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Today, we are talking about dysfunctional families. I think all families function to the level of awareness. There are helpful and unhelpful parts of these systems. As we increase and change our awareness, we can add tool and skill to create better systems and better functional families. #dysfunctionalfamlies #familysystems #mentalhealth #skillbuilding #changingpatterns

Today, we are talking about men's mental health. Men are struggling, and consequently, woman are feeling those effects. With marriage rates down and social media movements of men bashing, I wanted to add a different perspective to the conversation. Check in with the partners, friends, dads, brothers and others. Help create a space for their vulnerability.  #mensmentalhealth #boyshavefeelingstoo #healthypartners #strongindependentwomen #mensemotions

Today, we are talking about the myth of perfection. So often we have an idea of what something should feel like, look like, of be and we lose sight of what it is. I was inspired by listening to "The Gift 14 lessons to save your life" by Dr. Edith Eger who is a holocaust survivor, mother, and psychotherapist. She has been through really challenging horrible things and continues to live a beautiful life. #notperfect #existentialtherapy #controlwhatyoucan #mentalhealth #wdnc 

Today, we are talking about self-awareness. Part of healing, growing, and changing behavior is being aware of who we are and how we show up in the world. Not with criticism and judgement, but with compassion and patience. #selfawareness #mentalhealth #howdidigethere #skillbuilding #getcurious

Today, we are talking about rebuilding and repairing. As we evolve in our human experience we get so many opportunities to evaluate the different parts of ourselves. Part of doing that is repairing old thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors. We can make a plan and create new parts rebuilding to the new version of who we want to be. #couplestherapy #evolving #newskills #repair #rebuild

Today, we are talking about how we betray ourselves. In one's life we make decisions and choose to live in a way that is inauthentic to who we actually are. Sometimes, it a conscious choice, and other times it is several small choices over time. Pay attention to how you feel when you make those decisions. Start to create space in your life for your whole self. #betrayal #authenticself #beyourself #healingandgrowing

Today, we are talking about compartmentalization experiences and emotions. It is sometimes helpful, if not necessary, to put those aside to continue carrying on through life, especially when those things are challenging. #compartmentalize #mentalhealth #gettingthrough #wholeself #feelings

Today, we are talking about Surrender and how helpful it is to just sit down sometimes. We are all dealing with so many things. It feels like overwhelmed, frustrated, sad, angry, afraid, and exhausted. One of the only ways to get through really hard times is to take a moment to surrender. Not give up, but slow down. Take care of your basic needs, breathe, make a plan, and then get up and keep doing. #anxiety #surrender #sitdown #takecareofyou

Today, we are talking about the different mindsets. How we look at the world depending on our attitudes, beliefs, feelings, thoughts, and assumptions. We get to choose how we move through challenges by shifting our mindset or perspective. #mindsetmatters #intention #assumptions #experiences 

Today, we are talking about generational trauma. We can look back though our family lineage and see pattern of behavior. In order to change things for the better, it is important to understand context, history, and then makes changes in our own behavior. #generationaltrauma #knowoyourhistory #makeschanges #lessonsfromyourmother

Today, we are talking about judgement and how we are perceived. Sometime we need to check our own behavior and often we need to check who is doing the perceiving. We might need to change our environment to one where we can be our most authentic selves. #judgement #findyourpeople #selfawareness

Today, we are talking about emotional the stories we tell ourselves that keep us stuck. It is helpful to see, feel, and let go of those emotions. Healing and growing from those challenging things we have experienced. Releasing the things that no longer serve a purpose in the present version of you. #emotionalbaggage #lettinggo #movingforward #mentalhealth

Today we are talking about imposter syndrome. Often when we achieve big things we can often feel undeserving. It is an opportunity to validate previous versions of ourselves who did the hard work to get to us into those spaces. #deserving #impostersyndrome #hardwork #generationalhealing

Today we are talking about resilience; the space from now knowing to knowing It can be uncomfortable and create anxiety. It can also create an opportunity to learn new skills and building trust in ourselves. #resilience #nowknowing #trustyourself #skillbuilding

Today we are talking about getting though. Because right now, that's all we can manage. Make sure to do the big three: sleep, diet, and moving your body around. Taking care of you takes grace and compassion. #gettingthrough #giveyourselfgrace #roadtrips #goingthoughhell

Today we are talking about conflict. Understanding how you fight and what you're feeling. Also, coming back to the conversation is necessary. #conflict #redlipstick #communication #understanding #rulesofengagement 

Today we are talking about anger. It is often said that anger is a secondary emotion. What is under the anger is usually fear, sadness, feeling disregarded, or not enough. Allow space to figure out what the feeling is. #anger #selfawareness, #70skid #genx #unhelpfulreactions #parenting

Today we talking about validating and accepting our whole self. The phrase hay comida en la casa, meaning we have food at home. When we love our whole self first, we don't need to work as hard to get love from other people. #bridgetjones #haycomidaenlacasa #loveyourselffirst #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast 

Today, we are talking about seeing our struggles as character flaws. We often assume when we are struggling that something is wrong with us. It's not but that is how it feels. Shift the perspective to trusting yourself. You have gotten this far and you will get past this too. You are not broken. #characterflaw #mentalhealth #trustyourself #greatness

Today, we are talking about intellectualizing versus feeling in the process of growth. We process lots of information through out thoughts before allowing ourselves to feel it. It is important to be aware of the old narratives and stories we are using when we process. Growth and healing comes from allowing the stories to change. #newyear #change #feelings #thoughts #anxiety 

Today we are talking about being wrong. How being wrong is a good place to be because it gives us a different perspective. We can learn a lot when we are wrong. #beingwrong #scientific method #relationships #bestintentionsthebook  The podcast I was listening to was 10% Happier with Dan Harris and Sharon McMahon 

Today we are talking about plans and adjusting to those plans. Addressing the anxiety and discomfort that comes from changes to our plans. #planning #anxiety #controlwhatyoucan #attachments #trustyourself. 

Today we are talking about perception. How we are perceived in the world around us and how we perceive the world around us. #change #perception #bestintentionsthebook #socialmedia #concretekulture https://www.etsy.com/shop/ConcreteKulture

Today we are talking about experiencing the world through our emotional perspective. Giving yourself grace and patience while you are having your emotions. Getting through tough experiences. #trustyourself #emotionalawareness #emotioalperspective #mentalhealth Get your copy of Best Intentions: The things we do for love https://bookstore.dorrancepublishing.com/products/best-intentions-the-things-we-do-for-love

Today we are talking about nurturing relationships. Attending to the relationships you want to grow and evolve, especially the relationship with yourself. #growth #nurturing #relationships #bestintentionsthebook 

Today we are talking about controlling what you can in the moment, checking your facts, and keep going. This past week was rough. Lots of emotions. We still have to do things. #postelection2024 #bigfeelings #bestintentionsthebook #mentalhealth #politicsaside 

Today we are talking about when helping is not helpful. There are times we think we are helping and it makes things worse. It can be disempowering the person we are trying support. #nothelpful #resentment #needs #rescuing #helping #bestintentionsthethingswedoforlove https://bookstore.dorrancepublishing.com/products/best-intentions-the-things-we-do-for-love?_pos=1&_psq=best+int&_ss=e&_v=1.0  

Today we are talking about relationship communication. I go over a tool I use often to help clients build helpful communication skills. I use the 6 Steps to Great Communication by Cynthia Hansen https://lifeandbeautyweekly.com/2010/10/communication_skills/ #communication #relationships #skillbuilding #connection #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast 

Today we are talking about being able to access and process our own emotions. Emotional intelligence is about being aware of what we are feeling, authentically showing up, and have compassion for our emotional selves. #emotionalvulnerability #feelyourfeelings #emotionalawareness #newbook #bestintentions #greece #somaticemotions

Today we are talking about denial and the things we refuse to look at. Often we avoid addressing things head on because we don't know what to do to change them. We don't know where to start. We start by acknowledging they exist. #denial #makingchanges #smallsteps #mentalhealth #elephantintheroom

Today we are talking about distraction vs detachment. Often, when we are feeling tough emotions we want to distract ourselves in order not to feel. Whereas detachment might be a better move. Unattached from the outcomes but working through the feelings. #emotions #detachment #distractions #dothework #mentalhealth #lx2codependencypodcast

Today we are talking about satisfaction, suffering, and satisfaction. We get to choose how much of those things we endure or get from life. We can manage our resources, create goals, and set boundaries to a better experience through life. #satisfaction #sacrifices #boundaries #betterlife #mentalhealth

Today we are talking about memories and how we can change the narrative. We can recall something from a different perspective. We can create a better understanding of who have been and who are becoming. #memories #rebuilding #resilience #childhood

Today we are talking about forgiveness, bridges, and napalm. We get to determine the relationships that warrant forgiveness as it relates to our peace and access to our resources. Boundaries and bridges help keep us safe and maintain connection. #maintainpeace #forgiveness #burnorbuild #bridges #connection #lx2codependencypodcast

Today we are talking about the big three things I talk to clients about often often to evaluate how they are feeling: Food, exercise, and sleep. All of these things have an effect on our mood and energy. #sleephygiene #foodmatters #moveyourbody #mentalhealth 

Today are talking about motivation and fuel we use to get there. We can use lots of different things to drive us to change, healing, and growth. What fuel are you using and is it sustainable? #motivation #growth #change #beingnew

Today we are talking about using routines and rituals to help us regulate our anxiety. Our brains strive for order. When we can consciously create routine, things we do in a habitual way, we make our brain feels better. The meaning and intentions behind the routine can make it a ritual. #routines #habits #anxiety #mentalhealth

Today we are talking about who is in your inner circle of humans. Who do you feel safe and comfortable with. What those bonds are made of. We get to determine the level of closeness and vulnerablility we share with people. #innercircle #vulnerability #boundaries #community

Today we are talking about the assumption of suffering as it relates to compassion and empathy. We are all going through our things; good, bad, or otherwise. If we can assume people are struggling, it is an opportunity to be kind to ourselves and others. #selfcompassion #suffering #expectations #grace #kindness

Today we are talking about shift perspective from a zero sum absolutes mindset. It is not all or nothing, win or lose, love or hate, but something in between. When we can shift perspective and find a middle ground we are less likely to experience such distress or discomfort. #zerosumgame #detachment #5yearanniversary #x2thexennial #classof 91

Today we are talking about the idea "righteous" indignation. The idea of getting angry or frustrated on behalf of someone else. When we are frustrated or irritated about someone else's choices it is an opportunity to recognize what we can control. We can consider the idea that we disrupt our own peace by taking away someone else's ability to manage their own choices. #bugged #unfair #boundaries #detachment

Today we are talking raising sheep or wolves. Thinking about using the opportunity to teach our precious children how to exist the world that can be dangerous. It is our job to teach our kids skills to be safe and secure on the planet where they can get their needs met without sacrificing themselves. #parenting #raisedbywolves #otherpeopleskids #puberty

Today we are talking about finding gold in your everyday rather than waiting for the "golden years" or "bucket list". Make a to do list and put gold in everyday. #findinggold #emotions #anxietyanddepression #eldorado #kintsugi

Today we are talking about detaching form the myth of being happy and shifting to the feeling of experiencing joy in moments. Sustaining happiness all the time isn't possible. What we can do it experience joy in moments of regular.  #happinessmyth #experiencejoy #momentbymoment #doyourbest #beautyinthemoment

Today we are talking about the importance of meaningful relationships to our longevity and quality of our lives. Our human experience is motivated by connection. We connect with people all the time, creating meaningful connection helps us live well. #meaningfulreltaionships #friendships #buildingcommunity #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast #daringgrately #vulnerabiity   

Today we are talking about the blessings and lessons we experience when we create the perspective of receiving. When we can start to be receiving of good things happening to us rather than waiting for negative things to happen. #blessingshappen #growthmindset #opportunity #lessons #whathappenedtoyou #trauma #mentalhealth #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast

Life happens and we can get stuck in the why. We don't always know why this tough part of life is happening. It might just be the how. Controlling what we can gives a moment to take back power in the moment it can get easier. #controlwhatyoucan #wecandohardthings #lifehappens #getthroughthemoment #codependencypodcast 

Moving forward into our life can be difficult when we are feeling multiple things at the same time. Being human is allowing ourselves to feel our emotions and doing the business of living. We can get get passed the hard things. #whatareyoufeeling #mentalhealt #persistence #atlasoftheheart #growing #doitanyway

Today we are talking about having needs and who we are rely on to meet them. #needs #chosenfamily #mentalhealth #rhainacohen #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast #friendship

There are so many teachers in our lives. We learn lessons through out our lives. Many of the things we learn feel random but they are all teaching us the things we need to grow into the best version of ourselves. #lessons #bestteachers #growthmindset #unintendedlessons

We can get in our own way of our growth and progress. It is helpful to be aware of when we are triggered, what is motivating that, and how are we feeling about things. In learning new skills, we might get in our own way and have to restart. #mentalhealth #growth #selfsabotage #hurtingourselves