Podcasts about Betrayal trauma

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your husband thinking, “How did I end up apologizing for his betrayal?” That's the silent trap of blame shifting and deflection—two emotional manipulation tactics that keep betrayed wives stuck in confusion, guilt, and shame. In this episode of Beauty Beyond Betrayal, I expose the truth behind statements like: “You pushed me to it” “You're overreacting” “I wouldn't have done it if you hadn't…” I walk you through the 10 clearest signs of blame shifting and deflection, explains how these patterns keep you emotionally stuck, and shares biblical truth and practical tools to help you reclaim your voice and start healing. If you're ready to stop carrying guilt that was never yours and walk in the freedom Christ died to give you, this episode will bring the clarity, courage, and hope you've been praying for. :: NEXT STEPS: Beauty Beyond Betrayal Website:  www.beautybeyondbetrayal.org  Work with Lisa:  Coaching Information Schedule your FREE CONSULT  Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Grab your Free Ebook:   Broken Vows: Begin healing from the devastation of betrayal Email:   info@lisalimehouse.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE

If you've been curious about what the concepts of Doing It Together can do for your sex life and marriage in the long term, this is the episode for you! Justin and Sandra, married for 19 years, took Doing It Together two years ago and they graciously share VERY specific details about what their relationship and sex life look like now. They open up about how they've learned to talk, play, remain curious, and change things up through life's ups and downs.They also share how their marriage has changed outside the bedroom and the routines they've incorporated to keep their connection at the forefront of their marriage. You can listen to Justin and Sandra's personal stories by listening to these previous episodes:Justin's Story in Episode 82Sandra's Story in Episode 74The Michelle Mays episode on Betrayal Trauma can be found here: Episode 108The next round of Doing It Together is open for registration! Get $300 off for this round only! Register now!Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

When it comes to betrayal, we often hear one story: the man cheats, the woman is hurt, and support rallies around her. But what happens when the script is flipped? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Adam Nisenson, a coach and author who helps men navigate betrayal trauma—a subject that's rarely talked about and often misunderstood.Adam shares his own experience of being betrayed, the cultural narratives that silence men in pain, and why so many men suffer in isolation. We explore how betrayal crushes identity, triggers deep ego wounds, and leaves men unsure of how to move forward.This episode offers insight, language, and hope for betrayed men—and for those who love them.

PBSE Podcast Episode 281, tackles the painful and familiar experience of betrayed partners who live in a constant state of anxiety, waiting for the next betrayal to surface. Centering around a listener's heartfelt submission, the article outlines the emotional toll of repeated trauma, especially in relationships where staggered disclosures have prolonged the hurt. Despite doing some recovery work, the listener still struggles with fear, mistrust, and a lack of emotional safety, highlighting the core issue: how to move forward without continually bracing for disaster.The discussion focuses on reclaiming personal power through sovereignty, healthy boundaries, and authentic voice. It emphasizes that although the betrayed partner did not cause the trauma, healing requires active steps toward self-care and emotional clarity. Instead of controlling a partner's actions, effective boundaries are framed around one's own needs, expectations, and non-negotiables. The hosts challenge the traditional model of boundary-setting, shifting the focus from rule enforcement to emotional empowerment. They also stress the importance of clearly communicating pain—not as a weapon, but as an invitation to intimacy and healing.Ultimately, the episode encourages partners to prioritize themselves first. Whether or not the relationship survives, their well-being, authenticity, and voice matter most. Real connection, the kind partners yearn for, is only possible when both individuals show up with honesty and accountability. If the addict partner is unwilling or unable to do that, the betrayed partner can still reclaim safety, peace, and purpose. Through programs like Dare to Connect and a strong support network, partners can stop waiting for catastrophe and instead begin living intentionally, boldly, and on their own terms.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  As a Betrayed Partner, How Do I Stop Waiting Around for the Rug to be Pulled Out from Under Me—Again?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

In love addiction, we may find ourselves feeling betrayed by a partner-- even if we don't know for sure that something is going on--while doubting our instincts, believing we're too sensitive, and giving an emotionally unavailable partner the benefit of the doubt. This feeling adds to our anxiety, and whatever information a partner is withholding adds to the dysfunction of the relationship...and we stay in the cycle of love addiction hoping things will change. In this episode Jodi talks with betrayal trauma therapist, Lindsay Haverslew, about the reality of betrayal trauma. Jodi and Lindsay share personal experiences with betrayal, and discuss signs that a partner is emotionally unavailable, tips for identifying a trustworthy person, and much more.  Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Link to Jodi's website and additional resources Lindsay's website and instagram Lindsay mentioned the work of Jennifer Freyd and Dr. Kevin Skinner and the book Unleashing Your Power  Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.

Finding Hope and Healing in the Face of Betrayal TraumaIn this episode of Healing With Worth, hosts Naomi and Marquelle address the topic of hopelessness, especially during tough times. They emphasize the importance of self-care, positive affirmations, and setting boundaries to regain confidence and self-esteem. They discuss practical steps like going outside, connecting with nature, and seeking spiritual renewal through religious practices. The hosts also highlight the significance of human connections and provide tips for creating and maintaining meaningful relationships. They reiterate that even small, consistent actions can lead to significant improvements in one's emotional and mental well-being.00:00 Introduction to Healing With Worth00:55 Understanding Hopelessness and Self-Empowerment02:57 The Importance of Self-Care03:58 Finding Joy in Small Things08:17 Building Connections and Support Systems16:13 Spiritual Healing and Renewal22:47 Final Thoughts and Encouragement28:28 Closing Remarks and Resources

Send us a textIn this powerful episode of the Covenant Eyes Podcast, hosts Karen Potter and Sam Black sit down with Nate Larkin—founder of the Samson Society and author of Samson and the Pirate Monks. Nate shares his raw, redemptive journey from secret struggles with porn and sex addiction to freedom, healing, and authentic brotherhood.Discover how early exposure, emotional pain, and ministry stress fueled Nate's addiction, and how community, honesty, and spiritual growth led him to lasting transformation. Learn how the Samson Society creates spaces for real connection and why it's never too late to seek help.Whether you're in the middle of your own battle or walking alongside someone who is, this conversation is full of truth, grace, and hope.

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we welcome Natalie Hoffman to the podcast. Natalie is the author of, “Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual abuse,” and “All the Scary Little Gods.” She's also the host of the Flying Free Podcast. She is a passionate advocate for Christian women in abusive homes and churches. Through the Flying Free Sisterhood, she empowers Christian women to use their voices and gifts for their spiritual, emotional, and physical wellbeing. We Will be Discussing: Can you share the key signs of covert emotional and spiritual abuse?  How can women see these subtle tactics in their marriage or environment? Has he always been this way and I just didn't see it? What are some of the key things you need that an abusive relationship cannot provide? What hope can we offer our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: Emotional Abuse Quiz Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse All the Scary Little Gods: A Memoir Natalie's Website, Flying Free Now

In PBSE Episode 280, Mark & Steve address the complex challenge faced by betrayed partners—especially those healing from porn or sex addiction in their relationships—who want to guide their teenage children toward healthy sexuality. It begins by acknowledging the emotional burden and conflict many betrayed partners feel, especially when trying to teach their children something they themselves are still struggling to reclaim. Drawing from a listener's heartfelt question, the hosts emphasize that children are already receiving sexual messaging from the world around them, making it crucial that parents step up to provide a healthy, grounded counter-narrative rooted in respect, consent, and emotional connection.The article challenges the outdated concept of “the talk” by promoting a new paradigm: sexuality should be an ongoing, evolving, and age-appropriate conversation that unfolds over years, not moments. Parents are encouraged to reflect on their own stories, recognize internal shame or awkwardness, and ensure that their emotional energy during these talks doesn't unintentionally pass discomfort or judgment onto their children. The authors stress that kids are emotional sponges, and how parents talk about sex—more than just what they say—deeply influences how their children feel about their own bodies, desires, and relationships. This is why intentionality and preparation matter more than perfection.Practical tools and resources are also discussed, such as those from Fight the New Drug, Defend Young Minds, and Covenant Eyes. The article affirms that even when a co-parent is absent or unsafe to engage in these conversations, there are still ways to ensure kids have positive, trustworthy influences. By speaking truthfully, embracing healthy sexual values, and modeling openness, betrayed partners can break generational cycles of secrecy, shame, and dysfunction. Each conversation—no matter how imperfect—is a step toward a legacy of empowerment, honesty, and loving connection.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  As a Betrayed Partner, How do I Talk to my Teenage Kids About Healthy Sexuality?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

With around 800,000 to 900,000 divorces occurring annually in the U.S., it's crucial as a society we learn how to better create safety, attachment, and emotional health for children of divorce.Dr. Skinner reminds us all, "It's never too late"-- to heal, grow and get better in all of our relationships. Wherever you're at, please join us as we aim to compassionately touch on five key areas to help make life better for children and families experiencing the aftermath of divorce. You and us,We got this.Carly Red & Dr. Skinner.00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic00:24 The Impact of Divorce on Families01:16 Statistics on Divorce Rates03:29 Betrayal Trauma and PTSD Post-Divorce06:31 The Importance of Safety and Attachment for Children12:18 Five Key Steps to Help Children of Divorce12:48 Creating a Safe and Structured Environment15:27 Effective Parenting Styles18:29 Handling Transitions Between Homes25:44 The Language We Use About Our Ex-Spouse29:24 Protecting Your Child's Safety30:08 Seeking Professional Help31:00 Communicating Divorce with Children 33:14 Handling Emotional Conversations38:26 Navigating Parenting Differences42:17 The Importance of Maturity and Reconciliation42:45 The Never-Ending Relationship of Divorced Parents44:57 Healing, Moving Forward, Finding Happiness48:51 Never Too Late: Acknowledging Pain and Rebuilding Relationships53:31 Final Thoughts and EncouragementWatch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast⁠⁠We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere…so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support.To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com

Today, we're diving into a topic that often confuses and even hurts the betrayed spouse — the idea that the unfaithful partner might go through something called “affair detox.” It's real. It's painful. And it's important to understand — not to excuse behavior, but to better navigate the healing process. :: 7 Pillars of Healing from Betrayal Trauma is launching Monday, May 5, 2025!:  Get on the waitlist for early bird pricing :: ✨ Learn how to start rebuilding your marriage after betrayal inside Marriage Redesigned. Visit lisalimehouse.com/marriage-redesigned :: NEXT STEPS: Beauty Beyond Betrayal Website:  www.beautybeyondbetrayal.org  Work with Lisa:  Coaching Information Schedule your FREE CONSULT  Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Grab your Free Ebook:   Broken Vows: Begin healing from the devastation of betrayal Email:   info@lisalimehouse.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE

Ready to transform your life after discovering his betrayal (cheating, p*rn use, etc.)? Book a 1-on-1 Support Call: click here Self-paced, online course "Betrayal Survival Guide": Click here Apply for my 3-month coaching package: Click here P*rn addiction recovery resource: Click here Click below for more resources: TikTok Instagram Join my Women's Support Group "WTF Do I Do Now?" Website **Please subscribe and rate the show so the algorithm can help more girls find this resource and know they aren't alone in their healing journey from his cheating, p*rn use, etc.!

How to live more fully in the present and heal what we believe about ourselves – EMDR therapy. (1:56) Ask a therapist, Joe Sikorra: How to heal from a cheating husband, emotionally focused therapy, how a woman can have a better sex drive, when it’s time to get a new therapist, and how to help a 24-year-old daughter struggling with loneliness and friendships. (17:10) Idolization of the “Traditional Wife” – does it hurt single people and married couples? (40:21) Resources mentioned: Joe’s website https://joesikorra.com/ Joe’s book https://www.amazon.com/Whole-World-Going-Crazy-But-Dont/dp/B0BXN9G4N7 Find a Catholic Therapist https://www.catholictherapists.com/ Healing from Betrayal Trauma https://www.bloomforcatholicwomen.com/

In this episode, Jackie delves into the phases of healing betrayal in relationships, highlighting the significance of individual therapy before couples therapy. Jackie explains the "full disclosure" process in recovery, stressing the need for honesty and emotional regulation. She describes the work done in phase 3 for the couple, highlighting the transformative journey couples undergo as they learn to communicate effectively and address deeper relationship dynamics. #podcast #betrayaltraumarecovery #sexaddictionrecovery Register for Online Workshop Breaking the Cycle of Relapse: https://buy.stripe.com/dR629h4og6mG3Wo6op  

In this podcast, Liana West, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP) and Clinical Hypnotherapist, explores the complexities of betrayal trauma and the concept of destructive entitlement. She explains how betrayal can lead individuals to feel justified in negative behaviors toward their partners, often as a way to cope with pain or regain control. This destructive entitlement-where past hurt is used to rationalize harmful actions-can seriously damage relationships, break trust, and block true healing. Liana emphasizes that self-awareness is key: understanding how trauma shapes decision-making, triggers fear responses, and impacts relationship dynamics is essential for breaking these cycles.Hypnotherapy offers a trauma-informed approach to healing by helping individuals process painful memories, calm the nervous system, and develop healthier patterns of thinking and behavior. Through hypnotherapy, clients can address intrusive thoughts, emotional dysregulation, and trust issues without reliving every detail of their trauma. This method supports self-reflection and empowers people to make conscious choices, rather than acting from a place of old wounds.If betrayal trauma is keeping you stuck, hypnotherapy can help you move forward-restoring trust, improving relationships, and supporting long-term emotional recovery.betrayal trauma, hypnotherapy for betrayal, healing after infidelity, betrayal trauma recovery, stop intrusive thoughts after cheating, trauma therapy, hypnotherapy for infidelity, emotional healing after betrayal, trust issues, trauma-informed hypnotherapy, betrayal trauma specialist, how to heal from betrayal, therapy for cheating, trauma recovery, overcoming betrayal, hypnotherapy for trauma, infidelity trauma, betrayal trauma symptoms, betrayal trauma help, betrayal trauma support, relationship trauma, trauma healing, subconscious healing, recover from cheating, trauma and trust, trauma specialist, betrayal trauma hypnotherapy, healing trust after betrayal, betrayal trauma therapy, trauma and relationships

You've just found out about the affair or addiction. Your world has flipped upside down — and all you have are questions. You're not alone. There are 8 questions that are the most common (and most painful) ones I hear from Christian women and couples trying to figure out what to do next after betrayal. Today, my husband, Britt and I are bringing you Part 2 where we are finishing the last 4 questions most couples ask after betrayal.  We pray it blesses you. Listen to Part 1: HERE :: 7 Pillars of Healing from Betrayal Trauma is launching Monday, May 5, 2025!:  Get on the waitlist for early bird pricing :: ✨ Learn how to start rebuilding your marriage after betrayal inside Marriage Redesigned. Visit lisalimehouse.com/marriage-redesigned :: NEXT STEPS: Beauty Beyond Betrayal Website:  www.beautybeyondbetrayal.org  Work with Lisa:  Coaching Information Schedule your FREE CONSULT  Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Grab your Free Ebook:   Broken Vows: Begin healing from the devastation of betrayal Email:   info@lisalimehouse.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE

PBSE Podcast 279 confronts the painful contradiction many addicts face: a deep longing for intimate connection paired with a habitual avoidance of it. Through a heartfelt partner's submission and personal reflections, Mark and Steve illustrate how addiction, as an intimacy disorder, fuels this cycle of wanting but not acting—of making promises without follow-through. The core issue often isn't a lack of sincerity, but a profound disconnection from self, rooted in fear, shame, and survival-based behaviors that sabotage the very closeness being sought.Mark & Steve emphasize that real intimacy demands risk, consistency, and emotional presence—there's no “door number three” that offers closeness without vulnerability. Acting out behaviors like pornography offer a counterfeit form of connection without the discomfort of being seen or rejected. But for true healing and trust to take root, addicts must stop hiding behind avoidance and start showing up authentically, even if the steps are small. It's about shifting from vocalizing good intentions to building consistent habits of connection.Ultimately, the article issues a powerful call to action for those in recovery: don't just say you want intimacy—prove it. Begin where you are, but begin. For partners still offering connection, your continued hope is meaningful, but it must be met with effort. And for addicts, real change starts not with grand declarations, but with the next honest, intentional step toward your partner and yourself.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Do you REALLY want Intimate CONNECTION or Not?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

What happens to children when they grow up in a household shaped by addiction, betrayal, and emotional absence? In this emotional and raw conversation, we explore the long-term impact of sex addiction on kids—and what parents can do today to help stop the cycle. Through lived experience and clinical insight, the discussion touches on how a parent's unhealed shame, absence, or addiction—whether it's to substances, sex, or emotional avoidance—can lead to deep developmental wounds in their children. Even when unintentional, the emotional neglect, rage, and instability create a lasting imprint. This episode is a call for healing—for parents to begin their own recovery journey, to understand the power of safety, emotional regulation, and honest repair. Because healing your inner world can change how your children experience theirs.  #TherapistTalks #MentalHealthMatters #Hidden #CulleL.VandeGarde

In this episode, Liana West shares her personal journey through betrayal trauma, detailing her experiences of discovering infidelity, the emotional turmoil that followed, and her path to healing through hypnotherapy. She emphasizes the importance of trusting one's intuition and the transformative power of hypnotherapy in overcoming past traumas and rebuilding trust in relationships.betrayal trauma, hypnotherapy, healing, relationships, intuition, gaslighting, emotional recovery, dating, trust issues, personal growth, betrayal trauma, hypnotherapy for betrayal, healing after infidelity, betrayal trauma recovery, stop intrusive thoughts after cheating, trauma therapy, hypnotherapy for infidelity, emotional healing after betrayal, trust issues, trauma-informed hypnotherapy, betrayal trauma specialist, how to heal from betrayal, therapy for cheating, trauma recovery, overcoming betrayal, hypnotherapy for trauma, infidelity trauma, betrayal trauma symptoms, betrayal trauma help, betrayal trauma support, relationship trauma, trauma healing, subconscious healing, recover from cheating, trauma and trust, trauma specialist, betrayal trauma hypnotherapy, healing trust after betrayal, betrayal trauma therapy, trauma and relationships, cheating stories

Today, we're diving deep into a powerful topic that isn't talked about enough but can absolutely block your healing after betrayal... It's called enmeshment — and if it's not dealt with, it can leave you feeling stuck, exhausted, and disconnected from your true identity in Christ. But don't worry — today, I'm going to show you how to recognize it, break free, and move toward true restoration — both personally and in your marriage. Let's dive in." : 7 Pillars of Healing from Betrayal Trauma is launching Monday, May 5, 2025!:  Get on the waitlist for early bird pricing :: ✨ Learn how to start rebuilding your marriage after betrayal inside Marriage Redesigned. Visit lisalimehouse.com/marriage-redesigned :: NEXT STEPS: Beauty Beyond Betrayal Website:  www.beautybeyondbetrayal.org  Work with Lisa:  Coaching Information Schedule your FREE CONSULT  Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Grab your Free Ebook:   Broken Vows: Begin healing from the devastation of betrayal Email:   info@lisalimehouse.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE

In this episode, Jackie discussed the complexities of healing from sex addiction and betrayal trauma within relationships.  She emphasized the importance of individual therapy before beginning joint sessions, explaining that fixing the relationship alone does ot address the underlying issues of addiction or the trauma of betrayal.  Jackie illustrates the journey of recovery and the steps needed to rebuild trust and intimacy in relationships affected by sex addiction.  

In this PBSE episode (#278), Mark & Steve delve deeply into a critical topic for betrayed partners—After enduring the deep wounds of a marriage ending due to porn addiction, stepping back into the dating world requires tremendous courage, self-awareness, and intentional preparation. We encourage betrayed partners to first focus inward, engaging in compassionate self-analysis to better understand past relational dynamics. Exploring areas like intuition, self-trust, self-esteem, and emotional dependency empowers betrayed partners to move forward not with fear, but with wisdom and strength. Becoming the most authentic, grounded version of oneself is the true safeguard against repeating old patterns and lays the foundation for building future healthy relationships.In today's culture, pornography exposure is virtually universal, making it essential to approach dating with realism rather than idealism. The goal isn't to find someone untouched by porn but to find someone who has a healthy, honest relationship with their sexuality and emotions. Asking direct, vulnerable questions early in the dating process—such as inquiries about pornography use, emotional openness, and personal growth—helps quickly reveal whether a potential partner can offer true intimacy, honesty, and emotional safety. Partners must prioritize open communication and trust their intuition, recognizing that how someone responds to vulnerability tells them much about future relational potential.Ultimately, despite the heartbreak of the past, the future holds great promise for those who choose growth and self-empowerment. Betrayed partners are not broken; they are stronger, wiser, and more capable of building deep, lasting love than ever before. By focusing on personal healing, leading with authenticity, and refusing to settle for less than emotional honesty and maturity, individuals can find real, meaningful connections. The painful past becomes not an anchor, but a stepping stone into a richer, healthier future filled with hope, intimacy, and fulfillment.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  How Do I Navigate the Dating World After My Marriage Ended Due to Porn? Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Ready to transform your life after discovering his betrayal (cheating, p*rn use, etc.)? Book a 1-on-1 Support Call: click here Self-paced, online course "Betrayal Survival Guide": Click here Apply for my 3-month coaching package: Click here P*rn addiction recovery resource: Click here Click below for more resources: TikTok Instagram Join my Women's Support Group "WTF Do I Do Now?" Website **Please subscribe and rate the show so the algorithm can help more girls find this resource and know they aren't alone in their healing journey from his cheating, p*rn use, etc.!

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we continue our conversation with Cat Etherington. Cat Etherington is the Director of Recovery for Naked Truth Project, an international Christian charity opening eyes and freeing lives from the damaging impacts of pornography and other problematic sexual behaviours.  We Will be Discussing: What support do you offer globally? How can we empower global listeners to advocate for themselves to uneducated support people? Is no support better than damaging support? Resources mentioned in this show: Naked Truth Recovery cat@nakedtruthrecovery.com

PBSE Episode 277 addresses a deeply personal and often overlooked consequence of pornography addiction: the loss of enjoyment in media that was once shared and meaningful within a relationship. The authors respond to a listener's question about whether he and his partner can ever again enjoy media that has been “pornified” through his addiction. They explain how sexual addiction often extends beyond explicit content to include distorted sexualization of characters and media, leading to feelings of betrayal, shame, and disconnection. The podcast highlights how the brain, once trained to objectify, cannot selectively compartmentalize those responses, making formerly innocent content triggering or painful.Recovery, the authors argue, begins with sobriety—creating enough distance from compulsive behaviors and media to assess its true impact. Only after detoxing can individuals and couples explore the question of reclaiming media in a healthy, intentional way. The process demands deep self-honesty, a redefinition of personal boundaries, and meaningful conversations with one's partner. Trust and safety must be reestablished through consistent behaviors, transparent communication, and a shared vision for healing. Practical tools like content filtering, media planning, and regular emotional check-ins are vital for navigating this journey thoughtfully and securely.Ultimately, the article offers hope: while some things may not return to their previous form, many aspects of media and connection can be redeemed. This requires letting go of black-and-white thinking and embracing a new, authentic relationship with media—one rooted in purpose, not compulsion. By learning to see people and experiences as whole, rather than as fragmented or sexualized, couples can rediscover joy, connection, and even innocence in their lives. The path forward may not restore what was lost in its original form, but it can lead to something even more meaningful—a deeper, shared way of living with clarity, connection, and freedom.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  My Habit of "Pornifying" Everything has Ruined EnJoyable Media for Me & My Partner!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Have you ever wondered if your husband is secretly watching pornography? Or maybe you fear there's infidelity. If you have ever had these questions in the back of your mind this episode is for you! The statistics of porn usage and addiction are staggering even within the church. It is an epidemic that we need to do a better job as Christ followers at addressing. Today we have Joanna Raabsmith who is a licensed therapist and professional coach who specialized in Betrayal Trauma come and answer our burning questions. How widespread is this issue? What are the signs this is going on? What do we do if we suspect something? And if we discover something, what do we do then? Is there any hope? Joanna answers all of these and more.  Be sure to check out all of Joanna's Resources:   Free HONEST tool/challenge for couples: raabsmithteam.com/free Building True Intimacy book- https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-Connection/dp/B0CHCLTDZJ/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2PLV9Q91FEPG5&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.qTBC20UdlTsXO8-Th7gREZfNEELYu2TWZ_2t7oN8YX6YzAg7tQlAYN6bH2cBQctU5cTXkYRkEaIFWgANBsuhWkTyJVfXDuZvU4dfLz4f1p8.v7fzoySA6D242KOUVwPYJlMpTUboQvF4dhMxABOqvUI&dib_tag=se&keywords=building+true+intimacy+raabsmith&qid=1734207118&sprefix=building+true+%2Caps%2C161&sr=8-1 https://www.instagram.com/theraabsmithteam/  Joanna is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Professional Coach. She holds a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy and a Masters of Divinity from Fuller Theological Seminary. Trained in Restoration Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and EMDR, she specializes in trauma, betrayal trauma, addiction recovery, and relationship issues. Joanna is passionate about helping couples restore love and trust while guiding individuals toward personal growth and healing. Alongside her husband, Matthew, she co-leads The Raabsmith Team, co-authored Building True Intimacy (2023), and co-developed The Intimacy Pyramid™, a framework for building a thriving connection in relationships. She lives in Tennessee with Matthew and their three children, where she enjoys going on shared adventures, reading by the fireplace, and a weekly game of pickleball. ----- Love, Brittany    Ready to become a peaceful wife and Mama? Sign Up for the Pain to Peace Academy HERE. Come say hi and join the Morning Mama Facebook Group! I would love to hear your story and know your name.    ALL THE LINKS FOR ALL THE THINGS! Morning Mama Website Pain to Peace Academy Morning Mama Facebook Group Follow Us on Instagram Find a Restoration Therapist Come say hi by emailing hello@morningmamapodcast.com  

Episode 276 addresses a question often asked by partners of addicts in recovery: “Do I have to wait for the formal amends process before I see real change?” The authors explain that real transformation in recovery should not be postponed until Steps 8 and 9 of the 12-step model. They draw a clear distinction between a simple apology and the deeper process of making amends, emphasizing that true recovery begins with personal accountability, transparency, and a willingness to face difficult truths—not with a formal ceremony or set timeline. Waiting for a specific step to begin meaningful repair in a relationship is not only unnecessary, but often counterproductive.The article also explores why addicts may avoid transparency, citing both nefarious and sincere motivations. Some use recovery language as a shield to delay vulnerability or to avoid accountability, a behavior referred to as “weaponizing recovery.” Others may believe they need to handle everything on their own, often stemming from unhealthy family systems or distorted beliefs about responsibility. These patterns, while sometimes well-intentioned, still prevent the growth and emotional openness necessary for healing. The authors stress that full transparency should begin early in recovery, as emotional honesty is foundational for any real connection or rebuilding of trust.For betrayed partners, the article offers a roadmap for reclaiming personal empowerment. It encourages them to build outside support systems, gain clarity about their own needs, and hold firm boundaries—not as a means of controlling their partner's behavior, but to protect their own healing. The message is clear: real recovery is demonstrated through consistent honesty, presence, and vulnerability long before any formal amends are made. Partners do not have to—and should not—wait for a specific step before expecting accountability and meaningful change.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Do I Have to Wait for "Formal Amends" Process Before My Addict Partner Shows Any Real Change?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

In this episode of the Addict to Athlete podcast, host Blu Robinson engages with Gary Katz, a professional in the field of sexual addictions. They explore the complexities of addiction, particularly sexual addiction, and its impact on individuals and relationships. Katz discusses the spectrum of addiction, the stigma surrounding sexual behaviors, and the deep emotional wounds caused by betrayal. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, understanding values, and navigating the healing process for both individuals struggling with addiction and their partners. In this conversation, Gary Katz and Blu Robinson delve into the complexities of healing from betrayal in relationships. They discuss the timeline for recovery, the importance of emotional literacy, and the challenges of reestablishing intimacy after infidelity. The dialogue emphasizes the need for couples to navigate trust issues, the dynamics of sexual desire, and the impact of conflict and resentment on intimacy. Katz highlights the significance of individual and couples therapy in fostering understanding and healing, while also addressing the societal pressures that complicate emotional expression, particularly for men. Takeaways Addiction is a form of self-abandonment. The stigma surrounding sexual addiction is profound. Betrayal trauma cuts deeper than other forms of addiction. Self-compassion is crucial in the recovery process. Understanding one's values is essential in addressing sexual behaviors. The partner's perspective is often overlooked in discussions of addiction. Shame plays a significant role in how individuals perceive their sexual behaviors. Healthy relationships require open communication about sexual needs. The brain often protects itself from painful truths, leading to denial. Navigating recovery involves addressing both individual and relational dynamics. It can take 18 to 24 months for healing. Healing is a personal journey; there's no race. Betrayed partners often seek knowledge to feel safe. Understanding betrayal trauma is crucial for recovery. Empathy is harder to learn than stopping harmful behaviors. Reestablishing intimacy requires patience and understanding. Couples need to prioritize their relationship amidst life demands. Conflict can be a sign of passion in relationships.   00:00- Introduction to the Addict to Athlete Podcast 01:00- Understanding Sexual Addictions and Their Impact 04:44- The Spectrum of Addiction: Self-Abandonment and Connection 08:26- The Deeper Cuts of Sexual Betrayal 11:20- The Stigma of Sexual Addiction 13:14- The Complexity of Shame in Sexual Behaviors 18:09- Navigating Values and Sexuality 21:12- The Partner's Perspective: Betrayal and Healing 27:59- Understanding the Healing Process 30:39- Navigating Betrayal and Trust 34:24- Reestablishing Intimacy After Betrayal 39:12- The Dynamics of Sexual Desire 45:13- Conflict, Resentment, and Intimacy 50:20- Emotional Literacy and Recovery   Please join Addict to Athlete's Patreon support page and help us turn the mess of addiction into the message of sobriety! https://www.patreon.com/addicttoathlete Please visit our website for more information on Team Addict to Athlete and Addiction Recovery Podcasts. https://www.AddictToAthlete.org Join the Team! Circle, our new social support event, along with the team and athlete communication platform, is designed to help us break free from doom scrolling and shadow banning and foster stronger connections among us. Follow the link, download the app, and start this new chapter of Team AIIA! Join Circle https://a2a.circle.so/join?invitation_token=16daaa0d9ecd7421d384dd05a461464ce149cc9e-63d4aa30-1a67-4120-ae12-124791dfb519     https://youtu.be/MV3IW2DwlGE   Gray- https://www.intimacyrecovery.com/

This PBSE episode (275), inspired by a listener's vulnerable question, dives deep into the emotional complexity of intimacy in long-term relationships—particularly when one partner has struggled with pornography addiction. The woman asks how her husband can look “past” her aging body and be genuinely aroused by real love. Her question reveals the pain of feeling invisible or undesired and touches on the widespread cultural belief that sexual attraction is rigid and solely tied to youth or physical perfection. The article dismantles this myth, showing that arousal is not a static, uncontrollable instinct, but a moldable response shaped by years of influence, experience, and personal choices.Mark and Steve, speaking from their own journeys of recovery and their work with countless clients, explain how pornography warps the arousal template, training the brain to see only surface-level stimulation while disconnecting from emotional and spiritual depth. But through consistent personal work, emotional vulnerability, and intentional connection, that template can be rewritten. Real-life examples—like a therapist who found arousal in his wife's post-mastectomy scars—illustrate that true desire comes not from ignoring reality, but from embracing it. The physical becomes more meaningful, not less, when it's rooted in shared experience, loyalty, admiration, and love.Ultimately, the article reframes arousal not as something to “look past,” but as something to “look through”—to see the fullness of a partner, body and soul. It calls both partners to re-engage in intimacy with eyes wide open, choosing to cultivate love through emotional connection and shared meaning. The grand takeaway is that authentic, meaningful love is not only enough to spark desire—it's the most powerful and lasting form of arousal there is.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  How Can He "Look Past" My Body & Be Aroused by Real Love?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Dr. Guenther interviews Dr Jake Porter, Licensed Professional Counselor and founder of Daring Ventures Counseling in Houston, Texas. Dr Porter specializes in helping couples who have experienced Betrayal Trauma.The post Brain Matters S11.E17: Betrayal Trauma first appeared on Capstone Voices Podcasting Network.

This PBSE Podcast Episode 274, centers on a partner's heartfelt account of feeling objectified and emotionally disconnected during sex with her spouse, who is in recovery from porn addiction. Though he has given up porn and masturbation, their intimacy remains one-sided, leaving her feeling like a replacement for his addiction rather than a true partner in connection. Mark and Steve explore how sobriety alone isn't enough—emotional growth, mindfulness, and a complete rewiring of sexual expectations are essential for healing.Through neuroscience, they unpack how porn addiction distorts the brain's wiring around sex, creating a dopamine-driven pattern that prioritizes climax over connection. Recovery, then, requires more than behavioral change; it calls for a transformation of mindset, unlearning toxic scripts, and rebuilding intimacy through vulnerability and presence. The metaphor of “remodeling” becomes central: couples must tear down broken patterns and collaboratively design a new vision for their sexual relationship.Ultimately, the article calls couples to take back authorship of their story by replacing silence, shame, and autopilot sex with curiosity, honesty, and shared desire. With intention and effort, couples can elevate their sexual connection from a mechanical act to a space of mutual pleasure and deep intimacy—if they are willing to write that new narrative together.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Sed Isn't Mutually Pleasurable in our Relationship. Howe do We Elevate the Experience?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Betrayal trauma occurs when trust is violated within a relationship, creating a profound alteration of reality for the betrayed partner and causing symptoms similar to PTSD. David Jones, a licensed marriage and family therapist, shares insights on the unique challenges of betrayal trauma and offers a three-part framework for healing.• Betrayal trauma is defined as an "alteration of reality" - discovering that what you thought was true about your relationship wasn't• What makes betrayal trauma unique is that the betrayed often must interact with the source of their trauma• The "three legs of the stool" framework for healing: boundaries, individual coping skills/self-care, and connections• Recovery takes significant time - often years - but healing is possible whether the relationship continues or ends• Forgiveness does not equal trust - forgiveness is releasing bitterness while trust must be earned through consistent behavior• Emotional safety forms the foundation for rebuilding connection after betrayal• Support people should be "marriage friendly" if the couple is working toward reconciliationIf you'd like to learn more about the resources discussed in this episode, visit Secure Connection Counseling at secureconnectioncounseling.com or explore the resources available at StrongerMarriage.org.David's Links:https://secureconnectioncounseling.com/About David Jones:David Jones is dedicated to strengthening marriages and families. Growing up with divorced parents and a father in recovery from alcoholism shaped his passion for helping couples navigate challenges. His own blended family of eight children further fuels his commitment to marriage therapy.A Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist, Certified Family Life Educator, and EFT Supervisor Candidate, David specializes in helping couples facing betrayal trauma, infidelity, sexual addiction, and ADHD-related relationship struggles. He also teaches university courses on family relationships and serves as an Army Reserve Chaplain, expanding his real-world perspective.As an AAMFT-Approved Supervisor and EFT Supervisor in Training, David is a leader in his field. He applies attachment theory to therapy, believing that secure relationships not only heal but create lasting transformation. Clients often credit his work with saving their marriages. With a deep well of experience, empathy, and expertise, David is a trusted guide for couples seeking healing and growth.Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com

Betrayal Recovery 101: What Every Woman Needs to Know – Part 2 You've heard the saying, time heals all wounds—but when it comes to betrayal trauma, that couldn't be further from the truth. If you're waiting for time to magically fix the devastation, the triggers, and the self-doubt, you'll stay stuck. In this eye-opening episode, betrayal recovery coach Lora Cheadle exposes the myths about healing after infidelity and explains why waiting, numbing out, or ignoring the pain won't work. Instead, she shares the exact tools and strategies to take control of your recovery, rebuild your confidence, and step into your power NOW. Top Takeaways: Why betrayal is NOT a relationship crisis—it's a full-body trauma The biggest mistake most betrayed women make (and how to avoid it) Why traditional therapy often fails in betrayal recovery—and what to do instead The difference between coping and true healing (Hint: Most women get stuck in coping!) How to break the toxic cycle of waiting—for closure, for change, for him to wake up The 4 long-term recovery strategies to reclaim your identity and rebuild your self-worth This is the second episode in a 4-part series on betrayal recovery—be sure to subscribe so you don't miss Part 3!

Mandy is a women's empowerment and trauma-informed life coach who helps women who have experienced betrayal trauma. In this episode of Consider Before Consuming, Mandy shares her personal experience of discovering her partner's secret struggle with porn addiction, his cheating with porn stars, and the betrayal trauma that followed. She describes the emotional toll, the gaslighting, and the psychological abuse she endured, as well as the healing journey that led her to become a trauma-informed life coach.Episode Resources Article: The Emotional Trauma of Having a Porn-Addicted PartnerMandy's WebsiteConversation Blueprint: Let's Talk About Porn

In this powerful episode, Christian marriage coach and betrayal trauma specialist Lisa Limehouse explores the devastating impact of infidelity on the body, mind, and spirit — and what God's Word says about the path to true healing. You'll discover: The physical symptoms of betrayal trauma, backed by recent research The emotional and psychological effects of marital infidelity How spiritual wounds develop after betrayal — and how to begin restoring your faith One practical step you can take today to start healing in each area Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, spiritually disconnected, or stuck in the aftermath of betrayal, this episode offers hope, clarity, and Christ-centered strategies to begin rebuilding your life and your identity in Him.

In this episode (273) of the PBSE podcast, hosts Mark and Steve respond to a heartfelt message from a betrayed partner whose addict spouse keeps saying he's “sorry” and that he's “trying,” yet still fails to meet her emotional needs. The conversation highlights the profound frustration and exhaustion that many partners feel as they repeatedly express their pain and needs, only to be met with minimal awareness or inconsistent effort. The hosts emphasize that while an addict may be sincere in their apologies, sincerity without emotional capacity or real change isn't enough to rebuild trust or connection.The article goes on to explore the concept of emotional “capacity,” explaining that in early recovery, addicts often lack the internal tools needed to hold space for their partner's pain. This isn't to excuse poor behavior, but to help partners understand why they may be feeling unseen or invalidated despite their partner's promises. Mark and Steve caution against the common trap of overextending emotional energy in hopes of breakthrough and instead stress the need for healthy, clearly defined boundaries. These boundaries are framed not as threats or punishments but as vital self-protection—ways to maintain one's authenticity, dignity, and well-being when the addict is not yet capable of genuine connection.Ultimately, the article challenges readers to reflect on compatibility, effort, and emotional sustainability within the relationship. It encourages betrayed partners to gain clarity around their own values, needs, and limits, while recognizing the difference between compliance and real change. Whether a partner is able to rise to the occasion or not, the message is clear: you are not alone, your needs are valid, and healing—whether together or apart—is possible with the right tools, support, and boundaries in place.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  My Addict Partner Keeps saying "Sorry" and He's "Trying," but He's NOT Meeting my Real Needs!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Pornography is no longer just a "worldly issue"—it has deeply impacted Christian marriages (including women) and families. In this powerful episode, we sit down with Ashley Jameson, Associate Director of Women's Groups for Pure Desire, who has not only faced the reality of porn in her own story but has also walked alongside countless women seeking freedom and healing. She shares eye-opening statistics on porn's devastating effects, from intimacy struggles in marriage to the rising number of women battling addiction. But this conversation isn't about fear—it's about redemption. Ashley Jameson offers hope-filled guidance for wives navigating betrayal, women wrestling with their own struggles, and parents seeking wisdom to protect and prepare their children in a hypersexualized world. If you or someone you love has been impacted by pornography, this episode is a must-listen, pointing toward the healing power of God's grace and the steps to lasting transformation. Connect with Ashley Jameson through Pure Desire, or on Facebook. Get all the statistics. Get the full report Beyond the Porn Phenomenon: Equipping The Church For A New Conversation About Pornography, Betrayal Trauma, and Healing Check out our Sexpectations online course. Discover your pathway to sexual wholeness as you explore your sexual story. Dr. Carol loves to hear from you. You can send a confidential message here.

Healing from betrayal trauma is a deeply personal journey, but why do some people seem to heal and move forward while others stay stuck? In today's episode, we welcome back Dr. Jill Manning, a renowned therapist, researcher, and speaker with over 20 years of experience in betrayal trauma recovery.Dr. Manning shares the key factors that help betrayed partners heal, as well as the common obstacles that slow down the recovery process. She offers practical steps to move through the pain and build a life of stability, connection, and renewed purpose—whether or not the relationship survives.If you've been feeling stuck in your healing journey, this episode will give you clarity, direction, and hope.What You'll Learn in This Episode:⏳ [03:00] – The rising severity of betrayal trauma and why cases are more complex today⏳ [08:15] – The 5 key factors that help betrayed partners heal (CAVED Framework)⏳ [15:30] – Why connection is essential and how isolation keeps people stuck⏳ [22:45] – The role of advocacy—having at least one person who truly understands you⏳ [28:00] – Why validation is critical and how to avoid minimizing your experience⏳ [34:10] – The impact of education—why learning about betrayal trauma helps you heal⏳ [40:00] – Why having a clear roadmap (direction) makes all the difference

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In Episode 272, Mark & Steve focus in on how porn and sex addiction recovery goes beyond mere sobriety; it requires ongoing emotional growth, accountability, and engagement to rebuild trust in a relationship. Many betrayed partners of addicts feel heightened anxiety when their spouse steps back from recovery efforts, fearing a return to old behaviors or an emotional disconnect. True recovery is not just about avoiding addictive behaviors but about healing the underlying patterns that led to them, fostering emotional awareness, and strengthening the relationship through consistent effort and transparency.When a porn and sex addict becomes complacent, their betrayed partner often feels abandoned and overwhelmed by the responsibility of keeping the relationship intact. Healing from betrayal trauma is a long process, and a lack of continued commitment from the addict can be as triggering as a relapse. Without active engagement, old habits resurface, emotional intimacy deteriorates, and the relationship becomes strained. Recovery requires ongoing accountability, self-reflection, and a proactive approach to maintaining personal and relational growth.Moving forward, addicts must embrace a lifelong commitment to self-improvement, emotional intelligence, and relational healing. Transparency, consistency, and empathy are essential to rebuilding trust and ensuring that both partners feel secure in the relationship. Recovery is not a finish line but a continuous journey, requiring dedication from both individuals to foster a deeper, more fulfilling connection.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: "My Addict Partner Has "Backed Off " from His Recovery. Why Can't He See it's About More Than Just Being "Sober"?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Part of the trauma after infidelity is rumination. The endless mind movies reliving what you know and, worse, imagining what you don't. In this episode, listeners tell us how they dealt with the endless intrusive thoughts. What therapies worked, who helped, and how they diverted their attention elsewhere. (True crime podcasts anyone?)   

In this PBSE Episode 271, Mark & Steve discuss how recovery is not an individual journey—it affects relationships, families, and even future generations. While addicts may believe they can navigate healing alone, true recovery requires transparency, accountability, and a willingness to rebuild trust through consistent actions, not just words. When a partner has been betrayed, expecting them to trust blindly without verification is both unrealistic and dismissive of their pain. Recovery must involve measures that ensure honesty, such as full disclosure, accountability software, and open communication. A recovering addict who resists these steps often signals deeper issues, such as shame, denial, or a reluctance to fully commit to change.Additionally, addiction's impact extends beyond the marriage. In homes where secrecy and avoidance dominate, children are more likely to mirror those behaviors, reinforcing cycles of addiction, dishonesty, and manipulation. Parents have a responsibility to create a safe environment, modeling integrity and setting boundaries to protect their children from destructive influences. Arguments that dismiss tools like porn blockers ignore the fact that true accountability isn't about restricting freedom, but about fostering an environment where trust can be restored and maintained. The choices made in recovery don't just determine personal healing—they shape the household and future generations.Ultimately, recovery is about more than abstaining from harmful behaviors—it's about transformation. An addict must decide whether to continue protecting their addiction or to prioritize their relationship. True healing requires humility, vulnerability, and an openness to change. A strong, healthy relationship cannot be built on secrecy and self-reliance alone; it thrives on honesty, connection, and mutual effort. The path forward isn't just about fixing what was broken—it's about creating something stronger than before.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: "Recovery is My Choice, so I Don't Need Her Help Making Choices . . . Right?"Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Delanie Fischer is joined by Licensed Psychotherapist and International & Board Certified Trauma Therapist, Támara Hill, to discuss betrayal trauma —including deceptive affection, symptoms of this kind of trauma, the initial (and ongoing) impact it can have, and a multidimensional approach to healing.Plus:+ Your "Life as a Platter" Analogy & Growth Mindset+ Learned Helplessness, Enmeshment, and PTSD+ A Journaling Ritual You Might Want to Try Next!More episodes related to this topic:Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) with Licensed Therapist, Nadirah Habeebullah: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/327baacc/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd-with-licensed-therapist-nadirah-habeebullahWhen My Husband Came Out: Infidelity, Divorce, and Friendship with Jessica Frew: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/229e6642/when-my-husband-came-out-infidelity-divorce-and-friendship-with-jessica-frewHow To Build Self-Trust with Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/3109f4db/how-to-build-self-trust-with-delanie-fischer-and-kelsey-cookHow to Fix a Broken Heart by Guy Winch: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/9c478f77/how-to-fix-a-broken-heart-by-guy-winchSupport the podcast and vote on topics: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Men and Emotional Processing? We don't see enough of it in today's world . . . In Part 1 of this 2 part episode series, host Lindsay Poelman interviews Dan Gurley, the first male guest on the podcast. Dan shares his journey from growing up in a high-demand Southern Christian culture to dealing with severe family trauma and emotional struggles. He discusses the impact of his high-pressure upbringing, his experiences with spiritual bypassing, and the profound challenges he faced as a father. The conversation delves into the processing of emotions, the concept of spiritual bypassing, and the importance of emotional healing. Dan's story illustrates the need for self-compassion and inner child work, particularly for men navigating complex emotional landscapes. This episode highlights the significance of trauma-informed coaching and provides a compelling case for Lindsay's certification program in emotional recovery and healing. Don't miss out on this insightful discussion, and be sure to leave an Apple review!00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:48 Dan's Background and Upbringing02:35 High Expectations and Anxiety05:46 Military Life and Personal Struggles13:30 Family Challenges and Trauma18:34 Emotional Recovery and SupportLindsay's current program offerings: Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It's time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts March 11, 2025! Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin March 11, 2025. Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here. Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here. Check out her website here: Website.Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching---Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her...

In part 2 of this authentic and vulnerable episode, join host Lindsay Poelman as she explores the transformative experiences of Dan Gurley in her trauma-informed coaching program. In this compelling episode, Dan shares his insights on societal norms around male emotional expression, the critical importance of understanding the nervous system, and the unique challenges men face in today's world. Learn how trauma-informed coaching has not only impacted Dan's personal and professional relationships but also how it equips him to help others navigate their own emotional landscapes. Listen in to understand why investing in trauma-informed coaching could be a life-changing decision for anyone looking to heal and grow.00:00 The Emotional Struggles of Men00:48 Balancing Work and Emotional Well-being02:25 The Importance of Metabolizing Emotions05:03 Discovering Trauma-Informed Coaching06:24 The Impact of Trauma on Men11:25 Personal Growth and Self-Compassion19:33 The Need for Male Mentors and Healers23:19 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsLindsay's current program offerings: Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It's time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts March 11, 2025! Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin March 11, 2025. Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here. Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here. Check out her website here: Website.Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching---Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her...

In Episode 270, Mark & Steve respond to a submission and questions by a betrayed Partner. When a partner admits to a porn or sex addiction but fails to take meaningful steps toward recovery, the betrayed partner is left in a painful cycle of hope and disappointment. While honesty is an essential first step, it is meaningless without action, and waiting for change that never comes can be emotionally exhausting. Many betrayed partners find themselves questioning whether they are expecting too much, but true recovery requires more than words—it demands consistent effort, emotional vulnerability, and a willingness to grow. Without this, the relationship remains stagnant, causing frustration and deep wounds of mistrust.A significant challenge in this situation is distinguishing between a lack of willingness and a lack of ability. If a partner wants to change but does not know how, they can be guided toward growth through therapy, support groups, and self-development. However, if they are simply unwilling, no amount of pressure or encouragement will create lasting change. Betrayed partners often wait in limbo, hoping for progress, only to find themselves stuck in a pattern of broken promises. This waiting can become an unbearable burden, leading to emotional detachment and self-doubt.Ultimately, each betrayed partner must decide how long they are willing to wait. Boundaries must be set, not as a means of controlling the addict, but to protect one's own emotional well-being. If a partner refuses to take accountability and do the work, then it may be necessary to walk away in order to preserve self-worth and personal growth. Recovery and healing are possible, but they require mutual effort. By recognizing the difference between empty words and genuine change, betrayed partners can reclaim their agency and move forward toward a healthier, more fulfilling future.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  My Partner FINALLY Admitted His Porn Addiction, but He Won't Do Recovery Work or Open Up. What Can I Do?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension Counseling

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Today, we are moving solidly into the second phase of healing by discussing all the ramifications of forgiveness. We Will be Discussing: What are some definitions of forgiveness? What are some myths about forgiveness? Resources mentioned in this show: What is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure? Full Therapeutic Disclosure (part 2) Scripture references: 2 Peter 3:9 2 Chronicles 7:14

This episode (#269) explores the profound challenges faced by partners who struggle to remain in relationships after uncovering their loved one's history of addiction and betrayal. Drawing from insights shared by Mark and Steve on the PBSE Podcast, it delves into the emotional aftermath of betrayal trauma, including feelings of disgust, mistrust, and identity crises. The episode highlights how such revelations can shatter the foundation of trust, leaving partners questioning their judgment and self-worth. It outlines how betrayal trauma extends beyond the relationship, affecting mental health, social interactions, and personal confidence. The role of societal pressures is also explored, revealing how external expectations can complicate the decision to stay or leave.The episode emphasizes that healing from betrayal is a gradual, non-linear process that demands time, consistency, and emotional insight. It stresses the importance of observing genuine behavioral changes in the recovering partner, such as ongoing transparency, accountability, and emotional awareness. The concept of the “pink cloud” phase in recovery is discussed, warning partners against being misled by temporary enthusiasm. Strategies for navigating emotional triggers are provided, including mindfulness, journaling, and setting healthy boundaries. The episode also introduces the concept of post-traumatic growth, encouraging partners to redefine their narratives, rediscover their sense of self, and find strength in their journey. Through self-reflection and personal development, partners can develop the resilience needed to make informed decisions about their future.Ultimately, the episode underscores that the decision to stay or leave a relationship after betrayal is deeply personal. It emphasizes that there is no right or wrong choice, only what aligns with the partner's values, needs, and long-term vision for happiness. The process of rebuilding trust is described as a slow, deliberate journey, rooted in mutual respect, transparency, and emotional growth. Support systems such as counseling, support groups, and trusted friendships are highlighted as essential resources in this journey. The episode concludes by asserting that recovery and reconciliation are possible when both partners commit to authentic change. With transparency, patience, and self-awareness, a renewed relationship can emerge—one that may be even stronger and more resilient than before.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: I Know My Partner is Positively Changing, BUT How Can I Stay with a Man Who Did Such Horrible Things in His Addiction?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: 

In this conversation, Eddie Capparucci discusses the transformative power of inner child work in the context of recovery from addiction, particularly porn addiction. The hosts Sathiya and Shawn explore how this therapeutic approach delves deeper into understanding the root causes of behaviors, rather than just addressing the symptoms. They also address common objections to inner child work, compare client outcomes before and after this approach, and explain the process of inner child work in detail, emphasizing its importance in personal growth and emotional healing.   Eddie's Website Find Out More About My DeepClean Recovery Program Here Get A Free Copy of The Last Relapse, A Blueprint For Recovery Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Inner Child Work 01:57 The Impact of Inner Child Work 05:53 Overcoming Objections to Inner Child Work 10:07 Comparing Client Outcomes 14:07 Understanding the Process of Inner Child Work 23:49 Connecting the Dots in Therapy 25:42 The Journey of Inner Child Work 28:13 The Importance of Slowing Down 30:46 Regulating Anxiety and Emotional Awareness 34:57 Gratitude and Perspective in Healing 38:20 Expanding Inner Child Work to Women 42:04 Bridging the Gap in Betrayal Trauma

Have you ever experienced the deep pain of betrayal, whether from a loved one, a friend, or even an institution? In this eye-opening episode of the Secret Life Podcast, host Brianne Davis-Gantt delves into the complex and often overlooked topic of betrayal trauma. She uncovers the four distinct types of betrayal trauma—parental, intimate partner, institutional, and interpersonal—and shares real-life examples that illustrate how these betrayals can leave lasting scars on our psyche.Brianne recounts poignant stories of individuals grappling with the aftermath of betrayal, highlighting how these experiences can lead to a cascade of emotional and physical symptoms. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging betrayal as trauma, exploring how it can manifest in feelings of anger, sadness, and even self-doubt. As she guides listeners through the healing process, Brianne offers practical tips for navigating the tumultuous waters of betrayal trauma, including body work, setting boundaries, and the power of storytelling.This episode is a powerful reminder that while betrayal can shatter our trust, it can also serve as a catalyst for personal growth and transformation. Tune in to discover how to reclaim your narrative, rebuild your trust in yourself and others, and emerge stronger from the shadows of betrayal._____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email secretlifepodcast@icloud.com_____SECRET LIFE'S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to secretlifepodcast@icloud.com) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteBrianne's Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteMark Gantt Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/secret-life/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy