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KJ Del'Antonia, author of How to Be a Happier Parent. @KJDellAntonia Topic: Raising a family, having a life, and loving almost every minute. Issues: Why you child should do chores; siblings—bringing fun and taking it away; sports and activities—fun except when they're not; homework; screens are fun but limiting them isn't; discipline and why it […] The post Loving (Almost) Every Minute of Raising a Family appeared first on Mr. Dad.
They’re driving you crazy. The yelling. The screaming. And you are thinking to yourself- this can’t be normal. This can’t be okay. How am I supposed to deal with the fighting? Before you grab that glass of wine or hide in the closet to stress eat, we have something to share with you. In many cases, it’s okay to let not only let them argue, but conflict can be healthy. Today we speak with KJ Dell’Antonia. She’s the author of the books “How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute” and the novel “The Chicken Sisters”, as well as the former editor and lead writer of the Motherlode blog at the NYT and the co-host of the #AmWriting Podcast. KJ helps people recognize that our happiness is more about how we ourselves behave and react, not about our circumstances. Resources We Shared: The Sibling Adventure Pack The Motherlode Blog #AMWriting Podcast KJ Dell’Antonia How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute The Chicken Sisters Dr. Sheryl’s Podcouch Download the Transcripts HERE The best mom is a happy mom. To better take care of you, download our No Guilt Mom mindset here . These reminders will help you second guess less, and feel more confidence every day in your parenting.
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If you – like us – are prone to parental guilt, struggle with pandemic parenting, and wonder if it’s possible to satisfy your own soul while raising kiddos then this is the episode for you! Dive in and join Yael for a candid discussion with KJ Dell’Antonia, former editor of The New York Times Motherlode Blog and author of How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute. KJ offers practical advice for pandemic parenting, on mindset shifts to increase parenting satisfaction, and in raising happy, healthy, capable, and resilient kids. Listen and Learn Why happier parents make for happier kidsWhy you can be happy – even when your children aren’t4 things happy parents do wellHow to find success with kids and chores How to approach screen time Why not accommodate your kid’s every whim About KJ Dell’Antonia DJ Dell'Antonia KJ Dell’Antonia is the author of How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute and a regular contributor to the New York Times, where she covers the personal and policy aspects of parenthood. Her research, interviews and reporting on the topic are geared towards helping all of us figure out “how it’s done” in the bits of family life we find most challenging. KJ is the former editor of The New York Times’ Motherlode blog and co-host of the #AmWriting podcast. An attorney and former prosecutor, KJ is a graduate of Kansas State University and the University of Chicago Law School. She lives in Lyme, New Hampshire with her husband and four children. Resources Diana's free resource "My Summer Map for Kids"How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute by KJ Dell’Antonia“Why I Won’t Sacrifice My Sanity to My Kid’s Online Schooling” WBUR April 27, 2020 Commentary by KJ Dell’Antonia“What Happened to American Childhood?” The Atlantic April 17, 2020 Article by Kate Julian“Turn Your Demanding Child Into a Productive Co-Worker” New York Times April 30, 2020 Article by Michaeleen Doucleffkjdellantonia.comInstagram and the #BooksThatWon’tBumYouOut seriesTwitter: @KJDellAntoniaFacebookKJ’s irregular emails about creative family life: http://followkj#AmWriting PodcastThe Chicken Sisters by KJ Dell’Antonia (released June 30, 2020) 141. Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart75. Mindful-Self Compassion with Dr. Christopher Germer 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak24. Choosing Both: Straddling Meaningful Career and Parenthood with Dr. Yael Schonbrun
Many parents who are with their kids 24-7 are starting to wonder how to make this extra family time work. KJ Dell’Antonia, former lead editor of The New York Times Motherlode blog, joins host Krys Boyd to provide strategies for moms and dads who must now be both parent and teacher. Her book is “How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute.”
There are some people who believe that they are prepared to critique teachers’ performances because they went to elementary school themselves. The confidence of what seemed to work for us as individuals fuels a lot of stress for teachers. The same can be said about parenting. Nothing saps the confidence of the uninitiated quite like the reality of actually becoming a parent. KJ Dell’ Antonia however, tells parents to cut themselves some slack. Dell’Antonia is a former New York Times reporter, editor and lead blogger of The Times’ “The Motherlode Blog,” and current Times contributor. She is the author of the critically acclaimed book, “How to be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute” and the forthcoming novel “The Chicken Sisters.” Dell’Antonia is a graduate of Kansas State University, where she earned a bachelor of science degree in business and physical anthropology, and the University of Chicago Law School. She lives in New Hampshire with her husband and four children.
KJ Del’Antonia, author of How to Be a Happier Parent. @KJDellAntonia Topic: Raising a family, having a life, and loving almost every minute. Issues: Why you child should do chores; siblings—bringing fun and taking it away; sports and activities—fun except when they’re not; homework; screens are fun but limiting them isn’t; discipline and why it […] The post Loving (Almost) Every Minute of Raising a Family appeared first on Mr. Dad.
SUMMARY Blogger and author KJ Dell’Antonia knows “How to Be a Happier Parent.” With four children under her own roof, she was compelled to discover keys to “Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute.” By surveying 1000 parents, Dell'Antonia tracked down common behaviors and attitudes among happier parents. She also found common pain points parents face. So, her self-help book contains her own story "of finding a place of joy and satisfaction with [her] life and [her] family life." For the rest of parents, it serves as a guide for becoming happier parents while striking out on their own journey. KEY POINTS Happiness is not a goal of achievement but a goal of motion. Our goal should be “efficacy” = when we feel satisfied we’re doing something right but not necessarily perfectly Parents can be happier by changing the stories they tell. Notice the things we wanted and planned for. KJ’s “Ten Mantras for Happier Parents” include: You can be happy when your children aren’t (vs. You’re only as happy as your unhappiest child). You don’t have to get it right every time. What you want now isn’t always what you want later. Soak up the good. You as a parent need to be OK with disappointment so your kid sees you model control and tap into long-view perspective. To instill grit, kids have to experience some unhappiness while they’re young. Happier parents keep an adult perspective take time to notice the things going right keep their own interests alive take into account all the family (including themselves) when making decisions Some pain points for parents include mornings, siblings, homework, chores, and discipline. Be glad you have time to help/coach your kids while they’re still living with you. In times of crisis (if you have time): laugh, cry, breathe, think, plan, or talk to your partner before talking to an erring child. QUOTES FROM DELL’ANTONIA “[Happier parents] revel in the meaning and excitement that comes from the adventure of raising a family instead of trying to measure our success.” “We are all looking to be a little happier around the experience that we’re having right now.” “Nobody wants to bear the burden of somebody else’s happiness.” “The truth is that you do not want to raise a child who’s been happy for their entire childhood. You don’t want to raise a child who’s never so much as lost a balloon. That is…the worst college roommate in the history of mankind.” “Siblings…they all want all of us!” “Parents of younger kids describe themselves as happier when they’re a little more involved; parents of older kids describe themselves as happier when they’re a little less involved in the day-to-day responsibilities. So, that evolution of independence is important for the kid and it’s the right thing for us!” “Soak up the good by paying attention. Even when things are going wrong, overall things are pretty good…The ordinary days are really good!” BUY How to be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute RECOMMENDATION BUY How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk Connect with us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube Website Special thanks… Music Credit Sound Editing Credit
KJ Dell’Antonia, Author, How To Be A Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute. As a mom of four and a beloved parenting writer at the New York Times, KJ Dell’Antonia found herself asking the question that plagues most modern parents at some point in our lives: Why does this have to suck so much? In her hopeful, solution-packed book, HOW TO BE A HAPPIER PARENT, KJ draws on interviews and research, including her own, to offer not just an answer to that question (it’s not all our fault), but ideas parents can use to shift their family lives away from the stress and towards the joy we hoped we’d find. Unlike so many anxiety-inducing parenting books on the market, HOW TO BE A HAPPIER PARENT does not demand that parents add more to their already busy lives. Instead, it focuses on improving problem spots and savoring the lovely modern lives we already live.
KJ Dell’Antonia discusses why to stay in the workforce after having kids, how to sanely juggle work and family and how to approach a career pivot. You’ll hear: Why you should stay in the workforce after having kids How to think about childcare expenses What your mindset should be if you’re contemplating a career pivot Book: How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute Website: http://www.kjdellantonia.com Twitter: @KJDellAntonia Facebook: @kjdellantonia Instagram: @kjda KJ's tinyletter: http://tinyurl.com/followkj Podcast: #AmWriting with Jess & KJ Sign up for the Advice to My Younger Me monthly newsletter: www.tomyyounger.me Sara can be reached on Twitter Facebook and LinkedIn. Leave a review: https://itunes.apple.com/podcast/id1101880566?mt=2&ls=1
Biz and Theresa ponder the question, “Would we want another parent to tell us if our kid was being not-so-great?” On the flip side, when should we speak up as a truly concerned member of “the village” and when should we trust that the parents already know and just stay out of it? Plus, Biz says something bad, Theresa remembered sleep is good, and we talk to author KJ Dell’Antonia about being a happier parent. Find out more from KJ Dell'Antonia at KJdellantonia.com or on Twitter @KJDellAntonia. Her book How To Be A Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute is out now. Check out our book! You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting! Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Care.com and StoryWorth. To save 30% off a Care.com Premium membership, visit Care.com/mother when you subscribe! For $20 off at StoryWorth, visit Storyworth.com/badmother when you subscribe! Share your genius and fail moments! Call 206-350-9485 Be sure to tell us at the top of your message whether you're leaving a genius moment, a fail, or a rant! Thanks!! Share a personal or commercial message on the show! Details at MaximumFun.org/Jumbotron. Subscribe to One Bad Mother in iTunes Join our mailing list Join the amazing community that is our private One Bad Mother Facebook group Follow One Bad Mother on Twitter Follow Biz on Twitter Follow Theresa on Twitter Like us on Facebook! Get a OBM tee, tank, baby shirt, or mug from the MaxFunStore You can suggest a topic or a guest for an upcoming show by sending an email to onebadmother@maximumfun.org. Show Music Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com) Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes) Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes) Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes) Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans
With the holidays upon us, we thought it would be the perfect time to take a step back from the madness and discuss simplicity. We share how we try to find it in our schedules, stuff, relationships, and holidays. Resources we mention in this episode:Simplicity Parenting by Kim John PayneCohesive Home podcastMinimalist Moms podcastJoshua BeckerClear Your Clutter with Feng Shui by Karen KingstonOur episode on minimalismLife latelySarah's loving relaxing weekends with her family.Abby is struggling with a moth infestation.Reading latelySarah read How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute by K.J. Dell'Antonia and Abby finished Children of Blood and Bone by Tomi Adeyemi.Eating latelyAbby's happy to meal plan again after not being excited about food in the first half of her pregnancy.Sarah experimented with adding cocoa to the best chocolate chip cookie recipe to make chocolate chocolate chip cookies.If you’d like to join in the conversation, please leave us a comment on our show notes, email us at friendlierpodcast@gmail.com, or find us on Instagram @friendlierpodcast. Thanks for listening! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
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KJ Dell'Antonia—journalist and author of How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute—joins Offspring editor Michelle Woo to discuss how to make your family life less stressful and even (dare we say it) fun. But first, Alice gives staff writer and soon-to-be new parent Nick Douglas an important (note: not really important) parenting quiz. Finally, we've got a playlist of non-kid songs that your kids will love as much as you do. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
KJ Del’Antonia, author of How to Be a Happier Parent. @KJDellAntonia Topic: Raising a family, having a life, and loving almost every minute. Issues: Why you child should do chores; siblings—bringing fun and taking it away; sports and activities—fun except when they’re not; homework; screens are fun but limiting them isn’t; discipline and why it […] The post Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute appeared first on Mr. Dad.
KJ Dell’Antonia, Author, How To Be A Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute. As a mom of four and a beloved parenting writer at the New York Times, KJ Dell’Antonia found herself asking the question that plagues most modern parents at some point in our lives: Why does this have to suck so much? In her hopeful, solution-packed book, HOW TO BE A HAPPIER PARENT, KJ draws on interviews and research, including her own, to offer not just an answer to that question (it’s not all our fault), but ideas parents can use to shift their family lives away from the stress and towards the joy we hoped we’d find. Unlike so many anxiety-inducing parenting books on the market, HOW TO BE A HAPPIER PARENT does not demand that parents add more to their already busy lives. Instead, it focuses on improving problem spots and savoring the lovely modern lives we already live.
Listen to KJ Dell'Antonia tell it like it is in HOW TO BE A HAPPIER PARENT: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute. This first-person-narrative-meets-advice-book provides practical, actionable tips that all parents can appreciate. The former editor of the Motherlode blog of the New York Times, KJ combines research, anecdotes and personal experience to create this modern-day parenting bible.
The word happiness gets thrown around a lot, especially when it comes to family life. But what does “being a happy parent” mean? Does it mean we’re having fun? We’re on top of things? We’re sure of ourselves? None of us feels those things all the time, but most of us would like to feel those things more. In Episode 131 of the Edit Your Life podcast, Asha interviews KJ Dell’Antonia, author of the new book "How To Be A Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute." Asha and KJ talk about analysis paralysis and its impact on happiness, kids’ “independence continuum,” handling sibling dynamics, and making decisions about screen time. Through it all, KJ shares real-world stories about how we can all be more happy, however that looks for us. + + + + + Every week, Edit Your Life shares practical ideas for decluttering your home, schedule, and mental space without getting bogged down by perfection. Hosts Christine Kohi and Asha Dornfest are award-winning bloggers and the co-authors of MINIMALIST PARENTING and won the 2017 Iris Award for Podcast Of The Year. Share: #edityourlifeshow Show notes: edityourlifeshow.com Facebook: facebook.com/edityourlifeshow Email: edityourlifeshow@gmail.com
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Is a mother only as happy as her unhappiest child? In our experience, yeah, pretty much. And studies (referenced below) back that up– although they also suggest many parents also derive their greatest happiness from their child-raising. So how do we separate out our own sense of well-being from our children’s struggles? And in a more everyday sense, how do we find happiness in the daily slog? We talk it out with guest KJ Dell’Antonia, former lead editor of The New York Times’ Motherlode blog and author of the brand-new book How to be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute. KJ says the key is finding simple, concrete solutions for what isn’t working– and letting go of some of the rest. As KJ puts it: When we’re not putting all our energy into getting our kids to eat and study and do everything exactly the way we want them to, we can put it into a much more positive place. Nobody’s saying that you have to live in denial of your kids’ reality. But we think disengaging from our children’s struggles just enough so that our happiness isn’t directly pegged to theirs is the key to happier, more effective parenting. Here’s links to other research and resources discussed in this episode: Jordan Schrader for Alcalde: Parents’ Happiness Linked to Their Least Happy Child’s Claire E. Ashton-James, Kostadin Kushlev, Elizabeth W. Dunn: Parents Reap What They Sow: Child-Centrism and Parental Well-Being Julie Beck for The Atlantic: Study: Parents Only as Happy as Their Unhappiest Child “Welcome to Holland,” by Emily Perl Kingsley and Shakespearean voice teacher Patsy Rodenburg’s book The Second Circle, which Amy says has influenced her more than any book she’s ever read. Read its excerpts on parenting here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week’s episode features an in-depth conversation with writer and podcaster KJ Dell’Antonia. We discuss her incredible new book HOW TO BE A HAPPIER PARENT, the anxiety she felt leaving her editorial position at The New York Times and becoming a freelancer, some tips on dealing with anxious children, and how happier parents lead to happier children. *Support this Podcast* KJ Dell'Antonia is a writer and a regular contributor to The New York Times, where she wrote and edited the Motherlode blog from 2011 until 2016 and was a contributing editor to the Well Family section from 2016-2017. Prior to this, she was one of Slate's XX Factor bloggers and a contributor to Slate, where she covered parenting and a broad range of subjects, from legal issues to pop culture. She is also the co-host of the popular #AmWriting podcast. KJ lives in Lyme, New Hampshire, with her husband and four children. Her latest book is called How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute, and is in stores everywhere on August 21. To grab the audiobook for free (and a 30-day free trial of the Audible service), head over to www.anxietydiariespodcast.com/audible. You can find KJ at www.kjdellantonia.com or at www.howtobeahappierparent.com and follow her on Twitter @kjdellantonia and Instagram @kjda. You can also find her on Facebook right here. You can find the #AmWriting podcast on any of your preferred podcast platforms. Full show notes can be found at: www.anxietydiariespodcast.com/23 The New York Times story that I wrote in 2015 (which KJ edited) is called “I Told the World We’d Raise an Only Child. I Was Wrong.” You can find it here. Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the podcast, please make sure you subscribe and take a moment to rate and review it on Apple Podcasts! You can find the podcast at www.anxietydiariespodcast.com or at imsoanxious.com, on Facebook and Instagram @anxietydiariespodcast and on Twitter @anxietydiarypod.
In Episode 50, I chat with K.J. Dell'Antonia, author of How to be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute. From KJ's website: I believe each of us is responsible for our own happiness. I believe happier parents are better parents and better people. I believe family should be a source of joy and refuge, not another stressor in a busy life. I believe we can be happy even when things aren’t great. We can raise our families, live our lives, and love (almost) every minute of it — if we let go of the idea of parenting as a direct route to a destination: success, and decide to meander along our own merry way. This former New York Times reporter is taking on the rug rat race — join me! I wrote and edited the Motherlode blog for the Times from 2011 until 2016 and was a contributing editor to the Well Family section from 2016-2017. Ten minutes in my kitchen would convince you that, while some parts of my family life are enviably together (the Rice Krispie treats on the counter, the meal in the slow cooker) others are works in progress (the child on the floor, wailing that the homework is “too hard”). “How to Be a Happier Parent” is not a memoir (far from it!). Instead, my research, interviews, and reporting are geared towards helping all of us figure out “how it’s done” in the bits of family life we find most challenging. I was fortunate to meet KJ at the Mom 2.0 Conference, read an advanced copy of her book, and interview her for the podcast! To determine what her chapters would be about, K.J. asked parents, "What sucks most?" about parenting. Chores and discipline rose to the top of the list, and those are two of the many topics we discuss in this episode. Order How to be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute! How to be a Happier Parent description An encouraging guide to helping parents find more happiness in their day-to-day family life, from the former lead editor of the New York Times Motherlode blog. In all the writing and reporting KJ Dell'Antonia has done on families over the years, one topic keeps coming up again and again: parents crave a greater sense of happiness in their daily lives. In this optimistic, solution-packed book, KJ asks: How can we change our family life so that it is full of the joy we'd always hoped for? Drawing from the latest research and interviews with families, KJ discovers that it's possible to do more by doing less and make our family life a refuge and pleasure, rather than another stress point on a hectic day. She focuses on nine common problem spots that cause parents the most grief, explores why they are hard, and offers small, doable, sometimes surprising steps you can take to make them better. Whether it's getting everyone out the door on time in the morning or making sure chores and homework get done without another battle, How to Be a Happier Parent shows that having a family isn't just about raising great kids and churning them out at destination: success. It's about experiencing joy--real joy, the kind you look back on, look forward to and live for--along the way. Resources/Related K.J.'s Website Follow K.J. Ignore It by Catherine Pearlman (mentioned in this episode) Raising Happiness with Christine Carter
Too often the everyday experience of being a parent feels like a race against a clock you didn't set. We frantically hurl ourselves through morning routine, drop-off, work, pick-ups, kids' activities, grocery shopping, dinner, housework and homework duty. My guest on this episode of the podcast asked herself what it would take for this whole thing to suck a little less so we can get more joy out of the life we've chosen with the children we love. I'm joined by esteemed parenting writer and editor, KJ Dell'Antonia, whose work you may know from the likes of Slate and the New York Times Motherlode blog. She's got a great new book out called How to Be a Happier Parent, realistically subtitled Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute of It. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month
We're noticing that parents, especially parents of young children, are unhappy. We all desperately want to enjoy this time with our children, but it is easy to get bogged down in late night feedings, pre-school admissions, trying to get our kids to eat a vegetable, or worrying about our kids' addiction to Fortnite. We're tackling the issue head-on with former New York Times Motherlode Editor, KJ Dell'Antonia, as we talk about her new book, How to be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute.