Podcasts about family systems

Are you trying to set teen boundaries without your child calling you “controlling” or “the worst parent ever”?If you want your teen to live by high standards—around tech, food, friends, habits, and lifestyle—you can't just make it your standard and enforce it. It has to become their standard. In this episode of the Extraordinary Family Life Podcast, Greg and Rachel break down exactly how they helped their own teens buy in so deeply that they now say things like, “I'm not putting that garbage in my body,” or “I don't waste my life on that.”Instead of rules and power struggles, they show you how to prioritize relationship over rules, lean on unconditional love, and teach the laws that govern health, happiness, success, and addiction—so your kids see for themselves where certain choices lead. When teens understand the why behind your standards, they stop feeling controlled and start choosing those standards for themselves.You'll also hear how the Dennings have intentionally made real life more compelling than video games or junk food—often inviting friends along for the ride—so the “different” lifestyle isn't a punishment, it's an upgrade.If you've ever wondered, “How do I hold the line without wrecking the relationship?” this conversation will give you a new framework: less control, more conviction—and a family standard that everyone owns.

IFS therapist Jane Frumberg joins us on this episode to unravel the profound world of Internal Family Systems Therapy. Jane, who leads Light Within Therapy, distinguishes between family systems therapy and reunification therapy, emphasizing the unique approach of IFS in helping individuals connect with their inner parts, particularly those influenced by trauma. Unlike traditional family systems therapy, which analyzes family roles and dynamics, and reunification therapy, which rebuilds relationships between estranged parents and children, IFS offers a deeply personal exploration. We also tackle the complicated terrain of domestic violence cases, where participating together in therapy may not be advisable.We navigate the challenging waters of high-conflict parenting, focusing on how child therapists play a crucial role in supporting children embroiled in parental disputes. When one parent isn't willing to participate, Jane stresses the power of a steadfast and consistent presence from the engaged parent, offering hope even when a child has been turned against them. Our conversation with Jane is filled with valuable insights and a shared eagerness for future collaborations. We close with gratitude for her expertise, encouraging listeners to remain hopeful and resilient in the face of familial challenges.

Ever feel like the more you try to connect with your spouse, the more they pull away? Or maybe you're the one who needs space while your partner wants to talk everything through? This is the pursuer-distancer dance, and it's one of the most common patterns in marriage. In this episode, we'll explore how your Enneagram type influences which role you naturally fall into. Heart types (2, 3, 4) often become pursuers, seeking connection and reassurance. Head types (5, 6, 7) frequently take the distancer role, needing space to process. Body types (8, 9, 1) can go either way depending on their specific type and stress level. But here's the key: when you understand YOUR type's fear and your PARTNER's type's fear, you can break this exhausting cycle. We'll give you one simple practice to try this week that interrupts the pattern—and it starts with doing the opposite of what feels natural. Whether you're a Type 2 who pursues when anxious or a Type 5 who distances when overwhelmed, you'll learn how to create connection without the chase. Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave Christa a podcast question anonymously by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do your evenings disappear into chaos—feeding, cleaning, and collapsing into bed exhausted? Are you wondering how to stay calm and connected while parenting toddlers who seem to need you every second?In this episode, Greg & Rachel reveal the mindset and framework behind calm parenting toddlers—how to meet your child's needs without losing yourself, gently transition from co-sleeping, and end night wakings without cry-it-out. You'll learn why the 0–5 window shapes your child's identity, confidence, and future emotional health—and how your calm presence now builds secure attachment and independence later.They also share why dads don't babysit—they lead, and how fathers can bring energy, joy, and true relief to moms in the toddler trenches. You'll leave with practical, doable shifts that make family life lighter, calmer, and far more fulfilling.

Do your kids “catch” your stress—and you hate how quickly the mood at home drops?What if the fastest way to raise happy kids is to model authentic joy (not fake calm)—even while cleaning a messy kitchen?In this video, we unpack how parents set the emotional tone at home—and why your child has been watching you from birth to learn how to do life. You'll learn how to raise your emotional baseline on purpose (water, breath, sunlight, movement), process triggers so you're not pretending, and lead with real peace your kids can imitate. You can't fake it—kids feel the truth—so let's build the real thing.What you'll learn:Modeling vs. masking: why kids imitate your state (and can't be fooled)Story → state: how the meaning you give messes determines your moodMorning biochemistry reset: water, breath, sunlight, movement = instant upliftFrom nagging to leading: make chores joyful by choice, not drudgeryTriggers, then tools: journaling, breathwork, micro-meditations, and the “jukebox” swap (remove the old CD for good)Key Takeaways✅ Parents create the climate—kids grow the weather✅ Authentic calm beats performative patience (they can tell)✅ Biochemistry is leverage: hydrate, breathe, move, sunlight✅ Choose joy while you work—easier to recruit help✅ Process & replace triggers so old songs stop playingMemorable Quotes

Are your toddler's meltdowns leaving you “touched out” and wondering how to stay calm? What if the fastest way to end tantrums is more connection—not more limits?In this video, we break down attachment parenting for toddlers—the practical, science-aligned way to reduce tantrums, boost cooperation, and rebuild calm (in you and your child). You'll learn why kids imitate your emotions but can't yet regulate them, how to be the adult in the room, and the exact strategies we used to go 16+ years without tantrums in our home.We'll show you how to increase your capacity (food, sleep, recovery) so you're not running on empty, plus simple co-regulation tools like cuddle-pauses, couch resets, and family calm breaks. Attachment isn't coddling—it's how kids become secure and independent. When their emotional bucket is full, clinginess drops and behavior improves. Parenting isn't convenient—but it can be effective.Key Takeaways✅ Attachment first makes every other parenting strategy work better✅ Capacity over boundaries: build yourself up so you can show up✅ Food & sleep are fuel for patience, presence, and self-control✅ Fill the bucket daily: secure kids act better and rebel less✅ Pause > push through: a 2-minute cuddle beats a 20-minute battleMemorable Quotes

Breaking Free from Shame, Codependency, and Toxic Family Systems Growing up in a toxic family system wires you to live in shame and codependency—and often leads you to attract narcissists or relationships that repeat the cycle. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano explains how childhood trauma programs your brain and nervous system for survival, and how you can begin breaking free from people-pleasing, guilt, and self-abandonment. If you're ready to reclaim your self-worth and step out of survival mode, this is your wake-up call. ✨ This episode is a must-listen if you: Grew up with alcoholism, narcissism, or neglect in your family system Feel stuck in codependent patterns and toxic relationships Struggle with guilt, shame, or saying "no" Long to reclaim your self-worth and live authentically

Are you using “attachment parenting” — or accidentally doing permissive parenting?In this eye-opening conversation, Greg & Rachel Denning break down what true attachment parenting is (and isn't). They share the skills, mindsets, and tools that helped them eliminate tantrums for 16 years and prevent teen rebellion—without yelling, shaming, or rigid control.You'll learn why parenting is a specific, learnable skill, how to build secure attachment from baby to teen, and where popular advice (cry-it-out, forced “holding time,” over-scheduling, letting kids lead everything) quietly damages trust. You'll also get a clear blueprint for connection with boundaries so kids feel safe, seen, and guided—and you feel calm, confident, and effective.Bottom line: Attachment is earned, not forced. Respect your child's free will, meet real needs (sleep, food, attention), co-regulate big emotions, and set firm, sensible boundaries. That's the evergreen approach that works in every generation.Key Takeaways✅ Parenting is a skill—unrelated to how good you are at business, sports, or leadership.✅ Attachment ≠ permissive. It's connection + boundaries and kind + firm.✅ Attachment is earned, not forced. No cry-it-out or “holding until defeat.”✅ Respect free will while providing age-appropriate structure and safety.✅ Co-regulation first (your calm is contagious), then teach self-regulation.✅ Meet basics (sleep, nutrition, attention) before behavior battles.✅ Measure success by long-term trust and adult outcomes—not short-term compliance.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Attachment Parenting00:43 Clarifying Misunderstandings in Parenting02:04 The Importance of Parenting Skills03:09 Defining Success in Parenting04:39 Understanding Attachment Parenting05:23 The Dangers of Misapplied Parenting Techniques06:56 The Impact of Adoption on Attachment08:25 The Consequences of Control in Parenting11:28 The Role of Freedom in Child Development13:48 The Misconception of Holding Time16:10 The Impact of Sleep Training on Children17:59 Respecting Free Will in Parenting20:39 The Concept of Holding Time24:22 Understanding Boundaries and Safety28:24 Preparing Children for Adulthood31:24 The Lifelong Mentor-Mentee Relationship33:01 Building a Legacy of Good ParentingMemorable Quotes

Do you ever feel like you're doing “all the right things” but not seeing real results?In this episode, Greg & Rachel Denning challenge the sacred cows of school, pharma, and religion—not to burn it all down, but to help you keep what serves your family and release what doesn't. You'll learn how to shift from transactional box-checking to transformational growth, so your kids develop inner authority, critical thinking, and personal responsibility.Big idea: You can honor helpful traditions and raise kids who can question wisely, choose higher standards, and own their outcomes—in education, health, spirituality, and life.What we cover:• Why outsourcing your child's education, spirituality, or health stalls growth• How to “keep the good” in institutions while ditching deadweight rules• The path from conformity to character—raising autodidacts who learn for life• Practical habits that create palpable progress in mind, body, spirit, and family cultureKey Takeaways✅ Transactional → Transformational: Results > routines.✅ Inner Authority: Teach kids to think, not just comply.✅ Keep & Elevate: Honor useful rules; raise the standard at home.✅ Autodidact Mindset: Light the fire, don't fill the bucket.✅ Measure Progress: If outcomes don't improve, change the method.Chapters00:00 Challenging Sacred Cows02:32 The Importance of Questioning Traditions04:58 Individual Authority and Personal Growth07:22 Outsourcing Education and Spirituality10:29 Transformational vs. Transactional Experiences13:05 The Role of Institutions in Personal Development15:25 The Quest for Holistic Progress18:27 Facing Fears and Embracing Truth21:28 The Labyrinth of Personal Growth28:40 Facing Fears and Doubts29:32 The Nature of True Education30:51 The Challenge of Conformity32:22 Resisting Authority Thoughtfully33:41 The Importance of Imagination35:03 Faith at the Edge of the Abyss36:18 Questioning Conventional Wisdom38:01 Learning from Others' Experiences40:41 Walking the Labyrinth of Faith41:48 Understanding Meta Truths44:10 The Concept of the Fringe46:44 Navigating the Lower and Upper Fringe49:03 Living Beyond Conformity50:31 Transformational Living Beyond the BasicsMemorable Quotes

Are you a driven mom who wants to be present—but you're drowning in overwhelm and “control mode”?This conversation shows you how to get crystal-clear on your family vision, build secure attachment/connection, and set firm, kind boundaries so kids become self-directed—without you turning into the “mean, controlling parent.”In this candid episode, Greg and Rachel break down the yin–yang of parenting—high standards + healthy surrender—so you can lead your family without micromanaging. You'll learn time-chunking, strategic disengagement, and simple charts & systems (starting with the morning routine) that create calm, predictable days. We also unpack why quality and quantity time (especially in key developmental years) is the foundation of trust, attachment, and influence.If you've ever thought, “I've tried everything,” this is your roadmap to clarity, consistency, and connection—without burnout.Key Takeaways✅ Vision first: You can't hit a target you don't have—define your family vision and align daily “micro-visions.”✅ Attachment over control: Connection creates cooperation; control breeds rebellion or resentment.✅ Quality and quantity time: Presence (especially ages 0–6, and up to 25) builds trust and influence.✅ Boundaries you honor: Time-chunking + strategic disengagement protect work and family time.✅ Systems over stress: Start with a morning routine chart; train, then let kids choose how within clear boundaries.✅ Lead without micromanaging: Be playful + firm on non-negotiables; give freedom on details.✅ The obstacle is the way: Overwhelm signals where to build skills and systems next.Memorable Quotes

Are you tired of hearing about “gentle parenting” — but still want to raise kind, confident, and emotionally intelligent kids?In this powerful episode, Greg and Rachel Denning unpack The Truth About Gentle Parenting — what works, what backfires, and what extraordinary parents are using instead.They reveal how gentle parenting often gets misapplied as permissive parenting, leaving parents exhausted, burned out, and unsure how to hold boundaries without becoming authoritarian. The Dennings share a better, more effective approach — one that blends empathy and structure, kindness and firmness, compassion and clarity.They explain how to develop your parenting intuition, create emotional safety without losing authority, and respond to misbehavior without yelling, punishing, or shaming. You'll learn how to raise respectful, resilient kids while staying calm, confident, and connected — even in the toughest parenting moments.Key Takeaways✅ True “gentle” parenting means connection with boundaries, not permissiveness.✅ Kids feel safest when parents are both kind and firm.✅ Respect doesn't mean letting your child lead — it means guiding with love and clarity.✅ Emotional awareness + structure = long-term cooperation and trust.✅ You can't pour from an empty cup — process your own triggers to parent authentically.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Extraordinary Parenting12:20 The Nuances of Gentle Parenting30:41 Pros and Cons of Gentle Parenting41:02 Navigating Disappointment in Parenting47:01 The Importance of Setting Expectations50:10 Balancing Empathy and Boundaries56:13 Authenticity in Parenting01:04:20 The Shift Towards Hybrid Parenting01:17:55 The Path to Effective ParentingMemorable Quotes

What if the real game-changer in travel baseball isn't your player's swing-but your decisions as a parent? In this solo episode, Matt breaks down what he refers to as The Precision Process, a behavioral-psychology-based framework designed to help travel baseball families make better, calmer, and more confident choices in a chaotic environment. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the nonstop pressure of tournaments, recruiting, and exposure events, this episode will show you how to filter the noise, think clearly, and align every decision with your family's long-term goals. You'll learn how to stop reacting emotionally to “urgent” choices and instead make strategic, values-driven the same kind elite CEOs and investors use, but adapted for the world of youth sports. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN: The Precision Process: a 6-step system to make high-quality decisions under pressure How to identify if you're in a stable, complicated, or chaotic environment—and why that matters The truth about emotional vs. logical decision-making in travel baseball How to create your family's North Star statement to filter opportunities The 3 biggest cognitive biases that sabotage baseball parents—and how to overcome them Why clarity, not control, is the key to thriving in travel baseball How to build a decision database that helps you avoid repeating costly mistakes Matt breaks down real-world examples from families navigating tournaments, showcases, and college recruiting. You'll discover how to use tools like the 3x3 Clarity Grid to bring calm, structure, and precision to every choice-and how to measure progress through regular debrief loops that keep your family aligned and less stressed. If you've ever caught yourself making reactive, fear-based decisions (FOMO, comparison, sunk cost), this episode will hit home. By the end, you'll walk away with a repeatable decision-making framework to replace chaos with confidence. CALL TO ACTION: If this episode brought you clarity, share it with another baseball parent feeling overwhelmed by the chaos. Subscribe for weekly episodes on mindset, leadership, and decision-making in travel baseball. Comment your biggest decision-making challenge below. LINKS & RESOURCES: https://www.youtube.com/@mostvaluableagent  — Follow the MVA Podcast #TravelBaseball #BaseballParents #YouthSportsMindset #DecisionMaking #BaseballDevelopment #ParentLeadership #BaseballPodcast #MVA  

In this episode of The Anxiety Chicks, Alison and Taylor unpack what it really means to be the “strong one” while secretly struggling with anxiety. They explore how childhood roles, family expectations, and perfectionism contribute to high-functioning anxiety and the emotional toll of constantly keeping it together. The Chicks share honest reflections and practical tools for releasing the pressure to be perfect, regulating emotions, and redefining what true strength looks like. Timestamps 02:08 Understanding the 'Strong One' Phenomenon 04:56 Family Systems and High Functioning Anxiety 14:04 The Connection Between Perfectionism and Anxiety 21:27 The Cost of Keeping It Together 25:43 Healing and Self-Discovery The Single Sisters Circle (40+) A supportive private membership community within The Anxiety Healer's Hub for single women 40+ who crave authentic connection and conversation through LIVE Chats, Online events, Interactive coaching calls, and Sisterhood support. Inside The Hub, you'll find emotional support, friendship, and tools for anxiety healing in midlife — all in a safe, stigma-free community. JOIN THE WAITLIST HERE Don't forget to rate and review The Chicks!

