Podcasts about Betrayal trauma

Are you resentful that you're the one doing all the healing work after betrayal? It feels unfair—you didn't cause the affair or the lies, yet you're left carrying the heavy weight of betrayal trauma. In this episode of Beauty Beyond Betrayal, Lisa unpacks why healing, as unjust as it feels, is still your choice, your responsibility, and your gift to yourself. You'll discover 3 powerful steps to move out of resentment and step into healing, freedom, and hope. Learn how to shift your mindset from “Why me?” to “What now?”, reclaim your daily power through practical tools, and release resentment through biblical truth. If you're ready to break free from bitterness and step into God's restoration, this episode is for you.

In this powerful conversation, therapist Adam Nisenson, LMFT, CSAT, opens up about the often-ignored reality of men navigating betrayal. He shares both his personal journey and professional insights into:  The unique challenges men face when society tells them to “be strong” instead of vulnerable  The stages of healing after betrayal  How support systems and safe connections help men reclaim their self-worth  Why embracing vulnerability isn't weakness—it's transformative power This episode is a must-listen for anyone who wants to better understand men's healing journeys and the courage it takes to face betrayal with honesty and heart.  Tune in now and explore the path from pain to resilience.

This episode (#295) examines the devastating impact of a husband who weaponized pornography and withheld intimacy as punishment for his wife not meeting his “ideal” body standard. Over two decades, his rejection inflicted a “self-esteem massacre,” leaving her questioning how she could ever recover. We identify this behavior as rooted in immaturity, selfishness, and abuse, making clear that true love cannot coexist with manipulation, blame, and objectification.On the husband's side, recovery requires full accountability for the betrayal, exploration of the underlying reasons for his actions, and professional support to overcome blind spots. He must rewire his arousal template away from pornography's objectification, learn to value his wife as a whole person, and proactively pursue her through consistent, tangible actions of empathy and repair. Without ongoing accountability and amends, there is no foundation for rebuilding trust.For the partner, healing means cultivating self-worth independent of him, setting clear boundaries, and building a support network outside the marriage. She must find her authentic voice to name her needs, articulate the impact of his actions, and decide what is safe and healthy for her future. The article closes with affirmation: she did not cause this, she does not deserve it, she cannot fix him, and she remains inherently valuable and lovable regardless of his choices.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   My Partner uses Porn to Punish Me for Not Losing Weight. How do I Recover from That?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Jay opens up about the internal voice telling him to confess his porn addiction - and why he actively chose to ignore it for years. We explore: • The pattern of CALCULATED DELAY • What that "voice of truth" actually sounds like • The PERSONAL COSTS of ignoring God's promptings • The split-second decision between truth and silence • How SILENCE IS NEVER NEUTRAL • When lying feels holy If you're struggling with porn addiction, betrayal trauma, or wondering whether to come clean about your secrets, this conversation offers hope and practical insight into this crucial part of the recovery process. Timestamps 00:00 Intro 00:28 Did you ever feel like you should tell the truth? 01:39 Jay describes the VOICE OF TRUTH (hearing God) 04:36 Earlier opportunities to avoid D-Day 06:29 What did you do when the voice showed up? 08:06 On feeling unlovable 10:05 When the wife ACCEPTS THE ADDICTION 12:55 Misunderstanding about ATTRACTIVE WOMEN 15:44 HOW GOD SEES US (3 ways) 18:35 Did you think silence would keep you lovable? 21:50 Personal COSTS of ignored nudges 24:31 Silence is never neutral 28:16 Was there a question I SHOULD HAVE ASKED to make you confess? 30:28 Was there any part of this that felt holy or virtuous? (spiritual costs) -- To Rebuild Trust - https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Betrayal Trauma - https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Addiction - https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww -- Who is This Channel For? If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we're using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you're seeking. #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice

Have you ever tried to explain betrayal trauma to a therapist, pastor, family member, or friend—only to be met with blank stares, clichés, or advice that left you feeling even more alone? You're not crazy, and you're not overreacting. Betrayal trauma is real, and in this episode of Beauty Beyond Betrayal, I'll give you the exact language to help others finally understand. You'll discover: 3 powerful ways to explain what betrayal trauma really is How betrayal trauma impacts your body, mind, and spirit 3 specific things you can share about what you need in order to heal If you've ever felt unseen or unheard in your pain, this episode will give you clarity, confidence, and hope as you invite others into your healing journey. And if you're ready to go deeper, my 7 Pillars of Healing from Betrayal Trauma program is designed to help you move from shattered to restored—step by step, God's way. Don't wait to begin your healing. :: NEXT STEPS: Beauty Beyond Betrayal Website:  www.beautybeyondbetrayal.org  Work with Lisa:  Coaching Information Schedule your MARRIAGE REDESIGNED FREE CONSULT  Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Grab your Free Ebook:   Broken Vows: Begin healing from the devastation of betrayal Email:   info@lisalimehouse.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE  

Have you ever been called too emotional, clingy, or even codependent because of the way you responded to a loved one's addiction or betrayal? Here's the truth: emotional reactivity in those situations isn't codependency—it's a trauma response. In this episode, we dive into the critical difference between codependency and PTSD caused by betrayal trauma. When you're living with someone struggling with addiction, it's not uncommon to experience broken trust, lies, and emotional chaos. The rollercoaster you're on isn't because you're overly attached—it's because you've been hurt by someone you trusted. You'll learn: What betrayal trauma actually is Why trauma responses are often misunderstood (and mislabeled as codependency) How living with addiction impacts your nervous system and emotional responses First steps you can take to begin healing and reclaiming your peace If you've ever felt dismissed or judged for your emotions, this conversation will help you reframe your experience and remind you that your pain is valid. ✨ Resources Mentioned in This Episode Soberlink Alcohol Monitoring System https://www.soberlink.com/amber Betrayal Trauma Healing Program (Dr. Debi Silbers) https://mypbtinstitute.com/~access/a14c2436f/ Free Downloadable Resources https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/free-resources Family Recovery Support Group (Facebook) https://www.facebook.com/groups/familyrecoverysupport Schedule an Appointment https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/make-an-appointment Learn About the Invisible Intervention https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/invisible-intervention Get Advice Anytime with Amber AI https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/24-7-coaching-with-amber-ai

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, we welcome back Lyschel Burket, Executive Director of Hope Redefined, a ministry for wives facing sexual betrayal trauma. Lyschel shares updates about her work, including a new 45-week healing curriculum, and then we dive deep into the complexities of betrayal trauma, misplaced hope, and the journey toward true healing. Lyschel offers wisdom from her own story, emphasizing the importance of finding safety, authentic community, and hope in Christ—not just in a spouse's recovery. It's an insightful, practical conversation for anyone seeking restoration after deep relational wounds.To learn more about Lyschel and her ministry resources, visit HopeRedefined.org.Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of sexual betrayal trauma and its impact on wives and women.Introduction of the "Abiding in Hope" curriculum aimed at supporting healing in community.Definition and exploration of betrayal trauma, particularly in the context of marriage.Examination of the complexities of trust and the challenges faced in the healing process.Analysis of misplaced hope in husbands' recovery and the implications for personal healing.Identification of common coping mechanisms and responses to betrayal trauma.Emphasis on the importance of establishing safety and stabilization as foundational for healing.Insights on the role of community in the healing journey and the need for authenticity.Practical steps for women to rebuild their relationship with God and redefine hope.Encouragement for women to embrace their healing journey and recognize progress over time.More Resources:Finding Hope Support GroupAbiding in Hope Online GroupWives Care Online GroupsRelated Podcasts:Hope After BetrayalLiminal Space: Helping Wives Transition from Betrayal to HopeThe Need for Boundaries After Betrayal----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

This is PBSE Episode 295—When betrayal trauma collides with a history of childhood sexual abuse, partners often feel doubly overwhelmed, carrying both the scars of the past and the pain of the present. Silence, a survival strategy from childhood, often resurfaces in marriage, leaving betrayed partners afraid to voice their needs for fear of conflict or abandonment. But silence only deepens the trauma. Healing begins when partners reclaim their voices, practicing authentic expression of their feelings and needs without falling into nagging or control. Pressure, when it comes from truth and transparency, is not harmful—it can be the very catalyst that sparks real change in the addicted spouse.For betrayed partners, it is equally vital to build strong outside support systems—through therapy, 12-step groups, trusted friends, or recovery programs—that provide safety and perspective when their spouse cannot. This network enables them to “dial back” intimacy in unsafe moments, protecting themselves while remaining authentic and ready to re-engage when conditions improve. Boundaries and outside support affirm their worth and help them separate their healing from their partner's recovery.Addicts, for their part, must wake up and embrace full accountability. Complacency, secrecy, or half-hearted efforts only reinforce old wounds and destroy trust. Healing requires daily transparency, empathy, and proactive recovery work, not only to restore safety for the partner but also to live in integrity and peace. Though the journey is complex and painful, when both partners commit to these principles, the relationship can move beyond mere survival toward deeper connection, authenticity, and lasting healing.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Healing for Betrayed Partners with a Sexually Abusive Past (PART 2)Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Delanie Fischer is joined by Dr. Tara—Tenured Professor of Relational and Sexual Communication and Quantitative Research at California State University Fullerton, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, and Co-Host of the iconic radio show Loveline—to unpack the “whys” behind infidelity. Dr. Tara shares the 3 main reasons people cheat, how to begin healing from betrayal, and what to consider for creating healthier relationship dynamics.Plus:+ 2 Sexual Health Myths Debunked+ Serial Cheaters vs. Serial Monogamists+ A Breakdown of Catastrophe TheoryMore episodes related to this topic:When My Husband Came Out: Sexuality, Betrayal, and Healing with Jessica Frew: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/229e6642/when-my-husband-came-out-sexuality-betrayal-and-healing-with-jessica-frewMeeting Your Soulmate (While Married) and Breaking Free From "Good Girl" Conditioning with Amber Rae: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/21afaab6/meeting-your-soulmate-while-married-and-breaking-free-from-good-girl-conditioning-with-amber-raeDiagnosed Narcissist (Lee Hammock) and Clinical Psychologist (Dr. Ramani) Offer Insights Into Manipulation And Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/241deda3/diagnosed-narcissist-lee-hammock-and-clinical-psychologist-dr-ramani-offer-insights-into-manipulation-and-narcissistic-personality-disorder-npdDeceptive Affection, Betrayal Trauma, and Multidimensional Healing with Támara Hill: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24cc8b07/deceptive-affection-betrayal-trauma-and-multidimensional-healing-with-tamara-hillYour Burning Relationship Questions Answered with Rachel DeAlto: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/3f1ddb9c/your-burning-relationship-questions-answered-with-rachel-dealtoIs It Porn Addiction? Inside the Impact, Neuroscience, and Recovery with Steve Moore and Mark Kastleman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2230ec70/is-it-porn-addiction-inside-the-impact-neuroscience-and-recovery-with-steve-moore-and-mark-kastlemanSelf-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Send us a textBetrayal trauma is more than just heartbreak, it's a deep wound that shakes your trust, your safety, and your sense of reality.In this week's Sister Connection episode, I sit down with two women who have walked through the pain of betrayal and found hope again. They share their raw, personal stories, what helped them survive the hardest days, and how they began to heal.If you or someone you love has experienced betrayal, this episode will help you feel less alone and more understood.________________________For all the links from this episode and more mental health resources, head to the link below!Show notes: https://www.nikiolsencoaching.com/blog/212________________________

In Episode 293, Mark ands Steve address how childhood sexual abuse is a form of complex trauma that imprints deeply on a survivor's understanding of love, trust, and sexuality. It often distorts sexual norms, blurs boundaries between consent and compliance, and creates lasting confusion around intimacy. Survivors may develop insecure attachment styles—avoidant, anxious, or disorganized—and struggle with either extreme sexual avoidance or sexualized attempts to gain connection and worth. These patterns are not merely psychological; they are wired into the brain's emotional memory systems, shaping relationships for decades.When betrayal trauma occurs in adulthood, the impact is often magnified for survivors of early abuse. The discovery of infidelity or sexual betrayal can reawaken old wounds, undermining not just trust in the current relationship but in people in general. Past reconciliations with abusers or protectors may unravel, and hypervigilance can take over—making the world feel unsafe at every turn. This compounded trauma is not simply about the betrayal itself; it's about the way the betrayal mirrors and magnifies the earliest, most damaging experiences in the survivor's life.Understanding these intersections is critical for both survivors and their partners—especially those in addiction recovery. Naming these patterns removes the mystery behind overwhelming emotional reactions, replacing self-blame or confusion with clarity. For the unfaithful partner, it deepens awareness of the harm caused and the seriousness of the recovery work ahead. For the survivor, it creates a foundation for informed healing—making it possible to separate past from present and begin rebuilding trust and safety in a deliberate, compassionate way.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: The Impact of a Sexually Abusive Childhood on a Betrayed Partner (Part 1)Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we are answering a listener who has several questions. We Discuss: How do we balance taking responsibility for our own safety while growing our window of tolerance around our husbands who are gradually learning to become safe? How do we lean into the discomfort of being somewhat vulnerable with them while remaining boundaried? How do we care for ourselves and do our own work while our husbands are in early recovery and maybe not very safe. Resources mentioned in this show: Episode 27: The Hidden Wounds Under Triggers Episode 28: The Spectrum of Triggers Submit a question to be answered on a future podcast. The Power of Vulnerability by Brene Brown Info for the Redeemed Hope Retreat

In this raw conversation, we expose why the lies addicts tell and the beliefs they hide behind increase betrayal trauma. Jay opens up about the shocking justifications for his deceit and the internal struggles he faced while battling addiction. We cover two ways to COMBAT THE DELUSION of 'protecting' a partner from the truth. Lori asks about the deep-seated beliefs that shaped his actions, and stay until the end in for an eye-opening conversation on spiritual values, as well as a behind the scenes (kind of funny) moment. Timestamps 00:00 Intro and Question 02:01 I don't want to get better 04:42 It became acceptable 05:17 “The beliefs that justified my lies” 09:02 Beliefs about LIFE/RELATIONSHIPS that helped him justify lying* 13:41 One more belief from his past 14:42 Solution: What is the history of the addict in your life? 16:55 "Maybe I SHOULD QUIT the thing I'm lying about?"* 18:35 Delusion and Pollyanna 20:36 Did Jay ever think the lying would cause more damage than porn. 23:58 What was the most shocking lie Jay justified? 24:53 Did SPIRITUAL/MORAL VALUES ever compete with his justifications?* 26:37 Jay's thinking now? 27:41 The PROBLEM WITH CONFESSING all at once* 28:55 WORSE than porn 31:21 Feedback 32:06 BTS Moment involving a Bow and Arrow -- To Rebuild Trust - https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Betrayal Trauma - https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Addiction - https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww -- Who is This Channel For? If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we're using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you're seeking. #BetrayalTrauma #HealingTrust #PornAddiction #MarriageAdvice #Confession

What do you do when you unexpectedly see the other woman in public? Today's episode is vulnerable and truth-filled. I'm guiding you through one of the most emotionally triggering moments after infidelity. Learn how to manage your trauma response, why confronting the other woman won't bring healing, and the 3 best practices to protect your peace and walk away with strength. Anchored in biblical truth and practical tools, this episode is a must-listen for any betrayed wife navigating the aftermath of an affair.

Are you suffering after marriage betrayal trauma? Do you wonder if you will ever be able to trust someone to be close to you again? Or maybe you wonder if you will ever regain your self confidence again? In this episode I talk about what happens when you've experienced being betrayed in marriage or a long term relationship and how to respond in a way that will start to change how you feel about yourself and your future.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roundtable/ If you're facing possible divorce, we have an online course which is specifically for you - Defuse the Divorce Bomb: https://mojopolis.thinkific.com/courses/HDDB-preview?ref=a53950 What if this next year everything changed for you? That's what we want for you brother, We love teaching men these tools - how to be better, how to know who you are, what you stand for, what you want and how to CREATE it in your life through our Masculine Confidence coaching programs. Dan and I are here to guide you on this mission.https://goodguys2greatmen.com/mens-relationship-coaching/ Steve's book Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband will help you to lead yourself and your relationship back to good health. Understand why your partner acts the way she does toward you and learn how to lead your life in the direction you want it to go. You CAN have the relationship you want, fulfilling all your desires while maintaining love and respect.https://goodguys2greatmen.com/straight-talk-tools-for-the-desperate-husband/ We also have a free e-book to help men learn how to lose their fear and be more bold in their marriage to create the love and connection they want. Get The Hard to Swallow Truth About Saving Your Marriage: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/ If you want to learn more about how to take a bigger step toward being a clear-headed, confident man of action, then find out more here: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/mens-relationship-coaching/ We would be thrilled to help you get there - our first discovery call is always free and always gives you a BIG boost of confidence. You WILL become a clearer, stronger, more confident man only through other men. Your woman cannot take you there - and she doesn't WANT to...trust us on that. Sign up to receive our email newsletters for lots more free tips and advice here: https://archive.aweber.com/stevemain Subscribe to be notified whenever we upload a new video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC13h36xaBvyTPVAES4-4rXw?sub_confirmation=1 You can watch all our videos here: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/video-library/ Or read our blog articles here: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/blog/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.

This episode (#292) explores the repeated heartbreak many betrayed partners experience when they unknowingly enter relationships with porn or sex addicts, offering both empathy and practical strategies for breaking the cycle. It begins by affirming that betrayal is never the betrayed partner's fault, highlighting how addicts often hide their behaviors through manipulation, secrecy, and even self-denial. The emotional devastation of discovering such betrayal—especially after believing a partner shared your values—is profound, and the first step toward healing is letting go of misplaced self-blame. Support systems such as therapy, 12-step programs, or recovery communities are presented as essential for replacing isolation with understanding, accountability, and informed caution.From there, the discussion moves into proactive ways to protect oneself in future relationships. This includes pacing physical intimacy to avoid neurochemical “fog” that can cloud judgment, learning to spot early red flags such as boundary-pushing or defensiveness, and ensuring that emotional, intellectual, and spiritual intimacy are built before sexual involvement. The article stresses the importance of cultivating self-love and personal security before committing to a partner, which allows for the creation and communication of healthy, non-negotiable boundaries. These boundaries not only help filter out unsafe partners early but also foster transparency and respect in ongoing relationships.Finally, the article underscores the value of doing personal work before pursuing another relationship, particularly exploring attachment patterns, vulnerability to codependency, and habitual overlooking of warning signs. Breaking the cycle doesn't simply mean avoiding addicts—it means becoming someone who won't settle for relationships that compromise their self-worth. The conclusion offers a hopeful vision: while no one can guarantee they'll never be hurt again, self-awareness, intentional boundaries, and strong support networks can ensure that if betrayal does occur, it will be recognized sooner, addressed decisively, and healed from more quickly. At the heart of this approach is the belief that every person deserves a relationship where trust is cherished, respect is mutual, and love is genuine.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  I Keep Finding Myself Hurt In Relationships with Porn/Sex Addicts—How do I Break the Cycle?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

This episode goes deep into how betrayal trauma lives in the body. Not just emotionally, but energetically — and how that affects your ability to trust others, trust yourself, and fully commit to what you know you need.I talk about how that fear of being taken advantage of, let down, or making the “wrong” decision is actually the thing making your body feel stuck, bloated, or like it's working against you.If you've been doing “all the right things” and still not seeing results… this might be the real reason.01:21 Understanding Betrayal Trauma02:54 Impact of Betrayal on the Body04:03 Overcoming Betrayal Trauma05:17 Conclusion and Next StepsThen this is your wake-up call.You're not lazy. You're not broken. You're just stuck in betrayal-coded energy.And I'm showing you how to decode it.Support the show Stop guessing. Start decoding.

What models did you experience for marriage and how did they affect you? Marriage and family therapist Joe Sikorra joins Trending with Timmerie (0:52) They discuss questions from family of origin wounds including: abandonment, anxiety, alcoholism, elderly parents, divorce, and more. Questions (28:16) Resources mentioned: Joe Sikorra’s Website: https://joesikorra.com/ Book: Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy - By Francine Shapiro - https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Past-Your-Self-Help-Techniques/dp/1609619951/ref=sr_1_1?adgrpid=1331509150808673&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.9OmDJ7MXZ8QfbXa-d7LiUO4lvUEiG_eKEWDKD-ef3W9_3YOGcaGTRjjSAJt0W6zmGVKHq7Y1gvPZjqpSfe9LV66vWaOlObTTclxs-hZ5wTyStuFWYGZtcHdd6447AuYwsLbPUzOTcrrH-fg8xqHiiGajigwd_91NKCcTGYdU-bYD2w36WB3AZ1uc6mQNb0Z-.yZ7pXArSkCjnmv9QDU1lKy8onl9akdZsJKnet7eEB78&dib_tag=se&hvadid=83219393828846&hvbmt=be&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=102956&hvnetw=o&hvqmt=e&hvtargid=kwd-83219676824691%3Aloc-190&hydadcr=15583_10499576&keywords=francine+shapiro%E2%80%99s+getting+past+your+past&qid=1717112342&sr=8-1 Catholic Therapists https://www.catholictherapists.com/ Bloom for Catholic Women – Healing from Betrayal Trauma https://www.bloomforcatholicwomen.com/

Why can't she trust me, even after disclosure? Learn how betrayal trauma, unsafe responses from others, and lack of purpose delay healing. Listen now.Full Summary:Even after the truth comes out, trust doesn't come back right away. Why? Because the damage runs deeper than the behavior—it shatters her trust in herself and in anyone she turns to for help. In this eye-opening episode, Maurice Harker breaks down the ripple effects of betrayal trauma and explains why being a man with a clear purpose is more powerful than just “trying to be better.”You'll also discover how friends, family, church leaders, and even counselors often make things worse—and what true emotional safety looks like from her side.

After 15 years of addiction, lies, and hiding, Jay finally found BROKENNESS. Not in a loud, dramatic crash, but in a quiet, rock-bottom moment where he just couldn't keep lying about it... not to his wife, and not to himself. In this video, we unpack THE MOMENT everything shifted, the darkest time in our marriage. We also cover the exact truths that went through Jay's mind at that moment, what finally broke the cycle, and what actions keep him sober to this day. If you're stuck in addiction or trying to rebuild trust after betrayal, this conversation gets real. We name what actually changes things—not just for addicts, but for the wives of men who are ready to get serious. This was the moment that made truth livable. This was the day everything began to change. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Intro and Question 00:43 The day Jay found BROKENNESS/hit ROCK BOTTOM 02:54 Jay's darkest moment (This really FRUSTRATES Lori) 05:33 What Jay told himself when he hit Rock Bottom 06:19 What made all the difference 08:13 Solution: If you can't leave 11:52 Addicted thinking vs Sober thinking 13:56 How Jay stays sober 15 years later* 16:08 "Those made all the difference" * 16:58 One big thing 17:57 What FREEDOM actually feels like now* 19:44 How Jay feels about himself now 21:18 How Jay has changed (from Loris POV) -- To Rebuild Trust - https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Betrayal Trauma - https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Addiction - https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww -- Who is This Channel For? If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we're using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you're seeking. #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice #rockbottom #truth #healing #soberlife #addiction #marriagehelp #liedtoher #pornrecovery #breakthestigma

You don't need to have all the answers to begin healing. In this powerful and compassionate episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Idit Sharoni, LMFT, is joined by Program Specialist and therapist Alana Tokayer, LMFT, to answer a question many hurt partners silently ask: “Is it even worth starting the healing process if I'm not sure I want to stay?” We explore why uncertainty is a completely normal—and expected—part of the aftermath of infidelity, and how beginning the healing process can actually lead to the clarity so many partners are searching for. ⏱ Episode Timestamps: 00:02 – Why uncertainty after infidelity is normal Idit introduces the topic and explains how common it is for hurt partners to question whether healing is worth it when they're unsure about staying. 04:24 – The emotional duality of betrayal Alana describes the emotional seesaw many hurt partners experience—feeling both deep pain and lingering love—and why that doesn't mean something is wrong with you. 08:20 – Why you don't need to decide before you begin Idit explains how healing often leads to clarity, and that deciding to stay is not a requirement to start the recovery process. 14:40 – How healing helps clarify what's possible Alana shares the metaphor of the fogged-up window and how clarity emerges from experience—not from overthinking or pressure. 22:25 – The difference between being remorseful and acting remorseful Idit outlines what true remorse looks like and how an unfaithful partner can appear unremorseful even if they feel regret.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, we have back with us on the program Dr. Eddie Capparucci, counselor and co-author of Going Deeper for the Betrayed Partner.* Our topic of conversation is to explore the journey of healing from betrayal trauma, especially for women who have experienced infidelity. Dr. Eddie shares his unique inner child model, helping us understand how past wounds shape our emotional responses today. Together, we discuss practical tools for managing difficult feelings, the importance of self-compassion, and how both partners can support each other on the path to recovery. It's an honest, hopeful conversation about reclaiming your sense of self and finding healing after deep hurt.For more information about Dr. Eddie and his resources, visit AbundantLifeCounselingGA.com or search for “Going Deeper books” on Amazon.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Definition and significance of betrayal trauma, particularly in marital relationships.The emotional impact of infidelity on individuals, especially women.Introduction and explanation of the inner child model as a therapeutic approach.The connection between unresolved childhood wounds and adult emotional responses.Differentiation between sexual betrayal and other forms of betrayal (e.g., financial, emotional).The importance of recognizing and nurturing the inner child for healing.Strategies for managing emotions and shifting from emotional responses to rational thinking.Addressing common objections and validating emotions while assessing their accuracy.Encouragement for both partners in a relationship affected by betrayal to support each other.Resources and tools for further exploration of betrayal trauma and inner child work.More Resources:Going Deeper for the Betrayed Partner*Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction*Wives Care Online GroupsRelated Podcasts:Emotional Transformation Therapy for Betrayed WivesBetrayal Trauma Healing (PSR Podcast Bundle)Helping a Wife Heal*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

Episode 290 of the PBSE Podcast explores a powerful question submitted by a betrayed partner whose addict husband is in active recovery but refuses to discuss his past. The discussion centers on what real intimacy requires—emotional nakedness, vulnerability, and the willingness to be known. While many addicts hold back due to fear, shame, or cultural conditioning, we unpack how these barriers undermine authentic connection in relationships. Intimacy is described as a process of “emotional disrobing,” where both partners share parts of themselves in increasing depth to build emotional closeness.We argue that the past is never truly in the past—it shapes our present behaviors, beliefs, and relationships. Refusing to share one's past doesn't make it irrelevant; it only creates confusion and distance. For a partner to heal and understand the addict's behaviors, context is essential. Without that, partners are left guessing and often interpret behavior as hatred or rejection rather than unhealed trauma. Disclosure doesn't excuse past harms, but it provides meaning and supports empathy, healing, and deeper trust.Ultimately, a couple can technically survive without full transparency, but they cannot thrive. Choosing to withhold emotional truths places a glass ceiling on the relationship's potential. Vulnerability is scary, but it's the only path to real, lasting intimacy. Through formal disclosure processes, safe conversations, and daily acts of honesty, couples can build something far deeper than simple sobriety—a relationship rooted in truth, empathy, and enduring connection.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: Can I Have a Healthy Relationship with my Addict Partner without him Sharing His Past?  Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

This episode tackles the heartfelt question of a recovering porn addict whose wife frequently screams, lashes out, and accuses him of lying—despite his efforts at sobriety and support. We emphasize that these outbursts often stem from deep, layered trauma, especially when relapse reopens old wounds. Recovery is not just about avoiding porn; it's about understanding and owning the devastating emotional impact the betrayal has had, and proactively working to create safety and restore trust.We stress that individual recovery must come first. Addicts need to cultivate emotional stability, self-worth, and robust support systems. They must also proactively communicate their recovery journey—what they're doing, learning, and becoming. Without this, partners will often default to fear and worst-case assumptions. Daily actions that rebuild trust, including follow-through on commitments and consistent emotional visibility, are essential. Rage, when seen through the right lens, is often a broken cry for connection that requires compassion, not defensiveness.Finally, we remind both partners that long-term healing requires balanced, respectful communication. Addicts are not exempt from respect simply because they caused harm, and partners must also work on managing trauma-based responses. Screaming and toxic communication may be understandable but aren't effective. A relationship can only thrive when both parties are working toward mutual healing, equality, and emotional safety. With courage and consistent effort, real connection is possible.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  My Betrayed Partner regularly Screams & Lashes Out . . .  How can I Help Her?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

What does real intimacy feel like after betrayal, addiction, and years of rebuilding trust? In this episode, we open up about how Jay's ability to connect has changed over time — from fake vulnerability and performance to HONEST EMOTIONS and simple, humble presence. Jay shares how he used to seek physical intimacy to avoid emotions, and how healing has redefined what closeness feels like. We talk about the risks of being emotionally naked, the power of GIVING SACRIFICIALLY, and how intimacy now lives in the small moments we missed before. Topics we explore in this episode: – The quickest path to intimacy (hint: it's not sex) – What vulnerability really means – Giving to give vs. giving to get – Why 50/50 doesn't fully heal relationships – Untangling emotional from physical intimacy – Presence: the real secret to connection If you've ever wondered what intimacy can look like after real healing — not just surviving but connecting deeply — this one is for you.   00:00 Intro and question 00:44 How Jay saw intimacy THEN vs NOW 03:38 But it's not this... 04:06 What intimacy looks like after healing the relationship 05:35 The QUICKEST way to intimacy 07:49 Giving to give vs. GIVING TO GET 09:02 Should it be 50/50? 09:55 Did Jay ‘fake it' at church? 13:08 Qualities of vulnerability 14:53 Now intimacy 'is just there' 17:50 The main thing: Presence Leave a comment and let us know what touched you most. Subscribe for more episodes on healing from porn addiction and betrayal trauma. -- To Rebuild Trust - https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Betrayal Trauma - https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Addiction - https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww -- Who is This Channel For? If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we're using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you're seeking. #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice #intimacyafterbetrayal #emotionalintimacy #rebuildingtrust #vulnerabilityheals #relationshiphealing

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Text Me!Episode 232: Healing Shame: One Man's Journey Through Porn Addiction w/ Jeremy LipkowitzIn episode 232 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Jeremy Lipkowitz to the show and they discuss porn addticiton and overcoming shame.Jeremy opens up about his 15-year journey with porn addiction, beginning at age seven with a lingerie catalog and escalating to hours of daily online consumption by college. They unpack how porn rewires the brain, disrupts relationships, and becomes a hidden coping mechanism for emotional pain. Through his personal story and coaching expertise, Jeremy offers genuine, compassionate insight into how individuals can initiate the process of healing, recovery, and reconnection with themselves and others.Whether you're personally affected, love someone who struggles, or are raising kids in this digital world, this conversation is a must-listen.What you will learn:The three “A's” that make porn addiction uniquely powerful: affordable, accessible, and anonymousHow pornography addiction affects the brain, emotional health, and relationshipsWhat betrayal trauma is and how it affects partners of porn addictsWhy recovery is about mindfulness, connection, and healing not willpower aloneHow to raise kids in a world where explicit content is just a swipe awayPractical steps to start recovering from porn addiction or support a loved one who is Key Takeaways:Addiction often begins with early exposure and escalates over time with tech accessPorn hijacks the brain's dopamine system and creates a craving for novelty over intimacyMost porn addicts live a double life rooted in shame, secrecy, and emotional numbingSocial media can act as a slippery slope toward pornography and compulsive behaviorHealing involves community, mindfulness, nervous system regulation, and inner child workConnect with Jeremy Lipkowitz:Website & CoachingPodcastYouTubeInstagramResources Mentioned:Courtney's WebsiteAnxious Generation Podcast Sponsor-Ready to go deeper in your emotional sobriety journey? Grab The After program — my complete guide with video coaching + workbook tools — and save $15 with code AFTER: GRAB IT HERE! Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

In this powerful episode, we address the heart-wrenching story of a betrayed partner whose marriage has been scarred by nearly two decades of emotional abuse, chronic dishonesty, and sexual betrayal. Despite having initiated divorce proceedings, she finds herself still seeking clarity and wondering if hope remains. Her husband, who continues to act out sexually while refusing meaningful recovery, tells her that she's overreacting and simply needs to “get over it.” We unpack the damaging impact of that dismissive attitude and the emotional exhaustion that comes when a partner's pain is ignored or minimized.We explore the reasons why sex and porn addicts often refuse to change—from deep-rooted denial and shame to emotional immaturity, fear, and pride. By understanding these psychological and relational patterns, partners can gain the clarity needed to make authentic, self-honoring decisions. At the same time, we emphasize that understanding the “why” does not mean excusing the behavior. The addict's refusal to grow or take accountability places a ceiling on the relationship and prevents the kind of healing and intimacy that both partners deserve.Ultimately, the question becomes not whether a betrayed partner wants to stay, but whether she can stay without losing herself. We outline the crucial role of boundaries—not as threats, but as life-saving tools to protect dignity and self-worth—and the essential need to rebuild identity, self-trust, and personal sovereignty. Whether a partner stays or leaves, the message is clear: you do not have to settle for pain, silence, or stagnation. You have the right to be seen, heard, and whole—and no, you don't need to “just get over it.” You deserve better.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  My Porn/Sex Addicted Partner tells me I just need to "Get over it" . . . So, now what?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Have you ever felt as though the ground has suddenly dropped out from under you after someone you trusted deeply betrayed you?Betrayal can manifest physically and emotionally, preventing you from achieving what you truly desire.In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Debi Silber, PhD, the founder of The Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and an international bestselling author. She shares three key insights from her personal experiences with betrayal trauma, as well as her research findings.Debi explains why betrayal trauma is uniquely different and requires a different healing approach. She also describes what relationship recovery entails and walks you through the five stages of healing from betrayal. In this episode, you'll learn:How trauma responses can create discomfort and physical issues in the body, manifesting as exhaustion, gut problems, chest tightness, disrupted sleep, and difficulty loving again.The three discoveries Debi made while researching betrayal trauma, and why it differs from other types of emotional trauma.The importance of nervous system regulation and somatic healing in overcoming betrayal trauma. The five stages you need to navigate in order to heal from betrayal.Why stage three is often referred to as the "muddy middle" and is the most challenging phase to get through.The crucial role of emotional resilience in progressing through all five stages. How trauma responses like people-pleasing, emotional eating, or emotional shutdown may indicate a need for further healing from your betrayal trauma.Why forgiveness is more about your personal journey than the actions of the other person.How setting emotional boundaries can help you move forward with clarity and self-trust. The #1 indicator that will determine your ability to recover from your betrayal. If you're still holding on to a past betrayal and are ready to rebuild your self-trust, this conversation is for you! Remember, you don't have to go through this process alone.Much love,LaurieFree GuidesClick here to schedule a FREE inquiry call with me.Click here to learn about my NEW “Nervous System Regulation Starter Kit” Click here for my FREE “Beginner's Guide to Somatic Healing”Click here for my FREE Core Values ExerciseClick here to purchase my book: Sandwiched: A Memoir of Holding On and Letting GoWebsiteConnect with Dr. Debi SilberWebsite: https://thepbtinstitPlease leave me feedback. I cannot respond so if you'd like me to respond, please leave your email***************************************************************************************DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL, MEDICAL OR PROFESSIONAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT A LICENSED THERAPIST IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING SUICIDAL THOUGHTS. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT A LICENSED MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL WITH RESPECT TO ANY MEDICAL ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Dr Carol Tanksley joins Wailer for a deep dive discussion on spousal betrayal trauma. This classy expert is as dignified as she is uninhibited in saying all of the hard, necessary, yet healing things which need to be heard... by both sides of the trauma experience. She shares much of her own story in courageous vulnerability as well as tender wisdom. Credentialed with an MD, a PhD, and decades of real-world ministry experience, Dr Carol is a woman well worth heeding.--------------------Join the fight to disrupt shallow, meaningless sex and reclaim what's real. By supporting The Naked Gospel Podcast for just $5/month, you become part of a movement that champions faithful marriages, healing after porn, and safe, meaningful relationships. This isn't just a podcast—it's a rebellion against sexual exploitation and cultural lies. And as a thank you, you'll get the exclusive #NoMoreVictims mug to show the world where you stand. Real passion. Real connection. No more victims. Will you disrupt with us? Sign Up Here: https://www.provenmen.org/disruptors/---------------------Support the showSupport the show

PBSE Podcast Episode 287 explores the recurring emotional turmoil experienced by a betrayed partner whose addict spouse continues to cycle through emotional relapses, despite seemingly engaging in recovery activities. Every six months, he emotionally regresses—questioning their relationship, doubting compatibility, and withdrawing connection—which destabilizes her sense of safety and triggers deep trauma. In her desperation for reassurance, she finds herself compulsively seeking emotional details, only to be retraumatized further. The article highlights that this dynamic, often driven by fear and confusion, creates a lopsided relationship where she becomes the emotional pursuer while he remains distant and inconsistent.The authors emphasize that this cycle cannot be broken by surface-level recovery or simply “doing the right things.” True healing requires the addict to engage in deeper emotional work, initiate vulnerability, express consistent gratitude, and offer proactive transparency. Simultaneously, the betrayed partner must establish clear boundaries, articulate her emotional needs, and begin shifting her support system to include emotionally safe, non-romantic relationships outside the marriage. These actions help her move from desperation to empowerment, offering both self-preservation and clarity around what kind of relationship she's willing to invest in.Ultimately, the article calls for both partners to be fully engaged—not just during crises, but consistently. Emotional safety, mutual respect, and honest communication are the pillars of sustainable recovery and intimacy. While the current cycle may feel hopeless, with intentional effort and deep personal work on both sides, it is possible to rebuild a relationship that is emotionally grounded, safe, and truly connected.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: My Addict Partner Keeps Going Through Cycles of Taking Me for Granted. What do I do?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

‘I thought intimacy was just sex—until I started recovering from porn addiction.' In this video, Jay shares how ONE POWERFUL TOOL helped him heal our relationship, create real intimacy, and start feeling connected in a way he ‘didn't think was possible' when healing from his porn addiction. We also bring up a caution or two, providing guidance on how to implement this tool depending on where you are in your own healing journey. Whether you're early in your journey or years into recovery, this tool might help you bridge the distance, reconnect with your spouse, and build a deeper relationship. What we'll cover: • How porn addiction can affect intimacy • How real intimacy is built during relationship healing • THE TOOL that helped us shift everything ➤ Subscribe for more honest conversations around addiction, recovery, and emotional healing. ➤ Leave a comment: What has intimacy looked like for you in recovery? 00:00 Intro and Question 00:19 Jay's Answer 00:30 Introducing the tool 04:21 The "F" in FANOS 04:38 The "A" 04:58 The "N" 05:48 The "O" 06:29 The "S" 07:53 Hint for addicts trying to rebuild trust 09:25 IMPORTANT: If it's early in the process of rebuilding trust 11:41 A Warning 13:03 A way to date early on (before Phase 3) -- To Rebuild Trust - https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Betrayal Trauma - https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Addiction - https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww -- Who is This Channel For? If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we're using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you're seeking. #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice #PornAddictionRecovery #IntimacyAfterPorn #RewiringTheBrain #MenAndIntimacy #SobrietyJourney

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Healing After Betrayal—A Guide for Co-ParentsDivorce attorney Seth Nelson and co-host Pete Wright welcome relationship coach and betrayal trauma expert Mr. Jay for an insightful discussion about healing and co-parenting after profound betrayal. Drawing from both professional expertise and personal experience, Mr. Jay helps people navigate from devastating betrayal to healing, offering unique perspectives on how this specific trauma affects every aspect of life.The conversation explores what makes betrayal trauma distinct from other forms of trauma—particularly how it reshapes not just our present and future, but also our understanding of the past. Seth and Pete dive deep into practical strategies for managing ongoing relationships with former spouses when children are involved, while Mr. Jay shares powerful insights about healing personal wounds first. The discussion covers everything from financial betrayals to infidelity, examining how different types of betrayal trauma affect co-parenting relationships and personal recovery.Questions we answer in this episode:How is betrayal trauma different from other life challenges?What steps can I take to co-parent effectively after betrayal?How do I protect my emotional health while dealing with a betrayer?Key Takeaways:Healing requires addressing both current wounds and past traumaSelf-love and boundary-setting are crucial for emotional recoveryEffective co-parenting starts with personal healingThe episode provides essential insights for anyone struggling with betrayal during or after divorce, offering practical tools for healing while maintaining necessary relationships for the children's sake. Mr. Jay's approach emphasizes personal growth and self-care as fundamental steps toward building a healthy post-divorce life.Links & NotesVisit Mr. Jay's websiteFind Mr. Jay on Instagram, X, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, or his other linksCheck out Mr. Jay's journalSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:31) - Mr. Jay and Betrayal Trauma (01:43) - Mr. Jay's Background (05:40) - Defining Betrayal Trauma (08:28) - Trauma vs. Betrayal Trauma (10:47) - What If You Still Care? (14:01) - Affecting the Past as Well (18:28) - Co-Parenting (21:23) - Healing for You (22:53) - Admitting It (23:44) - Define what forgiveness means to you (28:14) - Getting Better Equipped (32:30) - Asking the Hard Questions (33:30) - Wrap Up

In today's episode of Psych Talk I chat with Dr. Jessica Lamar about betrayal trauma. Dr. Lamar defines for listeners what betrayal trauma is and how she came to specialize in working with betrayal trauma. Dr. Lamara discusses the symptoms one may experience with betrayal trauma, as well as impacts of betrayal trauma, both on the individual experiencing it and their relationship with the person who betrayed them. Further, we discuss sexual bereavement and disenfranchised grief in the context of betrayal trauma. We end the episode by discussing some ways individuals can cope with betrayal trauma, as well as therapeutic interventions that are helpful. Connect with Dr. Jessica:IG: @the.btrcWebsite: https://thebtrc.comConnect with Me:Follow me on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow the podcast on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@psych.talk.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on TikTok ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on Threads ⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Welcome to Group Therapy Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my Facebook community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Grow Through What You Go Through⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ways to Work With Me:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mind Over Matter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LGBTQ+ Affirming Masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Be a guest on my podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Resources:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anti-Racism Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LGBTQ+ Affirming Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Helping Professional's Guide to Boundary Setting⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Intro/Outro Music⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Life of Riley⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ by Kevin MacLeod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Music License⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Dr. Debi Silber, Founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and National Forgiveness Day (celebrated annually on September 1st), is an award winning speaker, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. In this episode, Dr. Debi Silber talks about why betrayal is a particular type of trauma and explains the 5 stages of going through betrayal and healing from it. Learn more about Dr. Debi Silber here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/reclaim/ Instagram: @debisilber Get 15% off Peluva minimalist shoe with coupon code COACHTARA here: http://peluva.com/coachtara CHAPTERS: 0:00 Intro 3:17 How Dr.Silber got interested in betrayal trauma 5:00 Why betrayal is different than other traumas 8:10 Betrayal trauma statistics 12:42 Healing is a choice 18:00 The 5 stages of healing 30:00 Gratitude for the jolt to be able to grow 35:45 Dynamics in Debi's relationship after re-marrying the same man 41:10 Coming out of being stuck in stage 3 44:00 Resources: how Debi's programs can help

In this episode of the Couple Cure Podcast, we dive into the complexities of intimacy (OUTSIDE the bedroom) when Jay was in active addiction, the challenges of seeking validation, and the impact of hidden lives on self-worth. Through personal stories, we discuss the hardships faced due to perceived inadequacies, and how addiction can distort the perception of love and intimacy. We also set the stage for further exploration of what true intimacy means as they heal together in future episodes. 00:00 Intro and Question 01:24 For Jay intimacy looked like (The Problem) 02:15 What Jay was seeking 02:50 How Lori was already giving it 05:01 The REAL reason "Lori didn't affirm me!" 06:09 Why Jay could not believe Lori's words 10:55 Some MESSED UP THINKING 17:19 Another "Intimacy" Jay was addicted to -- To Rebuild Trust - https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Betrayal Trauma - https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Addiction - https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww -- Who is This Channel For? If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we're using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you're seeking. #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice

In this powerful, eye-opening masterclass, Dr. Debi Silber explores the hidden ways unhealed betrayal trauma disrupts workplace performance, leadership, team dynamics, and personal well-being. From brain fog and burnout to disengagement and chronic stress, betrayal at work and in life silently chips away at trust, productivity, and engagement—until it's named and healed. You'll also hear from several Certified PBT® Coaches and Practitioners sharing real-world examples, healing insights, and how the PBT Method transforms both individuals and organizations.  What You'll Learn:  Why betrayal is a unique form of trauma that requires a specific kind of healing  The 3 groundbreaking discoveries from Dr. Debi's PhD study on betrayal  How betrayal shows up at work (emotional volatility, imposter syndrome, absenteeism, inability to trust or delegate)  Post Betrayal Syndrome®: Symptoms and statistics from 100,000+ survey respondents  How unhealed betrayal is misdiagnosed as stress, burnout, leadership breakdown, or low morale  The 5 Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough—and how to move through them  Why time and even new relationships don't heal betrayal—only deliberate action does  Featuring Guest Experts & PBT Coaches:  Coach Peggy: On how betrayal left her emotionally overwhelmed and unable to work—leading to months of missed work and HR intervention  Coach Elizabeth: On the nervous system's response to trauma, chronic pain, addiction, and how yoga and somatic work support healing  Coach Nari: On self-awareness, trauma's impact on leadership and decision-making, and how healing restores personal power  Practitioner Jay: On the workplace costs of unhealed betrayal, from policy gaps to team dysfunction, shame, and numbing behaviors  Coach Sunrise (Middle East): On cultural barriers to addressing betrayal, the fast-track to "getting over it," and the cost of skipping healing  Coach Ingrid (Kenya): On how betrayal trauma is perceived in Kenya, small business impacts, and cultural silence around betrayal  Coach Tran (Vietnam): On the hidden emotional toll betrayal takes in professional settings where it's often ignored  Key Stats Shared:  84% struggle with trust after betrayal  71% experience sleep issues  60% can't concentrate  78% constantly revisit the betrayal  81% feel a loss of personal power  45% have digestive issues related to betrayal  Programs Mentioned:  Reclaim Essentials: Self-paced program with milestone tracking — $497  Reclaim Momentum: Includes group coaching, live classes, Q&A with Dr. Debi — $997  Transform: All of Momentum + 3 private sessions with Dr. Debi + small group Transform sessions — $5,000  Resources:  Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome® Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz   Join the Reclaim Program: https://thepbtinstitute.com/reclaim   Learn about bringing PBT® to your workplace: https://thepbtinstitute.com/corporate/   Final Takeaway: You don't leave your wounds at the door. Betrayal trauma—personal or professional—will show up in your leadership, performance, team relationships, and health unless you deliberately heal it. The good news? With the right roadmap, healing is not just possible—it's predictable. 

In Episode 284 of the PBSE podcast, we dive into the harrowing story of a woman navigating her husband's sudden shift from sex addiction recovery to identifying as polyamorous. After years of pain, betrayal, and dedicated recovery work, she's now facing a radical alteration in the foundation of their relationship. Her husband demands acceptance of his new identity, while she grapples with whether this is a genuine expression of self or a veiled escape from the demands of sobriety and responsibility.Throughout the episode, we explore three critical pillars of relationship health: authenticity, acceptance, and compatibility. Authenticity means being true to oneself—but also responsibly evaluating which parts of the self to honor when they are in conflict. Acceptance involves respecting another's path without necessarily agreeing with or adopting it. And compatibility is the often-overlooked requirement for sustainable connection—two people must share enough vision, values, and direction for the relationship to survive.In the end, we encourage listeners, especially betrayed partners, to hold fast to their own truth. While love is a powerful force, it cannot override a lack of compatibility. We challenge the idea that acceptance means self-abandonment and remind everyone that choosing to walk a different path from a partner does not mean you're unloving—it means you're honoring the core of who you are.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: My Addict Partner is Now Identifying as "Polyamorous" and I Don't Agree. Now What? Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Description: Today, we're playing a few of our favorite messages and responding to what you, our listeners, have shared. Whether it's midlife realizations, hard-won wisdom, or letting go of stuff that just isn't serving you anymore—this is about all of us learning from each other. Thank you to Alice, Ann, Sarah, Ashley, #1 Becky and  “Badass Becky”   Also, Sydney Hatmaker said some hurtful things to us about us broadcasting our bare old lady feet on the podcast and we had to take a minute to discuss a new dress code policy. Thought-provoking Quotes: 18:00 Sometimes the tool is just language – Amy Hardin 21:00 Tools all in use but still suffering – Jen 27:00 I want to shake people and pull things over. I'm not sure that's the appropriate response. – Jen 29:30 If we don't counter messages, others will take over. – Jen 47:00 Make a list of your accomplishments to use for momentum – Amy 48:00 I think we are at our best in the second half of life – Jen 58:00 I want out of the rat race – Jen Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Reclaiming Your Power: Moms Demand Action's Shannon Watts on Living a Life of Passion and Purpose - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/reclaiming-your-power-moms-demand-actions-shannon-watts-on-living-a-life-of-passion-and-purpose/ Camino de Santiago - https://santiago-compostela.net/ Midlife Isn't a Crisis, It's a Comeback: Maddie Corman on Being Accidentally Brave - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/midlife-isnt-a-crisis-its-a-comeback-maddie-corman-on-being-accidentally-brave/ Betrayal Trauma - https://www.verywellmind.com/betrayal-trauma-causes-symptoms-impact-and-coping-5270361 Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com/ Books by Brené Brown - https://amzn.to/3FgwnIt The Tears of Things: Living Prophetically in an Age of Outrage with Richard Rohr - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/the-tears-of-things-living-prophetically-in-an-age-of-outrage-with-richard-rohr/ Trump administration says it's cutting 90% of USAID foreign aid contracts - https://apnews.com/article/trump-usaid-foreign-aid-cuts-6292f48f8d4025bed0bf5c3e9d623c16 Kendra Adachi - https://www.thelazygeniuscollective.com/ Escaping the Productivity Trap: Kendra Adachi's Lazy Genius Perspective - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/escaping-the-productivity-trap-kendra-adachis-lazy-genius-perspective/ Frances Mayes - https://www.francesemayes.com/ Connect with Jen!Jen's Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/ Jen's Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen's Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/ Jen's Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen's YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker The For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy.  To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this deeply insightful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we sit down with Dr. Jake Porter, a leading expert in relational and betrayal trauma, sex addiction recovery, and emotional intimacy. Dr. Porter brings years of professional expertise and personal experience to unpack the complexities of sex and pornography addiction and their impact on relationships.Together, we explore:What sex addiction really is, how it differs from a high libido, and the role of pornography in relationships.The devastating effects of betrayal trauma on trust, memory, and self-perception.How empathy and accountability are essential for healing and rebuilding relationships after betrayal.Practical strategies for couples navigating recovery and reinventing intimacy after infidelity.The delicate balance between hope, choice, and personal empowerment in the healing process.Dr. Porter also dives into the neuroscience behind addiction and betrayal, offering a compassionate yet pragmatic roadmap for couples and individuals seeking lasting recovery and transformation. Whether you're in a relationship with an addict, recovering from betrayal trauma, or curious about the dynamics of healing, this episode is packed with wisdom and actionable advice.Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Dr. Porter's free book: Breaking BarriersLearn about intensives and coaching with Dr. Porter at Daring VenturesOnline programs: ChooseConnectionAcademy.comSupport the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

In this week's podcast episode, I re-release the second part of my conversation with Claire Atenian, LMFT.  Here in part 2, we focus on what it looks like to recover from betrayal trauma. Just as God uses physicians and technicians in the medical field to help us heal from physical injury, He uses professionals and trusted friends to bring healing to our experiences of trauma and emotional or relational injury.  Claire offers a lot of practical support if you're seeking clarity in your healing journey after betrayal trauma. To inquire about counseling, email Louise at Louise@louisesedgwick.com.

This summer on the podcast, we're exploring how trauma and shame interact and how understanding our responses can lead to deeper healing. Trauma often leaves us with deep shame that influences how we react, even when we don't realize it. You'll hear powerful stories of transformation and hope through Jesus. To kick off the series, I'm re-releasing my conversation with Claire Atenian, a licensed marriage and family specialist. Claire shares her expertise on Betrayal Trauma, and it's a conversation that left a lasting impact. I know it will encourage you too. To inquire about counseling, email Louise at Louise@louisesedgwick.com.

Trigger warning and PSA: In this episode we discuss a lot of hard topics that may be triggering for some. This conversation is not meant for little ears.  Today on the show, I am joined by Ashley Jameson, Associate Director of Women's Groups for Pure Desire to discuss the new study that revealed 40% of Christian women use pornography. We talk about Ashley's personal experience with addiction and betrayal trauma, God's truth and power through sin and shame, why this conversation matters, resources, the science behind addiction, that you CAN find freedom and how to do that, and encouragement for those impacted by betrayal trauma. Find more resources here: https://puredesire.org/resources/  Find more tools here: https://puredesire.org/tools/ 00:00 Intro and trigger warning 04:00 Ashley's experience 07:00 Why is pornography a struggle? 12:40 Can we conquer addiction? 15:30 “It's not hurting anyone” and “I have it under control” 22:00 Why it's important to talk about 27:00 Find healing, hope, and freedom 39:00 Encouragement for those impacted by betrayal trauma  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your husband thinking, “How did I end up apologizing for his betrayal?” That's the silent trap of blame shifting and deflection—two emotional manipulation tactics that keep betrayed wives stuck in confusion, guilt, and shame. In this episode of Beauty Beyond Betrayal, I expose the truth behind statements like: “You pushed me to it” “You're overreacting” “I wouldn't have done it if you hadn't…” I walk you through the 10 clearest signs of blame shifting and deflection, explains how these patterns keep you emotionally stuck, and shares biblical truth and practical tools to help you reclaim your voice and start healing. If you're ready to stop carrying guilt that was never yours and walk in the freedom Christ died to give you, this episode will bring the clarity, courage, and hope you've been praying for. :: NEXT STEPS: Beauty Beyond Betrayal Website:  www.beautybeyondbetrayal.org  Work with Lisa:  Coaching Information Schedule your FREE CONSULT  Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Grab your Free Ebook:   Broken Vows: Begin healing from the devastation of betrayal Email:   info@lisalimehouse.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE

If you've been curious about what the concepts of Doing It Together can do for your sex life and marriage in the long term, this is the episode for you! Justin and Sandra, married for 19 years, took Doing It Together two years ago and they graciously share VERY specific details about what their relationship and sex life look like now. They open up about how they've learned to talk, play, remain curious, and change things up through life's ups and downs.They also share how their marriage has changed outside the bedroom and the routines they've incorporated to keep their connection at the forefront of their marriage. You can listen to Justin and Sandra's personal stories by listening to these previous episodes:Justin's Story in Episode 82Sandra's Story in Episode 74The Michelle Mays episode on Betrayal Trauma can be found here: Episode 108The next round of Doing It Together is open for registration! Get $300 off for this round only! Register now!Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

PBSE Podcast Episode 282 tackles the emotionally complex question many betrayed partners face: “How long should my former addict partner maintain sobriety and recovery before I consider getting back with him?” Rather than offering a simple timeline, it reframes the question to focus on the quality and consistency of change in both partners. The article underscores that while time matters, what matters more is whether the former addict has shown verifiable growth—emotionally, behaviorally, and relationally. It also explores the partner's own healing journey, highlighting that reconciliation can only be healthy if both individuals are actively working toward personal recovery.Key concepts such as healthy interdependence, compatibility of emotional wants and needs, and the importance of dismantling codependency are explored in depth. The article argues that rebuilding a relationship requires a fresh foundation, not a return to old dynamics. It emphasizes the need to assess past relationship patterns honestly and cautions against letting nostalgia or loneliness drive decisions. Trial periods, structured re-engagement, and gradual “re-dating” are presented as useful tools for observing change before committing to full reunification.Ultimately, the article advises that while a minimum of six months to a year of sustained recovery might serve as a general benchmark, it's not the time alone that matters—it's what's been done with that time. Reconciliation should be based on real, observable transformation, not promises or hopeful thinking. When both partners take ownership of their healing and work toward becoming emotionally whole individuals, the possibility for reconnection becomes both healthier and more sustainable.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: How Long Should My Former Addict Partner Maintain Sobriety and Recovery Before I Consider Getting Back with Him? Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

When it comes to betrayal, we often hear one story: the man cheats, the woman is hurt, and support rallies around her. But what happens when the script is flipped? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Adam Nisenson, a coach and author who helps men navigate betrayal trauma—a subject that's rarely talked about and often misunderstood.Adam shares his own experience of being betrayed, the cultural narratives that silence men in pain, and why so many men suffer in isolation. We explore how betrayal crushes identity, triggers deep ego wounds, and leaves men unsure of how to move forward.This episode offers insight, language, and hope for betrayed men—and for those who love them.

In love addiction, we may find ourselves feeling betrayed by a partner-- even if we don't know for sure that something is going on--while doubting our instincts, believing we're too sensitive, and giving an emotionally unavailable partner the benefit of the doubt. This feeling adds to our anxiety, and whatever information a partner is withholding adds to the dysfunction of the relationship...and we stay in the cycle of love addiction hoping things will change. In this episode Jodi talks with betrayal trauma therapist, Lindsay Haverslew, about the reality of betrayal trauma. Jodi and Lindsay share personal experiences with betrayal, and discuss signs that a partner is emotionally unavailable, tips for identifying a trustworthy person, and much more.  Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Link to Jodi's website and additional resources Lindsay's website and instagram Lindsay mentioned the work of Jennifer Freyd and Dr. Kevin Skinner and the book Unleashing Your Power  Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.

How to live more fully in the present and heal what we believe about ourselves – EMDR therapy. (1:56) Ask a therapist, Joe Sikorra: How to heal from a cheating husband, emotionally focused therapy, how a woman can have a better sex drive, when it’s time to get a new therapist, and how to help a 24-year-old daughter struggling with loneliness and friendships. (17:10) Idolization of the “Traditional Wife” – does it hurt single people and married couples? (40:21) Resources mentioned: Joe’s website https://joesikorra.com/ Joe’s book https://www.amazon.com/Whole-World-Going-Crazy-But-Dont/dp/B0BXN9G4N7 Find a Catholic Therapist https://www.catholictherapists.com/ Healing from Betrayal Trauma https://www.bloomforcatholicwomen.com/