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Should my PDA child stay in the public school system, move to a private school, or homeschool? There is no single answer, and this episode is not going to give you one. What it is going to give you is a framework for making the decision that fits your child, your constraints, and this specific season of your family.In this episode I walk through all five characteristics of PDA as they play out in a school or home setting, then move into the three schooling scenarios I see families navigate most: staying in the public school system and advocating for accommodations, finding a private school that is structurally more aligned with a PDA nervous system, and pulling your child out entirely to unschool, deschool, or homeschool. For each one I share what to watch for, what has worked for the families I have coached, and how to use the cost-benefit framework to make and hold a decision even when it is hard.Key Takeaways Why Traditional School Is Structurally Activating and What That Looks Like | 00:01:42 Traditional schools are designed to standardize: every child doing the same thing at the same time in the same way. For a PDA nervous system, that structure produces continuous perceived losses of autonomy, and the behavioral expression of that activation, whether it is equalizing behavior in the classroom or a collapse at home after a day of masking, is what most families are already living with when they find me. What I want parents to understand is that the equalizing and collapse is not defiance. It is not willfulness. It is a nervous system doing exactly what it is wired to do when it perceives repeated losses of autonomy and equality. Advocating in the Public School System: Be Strategic, Not Educational | 00:33:27 When advocating for a PDA child in a US public school, leading with the PDA label rarely works. I give families permission to describe their child as high functioning autistic with severe anxiety or a nervous system disability, using language that the people in the room already have a framework for. From there, the most effective tool is the PLATO nonviolent communication framework: making one specific, granular request that includes a person, location, action, time, and object, so the school can only say yes, no, or propose an alternative. Each answer is data, not a defeat. What to Look for in a Private School and Which Models Have Worked | 00:42:38 The question I ask every private school when evaluating fit is: does every child have to do the same thing at the same time in the same way? The models that have worked most consistently for families I have coached are Montessori and Reggio Emilia for their mixed-age classrooms, built-in choice, and absence of homework and grades; Sudbury Democratic Schools for their consent-based, student-governed structure; and trauma-informed schools that do not default to exposure as the primary intervention for anxiety. Even within the public system, some charter schools and schools of choice have been workable when a parent has been able to build a genuine relationship with specific staff. Unschooling Is Not Independent Play: The Four Regulating States | 00:53:59 The most common mistake families make when they begin unschooling is assuming the child will go off and self-direct once the external structure is removed. What I observe is that PDA children need nervous system scaffolding to engage with anything. The four regulating states that help during this period are screens, another safe nervous system offering undivided attention, special interest or flow, and dopamine-intense or sensory-seeking activity. If a child is in burnout, they may only be able to access two of these. Starting there, without expectation or timeline, is the beginning of recovery, not a sign that unschooling is failing. Strewing, Declarative Language, and Letting Go of the Timeline | 00:54:42 The three tools I return to most consistently with unschooling families are strewing, declarative language, and releasing the timeline. Strewing means leaving things out in the environment that the child can engage with or not, without expectation. Declarative language replaces direct questions and imperatives with observational statements so the child retains autonomy over whether and how to engage. And letting go of the timeline is the hardest but most necessary piece, because a parent's urgency about reading, socialization, or catching up is itself perceived by the PDA nervous system as an agenda, which activates the very resistance we are trying to reduce.Relevant Resources Paradigm Shift Program — My signature program where the five-characteristic framework, cost-benefit decision making, the PLATO advocacy tool, and the full unschooling and accommodation approach described in this episode are taught across twelve weeks of live coaching.Mentioned in this episode:Free Live WorkshopI'm offering a free live workshop this month: "Supporting your PDA child or teen through burnout without breaking yourself in the process."Free Live Workshop Registration

I det här avsnittet pratar jag med specialistpsykolog Maria Bühler om PDA - pathological demand avoidance - eller extrem kravkänslighet som det ibland översätts till på svenska. Maria reder ut kring vanliga missförstånd, vad vi i omgivningen behöver förstå och tänka till kring och ger förslag på anpassningar och bemötande för att få vardagen att fungera bättre tillsammans, så väl hemma, som i skolan. Välkommen att lyssna! Och här hittar du Maria Bühler: https://www.kogita.se/

Send us Fan MailIn this Journal Club episode, Ben and Daphna review the 24-month follow-up of the BeNeDuctus trial, which compared expectant management with early ibuprofen for PDA in infants born before 28 weeks. Survival without neurodevelopmental impairment was identical in both groups, at 49%. Ben places the findings alongside Baby-OSCAR, the PDA trial, TRIOCAPI, and SMART-PDA, and explains why a neutral result does not mean no PDA should ever be treated. The conversation then turns to how targeted neonatal echocardiography and lung ultrasound are changing bedside PDA assessment, and previews an upcoming hemodynamics series with Dr. Gabriel Altit.----Long-Term Outcomes of Expectant Management versus Early Ibuprofen for Patent Ductus Arteriosus: 24-Month Follow-Up of the BeNeDuctus Trial. Apers WMJ, Hundscheid T, Kooi EMW, Onland W, Vijlbrief D, Steiner K, Donders R, Mulder AL, de Boode WP; BeNeDuctus Trial Investigators.J Pediatr. 2026 Sep 17;299:115292. doi: 10.1016/j.jpeds.2026.115292. Online ahead of print.PMID: 42637114 Support the showAs always, feel free to send us questions, comments, or suggestions to our email: nicupodcast@gmail.com. You can also contact the show through Instagram or Twitter, @nicupodcast. Or contact Ben and Daphna directly via their Twitter profiles: @drnicu and @doctordaphnamd. The papers discussed in today's episode are listed and timestamped on the webpage linked below.Enjoy!

If you ask your partner "do you want to have sex?" and they say no almost every time, the problem might not be desire. Seriously. It's the question. Responsive desire doesn't show up to that question. It shows up in response to something tangible happening that enables desire. So if nothing has happened yet, there's nothing there to say yes to. That's not rejection. That's an honest answer to a question that can't be answered yet.Responsive desire is also the most common form of desire in long-term relationships, and in most adults over 40, regardless of gender, in my practical experience. Almost nobody depicts it that way, so a lot of people think something's wrong with them for having it.Today I'm going to help you understand responsive desire and how to navigate it, including how to make more effective invitations. In this episode:What responsive desire actually is, and why it works like breadcrumbs rather than a switchWhy asking for sex point blank almost always gets a no from a responsive desire person, and why that's not the problem it looks likeWhy no has to be genuinely safe before yes becomes possible, and why nobody is ever entitled to their partner's bodyWhat to actually ask for instead of asking for sex, and how to build a "menu" of what generally feels goodThe exact conversation to have before you're in bed, not duringHow to avoid the pitfall of turning a good night into next time's obligationWhy this matters even more if you're neurodivergent, and what pathological demand avoidance (PDA) has to do with itIf you give yourself real time and space, with no predetermined destination, desire tends to show up. You just can't demand it in advance.Topics: responsive desire, initiating sex, sexual rejection, desire discrepancy, consent, neurodivergence and intimacyLinks to other episodes mentioned: Saying No Vs. Rejection: https://laurajurgens.com/138-sexual-rejection-vs-saying-no/The Freedom Wound: https://laurajurgens.com/137-the-freedom-wound-why-you-say-yes-when-you-want-to-say-no/Send Laura Fan MailGet my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guideMore links: Substack at https://laurajurgens.substack.com/Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheelCopyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. 

It's a brand-new episode of #TheShop! Steelo and Travis are joined by comedians Jo Koy and Bresha Webb, along with R&B artist Tank, for a wide-ranging conversation about relationships, dating, fame, ambition, and “sleep-negative households”…hmmm. The group dives into the acceptable and unacceptable types of public displays of affection (PDA), how growing fame can sometimes come at the cost of relationships, the unwritten rules of the bro code, and why hustle culture continues to shape the way we live and work today. 0:00 - Intro 0:49 - Is PDA Performative? 9:51 - Is the Bro Code Still a Thing? 15:13 - Is It Harder to Find a Good Man or Woman? 17:10 - Meeting People Now vs. Back Then 25:07 - Music Reflects the Generation 28:20 - Balancing Love With Work 37:48 - Stepparents Can Play a Big Role 45:42 - Sleep-Deprived Households 50:43 - Is the World Losing Real Dawgs? 54:35 - Is Word of Mouth Still Good Marketing? 59:10 - The Stand-Up Comedy World 1:03:05 - Comedians Never Bomb Stay connected with #TheShop:

Today on The Social, Selena Gomez says she and husband Benny Blanco are still in the “honeymoon stage”. And, should phones be locked up at restaurants? Then, when was the last time you had a good cry? Plus, Ryan Reynolds reveals he once ruined a scene with Denzel Washington because his phone started ringing with a surprising ringtone. And, Barenaked Ladies sang the Canadian anthem at the Buffalo Bills home opener. Then, did Channing Tatum use a burner account to troll his ex and other celebrities? Plus, is PDA back? And, we’re charmed by actor Maitreyi Ramakrishnan – the star of the new coming-of-age film ‘Best of the Best’. Featuring ‘Canada's Drag Race’ Queens Kendall Gender and Aurora Matrix, author and television host Mary Berg and actor Maitreyi Ramakrishnan.

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Why are so many children and teens struggling with anxiety, depression, and school refusal right now? And why are so many of them PDA? I have been carrying these questions for years, and Dr. Peter Gray's new book Restoring Childhood gave me a framework I did not have before.Dr. Peter Gray is a research professor of psychology and neuroscience at Boston College, founder of the nonprofit Let Grow, and author of Free to Learn and, just published this month, Restoring Childhood, How to Set Kids Free in the Age of Anxiety. In this episode we talk about what play actually is and why it matters for development, why the evidence does not support that screens and social media are the primary driver of the youth mental health crisis, and what has actually been happening to children's autonomy and mental health since the 1950s. We also talk about his own son, who he believes would have been identified as PDA, and how that son changed the entire trajectory of Dr. Gray's research and writing.Key TakeawaysWhat Play Actually Is and Why Screens Can Count | 00:11:41 Dr. Gray defines play through four characteristics: it is self-chosen and self-directed, intrinsically motivated, structured by the players themselves, and always creative within that structure. By this definition, when my younger son spent ten to twelve hours a day in Minecraft during burnout, starting alone and gradually inviting his dad, then friends, and setting all the rules collectively, that was play. Dr. Gray affirms this directly: children are amazing at knowing what they need, and digital spaces can function as genuine play spaces when children have control over what they do there and with whom.The Youth Mental Health Crisis Started Decades Before Social Media | 00:34:23 The data shows a steady, nearly linear increase in anxiety, depression, and suicide among school-aged children in the United States from 1950 to 1990, long before smartphones existed. Every major meta-analysis of the hundreds of studies testing the social media hypothesis shows either no meaningful correlation, or a small one that washes out across the full literature. What the cross-national data does show is that countries where schooling became more pressurized and narrow around the same time saw similar increases in youth mental health struggles, while countries that did not make those changes did not. This is not a social media story. It is an autonomy story.Why School Is the Most Consistent Source of Stress for Children | 01:06:26 Every study Dr. Gray has found where a demographically balanced sample of school-aged children are asked to name their primary source of stress places school at the top. Pediatric mental health admissions are approximately twice as high during the school year as when school is not in session. The No Child Left Behind Act and the subsequent adoption of Common Core around 2010 narrowed the curriculum, removed teacher discretion, and replaced intrinsic engagement with test preparation, making school significantly more stressful at exactly the moment when youth mental health data began declining again.Why PDA Children May Have Always Existed but Only Now Reach Burnout | 01:18:30 Dr. Gray's model of a narrowing channel helps me understand something I am asked constantly: why did PDA traits that existed in prior generations not produce the burnout, school refusal, and basic needs collapse I see across thousands of families today? If a child with a strong survival drive for autonomy is living in a society with more space for that autonomy, through outdoor play, age-mixed peer groups, and less compliance-based schooling, the nervous system is not accumulating the same load. As the channel for all children has narrowed across every decade since the 1950s, the children with the most sensitive neuroception for autonomy loss are the first and hardest hit.Autonomy-Supportive Parenting and What It Asks of Us | 01:31:49 Dr. Gray introduces the concept of autonomy-supportive parenting, which goes beyond simply trusting a child to also creating conditions for independence in a world that is working against it. This means asking a child what they would like to do independently that they have not yet tried, negotiating a first step, and walking with them toward it rather than waiting for the world to cooperate. It also means examining the reflexive fears that our culture has conditioned into us about what is dangerous for children, and distinguishing genuine risk from moral panic.Relevant Resources Restoring Childhood — Dr. Gray's new book, available September 15, on why the youth mental health crisis predates social media and what actually needs to change for children to thrive.Paradigm Shift Program — My signature program where the autonomy-supportive approach Dr. Gray describes is practiced as a daily skill, alongside cost-benefit decision making and the full accommodation framework.Mentioned in this episode:Free Live WorkshopI'm offering a free live workshop this month: "Supporting your PDA child or teen through burnout without breaking yourself in the process."Free Live Workshop Registration

What's your stance on public displays of affection? Are you open to a steamy hookup at the bar? As someone with a long-term partner, I'm typically abstaining from engaging in PDA myself (sorry, we can do that at home!), but Evan and I agree that catching a pair of strangers locking lips is the sign of a good party. Then we dive into the good, the bad, and the ugly: betting on yourself, feeling like a cog in the corporate machine, and the lack of originality sweeping the culture — haven't you ever heard of being yourself!THERE'S MORE WHERE THAT CAME FROM:SUBSCRIBE TO THE NEWSLETTER:Substack: @samgeorgsonFOLLOW THE PODCAST:Instagram: @pessimisticatbestTikTok: @pessimisticatbestFacebook: @pessimisticatbestWebsite: pessimisticatbest.comFOLLOW SAM:Instagram: @samgeorgsonTikTok: @samgeorgsonYouTube: @samgeorgsonWebsite: samanthageorgson.com

Today on The Social, did Channing Tatum use a burner account to troll his ex and other celebrities? And, is PDA back? Then, a controversial opinion piece in ‘The Telegraph’ is challenging the way we talk about surrogacy, as more celebrities turn to surrogates to have children. Plus, does your family have its own secret language? And, Mary Berg cooks up some cozy recipes from her new cookbook! Then, is ‘Slo Pitch’ the new ‘Heated Rivalry’? And, Polaris-prize shortlisted artist Les Louanges gets personal on his latest album. Featuring author and television host Mary Berg, actors Emily Hampshire and Jess Salgueiro, and Quebec artist Vincent Roberge.

The awkward feeling of watching the couple who are guilty of a bit too much PDA (public displays of affection) can cause not only you to feel uncomfortable, but also resentment, but how can you address it with your loved-up friends? Ciara was joined by Frances Kelleher, Relationship Expert and Life Coach to discuss…

ARFID and PDA can make eating feel difficult even when no one is telling you what, when, or how much to eat. For autistic and neurodivergent people with Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID) and a PDA profile, hunger, meal schedules, food preparation, and even personal recovery goals can sometimes begin to feel like demands. In this solo episode, Dr. Marianne explains how ARFID, autism, PDA, sensory sensitivities, executive functioning, and interoception can intersect around food. A person may genuinely want to eat and still struggle to initiate eating. For some people, the thought “I need to eat” creates additional resistance, especially when eating already requires significant sensory and executive-function effort. ARFID, PDA & Demand Avoidance Around Food Dr. Marianne discusses why demand avoidance isn't always caused by another person applying pressure. Hunger cues, scheduled meals and snacks, meal plans, and self-imposed recovery goals can create their own sense of expectation. She also explains why this experience shouldn't automatically be interpreted as stubbornness, lack of motivation, or unwillingness to recover. You'll learn how autism and ARFID can make the process of eating more complex through sensory differences, low interest in food, fear of choking or vomiting, inconsistent hunger cues, transitions, decision fatigue, and executive-function challenges. When PDA is part of the picture, even a desired activity such as eating a familiar safe food may become harder to access once it feels required. Neurodivergent-Affirming ARFID Support Dr. Marianne offers practical ways to make nourishment more accessible without losing sight of nutritional and medical needs. She discusses low-lift eating, safe foods, sensory accommodations, reducing food preparation demands, simplifying choices, flexible eating environments, and autonomy-supportive language. For parents supporting an autistic child or teen with ARFID and PDA, the episode also offers a different question to consider when eating breaks down: What is making food difficult to access right now? Sensory overload, nausea, fear, executive dysfunction, transitions, too many choices, or the eating environment may each require a different type of support. ARFID Treatment, Medical Safety & Autonomy ARFID can have serious medical and nutritional consequences. Reducing unnecessary pressure does not mean ignoring inadequate nutrition, dehydration, nutritional deficiencies, weight loss, or medical instability. Appropriate ARFID treatment may include medical monitoring, nutrition support, and mental health care. The goal of neurodivergent-affirming ARFID care isn't to eliminate every expectation around eating. It's to support adequate nourishment with as much collaboration, predictability, sensory accommodation, dignity, and autonomy as safely possible. Learn More About ARFID Want a deeper understanding of ARFID treatment, autism, ADHD, PDA, sensory needs, food avoidance, and selective eating? Dr. Marianne's self-paced ARFID & Selective Eating course is designed for adults with ARFID, parents and caregivers, and providers. It uses a neurodivergent-affirming, sensory-attuned, trauma-informed approach to understanding why eating becomes difficult and what may help. Learn more and purchase the course at drmariannemiller.com/arfid. Dr. Marianne Miller is an eating disorder therapist with nearly 30 years of experience in the mental health field. She specializes in ARFID, anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, autism, ADHD, and neurodivergent-affirming eating disorder therapy. She provides eating disorder and ARFID therapy in California and Washington, D.C., including the San Diego area, as well as consultation and coaching for people outside those locations. Visit drmariannemiller.com to learn more about working with Dr. Marianne, her ARFID course, and other eating disorder recovery resources. Related Episodes PDA, ARFID, & Food Avoidance: Why “Just Eat” Doesn't Work & What to Do Instead on Apple & Spotify. When PDA Drives ARFID: Understanding Food Refusal, Control, & Safety on Apple & Spotify. ARFID, PDA, and Autonomy: Why Pressure Makes Eating Harder on Apple & Spotify. Why Sensory-Attuned Care Matters More Than Exposure in ARFID Treatment on Apple & Spotify.

What if a school had no mandatory classes, no grades, no homework, and no age segregation, and instead gave students a genuine vote in how the school runs? That is the Sudbury Democratic model, and it offers some real benefits for PDA children and teens.In this episode I speak with Bryer Newlin, a youth rights and disability justice advocate, self-identified PDA adult, and staff member at Clearwater School in Seattle. We talk about what it means to experience autonomy as a bodily sense, how equalizing behavior is translated in a school setting rather than punished, why clean up can be a can't rather than a won't, and what the misconception of no rules really misses about how democratic schools actually work.Key TakeawaysAutonomy as a Bodily Sense: How Bryer Understands Their Own PDA | 00:04:47 Bryer describes PDA as having an additional sense in the body, a felt sense of how much autonomy is present in any given moment. This is not a cognitive evaluation but a somatic one, which means declarative language alone is not enough if the energy underneath still carries an agenda. A PDA nervous system can detect when someone is walking on eggshells to disguise a demand. This is why the shift the PDA lens requires has to become embodied rather than just intellectual, for parents and educators alike.What the Sudbury Democratic Model Is and Why It May Fit PDA Nervous Systems | 00:08:32 Clearwater School has no mandatory classes, no grades, no tests, no homework, and no age segregation. Students and staff together vote on school rules, room usage, and daily structures in what is called school meeting. What makes this a natural fit for many PDA children and teens is that intrinsic motivation drives all engagement, children have genuine say in decisions that affect them, and no adult is placed above the child as the authority on what and when to learn. Bryer is also honest about what remains hard: the democratic structure still generates demands, conflict between students requires navigation, and two PDA students in the same space can struggle significantly before finding their way to each other.Translating Equalizing Behavior Instead of Reacting to It | 00:12:17 When a student held water over a school computer and threatened to pour it on, Bryer heard something different: I am scared you are going to kick me out of school, so I am going to try to get kicked out first to have more control. Responding to what was actually being communicated changed the entire interaction. Bryer also names the everyday version of this that happens in families: when a child asking for something is told to say please first, they are placed in a doubly vulnerable position, already below as the asker and now required to go further below before the need is met. For a PDA nervous system, that is two layers of activation at once.Can't Versus Won't and Why Allowing a Messy Child May Produce a Cleaner Adult | 00:30:40 When Bryer allows a PDA student to opt out of cleanup, the fear is always the same: you are creating an entitled adult. What Bryer has observed is the opposite. Forcing cleanup when the nervous system cannot access it produces trauma around the task and long-term avoidance. Releasing the expectation allows the child to develop their own relationship to it over time. Bryer names this as the heart of the can't versus won't distinction: believing a child when they say they cannot, even when physical capacity appears to be present, because the invisible walls of cumulative demand load may mean this particular thing cannot be scaled right now.What Parents and Teachers Can Take Into Any Setting | 00:42:32 Bryer's message to parents navigating school refusal and fear of learning loss is direct: the time spent genuinely understanding and valuing a child's interests is a far stronger predictor of long-term success than attendance records. For teachers within public school constraints, Bryer names two starting points: learn what equalizing behavior is and what it is actually communicating, and give accommodations even when you suspect the child could physically comply, because cumulative demand load may mean they simply cannot right now. When a PDA child asks for an accommodation, Bryer reminds us, they are already doing something extremely vulnerable: willingly placing themselves below. That deserves to be met.Relevant ResourcesClearwater School — The Seattle-area Sudbury Democratic School where Bryer works, offering a student-directed, democratic learning environment for families in Washington state and available for consultation for out-of-state families as well.Hollow Earth Radio — Bryer's radio show airs every second Sunday at 2PM on KHUH FM, featuring themed music sets and available to stream online.Queer COVID Cautious Creatives on Instagram — The community arts organization Bryer runs for queer and disabled people in the Pacific Northwest, reachable on Instagram at @queercovidcautiouscreativesParadigm Shift Program — My signature program where the embodied shift from demand-based to autonomy-based interaction is practiced as a skill over twelve weeks, alongside the full accommodation framework and live coachingMentioned in this episode:Free Live WorkshopI'm offering a free live workshop this month: "Supporting your PDA child or teen through burnout without breaking yourself in the process."Free Live Workshop Registration

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Send us Fan MailParenting can crack open the life you thought you were going to have. One day you're holding a picture of family holidays, school concerts, easy mornings, and a child who moves through the world the way you expected. Then the real child arrives with their own nervous system, temperament, sensitivities, interests, and ways of communicating, and suddenly “simple” things can take enormous effort. When that gap shows up, it can bring fear, guilt, anger, sadness, envy, and a quiet kind of grief that many parents feel but rarely name.I take a different approach here and speak directly to the question I keep coming back to: who do you need to become in order to support the child who has come into your life? Not who your child needs to become. We explore the difference between being disappointed in a child and grieving the picture you held, and what can change when you look through your child's eyes with curiosity instead of “should”. If you're parenting a neurodivergent child, navigating autism, ADHD, sensory differences, anxiety, or demand avoidance (including PDA), this lens can be especially powerful because it shifts the goal from compliance to connection, regulation, and true communication.We also talk about how the urge to fix can turn a child into a project, and why parents need support too. I share reflective questions that help you notice what's happening inside you, separate future fear from present needs, and widen your understanding of both your child and yourself. If this resonates, subscribe to the Empowered Parent Podcast, share the episode with a parent who needs a breath, and leave a review so more families can find it. danabaltutis.com,  mytherapyhouse.com.au, https://mytherapyhouse.com.au/your-childs-therapy-journey/ https://www.danabaltutis.com/services

Eating disorder recovery can feel surprisingly scary, even when you genuinely want to get better. Letting go of restriction, binge eating, purging, compulsive exercise, food rules, or body checking can trigger intense fear because eating disorder behaviors often serve functions that go far beyond food and body image. In this solo episode, Dr. Marianne explores why recovery from anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, ARFID, and other restrictive eating disorders can feel unsafe. When an eating disorder has become connected to predictability, emotional regulation, control, or relief from anxiety and sensory overload, changing those patterns may feel threatening rather than freeing. Fear of Weight Gain, Food Anxiety, & Losing Control Fear of weight gain is one of the most recognized parts of eating disorder recovery, but the fear underneath it can be more complicated. Body changes may bring up concerns about weight stigma, identity, sensory discomfort, social judgment, loss of control, or being treated differently by others. Dr. Marianne discusses why food anxiety and fear of eating cannot always be addressed by simply challenging the food itself. Understanding what the eating disorder behavior has been doing for you can help uncover what needs additional support during recovery. Autism, ADHD, Neurodivergence, & Eating Disorders Neurodivergent people may experience additional challenges during eating disorder recovery. Autism, ADHD, sensory processing differences, interoception, executive functioning, transitions, routines, and PDA can all shape someone's relationship with food and change. A neurodivergent-affirming approach to eating disorder treatment recognizes that predictability and sensory accommodations can be genuine needs. Recovery does not have to mean stripping away every source of structure or forcing someone to tolerate overwhelming uncertainty. Nervous System Safety in Eating Disorder Recovery Instead of asking only, “How do I stop this eating disorder behavior?” it can help to ask what the behavior has been accomplishing. Restriction may create structure. Binge eating may provide regulation or relief. Exercise may offer predictability. Food rules may reduce uncertainty. Eating disorder recovery can include building new sources of safety, regulation, flexibility, support, and autonomy so the eating disorder no longer has to carry so much responsibility. Related Episodes Eating Disorders as Safety Systems: Why Letting Go Can Trigger Fear on Apple and Spotify. If Recovery Feels Unsafe Right Now: A Guided Moment for Eating Disorder Recovery Fear on Apple and Spotify. Eating Disorder Therapy & ARFID Support With Dr. Marianne Dr. Marianne Miller is an eating disorder therapist specializing in anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, ARFID, and neurodivergent-affirming eating disorder treatment. Learn more about therapy and working with Dr. Marianne at drmariannemiller.com. Dr. Marianne also offers consultation services. For additional ARFID support, Dr. Marianne's self-paced ARFID & Selective Eating course offers a neurodivergent-affirming, sensory-attuned approach for adults with ARFID, parents and caregivers, and providers. Learn more at drmariannemiller.com/arfid.

This episode is a throwback to one of the most popular episodes in the history of this podcast, originally recorded as a live presentation I gave in 2022 at the Miami Sudbury Democratic School. I am releasing it again during September, a month I am dedicating to school and education content, because I keep hearing from teachers, therapists, and parents who are still looking for language to explain what they are seeing in the classroom.In this presentation I walk through the nervous system mechanism underlying PDA, the two most common paths PDA children take through school systems, and five observable characteristics that often appear regardless of whether a child is more externalized or internalized, age, or a formal diagnosis.Key TakeawaysWhy Seventy Percent of PDA Children Cannot Access Any School: Two Paths | 00:03:49 The first path is a child who appears completely fine at school, does not qualify for an IEP or a 504, and whose teachers and administrators do not see what the parents are describing at home. But things are escalating at home, basic needs are being impacted, and the parents eventually pull the child from school feeling like no one believes them. The second path is a child whose high social communication skills lead professionals to call them high functioning, and when the behavioral expression of the disability appears, they are labeled as a defiant behavioral problem rather than a child with a nervous system disability. Both paths end in the same place: outside the school system.The First Observable Characteristic: Equalizing Behavior | 00:13:26 Equalizing is what the body does when the nervous system has perceived a loss of autonomy and is trying to get back to a place of safety and equality. In a classroom it can look like reflexively touching something after being told not to, changing the rules of an activity, starting a worksheet in the middle, writing words backwards, walking away, putting a head down, or reducing meaningful speech. In a home it can look like targeting a sibling, knocking things over, or saying stop talking every time a parent speaks. What matters most is the adult response in that moment.The Second and Third Characteristics: Masking and Undivided Attention | 00:18:08 Masking in PDA takes two forms: the learned social imitation most people understand, and what I call autonomic nervous system masking, where a child is experiencing full fight, flight or freeze internally while appearing calm externally. This is the primary reason PDA goes unrecognized and why parents are disbelieved: the child can look completely typical everywhere except at home, where they feel safe enough for the threat response to surface. The third characteristic is the need for a safe nervous system, meaning these children often cannot engage independently without a co-regulator nearby. My son needed us to draw what was in his brain for months, sitting next to him in an undivided way, before he could return to drawing himself.The Fourth Characteristic: The Cumulative Nature of Nervous System Activation | 00:25:17 The ABC framework of antecedent, behavior, consequence does not apply to PDA because the actual causal moment is not the thing that happened right before the meltdown. It is the ten things that happened across the past day, week, or month, each of which registered a small loss of autonomy, building until a small trigger tips the child over. In my son's Montessori school, when a hard moment happens, we never ask what happened right before. We ask what has been accumulating.Why Viewing PDA as a Nervous System Disability Changes Everything About Accommodation | 00:00:00 The most important shift I can offer any teacher, therapist, or parent is to put on the nervous system and autonomy lens first, before the sensory lens, before the social communication lens, and before the behavioral lens. When we understand that a child moving toward the campfire after being told to stay back, or refusing to eat the more we encourage them, is the survival drive for autonomy overriding other survival instincts, the accommodation becomes clear: reduce the perception of lost autonomy, provide nervous system safety, and trust that the behavior is not defiance but a subconscious nervous system response to perceived threat.Relevant ResourcesParadigm Shift Program — My signature program where the full accommodation framework, including the autonomy and nervous system safety tools introduced in this presentation, are practiced live across twelve weeks of coaching.Mentioned in this episode:Free Live WorkshopI'm offering a free live workshop this month: "Supporting your PDA child or teen through burnout without breaking yourself in the process."Free Live Workshop Registration

Six years ago, Hayley and her friend Amy started This is our Village — and for two years and over 50 episodes, it was a space for sharing everyday women's stories. Then life shifted, the podcast paused, and Hayley wasn't sure it would ever come back.In this first episode of a new season, Hayley shares what brought her back — homeschooling three kids, learning her boys are autistic with a PDA profile, a season of real isolation, and the quiet, persistent sense that God was putting this podcast back on her heart. It's honest, a little unpolished, and a genuine look at what "capacity" and "gift" can look like in a full season of life.If you've followed along since the original podcast, or you're brand new here — this one's a lovely place to start. Sending you so much love as this new chapter begins.(next time, hopefully I'll learn what camera to look at!)

