Podcasts about family systems

What if the real game-changer in travel baseball isn't your player's swing-but your decisions as a parent? In this solo episode, Matt breaks down what he refers to as The Precision Process, a behavioral-psychology-based framework designed to help travel baseball families make better, calmer, and more confident choices in a chaotic environment. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the nonstop pressure of tournaments, recruiting, and exposure events, this episode will show you how to filter the noise, think clearly, and align every decision with your family's long-term goals. You'll learn how to stop reacting emotionally to “urgent” choices and instead make strategic, values-driven the same kind elite CEOs and investors use, but adapted for the world of youth sports. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN: The Precision Process: a 6-step system to make high-quality decisions under pressure How to identify if you're in a stable, complicated, or chaotic environment—and why that matters The truth about emotional vs. logical decision-making in travel baseball How to create your family's North Star statement to filter opportunities The 3 biggest cognitive biases that sabotage baseball parents—and how to overcome them Why clarity, not control, is the key to thriving in travel baseball How to build a decision database that helps you avoid repeating costly mistakes Matt breaks down real-world examples from families navigating tournaments, showcases, and college recruiting. You'll discover how to use tools like the 3x3 Clarity Grid to bring calm, structure, and precision to every choice-and how to measure progress through regular debrief loops that keep your family aligned and less stressed. If you've ever caught yourself making reactive, fear-based decisions (FOMO, comparison, sunk cost), this episode will hit home. By the end, you'll walk away with a repeatable decision-making framework to replace chaos with confidence. CALL TO ACTION: If this episode brought you clarity, share it with another baseball parent feeling overwhelmed by the chaos. Subscribe for weekly episodes on mindset, leadership, and decision-making in travel baseball. Comment your biggest decision-making challenge below. LINKS & RESOURCES: https://www.youtube.com/@mostvaluableagent  — Follow the MVA Podcast #TravelBaseball #BaseballParents #YouthSportsMindset #DecisionMaking #BaseballDevelopment #ParentLeadership #BaseballPodcast #MVA  

In this episode of The Anxiety Chicks, Alison and Taylor unpack what it really means to be the “strong one” while secretly struggling with anxiety. They explore how childhood roles, family expectations, and perfectionism contribute to high-functioning anxiety and the emotional toll of constantly keeping it together. The Chicks share honest reflections and practical tools for releasing the pressure to be perfect, regulating emotions, and redefining what true strength looks like. Timestamps 02:08 Understanding the 'Strong One' Phenomenon 04:56 Family Systems and High Functioning Anxiety 14:04 The Connection Between Perfectionism and Anxiety 21:27 The Cost of Keeping It Together 25:43 Healing and Self-Discovery The Single Sisters Circle (40+) A supportive private membership community within The Anxiety Healer's Hub for single women 40+ who crave authentic connection and conversation through LIVE Chats, Online events, Interactive coaching calls, and Sisterhood support. Inside The Hub, you'll find emotional support, friendship, and tools for anxiety healing in midlife — all in a safe, stigma-free community. JOIN THE WAITLIST HERE Don't forget to rate and review The Chicks!

Do you want your kids to love learning—and become independent, capable adults who can handle life?Most parents want extraordinary results but stick to ordinary systems. In this video, Greg & Rachel explain why comfortable, convenient methods don't produce extraordinary results and why true education is lighting a fire, not filling a bucket. You'll see how to expand beyond the home with worldschooling and real-world experiences, use modern tools for a world-class education, and reclaim both influence and joy in your family culture.Key Takeaways✅ Method determines outcome—change methods to change results.✅ Worldschooling turns lessons into experiences kids never forget.✅ Raise independent thinkers through self-directed learning.✅ Time with your kids = influence (quantity and quality).✅ Use AI/online platforms to access the best teachers on earth.✅ Save “academic rigor” for the right season—after love of learning ignites.Chapters00:00 Welcome to Extraordinary Family Life01:06 The Importance of Intentional Living02:32 Extraordinary Education Through World Schooling05:02 The Limitations of Public Schooling06:41 The Need for Self-Directed Learning08:04 Experiential Learning and Travel09:42 The Impact of Environment on Learning11:30 Navigating Social Experiences for Kids11:52 Conclusion and Final Thoughts15:41 The Transformative Power of Modern Education19:47 Leveraging Online Resources for Homeschooling22:12 Balancing Personal Time and Homeschooling25:16 Quality Time vs. Quantity Time in Education26:44 Redefining Social Skills Beyond School27:25 Overcoming Personal Limitations as a Parent28:06 Embracing the Journey of Homeschooling30:13 The Importance of Following Interests in LearningMemorable Quotes

Does “launching” your teen mean kicking them out at 18?If your child only becomes capable when you separate, something's broken. In this video, Greg & Rachel Denning expose why “move out at 18” is a modern psyop that weakens families and robs teens of real independence. You'll learn how to build capability before 18—so your young adult is confident, competent, and contributing while still benefiting from mentorship, connection, and family legacy.Key Takeaways✅ Failure to launch is a parenting-skill problem, not an age problem.✅ By mid-teens, kids should be capable, confident, and contributing at home.✅ Comfort & convenience sabotage growth—skills and systems build it.✅ Teach life skills early: cooking, cleaning, finances, self-management.✅ Mentor through 16–25: support big decisions, deepen character, build skills.✅ Generational families win: keep wisdom, wealth, and warmth under one roof.✅ If independence only follows separation, change the method—not the goal.Chapters00:00 Epic Adventures and Homecomings03:02 Rethinking the 18-Year-Old Move-Out Myth06:06 The Impact of Cultural Norms on Independence08:43 Parenting Skills and the Failure to Launch11:54 The Role of Education in Young Adulthood14:41 Cultural Perspectives on Family Dynamics17:44 The Dangers of Social Media Influence20:31 Reframing Independence and Parenting Strategies27:42 Empowering Children with Life Skills34:52 The Importance of Parenting Techniques44:43 Building a Family Legacy and Financial StabilityMemorable Quotes

Are you torn between protecting your kids' mental health and preparing them for real-world stress?Most parents feel this tension—and many swing too far toward pressure or protection. In this video, Greg & Rachel share a better path: don't inflict pressure—be the anchor while your kids face it. You'll learn how to build grit through trust, identity, and modeling, so challenge actually strengthens your bond instead of breaking it.What we cover:Identity over willpower: why saying “I'm not a smoker” beats “I'm trying to quit.”Anchor, don't apply pressure: your job is safety + modeling, not manufactured hardship.Results don't lie: how your life becomes the proof your kids can't ignore.Trust first, then stretch: push to the “next rock,” then keep your promise and carry them.Adjust your strategy: when you “get punched in the face,” learn, adapt, iterate.Do hard things yourself: kids spot hypocrisy—lead from the front.Make discomfort enjoyable: turn tough conversations, workouts, and cold plunges into shared wins.Big Idea: Grit grows in connection. When kids know you'll both challenge and carry them, they lean in, try again, and adopt a new identity that sustains lifelong habits.Key Takeaways✅ Be the anchor, not the pressure. Safety + example > force.✅ Model hard things. If you don't, they won't.✅ Identity drives habits. Become the family who does the hard, good things.✅ Keep promises. Stretch to the “next rock,” then carry—that's how trust is built.✅ Iterate, don't implode. When it's not working, change your approach, not your ideals.Chapters00:00 New Beginnings and Reflections03:18 Goal Setting and Identity Transformation03:31 Preparing Kids for Life's Challenges05:02 The Balance of Comfort and Growth05:30 Building Resilience Through Experience08:44 Adapting to Life's Punches09:59 The Journey of Parenting and Education12:19 Embracing Failure in Business and Parenting13:59 The Importance of Adaptability and Learning17:21 Influence Through Results and Personal Example19:32 Living an Extraordinary Life as a Family22:34 Teaching Resilience Through Real-Life Challenges24:58 Iterative Learning and Effective Communication28:39 The Power of Persistence in ParentingMemorable Quotes

