Podcasts about emotional sobriety

Thom's Nutshell Wisdom: “Practice conversations to convey rather than convince.” Healthy Conversation is “present-centered.” In a healthy conversation, we don't need to know exactly what we're trying to convey. With defenses down, we learn more. How much “we,” and how much “I” can we include in any relationship? How can we get on the same side of the problem? Anxiety is at the root of why we do this. We feel threatened so we feel a compulsion to manipulate someone into our point of view. The first step of dismantling this is awareness that its happening. Then we “befriend our experience,” which we derive from the work of Nathaniel Branden. Visit our website: www.emotionalsobriety.info Follow us on social media: Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com    Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events   Allen's book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/   Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):  https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986   For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g   Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We'd love to stay in touch in between meetings.   We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. Chapters (00:00:00) - Talking to Yourself(00:03:54) - John Ammodeo on Self-Acceptance(00:08:17) - Talking to Your Partner(00:12:03) - Getting On the Same Side of the Problem(00:18:20) - The Importance of Negotiation in a Mixed Relationship(00:21:10) - Tom Petty on His Relationship With Deedee(00:24:13) - I Had A Complaint About My AA Friend

If you struggle with people-pleasing and losing yourself in relationships, this episode with Ingrid Clayton, a licensed clinical psychologist and expert in relational trauma, about her book Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back, is a conversation that can help you understand and transform patterns holding you back. Exploring fawning, which is a lesser-known trauma response shaped by caretaking, appeasement, and self-abandonment, you'll learn how it often shows up as anxiety and hypervigilance. And, through personal and client stories, you'll gain insights on reclaiming authenticity, navigating backlash, and starting the process of “unfawning.”Listen and Learn:Why do some people cope with relational trauma by becoming overly accommodating or pleasing?How people-pleasing might actually be your nervous system choosing safety in ways that once protected you, but could now be quietly shaping your identity and relationships without you realizing it, and what it actually takes to reconnect with who you areHow chronic fawning can look like emotional strength on the outside while quietly disconnecting you from your own anxiety and bodyHow what looks like dishonesty can actually be a survival response that once kept you safe, and what it takes to notice when it starts keeping you stuckHow tuning into what you notice in your body can be the first uncomfortable but powerful step to breaking people-pleasing patterns and building more authentic relationshipsWhy red flags can feel like home after emotional abuse and how learning to trust your own resentment might be the first step toward building a truly safe relationshipResources:Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9798217045327 Ingrid's Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/ Connect with Ingrid on Social Media:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IngridClaytonPhD LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ingridclaytonphd/ Substack: https://substack.com/@ingridclaytonphd YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3PvWTgJMirURfgHWj3h28g About Ingrid ClaytonDr. Ingrid Clayton is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master's in transpersonal psychology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. She's had a thriving private practice for more than sixteen years and is a regular contributor to Psychology Today, where her blog “Emotional Sobriety” has had more than a million views. She lives in Los Angeles, California. Book: Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9798217045327Related Episodes:305. The Power of Saying No with Vanessa Patrick186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 308. Identifying and Surviving Gaslighting with Robin Stern 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson 383. What My Bones Know: C-PTSD with Stephanie Foo417. Busting Trauma Treatment Myths with Emi Nietfeld416. Trauma and PTSD Treatment with Robyn WalserSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Former guest and longtime friend John Amodeo joins Allen and Thom to advocate “gentle presence” 9 making ourselves available to the full range of what we're experiencing in the moment, whether pleasure and pain. People are afraid of their emotions - “If I start crying, when will I stop?” The greater danger, in our experience, is the suppression of emotion. We also touch on processing failure and mistakes, cautioning against blame. When we get stuck in blame, we don't learn and grow from our experiences. Buy John's new book, The Power of Gentle Presence: Insights for Inner Peace & Deeper Relationships here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0G1HLNFV5 Visit our website: www.emotionalsobriety.info Follow us on social media: Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com    Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events   Allen's book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/   Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):  https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986   For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g   Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We'd love to stay in touch in between meetings.   We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. Chapters (00:00:07) - Emotional Sobriety with Dr. John Ammodeo(00:01:21) - John Feist in Personal Growth(00:06:42) - Exploring Boundaries(00:11:32) - Boundaries of Personal Experience(00:15:33) - John on Self-Acceptance(00:20:36) - What is Healthy Shame?(00:21:47) - The Importance of Gentle Presence(00:26:31) - Goodbye, Emotional Sobriety(00:27:33) - John and Alan on The Three Pillars of Love(00:32:01) - Emotional Sobriety and Relationships

When I quit drinking, I didn't realize how emotionally immature I was, or how much alcohol had been doing for me behind the scenes. In this episode, I talk about why removing alcohol can make emotions feel (more) unbearable at first, how years of emotional avoidance catch up to us in sobriety, and why this phase puts people at risk for relapse. We'll also talk about what emotional sobriety actually means, and why learning to tolerate discomfort is what makes sobriety sustainable. Work with me: Community & Meetings: Living a Sober Powered Life https://www.soberpowered.com/membership Sober coaching https://www.soberpowered.com/sober-coaching Course Pickled. Why Moderation is Impossible https://www.soberpowered.com/pickled Weekly email: You'll hear from me on Fridays https://www.soberpowered.com/email Support the show: If you enjoyed this episode please consider buying me a coffee to support all the research and effort that goes into this podcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/soberpowered Thank you for supporting this show by supporting my sponsors https://www.soberpowered.com/sponsors Sources are posted on my website Disclaimer: all of the information described in this podcast is my interpretation of the research combined with my opinion. This is not medical advice.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit www.phetasy.comBridget and Jeren discuss their diverging relationships with AA as they approach 13 and 9 years of sobriety, respectively, exploring what it means to feel “dry” (acting like a drunk without drinking) and how resentments, control issues, and the loss of spiritual connection can creep in during long-term recovery.QUESTIONSHow does a normie kind of do this…

Rejoin myself and Allie Bailey on this weeks episode of One For The Road as we catch back up on life on the other side of sobriety, and candidly chat about our experiences on both sides of the line with emotional sobriety.Allie Bailey is an ultrarunner, award winning coach, speaker and podcaster who has run in some of the most extreme places in the world. She was the first woman to run 100 miles across frozen Lake Khövsgöl in Mongolia and to run the full length of the Panama Canal. She has crossed the inhospitable Namib Desert three times, run the length of the Outer Hebrides and completed a 1,000-mile off-road version of the classic Land's End to John o'Groats route in just thirty days. Allie has finished over 200 marathons and ultramarathons all over the world, including the Dragons Back Race and the full Winter Spine Race, but the most remarkable thing about all of these achievements is that she accomplished many of them while battling depression and alcoholism. Although running ultimately became the vehicle that helped buy Allie the time to recover from a number of severe mental health breakdowns, it did not save her. In fact, there were times when it made her battle all the more difficult. After a seismic mental health crisis in 2021, Allie finally admitted to herself and those around her that she was an alcoholic and started her recovery. She left behind a dream career with major record labels and adventure companies and now works as a coach and author with a broad range of runners and endurance athletes, helping them unlock their full potential. In 2022, she was named as one of the most inspiring female adventurers in the UK by the Guardian, and she has appeared on numerous mainstream TV programmes including The One Show and Lorraine. In 2023 she released her first book, the award nominated and critically acclaimed memoir “There is Now Wall”. Her second book “31 Days: A Zero Bullshit Mindset Masterclass for the Modern Runner was released in February 2026. Allie lives in Yorkshire with her rescue dog, Pickle.https://www.instagram.com/ab_runs/https://amzn.eu/d/03O7NRTzIf you want to connect with me via Instagram, you can find me on the instahandle @Soberdave https://www.instagram.com/soberdave/or via my website https://davidwilsoncoaching.com/Provided below are links for services offering additional help and advice.www.drinkaware.co.uk/advice/alcohol-support-serviceshttps://nacoa.org.uk/Show producer- Daniella AttanasioInstagram - @TheDaniellaMartinezhttps://www.instagram.com/thedaniellamartinez/www.instagram.com/grownuphustle Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most people think emotional sobriety is about feeling regulated. It isn't.In this episode, Denise G. Lee explains why emotional sobriety is a structural system—not a mood state—and how identity, boundaries, and internal authority determine whether you stay grounded or unravel under pressure.This conversation pairs with the original article, Emotional Sobriety Is a System, Not a Mood, which you can read here:

Text Me!Quitting alcohol changes more than your habits; it changes how you see yourself.In episode 262 of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I explore one of the most overlooked parts of sobriety: identity. The phase where you're no longer drinking, but you're still asking, “Who am I now?”This conversation is for anyone who feels emotionally unsettled, in-between, or unsure how to rebuild their life after alcohol, even if they've been sober for months or years.Sobriety isn't just about removing alcohol. It's about rebuilding self-trust, routines, relationships, and a sense of self that feels real and sustainable.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why identity shifts are a normal (and necessary) part of sobrietyWhy early and long-term sobriety can feel confusing, lonely, or disorientingHow alcohol quietly shapes identity, routines, and self-imageWhat it means to rebuild your life after alcohol without forcing a “new you”How to strengthen your sober mindset through self-trust instead of controlWhy boredom, grief, and uncertainty don't mean sobriety isn't workingHow to move from discipline-based sobriety to emotionally grounded sobrietyThis episode helps normalize the in-between stage of sobriety when you're no longer numbing, but you're still discovering who you are without alcohol.Resources & Support Mentioned:Sobriety Circle — ongoing support for women exploring alcohol-free livingSober Breakthrough Session — personalized guidance from a sobriety coach1:1 Sober Coaching Free tools for navigating the first 30 days without alcoholThe After-Emotional Sobriety ProgramGain access to my Masterclass when you submit a review on iTunes. Email me sobervibes@gmail.com with a screenshot of the review, and I will send you the code to unlock my Masterclass for free!Thank you for tuning in!Ready to stop the start-over cycle with alcohol?For 1:1 coaching with me 

Leadership doesn't fail because of poor strategy—it fails when leaders are emotionally bracing, over-functioning, or reacting from survival mode.In this episode, Denise G. Lee breaks down what emotional sobriety really means in leadership, how emotional intoxication quietly erodes trust, and why calm isn't something you perform—it's something you embody.This episode pairs with the original article, If You Lead, You Need Emotional Sobriety—Here's Why, which you can read here:

Send us a textWhy does resilience feel so heavy? Because you're not actually feeling the pain you're bypassing it.In this final episode of the Emotional Sobriety series, I draw a bright line between understanding your patterns and actually embodying change. Real healing doesn't happen in the head alone, and "high-vibe only" positivity isn't healing it's just another way to numb.I share how I used spiritual concepts like armour, why "I'm feeling anger" invites space while "I am angry" collapses you into the emotion, and what changes when you stop thinking your way through feelings and actually drop into your body.What is emotional sobriety? The capacity to feel the full range of emotions: anger, fear, grief, joy without numbing, avoiding, or being hijacked by them. It's self-regulation without codependency. It's choosing your response instead of reacting from your wounds.I teach the first of three pillars Awareness and why awareness plus a pause equals presence. You'll hear Viktor Frankl's "space between stimulus and response" and how to widen that space so choice becomes possible in the moments that matter most.The practice: A guided mindful check-in you can use anytime you feel overwhelmed. Three questions: What am I feeling? Where do I feel it in my body? What does it need from me?The goal isn't perfection or never being triggered. It's freedom the freedom to feel without being destroyed by it, to be fully human without making it mean something's wrong with you.Stop thinking about healing. Start feeling it. Join the Emotional Sobriety Workshop at liftoneself.com for the full framework and somatic techniques.If this resonated, share it with someone who needs permission to stop performing their healing.Support the show READY TO GO DEEPER?

Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.If you've ever caught yourself missing someone who made you anxious, small, or constantly on edge… this episode is for you.Because what you're feeling is withdrawal, not a personal flaw.After emotionally unsafe, narcissistic abuse, or abusive relationships, the nervous system gets conditioned to extreme highs and lows. A few good days followed by sudden blowups. Relief after tension. Chaos mistaken for chemistry. And when it ends, your body doesn't miss the person — it misses the dopamine-driven cycle it learned to survive in.In this episode, we're talking about emotional sobriety — what it actually means to detox from intensity, why calm can feel boring or wrong at first, and how your system recalibrates after chaos. We'll break down why stable relationships don't feel exciting in the beginning, why your brain edits the past when you're vulnerable, and how to tell the difference between love and nervous-system addiction.I'll also share real, relatable examples from my work with clients and my Radiate & Rise community that show how people stop craving the highs and lows — not by trying harder, but by healing the root cause.✨ If you're in that in-between space — missing what hurt you and questioning your decision — you don't have to white-knuckle this alone. Book a free Root Cause Call and let's uncover what your nervous system is still attached to, so you can move forward without getting pulled back.Support the showTo learn more about my Programs visit the websitewww.radiatenrise.com Email: Allison@radiatenrise.comFree 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebookhttps://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/*Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

Send us a textWhat if anger isn't the problem at all, but the protector standing guard over your boundaries, values, and deepest tenderness?In Episode 2 of the Emotional Sobriety series, we dismantle the myth of the "anger problem" and reveal the truth: anger isn't dangerous, untrained behavior and unprocessed pain are. When you learn to separate feeling from reaction, you discover a practical path from emotional hijack to clarity.What You'll Learn:Why anger is a bodyguard, not a villain and what it's actually protectingHow trauma layers turn present conflicts into past battlesThe hidden cost of the peacekeeper persona: exhaustion, resentment, and lost alivenessWhy grief and anger are inseparable (and how rage clears denial)The 4-step practice to communicate through anger instead of being hijacked by itReal Stories, Real Tools: A parenting example shows how old wounds distort present choices and how to protect connection while honouring boundaries. A client story reveals what happens when you bury anger for decades, and how giving it a voice reawakens joy, desire, and aliveness.Guided Practice Included: Join the mindful moment at 19:18 to ask your anger: "What are you protecting?" and begin befriending your most powerful ally.If you're ready to stop fearing your own heat and start using it as a compass, this episode offers grounded somatic tools and compassionate guidance.Support the show READY TO GO DEEPER?

Contact Welcomed HereAbstinence is sanity for any compulsive behavior. Emotional Sobriety is living sanely once abstinent.  Addiction is a mental problems. Obsessive thougths are not a product of wrong thoughts - but imagning they are right.  We are not here to talk about stopping but to come to terms with the fact that we each are Responsible for what we start - and its consqeunces.  Principles are Absolute. They never change. The primary mental failing is imagining they do while it is our thinking about them that does. Abstinence, Right thinking and right action are the aim of symptomatic recovery and emotional sobriety.  The degree to which we correct any misidentification or misunderstanding about the functional capacity of our body, brain, feelings, words or behaviors or determines whether we choose from the desperation and dysfunction or rely on our natural functional capacity of Inspiration, Intuituion and Wisdom. Sobriety is not about acting right but the natural able flexibility of correcting wrongs. The body cannot process highly processed forms of nature, like alcohol, drugs, refined sugar or highly processed food.  The brain, in the body, cannot process insanity: highly processed mental fixations on fictional, imagination believed to be reality. All matter in the universe has substance, including our human body and conscoiusness. Lies are simply possibilities of thought with no substance - including the thoughts determining they are true, real and always right. We Know We Know. We Are Aware We Are Aware. We Are as We Are. Reality is unlimited and never changes. The idea that how and what we think creates reality suggests otherwise. Acting on backward thoughts leads to behaviors that are out of order reflecting a reversal of our natural fortune that are accurately called disorders. Anxious, nervous and systemic disorders reflect this impossible attempt to reverse Nature's Law and Order and our Universe's Essence. Dis-ease is the lack of ease created and maintained by such twisted mental acrobatics. Stress and Anxiety inhibit healing and compound and degrade health. Mentality is a bodily function. Mental disease is a physcial ailment. For as long as it is misdiagnosed - any cure or treatment will perpetuate its contagion. Principles affirm Our Indivisible nature. Sharing Principles confirms our natural indivisibility. Inspiration is natural while desperation, depression, degradation and acting oblivious to what is obvious is an unnatural choice to oppose reality which is impossible to accomplish though we are free to try. Ignoring what is happening, acting as though it shouldn't be or isn't happening, produces the unintelligible gibberish of ignorance - not reality.

Send us a textWhat if your body is speaking first and your thoughts are just catching up? We kick off a three-part journey into emotional sobriety by reframing feelings and thoughts as information, not identity, and by teaching a grounded, practical way to listen from the neck down. Through personal story, science-informed insights, and a guided practice, we explore how childhood conditioning trained us to override our nervous system and why that keeps us stuck in loops of overthinking, exhaustion, and disconnection.I share how a health crisis forced me to stop analyzing emotions and start feeling them, and what changed when I learned to befriend fear instead of outrun it. We unpack the gap between insight and integration why you can explain your patterns yet repeat them and show how embodiment transforms triggers into signals. You'll learn simple steps to locate sensations, stay present without creating a story, and let memories surface just long enough to gather the message before returning to the breath.This approach builds capacity so emotions stop hijacking your day and start guiding your choices. We close by anchoring the practice of self-regulation alongside healthy co-regulation. When you can create safety within, intuition sharpens, discernment strengthens, and connection with others deepens because you're actually present.Consider this your invitation to come home to a feeling body that thinks, and to prepare for the next episode where we unpack one of the most misunderstood emotions: anger what it protects, why it's maligned, and how to befriend it.If this conversation resonates: Subscribe to Lift OneSelf, share it with someone living from the neck up, and leave a review to help more people discover the work. Ready to go deeper? Visit liftoneself.com for the Emotional Sobriety Workshop and one-on-one sessions.Support the show READY TO GO DEEPER?

Emotional Sobriety: The Missing Skill That Protects Your Consistency

Polly P, at the time from Birch Bay Washington, currently from Florida does a great job leading this workshop on the topic of  Emotional Sobriety. Polly has led these workshops all over the country many times, this was held at a Roundup in Georgia in 2007. Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3000+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

STEP ONE, A Snap-Shot, the hosts discuss the concept of powerlessness in addiction recovery, focusing on Step One of the 12-step program. They share personal stories of their journeys, the importance of admitting defeat, and the idea of rock bottom. The conversation emphasizes the need for a spiritual connection and the role of support in recovery, encouraging listeners to seek help and understand that they are not alone in their struggles. #recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction 

Text Me!If you're searching for how to quit drinking alcohol in 2026, you're not alone, and you're not behind.In this Season 8 kickoff episode of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I break down why the old way of quitting alcohol no longer works for so many women, especially high-functioning, successful women stuck in the moderation cycle.White-knuckling, willpower, and “just drinking less” may have worked for some in the past, but in 2026, we understand more about the nervous system, emotional regulation, and why so many women drink to cope with stress, anxiety, and burnout.This episode introduces a calmer, smarter, and more sustainable way to stop drinking without shame, fear, or all-or-nothing thinking.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why trying to drink less keeps you stuck in the cycleHow to stop drinking every night without relying on willpowerWhy grey area drinking is so common  and so exhaustingWhat actually helps after 30 days without alcoholHow to quit drinking wine when it's tied to stress and identityWhy quitting alcohol in 2026 is about lifestyle + emotional sobrietyHow to build a sober lifestyle that feels freeing, not restrictiveWhether you're sober curious, stuck asking “Do I really have to quit forever?”, or quietly Googling how to stop drinking wine at night, this episode will help you rethink sobriety in a way that feels realistic and supportive.Resources & Support Mentioned:Soberity Circle 1:1 Sober Coaching Book Free ResourcesPODCAST SPONSOR:This episode is sponsored by ExactNature, a trusted holistic tool for anyone navigating recovery and sobriety. Use code SV25 at checkout to save on your order. Click here to shop and save. Grab my Masterclass for Free:Gain access to my Masterclass when you submit a review on iTunes. Email me sobervibes@gmail.com with a screenshot of the review, and I will send you the code to unlock my Masterclass for free!Thank you for tuning in!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

Joe & Charlie were well known for the many Big Book workshops they did all over the country for many years, but the Big Book is not the only thing they spoke about . This is a 90 min workshop they did on the topic of Emotional Sobriety with John W at the Wilson House in 1990. Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3000+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

Are you waiting for your spouse to finally "get it"? Whether it's their communication style, a habit that hurts the family dynamic, or an emotional wall they've built, the pain of wanting your partner to change—and being met with resistance—is one of the loneliest experiences in a marriage.In this deep-dive episode of Married and Connected, we move past the cliché advice of "just talk to them" and look at the hard science and psychology of change. We explore why your partner is neurologically wired to resist pressure, how to move from anxious pursuit to secure influence, and the life-changing power of emotional sobriety. If you feel like you're negotiating with potential instead of living in reality, this episode is your roadmap back to yourself.What You'll Learn in This Episode:The Change Paradox: Why wanting change isn't wrong, but why "forcing" it triggers the psychological phenomenon of Reactance.Attachment Styles & Conflict: How secure, anxious, and avoidant attachment styles dictate how we ask for change—and why some methods are doomed to fail.The Neurobiology of Resistance: Understanding the "ego defense" and why your partner's brain perceives your requests as a threat to their identity.Emotional Sobriety: A deep dive into Dr. Andrea Vitz's framework—learning to regulate your own internal state without using your partner's behavior as a "drug."Control vs. Influence: Practical ways to set boundaries without ultimatums and stop the cycle of self-abandonment.The Hard Truths: How to distinguish between "hope" and "negotiating with potential," and how to know when waiting has become self-betrayal.Featured Research & Frameworks:Dr. Alexandra Solomon: On the importance of relational self-awareness and focusing on the "Self" within the "Us."Dr. Andrea Vitz: On the principles of Emotional Sobriety and taking 100% responsibility for your own emotional peace.The Gottman Institute: Research regarding "Positive Sentiment Override" and how safety is a prerequisite for behavioral change.Attachment Theory: How childhood survival strategies (avoidance/anxiety) manifest as resistance in adult marriage.Resources Mentioned:Loving Bravely by Dr. Alexandra SolomonThe You You've Never Met by Dr. Andrea Vitzwww.recognizingpotential.comConnect with Us:Instagram: @married.and.connectedSubscribe & Review: If this episode resonated with you, please leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!Keywords: Marriage advice, relationship change, how to get my husband to change, attachment theory in marriage, emotional sobriety, Dr. Andrea Vitz, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, secure attachment, marriage boundaries, marital conflict, avoidant partner, anxious attachment style.Support the show

RECOVERY CHRISTMAS SPECIAL. In this special Christmas episode of Take 12 Recovery Radio, the host and guests share festive greetings, personal Christmas stories, and humorous anecdotes. They discuss the challenges of navigating the holiday season, especially for those in recovery, while also engaging listeners with PRIZES and special reports. The conversation emphasizes the importance of community, support, and finding joy during the holidays, even amidst personal struggles. The episode concludes with reflections on the meaning of Christmas and an invitation to upcoming recovery events. Closing Song: Dysfunctional Family Christmas by Matthew West. #recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction 

Text Me!If you've ever told yourself… “I just need to try harder.” “I should be able to control this.” “Tomorrow will be different.”…but nothing actually changes, this episode is for you.Today, I break down the REAL reason quitting feels impossible when you're relying on willpower alone and why this doesn't mean you're weak. It means you're using the wrong tool for the job.If you're trying to figure out how to stop drinking every night, tired of white-knuckling your way through evenings, or wondering why logic and good intentions never seem to stick, you'll finally understand what's going on beneath the surface.This episode is especially supportive for women who feel frustrated, ashamed, discouraged, or confused about why they can be successful in every other area of life… except this one.In this episode, you'll learn:Why willpower is a temporary emotion, not a strategyHow alcohol hijacks the brain's reward systemWhy cutting back feels impossible when you're stressedThe deeper emotional triggers behind drinkingWhat actually works if you want long-term changeHow to build real coping tools so you know how to relax without alcoholWhy sobriety coaching helps you succeed without burnout or perfectionismThe strategy that replaces shame and willpower with clarity and confidenceIf you're stuck in the “I will do better tomorrow” loop, this episode will help you understand why and how to break free, finally.Resources Mentioned:Subscribe to my YouTube Channel1:1 CoachingMy Book PODCAST SPONSOR:This episode is sponsored by Soberlink, a trusted accountability tool for anyone navigating early recovery. Whether you're rebuilding trust with loved ones or want more structure in your sobriety, Soberlink offers a discreet and empowering way to stay on track.Sober Vibes listeners, sign up HERE and claim our $100 Enrollment Bonus.This episode is sponsored by ExactNature, a trusted holistic tool for anyone navigating recovery and sobriety. Use code SV25 at checkout to save on your order. Click here to shop and save. Grab my Masterclass for Free:Gain access to my Masterclass when you submit a review on iTunes. Email me sobervibes@gmail.com with a screenshot of the review, and I will send you the code to unlock my Masterclass for free!Thank you for tuning in!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

This week, Justin sits down with bestselling author Laura McKowen for an honest, layered conversation about sobriety, identity, creative calling, and the slow, often painful work of becoming whole. Together they explore:• Why “place” matters for emotional and spiritual grounding• The strange internal pull that guides creative people long before they have language for it• How early snippets of desire can act as breadcrumbs into a future self• The difference between writing for yourself and writing for publication• Why AA saved Laura's life—and where its framing can unintentionally keep people small• How relapse, repeated “Day Ones,” and imperfect recovery are part of the human journey• The relationship between money, creativity, and integrity• Why the long work of sobriety is ultimately a long work of identityThe episode closes with a reading from In the Low and a reflection on why wholeness—not speed, not perfection—is the actual goal.Laura's Website - https://www.lauramckowen.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/laura_mckowen Links For Justin:Read Justin's SubstackOrder In The Low - NEW Book with Scott EricksonCoaching with JustinOrder In Rest - New Book of PoemsOrder Sacred StridesJustinMcRoberts.comSupport this podcastNEW Single - Let GoNEW Music - Sliver of HopeNEW Music - The Dood and The BirdThe Book - It Is What You Make itHearts and Minds Amazon Barnes and Noble

LOVE LANGUAGES. In this episode of the Came to Believe Recovery Podcast, hosts The Montyman and Tom Williams discuss various aspects of recovery, including navigating family gatherings during the holidays, understanding love languages, and the importance of emotional sobriety. They address listener questions about coping with family dynamics, the significance of quality time, and the role of physical touch in relationships. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-awareness in communication and the impact of love languages on building meaningful connections. #recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction 

Living sober is one thing. Living emotionally sober is where the real work starts. Most of us didn't drink because life was hard — we drank because feelings were hard. Emotional sobriety is the ability to sit in life without letting our reactions run the show. In today's Daily Trudge, we're breaking down what emotional sobriety actually means, why it's harder than putting the drink down, and the simple tools that make the biggest impact. No fluff. No sugarcoating. Just real recovery. What you'll walk away with: How to respond instead of react How to stop letting feelings become facts How to avoid emotional hangovers Tools that keep your head and your heart steady Why emotional sobriety is the key to long-term recovery I speak plainly, and I don't co-sign BS. We talk truth so it stops running our lives — and we trudge through this stuff together.