I sat down with clinical psychologist and energy healing coach Nicole Parkes to talk about how her own autism and ADHD diagnoses changed the way she works with clients. We get into what it feels like when pathological demand avoidance (PDA) takes over, why talk therapy alone wasn't enough to help her heal from trauma, and the particular exhaustion of chronic illness layered on top of neurodivergence. Nicole also opens up about a more recent chapter of self-discovery that surprised her, and shares something her own coach once told her that changed how she sees her whole life. This episode goes to some unexpected places, and I think you may come away from it thinking differently about what it means to be wired the way you are. Find Nicole at nicoleparkescoaching.com or on Instagram @nicoleparkescoaching.All episodes written and produced by Kristen Hovet.Send in your questions to otherautism@gmail.com Buy me a coffee!Book a life-coaching session with me!The views, opinions, and experiences shared by guests on this podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host or production team. The content is intended for informational purposes only and should not be taken as medical or professional advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider before making any decisions related to your health, fitness, or wellness. 

Mac Motz has produced a mmmmagnificent debut crossword. We are not entirely sure how he came up with the theme, but we thought it terrific — we are such suckers for alliteration. Who could resist 46A, Making out openly or a mobile device, in brief, PDA; or 12D, Member of a membership, TIER; or 50D, Mouth moistener, SALIVA. We could go on and on, because every single clue had the same alliterative structure. Stupendous! This definitely merits a full and enthusiastic 5 squares on the JAMCR scale.Show note imagery: UPS, née The American Messenger Company We love feedback! Send us a text...Contact Info:We love listener mail! Drop us a line, crosswordpodcast@icloud.com.Also, we're on FaceBook, so feel free to drop by there and strike up a conversation!

Food rationing and scarcity fears can show up in eating disorders in surprising ways. You might save the last few bites even though you're still hungry, carefully make favorite foods “last,” become anxious when safe foods run low, or hesitate to eat something because you're worried you won't have it later. In this solo episode, Dr. Marianne explores how food scarcity anxiety can affect people with anorexia, bulimia, ARFID, and other eating disorders. Restriction can teach the brain and body that food is scarce, even when food is physically available. Over time, saving food may start to provide a sense of certainty, predictability, or safety. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN You'll hear about why people with anorexia may ration foods they enjoy, how the restrict-binge-purge cycle in bulimia can create a sense of food urgency, and why ARFID safe foods may become especially difficult to use when someone fears running out. Dr. Marianne also discusses how autism, ADHD, sensory differences, executive functioning, and food insecurity can shape scarcity fears. For neurodivergent people, keeping backup foods may actually support eating. The important question is whether those foods remain available to eat or become so protected that using them creates anxiety. ARFID, AUTISM, & SAFE FOODS For people with ARFID and autism, food availability can carry additional meaning. A brand change, discontinued product, altered texture, different packaging, or unavailable restaurant item can eliminate a previously reliable food. Protecting or stocking safe foods may therefore reflect a genuine need for sensory predictability rather than weight or body image concerns. Understanding the reason behind the behavior can help parents, providers, and people with ARFID respond with more flexibility and less pressure. If you want to learn more, Dr. Marianne's self-paced ARFID and Selective Eating course covers ARFID treatment through a neurodivergent-affirming, sensory-attuned, trauma-informed approach, including autism, ADHD, PDA, autonomy, safe foods, sensory differences, and nervous system regulation. Learn more at drmariannemiller.com/arfid. KEY TAKEAWAYS Food rationing isn't always about restriction. Sometimes you're saving certainty, sensory predictability, pleasure, permission, or tomorrow's sense of safety. Rather than immediately trying to eliminate the behavior, consider asking: What am I afraid will happen if this food is gone? That answer can help identify whether you need more consistent nourishment, greater access to safe foods, support with anorexia or bulimia recovery, practical backup foods, or repeated experiences of learning that food can be eaten today and become available again tomorrow. If you're looking for eating disorder therapy, ARFID therapy, anorexia treatment, bulimia treatment, or neurodivergent-affirming eating disorder support, visit drmariannemiller.com to learn more about working with Dr. Marianne. RELATED EPISODES Food Allergy Anxiety & ARFID: When Safety Fears Shape Eating & Family Life With Tamara Hubbard @foodallergycounselor on Apple & Spotify. Eating Disorders as Safety Systems: Why Letting Go Can Trigger Fear on Apple and Spotify. If Recovery Feels Unsafe Right Now: A Guided Moment for Eating Disorder Recovery Fear on Apple and Spotify.  

Justin Bieber Biography Flash a weekly Biography. September 2, 2026, and Justin Bieber's last few days have been a mix of polished romance, viral drama, and some quietly big moves in his business universe, all of it biographically significant for a star in his early thirties pivoting into veteran-era fame. Over the weekend, Justin and Hailey Bieber were front and center at Finneas O'Connell and Claudia Sulewski's wedding in Montecito, California, a star-studded event where he traded streetwear for a sharp black suit and dark sunglasses, while Hailey turned heads in a citrus-toned dress. Geo.tv and People-style coverage report that Justin shared a series of glam selfies from the ceremony on Instagram, captioned simply with red heart emojis, reinforcing the public narrative of a united, camera-ready power couple. However, footage and photos from the same wedding triggered a fresh wave of marriage speculation. Outlets like The Blast and other entertainment sites describe an “intense” or “animated” exchange between Justin and Hailey, followed by the two walking away in opposite directions, which some tabloids framed as a potential fight and used to revive long‑running split rumors. A Taiwanese entertainment report from United Daily News likewise notes that while Hailey appeared emotional and gesturing, there has been no statement from the couple, and the imagery alone cannot confirm whether it was a serious argument or just a heated conversation. Other commentators, including anonymous sources cited by gossip insiders, insist they were not fighting and point to Justin's affectionate wedding selfies as a counterweight. That discrepancy is important: the argument narrative is speculative and unconfirmed, while the affectionate posts are verified. Beyond that flare-up, recent weeks show Justin leaning into the family-man chapter of his biography. Entertainment coverage notes that he and Hailey recently celebrated their son Jack Blues's second birthday, with Hailey posting family photos and Justin sharing summer snapshots from a lake getaway, a Dodgers game, and a boat day, all filled with PDA and a relaxed, domestic tone that contrasts sharply with the old teen-idol image. On the business side, lifestyle and culture outlets report that Justin's independent brand SKYLRK has been teasing new Y2K-inspired audio products, including a tiny MP3 player and neon headphones, suggesting a deliberate push into nostalgic tech-fashion that could shape his post‑music legacy. Thanks for listening, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an update on Justin Bieber, and search the term Biography Flash for more great biographies. Thanks for listening. This has been a Quiet Please production. Get the best deals https://amzn.to/3ODvOta

