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Today Alex discusses the concept of self-esteem; including core components of self-esteem, how poor self-esteem can affect your life and how people's self-esteem becomes disrupted through the lens of different psychological theories. We also discuss different interventions one could consider to improve their self-esteem, any why good self-esteem is essential for a successful life. Further reading:The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel BrandenNeurosis and Human Growth by Karen HorneyOn Becoming a Person by Carl RogersGestalt therapy – excitement and growth of the human personality by PerlsHefferline, GoodmanGames people Play by Eric BerneI'm OK - you're OK by Thomas HarrisAudio-essay by Dr. Alex Curmi. Dr. Alex is a consultant psychiatrist and a UKCP registered psychotherapist in-training.If you would like to invite Alex to speak at your organisation please email alexcurmitherapy@gmail.com with "Speaking Enquiry" in the subject line.Alex is not currently taking on new psychotherapy clients, if you are interested in working with Alex for focused behaviour change coaching , you can email - alexcurmitherapy@gmail.com with "Coaching" in the subject line.Give feedback here - thinkingmindpodcast@gmail.com - Follow us here: Twitter @thinkingmindpod Instagram @thinkingmindpodcast Tiktok @thinking.mind.podcast
What makes failure one of the most crucial experiences in our daily lives? How can viewing failure as a path to growth transform our mindset? Why is it essential to embrace failure as a stepping stone rather than a setback? And how does the act of rising after failure shape resilience and personal success?Join me and find out!Hope you enjoy and if you like my content, drop me a follow and find me on Instagram @stoicspirituality, Tiktok @stoicspirituality, and Youtube @stoicspiritualityFind my other podcast episodes and platforms here: https://rss.com/podcasts/stoicspirituality/If you would like one-on-one mindset coaching, schedule a sample session with me:https://calendly.com/stoicspiritualitylifecoaching/sample-session?month=2023-04
Bob Wright is an Illinois guy through and through. He grew up just outside of Chicago. Interestingly enough, he decided much of Psychology was balderdash until he spent time in France. He will tell you this fascinating story. After returning to the states, he took up the subject for some of his Master's Degree work and then beyond. Although he didn't say it in so many words, once he began truly delving into Psychology, he was quite hooked and made aspects of it his career. He has been coaching for more than 40 years. He also understands sales and led his first sales course in 1981 for a part of Prudential Insurance where he vastly improved the performance of the group. Bob and I have quite the conversation as you will see. He even analyzes me a bit. We agreed that we will have a second episode later, but first, I will have the opportunity to talk with his wife, Judith, who is deeply involved with Bob's work at all levels. Stay tuned. About the Guest: Bob Wright is an internationally recognized speaker, author, and educator. He's a cutting-edge thinker, called upon by top leaders across the country. He coaches Fortune-level CEOS from coast to coast, as well as entrepreneurs. Part of what Bob loves is hitting every level, people that want to make a difference, people who are movers and shakers in the world, that's where his sweet spot is. In fact, he was called one of the top executive coaches by Crain's Chicago business. He led his first sales course in 1981 for Prudential Insurance, for a division of the organization that was ranked 200th out of 2000 nationally—within a month, they shot up to #16. He is also a dynamic entrepreneur who has founded several successful businesses His first venture, Human Effectiveness, was ranked tops in the country by the Mercer, as well as Arthur Andersen. He sold that business in 1994 to focus on consciousness, maximizing human performance, and the fulfillment of human potential. He has sold to Fortune level companies from coast to coast, has managed his own sales force, and was one of the first people in the country to develop a Neurolinguistic Programming Training for sales professionals. Likewise, he is the developer of The Wright Model of Human Growth and Development that we will work with this evening. This is a distinct opportunity to learn some concepts from a master who actually developed this and has helped numerous worked with it over time. Highly respected by major business figures – he has coached and trained leaders who have risen to national prominence in the areas of finance, technology, retirement, economics, compensation, governance, and the list goes on and on. Bob has trained and supported hundreds of sale professionals to higher levels of performance and satisfaction. It is common for people he supports to triple and even quintuple income while learning to have greater satisfaction and fulfillment in all areas of their lives. His cutting edge approach to selling is empowered by his revolutionary integrative model of human growth and development. Sales people he coaches find themselves enjoying life more, and succeed even in down markets. The people that he has coached and trained over these years are movers and shakers making a major difference in the world today. Ways to connect with Bob: drbobwright@judithandbob.com https://drbobwright.com/ About the Host: Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog. Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children's Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. He is Ambassador for the National Braille Literacy Campaign for the National Federation of the Blind and also serves as Ambassador for the American Humane Association's 2012 Hero Dog Awards. https://michaelhingson.com https://www.facebook.com/michael.hingson.author.speaker/ https://twitter.com/mhingson https://www.youtube.com/user/mhingson https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelhingson/ accessiBe Links https://accessibe.com/ https://www.youtube.com/c/accessiBe https://www.linkedin.com/company/accessibe/mycompany/ https://www.facebook.com/accessibe/ Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! 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Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us. Michael Hingson ** 01:21 Well, hi, welcome once again to unstoppable mindset. We're glad you're here I am your host, Mike hingson. And today we get to talk with Dr. Bob Wright. Bob is by any standard and entrepreneur and I would say very much an unstoppable one. He has started and, and sold many businesses in his life. He actually conducted his first sales course with a division of Prudential insurance in 1981. Now we're starting to pin down his age. And he he made that division go and sales from number 200 In a few weeks to number 16. I liked that. Having been in sales, a lot of my adult life. He loves to coach CEOs and entrepreneurs. And we'll find out what else So Bob, welcome to unstoppable mindset. We're really glad you're here. Dr. Bob Wright ** 02:13 Thank you so much, Michael, I'm looking forward to talking with you. Michael Hingson ** 02:18 Well, I really appreciate you taking the time to do this. And as I said, we got to have fun doing it. So I think we'll we'll do that. Tell us a bit about tell us a little bit about the early Bob, you know, growing up and all that sort of stuff that sort of shaped where you went and where you have gone in life? Dr. Bob Wright ** 02:37 Well, yeah, I was the almost the ultimate good boy. Everything My mom wanted me to be going through high school and then college begin throwing some monkey wrenches in the story. And it wasn't until my sophomore year of college when I went to Germany. And I discovered that the narrow world of wooddale, Illinois was far from all that was the world and that the values I learned there were the only values were not the only values in the world. And it was like this. Consciousness shock. Michael Hingson ** 03:17 What a concept, right? Yeah. Dr. Bob Wright ** 03:19 Now where's wooddale? West of O'Hare. Back in the days when Midway was the busiest airport in the world. Yeah, we're about 15 miles west of O'Hare. Michael Hingson ** 03:30 I have relatives in Genoa and DeKalb. So, and I was born in Chicago, so I'm a little bit familiar with the area, but I don't think I've been to wooddale Dr. Bob Wright ** 03:41 Oh, you've probably been through it if you know, Park Road. Yeah, Michael Hingson ** 03:45 I might have very well been through it. Well, I live for my first five years on the south side of Chicago 5017 Union, and it's changed a lot since we moved in 1955. So that's okay, though. Things do need to change. It makes it makes for an interesting world otherwise, so where did you go to college? Dr. Bob Wright ** 04:06 Oh, well, I started at Lawrence in Appleton, Wisconsin. Ah, I went to school in Germany. Left Lawrence came back to the quarter at the College of DuPage. west of Chicago, graduated with my bachelor's from the University of Illinois, Chicago in sociology, because that was the subject that gave me the most credits and everything else I had done in my life. And so then I went to school, in in, in France after that, and that blew my mind even further. I mean, just horrendously drew mind blew my mind even further. Because I was always looking for what I thought of as ultimate truth. And the French experience just was the mind blowing, launch in some ways of my, my my life Michael Hingson ** 05:04 a lot different than even Germany, right? Well, it was different Dr. Bob Wright ** 05:08 than Germany and I had a database. The irony is that I'm in something that people think of as psychology, positive psychology, performance psychology, I think of it as my research in my life work as optimizing adult development. And going into high school, there was this really, you know, good counselor, we thought that my friends went to see. And I was already kind of against counselors because the the social worker and the grade school my mom's friend, and she would be sitting in our kitchen crying in our coffee about boyfriends every Saturday morning. And so I was going already these people are pretty darn weird. But my friends start seeing this woman, and and she starts telling these best, brightest kids in high school that they're latent ly suicidal. And they go, Whoa, this is really sick. Oh, stuff. And so then I was rapidly against psychology. Now, the rest of that story that is public domain, is there a husband was this guidance counselor down the road, Irving Park Road, another 20 some odd miles at Lake Park High School, they were a murder suicide. He boy, so that's nailed down my assumption. This is all inland as sickos know, I'm in school in France, and I'm going to study phenomenology. But my in six months, my French wasn't good enough to understand philosophy classes. So I ended up taking psychology classes, I could understand them. They were an English, that got me into group dynamics, which led to the rest of the story that I have discovered, there are well Valid Elements of psychology. And it is really the people not the discipline. That was the problem back then. So Michael Hingson ** 07:07 they weren't all just sickos after all? I Dr. Bob Wright ** 07:11 don't think so. Either that or you joined the ranks? No, no, no, not at all. But the profession in search of validity for a long time, right, so profoundly insecure? Well, it's Michael Hingson ** 07:23 a it's a tough subject, because a lot of it is is so I'm not quite sure how to describe it. It's so nebulous, it's so much that you can't really just pin it down and define it. You're dealing with emotions, you're dealing with people's attitudes, and so on. And that's really pretty nebulous, it's really kind of hard to just define it in so many words. Yeah, Dr. Bob Wright ** 07:51 if we don't go to human experience, then we'd have nothing. But you've got to figure back in the 50s and 60s and 70s, the humanistic psychology movement was transforming businesses, or Life magazine had an issue that said, sooner or later, everybody's going to be an encounter group at their church or somewhere else. And so what what happened was, they still never tied that up to performance. And so you fast forward, and you get a guy named Goldman who bring in Oh, psychology, so wanted to be as science. And he starts out with positive psychology. He denies everything before, which is just absolutely not true. He and I are similar ages, and we grew up breathing those things. But positive psychology now has a deep research base that is becoming less and less nebulous, whether it's the emotional part with Frederick SENS Research, or his his part with other positive psychology research. So it's kind of cool, what's happening. And it just, unfortunately, doesn't include what happened before because it was so thoroughly attacked. Michael Hingson ** 08:58 Well, and it's, it's an evolutionary process, right. Yeah, you got it. Yeah. Which is, which is exactly the issue. And that's, that's true of a lot of sciences. I mean, we can go back and look at physics and look at any any of the sciences and they've evolved over the years for a long time, classical mechanics, was it everything fit Newtonian law, but then we discovered that well, it's not quite that way, especially when you get closer to the speed of light. A lot of things change, but also, attitudes and philosophies of of sciences have have changed. So what you're saying certainly is no surprise, psychology as a science, social science or whatever, is still a pretty new science by comparison. So you're Dr. Bob Wright ** 09:47 obviously a science guy more than I knew. And so, did you read Boones structures of Scientific Revolutions a long time ago. So that is where the term is. Trent was a sap perspective transformation, a new paradigm. That's yeah, he coined the term paradigm as we use it today. And he's in particular talking about the disconnect between Newtonian physics and einsteinium physics. And that gets us down to all the different paradigms, because a paradigm is a shift in knowledge. And the paradigm that psychology is wrestling with, is the shift from pathology and problems to potential and realizing making real our potential. Right. Michael Hingson ** 10:35 And again, still, that is a harder thing to quantify them what you can do with a lot of physics, we also know that Einsteinian physics doesn't go far enough, but it's what we know, or what we have known. And again, we're evolving, but in the case of what you're talking about, it's a lot harder to pin down and put an exact number two, which is what also makes it a little bit more of a challenge. And we need to learn better how to define that, and communicate it as we move forward. Dr. Bob Wright ** 11:03 Well, you know, that's the bind of pure research, but I've got a slightly different perspective on this. So what we measure our success against is the total quality of somebody's life, their relationships, their work, their personal concept, and their spiritual and their service to our world. And so in our work, now, our foundation is closing down in December, sadly, because we didn't survive COVID. But we had more than 90% of our students felt that they were living with a higher sense of purpose and spiritual integration. They tended to make more money by 30% or more in the first year of working with us. And and the divorce rate in our advanced couples was under 4%. And in the entire school, was under 9%. The last time we took a survey on that. So when if you've got the elements that typical markers of a quality of life, looking there, and they their self esteem was higher, people gave them comments that they looked better, and even commented to a lot of them that they look younger. So if you take those variables, we're now starting to find something for which everyone is reaching, whether it's better relationship, more money, more career fulfillment, or more contribution to the world, we help you be more you. And our core assumption is, then you will automatically grow in all those areas, the mistake so many disciplines make is they forget that the core element of that entire formula is the individual. And if we can help the individual optimize their self them themselves, then they are going to automatically begin shifting how they operate in those areas and get stronger and stronger in directions that are more satisfying, fulfilling, fulfilling and contributory to our world. By Michael Hingson ** 12:52 definition. Yeah. 12:54 Isn't that cool? Michael Hingson ** 12:55 Which makes a lot of sense. Well, some for you. You went on and got a doctorate and so on. But when you when you started coaching, I guess really the question is what got you into the whole environment of applied integrative psychology and coaching? What what really got you there? Okay, Dr. Bob Wright ** 13:16 so, remember, we have a totally anti psychology, right? I have a taste of what we called existential psychology and group dynamics in France. So when I came back from France, I looked for the strongest program to get more training. And it was training in, in all the existential application of Gestalt transactional analysis. And the various body works and things of the time. And I studied those, I became a trainer in those. And it was wonderful to watch people learn and grow. But you still couldn't make a lot of money that way. So I went back to school and got an MSW and I, my goal was to be a therapist, therapist, and my partner Bob Kaufman was my supervisor and my MSW. And we built a business called human effectiveness. And by the mid 80s, we were doing 300 services a week, a third of whom were psychology types. And, and so that was my retirement goal. And in addition to that, we were leading in a lot of ways in what was called employee assistance and manage psychiatric care. And we were doing consulting and training, which is where you heard the story about Prudential. And so that was kind of the way to make money doing it and get licensed because I knew I was good at helping people and I just wanted the easiest and quickest license to get and that was an MSW Michael Hingson ** 14:49 said then you got that and what did you do? Dr. Bob Wright ** 14:51 So human effectiveness was our was our business from the 1979 To 1994. Michael Hingson ** 15:02 And that was a business you started human effectiveness. Yeah. And Dr. Bob Wright ** 15:05 so we had a very unique model of therapy using individual and group off of what Bob postle called contemporary Adlerian. Therapy. And we developed that more and more and more. And we started getting higher and higher functioning clients. And our clients were moving way beyond the therapy ideal. Their lives were taking off in all the areas we've discussed. And we started that we're doing well, in 82, we hired a PhD, you have to be dissertation approved, PhD from Yale, they had him start doing consumer research, found out that people loved what they were getting one time, near the mid 80s, I had a two year waiting list. And so when we asked our clients what was going on, and they said, We love it, but you're not telling us everything they wanted to know. And my first master's, which was in communications, was helping people in a psychiatric hospital, oriented to that psychiatric hospital. And so, what what, I've always been a consumer guy, and so we started putting together seminars to help our clients understand what was going on. So that changed our model, from individual group to seminars to training them, we did more and more research and they kept telling us more and more of what they wanted. So the model eventually, included Alfred Adler, existential developmental Albert Adler's areas of life, existential principles, and developmental levels, all in an axis of consciousness, helping people grow their consciousness, awareness and responsibility in life. And so those seminars were training people, many of whom could analyze their own life situation and strategize better than licensed psychologist. So we begin, we begin going, why why aren't people getting credit for this. So that's why we started graduate school on the road. And I left the therapy metaphor in 91. We started working towards developing our model in our seminars to be more and more effective with Judith in 9495, which led to the right foundation for the realization of human potential, and the right graduate university for the realization of human potential, offering master's and doctoral degrees in transformational leadership and coaching. We even got an MBA credited. Now that is, now that the foundation is closing down at Maharishi University in Iowa. So the program goes on. But the foundation is no longer running Michael Hingson ** 17:40 it. And Judith is Dr. Bob Wright ** 17:43 Judith and I are stepping into what we think is our ultimate mission is couples, couples, and helping people come become more conscious, responsible, satisfied in service filled couples. And so we're kicking that off in January. Michael Hingson ** 17:58 And how long have you guys been together? Dr. Bob Wright ** 18:02 We got married in 81. So it's 42 years or two years? Yeah. Wow. Michael Hingson ** 18:08 Well, you have beat Karen and me by a year. But as I think I told you, she passed away last year. So we were married for two years and loved it and lots of memories. But I can appreciate the fact that you guys have made it work. And you've also worked together, which is as good as it gets. Yeah, Dr. Bob Wright ** 18:28 so so the last two books we've written together, and to understand so the last book is called battling to Bliss. The couple's Guide to 15 Common fights, what they really mean how they can bring you closer. So our previous book called transformed. We had one paragraph as we were driving back from Texas to Illinois, that we fought over for probably an hour. And Judith has this wonderful mind. And I just, I'm the one that pushes things to get done. So I said that that sentence is good enough. She says, No, that sentence doesn't work with this. I'm going to come on down it. So she wins that sentence. And she wins. She ended up winning all four sentences. But I ended up winning and moving on. So movement is more my specialty and accuracy and depth is well we both do depth is Judith. So battling to Bliss is really about people people think fights are a problem. They don't understand fights are a symptom that you're dealing in, that you're working on becoming a better stronger couple together. Michael Hingson ** 19:36 Yeah, and so there's nothing wrong with disagreeing as long as you eventually work together and recognize what you're doing and need to do. So. You're both one which is what it's really all about. Dr. Bob Wright ** 19:50 Amen. You got it. So you develop Michael Hingson ** 19:54 this thing you call the right model of human growth and development. And that's I guess what you're basically alluding to in the early 1990s? Well, I actually Dr. Bob Wright ** 20:05 had Scott started with that research in 1982. And it developed. So the first thing we did was help people vision. Now, the work from Dr. Boyd says that Case Western is that vision is way more important than goals. So we'd have people write a vision in seven areas of life and measure their progress against that every four months. And they go, Wow, man, we're growing twice as fast. But you're still not telling us everything. We said? Well, the truth of the matter is, we think of you developmentally and we're seeking to help you develop in ways that you didn't get developed are all like plants that never got perfect nourishment. And we're helping you fill in those things. And so that led to a developmental axis of consciousness for them. And then we did another round of research. And they said, we're still not telling you said anything. We said, Well, the truth of the matter is, we're existentialists. And we, we just think if you're fully present in here, now you'll learn you'll grow, and you'll become the best you you can become. And so that brought in an existential aspect about the here and now, people engaging. And it's all driven by what we call the assignment way of living, which was started by Bob postal, who was part of the Alfred Adler Institute in Chicago back in the 1970s. Michael Hingson ** 21:24 Okay, so but you developed it, and is that what you use in the the coaching that you did? And that you do? Dr. Bob Wright ** 21:33 That? Absolutely. I'm working with. I'm working with an attorney who's shifting professions now, from law to coaching. And so what I do periodically is help her understand when she has a win. How did that win, take her on a step forward in her development, and then I help her understand how that win actually can be leveraged if she will have the discipline to keep doing it. Most. There's a thing called neuroplasticity. And most of the world is a little bit over in love with it. Because thinking oh, yeah, we can automatically change No, it takes 1000s of repetitions. So help her understand a vision of what it's going to mean to consistently redo that way of doing things. She challenges unconscious limiting beliefs, because our program was pretty much done by age seven, we are living out a self fulfilling prophecy off of our early programming. If we don't do things to transform, we can learn and grow. But transforming is the challenge. Michael Hingson ** 22:39 Yeah, so what's the difference between growth and transforming? Dr. Bob Wright ** 22:45 We're working on that for the founder of an incredible Japanese coaching group called coach a and his name is Ito son. And, and so learning is knowing something I didn't know before. Growing is doing something I've never done before. But in Judas research, the people who are in touch with their deeper yearning, engage more, and they learn more, it reveals to them regulating their limiting beliefs and their skill deficits. And it also causes them to share with other people that causes them to begin challenging their limiting beliefs. And so learning and growing can be yearning, it can be learned, knowing things and doing things who would have never done we call that liberating. When you're doing things you never would have done. Transforming requires that you pray that you that you strategically do new things in the direction that will consistently challenge some of your unconscious limiting patterns. If you think about what we have our neural pathways imagine we have a neural highway. And everything we do runs along that neural highway. But we want to cut a take a shorter road from Highway A to highway B. So we go into the jungle. Well, we get into the jungle halfway and we look back, we can't even see where we've gone. To get to highway B, we may get to highway B, but we will find out how to get back to Highway A. So we're still going to be doing the same thing. So we the first level of of as we think about it of transformation, neuro transformation is going back and forth along that path enough that we can see where we've been and we can repeat it. Then we have to widen that path. And we have to turn it into a well trodden path. And eventually if it becomes a superhighway, we have transformed and we are doing things that we never could have done before. Michael Hingson ** 24:49 How do you get people to really overcome their limiting beliefs what what is it that you do as a coach that brings people maybe To that aha moment, and maybe it isn't quite so dramatic, maybe it isn't that at all, but it's more subtle, but how do you get people to the point where they recognize, oh, maybe it's not really quite what we thought, because not everybody's gonna go to France. Okay, Dr. Bob Wright ** 25:16 so first of all, none of us has ever done. So I'm still dealing with my own limiting beliefs, and, and building new neural pathways the same way. But there's a way we start is what we call an Adlerian Lifestyle Analysis, Alfred Adler helped people understand there are perceptions, the unconscious beliefs that guide us, we have empowering our perceptions, limiting beliefs, empowering beliefs, that we we have limiting beliefs is our language for the limiting perceptions in Adlerian terms. And so when we understand that most of those were installed, by the time we were seven, we can do a lifetime and Adlerian lifestyle analysis that will help you understand your early programming in a way that can empower your growth the rest of your life or inform your growth the rest of your life and your learning and ultimate transformation. Michael Hingson ** 26:15 Okay, and how do people perceive that? Dr. Bob Wright ** 26:21 Well, the first time I experienced it was in front of a room of maybe 50 therapists. And it was a demonstration by Bob postal, the Adlerian, I mentioned. And I went up front. And in about 1510 minutes, I'm bawling my eyes out, as he's basically telling me my life story in ways that were profoundly true that I had never imagined. And most, most people except the most defensive, are blown away, that it can be that easily accessed. Michael Hingson ** 26:54 So, alright, so he, he demonstrated that he knew you better than you thought he knew you and perhaps better than you knew yourself, then what? Dr. Bob Wright ** 27:05 Well, first of all, he called it like mind reading. And it's what it feels like it feels like he's talking to somebody who's doing mind reading, and Bob postal it, boiled it down to like seven questions. Your birth order is super important in how you look for affection and affirmation in life. If you're the firstborn, did you win? Did you maintain what Adler called a position of primacy? Or were you overrun by a second, third or fourth born? In which case, that's a terrible blow to your self esteem? And so, how we negotiate birth order is probably the most important element of that. And then there are other elements, like who was mom's favorite? Who was dad's favorite? And we get everybody you know, most 90 90% of people say, Oh, no, my mom and dad, they were equal. That's absolute horse manure. And so what we get to that by is who is most like dad, who was most like, mom? And if you were in the zoo, walking and looking at things who would mom who would be holding Mom's hand and who would be holding Dad's hand? And then once we get to larger families, it gets even more complex? Michael Hingson ** 28:15 How do you deal with that? And I asked that, knowing that in my family, of course, I was blind, I was the second child. And I think my brother always felt like he wasn't quite as well received, even though he was two years older. But in reality, when I look back on it, what my parents did was really worked, not to show favoritism, but they did have to do things differently with me than they did with him because he could see, and I didn't, but I think they really worked at it. But I think his perception always was that he wasn't the favorite, even though that I don't think that really was the case as I sit and analyze it even now. Dr. Bob Wright ** 29:03 Well, you know, he may not have been wrong. He might not have been got more attention. So the primary indicator of a favorite is attention. It doesn't necessarily mean for what, because you get seen more, you get more interest more, you develop a sense that you matter. And he's developing a sense that he doesn't matter. So in Adlerian terms, you may have overrun him, and that was a terrible blow to his self esteem. Michael Hingson ** 29:33 Yeah. Yeah. Even though this Oh, sure. If you want Dr. Bob Wright ** 29:38 go ahead. So how's he doing today? Michael Hingson ** 29:40 He passed away in 2015. So he died of of cancer. Dr. Bob Wright ** 29:45 How did he do in life? Well, Michael Hingson ** 29:47 fair question. He ended up working for the Customs Organization, the US customs in communications. He was married for, gosh, probably close to 40 years as well. I'm not sure that he was as happy as he would like, just in looking at it. He tended to want to be very controlling. And his wife didn't have a problem with that. But I think that I think there were some issues, but I think he did. Okay, but not great. Dr. Bob Wright ** 30:28 So you've been happier in life than he has, even though you have a profound challenge. Well, Michael Hingson ** 30:35 I think the challenge is more perceptual than in reality, but Yeah, probably. That's it. Dr. Bob Wright ** 30:41 Thanks very much. Michael Hingson ** 30:44 That's probably so. Dr. Bob Wright ** 30:47 But I also so your dad overran him. Yeah, I Michael Hingson ** 30:51 hear you. You did. Even though we even though later in life, he was in Florida, and I was in California, or in New Jersey. I think I appreciate what you're saying. Yeah. Dr. Bob Wright ** 31:05 Yeah, it's it's hard for us to accept when we start looking at these unconscious elements of what's called the family system. And and the system is there's no blame. There's no blaming. Yeah. But But who is your mom's favorite? Michael Hingson ** 31:21 Well, I'm sure that that there are those that would say it was me. I'm not, I'm not really so sure. Because the way my mom interacted with us, was was different with each of us. She had to help me learn braille again, when I was going from third to fourth grade. And she took the time to do that. But she also did take the time with my brother, but I'm sure that he would tell you that I was, Dr. Bob Wright ** 31:48 well, what was your dad's favorite? Oh, Michael Hingson ** 31:53 I'm sure that, that my dad and I spent more time together because I was interested in things that he was much more than my brother like electronics and science. So I'm sure I Dr. Bob Wright ** 32:02 was, who was murdered? Michael Hingson ** 32:06 Gee, that depends, I guess, on everything, but probably I was. Nobody ever wants to answer this, by the way, probably. But probably for a lot of reasons. I would say I was. Yeah, Dr. Bob Wright ** 32:15 pretty obviously. So we don't know what his potential would have been. Right, who got developed? And so my guess is he was actually your mom's favorite. He might very well have been. But But I think it was your mom's favorite because your mom counted on him to keep things working in the family while he was hungry, but didn't didn't know how to do anything. But please her as she was ministering to you. And as your dad was enjoying playing with you? Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I'm sure there's Michael Hingson ** 32:50 a lot of there's a lot of truth to that. Dr. Bob Wright ** 32:52 Yeah, I know. I just, it's so much fun to get out of this. Michael. Yeah. It Michael Hingson ** 32:59 makes a lot of sense to, to really look at it in the in the way that you're doing. But I think there's there's another aspect of it, and it's part of human nature, that gets to be a challenge. Because he was probably a person who felt not as happy, not as loved and didn't know how to deal with that, and maybe address it in his own life. And I learned how to do some of that, and learn how to deal with a lot of the challenges that I faced socially, and, and economically. But I think that one of the things that he never did learn was how to go back and look at himself and look at his life and grow in the same way. Yeah, Dr. Bob Wright ** 33:50 amen. Probably wasn't as inquisitive as you know, Michael Hingson ** 33:54 I'm sure he was not. That I'm very sure of. And it's it is a it's an issue because one of the things that I maintain today is that all of us can do so much more to grow. If we would spend more time even just in the evening before we go to sleep, being introspective, looking at whatever happened on a given day. And why it happened the way it did, what could we improve? What went great, what could we even have done to make what went great greater? And I know that he didn't do a lot of that, Dr. Bob Wright ** 34:28 you know, there's actually a spiritual discipline with the max handle Rosicrucians that, that goes into that. I'm not a follower of theirs, but this they call it a retro flexion or retrospect, I forget what they call it. Exactly. Because when I was in school in France, the game was the minute your head hit the pillow. You were to rewind your day in reverse to when you first woke up. Yeah, and it's incredibly challenging. It is our emotions get I get sparked off, we get to see where we had unfinished business during the day. And it took me all of pretty close to a year before I got back to a morning, and that was pretty diligence, did diligent application. And so I think you're absolutely right. Michael Hingson ** 35:23 There's a lot of value in in doing it. Because no one can teach us anything people can give us information. But we have to teach ourselves. And I've learned, even just this year, I now hate calling myself my own worst critic. When I listen to speeches and other things I always have said, I'm my own worst critic, and when in reality is the case is I'm my own best teacher, because I'm the one that can teach me. And it's always good to take a much more positive approach. And recognizing that actually helps when I go back and analyze the day and analyze the things that have gone on. Because I look for the lessons. And the lessons aren't just in the things that went wrong or the difficult things. The lessons can come from anywhere, but we have to look for them. Dr. Bob Wright ** 36:08 So you just defined the transformation of a perfectionist, perfectionist, criticized because it's the work outcome that matters. And people that are learning and growing and stepping beyond perfection. Look for the lessons. So you just described you growing, from avoiding mistakes, to feeling more and more success and satisfaction in learning and growing. Congratulations. Well, thank Michael Hingson ** 36:37 you. And even the so called Mistakes You know, there aren't they're not a mistake until it ended up being one. And again, the lesson is, what do you learn and do about it? Yeah, Dr. Bob Wright ** 36:46 but you're unusual, Michael, because you've actually taken a philosophy and applied it. A lot of people would say the same things you just said. But they don't practice it. I believe you practice it. Michael Hingson ** 36:58 And you know what? It's fun. Dr. Bob Wright ** 37:01 It says pretty clear. Yeah. You have fun way before now. Yeah. Michael Hingson ** 37:05 Well, I like to look for the for fun. Personally, I think life is an adventure. For years, I've called the Internet, a treasure trove an adventure. And yeah, there's a lot of stuff. And there's a dark side. And there are all sorts of different things that go on. But there's also so much information that's out there if we bought look for it and use it. Amen. So it really, it really helps a great deal. And you know, so it's, it's worth doing well, in your case. So, you you have been so what business do you own? Now? What What's your business called? Or do you have one right now? Well, Dr. Bob Wright ** 37:47 we write business Inc has been our flowthrough business forever. But we are reemerging to the world as live right? Li ve WRI ght with Judith and Bob. That is our new go to market identity. Pool. Michael Hingson ** 38:07 That's a great name. And certainly, from a marketing standpoint, one that somebody can remember. Dr. Bob Wright ** 38:14 Well, right now we only exist online is D r B o b.com. And Dr. Judith, Bob Wright, dot com or Judith wright.com I think or at any rate, we don't have a joint website yet. We'll be launching that in December, God Willing and the creek don't rise Michael Hingson ** 38:35 well and make it accessible. And if you want help with that, I can help Dr. Bob Wright ** 38:41 you. So so cool. Cool. I'm gonna have to find out more about what you can do them. Because I really don't know, Michael Hingson ** 38:48 we can talk about that. And we can talk about ways to do it. And it's and it's something that that you should do. Because the reality is what most people don't realize is that the cost of doing business should really make sure that inclusion is part of it. You know, I when looking for jobs and talking to many, I'll just use blind people as an example. We've had companies say but I can't buy a screen reader for you. That's not in our budget. Well, you know, sure it is you buy computer monitors for everyone. I don't need a monitor. But I do need a screen reader. Inclusion ought to be part of the cost of doing business. Dr. Bob Wright ** 39:26 Well, which is why you're going to be our consultants. So we our desire is to have our work available in all languages. We're going to be putting out our couples book the heart of the fight in Spanish. The heart of the fight reached number one nonfiction best seller in China, Judas soft addictions solution is, as of our last knowledge, number 10 self help in China. And so the languages aren't just words and spoken are they but there's I mean, there's there's what do you call blind accessibility? Michael? Michael Hingson ** 40:06 Well, there are a couple of ways to do something like that. A lot of it is just doing the right things on on your website, or when you produce a book, if you have graphs, they should and pictures, they should be defined. You can do an electronic version, you can do an audio version. And there are ways also to put the book in Braille. And again, we can we can certainly talk about that. Well, Dr. Bob Wright ** 40:28 I'm zipping myself an email to circle back with you on that. So let's keep going with what you've got today. Michael Hingson ** 40:36 Well, definitely one thing I need to say, because I was looking for when I was getting ready for now, is I would like to have pictures of your book covers that we can put in the cover notes so that people can go off and find them later. Dr. Bob Wright ** 40:51 We'll get it. Perfect. Michael Hingson ** 40:53 Well, tell me a little bit more about you and coaching. What ultimately do people get out of what you do? After a question, Dr. Bob Wright ** 41:07 you know, I'm gonna go back a little further, we get everybody knows we get what we put into things. Yeah. And so to get Michael Hingson ** 41:16 the most out of coke, good psychological answer, go ahead. Dr. Bob Wright ** 41:19 Well, I'm actually going to answer it. I appreciate the work up to I'm gonna work up to it. So the investment is time, money and personal upset. The price most people are not willing to pay is the person will upset we have to do to stretch beyond our own serious limit deeper mental limitations. And when we do that, for me, I had a lot of limiting beliefs about money. I could give you stories, we talked about the mythology rules, myths and beliefs about money when I looked growing up, my dad's brothers, who had way more money than we had, didn't have a marriage as good as my dad's marriage. And one of my dad's brothers was a particular jerk. And he was the wealthiest of them. And so I draw this conclusion from early on in life, because we all grew up within miles of each other, or blocks, actually, that it's either money or relationship. So a limiting belief I've had to challenge forever, is money and relationship. And fortunately, I'm making some progress on that and intend to make even more before I'm done. Well, Michael Hingson ** 42:37 it's interesting. People think that if they have a lot of money, they're successful, and they're happy. And what pops into my mind? And I'm not going to try to get political here. But what pops into my mind is Donald Trump, I wonder how happy he really is. Dr. Bob Wright ** 42:54 You know, we can actually dive right into the happiness things. First of all, there's a lot of research on it that would show that he doesn't have the characteristics. But that's another story. But right, I hear you. But I think everybody has a formula for happiness, most of them are wrong. Yeah. And I think the good fortune in my relationship foundation is relationship. You know that happiness research says, the biggest variable is learning and growing. The happiest people are engaged in learning and growing. There, they have New Horizons coming up, that they can learn and grow together and a couple or whatever they're doing, but they learn and grow. That's happiest. Michael Hingson ** 43:33 That's the most successful thing that one can do. And it is all about learning and growing, and wanting to learn and grow. And I think he pointed out very well, a lot of people will provide lip service to a lot of this. But the reality is, they're not really growing. It's just a lot of talk. Habits are hard to break it. I've heard all sorts of different numbers about how many times you need to do something to change a habit. But still, ultimately, it doesn't happen until you can, not only intellectually but emotionally recognize that the change needs to happen and then do it. Dr. Bob Wright ** 44:15 So that's that's the end the cost. So Judas seminal work on soft addictions was looking at the cost that turned out causes a lot of people to take on the habits. However, a habit is a behavior to order to change the deeper level behind that habit. Because they have, it's always doing something for us in service of a limiting belief. And so a limiting habits because we remember two kinds of beliefs, two kinds of habits, empowering and disempowering. And so it's really important to understand, if I really want to learn and grow to the max, I have to go through the discomfort of not just changing the habit, but changing by myself my thoughts, feelings and actions at the foundational level Michael Hingson ** 44:59 and that's The cost. Yes, sir. And it's it's not as expensive as one might think, if you really apply it and do it. But the problem is, so many of us don't want to do that, because we're just, I hate hearing while I'm, you know, people are in their comfort zone, they don't want to change. We talk about change all the time. But I think people don't want to change I think we we are brought up to just like our comfort zones and not wanting to change, we don't do what we talked about before retrospection or introspection, that's too much work. And so we we don't get taught by others nearly as much as we should. The real value of change, but change is all around us. And change is going to be everywhere. I after September 11, I kept hearing, we got to get back to normal, we got to get back to doing things the normal way. And I bristled at that. And it took me a little while to understand why I was so upset with it. But I finally realized, normal will never be the same. Again, we can't get back to normal because if we do, we're going to have the same thing. And we will have learned absolutely nothing. Even with a pandemic, I hear about getting back to normal, but normal will never be the same again, the Dr. Bob Wright ** 46:17 problem that you're getting it from me that I think about with that usually is that normal is is average, and none of us really want to be average, we want to be better than normal. So why would we want to get back to normal when we still haven't hit our potential? Yeah. Michael Hingson ** 46:36 But we're not thinking about that. And we haven't learned to think in that way. Until we Dr. Bob Wright ** 46:41 understand Judith research. So there's yearning, engaging, and regulating seeing where my limitations come in. Then liberating challenging those limitations. It's so challenging those limitations, and then re matrixing. And then I have to keep stretching myself towards the new, further goals. That forced me to look beyond my limiting beliefs, because they're always there. And they're always are rising beyond them. Michael Hingson ** 47:07 How do we get people to be able to do that? Dr. Bob Wright ** 47:10 I don't, we don't get people to do anything. It's all about investment. Will they pay the price? Spend the time reading the money, what they need to do? I was talking to a guy today who's ultra ultra wealthy, who started out with my former partner. And he would never have been able to pay my partner's rates today. And I said, You mean, you wouldn't have charged it on your credit card at least to find out? You know, what he could do for you? And so the people that I see that really want it, some people just charge it on the credit card, but they don't do it. Others? Do, they charge it on the credit card, and they've got that credit card paid off and are able to really fly with the overtime? Yeah, Michael Hingson ** 48:00 so and I was delivered and asking the question the way I did, but it isn't how do we get people to do things? What is it that will make people understand that they need to change? I mean, you've been coaching a long time. And I know there's not one key but what, what, more often than not is the trigger that make people go, Ah, I gotta really think more about this. Dr. Bob Wright ** 48:27 You know, there are a lot of things in life traumas, car accidents, deaths, losses, that move people into that. There's a thing called a sociopath is sociopaths, not wanting to get divorced, will sometimes start looking at themselves for the first time. And so but but I think that, that Adlerian analysis, when people understand that there is an objective way to look at who they are today, it's your strengths and your weaknesses, as revealed by that lifestyle analysis we started playing with with you, then as you understand that there really is a way to do it, and it is systematic and reproducible, then the game starts really shifting, but most of the world doesn't believe it's possible because so many people are selling so much horse manure. Yeah. Michael Hingson ** 49:21 And we haven't learned to separate all the negative negativity in as you said, the horsemen or from from the positive stuff, we, we just haven't really learned how to do that and the people who have can really start to deal with it. One of the things that I have experienced over the past several years, especially with the pandemic is that for years I would travel and speak and tell people about my story and people said, well, you're blind. Of course you didn't know what happened. I point out well, the airplane had 18 floors above us on the other side of the building I got to tell you, nobody knew Superman and X ray vision are fictitious. Right? Well, but then the the other part about it is that what I realized over time was that the reason I wasn't afraid was that I prepared. I learned all about the World Trade Center, I learned what the emergency evacuation procedures were, I learned why they were as they were. And so when something actually happened, I was prepared for it. I didn't need to worry about reading signs. And if I had been in the building alone, I would have just been able to evacuate. But I wasn't alone. And we got some guests out. And then a colleague who was in from our corporate office, David Frank, and I went to the stairs, and we started down. But the reality is that what I learned was that for me, I, in fact, was not talking about why I wasn't afraid. And I didn't teach people how to learn to control here. So we're writing a book about that. And, and so I'm, I'm realizing that what I can help people do is recognize that you can learn to control fear, it's not that it's going to go away. And if you tell me, you're never afraid, I won't buy it. But you can learn to use fear in a powerful way, rather than letting it as I put it, blind you or overwhelm you, Dr. Bob Wright ** 51:27 by preparing as you prepared the primary formula. First of all, we don't control it. But by preparing it doesn't grip us at the same level. We have pathways that we've already created. So you had created those pathways inside of yourself. And so sure you were afraid, but you had the fear motivating you along pathways for which you had prepared. Michael Hingson ** 51:51 That's right. Help others. That's right. And we did and at one point going down the stairs, David panicked and said, Mike, we're going to die. We're not going to make it out of here and then and I just snapped at him. I'd love to joke about it and say, since I have a secondary teaching credential, I took that secret course voice 101 How to yell at students but you know, the the reality is that that what I did it I just snapped at David. I said, stop it, David, if Rosella and I can go down the stairs, so can you. And after that, he said, I'm going to I got to take my mind off of what's going on. And he walked the floor below me, went all the way down the stairs, he shouted up to me what he was seeing on the stairs. Now, did I need David to do that? No. But I knew that it would help David be more comfortable. But it had another effect, which again, was something that I figured out later. And that is that, as David was shouting up, hey, I'm at the 44th floor. This is where the Port Authority cafeteria is, we're not going to stop we're going on down. People above us. And below us. Many, many floors hurt him. And he gave them something to focus on. And I think that he did so much, not even thinking about it or realizing it to help people not panic as we went down the stairs, which was so cool. Oh, I Dr. Bob Wright ** 53:07 just love it. So let's but let's go back. So, So fear is the primary the most basic emotion if you stay alive, sure. So you were afraid for him, not for you, but for him. And so you slapped him out of it. So you harvest your anger. So fear, fear, hurt, anger, sadness, and joy are the critical emotions that are fully foundational emotions. And so you have a relationship with your fear as few of us but in some ways, maybe. And you actually were able to harness anger as the crossover emotion between fear and joy. So you kept him alive, harnessing your anger to slap him out of it. And he became the leader he could become. Yeah. And needed. Michael Hingson ** 53:56 Right. Well, and that's it's part of the story that that I think is he's such an unsung hero and what happened on September 11, because I know he had to keep so many people focused because they had someone to focus on. And someone who they could hear who was all right, no matter where they were on the stairs. Somebody else was okay, somewhere. Dr. Bob Wright ** 54:21 So first of all, he was a leader right in relationship to you, Michael Hingson ** 54:25 by definition. Well, in some ways, yeah. Dr. Bob Wright ** 54:29 So you slapped him back into his leadership mode. And even though you didn't need it, he started leaving you in his own mind, but he was actually leaving everybody down those Michael Hingson ** 54:40 steps. He was, you know, that was one of the things that he did his he was only in for the day from our corporate office. But but he but you know, the two of us, between us there were a lot of ways people also said to me later, we followed you down the stairs because we heard you praising your dog and We heard you staying calm. So we were calm. We followed you. Yeah. So we, in a in a very well, unpredictable isn't the right word but a very subtle way we the two of us really helped a lot of people. Oh Dr. Bob Wright ** 55:15 my god, you guys formed the most amazing impromptu leadership team. Michael Hingson ** 55:19 Right. Holy cow. I Dr. Bob Wright ** 55:21 love it. Yeah. Well, isn't that cool? Oh, it's beyond cool. That is way beyond Cool. Michael Hingson ** 55:27 Well, this has been fun. We need to do it again. And we need to get Judith involved. So we got to do Dr. Bob Wright ** 55:33 another one of these. Absolutely looking forward to it. But Michael Hingson ** 55:37 I really appreciate you being here. And I want to thank you and I want to thank you all for listening to us today. I hope that you enjoyed it. And and you heard Bob analyze me a little bit and it was a lot of fun and No, no problem at all. So we'll have to do more of it and and have another time together which I think would be fun. But I want to thank you for listening to us. Love to hear your comments. Please reach out. You can reach me Mike hingson at and my email address is Michael h i m i c h a e l h i at accessiBe A c c e s s i b e.com. Michael h i at accessibe.com Or go to our podcast page www dot Michael Hingson m i c h a e l h i n g s o n.com/podcast love to get your thoughts please give us a five star rating wherever you're listening to us. We value that and really appreciate all that you have to say. Bob if people want to reach out to you how do they do that? Dr. Bob Wright ** 56:37 Well my website for now until we put them all together is Bob Wrightdot com or D r. B o b W r i g h t dot com My email, which is easier right now we're in transition. The new company, as you heard will be live right with Judith and Bob. But right now D r. B, o b at Judith and bob.com D R B O B at J U D I T A N D B .com. Cool. Michael Hingson ** 57:04 Well, thanks again for doing this. It has been fun. And let us definitely set up another time and do another one of these. Dr. Bob Wright ** 57:13 We've got more to talk about in so many ways, sooner than later while we're still putting together the web universe. Michael Hingson ** 57:20 Perfect. Glad to do it. Well, thanks again for being here. Dr. Bob Wright ** 57:23 Thank you so much. **Michael Hingson ** 57:28 You have been listening to the Unstoppable Mindset podcast. Thanks for dropping by. I hope that you'll join us again next week, and in future weeks for upcoming episodes. To subscribe to our podcast and to learn about upcoming episodes, please visit www dot Michael hingson.com slash podcast. Michael Hingson is spelled m i c h a e l h i n g s o n. 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Life doesn't always involve constant growth - it has dormant phases too. We sometimes experience events that halt progress unexpectedly, invisibly.Trauma, resource scarcity can end growing seasons prematurely. Like trees, grass, we aren't fragile for needing dormant periods occasionally. Unseen circumstances dictate when growth stalls, despite others' journeys. Don't judge the pause as failure - it's natural cycles. Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. Sleep better, without pills (partner I believe in) My book: For When Everything is Burning Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety(I have partnered with this brand): iOS Android Connect with me on TikTok: Connect on Instagram Therapy with me (Iowa residents only) Work with me (Non-Iowa residents) Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care. 00:00 - Periods of Stagnation: When Personal Growth Stalls 01:35 - Human Growth and Dormancy cycles 04:12 - How struggles can prematurely end a period of growth through no personal failing. 08:02 - Humans can overcome stagnation with the right conditions/resources. 11:17 - Self-Compassion for Dormant Growth Periods --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support
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After seeing a caterpillar cocoon itself on my wall, I thought about how the human journey through life can be related to the caterpillar's journey. We discuss and reflect on how the caterpillar lives a simple life until it becomes a cocoon. It is then in isolation as it undergoes its transformation into a butterfly, when it emerges as a new and beautiful butterfly (or moth). In reality, our human existence is not dissimilar as we can live a simple life, until we are challenged. We then undertake some introspection in isolation and with the knowledge we learn about ourselves, we emerge a different person, with more skills and understanding. Both the insect and human worlds have diversity in species, knowledge and skills. 00:00 Introduction 00:35 Finding a cocoon 01:07 A simple life 01:30 In a cocoon 02:22 Emergence 02:59 Time and space to develop and grow 03:23 Diversity in life Contact Sarah www.sarahdawkins.com #transformationjourney #transformativejourney #changinglife #naturalhealing #healyourself
Send us a Text Message.So if you have a sense of humor, like me…I'm sure you appreciate a good meme. I mean, they are one of my favorite parts of the damn internet, I'm just saying.And recently I got to thinking about how we communicate so differently now and how even memes have changed the way we interact with one another.So that's where we are going today, class. Hop on the Magic School Bus lol and let's explore the World Wide Web and all the workings of how we actually communicate less now in this digital age of easy access. Ready?( Yes, Ms. Frizzle!) Ok, then…open your minds andLet's go explore together how when we post more we are actually learning less about others and end up expressing very little about our true selves and what we really need to say.
I'm always talking about cortisol and testosterone. But there's one hormone that doesn't get enough love from me. This is human growth hormone.According to Dustin Baker, today's guest, human growth hormone is the body's master hormone for both men and women.HGH is responsible for many metabolic functions, and it declines naturally with age, starting after puberty, leading to issues like loss of muscle mass and quality.Fortunately, some natural and synthetic ways can help you increase your HGH levels, and Dustin explains them all.In this episode, Dustin shares his origin story of falling in love with health and fitness in his early 20s and the journey that led him to acquire BioProtein Tech and create their flagship product, Bio Pro Plus.We get into the stigma around HGH treatments and why they've earned a bad reputation. Dustin explains how peptides came as a replacement but are now facing regulation. This is where Bio Pro Plus comes in as a natural alternative.Dustin answers questions about potential benefits for both men and women, including joint health, fat loss, muscle growth, recovery, and more.If you want to learn how to age better, boost your performance in the gym, and feel your best, this episode is the way to go. “My own personal tip [to increase HGH naturally]? Invest in some sort of tracking system and some sort of professional to tell you what to do, get a good schedule together, and just execute it. Don't make it hard.” —Dustin BakerIn This Episode: What is Human Growth Hormone?The connection between sarcopenia and HGHWhat is insulin-like growth factor 1 (IGF-1), and why is it relevant?The #1 natural strategy for increasing your levels of HGHThe history of HGH synthetic treatmentsHow can you find the right HGH treatment for youSubscribe and Listen on iTuneshttps://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-over-40-alpha-podcast/id1446632685 Listen to This Episode on Your Favourite Podcast Channelwww.over40alphapodcast.comI want to give a MASSIVE thanks to all who are stepping up and leaving5 star reviews.Your support of the Over 40 Alpha Podcast helps to spread the word and ultimately,change the lives of men all around the world over the age of 40, 50 and 60 that struggle with health and fitnessPlease review and one share at a time.Drop that 5 star review.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-over-40-alpha-podcast/id1446632685Resources mentioned: BioProtein Technology - https://bioproteintech.com/Connect with Dustin Baker: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bioproteintech/Connect with Funk Roberts: Website - https://www.over40alpha.com/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/funkrobertsfitness
Keith Nelson's Dynamic Systems work crosses boundaries between Developmental Psychology, Educational Psychology, Communication Disorders, Linguistics, Art Education, Dynamic Systems, Cognitive Psychology, Creativity, Environmental Toxins, and Evolution. I have been honored by two Fulbright Research Fellowships. His academic foundations include a B.A. from Harvard, Ph. D from Yale, and stimulating experiences as a collaborative faculty member at Stanford, Graduate Faculty of New School for Social research, and Penn State University. He is the CEO of Eagle Spirits Creative Breakthroughs, which concentrates on books, software, workshops, courses, and consulting on Fostering Creativity in any field. Keith has written a book called "Breakthroughs: Realizing Our Potentials Through Dynamic Tricky Mixes" and includes simplistic strategies and tips to move on to their own creative breakthroughs. To get more information about his book, click https://www.amazon.com/Breakthroughs-Realizing-Potentials-Through-Dynamic-ebook/dp/B09LTSFMXD/ref=sr_1_7?keywords=books+breakthroughs+%22keith+nelson%22&qid=1639668693&sr=8-7&pldnSite=1.
In this inspiring episode, join us as we delve into the remarkable journey of Manuj Aggarwal, a true champion of the underdog. From humble beginnings as a low-wage worker in India, earning a meager $2 a day in his father's warehouses, Manuj defied the odds to become a leading voice in the world of Artificial Intelligence. Discover how Manuj shattered his own limiting beliefs and carved an extraordinary path as a thought leader, capturing the attention of industry giants and even sharing the stage with a Nobel Prize Winner at the United Nations. Tune in as we explore the pivotal moments and mindset shifts that propelled him to greatness. As the author of two best-selling books and the charismatic host of the renowned "Bootstrapping Your Dreams" podcast, Manuj is on a mission to empower entrepreneurs to embrace their full potential. With his podcast ranking in the top 0.1% worldwide for entrepreneurship-related content, according to Listen to Notes, his insights are truly transformative. Join us as Manuj shares invaluable wisdom, practical strategies, and captivating stories that will inspire you to break free from your own limitations and unlock unprecedented success. Get ready to embark on a journey of growth, resilience, and the realization of your dreams. Website: https://manujaggarwal.com Guest Bio: Manuj Aggarwal identifies strongly with the underdog, to the point where calling it an understatement would be inadequate. Starting as a low-wage worker in India, earning a mere $2 per day while toiling in his father's warehouses, he has since transcended his own limiting beliefs to forge an extraordinary path as a thought leader in Artificial Intelligence over the past two decades. Recently, he had the honor of speaking alongside a Nobel Prize Winner at the United Nations. Having authored two best-selling books and serving as the host of the immensely popular podcast "Bootstrapping Your Dreams," Manuj is dedicated to empowering entrepreneurs to realize their aspirations. His podcast has achieved remarkable success, being listed in the top 0.1% worldwide among entrepreneurship-related podcasts, according to Listen to Notes. If you are eager to overcome the shackles of past limiting beliefs, familial philosophies, and upbringing, Manuj is the ideal guide to assist you. He understands the essential steps required to shed an outdated and inefficient operating system, replacing it with a transformative mindset capable of accommodating all your dreams and ambitions. ___________________ Subscribe to this podcast and download your favorite episodes to listen to later: Apple Spotify RSS Feed ___________________ ⚕️ Are you a woman healthcare professional who is struggling to juggle everything in your personal and professional life?
Today's educators need the training to support trauma-informed practices in the classroom. The Emory & Henry College's Creating Trauma-Informed Resilient Schools course provides targeted and convenient professional development to offer tools to create resilient school communities. A new online trauma-informed care in the classroom course is offered by Emory & Henry College's Department of Education. The course was filmed with a live audience and is offered in eight modules. Module 1: Basics of Trauma, ACEs, and Keys to Using a Trauma-Informed Approach Module 2: Trauma-Informed Care: Prioritizing Self-Care and Workplace Wellness Module 3: Addressing Trauma and Race in the Classroom Module 4: Strategies for Creating Trauma-Informed Classrooms Module 5: Building Resilience and Promoting Protective Factors Module 6: A Roadmap for Creating Trauma-Informed Resilient-Focused Schools Module 7: Building a Trauma-Informed Resource Library Module 8: Lessons Learned from Smyth County in Their Journey Dr. Frederick: Dr. Frederick is originally from Fort Walton Beach, Florida, and earned her Bachelor of Science in Secondary Education Social Studies from Auburn University in Auburn, Alabama. She began her teaching career in an urban school division in Austin, Texas, and taught middle school history for three years before moving to Virginia. In 2005 Dr. Frederick earned her Master's in Education in School Administration from Peabody College at Vanderbilt University. During this time she also began teaching middle school social studies in Washington County, VA. In 2014, she moved into school administration as a middle school assistant principal. Dr. Frederick earned her Doctorate of Education from East Tennessee State University in 2019 in Educational Leadership, Policy, and Analysis. In 2018, Dr. Frederick joined the Education Department faculty and teaches Human Growth and Development, Assessing for Learning, Pracitcum in Education, and Student Teaching Seminar. Dr. Frederick also serves as the Neff Center's Director for Teacher Education, Education Department Chair, and CAEP Lead. Dr. Frederick currently lives in Abingdon, Virginia with her husband and their two sons. Becky Haas: Becky Haas is an international advocate and trainer on using a trauma-informed approach, the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) study, and Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs) study. She is a pioneer in creating trauma-informed communities. Guest speakers include educators effectively using trauma-informed practices in their school systems.
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As an e-commerce brand owner, you may face the challenge of finding the right talent to grow your business. However, if you are struggling to recruit top talent, it may be due to human growth deficiency.
If you're an e-commerce brand owner, you know that people are one of the most significant expenses in a business, but also the most difficult to manage.
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Kimberly Anne Bell is an inspirational speaker, minister, mentor, and author of "The Epitome of Kimmy: Accept & Embrace It All". She is originally from Salisbury, Maryland and holds two Degrees: The first is in Human Growth and Development, which is in the field of Psychology, and the second is in Theology. She has served on the Ministerial Staff at St. James A.M.E Zion Church and completed 4 years of Conference Studies.She has spoken at the Women Empowerment Expo in DC, the Women of Valor Conference in Easton MD, andmore. She has also been featured in the March 2022 edition of The Authentic Insider magazine. Through her work, she uses her personal life struggles to inspireothers to never give up hope while raising awareness to societal issues. She is also an advocate for Mental Health Awareness. She covers topics like physical, mental, emotional and sexual abuse as well as childhood abandonment, PTSD and healing from trauma.Support the show
Taking Responsibility fo Your Healing - Kimberly Bell Taking responsibility is a powerful tool when it comes to healing and my conversation today guest, author and speaker, Kimberly Bell is the perfect example of what that means. Using her book titled, The Epitome of Kimmy: Accept & Embrace It All, we talked about her healing journey from the various traumas she's experienced. Such things as domestic violence, teen pregnancy, abusive relationships, as well as various other traumas and PTSD. Kimberly tells us that her powerful transformation from broken to discovering who God had created her to be wasn't an easy journey because it was plagued with set backs and returning to old patterns but Kimberly never stopped praying to the God of the Holy Bible. While her adoptive parents could not rewrite what had been imprinted on Kimberly as a young girl they equipped her with the best possible option to discover truth and freedom. They pointed her heart to a personal relationship with Jesus. And she would need that as a compass to find her way to healing because her early trauma made her an easy target for future abuse. Even as Kimberly struggled through the various abusive relationships from early teens and for several decades, she always knew she could talk to Jesus about her pain and confusion. But she wouldn't see lasting change until she decided to try things God's way. As it is with many of us who finally come to the end of ourselves, there came a time when she too hit the proverbial wall and surrendered. She gave up the futile struggle against the evil that she was no match for. Just like the rest of us, she tried everything she knew how, her human reasoning and strength of mental endurance but nothing brought a peace or lasting resolution to solve her pain. I would personally say that the first glimpse of someone's healing who has thoughts of self-harm would be when they don't surrender to the voice that is telling them to end it all, to give up, you're not worth the effort, no one will ever love you. So when she didn't agree with that voice, even though she may have felt at a place of having no way out, nothing left to fight for, no human strength to fight with but I consider it a win when she didn't choose a permanent solution to a temporary situation. I say temporary because the truth is, as Christians we have a different option. We have a way out. She choose to release the weight of the fight, the pain, the feelings of unworthiness, the memories, the shame and laid it all at the feet of Jesus. Rather than surrender to something or someone, she surrendered herself to only One with whom she was safe to be laid bare in such an incredibly vulnerable way. Kimberly points out the importance of the gift God gave us, the gift of choice. When she exercised that gift, choosing to allow God to love on her, to accept the invitation to sit at His table and enjoy His extravagant love despite anything about her past mistakes, she discovered tangible benefits of the cross. Some of which are: Authority over evil, the power of responsibility (which translates to freedom) and the beauty of it all, redemption. And just in case you're wondering, how does authority, responsibility and redemption translate to my pain and suffering. What that looks like for those of us who have past traumas and pain is that we take authority over the evil that we've experienced. What does that mean? We make the choice to take responsibility for our healing. We're not taking responsibility for what happened to us, please hear me clearly on this. We're taking responsibility for our healing. We initiate the necessary steps and follow it through to complete healing. I'm not going to lie to you, this means we engage our painful places and memories. But if there is anything, anything at all that I can make an impression with you about it would be to stay the course and don't back down. You may not have been able to fight against the person that violated you, that killed things in your heart and your mind but by God's power and authority you can fight this good fight, just like Kimberly did until your past pain no longer had any control over you. The beauty of redemption is freedom. Discovering that what Christ did on the cross, you can live above the confinements of this life. But God never stops there. There's more. God gives our pain purpose. An example of purpose for our pain is what Kimberly is doing. She's sharing her story to encourage the hearts of others. She's taking part in the redemption plan that God has for her. Kimberly was a delight to talk with. I loved her laugh, her fun spirit. I think those qualities were so evident because of all that she's been through and yet she had the courage to choose Jesus. She's sharing her story of healing and redemption from a new level of authority, truth and love in Christ. Let's listen in! Lived Loved and Thrive! @alifeofthrive.com Connect with Kimberly INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/theepitomeofkimmy/ FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/kimberlyannebell GOODREADS https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/21705865.Kimberly_Anne_Bell WEBSITE https://kimberlyannebell.com BLOG https://kimberlyannebell.com/blog/ AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Kimberly-Bell/e/B09C1JK1CC/ Bio: Kimberly Anne Bell is an inspirational speaker, minister, mentor, and author of "The Epitome of Kimmy: Accept & Embrace It All". She is originally from Salisbury, Maryland and holds two Degrees: The first is in Human Growth and Development, which is in the field of Psychology, and the second is in Theology. She has served on the Ministerial Staff at St. James A.M.E Zion Church and completed 4 years of Conference Studies. She is passionate about depending on her faith in God and being courageous enough to be transparent and speak her truth. She believes that everyone has a story and a journey that can and will inspire others. She has spoken at the Women Empowerment Expo in DC, the Women of Valor Conference in Easton MD, and more. She has also been featured in the March 2022 edition of the Authentic Insider magazine. Through her work, she uses her personal life struggles to inspire others to never give up hope while raising awareness to societal issues. She is also an advocate for Mental Health Awareness. She covers topics like physical, mental, emotional and sexual abuse as well as childhood abandonment, PTSD and healing from trauma. Transcript: https://www.happyscribe.com/transcriptions/b5c590095ee84bab8145c0151db1b7a1/edit_v2
Since getting "older" I have constantly felt as though life is going on for everyone but me. I remember studying Human Growth & Development for Nursing School and realizing my development and stages didn't match the "normal" person. Our ADHD brains can make the time that we begin accomplishing things, including success to be on a completely different timeline than people around us. Is our ADHD brain to blame for being behind in life? Check out today's episode to find out if that's true. Join the Patreon Here Check out The Neurodivergent Nurse on Instagram --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theneurodivergentnurse/message
Brands don't just happen. They're grown from the connection between a business and its audience. How the brand grows directly results from the conditions it is subjected to. Just because you have a business doesn't mean you have a brand, and vice versa. We will be taking this idea from three angles: How the conflicts faced in human development compare to brand growthHow most businesses struggle and fail to grow their brandHow to consistently evolve, grow, and mature your brandI strongly recommend you start by understanding your brand archetypal mix, and we have a FREE quiz for that.You can join our BAMFam Community dedicated to aligning your brand. We have Free Alignment resources there as well.Finally, if you find yourself in need of guidance with your brand alignment. We have our BAM Academy, and frameworks to help you with that. I would start with The Big BAM Process, this is the brand strategy framework we have led thousands of clients through and we have a self-guided option as well.If you would like to be a guest on our podcast you can contact us.--------------Read the blog entry:https://mybam.link/starts-with-passion
In this podcast, I had the pleasure of interviewing Kimberly Bell.Biography:Kimberly Ann Bell is a native of Salisbury, Maryland. She holds two Degrees: One in Human Growth and Development, which is in the field of Psychology, and the other in Theology. She has served on the Ministerial Staff at St. James A.M.E Zion Church and completed 4 years of Conference Studies. She is a passionate speaker and author of “The Epitome of Kimmy: Accept & Embrace It All". Through her work, she uses her personal life struggles to inspire others to never give up hope and she provides insight into the realities that lay hidden beneath the surface of our society. She is also an advocate for Mental Health Awareness. She covers topics like physical, mental, emotional, and sexual abuse as well as childhood abandonment, PTSD, and healing from trauma.Key Takeaways:Learning to accept, heal and find self-loveClick HERE to schedule a free 30-minute consultation if you'd like support to take the right step towards the great life you deserve.To learn more about Kimberly, you can reach her through; Contact Info:Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/kimberlyannebellWebsite:https://kimberlyannebell.com/
Society is made up of systems. We sanction governments, companies, and schools, so that we can operate in a shared space. We create milestones – like having children, getting promoted, or owning a home – that become the maps by which we organize and live our lives. Most systems come with good intentions. Many of our systems allow us to find purpose and contribute to the world. But there are a lot of people who don't fit within a system. They can't be at an office from 9 to 5. They don't thrive within the hierarchy of a company. They can't stay curious and engaged in school. Michaell Magrutsche argues that the problem isn't us; we know that in each person there are gifts, curiosities, intuitions, and desires, all of which can achieve infinite potential. The problem is that we are organic beings, stuck in – and limited by – a system that is static. If we aren't careful, systems dictate how we live and who we become. But we don't have to do away with systems. We don't necessarily have to reinvent them either. Instead, Michaell suggests that we recognize ourselves not as stewards of systems, but as conscious beings. Only then can we unburden ourselves from the limitations of these systems. Only then can we reach a higher truth, one that honors our humanity and allows us to share ourselves authentically. Michaell Magrutsche is a multimedia artist, mentor, and writer. Find Michaell, his art, and his writing at .
In this dose of wisdom we discuss the physical human aspect of our growt journey here on earth, the importance of it spiritually and how it is our gift to utilize in this earth school. Let's dive in... Support Melisa's efforts in providing free, accessable, educational content to the world by donating here. Explore online courses with Melisa at www.livintrainingeurope.com Ignite your purpose today and embrace a more fullfiling state of being: Ignite your life purpose course Conscious living & wellbeing course: Conscious living starter skillkit course Remember to live from within
Jayne Amelia Larson speaks with adoptee and survivor Kimberly Bell. Kimberly is an inspirational speaker, minister, mentor, and the author of "The Epitome of Kimmy: Accept & Embrace It All” an eye-opening memoir depicting her true story of a life of abandonment, sexual and physical abuse from a very young age, and her healing journey that followed. She's originally from Salisbury, Maryland, and holds two degrees; one in Human Growth & Development/Psychology and the other in Theology. She has served on the ministerial staff at St. James A.M.E. Zion Church and completed four years of conference studies. Through her book and talks, she shares her life story and personal experiences to inspire others to never give up hope while raising awareness of societal issues. The Epitome of Kimmy: Accept and Embrace it AllWebsite: https://kimberlyannebell.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/kimberlyannebellGoodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/21705865.Kimberly_Anne_Bell
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Welcoming a child into your family can be life changing, but for those struggling to get pregnant the process can be emotionally taxing and expensive. Reproductive science is quickly changing, as is society's approach to the issues around fertility. In this episode, we bring you a conversation from the WSJ Future of Everything Festival, where a handful of medical practitioners and reproductive entrepreneurs discussed the future of fertility with WSJ's Amy Dockser Marcus. Guests include: sociologist Rene Almeling, Stephen Krawetz, the Associate Director of the CS Mott Center for Human Growth and Development, Daisy Robinton, the CEO of Oviva Therapeutics and Angela Stepancic, the founder of Reproductive Village Cryobank. This conversation was recorded before the Supreme Court's decision overturning Roe v. Wade. Useful Links: See more videos from The WSJ Future of Everything Festival GUYnecology: The Missing Science of Men's Reproductive Health Krawetz Lab at the C.S. Mott Center for Human Growth and Development Oviva Therapeutics Reproductive Village Cryobank Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode of the podcast, we discuss the work of Karen Horney, M.D., titled, Neurosis and Human Growth: The Struggle Towards Self Realization. In the book, Horney discusses the concept of neurosis as it stands juxtaposed against what she deems healthy growth and human development. We will be discussing this concept and some of her prevalent theories introduced in the writing, such as the development of neurosis, the contrast to the healthy individual, the components of growth, the tyranny of the “should,” the search for glory, and neurotic claims. We hope that you will be inspired to pick up this book by Karen Horney and join us in thinking about her important work.
Dustin Baker is the Founding President of BioProtein Technology and BioPro+. His company was the first to develop a modern non-synthetic alternative to Human Growth Hormones. In this episode, Drew and Dustin talk about the risks associated with long-term synthetic HGH use, how his company discovered the first non-synthetic alternative, and why it is often better than synthetic HGH in most applications. If you have ever been intrigued by HGH and how they may help to rejuvenate your body, this episode is for you! Use the code “fit2fat2fit” at checkout to receive $30 off of your first order HERE. HIGHLIGHTS: [4:20] What led Dustin down the path to discovering fitness, and what ultimately led him to develop a non-synthetic alternative to HGH. [13:12] The pros and cons of synthetic HGH, it's history, and how Dustin's company developed a non-synthetic alternative that is highly effective and cost-friendly in comparison to its synthetic counterpart. [26:59] The benefits of naturally replenishing your body's growth hormones, and why Dustin's product doesn't carry the same long-term risks as synthetic HGH. [34:40] Who will benefit the most from using an HGH alternative, how it may benefit both men and women. [37:42] How replenishing your body's natural HGH can increase libido and even resolve many common sexual disorders in men. SPONSORS: Stephen Cabral — Get to the root cause of your low mood, fatigue, weight gain, & rapid aging with at-home lab testing. Claim your FREE at home lab test by clicking → HERE ← or visiting stephencabral.com/fit2fat2fit. Complete Wellness Supplements — Shop Drew's hand-formulated, high-quality, pre-workout greens, Keto Meal Replacement with grass-fed collagen, MCT Oil soft-gels, bone broth, and more! Use the code “podcast” to get 20% off of your order! SHOW LINKS: https://bioproteintech.com @bioprotientech Instagram Take the Fit2Fat2Fit Podcast Listener Survey Fit2Fat2Fit on Facebook @Fit2Fat2Fit on Instagram Fit2Fat2Fit Book Keto School Program Complete Keto Book Email Drew: info@fit2fat2fit.com
help leaders get up out of the weeds of their comfort zones and into places they didn't know they needed to go. I bring my multi-sector global experience, decades of training in human potential, and enduring dedication to creating leaders who are worth following to every single thing I do. I believe that, at its core, executive coaching and leadership growth is about delivering shifts in what you do and how you do it. And I believe that shift happens most sustainably and radically through a process of hard human kindness. A trusted coach of mine once said to me, "Nothing great ever came from comfort zones." This really hit home. I understand coaching to be a process and commitment to letting go of unuseful behaviors and patterns and to becoming an exceptional leader. You should know that I will be as dedicated as you are [if not more] to your pursuit of becoming extraordinary. These philosophies underpin my approach and give you an idea of what you'll be getting yourself into when you decide to work with me. I have notched up over 25 years of working in small, medium, and large corporations. I literally grew up in the hospitality industry [my parents owned a pub and restaurant in the UK] and I started my career as a college professor teaching hotel and business management. I've since held a range of senior, executive, and C-Suite level roles across a host of sectors and companies including renowned retailer Marks & Spencer Plc, travel and tourism company Eurostar International, Crossrail Ltd - the company charged with building a new railway through the center of London, music giant Sony Music Entertainment, and Essence Global - part of the world's largest advertising company, WPP. I'm a member of the Advisory Board of WE Global Studios, a full-stack Innovation Studio and digital DIY Platform that powers the success of women entrepreneurs around the world. I serve as the Board President at Pacific Center for Human Growth, the USA's second oldest LGBTQIA2S+ non-profit community mental health clinics, and I am adjunct faculty at California Institute of Integral Studies where I teach counseling psychology to graduate students. I also run a private psychotherapy practice, called Soulfull Therapy, in the state of Connecticut My career has provided the opportunity for me to work across all continents and to develop the awareness, empathy, and skills to work successfully with people from all diverse walks of life in culturally humble ways. I'm certified as an Executive Coach by both the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development and the Oxford School of Coaching & Mentoring, I'm credentialed with the International Coach Federation, and am a coach-supervisor through the Coaching Supervision Academy. I've been working in the field of Neuro-Linguistic Programming [NLP] since 2001 - I'm a double-certified INLPTA Master Practitioner and Trainer of NLP, and a Neuro-Linguistic Psychotherapist under the NLPtCA. I'm also licensed to administer MBTI [Step I and Step II] and FIRO-B psychometric tools. Over the years I have had the opportunity to train with many luminaries in the transpersonal field including Louise Hay, Marianne Williamson, Dr. Patricia Crane, Deepak Chopra, and Brant Cortright. In 2007 I became a Reiki Master and Teacher under the guidance of Christina Moore. I am currently completing an internship in The Narrative Enneagram. I'm a native Brit and have lived in the US with my husband, David, and our two cats, Harper and Hemingway, since April 2014. When not working you can usually find me geeking out over some psychological concept or losing myself in repeats of The Voice, X-Factor, and American Idol on YouTube.
Have you heard the one about the young girl with the mom and dad that abandoned her, rejected her, and pretty much said, "Hey, you're on your own"?You know, the young woman who was raped as a child, found herself in bad relationships throughout life, and stuck in a toxic repeating cycle? And even though she was hyper intelligent, she was labeled as mentally handicap because she had memory issues from the trauma she experienced.In this podcast, our guest is going to take you through her life journey: her childhood and the dysfunction, how it carried through her teen years into adulthood, and then how she finally found healing, forgiveness, and freedom. And then most importantly, she helps us work through the process ourself. All this and more on this weeks episode of the Remarkable People Podcast, the Kimberly Anne Bell story!GUEST BIO:Kimberly Ann Bell is a native of Salisbury, Maryland. She holds two Degrees: One in Human Growth and Development, which is in the field of Psychology, and the other in Theology. She has served on the Ministerial Staff at St. James A.M.E Zion Church and completed 4 years of Conference Studies. She is a passionate speaker and author of “The Epitome of Kimmy: Accept & Embrace It All". Through her work, she uses her personal life struggles to inspire others to never give up hope and she provides insight into the realities that lay hidden beneath the surface of our society. She is also an advocate for Mental Health Awareness. She covers topics like physical, mental, emotional and sexual abuse as well as childhood abandonment, PTSD and healing from trauma.FEATURED QUOTE(S): "No matter what, Love." - Kimberly's Adopted Father"Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new." - 2 Corinthians 5:17SHOW NOTES, GUEST CONTACT INFO, SPECIAL OFFERS, & OTHER RESOURCES MENTIONED:Contact Info:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kimberlyannebellGoodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/21705865.Kimberly_Anne_BellVisit Kimberly's Blog & Subscribe: https://kimberlyannebell.com/blog/HOW TO SUPPORT THE REMARKABLE PEOPLE PODCAST:Subscribe, Rate, & Review us on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or any of your favorite Podcast PlayersShare the podcast and specific episodes with your family, friends, co-workers, and church groups to help more people be encouraged and growSponsor / Donate what you can financially to help us continue to bring great content that inspires you and people around the world with the Remarkable true life stories that inspire us all to grow, feel purpose, and overcome the obstacles in our way.HAVE A QUESTION?Click Here to Connect with DavidTHE NOT-SO-FINE-PRINT DISCLAIMER: While we are very thankful for all of our guests, please understand that we do not necessarily hold, or endorse the same beliefs, views, and positions that they may have. We respectfully agree to disagree in some areas and thank God for the blessing and privilege of free will.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=NDM34NHTKACSG&source=url)
2022 Reading List: January: Core Value #1 - Go the Extra Mile; Mediocrity is Boring. Sacred Cows: The Case for (Better) Meat – Why Well Raised Meat is Good for You and Good for the Planet. By: Diana Rodgers and Robb Wolf February: Core Value #2 - Build Lasting Relationships. It Starts with Clients: Your 100 Day Plan to Build Lifelong Relationships and Revenue. By: Andrew Sobel March: Core Value #3 - Be Humble & Honest; Authentic & Vulnerable. 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success. By: Amy Morin April: Core Value #4 - Lead through Action & by Example. Servant Leadership Roadmap: Master the 12 Core Competencies of Management Success with Leadership Qualities and Intrapersonal Skills. By: Cara H Bramlett. May: Core Value #5 - Be a Lifetime Student & Have a Lifetime of Teachers. How's the Culture in Your Kingdom? – Lessons from a Disney Leadership Journey. By: Dan Cockerell June: Core Value #6 - Always Pursue Excellence, Be the Best & Produce the Best. Becoming the Best. By: Harry M. Kraemer, Jr. July: Core Value #7 - Lead with Love & An Open Heart. Leadershift: 11 Essential Changes Every Leader Must Embrace. By: John Maxwell August: Core Value #8 - Be Committed to Dominate Daily; Take Initiative. Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones. By: James Clear September: Core Value #9 - Be Disciplined for Long Term Victory, Strive for Extraordinary. Winning: The Unforgiving Race to Greatness. By: Tim Grover. October: Core Value #10 - Do the Right Thing, Even When No One is Watching. Integrity: The Courage to Meet the Demands of Reality – How Six Essential Qualities Determine Your Success Business. By: Dr Henry Cloud. November: Core Value #11 - Create Positive Environments through Positive Attitudes. Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude. By: Napoleon Hill and Clement Stone. December: Core Value #12 - Be Courageous, Not Complacent. You are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life. By: Jen Sincero Leadership with Family with SUPER BOWL WINNER Demario Pressley (Family Movie Night) Movies for 2022: January: The Pursuit of Happiness starring Will Smith. February: Remember the Titans starring Denzel Washington. March: Patch Adams starring Robin Williams. April: Invictus starring Morgan Freeman. May: Selma starring David Oyelowo. June: Pay it Forward starring Kevin Spacey. July: We are Marshall with Matthew McConaughey. April: Glory Road starring Josh Lucas. September: The Finest Hours starring Chris Pine. October: Spotlight starring Mark Ruffalo. November: When the Game Stands Tall starring Jim Caviezal. December: Miracle starring Kurt Russell. Who is Justin Bizzarro? – Justin Bizzarro is an entrepreneur, who continues to build a 24-year-old food empire he created with his father out of his family's basement, in 1998. He is a highly desired business management, personal growth, and entrepreneurial leadership speaker. Justin's expertise is in leadership & management development, health foods & beverages, global lean manufacturing facilities, vertically integrating businesses, food marketing & advertising, supply chain creation & management, direct to consumer fulfillment, transportation & distribution, and entrepreneur acceleration. His leadership and entrepreneur podcasts have reached millions of people across the globe. Centurion Motto: To use our DETERMINATION to CRUSH our everyday leadership tasks so that we DOMINATE in our pursuit for excellence (and happiness) and achieve VICTORY in continuing personal growth, building our family legacies, gaining financial freedom, and creating environments for those around us to prosper. Hosted by Alaina Hamade (IG: @alaina.hamde) with Justin Bizzarro (IG: @justinbizzarro). ... Free Podcast. No Advertisements. CENTURION LEADERSHIP BATTALION Hosted by Alaina Hamade with Justin Bizzarro. Instagram: @centurionleadershipbattalion ( #centurionleadership and #centurionbattalion ) All music is scored by host or royalty free.
Kimberly Bell is on a mission to help others discover themselves and live transparent lives. She has been through many trials in her early life. She's a survivor and wanted to share her story with others. In her new book, Kimberly speaks her truth regarding her traumas. While, it wasn't easy to write the book or share her stories, Kimberly wants others to not have shame associated with their stories and know that others are out there to help you. You don't want to miss Kimberly's story! Kimberly is a native of Salisbury, MD. She holds two degrees: One in Human Growth and Development, which is in the field of Psychology, and the other in Theology. She has served on the Ministerial Staff at St. James A.M.E Zion Church and completed 4 years of Conference Studies. She is a passionate speaker, minister and author of The Epitome of Kimmy: Accept & Embrace It All. Through her work, she uses her personal life struggles to inspire others to never give up hope and she provides insight into the realities that lay hidden beneath the surface of our society. She is also an advocate for Mental Health Awareness. She covers topics like physical, mental, emotional and sexual abuse as well as childhood abandonment, PTSD and healing from trauma.Connect with Kimberly to learn more about her and her background:Website: https://kimberlyannebell.com/Sign up for our newsletter at https://abbraccigroup.com/. Please subscribe, leave a review and tell your friends about our podcast. Learn more about the CHARGE® model by purchasing the book, The Way of the HR Warrior. Let us know about the moments for you that changed your life trajectory. Drop us a note via our website.
Elite fitness Podcast Episode 27 Ricky V Rock talks about the new age of TRT clinics and how it has become so much easier to get a prescription for Testosterone, Anavar, Nandrolone, Human Growth hormone and IGF-1 among many other drugs of interest to the bodybuilder. Franchised Hormone Replacement Therapy clinics are everywhere nowadays and in this episode we Ricky V will discuss the pros and cons of using them over an underground source. Listen to all of our episodes here: https://www.elitefitness.com/articles/podcast/
What circumstances have you endured in life that gave you an epitome? In life we go through various trials and tribulations but how you react to them is what matters. In this segment, Kimberly Bell opens up about her childhood, dealing with trauma, healing journey, overcoming life challenges, writing her first book "The Epitome of Kimmy: Accept & Embrace It All" etc. GEMS - Do not accept things that are not in the will of GOD for you and your life. Accept and embrace it all and you can too. See video component - https://youtu.be/odxf_HDUR6A WHO IS KIMBERLY? Kimberly Ann Bell is a native of Salisbury, Maryland. She holds two (2) Degrees: One in Human Growth and Development, which is in the field of Psychology, and the other in Theology. She has served on the Ministerial Staff at St. James A.M.E Zion Church and completed 4 years of Conference Studies. She is a passionate speaker and author of “The Epitome of Kimmy: Accept & Embrace It All". Through her work, she uses her personal life struggles to inspire others to never give up hope and she provides insight into the realities that lay hidden beneath the surface of our society. She is also an advocate for Mental Health Awareness. She covers topics like physical, mental, emotional and sexual abuse as well as childhood abandonment, PTSD and healing from trauma. KIMBERLY'S CALL TO ACTION You can buy the book in both paperback and eBook on Amazon and don't forget to leave a review. You can also invite Kimmy to be a speaker at your next event. Her book, “The Epitome of Kimmy: Accept & Embrace It All” is now available on Amazon in both paperback and eBook: https://www.amazon.com/Epitome-Kimmy-Accept-Embrace-All/dp/1737624001/ KIMBERLY'S CONTACT INFO https://kimberlyannebell.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kimberlyannebell Invite Kimmy to speak at your next event, podcast or radio show kim@kimberlyannebell.com GENESIS'S INFO https://thehello.llc/GENESISAMARISKEMP CALL TO ACTION Subscribe to GEMS with Genesis Amaris Kemp Channel, Hit the notifications bell so you don't miss any content, and share with family/friends. **REMEMBER - You do not have to let limitations or barriers keep you from achieving your success. Mind over Matter...It's time to shift and unleash your greatest potential. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/genesis-amaris-kemp/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/genesis-amaris-kemp/support
Committing to change and growth will inevitably bring uncomfortable feelings. But we tend to avoid discomfort in our human experience. So we give up on our goals over and over.... because growth is uncomfortable AF! And then we beat ourselves up and heap piles of judgment on ourselves for … being human. We all do it. But there's a better way. What if we started getting comfortable with discomfort? What if we embraced it instead of running from it? This is the way to finally accomplish those big goals. Listen on to hear how. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachaelcunningham.com/category/podcast/
Welcome to another episode of The Authentic Change Podcast, I am Mike Horne, your host and I am joined today by Gary Muszynski, CEO and founder of Orchestrating Excellence which is a leadership team Development Firm. Gary has expertise in building mindsets and skills for virtual collaboration and leadership. He has a proven ability to influence change, promote action, consult and collaborate at all levels of an organization. Gary has built teams of people around him, engaging diverse talent to deliver on a global scale. In today's episode, Gary shares his view on integrity, authenticity, and core values. He also gives valuable examples of how these powerful concepts apply to the life of an organization. Key Takeaways: [2:25] Gary shares a few words about himself. [3:39] Gary describes briefly the characteristics of the right and left brain thinking. [7:39] What is the role of intuition in integrity? [9:23] Gary shares a perspective over authenticity from a philosophical point of view. [12:30] How does a person maintain integrity and authenticity in a corrupted system? [14:36] Gary talks about how Orchestrating Excellence came to life. [17:58] Gary speaks about his dedication to shifting mindsets. [19:59] What are some of the values that drive Gary in his work? [22:42] Gary shares an example of how authenticity and integrity overlap with psychological safety. [25:05] Gary and Mike talk about competing values in an organization. Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about Mike Horne on Linkedin Email Mike at mike@mike-horne.com Find more about Leading People and Culture with Authenticity
I am so thankful for what I learned about myself and the resilience of humanity this year. What have you learned and how have you gained from one of the most challenging times worldwide?Episode highlights:01:05 What can we appreciate that we gained even through crappy experiences?01:32 This year has helped me not take any of my friendships and connections for granted.03:00 Maybe there isn't always going to be another time we're going to get together.03:40 Being able to relax enough to finally be able to have a party again was such a joy!03:50 How beautiful it was to have such a simple thing!05:00 Why would I want to rush through any of these breakfasts? And yet I know I'm going to. Being present is hard.05:30 Interactions with my daughter over breakfast highlight how contradictory my own desires are and how these opposite impulses are what life is truly made of.06:06 Recognizing each moment's qualities no matter what they are leads to contentment.06:30 There is no arriving – the moments I live will just keep going, and so I go with them.06:50 There is a relief knowing that there will never be a moment when I reach a complete understanding of life and all within it.06:53 There is no pinnacle of achievement to speed towards. This pace is fine whether I achieve anything or not.07:10 All my experiences are fine, whether I am enjoying them or not. I can let them be OK. I can accept them as they are.09:00 Allowing others to experience their life without me trying to change or fix them has allowed me to have my experiences without trying to change and fix them all the time, too.09:30 Letting people have their feelings can let you stop filtering their feelings through yours. Their feelings suddenly aren't about you anymore or a reflection of you.09:40 So much of what's going on in the world isn't about you or me. It just is happening. We don't have to take it personally, even though we can act to improve life and change it.10:00 We're all on the boat of life being tossed in the sea, and nobody knows what's going on but we're all doing the best we can. That's how it's always been.10:30 No matter how expanded I feel about other people, I know I'll only continue to be more impressed with them in another year. There's so much more to appreciate!11:30 Everyone lost something or someone over the last year or two. How have you grown with your loss?11:37 We don't grow beyond our losses. We incorporate them and we evolve expanding around them. Our losses make us who we are.12:00 In this moment, can you have compassion for everything that you've gone through and everything that you've witnessed?12:40 We don't have to handle life well in order to get through things. Even if we feel like we're failing or doing poorly, we are still surviving. Support the showYour donations mean the world to me and allow me to continue to create content each week. I ❤️you and thank you from the bottom of my heart. leave an awesome review on Apple podcasts to help spread the word subscribe so you don't miss an episode wherever you stream your podcasts Thanks for listening!
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This is the audio version of a blog post I wrote in May 2021.Everyone eventually reaches a point in life where the need to question assumptions arises; this may manifest in different ways at different points in life. Whenever I pass the apartment nearby my girlfriend's house where the teenager loudly plays the electric guitar, I like to joke, “You don't understand me, mom!” My girlfriend says the teenager and the mother actually seem to get along quite well.A lot of people might look around in their twenties and say, “Why are all these people doing this?” Or, they might pose this question's twin sibling, “Why am I not?” Cultures, beliefs, assumptions evolve over decades, centuries, millennia. The end result for beings who can think and feel is, ultimately, the perpetuation of the human race, the reward of evolution. So, if you feel like something is “missing” or if you aren't happy, maybe it's time to take a step back and evaluate, because evolution doesn't necessarily reward us with happiness.Karen Horney was a psychoanalyst. I, decidedly, am not, nor am I a psychologist or a therapist; I'm just a person trying to figure things out. I excitedly read Karen Horney's 1950 book Neurosis and Human Growth after finding it as a footnote in another book by a social psychologist named Carol Tavris (I would recommend both her books Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion and Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me)). I really liked Neurosis and Human Growth, though I am told by Dr. Tavris, whom I emailed about it, that psychoanalysis has fallen out of vogue and is quite dated. But, I still find a number of things Ms. Horney has to say to be extremely compelling.She talks about our expectations of life, of others, and of ourselves, dubbing this, “The Tyranny of the Should.” This is how things “should” be, as we esteem them, as individuals, societies, and cultures; I “should” be doing this, you “should” be doing that, you “should” be treating me a certain way. She illustrates what she calls a “neurotic claim” (Dr. Tavris also informed me psychology students today would no longer use the word “neurosis”) with an example about a train not being available when she wants to take it, and the resulting frustration that can result. The train “should” be available at 2:30PM, when I want to take it; how stupid that it is not available then! Certainly some injustices in our day-to-day life are more grave than others, but when you learn to see how you think about little things such as the dawdling pedestrian crossing the road or the driver who is having a hard time parallel parking, you can start to calm down a bit and go through life giving other parties a bit more benefit of the doubt.People often assume they are omniscient, as any connoisseur of Fox News or CNN might notice. We think we have all available facts, that if you just do X, Y, and Z, life will fall into place, and a magical happiness and utopia will result. And in a lot of ways, if you do the things you “should” do, you might be setting yourself up for success. But, evolution didn't reward human happiness; it rewarded the conditions that led to seven billion humans on Earth, a number that has increased over 10-fold in the last 500 years. If you've ever been to the natural history museum, humans are really old;like hundreds of thousands of years old. So, you don't have to be a math whiz to gather that modernity and civilization are, relatively speaking, kind of a new thing.In light of this, if you are feeling unsatisfied, unfulfilled, unhappy, maybe that, actually, makes quite a bit of sense. Modernity isn't quite as soul-crushing as history was, so we have a lot more time to think, take it easy, and ponder what exactly is going on. If you are feeling “something is missing,” maybe a personal re-evaluation of your philosophy of life, your “shoulds,” so to speak, is in order. My friends are all doctors, lawyers, engineers, are having children, have expensive real estate, and here I am holding a uniform from Hot Dog on a Stick and I live with my parents. To a certain extent, a lot of “should” can put humans in a place where they can achieve happiness; it is easier to be happy when you have a little extra money in the bank. But if you become addicted to a certain kind of lifestyle, that potential for lasting and intrinsic happiness can morph into a form of slavery, and then you're stuck making boat payments.To be sure, many people genuinely like having a boat, others maybe would be just as happy without one. I am sure there are just as many satisfied and happy parents as there are parents who wished (or think they wished) they had never had children; and surely their answers will differ ten and twenty and forty years from now. Different things have different meanings for different people; what do you want your life to mean for you?Jonathan Haidt and Carl Rogers both point out how inescapably social creatures humans are; if we did not care what others thought, we would be sociopaths. But, as you get older, you can start to question some of the assumptions that are core to our historical human function. Yes, it is impolite and rude to fart loudly on the subway, and we really ought not to shoot other people in the head for cutting us off in traffic; I think most people, on any given day, would feel these to be simple truths. But humans are no longer on the savanna with prehistoric creatures, and a lot of the impulses and feelings we evolved with have overstayed their practical welcome. You might start to question, as you get older, the up-keeping of appearances, and start to do the things that you want to do. Social isolation can be lonely, but it is fair to assume we will still have friends and be allowed at the grocery store if we pull up in a Nissan Versa instead of a BMW. Carl Rogers said, “When an activity feels as though it is valuable or worth doing, it is worth doing... I have never regretted moving in directions which ‘felt right,' even though I have often felt lonely or foolish at the time.”Learning to trust what you want from life doesn't have to mean a descent into booze-fueled nihilism coupled with a fast car and lots of drugs. A lot of the post-WWII pop-psychologists like to talk about listening to your inner dictates, being your true self, self-realization, so on and so forth. What they're really saying is that you need to do some things with your life that you genuinely want to do. Rob Kurzban is a psychologist who writes about the “modular mind,” and how we evolved with different brain “modules” that achieve certain evolutionary goals; there is no “self” in there, in our brains, running the show. This is another way of saying that all of the potential things which could be considered humanly good do not necessarily add up to all being compatible. There is no final life solution. Life has paradoxes. There is nuance. And, there are tradeoffs.What do you want from life? What do you want from the World? These are big questions. Humans are sexually reproductive creatures. If you want the pretty girl, a BMW might help. Others will tell you that if you are relying on the fancy car to get the girl, you're getting the “wrong” kind of girl. Do you want to start a family? If you aren't sure, maybe you should put the idea on ice until you've better sorted out your personal life philosophy.We have some modern society-wide assumptions that go like this; you should go to college, you should have nice stuff, you should have a family, and you should get a good job. And if you want things from the world, and from other people, a lot of these things will be mutually complementary.I did all of the things. I was married at 23, I had a mortgage not much later, and a graduate degree in marketing. And all I wanted to do was to sock away enough money so that we could pay off the mortgage so that I could “stop working.” I felt this deep hatred for my work, which for me was a career in internet marketing that eventually became somewhat lucrative. Eventually, couples therapy failed, my marriage went kaput, and I entered a fumbling figuring-myself-out in my late twenties; things people like my own parents had to figure out while being married to one another and having two young children. And it took about ten years of fumbling and doing the same thing until I finally had saved enough money to say I could quit my job, if not forever, at least for a good long while. I had had enough and wanted to embark on “something else.”My something else wound up entailing a lot of reading. I started with “Winners Take All” by Anand Giridharadas. I read a lot of non-fiction books, books about politics, something which I had an undergraduate degree in and had always been interested in. Then I found my way from political books to pop-psychology books, since politics involves people, as well as philosophy. I eventually wound my way to literature, having previously deemed the genre of fiction as mind-smut, and non-fiction as the way one learns things. And in the course of all this reading, I accidentally found my own, better, personal philosophy of life, and realized some life lessons of my own.Dostoevsky, a Russian literature author, pointed out that existence is in fact slavery, and while this sounds like a bleak assessment on the surface, it is objectively true, in a sense. We have to eat, thus, we need to get food; it so happens that now food comes from the store and not from the savanna. I think a lot of the modern discontent which exists is a rejection of this fact, a desire to spit in its face, the dislike of reality. Philosopher Karl Popper wrote of, “a deepfelt dissatisfaction with a world which does not, and cannot, live up to our moral ideas and to our dreams of perfection... a reaction against the strain of our civilization and its demand for personal responsibility.” The “Closed Society” of history is gone; our roles are not predestined, we must find them for ourselves. Humans have capacities and need to use them. We want to work, even if it's not what we think of as “work,” as George Orwell pointed out. A lot of political philosophy revolves about how we will re-make the World to somehow better link what we want to do with our lives versus what we must do economically in the World that has evolved. This usually involves the bloody death of those deemed to be evil. Suffice it to say, a paradox of “work” exists.There might be some fortunate people who find productive work which is both economically and personally rewarding. I imagine things like physical therapist or medical doctor to be amongst these professions. I cannot say what it is like since my profession is on the more soul-sucking/evil end of things. But, I have come to embrace that which provides me with a roof over my head, food in the fridge, and have learned to better appreciate my fortune. Not all things which are economically productive in life are going to be rewarding, and vice versa; this is an irresolvable conflict in a society which has any form of freedom. Ultimately, the question of whether you get to lead a happy life or not, resides with you. People adopt philosophies of life, and if your current life philosophy is coming up short; you need to figure out a new one. Australian “spirit master” Barry Long said, “The truth is you are responsible for your life. If you're not responsible, it's not your life; and that's absurd. Similarly, if you blame something else for what happens to you, you're giving up responsibility by giving it to others. To be responsible is to be responsible for everything that happens to you, unfolding as your life. Indeed, there are continual difficulties you have to face. They may seem to have been caused by other agencies. But you have to do your best to sort them out. That's life.”I never wanted to have a family because I saw it as an elongation of my slavery, manufacturing something which needed to be supported via doing those things I already hated doing so much. Perhaps it is a decision that I will regret in older age, though I think I have mostly moved passed living with regrets. I quit my job to do what “I wanted to do,” and that was to think about “fixing” politics, and to try to help people, somehow. I came to realize one of the best ways I could do something to “help people” was to lend financial assistance to young children in my own extended family who had the misfortune of being born with no fathers in the picture and are being raised by their grandmother; this very same something that I had previously found to be a very frustrating financial burden. The idea that somehow people can be okay with bringing children into the world and then not loving or taking care of them has always been deeply troubling to me; I always viewed having children as an enormous responsibility. So, I can do what I can to try to right this wrong, however inadequate.Leo Tolstoy's character Pierre, near the end of War and Peace, gave good color to the need for perspective in life. As a political prisoner of the invaders from Napoleonic France in his own native Russia, he discovers the Aurelian truth that all is perspective. Pierre suffers from blisters on his feet from marching as a prisoner of war. Tolstoy writes, “While imprisoned in the shed Pierre had learned not with his intellect but with his whole being, by life itself, that man is created for happiness, that happiness is within him, in the satisfaction of simple human needs, and that all unhappiness arises not from privation but from superfluity. And now during these last three weeks of the march he had learned still another new, consolatory truth — that nothing in this world is terrible. He had learned that as there is no condition in which man can be happy and entirely free, so there is no condition in which he need be unhappy and lack freedom. He learned that suffering and freedom have their limits and that those limits are very near together; that the person in a bed of roses with one crumpled petal suffered as keenly as he now... and that when he had put on tight dancing shoes he had suffered just as he did now when he walked with bare feet that were covered with sores... He discovered that when he had married his wife — of his own free will as it had seemed to him — he had been no more free than now when they locked him up at night in a stable. Of all that he himself subsequently termed his sufferings, but which at the time he scarcely felt, the worst was the state of his bare, raw, and scab-covered feet. (The horseflesh was appetizing and nourishing, the saltpeter flavor of the gunpowder they used instead of salt was even pleasant; there was no great cold, it was always warm walking in the daytime, and at night there were the campfires; the lice that devoured him warmed his body.) The one thing that was at first hard to bear was his feet.”Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor and author of Man's Search For Meaning, implores his reader to ask, what does life demand of you. Not to ask, what is the meaning of life. Because, the meaning of life cannot be known to humans. So, we must make our own meaning. Our greatest freedom is the choice of how to respond to life. The determinists, those who think all is pre-ordained and nothing can be changed, would say we do not even have this freedom. But if we do not have this freedom, why should we live?In my quest to do “something else” with my life, I strangely find myself back in a similar place, doing internet marketing part-time so that I can fulfill financial obligations to help my family. But I do not think of it as I thought of it before. I can think of no better use of my time to contribute, financially and spiritually, to two young children in my own family with no fathers. I still do not like my line of work, not genuinely, but it provides me with financial freedom and time to write things such as this.People make decisions. A lot of people choose prisons of their own making, maybe inadvertently, maybe on purpose. The determinist says people don't make decisions, “[W]ith them one is always a ‘victim of the environment'--and nothing else!” Are our own abilities to evaluate our lives a product of our social environment? It surely plays a role, but we must play the cards we are dealt. If you can learn to trust yourself, your “inner dictates,” a sea of anxiety and self-mistrust can begin to wash away, in time, and you can begin to live your life more in accordance with what you think you should do. I believe this because I feel it myself; I recognize my good psychological fortune in having been raised by two loving parents in a small rural Ivy League town. I like to have time to ride my bicycle and read books; riding my bike brings me great joy, and provides me with a source of happiness. Helping my family brings me a source of meaning, and one day I'd like to try to help others figure out how to better succeed at life in ways that I have. I do not accept that the only way to contribute to humanity is to have children, that there is something wrong with me because I am in my late 30s, have no car, and live with a cat. I am not here on Earth to somehow preserve someone else's standards for living. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit underconsumed.substack.com
This week, we're celebrating Kevin Verga's 24th birthday with an episode dedicated to the man himself: everyone's favorite returning guest (& honorary co-host). After discussing lost loves, workout classes, and Coach Bennett in h.e.r. Reflections, the trio moves on to Swoon of the Week, where they dish on Gonzaga basketball, Coach Kyle Neptune, and Lili Trifilio of Beach Bunny fame. Next, it's time for Content Catchup. Hear about Human Growth and Development from Emma, plus some nuggets of wisdom courtesy of Patti Smith (brought to us by Kevin). Rachel wraps up with a discussion about niceness, inspired by a recent episode of The Cut podcast; then, it's time for Kevin's birthday horoscope. How do you know when it's time to set a boundary? And what do you do to set that boundary? Hear all the fiery answers right here on the h.e.r.LIFE Blogcast. Thank you to Kevin Verga, Emma Spoldi, and Rachel Malak for contributing this week, and as always, thank you for listening! Find us on Instagram @her.blog.life: https://www.instagram.com/her.blog.life/ Subscribe to Rachel's YouTube channel for behind-the-scenes videos of recordings: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpvDljLIDd8mRegPxrGYqpA?view_as=subscriber Check out all our blog posts at https://herbloglife.online/
113 - Better Human: Growth Mindset, Infinite vs Finite Games, and moreOn this episode, we go over the issue of a fixed vs a growth mindset and how it affects your future success, the infinite game of life and other life skills and essential nuggets of knowledge that one needs in order to become a better human. Tune in to find out more!About Show:The Better Human Podcast is a show dedicated to the pursuit of Building Better Humans. Hosted by Colin Stuckert, Entrepreneur, Thinker, and Better Human Builder.We are obsessed with finding ways to become better. We are PRO HUMAN and celebrate the collective human experience.We bring on human guests to teach, share, and learn.Connect:Get my best content each week via the Better Human NewsletterSupport our work on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/colinstuckert - Help us Build Better Humans through Big Ideas and Better ThinkingJoin Colin on YouTube: Colin Stuckert https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCb8QRP3hpGbvF25x7W06cwQ and his backup show Escaping Fragility: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCb8QRP3hpGbvF25x7W06cwQInstagram and my personal website where I write about productivity, mindset, and success: https://colin.coachWild Foods InstagramFree ResoucesDownload the FREE PDF 7 Principles of Better Human https://www.colin.coach/better-human-pdf-downloadAlderspring Ranch - Probably the healthiest grass-fed beef on the planet. We had the founder on the Ancestral Mind podcast. You can listen here.
This week Chris and Ryan interview Davin Fassauer.Support the show
This week Chris and Ryan interview Tuwi Starks to discuss life, prison, and the rebound. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/thefelonandthesquare )
The Golden Mic Podcast w/ Marc Cordon and TEDxOcala Ep. 038 They Called Her School w/ Amira Sims https://play.goldenmicpodcast.com/0038_sims Even as a child Amira Sims taught. Her first students? Stuffed animals. Within a few years, Amira was giving homework to her new class her family. It's not a surprise that Amira has been teaching a wide range of undergraduate classes in General Psychology, Human Growth and Development, and my personal favorite Social Psychology. There is nothing like being paid to do what you love, and Amira has leaned into that as she has traversed the country as an instructor and poet. While she has the chops to teach, speak and perform, it's in the moments when she has gone off the script, off the lesson plan where she has found her true unfiltered and unfettered voice. It's most apropos that we kickoff a block of guests leading up to TEDxOcala 2020 with Amira's story as both she and TEDxOcala's theme encourage us to be ourselves and use our voice in authentically sovereign, powerfully vulnerable and unapologetically joyful ways. It's going to be a veritable cornucopia of diverse voices that will culminate at TEDxOcala, so if there ever was a time to subscribe, rate, and leave a testimonial on the Golden Mic Podcast, it's now. Don't miss an interview. See Amira Sims in a limited live audience or live-stream on Saturday November 7, 2020 from 10am - 4pm EST at the College of Central Florida. We love your feedback, so if you've enjoyed this show, please rate us and leave us a review. And don't forget to subscribe, so you don't miss another episode again ____ For a free podcasting mini-course on how this podcast was created, click here: tips on how to create a podcast like this one, click here.
Long time friends discuss life as an ex-felon and a self-proclaimed square.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/thefelonandthesquare )