Are you afraid to give something up—even if you know it's holding your family back?What if the “sacrifice” you're resisting is the exact bridge to the life you actually want?In this powerful conversation, Greg and Rachel answer a listener's question inspired by James Allen: “He who would attain highly must sacrifice greatly.” They share the real sacrifices they made to build an extraordinary family life—from walking away from comfort and conformity to investing tens of thousands into personal growth, ditching entertainment for education, and choosing experiences and character over stuff. You'll learn how to overcome the fear of loss, handle others' opinions, and trade short-term ease for long-term joy, health, and purpose.Big idea: It's hard to call it a “sacrifice” when what you get back is better than what you gave up. Bottom line: The most important investment you'll ever make is in yourself—and then in your spouse and kids.Key Takeaways:✅ Comfort is costly—trade it for purpose, health, and momentum.✅ Invest in yourself first, then your spouse and kids.✅ Entertainment steals growth; education multiplies it.✅ Ditch “peacock pageantry”—results beat credentials.✅ Own your outcomes—no blame, no excuses.✅ Failure ≠ final—it's fertilizer for your future.Chapters00:00 Daily Sacrifices for a Better Life23:14 Intentional Living and Personal Responsibility28:39 The Rewards of Sacrifice31:27 EFL YouTube Outro Full Updated.mp4Memorable Quotes

Grab a copy of our BOOK here: http://winningtheweek.com/ Join Lifehack Tribe: https://members.lifehackmethod.com/join-lifehack-tribeSUBSCRIBE to our podcast on the platform of your choice! Spotify: http://spoti.fi/3pNtPVe Apple Podcasts: http://apple.co/3tiIpWW Or subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/LifehackBootcamp Time stamps:00:00 - Introduction00:39 - From Health Scare to Fresh Start. Bonnie, a coach and mom of two, shares how a major health scare pushed her to refocus on family, health, and sustainable systems at home.03:19 - Dreaming of Family Systems. Bonnie longs for routines her whole family can follow, eliminating the endless cycle of reminders and stress.05:50 - Start Small, Win Big. Demir and Carey show how even tiny fixes, like solving the water bottle problem, can kickstart momentum without overwhelm.09:45 - Health as the Ultimate Leverage. Preventive routines for sleep, exercise, and appointments become Bonnie's top priority, delivering peace of mind as well as long-term wellness.14:55 - Cracking the Screen-Time Struggle. Automatic shutoffs, parental controls, and phased limits turn nightly device battles into non-issues.22:50 - Parenting Without Nagging. From gamification to parent coalitions, Bonnie learns strategies to set boundaries without becoming the household “bad cop.”28:55 - Shared Accountability at Home. Shift responsibility to kids through visible checklists, streaks, and rewards.34:00 - The 30-Minute Fix Rule. Simple hacks like Apple Watch intercoms or socks by the shoes prove that under-30-minute experiments can create massive calm and leverage.38:15 - Batching Made Simple. From freezer-friendly food prep to biweekly honey-do sessions, batching transforms repeat chores into smooth, efficient rituals.44:55 - Clutter Control with One Mantra. “Don't put it down, put it away” becomes the anchor habit for keeping chaos at bay, supported by recurring reviews and minimalist thresholds.55:01 - Bonnie's Big Three. She commits to the 30-minute problem-solve, the Hearth nightly reset, and the clutter mantra as her first steps toward lasting structure.Check out our FREE masterclass all about How To Plan The Perfect Week In 30 Minutes Flat: https://bit.ly/3eEZ9AQ Check out our website: https://lifehackmethod.com/

Are your kids' fights setting off your emotions—and the whole house?Most parents try to “fix” kids' behavior to feel better. In this video, Greg & Rachel flip the script: change your emotional state first, and your family dynamics follow. You'll learn how to stop masking (“trying to stay calm”) and start being emotionally authentic—so you model regulation your kids can actually imitate.We unpack practical tools to raise your family's emotional thermostat—even on low-sleep, low-food days: breathing exercises, light movement, gratitude micro-meditations, future journaling, and morning routines that shift your biochemistry fast. You'll discover why sleep and nutrition are foundational, how to process triggers and “memorized emotions,” and how to radiate steadiness kids naturally copy.Big idea: Nothing gets better until you do. When you upgrade your inner state, parenting gets easier, marriage gets warmer, and home feels safe again. This is how you cultivate a family culture of peace, courage, and joy—without pretending or suppressing.Try this today (1-minute reset): Stand tall, inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 6 (x6 rounds). Add one gratitude sentence and smile on purpose. Notice the shift—then go connect.Key Takeaways✅ Nothing gets better until you do — when you raise your state, your family follows.✅ Kids imitate without regulation — they copy your energy, good or bad.✅ Trying to “stay calm” is masking — practice authentic emotional expression.✅ Sleep & food drive mood — protect your physiology to parent better.✅ Quick resets work — breathing, movement, posture, and gratitude change your state fast.✅ Every family has an emotional thermostat — set yours higher on purpose.✅ Mentor, don't micromanage — see misbehavior as a cry for help and coach skills.Memorable Quote:

Is ADHD really a brain disorder or a label created to sell drugs? Dr. Roger McFillin speaks with filmmaker Roman Wyden, founder of the ADHD Is Over movement- that includes a book, podcast and upcoming documentary.  Roman shares why he rejected the ADHD label for his son and what he uncovered about the system behind it: schools, pharma, and psychiatry pushing parents toward pills. Together they expose how 6 million children in America are prescribed stimulants like Adderall and Ritalin, the billion-dollar ADHD industry that profits from it, and why more parents are waking up and saying: ADHD is over.ADHD is OVER Website Visit Center for Integrated Behavioral HealthDr. Roger McFillin / Radically Genuine WebsiteYouTube @RadicallyGenuineDr. Roger McFillin (@DrMcFillin) / XSubstack | Radically Genuine | Dr. Roger McFillinInstagram @radicallygenuineContact Radically GenuineConscious Clinician CollectivePLEASE SUPPORT OUR PARTNERS15% Off Pure Spectrum CBD (Code: RadicallyGenuine)10% off Lovetuner click here

Do you feel good in your own home?Does your family culture feel like a safe, joyful refuge—or more like constant conflict and stress?Most parents spend 90% of their time fixing problems instead of preventing them. But what if the secret to a thriving home is in the things you never do?In this video, Greg and Rachel Denning—parents of 7 and family coaches—reveal the small but powerful “never-do's” that transformed their parenting and family culture. From eliminating sarcasm and insults, to saying no to video games, TV, and constant notifications, these intentional choices create a home environment where kids feel secure, confident, and deeply attached.They share why attachment—not punishment—prevents misbehavior, how harshness backfires, and why saying “no” to outside noise means saying “yes” to family connection.Raising kids is already hard enough. But by eliminating just a few destructive habits, you can dramatically reduce sibling rivalry, power struggles, and emotional distance in your home.

Are you settling for a “make it work” marriage when you could build an extraordinary one?Most couples drift into survival mode—roommates, not lovers—because they've never seen an amazing marriage modeled… and no one taught them the skills. In this episode, Greg & Rachel Denning share how to raise your marriage standard, resolve conflict fast (the “anatomy of an argument”), and build a shared vision that turns everyday life into marital bliss—without pretending problems don't exist.Big idea: If you're not deliberately working on your marriage, you're automatically working on your divorce.You'll learn how to stop the same old fights, praise small efforts to reinforce positive change, schedule what matters (yes, intimacy!), and use the compound effect to transform your relationship. Whether things are tough or “fine,” these tools help you move from okay → incredible so your kids grow up with healthy models of love.What you'll learnRaise the standard: Why “make it work” is too low a target—and how high expectations create more happiness.Anatomy of an argument: Resolve conflicts quickly (not fake fixes) and stop weaponizing old grievances.Shared vision: Practical steps to get on the same page even if personalities and goals differ.Reinforce progress: Praise small attempts (date night invites, thoughtful gestures) so they happen more often.Schedule what matters: How planning creates space for connection & intimacy—instead of constant friction.Compound effect: The habits you invest in today build your legacy tomorrow.Key Takeaways✅ If you aren't intentionally improving your marriage, you're unintentionally degrading it.✅ High standards produce higher joy and better outcomes.✅ Conflict ≠ contention—you can disagree respectfully and resolve fast.✅ Model love for your kids by prioritizing the relationship at home.✅ Small, consistent actions compound into an extraordinary marriage.Chapters00:00 The Importance of Marriage02:56 From Mediocre to Extraordinary05:53 Setting High Expectations for Marriage08:25 Conflict Resolution in Marriage11:51 Self-Sabotage in Relationships16:43 Creating Mental Space for Intimacy18:16 The Importance of Retreats for Couples18:49 Investing in Marriage: The Compounding Effect20:28 Breaking Generational Patterns in Relationships22:17 Creating a Shared Vision for the Future22:44 Raising the Standard in Marriage24:36 The Role of Coaching in Relationship Growth27:04 The Value of Investing in Your MarriageMemorable Quotes

Is the “nuclear family” actually traditional—or even healthy—for your kids and marriage?In this conversation, Greg & Rachel challenge a BIG cultural myth: the nuclear family (mom + dad + kids, all on their own) isn't historically normal—and it's often unhealthy and lonely in today's hyper-digital world. Instead, they unpack what families did for most of human history—intergenerational, community-based, “tribal” living—and how ordinary parents can start moving that direction without selling everything or going off-grid.You'll learn how to question handed-down narratives, re-design work, school, and home life, and flip the ratio so your family spends more time together than apart—building skills, wealth, and resilience as a team.Highlights you'll hear:Why isolation (9–5 + separate schools + separate lives) isn't “traditional”—it's recent.How multigenerational & community living builds real support, mental health, and generational wealth.Simple first steps: shared meals, home projects, family business ideas, skill-building, and flexible work.The future of family in the age of AI: double down on what only humans do—connection, empathy, creativity.A practical reframe: “What would have to be true for us to live, learn, and work together more?”If you're tired of doing family alone, this episode shows a realistic path toward tribe-style living—whether you're in a city apartment, suburban neighborhood, or a budding homestead. You don't need to move tomorrow; you just need to start asking better questions today.Key Takeaways✅ The nuclear family is modern, not “traditional.”✅ Community > isolation for happiness, mental health, and stability.✅ Shared work/learning = faster maturity, marketable skills, and generational wealth.✅ Design life on purpose: meals together, family projects, aligned work/school choices.✅ AI future = be more human: build in-person connection and a supportive tribe.Chapters00:00 Questioning Conventional Family Norms02:53 The Evolution of Family Structures05:48 The Importance of Community and Connection08:28 Exploring Unconventional Lifestyles11:23 Redefining Family Dynamics14:01 The Future of Family Life16:35 Creating a Supportive Family Environment19:48 Building Generational Wealth Together22:30 Embracing Change and New Possibilities25:12 Living Life on Your Own Terms28:18 The Role of Technology in Family Life31:06 Designing Your Ideal Family LifeMemorable Quotes

PURCHASE THIS PODCOURSE! If you are a therapist or counselor looking for continuing education, check out my NBCC Approved $5 Podcourses and other continuing education offerings.Plus, get your first Podcourse half off. In this Podcourse episode, I sit down with Dr. Timothy Davis, a psychologist who has spent his career working with what he calls “challenging boys.” He shares how his background, from academic research to volunteer firefighting, inspired a practical framework that helps parents manage meltdowns, build resilience, and strengthen their connection with their child. Together, we explore how therapists can support parents in creating effective Emergency Plans, identifying skill deficits in emotion regulation and executive functioning, and applying family systems principles to improve family dynamics. Our hope is that you'll walk away with fresh strategies you can integrate into your clinical work right away and you can also earn one NBCC continuing education contact hour by completing this Podcourse.

Are you exhausted from trying to do all the right things—but still feel like your family life isn't extraordinary?You're not alone. Many parents work tirelessly to manage schedules, teach principles, read parenting books, pray, practice gratitude, and still feel burnt out, disconnected, and frustrated.In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning unpack a heartfelt question from a listener who has been “doing it all” since 2020—yet still feels stuck. Together, they reveal why doing more isn't the solution and why misaligned priorities, half-hearted effort, and misplaced energy may be keeping you from the extraordinary life you crave.

Do you ever feel so overwhelmed by a big goal that you back away and settle for “safe”?Here's the truth: in order to succeed, you have to fail more. And you'll have problems either way—so why not live an awesome life? In this episode, Rachel & Greg break down the mindset and method they've used for 23+ years to make bold decisions, face fear, and move forward even when it's scary.You'll learn how to:Flip fear from a stop sign into a signal you're on the right pathUse the “exchange rate” test to decide if a dream is worth the priceShrink overwhelm with step-by-step moves (exposure in bite-sized reps)See how obstacles transform you into the person who can live your dreamAdopt the mantra: “I'll either find a way—or I'll make one.”Bottom line: your fears aren't facts. When you face them strategically, the “impossible” becomes doable—and your life expands.Key Takeaways✅ Overwhelm means growth is near, not that you should quit.✅ Problems are guaranteed; choose the ones that lead to an extraordinary life.✅ Exposure beats avoidance: tiny reps dissolve massive fears.✅ Decide by “exchange rate”: is the cost (work/problems) worth the outcome?✅ Identity shift: obstacles forge the person who can hold the life you want.Chapters00:00 Embracing the Sun: A Controversial Perspective01:09 The Catalyst for Extraordinary Living02:26 Overcoming Overwhelm: The Decision to Act04:17 Facing Challenges: The Path to Growth06:10 The Irony of Fear: Choosing a Boring Life08:39 Transforming Fear into Opportunity11:18 Breaking Through Barriers: The Edge of Comfort13:45 Processing Fear: A Journey of Growth15:29 The Power of Facing Fears20:41 The Importance of Awareness in Overcoming Fear24:05 Living Beyond Limits: The Flea AnalogyMemorable Quotes

Milana Vayntrub is BACK, folks... wait! Back??? That's right! We recorded an episode with Milana a few weeks ago that maybe got a bit TOO real for recorded media, especially for people with boundaries, but she's back and we still get into it! Now you know Milana from a ton of stuff including This Is Us, Silicon Valley and our personal favorites Werewolves Within and Outer Space, and on today's ep, we Milana plays therapist to us, but we then volley the therapeutic tennis ball back at her! We talk food issues, Family Systems, evil inner voices, having healthy self-esteem, being friends with her exes and SO MUCH MORE! PLUS, obvi, we answer YOUR advice questions! If you'd like to ask your own advice questions, call 323-524-7839 and leave a VM or just DM us on IG or Twitter!*Donate to displaced black families of the LA fires here* (Yes, still!)ALSO BUY A BRAND NEW CUTE AF "Open Your Hearts, Loosen Your Butts" mug! And:Support the show on Patreon (two extra exclusive episodes a month!) or gift someone a Patreon subscription! Or get yourself a t-shirt or a discounted Quarantine Crew shirt! And why not leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts? Or Spotify? It takes less than a minute! Follow the show on Instagram! Check out CT clips on YouTube!Plus some other stuff! Watch Naomi's Netflix half hour or Mythic Quest! Check out Andy's old casiopop band's lost album or his other podcast Beginnings!Theme song by the great Sammus! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send us a textEpisode 189: Why Strategies Aren't Enough to Heal Family Disconnection (And What Actually Works)Have you tried everything to fix your family—but nothing seems to work?You've read the books. You've followed the scripts. You've apologized, stayed calm, set boundaries… And you're still walking on eggshells.In this episode, Tina Gosney, Family Relationship Coach and expert in Bowen Family Systems Theory, explains why strategies and tools—while helpful—are not enough to heal deep family disconnection. And more importantly, she reveals what actually creates lasting transformation.You'll learn:The emotional and cultural trends affecting today's families (and why it's not just you)The real reason communication tips and parenting tools fall shortWhat inner transformation looks and feels like (and how others will experience it in you)Why differentiation of self is the missing key to restoring connectionHow to become the calm, grounded, emotionally mature leader your family needsThis is an eye-opening conversation for every mother who's tried to “fix” things but feels stuck in guilt, grief, or confusion. If you're ready to stop reacting and start leading—with compassion, confidence, and courage—this episode is your starting point.  Related Episodes:179 - Break the Cycle and Lead Your Family with Calm, Loving Energy and Personal Integrity187 – Stress – What Happens in Your Brain and Body and How to Stay Grounded180 – How Your Nervous System Shapes Reactions, Relationships, and Resilience. Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Dr. Fatimah Turner is a licensed clinical social worker and the founder of the Inner City Cafe in Orange, NJ. She completed her PhD in Family Science and Human Development at Montclair State University and has over 20 years of experience in social work, focusing on trauma, loss, and anxiety. Dr. Turner serves as a member of the Board of Education.https://www.instagram.com/innercitycafe/ https://theinnercitycafe.com/ https://www.instagram.com/diprimaradio/

Do you ever tell yourself you're just being “content” or “grateful”—when in reality you're actually settling for less than the life you truly want?In this powerful episode, Greg & Rachel Denning pull back the curtain on how false contentment quietly keeps parents stuck in unhappy routines—and why so many families end up living what they call an unhappy dream.You'll discover why true happiness doesn't come from removing desire, but from pursuing your best desires—and how embracing what we call “divine discontent” is the real catalyst for growth, joy, and lasting fulfillment.Instead of numbing out with distractions or convincing yourself you “should just be grateful,” you'll learn how to: - Raise your standards and stop tolerating mediocrity in your health, marriage, parenting, and personal growth- Recognize the difference between gratitude and complacency—and why confusing the two keeps you stuck- Do the inner work first so you can become the kind of parent and leader your kids want to follow- Pursue challenges instead of avoiding them so you build the strength and confidence you need to thrive -Create a family life you don't need to escape from—one filled with meaning, adventure, and joyIf you're ready to stop settling, face what's really holding you back, and design a life you genuinely love, this episode is your wake-up call.Key Takeaways✅ True happiness comes from pursuit, not from removing desire.✅ Divine discontent is healthy—stop tolerating what harms your life.✅ You teach who you are: do the inner work first, every day.✅ Swap “survive the day” for strategic focus + strategic disengagement.✅ Choose challenge over comfort to stay mentally and emotionally healthy.✅ Progress across six domains (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, social, financial).✅ If you don't like the outcome, raise your standards—then match them with action.✅ Use the power-tool approach (coaching, systems) to collapse time and results.✨ Memorable Quotes

Do you feel like your spouse won't change—no matter what you try?Have you been tolerating non-improvement and calling it “keeping the peace”?In this episode, Greg & Rachel Denning share a practical blueprint for creating real change in marriage—without nagging, power struggles, or giving ultimatums. You'll learn how to earn influence (instead of demanding it), build psychological safety so growth is possible, and use pattern interrupts to break the same old fights.They unpack why couples stall out—no shared vision, unresolved wounds, holes in the relationship “bucket,” and mixed signals that make one spouse armor up. You'll get specific tools to create safety, raise standards, and stop tolerating non-improvement—so your marriage actually gets better month by month.What we cover:- Why “it's okay to be wounded—but not to stay wounded.”- How to earn your spouse's attention & respect (and keep it).- Pattern interrupts that disarm conflict and reset connection.- The Bucket Test: plug the leaks killing motivation & desire.- Strategic praise (what to amplify so it multiplies).- The Shared Vision your marriage needs to stay motivated.- When one spouse levels up—and what to do if the other resists.- Tough talks done right: letters, timing, tone, and follow-through.Bottom line: In life, you get what you tolerate. Don't accept non-improvement. Use these tools to create safety, raise the standard, and build a marriage where both partners keep growing.

If you've ever felt like you're carrying the invisible weight of running both your home and your career, you're not alone. The mental load - the relentless planning, remembering, and anticipating that keeps family life moving - falls disproportionately on women, and it's leaving many of us exhausted, resentful, and stretched too thin. In this powerful episode, I'm joined by Dr. Kate Mangino, gender expert and author of Equal Partners, to uncover the truth about the mental load: what it really is, why it matters, and how we can begin to share it more equally at home. This isn't just about fairness - it's about creating the foundations for healthier relationships, happier families, and the space for working mums to truly thrive. More details: https://luminate-group.co.uk/podcast/169 Connect on LinkedIn Here  Follow on Instagram Here  Love the Wisdom For Working Mums Podcast? Let's take the conversation further. Subscribe for exclusive insights delivered straight to your inbox - designed to support you in leading with confidence and living with intention. 

Are you worried about your kids rebelling as teenagers?Do you ever wonder if your parenting style today is planting the seeds of future rebellion—or resilience?In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning tackle the controversial connection between “restaurant parenting” and teenage rebellion. They share why forcing your children to “behave perfectly” in public often backfires, and how double standards in parenting create resentment and distance that can last for decades.Instead, they reveal a better way: building congruence, fostering autonomy, and meeting your child's deepest needs for love, certainty, identity, and adventure. When you allow children to “act their age,” explain the why behind rules, and respect their growing independence, you prevent destructive rebellion and instead raise courageous, confident adults.This powerful conversation explores:Why unmet needs lead to rebellion (and how to meet them early)The difference between healthy vs. unhealthy rebellionHow giving your kids autonomy strengthens respect and influenceWhy congruence between public and private parenting matters mostHow to prevent resentment from turning into long-term rebellionThe secret to keeping influence with your kids as they grow into teens and adultsIf you want to raise teens who respect you, trust you, and stay connected—without power struggles, yelling, or forced obedience— this episode will shift the way you see rebellion forever.

Are you worried about how porn might be impacting your teen—or afraid to even bring up the conversation?Studies show that up to 90% of boys and young men are consuming porn, often starting as young as eight years old. And the truth is, it's not harmless. Porn rewires the brain, damages real-life relationships, distorts healthy sexuality, and fuels depression, anxiety, and disconnection.In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning break down the science, psychology, and social impact of porn use—and why parents must step up with courage, clarity, and compassion.We'll explore:

Is your teen struggling with anxiety, depression, or just staying motivated to get out of bed in the morning?Do you sometimes feel helpless watching them drift, while wishing you could guide them without controlling them?In this heartfelt conversation, we dive deep into the real reasons teens check out emotionally and mentally—and what you can do as a parent to help.From the science-backed truth that positive habits are the foundation of mental health to powerful strategies like state changes, pattern interrupts, and building strong parent-child connections, we share the tools that actually work.Whether your child is just entering the teen years or already struggling with disconnection, you'll walk away with clarity, hope, and practical steps to help your son or daughter thrive.Key Takeaways:✅ Why sleeping in and lack of motivation are symptoms of deeper issues✅ How to use positive habits to fight anxiety, depression, and hopelessness✅ Why prevention is easier than repair (and what to do if you're already in crisis)✅ How to shift from control to guidance so your teen actually chooses greatness✅ The difference between giving kids a “good life” vs. helping them build a meaningful life✅ Micro- and macro-dosing love, time, and mentorship so your kids feel connected and inspiredIf you're ready to stop drifting and start building stronger habits and deeper connections with your teens, this episode is for you.✨ Memorable Quotes

Beyond the Owner: How Family Systems Shape Successful ExitsInclusive planning, legacy thinking and trusted advisory teams drive long-term success.In this episode of the Exit Planning Coach Podcast with John F. Dini, family business expert Amy Wirtz shares powerful insights on how family dynamics, collaboration, and clear communication shape successful business transitions. Drawing from her background as a collaborative divorce attorney and senior consultant with the Family Business Consulting Group, Amy discusses the importance of listening first, educating owners on their options, and engaging the full family system—not just the founder. She offers real-world examples of navigating generational shifts, avoiding conflict, and building governance structures that support long-term success. Whether you're an advisor or a business owner, Amy's perspective will change how you think about planning for the future.

Do you ever feel like you have a "million dreams and not enough time" to chase them all? As a parent, the challenge is even greater—you want financial freedom, family adventures, strong relationships, better health, and so much more. But where do you even start?In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning share their 5-step process for choosing which dreams matter most right now. They reveal how to prioritize goals without sacrificing what matters most—your marriage, your kids, your health, and your peace of mind.Key Takeaways:✅ Write down and prioritize ALL your dreams✅ Balance ambition with family life✅ Follow intuition and interests as guideposts✅ Use urgency, energy, and alignment filters to choose what to pursue✅ Avoid the trap of sacrificing relationships for successWhether you dream of traveling the world, building a business, or creating a family legacy, this episode will help you gain clarity, simplify your focus, and start moving forward today.If you've ever asked, “Where do I start?”—this is the roadmap you've been looking for.✨ Memorable Quotes

Are your teen's habits building the future they want — or holding them back?Most parents focus on grades, test scores, and academic achievements, but the truth is… habits determine everything. From sleep to self-talk, from what we eat to how we think, our daily habits are literally the building blocks of our lives.In this episode, we share the foundational habits every teen should develop to create a life of happiness, success, and purpose — and why these skills are rarely taught in schools. You'll learn practical ways to help your teen replace destructive habits with empowering ones, create positive associations, and build a lifelong foundation for health, confidence, and achievement.Whether you're parenting a teenager now or preparing for the years ahead, this conversation will help you guide them toward a future they'll thank you for.

Everett Uhl - media contacts Site: Everett Uhl Therapy Email: euhl@committed-action.com Instagram @everettuhltherapy In this conversation, I interview Everett Uhl, a licensed marriage and family counselor, about her role as a therapist. We discuss the importance of authenticity in therapeutic practices, the need for action-oriented approaches, and some critiques of traditional therapy models, especially in relation to religious influences. I loved how Everett emphasized the significance of understanding human experiences in context rather than through rigid diagnoses, and of course, I'll always cheer on an advocate for integrating Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) into one's practice, with Everett combining it with the Bowen family systems approaches. A Few Highlights Authenticity in therapy fosters a genuine connection with clients. Therapy should empower clients to take action, not just vent. Understanding context is crucial for accurate diagnoses. Expectations of therapy should be realistic and not solely focused on validation. ACT encourages clients to make choices and move forward. Rigid definitions in Christian counseling can lead to harm. Secular therapy provides a safe space free from religious judgment. Therapists should be aware of their biases and dual relationships. The future of therapy should embrace flexibility and critical thinking. Chapters 00:00 From Conservation to Counseling: A Journey of Purpose 04:38 Therapeutic Approaches: Authenticity and Action 08:48 The Role of Therapy: Beyond Venting to Empowerment 12:46 Understanding Human Experience: Context Over Diagnosis 17:02 Critiquing Therapy: The Need for Realistic Expectations 21:25 Integrating ACT and Family Systems: A Holistic Approach 25:49 The Impact of Religion in Therapy: A Critical Perspective 30:18 Navigating Secular Therapy: A Personal Commitment 34:41 The Future of Therapy: Moving Beyond Rigid Models 39:24 Conclusion: Embracing Change in Therapeutic Practices

Are you tired of repeating yourself over and over, just to get your teen to do the simplest chores?Does it feel like every request turns into a negotiation—or worse, an argument?In this episode, we're revealing exactly how to get your teen to take responsibility for chores—without nagging, yelling, or bribing. As parents of seven, we've tested countless strategies, and this one works because it's built on privilege-based accountability—not power struggles.We'll show you how to replace daily battles with a clear system that motivates teens to follow through. You'll learn how to connect privileges (like screen time, outings, or car use) to personal responsibility, so your teen begins to self-manage—willingly.We'll also share why maintaining a strong relationship is essential to cooperation, and how the right approach can actually bring you closer to your teen while also building lifelong habits of responsibility.If you're ready to turn chore time from chaos to calm, this conversation will show you exactly how.

Are you tired of parenting by force, only to watch results fade?Did you know that long-term influence usually starts with emotional deposits—not immediate obedience?In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning sit down with friends to unpack the parenting strategy that transformed their home: choosing strategic empathy, trust-building, and persuasion over force and control.We dive into:Why influence matters more than obedienceHow to make daily emotional deposits that pay off laterTactful, creative strategies instead of reactionary disciplineThe subtle power of modeling—not manipulatingWhether you're in the parenting trenches or preparing for the teenage years ahead, this episode gives you tools to do the hard work once, so trust — not threats — becomes your default.Tune in if you're ready to raise thinking, self-directed children who WANT to do what's right—without prompting or power struggles.Key Takeaways✅ Influence beats force in the long run✅ Emotional deposits build trust and cooperation✅ Persuasion creates self-directed children✅ Strategic reflection prevents repetitive discipline✅ High standards don't need harshness to stand firmChapters:01:34 Unpacking Parenting Layers and Strategies02:38 The Importance of Long-Term Vision in Parenting03:37 Balancing Immediate Results with Long-Term Relationships04:26 Navigating Parenting Challenges with Creativity05:57 Building Emotional Bank Accounts with Children07:44 Proactive Parenting: Making Emotional Deposits09:13 The Impact of Travel on Family Relationships10:34 Finding Balance in Parenting Intensity12:00 Transformational vs. Transactional Interactions13:59 The Reward of Long-Term Parenting Investments16:00 Understanding Manipulation in Parenting16:37 Transitioning from Transactional to Relational Parenting18:06 Addressing Behavioral Issues with Connection18:51 Creating a Culture of Connection and Deposits19:46 The Importance of Individualized Strategies21:18 Long-Term Solutions Over Short-Term Fixes24:51 The Power of Influence and Persuasion in ParentingMemorable Quotes:

Separating myself physically, emotionally & mentally from my toxic family of origin was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I discuss: two mental health professionals who helped me do this—and they are FREE resources; the reasoning behind why this kind of separation is necessary for you to heal and thrive; and a story from my childhood that demonstrates this need for separation. I hope this episode helps you on your healing journey!

Are you noticing your teen struggling to move forward—still living at home, lacking motivation, or avoiding responsibility?Did you know failure to launch syndrome is becoming a silent epidemic, with many young adults unable to transition into independent, thriving adults?In this episode, Rachel and Greg unpack what failure to launch looks like, why it's happening—and most importantly—what you can do now to guide your child toward adult independence. Drawing on years of experience working with youth and young adults, they explore the common warning signs (low persistence, entitlement, lack of life skills) and reveal the actionable strategies that prevent the downward spiral before it's too late.This candid conversation is filled with practical advice: how to instill responsibility, help your child set meaningful goals, face challenges, and develop emotional maturity. Whether you're parenting a toddler or a teen, this episode equips you with tools to help your children not just survive—but truly launch into adulthood on their own terms.Tune in and take the steps that could make all the difference.

Are you frustrated by constant discipline battles with your kids? Do you feel like no matter what you try, the misbehavior just won't stop?What if the key to ending discipline problems isn't about punishments or timeouts — but about becoming a truly effective parent and mentor?In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning reveal why most parenting struggles come down to what you are doing — or not doing — as a parent. They share why discipline problems aren't really about your kids but about parenting skills and trust-building.You'll learn the powerful mindset shift that parenting is a specific skill you can learn and improve — just like tennis — and how building a foundation of trust prevents most discipline issues before they start.Discover how to stop draining your child's emotional bank account and start making deposits of love, attention, and understanding. This episode is packed with real-life insights and encouragement for parents ready to enjoy parenting and raise well-adjusted, confident kids.If you're ready to stop feeling overwhelmed by behavior battles and start creating a joyful family culture, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:✅ Discipline problems are caused by ineffective parenting, not kids.✅ Parenting is a skill you can learn and improve — no guilt needed.✅ Building trust daily is the foundation of influence and respect.✅ Emotional “withdrawals” from kids cause misbehavior; deposits fix it.✅ Meeting kids' needs prevents problems before they start.✅ Strong relationships reduce the need for discipline and conflict.Chapters:00:00 Why Most Parenting Problems Come From Ineffective Parenting05:15 Parenting Is a Skill You Can Learn—Like Tennis10:10 Building a Foundation of Trust Starts at Birth15:30 Emotional Bank Account: Stop Withdrawals, Make Deposits20:40 Meeting Your Child's Needs Prevents Misbehavior26:00 The Joy and Ease of Parenting When You Have the Right Skills30:00 Taking Responsibility to Create a Family LegacyMemorable Quotes:

Are you constantly battling with your child over decisions—like what they wear, eat, or how they spend their time? Do you worry they'll make bad choices if you give them too much freedom?In this candid conversation, we break down the art and science of teaching kids how to make their own decisions—while still keeping them safe, supported, and connected to you.The goal of parenting isn't to control your child's every move; it's to teach them how to think, how to choose, and how to handle the natural consequences of their decisions. But how do you do that without letting them fall off the proverbial cliff?In this episode, we reveal exactly how to balance freedom with boundaries, so your child can develop real-life decision-making skills without damaging your relationship in the process.Whether you're raising toddlers or teens, this episode will help you shift from a control-based parenting model to one focused on agency, connection, and life skills development.Key Takeaways:✅ Why letting kids make mistakes early prevents disasters later✅ How to avoid power struggles while still being a responsible parent✅ The difference between teaching and controlling—and why it matters✅ How to give your child more agency without letting go too soon✅ Why "passing the class" is our family's secret parenting frameworkMemorable Quotes:

Are you worried you're “not spiritual enough” to lead your kids in faith? Do you wonder if you've messed up too much to guide them in hearing God's voice?The truth is—you don't have to be perfect to raise spiritually confident kids.In this interview episode with Jen from Java With Jen, we have a candid conversation about hearing God's voice as a family—and why perfection is NOT a requirement for spiritual growth. We share how to create a home where prayer, repentance, and connection with God become normal everyday practices—even when you're still working through your own struggles.We also talk about why the attack on families is so fierce right now—and why raising spiritually resilient kids is the key to protecting them from today's cultural confusion and overwhelm.You'll discover how small habits like honesty, humility, and quick repentance clear the “airways” so you (and your kids) can hear God's guidance more clearly.If you're ready to build a family culture of faith without the pressure of perfectionism, this episode will encourage and equip you.Key Takeaways:✅ Why you don't have to be perfect to teach your kids to hear God's voice✅ How repentance clears the “spiritual airways” so you can hear better✅ Why family prayer will shape the next generation—and the world✅ How to overcome shame, regret, and feelings of disqualification✅ The role of moms (and dads!) in creating a faith-centered legacyChapters:00:00 Introduction to Parenting and Ministry03:45 Hearing God's Voice in Parenting06:42 Navigating Faith and Skepticism09:37 The Nuances of Hearing God's Voice12:19 Daily Practices for Spiritual Connection15:32 The Role of Mothers in Shaping Futures18:38 The Importance of Repentance and Forgiveness21:29 The Power of Family in Spiritual Growth24:24 Closing Thoughts and ResourcesMemorable Quotes:

Are you living life on your terms—or just checking the boxes of what you're “supposed” to do?Do you feel like you're sacrificing your family life balance just to keep up with society's expectations?In this episode, we unpack the bold decisions we made to opt out of the “normal” path—traditional jobs, mainstream schooling, and cultural pressure—and how those sacrifices led to a stronger, happier, and more united family.We're not promoting selfishness. We're advocating for intentionality. For living deliberately. For creating a family culture that nurtures emotional health, purpose, and joy.We talk about the hard choices, the personal growth it required, the sacrifices we made—and why we'd make them all over again.Whether you're a parent wondering if there's another way… or already on the path of designing your own extraordinary life… this episode will inspire you to ask better questions and bravely pursue the life you really want.

Is your husband avoiding intimacy... and you don't know why?In this raw and unfiltered conversation, we unpack four brutally honest reasons your husband may not want sex — and what it means for your marriage.Many wives silently wonder: "Why doesn't my husband want me anymore?" Whether you're emotionally connected (or not) but sexually distant, it can feel devastating. But the truth is, low libido in men is rarely just about sex. Often, it's a symptom of deeper issues—and understanding those issues is the first step toward rebuilding connection and passion.We discuss:How processed food is reducing libido in men and womenHow porn addiction secretly destroys sexual desire in marriage and creates SAD (sexual arousal dysfunction)Why adultery (emotional or physical) leads to disconnectionThe painful truth about emotional rejection and naggingWhat you may unknowingly be doing to repel your husband sexuallyWhy physical, emotional, and attitudinal attractiveness matter in marriageHow to reignite mutual desire through sacrifice, growth, and emotional maturityThis is not a blame game—it's a wake-up call. In this episode, we share tools, examples from our own life and our coaching clients, and real solutions to reignite sexual connection and strengthen your marriage.Sex in marriage isn't just about pleasure—it's about bonding, trust, and emotional safety. If you're ready to heal what's been broken, this episode is your starting point.Key Takeaways: ✅ Porn and hidden behavior destroy trust and attraction ✅ Adultery (emotional or physical) often hides in plain sight ✅ Attraction isn't just physical—emotional and mental habits matter ✅ Nagging, emotional drama, or a messy mindset can kill desire ✅ You can change your patterns and reignite connection—starting todayChapters: 00:00 The Holistic Nature of Parenting Includes Parents' Sexual Relationship05:31 Understanding Men's Low Sex Drive10:14 Health and Its Impact on Intimacy24:45 The Role of Pornography in Relationships32:35 Adultery and Its Consequences33:03 The Hidden Affairs: Emotional and Physical Distance in Relationships34:50 The Importance of Sexual Connection in Marriage38:25 Understanding Male Sexual Drive and Its Implications41:35 The Moral Responsibility of Intimacy in Marriage44:55 Attractiveness and Its Role in Marital Dynamics51:22 The Conditions of Love and Attraction55:57 Working with Reality: The Path to ImprovementMore Episodes About Sex:⁠#148 What Wives Need to Know About Husbands' (Sex Drive) and What Men Need to Understand About Themselves⁠⁠#150 The Sex-quel. Follow Up Sex Episode With Rachel Denning⁠⁠#151 What Husbands NEED to Know About Their Wives (sex & intimacy)⁠⁠#224 How (& WHY) to Have Sex 3-6 Times a Week EVEN with Kids, Businesses, Homeschool, Jobs, Activities, and More#253 SEX IS A NEED FOR AN EXTRAORDINARY MARRIAGE#268 I'M TIRED OF BEING A LONELY “ROOMMATE WITH BENEFITS” FOR MY HUSBAND#273 I'M TIRED OF BEING A ROOMMATE ‘WITHOUT BENEFITS' WITH MY WIFE! (AKA WHY WOMEN DON'T WANT SEX)#317 HOW SEXUAL FRUSTRATION (OR PORN) ARE CAUSING DAD'S TO BE GRUMPY & DISCONNECTEDRESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids - Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power Struggles (+ get THE CHECKLIST: Things We Do Every Day to Raise Well-Adjusted Kids)Rachel's ⁠⁠Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read Moms⁠⁠Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram: ⁠@worldschoolfamily⁠ or ⁠@greg.denning⁠Get Rachel's ⁠⁠Family Systems & Charts⁠⁠Join the Do More With Less Stress Workshop Series for busy momsBecome a Founding Member of our Extraordinary Parent Mentoring MethodJoin Greg's 7-Day Challenge JOIN GREG'S 90-DAY HEALTH & FITNESS CHALLENGE! Join the Formidable Family Man Masterclass and TribeGather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in PortugalRead our reviews here: https://podcast.extraordinaryfamilylife.com/reviews/

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk talks about family systems theory. (Intro)This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaJuly 13, 2016The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Una Archer joins me for a thoughtful conversation about how to help children feel safe, secure, and resilient in the face of their parents' separation or divorce.   Together we explore:   Why there's no one-size-fits-all approach to separation, even among siblings, and why tuning into each child's unique needs matters. What the Circle of Security framework is and how it can be used to support children's attachment during major family transitions. The three core emotional needs that children rely on to feel secure, and how parents can meet these needs in everyday moments (check the show notes for a helpful visual!). How to separate your own trauma and fears from your child's experience so you can truly see and respond to them without projection. Why allowing more time and slowness during transitions isn't a setback, but an important part of healing and connection. The power of rupture and repair in relationships and practical ways parents can engage in repair after conflict or misunderstanding. How different family structures after separation—sometimes two distinct family systems—can be healthy depending on what your family needs. Navigating the challenges of co-parenting, including managing handoffs and stepping back when it's not your parenting time.   If you're looking for compassionate, practical guidance on fostering secure attachment for your children through big changes, this conversation is full of insights and tools you won't want to miss!     LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:   https://www.helpyourchildthrive.co.uk/ The Separated Parent's Guide to Attachment: 3 Steps Towards Emotional Security      ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:  

Do you feel like you're losing connection with your teen—or worse, already have? You're not alone… but it doesn't have to be that way.In this powerful and honest episode, we share 6 strategic parenting techniques that have helped us raise mature, respectful, and emotionally healthy teens—without control, punishment, or endless conflict.If you're frustrated by moodiness, defiance, secretive behavior, or a lack of trust in your relationship with your teen, it might be because you're parenting on autopilot… using strategies that just don't work anymore.We unpack the REAL reasons why teens rebel, resist, or retreat—and why many parenting tactics like strict rules, forced obedience, or excessive control backfire (sometimes in heartbreaking ways).You'll learn how to:Recognize the warning signs of disconnection before they become rebellionBuild emotional capital and trust with your teen—without being permissiveEncourage better choices without controlling their every moveAvoid the #1 parenting myth that leads to resentment and disrespectUse strategy and vision to create a strong, lifelong bondEmpower your kids to make good decisions because they want to, not because they have toWhether you're deep in the teen years or just getting started, these techniques will help you raise responsible, confident, and connected kids—and build a family culture of mutual respect, freedom, and fun.

Are you wondering why your 18-year-old still acts like a teenager? Science confirms it—they're not fully adults yet. So how do you parent emerging adults ages 18–25 with wisdom, influence, and connection?In this powerful episode, we share the essential mindset and parenting strategies you need to guide your teens and young adults through their most formative and vulnerable years.We dive into why your role as a parent doesn't stop at 18—and why your influence matters even more during this critical “emerging adulthood” phase.Learn why respect must be earned (not assumed), why leveling up as a parent is non-negotiable, and how to stay connected while still holding high standards. We also unpack the difference between rigid rules and principled living, why exposure to the real world is crucial (not dangerous), and how to foster real-world readiness through honest conversation and example—not fear, shame, or control.Whether your child is making choices that don't align with your values, or just pulling away, this episode will equip you with the tools to respond with love, leadership, and lasting impact.This is your next level of parenting—and it's never too late to start.

Are you constantly feeling overwhelmed, irritated, or like you're just going through the motions of family life?Do you wish you could feel more joy, peace, and connection—but don't know how to actually get there in the midst of chores, tantrums, and to-do lists?In this episode, we share how to actually enjoy family life—even when it's hard, boring, or chaotic. We explore how being present—truly present—can radically transform your parenting and your emotional state. You'll learn how to stop “trying” to be calm or patient... and instead become calm and patient from the inside out—so you can raise happier, more resilient kids who feel safe, seen, and emotionally supported every day.We unpack how your emotional baseline affects your family culture, why pretending to be peaceful isn't enough, and how small daily habits like mindfulness, gratitude, and intentional action can raise your emotional thermostat.You'll also discover how to remove hidden emotional blocks and process negative feelings—so you can genuinely enjoy family life, even in the messy, mundane, or tough moments.This conversation is packed with practical strategies to help you shift from reactive and exhausted... to grounded, connected, and joyful.If you've been craving more daily joy and emotional peace, this episode is your roadmap.Key Takeaways:✅ Trying to be calm isn't the same as being calm—true peace comes from internal emotional regulation.✅ You can't fake joy, patience, or love—emotional authenticity is essential in parenting.✅ Your emotional baseline determines the overall tone of your family culture.✅ Unprocessed emotions run in the background and drain your energy—clearing them frees you to parent with joy.✅ Small habits like mindfulness, breathwork, and gratitude rewire your brain and raise your emotional thermostat.Chapters:00:00 The Essence of Happiness in Family Life02:24 The Struggle Between Doing and Being05:22 Modeling Joy for Children08:29 The Role of Triggers in Parenting11:13 Choosing Emotions in Daily Life13:59 Finding Joy in Everyday Chores17:09 The Impact of Environment on Happiness20:00 Teaching Children Through Example22:48 The Importance of Self-Control in Parenting26:03 Creating a Positive Family Dynamic30:31 Choosing Happiness: The Process of Emotional Management32:47 Understanding Neuroticism and Its Impact on Emotions35:27 The Power of Focus: Shifting Perspectives39:26 Transforming Daily Chores into Joyful Experiences43:11 Morning Routines: Setting the Tone for Positivity47:15 Processing Emotions: The Key to Emotional Freedom51:25 Authenticity in Parenting: The Importance of Genuine EmotionsMemorable Quotes:

Are the men in your home grumpy, disconnected, or hard to reach emotionally? Do you ever feel like there's a quiet tension simmering under the surface of your marriage?In this raw and honest conversation, we dive into how unmet sexual needs (and/or porn usage) —and a lack of emotional and physical connection—are contributing to frustration, moodiness, and even disconnection in marriage and family life.You might be surprised to learn that it's not just men who are feeling sexually frustrated—many women are too. And when this deep need for connection is unmet, it seeps into every area of life: parenting, partnership, communication, and even personal confidence.We explore how porn, masturbation, stress, and lack of emotional intimacy are silently sabotaging marriages—and how to rebuild connection, fulfillment, and joy through intentional effort and honest conversations.This episode is for couples who want more than just “getting by.” It's for those who want thriving, deeply connected, emotionally intelligent marriages that can handle the storms of family life and come out stronger.If you're ready to level up your relationship and break free from disconnection, this episode will give you practical, powerful tools to start healing and reconnecting—starting today.Key Takeaways:✅ Sexual frustration impacts your entire family dynamic✅ Porn and masturbation are damaging long-term intimacy✅ Women often want more & better sex—this is shifting✅ Great sex takes intention, health, emotional connection, and effort✅ You can't separate parenting and marriage—everything affects everything✅ Emotional intelligence is key to deeper connectionChapters:00:00 Introduction to Family Life Optimization02:58 The Interconnectedness of Life Aspects10:38 State Optimization for Better Parenting16:13 Understanding Sexual Needs in Relationships22:40 The Impact of Sexual Frustration on Family Dynamics28:34 Addressing Sexual Needs and Responsibilities37:56 The Importance of Hard Work in RelationshipsMemorable Quotes:

Are you tired of feeling stuck in the same frustrating patterns of family conflict?Do small arguments keep escalating, leaving you drained, defeated, or disconnected?In this empowering episode, we break down exactly how to step out of the Family Drama Triangle—the toxic cycle of victim, villain, and rescuer that silently sabotages your parenting, partnership, and peace.We share the 3 surprisingly simple steps that will help you break free from reactive patterns and create more calm, connection, and cooperation in your home—starting today.

Are you struggling with how to handle conflicts and tough behavior with your kids?Do consequences often feel harsh or ineffective, leaving your family stressed instead of connected?In this episode, we dive deep into using natural consequences as a powerful tool for conflict resolution in your family. Instead of punishments or power struggles, discover how fun yet impactful consequences can teach kids respect, empathy, and responsibility — all while strengthening your family bonds.Raising seven kids ourselves, we know how challenging sibling rivalry and hurtful words can be. We share real-life strategies that help kids own their mistakes, learn from them, and choose kindness next time — without resentment or fear.If you want to create a peaceful home where your children develop emotional intelligence and self-control, this episode is packed with practical, easy-to-implement ideas that truly work.Whether your kids are toddlers or teens, these natural consequence techniques will empower you to turn conflict into growth opportunities — with love, humor, and respect.Key Takeaways:✅ Natural consequences teach responsibility without harsh punishment✅ Opt-in consequences build cooperation and buy-in from kids✅ Fun, intense consequences leave lasting lessons without damage✅ Encouraging honesty and ownership defuses sibling conflict✅ Small intentional strategies transform family culture✅ Raising emotionally intelligent kids strengthens relationshipsChapters:00:00 Creating an Extraordinary Family Life02:19 Addressing Sibling Rivalry05:43 Healing Underlying Issues11:17 The Importance of Self-Reflection19:09 Tools for Emotional Mastery27:04 Noticing and Addressing Small Issues32:06 Practical Strategies for Conflict Resolution40:27 Navigating Sibling Conflicts45:27 Teaching Emotional Intelligence50:40 Calming Techniques for Heated Moments56:02 Addressing Annoying Behaviors01:01:08 Promoting Personal Responsibility01:06:08 Building Perspective on Family Dynamics01:11:31 Handling Name-Calling and Insults01:21:12 Building Resilience in Children01:22:59 Parental Responsibility and Empowerment01:25:19 Emotional Bank Accounts in Sibling Relationships01:26:14 Understanding Fairness in Family Dynamics01:28:59 Teaching Fairness and Sharing01:32:32 Addressing Physical Aggression in Children01:39:49 The Importance of Accountability and Consequences01:49:35 Fostering Ownership and Responsibility01:51:30 Eliminating Jealousy and Competition01:53:46 Standing Up Against Bullying01:59:24 Creating an Extraordinary Family LifeMemorable Quotes:

Are you and your spouse constantly disagreeing about HOW to best parent your children?Are you wondering if one (or both) of your parenting styles is hurting your child's emotional growth?And if so, what do you do about it, especially when you disagree so adamantly?In this episode, we unpack the subtle but powerful effects that parenting styles have on children's development—especially when it comes to raising resilient, well-adjusted kids. Many parents unknowingly adopt habits that hold their families back from true emotional health and connection.Parenting is a daily practice of small choices, and understanding which styles promote emotional intelligence, confidence, and independence can transform your family life.Join us as we share the key things we NEVER do as parents of 7 children, and how those ‘never-dos' have shaped a positive, loving family culture where kids learn to thrive.You'll hear practical advice on:How authoritative parenting builds self-worthWhy harsh or inconsistent discipline backfiresThe dangers of sarcasm and negative languageCreating open, honest communication at every ageBalancing boundaries with empathy and loveIf you want to upgrade your parenting approach and create a nurturing environment where your kids feel safe to grow emotionally, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:✅ Different parenting styles have lasting effects on your child's emotional and social development✅ Authoritative parenting fosters resilience and healthy boundaries✅ Avoid sarcasm, harshness, and inconsistent discipline to build trust✅ Emotional intelligence starts with authentic, open communication✅ Small ‘never-dos' can prevent big problems down the roadChapters:00:00 Parenting from the Same Page06:41 The Importance of Communication in Parenting13:12 Navigating Parenting Styles24:08 Understanding Parenting Approaches31:13 The Four Parenting Philosophies43:16 The Pitfalls of Authoritarian Parenting46:00 Understanding Permissive Parenting51:39 The Consequences of Neglectful Parenting58:31 The Gold Standard: Authoritative Parenting01:11:03 Getting on the Same Page as Parents01:25:51 The Journey of Personal Development in ParentingMemorable Quotes:

Do your kids struggle with tantrums, power struggles, or emotional meltdowns—and you're not sure how to stop the cycle without yelling or harsh discipline?After posting on Instagram about how we raised our 7 kids without yelling, punishments, or power struggles, we received so much interest and questions from parents wanting to know—is it really possible?Yes, it is—and in this episode, we share exactly how we did it.Raising emotionally healthy, well-adjusted kids starts with creating a strong foundation of love, trust, and connection. In this conversation, we unpack the specific things we never do as parents, and why avoiding them has helped our children become confident, competent, and emotionally resilient.From mockery and sarcasm to yelling, punishments, and ignoring big feelings—these parenting pitfalls actually increase misbehavior, power struggles, and emotional shutdown.We also share personal stories—including a controversial ocean swim encounter—that demonstrate how pushing limits (safely and intentionally) builds competence, confidence, and calm under pressure—for kids and adults.Whether you're parenting toddlers or teens, these insights will help you shift your mindset and methods to raise kids who thrive without tantrums, yelling, or power struggles.Key Takeaways:✅ Strong attachment = strong self-worth✅ Small emotional habits shape your child's future✅ Sarcasm erodes trust—kindness builds connection✅ Harshness leads to fragility and misbehavior✅ Family culture and personal growth go hand in hand✅ Confidence comes from challenge, not comfortChapters:00:00 Raising Well-Adjusted Kids on the Move10:39 Understanding Tantrums and Yelling15:45 Prioritizing Connection Over Correction27:41 Investing Time for Long-Term Benefits29:25 The Importance of Connection Over Correction31:15 Understanding the Desire for Connection33:03 The Impact of Parental Engagement35:27 Recognizing Attachment Issues37:10 Daily Intentional Connection39:04 Behavior as a Symptom, Not the Problem41:24 Going to the Root Cause of Behavior43:41 The Investment in Parenting Knowledge47:37 Clarifying Expectations in Parenting50:27 Engaging in Clear Communication53:40 Encouraging Dialogue for Clarity01:00:08 Natural Consequences and Child Empowerment01:06:14 Establishing Family Systems for Smooth Parenting01:12:53 Emotional Co-Regulation in Parenting01:21:33 Building Resilience Through Connection and ChallengeMemorable Quotes:

As humans, we have an immense capacity for love and wisdom, with the power to be a source of light in the world. However, often due to trauma and other challenging experiences, we may develop patterns and create stories that might not be fully true, but end up holding us back from accessing our inner light. Exploring a concept known as the human energy consciousness field may offer insights that can help us transfigure these patterns and achieve mental, emotional, and physical healing. As an expert on the human energy field and the healing sciences, Donna Evans Strauss currently serves on the Board and is the Dean of Year Two Studies at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing in Florida and Japan. Donna also created the Brennan Integration Practitioner Program, which is a master's degree, two-year supervisory program specializing in psycho-energetic healing methods. Her other certifications include Pathwork Helper, Past Life Therapy, Psychodrama training, and Family Systems training. Donna is the author of “Blessings from a Thousand Generations: What Our Biblical Ancestors Can Teach Us About Healing Our Families Today” and “Explore the Mysteries of The Cosmos ESP and the Human Biofield.” In Episode 232 of The Mindset Game® podcast, Donna shares the following: An overview of the human energy consciousness field and the four dimensions of humankind: the physical, the aura, the hara, and the core star The importance of trust – one of the 7 divine qualities – as well as a meditative exercise designed to foster trust in yourself and others Why finding balance amidst the polarities within yourself is crucial for healing To learn more about Donna and access her books and other resources, visit https://donnaevansstrauss.com.  To learn more about The Mindset Game® podcast, visit www.TheMindsetGame.com. To subscribe to The Mindset Game® podcast or leave a review, please visit https://apple.co/3oAnR8I. 

In this video, I interview fellow YouTuber and Family Systems expert Jerry Wise. He has a deep background in counseling and marriage and family therapy. Now he's on YouTube teaching people how they can separate themselves from the "WiFi" of their families -- this is the pull, the ethos and the nervous system chatter of their family of origin. He teaches about the "family super self," and the "umbilical cord" that connects it to each member of a dysfunctional family. Learn from Jerry how you can separate and differentiate yourself, and become more fully yourself. Eleven Strategies to Feel Happier Today: FREE PDF Download: https://bit.ly/3Z5ynbf