Podcasts about Betrayal trauma

Healing After Betrayal—A Guide for Co-ParentsDivorce attorney Seth Nelson and co-host Pete Wright welcome relationship coach and betrayal trauma expert Mr. Jay for an insightful discussion about healing and co-parenting after profound betrayal. Drawing from both professional expertise and personal experience, Mr. Jay helps people navigate from devastating betrayal to healing, offering unique perspectives on how this specific trauma affects every aspect of life.The conversation explores what makes betrayal trauma distinct from other forms of trauma—particularly how it reshapes not just our present and future, but also our understanding of the past. Seth and Pete dive deep into practical strategies for managing ongoing relationships with former spouses when children are involved, while Mr. Jay shares powerful insights about healing personal wounds first. The discussion covers everything from financial betrayals to infidelity, examining how different types of betrayal trauma affect co-parenting relationships and personal recovery.Questions we answer in this episode:How is betrayal trauma different from other life challenges?What steps can I take to co-parent effectively after betrayal?How do I protect my emotional health while dealing with a betrayer?Key Takeaways:Healing requires addressing both current wounds and past traumaSelf-love and boundary-setting are crucial for emotional recoveryEffective co-parenting starts with personal healingThe episode provides essential insights for anyone struggling with betrayal during or after divorce, offering practical tools for healing while maintaining necessary relationships for the children's sake. Mr. Jay's approach emphasizes personal growth and self-care as fundamental steps toward building a healthy post-divorce life.Links & NotesVisit Mr. Jay's websiteFind Mr. Jay on Instagram, X, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, or his other linksCheck out Mr. Jay's journalSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:31) - Mr. Jay and Betrayal Trauma (01:43) - Mr. Jay's Background (05:40) - Defining Betrayal Trauma (08:28) - Trauma vs. Betrayal Trauma (10:47) - What If You Still Care? (14:01) - Affecting the Past as Well (18:28) - Co-Parenting (21:23) - Healing for You (22:53) - Admitting It (23:44) - Define what forgiveness means to you (28:14) - Getting Better Equipped (32:30) - Asking the Hard Questions (33:30) - Wrap Up

In today's episode of Psych Talk I chat with Dr. Jessica Lamar about betrayal trauma. Dr. Lamar defines for listeners what betrayal trauma is and how she came to specialize in working with betrayal trauma. Dr. Lamara discusses the symptoms one may experience with betrayal trauma, as well as impacts of betrayal trauma, both on the individual experiencing it and their relationship with the person who betrayed them. Further, we discuss sexual bereavement and disenfranchised grief in the context of betrayal trauma. We end the episode by discussing some ways individuals can cope with betrayal trauma, as well as therapeutic interventions that are helpful. Connect with Dr. Jessica:IG: @the.btrcWebsite: https://thebtrc.comConnect with Me:Follow me on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow the podcast on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@psych.talk.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on TikTok ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on Threads ⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Welcome to Group Therapy Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my Facebook community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Grow Through What You Go Through⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ways to Work With Me:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mind Over Matter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LGBTQ+ Affirming Masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Be a guest on my podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Resources:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anti-Racism Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LGBTQ+ Affirming Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Helping Professional's Guide to Boundary Setting⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Intro/Outro Music⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Life of Riley⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ by Kevin MacLeod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Music License⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Dr. Debi Silber, Founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and National Forgiveness Day (celebrated annually on September 1st), is an award winning speaker, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. In this episode, Dr. Debi Silber talks about why betrayal is a particular type of trauma and explains the 5 stages of going through betrayal and healing from it. Learn more about Dr. Debi Silber here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/reclaim/ Instagram: @debisilber Get 15% off Peluva minimalist shoe with coupon code COACHTARA here: http://peluva.com/coachtara CHAPTERS: 0:00 Intro 3:17 How Dr.Silber got interested in betrayal trauma 5:00 Why betrayal is different than other traumas 8:10 Betrayal trauma statistics 12:42 Healing is a choice 18:00 The 5 stages of healing 30:00 Gratitude for the jolt to be able to grow 35:45 Dynamics in Debi's relationship after re-marrying the same man 41:10 Coming out of being stuck in stage 3 44:00 Resources: how Debi's programs can help

In this episode of the Couple Cure Podcast, we dive into the complexities of intimacy (OUTSIDE the bedroom) when Jay was in active addiction, the challenges of seeking validation, and the impact of hidden lives on self-worth. Through personal stories, we discuss the hardships faced due to perceived inadequacies, and how addiction can distort the perception of love and intimacy. We also set the stage for further exploration of what true intimacy means as they heal together in future episodes. 00:00 Intro and Question 01:24 For Jay intimacy looked like (The Problem) 02:15 What Jay was seeking 02:50 How Lori was already giving it 05:01 The REAL reason "Lori didn't affirm me!" 06:09 Why Jay could not believe Lori's words 10:55 Some MESSED UP THINKING 17:19 Another "Intimacy" Jay was addicted to -- To Rebuild Trust - https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Betrayal Trauma - https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Addiction - https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww -- Who is This Channel For? If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we're using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you're seeking. #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice

In this powerful, eye-opening masterclass, Dr. Debi Silber explores the hidden ways unhealed betrayal trauma disrupts workplace performance, leadership, team dynamics, and personal well-being. From brain fog and burnout to disengagement and chronic stress, betrayal at work and in life silently chips away at trust, productivity, and engagement—until it's named and healed. You'll also hear from several Certified PBT® Coaches and Practitioners sharing real-world examples, healing insights, and how the PBT Method transforms both individuals and organizations.  What You'll Learn:  Why betrayal is a unique form of trauma that requires a specific kind of healing  The 3 groundbreaking discoveries from Dr. Debi's PhD study on betrayal  How betrayal shows up at work (emotional volatility, imposter syndrome, absenteeism, inability to trust or delegate)  Post Betrayal Syndrome®: Symptoms and statistics from 100,000+ survey respondents  How unhealed betrayal is misdiagnosed as stress, burnout, leadership breakdown, or low morale  The 5 Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough—and how to move through them  Why time and even new relationships don't heal betrayal—only deliberate action does  Featuring Guest Experts & PBT Coaches:  Coach Peggy: On how betrayal left her emotionally overwhelmed and unable to work—leading to months of missed work and HR intervention  Coach Elizabeth: On the nervous system's response to trauma, chronic pain, addiction, and how yoga and somatic work support healing  Coach Nari: On self-awareness, trauma's impact on leadership and decision-making, and how healing restores personal power  Practitioner Jay: On the workplace costs of unhealed betrayal, from policy gaps to team dysfunction, shame, and numbing behaviors  Coach Sunrise (Middle East): On cultural barriers to addressing betrayal, the fast-track to "getting over it," and the cost of skipping healing  Coach Ingrid (Kenya): On how betrayal trauma is perceived in Kenya, small business impacts, and cultural silence around betrayal  Coach Tran (Vietnam): On the hidden emotional toll betrayal takes in professional settings where it's often ignored  Key Stats Shared:  84% struggle with trust after betrayal  71% experience sleep issues  60% can't concentrate  78% constantly revisit the betrayal  81% feel a loss of personal power  45% have digestive issues related to betrayal  Programs Mentioned:  Reclaim Essentials: Self-paced program with milestone tracking — $497  Reclaim Momentum: Includes group coaching, live classes, Q&A with Dr. Debi — $997  Transform: All of Momentum + 3 private sessions with Dr. Debi + small group Transform sessions — $5,000  Resources:  Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome® Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz   Join the Reclaim Program: https://thepbtinstitute.com/reclaim   Learn about bringing PBT® to your workplace: https://thepbtinstitute.com/corporate/   Final Takeaway: You don't leave your wounds at the door. Betrayal trauma—personal or professional—will show up in your leadership, performance, team relationships, and health unless you deliberately heal it. The good news? With the right roadmap, healing is not just possible—it's predictable. 

In Episode 284 of the PBSE podcast, we dive into the harrowing story of a woman navigating her husband's sudden shift from sex addiction recovery to identifying as polyamorous. After years of pain, betrayal, and dedicated recovery work, she's now facing a radical alteration in the foundation of their relationship. Her husband demands acceptance of his new identity, while she grapples with whether this is a genuine expression of self or a veiled escape from the demands of sobriety and responsibility.Throughout the episode, we explore three critical pillars of relationship health: authenticity, acceptance, and compatibility. Authenticity means being true to oneself—but also responsibly evaluating which parts of the self to honor when they are in conflict. Acceptance involves respecting another's path without necessarily agreeing with or adopting it. And compatibility is the often-overlooked requirement for sustainable connection—two people must share enough vision, values, and direction for the relationship to survive.In the end, we encourage listeners, especially betrayed partners, to hold fast to their own truth. While love is a powerful force, it cannot override a lack of compatibility. We challenge the idea that acceptance means self-abandonment and remind everyone that choosing to walk a different path from a partner does not mean you're unloving—it means you're honoring the core of who you are.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: My Addict Partner is Now Identifying as "Polyamorous" and I Don't Agree. Now What? Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Jay confesses something he's never told anyone before: One way he lied to keep his addiction hidden. (Hint: it's one thing some addicts do to keep their secrets.) He's also asked if he thinks that tactic would have passed a polygraph. We also share a few techniques that might help in this situation. And stay until the end to see us in a real-life moment. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 0:31 What is one lying technique Jay used that he's never told anyone about? 2:15 Would he have passed a lie detector test? 2:50 Some other addicts do this too (the difference between openness and honesty) 4:48 Solution: A way to (possibly) know if he's lying this way* 5:39 Solution: One way to get to the truth* 7:13 Solution for addicts: A way to rebuild trust (BUT…) 10:40 When Jay would use this lying technique 13:34 Business trips used to scare Lori, and two things that changed that sinking feeling 14:50 The lighter side of us (BTS) -- To Rebuild Trust - https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Betrayal Trauma - https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Addiction - https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww -- Who is This Channel For? If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we're using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you're seeking. #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice

Do you feel sexually broken from years of porn addiction and compulsive masturbation? Like you've damaged your body, your mind, and your marriage—and there's no way back?In this episode of the No More Desire podcast, Jake Kastleman explores the reality of self-inflicted sexual trauma and what it truly takes to overcome porn addiction. You'll learn how to stop watching porn, confront your shame, and begin the process to stop for good.We talk honestly about how masturbation addiction rewires your brain, damages intimacy, and leaves men feeling spiritually and emotionally numb. You'll discover how to rebuild sexual intimacy after porn, heal your relationship, and reconnect with your body and your wife.Using the lens of Internal Family Systems, neuroscience, and spiritual truth, Jake helps you reclaim healthy masculinity and take responsibility without self-condemnation. This is about emotional healing for men, the kind that leads to deep, lasting men's sexual healing and the freedom to love with integrity.Whether you're navigating porn and marriage issues, seeking Christian porn recovery, or trying to restore intimacy after sobriety, this episode offers the tools and encouragement to take your next step.Because healing isn't just about quitting behaviors—it's about becoming whole again.Free Resources:FREE WORKSHOPFREE EBOOKRecommended Articles:Why She's Pissed Off and Turned Off—and How to Fix ItHow to Rebuild Trust After Porn Addiction and Betrayal Trauma: 8 ToolsHow Do I Stop My Husband From Watching Porn?My Wife Ignores My Progress With Porn AddictionWhat Do I Do When My Wife is Triggered?Support the showNo More Desire

Description: Today, we're playing a few of our favorite messages and responding to what you, our listeners, have shared. Whether it's midlife realizations, hard-won wisdom, or letting go of stuff that just isn't serving you anymore—this is about all of us learning from each other. Thank you to Alice, Ann, Sarah, Ashley, #1 Becky and  “Badass Becky”   Also, Sydney Hatmaker said some hurtful things to us about us broadcasting our bare old lady feet on the podcast and we had to take a minute to discuss a new dress code policy. Thought-provoking Quotes: 18:00 Sometimes the tool is just language – Amy Hardin 21:00 Tools all in use but still suffering – Jen 27:00 I want to shake people and pull things over. I'm not sure that's the appropriate response. – Jen 29:30 If we don't counter messages, others will take over. – Jen 47:00 Make a list of your accomplishments to use for momentum – Amy 48:00 I think we are at our best in the second half of life – Jen 58:00 I want out of the rat race – Jen Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Reclaiming Your Power: Moms Demand Action's Shannon Watts on Living a Life of Passion and Purpose - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/reclaiming-your-power-moms-demand-actions-shannon-watts-on-living-a-life-of-passion-and-purpose/ Camino de Santiago - https://santiago-compostela.net/ Midlife Isn't a Crisis, It's a Comeback: Maddie Corman on Being Accidentally Brave - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/midlife-isnt-a-crisis-its-a-comeback-maddie-corman-on-being-accidentally-brave/ Betrayal Trauma - https://www.verywellmind.com/betrayal-trauma-causes-symptoms-impact-and-coping-5270361 Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com/ Books by Brené Brown - https://amzn.to/3FgwnIt The Tears of Things: Living Prophetically in an Age of Outrage with Richard Rohr - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/the-tears-of-things-living-prophetically-in-an-age-of-outrage-with-richard-rohr/ Trump administration says it's cutting 90% of USAID foreign aid contracts - https://apnews.com/article/trump-usaid-foreign-aid-cuts-6292f48f8d4025bed0bf5c3e9d623c16 Kendra Adachi - https://www.thelazygeniuscollective.com/ Escaping the Productivity Trap: Kendra Adachi's Lazy Genius Perspective - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/escaping-the-productivity-trap-kendra-adachis-lazy-genius-perspective/ Frances Mayes - https://www.francesemayes.com/ Connect with Jen!Jen's Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/ Jen's Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen's Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/ Jen's Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen's YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker The For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy.  To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this deeply insightful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we sit down with Dr. Jake Porter, a leading expert in relational and betrayal trauma, sex addiction recovery, and emotional intimacy. Dr. Porter brings years of professional expertise and personal experience to unpack the complexities of sex and pornography addiction and their impact on relationships.Together, we explore:What sex addiction really is, how it differs from a high libido, and the role of pornography in relationships.The devastating effects of betrayal trauma on trust, memory, and self-perception.How empathy and accountability are essential for healing and rebuilding relationships after betrayal.Practical strategies for couples navigating recovery and reinventing intimacy after infidelity.The delicate balance between hope, choice, and personal empowerment in the healing process.Dr. Porter also dives into the neuroscience behind addiction and betrayal, offering a compassionate yet pragmatic roadmap for couples and individuals seeking lasting recovery and transformation. Whether you're in a relationship with an addict, recovering from betrayal trauma, or curious about the dynamics of healing, this episode is packed with wisdom and actionable advice.Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Dr. Porter's free book: Breaking BarriersLearn about intensives and coaching with Dr. Porter at Daring VenturesOnline programs: ChooseConnectionAcademy.comSupport the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

In this week's podcast episode, I re-release the second part of my conversation with Claire Atenian, LMFT.  Here in part 2, we focus on what it looks like to recover from betrayal trauma. Just as God uses physicians and technicians in the medical field to help us heal from physical injury, He uses professionals and trusted friends to bring healing to our experiences of trauma and emotional or relational injury.  Claire offers a lot of practical support if you're seeking clarity in your healing journey after betrayal trauma. To inquire about counseling, email Louise at Louise@louisesedgwick.com.

This summer on the podcast, we're exploring how trauma and shame interact and how understanding our responses can lead to deeper healing. Trauma often leaves us with deep shame that influences how we react, even when we don't realize it. You'll hear powerful stories of transformation and hope through Jesus. To kick off the series, I'm re-releasing my conversation with Claire Atenian, a licensed marriage and family specialist. Claire shares her expertise on Betrayal Trauma, and it's a conversation that left a lasting impact. I know it will encourage you too. To inquire about counseling, email Louise at Louise@louisesedgwick.com.

Trigger warning and PSA: In this episode we discuss a lot of hard topics that may be triggering for some. This conversation is not meant for little ears.  Today on the show, I am joined by Ashley Jameson, Associate Director of Women's Groups for Pure Desire to discuss the new study that revealed 40% of Christian women use pornography. We talk about Ashley's personal experience with addiction and betrayal trauma, God's truth and power through sin and shame, why this conversation matters, resources, the science behind addiction, that you CAN find freedom and how to do that, and encouragement for those impacted by betrayal trauma. Find more resources here: https://puredesire.org/resources/  Find more tools here: https://puredesire.org/tools/ 00:00 Intro and trigger warning 04:00 Ashley's experience 07:00 Why is pornography a struggle? 12:40 Can we conquer addiction? 15:30 “It's not hurting anyone” and “I have it under control” 22:00 Why it's important to talk about 27:00 Find healing, hope, and freedom 39:00 Encouragement for those impacted by betrayal trauma  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your husband thinking, “How did I end up apologizing for his betrayal?” That's the silent trap of blame shifting and deflection—two emotional manipulation tactics that keep betrayed wives stuck in confusion, guilt, and shame. In this episode of Beauty Beyond Betrayal, I expose the truth behind statements like: “You pushed me to it” “You're overreacting” “I wouldn't have done it if you hadn't…” I walk you through the 10 clearest signs of blame shifting and deflection, explains how these patterns keep you emotionally stuck, and shares biblical truth and practical tools to help you reclaim your voice and start healing. If you're ready to stop carrying guilt that was never yours and walk in the freedom Christ died to give you, this episode will bring the clarity, courage, and hope you've been praying for. :: NEXT STEPS: Beauty Beyond Betrayal Website:  www.beautybeyondbetrayal.org  Work with Lisa:  Coaching Information Schedule your FREE CONSULT  Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Grab your Free Ebook:   Broken Vows: Begin healing from the devastation of betrayal Email:   info@lisalimehouse.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE

If you've been curious about what the concepts of Doing It Together can do for your sex life and marriage in the long term, this is the episode for you! Justin and Sandra, married for 19 years, took Doing It Together two years ago and they graciously share VERY specific details about what their relationship and sex life look like now. They open up about how they've learned to talk, play, remain curious, and change things up through life's ups and downs.They also share how their marriage has changed outside the bedroom and the routines they've incorporated to keep their connection at the forefront of their marriage. You can listen to Justin and Sandra's personal stories by listening to these previous episodes:Justin's Story in Episode 82Sandra's Story in Episode 74The Michelle Mays episode on Betrayal Trauma can be found here: Episode 108The next round of Doing It Together is open for registration! Get $300 off for this round only! Register now!Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

PBSE Podcast Episode 282 tackles the emotionally complex question many betrayed partners face: “How long should my former addict partner maintain sobriety and recovery before I consider getting back with him?” Rather than offering a simple timeline, it reframes the question to focus on the quality and consistency of change in both partners. The article underscores that while time matters, what matters more is whether the former addict has shown verifiable growth—emotionally, behaviorally, and relationally. It also explores the partner's own healing journey, highlighting that reconciliation can only be healthy if both individuals are actively working toward personal recovery.Key concepts such as healthy interdependence, compatibility of emotional wants and needs, and the importance of dismantling codependency are explored in depth. The article argues that rebuilding a relationship requires a fresh foundation, not a return to old dynamics. It emphasizes the need to assess past relationship patterns honestly and cautions against letting nostalgia or loneliness drive decisions. Trial periods, structured re-engagement, and gradual “re-dating” are presented as useful tools for observing change before committing to full reunification.Ultimately, the article advises that while a minimum of six months to a year of sustained recovery might serve as a general benchmark, it's not the time alone that matters—it's what's been done with that time. Reconciliation should be based on real, observable transformation, not promises or hopeful thinking. When both partners take ownership of their healing and work toward becoming emotionally whole individuals, the possibility for reconnection becomes both healthier and more sustainable.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: How Long Should My Former Addict Partner Maintain Sobriety and Recovery Before I Consider Getting Back with Him? Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

In this episode, I ask Jay if he will answer some difficult question this season—questions like: --What are some tactics he used to get away with lying for so long? --How did he pretend to change--without really changing? --Was there a time he almost told the truth, but continued lying instead? --What emotions was he avoiding? --How did he feel when his accountability partners let him off the hook? --What is one thing he wants betrayed women to know? --Could he tell his heart was hardening? But the big question is: Will he reveal his secrets? (You can even leave your own questions in the comments if you'd like.) Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:24 Some hard questions for Jay 04:40 Will Jay share his secrets this season? 05:43 Your comments / questions 06:51 This season may be different (behind the scenes) 07:24 A request & recent happenings -- To Rebuild Trust - https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Betrayal Trauma - https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Addiction - https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww -- Who is This Channel For? If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we're using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you're seeking. #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice #tellingthetruth

When it comes to betrayal, we often hear one story: the man cheats, the woman is hurt, and support rallies around her. But what happens when the script is flipped? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Adam Nisenson, a coach and author who helps men navigate betrayal trauma—a subject that's rarely talked about and often misunderstood.Adam shares his own experience of being betrayed, the cultural narratives that silence men in pain, and why so many men suffer in isolation. We explore how betrayal crushes identity, triggers deep ego wounds, and leaves men unsure of how to move forward.This episode offers insight, language, and hope for betrayed men—and for those who love them.

PBSE Podcast Episode 281, tackles the painful and familiar experience of betrayed partners who live in a constant state of anxiety, waiting for the next betrayal to surface. Centering around a listener's heartfelt submission, the article outlines the emotional toll of repeated trauma, especially in relationships where staggered disclosures have prolonged the hurt. Despite doing some recovery work, the listener still struggles with fear, mistrust, and a lack of emotional safety, highlighting the core issue: how to move forward without continually bracing for disaster.The discussion focuses on reclaiming personal power through sovereignty, healthy boundaries, and authentic voice. It emphasizes that although the betrayed partner did not cause the trauma, healing requires active steps toward self-care and emotional clarity. Instead of controlling a partner's actions, effective boundaries are framed around one's own needs, expectations, and non-negotiables. The hosts challenge the traditional model of boundary-setting, shifting the focus from rule enforcement to emotional empowerment. They also stress the importance of clearly communicating pain—not as a weapon, but as an invitation to intimacy and healing.Ultimately, the episode encourages partners to prioritize themselves first. Whether or not the relationship survives, their well-being, authenticity, and voice matter most. Real connection, the kind partners yearn for, is only possible when both individuals show up with honesty and accountability. If the addict partner is unwilling or unable to do that, the betrayed partner can still reclaim safety, peace, and purpose. Through programs like Dare to Connect and a strong support network, partners can stop waiting for catastrophe and instead begin living intentionally, boldly, and on their own terms.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  As a Betrayed Partner, How Do I Stop Waiting Around for the Rug to be Pulled Out from Under Me—Again?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

In love addiction, we may find ourselves feeling betrayed by a partner-- even if we don't know for sure that something is going on--while doubting our instincts, believing we're too sensitive, and giving an emotionally unavailable partner the benefit of the doubt. This feeling adds to our anxiety, and whatever information a partner is withholding adds to the dysfunction of the relationship...and we stay in the cycle of love addiction hoping things will change. In this episode Jodi talks with betrayal trauma therapist, Lindsay Haverslew, about the reality of betrayal trauma. Jodi and Lindsay share personal experiences with betrayal, and discuss signs that a partner is emotionally unavailable, tips for identifying a trustworthy person, and much more.  Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Link to Jodi's website and additional resources Lindsay's website and instagram Lindsay mentioned the work of Jennifer Freyd and Dr. Kevin Skinner and the book Unleashing Your Power  Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.

Finding Hope and Healing in the Face of Betrayal TraumaIn this episode of Healing With Worth, hosts Naomi and Marquelle address the topic of hopelessness, especially during tough times. They emphasize the importance of self-care, positive affirmations, and setting boundaries to regain confidence and self-esteem. They discuss practical steps like going outside, connecting with nature, and seeking spiritual renewal through religious practices. The hosts also highlight the significance of human connections and provide tips for creating and maintaining meaningful relationships. They reiterate that even small, consistent actions can lead to significant improvements in one's emotional and mental well-being.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:55 Understanding Hopelessness and Self-Empowerment02:57 The Importance of Self-Care03:58 Finding Joy in Small Things08:17 Building Connections and Support Systems16:13 Spiritual Healing and Renewal22:47 Final Thoughts and Encouragement28:28 Closing Remarks and Resources

Send us a textIn this powerful episode of the Covenant Eyes Podcast, hosts Karen Potter and Sam Black sit down with Nate Larkin—founder of the Samson Society and author of Samson and the Pirate Monks. Nate shares his raw, redemptive journey from secret struggles with porn and sex addiction to freedom, healing, and authentic brotherhood.Discover how early exposure, emotional pain, and ministry stress fueled Nate's addiction, and how community, honesty, and spiritual growth led him to lasting transformation. Learn how the Samson Society creates spaces for real connection and why it's never too late to seek help.Whether you're in the middle of your own battle or walking alongside someone who is, this conversation is full of truth, grace, and hope.

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we welcome Natalie Hoffman to the podcast. Natalie is the author of, “Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual abuse,” and “All the Scary Little Gods.” She's also the host of the Flying Free Podcast. She is a passionate advocate for Christian women in abusive homes and churches. Through the Flying Free Sisterhood, she empowers Christian women to use their voices and gifts for their spiritual, emotional, and physical wellbeing. We Will be Discussing: Can you share the key signs of covert emotional and spiritual abuse?  How can women see these subtle tactics in their marriage or environment? Has he always been this way and I just didn't see it? What are some of the key things you need that an abusive relationship cannot provide? What hope can we offer our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: Emotional Abuse Quiz Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse All the Scary Little Gods: A Memoir Natalie's Website, Flying Free Now

In PBSE Episode 280, Mark & Steve address the complex challenge faced by betrayed partners—especially those healing from porn or sex addiction in their relationships—who want to guide their teenage children toward healthy sexuality. It begins by acknowledging the emotional burden and conflict many betrayed partners feel, especially when trying to teach their children something they themselves are still struggling to reclaim. Drawing from a listener's heartfelt question, the hosts emphasize that children are already receiving sexual messaging from the world around them, making it crucial that parents step up to provide a healthy, grounded counter-narrative rooted in respect, consent, and emotional connection.The article challenges the outdated concept of “the talk” by promoting a new paradigm: sexuality should be an ongoing, evolving, and age-appropriate conversation that unfolds over years, not moments. Parents are encouraged to reflect on their own stories, recognize internal shame or awkwardness, and ensure that their emotional energy during these talks doesn't unintentionally pass discomfort or judgment onto their children. The authors stress that kids are emotional sponges, and how parents talk about sex—more than just what they say—deeply influences how their children feel about their own bodies, desires, and relationships. This is why intentionality and preparation matter more than perfection.Practical tools and resources are also discussed, such as those from Fight the New Drug, Defend Young Minds, and Covenant Eyes. The article affirms that even when a co-parent is absent or unsafe to engage in these conversations, there are still ways to ensure kids have positive, trustworthy influences. By speaking truthfully, embracing healthy sexual values, and modeling openness, betrayed partners can break generational cycles of secrecy, shame, and dysfunction. Each conversation—no matter how imperfect—is a step toward a legacy of empowerment, honesty, and loving connection.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  As a Betrayed Partner, How do I Talk to my Teenage Kids About Healthy Sexuality?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

With around 800,000 to 900,000 divorces occurring annually in the U.S., it's crucial as a society we learn how to better create safety, attachment, and emotional health for children of divorce.Dr. Skinner reminds us all, "It's never too late"-- to heal, grow and get better in all of our relationships. Wherever you're at, please join us as we aim to compassionately touch on five key areas to help make life better for children and families experiencing the aftermath of divorce. You and us,We got this.Carly Red & Dr. Skinner.00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic00:24 The Impact of Divorce on Families01:16 Statistics on Divorce Rates03:29 Betrayal Trauma and PTSD Post-Divorce06:31 The Importance of Safety and Attachment for Children12:18 Five Key Steps to Help Children of Divorce12:48 Creating a Safe and Structured Environment15:27 Effective Parenting Styles18:29 Handling Transitions Between Homes25:44 The Language We Use About Our Ex-Spouse29:24 Protecting Your Child's Safety30:08 Seeking Professional Help31:00 Communicating Divorce with Children 33:14 Handling Emotional Conversations38:26 Navigating Parenting Differences42:17 The Importance of Maturity and Reconciliation42:45 The Never-Ending Relationship of Divorced Parents44:57 Healing, Moving Forward, Finding Happiness48:51 Never Too Late: Acknowledging Pain and Rebuilding Relationships53:31 Final Thoughts and EncouragementWatch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast⁠⁠We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere…so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support.To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com

Today, we're diving into a topic that often confuses and even hurts the betrayed spouse — the idea that the unfaithful partner might go through something called “affair detox.” It's real. It's painful. And it's important to understand — not to excuse behavior, but to better navigate the healing process. :: 7 Pillars of Healing from Betrayal Trauma is launching Monday, May 5, 2025!:  Get on the waitlist for early bird pricing :: ✨ Learn how to start rebuilding your marriage after betrayal inside Marriage Redesigned. Visit lisalimehouse.com/marriage-redesigned :: NEXT STEPS: Beauty Beyond Betrayal Website:  www.beautybeyondbetrayal.org  Work with Lisa:  Coaching Information Schedule your FREE CONSULT  Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Grab your Free Ebook:   Broken Vows: Begin healing from the devastation of betrayal Email:   info@lisalimehouse.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE

Ready to transform your life after discovering his betrayal (cheating, p*rn use, etc.)? Book a 1-on-1 Support Call: click here Self-paced, online course "Betrayal Survival Guide": Click here Apply for my 3-month coaching package: Click here P*rn addiction recovery resource: Click here Click below for more resources: TikTok Instagram Join my Women's Support Group "WTF Do I Do Now?" Website **Please subscribe and rate the show so the algorithm can help more girls find this resource and know they aren't alone in their healing journey from his cheating, p*rn use, etc.!

How to live more fully in the present and heal what we believe about ourselves – EMDR therapy. (1:56) Ask a therapist, Joe Sikorra: How to heal from a cheating husband, emotionally focused therapy, how a woman can have a better sex drive, when it’s time to get a new therapist, and how to help a 24-year-old daughter struggling with loneliness and friendships. (17:10) Idolization of the “Traditional Wife” – does it hurt single people and married couples? (40:21) Resources mentioned: Joe’s website https://joesikorra.com/ Joe’s book https://www.amazon.com/Whole-World-Going-Crazy-But-Dont/dp/B0BXN9G4N7 Find a Catholic Therapist https://www.catholictherapists.com/ Healing from Betrayal Trauma https://www.bloomforcatholicwomen.com/

In this episode, Jackie delves into the phases of healing betrayal in relationships, highlighting the significance of individual therapy before couples therapy. Jackie explains the "full disclosure" process in recovery, stressing the need for honesty and emotional regulation. She describes the work done in phase 3 for the couple, highlighting the transformative journey couples undergo as they learn to communicate effectively and address deeper relationship dynamics. #podcast #betrayaltraumarecovery #sexaddictionrecovery Register for Online Workshop Breaking the Cycle of Relapse: https://buy.stripe.com/dR629h4og6mG3Wo6op  

You've just found out about the affair or addiction. Your world has flipped upside down — and all you have are questions. You're not alone. There are 8 questions that are the most common (and most painful) ones I hear from Christian women and couples trying to figure out what to do next after betrayal. Today, my husband, Britt and I are bringing you Part 2 where we are finishing the last 4 questions most couples ask after betrayal.  We pray it blesses you. Listen to Part 1: HERE :: 7 Pillars of Healing from Betrayal Trauma is launching Monday, May 5, 2025!:  Get on the waitlist for early bird pricing :: ✨ Learn how to start rebuilding your marriage after betrayal inside Marriage Redesigned. Visit lisalimehouse.com/marriage-redesigned :: NEXT STEPS: Beauty Beyond Betrayal Website:  www.beautybeyondbetrayal.org  Work with Lisa:  Coaching Information Schedule your FREE CONSULT  Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Grab your Free Ebook:   Broken Vows: Begin healing from the devastation of betrayal Email:   info@lisalimehouse.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE

PBSE Podcast 279 confronts the painful contradiction many addicts face: a deep longing for intimate connection paired with a habitual avoidance of it. Through a heartfelt partner's submission and personal reflections, Mark and Steve illustrate how addiction, as an intimacy disorder, fuels this cycle of wanting but not acting—of making promises without follow-through. The core issue often isn't a lack of sincerity, but a profound disconnection from self, rooted in fear, shame, and survival-based behaviors that sabotage the very closeness being sought.Mark & Steve emphasize that real intimacy demands risk, consistency, and emotional presence—there's no “door number three” that offers closeness without vulnerability. Acting out behaviors like pornography offer a counterfeit form of connection without the discomfort of being seen or rejected. But for true healing and trust to take root, addicts must stop hiding behind avoidance and start showing up authentically, even if the steps are small. It's about shifting from vocalizing good intentions to building consistent habits of connection.Ultimately, the article issues a powerful call to action for those in recovery: don't just say you want intimacy—prove it. Begin where you are, but begin. For partners still offering connection, your continued hope is meaningful, but it must be met with effort. And for addicts, real change starts not with grand declarations, but with the next honest, intentional step toward your partner and yourself.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Do you REALLY want Intimate CONNECTION or Not?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Today, we're diving deep into a powerful topic that isn't talked about enough but can absolutely block your healing after betrayal... It's called enmeshment — and if it's not dealt with, it can leave you feeling stuck, exhausted, and disconnected from your true identity in Christ. But don't worry — today, I'm going to show you how to recognize it, break free, and move toward true restoration — both personally and in your marriage. Let's dive in." : 7 Pillars of Healing from Betrayal Trauma is launching Monday, May 5, 2025!:  Get on the waitlist for early bird pricing :: ✨ Learn how to start rebuilding your marriage after betrayal inside Marriage Redesigned. Visit lisalimehouse.com/marriage-redesigned :: NEXT STEPS: Beauty Beyond Betrayal Website:  www.beautybeyondbetrayal.org  Work with Lisa:  Coaching Information Schedule your FREE CONSULT  Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Grab your Free Ebook:   Broken Vows: Begin healing from the devastation of betrayal Email:   info@lisalimehouse.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE

In this episode, Jackie discussed the complexities of healing from sex addiction and betrayal trauma within relationships.  She emphasized the importance of individual therapy before beginning joint sessions, explaining that fixing the relationship alone does ot address the underlying issues of addiction or the trauma of betrayal.  Jackie illustrates the journey of recovery and the steps needed to rebuild trust and intimacy in relationships affected by sex addiction.  

In this PBSE episode (#278), Mark & Steve delve deeply into a critical topic for betrayed partners—After enduring the deep wounds of a marriage ending due to porn addiction, stepping back into the dating world requires tremendous courage, self-awareness, and intentional preparation. We encourage betrayed partners to first focus inward, engaging in compassionate self-analysis to better understand past relational dynamics. Exploring areas like intuition, self-trust, self-esteem, and emotional dependency empowers betrayed partners to move forward not with fear, but with wisdom and strength. Becoming the most authentic, grounded version of oneself is the true safeguard against repeating old patterns and lays the foundation for building future healthy relationships.In today's culture, pornography exposure is virtually universal, making it essential to approach dating with realism rather than idealism. The goal isn't to find someone untouched by porn but to find someone who has a healthy, honest relationship with their sexuality and emotions. Asking direct, vulnerable questions early in the dating process—such as inquiries about pornography use, emotional openness, and personal growth—helps quickly reveal whether a potential partner can offer true intimacy, honesty, and emotional safety. Partners must prioritize open communication and trust their intuition, recognizing that how someone responds to vulnerability tells them much about future relational potential.Ultimately, despite the heartbreak of the past, the future holds great promise for those who choose growth and self-empowerment. Betrayed partners are not broken; they are stronger, wiser, and more capable of building deep, lasting love than ever before. By focusing on personal healing, leading with authenticity, and refusing to settle for less than emotional honesty and maturity, individuals can find real, meaningful connections. The painful past becomes not an anchor, but a stepping stone into a richer, healthier future filled with hope, intimacy, and fulfillment.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  How Do I Navigate the Dating World After My Marriage Ended Due to Porn? Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Ready to transform your life after discovering his betrayal (cheating, p*rn use, etc.)? Book a 1-on-1 Support Call: click here Self-paced, online course "Betrayal Survival Guide": Click here Apply for my 3-month coaching package: Click here P*rn addiction recovery resource: Click here Click below for more resources: TikTok Instagram Join my Women's Support Group "WTF Do I Do Now?" Website **Please subscribe and rate the show so the algorithm can help more girls find this resource and know they aren't alone in their healing journey from his cheating, p*rn use, etc.!

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we continue our conversation with Cat Etherington. Cat Etherington is the Director of Recovery for Naked Truth Project, an international Christian charity opening eyes and freeing lives from the damaging impacts of pornography and other problematic sexual behaviours.  We Will be Discussing: What support do you offer globally? How can we empower global listeners to advocate for themselves to uneducated support people? Is no support better than damaging support? Resources mentioned in this show: Naked Truth Recovery cat@nakedtruthrecovery.com

PBSE Episode 277 addresses a deeply personal and often overlooked consequence of pornography addiction: the loss of enjoyment in media that was once shared and meaningful within a relationship. The authors respond to a listener's question about whether he and his partner can ever again enjoy media that has been “pornified” through his addiction. They explain how sexual addiction often extends beyond explicit content to include distorted sexualization of characters and media, leading to feelings of betrayal, shame, and disconnection. The podcast highlights how the brain, once trained to objectify, cannot selectively compartmentalize those responses, making formerly innocent content triggering or painful.Recovery, the authors argue, begins with sobriety—creating enough distance from compulsive behaviors and media to assess its true impact. Only after detoxing can individuals and couples explore the question of reclaiming media in a healthy, intentional way. The process demands deep self-honesty, a redefinition of personal boundaries, and meaningful conversations with one's partner. Trust and safety must be reestablished through consistent behaviors, transparent communication, and a shared vision for healing. Practical tools like content filtering, media planning, and regular emotional check-ins are vital for navigating this journey thoughtfully and securely.Ultimately, the article offers hope: while some things may not return to their previous form, many aspects of media and connection can be redeemed. This requires letting go of black-and-white thinking and embracing a new, authentic relationship with media—one rooted in purpose, not compulsion. By learning to see people and experiences as whole, rather than as fragmented or sexualized, couples can rediscover joy, connection, and even innocence in their lives. The path forward may not restore what was lost in its original form, but it can lead to something even more meaningful—a deeper, shared way of living with clarity, connection, and freedom.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  My Habit of "Pornifying" Everything has Ruined EnJoyable Media for Me & My Partner!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Have you ever wondered if your husband is secretly watching pornography? Or maybe you fear there's infidelity. If you have ever had these questions in the back of your mind this episode is for you! The statistics of porn usage and addiction are staggering even within the church. It is an epidemic that we need to do a better job as Christ followers at addressing. Today we have Joanna Raabsmith who is a licensed therapist and professional coach who specialized in Betrayal Trauma come and answer our burning questions. How widespread is this issue? What are the signs this is going on? What do we do if we suspect something? And if we discover something, what do we do then? Is there any hope? Joanna answers all of these and more.  Be sure to check out all of Joanna's Resources:   Free HONEST tool/challenge for couples: raabsmithteam.com/free Building True Intimacy book- https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-Connection/dp/B0CHCLTDZJ/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2PLV9Q91FEPG5&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.qTBC20UdlTsXO8-Th7gREZfNEELYu2TWZ_2t7oN8YX6YzAg7tQlAYN6bH2cBQctU5cTXkYRkEaIFWgANBsuhWkTyJVfXDuZvU4dfLz4f1p8.v7fzoySA6D242KOUVwPYJlMpTUboQvF4dhMxABOqvUI&dib_tag=se&keywords=building+true+intimacy+raabsmith&qid=1734207118&sprefix=building+true+%2Caps%2C161&sr=8-1 https://www.instagram.com/theraabsmithteam/  Joanna is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Professional Coach. She holds a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy and a Masters of Divinity from Fuller Theological Seminary. Trained in Restoration Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and EMDR, she specializes in trauma, betrayal trauma, addiction recovery, and relationship issues. Joanna is passionate about helping couples restore love and trust while guiding individuals toward personal growth and healing. Alongside her husband, Matthew, she co-leads The Raabsmith Team, co-authored Building True Intimacy (2023), and co-developed The Intimacy Pyramid™, a framework for building a thriving connection in relationships. She lives in Tennessee with Matthew and their three children, where she enjoys going on shared adventures, reading by the fireplace, and a weekly game of pickleball. ----- Love, Brittany    Ready to become a peaceful wife and Mama? Sign Up for the Pain to Peace Academy HERE. Come say hi and join the Morning Mama Facebook Group! I would love to hear your story and know your name.    ALL THE LINKS FOR ALL THE THINGS! Morning Mama Website Pain to Peace Academy Morning Mama Facebook Group Follow Us on Instagram Find a Restoration Therapist Come say hi by emailing hello@morningmamapodcast.com  

Episode 276 addresses a question often asked by partners of addicts in recovery: “Do I have to wait for the formal amends process before I see real change?” The authors explain that real transformation in recovery should not be postponed until Steps 8 and 9 of the 12-step model. They draw a clear distinction between a simple apology and the deeper process of making amends, emphasizing that true recovery begins with personal accountability, transparency, and a willingness to face difficult truths—not with a formal ceremony or set timeline. Waiting for a specific step to begin meaningful repair in a relationship is not only unnecessary, but often counterproductive.The article also explores why addicts may avoid transparency, citing both nefarious and sincere motivations. Some use recovery language as a shield to delay vulnerability or to avoid accountability, a behavior referred to as “weaponizing recovery.” Others may believe they need to handle everything on their own, often stemming from unhealthy family systems or distorted beliefs about responsibility. These patterns, while sometimes well-intentioned, still prevent the growth and emotional openness necessary for healing. The authors stress that full transparency should begin early in recovery, as emotional honesty is foundational for any real connection or rebuilding of trust.For betrayed partners, the article offers a roadmap for reclaiming personal empowerment. It encourages them to build outside support systems, gain clarity about their own needs, and hold firm boundaries—not as a means of controlling their partner's behavior, but to protect their own healing. The message is clear: real recovery is demonstrated through consistent honesty, presence, and vulnerability long before any formal amends are made. Partners do not have to—and should not—wait for a specific step before expecting accountability and meaningful change.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Do I Have to Wait for "Formal Amends" Process Before My Addict Partner Shows Any Real Change?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

In this episode of the Addict to Athlete podcast, host Blu Robinson engages with Gary Katz, a professional in the field of sexual addictions. They explore the complexities of addiction, particularly sexual addiction, and its impact on individuals and relationships. Katz discusses the spectrum of addiction, the stigma surrounding sexual behaviors, and the deep emotional wounds caused by betrayal. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, understanding values, and navigating the healing process for both individuals struggling with addiction and their partners. In this conversation, Gary Katz and Blu Robinson delve into the complexities of healing from betrayal in relationships. They discuss the timeline for recovery, the importance of emotional literacy, and the challenges of reestablishing intimacy after infidelity. The dialogue emphasizes the need for couples to navigate trust issues, the dynamics of sexual desire, and the impact of conflict and resentment on intimacy. Katz highlights the significance of individual and couples therapy in fostering understanding and healing, while also addressing the societal pressures that complicate emotional expression, particularly for men. Takeaways Addiction is a form of self-abandonment. The stigma surrounding sexual addiction is profound. Betrayal trauma cuts deeper than other forms of addiction. Self-compassion is crucial in the recovery process. Understanding one's values is essential in addressing sexual behaviors. The partner's perspective is often overlooked in discussions of addiction. Shame plays a significant role in how individuals perceive their sexual behaviors. Healthy relationships require open communication about sexual needs. The brain often protects itself from painful truths, leading to denial. Navigating recovery involves addressing both individual and relational dynamics. It can take 18 to 24 months for healing. Healing is a personal journey; there's no race. Betrayed partners often seek knowledge to feel safe. Understanding betrayal trauma is crucial for recovery. Empathy is harder to learn than stopping harmful behaviors. Reestablishing intimacy requires patience and understanding. Couples need to prioritize their relationship amidst life demands. Conflict can be a sign of passion in relationships.   00:00- Introduction to the Addict to Athlete Podcast 01:00- Understanding Sexual Addictions and Their Impact 04:44- The Spectrum of Addiction: Self-Abandonment and Connection 08:26- The Deeper Cuts of Sexual Betrayal 11:20- The Stigma of Sexual Addiction 13:14- The Complexity of Shame in Sexual Behaviors 18:09- Navigating Values and Sexuality 21:12- The Partner's Perspective: Betrayal and Healing 27:59- Understanding the Healing Process 30:39- Navigating Betrayal and Trust 34:24- Reestablishing Intimacy After Betrayal 39:12- The Dynamics of Sexual Desire 45:13- Conflict, Resentment, and Intimacy 50:20- Emotional Literacy and Recovery   Please join Addict to Athlete's Patreon support page and help us turn the mess of addiction into the message of sobriety! https://www.patreon.com/addicttoathlete Please visit our website for more information on Team Addict to Athlete and Addiction Recovery Podcasts. https://www.AddictToAthlete.org Join the Team! Circle, our new social support event, along with the team and athlete communication platform, is designed to help us break free from doom scrolling and shadow banning and foster stronger connections among us. Follow the link, download the app, and start this new chapter of Team AIIA! Join Circle https://a2a.circle.so/join?invitation_token=16daaa0d9ecd7421d384dd05a461464ce149cc9e-63d4aa30-1a67-4120-ae12-124791dfb519     https://youtu.be/MV3IW2DwlGE   Gray- https://www.intimacyrecovery.com/

This PBSE episode (275), inspired by a listener's vulnerable question, dives deep into the emotional complexity of intimacy in long-term relationships—particularly when one partner has struggled with pornography addiction. The woman asks how her husband can look “past” her aging body and be genuinely aroused by real love. Her question reveals the pain of feeling invisible or undesired and touches on the widespread cultural belief that sexual attraction is rigid and solely tied to youth or physical perfection. The article dismantles this myth, showing that arousal is not a static, uncontrollable instinct, but a moldable response shaped by years of influence, experience, and personal choices.Mark and Steve, speaking from their own journeys of recovery and their work with countless clients, explain how pornography warps the arousal template, training the brain to see only surface-level stimulation while disconnecting from emotional and spiritual depth. But through consistent personal work, emotional vulnerability, and intentional connection, that template can be rewritten. Real-life examples—like a therapist who found arousal in his wife's post-mastectomy scars—illustrate that true desire comes not from ignoring reality, but from embracing it. The physical becomes more meaningful, not less, when it's rooted in shared experience, loyalty, admiration, and love.Ultimately, the article reframes arousal not as something to “look past,” but as something to “look through”—to see the fullness of a partner, body and soul. It calls both partners to re-engage in intimacy with eyes wide open, choosing to cultivate love through emotional connection and shared meaning. The grand takeaway is that authentic, meaningful love is not only enough to spark desire—it's the most powerful and lasting form of arousal there is.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  How Can He "Look Past" My Body & Be Aroused by Real Love?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

This PBSE Podcast Episode 274, centers on a partner's heartfelt account of feeling objectified and emotionally disconnected during sex with her spouse, who is in recovery from porn addiction. Though he has given up porn and masturbation, their intimacy remains one-sided, leaving her feeling like a replacement for his addiction rather than a true partner in connection. Mark and Steve explore how sobriety alone isn't enough—emotional growth, mindfulness, and a complete rewiring of sexual expectations are essential for healing.Through neuroscience, they unpack how porn addiction distorts the brain's wiring around sex, creating a dopamine-driven pattern that prioritizes climax over connection. Recovery, then, requires more than behavioral change; it calls for a transformation of mindset, unlearning toxic scripts, and rebuilding intimacy through vulnerability and presence. The metaphor of “remodeling” becomes central: couples must tear down broken patterns and collaboratively design a new vision for their sexual relationship.Ultimately, the article calls couples to take back authorship of their story by replacing silence, shame, and autopilot sex with curiosity, honesty, and shared desire. With intention and effort, couples can elevate their sexual connection from a mechanical act to a space of mutual pleasure and deep intimacy—if they are willing to write that new narrative together.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Sed Isn't Mutually Pleasurable in our Relationship. Howe do We Elevate the Experience?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Betrayal trauma occurs when trust is violated within a relationship, creating a profound alteration of reality for the betrayed partner and causing symptoms similar to PTSD. David Jones, a licensed marriage and family therapist, shares insights on the unique challenges of betrayal trauma and offers a three-part framework for healing.• Betrayal trauma is defined as an "alteration of reality" - discovering that what you thought was true about your relationship wasn't• What makes betrayal trauma unique is that the betrayed often must interact with the source of their trauma• The "three legs of the stool" framework for healing: boundaries, individual coping skills/self-care, and connections• Recovery takes significant time - often years - but healing is possible whether the relationship continues or ends• Forgiveness does not equal trust - forgiveness is releasing bitterness while trust must be earned through consistent behavior• Emotional safety forms the foundation for rebuilding connection after betrayal• Support people should be "marriage friendly" if the couple is working toward reconciliationIf you'd like to learn more about the resources discussed in this episode, visit Secure Connection Counseling at secureconnectioncounseling.com or explore the resources available at StrongerMarriage.org.David's Links:https://secureconnectioncounseling.com/About David Jones:David Jones is dedicated to strengthening marriages and families. Growing up with divorced parents and a father in recovery from alcoholism shaped his passion for helping couples navigate challenges. His own blended family of eight children further fuels his commitment to marriage therapy.A Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist, Certified Family Life Educator, and EFT Supervisor Candidate, David specializes in helping couples facing betrayal trauma, infidelity, sexual addiction, and ADHD-related relationship struggles. He also teaches university courses on family relationships and serves as an Army Reserve Chaplain, expanding his real-world perspective.As an AAMFT-Approved Supervisor and EFT Supervisor in Training, David is a leader in his field. He applies attachment theory to therapy, believing that secure relationships not only heal but create lasting transformation. Clients often credit his work with saving their marriages. With a deep well of experience, empathy, and expertise, David is a trusted guide for couples seeking healing and growth.Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com

Betrayal Recovery 101: What Every Woman Needs to Know – Part 2 You've heard the saying, time heals all wounds—but when it comes to betrayal trauma, that couldn't be further from the truth. If you're waiting for time to magically fix the devastation, the triggers, and the self-doubt, you'll stay stuck. In this eye-opening episode, betrayal recovery coach Lora Cheadle exposes the myths about healing after infidelity and explains why waiting, numbing out, or ignoring the pain won't work. Instead, she shares the exact tools and strategies to take control of your recovery, rebuild your confidence, and step into your power NOW. Top Takeaways: Why betrayal is NOT a relationship crisis—it's a full-body trauma The biggest mistake most betrayed women make (and how to avoid it) Why traditional therapy often fails in betrayal recovery—and what to do instead The difference between coping and true healing (Hint: Most women get stuck in coping!) How to break the toxic cycle of waiting—for closure, for change, for him to wake up The 4 long-term recovery strategies to reclaim your identity and rebuild your self-worth This is the second episode in a 4-part series on betrayal recovery—be sure to subscribe so you don't miss Part 3!

Mandy is a women's empowerment and trauma-informed life coach who helps women who have experienced betrayal trauma. In this episode of Consider Before Consuming, Mandy shares her personal experience of discovering her partner's secret struggle with porn addiction, his cheating with porn stars, and the betrayal trauma that followed. She describes the emotional toll, the gaslighting, and the psychological abuse she endured, as well as the healing journey that led her to become a trauma-informed life coach.Episode Resources Article: The Emotional Trauma of Having a Porn-Addicted PartnerMandy's WebsiteConversation Blueprint: Let's Talk About Porn

In this powerful episode, Christian marriage coach and betrayal trauma specialist Lisa Limehouse explores the devastating impact of infidelity on the body, mind, and spirit — and what God's Word says about the path to true healing. You'll discover: The physical symptoms of betrayal trauma, backed by recent research The emotional and psychological effects of marital infidelity How spiritual wounds develop after betrayal — and how to begin restoring your faith One practical step you can take today to start healing in each area Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, spiritually disconnected, or stuck in the aftermath of betrayal, this episode offers hope, clarity, and Christ-centered strategies to begin rebuilding your life and your identity in Him.

In this episode (273) of the PBSE podcast, hosts Mark and Steve respond to a heartfelt message from a betrayed partner whose addict spouse keeps saying he's “sorry” and that he's “trying,” yet still fails to meet her emotional needs. The conversation highlights the profound frustration and exhaustion that many partners feel as they repeatedly express their pain and needs, only to be met with minimal awareness or inconsistent effort. The hosts emphasize that while an addict may be sincere in their apologies, sincerity without emotional capacity or real change isn't enough to rebuild trust or connection.The article goes on to explore the concept of emotional “capacity,” explaining that in early recovery, addicts often lack the internal tools needed to hold space for their partner's pain. This isn't to excuse poor behavior, but to help partners understand why they may be feeling unseen or invalidated despite their partner's promises. Mark and Steve caution against the common trap of overextending emotional energy in hopes of breakthrough and instead stress the need for healthy, clearly defined boundaries. These boundaries are framed not as threats or punishments but as vital self-protection—ways to maintain one's authenticity, dignity, and well-being when the addict is not yet capable of genuine connection.Ultimately, the article challenges readers to reflect on compatibility, effort, and emotional sustainability within the relationship. It encourages betrayed partners to gain clarity around their own values, needs, and limits, while recognizing the difference between compliance and real change. Whether a partner is able to rise to the occasion or not, the message is clear: you are not alone, your needs are valid, and healing—whether together or apart—is possible with the right tools, support, and boundaries in place.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  My Addict Partner Keeps saying "Sorry" and He's "Trying," but He's NOT Meeting my Real Needs!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Healing from betrayal trauma is a deeply personal journey, but why do some people seem to heal and move forward while others stay stuck? In today's episode, we welcome back Dr. Jill Manning, a renowned therapist, researcher, and speaker with over 20 years of experience in betrayal trauma recovery.Dr. Manning shares the key factors that help betrayed partners heal, as well as the common obstacles that slow down the recovery process. She offers practical steps to move through the pain and build a life of stability, connection, and renewed purpose—whether or not the relationship survives.If you've been feeling stuck in your healing journey, this episode will give you clarity, direction, and hope.What You'll Learn in This Episode:⏳ [03:00] – The rising severity of betrayal trauma and why cases are more complex today⏳ [08:15] – The 5 key factors that help betrayed partners heal (CAVED Framework)⏳ [15:30] – Why connection is essential and how isolation keeps people stuck⏳ [22:45] – The role of advocacy—having at least one person who truly understands you⏳ [28:00] – Why validation is critical and how to avoid minimizing your experience⏳ [34:10] – The impact of education—why learning about betrayal trauma helps you heal⏳ [40:00] – Why having a clear roadmap (direction) makes all the difference

Part of the trauma after infidelity is rumination. The endless mind movies reliving what you know and, worse, imagining what you don't. In this episode, listeners tell us how they dealt with the endless intrusive thoughts. What therapies worked, who helped, and how they diverted their attention elsewhere. (True crime podcasts anyone?)   

Delanie Fischer is joined by Licensed Psychotherapist and International & Board Certified Trauma Therapist, Támara Hill, to discuss betrayal trauma —including deceptive affection, symptoms of this kind of trauma, the initial (and ongoing) impact it can have, and a multidimensional approach to healing.Plus:+ Your "Life as a Platter" Analogy & Growth Mindset+ Learned Helplessness, Enmeshment, and PTSD+ A Journaling Ritual You Might Want to Try Next!More episodes related to this topic:Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) with Licensed Therapist, Nadirah Habeebullah: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/327baacc/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd-with-licensed-therapist-nadirah-habeebullahWhen My Husband Came Out: Infidelity, Divorce, and Friendship with Jessica Frew: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/229e6642/when-my-husband-came-out-infidelity-divorce-and-friendship-with-jessica-frewHow To Build Self-Trust with Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/3109f4db/how-to-build-self-trust-with-delanie-fischer-and-kelsey-cookHow to Fix a Broken Heart by Guy Winch: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/9c478f77/how-to-fix-a-broken-heart-by-guy-winchSupport the podcast and vote on topics: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.