Do you want your kids to love learning—and become independent, capable adults who can handle life?Most parents want extraordinary results but stick to ordinary systems. In this video, Greg & Rachel explain why comfortable, convenient methods don't produce extraordinary results and why true education is lighting a fire, not filling a bucket. You'll see how to expand beyond the home with worldschooling and real-world experiences, use modern tools for a world-class education, and reclaim both influence and joy in your family culture.Key Takeaways✅ Method determines outcome—change methods to change results.✅ Worldschooling turns lessons into experiences kids never forget.✅ Raise independent thinkers through self-directed learning.✅ Time with your kids = influence (quantity and quality).✅ Use AI/online platforms to access the best teachers on earth.✅ Save “academic rigor” for the right season—after love of learning ignites.Chapters00:00 Welcome to Extraordinary Family Life01:06 The Importance of Intentional Living02:32 Extraordinary Education Through World Schooling05:02 The Limitations of Public Schooling06:41 The Need for Self-Directed Learning08:04 Experiential Learning and Travel09:42 The Impact of Environment on Learning11:30 Navigating Social Experiences for Kids11:52 Conclusion and Final Thoughts15:41 The Transformative Power of Modern Education19:47 Leveraging Online Resources for Homeschooling22:12 Balancing Personal Time and Homeschooling25:16 Quality Time vs. Quantity Time in Education26:44 Redefining Social Skills Beyond School27:25 Overcoming Personal Limitations as a Parent28:06 Embracing the Journey of Homeschooling30:13 The Importance of Following Interests in LearningMemorable Quotes

Does “launching” your teen mean kicking them out at 18?If your child only becomes capable when you separate, something's broken. In this video, Greg & Rachel Denning expose why “move out at 18” is a modern psyop that weakens families and robs teens of real independence. You'll learn how to build capability before 18—so your young adult is confident, competent, and contributing while still benefiting from mentorship, connection, and family legacy.Key Takeaways✅ Failure to launch is a parenting-skill problem, not an age problem.✅ By mid-teens, kids should be capable, confident, and contributing at home.✅ Comfort & convenience sabotage growth—skills and systems build it.✅ Teach life skills early: cooking, cleaning, finances, self-management.✅ Mentor through 16–25: support big decisions, deepen character, build skills.✅ Generational families win: keep wisdom, wealth, and warmth under one roof.✅ If independence only follows separation, change the method—not the goal.Chapters00:00 Epic Adventures and Homecomings03:02 Rethinking the 18-Year-Old Move-Out Myth06:06 The Impact of Cultural Norms on Independence08:43 Parenting Skills and the Failure to Launch11:54 The Role of Education in Young Adulthood14:41 Cultural Perspectives on Family Dynamics17:44 The Dangers of Social Media Influence20:31 Reframing Independence and Parenting Strategies27:42 Empowering Children with Life Skills34:52 The Importance of Parenting Techniques44:43 Building a Family Legacy and Financial StabilityMemorable Quotes

Are you torn between protecting your kids' mental health and preparing them for real-world stress?Most parents feel this tension—and many swing too far toward pressure or protection. In this video, Greg & Rachel share a better path: don't inflict pressure—be the anchor while your kids face it. You'll learn how to build grit through trust, identity, and modeling, so challenge actually strengthens your bond instead of breaking it.What we cover:Identity over willpower: why saying “I'm not a smoker” beats “I'm trying to quit.”Anchor, don't apply pressure: your job is safety + modeling, not manufactured hardship.Results don't lie: how your life becomes the proof your kids can't ignore.Trust first, then stretch: push to the “next rock,” then keep your promise and carry them.Adjust your strategy: when you “get punched in the face,” learn, adapt, iterate.Do hard things yourself: kids spot hypocrisy—lead from the front.Make discomfort enjoyable: turn tough conversations, workouts, and cold plunges into shared wins.Big Idea: Grit grows in connection. When kids know you'll both challenge and carry them, they lean in, try again, and adopt a new identity that sustains lifelong habits.Key Takeaways✅ Be the anchor, not the pressure. Safety + example > force.✅ Model hard things. If you don't, they won't.✅ Identity drives habits. Become the family who does the hard, good things.✅ Keep promises. Stretch to the “next rock,” then carry—that's how trust is built.✅ Iterate, don't implode. When it's not working, change your approach, not your ideals.Chapters00:00 New Beginnings and Reflections03:18 Goal Setting and Identity Transformation03:31 Preparing Kids for Life's Challenges05:02 The Balance of Comfort and Growth05:30 Building Resilience Through Experience08:44 Adapting to Life's Punches09:59 The Journey of Parenting and Education12:19 Embracing Failure in Business and Parenting13:59 The Importance of Adaptability and Learning17:21 Influence Through Results and Personal Example19:32 Living an Extraordinary Life as a Family22:34 Teaching Resilience Through Real-Life Challenges24:58 Iterative Learning and Effective Communication28:39 The Power of Persistence in ParentingMemorable Quotes

Are you afraid to give something up—even if you know it's holding your family back?What if the “sacrifice” you're resisting is the exact bridge to the life you actually want?In this powerful conversation, Greg and Rachel answer a listener's question inspired by James Allen: “He who would attain highly must sacrifice greatly.” They share the real sacrifices they made to build an extraordinary family life—from walking away from comfort and conformity to investing tens of thousands into personal growth, ditching entertainment for education, and choosing experiences and character over stuff. You'll learn how to overcome the fear of loss, handle others' opinions, and trade short-term ease for long-term joy, health, and purpose.Big idea: It's hard to call it a “sacrifice” when what you get back is better than what you gave up. Bottom line: The most important investment you'll ever make is in yourself—and then in your spouse and kids.Key Takeaways:✅ Comfort is costly—trade it for purpose, health, and momentum.✅ Invest in yourself first, then your spouse and kids.✅ Entertainment steals growth; education multiplies it.✅ Ditch “peacock pageantry”—results beat credentials.✅ Own your outcomes—no blame, no excuses.✅ Failure ≠ final—it's fertilizer for your future.Chapters00:00 Daily Sacrifices for a Better Life23:14 Intentional Living and Personal Responsibility28:39 The Rewards of Sacrifice31:27 EFL YouTube Outro Full Updated.mp4Memorable Quotes

Grab a copy of our BOOK here: http://winningtheweek.com/ Join Lifehack Tribe: https://members.lifehackmethod.com/join-lifehack-tribeSUBSCRIBE to our podcast on the platform of your choice! Spotify: http://spoti.fi/3pNtPVe Apple Podcasts: http://apple.co/3tiIpWW Or subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/LifehackBootcamp Time stamps:00:00 - Introduction00:39 - From Health Scare to Fresh Start. Bonnie, a coach and mom of two, shares how a major health scare pushed her to refocus on family, health, and sustainable systems at home.03:19 - Dreaming of Family Systems. Bonnie longs for routines her whole family can follow, eliminating the endless cycle of reminders and stress.05:50 - Start Small, Win Big. Demir and Carey show how even tiny fixes, like solving the water bottle problem, can kickstart momentum without overwhelm.09:45 - Health as the Ultimate Leverage. Preventive routines for sleep, exercise, and appointments become Bonnie's top priority, delivering peace of mind as well as long-term wellness.14:55 - Cracking the Screen-Time Struggle. Automatic shutoffs, parental controls, and phased limits turn nightly device battles into non-issues.22:50 - Parenting Without Nagging. From gamification to parent coalitions, Bonnie learns strategies to set boundaries without becoming the household “bad cop.”28:55 - Shared Accountability at Home. Shift responsibility to kids through visible checklists, streaks, and rewards.34:00 - The 30-Minute Fix Rule. Simple hacks like Apple Watch intercoms or socks by the shoes prove that under-30-minute experiments can create massive calm and leverage.38:15 - Batching Made Simple. From freezer-friendly food prep to biweekly honey-do sessions, batching transforms repeat chores into smooth, efficient rituals.44:55 - Clutter Control with One Mantra. “Don't put it down, put it away” becomes the anchor habit for keeping chaos at bay, supported by recurring reviews and minimalist thresholds.55:01 - Bonnie's Big Three. She commits to the 30-minute problem-solve, the Hearth nightly reset, and the clutter mantra as her first steps toward lasting structure.Check out our FREE masterclass all about How To Plan The Perfect Week In 30 Minutes Flat: https://bit.ly/3eEZ9AQ Check out our website: https://lifehackmethod.com/

Are your kids' fights setting off your emotions—and the whole house?Most parents try to “fix” kids' behavior to feel better. In this video, Greg & Rachel flip the script: change your emotional state first, and your family dynamics follow. You'll learn how to stop masking (“trying to stay calm”) and start being emotionally authentic—so you model regulation your kids can actually imitate.We unpack practical tools to raise your family's emotional thermostat—even on low-sleep, low-food days: breathing exercises, light movement, gratitude micro-meditations, future journaling, and morning routines that shift your biochemistry fast. You'll discover why sleep and nutrition are foundational, how to process triggers and “memorized emotions,” and how to radiate steadiness kids naturally copy.Big idea: Nothing gets better until you do. When you upgrade your inner state, parenting gets easier, marriage gets warmer, and home feels safe again. This is how you cultivate a family culture of peace, courage, and joy—without pretending or suppressing.Try this today (1-minute reset): Stand tall, inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 6 (x6 rounds). Add one gratitude sentence and smile on purpose. Notice the shift—then go connect.Key Takeaways✅ Nothing gets better until you do — when you raise your state, your family follows.✅ Kids imitate without regulation — they copy your energy, good or bad.✅ Trying to “stay calm” is masking — practice authentic emotional expression.✅ Sleep & food drive mood — protect your physiology to parent better.✅ Quick resets work — breathing, movement, posture, and gratitude change your state fast.✅ Every family has an emotional thermostat — set yours higher on purpose.✅ Mentor, don't micromanage — see misbehavior as a cry for help and coach skills.Memorable Quote:

Is ADHD really a brain disorder or a label created to sell drugs? Dr. Roger McFillin speaks with filmmaker Roman Wyden, founder of the ADHD Is Over movement- that includes a book, podcast and upcoming documentary.  Roman shares why he rejected the ADHD label for his son and what he uncovered about the system behind it: schools, pharma, and psychiatry pushing parents toward pills. Together they expose how 6 million children in America are prescribed stimulants like Adderall and Ritalin, the billion-dollar ADHD industry that profits from it, and why more parents are waking up and saying: ADHD is over.ADHD is OVER Website Visit Center for Integrated Behavioral HealthDr. Roger McFillin / Radically Genuine WebsiteYouTube @RadicallyGenuineDr. Roger McFillin (@DrMcFillin) / XSubstack | Radically Genuine | Dr. Roger McFillinInstagram @radicallygenuineContact Radically GenuineConscious Clinician CollectivePLEASE SUPPORT OUR PARTNERS15% Off Pure Spectrum CBD (Code: RadicallyGenuine)10% off Lovetuner click here

Do you feel good in your own home?Does your family culture feel like a safe, joyful refuge—or more like constant conflict and stress?Most parents spend 90% of their time fixing problems instead of preventing them. But what if the secret to a thriving home is in the things you never do?In this video, Greg and Rachel Denning—parents of 7 and family coaches—reveal the small but powerful “never-do's” that transformed their parenting and family culture. From eliminating sarcasm and insults, to saying no to video games, TV, and constant notifications, these intentional choices create a home environment where kids feel secure, confident, and deeply attached.They share why attachment—not punishment—prevents misbehavior, how harshness backfires, and why saying “no” to outside noise means saying “yes” to family connection.Raising kids is already hard enough. But by eliminating just a few destructive habits, you can dramatically reduce sibling rivalry, power struggles, and emotional distance in your home.

Are you settling for a “make it work” marriage when you could build an extraordinary one?Most couples drift into survival mode—roommates, not lovers—because they've never seen an amazing marriage modeled… and no one taught them the skills. In this episode, Greg & Rachel Denning share how to raise your marriage standard, resolve conflict fast (the “anatomy of an argument”), and build a shared vision that turns everyday life into marital bliss—without pretending problems don't exist.Big idea: If you're not deliberately working on your marriage, you're automatically working on your divorce.You'll learn how to stop the same old fights, praise small efforts to reinforce positive change, schedule what matters (yes, intimacy!), and use the compound effect to transform your relationship. Whether things are tough or “fine,” these tools help you move from okay → incredible so your kids grow up with healthy models of love.What you'll learnRaise the standard: Why “make it work” is too low a target—and how high expectations create more happiness.Anatomy of an argument: Resolve conflicts quickly (not fake fixes) and stop weaponizing old grievances.Shared vision: Practical steps to get on the same page even if personalities and goals differ.Reinforce progress: Praise small attempts (date night invites, thoughtful gestures) so they happen more often.Schedule what matters: How planning creates space for connection & intimacy—instead of constant friction.Compound effect: The habits you invest in today build your legacy tomorrow.Key Takeaways✅ If you aren't intentionally improving your marriage, you're unintentionally degrading it.✅ High standards produce higher joy and better outcomes.✅ Conflict ≠ contention—you can disagree respectfully and resolve fast.✅ Model love for your kids by prioritizing the relationship at home.✅ Small, consistent actions compound into an extraordinary marriage.Chapters00:00 The Importance of Marriage02:56 From Mediocre to Extraordinary05:53 Setting High Expectations for Marriage08:25 Conflict Resolution in Marriage11:51 Self-Sabotage in Relationships16:43 Creating Mental Space for Intimacy18:16 The Importance of Retreats for Couples18:49 Investing in Marriage: The Compounding Effect20:28 Breaking Generational Patterns in Relationships22:17 Creating a Shared Vision for the Future22:44 Raising the Standard in Marriage24:36 The Role of Coaching in Relationship Growth27:04 The Value of Investing in Your MarriageMemorable Quotes

Is the “nuclear family” actually traditional—or even healthy—for your kids and marriage?In this conversation, Greg & Rachel challenge a BIG cultural myth: the nuclear family (mom + dad + kids, all on their own) isn't historically normal—and it's often unhealthy and lonely in today's hyper-digital world. Instead, they unpack what families did for most of human history—intergenerational, community-based, “tribal” living—and how ordinary parents can start moving that direction without selling everything or going off-grid.You'll learn how to question handed-down narratives, re-design work, school, and home life, and flip the ratio so your family spends more time together than apart—building skills, wealth, and resilience as a team.Highlights you'll hear:Why isolation (9–5 + separate schools + separate lives) isn't “traditional”—it's recent.How multigenerational & community living builds real support, mental health, and generational wealth.Simple first steps: shared meals, home projects, family business ideas, skill-building, and flexible work.The future of family in the age of AI: double down on what only humans do—connection, empathy, creativity.A practical reframe: “What would have to be true for us to live, learn, and work together more?”If you're tired of doing family alone, this episode shows a realistic path toward tribe-style living—whether you're in a city apartment, suburban neighborhood, or a budding homestead. You don't need to move tomorrow; you just need to start asking better questions today.Key Takeaways✅ The nuclear family is modern, not “traditional.”✅ Community > isolation for happiness, mental health, and stability.✅ Shared work/learning = faster maturity, marketable skills, and generational wealth.✅ Design life on purpose: meals together, family projects, aligned work/school choices.✅ AI future = be more human: build in-person connection and a supportive tribe.Chapters00:00 Questioning Conventional Family Norms02:53 The Evolution of Family Structures05:48 The Importance of Community and Connection08:28 Exploring Unconventional Lifestyles11:23 Redefining Family Dynamics14:01 The Future of Family Life16:35 Creating a Supportive Family Environment19:48 Building Generational Wealth Together22:30 Embracing Change and New Possibilities25:12 Living Life on Your Own Terms28:18 The Role of Technology in Family Life31:06 Designing Your Ideal Family LifeMemorable Quotes

PURCHASE THIS PODCOURSE! If you are a therapist or counselor looking for continuing education, check out my NBCC Approved $5 Podcourses and other continuing education offerings.Plus, get your first Podcourse half off. In this Podcourse episode, I sit down with Dr. Timothy Davis, a psychologist who has spent his career working with what he calls “challenging boys.” He shares how his background, from academic research to volunteer firefighting, inspired a practical framework that helps parents manage meltdowns, build resilience, and strengthen their connection with their child. Together, we explore how therapists can support parents in creating effective Emergency Plans, identifying skill deficits in emotion regulation and executive functioning, and applying family systems principles to improve family dynamics. Our hope is that you'll walk away with fresh strategies you can integrate into your clinical work right away and you can also earn one NBCC continuing education contact hour by completing this Podcourse.

Are you exhausted from trying to do all the right things—but still feel like your family life isn't extraordinary?You're not alone. Many parents work tirelessly to manage schedules, teach principles, read parenting books, pray, practice gratitude, and still feel burnt out, disconnected, and frustrated.In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning unpack a heartfelt question from a listener who has been “doing it all” since 2020—yet still feels stuck. Together, they reveal why doing more isn't the solution and why misaligned priorities, half-hearted effort, and misplaced energy may be keeping you from the extraordinary life you crave.

Do you ever feel so overwhelmed by a big goal that you back away and settle for “safe”?Here's the truth: in order to succeed, you have to fail more. And you'll have problems either way—so why not live an awesome life? In this episode, Rachel & Greg break down the mindset and method they've used for 23+ years to make bold decisions, face fear, and move forward even when it's scary.You'll learn how to:Flip fear from a stop sign into a signal you're on the right pathUse the “exchange rate” test to decide if a dream is worth the priceShrink overwhelm with step-by-step moves (exposure in bite-sized reps)See how obstacles transform you into the person who can live your dreamAdopt the mantra: “I'll either find a way—or I'll make one.”Bottom line: your fears aren't facts. When you face them strategically, the “impossible” becomes doable—and your life expands.Key Takeaways✅ Overwhelm means growth is near, not that you should quit.✅ Problems are guaranteed; choose the ones that lead to an extraordinary life.✅ Exposure beats avoidance: tiny reps dissolve massive fears.✅ Decide by “exchange rate”: is the cost (work/problems) worth the outcome?✅ Identity shift: obstacles forge the person who can hold the life you want.Chapters00:00 Embracing the Sun: A Controversial Perspective01:09 The Catalyst for Extraordinary Living02:26 Overcoming Overwhelm: The Decision to Act04:17 Facing Challenges: The Path to Growth06:10 The Irony of Fear: Choosing a Boring Life08:39 Transforming Fear into Opportunity11:18 Breaking Through Barriers: The Edge of Comfort13:45 Processing Fear: A Journey of Growth15:29 The Power of Facing Fears20:41 The Importance of Awareness in Overcoming Fear24:05 Living Beyond Limits: The Flea AnalogyMemorable Quotes

Milana Vayntrub is BACK, folks... wait! Back??? That's right! We recorded an episode with Milana a few weeks ago that maybe got a bit TOO real for recorded media, especially for people with boundaries, but she's back and we still get into it! Now you know Milana from a ton of stuff including This Is Us, Silicon Valley and our personal favorites Werewolves Within and Outer Space, and on today's ep, we Milana plays therapist to us, but we then volley the therapeutic tennis ball back at her! We talk food issues, Family Systems, evil inner voices, having healthy self-esteem, being friends with her exes and SO MUCH MORE! PLUS, obvi, we answer YOUR advice questions! If you'd like to ask your own advice questions, call 323-524-7839 and leave a VM or just DM us on IG or Twitter!*Donate to displaced black families of the LA fires here* (Yes, still!)ALSO BUY A BRAND NEW CUTE AF "Open Your Hearts, Loosen Your Butts" mug! And:Support the show on Patreon (two extra exclusive episodes a month!) or gift someone a Patreon subscription! Or get yourself a t-shirt or a discounted Quarantine Crew shirt! And why not leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts? Or Spotify? It takes less than a minute! Follow the show on Instagram! Check out CT clips on YouTube!Plus some other stuff! Watch Naomi's Netflix half hour or Mythic Quest! Check out Andy's old casiopop band's lost album or his other podcast Beginnings!Theme song by the great Sammus! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send us a textEpisode 189: Why Strategies Aren't Enough to Heal Family Disconnection (And What Actually Works)Have you tried everything to fix your family—but nothing seems to work?You've read the books. You've followed the scripts. You've apologized, stayed calm, set boundaries… And you're still walking on eggshells.In this episode, Tina Gosney, Family Relationship Coach and expert in Bowen Family Systems Theory, explains why strategies and tools—while helpful—are not enough to heal deep family disconnection. And more importantly, she reveals what actually creates lasting transformation.You'll learn:The emotional and cultural trends affecting today's families (and why it's not just you)The real reason communication tips and parenting tools fall shortWhat inner transformation looks and feels like (and how others will experience it in you)Why differentiation of self is the missing key to restoring connectionHow to become the calm, grounded, emotionally mature leader your family needsThis is an eye-opening conversation for every mother who's tried to “fix” things but feels stuck in guilt, grief, or confusion. If you're ready to stop reacting and start leading—with compassion, confidence, and courage—this episode is your starting point.  Related Episodes:179 - Break the Cycle and Lead Your Family with Calm, Loving Energy and Personal Integrity187 – Stress – What Happens in Your Brain and Body and How to Stay Grounded180 – How Your Nervous System Shapes Reactions, Relationships, and Resilience. Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Do you ever tell yourself you're just being “content” or “grateful”—when in reality you're actually settling for less than the life you truly want?In this powerful episode, Greg & Rachel Denning pull back the curtain on how false contentment quietly keeps parents stuck in unhappy routines—and why so many families end up living what they call an unhappy dream.You'll discover why true happiness doesn't come from removing desire, but from pursuing your best desires—and how embracing what we call “divine discontent” is the real catalyst for growth, joy, and lasting fulfillment.Instead of numbing out with distractions or convincing yourself you “should just be grateful,” you'll learn how to: - Raise your standards and stop tolerating mediocrity in your health, marriage, parenting, and personal growth- Recognize the difference between gratitude and complacency—and why confusing the two keeps you stuck- Do the inner work first so you can become the kind of parent and leader your kids want to follow- Pursue challenges instead of avoiding them so you build the strength and confidence you need to thrive -Create a family life you don't need to escape from—one filled with meaning, adventure, and joyIf you're ready to stop settling, face what's really holding you back, and design a life you genuinely love, this episode is your wake-up call.Key Takeaways✅ True happiness comes from pursuit, not from removing desire.✅ Divine discontent is healthy—stop tolerating what harms your life.✅ You teach who you are: do the inner work first, every day.✅ Swap “survive the day” for strategic focus + strategic disengagement.✅ Choose challenge over comfort to stay mentally and emotionally healthy.✅ Progress across six domains (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, social, financial).✅ If you don't like the outcome, raise your standards—then match them with action.✅ Use the power-tool approach (coaching, systems) to collapse time and results.✨ Memorable Quotes

Do you feel like your spouse won't change—no matter what you try?Have you been tolerating non-improvement and calling it “keeping the peace”?In this episode, Greg & Rachel Denning share a practical blueprint for creating real change in marriage—without nagging, power struggles, or giving ultimatums. You'll learn how to earn influence (instead of demanding it), build psychological safety so growth is possible, and use pattern interrupts to break the same old fights.They unpack why couples stall out—no shared vision, unresolved wounds, holes in the relationship “bucket,” and mixed signals that make one spouse armor up. You'll get specific tools to create safety, raise standards, and stop tolerating non-improvement—so your marriage actually gets better month by month.What we cover:- Why “it's okay to be wounded—but not to stay wounded.”- How to earn your spouse's attention & respect (and keep it).- Pattern interrupts that disarm conflict and reset connection.- The Bucket Test: plug the leaks killing motivation & desire.- Strategic praise (what to amplify so it multiplies).- The Shared Vision your marriage needs to stay motivated.- When one spouse levels up—and what to do if the other resists.- Tough talks done right: letters, timing, tone, and follow-through.Bottom line: In life, you get what you tolerate. Don't accept non-improvement. Use these tools to create safety, raise the standard, and build a marriage where both partners keep growing.

If you've ever felt like you're carrying the invisible weight of running both your home and your career, you're not alone. The mental load - the relentless planning, remembering, and anticipating that keeps family life moving - falls disproportionately on women, and it's leaving many of us exhausted, resentful, and stretched too thin. In this powerful episode, I'm joined by Dr. Kate Mangino, gender expert and author of Equal Partners, to uncover the truth about the mental load: what it really is, why it matters, and how we can begin to share it more equally at home. This isn't just about fairness - it's about creating the foundations for healthier relationships, happier families, and the space for working mums to truly thrive. More details: https://luminate-group.co.uk/podcast/169 Connect on LinkedIn Here  Follow on Instagram Here  Love the Wisdom For Working Mums Podcast? Let's take the conversation further. Subscribe for exclusive insights delivered straight to your inbox - designed to support you in leading with confidence and living with intention. 

Are you worried about your kids rebelling as teenagers?Do you ever wonder if your parenting style today is planting the seeds of future rebellion—or resilience?In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning tackle the controversial connection between “restaurant parenting” and teenage rebellion. They share why forcing your children to “behave perfectly” in public often backfires, and how double standards in parenting create resentment and distance that can last for decades.Instead, they reveal a better way: building congruence, fostering autonomy, and meeting your child's deepest needs for love, certainty, identity, and adventure. When you allow children to “act their age,” explain the why behind rules, and respect their growing independence, you prevent destructive rebellion and instead raise courageous, confident adults.This powerful conversation explores:Why unmet needs lead to rebellion (and how to meet them early)The difference between healthy vs. unhealthy rebellionHow giving your kids autonomy strengthens respect and influenceWhy congruence between public and private parenting matters mostHow to prevent resentment from turning into long-term rebellionThe secret to keeping influence with your kids as they grow into teens and adultsIf you want to raise teens who respect you, trust you, and stay connected—without power struggles, yelling, or forced obedience— this episode will shift the way you see rebellion forever.

Are you worried about how porn might be impacting your teen—or afraid to even bring up the conversation?Studies show that up to 90% of boys and young men are consuming porn, often starting as young as eight years old. And the truth is, it's not harmless. Porn rewires the brain, damages real-life relationships, distorts healthy sexuality, and fuels depression, anxiety, and disconnection.In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning break down the science, psychology, and social impact of porn use—and why parents must step up with courage, clarity, and compassion.We'll explore:

Is your teen struggling with anxiety, depression, or just staying motivated to get out of bed in the morning?Do you sometimes feel helpless watching them drift, while wishing you could guide them without controlling them?In this heartfelt conversation, we dive deep into the real reasons teens check out emotionally and mentally—and what you can do as a parent to help.From the science-backed truth that positive habits are the foundation of mental health to powerful strategies like state changes, pattern interrupts, and building strong parent-child connections, we share the tools that actually work.Whether your child is just entering the teen years or already struggling with disconnection, you'll walk away with clarity, hope, and practical steps to help your son or daughter thrive.Key Takeaways:✅ Why sleeping in and lack of motivation are symptoms of deeper issues✅ How to use positive habits to fight anxiety, depression, and hopelessness✅ Why prevention is easier than repair (and what to do if you're already in crisis)✅ How to shift from control to guidance so your teen actually chooses greatness✅ The difference between giving kids a “good life” vs. helping them build a meaningful life✅ Micro- and macro-dosing love, time, and mentorship so your kids feel connected and inspiredIf you're ready to stop drifting and start building stronger habits and deeper connections with your teens, this episode is for you.✨ Memorable Quotes

Beyond the Owner: How Family Systems Shape Successful ExitsInclusive planning, legacy thinking and trusted advisory teams drive long-term success.In this episode of the Exit Planning Coach Podcast with John F. Dini, family business expert Amy Wirtz shares powerful insights on how family dynamics, collaboration, and clear communication shape successful business transitions. Drawing from her background as a collaborative divorce attorney and senior consultant with the Family Business Consulting Group, Amy discusses the importance of listening first, educating owners on their options, and engaging the full family system—not just the founder. She offers real-world examples of navigating generational shifts, avoiding conflict, and building governance structures that support long-term success. Whether you're an advisor or a business owner, Amy's perspective will change how you think about planning for the future.

Do you ever feel like you have a "million dreams and not enough time" to chase them all? As a parent, the challenge is even greater—you want financial freedom, family adventures, strong relationships, better health, and so much more. But where do you even start?In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning share their 5-step process for choosing which dreams matter most right now. They reveal how to prioritize goals without sacrificing what matters most—your marriage, your kids, your health, and your peace of mind.Key Takeaways:✅ Write down and prioritize ALL your dreams✅ Balance ambition with family life✅ Follow intuition and interests as guideposts✅ Use urgency, energy, and alignment filters to choose what to pursue✅ Avoid the trap of sacrificing relationships for successWhether you dream of traveling the world, building a business, or creating a family legacy, this episode will help you gain clarity, simplify your focus, and start moving forward today.If you've ever asked, “Where do I start?”—this is the roadmap you've been looking for.✨ Memorable Quotes

Are your teen's habits building the future they want — or holding them back?Most parents focus on grades, test scores, and academic achievements, but the truth is… habits determine everything. From sleep to self-talk, from what we eat to how we think, our daily habits are literally the building blocks of our lives.In this episode, we share the foundational habits every teen should develop to create a life of happiness, success, and purpose — and why these skills are rarely taught in schools. You'll learn practical ways to help your teen replace destructive habits with empowering ones, create positive associations, and build a lifelong foundation for health, confidence, and achievement.Whether you're parenting a teenager now or preparing for the years ahead, this conversation will help you guide them toward a future they'll thank you for.

Everett Uhl - media contacts Site: Everett Uhl Therapy Email: euhl@committed-action.com Instagram @everettuhltherapy In this conversation, I interview Everett Uhl, a licensed marriage and family counselor, about her role as a therapist. We discuss the importance of authenticity in therapeutic practices, the need for action-oriented approaches, and some critiques of traditional therapy models, especially in relation to religious influences. I loved how Everett emphasized the significance of understanding human experiences in context rather than through rigid diagnoses, and of course, I'll always cheer on an advocate for integrating Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) into one's practice, with Everett combining it with the Bowen family systems approaches. A Few Highlights Authenticity in therapy fosters a genuine connection with clients. Therapy should empower clients to take action, not just vent. Understanding context is crucial for accurate diagnoses. Expectations of therapy should be realistic and not solely focused on validation. ACT encourages clients to make choices and move forward. Rigid definitions in Christian counseling can lead to harm. Secular therapy provides a safe space free from religious judgment. Therapists should be aware of their biases and dual relationships. The future of therapy should embrace flexibility and critical thinking. Chapters 00:00 From Conservation to Counseling: A Journey of Purpose 04:38 Therapeutic Approaches: Authenticity and Action 08:48 The Role of Therapy: Beyond Venting to Empowerment 12:46 Understanding Human Experience: Context Over Diagnosis 17:02 Critiquing Therapy: The Need for Realistic Expectations 21:25 Integrating ACT and Family Systems: A Holistic Approach 25:49 The Impact of Religion in Therapy: A Critical Perspective 30:18 Navigating Secular Therapy: A Personal Commitment 34:41 The Future of Therapy: Moving Beyond Rigid Models 39:24 Conclusion: Embracing Change in Therapeutic Practices

Are you tired of repeating yourself over and over, just to get your teen to do the simplest chores?Does it feel like every request turns into a negotiation—or worse, an argument?In this episode, we're revealing exactly how to get your teen to take responsibility for chores—without nagging, yelling, or bribing. As parents of seven, we've tested countless strategies, and this one works because it's built on privilege-based accountability—not power struggles.We'll show you how to replace daily battles with a clear system that motivates teens to follow through. You'll learn how to connect privileges (like screen time, outings, or car use) to personal responsibility, so your teen begins to self-manage—willingly.We'll also share why maintaining a strong relationship is essential to cooperation, and how the right approach can actually bring you closer to your teen while also building lifelong habits of responsibility.If you're ready to turn chore time from chaos to calm, this conversation will show you exactly how.

Are you tired of parenting by force, only to watch results fade?Did you know that long-term influence usually starts with emotional deposits—not immediate obedience?In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning sit down with friends to unpack the parenting strategy that transformed their home: choosing strategic empathy, trust-building, and persuasion over force and control.We dive into:Why influence matters more than obedienceHow to make daily emotional deposits that pay off laterTactful, creative strategies instead of reactionary disciplineThe subtle power of modeling—not manipulatingWhether you're in the parenting trenches or preparing for the teenage years ahead, this episode gives you tools to do the hard work once, so trust — not threats — becomes your default.Tune in if you're ready to raise thinking, self-directed children who WANT to do what's right—without prompting or power struggles.Key Takeaways✅ Influence beats force in the long run✅ Emotional deposits build trust and cooperation✅ Persuasion creates self-directed children✅ Strategic reflection prevents repetitive discipline✅ High standards don't need harshness to stand firmChapters:01:34 Unpacking Parenting Layers and Strategies02:38 The Importance of Long-Term Vision in Parenting03:37 Balancing Immediate Results with Long-Term Relationships04:26 Navigating Parenting Challenges with Creativity05:57 Building Emotional Bank Accounts with Children07:44 Proactive Parenting: Making Emotional Deposits09:13 The Impact of Travel on Family Relationships10:34 Finding Balance in Parenting Intensity12:00 Transformational vs. Transactional Interactions13:59 The Reward of Long-Term Parenting Investments16:00 Understanding Manipulation in Parenting16:37 Transitioning from Transactional to Relational Parenting18:06 Addressing Behavioral Issues with Connection18:51 Creating a Culture of Connection and Deposits19:46 The Importance of Individualized Strategies21:18 Long-Term Solutions Over Short-Term Fixes24:51 The Power of Influence and Persuasion in ParentingMemorable Quotes:

Separating myself physically, emotionally & mentally from my toxic family of origin was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I discuss: two mental health professionals who helped me do this—and they are FREE resources; the reasoning behind why this kind of separation is necessary for you to heal and thrive; and a story from my childhood that demonstrates this need for separation. I hope this episode helps you on your healing journey!

Are you noticing your teen struggling to move forward—still living at home, lacking motivation, or avoiding responsibility?Did you know failure to launch syndrome is becoming a silent epidemic, with many young adults unable to transition into independent, thriving adults?In this episode, Rachel and Greg unpack what failure to launch looks like, why it's happening—and most importantly—what you can do now to guide your child toward adult independence. Drawing on years of experience working with youth and young adults, they explore the common warning signs (low persistence, entitlement, lack of life skills) and reveal the actionable strategies that prevent the downward spiral before it's too late.This candid conversation is filled with practical advice: how to instill responsibility, help your child set meaningful goals, face challenges, and develop emotional maturity. Whether you're parenting a toddler or a teen, this episode equips you with tools to help your children not just survive—but truly launch into adulthood on their own terms.Tune in and take the steps that could make all the difference.

Are you frustrated by constant discipline battles with your kids? Do you feel like no matter what you try, the misbehavior just won't stop?What if the key to ending discipline problems isn't about punishments or timeouts — but about becoming a truly effective parent and mentor?In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning reveal why most parenting struggles come down to what you are doing — or not doing — as a parent. They share why discipline problems aren't really about your kids but about parenting skills and trust-building.You'll learn the powerful mindset shift that parenting is a specific skill you can learn and improve — just like tennis — and how building a foundation of trust prevents most discipline issues before they start.Discover how to stop draining your child's emotional bank account and start making deposits of love, attention, and understanding. This episode is packed with real-life insights and encouragement for parents ready to enjoy parenting and raise well-adjusted, confident kids.If you're ready to stop feeling overwhelmed by behavior battles and start creating a joyful family culture, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:✅ Discipline problems are caused by ineffective parenting, not kids.✅ Parenting is a skill you can learn and improve — no guilt needed.✅ Building trust daily is the foundation of influence and respect.✅ Emotional “withdrawals” from kids cause misbehavior; deposits fix it.✅ Meeting kids' needs prevents problems before they start.✅ Strong relationships reduce the need for discipline and conflict.Chapters:00:00 Why Most Parenting Problems Come From Ineffective Parenting05:15 Parenting Is a Skill You Can Learn—Like Tennis10:10 Building a Foundation of Trust Starts at Birth15:30 Emotional Bank Account: Stop Withdrawals, Make Deposits20:40 Meeting Your Child's Needs Prevents Misbehavior26:00 The Joy and Ease of Parenting When You Have the Right Skills30:00 Taking Responsibility to Create a Family LegacyMemorable Quotes:

Are you constantly battling with your child over decisions—like what they wear, eat, or how they spend their time? Do you worry they'll make bad choices if you give them too much freedom?In this candid conversation, we break down the art and science of teaching kids how to make their own decisions—while still keeping them safe, supported, and connected to you.The goal of parenting isn't to control your child's every move; it's to teach them how to think, how to choose, and how to handle the natural consequences of their decisions. But how do you do that without letting them fall off the proverbial cliff?In this episode, we reveal exactly how to balance freedom with boundaries, so your child can develop real-life decision-making skills without damaging your relationship in the process.Whether you're raising toddlers or teens, this episode will help you shift from a control-based parenting model to one focused on agency, connection, and life skills development.Key Takeaways:✅ Why letting kids make mistakes early prevents disasters later✅ How to avoid power struggles while still being a responsible parent✅ The difference between teaching and controlling—and why it matters✅ How to give your child more agency without letting go too soon✅ Why "passing the class" is our family's secret parenting frameworkMemorable Quotes:

Are you worried you're “not spiritual enough” to lead your kids in faith? Do you wonder if you've messed up too much to guide them in hearing God's voice?The truth is—you don't have to be perfect to raise spiritually confident kids.In this interview episode with Jen from Java With Jen, we have a candid conversation about hearing God's voice as a family—and why perfection is NOT a requirement for spiritual growth. We share how to create a home where prayer, repentance, and connection with God become normal everyday practices—even when you're still working through your own struggles.We also talk about why the attack on families is so fierce right now—and why raising spiritually resilient kids is the key to protecting them from today's cultural confusion and overwhelm.You'll discover how small habits like honesty, humility, and quick repentance clear the “airways” so you (and your kids) can hear God's guidance more clearly.If you're ready to build a family culture of faith without the pressure of perfectionism, this episode will encourage and equip you.Key Takeaways:✅ Why you don't have to be perfect to teach your kids to hear God's voice✅ How repentance clears the “spiritual airways” so you can hear better✅ Why family prayer will shape the next generation—and the world✅ How to overcome shame, regret, and feelings of disqualification✅ The role of moms (and dads!) in creating a faith-centered legacyChapters:00:00 Introduction to Parenting and Ministry03:45 Hearing God's Voice in Parenting06:42 Navigating Faith and Skepticism09:37 The Nuances of Hearing God's Voice12:19 Daily Practices for Spiritual Connection15:32 The Role of Mothers in Shaping Futures18:38 The Importance of Repentance and Forgiveness21:29 The Power of Family in Spiritual Growth24:24 Closing Thoughts and ResourcesMemorable Quotes:

Are you living life on your terms—or just checking the boxes of what you're “supposed” to do?Do you feel like you're sacrificing your family life balance just to keep up with society's expectations?In this episode, we unpack the bold decisions we made to opt out of the “normal” path—traditional jobs, mainstream schooling, and cultural pressure—and how those sacrifices led to a stronger, happier, and more united family.We're not promoting selfishness. We're advocating for intentionality. For living deliberately. For creating a family culture that nurtures emotional health, purpose, and joy.We talk about the hard choices, the personal growth it required, the sacrifices we made—and why we'd make them all over again.Whether you're a parent wondering if there's another way… or already on the path of designing your own extraordinary life… this episode will inspire you to ask better questions and bravely pursue the life you really want.

Is your husband avoiding intimacy... and you don't know why?In this raw and unfiltered conversation, we unpack four brutally honest reasons your husband may not want sex — and what it means for your marriage.Many wives silently wonder: "Why doesn't my husband want me anymore?" Whether you're emotionally connected (or not) but sexually distant, it can feel devastating. But the truth is, low libido in men is rarely just about sex. Often, it's a symptom of deeper issues—and understanding those issues is the first step toward rebuilding connection and passion.We discuss:How processed food is reducing libido in men and womenHow porn addiction secretly destroys sexual desire in marriage and creates SAD (sexual arousal dysfunction)Why adultery (emotional or physical) leads to disconnectionThe painful truth about emotional rejection and naggingWhat you may unknowingly be doing to repel your husband sexuallyWhy physical, emotional, and attitudinal attractiveness matter in marriageHow to reignite mutual desire through sacrifice, growth, and emotional maturityThis is not a blame game—it's a wake-up call. In this episode, we share tools, examples from our own life and our coaching clients, and real solutions to reignite sexual connection and strengthen your marriage.Sex in marriage isn't just about pleasure—it's about bonding, trust, and emotional safety. If you're ready to heal what's been broken, this episode is your starting point.Key Takeaways: ✅ Porn and hidden behavior destroy trust and attraction ✅ Adultery (emotional or physical) often hides in plain sight ✅ Attraction isn't just physical—emotional and mental habits matter ✅ Nagging, emotional drama, or a messy mindset can kill desire ✅ You can change your patterns and reignite connection—starting todayChapters: 00:00 The Holistic Nature of Parenting Includes Parents' Sexual Relationship05:31 Understanding Men's Low Sex Drive10:14 Health and Its Impact on Intimacy24:45 The Role of Pornography in Relationships32:35 Adultery and Its Consequences33:03 The Hidden Affairs: Emotional and Physical Distance in Relationships34:50 The Importance of Sexual Connection in Marriage38:25 Understanding Male Sexual Drive and Its Implications41:35 The Moral Responsibility of Intimacy in Marriage44:55 Attractiveness and Its Role in Marital Dynamics51:22 The Conditions of Love and Attraction55:57 Working with Reality: The Path to ImprovementMore Episodes About Sex:⁠#148 What Wives Need to Know About Husbands' (Sex Drive) and What Men Need to Understand About Themselves⁠⁠#150 The Sex-quel. Follow Up Sex Episode With Rachel Denning⁠⁠#151 What Husbands NEED to Know About Their Wives (sex & intimacy)⁠⁠#224 How (& WHY) to Have Sex 3-6 Times a Week EVEN with Kids, Businesses, Homeschool, Jobs, Activities, and More#253 SEX IS A NEED FOR AN EXTRAORDINARY MARRIAGE#268 I'M TIRED OF BEING A LONELY “ROOMMATE WITH BENEFITS” FOR MY HUSBAND#273 I'M TIRED OF BEING A ROOMMATE ‘WITHOUT BENEFITS' WITH MY WIFE! (AKA WHY WOMEN DON'T WANT SEX)#317 HOW SEXUAL FRUSTRATION (OR PORN) ARE CAUSING DAD'S TO BE GRUMPY & DISCONNECTEDRESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids - Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power Struggles (+ get THE CHECKLIST: Things We Do Every Day to Raise Well-Adjusted Kids)Rachel's ⁠⁠Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read Moms⁠⁠Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram: ⁠@worldschoolfamily⁠ or ⁠@greg.denning⁠Get Rachel's ⁠⁠Family Systems & Charts⁠⁠Join the Do More With Less Stress Workshop Series for busy momsBecome a Founding Member of our Extraordinary Parent Mentoring MethodJoin Greg's 7-Day Challenge JOIN GREG'S 90-DAY HEALTH & FITNESS CHALLENGE! Join the Formidable Family Man Masterclass and TribeGather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in PortugalRead our reviews here: https://podcast.extraordinaryfamilylife.com/reviews/

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk talks about family systems theory. (Intro)This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaJuly 13, 2016The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Una Archer joins me for a thoughtful conversation about how to help children feel safe, secure, and resilient in the face of their parents' separation or divorce.   Together we explore:   Why there's no one-size-fits-all approach to separation, even among siblings, and why tuning into each child's unique needs matters. What the Circle of Security framework is and how it can be used to support children's attachment during major family transitions. The three core emotional needs that children rely on to feel secure, and how parents can meet these needs in everyday moments (check the show notes for a helpful visual!). How to separate your own trauma and fears from your child's experience so you can truly see and respond to them without projection. Why allowing more time and slowness during transitions isn't a setback, but an important part of healing and connection. The power of rupture and repair in relationships and practical ways parents can engage in repair after conflict or misunderstanding. How different family structures after separation—sometimes two distinct family systems—can be healthy depending on what your family needs. Navigating the challenges of co-parenting, including managing handoffs and stepping back when it's not your parenting time.   If you're looking for compassionate, practical guidance on fostering secure attachment for your children through big changes, this conversation is full of insights and tools you won't want to miss!     LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:   https://www.helpyourchildthrive.co.uk/ The Separated Parent's Guide to Attachment: 3 Steps Towards Emotional Security      ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:  

Do you feel like you're losing connection with your teen—or worse, already have? You're not alone… but it doesn't have to be that way.In this powerful and honest episode, we share 6 strategic parenting techniques that have helped us raise mature, respectful, and emotionally healthy teens—without control, punishment, or endless conflict.If you're frustrated by moodiness, defiance, secretive behavior, or a lack of trust in your relationship with your teen, it might be because you're parenting on autopilot… using strategies that just don't work anymore.We unpack the REAL reasons why teens rebel, resist, or retreat—and why many parenting tactics like strict rules, forced obedience, or excessive control backfire (sometimes in heartbreaking ways).You'll learn how to:Recognize the warning signs of disconnection before they become rebellionBuild emotional capital and trust with your teen—without being permissiveEncourage better choices without controlling their every moveAvoid the #1 parenting myth that leads to resentment and disrespectUse strategy and vision to create a strong, lifelong bondEmpower your kids to make good decisions because they want to, not because they have toWhether you're deep in the teen years or just getting started, these techniques will help you raise responsible, confident, and connected kids—and build a family culture of mutual respect, freedom, and fun.