The Connected Life

Most of us never learned how to share pain in a way that brings us closer. Instead, we vent, shut down, accuse, or spiral into fear—hoping to feel understood but often creating more disconnection in the process. But it doesn't have to be that way. In part two of this two-part series, Justin and Abi get practical about how to communicate pain in a way that invites connection. They unpack how all-or-nothing language, judgment, and emotional weaponization drive partners further apart. They also share vulnerable stories about the moments they got it wrong, the mindset shifts that changed everything, and the practical tools they now use to stay safe and soft—even in conflict. Lastly, they explore the power of self-awareness, inward communication, emotional nuance, and learning to narrate what's really happening inside. If you've ever wanted to be heard without hurting someone, or feel safer sharing your emotions without shutting your partner down, this episode is a powerful guide for building the kind of trust and closeness you've always wanted. Don't miss out! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Most of us were never taught how to share pain in a way that brings connection. We were taught to explode, shut down, or stay silent—and those patterns don't just disappear when we get into relationships. In this episode, Justin and Abi explore the messy ways they both used to express pain—and the chaos it created in their marriage. From nonverbal shutdowns to emotional overwhelm and assumptions that turned into judgments, they explain how unspoken pain builds walls and leaves both people feeling powerless. You'll hear how their childhoods shaped their reactions, how misreading each other's signals led to bigger disconnects, and what it took to begin rewiring those patterns. If you've ever been told you're “too much” when you try to share your feelings—or you find yourself constantly shutting down instead of opening up—this episode will help you understand why. This is part one of a two-part series—don't miss it. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Empathy can be one of the most destructive forces to connection—or one of the most powerful. Without it, relationships become cold and judgmental. But too much of it, without boundaries, and we lose ourselves trying to carry everyone else's pain. So how do we find that middle ground? In this episode, Justin and Abi unpack what healthy empathy looks like, and what happens when it gets twisted into judgment or codependency. They share raw and personal stories from their own marriage—navigating chronic illness, financial stress, different upbringings, and PTSD—to show how empathy helped them heal long-standing patterns of resentment, disconnection, and pain. You'll learn the difference between cognitive and affective empathy, how boundaries make empathy safer, and why being “too empathetic” can actually be a sign of unprocessed trauma. If you've ever struggled with being too empathetic, not empathetic enough, or confused about what empathy should look like in healthy relationships, this conversation is a game-changer. Don't miss out! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

We've all experienced those people that seem hot one minute and cold the next. Their mixed signals keep us wondering if they want to be besties or secretly planning our demise. The ups and downs of it can feel like a whiplashing rollercoaster. Solving the mystery can seem impossible, but we might just have your answers! In this episode, Justin and Abi are joined by their long-time friend and fellow Life Consultant, Rachel, to shine a light on disorganized attachment and its impact on relationships. As three people who've operated out of it, they unpack the origins of this pattern, the push-pull dynamics it creates, and the internal shame, fear, and powerlessness that come with it. From childhood trauma to emotional incest, they reflect on how early wounds shape our nervous systems—and what it takes for people with disorganized attachment to create stable connections. If you've ever felt like you're too much, too broken, or too confusing to love… this episode is for you. There is a path toward clarity, healing, and secure connection—and it starts with understanding. Don't miss out. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Most of us don't realize how much of our relationship pain is rooted in old stories—until those stories start playing out with the person we love most. It's easy to blame our partners for the chaos in a relationship. But what if the truth is that we're all just scared kids trapped in adult bodies, equally making messes as we search for safety? In this raw and redemptive episode, Justin and Abi share the full arc of their healing journey—from trauma bonding and codependency to finding internal safety, building emotional resilience, and learning to love without self-abandonment. They reflect on the missteps, the meltdowns, the moments that nearly broke them, and the powerful shifts that changed everything. Together, they paint a picture of what it means to stop trying to fix each other and start healing from the inside out. If you've ever felt stuck in patterns you don't understand, judged yourself for how you react, or wondered if your relationship could really change—this episode is for you. Don't miss out! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!  

Most of us were never taught how to feel emotions—let alone how to express them in a way that feels safe for us and the people we love. From family dynamics to gender norms to childhood survival strategies, our emotional patterns were shaped long before we had words to describe them. In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into one of the most common relationship struggles: how we respond to emotions—both our own and others'. They explore the battle between “too emotional” and “not emotional enough,” sharing personal stories that reveal just how often those extremes are shaped by past pain. They also break down what's really happening in these moments—threat responses, nervous system dysregulation, and internalized judgments—and show what it looks like to feel without becoming consumed. Whether you've ever been shut down for having big feelings or felt overwhelmed by someone else's, this conversation will help you understand where those reactions come from and how to move toward emotional safety—for you and the people you care about. You won't want to miss this episode—it might just shift how you see emotional connection altogether. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Most of us were never taught to explore where our beliefs about sex came from—let alone how those beliefs affect our experience of it. From purity culture to porn culture, from family dynamics to religious messaging, our beliefs are shaped long before we're ever in the bedroom. In this episode, Justin and Abi have a candid and compassionate conversation about the belief systems that shape our sexuality. They share personal stories—from childhood moments that left lasting impressions to conversations that helped them heal shame and find a new perspective. Together, they unpack the spectrum of sexual messaging—from repression to overexposure—and explore how to find a path toward sexual wholeness. Whether you've felt shut down, confused or ashamed, or simply want a deeper connection to your sexuality, this episode will help you identify where your beliefs came from and how to reshape them. You won't want to this opportunity to make the most out of your sex life! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Let's be real—most of us didn't get great sex ed growing up, and even fewer of us learned how emotional pain, shame, and past beliefs impact our sex lives. If your sex life has lost its spark or feels more like pressure than connection, you're not alone. Many couples quietly struggle, unsure how to talk about it without blame or guilt. In this episode, Justin and Abi open up about their own journey with intimacy, from navigating physical illness and shifting hormones to learning how emotional safety, body presence, and communication shape a thriving sex life. They unpack why sex often changes in long-term relationships, how old wounds surface when real intimacy begins, and how building mutual value for sex can reignite passion and deepen connection. Whether you've felt distant in your relationship, shut down around sex, or just want to build something more fulfilling—this episode is full of compassionate, honest wisdom. You'll walk away with a better understanding of how to talk about your sex life without shame and begin cultivating connection that feels life-giving, not performative. This conversation might just be the starting point your relationship needs. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

So many of us feel like we're just going through the motions of life—rushing through tasks, ignoring our bodies, and avoiding the feelings that seem too big to face. But the more we disconnect from what's happening inside, the more life starts to feel flat, disconnected, and exhausting. What if the real magic of life is found in slowing down and being present? In this episode, Justin and Abi explore what it really means to be present. They discuss how daily distractions pull us away from truly living life and how deep internal fears keep us from being with ourselves. Through personal stories of dissociation, grief, and healing, they invite listeners into a powerful conversation about the joy, connection, and love that become available when we stop running and start feeling. If you've been caught in constant busyness, numbing out with your phone, or avoiding parts of your story because they feel too big to handle—this episode is a gentle reminder that you don't have to face it all at once. Presence is a practice. And even the smallest step toward noticing your internal world can bring more connection, clarity, and compassion than you imagined possible. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Many of us have experienced moments of life that seem to unravel faster than we can hold them together. The crushing weight of our problems and pain can feel like they will leave us broken forever. But what if love has the power to change everything? In this episode, Justin and Abi sit down with their good friend Kyle as he shares about his journey through profound trauma, grief, and emotional shutdown—and what it looked like to slowly come back to life. From losing his mom to ALS, navigating early marriage while serving as a full-time caregiver, to watching his wife battle an eating disorder—Kyle opens up about the unexpected spiritual encounters that saved him from the self-loathing and despair that almost swallowed him alive. If you've ever felt locked in shame, burdened by trauma, or like you've lost yourself along the way—this episode is a reminder that there's more to your story than the pain you've lived through and that healing starts with just a baby step towards love. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Attraction isn't just physical—it's deeply emotional. When couples struggle with intimacy, it's often because unprocessed pain has created invisible walls between them. Many people unknowingly fall out of attraction with their partners due to unresolved hurt, leading to a sense of emotional and physical disconnection. When safety is compromised, self-protection kicks in, and attraction fades. In this episode, Justin and Abi break down how emotional safety directly impacts physical intimacy and why issues in the bedroom are almost always tied to how couples relate to each other outside of it. They explore how resentment, bitterness, and unforgiveness can quietly erode attraction, while kindness, gentleness, and understanding can rebuild it. They also discuss one of the biggest threats to relationships—how partners speak to each other—and how subtle shifts in communication can reignite connection and desire. Most people don't realize this, but repairing emotional disconnection is one of the most powerful ways to bring passion back to a relationship. If you want to keep attraction alive—or bring it back—this episode is for you. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Nothing is more frustrating than feeling stuck in a relationship where your partner refuses to change. Maybe you've had the same conversation a hundred times, but nothing ever shifts. Maybe they acknowledge the problem but don't take action. Or worse—maybe they don't even see an issue at all. In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into what to do when you're hitting a wall with your partner. They unpack the emotional toll of waiting for change, the difference between healthy patience and self-abandonment, and how to navigate the tension between acceptance and advocating for your needs. They also explore what true relational growth looks like—and why sometimes, the most powerful change you can make starts with yourself. If you've ever felt exhausted from trying to get your partner to evolve, this conversation will give you clarity, empowerment, and a new perspective on what's actually in your control. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Betrayal cuts deep—not just because of the actions themselves, but because of what they shake inside of us. We choose to trust, to be vulnerable, to let someone in… only to have that trust disregarded. The pain isn't just in the betrayal itself—it's in the shame, the humiliation, and the reality-shattering confusion that follows. In this episode, Justin and Abi unpack the emotional toll of betrayal and why it feels so destabilizing. They explore how gaslighting fuels the madness, why short-term efforts at repair aren't enough to rebuild trust, and how holding strong boundaries is essential in the aftermath. They also discuss the power of love—not as something that makes us weak in the face of betrayal, but as a force that allows us to rise above it, freeing us from shame and reclaiming our self-worth. Betrayal is a universal experience, but it doesn't have to define us. If you've ever struggled to make sense of betrayal—or want to learn how to rebuild trust without losing yourself—this episode is for you. You can WATCH us on Youtube at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

For many, the church has been a place of deep wounding rather than healing. Whether you've personally experienced pain or watched destructive behavior unfold, it can feel impossible to stay connected to faith when the place meant to embody love feels anything but safe. In this episode, Justin and Abi explore the complexity of church wounds—why they happen, how they impact our sense of self-worth, and what it takes to move forward. They discuss the tension between forgiveness and accountability, the importance of boundaries, and the challenge of not mirroring the same judgment and hurt we've experienced. If you've ever struggled with disillusionment, frustration, or grief over the church, this conversation offers a space to process, reflect, and consider a path toward healing—on your own terms. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Denial is one of the biggest roadblocks to living a full and abundant life—but most of us don't even realize when it's at play. It's not always intentional or malicious; often, it's an unconscious defense against pain, fear, and shame. But what we refuse to see, we can't heal. In this episode, Justin and Abi explore how denial quietly shapes our lives, keeps us disconnected, and prevents us from receiving the care and compassion we need. They break down why we fall into denial, how it impacts our relationships, and the steps to start facing reality with grace. If you've ever felt stuck, disconnected, or overwhelmed by the idea of facing hard truths, this conversation will help you navigate the process piece by piece—with self-compassion and a roadmap for growth. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Red flags get all the attention—but what about the green flags? We're so quick to call out what to avoid, but do we actually know what to look for in healthy, thriving relationships? In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into seven green flags that signal someone is a great person to build connection with—whether it's romantic or platonic. They break down key traits that make relationships fulfilling, how to recognize them in others, and most importantly, how to cultivate these qualities in yourself. If you want to break unhealthy relationship cycles, attract quality connections, and become the kind of person who naturally draws great relationships, this conversation is for you. Listen in as they explore: ✅ The qualities that make someone a great friend or partner ✅ How self-love creates space for deeper connections ✅ Why emotional intelligence and ownership are game changers ✅ The power you have to shape your relationship dynamics You don't just want good relationships—you want great ones. And that starts with knowing what to look for and who to become. Tune in now! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Many have experienced a version of faith that prioritizes performance over authenticity, often leaving little room for emotional honesty or personal healing. In part 2 of this two part series, Justin and Abi continue their deep dive into the intersection of faith and emotional health, tackling the ways in which toxic forgiveness and spiritual bypassing prevent genuine healing. They explore how religious communities sometimes use forgiveness as a way to silence pain rather than restore relationships, and how the misuse of spirituality can dismiss real emotional struggles. They also discuss the urgent need for accountability in faith communities, challenging the harmful patterns that enable toxic behavior to go unchecked. If you've ever felt pressured to "just forgive and move on" without real resolution, or if you've wrestled with the tension between faith and emotional health, this conversation is for you.

We've all had something we've wanted and found ourselves so desperate to obtain it, that we find ourselves compromising out of FOMO. In our anxiety, this ravenous hunger causes us to abandon our values and miss out on what we really want. The regret is real, but it doesn't have to stay that way. In this episode Justin and Abi dig into the desperation trap and the impact of that on experiencing the life you really want. They discuss how desperation causes us to compromise our core values, ignore our intuition, and make destructive decisions out of fear. They also share insights on how to establish peace that will set you up for creating success in the areas that matter most. This episode will help you change the way you think, and liberate you from the FOMO trap! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

For many, institutionalized faith and emotional health often feel like two opposing worlds. This separation between spirituality and emotional intelligence has been a longstanding issue, preventing many from experiencing life to its fullest. But does it have to stay this way? In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into the essential partnership between faith and emotional health. They explore the lack of free thought in organized religion, the broken theology that hinders emotional healing for many Christians, and the critical role personal autonomy plays in becoming a healthy, empowered individual. They also share how their spiritual journeys led to profound insights into the human condition. If you're looking to cultivate a balanced, whole life grounded in emotional health and a faith source greater than yourself—or if you're seeking healing from wounds caused by organized religion—this episode is for you!

Life can often feel like it's happening to us. We can feel powerless to partners, children, friends, employers, and endless circumstances. We can choose to live like a pinball in a game we have no control over, or we can step out of the chaos and start playing the game with intention. In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into the impact of building a healthy lifestyle rooted in self-management. They cover everything from managing your emotions to shaping the vision you have for your life. They also explore ways to feel like you're in the driver's seat—without steamrolling the people you love. If you're ready to reset how you experience life and take ownership of your story, this episode is for you!

It's easy to feel stuck, endlessly looping through the same life cycles, and spinning our wheels. It can seem like we're barely making progress, leaving us exhausted and defeated. But what if mastering one skill could shift the trajectory of our growth forever? In this episode, Justin and Abi sit down with their friend and fellow Life Consultant, Mariah, to explore the transformative power of learning how to receive feedback. They open up about their struggles with shame, the steps they took to get better at receiving feedback—no matter how it was delivered—and how this skill has profoundly impacted their relationships and overall well-being. If your healing journey feels like trudging through mud or you find yourself stuck in unbreakable cycles, this episode is exactly what you need. Don't miss out! The final days to enroll in Reclaiming You are happening now!  Last day to register is 1/18/25 Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

At some point, we've all felt like life is happening to us. Losses, betrayals, misunderstandings, and unexpected challenges can leave behind pain and destruction that feels out of our control. The result? A sense of powerlessness as we're left to clean up the mess. But what if we play a bigger role than we realize—and there's more we can do about it than we think? In this episode, Justin and Abi sit down with their friend and fellow Life Consultant, Mariah Hardy, to explore how to reclaim your power, overcome trauma, and take back your life through the practice of personal ownership. Together, they reveal how personal ownership not only builds shame resilience but also breaks the cycles that have held us back for so long. Start 2025 on the right foot and join us for this powerful two-part series. It's time to take charge of your story and create the life you deserve. You won't want to miss it! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

For many, New Year's resolutions are a pact to change areas of our lives, hoping that those changes will make us more worthy and lovable. Pushing ourselves to transform from a place of lacking self-worth in hopes of gaining acceptance is unproductive and defeating in the long run. So, is there a better way to create lasting change? In this episode, Abi and Justin ditch traditional New Year's resolutions and share insights on achieving lasting, tangible transformation. They explore how embracing your inherent value and approaching change from a place of worth—not to earn it—creates momentum and meaningful results. They also highlight the importance of desiring self-love as a foundation for healthy transformation and how this approach drives you to remove obstacles that hinder love, opening yourself up to a lifestyle of wholeness.  If you've experienced unsuccessful approaches to shifting your life in the New Year, then this episode will give you hope, clarity, and direction on how to change things up in the year to come! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In this heartfelt episode, Justin and Abi discuss the profound impact grief and suffering have on humanity, exploring how the radical love of God can overcome the despair and hopelessness we all face during overwhelming and painful experiences. Justin shares his personal journey of nearly losing Abi to her illness, revealing how his breaking point became a turning point for hope and freedom. Abi reflects on how her struggles have redefined her understanding of God's love. Together, they offer a fresh perspective on suffering and fondly recount the goodness of a Creator who has remained tangible and faithful throughout their journey. If life has been a bumpy ride for you, this episode offers a new lens—helping you see beyond the suffering to a faithful, loving Creator who willingly steps into the messiest parts of the human condition. AND DON'T MISS OUT! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Chronic physical pain and illness have left many of us searching for answers, forced to navigate life with limiting circumstances. The experience can often feel overwhelming and hopeless. But what if there's a path to resolution that the medical industry hasn't accounted for? In this episode, Abi and Justin sit down with their friend and Life Consultant, Carly Kolbo, to explore her remarkable journey. After battling a nearly incurable condition and finding no solutions through countless medical avenues, Carly fostered a 90% healing of her symptoms. She shares how she discovered the connection between her symptoms, her brain, her nervous system, and her sense of safety. Through changing her thought patterns and engaging in somatic tracking, she overcame what seemed like an impossible situation. For anyone battling chronic pain or illness, this episode offers a breath of fresh air. If you or someone you know is struggling in this area, this is a must-listen—and a must-share! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

We've all had times where we feel like we've been hijacked and our actions don't line up with our values. Many of us have reactions to circumstances that we're not proud of. Maybe it's a sense of lashing out or pulling away that we know doesn't represent us well. Maybe it's an addictive behavior we're suddenly compelled to do. Whatever it may be, we don't have to be victims to these hijackings. In this episode Justin and Abi are joined by friend and fellow Life Consultant Rachel Hughes to shine a light on how your body can hijack your life. They share how our bodies have been intelligently designed, how they are working for us, and how we can work with them to create a peace, comfort, and safety. If you want to get back into the driver seat of your own life, this episode will give you clarity to better understand your reactions and tools to start changing things now. Don't miss out! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Do you ever dread talking to that “one person” at a social event? We've all been there. And, unknowingly, we've probably been that person at some point. While they didn't teach this in school, learning how to relate to others is essential—and we're here to help! In this episode, Justin and Abi address the social elephants in the room as they discuss seven keys to relating to humans that can drastically help you change how you relate to others. They discuss practical approaches, from how we govern ourselves internally to how we relate externally. Through these foundational keys, they share how you can equip yourself and your community to be a safe and enjoyable place for anyone to connect. If you want to simplify connection and create favor wherever you go, this episode is a MUST! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Few people imagine that their bodies play an instrumental role in the repair process on the journey to emotional wholeness. Most people see the body as a separate entity from everything else. Because of this, they can find themselves unnecessarily bumping into a glass ceiling for years. But what if that could all change? In this episode, Abi and Justin are joined by friend and fellow Life Consultant Rachel Hughes to discuss how integrating an understanding of your body and its nervous system can exponentially change how you experience mental and emotional wholeness. They explore the 4f responses, share how connection to your body is crucial to moving through them, and give powerful tips on restoring a sense of safety and peace to your experience of life.  If you've found yourself experiencing any of the feelings of anxiety, depression, anger, overwhelm, panic, and many other emotions, this episode is a game changer for the process of creating peace and connection with yourself and others. Don't miss out! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou Now through Cyber Monday SAVE $100 on Reclaiming You at the check out when you use the code: theconnectedlife You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

The secret to creating a fulfilled life often seems like a mystery everyone is searching for. We travel down countless paths, hoping to find something outside ourselves to quench an inner sense of dissatisfaction. But what if the answer we're seeking is as close as the nearest mirror? In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into the power of personal reconciliation. Justin candidly shares his journey of realizing he was his own greatest enemy—and how becoming his own greatest advocate changed everything. Together, they discuss practical steps to repair this relationship and share stories of how their clients' lives transformed when they chose this path. If you listen to only one episode, make it this one. You won't be disappointed! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou Now through Cyber Monday, at the checkout SAVE $100 on Reclaiming You when you use the code: theconnectedlife You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In part two of this powerful series, Abi and Justin unpack what it truly means to feel regulated—and why it matters in every relationship. Discover how partners co-create a shared nervous system that affects everyone involved and get practical, game-changing strategies for building a space of love and connection through self-regulation. Plus, listen in as they share real apologies, acknowledging the impact their own dysregulation has had on each other. Ready to transform your relationships? This episode is packed with insights that can shift how you connect, love, and communicate. Don't miss it!

We've all been in situations where conflict slowly builds between us and someone else, only to find ourselves acting in ways we're not proud of. Suddenly, we're asking, “How did I get here, and how can I stop this from happening again?” Yet, we often repeat these cycles, unsure of how to break free. It's challenging for everyone involved—but there are solutions! In part one of this two-part episode, Justin and Abi explore how our nervous system can throw a massive monkey wrench into relational dynamics. They also share critical telltale signs of a dysregulated nervous system. Lastly, they open up about their own marriage and apologize to one another for how their dysregulation has impacted each other. This two part series is a game changer for any relationship. You won't want to miss out! Also, enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

We're wired to seek love, approval, and affirmation—even when it pushes us to the breaking point. But what happens when life knocks you down so hard that performing is no longer an option? In this raw and eye-opening episode, Abi shares about her battle with PTSD and how it shattered her ability to keep up appearances. She dives into the toll of self-neglect, fueled by a 'can-do' attitude that led to burnout, and the pressure of maintaining a public image while struggling behind the scenes. From the expectations of always being "on" to how filming this very podcast triggered some of her darkest moments, Abi's story is a powerful reminder that we all have limits. If you've been pushing yourself to the edge, this episode is a must-listen. It's time to pause, check in, and show yourself some compassion. Don't miss it! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In Part 2 of this series, Justin and Abi are once again joined by Johnny and Pietze for an in-depth look at secure functioning and the power of collaboration in creating a balanced partnership. Johnny and Pietze introduce a powerful alternative to "lawyering" called "microscopic truth," a way to communicate authentically and honestly that deepens connection and trust. They wrap up the conversation by discussing the importance of meeting each other's needs through a win-win approach and how fully accepting one another creates a relationship grounded in honor and respect. If you're wanting tools and perspectives to help create a relationship with a solid foundation and mutual care, this series is just want you're looking for! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Creating a secure, lasting partnership with someone we love is A LOT of work! It can be especially difficult when we don't have a roadmap. But don't lose hope, we've got your back! In this episode, Justin and Abi are joined by their close friends Johnny and Pietze for a deep dive into the phases of a relationship. From the thrill of infatuation to the delicate dance of negotiating needs, they discuss the shift from codependence to interdependence and the importance of creating a collaborative relationship where the focus is on protecting, caring for, and nurturing the relationship itself rather than just the individuals involved. Whether you're in a new relationship or have been together for years, this two-part series offers valuable insights to help you create a secure and thriving partnership! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

The battle between parents and their children is real! In many homes, parents either feel overrun by their kids, or they rule with an iron fist. But what if there was a way to create a balanced environment filled with mutual respect and love? In this episode, Habit Coach and friend Jenna Zint joins Abi and Justin for a deep dive into setting boundaries with your children and navigating the emotional challenges of parenthood. They discuss the common triggers parents face and how feelings of failure can prevent the creation of healthy boundaries. They also explore how to care for yourself while attending to your child's needs, how to communicate with your child about the impact of their behavior, and how to foster a regulated emotional environment through self-regulation. If you're looking for a parenting approach that embraces balance, nuance, and accountability, this episode offers practical insights on developing a healthier, more connected family dynamic. Don't miss out! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

It's common for people to ask, “What am I doing with my life?” There's a natural curiosity within us that seeks to understand our purpose on earth. The journey to discover what we're created for can often feel overwhelming, but maybe it doesn't have to be so complicated. In this 300th episode, Abi and Justin reflect on the humble beginnings of their marriage and the daunting challenge of trying to figure everything out. They share their faith journey and the fears they had to confront to become who they are today. They also discuss how simply doing the next right thing led them down unexpected paths and brought blessings they could never have orchestrated on their own. Finally, they reveal how trust paved the way for some of the greatest miracles they've ever experienced. If you're looking for hope and inspiration in your current season, this episode won't disappoint! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

You probably know or have met someone with ADD, ADHD, or autism—or maybe you're one of those people. These neurological differences, known as neurodivergence, make up an estimated 15-20% of the population. Whether or not you fall into this category, it's likely to impact your life, and we're here to help you navigate it. In this episode, Abi and Justin sit down with their friend and psychologist Ruth Outram. Together, they share their journeys with neurodivergence, the impact it's had on their lives and relationships, and how they've turned what could have been kryptonite into a superpower. They also dive into the pros and cons of labels and explore how understanding their struggles has been empowering and liberating. Lastly, Abi drops a bombshell and briefly opens up about her autism diagnosis and how learning she was on the spectrum changed her life forever. If you want to better understand yourself or those around you, this episode is filled with insight and compassion. Don't miss out! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

It's easy to fall in love with the idea of someone. The fantasy we create in our minds is often one of very few imperfections. Unfortunately, the perfect person only exists in our imagination. Building a relationship around a fantasy cannot only be disappointing, but it can be incredibly destructive.  In this episode, Justin and Abi are joined by friend and fellow Life Consultant Rachel Hughes to discuss the world of relational fantasy known as limerence. They explore how fantasizing about who someone is can cause you to bond to the idea of them, create unrealistic expectations, perpetuate a one-sided relationship, and cause you to overlook their nuances altogether. They also delve into the importance of humanizing people and recognizing the red, yellow, and green flags we all have.  If you want to learn about a more holistic approach to relationships that will help you foster balance in the way you relate to others, this episode is right up your alley! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In part two of this dialogue, Abi and Justin are once again joined by Habit Coach Jenna Zint to discuss the vital role boundaries play in fostering healthy relationships with yourself and others. Together, they tackle creative solutions for navigating seemingly powerless situations, eliminating blame and accusation in boundary setting, becoming self-aware of our patterns and triggers, and removing punishment from the process. They also explore how to create a balanced life through boundaries, avoiding the extremes of either giving nothing of ourselves or giving every last ounce to those who ask. This episode is packed with strategies that will bring relief to all your relationships. You won't want to miss it!"   AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Boundaries has been a buzz word for a while now. As with any popularized emotional health tool, there have been wild misuses and misunderstandings of this deeply valuable concept. However, when used properly, boundaries can help create a thriving, connected life filled with love and respect for ourselves and others. In part one of this dialogue Justin and Abi sit down with Habit Coach Jenna Zint to discuss her strategic use of boundaries in her life. She opens up about how she gained confidence through a challenging learning curve with her mom. Together, they explore how to stop resenting people for having needs, how to say ‘No' while still communicating value for someone, how to create balanced relationships, and how to healthily communicate feedback as a way to love and care for everyone involved.  If you're needing clarity and courage around boundaries and want insight into how others approach them, this series will knock your socks off! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Do you want to know a vital key to making your life better? It's probably not what you think it is. Most of us believe that judging ourselves and others is a catalyst for change, but it's quite the opposite. In fact, judgment can be the most damning opponent to experiencing a fulfilled life. But it doesn't have to be that way. In this episode Justin and Abi are joined once again by their good friend Gabby to discuss compassion and its role in healing, growth, and enjoying life. They talk about the impact of the judgment stick we use, the shame highs and shame lows that keep us from feeling loved, and the common humanity that we all share. Lastly, they examine the destructive belief that if people have compassion for themselves, they'll live stagnant and passively towards life. If you could use a fresh and hopeful perspective on how to approach life, this episode is just for you. Oh and it's funny…so you'll get a good laugh as well. ;)   AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE!   You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife   Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Nobody that's been married will deny that it's difficult. When we get together with another person, we're faced with communication breakdowns, different cultural backgrounds, opposing value systems, and worst of all, having a mirror that shows us the messiness of our own heart. Though it's tough, with a few keys, it can be a liberating experience for both parties.   In this episode, long time friends Pietze and Johnny join Justin and Abi to discuss the ways taking personal ownership has been a game changer in their relationships. They talk about the hurdles they've had to overcome in order to be honest with themselves and each other and they open up vulnerably about the ways they've hurt one another.   If you're needing some perspective on how to win at marriage or could use some hope on how to navigate the choppy waters of any relationship, this episode is perfect for you.   AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE!   You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife   Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

We all impact the world around us for better and for worse. It can feel difficult to take an honest look at ourselves and how we affect others, but what if self-reflection is the stepping stone to having the best experience of this life? In this episode, Justin and Abi discuss the reality of having to look at ourselves honestly. They explore the positive benefits this has on developing deeper connections, a heart of humility, and an abundant life experience. They also ponder how this might play out in eternity while discussing how our choices here might affect us there. If you want to get inspired about the life right in front of you, this episode does just  that!  AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!  

Conflict isn't fun for most of us. For many of us, we'd rather avoid it altogether. Since many of us haven't seen it modeled well, it can often lead to further disruptions in relationships and seemingly make things worse. But what if we had a better understanding of its benefits and how to do it well? In this episode Gabby, a good friend of Abi and Justin, joins the conversation. Gabby shares about her journey of avoiding conflict, the impact it had on her life, and the brave tweaks she made in her beliefs and actions that changed the game for her altogether. If you want insight on why you react to conflict the way you do, and could use some inspiration on how to navigate conflict moving forward, this episode is chock full of insight, and entertaining laughs that will help the medicine go down! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Whether or not we're aware of it, we all have emotions we don't want to feel. Some of those emotions are so intolerable that we'll do anything we can to avoid them. Unfortunately, avoiding these emotions won't resolve them. It simply perpetuates them. But don't fear, there's hope to face them! In this episode, Justin and Abi are joined by their friend Ruth Outram, who is currently finishing her doctorate in Clinical Psychology. Together, they discuss the intolerable emotions we all have, where they come from, and how we can learn to approach even the most difficult feelings. If you want a better understanding of the feelings and reactions you're having, this episode is filled with gold! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!  

In today's culture, masculinity has two predominant expressions on opposite ends of the spectrum. One expression is the dominant protector that views emotional health as weak. On the other end is the nonthreatening connector that avoids challenges at all costs. But what if there was an expression of masculinity that was a healthy blend of protector and connector? In this episode, Justin sits down with special guest Jeremy Morris, founder of Wild Courage. Jeremy shares stories of fostering a tribe of men who have found the courage to face their fears of vulnerability while maintaining their capacity to face adversity head-on. If you've been looking for an example of a balanced model of masculinity that is connected to its heart and willing to face any fight on behalf of those it loves, this episode is a MUST! Don't miss out. AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Emotions are an inescapable part of the human experience. As kids, these emotions are often judged, shut down, ignored, and stuffed until they can't be dismissed any longer. We can demonize them and perpetuate a life of feeling alone and unloved, or we can embrace them and come alive. In this episode Justin and Abi discuss the impact of being disconnected from our emotions, the power of identifying and naming them, and how we can nurture ourselves through becoming interested in and understanding them. They also examine how the energy behind every emotion is drives us from moment to moment dictating how we connect to the world around us. If you don't want your emotions to rule you, this episode will give you insight on how to manage them while creating connection with yourself. Don't miss out! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

As adults, most of us can reflect on our childhood and recognize that there are things we needed from our parents that they couldn't provide. Some choose to deny that reality and live feeling a sense of missing something. Others get lost in the pain of what they didn't get. But what if there was another option? In this episode, Justin and Abi explore the ways they missed out on crucial parenting experiences. They share simple yet profound steps they've taken to acknowledge their past and reparent themselves through practical actions that restore what seemed forever lost. If there is parenting that you needed and wanted, but didn't get, this episode is JUST FOR YOU. You still have time to redeem your childhood, even if your parents can't or won't participate. AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In an ever growing culture of emotionally fragile people, it's vital that we have conversations about the human condition in a way that's educational and empowering. A better understanding of ourselves and others should develop a lifestyle of compassion and emotional resilience to life's most difficult circumstances. In Part 2 of this two-part series, Justin and Abi continue the conversation around the 4F trauma responses fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. In this episode, they highlight flight and fawn and the impacts of these responses in their own lives. They share how progressively finding healing for these responses has developed confidence and connection in their relationships. If you want to better understand yourself and others this series is a MUST for any relational connection! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

We're often quick to believe that messy and destructive actions stem from poor character. Our judgments of ourselves and others usually lack curiosity and understanding. However, as we learn more about the human experience, we discover that many of our actions are trauma responses that, when properly addressed, can be healed. In Part 1 of this two-part series, Abi and Justin explore the four trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. These responses can unknowingly be at the core of some of our most difficult relational interactions. Educating ourselves about these responses not only fosters grace for ourselves and others but also provides a roadmap for healing. If you're struggling to overcome hurdles in your emotional health journey, this series may offer the clarity needed to start conquering them. AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

The mandate on masculinity is to protect, provide, and connect. However, modern culture has slowly deviated from the path to becoming a man, creating a world of orphaned boys who lack accountability, transparency, and the exchange of truth. The result is a lack of courage, love, and safety. But is there hope for a course correction? In this episode, author and speaker Danny Silk joins the conversation. He opens up about his broken childhood, the healing he found in facing himself in marriage, and the courage that was necessary to become a man. He shares insight into the power of brotherhood and discusses the seven dragons every man must battle to step into his authentic design. If you want to build the momentum needed to face fears and live a connected life, this episode will inspire you and give you hope, regardless of your gender. Don't miss out! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE! OUR NEW COURSE CONNECTED CONFLICTS IS OUT NOW!  If you want to learn how to create safer connections and gain confidence in conflict this revolutionary course is exactly what you're looking for! https://justinandabi.com/courses/connectedconflicts/