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We all have constraints in church - time clocks, kids' attention span in kids' ministry, and parking lot turnaround.  In this session, Joseph and Tosha will speak to the tension that exists between honoring God's presence and honoring people's time.  It's not one or the other, it's both/and!  You'll leave this app session with tools and philosophies that will help you as a local-church worship leader/pastor host God's presence in a way that makes it easy for those seeking God to experience Him, no matter what your context.Joseph and Tosha Zwanziger serve as the Associate Lead Pastors at The Father's House, serving on the Lead Team and overseeing the major ministry components of the church.  Tosha also serves as the Worship Pastor – a role they led together for many years.  Joseph and Tosha's primary passion is to see revival in the church as demonstrated by a move of God's presence, those far from God experiencing Him and becoming life-long disciples, and a movement of leaders being raised up to steward it all.  Joseph and Tosha have two sons, Cohen and Iver.We hope that this teaching left you more encouraged and equipped today. Ministers Fellowship International exists to help leaders build healthy, strong, impacting churches and to do so in a way that makes for a healthy leader.

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts, OR— BRAND NEW: we've included a fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I am giving you another sneak peek inside my Peaceful Parenting Membership! Listen in as I interview Tosha Schore as part of our membership's monthly theme of “Aggression”. We discuss why kids get aggressive, how to handle it no matter how many kids you have, and dealing with the aggressive behaviour from many angles.**If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! > > If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice.Know someone who might appreciate this post? Share it with them!We talk about:* 6:35 Is a child's aggression OUR fault as the parent?* 13:00 Why are some kids aggressive?* 15:00 How do you handle aggression when you have multiple kids?* 22:00 A new sibling being born is often a trigger for aggression in the older child* 29:00 When you feel like you are “walking on eggshells” around your child* 35:00 How naming feelings can be a trigger for kids* 37:00 When aggression is name calling between siblings* 42:00 Friends- roughhousing play or aggression?* 49:00 Coming from aggression at all angles* 50:35 Using limits when there are safety issuesResources mentioned in this episode:* Yoto Player-Screen Free Audio Book Player* The Peaceful Parenting Membership* Tosha's Websitexx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team- click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! 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No one listening or watching and they can't go where you don't want them to go and they aren't watching screens. BUT they are being entertained or kept company with audio that you can buy from YOTO or create yourself on one of their blank cards. Check them out HERETranscript: Sarah: Hey everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast. Today's guest is Tosha Shore, a peaceful parenting expert on aggression. I invited her into the Peaceful Parenting Membership a few months ago to talk to us about aggression and to answer our members' aggression-specific questions.So many fantastic questions were asked. I know they'll help you if you're at all having any issues with aggression. And remember, aggression isn't just hitting. It's any expression of the fight, flight, or freeze response—including yelling, spitting, throwing things, and swearing.Tosha is such a valuable resource on this issue. I really, really admire how she speaks about aggression and the compassion that she brings to both kids and parents who are experiencing aggression.One note: one of the members was okay with her question being used in the podcast, but she didn't want her voice used. So in the podcast today, I paraphrased her question and follow-up comments to preserve the flow of the conversation.As I mentioned, this is a sneak peek inside the Peaceful Parenting Membership. If you would like to join us, we would love to have you. It is such a wonderful space filled with human touch and support. There are so many benefits, and it's my favorite part of my work as a parenting coach.We'll put the link to join us in the show notes, or you can visit reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/membership. If you know anyone who could use this podcast, please share it with them. And as always, we would appreciate your five-star ratings and reviews on your favorite podcast app.Let's meet Tosha.Hello, Tosha, welcome to the membership. I'm so excited that you're going to be here talking to us about aggression today. So maybe you could start out by just giving a brief introduction of who you are and what you do.Tosha: Absolutely. So my name is Tosha Shore and I am the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully, where we are on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time.I'm also the co-author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. And I work with a lot of families with young kids who are struggling with hard behaviors like aggression, and my goal is to give you all hope and inspiration—to keep on keeping on with peaceful parenting practices because they do absolutely work. Even, or maybe even especially, for really hard behaviors.Sarah: I love that you added that—especially for hard behaviors—because I think there's this fallacy out there that, yeah, peaceful parenting's nice if you have easy kids, but, you know, my kid needs more “discipline” or whatever. So I love that you called that out, 'cause I think it's absolutely true also.So maybe—just—we have some questions from our members that people sent in, and I'm not sure, some people on the call might have questions as well. But maybe we could just get started by you sort of centering us in what causes aggression.I was just on a call with some clients whose child was having some issues at school, which, if we have time, I might ask you about. The mom was saying, “Oh, you know, he's being aggressive at school because I sometimes shout or lose my temper.” And I said to her, you know, of course that plays a part in it, but there are lots of kids whose parents never shout or lose their temper who still are aggressive.So why is that? What causes aggression?Tosha: I mean, I think there are a few things that can cause aggression. I often will say that aggression is fear in disguise, because I've found that a lot of kids who are getting in trouble at school—they're yelling, they may be hurting siblings or hurting their parents—they are scared inside.Sometimes it's an obvious fear to us. Like maybe they're playing with a peer and the peer does something that feels threatening—goes like that in their face or something—and instead of just, you know, play-fighting back, they clock the kid or whatever.And sometimes the fears are a little bit more hidden and maybe could fall even into the category of lagging skills. I don't even like to say “lagging skills,” but, like, skills that maybe they haven't developed yet. School's a perfect example. I think a lot of kids often will be acting out in school—even aggressively—because they're being asked to do something that they don't yet have the skills to do.And that's pretty frustrating, right? It's frustrating to be asked, and then demanded, to perform in a certain way or accomplish something specific when you don't either feel the confidence to do it, or you don't yet have the skills. Which sort of spills into another reason that kids can get aggressive, and that's shame.We can feel really ashamed if everybody else in the class, for example, or a lot of kids, are able to just answer the questions straight out when the teacher asks—and maybe we get stage fright, or maybe we didn't quite understand the example, or whatever it is.So I definitely want to pull that parent away from blaming themselves. I think we always tend—we have a negative bias, right? Our brain has a negative bias. All of us. And I think we tend to go towards taking it on ourselves: It's our fault. If we had just done X, Y, or Z, or if we hadn't done X, Y, or Z, my child wouldn't be acting out this way.But I always say to parents, well, that's a choice. There's like a 50/50, right? We could choose to say, you know what, it could be that I did something, but I don't think so. That's the other 50%. But we always go with the “it's my fault” 50.So part of my job, I think, is to encourage parents to lean into the “It's not my fault.” Not in the sense of nothing I do has an impression on my child, but in the sense of: it's important that we as parents all acknowledge—and I truly believe this—that we are doing our best all the time.There is no parent I've ever met who purposefully doesn't behave in a way they feel good about, or purposefully holds back their love, or purposefully yells, or anything like that. If we could do differently, we absolutely would as parents.Sarah: Mm-hmm. So more like, “I didn't cause this. There's maybe something I could do, but I didn't cause this.” Right.Tosha: I mean, like, look, let's just be honest. Maybe she did cause it, okay? I mean, I've done things—maybe I've caused things—but so what, right? There's nothing I can do at this point.I can either sort of wallow in, “Oh gosh, did I cause this?” Or I could say, probably I didn't, because there are so many other factors. Or I could say, you know, maybe I did, but one, I'm confident that I did the best that I could in that moment.And two—and this is an important part—is that I am doing whatever work I need. I'm getting the support I need, right? I'm showing up to Sarah's membership or this call or whatever, to take steps to do better in the future.So if we're just making a mistake and not doing anything to try to behave better next time, that's not worth much either. Like, I remember once when my kids were little—I don't even remember what I was doing, I don't remember what the situation was—but I do remember very clearly that I apologized. I said, “I'm sorry, I won't do that again.”And my kid goes, “You always say that and then you do it again.”And that was true. But if that were true because I was just saying “I'm sorry” and going about my next thing and not paying attention to the why or getting to the crux of what was causing me to behave that way, then that would be disingenuous.But in fact, I was doing my own emotional work to be able to show up more often in ways that I felt good about. So I could genuinely feel good about that apology, and I could not take it personally. I could say, “You know what, you're absolutely right. I do keep making this mistake. And I want you to know that I am working hard to try to change that behavior.” And that was true.Sarah: Yeah. Makes sense. So you mentioned before that you want parents to see aggression as fear in disguise. And you mentioned that the fear can be something obvious, like someone's gotten in your face and you're scared. Or it can be fear of not being able to meet the expectations of your teacher or your parent. Or shame that can come from maybe even having made a mistake.You didn't say this, but I'm thinking of something common that often happens—like a kid makes a mistake or does something they didn't mean to do, and then they lash out. Right?So how do we get from those feelings of fear and shame to aggression? Because that doesn't happen for every kid, right? Some kids will just cry or say something, but then some kids really lash out and hit, throw things, shout, scream. So how does that happen? How do we get from A to B?Tosha: Well, I think all kids are different, just like all adults are different. And when we encounter fear—any of us—we go into fight, flight, or freeze. And kids who are aggressive go into fight.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Tosha: So some kids do and some kids don't. And you know, I don't have any scientific research to back this up, but I would say part of this is DNA, part of this is the nature of the kid.Sarah: Right.Tosha: And I think that's also going back to the self-blame. I've got three kids, they're all very different, right? Same house, same parents, same everything. They're different. They came into this world different, and they're still different.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Tosha: And I can help guide them, but I can't change the core of who they are. So I think that aggression is those kids who go from “I'm scared, I'm having to protect myself” to that attack mode.Sarah: Right. Makes sense. And just—I mean, I know this—but is it in the child's control?Tosha: No, it's not in the child's control. It is absolutely a reaction. And I think that's why I feel like having that concept of aggression being fear in disguise can be so helpful from a mindset perspective for parents. Because it's so much easier to have empathy for a child who we see as being scared, right? Than one who we see as being a jerk, picking on his brother, or disrespectful, rude—all of those terms we use when we're struggling.Sarah: Right. Well, there may be a few other points that I want you to make, but they might come out in the context of some questions from our members.So I know at least two people on the call right now had sent me a question in case they couldn't make it. But I'm going to ask Sonya—are you willing, Sonya, to unmute yourself and ask your question?Sarah: Hi.Sonia: Sure. Hi.Sarah: Hi, Sonya.(Sarah narrating): Sonia wonders how to handle aggression when you have multiple kids. She has three kids—a 7-year-old, a 4-year-old, and a baby—and it's often her 7-year-old who reacts in fight mode. She's trying to figure out how to keep her cool and also how to handle it and take care of the other kids and manage him.Tosha: Yeah. So one thing that I noticed is how Sonia kind of glossed over the keeping her own cool. And I want to bring that to everybody's attention, because we all do that. But actually, when we're dealing with aggression, we have to come at it from a lot of different angles.There's no one magic pill I can give her, but it has to actually start—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Tosha: So it doesn't mean we have to reach Nirvana or become the Buddha or never yell before we can make any progress. But we can't put that aside and just go, “Okay, what do I do to get my kid to stop doing this?”Because our energy has a huge effect on our kids' aggression. And usually—well, let me just say—it makes sense to ask yourself questions like: how am I feeling about this? Because most people are feeling scared—either scared of their child (“they're going to hurt me” or “they're going to hurt a sibling, hurt the baby”), or scared for their child (“he's going to end up in juvenile hall, he's going to end up the next school shooter”).We project forward. So if we're having fear for our child or fear of our child, that child is soaking up that feeling. And I don't know about you, but I've never met anybody who could actually change their behaviors—who was inspired, motivated, or able to change their behaviors—when everyone around them was scared of them or scared for them.Maybe occasionally there's somebody who's like, “I'm going to prove the point because the world is against me,” right? And this is like a Hollywood film. But most of us don't work that way.So I want to come at it from all the angles. There's the “take care of yourself” piece. But at the same time, we have to keep our kids safe.One thing that I think really helps is to pay attention to the pattern of when the aggression is happening, so she's not surprised. Because if we're surprised, then we act in surprising ways to ourselves. We don't show up as our best.So pay attention. Does this happen at a certain time of day? When there's a certain constellation of kids playing together? When one particular child is present? When you're doing something specific? If there's another parent—when they're present or absent? Pay attention to these things so that you can show up ready.Because if you can change your story in your head from, “I have no idea when this happens, it happens all the time, it happens out of the blue”—which is really disempowering—to “I've noticed that every afternoon when I pick my 7-year-old up from school and bring him home, then I go in the kitchen to make a snack… and then he lays on top of the baby,” or whatever—then it is much more manageable.Then you can say, “Okay, well, I remember this call that I was on and they talked about maybe there being some fear in there. Well, I don't know what the fear is, I don't know what's going on, but I'm going to be ready. I'm not going to let it happen.”So rather than make that snack, I'm going to make it before he comes home, or I'm going to just pull out some frozen pizza. But I'm going to stay present with that child during that time and expect that the upset will happen.Because then, when that child goes to lay on the baby—or whatever the aggression is—you can actually physically get in the way. You can prevent it from happening. And then what happens is, because that child—the 7-year-old—has something to push against, something preventing them from acting on their fear response, from fighting—what happens then is like a magic reaction.He's able to erupt like a volcano and release the tension, those fears, the upsets. Maybe it's 12 things that happened to him at school today. Maybe there was shame around not knowing the answer when he was called on. Whatever it was.But there's suddenly space with an attentive adult who remembers that the child is scared. So they have empathy. They're not worried, they're not caught by surprise. So we're not going to jump at them. And that child has the opportunity then to heal.That release of the feeling is what heals the child. It's like pulling up weeds in your garden by the roots, as opposed to just pulling and having them break off, and then the next day you've got the whole thing back again.So this tool—which in our book we talk about as Stay Listening, where we're staying and allowing space for the child to feel—is what, over time, will change that fight response. That's actually the gold nugget that, over time, will both change the intensity of the outbursts and also change the frequency.Is any of that landing for you?Sarah (narrating): Sonia responded that it was very helpful. She's told me before that her baby's almost one, and this started happening a lot right after she had the baby. She also says that she's done my Transform Your Family Life course, and she's still working on it. She's done more of the welcoming feelings, and she has put together that it's usually in the afternoons—so Tosha is right about that—and it's happening after school.She's also connected that there are things happening at school that aren't in line with how she and her husband want their child treated, and she thinks that's related.Tosha: Yeah. So in light of this new information, I would also say—and I'm sure Sarah's talked to you about this as well—but pouring in as much connection to that child as possible.And it can feel, especially when you have multiple kids, that it's unfair, right? One kid is getting more… Are you familiar with the concept of special times, Sarah? Is that something that you teach?Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: Okay. You know, if you're doing special time—oftentimes we talk about, or I talk about at least—I'm not a “fair” kind of a person. I'm a “life's not fair” kind of a person. My kids will tell you that.But when it comes to special time, I always encourage parents to think about a week and to try to give your kids about the same amount of special time over a week. But—and here's the caveat—when we have a kid who is struggling, they are demanding more of us. They are demanding more attention. And our time didn't increase.Tosha: So that means we are going to need to devote more time. It's going to be uneven. But that child—and especially, like, this is probably the number one reason that I hear for aggression to start, and we didn't talk about this at the beginning—is when a younger sibling is born. I mean, it is so often the trigger, I can't tell you.And if I could go back to all of those parents and say, “Don't worry about being fair. Just pour as much extra love and connection and yumminess into that child who's struggling as you can. It will pay off later. You can make it up to the other kids later.” In fact, you're giving them a gift by helping their older brother, because then his behavior isn't going to have that negative effect on them.So I think that we get stuck in the fairness sometimes. I'm not saying you do this, Sonya—this is just from my experience. And then we hold back from giving that child what they need. So special time isn't the only thing. I would say: make a list of things that you do with that 7-year-old that creates laughter between you, that you both feel really good—where you have that yumminess, like, oh, you're loving on him and he's loving on you. Maybe that's shooting hoops in the front yard, or maybe it's drawing a picture together, or jumping on the trampoline, or reading a book. I mean, it could be anything at all.You can do those things, and you can do them with the other three kids around. Also, keep doing all of that stuff. And you're going to have to, I think, carve out some time for one-on-one special time—named, timed—where he gets to lead and he gets to be the boss.Sarah: That's awesome. And we always talk about equity versus equality with the sibling relationships, and I think that's—Tosha: Oh yeah. I love that.Sarah: Okay, awesome. Thank you so much. Priya, do you want me to ask your question, or do you want to ask the question since you're on the call? Maybe she's stepped away or can't unmute herself. Uh, she wants me to ask. Okay. So I'm going to find Priya's question and ask it.Uh, Priya says: “My five-year-old gets angry at anything and everything. He has zero tolerance for any kind of dislike or disagreement. We acknowledge his feelings with empathy, doing our best to stay calm and give him time to process his emotions. The only limit we consistently set is holding him from hurting people or property while he yells, screams, says hurtful things, and tries with full rage to attack us.“We're consciously making time for roughhousing, special time, connection, laughter, and tears—though he rarely cries—and we talk about asking for help before things escalate. I've been trying to track patterns by logging some incidents, but sometimes it feels completely unpredictable. We often have no idea why he's screaming. If I push a chair slightly, he gets angry. If someone else presses the elevator button, he gets upset. If he has a plan in his mind and we don't pick up on it, he becomes extremely frustrated. He gets irritated and grumpy very easily. It's gotten to the point where we feel like we have to expect an outburst at any moment. It looks like it's becoming a habit for him, and I feel like I'm starting to walk on eggshells—always watchful for what might happen when I say or do something.”Tosha: Yeah, so this is a really—believe it or not—common situation. Did she say he was five? Is that five?Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I cannot tell you the number of parents who come to me and this is what they say: “I'm walking on eggshells.” Right? If we get to the point where we're walking on eggshells, generally what that says to me is that we are not either setting enough limits or we're not setting limits effectively.And one thing that I would suggest to Priya is to take a minute to think about whether or not there are places where she's feeling resentment. That's always a good sign for me—like, if I'm feeling resentment about something, then that's probably a place I need to hold a limit. If I'm not, then there's more wiggle room.So when this is happening all the time about everything, I would say: get really clear on what limits are important to you and what limits are not. Right? So if you're in public, in the elevator, and you don't want to deal with a big meltdown about the elevator button, can you plan for that? If you know that that's an issue, when you go in, you can say to people, “Hey, my son would really like to press the buttons—what floor would you like?”Sarah: Mm-hmm. Right.Tosha: “Here's our elevator operator—exactly. What floor, please?” Or, if somebody presses the button—or if she's pressing the button—to just go in knowing, “I'm not going to press the button. I'm going to let my child do this.” And if somebody else has already pressed it, you can say, “You know what? Hey, let's take the next elevator and then we'll press it. You can press it.”So there are places where we can be flexible. But we don't want to do that all the time, because essentially what this child is showing me is that he has a real intense lack of flexibility. And ultimately, the goal that I would have for him would be—slowly, slowly and lovingly—to help him increase that flexibility. So that, yeah, maybe he's not going to say, “Oh, shoot, I'm feeling really disappointed because I didn't get to press the elevator button and I really like to do that.” But maybe instead of having a huge tantrum, he just gets a sourpuss face and crosses his arms. Okay, I'll take that. That's better. We're moving in the right direction.So it sounds like you're doing a lot of things right, but I would hone in on limit-setting. Really: are you taking the time to think about what kind of limits you want to set? Are you letting go of limits when you know that you don't have the wherewithal to stay calm in the face of the upset?So, oftentimes—I'm hearing Priya say she does a lot of Stay Listening—I would be curious to know: what does that Stay Listening look like? Because I was working with a dad this week, a client of mine, and we were talking about a situation that was going on with his kid, who was coming home really frustrated with homework. And what ended up coming out of his mouth was, “I thought I was Stay Listening, but I think I actually wasn't Stay Listening.”Right—because Stay Listening isn't about trying to calm the child, or trying to get them to stop what they're doing. It can't be with the goal of, “Let me get this kid to quiet down,” kind of a thing. Stay Listening is really holding space lovingly for whatever needs to come out, which means—yeah—all the words, all—like, we don't take them personally.Sarah: Can I just interject something? For my community, what they would recognize Stay Listening as is “welcoming feelings.” Mm-hmm. Just because that'll be a familiar phrase to them. So I just wanna—Tosha: Yeah, absolutely. Right. But “welcoming feelings”—I feel like we need to also talk about: what does that look like? Mm-hmm. What does that look like when we welcome feelings? Because, you know, you could be upset and I could just be like—Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: —like waiting for you to be done. Right? I could be like, “Okay, I'm not gonna shut you down, but, you know, hey, whatever you do, what you need to do, I'm gonna go answer my email.” That's—you know—I can “welcome” the feelings like that. But again, coming back to our energy: what energy are we bringing to that? Are we really staying present with the energy of “We are gonna get through this,” with the energy of “You are safe,” with the energy of “I'm here with you.”Mm-hmm. Right? Like, can that child sense that they're not alone—that you're on their team? And that's maybe a good litmus test. If you were to ask yourself: do you feel like your child would feel like you're on their team, or that you're butting heads? Mm-hmm. And if the answer is “butting heads,” then the question is: what can you shift so that your child will feel like, “Hey, we're in this together”?Sarah: Sounds good. Priya, I don't know if you have anything to add. It sounds like maybe she can't unmute herself, but—oh, she says he screams really loud, so we usually stay quiet and don't say anything because it's really loud. We wait for the moment to pass before we can say anything, at the same time being present. So she's saying they're trying to be present, sometimes trying to say, “I see you're really upset.”Tosha: Yeah. And so when she says—I'm sorry, it's a little bit via you here—but before, when you say, “Priya, before I say something,” what is it that you're saying? Because another thing about Stay Listening—or welcoming feelings, from my perspective—is that saying something actually doesn't really have a place. So if we need to say something, it should—I think—uh, or let me just rephrase that: I find it most effective when it's something that essentially allows that child to feel safe, to realize that they're not alone.Right—to realize that we're on their team, and to realize that it's not gonna last forever. So that they're loved—these types of things. So I wouldn't—if you're naming feelings, and I don't know that she is or isn't, but if you're naming feelings—which is something that a lot of professionals, for example, will recommend—I would play around with stopping that and seeing if that makes a difference, because sometimes that's a huge trigger for kids. And maybe even, “I see you're upset,” or whatever it is that she said—that also might be a trigger.Yeah. Don't be afraid to really not say anything at all, and just think about each of these things as an experiment. Take a day and don't say anything at all and see if it makes a difference. Other things to try—'cause it sounds like he's quite sensitive—is distance, right? How close are you to that child? Some kids don't want you all up in their face. Some kids want to be on your lap and hugged. Some kids want to be a room's distance away. So play with distance; play with tone.Sarah: Love that. Thank you so much, Tosha. Does anybody else who's on the call have a question? And if not, I have questions that were sent in, but I want to give priority to people who are here. Uh, and—and Priya says, “Thank you, Tosha.”Tosha: Yeah, my pleasure. I'm trying to work without the direct back and forth.Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: No—so I hope that was helpful.Sarah: Yeah, that was great, Lindsay.Tosha: And I want to acknowledge that it is really hard. It is hard.Sarah: Yeah. Yeah, definitely. It's one of the most—Tosha: It won't last forever either. Like, it's absolutely—move through. I can assure you of that.Sarah: Lindsay, do you have a question?Member B: Yes. I have a question about my son, actually. He's 10 years old, and I have a 10-year-old boy and then a 7-year-old girl. And a lot of times—there's kind of two different questions—but between the siblings, a lot of times my daughter will be, like, have verbal aggression towards him, and then he—he is my—he is a little more sensitive, and he will hold it in, and he won't spit out things back at her, but then he eventually will just hit her. And, like, he comes with the physical aggression. So kind of, as the parent, proactively trying to step in there—like, how do I handle both of those when one is verbal—maybe aggression—and one is physical? I know it can escalate there. Where do I step in?Tosha: Yeah. First of all, I just want to appreciate that you can see that there's a dynamic there. Because oftentimes we get into this place as parents where we're like, “This person is the aggressor and this person is the victim.” Because oftentimes there is a pattern like that, but it's—it's beautiful that you can see this dance that they're doing.Member B: Yeah.Tosha: And so if you see it kind of as a dance, you can interplay around and experiment with interrupting it in different ways. Okay. I would say that, in terms of the verbal aggression, what I have found works best—and again, I was talking to a client yesterday and he was saying to me that this is what works. Mm-hmm. I'm like, “Okay, so let's do more of that. You came out of your mouth; you said it works when you do it—let's do more.” And that is being playful in the face of the verbal aggression.And so it can look like a lot of different things. You could say ahead of time to your daughter something like, “Hey, I've noticed that, you know, sometimes these nasty words come out of your mouth towards your brother, and I know you don't mean them. So I'm gonna—I'm gonna pay attention and just try to help you with that, 'cause I know you don't want to hurt his feelings.”Member B: Yeah.Tosha: And just, you know, outside the moment, just kind of toss that out there. And then in the heat of the moment—I mean, you can just get as goofy as you can think. You could get a paper bag and just pull it over her head, right? Or you could get those indoor snowballs and just start pelting her with snowballs. You could do what we call the “vigorous snuggle,” which we write about in the book, which is something like, “Do you know what happens to little girls who call their brothers, you know, ‘stupid buttheads'” or whatever it is—Sarah: Uh-huh.Tosha: —and then you—rather than push away, which is what we tend to want to do—you do something goofy, right? “They get their elbows licked!” And then you're, like, chasing after her elbow and trying to lick it. What you're going for is laughter. You're trying to elicit laughter, because she's stuck in a hard spot where she can't feel compassion for him and she can't feel your love or anybody's. And so laughter will loosen that up.So I would say: interrupt the verbal aggression with play.Member B: Okay.Tosha: Some of those things will maybe annoy her; some of them will lead to laughter. And then sometimes you'll do an experiment and it'll annoy her—mm-hmm—and she'll explode. And what I want to say about that is—that's okay. Because, like we talked about with the school incident, it's an opportunity for her to do that healing and release the tensions and the hurts and the upsets and the gripes and all the stuff that she's holding in there. So when that happens, if you can welcome those feelings and not try to shut them down or judge her—or what many of us, sort of in the peaceful parenting world, will do is just talk, talk, talk, talk to her about it—if you can let all of that go—Member B: Yeah.Tosha: —you'll see the behaviors lessen. Okay? You know, that would be—I mean, we talked a little bit about the physical stuff before, so I thought for this question I would focus more on the verbal.Member B: Yeah.Tosha: But in the sibling dynamic, just kind of rotate who you go to, so they don't feel like there's one “bad guy” and one “woe-is-me” sibling.Member B: Yeah. Right.Tosha: Because ultimately, our goal as parents is to nurture that sibling relationship. Right. I don't—I don't know—like, I just had a birthday. I'm like, “This is my best birthday ever.” And people are like, “Really? How is it your best birthday ever?” I'm like, because, like, a lot of people couldn't come to my party but all three of my boys were home, and we sang karaoke, and the three of them sang me a song and sang all this. It was like—there is nothing I think we want more than to see our kids loving each other, enjoying each other—mm-hmm—having a strong relationship down the road.And let me tell you, these kids were at each other. I mean, now they're 18, 20, and 22. But I have been in your shoes where my mom would call me and be like, “I'm afraid they're gonna kill each other. I'm worried.” I'd be like, “It's okay. I got this, Mom. You know, things will change.” Yeah. But we do want to experiment—interrupt the behaviors.Member B: Yeah, I appreciate the trying different interventions and then also being prepared for her to, like, not enjoy some of them as well. 'Cause I think that happens a lot more than, like, the positive, you know, playful things. Right. So I appreciate that space to, like, let that happen too—and that's okay.Tosha: Yeah. It's—even more than okay. Like, that's kind of what needs to happen—mm-hmm—in order for her to shift—yeah—in order for her to be able to show up differently. She's stuck. Just think of her as being stuck.Member B: Yeah. And maybe it's not gonna fix that moment, but later on it'll be less and less, right?Tosha: Yeah. And it happens much more quickly than we think, oftentimes.Member B: Yeah. Yeah. Well, thank you. Yeah. The other quick question—do I have time, Sarah, to ask the second—Sarah: Sure.Member B: Okay. The second one is more—it's my 10-year-old. So recently, like, he was at a playdate. He's getting to play with a lot more of his friends. They're all playing football and sports and things, and he's just a bigger kid—my husband's 6'5”, so he's just naturally bigger than a lot of the kids. And he is super playful, but he gets, like, playful aggression. And, like, one of the moms was saying, like, “Oh my—” I've seen the dynamic of how all the boys are playing, and I noticed Calvin sometimes gets a little too aggressive. And her son Luke is pretty small. And Luke is like, “Yeah, I get trampled sometimes.” And so the mom was like, “I just try and tell Calvin, like, how big he is and, you know, his awareness.” But I know it happens with his sister, and I think it probably happens at school sometimes too—that he doesn't realize his size, and that maybe it comes out to be as, like—I don't know if he has internal aggression or if it's just playful and he's not aware of how big he is.Tosha: Yeah, I mean, I'd say two things about this. One is: I always have to ask the question in these situations—Is it the kids who are having the problem, or is it the parents who are having a problem?Member B: Yeah.Tosha: And I don't know the answer in this situation, but oftentimes our kids play a lot rougher than we feel comfortable with—but they're all actually having a good time. Yeah. I mean, the way that you said that kid reported didn't sound like it was a problem. I could be wrong and it could be a problem, but I think it's worth asking: whether or not it's a problem—Is that mom worried, or is the kid not having fun?Member B: Yeah.Tosha: So just to keep that in mind. Because there's often a par between what we are feeling comfortable with and the way our kids are going at each other. Right. And I think in that situation, we do want to stay close if we're not sure. And just ask—like, if you notice that energy going up—just say, “Hey, are you all having fun?” If everyone says yes—okay. If one person says no, then we know we need to intervene. Okay. So that's one piece.And then I think it's about body awareness for him. Mm-hmm. And maybe one thing that you could do at home would be some practice—sort of—physical wrestling matches or something of the sort, where you could just pretend like you're in a ring—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Tosha: —with a timer, and do, like, 15-second, 30-second sessions—or whatever you call it. I'm not a boxing person or whatever, but I don't—Sarah: Rounds.Tosha: Rounds. Maybe it's rounds, right? Yeah. So where somebody's actually the ref and saying, “Okay, go at it,” and then when the whistle blows—when the ref blows the whistle—everyone has to run back to their corners. And so we're increasing the awareness of stop-start, stop-start.And then also I think it's oftentimes a good idea to have kind of a—what do you call it—an emergency word, secret word, whatever it's called—Sarah: Oh yeah.Tosha: —the word—Sarah: Safe word.Tosha: What's the word? Safe word. Safe word.Sarah: Safe word.Tosha: Yeah. Safe word. And so you all could figure that out at the beginning of this game. And, in fact, that's something that he could transfer over to his play with his friends. Like, “Yeah, once he learns—he's like, ‘I know I'm big; I'm just having a good time. I know I don't want to hurt you, but if things are getting too rough, say banana and I'll know I gotta pull back.'”Yeah. But “banana” is going to work a lot better than, “Hey, stop doing that,” or a parent coming in and saying, “Hey, be careful, you need to be careful, you're a lot bigger than him, you need to pull back.” That's not going to work as well. But you have to practice those things at home. So—come at it from two different angles.Member B: Yeah. I like how that is—he and his sister have a thing where if they're being too much, they yell “T.” Yeah. Okay. And so if they're like “T, T,” then they know like, oh, that's a timeout—like, I need to pause for a second.Sarah: Perfect.Member B: So yeah, maybe just—yeah—telling him, like, set it up with your friends so they can say it.Tosha: Yeah. If he already has that skill with his sister, that's amazing. Mm-hmm. And then, yeah—could we just transfer it over to a friend?Member B: Yeah, and I agree—it could be a little more parent than kid, because the kid's inviting Calvin over all the time and wants him to come back. So I'm like, I think they're having fun. You know, and it just may be the parent's perception of—or protection of—her child.Tosha: Right. And I think it's—I think it's fair to just ask.Member B: Mm-hmm.Tosha: You know, ask the child. I mean, you can ask the child if the child's at your house. Yeah. You can just say, like, “Hey, you know, if you guys need me, I'm in the other room,” or whatever. Like, you don't have to— I just—I don't like to assume that there's a problem.Member B: Mm-hmm. Yeah, because he's—he—it's very sweet. I just think he—he just plays rough sometimes and—Tosha: Yeah. Well, some kids like to play rough. And the other thing is, if we interrupt too much, we're interrupting the development of important emotional intelligence. Because one of the ways that kids learn—or build—emotional intelligence is through playing with one another. Right? If they play too rough, they're going to lose their playmate. Right. If they don't play rough enough, they're also going to lose their playmate. Right. This kid might like to play rough. I mean, this little kid might like to play rough—mm-hmm—because he doesn't have that opportunity with other kids. And, like, it's an opportunity to sort of be bigger and use strength and feel—I mean, I don't know.Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: But there's something about the dance that they do when they play. I remember reading research about this in the animal kingdom. It was like a—it was a—I forget what his name was. This was like a million years ago at a conference when I was—back when I was a linguist—who was talking about this. And it was super, super interesting. I thought, “Wow, okay.” And so I think we need to let our kids also do that dance and just be present—so if there is a problem, we can step in—let them know that we're there. But don't assume there's a problem when nobody's complaining.Member B: Right. Okay. Yeah. Thank you. Thanks, Lindsay. That's helpful.Sarah: So I'm conscious that we only have about, uh, eight minutes left with you. And I don't think anyone else on the call has a question, so I will go to a question that was sent in. And actually two questions that were sent in, and I'm not sure how different they are, so I'm going to tell you both of them.Okay. And if you can answer them both together, or if you think they're separate—if that works. Okay. So one of them is a person, a member who has a child—a girl—who is just about to turn eight. And when she gets upset, she hits and throws things at her mom. And they haven't been able to—and she's been following peaceful parenting—but still hasn't been able to curb this. She doesn't have any issues anywhere else, except for—Tosha: Okay.Sarah: —her mom. The second person has a 12-year-old daughter that is hitting, kicking, pinching, saying mean words, etc., to her younger siblings when they're not doing what she wants them to do. She's the oldest of five; has younger siblings who are 10, 8, 4, and 2. And she didn't mention this, but I know she also—when she gets upset—she will do that to her mom too.Tosha: Yeah. Yeah. So for me, these are really both limit-setting issues, right? Like I've said earlier, we have to come at aggression from all the different angles, right? So we talked—we started out at the beginning with the first question about, like, hey, let's—we gotta focus in on our own healing and our own triggers, and make sure that we're not sort of trying to skate over that and pretend that we're gonna be able to be better without addressing anything.We also have to focus on connection. Like—somebody said they're tracking. Yeah, we need to pay attention—like, when does this stuff happen? We need to pour in connection, like we talked about. Make a list of all the things that are yummy when you do them together—just do more, do more, do more. Use play in the ways that we've talked about.But limits aren't necessarily the place to start—but if there are safety issues, then we have to go right there. So if the problem—well, there are lots of problems—but one thing that I've seen is that if we let a child, quote-unquote, succeed—or if a child succeeds in hurting us—let's just say throwing—like, let's say we get a stapler thrown at us and we end up with a black eye, or a cut on our face, or whatever it is—that child feels more fear than they felt before. Because there's a huge amount of fear associated with having that much power when you're so small, and feeling like the adults in your life can't keep everybody safe.Right? Because our number one job, in my opinion, is to keep everybody safe and alive. Let's just start there. Mm-hmm. So this is just basic. So that means that in a situation like this, you're gonna want to pay attention. You're gonna really want to track when this happens. It's good—it only happens with you, I think. That's telling in the sense that she feels safe enough with you to be able to show you that she's kind of holding things together out in the world, but actually feeling yucky inside, and these feelings need to come out somehow.And the next step is you figuring out: well, how do I want to show her that, yes, I can keep her safe? And that is likely gonna look like you physically anticipating—for her throwing something—or you see that she reaches for the stapler, and you're gonna rush in and you're gonna put your hand on her hand on that stapler: “I don't want that stapler to get thrown.”And I'm not gonna lie—it's gonna look messy, and it's gonna be a struggle, and all of the things. That's fine—as long as you're calm. If you feel triggered by the throwing, and you don't feel like you can stay calm, and you can feel like—to talk about, you know, the sweet child underneath the yucky feeling. So let's—got the throwing or the hitting or the cussing out or the whatever up here, and there's just always this sweet child underneath.If you lose sight of that child, then in a situation like this, I would rather you walked out of the room and the—you know—the stapler hit the door. You know, it breaks the window or it dents the door or whatever it is. I don't want that to happen, but I would rather that happen than it hit you and then you hit her, or you held her harder than you want, or you screamed horrible things at her that you wished afterwards you could take back.Right. And I say these things not because I think you're doing this, but just because in my 20 years of working in this world and raising three kids—I know what those feelings feel like, and they're real, and they happen to all of us. So if you feel out of control, remove yourself.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Tosha: Even at the cost of the window. But—which is why we have to start with our own—getting ourselves in what I call “good enough emotional shape.” Because ultimately, you need to be able to move in, put your hand on that hand with the stapler, and just say something like, “I can't—I can't let you throw that, sweet girl. I can't let you throw that.” And that's it.And then she's gonna have a huge upset. She's gonna fight, and she's gonna try and—“Let go of me,” and “I can't breathe,” and whatever. And unless she breathes through her hand—like, she's breathing okay, right? But that upset, again, is the gold nugget. Like—then you welcome the feelings and you allow them to pour out. Because something happened. Something is going on. And it might not be that one thing happened during that day at school, or wherever, but it might be that there was a little nick and a little nick and a little nick. And every time—whatever—she didn't get what she wanted, or a sibling got something and she didn't, or you answered a sibling before you answered her, or whatever it is—they're just all little things.They happen. They're not your fault or anybody's fault. It's just that if, every time they happen, she doesn't release the yucky feelings that arise in her as a result, then what's happening is they're building up. And so I like to think of it as the sand—or the sedimentary rock—on the beach. You can see those striations in it, right? So it's like—sand is really soft; you can kind of brush it off, but when it sits and it hardens, then you have to take, like, a chisel to it.Sarah: Yeah. For our people, we call that “getting a full emotional backpack,” when you're talking about the nicks that build up over time. So that'll resonate for people.Tosha: Exactly. Exactly.Sarah: Thank you so much, Tosha.Tosha: Yeah.Sarah: I hope—that was—Tosha: Helpful. But you have to physically get in there.Sarah: Yeah, physically get in there. And if it happens too fast to catch the first one, you just kind of do your best and try for the second one.Tosha: Yes.Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: Yes. And then you expect the upset, and you stay with it if you can.Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: Remembering that that's just a scared little girl in there.Sarah: Yeah.Tosha: Right. You don't know what this is about. Just trust that her body knows that it needs to do this healing, and she's picked you because she knows you can handle it—that you won't lose sight of her goodness, that your love is strong. And that's an honor. I know it feels hard, but it's actually a real honor when we're the one who gets chosen for that emotional work.Sarah: I love that, and I want to highlight that a lot of what you talked about today was our own inner work on keeping ourselves calm and keeping our mindset of keeping track of that sweet child—as you say, the sweet child inside that's just afraid and needs us in those moments. 'Cause it can feel—I think a lot of parents can feel—like, quote, victimized, and that's probably going to get them deeper into the aggression than get them out of it.Tosha: Exactly. Exactly. And so we want to feel—I hope that after this call you feel empowered. I mean, I hope there's just one thing that you can take away and experiment with doing differently. Just think of these things as experiments. You don't have to get it perfect—right? Whatever the word is that you have in your head. Right. Just try something.Sarah: Just—Tosha: Pick one idea that you heard and try it. Try it for a day. See how it goes. And remember that if it leads to big upset on the part of your child, that doesn't mean you did it wrong. It probably means you're actually doing something right.Sarah: That's so key. I love that. Thank you so much, Tosha. We really appreciate you and your work, and everyone, be sure to let us know how it goes for you when you try some of these things. Let us know in the Facebook group. And thank you, Tosha—thanks for getting up early and meeting with us today.Tosha: Yeah, my pleasure. Thank you for inviting me back, Sarah.Sarah: Thanks, everyone. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

Repost: Grant Writing 101 for Nonprofits: How to Find and Win the Right GrantsFinding and managing grants is one of the toughest parts of nonprofit growth. In this conversation, Tosha and grant writer Kate Hephner break down how to:Identify the right grant opportunitiesWrite stronger, more organized proposalsCollaborate effectively with your teamBuild a reputation as a trustworthy funding partnerThis episode is perfect for new nonprofit leaders, founders, and development staff ready to elevate their grant strategy.

Pastor Tosha continues our series "Go and Tell" and teaches us the parable of the farmer and how it relates to the power of God's word and how we should respond to it. As always, thank you for your generosity!  If you would like to give to Destiny Church, please click this link and then click the giving tab! https://destinychurch.me/ Or text destinychurchgive to 77977!

New nonprofit CEO? Don't inherit a financial mess. In this solo episode, Tosha breaks down the exact questions to ask in Week 1 and the first 90 days so you can quickly assess risk, read audits + 990s with confidence, pressure-test budget assumptions, verify restricted funds, and fix delayed or conflicting reports. You'll learn how to evaluate your finance team, set a cadence for monthly close, and own the financial story with your board and funders.Grab our free Financial Blueprint and avoid painful surprises.The Charity CFO Financial Blueprint: https://go.thecharitycfo.com/financial-blueprintYou'll learn:What to request on Day 1: budget, financials, audits, 990s, funder site reviewsRed flags: late audits, missing monthly reports, conflicting dev vs. finance numbersHow to test budget assumptions and build department/program budgetsTracking restricted funds the right wayWho owns compliance and reporting, and why it mattersFollow Us Online

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In this episode, I sit down with actor, author, and speaker Edwina Findley Dickerson to talk about her new book, The World Is Waiting for You. Edwina shares her journey of listening for God's voice, navigating seasons of waiting, and discovering a deeper purpose beyond achievement. Together, we explore the tension between intentional planning and radical surrender, how to overcome fear and step into our God-given dreams, and why true purpose is found not only in what we do, but in who we are becoming. This is a conversation for anyone longing to live with clarity, courage, and faith in a noisy world.Edwina Findley is an award-winning film, television, and theatre actress, celebrated by critics as "a marvel to watch." Known to global audiences as the hilarious 'Sheila' in Shonda Rhimes' hit Netflix series "The Residence," Edwina first captured hearts as 'Tosha' on HBO's groundbreaking series "The Wire,” and garnered critical attention for her role as Rosie in Ava DuVernay's Sundance award-winning feature "Middle of Nowhere.” She then earned an Independent Spirit Award nomination for Best Supporting Female for her "skin-prickling performance" in "Free In Deed.” A vibrant and versatile actress, Edwina starred opposite Toni Collette in Amazon's global thriller ”The Power,” as Kevin Hart's wife, Rita, in Warner Bros' hit comedy "Get Hard" with Will Ferrell, "Fear The Walking Dead," Tyler Perry's “If Loving You is Wrong,” HBO's “Veep,” “Rogue Agent,” “Black Lightning,” ”Chicago Med," HBO's "Treme," and "Shots Fired” from “Woman King” director Gina Prince-Bythewood.Edwina is a native of Washington, DC, where she attended Duke Ellington School of the Arts then studied drama at NYU's Tisch School of the Arts. Edwina continued her studies at UCLA, Upright Citizens Brigade (UCB), and with Yale Drama's Gregory Berger-Sorbeck. Theatrically, Edwina has performed around the world and at some of the nation's finest theaters, including The Kennedy Center, Shakespeare Theatre Company, Juilliard, Atlantic Theatre Company, Center Theatre Group, Baltimore Centerstage, and Cleveland Playhouse. Edwina received a Barrymore Award for Outstanding Lead Actress for the historical drama Gee's Bend, and an NAACP Theatre Award nomination for Eclipsed, set during the Liberian war.Proclaimed in the New York Times as a “life force,” Edwina is a global speaker, mentor, and CEO of Abundant Life University. Edwina's most cherished blessings are her loving husband Kelvin Dickerson and their bright and beautiful little girls, Victoria and London. Connect with Edwina at www.edwinafindley.comEdwina's Book:The World is Waiting For YouSubscribe to Our Substack: Shifting CultureConnect with Joshua: jjohnson@allnations.usGo to www.shiftingculturepodcast.com to interact and donate. Every donation helps to produce more podcasts for you to enjoy.Follow on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Threads, BlThe Balance of GrayFaith That Challenges. Conversations that Matter. Laughs included. Subscribe Now!Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show

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What if the key to preventing heart disease, dementia, and cancer was hiding in your mouth? In this eye-opening episode, we're joined by dental hygienist and consultant Tosha Kozloski RDH, who's revolutionizing periodontal care through advanced diagnostic techniques that reveal what traditional exams miss."All infections start subclinically," Tosha explains, sharing how microscopy has transformed her approach to gum disease. While conventional dentistry often relies on visible symptoms like bleeding or inflammation, Tasha shows how harmful bacteria can thrive beneath the surface in seemingly healthy mouths. The microscope becomes a powerful educational tool as patients witness spirochetes and amoebas actively swimming in samples from their own mouths – bacteria that shouldn't be present in health.We explore the three-tier approach that's helping patients regrow bone without surgery: professional interventions with ozone and laser therapy, enhanced home care protocols, and addressing immune system factors. Tasha explains why water flossing with antimicrobial solutions penetrates protective bacterial biofilms that brushing alone cannot reach, using vivid analogies that compare traditional cleanings to a "car wash" when some patients need the "full detail."The conversation challenges conventional wisdom about periodontitis, antibiotics, and the oral-systemic connection. From patients whose eye infections resolved after periodontal treatment to the presence of oral bacteria in brain tissue and heart attack clots, the evidence is clear: your mouth is connected to everything.Whether you're a healthcare professional or someone concerned about your overall wellbeing, this episode offers practical insights into preventing disease at its source. Listen now to discover why paying attention to your oral health might be the most important preventative measure you're overlooking.Ready to connect with Tosha: https://www.instagram.com/tosh.care/https://www.tosh.care/To contact Dr. Carver directly, email her at drcarver@carverfamilydentistry.comWant to talk with someone at Dr. Carver's office?  Call her practice: 413-663-7372Reverse Gum Disease In 6 Weeks! With Dr. Rachaele Carver Online Course!Learn more about here: https://reversegumdiseaseinsixweeks.info/optinpageDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only. Information discussed is not intended for diagnosis, curing, or prevention of any disease and is not intended to replace advice given by a licensed healthcare practitioner. Before using any products mentioned or attempting methods discussed, please speak with a licensed healthcare provider. This podcast disclaims responsibility from any possible adverse reactions associated with products or methods discussed. Opinions from guests are their own, and this podcast does not condone or endorse opinions made by guests. We do not provide guarantees about the guests' qualifications or credibility. This podcast and its guests may have direct or indirect financial interests associated with products mentioned.

SummaryIn our latest episode of The Daily Groomer, I chat with Tasha Long—owner of Dog Dynasty and The Downtown Cat in Grand Junction, Colorado. We talk about the real-life ups and downs of running a multi-service pet business, from salon build-outs to the challenges of daycare, boarding, and cat grooming. Tasha shares how she's turning her passion for felines into profit and what's next with her upcoming cat café.Timestamps05:32 Unexpected Client Differences in Pet Services12:50 New Cat Cafe Plans Unveiled14:47 Cat Grooming Misconceptions20:05 Dog Grooming Tips for Cat Groomers27:54 Tasha's Pet Business ManagementStay connected with our guest speakers! Follow them on their social media @The Downtown Cat. For more grooming tips, insights, and stories, check out our website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Daily Groomer⁠⁠⁠⁠. Join and be part of ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Daily Groomer Community⁠⁠!

Nonprofit board struggles? You're not alone. In this episode of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast, Tosha sits down with Katerina Manoff, founder & CEO of ENGin, to bust the biggest myths about boards—and reveal what actually works when you're building or evolving one.They talk about:The unrealistic expectations many founders have about boardsWhy “bless and release” is a vital leadership moveHow to recruit board members who align with your mission and your strategyThe difference between helpful support and harmful micromanagementWhether you're stuck with a passive board, navigating founder dynamics, or trying to scale with the right people at the table, this episode will help you shift from frustration to functionality.Connect with Katerina ManoffWebsite: www.enginprogram.orgFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/enginprogram; @enginprogramInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/enginprogram/; @enginprogramLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katerina-semida-manoff-12b27720/Check Out These Blogs Next:Nonprofit Board Committees In A Modern Nonprofit: https://thecharitycfo.com/nonprofit-board-committees-in-a-modern-nonprofit/3 Tips for Successful Nonprofit Board Development: https://thecharitycfo.com/3-tips-for-successful-board-development/Follow Us Online

Host Jeremy C. Park talks with Tosha Price, Business Development Manager with Ascend Federal Credit Union, who leads their financial education efforts across Middle Tennessee and highlights both the largest credit union in Middle Tennessee and their mission to serve by offering financial literacy education and giving back to the community in a variety of ways. With more than 250,000 members and more than $4.4 billion in assets, Ascend Federal Credit Union is the largest credit union in Middle Tennessee and one of the largest federally chartered credit unions in the United States. Based in Tullahoma, Tennessee, the member-owned financial institution offers banking, loan, retirement, and investment services from its 28 branches, more than 55,000 free ATMs worldwide, digital banking portal, and mobile app.During the interview, Tosha discusses the importance of providing financial literacy education in the community. She explains the difference between a bank and a credit union, emphasizing that credit unions are not-for-profit and focus on people helping people. She highlights the financial literacy programming offered by Ascend Federal Credit Union, including online modules, calculators, and workshops. Tosha also mentions their initiative, Bonsai, which provides financial education to K-12 students. She emphasizes the importance of budgeting, building a credit score, and using credit cards wisely.Tosha discusses the importance of using credit cards responsibly, emphasizing that they are loans and not personal funds. She highlights the average interest rate on credit cards is 20%, and advises to always pay the balance off to avoid extra interest charges. She also mentions the availability of college student credit cards with lower interest rates. When it comes to tips for improving credit scores, Tosha suggests paying off debts and diversifying credit types, rather than accumulating multiple credit cards. She also warns against the misconception that paying regular bills like rent or utilities improves credit scores, as only loan payments are reported positively.Tosha emphasizes the importance of prioritizing savings by paying oneself first and starting small. She suggests having a separate savings account to avoid easy access to funds. She also highlights the benefits of credit unions, such as higher dividends, rewards checking accounts, and more lenient lending practices.Visit https://ascend.org to learn more about Ascend Federal Credit Union.

Lead Pastors Chad & Tosha discuss the challenges of being a mom in 2025. As always, thank you for your generosity!  If you would like to give to Destiny Church, please click this link and then click the giving tab! https://destinychurch.me/ Or text destinychurchgive to 77977!

Your nonprofit's books might be messier than you think—and that mess could be costing you funding, credibility, and compliance.In this episode of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast, Tosha is joined by Nancy Fussner, Director of Onboarding at The Charity CFO, to break down the five biggest red flags she sees when reviewing nonprofit books—and how to clean them up fast.From mismatched bank balances to miscategorized expenses and confusing financials, Nancy shares real-world examples and practical fixes that can help you tighten your accounting and build trust with your board, funders, and team.If you've ever felt uncertain about your reports, unclear about your chart of accounts, or just want to make sure your books are actually audit-ready, don't miss this episode.Tied to The Charity CFO Financial Blueprint principles #9 (Monthly Reconciliations & Reports), #20 (Multi-Dimensional Accounting), and #23 (Diffused Responsibility).Grab your free blueprint here.Get in Touch with Nancy and The Charity CFO Team here. What to watch next…Are You the Problem? Change Happens through Strong Nonprofit LeadershipFollow Us Online Stay connected and get more exclusive content

Today, we're talking about aggression, specifically in boys, and how we as parents can respond with understanding, connection, and compassion instead of fear or shaming. Joining me is Tosha Schore, a powerful voice in peaceful parenting and the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully. Tosha is also the creator of the Out With Aggression program and co-author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. She's spent decades helping parents shift the way they relate to their kids, especially when big behaviors show up. In our conversation, Tosha and I got into the roots of aggressive behavior in boys, and how it's so often a signal, not of defiance, but of fear or frustration. We explored how society often mislabels boys as “bad” when they make mistakes with little room for second chances. Tosha shared what it means to truly listen to our kids, how to build safe spaces for them to express themselves without shame, and why emotional connection, not punishment, is the key to long-term growth and emotional development. If aggression is something your family is struggling with right now, this conversation is for you. And if you find it valuable, and I think you will, consider sharing it with other parents who might need it.   About Tosha Schore Tosha Schore is a dynamic leader and globally recognized speaker and trainer dedicated to empowering parents and the professionals who support them. As the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully and creator of the Out With Aggression program, Tosha has equipped thousands of parents worldwide with tools to transform challenging behaviors by fostering connection, confidence, and compassion in their relationships with their children. She is also the author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Drawing on her over two decades of experience, and her extensive training in Hand in Hand Parenting and certification as a Step into Your Moxie® Facilitator, Tosha inspires parents to integrate connection as a bedrock principle in their families, and provides actionable answers to the “then what?” questions parents often face when shifting away from harsher, less effective practices. Tosha is championing a cultural shift toward more compassionate parenting and a more peaceful world.   Things you'll learn from this episode Why understanding boys' behavior requires connecting the dots between their emotions, environment, and executive function challenges How recognizing aggression as a response to fear, frustration, or impulse control issues helps parents approach it with empathy Why creating safe spaces for boys to express emotions without judgment fosters emotional growth and self-regulation Why challenging societal perceptions that label boys as "bad guys" is essential for supporting their emotional development How to prioritize emotional connection over discipline in order to navigate challenging behaviors without shame or escalation   Resources mentioned Toscha Shore's website Parenting Boys Peacefully Free 10-Day Reconnect Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges by Toscha Shore Dr. John Duffy on Helping Our Struggling Teen Boys (Tilt Parenting podcast) Rescuing Our Sons: 8 Solutions to Our Crisis of Disaffected Teen Boys by Dr. John Duffy Seth Perler, Executive Function Coach   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Grant writing doesn't have to feel like a nonstop emergency. In this episode of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast, Shoshana Grossman-Crist shares the six essential functions of a successful grant team, how to organize internal workflows, and systems to increase sustainability and reduce stress. Tosha and Shoshana offer practical advice for nonprofits of every size to build better grant operations and avoid common mistakes.Connect with ShoshanaWebsite: https://www.socialimpactcompass.com/?utm_source=A_Modern_Nonprofit_Podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=InterviewsLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shoshanagrossmancrist/Follow Us Online

About Ghost MusicIt's only been a month since Dawn's musician husband, Clark, suddenly died. When his former student shows up with missing pages from Clark's unfinished book, voices from the pages are reawakened. A portal from the past cracks open, transporting us back to German Romanticism and renowned pianist Clara Schumann. As she desperately tries to preserve the dignity of her husband, the brilliant composer Robert Schumann, he descends further and further into madness. Separated by a gulf of both time and space, Dawn and Clara grapple with grief and lunacy, and the hope that long-ago melodies can heal their broken hearts.This production is sponsored in part by the AthensWest Emerging Play Grant awarded to the theater program and sabbaticals for both Dr. Greg Partain and Professor Tosha Fowler. The production will feature a team of professional actors and a director working in residence at Transylvania. The production will include the live musical performance of Dr. Greg Partain as an essential component of the play's concept and design. Professor Tosha Fowler will be helming the role of Clara as well as head producer. Professors Daniel Bennett and Melissa Gilbert will lead the design team.For more and to connect with us, visit https://www.artsconnectlex.org/art-throb-podcast.html

Is your leadership holding back your nonprofit?In this episode of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast, host Tosha Anderson and CFO Theresa Guest (advisor to dozens of nonprofit clients) dig into the uncomfortable truth: sometimes the biggest obstacle to transformation is at the top.From CEOs who delegate without accountability to those who avoid making the tough calls, Tosha and Teresa break down real leadership pitfalls—and the practical systems needed to fix them. If your nonprofit is struggling with team alignment, financial compliance, or strategic execution, this episode is a must-listen.Whether you're a CEO, board member, or department leader, you'll walk away with new insight into how to lead more effectively and create sustainable change in your organization.

Is your nonprofit's website actually working for you—or just taking up digital space?In this episode of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast, Tosha talks with Lou Kotsinis, CEO of BCS Interactive, about the biggest shifts in nonprofit digital marketing and website strategy.Lou shares why the traditional “drive traffic to your site” model is outdated—and what to do instead. You'll learn how to rethink your website's role, how AI tools like ChatGPT are reshaping discovery, and why nonprofit leaders must stay close to the storytelling process.This is a must-listen for anyone looking to improve their website, clarify their message, and build a smarter digital presence—without getting overwhelmed by the latest trends.What you'll learn in this episode: ✔️ Why your website is no longer the star of your marketing ✔️ What “zero-click marketing” means for nonprofit strategy ✔️ How AI search tools are changing how people discover causes ✔️ Why the CEO must be involved in messaging—even if marketing is outsourced ✔️ How to simplify your story and tell it across multiple platformsConnect with Lou Kotsinis:

"Do you believe this?" Jesus' profound question to Martha before raising her brother Lazarus reverberates throughout Palm Sunday's celebration and directly into our lives today. When faced with impossible situations, do we trust Jesus before seeing the miracle?Palm Sunday marks the beginning of Holy Week, but the story actually begins with a pivotal miracle—Lazarus' resurrection from the dead. Martha's declaration of faith before seeing her brother alive again demonstrates genuine belief in Jesus' identity, not just His abilities. This same question confronts us: Do we believe Jesus is who He says He is and that He can do what He says He can do?The Palm Sunday celebration itself reveals something fascinating about human nature. While crowds enthusiastically welcomed Jesus with palm branches and shouts of "Hosanna," their motivations varied dramatically. Some had witnessed Lazarus' resurrection and believed wholeheartedly. Others followed political hopes or simply joined the excitement. Most telling was what happened afterward—when adults returned to their regular lives, the children continued worshiping Jesus in the temple. Their unwavering, childlike faith challenges us to examine our own belief. Do we praise Jesus only in celebratory moments or consistently through all seasons of life?Personal stories of faith challenges, like Tosha's experience with her desperately ill daughter, remind us that believing isn't always easy, but it's transformative. In those critical moments when circumstances seem impossible, Jesus still asks, "Do you believe this?" The answer shapes not only our relationship with him but our ability to pass authentic faith to the next generation. Join us for this Easter trilogy as we journey through Holy Week's most significant moments and discover how they transform our families today. What do you truly believe about Jesus?______________________The Family Disciple Me ministry exists to catalyze devotion driven discipleship in our homes and around the world. We believe that discipleship starts with a conversation, and FDM provides free, easily-accessible, biblical resources to encourage these meaningful conversations along life's way. Sign up through our website to be "the first to know" about upcoming releases and resources (including the FDM App - coming soon!!!) You can also follow Family Disciple Me on social media. Family Disciple Me is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit ministry, and all donations are tax deductible. More information, blogs, statement of faith and contact info can be found at familydiscipleme.org

Are you using 10 different platforms just to manage your nonprofit… and none of them connect? In this episode of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast, Tosha is joined by David Watters, CEO of Simple & Engaging, to talk automation, integration, and why tech doesn't have to be so overwhelming.From using free tools to automating the unglamorous work, Tosha and David reveal how modern nonprofits can reduce burnout, improve data integrity, and finally get their software stack to play nice. This episode is packed with real-life solutions to the tech headaches every nonprofit leader knows too well.

Former podcast guest, author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges Tosha Schore on how we can help boys develop healthy communication skills and learn emotional intelligence.  Creating safe spaces for boys to express themselves without fear of judgment. Challenging stereotypes and normalizing diverse emotions. Modeling emotional intelligence in everyday moments. The importance of emotional work for parents. Understanding your child's emotional style and respecting boundaries. Practicing self-reflection to improve emotional parenting. Discussing emotional labor in parenting and supporting each other. LINKS AND RESOURCES Support the podcast by making a donation (suggested amount $15) 732-763-2576 call to leave a voicemail.  info@authenticparenting.com Send audio messages using Speakpipe. Join the Authentic Parenting Community on Facebook. Work w/Anna. Listeners get 10% off her services. 

When should your nonprofit team know the financials?In this episode of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast, host Tosha Anderson and guest Pat Fisher (CFO to 35+ nonprofit clients) explore the why, when, and how of internal financial transparency.From diffusing financial responsibility to avoiding knowledge bottlenecks, Tosha and Pat break down real examples, common pitfalls, and practical steps for giving your team the financial visibility they need—without handing over the keys to the kingdom.Whether you're a CEO, program director, or finance lead, this episode will challenge how you think about budgeting, reporting, and building trust with your team.

In this episode of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast, Tosha sits down with Seth Donlin, a marketing and communications coach for nonprofit and for-profit leaders, to talk about why personal branding matters more than ever for nonprofit professionals.Even in a mission-first world, people still give to people. In this conversation, Tosha and Seth break down why your personal story isn't a distraction—it's one of your most powerful tools for trust, connection, and long-term donor engagement. If you've ever felt unsure about showing up online, building your personal brand, or sharing more of you in your leadership role… this episode is a must-watch.Here is where to connect with Seth Donlin and learn more about his work:

Mid-distance star Will Sumner is back on the show after smashing the Millrose Games 600m record in February, clocking an impressive 1:14.04The former Georgia Bulldog, who attended Woodstock High School in Georgia, comes from a lineage of stand-out runners. Will's parents, Brad and Tosha, both ran collegiately in the 1990s–Brad at Villanova and Tosha at Georgia. Will's sister, Brynne, has run for Villanova and Clemson and specializes in the 800m and 1500m. In high school, Will ran the (current) fourth-fastest outdoor 800m with a time of 1:46.53. He was named Gatorade Georgia Track and Field Player of the Year in 2021. He has since lowered that to an eye-popping 1:44.26 in 2023 when he won the NCAA Championships in June of that year as a freshman.  Will then went on to compete in the stacked 800m field at the 2023 USA Outdoor Track and Field Championships in Oregon and finished fifth with a time of 1:47.41.Will has a gold medal to his name, competing as part of the winning 4x400m team at the 2023 U23 NACAC Championships in Costa Rica. After an accomplished year with UGA, Will decided to turn pro in 2023, signing with Adidas. Will has current PRs ofWhile the USA 800m scene is chock full of all-time greats, Will is primed to be in the mix for years to come.Will's career PRs include 21.55 in the 200m, 45.78 in the 400m, 1:14.04 in the 600m and 1:44.26 in the 800m.In today's conversation, Will takes me through his setbacks and challenges in 2024, insights from them, how to overcome your own challenges, what his training is looking like these days, his goals for 2025, and his Hot Wheels collection. Tap into the Will Sumner Special.  If you enjoy the podcast, please consider following us on Spotify and Apple Podcasts and giving us a five-star review! I would also appreciate it if you share it with your friend who you think will benefit from it. Comment the word "PODCAST" below and I'll DM you a link to listen. If this episode blesses you, please share it with a friend!

In this episode of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast, Tosha sits down with Sandra Torre, President & CFO of LAVIDGE, to talk about the power of corporate philanthropy. Sandra shares how her company built Impact, an award-winning corporate giving program, and why businesses should prioritize employee-driven community engagement.Her insights will help nonprofit leaders connect with corporate partners and give business owners a blueprint to launch their own volunteer programs.Here is where to connect with Sandra and learn more about LAVIDGE:

Tosha Hays is an accomplished inventor, entrepreneur, and fashion executive with a wealth of experience in the textiles and fashion industry. A graduate of the University of Georgia, she earned her degree in Textiles and Fashion Merchandising before furthering her studies in Fashion Design at Parsons School of Design and Seattle Central College.Read more...Photo: David Lamer

In this episode of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast, Tosha peaks with James Misner, founder of The Kipos Group, about the financial mindset shifts nonprofits need to thrive. Many organizations try to cut costs as a strategy for stability, but is that the right approach? James shares insights on why saving alone won't lead to financial health—and what nonprofits should do instead.Connect with James Misner:The Kipos Group WebsiteAnd find him on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamesmisner/Check This Out Next:9 Fundraising Ideas for NonprofitsStay in the KnowWant more expert insights on nonprofit finance, fundraising, and leadership? Subscribe to The Charity CFO newsletter and get actionable strategies delivered to your inbox!

Send us a textIn this episode we welcome Dr. Na Tosha Gatson, Director of Neuro-Oncology & Professor of Neurology and Medicine at IU Health. A leader in the field, Dr. Gatson shares insights on advancements in neuro-oncology, the impact of brain tumors on women's health, addressing health disparities, and the importance of quality-of-life care. Support the show

Drudgery, discipline, delight—what do these words signify in your spiritual journey? Join Tosha Williams in the Family Disciple Me podcast as we explore  Isaiah chapter 12:3 and unpack how the act of seeking God, akin to drawing water from a deep well, requires commitment but promises profound spiritual renewal. Listen in as Tosha shares personal insights from life on her family farm, illustrating how intentionality in our relationship with the Lord can lead to spiritually fulfilling lives.In this episode, we delve into the heart of our "Seek Him Speak Him" motto. We reflect on the journey from obligation to joy, exploring how daily encounters with God's Word can refresh and nourish our spirits. Whether you're a seasoned believer or new to faith, tune in for encouragement, challenge, and blessing as you deepen your walk with the Lord, drawing from the springs of salvation with joy.****************I WILL'S TO INSTILL // Convo #3:  I Will Seek Him“You will joyfully draw water from the springs of salvation.'” Isaiah 12:3 CSBSEEK HIM: Devotion is Meeting with God in Our Own Lives! With the Family Disciple Me ministry, our motto is “Seek Him Speak Him.” Let's spend some time with the Lord in Isaiah 12:3 about what it means to “Seek Him.” WHAT:  What is God saying through this Scripture? To draw water is to bring it up from the depths bucket by bucket. In the same way, Scripture by Scripture, truth by truth, principle by principle, day by day, God wants us to go to His wellsprings of life and seek Him. ~ Have you received God's salvation; when, why, how? Look up “how to get water from a well with a bucket” and think about the intentionality it takes to get water this way. How does this help you better understand what it means to “Seek Him.”WHY:  Why does this Scripture matter? To draw water requires effort, intentionality, work and determination. In ancient times, this was essential to physical life, something to be done every single day. ~ How often do you make the effort to spend time with the Lord each day? If joy is the measure of how much you “Seek Him,” how joyful are you? HOW: How does God want us to respond to this truth? The springs of salvation are available to all of us; the question is what we choose to do with this resource. We draw water when we daily decide to seek the Lord in our lives. ~ What is God saying to you personally about seeking Him? In what ways are you determined to “Seek Him”? Read Psalm 36:5-9 and listen to what God says to you through it. SPEAK HIM: Discipleship is Making God Known to Others! As we are filled with the life-giving, soul-nourishing water from God's springs of salvation, will you stay quiet or let your bucket-full overflow into someone else's life? ______________________The Family Disciple Me ministry exists to catalyze devotion driven discipleship in our homes and around the world. We believe that discipleship starts with a conversation, and FDM provides free, easily-accessible, biblical resources to encourage these meaningful conversations along life's way. Sign up through our website to be "the first to know" about upcoming releases and resources (including the FDM App - coming soon!!!) You can also follow Family Disciple Me on social media. Family Disciple Me is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit ministry, and all donations are tax deductible. More information, blogs, statement of faith and contact info can be found at familydiscipleme.org

El piloto valenciano se ha subido al podio del Dakar 2025 como subcampeón de la categoría de motos. 

Tosha Schareina es uno de los grandes favoritos para hacerse con el triunfo en la categoría de motos en el Rally Dakar de 2025, que sería el primero nacional sobre dos ruedas desde que Marc Coma lo consiguiera de manera consecutiva en 2014 y 2015:

It's Episode 100 of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast! In this special episode, Tosha Anderson talks to Aaron Landis also from The Charity CFO. They provide real-world stories and situations from many years of experience working with nonprofits. Check this out and hear confessions from the nonprofit world that take you behind the scenes of what they've seen and heard working with a variety of organizations. Get in Touch with Tosha, Aaron, and The Charity CFO! Connect with Tosha on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tosha-anderson-cpa-57489512/  Connect with Aaron on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aaronevanlandis/  What to watch next… Check out our latest episode here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nL-TbFOzm3U  And you'll want to watch this trending episode on how to scale a nonprofit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i4iw33f5gC0&t=316s  What's new on our website? As we celebrate 100 episodes, learn more about the team behind A Modern Nonprofit Podcast here: https://thecharitycfo.com/about-us/  Follow Us Online Stay connected and get more exclusive content on: Website: www.thecharitycfo.com Instagram: @thecharitycfo Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecharitycfo LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-charity-cfo-llc/posts/?feedView=all TikTok: @thecharitycfo Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6hofQXPCxiPZuZy3OecW8y Apple Music: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-modern-nonprofit-podcast/id1542301310

The latest episode of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast features a deep dive into the world of HR for Nonprofits. This features an interview with HR expert, Tiffany Slater, who leads HR Tailor Made. The interview covers everything from compliance, to employee buy-in to common HR pitfalls. The conversation between Tosha and Tiffany highlighted the critical importance of proper HR management in nonprofit organizations. From correctly classifying workers to implementing consistent policies and investing in employee development, there are numerous areas where nonprofits need to be vigilant to avoid potential risks and create a positive work environment. For nonprofit leaders who recognize the need for expert HR guidance, Tiffany encouraged reaching out to HRTailorMade through their website. By prioritizing HR and working with experienced professionals, nonprofits can protect their organizations, support their employees, and focus on fulfilling their missions. As Tosha described it, while many nonprofit leaders worry about accounting and compliance issues, HR risks can be equally, if not more, significant. By understanding these risks and implementing best practices, nonprofit organizations can create a strong foundation for success and avoid potentially costly mistakes. Get in Touch with Tiffany Slater and HRTailormade: On Youtube here:    / @hrtailormade   And the HR Tailor Made website here: https://hrtailormade.com/

Jeff talks with Tosha Williams co-pastor of Vanguard Church and wife of Senior Pastor Kelly Williams about Family Disciple Me. She talks about understanding God's Word and speaking His Word, as well as the importance of Discipleship in the family. We all need to be somebody who seeks Him and speaks Him. That and more on this Thursday edition of Crosswalk Colorado Springs! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this insightful episode of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast, join host Tosha Anderson as she delves into the innovative world of collaborative funding with her distinguished guest, Katya Hancock, the founding executive director of Young Futures. Together, they explore the organization's mission to support adolescents in navigating the complexities of the digital landscape and the powerful ecosystem of solutions lifted up through their unique funding model.

This podcast episode is for every parent of a young child who doesn't want to always resort to yelling or time-outs as  a discpline strategy. Tosha and Tammy walk through the power of play, connection, and laughter even during the most challenging of moments! Tosha Schore, M.A., brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting. She is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems. A sought after coach, author, educator, and speaker, Schore is committed to creating lasting change in families and in the world by supporting parents to care for themselves, connect with their children deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. She is the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully , co-author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, and a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting. Interested in more from the Institute? The Parenting Handbook: Your Guide to Raising Resilient Children For a limited time only, buy a copy of our The Parenting Handbook: Your Guide to Raising Resilient Children and recieve a free gift! Yes,  when you buy our book you also get access to our Compassionate Discipline workshop valued at $87.84.  Not quite sure yet? Download a free chapter! To find out more, click here for more info! Interested in our Professional Membership? ICP is thrilled to offer its new professional membership. This membership comes with 30+ accredited mental health courses, 15 general children's mental health courses, bi-monthly professional group consults, access to our live tranings, printables, scripts, and case note templates.  Affordable, accesible training all in one spot! Find out more here

In this BONUS REWIND, we welcome Tosha Shore, a parent coach and the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully, where she's on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. I am also co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges,” which has been translated into five languages!  Together we dive into a lively discussion of the differences we've experienced parenting boys vs. girls, how societal expectations lead boys down a different emotional path than girls, how we can best support our boys to be emotionally resilient, and how to connect with them when connection seems lost. Resources We Shared: Learn all about Tosha's program: Parenting Boys Peacefully here. Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges Visit No Guilt Mom Rate & Review the No Guilt Mom Podcast on Apple here. We'd love to hear your thoughts on the podcast! Listen on Spotify? You can rate us there too! Check out our favorite deals from our sponsors here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Connection is not something that children earn; connection is something that they need. It's their emotional food." - - - Are you feeling overwhelmed by the challenges of raising boys with big emotions? Join us as we dive into practical solutions with Tasha Shore, founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully. Discover how to address behaviors like aggression and screaming, and learn the crucial steps to support your child's emotional health. Whether you're parenting boys or girls, this episode offers valuable insights for fostering a peaceful and emotionally intelligent family environment. - - -

On today's episode, Tosha is joined by the Executive Fundraising Coach at Auxilia, Paul Morris. Auxilia is a technology platform created to help community driven nonprofit organizations with donor outreach, engagement, and retention. Paul and Tosha collaborate on a discussion about nonprofits investing in technology. There is almost an unwritten fear or stigma associated with nonprofits and using dollars to invest in technology. Sometimes, this can seem counterintuitive to achieving its mission, when in today's world it is necessary. Tune in as Paul and Tosha breakdown some whys behind technology investment in nonprofits. Paul encourages the listeners to trust that the team is making good decisions for the benefit of the organization, and to let go of the need to control. Connect with Paul on LinkedIn or through Auxilia. He is one of 5 coaches with a combined century of experience. Whether it's development needs within the business, or even validation Auxilia has the expertise you may be looking for. Please be sure to engage with the interviews as well. Whether you enjoy listening to it, reading about it, or watching us on YouTube, make sure you review, share, and engage with A Modern Nonprofit Podcast. You can find Tosha and the Charity CFO team on Youtube or our website, thecharitycfo.com!

As summer winds down, I hope you're settling into the new school year with ease, whether your kids are already back in class or you're soaking up the last few weeks of summer. After a break, I'm thrilled to kick off the fall season with some amazing guests and content that you've come to expect from the Heartful Parent Podcast. Our guest today is Tosha Schore, the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully. If you're parenting girls, don't tune out! Tosha's insights are universal and relevant, regardless of your child's gender. The way boys are raised impacts everyone, including girls, so this episode is for all parents. Key Takeaways: Tosha's Mission: Tosha is dedicated to creating a more peaceful world by nurturing boys with empathy and emotional intelligence. Universal Lessons: The strategies Tosha shares apply to all children, emphasizing the importance of connection, setting loving limits, and using play as a tool for growth. Broader Impact: How we raise boys affects the experiences of girls and non-binary children, making Tosha's work crucial for everyone. Expertise and Reach: Tosha has co-authored the book Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, and her work has been featured on numerous platforms, including Dr. Shefali's Parenting Mastery Summit. Why Listen? Tosha's wisdom goes beyond parenting boys; it's about creating a compassionate world where all children can thrive. Whether you're raising boys, girls, or non-binary kids, this episode offers valuable insights to help you on your parenting journey. Links Mentioned in this episode: Book: Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges (https://amzn.to/3At2ZMw Connect with Tosha: https://parentingboyspeacefully.com/reconnect/ Tune in and join us for this insightful conversation with Tosha Schore! Connect with us!   https://theheartfulparent.com/heartful-parent-academy/   Facebook: @theheartfulparent Instagram @theheartfulparent Subscribe & Leave a Review: Don't forget to subscribe to The Heartful Parent Podcast and leave a review if you enjoyed this episode!     Stay tuned for more Heartful conversations on parenting, love, and inclusivity. Thank you for listening!  

This is a re-release of one of our favourite episodes: Tosha Schore joins me to talk about what to do when your child is aggressive. Most of us have been there – kids fighting over toys, hitting, sibling rivalry, or anger that seems to come out of nowhere. How do you handle it? Is there an effective way to deal with it? Tosha is mom to three boys and an advocate for boys and their families. She is on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time by supporting you to care for yourself, connect with your boy deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly!  She brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems. Through her online community and courses, Tosha helps break the isolation of modern parenting and lifts your confidence so you're better equipped to face the challenges of raising young boys. We cover: [4:30] How Tosha got into this work [5:50] Why kids get aggressive [9:10] Meeting your child where they're at [13:00] How to stop your child's aggression [16:40] Common mistakes parents make when trying to end aggressive behavior [23:15] What to do when the aggression seems to be impulsive  [32:00] How to handle being fearful of your child hitting or hurting you [40:45] Sibling rivalry and aggression between siblings [48:35] Lashing out after breaking toys [51:15] How to know if you're handling these situations correctly  [53:35] Figuring out our triggers  [57:25] When aggression comes out of nowhere [59:25] What Tosha would tell her younger parent self Download the episode transcript HERE Resources mentioned in this episode   Free ‘How to Stop Yelling' Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/toshaschoreyourpartnerinparentingboys YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ToshaSchoreYourPartnerInParenting Website: https://parentingboyspeacefully.com/ Connect with Sarah Rosensweet Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/ Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

Auctions, are they a thing of the past or do they still work? We answer this question on another episode of A Modern Nonprofit Podcast hosted by Tosha Anderson. Bringing their expertise to the table, we are joined by Laurie Hochman, Director of Business Growth & Strategy at Auctria. Auctria is an easy to use tool that helps run your fundraising events. Success through Auctions Whether auctions still work or not is a valid question, however the fact that they are happening daily should tell you everything you need to know about their success. Laurie shares that fundraising will never go away simply because people like to socialize. Socializing stimulates happiness, and typically happy people elect to donate some cash. How much auctions produce for a fundraising event does depend on the audience and their response to the event. So how much cash are we talking here though? Well, that depends once again on the audience. Just like marketing pertains to a target audience or market, so does fundraising. Except dollars for profit or increased sales in the for profit world become synonymous with dollars raised for social programs and nonprofit missions. Some organizations may raise $400,000 to even $1 million dollars through their fundraising. This isn't to be compared with a startup fundraising campaign though. Laurie encourages the listeners to not be discouraged by a fundraising event that only brings in $30,000 to $50,000 in its first few years. Some of the larger dollar amounts raised are typically equated to years of cultivation and hosting events. In other words, their audience has been to the show more than a few times. Remember, everything is a process and takes time to build. Please be sure to engage with the interview. Whether you enjoy listening to it, reading about it, or watching us on YouTube, make sure you review, share, and engage with A Modern Nonprofit Podcast. You can find Tosha and the Charity CFO team on Youtube or our website, thecharitycfo.com!

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About the Guest:Tosha Yoder is the Event Coordinator at Visit Johnson City, where she plays a pivotal role in orchestrating major events such as the Meet the Mountains festival. With a background in psychology and extensive experience in customer service, she has successfully transitioned into event management. Her attention to detail, organizational skills, and passion for outdoor activities and family-oriented events make her a vital asset to the Johnson City community.Episode Summary:In this episode of the Johnson City Living Podcast, host Colin Johnson sits down with Tosha Yoder, Event Coordinator at Visit Johnson City. The conversation delves into the preparations for the upcoming Meet the Mountains festival, scheduled for August 9th and 10th at Winged Deer Park. Tosha shares behind-the-scenes insights into event planning and highlights the family-friendly and outdoor-focused activities that attendees can look forward to.Are you ready to discover the vibrant community events happening in Johnson City? Join Colin Johnson as he chats with Tosha Yoder about the much-anticipated Meet the Mountains festival. This episode is filled with details about the festival's offerings, from rock climbing and zip-lining to a unique dog dock diving competition. Perfect for outdoor enthusiasts and families alike, this festival promises a memorable experience.Not only does Tosha provide a comprehensive overview of Meet the Mountains, but she also touches on her life in Johnson City, her career path, and the local education system. The discussion extends to the broader contributions and collaborations of Visit Johnson City, aiming to promote regional tourism. This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in the dynamic intersection of community engagement and tourism development.Key Takeaways:Meet the Mountains Festival: Scheduled for August 9th and 10th at Winged Deer Park, offering diverse activities like zip-lining, rock climbing, kayaking, and a Sorba bike obstacle course.Family-Friendly Fun: The festival caters to all ages, featuring nearly 93 vendors, educational clinics, and interactive experiences designed to engage both children and adults.Local School System: Tosha commends Johnson City's schools for their excellent communication and supportive environment, making it a great place for families to thrive.Regional Collaborations: Emphasis on the importance of regional cooperation with entities like Northeast Tennessee Tourism association to bolster tourism and community spirit.Personal Insights: Tosha shares her journey from a background in psychology to becoming an event coordinator and reflects on the joys of living in Johnson City.Notable Quotes:“We thank you for just the Visit Johnson City organization and how they're bringing people to this place that we think is your country.” - Colin Johnson"It takes at least nine months to a year to fully plan out the festival." - Tosha Yoder"Buffalo Mountain is one that we, at Visit Johnson City, really try to push for people to go to." - Tosha Yoder"Just knowing that I get to help those kids experience something worthwhile, it really fires me up." - Tosha Yoder"We have a great lineup of education folks and a great lineup of music which we'll be announcing very soon." - Tosha YoderResources:Visit Johnson City:Website: Visit Johnson City TNEmail: Yoder@visitjohnsoncitytn.comMeet the Mountains Festival:Website: MTM FestJohnson City Brewing CompanyReady to dive deeper into what makes Johnson City a special place to live and visit? Listen to the full episode for more exciting details about the Meet the Mountains festival and stay tuned for future episodes filled with community insights and local events.

In 2022, the Presidio Trust asked Favianna Rodriguez to be an activator, as the trust was preparing to open its Tunnel Tops park. Favianna recommended that the folks building the park employ color and visual art to transform the space. They were supportive of her ideas. And with that, Ancestral Futurism was born.   Favianna grew up in Oakland next to the 880 freeway, where she still lives today. The area around that major thoroughfare is one of the most polluted corridors in the state. Because she comes from an area subject to what she refers to as "environmental racism," she sought to make a statement in the northwest corner of The City. "Ancestral Futurism" was a phrase that perfectly summed up her goal: "We cannot repair the present until we acknowledge the harm of the past."   The land where Spanish colonizers established the Presidio was already inhabited by Native people, of course. Those people lost their land to the Europeans. They were murdered, pushed out, disenfranchised. For Favianna, the space is now one where we can talk about that.   Tosha Stimage was born in rural Mississippi. College got her out of The South and to Ohio, where she studied art and design. After graduation, she spent a bit of time in Colorado, where she worked with kids doing art therapy. Then grad school brought her to the Bay Area: She started at CCA in 2012.   She's been an artist since she was a kid, and that didn't change after grad school. One of the ways that art manifests for Tosha is in flower arranging. She had a shop in Oakland, but was forced out by gentrification. Now, she's got her shop, Saint Flora, back open for business in The City as part of SF's Vacant to Vibrant program.   After the unveiling of Ancestral Futurism, Favianna and others realized that they needed to make it an annual event and bring in other artists. They also decided that it was important to honor native plants and animals along with the native humans of the area. For this year's iteration, Favianna invited Tosha to add her own interpretation to the ongoing project.   After she was selected, Tosha started visiting the park, meeting people, and doing her homework. She began to notice the intention and care that went into plant programs already going in the Presidio. Right away, she felt it was something she wanted to be part of.   Tosha gave her contribution the name "Superblooms" in part to honor that natural phenomenon. It also speaks to the resilience of the plants she chose to include in her art—checker bloom, Chilean strawberry, and California poppy. All are beautiful, of course, but they all have histories in the Bay Area.   This Sunday, July 14, from 12 to 3 p.m., Tunnel Tops will host a launch party for Tosha's Superblooms. Activities that day include: an art unveiling with Tosha, hands-on art activities for all ages, a living floral Installation, free plant starters, DJ sets, and a show and tell with the Presidio Nursery. Attendance is free. For more info, visit the Presidio Trust site.   We recorded this podcast at Tunnel Tops park in June 2024.   Photography by Felipe Romero

On April 23, 2005, the badly burned body of 30 year old Tosha Lampkin was found in the trunk of a rental car. The day before Tosha has found she had traveled to Louisiana from Houston, TX to visit family. But a few hours after she arrived. Tosha was abducted and murdered. SUPPORT OUR SPONSOR Quince Visit www.Quince.com/girlgone Shopify Visit www.Shopify.com/girlgone Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Dan welcomes back guest Tosha Schore to talk about parenting boys. Tosha is an advocate who works with parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly.  Today's episode is a follow-up episode to Tosha's important work (featured in our episode in December 2018) advocating for boys.  Tosha Schore is a parent coach and the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully, where she is on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one boy at a time. She is the co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges.” For more information go to www.parentingboyspeacefully.com. Email your parenting questions to Dr. Dan podcast@drdanpeters.com (we might answer on a future episode). Follow us @parentfootprintpodcast (Instagram, Facebook) and @drdanpeters (X).   Please listen, follow, rate, and review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts. For more information: www.exactlyrightmedia.com   www.drdanpeters.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices