Podcasts about emotional sobriety

Thom's Nutshell: “The promise of perfection is a red herring. Don't be distracted from your pursuit of learning and improving.” Patrick celebrates eight years of sobriety and the gang discusses the importance of honoring recovery milestones. The 5 Points of Balance: Staying clear about our values and worth in the face of criticism (not letting others edit your sense of self). Calming our anxiety and comforting our emotional bruises or trauma. Grounded responding and not overreacting or under reacting when there is tension or anxiety. Confronting ourselves for our own integrity and able to meaningfully endure discomfort for our growth and development. Unhooking self, others and reality from unreasonable expectations. Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com Visit our website: www.emotionalsobriety.info Follow us on social media: Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com    Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events   Allen's book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/   Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):  https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986   For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g   Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We'd love to stay in touch in between meetings.   We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. Chapters (00:00:00) - Emotional Sobriety(00:04:10) - Joe Sobriety on His Eight Years of Recovery(00:07:21) - Applying the Principle of Differentiation to Emotional Sobriety(00:14:27) - The Differentiation in Personal Life(00:16:16) - 5 Points of Balance: How to Calm Your Anxiety(00:20:51) - Emotional Sobriety: Being More Present(00:25:22) - Tom on His Wife's Fight

Have you ever noticed how different you become when you're triggered?One moment you're calm, thoughtful, and clear.The next, you're overthinking, shutting down, becoming defensive, needing reassurance, or pulling away from the people you care about most.It's almost as if something takes over.In this week's episode, Emotional Sobriety, we explore why that happens and how to return to the version of yourself that feels grounded, present, and authentic.One of my favorite phrases comes from recovery communities:Emotional sobriety.Not because most of us struggle with substances.But because many of us know exactly what it feels like to have our fears, wounds, and attachment patterns cloud our judgment in the same way a substance might.When we're triggered, we stop seeing clearly.We lose access to parts of ourselves.And that often creates the very relationship patterns we're trying so hard to avoid.In this episode, we explore the two powerful forces living within all of us:The Inner Child: the part of us that longs for comfort, play, connection, spontaneity, and reassurance.And the Inner Parent: the part of us that brings wisdom, perspective, responsibility, self-regulation, and compassion.The challenge is that when we're triggered, one often takes over while the other disappears.And that's where emotional suffering begins.Episode timestamps:02:27 — What emotional sobriety actually means03:16 — Understanding the Inner Child04:17 — Understanding the Inner Parent05:18 — The shadow side of both parts06:18 — Why attachment styles matter07:04 — How anxious attachment loses access to the Inner Parent09:53 — How dismissive avoidant attachment loses access to the Inner Child13:14 — How fearful avoidants flip-flop between both extremes15:23 — The connection between triggers and protest behaviors16:02 — The first step toward emotional sobriety18:18 — Giving yourself time to bring all parts of yourself18:37 — Why understanding your attachment style changes everythingOne of the most important insights from this conversation is this:When we're triggered, we're rarely responding from our whole self.Instead, we're responding from a wounded part of ourselves that temporarily takes over.And until we learn how to bring both our Inner Child and Inner Parent into the room together, we often repeat the same relationship patterns over and over again.The good news?This is a skill.And skills can be learned.-Resources mentioned: Attachment FREE quiz - https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/-If you've been following these recent episodes and finding yourself thinking:"This sounds exactly like me.""I know my triggers are running the show.""I want to stop reacting and start responding differently."That's exactly why we created Untriggerable.Inside the program, we help physicians and high-achieving professionals identify their attachment patterns, dissolve the core wounds underneath them, regulate their nervous systems, and develop the emotional resilience needed to stay grounded—even when life gets challenging.You can learn more and join the community here:https://www.skool.com/relationshipmastery4physiciansOr simply reply to this email or reach out to admin@drkavethasun.com and our team will send you more information.

Emotional sobriety coach and "It's Not About the Alcohol" podcast host Colleen Freeland shares how she went from daily drinking to helping women cut back using simple, sustainable tools.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Thom's Nutshell: “Recipe for peace of mind: KNOW what you believe. KNOW what is important. KNOW what is within your control. LIVE congruently with what you believe.” Thom and Patrick discuss “the upside of addiction” (as a means of climbing out of it), emotional sobriety and relationship struggles, using during therapy, and approaching addiction as a binary choice between life and death. Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com Visit our website: www.emotionalsobriety.info Follow us on social media: Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com    Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events   Allen's book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/   Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):  https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986   For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g   Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We'd love to stay in touch in between meetings.   We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. Chapters (00:00:00) - Emotional Sobriety: Don't Get Married(00:03:40) - A Simple Recipe for More Happiness in Your Relationship(00:08:50) - The Importance of the Recovery Decision(00:12:34) - Patrick on Avoiding Problems(00:16:52) - Joe's Reflections on Alcoholism(00:24:02) - On the Motivation of Recovery People

Hello everyone and welcome back to another episode of Trudge Report. We go around the horn with some quick life updates. A 9-year-old's birthday party at what sounds like the most amazing indoor playground ever. Greg sweats it out over game 7 for his Cavs. Corey shares a truly heartfelt and proud father moment of his daughter's dance recital and Dan on the road traveling home from a visit with his son Connecticut. The recovery segment is all about what it means to be a dry drunk, what one looks like and how we can become one in our own recovery. Just putting down the drink is not even remotely enough. What we are after is emotional sobriety. If we harness that, then physical sobriety will have to follow. We break down what emotional sobriety looks like and how we attain it. The great difference between love and fear is that love is always creative and fear is always destructive. -Emmet Fox- Don't forget to like, share, rate, and download the podcast on all of your listening platforms. Check out and subscribe to our YouTube channel, @trudgrereportpod, for other content surrounding sports and trending topics. Trudge on good people. Contact the Guys:Instagram: @trudgereportpodFacebook: Trudge ReportTikTok: trudgereportpodYouTube: @trudgereportpod 

Some change is obvious. And some change is the quiet work no one sees. In this episode of My Love of Life Energy, I'm joined by Tammi Salas for a conversation about emotional sobriety—not just “not drinking,” but learning how to be with your emotions without acting out of them, and becoming the adult in the room with your own inner life. We explore: - What emotional sobriety actually means (beyond not drinking) - How “tone” can reveal what's really happening inside us - Making art as a daily practice—and what it opened up - The desire to make life more beautiful, and the clarity it takes to do that - “Womanifestation,” and what it means to embody the next chapter intentionally Guest website: www.TammiSalas.com

Steven R talks emotional sobriety at a Cocaine Anonymous meeting in the UK on 04-14-26

Dave F, Mark H and lead this 11 part workshop on Emotional Sobriety hosted at the Wilson House in 2002. Part 11 of 11. Here are the worksheets that are mentioned in the workshop https://scast.us/next-step Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3200+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

Dave F, Mark H and lead this 11 part workshop on Emotional Sobriety hosted at the Wilson House in 2002. This one both starts and ends a bit abruptly. Part 10 of 11. Here are the worksheets that are mentioned in the workshop https://scast.us/next-step Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3200+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

LISTEN WITHOUT ADS ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/dopeypodcast Summary: Dave opens the show talking about Susan's eighth birthday and the family trip to Music on the Mountain in Ludlow, Vermont for the Phoenix and Divided Sky festival featuring Karina Rykman, Eggy, Anders Osborne, Daniel Donato, Natalie Cressman, Jennifer Hartswick, and members of Dogs in a Pile. Dave talks about trying to get the entire crowd to sing Happy Birthday to Susan and gives updates about Patreon, Narcan and fentanyl test strip giveaways, YouTube support, and the upcoming Dopey Short Film Festival sponsored by Mountainside Treatment Center. Dave reads a heartbreaking email from a listener celebrating nearly 60 days sober after quitting freebase coke, Xanax, and Suboxone while grieving the loss of his beloved dog Hesh. Dave reflects on his own fears about losing Winnie and spirals into thoughts about mortality, dogs, and a brass Winnie lamp he bought Linda for her birthday. Ben Croxton calls in with a classic IV Dopey story involving Googling “where to buy heroin in Atlanta,” instant meth psychosis at a job site, a dude hiding in a closet all day, and a cocaine-induced hallucination involving a kangaroo and imaginary police cars. The main interview features Keta Lauren and quickly becomes one of the darkest and most powerful Dopey stories in recent memory. Keta talks about growing up in extreme poverty in Northern California with a schizophrenic addict father and alcoholic mother, bouncing through foster homes, fighting constantly, and eventually landing in California Youth Authority “gladiator school.” She recounts horrific trauma including her father accidentally causing a house fire that killed four of her siblings after leaving a candle burning while gambling. Keta describes getting kidnapped while hitchhiking at age 11, doing meth as a child, surviving brutal YA prison fights, a devastating ATV accident that nearly killed her, and eventually falling into LA drug culture, sex work, heroin addiction, and trafficking. She explains how manipulation, survival, and trauma blurred together while trying to escape dangerous situations and abusive relationships. The conversation shifts toward recovery as Keta talks about finally hitting an emotional and spiritual bottom after years of heroin and meth addiction. She describes seeing herself deteriorate physically and mentally, eventually surrendering and finding treatment after a religious TV preacher bizarrely spoke directly to her situation. She later discusses relapse, AA and NA, psychedelic healing with psilocybin and ayahuasca, bipolar disorder, trauma therapy, and her belief that recovery can take many different forms. The episode closes with Trinity from the Beach reflecting on the interview playing a vulnerable acoustic cover of “Good So Bad” while apologizing for missing Dopey Zoom to record it. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dave F, Mark H and lead this 11 part workshop on Emotional Sobriety hosted at the Wilson House in 2002. This one both starts and ends a bit abruptly. Part 9 of 11. Here are the worksheets that are mentioned in the workshop https://scast.us/next-step Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3200+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

Dave F, Mark H and lead this 11 part workshop on Emotional Sobriety hosted at the Wilson House in 2002. This one both starts and ends a bit abruptly. Part 8 of 11. Here are the worksheets that are mentioned in the workshop https://scast.us/next-step Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3200+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

Dave F, Mark H and lead this 11 part workshop on Emotional Sobriety hosted at the Wilson House in 2002. This one both starts and ends a bit abruptly. Part 7 of 11. Here are the worksheets that are mentioned in the workshop https://scast.us/next-step Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3200+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

Dave F, Mark H and lead this 11 part workshop on Emotional Sobriety hosted at the Wilson House in 2002. This one both starts and ends a bit abruptly. Part 6 of 11. Here are the worksheets that are mentioned in the workshop https://scast.us/next-step Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3200+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

Thom's Nutshell: Step 16: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of someone else. I can't say I wasn't warned. They told me to stop at 12. “Taking others' inventory” gets to the heart of our functioning. Allen brings this back to Piaget's studies of pre-operational stages of development. Our emotional development influences our consciousness, and the more immaturity we have, the more we look at the world as reflections of ourselves. Rather than trying to manipulate these people and situations, in emotional sobriety we can try to meet them with empathy to have the best experience we can. The outcome of “taking inventory” all depends on motive. Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com Visit our website: www.emotionalsobriety.info Follow us on social media: Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com    Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events   Allen's book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/   Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):  https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986   For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g   Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We'd love to stay in touch in between meetings.   We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. Chapters (00:00:00) - Emotional Sobriety(00:01:15) - Step 16: Taking Other People's Inventory(00:06:47) - How to Manipulate the World(00:11:12) - How to Stop Being a Manipulator(00:16:25) - Tom Brokaw on Therapy(00:20:38) - The Self in Recovery(00:23:08) - Intro to Self-Realization(00:25:52) - Tom Clancy on His Meditations

Dave F, Mark H and lead this 11 part workshop on Emotional Sobriety hosted at the Wilson House in 2002. This one both starts and ends a bit abruptly. Part 5 of 11. Here are the worksheets that are mentioned in the workshop https://scast.us/next-step Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3200+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

Dave F, Mark H and lead this 11 part workshop on Emotional Sobriety hosted at the Wilson House in 2002. Part 4 of 11. Here are the worksheets that are mentioned in the workshop https://scast.us/next-step Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3200+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

Dave F, Mark H and lead this 11 part workshop on Emotional Sobriety hosted at the Wilson House in 2002. Part 3 of 11. Here are the worksheets that are mentioned in the workshop https://scast.us/next-step Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3200+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

Dave F, Mark H and lead this 11 part workshop on Emotional Sobriety hosted at the Wilson House in 2002. This ends a bit abruptly. Part 2 of 11. Here are the worksheets that are mentioned in the workshop https://scast.us/next-step Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3200+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

Dave F, Mark H and lead this 11 part workshop on Emotional Sobriety hosted at the Wilson House in 2002. Part 1 of 11. Here are the worksheets that are mentioned in the workshop https://scast.us/next-step Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3200+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

In this episode of the Soberful podcast, Veronica Valli delves into the often overlooked concept of emotional sobriety, emphasizing its critical role in maintaining long-term sobriety. She shares her personal journey, highlighting the challenges of emotional management after quitting alcohol and the importance of developing emotional skills. Valli discusses practical strategies for achieving emotional sobriety, including setting boundaries, effective communication, and understanding subconscious beliefs. The conversation underscores that emotional sobriety is a continuous practice essential for personal growth and fulfillment beyond just abstaining from alcohol. To learn more, visit the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠show notes⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Some stories stay with you, not because they're dramatic, but because they're honest.In this conversation, Shelby sits down with Vivian Moyo, a trauma-informed life coach, to talk about what it really means to heal after deep loss. Vivian shares her experience of losing her mother at a young age, growing up without her father, and navigating layers of grief that followed her into adulthood.What stands out isn't just the pain, but the patterns that formed around it. People pleasing. Overgiving. Losing yourself while trying to take care of everyone else.They talk openly about how trauma can shape identity, relationships, and emotional habits, and what it looks like to slowly come back to yourself. Not through quick fixes, but through awareness, boundaries, and doing the uncomfortable work of facing what's been avoided.There's also a strong focus on emotional sobriety. Not just staying away from alcohol, but learning how to sit with your feelings without escaping them.In this episode, you'll hear about:• The impact of early childhood trauma and unresolved grief • How people pleasing and overhelping can become coping mechanisms • The role of creativity as a tool for emotional healing • Letting go of relationships, habits, and identities that no longer fit • Building boundaries and learning to choose yourself • What emotional sobriety looks like in everyday lifeThis is a grounded, real conversation for women in recovery, sober curious women, and anyone working through trauma, loss, or major life transitions.About the Guest Vivian Moyo is a qualified life coach and trauma-informed therapist who helps individuals heal from their past, overcome emotional challenges, and build a life rooted in clarity and confidence. Her work is shaped by both professional training and lived experience.Website: https://moyowellnesstherapy.com/ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@moyowellnesstherapy Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/76edyttlLES02qLHBdHrTH TikTok: @moyowellnesstherapyAbout the Host Shelby John is a licensed therapist and founder of Wholistic Living. Through the Confident Sober Women podcast, she explores sobriety, emotional healing, nervous system health, and personal growth for women building lives rooted in clarity, confidence, and true freedom.Website: https://shelbyjohn.comSupport the showDon't forget to subscribe, rate & share this episode with a sober woman or someone suffering from anxiety, depression, ADHD, sleep problems and negative thought patterns who needs to hear she is not alone. Oh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! Learn more about EMDR therapy, EMDR Intensives and Remote Neurofeedback.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Colleen Freeland, founder of Emotional Sobriety Coaching, to explore why overdrinking isn't actually about alcohol, and what's really driving the behavior. With a unique blend of neuroscience, coaching, and lived experience, Colleen helps high-achieving women stop overdrinking and start trusting themselves again without shame or self-abandonment. We dive into the subconscious patterns, nervous system dysregulation, and identity loops that keep women stuck and how to shift them at the root. Colleen shares her personal journey from daily drinking to emotional sobriety, revealing how alcohol became a coping mechanism and what finally created lasting change. This episode is a deeper invitation to reclaim your power, regulate your inner world, and build self-trust from within. Because when you change your relationship with yourself, everything else transforms - your habits, your energy, and your results. Tune in here.Follow Colleen Freeland here:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehangoverwhisperer/Website: https://emotionalsobrietycoaching.com/Check Colleen's program, The Next Chapter. This is a year-long group coaching experience that helps high-achieving women change their relationship with alcohol by building emotional regulation and self-trust. She also offers a self-paced version, private coaching, and a certification program for coaches trained in her methodology. https://emotionalsobrietycoaching.com/programs/Join us for the Money Magnet Masterclass on May 12th and 13th. In these sessions, I'll show and support you to reset your relationship with money so you become a magnet for wealth! Register for FREE here: https://empress.danielleamos.co/money-magnet/Get exclusive access to powerful behind-the-scenes riffs I only share with my inner circle. SUBSCRIBE to unlock it now and go deeper with me here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/818893/subscribeThe Success Society is your gateway to an elevated life - an empowering community for driven individuals who are ready to align with abundance, success, and purpose. Join us for less than a cup of coffee per month! https://empress.danielleamos.co/the-success-society/Want to start working with me? Book a complimentary strategy call with The Success Society Team. We're here to support you. https://danielleamos.co/contact-usYou can catch the video version of this episode on my YouTube channel. Subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/@thedanielleamosOne conversation with me can change your life. Access my free gift, Success Mindset Workshop, here: https://successmindsetworkshop.danielleamos.co/If you love this episode, please share it on Instagram, tag me, and send me a DM @TheDanielleAmos; I'd be so grateful if you could leave me a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.Support the show

Thom's Nutshell: "Live this moment as if you chose it. Might as well. And maybe you did." Give yourself permission to doubt. Give yourself permission to disagree. Give yourself permission to decide. Add more self! Reflecting on the emotional sobriety of Viktor Frankl and Christopher Reeve, and having the courage to credit your own point of view. In emotional sobriety we find the “positive opportunism” of paying attention to what Is, instead of what Isn't. Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com Visit our website: www.emotionalsobriety.info Follow us on social media: Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com    Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events   Allen's book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/   Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):  https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986   For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g   Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We'd love to stay in touch in between meetings.   We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. Chapters (00:00:07) - Couple Therapy: The Next Step(00:02:29) - Live This Moment as If You Had a Choice(00:08:27) - What is sobriety?(00:08:52) - Give Yourself Permission to Decide(00:11:20) - Give Yourself Permission to Dissent(00:15:48) - Alan on His First Alcoholics' Trip(00:20:50) - Tom Hanks on Writing ''

Thom's Nutshell: “So much energy we spend wishing things to be different.There are always better uses of our time.” Anxiety is consistent, persistent and disciplined. It wakes up first and works out every morning. To change we must be at least as disciplined. Joe C. talks about the many ways (often with the help of community) we medicate this condition. Allen digs into our relationship with Self, highlighting what we call the “intimate self,” in our navigation of anxiety. This all takes work! Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com  Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com Visit our website: www.emotionalsobriety.info Follow us on social media: Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs   Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events   Allen's book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/   Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):  https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986   For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g   Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We'd love to stay in touch in between meetings.   We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. Chapters (00:00:07) - Emotional Sobriety(00:03:13) - The Rock is the Thing(00:08:02) - The Importance of Emotional Sobriety(00:11:35) - Joe and What They Talk About in Recovery(00:13:55) - The Fear of Being Nothing(00:17:22) - Brandon on Codependence and the Intimate Self(00:23:50) - Living on an Airplane(00:28:10) - Having Reached a Spiritual Awakening

What if sobriety is less about labels and more about how you live, think, and feel each day?In this episode, Shelby sits down with transformation coach Heather Simco to talk about a more honest and grounded approach to recovery. With over a decade of sobriety and more than 20 years in entrepreneurship, Heather shares how high-achieving women can move beyond burnout, alcohol, and self-sabotage by focusing on emotional sobriety, not just abstinence.They explore the patterns that often go unnoticed, including shifting addictions, perfectionism, overconsumption, and the constant search for relief. This conversation looks beyond quitting alcohol and focuses on what it actually takes to feel well in your daily life, mentally, physically, and emotionally.Heather also shares her personal story, including rebuilding relationships, navigating motherhood, and the level of awareness it takes to stay grounded in recovery. If you have ever questioned your habits, your coping mechanisms, or what real freedom looks like, this episode offers a clear and practical perspective.In this episode, you will hear about:• Reframing sobriety and removing the stigma around the word “addict”• Emotional sobriety and its role in long-term healing• Hidden addictions such as food, control, and productivity• Nervous system regulation and mental health in sobriety• Building a balanced and sustainable life after alcoholThis conversation is for sober women, sober curious women, and anyone on a sobriety journey who is focused on emotional healing, mental health, and building a more stable and clear life.About the GuestHeather Simco is a transformation coach and founder of Complete Concierge Solutions and Sober Boss Babe. She helps high-achieving women break free from burnout, alcohol, and self-sabotage through mental, physical, and emotional sobriety. Her work focuses on helping women reclaim their energy, strengthen their leadership, and build aligned lives and businesses.Connect with Heather:Website: www.heathersimco.comInstagram: @heathersimcoTikTok: @heathesimcoYouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@heathersimcoAbout the HostShelby John is a licensed therapist and founder of Wholistic Living. Through the Confident Sober Women podcast, she explores mental health and sobriety, trauma recovery, and personal growth for women who are building lives rooted in clarity, confidence, and real freedom.Website: https://shelbyjohn.comSupport the showIf this episode was helpful, consider subscribing, rating, or sharing it with someone who might need it. This could be a sober woman, someone exploring life after alcohol, or anyone working through anxiety, depression, or emotional challenges.Shelby also offers remote neurofeedback therapy and EMDR as part of her work in trauma recovery and nervous system regulation. You can learn more on her website.Her memoir, Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety, is available wherever books are sold.Support the showDon't forget to subscribe, rate & share this episode with a sober woman or someone suffering from anxiety, depression, ADHD, sleep problems and negative thought patterns who needs to hear she is not alone. Oh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! Learn more about EMDR therapy, EMDR Intensives and Remote Neurofeedback.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Most couples believe that age and experience naturally lead to wisdom, but as today's guest Dr. Andrea Vitz explains, "Age does not promise maturity." If your relationship feels like a cycle of predictable problems, it's time to trade in your ineffective habits for a higher level of emotional sobriety.In this episode of the Married and Connected podcast, host Kameran Alareqi welcomes back Dr. Andrea Vitz to discuss her groundbreaking new book, The Composure Challenge. Together, they strip away the "adult" labels we hide behind and look at the raw mechanics of why we fail to connect. Andrea shares her powerful definition of maturity—the use of effective strategy—and explains why your morning coffee might be the very thing sabotaging your marriage.Key Discussion PointsMaturity as a Strategy: Learn why maturity isn't a state of being, but a practice of choosing effective strategies over ineffective ones.The Myth of "Growing Up": Why having a career and kids doesn't make you an adult, and how "unqualified" people can finally qualify themselves for a healthy relationship.Physical Command & Emotional Chaos: A deep dive into how disruptors like caffeine, sugar, and alcohol dismantle your nervous system, making it impossible to access critical thinking or kindness during a conflict.The 6-Stage Framework to Relational Mastery: Andrea outlines the journey from physical command to societal leadership, showing how emotional fluency leads to a deeper connection with your partner and a stronger spiritual life.Choosing Love Over Infatuation: Why the "honeymoon phase" is often just a lack of responsibility, and how to choose to love your partner more deeply through humility and shared purpose.The Grass is Greener Where You Water It: How to stop looking for a way out and start looking for the "suck" in yourself to empower real change.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why 69% of relationship conflicts aren't actually "unsolvable," despite what traditional research might say.The "Monster Energy" effect: How everyday addictions create agitation that we unfairly project onto our spouses.How to differentiate between being "interested" in growth and being "committed" to it.The power of Emotional Sobriety in seeing your partner as a separate individual rather than a projection of your needs.Quotes from the Show"Maturity is reached for. It is built through qualities that must be practiced until they become part of your nature.""If you aren't mature enough to remove the poison from your life that dismantles your emotional state, you are just exposing your weakness.""Relational mastery means you save time, energy, and money. It's the difference between having a relationship and having a superpower."Resources MentionedBook: The Composure Challenge by Andrea Vitz (Releasing Late May)Training: Integrated Human Mastery at Lifted AcademyConnect with Andrea: andrea@liftedacademy.comWebsite: www.liftedacademy.comConnect with Kameran If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and subscribe! Your support helps us reach more couples looking to build a life of peace, clarity, and connection.WebsiteCommunityInstagramVerafied AppSupport the show

Thom's Nutshell: “When you want something, do you begin with a commitment to make it happen or a list of reasons that it probably won't?" The mighty Carol Carter joins us again from the front of a different kind of recovery: triage from a flood which devastated her home. In our pursuit of emotional sobriety, integrity matters most. In adjusting our expectations to meet the moment, we can also “change our source of self-esteem”, to put us into congruency with our value system. Learn more about Jenny, the trauma-informed Certified Professional Organizer helping Carol sort through her belongings in the flood's aftermath: https://www.sweetgrassorganizing.com . Anyone with a trauma related connection to clutter can find a resource to help. Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com Visit our website: www.emotionalsobriety.info Follow us on social media: Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com    Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events   Allen's book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/   Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):  https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986   For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g   Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We'd love to stay in touch in between meetings.   We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. Chapters (00:00:07) - Emotional Sobriety (Week 9)(00:01:21) - Rainbow Dance(00:02:16) - In the Elevator With Tom(00:06:21) - Tom Everett on Writing While Recovering(00:10:52) - I Got the Most Heartrending Call From My Friend Writing His(00:12:41) - Tom, What Is Integrity?(00:18:36) - How To Deal With a Hurt Person's Letter(00:23:29) - In the Elevator With a Trauma Victim(00:28:10) - Sometimes I Just Say What I Need to Say(00:28:56) - Carol in the Woods With the Flood

Emotional sobriety is a state of emotional balance and self-awareness. According to Samantha Jo and Spencer, emotional sobriety involves intentional living, gratitude, self-love, and setting healthy boundaries. Their conversation explores the nuances of this journey, drawing connections from literature and personal experiences, both in Al-Anon and ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families). Our... The post Emotional Sobriety – 453 appeared first on The Recovery Show.

In this transformative episode of the Dead America Podcast, host Ed Watters speaks with Kristen Crabtree—author, transformation guide, and creator of the Paramour Paradox—about her extraordinary journey from trauma and survival to truth, empowerment, and self reclamation. Kristen shares her lived experience surviving childhood rape, sexual assault, and a 22 year psychologically abusive marriage defined by control, manipulation, financial restriction, and fear. After leaving without clarity, she began rebuilding her agency, getting sober, and breaking free from the “victim loop.” Kristen explains how meditation—especially through Dr. Joe Dispenza's work and Becoming Supernatural—helped her understand emotional addiction, quiet her mind, and reconnect with her truth. She introduces the Paramour Paradox, a guided by source ecosystem centered on identity excavation and becoming. Her rebuilt book, Be the You That's More You Than You've Ever Been, uses a mental–emotional–physical–energy body framework and her signature archeologist → artifact → architect model. Kristen also shares key tools such as the peaks and valleys timeline, the Tree of Becoming, time consciousness practices, and the concept of the “web,” where small internal shifts ripple outward. The conversation explores: • Escaping abuse and reclaiming agency • Emotional sobriety and meditation without fear • Personal empowerment, boundaries, and authenticity • Rewriting the victim story to serve the future self • The Paramour Paradox ecosystem: journal, app, community, course, T shirts, card deck, and free resources • Her separate work as a divorce coach, especially for lesbians leaving psychologically abusive marriages Kristen's message is clear: transformation begins when we stop performing, tell the truth, and become who we were always meant to be. Connect with her at you2point0.com. Keywords: Kristen Crabtree, Paramour Paradox, trauma recovery, emotional sobriety, Dr Joe Dispenza, Becoming Supernatural, abusive marriage recovery, identity healing, personal empowerment, boundaries, authenticity, transformation guide, Tree of Becoming, victim story, Dead America Podcast, Ed Watters. https://www.paramourparadox.com facebook: facebook.com/paramourparadox AND facebook.com/destinationtrueyou2.0 IG: @paramourparadox @destinationtrueyou 00:00 Dead America Intro 01:01 Meet Kristen Crabtree 01:21 Escaping Abuse and Finding Agency 04:14 Clarity After Leaving 04:50 Breaking the Victim Loop 08:08 Dr Joe and Emotional Sobriety 09:42 Meditation Without the Fear 12:03 Rediscovering the 1999 Book 15:05 Archeologist to Architect Framework 18:35 Time Consciousness and Exercises 22:38 Tree of Becoming Method 25:54 Boundaries and Personal Empowerment 31:28 Paramour Paradox Ecosystem 34:45 Tshirt Message Nudges 36:36 Sacred Geometry Logo 37:50 Cards App Freebies 42:51 Who Am I Layers 45:32 Learning Through Loss 48:13 Alignment Over Discipline 50:22 Build Your Jig 51:30 Authenticity In Practice 54:05 Divorce Coaching Mission 56:12 Rewrite The Victim Story 59:50 How To Connect 01:01:01 Closing Poetic Outro Dead America Podcast — Real Change, Real Hope The Dead America Podcast brings courageous conversations and practical solutions to the issues that matter most. We spotlight survivors, experts, and advocates working to stop child grooming, end sex and human trafficking, overcome addiction, heal from abuse, reduce gang violence, and protect vulnerable children. Each episode delivers honest storytelling, actionable guidance, and resources to empower listeners and inspire meaningful reform. What to expect Thoughtful interviews, survivor perspectives, expert analysis, and practical steps you can take to help protect families and communities. We're moving to a more structured format focused on high-impact topics so your message reaches people who need to hear it. Featured topics Stopping pedophilia and child grooming; preventing sex and human trafficking; addiction recovery (drugs, sex, porn, food, gambling); gang violence and cartel impact; emotional triggers and healing; effective communication; recovery after sexual, emotional, and physical abuse; protecting children from long-term trauma related to gender-affirming care; relationship skills;American principles. #TransformationInterview #KristenCrabtreeInterview #ParamourParadoxJourney #personaltransformation #EmotionalSobriety #HealingJourney #FromVictimToVictor #EmpoweredBecoming #authenticself Support the mission Subscribe, leave a review, and share episodes to help amplify voices that demand change. Your engagement helps us reach survivors, advocates, and communities in need. Disclaimer Views expressed on the Dead America Podcast belong to the speakers. Content is for entertainment and informational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Seek qualified local professionals for medical or mental health concerns. Starlink Internet Service. https://deadamerica.website/StarLink

WHO THIS EPISODE HELPS: Anyone navigating grief, addiction recovery, trauma, or struggling with identity and self-worth.WHAT LISTENERS WILL GET: A powerful, honest look at grief, sobriety, healing, and what it takes to rebuild your life.DESCRIPTION: In this deeply personal episode, Nick Gaylord sits down with Faith C to explore the intersection of grief, addiction, trauma, and recovery. Faith shares her journey through alcoholism, emotional sobriety, and the long process of rebuilding identity and self-worth. Together, they unpack the hidden grief behind addiction, including loss of self, connection, and trust. Faith opens up about childhood emotional abuse, food addiction, and the pressure of perfectionism. This conversation goes beyond sobriety and into the ongoing work of healing and self-acceptance. Nick guides the discussion with depth and clarity, creating space for real, human moments. This episode is a powerful reminder that recovery is not about perfection, but about staying present and continuing the work. If you are navigating grief, trauma, or addiction, this conversation will meet you where you are.This episode answers: What does grief look like in addiction recovery?  Can you heal trauma and addiction at the same time?  Why do people in recovery still struggle with identity and self-worth?  How does childhood trauma impact addiction and grief later in life?  What actually changes after getting sober and what doesn't? Key Takeaways: Sobriety removes the substance, but healing the underlying grief takes ongoing work  Addiction is often rooted in a deep need for connection and validation  Emotional sobriety is just as important as physical sobriety  Trauma and grief can resurface in recovery and require intentional healing  Self-worth grows through honesty, connection, and consistent inner workSupport the showGIVE THE SHOW A 5-STAR RATING ON APPLE PODCASTS! FOLLOW US ON APPLE OR YOUR FAVORITE PODCAST PLATFORM! BOOKMARK OUR WEBSITE: www.griefisnotadirtyword.com FOLLOW OUR DEAD DADS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/griefisnotadirtyword Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/griefisnotadirtyword TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@griefisnotadirtywordYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmmv6sdmMIys3GDBjiui3kw LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nick-gaylord/

EXPECTATIONS, ARE THEY EVER JUSTIFIED? This episode of the Take 12 Recovery Radio Podcast explores the nature of expectations and resentments, their impact on recovery, and practical ways to manage them. Hosted by the Montyman and cohosts Dion Miller and Roger McDiarmid, it offers humor and wisdom for healthier relationships and emotional sobriety. Key  Topics ·         The role of expectations in resentment formation·         Spiritual principles for emotional sobriety·         Practical strategies for managing expectations·         Humor as a tool for recovery and connection #recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction 

Thom's Nutshell: “Life is a wonderful blessing, with many great disappointments. Can you see disappointment as a gift?” In emotional sobriety, we attempt to believe that we are here to learn from whatever we are given, which Thom calls “positive opportunism.” How can we use what disappoints us to become a better person? How can we use it to be productive? Acting “as if” this was the plan all along can help us through.  If we appreciate the true nature of things, we're free from expectations about how they're “supposed to” be. Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com Visit our website: www.emotionalsobriety.info Follow us on social media: Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com    Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events   Allen's book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/   Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):  https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986   For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g   Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We'd love to stay in touch in between meetings.   We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. Chapters (00:00:00) - Coming soon: Sobriety for Superman(00:01:01) - Enjoying the Feedback From Our Podcast(00:01:41) - Tom's nutshell for the week: Life is a Wonderful Blessing with(00:03:21) - Nothing in the Universe Happens By Mistake(00:08:53) - Exploring Emotional Sobriety(00:12:43) - Acceptance of Realities(00:17:36) - The Reef: How to Love Your Wife(00:23:10) - Lessons from Working With a Sick Brain(00:26:09) - Does Anyone Really Hate Himself?(00:26:38) - Tom on Disappointments(00:31:49) - Tom Cruise in '(00:32:18) - Jefferson Ross

Kristen Crabtree is an author and Certified Divorce Coach whose work is grounded in lived experience — not theory. She's the creator of Paramour Paradox, a self-recovery ecosystem helping seekers rediscover who they are, and a Divorce Coaching practice, where she supports people before, during, or post-divorce. Through her journey of self-recovery, Kristen helps others move from invisibility to authenticity, from adaption to truth—reminding us it's never too late to feel alive again.https://www.paramourparadox.com/

In this episode of Confident Sober Women, Shelby sits down with writer and journalist Carly Schwartz to talk about addiction, emotional sobriety, and the complicated path to recovery.Carly is a former editor in chief of the San Francisco Examiner and a founding editor of HuffPost San Francisco. Her upcoming memoir, I'll Try Anything Twice: Misadventures of a Self-Medicated Life, shares the honest and often surprising story of her journey through depression, drug use, and eventually sobriety.What makes Carly's story powerful is her ability to talk about difficult experiences with honesty, humor, and perspective. In this conversation, Shelby and Carly explore the deeper emotional work of recovery and the role community plays in healing.Together they discuss how many women in recovery struggle with belonging, self-criticism, and the belief that their pain is not “bad enough” to count. Carly shares how sobriety helped her move from self-medication and isolation toward connection, emotional healing, and a more grounded life.In this episode you will hear about:• Carly's sobriety journey and the moment she realized her relationship with substances needed to change • The connection between depression, addiction, and self-medication • Why humor and storytelling can help reduce stigma around mental health and recovery • The role of community and belonging in the recovery process • Letting go of people pleasing and learning to live authenticallyThis conversation is a reminder that recovery is not just about stopping alcohol or drugs. It is about rebuilding a relationship with yourself and finding confidence in sobriety.If you are a sober woman, sober curious, or navigating life after alcohol, this episode offers an honest look at the emotional layers of healing and growth.About the HostShelby John is a licensed therapist and founder of Wholistic Living. Through the Confident Sober Women podcast, she explores sobriety, emotional healing, nervous system health, and personal development for women building lives rooted in clarity, confidence, and true freedom.Connect with ShelbyWebsite https://shelbyjohn.comPodcast Confident Sober WomenSupport the showDon't forget to subscribe, rate & share this episode with a sober woman or someone suffering from anxiety, depression, ADHD, sleep problems and negative thought patterns who needs to hear she is not alone. Oh, and by the way, if you didn't know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here! Learn more about EMDR therapy, EMDR Intensives and Remote Neurofeedback.And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.

Thom's Nutshell: One of emotional sobriety's greatest challenges is for us to understand and accept our contribution to our own distress without becoming distracted by self-condemnation. Shame and humility are not the same thing. One of the first levels of self-acceptance is an utter refusal to be in an adversarial relationship with ourselves. When we take ownership over our own existence, there's nowhere left to hide. In this episode, Allen and Thom touch on the notion of writing an apology letter to our bodies for the way we've disregarded them - a practice that will further our journey towards wholeness. Behind anger is pain. If we keep yelling about what's bothering us, behind the rage are usually tears. In dealing with anger, we continue trying to live in the space between a stimulus and a response, which widens as we continue to practice emotional sobriety and maintain alignment with reality. Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com Visit our website: www.emotionalsobriety.info Follow us on social media: Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com   Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events   Allen's book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/ Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):  https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986   For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g   Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We'd love to stay in touch in between meetings.   We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. Chapters (00:00:07) - Emotional Sobriety: The Next Step in Recovery(00:03:31) - Responsibility for One's Life(00:09:59) - Tom Brokaw on His Own Body(00:13:47) - Separation and the Authentic Me(00:14:01) - Angry Feelings and Emotional Sobriety(00:17:18) - The Anger of Alcoholics(00:21:31) - The Anger of Relationships(00:26:01) - Alan on Being a Codependent

Send us Fan MailMost people don't relapse because they don't know what to do—they relapse because they keep doing what feels right in the moment.That instinct? It's been trained by years of survival, addiction, avoidance, and fear.So when pressure hits… you isolate.When emotions rise… you escape.When responsibility calls… you disappear.And then you wonder why nothing changes.In this episode, I break down why your natural reactions are keeping you stuck—and how real growth starts when you go against that pull.Support the show

STEP ELEVEN (A Snap-Shot). This episode of the Take 12 Recovery Radio Show explores the spiritual discipline of Step 11 in recovery, focusing on prayer and meditation as tools to improve conscious contact with God. Hosts share personal experiences, practical advice, and insights into maintaining spiritual health in sobriety. Closing Song: Where Did They Go? (A Song for the Old-Timers) By Sam Aritan.#recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction 

In this episode, Laura McKowen discusses embracing emotional sobriety and small choices for big healing from heartbreak and anxiety. Laura talks about her 11-year sobriety journey and her personal journal of navigating heartbreak. She delves into the daily choices that foster healing and emotional well-being. Laura also shares insights on the non-linear nature of recovery, the importance of small, consistent practices, and the role of relationships and self-compassion in emotional sobriety. Together, they explore how healing is an ongoing process, shaped by vulnerability, connection, and the willingness to embrace both pain and growth. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Personal journey of sobriety and its challenges Managing anxiety and heartbreak after a significant relationship The non-linear nature of emotional healing and recovery The parable of the two wolves and its relevance to personal choices Importance of daily practices for mental health maintenance Concept of emotional sobriety and its distinction from mere survival The role of relationships in emotional well-being and healing Understanding attachment dynamics and their impact on relationships The interplay between trauma, addiction, and relational patterns Emphasizing self-forgiveness, compassion, and community support in healing processes For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Laura McKowen, check out these other episodes: Why Community and Courage Matter More Than Ever with Laura McKowen A Journey to Self-Discovery and Sobriety with Matthew Quick By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Pebl⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠hipebl.ai⁠ ⁠Brodo Broth⁠: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to ⁠Brodo.com/TOYF⁠ for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. ⁠Alma⁠ is on a mission to simplify access to high-quality, affordable mental health care. Visit ⁠helloalma.com⁠ to learn more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Text Me!Burnout has a sneaky way of making sobriety feel harder than it needs to be.When your nervous system is overwhelmed, everything feels heavier, cravings get louder, patience gets shorter, and your ability to cope without alcohol feels shaky.In this episode of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I get practical about self-care — not as a luxury, but as a daily recovery tool that keeps your sobriety steady and your relapse prevention plan strong.If you've been feeling off, tired, or stretched thin, this episode will help you reset without overwhelming yourself.This episode is a RE-RELEASE.In This Episode, You'll Learn• why burnout makes sobriety feel harder than it actually is • how self-care supports relapse prevention and emotional stability • five simple self-care pillars you can build using baby steps • how habit stacking makes self-care realistic and sustainable • Why sleep is one of the most important tools for mental health and sobriety • how to regulate anxiety through better rest and routine • how to create decompression time without guilt • how to set boundaries that protect your sobrietyA Reminder for Your Sobriety JourneySelf-care isn't extra.It's what makes sobriety sustainable.When you take care of yourself first, everything else tends to run better — your mood, your relationships, your patience, and your ability to stay alcohol-free.Resources & Support Mentioned:Sobriety Circle — ongoing support for women exploring alcohol-free livingSober Breakthrough Session — personalized guidance from a sobriety coach1:1 Sober Coaching Free tools for navigating the first 30 days without alcoholThe After-Emotional Sobriety ProgramGain access to my Masterclass when you submit a review on iTunes. Email me sobervibes@gmail.com with a screenshot of the review, and I will send you the code to unlock my Masterclass for free!Thank you for tuning in!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast.Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety CircleApply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

Thom's Nutshell: Rigorous honesty begins at home. Joe C. joins us to discuss the ways relapse is experienced by the loved ones of the relapser, and how we can think about these distressing events differently. The universe isn't guided by structure and order alone. There's chaos as well. We have influence, but not control, and with emotional sobriety we can more clearly see that distinction. Thank you for listening to our podcast. Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com Visit our website: www.emotionalsobriety.info Follow us on social media: Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com    Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events   Allen's book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/   Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):  https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986   For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g   Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We'd love to stay in touch in between meetings.   We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. Chapters (00:00:00) - Emotional Sobriety(00:06:56) - In the Elevator With George Clooney(00:07:58) - What is Truth in Sobriety?(00:11:49) - Risk of Absurdity(00:14:56) - In the Elevator With an Alcoholic(00:17:17) - Al Anon on Rejection and Recovery(00:26:12) - Sam and Joe: Emotional Sobriety

Are you drowning in the silent, heavy exhaustion of the roommate phase? Ready to sign divorce papers? Today's episode is tackling the absolute marriage-killer: Resentment.Relying strictly on the groundbreaking principles of Dr. Andrea Vitz's "Emotional Sobriety" and the clinical research of Dr. John Gottman, we strip away the excuses and look in the mirror. We explore why your resentment is actually an internal emotional addiction, how it gives birth to the toxic judgment we see everywhere in today's cancel culture, and why it is 100% your responsibility to overcome it.Tune in for the exact tools you need to stop blaming your spouse, dismantle your own judgment, and find the profound freedom of owning your emotional state.In this episode, we cover:Why resentment is an emotional addiction and how to get "sober." "Judgment is not benign; it is born of resentment."How Gottman's "Four Horsemen" (specifically Contempt) destroy emotional safety.Tangible steps to shift from toxic judgment to a culture of appreciation.Ready to drop the resentment? Let's do the work:Book a 1:1 Coaching Call: Ready for high-level, direct coaching to save your connection? Join our Free Skool Community: Surround yourself with couples doing the work. Subscribe & Review: If this gut-punch helped you, please leave a review and share it with a friend!Support the show

Text Me!Affirmations can sound cheesy until you're the one who needs a new thought to grab onto.When we stop drinking, we don't just remove alcohol. We lose an entire coping system. That can leave many people feeling like a grown adult starting over at ground zero.In this episode of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I break down why sobriety affirmations are a practical tool for sober living and long-term recovery, not just inspirational quotes on a wall.You'll learn how repetition reshapes your mindset, why affirmations feel uncomfortable at first, and how to build a daily practice that strengthens your sober identity.In This Episode, You'll Learn• why affirmations can feel fake before they start feeling real • how repetition reshapes mindset and subconscious beliefs • why quitting alcohol can make people feel like they're back at ground zero • five sobriety affirmations you can start practicing today • how personalized affirmations help build self-esteem in recovery • simple habit tools like post-it notes, phone reminders, and alarms Why Sobriety Requires a New MindsetWhen alcohol leaves your life, the thoughts that used to hide under drinking often rise to the surface.Low self-esteem. Anxiety. Self-doubt.Affirmations help interrupt those patterns by giving your brain a new message to hold onto.This is a RE-RELEASE episode from my Sober Tip Tuesday I did a few years back. Resources & Support Mentioned:Sobriety Circle — ongoing support for women exploring alcohol-free livingSober Breakthrough Session — personalized guidance from a sobriety coach1:1 Sober Coaching Free tools for navigating the first 30 days without alcoholThe After-Emotional Sobriety ProgramGain access to my Masterclass when you submit a review on iTunes. Email me sobervibes@gmail.com with a screenshot of the review, and I will send you the code to unlock my Masterclass for free!Thank you for tuning in!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

Text us a comment or question!Have you ever told yourself, "Tonight I'm only having one drink." And then somehow one becomes two… two becomes three… and the next morning you're wondering, "Why did I do that again?" Most people assume the answer is simple:  You just need more willpower. But according to today's guest, that belief is actually part of the problem. In this fascinating conversation, intuitive drinking coach Colleen Freeland explains why the struggle with alcohol isn't really about discipline, self-control, or even the alcohol itself.It's about how your brain, emotions, and nervous system respond to stress, habit, and identity. Colleen shares why traditional approaches like Dry January, white-knuckling, and strict rules often fail—and introduces a radically different idea: The solution to over-drinking isn't getting sober. It's getting happier. Through her concept of Emotional Sobriety, Colleen helps high-achieving professionals retrain their brains so that drinking less becomes natural and effortless, rather than a constant battle. And the insights she shares in this episode may completely change the way you think about alcohol, habits, and self-control. In This Episode You'll Learn:Why willpower alone almost never works when it comes to drinking lessThe surprising difference between alcoholism and Alcohol Use DisorderWhy many successful professionals quietly struggle with drinking habitsThe brain chemistry behind why one drink often leads to moreWhy Dry January and other “breaks” from alcohol often failHow stress and nervous system dysregulation drive the urge to drinkThe powerful mindset shift behind “Get Happy, Not Sober”How to create a healthy relationship with alcoholWhy emotional regulation may be the most important life skill you can develop About Today's GuestColleen Freeland is an Intuitive Drinking Coach and host of the globally top-ranked podcast It's Not About the Alcohol. She is the creator of Emotional Sobriety Coaching, a program designed for high-achieving professionals who want to dramatically reduce their alcohol consumption without relying on shame, rigid rules, or willpower. Colleen combines neuroscience, neurophysiology, cognitive reframing, and spirituality to help people retrain their brains so they naturally prefer moderation over over-drinking. Connect with ColleenWebsite: https://emotionalsobrietycoaching.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehangoverwhispererYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCv24pItAK0xWQ_m6mD8T50wTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hangoverwhispererFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/HangoverWhispererPodcast: It's Not About the Alcohol  If You Enjoyed ThiOver 50 and frustrated with your progress? Click HERE to book a free Silver Edge Clarity Call and get a clear plan forward. Over 50 and frustrated with your progress? Book a free Silver Edge Clarity Call and get a clear plan forward.

Text Me!Healing doesn't always require a furrowed brow.In this short Sober Vibes Tip episode of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I share why laughter is one of the most overlooked tools in sobriety and emotional healing.Recovery spaces can sometimes feel heavy. Between intense conversations, emotional shares, and the weight of personal growth, it's easy to absorb more energy than your nervous system can comfortably process.This episode is your reminder that laughter isn't avoidance — it's medicine.Humor can break rumination loops, calm the nervous system, and make sober days feel lighter and more sustainable.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why bite-sized sober tips help with retention and daily implementationWhy laughter is an underrated recovery and nervous system regulation toolHow “doom and gloom” energy can affect sensitive people in recovery spacesHow to set emotional boundaries after heavy conversations or meetingsHow compassionate humor helps reframe past behavior without shameWhy curating your media diet can protect your mental healthPractical ways to add more laughter into your daily sober lifeHow lightness supports long-term healing and emotional sobrietyHealing doesn't have to feel heavy all the time.This is a RE-RELEASE episode from my Sober Tip Tuesday I did a few years back. Resources & Support Mentioned:Sobriety Circle — ongoing support for women exploring alcohol-free livingSober Breakthrough Session — personalized guidance from a sobriety coach1:1 Sober Coaching Free tools for navigating the first 30 days without alcoholThe After-Emotional Sobriety ProgramGain access to my Masterclass when you submit a review on iTunes. Email me sobervibes@gmail.com with a screenshot of the review, and I will send you the code to unlock my Masterclass for free!Thank you for tuning in!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

When I quit drinking, I didn't realize how emotionally immature I was, or how much alcohol had been doing for me behind the scenes. In this episode, I talk about why removing alcohol can make emotions feel (more) unbearable at first, how years of emotional avoidance catch up to us in sobriety, and why this phase puts people at risk for relapse. We'll also talk about what emotional sobriety actually means, and why learning to tolerate discomfort is what makes sobriety sustainable. Work with me: Community & Meetings: Living a Sober Powered Life https://www.soberpowered.com/membership Sober coaching https://www.soberpowered.com/sober-coaching Course Pickled. Why Moderation is Impossible https://www.soberpowered.com/pickled Weekly email: You'll hear from me on Fridays https://www.soberpowered.com/email Support the show: If you enjoyed this episode please consider buying me a coffee to support all the research and effort that goes into this podcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/soberpowered Thank you for supporting this show by supporting my sponsors https://www.soberpowered.com/sponsors Sources are posted on my website Disclaimer: all of the information described in this podcast is my interpretation of the research combined with my opinion. This is not medical advice.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Text Me!Quitting alcohol changes more than your habits; it changes how you see yourself.In episode 262 of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I explore one of the most overlooked parts of sobriety: identity. The phase where you're no longer drinking, but you're still asking, “Who am I now?”This conversation is for anyone who feels emotionally unsettled, in-between, or unsure how to rebuild their life after alcohol, even if they've been sober for months or years.Sobriety isn't just about removing alcohol. It's about rebuilding self-trust, routines, relationships, and a sense of self that feels real and sustainable.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why identity shifts are a normal (and necessary) part of sobrietyWhy early and long-term sobriety can feel confusing, lonely, or disorientingHow alcohol quietly shapes identity, routines, and self-imageWhat it means to rebuild your life after alcohol without forcing a “new you”How to strengthen your sober mindset through self-trust instead of controlWhy boredom, grief, and uncertainty don't mean sobriety isn't workingHow to move from discipline-based sobriety to emotionally grounded sobrietyThis episode helps normalize the in-between stage of sobriety when you're no longer numbing, but you're still discovering who you are without alcohol.Resources & Support Mentioned:Sobriety Circle — ongoing support for women exploring alcohol-free livingSober Breakthrough Session — personalized guidance from a sobriety coach1:1 Sober Coaching Free tools for navigating the first 30 days without alcoholThe After-Emotional Sobriety ProgramGain access to my Masterclass when you submit a review on iTunes. Email me sobervibes@gmail.com with a screenshot of the review, and I will send you the code to unlock my Masterclass for free!Thank you for tuning in!Ready to stop the start-over cycle with alcohol?For 1:1 coaching with me 

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