaways The PDA Lens Is a Skill, Not the Only Valid Lens | 00:00:00 The PDA lens is something I think of as a pair of glasses you can put on and take off. It does not invalidate the ADHD lens, the sensory lens, the OCD lens, or the anxiety lens. It teaches a different logic, one that most parents are not going to hear explained anywhere else because every professional encounter tends to frame the root cause through a different paradigm. Every Loss of Autonomy Is a Drop in a Bucket, Invisible Until the Tipping Point | 00:01:31 The PDA lens asks us to look at every behavior, even if it looks manipulative or intentional, and think: my child has been perceiving threat around not having autonomy or being below someone or something, over and over, and every time that happens, a drop goes into the cumulative nervous system activation bucket. Most of those drops are invisible because high masking, the internalization of the threat response rather than the behavioral expression of it, is a feature of PDA. The accumulation builds over days, months and years. By the time most families arrive at my work, the child is either very close to their threshold of tolerance or so far past it that they are existing in a near-constant state of threat. Equalization, Basic Needs, and Why Behavioral Strategies Cannot Work | 00:06:41 When cumulative activation reaches the tipping point, the nervous system tries to exert control and move above in order to get back to felt safety. This is equalizing. And control tends to coalesce around the one or two things a parent genuinely cannot force: eating, toileting, sleep, hygiene. Because this is subconscious, cumulative, and not under their conscious awareness, behavioral strategies do not work. Signaling Equality Without Removing All Boundaries | 00:11:39 The equality signal does not mean there are no limits in the home and the child runs everything. It means thinking creatively about how to deliberately, mindfully, and as an accommodation give a child or teen the felt experience of being above, of going first, of being more skilled in this moment, in order to offset years of subconsciously perceiving that they are below. You Will Know More Than the Professionals You Work With | 00:10:09 This is not a criticism of professionals. It is a reality of where the PDA research and understanding currently sits. Most clinicians, teachers, and therapists have been trained through a behavioral paradigm that assumes behavior is rational, conscious, and changeable through incentives and disincentives. The PDA lens is a fundamentally different paradigm and it is not (yet!) taught in most training programs.Relevant Resources Understanding PDA — Free class where I teach the nervous system disability framework and the root cause logic that the PDA lens described in this episode is built on.Tracking Progress — Free class on how to observe the three outcome dimensions, nervous system activation, basic needs, and engagement, referenced in this episode as the data to watch rather than the behaviors to fix.Paradigm Shift Program — My signature three-month program where the PDA lens introduced in this excerpt is practiced as an embodied skill across twelve weeks of live coaching, spot coaching, and community support.

In this conversation, parenting coach Mary Van Geffen explains why “spicy kids” don't respond to traditional discipline—and what actually helps instead.If your child refuses to listen, melts down over small things, pushes back on everything, or seems emotionally intense all day long, this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the behavior. We talk about emotional regulation, ADHD and PDA traits, shame cycles, demand avoidance, connection vs. control, and why some kids need a completely different parenting approach. This is a grounded, practical conversation for overwhelmed parents who are exhausted by yelling, punishment, and constant conflict—and want calmer, more connected ways to parent without losing authority.What You'll Learn:• Why strong-willed and deeply feeling kids often resist traditional discipline• How shame, punishment, and power struggles make behavior worse• What “connection over control” actually looks like in real life• Practical ways to reduce meltdowns, increase cooperation, and stay calm under pressure• How to parent explosive, sensitive, ADHD, PDA, or demand-avoidant kids without walking on eggshellsThis episode blends developmental psychology, neuroscience, and real-world parenting tools in a way that's actually usable when you're in the middle of hard moments. The focus isn't on “perfect parenting.” It's on understanding behavior more deeply so you can respond with clarity, confidence, and connection—even when your child is intense, reactive, or hard to reach.If you've been second-guessing yourself, wondering why typical parenting advice isn't working, or feeling stuck in daily battles with your toddler or preschooler, this channel is here to help parenting feel lighter, calmer, and more doable—one hard moment at a time.Check out Mary Van Geffen's book: Parenting a Spicy OneSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf parenting has felt hard lately… you don't have to figure it out alone.Inside The Parent Lab, I'll help you understand what's actually going on underneath your child's behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life.You'll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids.If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab.CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab TodayOther Links to help you and me:Get Jon's Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon's Children's Book Set My Feelings FreeFollow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

If you feel stuck in the same daily battles with your child, this episode breaks down the real reason power struggles keep happening—it's not defiance, it's dysregulation loops. Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, expert in Regulation First Parenting™, shows how to calm the brain first.Have you ever felt like you're having the same fight with your child over and over again—no matter what you try? You're not imagining it, and you're definitely not alone.When power struggles keep repeating, it's not just about behavior—it's about a nervous system loop that keeps both parent and child stuck.In this episode discussing the real reason power struggles keep happening, let us break down why escalation happens so fast—and what actually interrupts it so real change can begin.Why does my child keep arguing with me over the same things?If it feels like déjà vu every time you ask your child to do something, there's a reason for that. These repeated arguments aren't random—they're patterned responses between two activated nervous systems.Small triggers escalate quickly (a request → hesitation → pushback → frustration)Both parent and child become more reactive as intensity buildsThe brain shifts from listening mode to survival modeReal-life example: You ask your child to turn off their device. They ignore you. You repeat it. Their resistance grows. Your tone sharpens. Suddenly, you're both arguing—and no one remembers how it started.Behavior is communication—but dysregulation drives the loop.Is my child being defiant or dysregulated?This is one of the most common questions parents ask—and the answer changes everything.What looks like defiance is often a dysregulated nervous system that cannot process the request in the moment.Dysregulated kids cannot access their “thinking brain” during escalationPushback, yelling, or shutting down are stress responses, not disrespectCorrection without regulation often increases resistanceYou're not seeing bad behavior—you're seeing a brain that can't regulate yet.When your child is dysregulated, it's easy to feel helpless.The Regulation Rescue Kit gives you the scripts and strategies you need to stay grounded and in control.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and get your free kit today.Why do power struggles escalate so fast between me and my child?Power struggles don't just repeat—they intensify because each interaction strengthens the pattern.The nervous system learns the cycle: pressure → reaction → escalationParents often increase urgency, tone, or consequencesKids mirror that energy through resistance or shutdownOver time, both systems become quicker to react.This is what I call a reactivity loop—and it's why things feel harder, not easier, over time.

The Valley continues to not be ALLLLL RIGHTTTTTTT, even on vacation. Zack's birthday takes a wild turn as he ends up in the hospital, Janet has a breakdown, Daniel continues to be Daniel, Brittany is in tears, Michelle confronts Jesse about his PDA, and Tom Schwartz dresses up as an emo mime. Are you watching the season as a hate watch or are you enjoying it? Come judge with us!You can find us:Linktree: Two Judgey GirlsPodcast: ACast, iTunes, Spotify, wherever you listen!Instagram & Threads: @twojudgeygirlsTikTok: @twojudgeygirls // @marytwojudgeygirls // @courtneytjgYouTube: @twojudgeygirlsFacebook: www.facebook.com/twojudgeygirlsMerch: www.etsy.com/shop/twojudgeygirlsPatreon: www.patreon.com/twojudgeygirls LTK: @marytwojudgeygirls // @courtneytjg Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Jam Session, Juliet and Amanda begin with updates on the most highly anticipated wedding of the summer: Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce. With Madison Square Garden rumored to be their official wedding venue, all eyes are on the weekend of July 4th as speculation continues (00:00). Next, the two dive into celebrity relationship updates, including Joe Alwyn and Sarah Pidgeon being spotted showing PDA in Hampstead Heath just one day after Harry Styles and Zoë Kravitz were seen making out in the same park (21:08). Then, they get into some Beckham family updates (26:42), and finally, Amanda shares some royal news (44:29).Hosts: Amanda Dobbins and Juliet LitmanProducers: Jade Whaley Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today I'm talking with Amanda Diekman, author of the book, Low-demand Parenting: Dropping Demands, Restoring Calm, and Finding Connection With Your Uniquely Wired Child Because low-demand parenting can be such an effective approach to supporting differently wired kids, especially kids who fall under the PDA profile of autism, I invited Amanda to join the show for a conversation about what this parenting approach looks like. An autistic adult, parent coach, and author in the neurodiversity space, Amanda has become a leading voice in the movement for low demand parenting practice. She runs a successful coaching practice for parents of neurodivergent children including online courses and a vibrant membership community. During this episode, we talk about what low demand parenting is, why it's different than what might be referred to as “permissive” parenting, why it's so effective for kids with PDA, and how she helps parents loosen up the mindset around non-negotiables.  Amanda Diekman is an autistic adult, parent coach, and author in the neurodiversity space. Amanda has become a leading voice in the movement for low demand parenting practices, with her book Low Demand Parenting to be published July 2023. Amanda runs a successful coaching practice for parents of neurodivergent children including online courses and a vibrant membership community.  Things you'll learn from this episode What led Amanda to implement low-demand parenting in her family What low demand parenting is, and why it's often misconstrued as permissive The relationship between PDA and low-demand parenting Examples of big demands and tiny demands, and how shifting the focus can reduce stress for kids How Amanda helps parents in loosening their mindset about what they define as non-negotiables Ideas for practicing low-demand parenting in regard to our kids' relationship with technology and screens How Amanda and her co-parenting partner came to work together using low-demand parenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices