SMART Counsel

Who or what is in the room with the therapist and the client when they meet for a session? Rhys and Aaron talk about family systems, internal systems, culture, context, burdens and baggage and all the things that accompany a person into a conversation. We talk about what the client brings…and what the counselor brings! We explore what it means to say, “You've never been alone in a room with a person.” Further we explore philosophical and spiritual traditions that inform us, ponder whether or not a person is comprised of just their thoughts and body, or if we are more complex than that. We push the severe limits of a strictly materialistic worldview when attempting this most sacred of endeavors that is being present with another human. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – newpatterncounseling.com Aaron Kelsay – progresscounselingpdx.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master's in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

What's the problem with pornography? In common vernacular, we often talk about “porn addiction.” Can people be addicted to porn like they are to alcohol and drugs, or is it strictly a religious hang-up? Could there actually be some neurological or sociological science that says it's a bad idea? Rhys talks with Trevor Windsor about the matter, about just what the problem is, and how Pure Desire is addressing it. Along the way, we also hash out some ideas for parents about how to talk to our kids about sex. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – newpatterncounseling.com Trevor Winsor – trevor@puredesire.org, Pure Desire Podcast Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master's in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

How do you grieve someone who’s not really gone…but they are? What are the wounds and burdens and schema we carry the most deeply and that affect us the most profoundly? Dr. Sophia Caudle is a licensed psychotherapist and writer who specializes in addictions, recovery, sexuality and grief. In today’s conversation, she introduces us to the concepts of Ambiguous and Original Grief. We also compare and contrast Internal Family Systems with Schema Therapy as we examine how, for a recovery process to be successful, the oldest and deepest stories need to be rewritten. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – newpatterncounseling.com Sophia Caudle - https://bullcitypsychotherapy.com/ Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

¡Hola! Today’s episode provides an in-depth look at Latinx communities living in the Pacific Northwest. We talk with license professional counselor Cesar Ramirez about his clinical work with Latinx clients, as well as his own experience of being a person of color in a primarily white culture. We talk about some major challenges facing Latinx individuals as they live through society and access counseling services. Along the way, we review some basic concepts in cultural humility and awareness. ¡Escuchanos ahora! Por favor.

What do you think or feel first when you hear the phrase, “Be a man,” or “Be manly?” Does this inspire you to greatness? Or does this drop a heavy burden on your soul? Rhys, Jeremy, and Jacob got together one day to share stories about food and about growing up in male bodies. We talked about secular and Christian paradigms of masculinity, and some ideas that both the counseling clinic and the church could consider when guiding young boys into being young men. Along the way we compared terms of “Toxic Masculinity” to the more approachable “Limiting Masculinity.” We talked about how we feel about our feelings, and about the stories we were once told that now we tell ourselves about what is meant by being a man. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – newpatterncounseling.com Jeremy Jones – thinkingaboutthoughtscounseling.com Jacob Schwartz – jacobrayschwartz.com(and on Instagram!) Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

I can make you believe what I want you to believe by angrily telling you how you’re wrong. Right? Wait…that’s not how people change? In the midst of a very…interesting…couple of years of politics, societal shifts, crises, biases and very polarized opinions, Rhys Pasimio and Shea Layton got together one day to talk about how people come to believe what they believe. Turns out our beliefs and decisions are not quite as logical as we thought. Also turns out that when a person faces a perspective different from their core worldview, they experience Cognitive Dissonance, which can cause anxiety and defensiveness. And wouldn’t you know it, but people are more inclined to embrace cognitive dissonance(and the resulting cognitive complexity) when the person presenting the differing view is kind and empathetic. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Shea Layton - https://thaddeusthought.com/ Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling. Other fun highlights and quotes from today’s episode… “What’s really scary is that you will often find that knowing little makes it easier to fit everything you know into a coherent pattern.” Cognitive Dissonance is when a person risks believing two contradictory things at a time. When a person becomes comfortable with what they believe, their research is more about seeking affirmation then asking if there is truth in any other view. When we want to believe something, we ask CAN I believe it? THEN we look for supporting evidence. In contrast, without evidence, we ask MUST we believe it, and dismiss it as soon as we can. “Familiarity is not easily distinguished from truth.” The brain tags familiar things as good things(using dopamine!!) “A great many people think they are thinking when they are merely rearranging their prejudices,” William James All responsibility and no compassion produces broken and unhealthy people. But all compassion and no responsibility creates a different kind of dysfunction. “Being against evil does not make one good.” Ernest Hemmingway You can’t let the way a truth is abused cause you to turn from truth.. All that has happened then is you’ve accepted coercion into a lie.” - Shea “Brainwashing begins where permission to question ends.” – Shea We believe based on intuition, then analyze things to find evidence to confirm our intuition. Thus, science bows to bias. A dog wags the tail out of happiness…you can’t make a dog happy by wagging, and you can’t change people’s minds by refuting their arguments. “When people like you, the relationship keeps them from fearing your views nearly as much.” - Shea

Where do we humans go to find hope? Is it faith? Political revolution? A renewed ecosphere? A whole lot of enjoyed activities? But what happens when all of these things are compromised? What happens when the list of problems and obstacles is so much longer than the list of resources? One day, early in the Covid year, Rhys and Aaron were feeling discouraged and got together to figure out how to find hope, preserve their humanity, and forge ahead. They said things like, “We all have a voice in speaking into this new humanity that we want to be now. The old way we related isn’t working anymore.” “If there’s something we could fight for, I would hope it be that we could be open with each other and hear each other and move through the pain we’ve caused each other together.” And in the end, they learned that hope life is hard, but it’s better when we can be together. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Aaron Kelsay – akelsay@voaor.org Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Counselors, social workers, psychiatrists and other providers frequently have the opportunity(and dare we say, obligation) to collaborate with other individuals and systems that are important to our clients. One of the most notable for many, is their faith community. How should a counselor go about coordinating care with a person’s spiritual director? Similarly, pastors, priests, and other spiritual directors frequently encounter mental health and behavioral challenges that seem to exceed their specific focus of soul care. How should a spiritual care provider go about coordinating care with a person’s mental health, behavioral, or psychiatric provider? And just to complicate things even more, how does all this change when the client in question is a child or teenager? Jared Bennett is a Protestant Youth Pastor. Rhys Pasimio is a clinical counselor. Together they explore some of the variables and considerations at play in attempting to work together to care for the whole person and the systems that surround them. They discuss their respective communities and why each should talk advantage of the resources offered by the other. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Jared Bennett - youthpastor87 on Instagram and Facebook Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

“People are not problems. Problems are not things to be fixed, People are people to be loved.” - Michelle Jones What can counselors and pastors learn from each other? What unique offerings and strengths does each have for a person on a healing journey? And when should they refer out to each other. Michelle Jones is a pastor at Imago Dei church in Portland, Oregon. She and Rhys get personal and share stories of when they needed care and where they did or did not find it and what they have learned from those experiences that impacts how they now seek to serve others. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Michelle Jones – mj@idcpdx.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Rhys Pasimio concludes his lecture series by discussing Addiction Interaction and Addictive Neuropathways. Individuals engage in different acting out behaviors for different reasons to achieve different effects, and when the behaviors and substances begin to be combined, there are nearly endless variations of pattern that follow! Along the way, he re-emphasizes that the specific behavior is secondary to the reason the person does it. Furthermore, if we want to be a helpful presence for a person caught in addiction, we must be able to suspend our own judgments. This episodes concludes a series of lectures delivered at a Masters in Counseling Program at a Protestant University in an Overview of Addictions class. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Addictions happen in clusters, and all the substances and behaviors drive the same Acting Out and Acting In cycle. Even when you get clean from one drug, there is likely a handful of other substances of behaviors. And even when you’re no longer acting out in destructive ways, you might still be Acting IN in socially acceptable ways. Rhys Pasimio outlines the concept of Addiction Interaction, as well as several ways of understanding the Acting Out/Acting In Cycle. This episodes continues a series of lectures delivered at a Masters in Counseling Program at a Protestant University in an Overview of Addictions class. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Addiction is primarily an intimacy or bonding disorder. As a result of failed or distressed attachments, the person bonds with a substance or compulsive behavior, and the destructive behaviors follow. In this lecture, Rhys concludes his explorations of the question, “What is addiction?” with a brief review of attachment theory, and how seeing addiction as a relationship may offer the most solutions to suffering people. This episodes continues a series of lectures delivered at a Masters in Counseling Program at a Protestant University in an Overview of Addictions class. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Spiritually speaking, what is addiction? And is there a way to understand the spiritual components of addiction other than just calling the addicted person a sinner? Rhys says the spiritual framework for addiction is both much more complex and more hopeful than condemning people in the name of God. Further, Rhys makes the case that addiction is essentially a trauma response, including dissociation. This episodes continues a series of lectures delivered at a Masters in Counseling Program at a Protestant University in an Overview of Addictions class. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Rhys Pasimio continues asking the question “What is Addiction?” in a lecture series in an Overview of Addictions class in a Master in Counseling program. In this lecture, he discusses what addiction is through the lenses of Family Systems Theory, the Diathesis Stress Theory, and the BioPsychoSocial Model. Throughout, he advocates for holistic approaches that treat the whole person. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Rhys Pasimio continues his lecture series in an Overview of Addictions class in a Master in Counseling program. In this lecture, he discusses a variety of theories that answer the question of What is Addiction? These include the Enlightenment Model, Genetic Model, Disease Model, Evolutionary Model, Educational Model, Psychological Model, Developmental Model, and Socio-cultural model. He spends the most time on the Disease Model, examining implications of regarding addicted people as “Sick” rather than merely “Deviant.” This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Can pornography really be addictive? If so, how do we tell the difference between problematic and non-problematic porn use? More to the point, when it IS a problem for people, how do we help them? Rhys and Ben interview their CSAT colleague Mateusz Gola, a clinical researcher from University of San Diego. Gola shares his evidenced based perspectives on the topic, as well as introduces an app that can predict relapse. Information about the AppstAIner app can be found here - http://nalogometr.pl/en/ This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Ben Poling – benpolingcounseling.com Mateusz Gola - mgola@ucsd.edu Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Rhys delivered a series of lectures in an Overview of Addictions class in a Masters in Counseling program. This lecture is the first of five lectures asking the question, “What is Addiction?” and exploring various models of how addiction is understood. In this lecture, he explores “The “House of Addiction,” which describes the major components to consider in what addiction is. He alsodiscusses the Moral/Criminal Model and the Temperance Model of Addiction and make comments about their limitations, particularly as relates to the failed War on Drugs. This episode was recorded live and periodically the flow of conversation breaks to interact with students. Please pardon the sound quality, and enjoy the conversation! This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Joshua Moore is BACK…from the archives!! Rhys and Josh go LIVE in this exciting discussion about Abstinence versus Harm Reduction Models of Addictions Counseling. We explore pros and cons of each side and discuss the radical middle. This episode was recorded in a class that Rhys taught, and periodically the flow of conversation breaks to interact with students who did not have mics. Please pardon the sound quality, and enjoy the conversation! This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Joshua Moore – neurofeedbackcare.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Jesus loves me, this I know…if my parents were attuned to my feelings…and if my church presented God as a secure attachment figure. Easy. Right? Well… Rhys Pasimio and Krispin Mayfield tackle the intersections, tensions, and sometimes contradictions between Attachment Science and Theological beliefs and practices typical of many American Protestant Evangelical Churches. We compare and contrast Protestant concepts of God, Sin, Love and Relationship with the same concepts viewed from perspectives of Attachment Science, and Eastern Orthodoxy. We look at how healthy attachment is formed, how healthy attachment is confused, and what counselors and churches can do differently as we nurture our people. Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Krispin Mayfield – krispinmayfield.com Krispin can also be found on the podcast Attached to the Invisible. Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Let's say you have a teenager or young adult child who needs support for mental health and/or recovery challenges. What would you do? Where would you turn? Consider Newport Academy! Marcus Robinson introduces the vision and method of Newport Academy's inpatient program, in particular the skillful and holistic application of Attachment Based Family Therapy. Newport is currently accepting new clients, but let the inquiring family member beware; recovery and mental health are not a spectator sports - the whole family gets involved! This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Marcus Robinson - marcus.robinson@newportacademy.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Ben and Rhys muse on how being counselors presents advantages and peculiar hurdles to being fathers, and how fatherhood in turn affects how we show up in the rooms as counselors. Along the way, we reflect on hopes and fears for our daughters and sons and what kind of people they will be as they will face in the big wide world. Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

We’re dads! We’re married! We’re healthy and educated. We even own houses! Technically we have completed society’s cis-hetero-normative script for our lives. That means we have our inner and outer lives under control and feel powerful and invulnerable and have no sign of weakness anywhere…right? Wrong! We love our families, but sometimes being a father is miserable and lonely. Our Father’s Day gift to any dad who listens is the freedom to be imperfect, vulnerable, flawed, and lonely. Believe it or not, you are more normal than you think! Our hope is that we can labor through the glorious and wonderful trials of father hood together, but making connections and asking for help, one awkward and vulnerable conversation at a time. Happy Fathers Day! This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Aaron Kelsay – akelsay@voaor.org Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Rhys Pasimio explores a parallel between the experiences of betrayal trauma and systemic racism, and issues a challenge to those who have inflicted harm to consider and own the impact of their actions, and practice a deeper form of empathy. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

“We have to attend to what’s lost when we make changes, even when the changes are good.” At the onset of the Corona Virus, the counseling community migrated en masse to providing primarily, and sometimes exclusively, telehealth services. Rhys Pasimio and Aaron Kelsay reflect on this transition, what our therapeutic relationships have gained, and what we have lost. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Aaron Kelsay – akelsay@voaor.org Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

How does counseling work when there are two counselors and a horse? Or even 3 horses? What can we learn from observing horses and how can horses help us move through anxiety and restore a sense of empowerment? Today I caught up with Bethaney Clark and Alycia Smith, a team of therapists with a counseling practice just east of Portland, Oregon. We talked about what equine therapy is, what it offers, who it helps. Clark and Smith shared their vision for being a resource for the whole community by being a core resource for other helping providers. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Bethaney Clark & Alycia Smith– cheriishcounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

These days things are weird and strange, says everyone. We feel disconnected, and most of us have experienced some sort of loss as a result of the Virus and Social Distancing. Many of us have been more anxious and pre-occupied. How do we manage these all encompassing and ongoing stressors? More particularly, how do those of us in Helping roles, of any sort, maintain our own center, calm, and health? Individuals in Helping Professions have long been known to be at high risk for Burnout and Compassion Fatigue and the current situation may have only heightened that risk. What should we do? Hannah Green from Second Growth Counseling joins Rhys and Ben and shares some insights and ideas for how to maintain a healthy self while still actively caring for others. We discuss boundaries, expectations, and replenishing activities. Through it all we affirm that your experience is real and your needs are important! This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com Hannah Green– secondgrowthcounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

What are the barriers to lasting change? Turns out some of the biggest are internal, and have to do with relationships. Rhys Pasimio and Ben Poling have a conversation with CSAT colleague Stephen Grant and discuss how change happens. We talk about First and Second Order Change, (changing behaviors, then changing motivations and internal values) and Grant introduces the concept of Third Order Change - Changing relationships to self, others, the world, and God. Along the way, we give nods to Internal Family Systems Theory. Grant also gives a brief introduction to ART – Accelerated Resolution Therapy, and changing the way we experience memories, particularly trigger memories. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com Stephen Black– gracefallcounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

It’s here! SMART Counsel’s first ever CROSSOVER EPISODE!!! Rhys Pasimio from SMART Counsel and Stephen Black from TCK Care have teamed up to bring you a most fabulous and thought provoking discussion about social media! What is a responsible use of Social Media? Contrarily, what is irresponsible use of Social Media? Rhys and Stephen tackle the topic. We talk about the benefits of networking and connecting, learning and research, advocating and raising awareness of marginalized and vulnerable people, and DIY self-promotion for artists, business owners, and people with opinions. We also talk about how the social media world lends itself towards obsession, addiction, “The Instagram Effect” and how we hide our true selves, the un-reality of virtual life, and what happens to relationships when they exist entirely online. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com, rhys@newpatterncounseling.com Stephen Black– tckcare.com/connect Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Rhys and Nick venture into a conversation about Feminism! We explore what feminism is, how it benefits women, and how it benefits men. We reflect on our own experiences and challenges with growing up as men surrounded by toxic masculinity and how adopting some feminist ideas is leading to healthier and more self-aware lives. Along the way, we call out some trends in both the church and the counseling world on how power is managed, how knowing is understood, and how we relate to people, and offer some ideas and hopes for how we can all continue growing together. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Nick Brechbiel – nbrechbiel18@gmail.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Need a break from the Corona Virus? Let’s talk about culture and diversity! The counseling relationship is marked by a stark power differential that is only made starker by differences in race, class, gender, education, sexual orientation, physical ability, and many other factors. How do we consider the power differential and work for what is best for the other person, while neither dismissing their problems, nor perpetuating systemic oppression? What are the cultures to consider, and who are the vulnerable people? Aaron Kelsay shares his experience of providing addiction counseling services to clients of diverse racial and class backgrounds. We consider how to consider the impact of our Whiteness and discuss striving for a mindset of cultural humility versus trying to master cultural competency skills. Along the way, we question established treatment structures, such as the 12-Steps, that came from privilege and tend to support privilege. We advise against use of jargon without first spending time in relationship earning the right to speak. Through it all, we challenge each other, and other professionals with power to be mindful of the space they occupy, and to always seek to learn from others and be willing to grow and change. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Aaron Kelsay – akelsay@voaor.org Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling. Aaron’s recommended reading list: By Author James Cone: “ “The Cross and the Lynching Tree.” “A Black Theology of Liberation.” By Author Cornell West: “The Rich and the Rest of Us.” “Race Matters.” “Prophesy Deliverance.” By Author W.E.B. Dubois: “The Souls of Black Folk By Author John Brown Walter Rodney: “How Europe Underdeveloped Africa.” “The Russian Revolution: A View from the Third World.”

How do we respond to crisis? How do we maintain a peaceful center and making meaningful contributions to our community in the midst of our own fears? One answer may be impartiality toward the outcome. Rhys Pasimio caught up with Aaron Esparza back on March 20, 2020 and they had a lively conversation about the current health situation and how our global community is reacting. They talked about peace making and peace keeping, mediation, compassion, and hopefully finding our best selves when all is said and done. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Aaron Esparza – 808.494.0249 Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Rhys and Ben offer commentary on the Corona Virus and the global reactions, on the internet, and in our communities. We discuss ideas on avoiding obsessing over fear while also cultivating empathy and connection. Whether you are more distressed by the Virus situation or more confident, we offer perspectives that we hope will be both challenging and helpful. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

What is the difference between Bipolar I with Psychotic features, Schizophrenia, Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, ADHD, and Borderline Personality Disorder, and how are all of these complicated by Drugs and Alcohol? Welcome to the wonderful world of Clinical Diagnosis! Whether you are trying to figure out your own experience, or trying to gain an understanding of someone else’s, this conversation may have useful tidbits for you! Samantha Blazier reflects on her experience assessing and treating co-occurring disorders, and offers insights in how to identify a diagnosis by its features, treat the person in a holistic way, and communicate the data to the next provider! This episode of SMART Counsel is from the archives and features former favorite co-host Joshua Moore. Listen along, and let us know your thoughts. Let’s keep the conversation going! This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Joshua Moore – neurofeedbackcare.com Samantha Blazier Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

What is healthy sexuality? How do healthy sex, relationships, and intimacy factor into an abundant spiritual life? What can we reasonably expect in our sex lives, particularly as we get older? And what does the abundant life look like for people practicing long term sexual abstinence? Rhys is an Orthodox Christian, and a sex addiction counselor, and was invited to speak at an Evangelical Church about the topic of healthy sexuality in the Abundant Life. Now, the Abundant Life is Christianese for “Living to your Fullest Potential.” Since he works closely with sexual addictions, and with matters of gender and sexuality, they wanted to know his thoughts. This presented a really cool opportunity! And an interesting challenge. How to translate all the clinical verbiage and science, as well as a Sex Positive attitude, into language and a form that Evangelical listeners could hear, understand, and maybe be open to pondering further, all while being true to the Orthodox faith tradition. This conversation is the end result. The ideas presented are meant to be challenging and thought provoking while also deeply respectful of some of the most personal experiences and deeply held values that a person can have. Listen along, and let us know your thoughts. Let’s keep the conversation going! This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

What is Religious or Spiritual Abuse? Who does it? Who is most hurt by it? Most importantly how do we support the survivors and prevent it from happening again? Connie Baker has invested much of her personal and professional life addressing this problem in both clinical and religious settings. Recently she released the book “Traumatized by Religious Abuse: Courage, Hope, and Freedom for Survivors,” which is now available at Amazon and anywhere wonderful books are sold. Rhys and Ben caught up with Connie one chilly evening in December. We shared stories, asked questions, and together dreamed of a more trauma informed counseling profession, as well as a safer and healthier church. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com Connie Baker – connieabaker.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Where are you from? Easy question…right? But what if you lived in five different countries before you finished high school, and none of them are where you live now, and even your parents were from somewhere other than here? How do you understand the culture you are in? How do you figure out how to act in a strange new world? Do you blend in? Do you make yourself exotic and cool? Moreso, how do you understand your very own self? Welcome to the world of the TCK – the Third Culture Kid. Rhys, Ben and special guest Stephen Black explore the wide and ever-changing world of being a TCK. Stephen reflects on his own experiences growing up on (only) three continents and how that impacts his sense of self, relationships, and sense of belonging. We talk about the unique challenges that TCK’s face, and how the mindful clinician might better support them. We also talk about the particular strengths and richness that a TCK carries within them, and how their global perspectives are a gift. This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com Stephen Black - tckcare.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Is it possible to become too dependent on therapy? Would that be a bad thing? Is being dependent on another human being actually a problem? What are the things that prevent us from relying on help and support from a fellow human being? Rhys and Ben explore all this and more in our latest episode! Leave us your thoughts, and let's keep the conversation going! This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Addictions and Accountability by SMART Counsel

What is a friend? And where do I find them? As kids, making friends (sometimes) seems to just happen. School, sports, church, band, and other groups facilitate connection, and younger people (sometimes) seem to have less baggage in approaching a peer. As adults, relationships are not a given. Rather than facilitating connection, many aspects of society seem to actively hinder people connecting with each other in a meaningful way, and the older we get, the stronger the hindrances! How do we overcome the barriers in society as well as our own insecurities to meet people and forge meaningful connections? Rhys, Ben, and Taralynn spin some thoughts and ideas about what keeps us apart and what we can do to be together. Check out the episode and let us know what you think. Let's keep the conversation going! This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com Taralynn Rayburn - voyageandserenity.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

How does active recovery impact relationships? Likewise, how do relationships impact active recovery? What sorts of changes should we expect or demand? What are healthy boundaries and how do we set them? And just what are the pros and cons of taking a year off from dating when you first start recovery? Rhys and Ben are joined by Taralynn Rayburn from Voyage and Serenity to unpack the essential considerations of relationships in early recovery. Listen along, and let's keep the conversation going! This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com Taralynn Rayburn - voyageandserenity.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

SMART Counsel is back! More conversations, more perspectives, more resources! Today, Rhys and Ben discuss Accountability. What is accountability? How is it done well, and how is it done badly? Who needs it, and who should be providing it? Overall, what is the role of supportive and mentoring relationships in our personal growth, and particularly in a vibrant recover process? We discuss all this and more. Listen along, and let us know what you think. Let's keep the conversation going! This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks! The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Recently we commemorated mothers. In honor of the occasion, SMART Counsel welcomed back 4 prior guest speakers, all of whom are both counselors AND mothers. In this special, all-woman gathering, Mariah LeFeber, Diane Moore, Debby Quick, and Hillary Reno talk about that counselor-mom life. What have they learned about counseling from being a mom? What have they learned about being a mom from being a counselor? What are the unique challenges they face, being both counselor and mother, and what are the unique offerings they bring to the field? Listen along to this exploration of a rich and dynamic pillar in both our counseling communities and our families. Let us know what you think, and let’s keep the conversation going! This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals: Diane Moore - (360)909-8827 Hillary Reno - hillary@quest-center.org Mariah LeFeber - http://www.mariahlefeber.com/ Debby Quick can be found at dbmquick817@gmail.com The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University, Alternative Behavioral Therapy and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty, of Alternative Behavioral Therapy or New Pattern Counseling.

Who Am I and Where Did I Go? by SMART Counsel

Sex Adjudication and Advocacy by SMART Counsel

Spiritual Integration by SMART Counsel

Sometimes after a person goes through inpatient, IOP, individual counseling and group counseling, they still need just a little something more in order to sustain their recovery. In the absence of supportive and informed family and friends(or sometimes in spite of ill-informed family and friends) recovering individuals now have the option of connecting with a sober companion! These individuals are clinically trained, often having recovery experience of their own, but able to operate in a more flexible recovery peer/case management/therapeutic presence in the individual's daily context. Visit voyageandserenity.com to learn more! Emotional Sobriety refers to that inner work that becomes possible when a person has sustained abstinence from damaging addictive behaviors. It is the ongoing and imperfect process by which a person reconnects with their best self, their deepest values, and their highest purpose. Rhys and Josh met up with TaraLynn Rayburn for a lively discussion about Sober Companions and Emotional Sobriety. We had fun recording; we hope you enjoy listening. Leave us a note, and let's keep the conversation going! If you or a loved one is struggling with addictions or any other mental health challenges, please reach out to one of the professionals in this podcast, or to any other resource mentioned, or any resource you know. Help is there for you! Let us know what you think! Let's keep the conversation going! This episode features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - www.newpatterncounseling.com Joshua Moore - https://neurofeedbackcare.com/ Taralynn Rayburn - https://voyageandserenity.com/ The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University, Alternative Behavioral Therapy and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty, of Alternative Behavioral Therapy or New Pattern Counseling.

When a family is in conflict, what does that say about the underlying patterns of how that family operates? What are the unspoken but clearly known family rules? What has been the inter-generational impact of trauma, addiction, or stress? Who holds the power in the family, and who rescues whom? Family Systems Theory offers the clinician a multitude of new insights into how the individual functions by gaining insight into the family system in which that individual dwells. Rhys and Josh visited with Mary Jane Wilt, a local Portland therapist who specializes in family systems. An introduction to Dr. Murray Bowen and Family Systems ensued. Many new things were learned. If you or a loved one is struggling with addictions or any other mental health challenges, please reach out to one of the professionals in this podcast, or to any other resource mentioned, or any resource you know. Help is there for you! Let us know what you think! Let's keep the conversation going! This episode features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - www.newpatterncounseling.com Joshua Moore - https://neurofeedbackcare.com/ Mary Jane Wilt - www.mjlpc.com The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University, Alternative Behavioral Therapy and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty, of Alternative Behavioral Therapy or New Pattern Counseling.

What are the major challenges facing men and boys today? One challenge is the narrative that says, "Look perfect and put together, even if you're not." The end result is lots of men, and boys trying to become men, who don't have it all together, but are driven into isolated silence. This is neither sustainable, nor even human. This narrative hurts men, and ultimately hurts the women in their lives too. Aynsley Silva has build a practice almost exclusively on working with men. In this conversation, he and Rhys and Josh talk about the fusion of trauma, anger, unrealistic expectations, and toxic family systems. Listen along for insights and ideas on how to work with families, and especially with the angry boys. If you or a loved one is struggling with addictions or any other mental health challenges, please reach out to one of the professionals in this podcast, or to any other resource mentioned, or any resource you know. Help is there for you! This episode features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - www.newpatterncounseling.com Joshua Moore - https://neurofeedbackcare.com/ Aynsley Silva - Lacamas Counseling, (360) 861-4038 The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University, Alternative Behavioral Therapy and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty, of Alternative Behavioral Therapy or New Pattern Counseling.

"It doesn't matter what substance a person uses. What matters is why they use it." Each addicted person has a close - much too close - relationship with the object of their addiction. Recovery and maintaining sobriety means breaking up with a close companion who, while toxic and destructive, has also been a source of comfort and security. How is a recovering person to navigate this most painful of breakups? One essential answer is Aftercare. After detox, inpatient, intensive outpatient, and even after outpatient care, recovery people need structure and support. Recovering people need other people to walk with them on their journey. Rhys and Josh talk with Michael Banis from Recovery Ways about the challenges involved in aftercare for extended sobriety, as well as the very tangible treatment resources that are available. If you or a loved one is struggling with addictions or any other mental health challenges, please reach out to one of the professionals in this podcast, or to any other resource mentioned, or any resource you know. Help is there for you! This episode features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - www.newpatterncounseling.com Joshua Moore - https://neurofeedbackcare.com/ Michael Banis - 908-590-2333 The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University, Alternative Behavioral Therapy and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty, of Alternative Behavioral Therapy or New Pattern Counseling.

Every individual exists in a system, and if we are not addressing the whole system, are we really helping the person at all? Understanding the whole family system is vital for any counseling work, but particularly for addiction recovery work, and especially where sex addiction and betrayal trauma are involved. Counseling through Betrayal Trauma takes a hard look at both addicted person and their wounded partners in the context of their whole family system. As counselors, social workers, and other practitioners, we have a responsibility to consider and address the whole system, in service of the individual, to the greatest extend possible. In this episode, Rhys shares reflections and highlights from the Module 2 training of the Certified Sex Addiction Therapist training through the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals. Listen, comment, and let's keep the conversation going! This episode features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - www.newpatterncounseling.com Joshua Moore - https://neurofeedbackcare.com/ The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University, Alternative Behavioral Therapy and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty, of Alternative Behavioral Therapy or New Pattern Counseling.

How well should we treat our clients? As well as we want to be treated? As well as they want to be treated? In accordance with the highest good possible? How do we define "Good" anyway, and when do we just need to mind our biases? Rhys and Josh team up with Collin White-Pedeaux for a lively discussion about philosophical concepts that have direct implications for our everyday clinical encounters. We discuss the age old Golden Rule, the more client centered Platinum Rule, and the very interesting Titanium Rule as we endeavor to determine just what is "Good" for our clients. Let us know what you think with comments and reviews! Let's keep the conversation going! This episode features the following professionals: Rhys Pasimio - www.newpatterncounseling.com Joshua Moore - www.altbehtherapy.com Collin White-Pedeaux can be found at cp1854@nyu.edu The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University, Alternative Behavioral Therapy and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty, of Alternative Behavioral Therapy or New Pattern Counseling.