Podcasts about family systems

Do you feel good in your own home?Does your family culture feel like a safe, joyful refuge—or more like constant conflict and stress?Most parents spend 90% of their time fixing problems instead of preventing them. But what if the secret to a thriving home is in the things you never do?In this video, Greg and Rachel Denning—parents of 7 and family coaches—reveal the small but powerful “never-do's” that transformed their parenting and family culture. From eliminating sarcasm and insults, to saying no to video games, TV, and constant notifications, these intentional choices create a home environment where kids feel secure, confident, and deeply attached.They share why attachment—not punishment—prevents misbehavior, how harshness backfires, and why saying “no” to outside noise means saying “yes” to family connection.Raising kids is already hard enough. But by eliminating just a few destructive habits, you can dramatically reduce sibling rivalry, power struggles, and emotional distance in your home.

Are you settling for a “make it work” marriage when you could build an extraordinary one?Most couples drift into survival mode—roommates, not lovers—because they've never seen an amazing marriage modeled… and no one taught them the skills. In this episode, Greg & Rachel Denning share how to raise your marriage standard, resolve conflict fast (the “anatomy of an argument”), and build a shared vision that turns everyday life into marital bliss—without pretending problems don't exist.Big idea: If you're not deliberately working on your marriage, you're automatically working on your divorce.You'll learn how to stop the same old fights, praise small efforts to reinforce positive change, schedule what matters (yes, intimacy!), and use the compound effect to transform your relationship. Whether things are tough or “fine,” these tools help you move from okay → incredible so your kids grow up with healthy models of love.What you'll learnRaise the standard: Why “make it work” is too low a target—and how high expectations create more happiness.Anatomy of an argument: Resolve conflicts quickly (not fake fixes) and stop weaponizing old grievances.Shared vision: Practical steps to get on the same page even if personalities and goals differ.Reinforce progress: Praise small attempts (date night invites, thoughtful gestures) so they happen more often.Schedule what matters: How planning creates space for connection & intimacy—instead of constant friction.Compound effect: The habits you invest in today build your legacy tomorrow.Key Takeaways✅ If you aren't intentionally improving your marriage, you're unintentionally degrading it.✅ High standards produce higher joy and better outcomes.✅ Conflict ≠ contention—you can disagree respectfully and resolve fast.✅ Model love for your kids by prioritizing the relationship at home.✅ Small, consistent actions compound into an extraordinary marriage.Chapters00:00 The Importance of Marriage02:56 From Mediocre to Extraordinary05:53 Setting High Expectations for Marriage08:25 Conflict Resolution in Marriage11:51 Self-Sabotage in Relationships16:43 Creating Mental Space for Intimacy18:16 The Importance of Retreats for Couples18:49 Investing in Marriage: The Compounding Effect20:28 Breaking Generational Patterns in Relationships22:17 Creating a Shared Vision for the Future22:44 Raising the Standard in Marriage24:36 The Role of Coaching in Relationship Growth27:04 The Value of Investing in Your MarriageMemorable Quotes

Is the “nuclear family” actually traditional—or even healthy—for your kids and marriage?In this conversation, Greg & Rachel challenge a BIG cultural myth: the nuclear family (mom + dad + kids, all on their own) isn't historically normal—and it's often unhealthy and lonely in today's hyper-digital world. Instead, they unpack what families did for most of human history—intergenerational, community-based, “tribal” living—and how ordinary parents can start moving that direction without selling everything or going off-grid.You'll learn how to question handed-down narratives, re-design work, school, and home life, and flip the ratio so your family spends more time together than apart—building skills, wealth, and resilience as a team.Highlights you'll hear:Why isolation (9–5 + separate schools + separate lives) isn't “traditional”—it's recent.How multigenerational & community living builds real support, mental health, and generational wealth.Simple first steps: shared meals, home projects, family business ideas, skill-building, and flexible work.The future of family in the age of AI: double down on what only humans do—connection, empathy, creativity.A practical reframe: “What would have to be true for us to live, learn, and work together more?”If you're tired of doing family alone, this episode shows a realistic path toward tribe-style living—whether you're in a city apartment, suburban neighborhood, or a budding homestead. You don't need to move tomorrow; you just need to start asking better questions today.Key Takeaways✅ The nuclear family is modern, not “traditional.”✅ Community > isolation for happiness, mental health, and stability.✅ Shared work/learning = faster maturity, marketable skills, and generational wealth.✅ Design life on purpose: meals together, family projects, aligned work/school choices.✅ AI future = be more human: build in-person connection and a supportive tribe.Chapters00:00 Questioning Conventional Family Norms02:53 The Evolution of Family Structures05:48 The Importance of Community and Connection08:28 Exploring Unconventional Lifestyles11:23 Redefining Family Dynamics14:01 The Future of Family Life16:35 Creating a Supportive Family Environment19:48 Building Generational Wealth Together22:30 Embracing Change and New Possibilities25:12 Living Life on Your Own Terms28:18 The Role of Technology in Family Life31:06 Designing Your Ideal Family LifeMemorable Quotes

PURCHASE THIS PODCOURSE! If you are a therapist or counselor looking for continuing education, check out my NBCC Approved $5 Podcourses and other continuing education offerings.Plus, get your first Podcourse half off. In this Podcourse episode, I sit down with Dr. Timothy Davis, a psychologist who has spent his career working with what he calls “challenging boys.” He shares how his background, from academic research to volunteer firefighting, inspired a practical framework that helps parents manage meltdowns, build resilience, and strengthen their connection with their child. Together, we explore how therapists can support parents in creating effective Emergency Plans, identifying skill deficits in emotion regulation and executive functioning, and applying family systems principles to improve family dynamics. Our hope is that you'll walk away with fresh strategies you can integrate into your clinical work right away and you can also earn one NBCC continuing education contact hour by completing this Podcourse.

Are you exhausted from trying to do all the right things—but still feel like your family life isn't extraordinary?You're not alone. Many parents work tirelessly to manage schedules, teach principles, read parenting books, pray, practice gratitude, and still feel burnt out, disconnected, and frustrated.In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning unpack a heartfelt question from a listener who has been “doing it all” since 2020—yet still feels stuck. Together, they reveal why doing more isn't the solution and why misaligned priorities, half-hearted effort, and misplaced energy may be keeping you from the extraordinary life you crave.

Do you ever feel so overwhelmed by a big goal that you back away and settle for “safe”?Here's the truth: in order to succeed, you have to fail more. And you'll have problems either way—so why not live an awesome life? In this episode, Rachel & Greg break down the mindset and method they've used for 23+ years to make bold decisions, face fear, and move forward even when it's scary.You'll learn how to:Flip fear from a stop sign into a signal you're on the right pathUse the “exchange rate” test to decide if a dream is worth the priceShrink overwhelm with step-by-step moves (exposure in bite-sized reps)See how obstacles transform you into the person who can live your dreamAdopt the mantra: “I'll either find a way—or I'll make one.”Bottom line: your fears aren't facts. When you face them strategically, the “impossible” becomes doable—and your life expands.Key Takeaways✅ Overwhelm means growth is near, not that you should quit.✅ Problems are guaranteed; choose the ones that lead to an extraordinary life.✅ Exposure beats avoidance: tiny reps dissolve massive fears.✅ Decide by “exchange rate”: is the cost (work/problems) worth the outcome?✅ Identity shift: obstacles forge the person who can hold the life you want.Chapters00:00 Embracing the Sun: A Controversial Perspective01:09 The Catalyst for Extraordinary Living02:26 Overcoming Overwhelm: The Decision to Act04:17 Facing Challenges: The Path to Growth06:10 The Irony of Fear: Choosing a Boring Life08:39 Transforming Fear into Opportunity11:18 Breaking Through Barriers: The Edge of Comfort13:45 Processing Fear: A Journey of Growth15:29 The Power of Facing Fears20:41 The Importance of Awareness in Overcoming Fear24:05 Living Beyond Limits: The Flea AnalogyMemorable Quotes

Milana Vayntrub is BACK, folks... wait! Back??? That's right! We recorded an episode with Milana a few weeks ago that maybe got a bit TOO real for recorded media, especially for people with boundaries, but she's back and we still get into it! Now you know Milana from a ton of stuff including This Is Us, Silicon Valley and our personal favorites Werewolves Within and Outer Space, and on today's ep, we Milana plays therapist to us, but we then volley the therapeutic tennis ball back at her! We talk food issues, Family Systems, evil inner voices, having healthy self-esteem, being friends with her exes and SO MUCH MORE! PLUS, obvi, we answer YOUR advice questions! If you'd like to ask your own advice questions, call 323-524-7839 and leave a VM or just DM us on IG or Twitter!*Donate to displaced black families of the LA fires here* (Yes, still!)ALSO BUY A BRAND NEW CUTE AF "Open Your Hearts, Loosen Your Butts" mug! And:Support the show on Patreon (two extra exclusive episodes a month!) or gift someone a Patreon subscription! Or get yourself a t-shirt or a discounted Quarantine Crew shirt! And why not leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts? Or Spotify? It takes less than a minute! Follow the show on Instagram! Check out CT clips on YouTube!Plus some other stuff! Watch Naomi's Netflix half hour or Mythic Quest! Check out Andy's old casiopop band's lost album or his other podcast Beginnings!Theme song by the great Sammus! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send us a textEpisode 189: Why Strategies Aren't Enough to Heal Family Disconnection (And What Actually Works)Have you tried everything to fix your family—but nothing seems to work?You've read the books. You've followed the scripts. You've apologized, stayed calm, set boundaries… And you're still walking on eggshells.In this episode, Tina Gosney, Family Relationship Coach and expert in Bowen Family Systems Theory, explains why strategies and tools—while helpful—are not enough to heal deep family disconnection. And more importantly, she reveals what actually creates lasting transformation.You'll learn:The emotional and cultural trends affecting today's families (and why it's not just you)The real reason communication tips and parenting tools fall shortWhat inner transformation looks and feels like (and how others will experience it in you)Why differentiation of self is the missing key to restoring connectionHow to become the calm, grounded, emotionally mature leader your family needsThis is an eye-opening conversation for every mother who's tried to “fix” things but feels stuck in guilt, grief, or confusion. If you're ready to stop reacting and start leading—with compassion, confidence, and courage—this episode is your starting point.  Related Episodes:179 - Break the Cycle and Lead Your Family with Calm, Loving Energy and Personal Integrity187 – Stress – What Happens in Your Brain and Body and How to Stay Grounded180 – How Your Nervous System Shapes Reactions, Relationships, and Resilience. Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Dr. Fatimah Turner is a licensed clinical social worker and the founder of the Inner City Cafe in Orange, NJ. She completed her PhD in Family Science and Human Development at Montclair State University and has over 20 years of experience in social work, focusing on trauma, loss, and anxiety. Dr. Turner serves as a member of the Board of Education.https://www.instagram.com/innercitycafe/ https://theinnercitycafe.com/ https://www.instagram.com/diprimaradio/

Do you ever tell yourself you're just being “content” or “grateful”—when in reality you're actually settling for less than the life you truly want?In this powerful episode, Greg & Rachel Denning pull back the curtain on how false contentment quietly keeps parents stuck in unhappy routines—and why so many families end up living what they call an unhappy dream.You'll discover why true happiness doesn't come from removing desire, but from pursuing your best desires—and how embracing what we call “divine discontent” is the real catalyst for growth, joy, and lasting fulfillment.Instead of numbing out with distractions or convincing yourself you “should just be grateful,” you'll learn how to: - Raise your standards and stop tolerating mediocrity in your health, marriage, parenting, and personal growth- Recognize the difference between gratitude and complacency—and why confusing the two keeps you stuck- Do the inner work first so you can become the kind of parent and leader your kids want to follow- Pursue challenges instead of avoiding them so you build the strength and confidence you need to thrive -Create a family life you don't need to escape from—one filled with meaning, adventure, and joyIf you're ready to stop settling, face what's really holding you back, and design a life you genuinely love, this episode is your wake-up call.Key Takeaways✅ True happiness comes from pursuit, not from removing desire.✅ Divine discontent is healthy—stop tolerating what harms your life.✅ You teach who you are: do the inner work first, every day.✅ Swap “survive the day” for strategic focus + strategic disengagement.✅ Choose challenge over comfort to stay mentally and emotionally healthy.✅ Progress across six domains (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, social, financial).✅ If you don't like the outcome, raise your standards—then match them with action.✅ Use the power-tool approach (coaching, systems) to collapse time and results.✨ Memorable Quotes

Do you feel like your spouse won't change—no matter what you try?Have you been tolerating non-improvement and calling it “keeping the peace”?In this episode, Greg & Rachel Denning share a practical blueprint for creating real change in marriage—without nagging, power struggles, or giving ultimatums. You'll learn how to earn influence (instead of demanding it), build psychological safety so growth is possible, and use pattern interrupts to break the same old fights.They unpack why couples stall out—no shared vision, unresolved wounds, holes in the relationship “bucket,” and mixed signals that make one spouse armor up. You'll get specific tools to create safety, raise standards, and stop tolerating non-improvement—so your marriage actually gets better month by month.What we cover:- Why “it's okay to be wounded—but not to stay wounded.”- How to earn your spouse's attention & respect (and keep it).- Pattern interrupts that disarm conflict and reset connection.- The Bucket Test: plug the leaks killing motivation & desire.- Strategic praise (what to amplify so it multiplies).- The Shared Vision your marriage needs to stay motivated.- When one spouse levels up—and what to do if the other resists.- Tough talks done right: letters, timing, tone, and follow-through.Bottom line: In life, you get what you tolerate. Don't accept non-improvement. Use these tools to create safety, raise the standard, and build a marriage where both partners keep growing.

If you've ever felt like you're carrying the invisible weight of running both your home and your career, you're not alone. The mental load - the relentless planning, remembering, and anticipating that keeps family life moving - falls disproportionately on women, and it's leaving many of us exhausted, resentful, and stretched too thin. In this powerful episode, I'm joined by Dr. Kate Mangino, gender expert and author of Equal Partners, to uncover the truth about the mental load: what it really is, why it matters, and how we can begin to share it more equally at home. This isn't just about fairness - it's about creating the foundations for healthier relationships, happier families, and the space for working mums to truly thrive. More details: https://luminate-group.co.uk/podcast/169 Connect on LinkedIn Here  Follow on Instagram Here  Love the Wisdom For Working Mums Podcast? Let's take the conversation further. Subscribe for exclusive insights delivered straight to your inbox - designed to support you in leading with confidence and living with intention. 

Are you worried about your kids rebelling as teenagers?Do you ever wonder if your parenting style today is planting the seeds of future rebellion—or resilience?In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning tackle the controversial connection between “restaurant parenting” and teenage rebellion. They share why forcing your children to “behave perfectly” in public often backfires, and how double standards in parenting create resentment and distance that can last for decades.Instead, they reveal a better way: building congruence, fostering autonomy, and meeting your child's deepest needs for love, certainty, identity, and adventure. When you allow children to “act their age,” explain the why behind rules, and respect their growing independence, you prevent destructive rebellion and instead raise courageous, confident adults.This powerful conversation explores:Why unmet needs lead to rebellion (and how to meet them early)The difference between healthy vs. unhealthy rebellionHow giving your kids autonomy strengthens respect and influenceWhy congruence between public and private parenting matters mostHow to prevent resentment from turning into long-term rebellionThe secret to keeping influence with your kids as they grow into teens and adultsIf you want to raise teens who respect you, trust you, and stay connected—without power struggles, yelling, or forced obedience— this episode will shift the way you see rebellion forever.

Are you worried about how porn might be impacting your teen—or afraid to even bring up the conversation?Studies show that up to 90% of boys and young men are consuming porn, often starting as young as eight years old. And the truth is, it's not harmless. Porn rewires the brain, damages real-life relationships, distorts healthy sexuality, and fuels depression, anxiety, and disconnection.In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning break down the science, psychology, and social impact of porn use—and why parents must step up with courage, clarity, and compassion.We'll explore:

Is your teen struggling with anxiety, depression, or just staying motivated to get out of bed in the morning?Do you sometimes feel helpless watching them drift, while wishing you could guide them without controlling them?In this heartfelt conversation, we dive deep into the real reasons teens check out emotionally and mentally—and what you can do as a parent to help.From the science-backed truth that positive habits are the foundation of mental health to powerful strategies like state changes, pattern interrupts, and building strong parent-child connections, we share the tools that actually work.Whether your child is just entering the teen years or already struggling with disconnection, you'll walk away with clarity, hope, and practical steps to help your son or daughter thrive.Key Takeaways:✅ Why sleeping in and lack of motivation are symptoms of deeper issues✅ How to use positive habits to fight anxiety, depression, and hopelessness✅ Why prevention is easier than repair (and what to do if you're already in crisis)✅ How to shift from control to guidance so your teen actually chooses greatness✅ The difference between giving kids a “good life” vs. helping them build a meaningful life✅ Micro- and macro-dosing love, time, and mentorship so your kids feel connected and inspiredIf you're ready to stop drifting and start building stronger habits and deeper connections with your teens, this episode is for you.✨ Memorable Quotes

Beyond the Owner: How Family Systems Shape Successful ExitsInclusive planning, legacy thinking and trusted advisory teams drive long-term success.In this episode of the Exit Planning Coach Podcast with John F. Dini, family business expert Amy Wirtz shares powerful insights on how family dynamics, collaboration, and clear communication shape successful business transitions. Drawing from her background as a collaborative divorce attorney and senior consultant with the Family Business Consulting Group, Amy discusses the importance of listening first, educating owners on their options, and engaging the full family system—not just the founder. She offers real-world examples of navigating generational shifts, avoiding conflict, and building governance structures that support long-term success. Whether you're an advisor or a business owner, Amy's perspective will change how you think about planning for the future.

Do you ever feel like you have a "million dreams and not enough time" to chase them all? As a parent, the challenge is even greater—you want financial freedom, family adventures, strong relationships, better health, and so much more. But where do you even start?In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning share their 5-step process for choosing which dreams matter most right now. They reveal how to prioritize goals without sacrificing what matters most—your marriage, your kids, your health, and your peace of mind.Key Takeaways:✅ Write down and prioritize ALL your dreams✅ Balance ambition with family life✅ Follow intuition and interests as guideposts✅ Use urgency, energy, and alignment filters to choose what to pursue✅ Avoid the trap of sacrificing relationships for successWhether you dream of traveling the world, building a business, or creating a family legacy, this episode will help you gain clarity, simplify your focus, and start moving forward today.If you've ever asked, “Where do I start?”—this is the roadmap you've been looking for.✨ Memorable Quotes

Are your teen's habits building the future they want — or holding them back?Most parents focus on grades, test scores, and academic achievements, but the truth is… habits determine everything. From sleep to self-talk, from what we eat to how we think, our daily habits are literally the building blocks of our lives.In this episode, we share the foundational habits every teen should develop to create a life of happiness, success, and purpose — and why these skills are rarely taught in schools. You'll learn practical ways to help your teen replace destructive habits with empowering ones, create positive associations, and build a lifelong foundation for health, confidence, and achievement.Whether you're parenting a teenager now or preparing for the years ahead, this conversation will help you guide them toward a future they'll thank you for.

Everett Uhl - media contacts Site: Everett Uhl Therapy Email: euhl@committed-action.com Instagram @everettuhltherapy In this conversation, I interview Everett Uhl, a licensed marriage and family counselor, about her role as a therapist. We discuss the importance of authenticity in therapeutic practices, the need for action-oriented approaches, and some critiques of traditional therapy models, especially in relation to religious influences. I loved how Everett emphasized the significance of understanding human experiences in context rather than through rigid diagnoses, and of course, I'll always cheer on an advocate for integrating Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) into one's practice, with Everett combining it with the Bowen family systems approaches. A Few Highlights Authenticity in therapy fosters a genuine connection with clients. Therapy should empower clients to take action, not just vent. Understanding context is crucial for accurate diagnoses. Expectations of therapy should be realistic and not solely focused on validation. ACT encourages clients to make choices and move forward. Rigid definitions in Christian counseling can lead to harm. Secular therapy provides a safe space free from religious judgment. Therapists should be aware of their biases and dual relationships. The future of therapy should embrace flexibility and critical thinking. Chapters 00:00 From Conservation to Counseling: A Journey of Purpose 04:38 Therapeutic Approaches: Authenticity and Action 08:48 The Role of Therapy: Beyond Venting to Empowerment 12:46 Understanding Human Experience: Context Over Diagnosis 17:02 Critiquing Therapy: The Need for Realistic Expectations 21:25 Integrating ACT and Family Systems: A Holistic Approach 25:49 The Impact of Religion in Therapy: A Critical Perspective 30:18 Navigating Secular Therapy: A Personal Commitment 34:41 The Future of Therapy: Moving Beyond Rigid Models 39:24 Conclusion: Embracing Change in Therapeutic Practices

Are you tired of repeating yourself over and over, just to get your teen to do the simplest chores?Does it feel like every request turns into a negotiation—or worse, an argument?In this episode, we're revealing exactly how to get your teen to take responsibility for chores—without nagging, yelling, or bribing. As parents of seven, we've tested countless strategies, and this one works because it's built on privilege-based accountability—not power struggles.We'll show you how to replace daily battles with a clear system that motivates teens to follow through. You'll learn how to connect privileges (like screen time, outings, or car use) to personal responsibility, so your teen begins to self-manage—willingly.We'll also share why maintaining a strong relationship is essential to cooperation, and how the right approach can actually bring you closer to your teen while also building lifelong habits of responsibility.If you're ready to turn chore time from chaos to calm, this conversation will show you exactly how.

Are you tired of parenting by force, only to watch results fade?Did you know that long-term influence usually starts with emotional deposits—not immediate obedience?In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning sit down with friends to unpack the parenting strategy that transformed their home: choosing strategic empathy, trust-building, and persuasion over force and control.We dive into:Why influence matters more than obedienceHow to make daily emotional deposits that pay off laterTactful, creative strategies instead of reactionary disciplineThe subtle power of modeling—not manipulatingWhether you're in the parenting trenches or preparing for the teenage years ahead, this episode gives you tools to do the hard work once, so trust — not threats — becomes your default.Tune in if you're ready to raise thinking, self-directed children who WANT to do what's right—without prompting or power struggles.Key Takeaways✅ Influence beats force in the long run✅ Emotional deposits build trust and cooperation✅ Persuasion creates self-directed children✅ Strategic reflection prevents repetitive discipline✅ High standards don't need harshness to stand firmChapters:01:34 Unpacking Parenting Layers and Strategies02:38 The Importance of Long-Term Vision in Parenting03:37 Balancing Immediate Results with Long-Term Relationships04:26 Navigating Parenting Challenges with Creativity05:57 Building Emotional Bank Accounts with Children07:44 Proactive Parenting: Making Emotional Deposits09:13 The Impact of Travel on Family Relationships10:34 Finding Balance in Parenting Intensity12:00 Transformational vs. Transactional Interactions13:59 The Reward of Long-Term Parenting Investments16:00 Understanding Manipulation in Parenting16:37 Transitioning from Transactional to Relational Parenting18:06 Addressing Behavioral Issues with Connection18:51 Creating a Culture of Connection and Deposits19:46 The Importance of Individualized Strategies21:18 Long-Term Solutions Over Short-Term Fixes24:51 The Power of Influence and Persuasion in ParentingMemorable Quotes:

Separating myself physically, emotionally & mentally from my toxic family of origin was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I discuss: two mental health professionals who helped me do this—and they are FREE resources; the reasoning behind why this kind of separation is necessary for you to heal and thrive; and a story from my childhood that demonstrates this need for separation. I hope this episode helps you on your healing journey!

Are you noticing your teen struggling to move forward—still living at home, lacking motivation, or avoiding responsibility?Did you know failure to launch syndrome is becoming a silent epidemic, with many young adults unable to transition into independent, thriving adults?In this episode, Rachel and Greg unpack what failure to launch looks like, why it's happening—and most importantly—what you can do now to guide your child toward adult independence. Drawing on years of experience working with youth and young adults, they explore the common warning signs (low persistence, entitlement, lack of life skills) and reveal the actionable strategies that prevent the downward spiral before it's too late.This candid conversation is filled with practical advice: how to instill responsibility, help your child set meaningful goals, face challenges, and develop emotional maturity. Whether you're parenting a toddler or a teen, this episode equips you with tools to help your children not just survive—but truly launch into adulthood on their own terms.Tune in and take the steps that could make all the difference.

Are you frustrated by constant discipline battles with your kids? Do you feel like no matter what you try, the misbehavior just won't stop?What if the key to ending discipline problems isn't about punishments or timeouts — but about becoming a truly effective parent and mentor?In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning reveal why most parenting struggles come down to what you are doing — or not doing — as a parent. They share why discipline problems aren't really about your kids but about parenting skills and trust-building.You'll learn the powerful mindset shift that parenting is a specific skill you can learn and improve — just like tennis — and how building a foundation of trust prevents most discipline issues before they start.Discover how to stop draining your child's emotional bank account and start making deposits of love, attention, and understanding. This episode is packed with real-life insights and encouragement for parents ready to enjoy parenting and raise well-adjusted, confident kids.If you're ready to stop feeling overwhelmed by behavior battles and start creating a joyful family culture, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:✅ Discipline problems are caused by ineffective parenting, not kids.✅ Parenting is a skill you can learn and improve — no guilt needed.✅ Building trust daily is the foundation of influence and respect.✅ Emotional “withdrawals” from kids cause misbehavior; deposits fix it.✅ Meeting kids' needs prevents problems before they start.✅ Strong relationships reduce the need for discipline and conflict.Chapters:00:00 Why Most Parenting Problems Come From Ineffective Parenting05:15 Parenting Is a Skill You Can Learn—Like Tennis10:10 Building a Foundation of Trust Starts at Birth15:30 Emotional Bank Account: Stop Withdrawals, Make Deposits20:40 Meeting Your Child's Needs Prevents Misbehavior26:00 The Joy and Ease of Parenting When You Have the Right Skills30:00 Taking Responsibility to Create a Family LegacyMemorable Quotes:

Are you constantly battling with your child over decisions—like what they wear, eat, or how they spend their time? Do you worry they'll make bad choices if you give them too much freedom?In this candid conversation, we break down the art and science of teaching kids how to make their own decisions—while still keeping them safe, supported, and connected to you.The goal of parenting isn't to control your child's every move; it's to teach them how to think, how to choose, and how to handle the natural consequences of their decisions. But how do you do that without letting them fall off the proverbial cliff?In this episode, we reveal exactly how to balance freedom with boundaries, so your child can develop real-life decision-making skills without damaging your relationship in the process.Whether you're raising toddlers or teens, this episode will help you shift from a control-based parenting model to one focused on agency, connection, and life skills development.Key Takeaways:✅ Why letting kids make mistakes early prevents disasters later✅ How to avoid power struggles while still being a responsible parent✅ The difference between teaching and controlling—and why it matters✅ How to give your child more agency without letting go too soon✅ Why "passing the class" is our family's secret parenting frameworkMemorable Quotes:

Are you worried you're “not spiritual enough” to lead your kids in faith? Do you wonder if you've messed up too much to guide them in hearing God's voice?The truth is—you don't have to be perfect to raise spiritually confident kids.In this interview episode with Jen from Java With Jen, we have a candid conversation about hearing God's voice as a family—and why perfection is NOT a requirement for spiritual growth. We share how to create a home where prayer, repentance, and connection with God become normal everyday practices—even when you're still working through your own struggles.We also talk about why the attack on families is so fierce right now—and why raising spiritually resilient kids is the key to protecting them from today's cultural confusion and overwhelm.You'll discover how small habits like honesty, humility, and quick repentance clear the “airways” so you (and your kids) can hear God's guidance more clearly.If you're ready to build a family culture of faith without the pressure of perfectionism, this episode will encourage and equip you.Key Takeaways:✅ Why you don't have to be perfect to teach your kids to hear God's voice✅ How repentance clears the “spiritual airways” so you can hear better✅ Why family prayer will shape the next generation—and the world✅ How to overcome shame, regret, and feelings of disqualification✅ The role of moms (and dads!) in creating a faith-centered legacyChapters:00:00 Introduction to Parenting and Ministry03:45 Hearing God's Voice in Parenting06:42 Navigating Faith and Skepticism09:37 The Nuances of Hearing God's Voice12:19 Daily Practices for Spiritual Connection15:32 The Role of Mothers in Shaping Futures18:38 The Importance of Repentance and Forgiveness21:29 The Power of Family in Spiritual Growth24:24 Closing Thoughts and ResourcesMemorable Quotes:

Are you living life on your terms—or just checking the boxes of what you're “supposed” to do?Do you feel like you're sacrificing your family life balance just to keep up with society's expectations?In this episode, we unpack the bold decisions we made to opt out of the “normal” path—traditional jobs, mainstream schooling, and cultural pressure—and how those sacrifices led to a stronger, happier, and more united family.We're not promoting selfishness. We're advocating for intentionality. For living deliberately. For creating a family culture that nurtures emotional health, purpose, and joy.We talk about the hard choices, the personal growth it required, the sacrifices we made—and why we'd make them all over again.Whether you're a parent wondering if there's another way… or already on the path of designing your own extraordinary life… this episode will inspire you to ask better questions and bravely pursue the life you really want.

Is your husband avoiding intimacy... and you don't know why?In this raw and unfiltered conversation, we unpack four brutally honest reasons your husband may not want sex — and what it means for your marriage.Many wives silently wonder: "Why doesn't my husband want me anymore?" Whether you're emotionally connected (or not) but sexually distant, it can feel devastating. But the truth is, low libido in men is rarely just about sex. Often, it's a symptom of deeper issues—and understanding those issues is the first step toward rebuilding connection and passion.We discuss:How processed food is reducing libido in men and womenHow porn addiction secretly destroys sexual desire in marriage and creates SAD (sexual arousal dysfunction)Why adultery (emotional or physical) leads to disconnectionThe painful truth about emotional rejection and naggingWhat you may unknowingly be doing to repel your husband sexuallyWhy physical, emotional, and attitudinal attractiveness matter in marriageHow to reignite mutual desire through sacrifice, growth, and emotional maturityThis is not a blame game—it's a wake-up call. In this episode, we share tools, examples from our own life and our coaching clients, and real solutions to reignite sexual connection and strengthen your marriage.Sex in marriage isn't just about pleasure—it's about bonding, trust, and emotional safety. If you're ready to heal what's been broken, this episode is your starting point.Key Takeaways: ✅ Porn and hidden behavior destroy trust and attraction ✅ Adultery (emotional or physical) often hides in plain sight ✅ Attraction isn't just physical—emotional and mental habits matter ✅ Nagging, emotional drama, or a messy mindset can kill desire ✅ You can change your patterns and reignite connection—starting todayChapters: 00:00 The Holistic Nature of Parenting Includes Parents' Sexual Relationship05:31 Understanding Men's Low Sex Drive10:14 Health and Its Impact on Intimacy24:45 The Role of Pornography in Relationships32:35 Adultery and Its Consequences33:03 The Hidden Affairs: Emotional and Physical Distance in Relationships34:50 The Importance of Sexual Connection in Marriage38:25 Understanding Male Sexual Drive and Its Implications41:35 The Moral Responsibility of Intimacy in Marriage44:55 Attractiveness and Its Role in Marital Dynamics51:22 The Conditions of Love and Attraction55:57 Working with Reality: The Path to ImprovementMore Episodes About Sex:⁠#148 What Wives Need to Know About Husbands' (Sex Drive) and What Men Need to Understand About Themselves⁠⁠#150 The Sex-quel. Follow Up Sex Episode With Rachel Denning⁠⁠#151 What Husbands NEED to Know About Their Wives (sex & intimacy)⁠⁠#224 How (& WHY) to Have Sex 3-6 Times a Week EVEN with Kids, Businesses, Homeschool, Jobs, Activities, and More#253 SEX IS A NEED FOR AN EXTRAORDINARY MARRIAGE#268 I'M TIRED OF BEING A LONELY “ROOMMATE WITH BENEFITS” FOR MY HUSBAND#273 I'M TIRED OF BEING A ROOMMATE ‘WITHOUT BENEFITS' WITH MY WIFE! (AKA WHY WOMEN DON'T WANT SEX)#317 HOW SEXUAL FRUSTRATION (OR PORN) ARE CAUSING DAD'S TO BE GRUMPY & DISCONNECTEDRESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids - Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power Struggles (+ get THE CHECKLIST: Things We Do Every Day to Raise Well-Adjusted Kids)Rachel's ⁠⁠Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read Moms⁠⁠Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram: ⁠@worldschoolfamily⁠ or ⁠@greg.denning⁠Get Rachel's ⁠⁠Family Systems & Charts⁠⁠Join the Do More With Less Stress Workshop Series for busy momsBecome a Founding Member of our Extraordinary Parent Mentoring MethodJoin Greg's 7-Day Challenge JOIN GREG'S 90-DAY HEALTH & FITNESS CHALLENGE! Join the Formidable Family Man Masterclass and TribeGather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in PortugalRead our reviews here: https://podcast.extraordinaryfamilylife.com/reviews/

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk talks about family systems theory. (Intro)This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaJuly 13, 2016The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Una Archer joins me for a thoughtful conversation about how to help children feel safe, secure, and resilient in the face of their parents' separation or divorce.   Together we explore:   Why there's no one-size-fits-all approach to separation, even among siblings, and why tuning into each child's unique needs matters. What the Circle of Security framework is and how it can be used to support children's attachment during major family transitions. The three core emotional needs that children rely on to feel secure, and how parents can meet these needs in everyday moments (check the show notes for a helpful visual!). How to separate your own trauma and fears from your child's experience so you can truly see and respond to them without projection. Why allowing more time and slowness during transitions isn't a setback, but an important part of healing and connection. The power of rupture and repair in relationships and practical ways parents can engage in repair after conflict or misunderstanding. How different family structures after separation—sometimes two distinct family systems—can be healthy depending on what your family needs. Navigating the challenges of co-parenting, including managing handoffs and stepping back when it's not your parenting time.   If you're looking for compassionate, practical guidance on fostering secure attachment for your children through big changes, this conversation is full of insights and tools you won't want to miss!     LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:   https://www.helpyourchildthrive.co.uk/ The Separated Parent's Guide to Attachment: 3 Steps Towards Emotional Security      ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:  

Do you feel like you're losing connection with your teen—or worse, already have? You're not alone… but it doesn't have to be that way.In this powerful and honest episode, we share 6 strategic parenting techniques that have helped us raise mature, respectful, and emotionally healthy teens—without control, punishment, or endless conflict.If you're frustrated by moodiness, defiance, secretive behavior, or a lack of trust in your relationship with your teen, it might be because you're parenting on autopilot… using strategies that just don't work anymore.We unpack the REAL reasons why teens rebel, resist, or retreat—and why many parenting tactics like strict rules, forced obedience, or excessive control backfire (sometimes in heartbreaking ways).You'll learn how to:Recognize the warning signs of disconnection before they become rebellionBuild emotional capital and trust with your teen—without being permissiveEncourage better choices without controlling their every moveAvoid the #1 parenting myth that leads to resentment and disrespectUse strategy and vision to create a strong, lifelong bondEmpower your kids to make good decisions because they want to, not because they have toWhether you're deep in the teen years or just getting started, these techniques will help you raise responsible, confident, and connected kids—and build a family culture of mutual respect, freedom, and fun.

Are you wondering why your 18-year-old still acts like a teenager? Science confirms it—they're not fully adults yet. So how do you parent emerging adults ages 18–25 with wisdom, influence, and connection?In this powerful episode, we share the essential mindset and parenting strategies you need to guide your teens and young adults through their most formative and vulnerable years.We dive into why your role as a parent doesn't stop at 18—and why your influence matters even more during this critical “emerging adulthood” phase.Learn why respect must be earned (not assumed), why leveling up as a parent is non-negotiable, and how to stay connected while still holding high standards. We also unpack the difference between rigid rules and principled living, why exposure to the real world is crucial (not dangerous), and how to foster real-world readiness through honest conversation and example—not fear, shame, or control.Whether your child is making choices that don't align with your values, or just pulling away, this episode will equip you with the tools to respond with love, leadership, and lasting impact.This is your next level of parenting—and it's never too late to start.

Are you constantly feeling overwhelmed, irritated, or like you're just going through the motions of family life?Do you wish you could feel more joy, peace, and connection—but don't know how to actually get there in the midst of chores, tantrums, and to-do lists?In this episode, we share how to actually enjoy family life—even when it's hard, boring, or chaotic. We explore how being present—truly present—can radically transform your parenting and your emotional state. You'll learn how to stop “trying” to be calm or patient... and instead become calm and patient from the inside out—so you can raise happier, more resilient kids who feel safe, seen, and emotionally supported every day.We unpack how your emotional baseline affects your family culture, why pretending to be peaceful isn't enough, and how small daily habits like mindfulness, gratitude, and intentional action can raise your emotional thermostat.You'll also discover how to remove hidden emotional blocks and process negative feelings—so you can genuinely enjoy family life, even in the messy, mundane, or tough moments.This conversation is packed with practical strategies to help you shift from reactive and exhausted... to grounded, connected, and joyful.If you've been craving more daily joy and emotional peace, this episode is your roadmap.Key Takeaways:✅ Trying to be calm isn't the same as being calm—true peace comes from internal emotional regulation.✅ You can't fake joy, patience, or love—emotional authenticity is essential in parenting.✅ Your emotional baseline determines the overall tone of your family culture.✅ Unprocessed emotions run in the background and drain your energy—clearing them frees you to parent with joy.✅ Small habits like mindfulness, breathwork, and gratitude rewire your brain and raise your emotional thermostat.Chapters:00:00 The Essence of Happiness in Family Life02:24 The Struggle Between Doing and Being05:22 Modeling Joy for Children08:29 The Role of Triggers in Parenting11:13 Choosing Emotions in Daily Life13:59 Finding Joy in Everyday Chores17:09 The Impact of Environment on Happiness20:00 Teaching Children Through Example22:48 The Importance of Self-Control in Parenting26:03 Creating a Positive Family Dynamic30:31 Choosing Happiness: The Process of Emotional Management32:47 Understanding Neuroticism and Its Impact on Emotions35:27 The Power of Focus: Shifting Perspectives39:26 Transforming Daily Chores into Joyful Experiences43:11 Morning Routines: Setting the Tone for Positivity47:15 Processing Emotions: The Key to Emotional Freedom51:25 Authenticity in Parenting: The Importance of Genuine EmotionsMemorable Quotes:

Are the men in your home grumpy, disconnected, or hard to reach emotionally? Do you ever feel like there's a quiet tension simmering under the surface of your marriage?In this raw and honest conversation, we dive into how unmet sexual needs (and/or porn usage) —and a lack of emotional and physical connection—are contributing to frustration, moodiness, and even disconnection in marriage and family life.You might be surprised to learn that it's not just men who are feeling sexually frustrated—many women are too. And when this deep need for connection is unmet, it seeps into every area of life: parenting, partnership, communication, and even personal confidence.We explore how porn, masturbation, stress, and lack of emotional intimacy are silently sabotaging marriages—and how to rebuild connection, fulfillment, and joy through intentional effort and honest conversations.This episode is for couples who want more than just “getting by.” It's for those who want thriving, deeply connected, emotionally intelligent marriages that can handle the storms of family life and come out stronger.If you're ready to level up your relationship and break free from disconnection, this episode will give you practical, powerful tools to start healing and reconnecting—starting today.Key Takeaways:✅ Sexual frustration impacts your entire family dynamic✅ Porn and masturbation are damaging long-term intimacy✅ Women often want more & better sex—this is shifting✅ Great sex takes intention, health, emotional connection, and effort✅ You can't separate parenting and marriage—everything affects everything✅ Emotional intelligence is key to deeper connectionChapters:00:00 Introduction to Family Life Optimization02:58 The Interconnectedness of Life Aspects10:38 State Optimization for Better Parenting16:13 Understanding Sexual Needs in Relationships22:40 The Impact of Sexual Frustration on Family Dynamics28:34 Addressing Sexual Needs and Responsibilities37:56 The Importance of Hard Work in RelationshipsMemorable Quotes:

Are you tired of feeling stuck in the same frustrating patterns of family conflict?Do small arguments keep escalating, leaving you drained, defeated, or disconnected?In this empowering episode, we break down exactly how to step out of the Family Drama Triangle—the toxic cycle of victim, villain, and rescuer that silently sabotages your parenting, partnership, and peace.We share the 3 surprisingly simple steps that will help you break free from reactive patterns and create more calm, connection, and cooperation in your home—starting today.

Are you struggling with how to handle conflicts and tough behavior with your kids?Do consequences often feel harsh or ineffective, leaving your family stressed instead of connected?In this episode, we dive deep into using natural consequences as a powerful tool for conflict resolution in your family. Instead of punishments or power struggles, discover how fun yet impactful consequences can teach kids respect, empathy, and responsibility — all while strengthening your family bonds.Raising seven kids ourselves, we know how challenging sibling rivalry and hurtful words can be. We share real-life strategies that help kids own their mistakes, learn from them, and choose kindness next time — without resentment or fear.If you want to create a peaceful home where your children develop emotional intelligence and self-control, this episode is packed with practical, easy-to-implement ideas that truly work.Whether your kids are toddlers or teens, these natural consequence techniques will empower you to turn conflict into growth opportunities — with love, humor, and respect.Key Takeaways:✅ Natural consequences teach responsibility without harsh punishment✅ Opt-in consequences build cooperation and buy-in from kids✅ Fun, intense consequences leave lasting lessons without damage✅ Encouraging honesty and ownership defuses sibling conflict✅ Small intentional strategies transform family culture✅ Raising emotionally intelligent kids strengthens relationshipsChapters:00:00 Creating an Extraordinary Family Life02:19 Addressing Sibling Rivalry05:43 Healing Underlying Issues11:17 The Importance of Self-Reflection19:09 Tools for Emotional Mastery27:04 Noticing and Addressing Small Issues32:06 Practical Strategies for Conflict Resolution40:27 Navigating Sibling Conflicts45:27 Teaching Emotional Intelligence50:40 Calming Techniques for Heated Moments56:02 Addressing Annoying Behaviors01:01:08 Promoting Personal Responsibility01:06:08 Building Perspective on Family Dynamics01:11:31 Handling Name-Calling and Insults01:21:12 Building Resilience in Children01:22:59 Parental Responsibility and Empowerment01:25:19 Emotional Bank Accounts in Sibling Relationships01:26:14 Understanding Fairness in Family Dynamics01:28:59 Teaching Fairness and Sharing01:32:32 Addressing Physical Aggression in Children01:39:49 The Importance of Accountability and Consequences01:49:35 Fostering Ownership and Responsibility01:51:30 Eliminating Jealousy and Competition01:53:46 Standing Up Against Bullying01:59:24 Creating an Extraordinary Family LifeMemorable Quotes:

Are you and your spouse constantly disagreeing about HOW to best parent your children?Are you wondering if one (or both) of your parenting styles is hurting your child's emotional growth?And if so, what do you do about it, especially when you disagree so adamantly?In this episode, we unpack the subtle but powerful effects that parenting styles have on children's development—especially when it comes to raising resilient, well-adjusted kids. Many parents unknowingly adopt habits that hold their families back from true emotional health and connection.Parenting is a daily practice of small choices, and understanding which styles promote emotional intelligence, confidence, and independence can transform your family life.Join us as we share the key things we NEVER do as parents of 7 children, and how those ‘never-dos' have shaped a positive, loving family culture where kids learn to thrive.You'll hear practical advice on:How authoritative parenting builds self-worthWhy harsh or inconsistent discipline backfiresThe dangers of sarcasm and negative languageCreating open, honest communication at every ageBalancing boundaries with empathy and loveIf you want to upgrade your parenting approach and create a nurturing environment where your kids feel safe to grow emotionally, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:✅ Different parenting styles have lasting effects on your child's emotional and social development✅ Authoritative parenting fosters resilience and healthy boundaries✅ Avoid sarcasm, harshness, and inconsistent discipline to build trust✅ Emotional intelligence starts with authentic, open communication✅ Small ‘never-dos' can prevent big problems down the roadChapters:00:00 Parenting from the Same Page06:41 The Importance of Communication in Parenting13:12 Navigating Parenting Styles24:08 Understanding Parenting Approaches31:13 The Four Parenting Philosophies43:16 The Pitfalls of Authoritarian Parenting46:00 Understanding Permissive Parenting51:39 The Consequences of Neglectful Parenting58:31 The Gold Standard: Authoritative Parenting01:11:03 Getting on the Same Page as Parents01:25:51 The Journey of Personal Development in ParentingMemorable Quotes:

Do your kids struggle with tantrums, power struggles, or emotional meltdowns—and you're not sure how to stop the cycle without yelling or harsh discipline?After posting on Instagram about how we raised our 7 kids without yelling, punishments, or power struggles, we received so much interest and questions from parents wanting to know—is it really possible?Yes, it is—and in this episode, we share exactly how we did it.Raising emotionally healthy, well-adjusted kids starts with creating a strong foundation of love, trust, and connection. In this conversation, we unpack the specific things we never do as parents, and why avoiding them has helped our children become confident, competent, and emotionally resilient.From mockery and sarcasm to yelling, punishments, and ignoring big feelings—these parenting pitfalls actually increase misbehavior, power struggles, and emotional shutdown.We also share personal stories—including a controversial ocean swim encounter—that demonstrate how pushing limits (safely and intentionally) builds competence, confidence, and calm under pressure—for kids and adults.Whether you're parenting toddlers or teens, these insights will help you shift your mindset and methods to raise kids who thrive without tantrums, yelling, or power struggles.Key Takeaways:✅ Strong attachment = strong self-worth✅ Small emotional habits shape your child's future✅ Sarcasm erodes trust—kindness builds connection✅ Harshness leads to fragility and misbehavior✅ Family culture and personal growth go hand in hand✅ Confidence comes from challenge, not comfortChapters:00:00 Raising Well-Adjusted Kids on the Move10:39 Understanding Tantrums and Yelling15:45 Prioritizing Connection Over Correction27:41 Investing Time for Long-Term Benefits29:25 The Importance of Connection Over Correction31:15 Understanding the Desire for Connection33:03 The Impact of Parental Engagement35:27 Recognizing Attachment Issues37:10 Daily Intentional Connection39:04 Behavior as a Symptom, Not the Problem41:24 Going to the Root Cause of Behavior43:41 The Investment in Parenting Knowledge47:37 Clarifying Expectations in Parenting50:27 Engaging in Clear Communication53:40 Encouraging Dialogue for Clarity01:00:08 Natural Consequences and Child Empowerment01:06:14 Establishing Family Systems for Smooth Parenting01:12:53 Emotional Co-Regulation in Parenting01:21:33 Building Resilience Through Connection and ChallengeMemorable Quotes:

Former pediatric occupational therapist Lisa Chan learned a great deal from her years working with children in schools, homes and in her office. During that time, she saw a gap in the services available. While she would offer important help to children, it was more likely the teachers and parents who were the “first responders”, and they did not always know how to respond to these children's unique needs. Lisa solved that by turning her attention to education and skills training for the adults that nurture and support these children. You can follow Lisa Chan on all her social media platforms @lisaparentcoachHer website for her courses and coaching is www.TheLisaChan**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As humans, we have an immense capacity for love and wisdom, with the power to be a source of light in the world. However, often due to trauma and other challenging experiences, we may develop patterns and create stories that might not be fully true, but end up holding us back from accessing our inner light. Exploring a concept known as the human energy consciousness field may offer insights that can help us transfigure these patterns and achieve mental, emotional, and physical healing. As an expert on the human energy field and the healing sciences, Donna Evans Strauss currently serves on the Board and is the Dean of Year Two Studies at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing in Florida and Japan. Donna also created the Brennan Integration Practitioner Program, which is a master's degree, two-year supervisory program specializing in psycho-energetic healing methods. Her other certifications include Pathwork Helper, Past Life Therapy, Psychodrama training, and Family Systems training. Donna is the author of “Blessings from a Thousand Generations: What Our Biblical Ancestors Can Teach Us About Healing Our Families Today” and “Explore the Mysteries of The Cosmos ESP and the Human Biofield.” In Episode 232 of The Mindset Game® podcast, Donna shares the following: An overview of the human energy consciousness field and the four dimensions of humankind: the physical, the aura, the hara, and the core star The importance of trust – one of the 7 divine qualities – as well as a meditative exercise designed to foster trust in yourself and others Why finding balance amidst the polarities within yourself is crucial for healing To learn more about Donna and access her books and other resources, visit https://donnaevansstrauss.com.  To learn more about The Mindset Game® podcast, visit www.TheMindsetGame.com. To subscribe to The Mindset Game® podcast or leave a review, please visit https://apple.co/3oAnR8I. 

Have you ever worried about whether your parenting methods are building real emotional connection—or unintentionally causing harm?We received a thoughtful question from a listener who shared a heartbreaking personal story: while her mom intended to foster attachment, her methods—like forced "holding time"—ended up destroying trust and psychological safety instead.In this episode, we dive deep into what we do and do not mean when we talk about attachment, emotional safety, and parenting strategies.Attachment parenting is about honoring a child's free will—not demanding submission. True psychological safety is built through respect, patience, and emotional connection—not control or coercion.We'll clarify why even good parenting philosophies can be twisted if they aren't grounded in emotional intelligence and healthy boundaries.And we'll share practical ways you can foster true psychological safety in your home while supporting your child's natural emotional development.If you want to raise resilient, emotionally healthy kids who trust you deeply, don't miss this important episode.Become a Founding Member of our Extraordinary Parent Mentoring MethodKey Takeaways:Psychological safety is about trust, not forced compliance.Attachment parenting must honor a child's autonomy and free will.Even good parenting methods can be distorted by emotional wounds.Emotional resilience grows when children feel seen, heard, and safe.Creating emotional safety at home starts with self-awareness as a parent.Chapters:Chapters00:00 Introduction to Attachment Parenting01:32 Clarifying Misunderstandings in Parenting04:23 The Importance of Parenting Skills07:46 Defining Success in Parenting10:41 Understanding Attachment Parenting13:25 The Dangers of Misapplied Parenting Techniques16:38 The Impact of Adoption on Attachment19:21 The Consequences of Control in Parenting22:41 The Role of Freedom in Child Development25:39 The Misconception of Holding Time29:11 The Impact of Sleep Training on Children32:46 Respecting Free Will in Parenting35:54 The Concept of Holding Time40:41 Understanding Boundaries and Safety45:08 Preparing Children for Adulthood49:35 The Lifelong Mentor-Mentee Relationship54:55 Building a Legacy of Good ParentingRESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.Become a Founding Member of our Extraordinary Parent Mentoring MethodRachel's ⁠⁠Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read Moms⁠⁠Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram: ⁠@worldschoolfamily⁠ or ⁠@greg.denning⁠Get Rachel's ⁠⁠Family Systems & Charts⁠⁠Join the ⁠⁠28-Day Challenge⁠⁠ for MomsJoin the Family Life Coaching Workshop Series for busy momsJoin Greg's 7-Day Challenge JOIN GREG'S 90-DAY HEALTH & FITNESS CHALLENGE! Join the Formidable Family Man Masterclass and TribeGather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in PortugalRead our reviews here: https://podcast.extraordinaryfamilylife.com/reviews/

Ross Rosenberg and Jerry Weiss discuss codependency and its effects on identity and family dynamics. Jerry, a recovering codependent, shares how codependency impacted his self-esteem and happiness. They introduce Murray Bowen's family systems theory, highlighting how interconnected family behaviors influence individual identities and can perpetuate issues like codependency and narcissism across generations, illustrated by the concept of "family system Wi-Fi."The hosts also explore self-differentiation, the process of separating one's identity from family influences, which is often resisted in dysfunctional families. They use analogies like a thermostat and escape velocity to describe the challenges of breaking free from unhealthy dynamics. The episode touches on the cycle of hope experienced by codependents in relationships with narcissists, who often neglect their own needs for validation.As the conversation unfolds, they stress the importance of self-focus and the potential loss of relationships during the journey of self-love and recovery. Jerry provides resources for support, including coaching and free training on his website. The episode concludes by encouraging listeners to reflect on their experiences and the systemic nature of their relational patterns, promoting healing and self-discovery.ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com. Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure) Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri) Twitter (@RossRosenberg1) and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)Support the showABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com. Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure) Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri) Twitter (@RossRosenberg1) and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)

In this video, I interview fellow YouTuber and Family Systems expert Jerry Wise. He has a deep background in counseling and marriage and family therapy. Now he's on YouTube teaching people how they can separate themselves from the "WiFi" of their families -- this is the pull, the ethos and the nervous system chatter of their family of origin. He teaches about the "family super self," and the "umbilical cord" that connects it to each member of a dysfunctional family. Learn from Jerry how you can separate and differentiate yourself, and become more fully yourself. Eleven Strategies to Feel Happier Today: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3Z5ynbf

Are you struggling with constant meltdowns, defiance, rebellion, or other 'bad' behavior from your child—whether they're 3 or 23?Do you feel disconnected from them and like they won't listen, share, confide, or trust you?Here's the truth: “bad” behavior is almost never the real issue. It's a signal—a symptom of something deeper going on beneath the surface… usually a broken or weakened emotional connection with you, their parent.In this episode, we dive into the root cause of most behavioral challenges—and it's not what most parents think. Whether you're dealing with a sassy teen, a withdrawn preteen or tween, or a tantrum-prone toddler, the answer isn't more discipline. It's more connection.We unpack what emotional disconnection looks like in everyday parenting—and how to rebuild the bond in ways that transform your child's behavior from the inside out. You'll learn practical ways to:Rebuild emotional safety, even after years of strainAvoid the common parenting habits that sabotage connectionCreate small, intentional moments that build trust and attachmentRecognize when your child is asking for love — through misbehavior —without creating bad habitsThe tools we share can help you reconnect with your child at any age and create a family culture where trust, closeness, and cooperation naturally flourish.

Are you overwhelmed by your child's clinginess, emotional meltdowns, tantrums, or constant need for attention?Do you want to be a calm, connected parent—but feel touched out, maxed out, and unsure how to respond without creating 'bad habits' in your children?In this episode, we respond to a heartfelt question from a listener who asked: “How do I support my children when they're being emotionally needy—but I'm running on empty myself? My husband says I'm forming bad habits in my kids and wearing myself out.”She's a devoted mom trying to show up with love—but when her child is falling apart, crying, throwing tantrums, or needing constant reassurance, she feels like she's emotionally drowning. Her natural response is to set more boundaries for her children to protect herself from burnout -- but is the best approach when YOU are the person who's the adult?If you've ever felt stuck between your own limits and your child's emotional needs, this conversation is for you.We explore how attachment parenting principles can help you stay emotionally grounded while building secure bonds—especially during challenging moments and phases. You'll learn how your child's clingy or intense behavior is actually a normal response to unmet emotional needs, and how to use those moments to deepen trust and connection instead of breaking your parent/child bond.We share practical ways to support your child's emotional growth without sacrificing your own well-being. From real-life parenting tools to nervous system regulation strategies, this episode will help you build a peaceful, connected home—even when parenting feels messy.Whether you're raising toddlers, preschoolers, or school-aged kids, these attachment parenting insights will empower you to create a strong foundation of safety, love, better behavior, and mental and emotional health now and into adulthood.✅ Your child's desire for closeness is a sign of healthy attachment—not weakness or 'bad habits'.✅ Emotional meltdowns and tantrums are signs of unmet attachment needs, not power struggles.✅ When you regulate yourself, you help your child develop emotionally through co-regulation. Children can't self-regulate.✅ Attachment parenting leads to long-term confidence, independence, and resilience.✅ You can meet your child's needs and protect your peace.Chapters00:00 The Key to Great Parenting10:02 The Importance of Truth in Parenting10:25 Navigating Parenting Challenges18:08 Understanding Attachment and Its Impact24:17 Building Strong Attachments for Better Outcomes31:20 Increasing Capacity as Parents36:45 The Complexity of Parenting39:31 Understanding Children's Emotional Needs42:48 The Importance of Self-Care for Parents45:39 Nutrition's Role in Parenting Effectiveness49:48 Prioritizing Childhood Development54:35 The Balance of Family Commitments59:15 Building Lasting Relationships with Children01:02:07 Strategies for Rebuilding Attachment01:06:48 Managing Parental Stress and Emotions

Are you feeling overwhelmed by the idea of providing an exceptional education for your children? Do you want to foster a love of learning while preparing them for a future filled with curiosity and independence?In this second part of a two-part episode, we address a question from a listener—a successful businesswoman and mom of four—who is struggling to balance her career, homeschooling aspirations, and being the most present mom she can be. She's driven and accomplished, but overwhelmed, seeking a way to provide her children with an extraordinary education while maintaining her own well-being and their social development.In this episode, we dive deep into the key principles that must be a part of your educational approach if you want your kids to experience a truly extraordinary education. We discuss the power of self-directed learning and how it can unlock your children's potential to take charge of their own educational journey.Education is not just about textbooks and tests—it's about developing a mindset that allows children to thrive, learn how to think for themselves, and pursue knowledge passionately. In this conversation, we share the practical strategies that we have implemented in our own family to cultivate a love for learning, from embracing meaningful conversations to giving children the tools to explore their interests and goals.We also explore the importance of creating an environment where children feel free to explore their passions without the pressure of traditional schooling systems. If you want to raise kids who are motivated, self-disciplined, and truly excited to learn, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:✅ Self-directed learning empowers kids to take ownership of their education.✅ A flexible, interest-driven approach promotes intrinsic motivation and curiosity.✅ Early emotional development plays a crucial role in academic success. ✅ Creating an environment for deep, meaningful conversations builds confidence. ✅ The key to a balanced education is cultivating a love for learning, not just mastery of facts. ✅ Intentional family dynamics and lifestyle habits impact children's long-term success.If you haven't watched part of of this two-part episode, watch it here:  ⁠https://yt.openinapp.co/EFL306⁠ Chapters00:00 Welcome to Extraordinary Family Life02:53 Embracing Challenges in Family Life05:28 The Ready, Fire, Aim Approach08:27 The Importance of Intentional Living11:04 Exploring Homeschooling Options13:51 The Role of Parents in Education16:38 Extraordinary Education Through World Schooling19:38 The Limitations of Public Schooling22:28 The Need for Self-Directed Learning25:21 Experiential Learning and Travel27:59 The Impact of Environment on Learning31:00 Navigating Social Experiences for Kids33:46 Conclusion About 'Real' Socialization39:54 The Transformative Power of Modern Education45:17 Leveraging Online Resources for Homeschooling48:18 Balancing Personal Time and Homeschooling52:32 Quality Time vs. Quantity Time in Education57:12 Redefining Social Skills Beyond School01:01:55 Overcoming Personal Limitations as a Parent01:06:50 Embracing the Journey through Deschooling01:13:10 The Importance of Following Interests in LearningRESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.Rachel's ⁠⁠Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read Moms⁠⁠Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram: ⁠@worldschoolfamily⁠ or ⁠@greg.denning⁠Get Rachel's ⁠⁠Family Systems & Charts⁠⁠Join the ⁠⁠28-Day Challenge⁠⁠ for MomsJoin the Family Life Coaching Workshop Series for busy momsJoin Greg's 7-Day Challenge JOIN GREG'S 90-DAY HEALTH & FITNESS CHALLENGE! Join the Formidable Family Man Masterclass and TribeGather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in PortugalRead our reviews here: https://podcast.extraordinaryfamilylife.com/reviews/ 

Are you struggling to balance your business/career while being a present mom at the same time? (We had multiple technical issues with this episode. Please forgive the sudden ending).Achieving work-life balance as a mompreneur can feel impossible, but the small decisions you make every day can either help you manage overwhelm or contribute to burnout.In this episode, we dive deep into how to create a work-life balance without sacrificing your well-being, ambitions, or the time you spend with your children. We discuss the challenges of being both a businesswoman and a present mom and explore how to find a delicate balance between family life and career goals.A listener co-owns a real estate brokerage with her husband, feels conflicted about slowing down to be a better mom. She feels the pressure to create something extraordinary in both her career and personal life, wanting to provide her kids with a quality education, social experiences, and a well-rounded upbringing. She worries about burnout, being pulled in multiple directions, and her current efforts to control outcomes are pushing her kids away.We share strategies for navigating these pressures, setting boundaries, and prioritizing your values. We emphasize that balance doesn't mean perfection—it means creating systems that allow you to manage both your career and family life with ease. From setting clear goals to modeling healthy boundaries and promoting self-directed learning, we offer practical advice to help you stay grounded, avoid guilt, and thrive as both a mom and an entrepreneur.If you're ready to stop burnout and create more harmony between your career, homeschooling, and family life, tune in for actionable tips that will help you succeed in both your business and motherhood journey.✅ It's possible to balance your business and family life without feeling overwhelmed.✅ Set healthy boundaries and 'chunk time' to avoid burnout and create space for 'being present'.✅ Holding high standards can be done without pushing your kids away.✅ Prioritize a vision for your family to stay focused on what truly matters.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Extraordinary Family Life01:13 Listener Question03:34 The Desire for Homeschooling04:56 Vision and Clarity in Parenting09:38 Facing Obstacles in Family Life12:52 Quality vs. Quantity in Parenting16:25 Setting Boundaries as a Parent20:27 Strategic Time Management for Family Engagement21:44 Navigating Chaos with Calmness24:04 The Dangers of Control in Parenting27:26 The Irony of Control and Surrender30:13 Self-Awareness as a Catalyst for Change33:05 Learning Parenting as a Skill34:31 Balancing Control and Freedom36:54 Establishing Boundaries with Flexibility40:33 Teaching Independence through RoutinesMemorable Quotes:

If you’ve ever felt torn between the demands of home and the dreams in your heart, this week’s episode of The Love Offering Podcast is just for you. I’m so excited to share my conversation with Rebekah Scott—a dynamic entrepreneur, designer, wife, mom, and fellow podcaster. In this encouraging episode, Rebekah invites us to consider work-life harmony over balance and reminds us that we don’t have to choose between our calling and our caregiving. We talked about: ✨ The five systems that bring rhythm to her life: me, family, home, food, and work ✨ How meal planning can reduce mental load and daily stress✨ Why "me time" and spiritual routines are non-negotiables✨ Practical tips to prevent burnout and manage family dynamics✨ How tools like ChatGPT (yes, we talk about it!) can simplify your day✨ And the importance of asking for help and leaning on community support Rebekah's story started at a sewing machine, inspired by her mother—and grew into a thriving business and platform to encourage other women. Her wisdom and warmth will inspire you to take small, meaningful steps toward the life God is calling you to live. Let’s stop striving for perfection and start embracing grace. You can thrive at home and in the world—Rebekah’s story proves it. Cheering you on,Rachael P.S. Rebekah’s podcast, The Encourager, is a wonderful resource for more wisdom like this! Be sure to check it out after listening.Support the Show: https://rachaelkadams.com/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Send us a textIn this episode of the L3 Leadership Podcast, host Doug Smith is interviewed by Dave D'Angelo on Northway Christian Community's Project 167 Podcast. They discuss various topics, including Doug's impactful work at Light of Life Rescue Mission, strategies for addressing homelessness, and practical insights on financial management within families. Doug shares his journey in leadership, the significance of regular family meetings, and the role of generosity in his life. This episode delves into the complexities of homelessness, mental health, and the opioid crisis, while also offering personal reflections on family dynamics, financial stewardship, and the importance of heart-led generosity.00:00 Welcome to the L3 Leadership Podcast01:23 Introducing Dave D'Angelo and the Project 167 Podcast02:11 Doug Smith's Role at Light of Life Rescue Mission04:07 Understanding Homelessness: Myths and Realities09:32 Generosity and Financial Wisdom13:20 Family Systems and Financial Peace23:27 Understanding Laura's Love for Details24:03 Family Team Meetings: A Weekly Routine24:29 Financial Stewardship in Marriage25:35 The Importance of IDS in Problem Solving26:37 Three to One: Strengthening Marital Bonds33:52 The Concept of Oneness in Marriage34:57 Generosity in Marriage: Learning from Brooke39:32 Encouraging Generosity: Lessons from Rick Warren44:18 Final Thoughts and ReflectionsThe Project 167 Podcast–where we share ways to bring God's word and biblical principles beyond the one hour we spend in church on Sundays, and into the remaining 167 hours of our week. Thank you to Pastor Dave D'Angelo for having Doug on for this episode. You can find the Project 167 Podcast:On YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLaY3oLiM0lSDTkTg_OQYVdW_oD2E7a114On Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/31b93LnkgFZJryQyHOLZ8w?si=5a18d33cfa5e4503On Apple Podcasts - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/project-167/id1799755945The L3 Leadership Podcast:▶️ WATCH FULL EPISODE: https://youtu.be/7axBStDM6Ig