What does it look like when a school actually meets a PDA child where they are, without behavior charts, compliance goals, or pressure to perform? In this episode I speak with three remarkable people: Melissa Petro, a cultural journalist and mother of an eight-year-old PDA son who fought for years to secure him a free and appropriate education; Chela Crane, Executive Director of Otto Specht School in New York, where Melissa's son Oscar is now thriving; and Suchi Swift, a Waldorf teacher at Otto Specht who works directly with Oscar.Together we cover Oscar's journey from expulsion at preschool and eight months of homeschooling through burnout, to the slow, non-linear process of rebuilding trust and regulation at a school that does not measure success through compliance. We also talk about what public school teachers can take from this model, what one family went through in fighting for private school placement, and what it actually looks like when a PDA child gets back into their thinking brain consistently and begins to lead their own learning.Key TakeawaysExpelled at Preschool, Eight Months of Homeschool, and What Burnout Looked Like | 00:03:45 Melissa's son Oscar was expelled from preschool after behavior charts, smiley face stickers, and compliance-based interventions produced aggression and shutdown rather than regulation. By the time he left school, his toileting had regressed, he had stopped eating, he had become aggressive with his sister, and he was nonverbal in the moments he most needed to communicate. Eight months of homeschooling followed, during which Melissa was simultaneously fighting the school district and caregiving for her son as his sole accommodation. One thing I want parents to hear in this story is what I see consistently across the families I work with: the behaviors that get a child expelled are the nervous system in survival mode, not the child.The Legal Fight for FAPE and Why It Is So Opaque | 00:08:51 To secure reimbursement for a private placement, a family must prove in court that the district failed to design an appropriate IEP, failed to find a public program that meets it, and then find a private program that does. Parents who succeed are often compelled to sign NDAs, which keeps the process invisible to other families who need it most. Melissa describes being accused of educational neglect for not following a behavioral prescription she knew in her gut did not fit her son. The fight for a free and appropriate public education, which every child is legally entitled to in the United States, is one of the most traumatizing experiences I hear about from families navigating this system.What the Otto Specht School Does Differently: Rhythm, Observation, and No Compliance Goal | 00:18:23 Suchi describes shifting her morning attendance routine from a desk task to a chalkboard drawing, which Oscar began arriving early to complete, drawing detailed tiger lilies to mark his presence. Chela names the single biggest difference in their model: success is never measured as compliance. Regulation and engagement come first, always, and academic skill development can only follow once those foundations are present. There are no behavior charts, no incentive systems, and no pressure on teachers to cover content regardless of where a child's nervous system is on a given day.How Oscar Got There: Trust, Time, and Self-Directed Exposure | 00:39:57 For the first year and a half, Melissa was not sure it was working. Oscar still had school refusal every day. The school allowed him to bring his snake and his kitten as transitional objects. But over time he want from leaving the room during music class to sitting on the side and drawing, then joining in, and then performing a solo in the school play. He could not ride a bike, and Melissa dropped the idea entirely at home, but then when he was ready Suchi taught him at school. He is now a musical theater kid who loves bike riding! What I see in that arc is what I try to help parents understand: self-directed, intrinsically motivated exposure at the pace the nervous system is ready for produces genuine skill and genuine joy. It cannot be rushed.What Teachers and Administrators Can Take From This, Even in Public Schools | 00:52:41 Suchi offers two practical starting points for any teacher: make attendance creative rather than procedural, and get to know every child's pet by name. Chela names the reframe that changes everything in any setting: behavior is information, not defiance. When we stop trying to change the behavior and start asking what the behavior is telling us, the nervous system underneath becomes visible and workable. Both teachers acknowledge that public school constraints are real and not the fault of individual teachers. But even within those constraints, one small shift toward curiosity and away from compliance as the primary metric can change the experience of a PDA child in that classroom.Relevant ResourcesOtto Specht School Website — The school featured in this episode, offering a Waldorf-based, neuro-affirming educational program for children who learn differently in New York. Families and educators are welcome to reach out directly.Otto Specht School on Instagram — Follow Otto Specht School for ongoing content about their educational model, student life, and approach to neurodivergent learners.Melissa Petro — Melissa's website, where she writes about PDA advocacy, educational exclusion, and the emotional toll of parenting a neurodivergent child. She is also reachable on Instagram and Facebook at Melissa Petro.Understanding PDA — Free class where I teach the nervous system disability framework and the felt safety and window of tolerance concepts that underlie the Otto Specht model described in this episode.Paradigm Shift Program — My signature program where the accommodation framework, cost-benefit decision making, and advocacy tools Melissa describes using are taught across twelve weeks of live coaching.Mentioned in this episode:Paradigm Shift Program Enrollment Now OpenEnrollment in our proven effective program is open for a limited time. Learn more here.Paradigm Shift Program

Episode 165Pathological Demand Avoidance: The Lived Experience, with Kendahl DamashekBarry and Dave speak with Kendall Damashek, a parent coach and expert on the topic of PDA. Kendall shared her personal and professional insights into PDA, explaining it as a survival drive for autonomy and equality rather than a pathology. She discussed the physiological and nervous system responses that individuals with PDA experience, emphasizing that these are not conscious choices but reactions to perceived threats to autonomy. Kendall addressed common misconceptions, such as labeling PDA behaviors as oppositional or defiant, and highlighted the importance of understanding the internal experience of those with PDA, and she provided practical strategies for parents and caregivers, including giving more autonomy, fostering equality, providing nervous system safety, and lowering demands.Learn more on our website!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, we're getting PERSONAL. We've got a family update (send Karina's husband some love!), your unhinged confessions- including lying about your weight on your driver's license AND starting your own fan account- and we're spilling all of our “firsts.” Plus, how much PDA is TOO much PDA? And motherhood's latest lesson: kids hear, remember, and REPEAT. EVERYTHING. Tune in, Queens! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What does a year of applying the PDA lens actually look like in a real family? Justin joined the Paradigm Shift Program in the summer of 2025 and is back a year later to share what shifted, what is still hard, and what he has learned along the way.Justin is a father of two, works in cybersecurity, and lives in Ohio. His 13-year-old PDA son spent years in a specialized school before school refusal led the family to unschooling. In this episode Justin shares how he tracks his son's indicators using an app he built himself, how he navigated the screen time question through the 4S Framework, and the creative accommodation strategies - including fart pills! - that have made daily life genuinely more workable.Key TakeawaysHow Justin Found PDA and What the First Year of Applying It Looked Like | 00:01:35 Justin first encountered PDA through social media, and it was a video about equalizing after school that made things click. Before that, the best explanation he had for his son was that he was a very independent kid who could not take no for an answer. Years of consequences and putting a foot down made things worse, and his son eventually hit burnout. What changed for him after the Paradigm Shift Program was not one dramatic shift but a series of small parenting changes: putting shoes on for his son instead of asking, using declarative language, doing the fart pill game twice a day instead of twice-daily battles over medication.Tracking Indicators With a Custom App: What the Data Showed | 00:17:09 Justin built his own app to track his son's indicators every day, including activation levels, swearing, connection signals like sitting on his lap or info dumping, and accommodations like safe nervous system presence. One pattern he identified through tracking was that loose teeth reliably raised his son's baseline activation, something he would not have connected without the data. He shares the tracking log with his son's therapist as a way of showing progress that is otherwise hard to describe. The trend line on panic attack and meltdown frequency, intensity, and duration over twelve months - all of which have improved - is the clearest evidence for him that the approach is working.Screens, Safety, and the 4S Framework | 00:26:06 Working in cybersecurity made screens a particularly fraught topic. Justin researched parental monitoring tools and now uses one called Qustodio, which applies consistent limits across all devices and sends alerts for concerning language in Roblox chats. What shifted was not removing screen time but understanding it through the 4S Framework: his son's Roblox game development is simultaneously a screen, a special interest, and a social connection tool. Giving him more regulated access while monitoring content allowed the relationship with screens to become a genuine strength rather than a daily battleground.The Fart Pills and the Scrub Daddy shower: Creativity After a Year of Practice | 00:14:52 Two examples illustrate what a year of accommodation practice can look like. His son's twice-daily medication had become a twice-daily fight until Justin gamified it: the pills became fart pills, his son plays a capybara hiding in a cave, and taking the pills makes the farts weapon-level. The battle dissolved. For showering, Justin told his son's Scrub Daddy sponge incorrectly that you put shampoo in dry hair and get in the shower with clothes on, then let his son correct and teach the right way. His son was in the shower within five minutes. Both strategies layer humor, equality, play, and novelty together, which Justin describes as exhausting but very effective improv.Advice for Parents Who Are Where Justin Was a Year Ago | 00:38:12 Justin's advice is not to try to do everything at once. When he looked at the full picture of constraints, accommodations, and nuance, it felt impossible. What helped was making one small change, watching how it landed, and building from there. Putting shoes on for his son instead of asking him to put them on was a small change with an immediate impact. Learning declarative language and noticing that his son would respond to statements when he would not respond to ten direct questions was another. He also names having a larger purpose, wanting the best outcome for his son, as what helped him stay with the approach even when it was hard.Relevant ResourcesParadigm Shift Program — My signature program where Justin developed the tools and frameworks he describes applying across the past year, including cost-benefit decision making, the 4S Framework, and creative accommodation strategies.Understanding PDA — Free class where I teach the nervous system disability framework, the four S framework, and the foundational concepts Justin describes applying throughout this episode.Tracking Progress — Free class on the three dimensions I teach parents to track: nervous system activation, basic needs access, and connection and engagement, all of which Justin built into his custom app.School, Screens and Siblings — Free class directly relevant to Justin's experience navigating school refusal, unschooling, and the screen time question through a cost-benefit lens.Mentioned in this episode:Free Live WorkshopI'm offering a free live workshop this month: "Supporting your PDA child or teen through burnout without breaking yourself in the process."Free Live Workshop Registration

Could a little public affection actually be good for your relationship? We unpack the surprising secret that happy couples might already know, why holding hands and showing affection in public could strengthen your bond and just how much PDA is too much. Plus, Think your clubbing days are over once you hit 40? Think again. We unpack the unexpected benefits of hitting the dance floor later in life, we dive into the bizarre trend of grown-ups using baby voices and "cute" mannerisms and we have another round of Dodgy Teachers after a teacher in England did the dodgy!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to another edition of This Week in Autistic Culture, our Sunday magazine podcast that brings together the stories, conversations and ideas shaping Autistic culture each week.Content note: This episode contains discussion of suicide, suicidal ideation and public harassment.This week, Angela and Simon reflect on the death of Professor Jason Arday and the pressures that can come with being a highly visible Autistic person. They discuss public scrutiny, the way successful Autistic people can be placed on impossible pedestals, and what happens when institutions fail to protect people during periods of intense vulnerability.They also turn to Robbie Williams following his recent comments about being Autistic, asking why autism is so often used to explain someone's struggles or differences, but rarely recognised as part of the creativity, innovation and perspective behind their success.Later, Angela takes us inside the 2026 Neurodiversity Index Report, including the striking gap between the number of employers who believe their workplaces are neuroinclusive and the neurodivergent employees who actually feel supported.As always, we'll also take you through everything happening across the Autistic Culture Podcast Network this week, with new episodes exploring writing, drinking and masking, Autistic menopause, autism therapy, PDA, Reddit and more.Plus, we head to the Community Notice Board for books, events and opportunities from across the wider Autistic community.

Today, I have a returning guest to the podcast and I'm talking to Dr. Marianne Miller, an eating disorder therapist, educator, consultant, and host of the Dr. Marianne-Land podcast. She specialises in neurodivergent-affirming treatment for ARFID, autism, ADHD, PDA profiles, anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, and binge eating disorder. Through virtual consultation, she partners with organizations throughout the United States and internationally to help clinicians build greater confidence in working with neurodivergent clients and to create treatment environments where autistic and ADHD individuals can recover without masking who they are. Today, Dr. Marianne is going to educate us more about neurodivergence, eating disorders and particularly focusing on ARFID. She explores why neurodivergent people are vulnerable to eds and disordered eating. She explains more about relationship with food and neurodiversity. She talks about how treatment can be adapted to support neurodivergent people to heal. I hope that you enjoy the episode. To find out more about Dr. Marianne's work: https://www.drmariannemiller.com/  

Right now, every Mamamia subscriber is automatically entered to win a $5,000 Dreamworld holiday for four; flights, accommodation, express passes and more included. Subscribe here to enter. T&Cs apply. Would you go topless in front of your dad? Mia Freedman puts the question to Outlouders after one Sports Illustrated model — and Baywatch reboot star — does exactly that on a family holiday, and the internet has a lot to say. Plus, Amelia Lester unpacks the celebrity couple everyone's obsessed with right now, and asks why some couples radiate real chemistry while others can't fake it no matter how much red-carpet PDA they throw at us. Also, Emily Vernem is skipping the cleanse and doing a clog instead — she'll explain exactly what that means. And, this week's reccos cover a movie, a perfume and more. Get access to Very Peri, Mamamia's exclusive perimenopause series, for just $59. 25 world-leading experts, over 20 on-demand sessions, available now. We’ve sorted through the noise so you don't have to. Go to veryperi.com.au today. You hot? Same. Recommendations Em recommends The End of Oak Street with Anne Hathaway and Ewan McGreggor. Mia recommends doing a special concealer hack and technique she's been trying. Amelia recommends The Dupe Spot perfumes for those nostalgic, hard to find perfumes you love. Keen for more? Check out the Mamamia Out Loud newsletter. What To Listen To Next: Listen to our latest episode: The Lindsay Clancy Conversation Listen: The Part of Hayden Panettiere's Story Everyone's Missing Listen: The Fake Bump Conspiracy Continues. Anne Hathaway Edition. Listen: Logies Recap & The Melbourne Lawyer Fired for a TikTok Listen: The Miranda Kerr Diet Discourse & Are You A Ring Picker? Listen: No Influencers allowed. Seriously. Discover more Mamamia Podcasts here including the very latest episode of Parenting Out Loud, the parenting podcast for people who don't listen to... parenting podcasts. SUBSCRIBE here: Support independent women's media You can now watch our show in full length video on the Apple Podcast app - make sure your phone is up to date and we can't wait for you to see Mamamia Out Loud on Apple What to read: Your emotional support water bottle tells me everything I need to know about you. The 7 best and most underrated TV shows of 2026 (so far). HOLLY WAINWRIGHT: 'Turns out there are 4 different styles of friendship.' 'I watch movies for a living, but this is where I draw the line.' THE END BITS: Check out our merch at MamamiaOutLoud.com GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening. Send us an email at outloud@mamamia.com.au Share your story, feedback, or dilemma! Send us a voice message. Join our Facebook group Mamamia Outlouders to talk about the show. Follow us on Instagram @mamamiaoutloud and on Tiktok @mamamiaoutloud CREDITS: Hosts: Amelia Lester, Mia Freedman & Emily Vernem Acting Group Executive Producer: Emeline Gazilas Executive Producer: Grace Rouvray Video Producer: Michael Kean Associate Producer: Tessa Kotowicz Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land on which we have recorded this podcast. Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Justin Bieber Biography Flash a weekly Biography. Justin Bieber has spent the past few days writing a surprisingly intimate little chapter in his biography, blending domestic calm, fashion hustle, and a touch of awards-season heat. People magazine reports that on August 17 he dropped a fresh Instagram carousel, headlined by a kiss with Hailey at a Los Angeles Dodgers game, the couple seated right behind home plate in full view of MLB cameras. In that same post, he quietly underscored his evolution into family man, sharing a rare cuddle shot with their nearly two year old son Jack Blues while still keeping the childs face hidden, a continuation of the Biebers deliberate privacy line around their child according to outlets like People and Polish site Dzień Dobry TVN. The New York Post's sports desk and MLB's own social feeds add the color that Justin and Hailey turned that Dodgers Brewers matchup into a very public date day, smiling, snacking, and slipping into easy PDA as cameras caught Justin wrapping an arm around his wife. Lifestyle sites including Just Jared and Reality Tea zeroed in on the optics, noting Hailey's sheer white tee and matching Dodgers cap and Justin's relaxed game day fit, framing the outing as another carefully casual but very visible appearance at a moment when fans remain fascinated by the state of their marriage. Meanwhile, Billboard Canada reports that Justin's track Yukon has been nominated for Best R and B at this year's MTV VMAs, a nugget with real long term biographical weight as it extends his awards narrative well into his thirties and shows he remains competitive in a genre he has spent a decade helping to blur and reshape. On the business front, fashion and sneaker press including Hypebeast, Design Scene, and Boardroom say Justin used social media to officially unveil the SKYLRK Sensory Runner, a new sneaker he describes as four years in the making and the next big step in his footwear brand. Details like pricing and release date are still unannounced, but multiple outlets emphasize that the silhouette signals a deepening of his role as designer entrepreneur, not just celebrity collaborator. There are also lower level sightings, like a Pilates run with Hailey in Bel Air reported by fan and gossip pages, but these remain more about routine than revelation. There are no credible reports in the past 24 hours of new music releases, tour announcements, or major personal upheavals; anything suggesting otherwise on fan accounts should be treated as speculation unless and until confirmed by major outlets or Justin's own channels. For now, the story of this week is a settled but very visible family life, a serious push into fashion with SKYLRK, and an awards nod that quietly reinforces his staying power. Thanks for listening, and dont forget to subscribe so you never miss an update on Justin Bieber, and search the term Biography Flash for more great biographies. Thanks for listening. This has been a Quiet Please production. Get the best deals https://amzn.to/3ODvOta

When I first started learning about PDA six years ago, so much of what I encountered was focused on behavior. What I was not seeing discussed was something I kept observing in my own family, and have since seen in thousands of families I have worked with: the way cumulative nervous system activation can disable a child or teen from accessing the things they need to stay alive.In this episode, an excerpt from the Understanding PDA Masterclass, I walk through what basic needs struggles actually look like across five domains: toileting, sleep, hygiene, eating, and safety. I share why I conceptualize PDA as a nervous system disability, how the survival drive for autonomy can override other survival instincts, and why paradoxically the most effective intervention for a basic needs struggle is often to stop focusing on it directly.Key TakeawaysWhy PDA May Be a Nervous System Disability, Not a Behavioral Disorder | 00:00:00 I define PDA as a survival drive for autonomy and equality that consistently overrides other survival instincts, including the instinct to eat, sleep, stay safe, maintain hygiene, and use the bathroom. This is what makes it distinct from other neurotypes and what led me to begin theorizing it as a nervous system disability. This also makes it distinct from "a behavioral problem". The challenges our children face are physiological, and this is part of what I am researching with the University of Michigan.The Fire, the Traffic, and the River: When Autonomy Overrides Safety in the Moment | 00:03:30 On a night of camping when my son was four and a half, he kept moving toward the campfire the more we told him to stay back, to the point where I had to physically restrain him from running into it. I have heard similar accounts from families of children running toward oncoming traffic or accelerating into a lake when told to move away. These are extreme examples that I share to show how the survival drive for autonomy can override the instinct to stay safe in real time. They are not defiance. They are a nervous system response that has overridden the instinct that should have protected the child.Five Basic Needs and What Struggles Can Look Like | 00:06:32 Toileting struggles can include regression to diapers, UTIs from withholding, accidents, and refusing to use the toilet. Sleep struggles can include a non-twenty-four-hour cycle, intensifying bedtime resistance, and needing to co-sleep at eleven or twelve years old with no prior history of it. Hygiene can include refusing tooth brushing, bathing, nail cutting, or hair cuts. Eating can present as extreme restriction, similar to ARFID but without the body image component, or as compulsive eating. Safety struggles can range from running toward traffic or fire to self-harm, suicidal ideation, or harming others. Two PDA children can have the same root cause and look dramatically different across all five domains.The Paradox: Focusing on the Basic Need Often Makes It Worse | 00:11:09 When my son stopped eating, every instinct told me to find strategies to make him eat. I went to feeding therapy. I tried every approach in the moment. But for a PDA child, focusing attention and gentle pressure on eating registers as a loss of autonomy and can intensify the avoidance. What I have seen across thousands of families is that bringing down cumulative nervous system activation across all domains, not in the moment of the basic need struggle, is what allows the control to release and the need to become accessible again. That is the paradigm shift.Doubt, Fluctuation, and Why Basic Needs Must Be Part of the PDA Profile | 00:09:34 Because basic needs struggles fluctuate, parents are often doubted or doubt themselves. A child may brush their teeth at the beginning of the week and refuse by Friday. They may eat one food for months and then drop it. They may have had no toileting issues and then regress at age eight. This fluctuation is a feature of the cumulative model, not evidence that the disability is inconsistent. Basic needs have largely been left out of the behavioral literature on PDA. I believe they belong at the center of the profile, because if a child cannot access safety, sleep, eating, hygiene, or toileting, their health and survival are at risk.Relevant ResourcesUnderstanding PDA — The free masterclass from which this episode is excerpted, covering the full nervous system disability framework and basic needs indicators described here.Burnout — Free class with context for the burnout threshold at which basic needs struggles tend to intensify and become most disabling.Tracking Progress — Free class on the three dimensions I track with families, including basic needs access as a primary indicator of whether cumulative nervous system activation is coming down.Paradigm Shift Program — My signature program where the basic needs framework, cost-benefit decision making, and the full accommodation toolkit are taught across twelve weeks of live coaching.Mentioned in this episode:Free Live WorkshopI'm offering a free live workshop this month: "Supporting your PDA child or teen through burnout without breaking yourself in the process."Free Live Workshop Registration

How do you support weight restoration when your autistic child needs nutrition, but pressure around food makes eating even harder? For autistic children, teens, and adolescents with a PDA profile (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy), weight restoration for ARFID, anorexia, and other restrictive eating disorders can become especially complicated. Parents may know that their child urgently needs more nutrition, yet direct demands, rigid meal expectations, sensory overwhelm, and medical procedures can increase distress and food refusal. In this solo episode, Dr. Marianne Miller discusses weight restoration in autistic children and teens with ARFID or anorexia, including how PDA, sensory processing differences, interoception, executive functioning, and nervous system overwhelm can affect eating disorder recovery. Autism, PDA, ARFID, and Anorexia During Weight Restoration Weight restoration involves more than getting enough calories into a child's body. Autistic children and adolescents may experience intense sensory sensitivities around food, difficulty identifying hunger and fullness cues, strong needs for predictability, executive functioning challenges, and distress when eating becomes a demand. Dr. Marianne explains why these differences need to become part of the treatment plan instead of being treated as behaviors that must be overcome. She also discusses an important distinction between ARFID and anorexia in autistic teens, including why some young people can experience features of both restrictive eating disorders. Why Pressure Around Food Can Backfire With a PDA Profile When an autistic child has a PDA profile, even necessary requests can activate a threat response. During eating disorder recovery, parents may find themselves repeatedly asking their child to eat another bite, finish a supplement, follow a meal plan, or complete a snack. The stakes are real. So is the child's nervous system response. You'll learn why reducing unnecessary demands does not mean abandoning weight restoration and how parents can protect medical safety without turning every meal into a power struggle. Medical Management of Eating Disorders in Autistic Children and Teens Medical stabilization can present additional challenges for autistic children and adolescents with ARFID or anorexia. Blood draws, vital signs, unfamiliar providers, hospital environments, bright lights, noise, disrupted routines, physical examinations, and unexpected procedures can create significant sensory and nervous system overload. Dr. Marianne discusses how autistic shutdowns, meltdowns, reduced communication, or refusal may reflect overwhelm rather than "noncompliance." She also explains why autism-informed and trauma-informed medical care matters when a young person requires medical monitoring or stabilization for a restrictive eating disorder. Supporting Eating Disorder Medical Management at Home Parents often become an important part of the medical management team during weight restoration. Under the guidance of a physician or eating disorder treatment team, some families may monitor aspects of their child's health at home between appointments. Dr. Marianne discusses practical ways parents can organize medical information, pay attention to changes in symptoms, create more predictable eating routines, reduce sensory demands, use preferred foods strategically, and communicate more effectively with medical providers. You'll also hear why home monitoring should complement, rather than replace, appropriate medical care and why concerning physical symptoms require prompt evaluation from your child's healthcare team. Neurodivergent-Affirming Tips for Weight Restoration This episode offers practical ideas for supporting an autistic child or teen through weight restoration, including creating predictable meal routines, prioritizing adequate nutrition before pushing food variety, making sensory accommodations, offering meaningful choices, reducing unnecessary conflict around food, and building a collaborative treatment team. For children with autism, PDA, ARFID, or anorexia, medical safety and autonomy do not have to exist on opposite sides of treatment. Neurodivergent-affirming eating disorder care can take malnutrition seriously and still respect sensory needs, communication differences, autonomy, trauma history, and nervous system regulation. Related Episodes PDA, ARFID, & Food Avoidance: Why “Just Eat” Doesn't Work & What to Do Instead on Apple & Spotify. When PDA Drives ARFID: Understanding Food Refusal, Control, & Safety on Apple & Spotify. ARFID, PDA, and Autonomy: Why Pressure Makes Eating Harder on Apple & Spotify. Why Sensory-Attuned Care Matters More Than Exposure in ARFID Treatment on Apple & Spotify. Eating Disorder Therapy in California and Parent Consultation Worldwide If your child, adolescent, or teen has ARFID, anorexia, autism, PDA, or another restrictive eating disorder, Dr. Marianne offers neurodivergent-affirming eating disorder therapy in California, including in-person services in San Diego and telehealth throughout California. For families outside California, Dr. Marianne also provides parent consultation worldwide for parents navigating ARFID, restrictive eating, autism, PDA, sensory challenges, weight restoration, and eating disorder recovery. Go to drmariannemiller.com and schedule a free, 15-minute phone or Zoom consultation. You can also learn more through Dr. Marianne's ARFID and Selective Eating Course, created for parents, providers, and others who want practical, neurodivergent-affirming strategies for understanding ARFID, autism, sensory processing, autonomy, trauma, and eating. If weight restoration has become a battle in your family, you do not have to choose between taking your child's medical needs seriously and respecting their neurodivergence. Support can account for both.

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JOIN US FOR WEEKLY BONUS EPISODES ON PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/swiftologist MANY years before All Too Well (10 Minute Version)  broke the internet, Taylor Swift spent three months dating Jake Gyllenhaal...and upon reflection, we'd argue it's the single most important relationship of her career, creatively.  We rebuild the 2010 timeline: the sudden PDA, the tabloid ambush, the age-gap commentary, and the decade it took for the fallout to turn into a ten-minute song. There are also many TERRIFYING paralels to another intense 3 month situationship...so, if you've ever wondered how a short-lived 2010 romance became the emotional backbone of an entire album, the bone collectors are here with every receipt.

Gary With The Tea opens this hour with a media mogul's relationship that's lasted four decades without a wedding ring, and a reality TV star who may be staging a comeback after a controversial exit from her show. Then a hip-hop mogul and his girlfriend are making headlines for their very public PDA — but it's what happened between them months ago that makes this story so interesting. Then it's Wellness Wednesday with Dr. MJ Collier, and this hour gets real. A new executive order from the White House is shaking up childhood vaccine policy in ways that could affect every parent and grandparent listening — and Dr. Collier breaks down exactly what's changing, which vaccines are being reclassified, and why insurance coverage could disappear for some shots. Listeners call in with health questions that range from a shocking digestive issue to a torn-up knee, and one caller asks a question about intimacy after a medical procedure that has the whole studio cracking up. Dr. Collier also shares a supplement tip for liver health that one of his patients swears by.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There is a lot of noise in the PDA space right now, and some of it is making parents doubt themselves and feel more confused rather than less. So I am re-airing this episode from May 2025 because I think it will help you feel more confident in the path you are on.In this episode I share a story from a feeding support group that crystallized for me why PDA is a distinct experience, not one that can be folded into autism, ADHD, or anxiety strategies without losing something critical. I walk through two examples of content I have seen in the PDA space that would have sent me spiraling five years ago, and I close with a Buddhist concept called the near neighbor enemy that gave me the strength to say something I know is controversial.Key Takeaways The Support Group Story and What It Clarified | 00:01:39 Shortly after moving to Michigan, my husband and I organized a babysitter and drove to a support group for families of Autistic children with feeding challenges. All the other children played in another room with their special interests. One non-speaking child sat calmly with a car magazine. Others played with trains and Legos while their parents talked. I wept on the way home, because I knew with certainty there was no version of that scenario that was possible for my son. He could not have gotten in the car. If he had come, he would have needed undivided attention the entire time and any lapse would have produced a meltdown or destruction of the other children's things. The behavioral feeding therapy that had worked beautifully for these families would have produced panic attacks for mine. PDA Becoming Trendy and What That Is Costing Families | 00:10:56 As PDA awareness has grown, I have noticed content that lumps PDA strategies in with ADHD or Autism approaches and presents them as interchangeable. Two examples I have seen recently: correcting behavior an hour after a meltdown once a child is regulated, and movement breaks every few minutes to help complete homework. Both of these may work beautifully for ADHD children. But for a PDA child who is still well past their threshold of tolerance, going back an hour later to discuss the behavior will most likely push them straight back into activation. A parent trying either of these strategies with a PDA child and seeing them fail is likely to conclude they are doing it wrong, when the issue is not implementation but neurotype fit. PDA Is Not an Anxiety-Driven Need for Control | 00:16:36 When PDA gets folded into the anxiety frame, it leads to recommendations about building frustration tolerance and increasing exposure. That is often exactly the right approach for anxious children. I have panic disorder myself and have worked hard on my own exposure and frustration tolerance. But PDA is not anxiety. It is a survival drive for autonomy rooted in the way the nervous system perceives safety and threat, and it can disable access to basic needs in a way that anxiety alone typically does not. Treating them as equivalent leads families toward strategies that do not fit and away from the ones that do. The Near Neighbor Enemy: Why Sameness Undermines Compassion | 00:18:14 A concept from Buddhist practice helped me find the courage to say something I knew was controversial. A near neighbor enemy is something that resembles a value but undermines it. The near neighbor of love is control. The near neighbor of fierce compassion is sameness, the idea that calling different things the same is itself a form of compassion. When we call PDA the same as Autism, ADHD, or anxiety in the name of inclusion, we erase the specific logic, the lived experience, and the sense of belonging that PDA families need and deserve. Difference is not division. It is precision. Why This Distinction Has Brought Peace to Thousands of Families | 00:19:31 The premise of my work is that PDA is a distinct neurotype with its own nervous system logic and its own approach to accommodation. That premise, not a technique or a strategy, is what has shifted things for my family and for the thousands of families I have worked with. When a parent finally has the right logic for their child's brain, they stop blaming themselves for strategies that were never going to work. They stop doubting their observations. And they start making decisions that actually fit the situation they are in.Relevant Resources Understanding PDA — Free class where I teach the nervous system disability framework and the unique logic of the PDA nervous system that distinguishes it from autism, ADHD, and anxiety.Burnout — Free class with context for the burnout period I describe, and why strategies designed for other neurotypes can deepen rather than relieve burnout in PDA children.Paradigm Shift Program — My signature program where the distinct logic of the PDA nervous system is practiced as an embodied skill across twelve weeks, with live coaching and a community of families who share the same experience.

C&R talk Dodgers losing streak, & new Yankee! The topic is "seizing the moment!" They take calls from across the country! Are PCA & Ohtani neck & neck for MVP, or is it Shohei by an arm? They talk Justin Herbert's PDA & welcome in 'MIKE WHO RUNS THIS TAKE!' Plus, 'MID WEAK MAJOR,' & they're ready for NFL preseason!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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In hour 2 of The Drive, Zach and Phil continue to take a deep dive into the Broncos and their time out at training camp today. Zach shares about Riley Moss and how well he's looked at practice the past two weeks. Is Moss in store for a contract extension at some point this season? The guys squash any idea of Jahdae Barron competing with Moss for the second cornerback position. Is JaQuan McMillian also in store for a contract extension? Today's "Three Count" includes Will Lutz putting on a show for the fans while kicking field goals today at practice, Justin Herbert going viral for showing some PDA with his fiancée on the football field after practice, and Akron running a promotion in which a fan will script the team's opening drive. We preview tonight's Hall of Fame game as NFL football returns for the first time since the Super Bowl. 

Jack Fritz celebrates Spike Eskin's upcoming 50th birthday and discusses his own fitness routine and weekend plans. They analyze Justin Herbert's awkward PDA at Chargers practice and announce Joe Giglio's new book about Philadelphia sports history.

This is A Fan Favorite Rerun Episode What ADHD teens actually need from their parents can feel confusing, exhausting, and emotional—and if you've ever wondered whether you're getting it “right,” this episode will bring relief. I sat down with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, a pediatric psychologist, parent coach, and author of Love the Teen You Have, for a deeply validating and practical conversation about parenting teens with ADHD. You'll walk away feeling supported, encouraged, and equipped with tools you can use right away.We explore why she wrote her book, the real meaning behind its title, and the myths that leave so many parents feeling defeated. We dig into how to stay connected when your teen is pushing boundaries, why unconditional love changes everything, and what it truly looks like to support ADHD teens with executive function, emotional regulation, and respect. We also get honest about step-parenting, hormone changes, and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with the teen years. Dr. Lockhart offers practical scripts, mindset shifts, and strategies to help you navigate tough moments with confidence and compassion.Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart is a pediatric psychologist, parent coach, and author who has been featured in The New York Times, Parents, HuffPost, and The Today Show. After feeling disconnected from her own mom as a teen, she wrote her book to help parents build the closeness she once wished for. Love the Teen You Have is available now.Episode Highlights:[0:35] Introducing Dr. Lockhart + her book[2:19] Why she wrote it + radical acceptance[3:45] Parenting vs. loving the child you have[6:14] Unconditional acceptance as transformation[7:37] The myth that “good parenting = good results”[10:11] Rejection sensitivity + separating facts from stories[13:35] ADHD catastrophizing vs. teen behavior[16:24] PDA vs. ODD[18:11] Teens seeking connection through conflict[21:06] Gentle parenting vs. permissive parenting[23:05] The “redo” + modeling regulation[25:39] Repairing after rupture[28:32] Hormones, puberty, and emotional upheaval [34:30] What ADHD adults need to know about teen brains[36:43] Can you be a friend and a parent?[39:25] Step-parenting + connection first[42:09] What schools need to understand[44:24] Where to find Dr. LockhartLinks and Resources:

Seven years ago I created a huge spreadsheet trying to find the cause of my son's meltdowns. How many hours outside, how many minutes on screens, how many calories eaten, and much much more. But I couldn't find a consistent pattern. Something that triggered him one day might be barely noticed another. The problem was, my logic was wrong.In this episode, an excerpt from our free Understanding PDA Masterclass, I explain why the standard ABC framework of antecedent, behavior, consequence fails for PDA children and introduce the cumulative nervous system activation model: how drops build in the bucket over weeks, months, and years toward a tipping point, and why what you do this week may determine whether your child can brush their teeth three weeks from now.Key TakeawaysWhy the Spreadsheet Did Not Work | 00:00:00 When my son went into burnout, I tracked everything: screen time, calories, sleep, fresh air, meltdown frequency. I was looking for the antecedent - the thing that happened right before the blowup - that would tell me the cause. What I now know is the reason the spreadsheet could not find the pattern is that the logic of the PDA nervous system is not event-based. It is cumulative. The antecedent is not the primary cause. It is the tipping point.The ABC Framework and Why It Does Not Apply to PDA | 00:01:45 The ABC framework - antecedent, behavior, consequence - is the foundation of most behavioral approaches in schools, therapy, and parenting. For some neurodivergent children it can be useful: the fluorescent lights went on, the meltdown followed, the consequence was leaving the room. For PDA children, the same surface-level event can produce completely different responses on different days, because the behavior is not caused by that event in isolation. It is caused by the cumulative level of nervous system activation that has been building in the system toward a threshold of tolerance over days, weeks, months, and in some cases years.TDrops in the Bucket Toward a Threshold | 00:03:19 I use a glass of water to illustrate the threshold of tolerance: the point at which cumulative nervous system activation tips past the window and begins to disable basic needs. Every subconsciously perceived loss of autonomy or equality is a drop. With a PDA child, we may have fifteen drops before we have even finished breakfast. Those drops build continuously, which is why burnout can feel sudden, especially for internalized PDA teens who masked successfully for years before suddenly being unable to leave their room. My son's escalation into burnout felt like an autistic regression because it was so rapid, but looking back, the drops had been building in the system for years without anyone seeing it.Why Behavior Fluctuates and Why That Makes It Hard to Trust the Disability Framework | 00:09:40 A PDA child may be able to brush their teeth at the beginning of the week but not by Friday. My older son's test scores drop between the start of the school year and the end, not because he has lost the skill or knowledge but because cumulative activation has made it harder to access. When things fluctuate like this, parents can doubt whether what they are seeing is really a disability, because the inconsistency does not match how we think disabilities look. This fluctuation is actually a feature of the cumulative model: accommodation brings activation down, and the child moves away from their threshold. Activation builds it back up.Two Out of Three Is Enough | 00:12:58 You do not have to accommodate perfectly for this model to work. Every accommodation removes a drop from the bucket. Every activation adds one. If your co-parent is not yet on board, your accommodations are still helping, just more slowly. If your child is in a school that is adding drops while you remove them at home, progress will be slower but not impossible. The practical implication is that what you do this week, this month, in the next three weeks, is directly connected to what you will see in basic needs access, nervous system reactivity, and connection and engagement a month from now.Relevant ResourcesUnderstanding PDA — The free masterclass from which this episode is excerpted, covering the full nervous system disability framework including the cumulative activation model and threshold of tolerance described here.Burnout — Free class with context for the burnout threshold I describe, including why escalation into burnout can feel sudden even when the activation has been building for years.Tracking Progress — Free class on how to track the three dimensions that reflect cumulative nervous system activation over time: nervous system reactivity, basic needs access, and connection and engagement.Paradigm Shift Program — My signature program where the cumulative activation model is applied practically, with live coaching to help parents identify where drops are being added and removed in their specific family system

The one who melts down at the smallest request, who seems to dig in the moment you say "do this."...you know this child.  In this episode I sit down with Casey Ehrlich, PhD — social scientist, founder of At Peace Parents, and a leader in the first peer-reviewed PDA research in the United States — to talk about PDA: what it is, why it's a nervous system response rather than defiance, and what actually helps. PDA isn't defiance. It's a survival-level drive for autonomy — and once you see that, you respond to the child in front of you completely differently. PDA most often stands for pathological demand avoidance, but many autistic people prefer pervasive (or persistent) drive for autonomy — because autonomy is right at the root of what activates the nervous system. Casey defines it as a survival drive for autonomy and equality that can override other survival instincts like eating, sleeping, toileting, and even safety. We talk through what PDA actually looks like in young children, why behavior that reads as oppositional or manipulative is so often a nervous-system response, and the practical, compassionate shifts that help a dysregulated child feel safe again — in the classroom and at home. We'll talk about: ●  what PDA stands for — and why many autistic people prefer "pervasive drive for autonomy" ●  why demand avoidance is a nervous system response, not manipulation or defiance ●  the five characteristics Casey looks for, including equalizing behavior ●  why we flip the order for PDA kids: nervous system and autonomy first ●  the difference between independence and autonomy ●  real strategies: signals of safety, declarative language, and rhythms over routines In This Episode, You'll Learn •  What PDA is, and why "pervasive or persistent drive for autonomy" may describe it better •  How a survival drive for autonomy can override eating, sleeping, toileting, and safety •  Why "equalizing behavior" can look oppositional but is actually a nervous-system response •  How to read the early signals that a child is moving toward fight-or-flight •  Why reducing spoken language and using declarative language lowers perceived demands •  How to send signals of safety with your face, tone, and body — and why getting low matters •  What the "four S's" — safe nervous system, screens, sensory/novelty, special interest — reveal about regulation •  Why repair and felt safety, not teaching, are the moves in the hard moment Key Takeaways •  PDA is a nervous system response, not defiance or manipulation •  Autonomy is at the root — a perceived loss of autonomy activates the survival brain •  For PDA kids, think nervous system and autonomy first, then sensory, executive function, and communication •  Independence is doing a task alone; autonomy is having a genuine say in what happens •  Signals of safety often matter more than words •  Declarative language lowers the demand a child perceives •  Think rhythms, not rigid routines — even a chosen routine can start to feel like lost autonomy •  Compassion over compliance — always Try This •  Pause and ask whether a behavior might be a nervous-system response to a perceived demand •  Lower the demand: swap questions and directions for declarative, observational statements •  Get low to the child's level and soften your face, tone, and pace •  Offer real autonomy — a genuine say, not just a choice between two adult-chosen options •  Reduce spoken language during escalation and wait for the child to re-engage •  Build in rhythms instead of rigid routines •  In the hard moment, focus on repair and felt safety, not on teaching the lesson Related Resources & Links

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For part 1 of Odyssey week here on PDA we discuss the geopolitical implications of Christopher Nolan's decision to film The Odyssey in Moroccan occupied West Sahara but first we talk about Ronald Reagan's hair. SOURCE: https://africasacountry.com/location/western-sahara PATREON + DISCORD PATREON.COM/PODDAMNAMERICA MERCH: poddamnamerica.bigcartel.com