The Porn Addict's Wife

My guest today is Victoria Sinis-an incredible woman who has a powerful inside look at the reality of OnlyFans! Victoria was once employed by an OnlyFans marketing agency and comes today to share the reality of what that industry looks like, how she dramatically changed from not believing it is wrong to converting to Christianity and fighting against it, and how Jesus has transformed her. I hope you enjoy this episode! Thank you to Victoria for her sweet testimony! 

Rob joined me for today's episode! We are discussing what our present future looks like and the lessons we have learned over the last year while Rob has been full-time homeschool dad and I have been the breadwinner. If your circumstances have ever NOT looked like what you thought they would or you feel like you are taking a step back, this is for you. 

Whether you are comparing yourself to what he's seen online or what you THINK he's seen online, or women in person...if you find yourself comparing and coming up short, this is for you. Today I'm diving into why we do this, what comes up for us when we do, and why it's so crucial to change! If you are ready to stop feeling this way about yourself, next week's "Love Who I Am" Masterclass is for you! Click here to save your seat today and let's change what you believe about yourself.  Ready to change your life in 6 weeks? Come join me for the "6 Weeks To Healed" jumpstart to summer. I will lead you through my simple, 6 step process that will teach you exactly how to retrain your brain and process your emotions so that you can start moving forward today. Our kickoff call begins Monday, May 5 so join today for a 6 week transformation that will lead to a lifetime of support and coaching. Click here to sign up today for my lifetime access program and you'll get details sent right to your inbox!

If you ever feel like you're not good enough, this is for you. I am hosting a brand new "Love Who I Am" Masterclass and I want to invite you to join. Monday, April 28-Thursday, May 1 @ 12pm est daily. During this class I am going to teach you the tools you need in order to truly transform into the woman who loves herself fully -rather than just "knowing" that she "should". Click here for full details and save your spot today.

Retraining your brain takes a little bit of work-but it's like creating muscle memory. Today I'm talking about how retraining your brain works, what it feels like, and how to do it more effectively so you can get where you want to be FASTER! Tired of feeling like you're not good enough? Come join me in the brand new "Love Who I Am" Masterclass- April 27-May1! This is where I will teach you how to break out of the toxic negativity cycles in your brain, move beyond regret and shame of the past, and establish hope in the future. Click here for full details and save your seat today!

There are two main ways we feel internal opposition. Today I'm going over both and what to do when you feel both kinds. This is how you change your life! Let's go.  When facing the pain of a spouse's struggle with pornography, it can feel like your world is collapsing from the inside out. I've taken all the guesswork out and created a simple self-care checklist to help you heal yourself and give yourself the care you need. Click here and I'll send it right to you. 

What are you commited to? What does commitment even mean? How do you know if you are commited to something? And how do you do it on purpose? That's what we are discussing today and it can change your life!   Click here to get my FREE training video for How To Talk To Youth About Pornography!   Want to know about the next couples course? Click here to get on the waitlist!

Self pity is what I label as an indulgent emotion. But I want to discuss today why it's so important to become aware of and how it's different than pity you feel for others. Join me to learn more about it so you can start taking control of it in your life! Click here to join the waitlist to be the first to know when the next Couples Course cohort launches! If you want to have a Porn Free Marriage and want to work together with your spouse to make that happen, this is for you!  

You could be cheating on yourself and not even know it. That's what I'm talking about today. If you are not where you want to be in any area- your body, your marriage, your relationships-this episode is for you. I'm diving into why you might not be where you want to be yet and the key that will actually get you there. Let's go! Ready to stop cheating on yourself and commit to the version of you you want to become? Come join my LIFETIME access coaching program and start moving forward today.  Want to work 1-1 with me? I have opened a few limited spots for private coaching and one is waiting for you! Click here for full details and secure your spot today!

The thoughts you think about yourself MATTER. And today I'm diving into why AND the 3 main ways that we subconsciously keep ourselves in a negative thought loop. Let's change that right now.    Click here to join the waitlist for the next Porn Free Marriage couples course enrollment! Ready to work with me one on one? Click here for full details and to sign up today! 

If you're feeling stuck, it's not your fault. You've been lied to. And those lies are what are keeping you stuck in the betrayal and pain of your husband's pornography problem. But, you don't have to stay there. And, today, I'm going to identify what those lies are, how they're keeping you stuck, and what you can do about it!  Click here to get full access to the FREE replay of this webinar! 

Are you worried about trusting or believing your husband because you did that in the past and you were naive? This is for you! Today I'm talking about the difference between naivete and ignorance and why they are so important to recognize and distinguish!  Did you miss this round of the Porn Free Marriage Couples Course? Don't worry! Click here to sign up for the waitlist to be the first to know when the next round begins!   Ready to create the transformation you're looking for and STOP feeling so anxious about your husband's behavior all the time? Now is the perfect time to join my coaching program! Click here to sign up! And be sure to add one on one coaching to skyrocket your progress!   

Do you want to just make SURE that where you are is where you THINK you are? That what you believe is actually correct? If you find yourself wanting to check his phone or ask him just to have him reassure you that where you are is where you think you are, this is for you!  Ready to move forward and have a Porn Free Marriage? Click here to get full details and sign up for the couples course that is now live! This course will run from the week of February 24-April 4 and you can find full details on last week's podcast episode!  Click here to enroll in the "How To Trust" Master Class for just $49! Learn what trust is, what it isn't, the roadblocks to trust, and join me as I walk you through learning how to rebuild trust in yourself and your spouse! 

Want to know how to have a porn free marriage? This is it. I'm sharing the outline for the brand new Porn Free Marriage Couples Course that is launching this Friday, February 14! This is a 6 week, interactive course with live group coaching calls that is designed to not only help you prevent pornography from entering your home again but also help you become free from the affects of pornography!  Click here to join the waitlist to be the first to know when enrollment in this course opens on February 14!  Want to join this week's Sex And Intimacy Master Class? Click here to save your seat!

This week is a replay of my MOST downloaded episode of all time. And it's one of the most important because it breaks down the lie that your husband's pornography problem has anything to do with you OR your sexual relationship. If you've listened to it before, it's time to refresh!  Want help breaking up with the lie that porn is about you or your sex life? Sign up for next week's "Sex and Intimacy" Master Class! joining gives you access to all 4 days of live coaching and content plus lifetime access to the replays! Click here to save your seat! Want more info on the "Porn Free Marriage Couples Course"? Click here to join the waitlist and you'll be the first to know when enrollment opens on February 14!

Can you have sex without intimacy? What's the difference between the two? Today we're diving into it so you can start to create both on purpose.  Come join me for my Sex and Intimacy Master Class Feb 10-13! Click here for full details and save your seat today! Ready to transform your relationship with your body and your sexuality for the better? Click here to take advantage of a special Valentine's Day Master Class Bundle! This gives you access to 4 Master Classes for just $199-saving you money and getting you on your way to actually enjoying your valentine's day!  Ready to create a Porn Free Marriage? Sign up to be the first to know when my first ever Couples Course is launched in February! 

Do you think things like "I used to think of my husband as..... but now I only see him as...". This is for you. When we have two versions of our spouse, it can cause A  LOT of unnecesary negative emotion and keep us stuck. Today I'm going to discuss what reconciling is, why it's so important, and what the biggest problems are with keeping two versions of your husband in your mind.    Click here to join my email list and be the first to know when you can sign up for February's "Sex and Intimacy" Master Class! Come follow my NEW Instagram acount for Porn Free World! @prnfreeworld  This is where I will be launching my first ever course for COUPLES on how to have a Porn Free Marriage! Click here to join the waitlist to be the FIRST to know when it launches!   Click here to see the FULL online roster of master classes!    Click here to sign up for coaching at the lowest price ever of $167/month!!!

Do you want to have more compassion for your spouse but you're struggling with that? Maybe you don't like that you are judging him-especially if he's trying to change...This is for you. I'm diving into why we do this, why it's not a problem, and how to work through it.   

Are you worried that you are enabling the behavior of someone in your life? Maybe you think you are enabling your husband in his pornography addiction or a child in their behvior? Today I'm diving into what enabling truly is, why we do it, and when it's not a bad thing!    Stay up to date on all the latest by joining my email list! Head to my website and sign up and I'll send tools and tips right to you!

Just like physical habits like reading a book or scrolling your phone, we also have emotional habits. Today I'm diving into what those are, what they look like and why it's so important to start becoming aware of what those habits are in your life.  If you're ready to take control and chance some emotional habits in your life, come join me at next week's "A Year For You" Master Class! This will be January 6-9 @ 12pm est and is just $99 when you use the code "email50" at checkout. Click here for full details and save your seat today!

Today I'm sharing the #1 tool share with my clients when they're going through something hard. If you want to know how to get through hard times, this is it.

How do you move on when you don't have the full Truth? And, is there such a thing? Today I'm diving into all of it and showing you that YES! You can! Not interested in repeating this year in 2025? Click here to save your seat at my brand new master class called "A Year For You". In this class held Jan6-9 I'm going to teach you how to change from the inside out so that you stop living the same year over and over again! Use code "email50" for $50 off when you register! Don't miss out on the chance to get private coaching from me! For 2025 I am offering private 1-1 coaching and I only have 2 spots left! Click here to get full details and schedule a free consultation call with me today! Ready to see what coaching can do for you? Join today for just $249 and get full access to twice weekly coaching AND all my online content for an entire year! Click here for full details and sign up today! 

Or any other time of year...:) It can be difficult to set boundaries...especially with the ones we love most. So, in this episode I'm going to walk you through 6 simple steps to help you set boundaries so that you can actually enjoy your holiday season!  Want to submit a topic for the podcast? Simply message me on IG @jolenewinncoaching! Shoot me a direct message and I'll do an episode for you!  

I transformed this year in a way I didn't even think was possible. And as I looked at what created that transformation, I wanted to offer the same opportunity to you. This year I am opening up 3 private coaching spots for those who are 100% committed to going after what you've previously believed is impossible...it isn't. That version of you is waiting. And I can help you get there.  Click here for full 1-1 coaching details and to sign up for a free consultation call today.  Offer expires Jan 1st so sign up today!

Why does that thing still hurt when it happened 18 years ago? Why does it still feel so fresh? Today I'm diving into the relationship between healing and time...and why it's the best news I could ever give you! Don't miss out on the limited time chance to coach with me one on one! I am opening 3 private coaching spots for 2025 and if you know you want one, click here to schedule a FREE consultation call with me today! If you are ready to make this the best year yet and join at the LOWEST PRICE ever- now is the time! Join today for 12 months of coaching at just $249/month! Click here for full details!   Curious about working with me but unsure what is the best option for you? Or just want to make sure it's the right fit before investing? Click here to schedule a FREE consultation call with me today! 

Do you find it hard to feel gratitiude when your husband is still struggling with porn? Or maybe he's getting better but you are disappointed that YOU'RE not? This week I'm sharing a personal (and very recent) disappointing experience and what I've learned through it.  If you're ready to take this to the next level and start transforming your life, I want to invite you to join my coaching program. With a new lower pricing option and a limited time private coaching offer, there has never been a better time to sign up! Click here to schedule your free consultation call with me today!

How do you feel more attractive? Does it come from your spouse? What if he's watching porn? How are you supposed to feel more attractive if you can't change what he's doing? If you want to feel more attractive, this episode is for you! I'm diving into what creates attractiveness and leading you through an exercise that will help you identify why you don't feel attractive so that you can then change it! Want to dive into this on a deeper level with my help? Come join us for this week's Attraction Master Class! Click here to sign up to get access to all 4 days of live coaching PLUS lifetime access to all the replays! 

What is attraction? And, what do you do when you are no longer attracted to your spouse beacuse he's watching porn? Or how do you navigate your relationship when he's attracted to other women? Today I'm diving into the 6 most common lies we believe about attraction and why they are keeping you stuck where you are. Don't skip this one ladies!  Ready to take this and apply it in your life with personal help from me? Come join me at next week's brand new Attraction Master Class. November 18-21 @ 12pm est each day! We are going to take everything from this podcast and begin applying in a deep, personal way that will enable you to begin transforming your life and marriage. Click here for details and to sign up today!

Do you have someone in your life that is toxic? Or maybe it's not a person, but a situation? This episode is for you! We are talking all about what makes a person toxic and what to do!   Come join me for this month's brand new Attraction Master Class! This will be taught live inside my coaching program but I'm opening spots for you to join for the entire week plus get access to all the content and replays! Calls will be Monday, November 18-Thursday, November 21 @ 12pm est! Click here for full details!

Do you believe in unconditional love? Do you even know what it is? Inspired by a conversation with my husband, today I'm diving into how I think about unconditional love and how I believe it connects us to God. This is a deep one that I know you'll enjoy!

Do you feel overwhelmed sometimes? Maybe it's because you're not losing weight. Or because your kids aren't listening. Or perhaps it's because of all the responsibility you are juggling. Today I'm going to dive into WHAT overwhelm is AND what creates it so that you can finally start to change that pattern so you can ENJOY the life you have! Click here to join my FREE live class "How To Stop Feeling Overwhelmed By Your Beautiful Life" this Wednesday, October 23 @ 12pm est! 

Do you ever feel like you need a rest? A break from all the worry, overwhelm, and whatever is making you emotionally drained? This episode is for you. I'm talking about why this is so important to do, and how to do it the RIGHT way so that it's ACTUALLy restful.  Come join me for next week's live event! "How To Stop Feeling Overwhelmed By Your Beautiful Life". October 23 @ 12pm est. Click here to save your seat!

Do you know that the opposite of courage isn't fear? It's discouragement. And that's what today's episode is all about. What discouragement is, why it's there, and how to work past it so that you don't get stuck IN it. I'm sharing personal examples today and walking you through my journey. Whatever is making you feel discouraged right now, this is for you. 

DON'T SKIP THIS ONE! I have an announcment at the end that you won't want to miss! I'm renaming the podcast (among other things) and this will tell you all about it! Sometimes, ladies, we resist change. And we don't do the things we should...like buy ourselves new underwear because we are putting everyone else first. BUT I want to share that change can be amazing. This episode includes 9 lessons I learned at the in person retreat with my coach last week and how that's affecting you. Let's go.    Click here to join this week's "How To Eliminate Triggers" Masterclass! Join for all 3 days of live coaching and training and get lifetime access to all the calls!   Ready to come meet me in person? Click here to save your spot at this year's in person retreat! October 17-20 in North Carolina! This is an intimate experience with limited spots so secure yours today! 

Every emotion that we feel and take action from creates a by product that shapes our life. Today I'm diving into what emotional by products are and why they're so important to understand and recognize in ourselves. This is a must listen! Click here to get full details for my in person retreat! 7 spots left to join me for an intimate, 3 day getaway October 17-20 in Oak Island, NC!

What are you UNWILLING to negotiate on? Are you sure that if he had an affair you would leave? Or the next time he relapses he has to move out? Today I'm talking about non-negotiables and what to do if you have them and why you actually DON'T need them... :) Tired of living with triggers? Sign up today for my "How To Eliminate Triggers" Masterclass! Sign up to join live September 30-October 2 and get access to all the replays and content. Get all the details and sign up here!   Want to learn how to set boundaries the right way? Click here to enroll in my "How To Set Boundaries" Masterclass! Sign up for lifetime access today!

What do you do when you're not in the mood? Is there any way to GET in the mood? Today is all about that! And, trust me ladies, it's going to change everything! Listen in to discover WHY you're not in the mood, WHAT you're not in the mood for, and what to do about it! The answers are not what you think! Come join my live class on Thursday, September 12 @ 1pm est! This is a FREE call where I am going to teach you the 3 lies that you are being taught that are keeping you stuck AND what to do instead.  Get my full roster of master classes here! Sign up and enroll today! (You don't have to be a client!)

Want to create the life you want? The relationship you dream about with yourself, your body, your husband? This is how you do it. Today I'm breaking down WHY you have the results you currently have in your life AND how to change it. Today. Let's go.  Register today for my FREE class: "How To Break Free From Your Husband's Pornography Problem" on September 12 @ 1pm est. In this class I am going to go over the 3 biggest lies that are being taught to you and why they are keeping you stuck. Sign up today to work with me one on one at the call so we can move you forward.    Want to meet me in person and spend 3 incredible, transformational days coaching? Sign up to join me at this year's in person retreat in Oak Island, NC! OCtober 17-20 I am taking 15 women to the beach for an intimate coaching experience that is unlike any other. Check out details here and reserve your spot today before they sell out!

Today I'm sharing a personal story. And how I'm letting go of it. I'm diving into what our stories are, why they are there, and what to do when they are no longer in our best interest.    Come join me for my next FREE live event: How To Break Free From Your Husband's Pornography Problem! Thursday, September 12 @ 1pm EST! Click here to register! Ready to come meet me in person? Come join me at my in person, 3 day retreat at the beach! October 17-20 I am taking an intimate group to Oak Island, NC to spend a powerful weekend coaching and transforming. And it's your turn to come! Click here to reserve your spot today!

Do you feel uncomfortable, self conscious, insecure, or threatened by other women? This episode is for you! I am going to lead you through an exercise to help you uncover what's going on internally so that you can start to process through this AND change it!    Click here to join me for the free Retreat Info Call on Thursday, August 22 @ 12pm est. 

Ladies, this year's retreat will be more powerful than any I've done before. Because it's time to go on offense. In this episode I'm giving you all the details of what the retreat will be like and what you'll learn there. If you're ready to go on offense, come join us. We're going forward.    Click here to sign up and save your seat at the retreat today! Only 12 spots left!   Click here to sign up to attend the REtreat Info Call on Thursday, August 22 @ 12pm est. I will answer your questions and go over all the details! 

Ladies, anger isn't just yelling and getting in fights. Sometimes, anger can be sneaky and we can be feeling it even when we think we aren't. Today I'm going over 5 common ways that anger is expressed incognito! AND why it's so important to become aware of them.    Struggling with anger? Come join me for my brand new Anger Management Master Class! August 19-21 @ 1pm est! I am going to teach you how to defuse your anger so you don't feel like it's running your life! Use code "EMAIL" for $50 off when you sign up! Click here for details! Want to try coaching for free? Sign up for this week's FREE coaching call! Wednesday, August 14 @ 1pm est. Bring where you are stuck, come watch me coach others as you listen in, or get one on one help from me with whatever is going on in your life. Click here to sign up! Interested in coming to this year's in person retreat? I'd love to see you there! I'm hosting a FREE Retreat Info Call on August 22 @ 12pm est! Click here to register for it and get all the retreat details! 

I used to yell at my kids A LOT. And I hated it. But I felt like I didn't know how to stop it. If you struggle yelling at someone in your life or getting in arguments, this is for you. I'm going to break down exactly how I stopped yelling and how you can too so that it stops creating a negative affect in your life.  Come join me for Anger Management! This is a new master class I'm teaching inside my coaching program but I'm oepning up a few spots for non clients! If today's episode resonated with you, this class is for you! Click here for details!   Ready to experience coaching firsthand? Come join my Free Coaching Call on August 14! Bring whatever is keeping you stuck or just come watch to see what coaching is like! Click here to sign up!

What do you want to receive in your life? Because it's all available to you. It just might be something inside of you that's blocking it. In today's episode I'm diving into all the internal blocks that could be preventing you from having the thing that you want. Let's dive in!   

Your primitive brain is keeping you alive. But today I'm going to teach you exactly HOW your brain is doing that-and how it can often be to your detriment. Not only will you learn more so that you can learn how to change it, it will also help you understand more about what's going on in your husband's brain too!   Click here to join me for today's FREE live event on how to solve your husband's pornography problem!   Click here for my FREE video training, "How To Talk To Your Kids About Pornography"!

A sunk cost is an investment you can't get back. Today I'm applying that idea to emotions and relationships and diving into what happens when you have an emotional sunk cost and what you should do about it.  Join me next week for me FREE live, one day event! In this class 'How To Solve Your Husband's Pornography Problem" I am going to teach you how to stop the false control and hustling that is leaving you emotionally exhausted and teach you what to do instead! Save your seat here!

If you don't feel confident in your body-this is for you! I am dissecting what confidence in your body truly is AND how to change it! p.s. You don't have to lose any weight to do it! Want to join for this week's Body Confidence Master Class? Click here! You'll get lifetime access to all the replays and be able to join us for any live calls! Join today before the price goes up! Want to learn how to solve your husband's pornography problem? Come join me on Monday, July 22 for a FREE one day live event! I will be breaking down exactly how to solve the problem that's creating so much drama in your life! CLick here to save your seat today!

This is a special Independence Day episode with a message that God has put on my heart to share. It's time to transfrom from victim to victor. It's time to stand up against the enemy and refuse to surrender. It's time to fight back. Let's go.    I'm fighting this battle. But I need more warriors. Come join me. 

Did you know there are two types of body weight? There's the actual physical weight of your body that you measure. And then there's the emotional weight of your body that is added based on how you think and feel about your body. Today I'm talking about the second kind-how it affects us, and how to change it-along with why it's so important to do so!  If you want to dive deeper into this and want to truly heal your relationship with your body and stop carrying around the excess body weight that you don't need, save your seat at next week's Summer Body Confidence Master Class! During this 3 day class I will teach you how to conquer triggers, heal your relationship with your body, and create confidence from the inside out so that you can actually enjoy the experiences in your life without getting poisoned by anxiety. Click here for full details!   Ready for some incredible in person coaching? Come join me at this year's in person retreat in Oak Island, NC! Click here for full details and save your spot today!    Come join my FREE 1 day Live Event on July 22 called "How To Solve Your Husband's Pornography Problem"! Click here to save your seat!

We are all full of potential energy. It's what's stored inside of us, waiting for us. It's what's possible in our lives. But we are often stuck there. Just in the potential. And today I'm talking about what's keeping you stuck in potential energy, what's preventing you from actually having what you want in your life-and how to change it!    If you're tired of feeling stuck, come work with me! My program has no expiration date and I will work with you one on one to help you master the tools you need to confidently face the future. Click here for full details!   Are you a coach or entrepreneur? Come join my FREE 4 day business workshop! Click here to get access to the replays and get coached live!

Do you ever get annoyed by all the text messages and emails from shops alerting you to sales and information? Yeah, me too. But, at one point, you opted in to receving them...and that's exactly what's going on in your brain too. Today I'm talking about how that happens with our thoughts and feelings and how you can change it!  Also, it's Rob's birthday today! Let's celebrate him and thank him for all he does for me (and you!)! Join me on IG @jolenewinncoaching and drop him a happy birthday message!  Come join me in coaching! Click here to get full program details on how you can sign up for LIFETIME access to all my coaching and content! This is where we take everything from the podcast and uplevel it to apply it personally to your life so that you can finally see that exponential growth you've been waiting for!  Are you a coach or entrepreneur who is feeling stuck in your business? I want to help you! I am hosting a FREE 4 day workshop, June 24-27 and I'd love to see you there! During these week, I am going to teach you my simple formula for solving ANY business problem AND help you apply it to your own business! Click here to register today to join live or catch the replays!