Podcasts about pure desire

Lust Dr. Eric J. Gilchrest | August 30, 2026 Check out the weekly sermon here or on our SRBC podcast on Apple Podcast and Spotify. While you're at it, check us out on Facebook and Instagram too. Like what you hear? We'd love to know.At South Run, we read every message personally. Whether you have a question, want to share how God is moving in your life, or are thinking about visiting in person, this is the place to start. If you click the link below, Pastor Eric will personally reach out to you. Listening online? Let us know. Sermon Transcript Pastor Eric J GlchrestIt's good to be with you this morning. I come bringing an exciting sermon to you.I'm glad you're here today. If you are new to South Run Baptist Church, I first want to say welcome. We are so pleased that you have chosen to join us this morning. I believe you're here for a reason. I do believe that God has brought you to this place at this time because he has something for you. I believe this of all of us gathered together here. But you should know you've come on a unique Sunday because we've been working through, well, actually, I was thinking about this. We're kind of like a set of Russian nesting dolls this year. So the broad theme is transformation. We've been kind of working on that all year long. And then we've been on this two ways journey where there's these two ways that Jesus offers us abundant life, but he says it's the narrow way, right? And so it requires some adeptness at traversing that narrow way. And then he talks about the broad way, which leads to destruction. And on the broad way, it appears that this is in many ways the easy way. This is the path of least resistance. And so we've been, the nesting doll has been on that path of least resistance. And to do that, we've been talking about the seven deadly sins, right? And so here we are, we're at the 7th of seven. And so if you've come for the first time this morning, you've come on a Sunday in which we are talking about lust. Before we get there, this is a test for those of you who have been with us the whole journey to see if you can name the other six. And if you can't, well, then we're going to start it all over again and we'll do it together. So say them with me and I'll parrot them back to you. What would one of them be? Enri. Gluttony, wrath and sloth, greed, I think we said anger, and vanity, somebody said. I think we got them. Those are the six, leaving us today's message on lust. Part of what we've been trying to do with all of them is also tie together how our technologies the phones in our pockets, the computers that we all sit behind every day, they shape us and they form us and they misshape us and they malform us into beings we were never intended to be. And so my hope through this whole time together actually has been to demonstrate to you that the object in your pocket is not value neutral, that it is having an effect on you in one way or another. And I can really think of no better example than this morning's topic. And so we will talk about some sensitive issues. I've tried to do so in a fashion that is sensitive to all of the various ears this morning, but do know that this is what we're talking about. Let's begin with prayer. God our Father in heaven, you look down at your children and you want what is good for us. You want what is best. You want us to live lives filled with life and abundance and all that is good. And God, yet sometimes we choose the lesser way and we find ourselves going down paths we were never intended to go down, being shaped into people we were never intended to be. And this morning, Lord, speak to us. Speak to our hearts. Speak to our marriages and our families, that we might live lives according to your word, but according to the grain of the universe that you have created, the good universe, the one we intend to live in, the kingdom of God. I pray this in Christ's holy name, amen. You should have gotten a handout when you came in, at least the adults in the room. Yeah, I'll take it, just to wave it around. At some point in the sermon, we will get to this. And this may end up being the most practical sermon I could possibly give to you where there's an actual handout that you can take home with you to give you some resources for how to walk this way well. The Bible has a lot to say about sex. If you've ever read the Bible in full cover to cover, you might be surprised about what you find there. And now that I think about it, I should probably use this as a pitch when I try to get you to read the Bible more often because sex sells and it's filled with it. even has a whole book devoted to it. Did you know this? It's called the Song of Solomon. who himself had 1000 wives and concubines and apparently knew something about the matter. If you think it's a prudish book or that its authors would clutch their pearls at the smallest innuendo, well, you've simply not read close enough. But if you're new to the Bible reading thing and you thought this way, you would be forgiven. Because often this is how we Christians approach the topic, sheepishly in whispers And I confess it's how I often approach this topic, especially from the pulpit. I get nervous and frankly a little weird about it, which is why I'm writing this sermon out rather than trying to go off script. It'll keep me from blushing, hopefully. If the Bible is okay with this topic, then we probably should be too. So I'm going to speak frankly about the matter while recognizing that our congregation has members of all ages listening right now. Parents, you shouldn't feel on edge for what is about to happen, but know that it might spark some interesting conversations around the lunch table that I think you're ready for. And in fact, I encourage these conversations. It's a hope that I have for all of us to be a little more open and in dialogue with one another about this matter. But that said, if at any point you feel the need to take a bathroom break with your child, please go right ahead. I won't be offended. In the beginning, God created the Garden of Eden. And he said to that first couple, be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth. And I know of only one way to be fruitful and to multiply. There's also the matter of Genesis 2, 24, in which God tells the first couple while they're still enjoying the safety of the garden, that when the two are joined together, they become one flesh. Two bodies united into one body. Sounds like a description of the topic we're talking about today. which means to me that God creates it as part of the good creation. It is something that is beautiful, is certainly enjoyable, and I would even say it is spiritual. Two becoming one is a mystery. But don't take my word. It's what Paul says in Ephesians 5 when he compares marriage to our union with Christ. And he also raises the two becoming one mystery as a warning to the Corinthian people in 1 Corinthians 6, who are uniting themselves with temple prostitutes. And Jesus raises the two becoming one mystery as a way to affirm marriage and to limit divorce. Which is all to say, that Genesis and Jesus and Paul, they talk about two becoming one flesh as something to happen within the marriage covenant. The covenant binds two people together by law and by custom, and it requires that the two people remain together in sickness and in health and richer and poorer till death do us part. And why? because it is only this kind of union that makes it safe to practice the deep magic we call sex. There are two ways to preach a sermon about sin, one that I would call an Old Testament sermon and the other a New Testament sermon. The difference is subtle but important. The Old Testament sermon relies on the law. It tells you where the boundaries are. are external to you. For example, an Old Testament sermon tells you the rules to keep and then you simply keep them. Don't murder, don't steal, don't lie, don't break the Sabbath and so on. An Old Testament sermon on adultery would stick to the basics. Don't have sex outside of marriage and you're good to go. But A New Testament sermon, the kind that Jesus would give, drives us deeper to the heart of the matter. which is always a matter of the heart. Jesus is helping us fulfill the Old Testament promise that Jeremiah 31, 33 expresses when he says, I will put my law within them and I will write the law on their hearts and I will be their God and they will be my people. Jesus is trying to write the law on our hearts and to do that, You must look below the surface, which is what Jesus is doing in his most famous sermon, the Sermon on the Mount, Matthew chapter 5. Please turn there now and we'll read verses 27 to 30. You have heard it said, you shall not commit adultery, but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. And if your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away, for it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away, for it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell. Now some people want to read their Bible with a precise literalism that demands that every last passage be understood with no nuance. But let's all hope that Jesus is here using hyperbole. Pulling out your eye or cutting off your hand is a bold move. But I'll say in all of my years of church life, and I've had many, I've met a lot of people with a lust problem. but I've never met a single person wearing an eye patch. Here's what Jesus is saying in brief if you ask me. The root of the external act of adultery happens in your heart well before it happens when you walk into a bedroom. If you are to be a kingdom follower, living life abundant, then you will need to get radical in your attempts to root out the heart condition because the alternative is a road that leads to Gehenna, a place that elsewhere is said to be filled with weeping and gnashing of teeth. If you've ever known someone whose partner has cheated on them or who has been sexually assaulted or abused, or someone who has lost a spouse or a job or ministry because of this sin, then you know that the weeping And the anxious grinding of the teeth isn't just waiting on the other side. It starts in the here and the now. How many lives have been broken by this sin? How many marriages and families have been shattered by it? So let's talk about what's in the heart. When I was a kid, Before the internet existed in my house and well before the iPhone had the internet in everyone's pocket, I remember my mom telling me that I shouldn't look at dirty magazines. When my neighbor, Sam Weissman, came outside with his dad's Playboys, I ran inside because I did not want to disappoint my mom. And then later, about a year later, we were digging in a forested area at my friend's house. His name was Brian. And we dug up a stash of more magazines. And once again, I ran away back home because I did not want to disappoint my mom because I wanted to be a good boy. This was a different age and a time when temptation didn't follow you everywhere you went. The magazines stood waiting in a forest for years. But the screens that you take everywhere are constantly offering temptation. The internet made *********** readily available, cheap and easy to find. The smartphone, it made it available everywhere you went. The algorithm and social media learned who you are and began to feed you whatever it takes for you to spend more and more time on your device. If you're a boy or a young man, the girls too, the algorithm knows, and it knows that lust is a powerful drug, and so it is ready to feed you images again and again before you finally say yes. The magazines no longer stay put. They follow you home and everywhere else you go. Let's start with some statistics. Common Sense Media surveyed teens between 13 and 17 years old in 2023 and here's what they found. 73% have watched *********** online, 54% saw it by age 13, 15% by age 10 or younger. The average age of first exposure is 12 and 58% first encountered it accidentally. That's just the kids, the adults in the room. Barna and Pure Desire did a survey in 2024. Here's what they found. 54% of practicing Christians reported viewing **** compared to 68% of non-Christians. Among pastors, 67% report a personal history and then nearly one in five of those currently struggle. of practicing Christians view it weekly. 75% of Christian men and 40% of Christian women report viewing occasionally. And 62% of Christians agree a person can regularly view *********** and live a sexually healthy life only four points below the general public. Jesus says that lust is part of the broad Rd. that leads to Gehenna. But 62% of Christians seem to disagree. The statistics bear out something very important here. Lust and *********** is something that doesn't just go away when you get older. We must all learn to fight this battle, no matter the age. Running from the magazines weren't the end of my personal history. So for me, I know I need to stay vigilant about this. In my house, we talk about these things openly. We have rules and protocols that I want to share with you around our technology. If you were here for a Sunday morning Bible study, we've talked through some of these and you should have received a sheet of paper, adults, as you walked in that hopefully will guide you through some of what I'm going to say that we went a little deeper this morning in Sunday school. I think of lust a little bit like I think about the weeds in my yard. As long as there's a plan and a strategy that is actively keeping the weeds at bay, the yard is going to look great. But as soon as that stops, the yard goes untended. And then once you start looking for it, you start to see more and more weeds popping up here and there until eventually you look out and you realize there's weeds everywhere. And you wonder how'd that happen? If you're a child, it might happen like this. You're simply playing a video game and up pops an ad with a voluptuous woman in something that can't really be called clothing, encouraging you to visit her website. Or maybe you're simply on a website like me, Bible Gateway, preparing a sermon on lust when up pops an underwear ad. Yes, this did happen. Or you're on X or Instagram and they begin to put pictures and products on your screen that you're not really seeking out. But the more it shows up, the more you're interested and the more you click and then the rabbit hole goes deeper and deeper and deeper. And so what does one do in this situation? You should think of yourself and your marriage and your family in the middle of a castle, and your job is to protect it at all cost. You will want to put up high walls, thick walls, a big moat around all of it. And so I want to offer you some very practical advice in two parts. Part one is how to build the walls, and part 2 is what to do if your castle has been sieged. So the protection piece. The first thing I'd want to say here is that you cannot wait on the technology industry to keep you safe or to keep your kids safe. They will not build this wall for you. In fact, they are selling a drug and they are hoping that you get hooked and that your kids get hooked. You may have heard it before. There are only two industries that call their customers users, illegal drugs and big tech. Therefore, you must get radical and take matters into your own hands. Number 2, start with locking down your devices. There are computers and there are phones and there are iPads and whatever else you have in your house. Each will be a little different, but parents especially, both for yourself and for your kids, learn how to limit their screen time. Learn how to manage their content. Learn how to use what the tech companies actually do give you at their disposal to limit what is coming through those big walls that you're trying to create. Number 3, your computers are a little harder to lock down. And so in my house, we pay for something called covenant eyes. We pay $200 a year for this. It might sound like a lot of money. I think it sounds like a very little amount of money for the peace of mind that it gives me, knowing that I'm offering protection, another wall for my kids and my family to feel safe within. Whatever you choose, I would encourage you to once again get radical. Don't just find yourself floating down the broad Rd. just because everyone else seems to. Instead, you have to take matters into your own hands. Number 4, there is the matter of your internet or your routers. And you can try to create as high a wall and a moat as you can. And one tool in the toolbox is using your internet provider to block certain sites or to even automatically turn off at certain times of day. Let's say 1 A.m. There's no good reason for somebody to be on the internet at that point. Number 5, know that with all your best efforts, there will always be workarounds that you haven't thought of, which gets to the most important thing that I can give you. Have a good relationship. with loved ones, with your kids, especially spouses with each other. Have open, honest dialogue. Reduce the shame. It is the shame that drives you into the closet and into the darkness. And the only way out is to get rid of some of that shame and to be willing to talk about it. And so make this a regular conversation in your house. The more you do it, the less awkward it gets. Men talk to your sons. Women talk to your daughters. Have these conversations with your kids. And please, spouses have them with each other. The easiest rule, no devices in the bedrooms. If you're wondering, what's the one quick win that could come out of here as to how I manage my own household and what the kids can do and can't, This is probably the easiest thing that you could make happen right now. But what happens if the army has already sieged the castle and you're in the middle of a fight that you're losing and you are struggling and you can't seem to find your way out? Well, that's the backside of the sheet that I've given you. I've got 4 steps for you. Step one, step out of the darkness and into the light. It will have control over you until you tell someone who is safe and importantly, someone who will force you to do something about it. Men, I want to offer you this morning that I am safe and I will help you do something about it. I have heard stories from young boys to very old men and nothing will shock me, I assure you. Step 2, depending on your situation, and the level of your problem, you should probably find a group to meet with. There are lots of groups dedicated to helping people break their addictions, some in person and some online. Two groups I'm aware of and I know meet locally are called Pure Desire and Celebrate Recovery. I would start there if you're just simply looking. Number 3, develop a strategy and know where the weak points are in your defense. Share these with an accountability partner. For example, maybe you're on a work trip. We'll have your spouse keep you honest when you come home. Late nights or certain times of day. We'll just know when that is and don't be alone during that time. Maybe it's a certain device. Go ahead and ditch that. Is alcohol involved? It might be time to address that problem too. And know that stress will always cause you to do things you might not do when you're not in stress. So manage that. Fourth and finally, replace the bad habit with good habits. More exercise, a new hobby, intentional time with your family. We had this conversation, as I said, this morning with the Sunday morning Bible study. And it was brought in that we should certainly infuse all of these steps with a healthy spiritual life that loves God with all our hearts and souls and minds and strength and our neighbors as ourselves and our spouses as ourselves. But sometimes we maybe keep praying to God and we say, oh, help me with this and help me with this and it never seems to go anywhere. That's what this roadmap is for. It has helped you if you've been there again and again and again and again. One final word I would want to give is to the spouses in the room, because the part I haven't yet addressed is that lust and adultery is not a victimless crime. There is often a spouse or a family that feel the effects of this betrayal. If that is you, know that God sees you too. And you too need help and you need encouragement. And the steps for what you should do are not the same as the above. They are similar. It involves talking to someone. Maybe it's finding a group. Some of the groups offer spouses groups as well. And so if the person who has hurt you needs to build their defenses, I would encourage you to build some of your own as well. Build walls and boundaries that they should not break in order to keep yourself from being hurt again and again. And develop lines that cannot be crossed and communicate those clearly and what would happen if they do get crossed. And finally, do things that will fill your soul as well. In the beginning, God created all things good. And this includes sex. But it is a powerful force. And a desire for it sits deep within us. And we live in a dangerous world where the temptations are everywhere. So let me encourage you to protect it. Keep it safe. Build the walls of a covenant marriage around it. Put them up high. Build a moat around it so that you keep temptation at bay. Talk to your spouses. Talk to your kids. Have these conversations regularly. Help is available. Victory is available. In the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, let us pray. Father in heaven, Jesus, King Jesus, who sits on the throne, who has power over all the universe, Holy Spirit who has been sent to us to live in us, to dwell in us, to cleanse us from the inside out, empower us this morning, convict us of where we need changes, Give us the path forward. Show us how we can be transformed by the renewing of our minds and to take on the mind of Christ and to live as you would have us live, O Lord. May we walk that narrow way, the hard way, but a way that leads to life abundant because Lord, we know that other way leads to the weeping and the gnashing of teeth. God, this morning, no doubt if the statistics bear out, some people hearing my voice right now, whether in person, online, or on a podcast into the future, they are wrestling. They are wrestling with something that has sat hidden for way too long. It is time to take the thing that existed in the darkness Bring it out into the light. Because God, you have a better way. You have a way that is filled with joy and freedom. So Lord, this warning, convict of sin, but also convince us that you are powerful enough to heal. We pray this in Christ's holy name. Amen.‍

What if the reason you haven't found lasting freedom from pornography isn't because you haven't tried hard enough, but because you've been trying to recover without the right plan?In this powerful conversation, Shawn sits down with Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, to talk honestly about pornography recovery, sexual integrity, shame, community, healing, and what it actually takes to build a life of lasting freedom. Ultimately the conversation focuses on this idea of how to prevent a relapse from porn.Nick knows this journey personally.After struggling with pornography himself, Nick experienced the transforming power of counseling, community, and a structured recovery process. His story eventually led him into ministry with Pure Desire, where he now helps equip churches, leaders, men, and women to walk through sexual brokenness toward hope, healing, and freedom.And this conversation goes far beyond simply telling men to "try harder."Nick explains why having good recovery tools matters, but why tools alone aren't the plan. Tools become powerful when they're placed inside a larger framework of community, honesty, self-awareness, and intentional action. You'll hear Nick talk about:Why trying harder often isn't enough for porn recoveryWhy so many men remain trapped in shame and isolationThe role of community in lasting sexual integrityWhy recovery needs to become a way of life, not simply a longer streak of sobrietyHow to recognize the patterns that lead toward relapseThe importance of having a clear recovery planNick's three-part approach to recovery: healthy living, an escape plan, and a plan for what happens after relapseWhy counseling and groups can work together so powerfullyHow churches can become places of healing rather than shameWhat Nick has learned through his own journey of recovery and sixteen years with Pure DesireWhy there is still hope if you've tried everything and nothing seems to workOne of the most powerful moments comes when Nick reframes the idea of "I've tried everything."Maybe you haven't tried everything.Maybe you've tried everything alone. If you've been struggling with pornography, sexual temptation, unwanted sexual behaviors, or repeated relapse, this conversation will give you a bigger picture of what recovery can actually look like.You don't have to white-knuckle your way through this.You can learn a new way of life.And you don't have to do it alone. Ready to create your own Personal Recovery Plan?If you're tired of guessing about what to do next and want to build a recovery strategy around your story, your patterns, and your unique struggles, visit secrethabit.ca/personalrecoveryplanWe'll sit down together, make sense of what's really going on, and create a clear plan for moving forward.Connect with Nick & Pure DesireLearn more about Nick's work, Pure Desire's resources, groups, books, and training at Pure Desire Ministries.Puredesire.orgAbout Nick StumboNick Stumbo is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries and a third-generation pastor. After confronting his own pornography addiction in 2010, Nick and his wife, Michelle, found hope and healing through Pure Desire's counseling and group ministries.Since then, Nick has dedicated his life to helping the Church become a place of healing and freedom. He is the author or co-author of Setting Us Free, Safe: Creating a Culture of Grace in a Climate of Shame, and Hope, Healing and Freedom: A Pathway Beyond Pornography and Betrayal. He is also a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP).Nick and Michelle live in Nashville, Tennessee, with their four children.

Ashley Jameson, with Pure Desire Ministries, shares her personal experience of discovering betrayal in her marriage and how she uses it to help others through her work at Pure Desire Ministries. Ashley discusses the importance of boundaries, self-care, and community. You can learn more from Ashley through her podcast, Unfiltered: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unfiltered-real-talk-about-sex-love/id1749351656 or visit https://puredesire.org/.

Alright, welcome back to Žižek & So On. This week continues our NEW SERIES on the systematic aspects of Žižek's thought & we're taking a look at Danny Nobus's session on Žižek's reading of Sophocles' Antigone.Can a revolutionary subject ever be an isolated individual? What happens when an act suspends both public law and private family ties without any guarantees in the Big Other?Along the way we get into Alenka Zupančič's reading of Antigone, Bartleby politics, Žižek's three Brechtian rewrites of the play, the structural role of the chorus, and alternative models of materialist ethics in Paul Claudel's The Hostage and Agota Kristof's The Notebook—where taking a bullet for someone you hate might just be the purest ethical gesture available.What is the dialectic of contingency and necessity in Antigone's double burial? Will we get two crates of Danny's champagne? How does a groundless act retroactively posit its own presuppositions and transforms into symbolic law?Make sure to check out Russ Sbriglia's new album Critique of Pure Desire here!Up next we move from the tragic act to Žižek's Quantum History with Adrian Johnston.See you in Paris,Ž&…

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. DEEP & WIDE: Please help us reach our mid-year fundraising goal of $77K by July 31st. No gift is too small!Partner with us at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Ashley Jameson from Pure Desire to explore how wives can navigate healing after sexual betrayal, particularly when dealing with emotional triggers. Ashley shares vulnerably from her own recovery journey, explaining what triggers are, how they affect our nervous system, and why "befriending" them is more powerful than suppressing them. We discuss rebuilding intuition after gaslighting, setting healthy boundaries, and practical grounding tools. Ashley reminds us that healing is possible and that connecting with a supportive community is absolutely essential for the journey forward.To learn more about Ashley, visit PureDesire.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Healing journey for wives experiencing sexual betrayalUnderstanding and managing emotional triggersThe concept of "befriending your triggers"The impact of betrayal on intuition and gut feelingsImportance of validating feelings and investigating triggersSetting boundaries for personal safety and well-beingCommon triggers that heighten anxiety in betrayed wivesPractical tools for grounding and emotional regulationThe role of community and support in the healing processEmpowerment through understanding triggers and making informed decisionsMore Resources:Online Wives Care GroupsUnfiltered Podcast with Ashley and HeatherFree Wives Care WebinarRelated Podcasts:Forgiveness and Grief in Betrayal Trauma HealingRelapse Safety Plan for Wives Healing from Betrayal TraumaOnline Care Groups for Wives Facing Betrayal Trauma----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple and SpotifyFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

In this episode of the Covenant Eyes Podcast, host Karen Potter sits down with Ashley Jameson of Pure Desire to talk about one of the most overlooked conversations in the church today—how these struggles are impacting women, marriages, and entire congregations. While many still view this as a men's issue, the reality is far more complex and far more widespread.Ashley shares from years of experience walking alongside individuals and churches, highlighting both the challenges and the hope she has seen firsthand. From powerful stories of freedom to the ongoing gaps in resources, she explains why this is one of the greatest discipleship opportunities facing the church right now. When people feel safe enough to bring their stories into the light, real healing can begin.The conversation also explores the unique challenges women face, including shame, betrayal, trauma, and confusion around identity and worth. Ashley offers practical insight for churches, leaders, and individuals who want to take the next step—reminding listeners that healing is not instant, but it is possible with the right support, community, and commitment to the process.Episode Topics Discussed• Ashley Davidson's role at Pure Desire and ministry background• The vision and impact of Pure Desire's counseling and group programs• Her book Girl Talk and resources for moms and daughters• The growing need for continued care beyond initial recovery• Why this issue is a major discipleship opportunity for the church• Current statistics and the gap in church resources• How small churches can implement support systems• The importance of testimonies and creating safe spaces• Challenges women face, including shame, betrayal, and insecurity• Why repeated struggles often point to deeper work that needs to be done• The realities facing younger generations today• Trauma, betrayal, and how it impacts the mind, body, and relationships• Signs of unresolved trauma and unhealthy relational patterns• How churches can better support individuals and spouses• Encouragement for those feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or aloneResources MentionedPure Desire Ministries – https://puredesire.orgPure Desire Online Groups and Church Partnerships- https://puredesire.org/groups Girl Talk by Ashley Jameson- https://puredesire.org/shop/girl-talkTimestamps00:00 – Why This Conversation Matters00:32 – Introduction to Ashley Davidson00:37 – Pure Desire's Impact and Ministry Overview03:15 – Girl Talk and New Resource Development06:44 – How to Connect with Pure Desire07:28 – The Reality in Churches Today11:30 – Supporting Small Churches and Leaders14:10 – Addressing Hidden Struggles in the Church16:39 – Unique Challenges Women Face19:38 – The Younger Generation and Growing Needs23:06 – Trauma, Betrayal, and Its Impact25:59 – Signs of Unresolved Trauma28:31 – How Churches Can Better Support Spouses31:32 – Final Encouragement: You Are Not AloneSend us your feedback!Try Covenant Eyes for FREE today!Use Promo Code: FreePodcast © 2026 Covenant Eyes, All Rights Reserved

Today is the third week in our series on Sexual Integrity. Rodney Wright from Pure Desire is here to share with us about his experiences with unwanted sexual behavior. Focusing on what Scripture says, Rodney also shares science behind what happens with our brains. At Cheney Faith Center, we want to make sure we are having good, authentic and open conversations with each other and our kids when it comes to sex, rather than letting culture be the teacher!   Speaker: Rodney Wright Connect with us online: Website LinkTree Facebook Instagram

Nick Stumbo is the Executive Director of Pure Desire, an organization that exists to provide hope, freedom, and healing from compulsive sexual behavior and betrayal trauma through Jesus Christ. Their work at Pure Desire is clinically informed and biblically based. As a third-generation pastor, Nick Stumbo started his ministry career at the East Hills Alliance Church in Kelso, Washington, where he observed the fallout of sexual brokenness and devastation in the lives of men and women in the church. Confronted with his own addiction to pornography, Nick and his wife, Michelle, found hope and healing through the counseling and group ministries of Pure Desire, which, again, he is now the Executive Director of.  --> Check out Pure Desire Ministries → Become a monthly donor today, join the Table.

On the episode this week: Nate is reeling and Aaron is back from DFW and thinking about carrying a bat. Aaron also uses his sports expertise to make comparisons between t-ball and recovery discipline. Nate talks about upcoming video podcasts. Nate and Aaron talk to Nick Stumbo. Nick shares Pure Desire's ongoing move from Oregon to Nashville, paving the way for In-N-Out Burger to move to Nashville too. JK, these moves aren't really connected, but both are in process. Nick discusses the updated statistics from a partnered study with Barna Group called Beyond The Porn Phenomenon. Some stats are up, others down, many surprises. Nick also guides us on how to translate the info as well as helpful resources. Links: Beyond the Porn Phenomenon Study Pure DesireNEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) June 5-7, 2026 Italian/International Samson Retreat Oct 23-25, 2026 U.S. Samson SummitSend mail to: Pirate Monk Podcast PO BOX 1656 Columbia, TN 38472If you have thoughts or questions and you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Pure Desire Ministries Pure Desire Ministries | Freedom & Healing A safe place to find hope and healing from compulsive sexual behavior. Christ-centered support groups, counseling, and resources for recovery. https://www.puredesire.org/beyond-porn-phenomenon     Pure Desire Ministries Pure Desire Ministries | Freedom & Healing A safe place to find hope and healing from compulsive sexual behavior. Christ-centered support groups, counseling, and resources for recovery. https://www.puredesire.org/     App Store Samson Community App - App Store Download Samson Community by Samson House on the App Store. See screenshots, ratings and reviews, user tips, and more games like Samson Community. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/samson-community/id6749582016     play.google.com Samson Society - Apps on Google Play Brotherhood & recovery hub https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mightybell.samsonsociety&pcampaignid=web_share                

In this heartfelt episode, Rodney and Traci Wright share their powerful story of finding healing—both individually and as a couple. Long before discovering Pure Desire, their recovery journey began with a deep recognition of their need for help and God's grace to rebuild what was broken. They open up about the early steps they took to survive as a couple, the community that supported them, and how joining a Pure Desire group years later helped them experience a new depth of healing and connection. Together, they reveal the truths and tools that have sustained their marriage and shaped their ongoing recovery. Through honesty, accountability, and faith, Rodney and Traci now walk in freedom and are helping others do the same. Their story offers hope for any couple longing to experience the redemptive power of God's healing love.Resources:Year End Giving:Rodney & Traci's Book GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this inspiring episode, we hear the powerful story of Brian Wolf's journey toward healing and recovery. From the moment he realized he needed help to discovering the life-changing community of a Pure Desire group, this conversation explores how God meets us in our brokenness and leads us toward freedom. Through honest reflection and personal experience, Brian shares the pivotal moments when healing began to take root—through connection, accountability, and the support of others walking the same path. You'll hear the truths and tools that helped him move from pain to purpose, and how he's now paying forward the gift of recovery to others. Whether you're early in your journey or seeking encouragement to keep going, this episode offers hope and direction for anyone desiring lasting transformation through Christ-centered community.Resources:Year End GivingBrian's Turning Point Podcast GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this powerful episode, we sit down with a courageous couple, Adam and Becky Bradley, who share their honest and inspiring story of healing through the Pure Desire recovery process. From the moment they realized their need for help to the transformative experience of being in a Pure Desire group, they walk us through the highs, lows, and breakthroughs that marked their path.They reflect on the early days of struggle, the deep impact of community and accountability, and the life-changing shift that came when they truly began to receive the healing God had for them—both individually and as a couple. You'll hear how vital tools, timeless truths, and consistent support played a role in sustaining their recovery and how they are now offering that same gift to others.If you're longing for hope, wondering if real healing is possible, or looking for encouragement to take the next step, this episode is for you.Resources:Year End GivingAll Of Our ResourcesAll Our ToolsJoin A Group! GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this powerful episode, we sit down with Josh and Avonlea Roy who vulnerably shares their journey of healing after infidelity and betrayal. From the pain of discovery to finding hope through the Pure Desire podcast in 2023, they recount the insights that helped them take their first steps toward restoration. Transitioning into group work with Betrayal & Beyond and Seven Pillars of Freedom, they discuss how these experiences deepened their healing and reshaped their faith. With honesty and encouragement, they reflect on pivotal moments that helped them rebuild trust, reconnect emotionally, and rediscover joy in their marriage. They also share how Pure Desire counseling and the Summit events provided breakthrough guidance along the way. Now hosts of their own show, Love After Lies, they offer wisdom, encouragement, and a message of hope to couples wondering if healing is possible. This episode is a reminder: love after betrayal is not only possible—it's worth fighting for.Resources:Join A Group!FREE Counseling ConsultationAll Our ToolsLove After Lies PodcastThe Toxic War on MasculinityAuthentic Intimacy (Juli Slattery) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Year-End Matching Gift Opportunity!Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year. Partner with us at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with returning guest Ashley Jameson, a sex educator and author of the new book "Girl Talk." We dive into why it's so important for moms to have honest, ongoing conversations with their daughters about sex, even when it feels awkward or scary. Ashley shares personal stories, up-to-date research, and practical tips for starting these talks early, addressing common fears, and becoming a safe, trusted source for your kids—especially as they face pressures from peers, social media, and early exposure to pornography. If you're a mom of a daughter, you won't want to miss this conversation.For more info on Ashley and the book, go to PureDesire.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Importance of open communication between mothers and daughters about sexuality.Challenges and fears mothers face when discussing sex with their daughters.The risks of not addressing sexual topics early in a child's life.Insights from personal experiences and research on youth exposure to pornography.The role of parents as primary sources of information regarding sexual topics.The significance of starting conversations about sex at a young age.The impact of societal pressures and media on children's understanding of sexuality.Strategies for creating a safe environment for discussions about sex.The need for resources like the book "Girl Talk" to guide these conversations.The universal nature of curiosity and struggles related to sexuality among youth.More Resources:Girl Talk* by Ashley JamesonCritical Conversations FREE online course7 Tips for Parents (free download in English and Spanish)Related Podcasts:Helping Your Kids Apply the Gospel to Sex and SexualityParenting in a Hypersexualized and Identity Confused CultureHelping the Next Generation Navigate Healthy Relationships*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

The new Frankenstein movie hits theaters, a deep-dive into the pornography-obsessed subculture known as "gooning," and why high-potency marijuana use is landing some users in the ER. Song of the Week - "The Fate of Ophelia" - Taylor Swift Click here for the lyrics. Elsewhere in Culture: For the first time since 1990, there are no rap songs on the Billboard Top 40—marking the end of a 35-year streak. K-pop sensation BTS will end their three-year hiatus next year, embarking on a tour and releasing new music. A high school teacher went viral with a post on TikTok that showed the extreme way students reacted to his instruction to write a five-sentence paragraph.The as-yet-unidentified jewelry robbers who pulled off a heist at the Louvre were the topic of this week's social media fascination. YouTube is adding more content restrictions to better protect minors from encountering two types of content: online gambling and video games that depict graphic violence. Check out our Ask Axis episode "How do I talk to my adult son about porn and screen addiction?" Check out Fight the New Drug for teens. Check out Pure Desire for adults. Become a monthly donor today, join the Table. For more Axis resources, go to axis.org.

In this episode, we sit down with Pastor Ken Krueger to explore what it truly means to cultivate a culture of grace within the church. Pastor Ken shares his personal journey, the heart behind his ministry, and what inspired him to lead his congregation toward greater authenticity and healing. Together, we talk about the challenges of shifting from performance-driven or shame-based models to a grace-filled approach that emphasizes wholeness. He reflects on the role of Pure Desire groups in fostering deeper community, the practical rhythms his church has implemented to support both leaders and members, and powerful stories of transformation that reveal the impact of grace in action. With wisdom, honesty, and hope, this episode offers encouragement and advice to church leaders seeking to nurture authenticity in their own communities.Resources:Check Out Pastor Ken's ChurchYouth Leader LibraryPD Church MembershipPDL GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this honest and compassionate conversation, we explore the hidden struggles pastors often face—and why many suffer in silence. Our guest, Cal Rychener, unpacks the key barriers that keep church leaders from seeking help, including fear, shame, and unrealistic expectations. We look at the dangerous impact unaddressed struggles can have on both the pastor and the church, and the steps leadership can take to build a culture of proactive care and support. Through real-life stories of pastors who finally reached out, we see the power of grace, community, and trusted resources—like those from Pure Desire—to bring healing and restoration. This episode also casts a hopeful vision for what a truly healthy church looks like: one that cares well for its leaders. If you're a pastor, church staff member, or simply someone who wants to support your leaders better, this conversation offers both challenge and encouragement.Resources:Deeper Walk InternationalBoulder RecoveryBethesda Workshops GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

How can the church create safe spaces for healing from pornography and sexual brokenness? In this powerful conversation, Nick Stumbo from Pure Desire Ministry joins hosts Karen Potter and Rob Stoddard to talk about shame, recovery, and the hope of freedom in Christ.In this episode of The Covenant Eyes Podcast, Karen Potter and Rob Stoddard sit down with Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministry. Together, they explore how the church can respond to pornography and sexual addiction with grace, truth, and community.Nick shares his personal story of transformation and how Pure Desire provides resources, small groups, and counseling to help men, women, and couples find lasting freedom. The discussion covers:• Why shame keeps people silent and how churches can break that barrier• The importance of shifting our language from “you” to “we” when addressing sexual struggles• How generational differences impact views on pornography• Why both men and women need healing from sexual brokenness• Practical steps for pastors and church leaders to start recovery groups• How Pure Desire partners with Covenant Eyes to equip families and churches

The first 60 days after discovery or disclosure are some of the most overwhelming—and critical—moments in the recovery journey. In this episode, we unpack why this window matters so much and how to navigate it with clarity and purpose. Our guest and clinician for Pure Desire, Josh Andrew, shares the top three tools every individual should begin using right away: the Recovery Action Plan, the Escape Plan, and the Three Circles. You'll learn how these tools help calm the chaos, provide direction, and interrupt destructive patterns before they take over. We walk through practical first steps for each, offering guidance that's simple, actionable, and effective—even in crisis. Whether you're just starting recovery or supporting someone who is, this episode offers hope and structure for the days ahead.Resources:All Our ToolsJoin A Group! GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome to episode #239!

⁠BUY THE ALBUM HERE! ⁠Alright, this week we're drinking the blood from Oedipus's eyes with returning guest and friend of the show, the great Russell Sbriglia to talk about his new album ⁠Critique of Pure Desire⁠ which, according to Ryan Engley, sounds like if King Crimson were throwing an Eyes Wide Shut party. The album is a psychedelic mix of philosophy, psychoanalysis, literature, and film through Slavoj Žižek, Lacan, Hegel, Hitchcock, Melville, Antigone, Hamlet, Poe, Blade Runner, Chopin, La Jetée…and even features guest vocals from Žižek himself.We're talking the critique of pure desire, the strange logic of retroactivity, failed interpellations, hysterics, the split within the law, and future histories…Russ is Associate Professor of English at Seton Hall, co-editor with Slavoj of Subject Lessons, editor of Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Literature but Were Afraid to Ask Žižek, and the band Misconstruity.Big thanks to Russ — and if you're quick, the first two listeners to email zizekandsoon@gmail.com will get a copy of the album.And yes, Tim is still away…last I heard he reckoned that he's being followed by a chorus of old men who keep lamenting his decisions and spoiling the plot of his life…however I want to take this chance to say that Tim's first book has just been published with Palgrave: A Lacanian-Hegelian Perspective on Peace and Conflict Studies. It's now out in the world and you should all check it out. Congrats, Tim. Extra fish-head soup for you!⁠GET TIM'S BOOK HERE!⁠See you in Paris, Ž&…

Guest Bio: Heather Kolb is the Associate Director of Product Development and a neuroscience professional for Pure Desire. She has a Bachelor's degree in Psychology, a Master's degree in Criminal Behavior, and is a certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP) through the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP). Heather has been trained in the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM) through The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS). She worked several years as a college professor prior to joining Pure Desire. She is also a speaker and contributing author to Digital Natives: Raising an Online Generation, Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships, Betrayal & Beyond, and Authentically You.   Show Summary: When was a moment in your life when you felt betrayed? Heather Kolb was in the thick of parenting young children when she found out her husband was being dishonest with her and battling sexual addictions. Scared and heartbroken, Heather stepped away from the church and managed things on her own until she found Pure Desire Ministries. Join hosts Elisa Morgan and Eryn Eddy Adkins as they hear from Heather about her story and discover how we can recover from patterns of addiction during this God Hears Her conversation.  Notes and Quotes:  “My life felt out of control, and yet I had been doing all the things that I had been taught to do in the church. I had been praying and reading my Bible and waiting for God to deliver me from this unbearable situation, and [what I had prayed for] happened, but it didn't happen the way that I prayed for it to.” —Heather Kolb  “There are parts of my story that I wish I had answers to and I don't have any closure on. But I do know that God held me through—even when making bold decisions that other people disagreed with.” —Eryn Eddy Adkins  “What are those core messages, the negative core beliefs that you have about yourself?” —Heather Kolb  “When discovery or disclosure [of a sexual addiction] happens, you are walking into the middle of a story.” —Heather Kolb  "The best way to find healing for yourself—not even for the marriage, because that decision might come later—is to find safety and stability and reclaim your identity in Christ by joining a group of other women who are walking a similar road of healing.” —Heather Kolb  “I kept silent, I quietly left the church, I didn't tell anyone. That piece of it really left a hole in my heart for a lot of years because I couldn't trust anyone.” —Heather Kolb  “[A safe group of women] is going to be the thing that helps you to build safety and stability, not only for your marriage but for you—as a person and as a daughter of Christ—to find who you are in the midst of this messiness.” —Heather Kolb  Related Episodes: GHH Ep 145 – Sitting on the Sidelines with Bethany Toney: https://godhearsher.org/podcast/sitting-on-the-sidelines/ GHH Ep 168 – Walking Through Infidelity with Jami Nato: https://godhearsher.org/podcast/walking-through-infidelity/ GHH Ep 196 – Seeking Pure Desires with Ashley Jameson: https://godhearsher.org/podcast/seeking-pure-desires/  Links:  Pure Desire Ministries Website: https://puredesire.org/ Pure Desire Ministries Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/puredesirepdmi/ Pure Desire Ministries Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PureDesirePDMI/ Unshakable Moxie BOGO Deal: https://go.odb.org/bogoGod Loves Her Devotional: https://a.co/d/7F8R0qCGod Hears Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/godhearsher/?hl=en God Hears Her Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GodHearsHer God Hears Her website: https://go.odb.org/ghh191  Subscribe to the God Hears Her YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@GodHearsHerODBM Share Your Story:  https://godhearsher.org/share-your-story/ God Hears Her email sign-up: https://go.odb.org/ghh-sign-upsfmc191  Subscribe on iTunes! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast Shop God Hears Her books and resources: https://go.odb.org/ghh-shop191  Unshakable Moxie Series: https://read.odb.org/unshakable-moxie/ Elisa's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elisamorganauthor/ Eryn's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eryneddy/ Vivian's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivmabuni/ Our Daily Bread Ministries website: https://go.odb.org/odbm191  

Guest Bio: Ashley and her husband, Jon, discovered Pure Desire during the devastation and erosion of their marriage due to a pornography addiction. After four years of providing Pure Desire groups for men, women, and youth at their local church, restoration has taken place. As the Associate Director of Women's Groups for Pure Desire, Ashley provides leadership and training to their Regional Group Advisors (RGAs) throughout the country. She has been instrumental in training new leaders to advance the message of hope and healing in the church and community. Ashley is a contributing author to Betrayal and Beyond; Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships; and Authentically You.  Show Summary: When was a time that you realized you were building an unhealthy pattern or routine? Sin can be sneaky; one choice can lead to a series of devastating habits that unravel good things in your life. Ashley Jameson felt a hurtful distance in her marriage that eventually led to her digging through her husband's phone. As she did, she discovered that he was hiding a porn addiction. Have you experienced that? Do you have a loved one in that situation? Join hosts, Elisa Morgan and Eryn Eddy Adkins as they hear Ashley's testimony and learn how to begin restoration after discovering a love or sex addiction. You don't want to miss this powerful God Hears Her conversation.   Notes and Quotes:   “It is all about Jesus, but somewhere along the line, people hurt us, so we stopped believing the truth and started believing lies. We started living through this filter that we weren't supposed to be living through.” —Ashley Jameson  “We need to go back to the beginning to figure out what happened that made us stop believing what God says about us and understand our value in Christ.” —Ashley Jameson  “Bringing your mess to the church is something that is becoming more and more acceptable, but it still has so many challenges.” —Eryn Eddy Adkins  “I can't expect perfection; I can't idolize my husband. He is his own messy person with his own messy relationship with God.” —Ashley Jameson  “Give yourself space. Know that if both of you are willing to do the work, it will absolutely change. It will be radically different, and it won't always hurt as much as it does now.” —Ashley Jameson  “When God says that He can transform you by the renewing of your mind, that is very real. You do not have to feel this way.” —Ashley Jameson  Verses:  Romans 12:2  Related Episodes: GHH Ep 109 – Let's Talk About Married Sex with Debra Fileta: https://godhearsher.org/podcast/lets-talk-about-married-sex/ GHH Ep 145 – Sitting on the Sidelines with Bethany Toney: https://godhearsher.org/podcast/sitting-on-the-sidelines/ GHH Ep 168 – Walking Through Infidelity with Jami Nato: https://godhearsher.org/podcast/walking-through-infidelity/  Links:  Pure Desire Ministries Website: https://puredesire.org/ Pure Desire Ministries Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/puredesirepdmi/ Pure Desire Ministries Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PureDesirePDMI/ Unshakable Moxie BOGO Deal: https://go.odb.org/bogoGod Loves Her Devotional: https://a.co/d/7F8R0qCGod Hears Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/godhearsher/?hl=en God Hears Her Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GodHearsHer God Hears Her website: https://go.odb.org/ghh191  Subscribe to the God Hears Her YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@GodHearsHerODBM Share Your Story:  https://godhearsher.org/share-your-story/ God Hears Her email sign-up: https://go.odb.org/ghh-sign-upsfmc191  Subscribe on iTunes! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast Shop God Hears Her books and resources: https://go.odb.org/ghh-shop191  Unshakable Moxie Series: https://read.odb.org/unshakable-moxie/ Elisa's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elisamorganauthor/ Eryn's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eryneddy/ Vivian's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivmabuni/ Our Daily Bread Ministries website: https://go.odb.org/odbm191

What should I tell my girlfriend about my porn history (or other sexual history).  Should I hide it?  What if honesty will end the relationship?  In this episode I talk about why it is important to be honest but also nuance when and how this could be done.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform.  Just use the following link to get started.  if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=84c412c67f81c7a9fa2da045d969987b45464bf0-f9c81a7a-030e-4efe-b164-86d10b099404If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  If you want to reach out to Vern with recovery questions, to have a free zoom call with him or find out how you can move towards your porn recovery goals then reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIn the episode I reference a Pure Desire article on how to talk with your boyfriend about porn.  The following is the link to this article:https://puredesire.org/blog/how-to-ask-about-porn-use-while-dating/I also make reference to a great organization that offers counsellors to give women the support they may need to navigate their feelings and decisions around their partners porn use.Here is the link to that organizationhttps://apsats.org/

In this episode of our series, The Ideal Group Member, Rich Moore joins us to talk about what it really means to “start group well”—and why those first few weeks can make all the difference in the healing journey. He unpacks the key mindsets and attitudes that help set the tone for lasting growth, along with common mistakes to avoid when beginning a Pure Desire group. From the importance of consistency to the challenge of building trust with strangers, Rich offers practical wisdom for both new members and seasoned leaders. Whether you're feeling excited, nervous, or skeptical about group, this conversation will give you clarity, confidence, and hope for what's ahead. You'll also hear how leaders and existing members can create a safe, supportive environment where true healing can begin.Resources:Join A Group! GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Episode 75 Buckle up friends, this episode is wild! And it is honest and fun and so good! As the title suggests, we are talking about sex. More specifically, how to teach our kids about sex that is honoring to ourselves, others and God. Today's guest, Rodney Wright, is perfect for this job. He is honest, brave, kind and filled with joy! And as the author of the book, How to Talk with Your Kids About Sex, he has a lot to share. Rodney is passionate about helping people, families, and kids be healthy in their sexuality, because it is a God given gift.  He reminds us that we don't need to have negative thoughts about sexuality because God created it!  So many of us are afraid to talk to our kids about sex because we have our own stories of sexual brokenness or sexual dysfunction of some kind. We want to do better for our kids but we don't know how. Rodney reminds us to look at our own story, not with shame but with compassion. And then we continue to learn and grow, because when we know better, we can do better! Ultimately, we need to give our kids a different view of sex than the world is giving them. We need them to know it is about dignity, honor and respect. That is not the world's messaging about sex. Let's give our kids a better framework. I have so much more I want to say about this episode, but instead I am just going to have you listen to it! And please be sure to rate and review this podcast and share this episode! Oh, and then go do some puzzles for that healthy dopamine hit! (You'll get that when you listen to the episode)  Where to find Rodney: Find the organization Rodney works for, Pure Desire, here Find Rodney's book here Find the Pure Desire Podcast here Find Greta's book, It's Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn here The Greta Eskridge Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org

In this episode, Kelly Johnston, the Women's Groups Lead at Pure Desire, shares her profound insights on the healing journey and the importance of “surrendering to the process.” We explore how trust and vulnerability play key roles in surrendering control and embracing God's timing, despite the fear and resistance many women face. Kelly discusses common obstacles in recovery and how to navigate the “messiness” of the process without becoming discouraged. She offers practical steps for staying committed when the journey feels long and challenging, while emphasizing the power of slow, intentional healing. With encouragement for those struggling with shame or past hurts, Kelly offers a hopeful message about trusting God's unwavering commitment to our healing and freedom. GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Nick Stumbo, director of Pure Desire Ministries, for an honest conversation about sexual brokenness and the impact of pornography, especially within the Christian community. We dive into new research from Pure Desire and the Barna Group, titled Beyond the Porn Phenomenon, revealing surprising trends and the ongoing struggle many face in silence. Nick shares insights from the research on breaking shame, creating safe spaces in churches, and practical ways parents and leaders can support healthy conversations about sexuality. Together, we explore how compassion and openness can lead to real healing and hope.To learn more and get a copy of the research mentioned in this episode, visit PureDesire.org/barna. Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of sexual brokenness, particularly related to pornography use.Personal experiences of a pastor struggling with pornography.Overview of the research project "Beyond the Porn Phenomenon" conducted with the Barna Group.Examination of updated data on pornography use and its effects on individuals and relationships.Challenges faced by churches in addressing sexual brokenness and providing support.Development of resources for parents and youth leaders to discuss sexuality with teenagers.Insights into the disconnect between spiritual health and sexual behavior among Christians.Statistics highlighting the prevalence of pornography use and the lack of support for individuals struggling with it.The importance of creating safe spaces in churches for open discussions about sexual issues.Encouragement for proactive engagement in conversations about sexuality and support for those in need.More Resources:Beyond the Porn Phenomenon Church ToolkitFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom from PornGateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenRelated Podcasts:New Research on Why Women View PornWhat Can We Learn from Lust?Understanding God's Design for Sex in Today's Confused Culture----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

Trigger warning and PSA: In this episode we discuss a lot of hard topics that may be triggering for some. This conversation is not meant for little ears.  Today on the show, I am joined by Ashley Jameson, Associate Director of Women's Groups for Pure Desire to discuss the new study that revealed 40% of Christian women use pornography. We talk about Ashley's personal experience with addiction and betrayal trauma, God's truth and power through sin and shame, why this conversation matters, resources, the science behind addiction, that you CAN find freedom and how to do that, and encouragement for those impacted by betrayal trauma. Find more resources here: https://puredesire.org/resources/  Find more tools here: https://puredesire.org/tools/ 00:00 Intro and trigger warning 04:00 Ashley's experience 07:00 Why is pornography a struggle? 12:40 Can we conquer addiction? 15:30 “It's not hurting anyone” and “I have it under control” 22:00 Why it's important to talk about 27:00 Find healing, hope, and freedom 39:00 Encouragement for those impacted by betrayal trauma  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this powerful episode of The Union Podcast, we sit down with Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, for a candid and hope-filled conversation designed specifically for church leaders.As pastors, ministry leaders, and youth workers navigate the pressures of spiritual leadership, many also face private struggles with sexual brokenness — often in silence. Nick shares his own story of battling pornography addiction while in pastoral ministry, and how coming into the light became the starting point of healing, not the end of his calling.We also discuss the sobering results of “Beyond the Porn Phenomenon,” a Barna study conducted in partnership with Pure Desire, which highlights just how deeply pornography is affecting the Church — including its leaders.This episode is an invitation to move from isolation to integrity — and to rethink how churches can cultivate a culture of grace, transparency, and long-term restoration.Topics Covered:Nick's personal journey through addiction and healingThe role of Pure Desire Ministries in helping leaders find freedomThe Church's response to pornography and sexual shameHow to create safe, accountable spaces for healing in leadershipPractical next steps for pastors and church staff who feel stuckWhether you're leading others or trying to lead yourself well, this conversation will encourage you: you're not alone, and there's a path toward wholeness.Pure Desire MinistriesWebsite: https://www.puredesire.orgGet Help: https://www.puredesire.org/get-helpLeader Resources: https://www.puredesire.org/church-leadersConquer Series: https://www.puredesire.org/conquer-seriesBarna Study – Beyond the Porn PhenomenonDownload the full report here: https://www.barna.com/research/beyond-the-porn-phenomenonNick Stumbo's Book"Setting Us Free: An Invitation to a Life of Freedom, Healing, and Hope"Available hereNeed confidential support?Reach out to Pure Desire's team: https://www.puredesire.org/contact

What do you do when trust is shattered, but no one around you seems to take your pain seriously? In today's deeply honest and hope-filled episode, Leslie sits down with Nick Stumbo, former pastor and Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, who opens up about his personal battle with pornography—and the profound impact it had on his wife, his marriage, and his ministry. Nick's story isn't just one of addiction—it's about healing, honesty, and hope when everything seems lost. Together, Leslie and Nick dismantle toxic messaging that pressures wives to “just forgive” or “have more sex,” and instead offer a biblical and brain-based path toward real recovery—one that honors both the betrayed and the struggler. If you or someone you love is silently suffering in a marriage affected by pornography, this episode will remind you: You're not alone, and your healing matters.  

In this impactful episode, we sit down with Pastor Andrew Rothrock of Riverbend Church in Bend, Oregon, to explore what it means to create a church culture that actively supports sexual health and healing. Riverbend is setting a powerful example by making recovery from compulsive sexual behavior and betrayal trauma a visible and valued part of their ministry.We talk with Andrew about why their church made sexual wholeness a key discipleship focus, how they've integrated Pure Desire groups into the life of their community, and the incredible transformation they're seeing in both individuals and marriages.From reducing shame to developing future leaders, this episode is full of encouragement for churches and pastors who want to lead with grace and truth in this vital area.Resources:Church ToolkitOrder ‘Beyond The Porn Phenomenon Now!Andrews Church GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

From an early age, we grow up with stories that spark our desire for boons, or wishes fulfilled. We dream of finding our own version of Aladdin's magic lamp, complete with a genie ready to grant our every wish.While the Vedic worldview doesn't embrace genies in a literal sense, the concept of boons does align with it. In this episode, Thom explores the true nature of boons and how we can cultivate “Cosmic desires” that increase the likelihood of them being realized.Episode Highlights[00:45] Guru Purnima[04:12] A Blessing[07:18] Channeling a Cosmic Desire[10:10] The Qualities of a Pure Desire[12:30] Purifying the Desiring MechanismUseful Linksinfo@thomknoles.com https://thomknoles.com/https://www.instagram.com/thethomknoleshttps://www.facebook.com/thethomknoleshttps://www.youtube.com/c/thomknoleshttps://thomknoles.com/ask-thom-anything/

Learn More About Arise for Women: https://cvnteyes.co/3ZvW65UIn this powerful episode of The Covenant Eyes Podcast, host Karen Potter is joined by Heidi Cooper, Covenant Eyes' recovery specialist, and Ashley Jameson from Pure Desire Ministries. Together, they dive deep into the struggles women face in dealing with sexual brokenness, including addiction, shame, and the devastating impact of pornography. They explore the difficult conversations around healing from sexual trauma, the challenges of discussing these topics in the church, and the vital role of community and support groups in recovery.Ashley shares insights from her own experience, discussing the growing issue of pornography use among Christian women and how resources like Pure Desire's groups are helping to provide healing and recovery. They also explore the importance of addressing these issues openly in our churches and families, encouraging women to break free from the shame and find freedom in their identity as new creations in Christ.Topics covered include:• Sexual addiction recovery and healing• The stigma and shame surrounding women's struggles with pornography• Pure Desire's resources for individuals and families• Supporting children in a "pornified" culture• How to lead and protect our communities and families from sexual brokennessIf you or someone you know is struggling with sexual brokenness, betrayal, or addiction, this episode offers valuable resources, support, and encouragement. Listen to real-life stories and gain tools for walking out your healing journey.Resources mentioned in the episode:Pure Desire Ministries: https://puredesire.org/Covenant Eyes: https://cvnteyes.co/3ZvW65UCHAPTERS:0:00 - Introduction to the Episode3:30 - Ashley Jameson's Background and Role at Pure Desire7:00 - The Church's Struggle to Address Sexual Addiction10:15 - The Impact of Pornography on Women14:00 - The Role of Women in Supporting Each Other18:30 - Sexual Brokenness: A Personal and Collective Issue22:00 - Navigating Trauma and Healing Through Groups26:30 - Parenting and Technology: Protecting Children in a "Pornified" Culture31:00 - Pure Desire's Resources for Healing34:00 - How to Get Involved and Find Help36:30 - The Power of Community in Addiction Recovery39:00 - Closing Thoughts and EncouragementSubscribe to the Covenant Eyes Podcast for more insights on healing, addiction recovery, and faith.#SexualBrokenness #overcomingpornography #christianwomenpornaddiction #covenanteyespodcast Try Covenant Eyes for FREE today!Use Promo Code: FreePodcast © 2024 Covenant Eyes, All Rights Reserved

Porn is doing real damage to too many Christians today. This issue is affecting a huge percentage of our brothers and sisters in Christ, and the shame that often prevents us from talking about it leads to secrecy and hinders healing.  We're thankful that Nick Stumbo is on the podcast today. Nick is a pastor and the director of Pure Desire Ministries. Along with Barna, Pure Desire recently conducted a study on the impact porn is currently having on the Church in America. Their findings demonstrate how crucial it is to open the conversation about porn among Christians to help them find healing from its destructive impact.     We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  What the stats tell us about how many Christians are viewing porn regularly Why talking openly is ESSENTIAL for healing  Exposing the progressive nature of porn addiction  How to make church a place where openness is possible  What to do if your church is not a safe place to confess  How to prepare your kids to handle porn exposure safely  *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: The enemy would love for you to stay stuck in secrecy and shame. Jesus wants to bring freedom and healing. Take a step toward freedom today.  Questions to Discuss:  Do you have a safe friend you can be honest with? Are you practicing confession and accountability in your life? What can you do to help cultivate an honest, godly friendship today?  What is God prompting you need to take responsibility for so that you can grow closer to Him and your spouse today?    QUOTES  “Most people won't be surprised to know that the numbers are continuing to grow.” - Nick Stumbo  “To my knowledge, it's the first time in history that the majority of practicing Christians say they are doing pornography.” - Nick Stumbo  “84% of people said there is NO ONE helping them avoid pornography.” - Nick Stumbo  “If shame and secrecy are the sickness, then openness, community and love are what healing is all about.” - Nick Stumbo  “By the time it blows up a marriage, the help was needed 5-10 years ago.” - Nick Stumbo “You're not alone. There is help and hope for you. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “True accountability is about me learning to be responsible for my own actions and behaviors.” - Nick Stumbo  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Pure Desire offers healing groups and great resources to help you find freedom from porn. Check them out here.  Get the stats: Read the research by Barna and Pure Desire HERE  If porn has impacted your marriage, take Dr. Kim's 5 Steps to Healing After Porn Betrayal webinar to kickstart your marriage healing. We recommend the book Good Pictures / Bad Pictures to help equip your kids against porn exposure.

Pornography is no longer just a "worldly issue"—it has deeply impacted Christian marriages (including women) and families. In this powerful episode, we sit down with Ashley Jameson, Associate Director of Women's Groups for Pure Desire, who has not only faced the reality of porn in her own story but has also walked alongside countless women seeking freedom and healing. She shares eye-opening statistics on porn's devastating effects, from intimacy struggles in marriage to the rising number of women battling addiction. But this conversation isn't about fear—it's about redemption. Ashley Jameson offers hope-filled guidance for wives navigating betrayal, women wrestling with their own struggles, and parents seeking wisdom to protect and prepare their children in a hypersexualized world. If you or someone you love has been impacted by pornography, this episode is a must-listen, pointing toward the healing power of God's grace and the steps to lasting transformation. Connect with Ashley Jameson through Pure Desire, or on Facebook. Get all the statistics. Get the full report Beyond the Porn Phenomenon: Equipping The Church For A New Conversation About Pornography, Betrayal Trauma, and Healing Check out our Sexpectations online course. Discover your pathway to sexual wholeness as you explore your sexual story. Dr. Carol loves to hear from you. You can send a confidential message here.

Greta Eskridge is a second generation homeschooler, mom of 4, and author of the new book, It's Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn. In this episode, you'll hear Greta's story of how pornography impacted her family and what she has learned about how we can equip our kids to pursue sexual integrity. Greta offers practical tools, scripts you can use today, and valuable guidance on how we can approach these conversations with grace and compassion.You can grab your copy of Greta's book here for more information and support.If pornography is already affecting your life, please know that you are not alone. There is help available for you.If you are a wife whose husband is struggling with porn use, Greta recommends the book, Fight For Love. You may also want to check out the resources available at Fight For Love Ministries.If you are dealing with porn use in your own life or the life of someone you love and want help with recovery, Greta recommends the organization, Pure Desire.You can find show notes for this episode at homeschoolcompass.com/podcast.We'd love to connect with you outside your podcast player!Follow the Homeschool Compass on Instagram or FacebookSign up for our email newsletterDownload our free printablesBrowse our book listsThank you for leaving The Homeschool Compass Podcast a rating and a review in your podcast player! It helps new homeschool families find these encouraging conversations.

On today's PoM Podcast episode I sat down with Nick Stumbo of Pure Desire Ministries. Nick, the executive director of Pure Desire, confronted his own porn addiction 15 years ago. He and his wife found healing through Pure Desire's counseling and group ministries. Nick believes parents should create a safe place to have an ongoing, open-ended conversation with their kids about healthy sexuality rather than focusing on having a one-time conversation about sex. Even though fathers have one of the earliest and most trusted roles in a young person's life, the data shows that they play a much less significant role in the sexual education of their children — this is often because they are also dealing with their own sexual struggles and history. To learn more: https://puredesire.org/Register for our next 90 Days of Discipline: https://www.thepursuitofmanliness.com/gear/p/90-days-may-julyRegister for our 2025 Fall Men's Retreat: https://www.thepursuitofmanliness.com/gear/p/2025-mens-retreatRegister for Tribe XVI starting June 1st: https://www.thepursuitofmanliness.com/gear/p/tribe-xviThis podcast is sponsored by Dark Water Woodwork. Dark Water Woodwork is offering a discount code exclusively for the podcast listeners. Use the discount code "PSALM824" to save 15% off of your next beard oil purchase. https://www.darkwaterkc.comSupport the show

Today's guest Ashley Jameson works as a Certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional and is passionate about partnering with churches to help individuals break free from addiction and shame, build healthy intimacy, and embrace the life God has for them through her work with Pure Desire Ministries. She shares with listeners about how her personal experiences with teen pregnancy, s*x and love addiction, and betrayal trauma have inspired her work now. Above all, she wants listeners to know that there is hope and healing with this kind of addiction is possible whoever you are and wherever you've been. If you'd like to learn more, Ashley is also a contributing author to Unraveled, Betrayal & Beyond, and Authentically You and co-hosts the podcast UnFiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love where she and co-host Heather have candid, no-judgment conversations about sex, relationships, and healing. You can also email groups@puredesire.com to get started on your own journey towards healing today.

In this episode, we tackle one of the most pressing concerns for parents today: protecting children from the dangers of pornography. Kristen Jenson, author of Good Pictures, Bad Pictures, shares her inspiration behind writing the book and her mission to help parents guide their young children through the complexities of online content in a way that is age-appropriate and effective.We discuss the concept of "porn-proofing" children, which was explored in Pure Desire's new Parent Training Course, and why it's more crucial than ever for parents to take an active role in safeguarding their kids from harmful material.With many parents feeling overwhelmed by the task of guiding their children through the digital landscape, Nick, Heather, and Kristen provide practical advice on how to approach these tough conversations with confidence, compassion, and love. Whether you're just starting to think about these issues or are already deep in the process of "porn-proofing" your children, this episode offers essential tools and insights for every parent in today's digital age. Resources:Parent Training CourseKristen's OrganizationGet 'Good Pictures Bad Pictures'DYM on FBDYM on LinkedInFREE Counseling Consultation GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

In today's episode, we dive deep into one of the most important—and often most uncomfortable—topics for parents: talking with your kids about sex. We're joined by Rodney and Traci Wright, authors of How to Talk With Your Kids About Sex and the primary speakers in Pure Desire's new Parent Training Course. We tackle key issues like how to address our own sexual health as parents, the challenges of today's media landscape, and how to adjust these conversations as children grow. We also discuss common fears parents have, such as whether talking about sex too early might encourage risky behavior—and why, in fact, it can help prevent it. This conversation goes beyond the biology of sex and emphasizes the emotional, spiritual, and relational aspects that are just as critical to discuss with kids. You'll hear how trust plays a crucial role in keeping the lines of communication open and what parents can do if they've missed early opportunities to talk about sex.Resources:Full Episode on YoutubeParent Training Course Parent Training Course TrailerRodney & Traci's Book GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Nick Stumbo is the Executive Director of Pure Desire, a ministry that actually helped him and his wife find a way out and healing from his own porn addiction. In this honest, unflinching conversation, Nick joins Zach Clinton to explain the challenges involved in overcoming the shame and brokenness of porn use. They examine the different wounds and the peripheral damage that can occur with a spouse or a mate, and explain why both partners in a relationship matter as a journey of recover begins. Nick offers unique firsthand perspective on how this can be an unspoken problem within the church. Through his own powerful testimony, Nick reminds us that asking for help doesn’t make us weaker believers. Real freedom from behavior driven by secrecy and shame can only be found by bringing it into the light. Listen and be encouraged as you start the new year, with new goals and resolutions, and share it with someone you care about. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In this episode, Chris and Alisa Grace explore the challenges and impacts of pornography in relationships and personal lives with special guest Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire. They discuss the pervasive issue of pornography in Christian communities, its mental, relational, and spiritual implications, and the path to freedom through grace-filled healing. Offering insights into breaking cycles of shame and addiction, this episode provides practical tips to help listeners pursue healthy, Christ-centered relationships.Whether you're a college student, a married couple, or a leader in the church, this episode offers valuable advice to navigate this challenging topic and find hope, healing, and restoration.Resources Mentioned:Free E-Books from Pure Desire5 Steps to Freedom from Pornography - A guide to overcoming struggles with pornography. Download here7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma - Help for navigating the pain of betrayal. Download hereBooks by Nick StumboSafe - A guide to fostering grace-filled environments that promote healing from sexual struggles and create safe spaces for restoration. Learn moreSetting Us Free - Nick Stumbo shares his journey to freedom from sexual addiction, offering practical tools and spiritual insights for lasting transformation. Learn moreFrom the Center for Marriage and Relationships (CMR)Sex, Pornography, and Relationship Help - Quick tips on addressing pornography's impact on relationships. Download PDFConnect with Us:Website: cmr.biola.eduFacebook: facebook.com/biolacmrInstagram: instagram.com/biolacmrYouTube: youtube.com/@biola-cmrJoin the Conversation:Subscribe to The Art of Relationships Podcast to never miss an episode.Leave a review on [Apple Podcasts/Spotify/Your platform] to help others discover the show.Share this episode with someone who could benefit from these relationship insights.Sign up for weekly updates and resources from the Center for Marriage and Relationships! Sign up hereAbout the Hosts:Chris Grace, Ph.D., and Alisa Grace are passionate about helping people build and sustain healthy relationships. As leaders of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships, they combine the wisdom of Scripture with scholarly research to offer practical advice and insights. Learn more about their work at cmr.biola.edu.

How do you rebuild trust in your marriage after pornography addiction? This week, join Greg & Erin as they sit down with Nick & Michelle Stumbo of Pure Desires Ministries to talk about their journey through Nick's addiction and the healing process that followed. Later, we hear a devotional from Bill Arbuckle. Later, we answer a question from a listener who wants to know if she and her fiance should place boundaries on their wedding night.   Click here to receive Nick's book, "Setting Us Free," for a gift of any amount!   Click here to listen to Greg & Erin's No Porn Marriage podcast   Click here for Pure Desire Ministries to find freedom and support from addiction   Click here for Pure Desire's F.A.S.T.E.R. scale to create healthy guardrails.   Call Focus on the Family at 1(855) 771-4357, or click here, to receive free counseling consultation   Donate Now!   We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Tune into our final pornography series episode with Nick Stumbo, Executive Director at Pure Desire Ministries. Nick shares how porn impacted him as a pastor and how he decided to find healing! Special shout out to Coventant Eyes for sponsoring this pornography seriers! Use our code KS30 to get your first month FREE! Find healing TODAY!!! Links from today's episode: Covenant Eyes (KS30 for your first 30 days free!!) Pure Desire Parent Resource: use code  PARENTS29 for a discount! Puredesire.org Pure Desire podcast ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

My guest this week is the amazing Ashley Jameson. She is the Associate Director of Pure Desire Ministries- a ministry dedicated to equipping individuals and churches with the tools to heal from the impacts of sexual brokenness, addiction, and betrayal. She and her husband, John, discovered Pure Desire during one of the most challenging seasons of their marriage, battling the devastation caused by a pornography addiction. It's tools and resources provided them with the support necessary to heal their marriage and family. Four years later, Ashley now leads leadership training for Pure Desire's regional group advisors nationwide, helping spread the message of recovery and healing in communities and churches across the country. I truly believe this conversation is one that can bring hope, healing, and freedom to so many. Let's dive in! 3:23 – Ashley 101 •    Discovering her husband's addiction •    How Purse Desire's resources helped her family •    Joining the Pure Desire team 6:22 – The Realities Of Addiction •    The latest stats on Christian pornography use •    The lack of churches addressing this issue •    The unique challenges women face with pornography addiction 12:42 – Breaking The Silence •    The importance of normalizing these conversations  •    Impactful resources you can offer your congregation •    How compulsive sexual behavior rewires the brain •    The need for churches to become educated and equipped to handle these challenges 21:41 – The Neurological Impact Of Pornography  •    Having open conversations as a family •    Early exposure to harmful content  •    How repeated exposure rewires the brain 32:23 – Taking Steps Toward Healing •    The steps churches can take to become supportive environments •    Resources available through Pure Desire •    Getting help for betrayal trauma •    Practical first steps for women struggling with pornography FEATURED QUOTES “The newest numbers are showing that 75% of Christian men are looking at pornography, 40% of Christian women, and it's also saying that 82% of Christians are saying that nobody is helping them avoid pornography.” “We don't have to be afraid to talk about these things in a church or as leaders or as parents, because this stuff is already happening. What we're doing is just bringing it to light so we can start sifting through it and figuring out how to be part of the solution.” “My number one recommendation would be, do not go another day without having a plan of at least sharing it with one safe person who you can say, ‘will you walk with me as I try to figure out what my next step is?'”   Learn more about Ashley: Pure Desire Ministries  https://puredesire.org/ Pure Desire's Resources https://puredesire.org/resources/ Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex and Love Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unfiltered-real-talk-about-sex-love/id1749351656 Get in touch with Pure Desire (503) 489-0230 groups@puredesire.org  

In today's episode, we discuss the topic of porn addiction with Nick Stumbo, a former pastor and the Executive Director of Pure Desire. Nick, a third-generation pastor, began his ministry work at the East Hills Alliance Church in Kelso, Washington. He served here as head pastor for more than 10 years. During this time, Nick closely observed the sexual brokenness and devastation in the congregation – and recognized like never before the power of grace in the Church… Nick has his own story involving pornography addiction. Through the resources provided at Pure Desire, he and his wife, Michelle, found hope and healing through counseling and group ministries. This radically changed their lives, leading to a revival of forgiveness and healing. Later, Nick launched his own Pure Desire groups for men and women, staying connected with their ministry all along the way. He also authored two books, Setting Us Free and Safe.  Why is it crucial to have this conversation about pornography addiction? How is Pure Desire leading the charge toward healing and sustainable change? Join the conversation now to learn more about this highly relevant, yet challenging subject! Dive in to discover:  Shocking statistics surrounding pornography consumption in our culture.  The differences between male and female relationships with porn.  Why there is an accelerated use of pornography among women?  What makes pornography so addictive and progressive. To learn more about Nick's work with Pure Desire, click here now! Episode also available on Apple Podcasts: apple.co/30PvU9C

Nick and Rodney sit down with Pastor Ryan Oletzke of True Hope Church in Spokane, Washington, to discuss how to start Pure Desire groups in your church, break shame, and build a culture of honesty.Ryan shares how his church addressed sexual brokenness by launching Pure Desire groups, starting with over 200 people participating in Sexual Integrity 101. He offers practical insights on building a culture of vulnerability, lowering shame, and leading a church to find healing and freedom.This episode is a must-listen for pastors and church leaders looking to make a real impact in their communities by addressing sexual health and recovery.RESOURCESFull Episode On YoutubeTrueHope WebsiteBarna Report LinkHow to Start Pure Desire Groups brochure.Parent Training CourseSexual Integrity 101 GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Today, we're welcoming Louie Kazemier to the podcast. Louie is a longtime friend of Pure Desire and opens up about confronting childhood trauma, overcoming resistance to group therapy, and finding freedom from compulsive sexual behavior. His story is a testament to the power of vulnerability, community, and God's grace in the healing process.Whether you're on your own recovery journey or supporting someone else, this episode offers hope and encouragement. Tune in to hear Louie's inspiring story of transformation.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Seven Pillars of FreedomThe Compassionate Warrior GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Vicki and Johnny Greenfield are legends in the Pure Desire community! Today, we get to hear their story of healing. Starting with how sexuality was discussed in their homes, moving to sexual brokenness and how it entered their lives, and then moving to how God healed them and their marriage—their story is powerful! Not only will you be encouraged by their story of healing, but you will be inspired by how God is using them in their heart to help other hurting couples. Enjoy the Greenfield's story—it's incredible!RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Seven Pillars of Freedom (Men's Recovery Resource)Betrayal & Beyond (Women's Betrayal Resource)Pure Desire Online GroupsInternational Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP)Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS)Pure Desire Summit GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)