RAD Parenting Podcast

Children to bullying others are not feeling good about themselves, maybe sarcastic, have passive/aggressive behaviors. They usually pick on kids who have traits that they feel they are lacking and may be jealous of that child. Its okay for parents to check into their kids phones, computers, backpacks, etc., just to make sure things are okay. Whether being the bully or being bullied, most times the child doesn't feel able to talk with their teachers about the problem; so parents need to be watchful for both issues.

Quick Tip for Shame vs Guilt in a Child Symptoms of a child experiencing shame vs guilt are discussed. Parent communication tools and effective responses for helping a child are covered.

Moving kids from destructive and shameful thinking into a more temporal and opportunistic feelingn of guilt attached to specific actions, not to thier entire person. 

A great explanation of the varying types of trauma.

Typical symptoms and challenges of PTSD are discussed and the need for increasing coping skills, reframing and creating new narrative, restoration and the development of support systems for the entire family.

Very good information for caregivers and parents who sometimes get too caught up in their child's issues that they aren't able to take proper care of themselves. Parents / caregivers need reminding that its okay to do things for their own benefit; but having a good qualified person to give respite care is essential. Pointers given regarding what that person should understand regarding their child in order for a successful experience for the child.

As a child develops, when child cries and their needs aren't met the child develops a sense of security and safety. If not, the infant does not thrive when their needs aren't met and does not feel secure, safe and develop the ability to love and trust. Also self confidence and self worth does not develop as normal. (something must be wrong with me)

Tracey talks about the first year of the attachment cycle and what the attachment cycle is.

Self care is vital to the adults and having support of friends, family, school and  faith communities makes a world of difference in how the adult can maintain and support these child.

Jen and Tracey discussed green brain vs red brain (needs not met vs needs met, trust vs distrust). When parents/caregivers don't respond to their children or don't do it with consistency or the environment is chaotic, they don't connect to anyone and turn to themselves for comfort and survival (no trust, no security, no safety is felt by the child). Some signals for parents are failure for child to thrive, doesn't make eye contact, may have such physical things as acid reflux and often becomes very quiet. There is hope for the parents/caregivers, it takes time, practice to rewire their brains. One of the first steps is to establish "fast and snappy the caregivers way"; this starts giving children that safe, secure feeling. Also, giving choices lets them know that both choices given are safe to chose. This helps fill the child's needs and not just their wants.    

Consistency is key. Set limits that you can always enforce and chill out! Acknowledge that they may not be doing exactly what you've asked, but stay calm and say something like "when you get this done mom's way, we'll go do this_______________. Being firm, yet calm and in control helps your child understand that as an adult, you've got this!    

This covers so much with Jen. Good information but would like it to be broken down more for tips to manage day to day life with RAD child. It validates parents feelings and gives permission to acknowledge their feelings and to take steps their family needs to continue successfully.

Feeling helpless and hopeless says it ALL! That is exactly my experience!

Tracey describes how parents feel with a RAD child.....sometimes disconnected, unsure of themselves because they are not connecting with this child and that feeling of failure. This tip is so encouraging to parents because it reminds us that we are not bad parents and we are not alone. Would like to have more of these tips.

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Tune in and listen to the dialogue between Tracey Turner, LCMHC-S and Dr. Janet Courtney on play therapy.

Tracey Turner, LCMHC-S discusses helpful strategies that can keep the chaos of the holidays to a minimum.

Tracey talks on finding time to step away and give yourself the care you deserve.

What is Self Care? This podcast talks about to importance of self care, what it is and how to make time for it in your life.

A Coffee Time conversation on RAD in kids, trusting others and building a relationship with your child.

Tracey talks on why Intensive's are important and how to know when you should do one.

Strong Sitting with Dr. Dave Keyser

Part 2 of 3 where mom Sarah discusses challenges that can arise living with adoptive kids

Join mom Sarah as she discusses details about challenges that can arise living with adoptive kids. This is part 1 of 3

Parent Conversation on her experience with RAD in her children.

Tracey talks on why Intensive's are important and how to know when you should do one.

Mom Sarah talks about challenges that arise living with adoptive kids - part 3 of 3

Special guest Frank Anderson, MD joins us to talk about the activation of trauma for parents and the importance of addressing that in the therapy process. To learn more about Dr. Anderson, please visit his website at www.FrankAndersonMD.com

Join Tracey Turner, LCMHC-S as she chats with Dr. Dana Wyss about the Invisible String and how it can help children with RAD and Complex Developmental Trauma.

Tosha expressed her feelings of being unlovable because her birth parents couldn't take care of her, but has grown up enough to realize that just because they couldn't do that, that is not her fault. Understanding that she has to be and think in the NOW rather than the past, allows her to see her situation with her current family more clearly and realize that she is loved and is worth loving. Sees that she has things now that she would never have had if she didn't trust in herself, share her feelings with her parents and no matter what your circumstance, allow yourself to believe that there is nothing wrong with you.

Tracey Turner, LCHMC-S discusses the process of creating a boundary box and then Acknowledge, Validate and Redirect to Connect with your child in every scenario.

Tune in to this episode where 3 moms talk about their experiences and considerations with putting their reactive attachment disorder children into a residential treatment facility.

Guest Patti Hoyt joins us to talk about how essential oils can aid in relieving anxiety. Download her free stress toolkit: https://bit.ly/StressToolkit101 Visit www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/store for information on products mentioned.

When you "catch your kid with their hand in the cookie jar," their natural inclination is to lie. Tune in to this discussion with Tracey Turner, LCHMC-S and Paula Boyd, MS as they discuss giving your kid space to tell the truth.

Tracey Turner, LCMHC-S and Paula Boyd discuss Adult Attachment Style. For more information or to take Terry Levy's Adult Attachment Style Quiz, please check out his website: https://www.evergreenpsychotherapycenter.com/what-is-your-attachment-style-understanding-adult-attachment-patterns/

Licensed Clinical Mental Health Supervisor, Tracey Turner, shares insight into what a home intensive is and how it can benefit the family. She discusses what the goal of the intensive is, how the therapist works and the responsibilities of the family throughout the process. For more information, please email rad@fullcirclefamilycounseling.com

Tip of the Week from Tracey Turner, LCMHC, BC-TMH, BC-DMT Tips for parents with children with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and complex developmental trauma.

Teen and her sister went into foster care at ages 7 and 5 and were ultimately adopted. Tune in as Tracey Turner, LCMHC-S, BC-DMT, BC-TMH chats with her about how she handles being adopted with her friends as well as not playing the maternal role with her younger sister.

In this episode, Licensed therapist, Tracey Turner-Keyser, LCMHC, BC-TMH, BC-DMT brings in a young man who was adopted and recently started developing a relationship with his birth mom. His mom shares the background on the adoption and then we dive into how the kid felt about meeting his birth mom, what support he received from his parents and advice for other kids going through the same things.

Tracey N. Turner-Keyser, LCMHC-S, BC-TMH, BC-DMT shares insights with parents on why their children with complex developmental trauma are stuck in survival mode.

In this episode we dive into the impact that trauma has on couples - their relationships, their parenting styles and more.

Tracey Turner-Keyser, LCMHC-S, BC-DMT, BC-TMH dives into how children with past trauma and reactive attachment disorder (RAD) easily go on the defensive and how parents can help diffuse the situation.

In this episode, Tracey shares insights into benefits that COVID-19 is having on families and strategies for maximizing the time together.