Text Me!If you keep telling yourself you're going to “cut back,” drink less, or stop pouring that next glass… yet somehow end up in the same cycle, this episode is for you.In today's conversation, I break down the real reason it's so hard to change your drinking, the hidden excuses and internal stories that subtly keep you stuck. Whether you're trying to figure out how to stop drinking wine, struggling with alcohol and stress, or wondering why the desire to change isn't matching your follow-through, this episode brings clarity and compassion to the process.These excuses aren't about weakness. They're protective patterns your brain uses to avoid discomfort, and once you understand them, everything begins to shift.In this episode, you'll learn:The six most common excuses keeping women stuck in the drink-less cycle Why rationalizing your drinking feels so convincing in the moment How emotional bargaining (like “I deserve it”) sneaks in Why waiting for life to “calm down” doesn't workHow these patterns block real progress and peaceWhy sobriety coaching helps you break the pattern and move forwardWhat to do when you're ready to make a change but feel terrified to startTools for early mindset shifts and how to relax without alcoholIf you're sober curious, frustrated with yourself, or tired of making promises you can't seem to keep, this episode will help you understand why and what to do next.Resources Mentioned: Subscribe to my YouTube ChannelPODCAST SPONSOR:This episode is sponsored by Soberlink, a trusted accountability tool for anyone navigating early recovery. Whether you're rebuilding trust with loved ones or want more structure in your sobriety, Soberlink offers a discreet and empowering way to stay on track.Sober Vibes listeners, sign up HERE and claim our $100 Enrollment Bonus.This episode is sponsored by ExactNature, a trusted holistic tool for anyone navigating recovery and sobriety. Use code SV25 at checkout to save on your order. Click here to shop and save. Grab my Masterclass for Free:Gain access to my Masterclass when you submit a review on iTunes. Email me sobervibes@gmail.com with a screenshot of the review, and I will send you the code to unlock my Masterclass for free!Thank you for tuning in!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

Emotional sobriety doesn't come free — it costs comfort, ego, self-pity, and the illusion that we can control everything. The moment we stop drinking, we start facing the real work: feeling feelings, taking responsibility, letting go, and learning how to respond instead of react. Emotional sobriety is the point where recovery stops being about not drinking and starts being about living differently. Today we talk about what it costs, why it's worth it, and how it becomes the foundation for long-term serenity.

I am so excited to bring back Meg Geisewite for a second time on the SobahSistahs Podcast!If you don't already know Meg, she's the author of the bestselling book Intoxicating Lies: One Woman's Journey to Freedom from Gray Area Drinking, and her work has changed so many women's lives.In this episode, Meg and I dive deep into emotional sobriety the phase of healing that begins after we put down the drink.Meg shares:✨ Why the early days of sobriety feel the hardest✨ How to rewire your brain to recognize alcohol for what it truly is✨ The connection between gray area drinking, mental health, and women's emotional load✨ Why emotional sobriety is the “next level” of freedom so many of us crave

WHEN TO KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT. In this episode of The Take 12 Recovery Radio Show, the hosts discuss the significance of knowing when to speak and when to remain silent, particularly in the context of recovery and personal growth. They explore the power of words, the importance of self-control, and share personal anecdotes that highlight the challenges and benefits of restraint in communication. The conversation emphasizes that silence can be a strategic choice that fosters better relationships and understanding. Closing Song: My Soul is a Silent Song by Ryder Knox. #recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction 

Send us a textIn this transformative episode of Living the Dream with Curveball, we sit down with Natalie Bedard, affectionately known as Nat, an emotional healer and nervous system guide. As the founder of Lift Oneself, Nat shares her remarkable journey from facing a life-threatening health crisis to discovering the healing powers of meditation and emotional sobriety. She explains the significance of regulating the nervous system and how her insights can help others on their path to emotional wellness. Nat guides us through a mindful moment, demonstrating the power of breathwork in reconnecting with our inner selves. We delve into the concept of emotional sobriety, discussing the importance of feeling emotions without judgment and learning to process them healthily. With her upcoming book titled "The Gift Wrapped in Sandpaper," Nat offers a glimpse into her mission to foster community and support in the healing journey. Tune in for an enlightening conversation filled with wisdom, vulnerability, and practical tips for nurturing your emotional health and well-being!

Dr. Vitz talks about the five breakthroughs you experience in Emotional Sobriety training, starting with no longer needing to react to emotional overwhelm.

Text Me!Still feeling drained even after quitting drinking? You're not imagining it. Alcohol quietly disrupts your hormones, and that imbalance steals your energy, focus, and calm.In this week's episode of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I break down how alcohol affects cortisol, estrogen, insulin, and sleep, and what happens when you finally let your body reset. Whether you're in your first 30 days without alcohol, learning how to stop drinking every night, or curious about how to stop drinking wine and feel better, this episode connects the dots between alcohol, stress, and healing.What You Will Learn In This Episode:How alcohol hijacks hormones that control mood, metabolism, and energyThe link between alcohol and stress, why it raises cortisol and anxietyWhy exhaustion, irritability, and cravings are hormonal, not willpower problemsWhat improves in your first 90 days after quitting alcoholHow to naturally support hormone balance and sleep recoveryIf you've been wondering why you still feel “off” after quitting, this episode will help you understand what's happening inside your body and remind you that balance is coming back. Listen now: Alcohol and Hormones: The Hidden Energy Drain That Disappears When You Quit Drinking If you're noticing shifts in your hormones or energy after quitting, join the Sobriety Circle for guidance, accountability, and community support as you rebuild your energy and confidence. CLICK HERE TO JOIN.Resources Mentioned:ReLyte-Use Code SoberVibes at Checkout to SaveCourtney's Website Join the Sobriety Circle 1:1 Sober Coaching PODCAST SPONSOR:This episode is sponsored by Soberlink, a trusted accountability tool for anyone navigating early recovery. Whether you're rebuilding trust with loved ones or want more structure in your sobriety, Soberlink offers a discreet and empowering way to stay on track.Sober Vibes listeners, sign up HERE and claim our $100 Enrollment Bonus.This episode is sponsored by ExactNature, a trusted holistic tool for anyone navigating recovery and sobriety. Use code SV25 at checkout to receive a discount on your order. Click here to shop and save. Grab my Masterclass for Free:Gain access to my Masterclass when you submit a review on iTunes. Email me sobervibes@gmail.com with a screenshot of the review, and I will send you the code to unlock my Masterclass for free!Thank you for tuning in!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

Text Me!If you've ever told yourself, “A glass of wine helps me sleep,” this episode is going to change the way you think about rest forever.In this week's episode of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I unpack the truth about alcohol's effect on your sleep cycle and why even small amounts of alcohol can destroy the rest your body needs to recover truly.I dive into how alcohol disrupts REM sleep, spikes stress hormones, and leaves you waking up anxious, wired, and exhausted. Whether you're trying to stop drinking wine, dealing with grey area drinking, or learning how to relax without alcohol, this conversation will help you finally understand why you're so tired and what to do about it.What You Will Learn In This Episode:The connection between alcohol and stress, and why it fuels anxiety Why do you wake up at 3 a.m. and can't fall back asleep How alcohol interferes with hormones like cortisol, estrogen, and melatonin What happens to your sleep when you quit drinking Tools to rebuild real rest and support your nervous systemThe role of sobriety coaching and the sober community in recovery and better sleep How to regulate your body and mind through natural calming routinesIf you've been feeling exhausted, anxious, or mentally foggy even after quitting drinking, this episode will help you connect the dots. Rest is recovery, and it's time to get yours back.Listen now: Alcohol and Sleep: The Disturbing Effects of Alcohol on Sleep You Haven't Heard AboutResources Mentioned:ReLyte-Use Code SoberVibes at Checkout to SaveCourtney's Website Join the Sobriety Circle 1:1 Sober Coaching PODCAST SPONSOR:This episode is sponsored by Soberlink, a trusted accountability tool for anyone navigating early recovery. Whether you're rebuilding trust with loved ones or want more structure in your sobriety, Soberlink offers a discreet and empowering way to stay on track.Sober Vibes listeners, sign up HERE and claim our $100 Enrollment Bonus.This episode is sponsored by ExactNature, a trusted holistic tool for anyone navigating recovery and sobriety. Use code SV25 at checkout to receive a discount on your order. Click here to shop and save. Grab my Masterclass for Free:Gain access to my Masterclass when you submit a review on iTunes. Email me sobervibes@gmail.com with a screenshot of the review, and I will send you the code to unlock my Masterclass for free!Hope this episode helps you today, and thank you for tuning in!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

Text Me!What really happens after you quit drinking, and how do you rebuild your identity once alcohol is out of the picture?In episode 248 of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I sit down with Sarah Treacy, founder of The Sober Adventure Collective and creator of Sobriety Is the New Epic, a virtual speaker series redefining what recovery can look like. After quitting alcohol in 2020 and leaving her 20-year corporate marketing career in 2024, Sarah's mission is clear: sobriety isn't boring or restrictive, it's your next great adventure.Together, we talk about getting sober during COVID, moving from secrecy to confidence, and building a community that makes alcohol-free living feel expansive, not small. Sarah shares tangible tools for identity shifts, emotional regulation, and creating a life that feels aligned, purpose-driven, and fun.What You Will Learn in This Episode: Quitting alcohol to protect your career and health and what truly happens after you quit drinking The connection between alcohol and anxiety, and alcohol and depression Working through shame, identity, and fear of judgment as a sober curious womanBuilding sober community through retreats and adventure-based connectionPractical quitting alcohol tips for cravings, emotions, and confidenceIf you've been wondering how to step into your new identity after quitting alcohol or you're craving proof that sobriety can be joyful, connected, and creative this conversation will inspire you to see recovery as the adventure of a lifetime.Join HERE for The Speaker SeriesTo Connect with Sarah-Website InstagramPODCAST SPONSOR:This episode is sponsored by Soberlink, a trusted accountability tool for anyone navigating early recovery. Whether you're rebuilding trust with loved ones or want more structure in your sobriety, Soberlink offers a discreet and empowering way to stay on track.Sober Vibes listeners, sign up HERE and claim our $100 Enrollment Bonus.This episode is sponsored by ExactNature, a trusted holistic tool for anyone navigating recovery and sobriety. Use code SV25 at checkout to save on your order. Click here to shop and save. 

Send us a textEver notice how the same habits that stabilize recovery also stabilize your pipeline? We dig into the leadership mindset that sits beneath selling, sobriety, and self-mastery, and why the strongest credibility comes from consistency, not a job title. From the first minute, we challenge the blame game and replace it with ownership—controlling the process in sales and our actions in life—so results stop being random and start being repeatable.We unpack emotional sobriety as a competitive edge: the ability to stay calm when deals wobble, to pause instead of panic, and to meet objections with curiosity. That shift turns pressure into empathy and fear into trust. Along the way, we show how feedback and humility create an ongoing growth loop. Coachability beats charisma, and pride isolates; the people who keep winning ask what could I have done better even when they win, then translate that insight into the next call, the next meeting, the next day sober.You'll hear practical standards you can apply right now: prepare before you perform, track your reps, and model the behavior you want from your team. We talk about moving from achievement to contribution—service in recovery and value in sales—and how alignment with your values attracts the right clients, mentors, and opportunities. Titles don't lead; predictable integrity does. When you lead yourself first, you build a life and a business that others can trust.If this resonated, share it with someone who needs a reset. Subscribe for new episodes every Friday at 4 a.m., and leave a review so more people can find the show. What's the one habit you'll change today to lead yourself better? Support the show https://www.audible.com/pd/9-Simple-Steps-to-Sell-More-ht-Audiobook/B0D4SJYD4Q?source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=library_overflowhttps://www.amazon.com/Simple-Steps-Sell-More-Stereotypes-ebook/dp/B0BRNSFYG6/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1OSB7HX6FQMHS&keywords=corey+berrier&qid=1674232549&sprefix=%2Caps%2C93&sr=8-1 https://www.linkedin.com/in/coreysalescoach/

Dr. Vitz talks about the five principles of Emotional Sobriety, concluding this week with our replacing ego with humility.

Dr. Vitz talks about the five principles of Emotional Sobriety, continuing this week with how we train our chemistry.

Why character work never ends -- and how to dismantle the ego patterns and excuses keeping you stuck. You don't do character work once and ride off into a peaceful sober sunset. You don't quit drinking and magically become the healthiest version of yourself. This work never ends. And if that sentence annoyed you a little -- you're exactly who this episode is for. This episode is a wake-up call if you've been sober for weeks, months, or years—and life feels flat, repetitive, emotionally dull, like you're just going through the motions. No joy. No spark. No goals. That's a sign your emotional growth has stalled. You're not fired up about life. You're avoiding discomfort instead of growing. And your excuses sound really reasonable… but they're killing your progress. This is where relapse starts—not always with alcohol, but with chaos, overspending, overeating, overworking, control, drama… anything to feel something. That's why this whole idea that "more time sober = more maturity" is garbage. Character isn't measured in time. It's measured in effort and behavior. And plenty of people have a lot of time sober but stop working on themselves - and they'll get stuck just as quick as someone with 10 days sober. Today, we dig into the real problem: it isn't alcohol anymore. It's ego, excuses, and emotional stagnation.

Dr. Vitz talks about the five principles of Emotional Sobriety, continuing this week with retraining our perceptions.

Dr. Vitz talks about the five principles of Emotional Sobriety, proceeding this week with basing our internal chemistry on integrity.

Dr. Vitz talks about the five principles of Emotional Sobriety, starting this week with how and why we must take ownership of our internal chemistry.

This is the last episode of Workshop Week, posting a (single episode) full workshop daily for seven days. Assorted topics and lengths. Workshop 7 of 7, if you want more "workshop weeks" drop me an email and let me know :) Polly P is conducting this workshop on the topic of emotional sobriety in 2006, Polly got sober in 1977. This workshop is just under 2 hours long. Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3000+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

Text Me!In episode 246 of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I sit down with Melissa McKinney, licensed addictions counselor, artist, and author, to talk about what truly keeps recovery strong, especially as sobriety evolves over the years.Melissa shares what changes from year seven to year thirteen alcohol-free, and we dive into the four most important areas that help you stay grounded, self-aware, and emotionally connected long after you quit drinking.From burnout and art-driven healing to boundaries, trusted circles, and emotional sobriety, this conversation is packed with wisdom, honesty, and hope.What You Will Learn In This Episode: Lessons from 13 years alcohol-free and how clarity replaces chaos Healing a mental breakdown through art, reflection, and self-compassion Boundaries as a form of protection, peace, and integrity How self-awareness helps you recognize triggers, body cues, and old patterns Connection-building and clear, kind communication Accountability without shame using “I” statementsIf you're ready to strengthen your recovery, protect your peace, and continue growing beyond early sobriety, this conversation will inspire you to keep showing up for yourself in new ways.

MJ's recovery journey began in the rooms, but it unfolded with many challenges. A turning point came through a sequence of life events that eventually led her to Zoom, where she encountered a deeper spiritual awakening. There she grasped a vital truth: the 12 Steps were not meant to be spoken about in theory, but lived in daily practice. Embracing that path, MJ has found a life beyond her imagination - anchored in God, sustained by recovery, and fulfilled by the joy of passing the message to others.Reco12 Afro-Euro Timezone is a Reco12 Resource in and for the Afro-Euro time zone hosted by Karen A.  We hope that you will join us and draw strength and hope from these podcasts that we will host about every Friday at 10:00 am Israel time and 8:00 am GMT.Reco12 appreciates your help in keeping us working our 12th Step with these great resources and services for the addict and loved ones.  We gratefully accept contributions to help cover the costs of the Zoom platform, podcast platform, web hosting, and administrative costs.  To become a Reco12 Spearhead you can quickly and easily become a monthly donor here: https://www.reco12.com/support  or you can do one-time donations through PayPal (https://www.paypal.me/reco12)  or Venmo:  @Reco-Twelve .  Thanks for your support!If you would like to get in contact with either Karen A or MJ please send an email to reco12pod@gmail.com and we will get you connected with them.Information on Noodle It Out with Nikki M Big Book Roundtable Informational Seeking and educating on how to donate to Reco12.Support the showPrivate Facebook GroupInstagram PageBecome a Reco12 Spearhead (Monthly Supporter)PatreonPayPalVenmo: @Reco-TwelveYouTube ChannelReco12 WebsiteEmail: reco12pod@gmail.com to join WhatsApp GroupReco12 Shares PodcastReco12 Shares Record a Share LinkReco12 Noodle It Out with Nikki M PodcastReco12 Big Book Roundtable Podcast

You don't have a willpower problem. You have a nervous system problem. In this episode, I'm breaking down the eight principles of self-directed neuroplasticity—how to actually rewire your brain so drinking less stops being a battle and starts becoming automatic. Here's what most people don't understand: You can't change your drinking habits while you're operating in overwhelm. Your brain literally doesn't have access to the circuits required for behavior change when you're in survival mode. Which is why all the rules, commitments, and white-knuckling haven't worked. You've been trying to force change from a state that makes change neurologically impossible. In this episode, you'll learn: Why alcohol use disorder is a stress response pattern, not a character flaw The 5 steps of the stress response (and why recognizing The Wall changes everything) Why shame makes change impossible—and what to do instead The 8 principles that make lasting brain change possible Why short, gentle daily somatic practices work better than dramatic or intense lifestyle changes How to build new habits without fighting the old ones This isn't fluffy self-help. This is neuroscience. And once you understand how your brain actually works, you stop blaming yourself and start solving the real problem. Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc YouTube: @hangoverwhisperer   Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you're struggling with?  Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!

Dr. Andrew Krieger, DSW, MBA, LCSW-S, LCDC, is a private practice psychotherapist with extensive experience in direct practice social work, clinical program design and development, addiction treatment, and group psychotherapy. He received his Doctor of Social Work from the University of Southern California and holds both a Master of Clinical Social Work and a Master of Business Administration from the University of Houston. Over the past 20 years, Dr. Krieger has worked with individuals and families as a private practice and group psychotherapist, specializing in addictive disorders, family therapy, group psychotherapy, and process addictions. He's also held clinical positions at some of the leading addiction treatment programs in Texas.  As Chief Executive Officer of Contemporary Medicine Associates (CMA) — the primary practice of Dr. Bo Allaire and Dr. Andrew Krieger — he leads a team specializing in the diagnosis and treatment of substance use disorders. CMA also provides third-party medical services for psychiatric and addiction treatment facilities, as well as clinical and business consulting services for mental health providers.  Originally founded over 20 years ago by Dr. Eugene Degner, one of the first board-certified addiction medicine doctors in Texas and a pioneer in the medical treatment of alcohol and drug addiction, CMA continues to honor Dr. Degner's legacy through compassionate, expert care.  Today, their doctors, nurses, and mental health professionals serve patients and families at every stage of addiction and recovery — providing a caring, non-judgmental environment where healing can truly begin. They also offer comprehensive support for individuals with mental health conditions such as depression, trauma, and anxiety. In this conversation, Dr. Jason Powers and Dr. Andrew Krieger discuss the different phases of recovery, the science behind post-acute withdrawal syndrome, and the meaning of emotional sobriety. Together, they explore how long-term recovery is less about counting the years and more about integrity, emotional growth, and learning to live a life that's genuinely fulfilling. Topics Discussed: Defining Post-Acute Withdrawal Syndrome (PAWS) The difference between co-occurring disorders & substance use disorder Breaking down emotional sobriety into 3 main categories Understanding the phases of recovery and personal growth How perspective and integrity define Long-Term Sobriety, not just time Finding fulfillment beyond survival in recovery — CHAPTERS:  00:00 Introduction to Positive Recovery MD 01:09 Meet Our Guest: Andrew Krieger 01:40 Andrew's Journey to Sobriety 03:45 Career Transition and Professional Growth 06:36 Phases of Recovery 09:57 Understanding Post-Acute Withdrawal Syndrome & Co-Occurring Disorders 15:48 Emotional Sobriety Explained 20:00 Why Length of Abstinence Doesn't Equate to Emotional Maturity 21:40 Personal Stories in Early Recovery 23:55 The Importance of Supportive Relationships and Accountability 27:55 Finding a Balance in Sobriety and New Experiences in Recovery  31:58 Reflections on Personal Journey and Finding Peace  — Connect with Dr. Andrew Krieger:  Website: www.cmamed.com  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-krieger-6864745  — Connect with PRC on Social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/positiverecoverycenters  FB: https://www.facebook.com/PositiveRecoveryCenters  TT: https://www.tiktok.com/@positiverecoverycenter  LI: https://www.linkedin.com/company/positiverecoverycenters  YT: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4JcDF1gjlYch4V4iBbCgZg Want even more expert insights and support on the recovery journey? Subscribe to our newsletter for inspiration, mental health tips, and community updates—straight to your inbox!

Text Me!Do you reach for a drink at the end of a stressful day, thinking it will help you relax? You're not alone. Stress is one of the biggest triggers for drinking but alcohol and stress are more connected than most people realize.In episode 241 of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I'm breaking down the hidden link between alcohol and burnout, why that “relief” you feel is temporary, and how alcohol quietly fuels anxiety, poor sleep, and exhaustion. You'll also learn what to do instead so you can handle stress in healthy, lasting ways.Here's what you will learn in this episode: Why alcohol spikes cortisol and disrupts your nervous system How alcohol and sleep are connected (and why rest improves without booze) The burnout cycle: stress → drink → poor sleep → more stress → repeat Why emotional avoidance keeps you stuck—and how to start practicing emotional sobriety Simple daily rituals to relax without pouring a drink How support from a sober coach can help you break the stress-drink-burnout cycleIf you've been telling yourself alcohol is the answer to stress, this episode will show you the truth and give you tools to relax without it.And if you're ready for extra support, that's exactly what I do with my clients. Coaching gives you tools that actually work, so you don't have to white-knuckle stress on your own.Resources Mentioned:Sober 1:1 Coaching The Sobriety Circle The After-Emotional Sobriety GuideSubscribe to the Sober Vibes Podcast on YouTubeFree ResourcesPODCAST SPONSOR:This episode is sponsored by Soberlink, a trusted accountability tool for anyone navigating early recovery. Whether you're rebuilding trust with loved ones or want more structure in your sobriety, Soberlink offers a discreet and empowering way to stay on track.Sober Vibes listeners get $50 off their device!Grab your discount here!Hope this episode helps you today, and thank you for tuning in!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

This is the second part of a two part workshop on Emotional Sobriety was led by Joe & Charlie along with John W, it was held at the Wilson House in 1990. This part touches on the emotional sobriety of the group and AA as a whole. Part 2 of 2. Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3000+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

This two part workshop on Emotional Sobriety was led by Joe & Charlie along with John W, it was held at the  Wilson House in 1990. This ends a little abruptly but it picks up in part 2. Part 1 of 2. Support Sober Cast: https://sobercast.com/donate Email: sobercast@gmail.com Sober Cast has 3000+ episodes available, visit SoberCast.com to access all the episodes where you can easily find topics or specific speakers using tags or search. https://sobercast.com

We all have a primary pattern of dealing with relational conflict. There are a scant few, in my experience, who do it with health and peace. The rest tend to fall into what psychologists have labeled, Fight, Flight, or Freeze tendencies. I'm not a fighter, and viewed myself as generally freezing in the moment of conflict, masked by thinking I was just being cool and calm, waiting for it to just end so I could take flight and remove myself. I thought I was valiant for my lack of fighting. Righteous and unshakable. And I thought I was protecting everyone, myself included. I did whatever it took to, choose your word: appease, placate, tolerate, or put up with. What I realize now is I was just being dishonest to myself and everyone, and while I thought I was being strong, I now view it as being incredibly weak. Again, dishonest. And what was really happening is I grew bitter and was slowly building walls with each brick of appeasing. The new term for this and what I now relate to, is Fawning. And this is the podcast today. I sat down with Dr. Ingrid Clayton who is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master's in transpersonal psychology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology.  She's had a thriving private practice for more than sixteen years and is a regular contributor to Psychology Today, where her blog “Emotional Sobriety” has had more than a million views. She has now come out with the first ever, commercial book on this concept of fawning, it's titled, FAWNING: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves—and How to Find our Way Back. Fawning is a hallmark of codependency, and often occurs when we can't fight or flee because we have to remain in relationship with the person or situation we are struggling with. It is highly relevant to why we stay in bad jobs, fall into unhealthy partnerships, and tolerate dysfunctional environments, even when it seems obvious to others we should go or take drastic steps to try and correct things. Ingrid says fawning can serve a purpose as an emergency adaptive strategy that protects us from losing connection with people we depend on, but it becomes a real problem when it turns from the emergency coping mechanism to compulsory in our day to day lives. The good news of course is we can break the pattern of chronic fawning once we see the trauma response for what it is. I was incredibly excited to talk with Ingrid and this conversation proved invaluable for me. I hope it will be for you as well, as my feeling is that most of us suffer from aspects of fawning in certain relationships and circumstances in our lives. Connect with Ingrid on IG @ingridclaytonphd and find the new book Fawning that is hitting bookstores now. Coming up next, my conversation with Dr Ingrid Clayton on the pervasiveness of Fawning and how to get out of this insidious trauma response. Sign up for your $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to start your free trial Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices