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It's no secret that becoming parents can profoundly impact your relationship. So, what exactly happens to relationships when you throw parenting into the mix? And can we safe guard our relationship against conflict and other challenges? In today's episode, we speak with Elly Taylor to explore the complexities of relationships after having children.When Elly became a relationship counsellor and a new mother at the same time, she was shocked that nobody had prepared her and her husband for the big life changes and new relationship challenges that came with parenthood. Fast forward to now and Elly is a parenthood preparation and relationship specialist and author of the award-winning book Becoming Us, the Couple's Guide to Parenthood. Elly's passion is preparing parents for the rollercoaster of pregnancy, birth and beyond in ways that grows couples closer together than ever. In this podcast we discussWhat happens to relationships when you throw parenting into the mixSome of the most common themes or challenges that show up and when we can expect this to happenWhy so many couples experience conflict in those early years of parenting (and just how many do!)How you can navigate conflict when you're exhausted, touched out, feeling overwhelmed, isolated and don't have anything left for yourself, let alone your partner?Whether relationship challenges contribute to PND/PNA or if it is the other way aroundHow to know if a relationship has a "normal" amount of conflict or is beyond repairHow to prepare your relationship ahead of time and whether it is possible to get your relationship back after experiencing conflict... and so much more!You can connect with Elly via instagram and FacebookToday's episode was brought to you by Once Upon. Both Luka and Kate have been creating photo books using the Once Upon App for years, and love not only how simple and fun it is to create beautiful books, but also to bring your photos off your camera roll and into your home. But mumma... is it time you start making sure you IN the photos, not just taking the photos? Once Upon wants mums everywhere to sign a contract with their partners, where they both agree to taking more photos with mum IN the picture. Because remember mumma, it is your story too. Visit onceupon.photo to find out more and download your contract today.Follow us on instagram @boobtofood to stay up to date with all the podcast news, recipes and other content that we bring to help make meal times and family life easier.Visit www.boobtofood.com for blogs and resources, to book an appointment with one of our amazing practitioners and more.Presented by Luka McCabe and Kate HolmTo get in touch please email podcast@boobtofood.com

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Hi mamas. Join me this week as I talk to Elly Taylor, parenthood preparation and relationship specialist and author of the multi-award-winning book Becoming Us, the Couple's Guide to Parenthood, which aims to help couples bridge the gap between the ‘before' and ‘after' of parenthood. In this conversation, Elly talks to me about the disparity between her expectations of motherhood and her lived experience, and how for Elly, her journey to ‘Becoming' began with an initial period of an ‘undoing' in the initial years following her having her first child. We discuss Elly's experience of the changes that occurred in her marriage during her pregnancy and in their early years of navigating parenthood together, and the huge journey she underwent with regard to this through self-development, and seeking true understanding and connection with her partner. We also discuss:Elly's experience of growth and finding her voice in motherhood, and how this can initially feel vulnerable and isolating but ultimately leads to deeper, more aligned and more authentic connections. The power of embracing change, rather than resisting it, as it is in fact this resistance that is the real root of pain, and the power of reframing ‘identity loss' as a form of evolution instead. The need to be gentle with yourself, prioritise self-care, and the need for constant recalibration when it comes to finding a balance between work, mothering and all other facets of life.   The social narrative and expectation that motherhood completes a woman, how this perpetuates a belief that motherhood can help to fill a void, and how the reality for so many women is far from this. I hope the message that comes through in this conversation is one that gives hope to anyone who is currently going through the intensity of some of the relationship issues we discuss here, to know that the foundations being laid now may be what allows you to have more ease in future seasons of your parenthood, like it did for Elly.  Here is where you can find out more about me (Yara), how to work with me and some resources:Why Am I So Angry Workshop*** Waitlist for The Rebirth, Group Coaching for Mamas *** This is my signature 3 months online group coaching container for mothers which covers family of origin, inner child work, nervous system basics, anger, boundaries and much more. @lifeafterbirthpsychology  www.lifeafterbirth.com.auFree Inner Critic WorkbookFree Values Aligned Living Workbook  Find out more about Elly in these places:https://becomingusfamily.com/Elly on InstagramElly on Facebook

Developed by Elly Taylor, Becoming Us is a framework that focuses on the parents' relationship as they transition into parenthood and navigate the new stresses, challenges, and complexities that come with welcoming a new baby. In this episode of The Lamaze Podcast, host Dianne Cassidy, IBCLC, speaks with Patrícia Soriano Guzmán BSBA, IBCLC, ICCE, PMH-C, PRaM, a Maternal Child Health/Allied Healthcare Professional specializing in perinatal support about the ‘Becoming Us' framework. Listen in as they discuss the importance of the ‘Becoming Us' model, the critical need to support birthing individuals and couples during the perinatal and postpartum periods, what professionals can do to help families transition into parenthood, and the preventative steps that parents and couples can take to reduce the risks and impacts of postpartum depression and postpartum mood and anxiety disorder. Learn more about Becoming Us.

Did you know that a whopping 92% of couples report increased conflict in their relationship in the first year after birth!!? And 67% report overall decreased satisfaction within their pairing. This conversation with awarded author, speaker and couples counsellor Elly Taylor we discuss all things relationships in the perinatal period, what is normal, how to take care of yourself and your partner and also what is not normal and needs further support. I loved this conversation, and I know you all will too. You can find Elly and her amazing work and books and courses over at https://ellytaylor.com, https://becomingusfamily.com A heads up, in this episode we discuss Domestic Violence and Postnatal Depression/Anxiety, if you need further support please contact respectively 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732), or PANDA on 1300 726 306      

Ninety two per cent of parents report increased disagreements with their partner in their first year of family. Sixty seven per cent are less happy in their relationship. And relationship concerns are a leading cause of anxiety or depression in pregnancy and early parenthood – affecting as many as 1 in 3 mothers and 1 in 5 dads.Enter Elly Taylor, a perinatal relationship expert, author and founder of Becoming Us. She believes that partners can actually grow closer through parenthood, instead of growing apart: they can become a new, bigger, stronger, deeper version of “us”.Parenthood is a turning point for a couple - and she thinks that with some knowledge, skills and support for the common changes and challenges of parenthood you can face them head on and come out stronger. Preparing and supporting parents for the gnarlier parts of parenthood - so they can enjoy the highs even more - is her passion. To find out more about her work and the Becoming Us book and course, head to www.becomingusfamily.com

Having a baby can be a very exciting time for a couple. Once the baby comes the combination of sleepless nights and steep learning curves can put pressure on your relationship. Elly Taylor is from Becoming Us, a parenting website and book that helps couples navigate the changes that happen once a baby arrives. Elly explains how impending challenges can be met and how they can take your relationship to the next level.

Elly Taylor Elly Taylor, author of Becoming Us, discusses how best to support your relationship as you navigate the changes that come with parenthood.

Postpartum can be a difficult and very isolating time of life. That's why building your village of support ahead of time is so incredibly important. But what do you do when your village is also in isolation? How can you and your partner support yourselves and each other during these times? Perinatal relationship specialist Elly Taylor has answers. Get the most of this episode by checking out the resources and links listed on the show notes page at birthful.com/podcast-postpartum-COVID   Support our sponsors:  embrwave.com/birthful for $70 off your Embr Wave bracelet storyworth.com/birthful for $10 off your first purchase   If you enjoy what you hear, make sure to subscribe! Click to grab your birth-prep Questions to Ask during COVID handout Check out our Birthful.com/COVID resource page Sign-up for my Thrive with Your Newborn online postpartum preparation course   Title music: "Vibe Ace" by Kevin MacLeod, at freemusicarchive.org/music/Kevin_MacLeod/ (©CC BY) Sponsorship music: "Air Hockey Saloon" by Chris Zabriskie, at freemusicarchive.org/music/Chris_Zabriskie/ (©CC BY)

In this episode we’re reframing how to prepare parents for parenthood and dispelling the myth that you can't prepare for parenthood.  Our last few episodes have been about why relationships are difficult and inherited family trauma and as we dive into this content, we keep coming back to how significant the first 3-5 years of a child’s life and if we’re not preparing parents, it’s rippling … and so, we’re talking about creating a movement, a seed planting movement that literally prepares people to become parents. Rebecca is joined by Elly Taylor, perinatal relationship expert, author and founder of Becoming Us™ and Barb Buckner Suárez, health educator, writer, presenter, couples coach and Becoming Us™ facilitator and mentor. With Elly’s based in Australia, Barb in Portland Oregon, and Rebecca in NY, we’re literally holding a round-the-world, round-table discussion. Rebecca leads us into the framework for this round-table discussion with a reading from Elly’s book, Becoming Us: 8 Steps to Grow a Family That Thrives:  "I discovered this: becoming a family pulls apart that structure of a couple’s partnership; the transition tips them into a new life stage as individuals and a new relationship stage at the same time. Parenthood affects both mother’s and father’s sense of identity and self-esteem; it can change the balance of power in between them and also disrupt their sense of connection." The Becoming Us™ model harnesses the neurological changes that primes parents for bonding with the baby to create an opportunity for couples to more deeply bond with each other. The model also helps parents learn skills that will help them as they cycle through each transitional stage of life to come. And understanding these stages and planting the seeds may potentially have an impact on the legacy of future generations.   In this episode; Elly, Barb and Rebecca discuss:   How the 8 stages of Becoming Us™ prepare parents for the normal challenges and changes of becoming a family. Debunk the notion that nothing can prepare people for parenthood and we talk about what can. How we're setting expectant and new parents up for failure. Statics show that 92% of couples report increased conflict and differences on the other side of having a baby yet most couples think something is wrong with them! Reframing expectations around how to prepare parents for parenthood and becoming a family. How significant the first 3-5 years of a child’s life are and why. What a secure attachment bond is and how to create that with your child, and how parents are biologically primed to be more securely bonded as a couple as they become parents. The Becoming Us™ model harnesses the neurological changes that primes parents for bonding with the baby to create an opportunity for couples to more deeply bond with each other. The model also helps parents learn skills that will help them as they cycle through each transitional stage of life to come. We break down the 8 stages of Becoming Us™: preparing parents for parenthood, building a nest, managing expectations, setting up base camp, embracing emotions, identity and self-esteem, navigating differences and repair, and intimacy Real life expectations we may have of becoming new parent and how to manage them. Getting support through your community instead of the “system” and why that’s important. Learn the difference between “visitors” vs “helpers” as a new parent. Defining self-care as it directly relates for you, your parenting and your relationship with your partner. How becoming a new family/parent(s) can affect your self-esteem and balance of power in your relationship. Seed planting brings expectations in line with reality. Elly’s vision is to help professionals who work with expecting or new parents to plant seeds and create community to help parents reset their expectation of new normal.   Listen to the entire episode to discover your own valuable insights and understanding on this topic and share it with loved ones!   Resources:  Elly’s Book: Becoming Us, 8 Steps to Grow a Family That Thrives Find out more about Elly’s work on the Becoming Us Family website: https://becomingusfamily.com/ Elly is heading over to the US for a seed planting workshop tour, catch her LIVE trainings in Denver, Chicago, New York, Atlanta, Texas, Portland, and a handful of stops through-out California: https://becomingusfamily.com/live-events Find out more about Barb’s work at https://bbsuarez.com/ Learn more about the upcoming Becoming Us Retreat   Thank you to our sponsor, TherapyNotes. Therapists, you can get two free months of TherapyNotes and a free data import after signing up for a free trial by going to www.therapynotes.com and using promo code: connectfulness      Learn more about Rebecca’s relationship therapy practice and intensive couples retreat experiences in NY at connectfulness.com Join our Connectfulness® Community connectfulness.com/community Follow us @connectfulness on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. Root in with Rebecca’s Connectfulness® Collective for therapists in private practice at: connectfulness.com/collective  

Going from being an non-parent individual to being a parent duo is an immensely transformative process that rocks any couple’s world. In this episode of the Birthful podcast, Elly Taylor will take us through the 8 stages that you can expect to navigate, as you grow.   Get the most of this episode by checking out the resources and links listed on the “show-notes” page at: http://www.birthful.com/podcast-parenthood-transition-identity (Previous one was http://www.birthful.com/podcastparenthood/) If you enjoy what you hear, make sure to subscribe!   Support our sponsors: Go to birthful.com/simplybreastfeeding and use the code BIRTHFUL for 15% off Go to expectful.com/birthful to get a free, two week trial.   If you want to support the making of the Mother May I? Documentary, go here.   And if you want to connect with Adriana, reach out at: facebook.com/birthful twitter.com/birthful instagram.com/adrianika   Title music: “Vibe Ace” by Kevin MacLeod, at freemusicarchive.org/music/Kevin_MacLeod/ (©CC BY) Sponsorship music: “Air Hockey Saloon” by Chris Zabriskie, at freemusicarchive.org/music/Chris_Zabriskie/ (©CC BY)

In our society, we do a terrible job of preparing new parents for what is to come in their relationship with each other. 92% of parents report increased disagreements after the baby is born. Adding to the huge amount of stress experienced in the transition to parenthood is the perception that we are not good enough or that we are doing something wrong.  Elly Taylor has made it her mission to help couples better prepare for the journey of becoming their new version of "us". She has broken it down into 8 steps for families to understand in order to be able to thrive. Elly Taylor is an Australian relationship counsellor, independent parenthood researcher and author of the award winning book Becoming Us. Elly is the founder of Becoming Us, an organisation created to teach helping professionals her research and evidence-based approach to the transition into parenthood and to support mothers, fathers, partners and families to thrive. The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group. Check out Elly's website at ellytaylor.com Buy Elly's book: Becoming Us: 8 Steps to Grow a Family that Thrives  

Elly Taylor and her husband thought they were prepared for having their first child but quickly realized they faced unexpected conflicts. When Elly started counseling other parents, she realized most couples were experiencing the same challenges. She began researching the stages parents went through and how having children transformed relationships. When Elly became pregnant with her third child, she wrote her book, Becoming Us, with the hope of preventing postpartum anxiety, postpartum depression, and relationship breakdown for both parents through better preparation. Parenthood is a venture into the unknown and has such a huge impact on couples.  Elly passionately believes that as a society we are setting parents up for failure - there is no longer a community of people invested in a raising a child. Nowadays, the support families desperately need drops away when parents leave the hospital or shortly thereafter, and we aren’t equipped with the ability to communicate with each other about our needs and challenges. Elly shares the dark and challenging times of her own transition to motherhood in this honest conversation - and also shares the hope and potential she sees for families after years of working with her own partner and with other couples.  Her work and her perspective are so encouraging and we are so excited that the message is spreading and reaching more families around the world.  Elly has now begun training professionals in birth and mental health circles to become Facilitators of the Becoming Us approach - see the Show Notes below for more information!   In This Episode: ● Having their first fight in the hospital parking lot ● How silence contributes to stigma and stigma contributes to people not asking for help ● Why we wouldn’t send people into situations of the same magnitude as parenthood without preparation ● Understanding everyone copes differently ● Tips for initiating intimate, vulnerable conversations ● Research shows that 30% of women say their postpartum depression comes from unrealistically high expectations of motherhood ● How parents can voice their expectations so they don’t become assumptions ● How to work with challenges instead of against them ● The different stages of every relationship and how it makes a difference what stage we become parents in ● How parents can find middle ground and respect each other’s choices ● Why approaching conflict is different as a parent than it is as a partner   Show Notes: Birthing Stone Baby Sleep Coaching Program — This Week’s Sponsor Elly Taylor - her website Becoming Us: 8 Steps to Grow a Family that Thrives, by Elly Taylor Becoming Us Professional Online Training

Elly Taylor - Becoming Us Now there IS a training manual for becoming a family! We talk in depth about the stages and life changes that couples go through when they bring a baby into the relationship. It’s hard for a lot of expecting parents to know what they DON’T know. She says that we can prepare parents for the unknown and she has figured out how. Did you know that the transition to parenthood can take years? And Parents don't change at the same times? Elly Taylor tells us about her research and work supporting the transition to parenthood. We will talk about some of the misconceptions about becoming parents, what couples can do to prepare and grow together smoothly… while Becoming Us Elly Taylor is an Australian Relationship Counsellor, Parenthood Researcher and Writer. She began researching the transition into parenthood when she and her husband started experiencing stretch marks in their relationship at a time they thought they would be happier than ever. She discovered this was normal and was on a mission to find out why. Over 15 years, Elly researched the transition and was shocked to find that partners went through different stages as they adjusted to becoming parents. She wants the next generation of parents to be prepared for this. More from Elly Taylor: Elly will be speaking at the Northwest Area Childbirth Educators Forum Live level one training- NACEF in Portland Or, May 5th 2016 http://nacef.net/annual-conference-may-5-2017/ Book- Becoming Us: 8 steps to grow a family that thrives Becoming us facilitator training…bring the knowledge to your community Social media links: www.Ellytaylor.com Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EllyTaylorBecomingUs Twitter - @Becoming_Us LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellytaylor/    

Preparing for parenthood is not always at the top of the list when preparing for birth. When it comes to fears that can crop up around childbirth, there’s one aspect that isn’t always obvious and is often overlooked. I say “overlooked” because I’m referring to a lot of birth preparation approaches or classes. This aspect is the bit that comes straight AFTER birth: the parenting and parenthood bit! Now I know there are plenty of books, blogs, and podcasts on preparing for parenting, but what I’m referring to is the impact that a FEAR of becoming a parent might have on you when it comes to preparing for birth, and more importantly, what you can do about it. I receive a fair amount of emails from you my listeners, and one thing I ask is this: what are your fears when it comes to birth? A surprisingly large number come and tell me that it’s not the birth that’s freaking them out, but the bit straight afterwards… the becoming a mother bit! So, if this is you, then this episode is for you. Preparing for parenthood Now, I don’t wish to get hugely distracted with the parenting - motherhood thing, but I think it’s important that I just dwell a wee bit on WHY it’s important to prepare for parenthood BEFORE birth. If you want to maximise your chances of having a positive birth, one the best things you can do is to clear your fears… if you’ve been following my podcast, you know that already, right? But, it’s not just birthing fears you need to address. You need to address broader life fears, especially those that are linked to you having a baby. So your fear of spiders probably doesn’t need a closer look at this stage. But if you have fears around whether or not your partner will support you in the way that you want or need, then that definitely needs addressing. And therefore, so do any fears you might have around being a mother or parent. If the idea of parenting freaks you out a bit, then imagine how your subconscious will deal with that and express that while you’re in labour. On a very deep level, you might resist your baby coming out and this could extend labour unnecessarily. This only begins to scratch the surface around the whole preparing for parenthood thing. So, now I’ve explained WHY this stuff is important for you to think about BEFORE baby arrives, now let me help you to move past it. To help me, on today’s podcast I’m chatting to Elly Taylor. Elly is the author or the book Becoming Us, which is all about the journey to becoming parents and the various stages of the creation, development, and challenges of the family unit. Elly Taylor is becoming known worldwide as the Parenthood Pioneer. As a Relationship Counsellor and a new mama at the same time, Elly began researching the transition into parenthood after she unexpectedly began experiencing stretch marks in her relationship with her husband. Over 15 years Elly discovered eight stages of early parenthood and formulated steps to prepare, guide and support partners through each of them. The result is her book Becoming Us, which has been welcomed by both parents and professionals. Elly is a columnist for Australia’s favourite parenting magazine, Practical Parenting, Resident Counsellor for Daily Life website and an advocate for Perinatal Mental Health. Elly lives in Sydney with her gorgeous firefighter husband (yes, they made it!), their three children and a bunch of pets. During our chat, Elly shares; the difference between parenting and parenthood the transition from woman to motherhood letting go of your old life, making room for the new the 8 stages in Becoming Us how knowing about these 8 stages can help you to cope with the challenges of parenting how you can prepare while pregnant to help avoid many parenting challenges (I’m sorry but this free guide is no longer available.  If you are looking for super useful resources such as this then join the Fearless Mama Ship. Find out more here.)

My guest tonight is Elly Taylor.  Elly is a leading parenthood researcher, international speaker and author. Her passion is teaching parents and professionals about the stages of early parenthood so our new families can thrive – right from the beginning.  

Did you know at least one in seven mothers and one in ten fathers suffer with perinatal depression or anxiety and for many this can lead to family breakdown? These are some of the staggering statistics Elly Taylor has found in her perinatal research. Elly says we laugh that babies don't come with an instruction manual and say that nothing can prepare parents for parenthood but neither of these things are entirely true and clinging to them can cost new mothers and fathers their mental health and their marriages. Our materialistic culture does a lousy job of preparing and supporting early parenthood. Elly believes when we understand the modern day transition into parenthood, it's cultural context and what it means for couples, we can reduce the risk for parents and support the emotional wellbeing and bonding of mothers, fathers and babies.  In this interview Elly discusses: A summary of the research she is doing in Perinatal research How she came to be interested in working in the perinatal field The common challenges new parents struggle with Some of the more serious mental health issues that parents can encounter pre and post birth What therapists should be on the lookout for when working with new parents  How therapists can help parents better prepare for parenthood  What the research is telling us about the state of the mental heath of parents and young families in Australia Specific resources for therapists that might be working with this population

Agh! We cringe when we hear these words, yet what do they mean and how can the power dynamic shift? In this radio show, we'll have a relationship focused counselor, Elly Taylor, wax eloquent on this topic all the way from Sydney, Australia. She authored a book called Becoming Us, and together we'll explore what is going on for a dad and mom when "He won't let me do it" applies to birth choices.