No Guilt Mom

New here? Start with our Start Here playlist — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood This is Part 1 of the Yelling Series — three episodes all about why you yell, how to stop it in the moment, and what to do after it happens. You promised yourself today would be different. And then it happened again. If you're stuck in the yelling cycle — the yell, the guilt, the promise to do better, repeat — this episode is for you. JoAnn breaks down what's actually driving the yelling (hint: it's not anger, and it's not a character flaw) and gives you the first tool in breaking the pattern for good. What you'll learn: Why knowing better is never enough to stop yelling The meaning problem: what your brain is actually reacting to in the moment Why the guilt spiral after yelling makes the pattern worse, not better How to identify your personal yelling triggers — and what they're really telling you The 3-question Yelling Audit to do after this episode Next week: Part 2 — the body reset tools you can use in under 60 seconds, even when you can't leave the room. Remember: the best mom is a happy mom. Take care of you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

New here? Start with our ⁠Start Here playlist — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood If your daughter is heading to college and talking about rushing a sorority, this episode is required listening — for you, not her. Between the mom guilt, the mental load of managing her college transition, and the overwhelm of a process you don't fully understand, rush season can send even the most grounded mom into a tailspin. Trisha Addicks is a 30-year Rush consultant, author of The Rush Bible: Secrets to Crush Sorority Recruitment and Find Your Forever Greek Home, and was featured in the viral Bama Rush documentary. She has helped hundreds of families navigate one of the most emotionally charged processes in a young woman's college experience. And her number one piece of advice for moms? Back off — but in the most loving, supportive way possible. In this episode, JoAnn and Trisha break down everything you actually need to know about sorority rush, from how the matching process works (it's more like a two-way algorithm than you think) to how to support your daughter without accidentally making it worse. What you'll learn: How the rush process actually works, step by step — from the virtual first round all the way to bid day Why your daughter can be cut before she even sets foot in a house (and what that means) The single most important thing moms can do during rush week — and it's not what you think The biggest mistake moms make when their daughter calls crying (and what to say instead) Why sorority rush at NYU or an Ivy League is just as high stakes as Bama Rush — even if it looks different The #1 misconception about sororities that the TikTok OOTDs are getting completely wrong How to build your own support squad so you don't put your anxiety on your daughter What sorority life actually looks like day-to-day (hint: it's a lot more than parties) Why listening — not prepared questions — is the skill your daughter needs to practice before rush Trisha's biggest reminder for moms: "This is not your journey. It's hers. All you want is for her to find her people — and it doesn't matter what letters are on the door." Resources mentioned: The Rush Bible by Trisha Addicks Remember: the best mom is a happy mom. Take care of you. Thank you to our sponsors! Rula Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/NGM #rulapod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, JoAnn dives into the friendship patterns that leave so many women feeling drained, lonely, and afraid to speak honestly. This conversation offers real mom support for women who constantly over-explain, avoid conflict, and silence themselves just to keep relationships intact. JoAnn shares personal stories about friendships that ended painfully and the powerful realization that changed everything: healthy relationships are not relationships without conflict. They're relationships where both people can handle honesty, accountability, and emotional safety without turning each other into the villain. If you've ever felt like you were “too much,” too sensitive, or emotionally exhausted from carrying the weight of a friendship, this episode will help you recognize the red flags of emotionally unsafe relationships—and what healthy connection actually looks like. In This Episode, We Talk About: 00:00 — Why So Many Women Feel “Too Much” in Friendships 05:10 — The Friendship Moment That Made Me Stop Trusting My Feelings 09:02 — Why Women Silence Themselves to Keep Relationships 15:00 — Why Honesty Feels Dangerous in Emotionally Unsafe Friendships 25:07 — What Emotionally Safe Friendships Actually Feel Like This episode is a reminder that your feelings, needs, and honesty do not make you difficult to love. Healthy friendships don't require you to abandon yourself just to stay connected. If this episode resonated with you, share it with another mom who may need this kind of support right now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As parents, it's natural to want to protect our kids from disappointment, struggle, and discomfort. We step in because we care deeply. We want to make life easier for them. But sometimes, in trying to protect our kids from hard feelings, we accidentally keep them from building the confidence and resilience they'll need later in life. In this episode, JoAnn sits down with former Navy SEAL sniper instructor and author Brandon Webb to talk about what really helps kids grow into capable, confident adults. Brandon shares how lessons from elite military training surprisingly connect to everyday parenting challenges—and why letting kids experience failure, discomfort, and responsibility may actually be one of the most loving things we can do. Together, they explore how parenting support isn't about making life perfect for our kids. It's about helping them trust themselves enough to handle life when things don't go perfectly. In This Episode, We Talk About: Why overprotective parenting can unintentionally weaken confidence and resilience How small everyday struggles help kids build emotional strength Why failure is an important part of raising strong children The difference between supportive parenting and rescuing kids from discomfort How negative self-talk develops in kids—and what parents can do instead Why the way we talk to our kids eventually becomes their inner voice Practical parenting tips for helping kids push through challenges without shame How visualization and positive coaching techniques can help kids handle stress and pressure The importance of mentors, coaches, and supportive adults outside the parent-child relationship How to pause and regulate your own emotions before responding during difficult parenting moments Why This Conversation Matters Many overwhelmed moms feel pressure to prevent their kids from struggling. We want to shield them from disappointment because seeing our children hurt is incredibly hard. But Brandon explains that confidence doesn't come from constant praise or protection—it comes from overcoming challenges and realizing, “I can do hard things.” This conversation is a powerful reminder that parenting challenges are not signs we're failing. They're opportunities for our kids to grow. And often, the most supportive thing we can do is step back just enough to let them experience the natural lessons that build resilience, independence, and self-trust. If you've ever questioned whether you're being too hard or too soft—or wondered how to support your child without taking over—this episode offers thoughtful parenting education and practical tools you can start using right away. Resources Mentioned: Puddle Jumpers by Brandon Webb The Checklist Manifesto by Atul Gawande Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You've probably heard this parenting advice everywhere lately: validate your child's feelings. And honestly? Emotional validation does matter. Kids want to feel heard, understood, and emotionally safe with us. But what happens when you're validating constantly and still walking away from interactions feeling hurt, dismissed, or emotionally exhausted? In this episode, JoAnn breaks down what she calls “the validation trap”—the moment when supporting your child's emotions starts coming at the expense of your own emotional well-being. If you've ever stayed quiet after a hurtful comment because you didn't want to escalate things, convinced yourself you were “too sensitive,” or struggled to balance emotional validation with healthy boundaries, this conversation will help. In This Episode, We Talk About: What emotional validation actually is and what it isn't Why validating feelings does not mean accepting disrespectful behavior The hidden “validation trap” many overwhelmed moms fall into How delayed emotional processing is completely normal Why people-pleasing makes boundary-setting feel so uncomfortable The difference between supporting emotions and silencing yourself A simple framework for addressing repeated hurtful behavior calmly How to teach emotional intelligence and self-regulation without over-functioning for your child Parenting strategies that strengthen connection and boundaries Resources Mentioned: Crucial Conversations No Guilt Mom Inner Circle Why This Episode Matters A lot of parenting conversations focus on helping kids regulate emotions, but moms need support, too. This episode is a reminder that your feelings matter inside your family relationships. You are allowed to validate your child's emotions and speak up when behavior hurts you. Those two things can exist together. Because raising emotionally intelligent kids doesn't mean becoming emotionally invisible yourself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever found yourself doing everything at home—managing schedules, picking up the slack, remembering all the little details—and then wondering why you feel so exhausted and resentful… you're not alone. So many working moms carry the emotional load without even realizing it. Not because they want to—but because it feels easier in the moment to just handle it yourself. But over time, all those “small things” add up. In this episode, I'm talking with negotiation expert Attia Qureshi about how the skills we often associate with boardrooms and big deals actually show up in our everyday lives—especially at home. And more importantly, how learning to use those skills can help you move from doing everything yourself… to creating a true partnership. This isn't about becoming more demanding or confrontational. It's about understanding what you need, communicating it clearly, and building a home dynamic that feels supportive—for everyone involved. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why working moms often struggle to ask for help at home—even when they're confident communicators at work How unspoken expectations create resentment (and what to do instead) The difference between being a “giver,” “taker,” and “matcher” in your relationships A simple way to start shifting from doing everything yourself to shared responsibility Why naming your emotions is the first step to better communication boundaries How small moments of negotiation happen every single day—and how to use them to your advantage The key mindset shift that turns conflict into collaboration Why This Matters When you're constantly stepping in and taking care of everything, it might feel like you're helping your family. But what's really happening is that you're setting a pattern—one where you carry the weight, and everyone else assumes you've got it handled. And that's where mom burnout begins. Learning how to communicate your needs, ask for support, and create more balanced dynamics isn't just about getting help. It's about feeling seen, respected, and supported in your own home. Resources Mentioned: Never Settle: Negotiation Skills to Get What You Want by Atita Qureshi & John Richardson Attia Qureshi's Emotion Wheel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You know that feeling when your brain never turns off? You're tracking school schedules, library days, appointments, permission slips, grocery lists… and somehow, even when everyone else is “helping,” you're still the one holding it all together. That's not because you're better at remembering. It's because you've become the default. In this episode, I'm talking with AI strategist Sarah Dooley about something that might surprise you: how AI tools can actually reduce your mental load (without replacing your thinking or turning you into a robot). And before you roll your eyes thinking “I don't need another complicated system to manage”… this is different. These are simple, real-life ways to take the constant remembering, tracking, and planning off your plate—so you can actually feel present again. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why moms so often become the “default memory keeper” in the family How the mental load affects your connection with your kids (especially in everyday moments) Simple ways to use AI tools for family organization and scheduling How to stop being the one reminding everyone of everything Practical examples of using AI for meal planning, packing, and daily routines How to use AI to prioritize your to-do list when everything feels equally urgent What to know about AI safety and choosing tools that align with your values Why This Matters When your brain is constantly holding everything together, it's exhausting. And it's not just about being busy—it's about how that constant mental tracking pulls you out of the moments that actually matter. Instead of enjoying your morning coffee or connecting with your kids, you're running through checklists and reminding everyone what they forgot. What Sarah shares in this episode isn't about doing more. It's about finally having support in the invisible work you've been carrying alone. Because the goal isn't to manage everything better—it's to stop having to manage everything at all. Resources Mentioned AI tools for moms: ChatGPT, Claude, Gemini, Microsoft Copilot Voice-to-text tool: Whisper Flow AI-powered voice assistants (like Amazon Alexa) for reminders and routines Sarah Dooley's AI Empowered Mom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We've been taught that being hard on ourselves makes us better. That if we just try harder, stay consistent enough, hold higher standards, and push through the exhaustion, we'll finally feel like we're doing this parenting thing right. But what if that constant self-criticism is the very thing burning you out? In this episode, I talk with Dr. D. Ivan Young about why self-compassion isn't weakness — it's emotional intelligence. And how misused empathy, especially toward yourself, creates resentment, over-functioning, and disconnection in your home. If you've been feeling exhausted, reactive, or stuck in your head replaying everything you did “wrong,” this conversation will connect the dots between your internal self-talk and the emotional tone of your entire family. Empathy is powerful — but when it's weaponized against yourself, it becomes harmful. Refusing to give yourself grace Believing you should always do more Never allowing yourself to be human A lack of self-compassion doesn't stay internal. It spills into your relationships as snapping, resentment, emotional withdrawal, and chronic over-functioning. You cannot pour empathy outward when you're withholding it inward. The “Obnoxious Self” vs. Your Wise Self Dr. Young describes the “obnoxious self” as the internal voice that constantly criticizes and second-guesses: “You should've done better.” “Why can't you handle this?” “Other moms don't struggle like this.” This voice keeps you stuck in fight-or-flight mode. Practicing self-empathy helps you shift into your grounded, intentional self — the part of you capable of emotional intelligence and thoughtful parenting. The Security Guard vs. CEO Brain When you're triggered, your amygdala — the “security guard” — takes over and locks your CEO (your prefrontal cortex) away. Your CEO is where: Emotional intelligence lives Curiosity lives Intentional parenting lives Self-compassion helps bring your CEO back online so you can respond instead of react. Over-Functioning as a Dysfunctional Normal Many overwhelmed moms live in constant over-functioning: Anticipating everything Fixing everything Managing everyone's emotions While it feels responsible, over-functioning slowly pulls you away from authentic alignment — accepting your humanity and setting boundaries that protect your psychological safety. Self-neglect doesn't just hurt you. It impacts your marriage and your children's emotional development. Emotional Intelligence in Real-Life Conflict We also discuss practical tools you can use immediately: How pitch, tone, and facial expression regulate nervous systems Why moods are contagious and your presence sets the emotional temperature of your home A phrase introverts can use to speak up without escalating conflict: “I've been listening to everything you're saying. May I share my perspective?” Emotional intelligence isn't about controlling others. It's about regulating yourself first. About Dr. D. Ivan Young Dr. D. Ivan Young is an ICF Master Certified Coach and author of Leading from the Heart. He has spent over two decades working at the intersection of behavioral neuroscience and human connection. After navigating a stage four cancer diagnosis, he deepened his research into resilience, identity, and the internal battle between the omniscient self and the obnoxious self. His work reframes self-compassion as essential to resilience, leadership, and emotional intelligence. Resources Mentioned Leading from the Heart by Dr. D. Ivan Young Connect with Dr. D. Ivan Young on LinkedIN The Best Mom's a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's easy to look at a report card and feel like you're getting a clear answer. Are they doing well? Are they “on track”? Are you doing enough as a mom? Because when those grades look good, there's a sense of relief. Like… okay, we're fine. But what if those grades aren't telling the whole story? In this episode, I sat down with Dr. Deborah Kenny, founder of Harlem Village Academies and author of The Well-Educated Child, to talk about what actually prepares kids for the real world—and why so many of us have been taught to focus on the wrong things. What you'll learn in this episode The three key pillars of a truly well-educated child—and why grades are just a small piece of the puzzle Why traditional school success like test scores and memorization doesn't always translate into real-world skills How to build your child's attention span in a world full of distractions—and why reading matters more than ever The role of parental involvement in education—and how small shifts at home can make a big impact Practical ways to help your child develop independence, motivation, and follow-through without constant reminders Why this matters So many overwhelmed moms are carrying the pressure of “getting it right” when it comes to their kids' education. Checking homework. Monitoring grades. Pushing for better performance. And yet even with all that effort, it can still feel like your child is unmotivated, distracted, or just going through the motions. That's because real-world readiness isn't built through pressure—it's built through skills like critical thinking, independence, and purpose. When we shift our focus from just “How are they performing?” to “Who are they becoming?” we start to support the kind of growth that lasts. Resources mentioned The Well-Educated Child by Dr. Deborah Kenny Harlem Village Academies The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt This episode is a powerful reminder that good grades can matter, but they are not the whole picture. What matters most is helping kids become thoughtful, motivated, capable people who know how to think, solve problems, and engage with the world around them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Split shift parenting sounds like the answer so many overwhelmed moms have been searching for. Clear roles. Built-in breaks. Finally feeling like you're not “on” all the time. But if you've tried it—or even just thought about it—you might already feel the gap. Because even when time is divided, the mental load usually isn't. And that's where the real exhaustion is coming from. In this episode, we're breaking down why split shift parenting feels so appealing, why it often doesn't solve parenting burnout, and what actually creates lasting relief in your home. What You'll Learn in This Episode What split shift parenting is and why it's gaining popularity among overwhelmed moms The difference between sharing time and sharing responsibility in parenting Why you can still feel like the default parent—even when you're technically “off duty” How the invisible mental load continues to drive burnout A more sustainable way to divide responsibilities so you can finally feel real support Why This Matters If you've ever felt like no matter how much help you get, you're still the one holding everything together, you're not imagining it. Parenting burnout isn't just about doing too much—it's about being the one who has to think about everything. When you shift from dividing time to truly sharing ownership, you create space in your mind, not just your schedule. And that's what allows you to feel supported, present, and less overwhelmed in your everyday life. Resources Mentioned Book: The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn No Guilt Mom Podcast: How Unicorn Space Will Bring You Back to Life with Eve Rodsky No Guilt Mom Podcast: 4 Toxic Time Messages We Tell Ourselves with Eve Rodsky Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Overthinking your parenting decisions? Replaying conversations in your head at night? Wondering if you handled that moment “the right way”? You're not alone—and you're definitely not broken. In this episode, I'm joined by Gwenna Laithland, author of Thinky Thoughts, to talk about what's really going on in that busy, overthinking brain of yours. Because what if all that mental spiraling isn't a flaw… but actually a sign that you care deeply—and a tool you can learn to use? Gwenna shares how her own “thinky thoughts” shaped her parenting, her healing journey, and the way she shows up for her kids today. We get into the messy, honest reality of adulting, why so many of us feel like we're still figuring it out as we go, and how overthinking can actually lead to more intentional, connected parenting. If you've ever questioned yourself as a mom, this conversation will feel like a deep exhale. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why overthinking doesn't mean you're failing—it means you're paying attention How childhood experiences shape the way we react as parents The difference between guiding your child and shaming them Why “doing better” in parenting starts with understanding yourself How overthinking can actually help you become a more responsive, intentional parent The truth about adulting (hint: most of us are figuring it out as we go) Why This Episode Matters So many overwhelmed moms carry the quiet belief that if they just thought less, worried less, or reacted less, they'd finally be a “better” parent. But the truth is, your brain isn't the problem. That constant thinking often comes from a place of wanting to get it right, to break old patterns, and to give your kids something different than what you had. This episode reframes overthinking as something you can work with instead of something you need to fix, so you can move out of self-doubt and into more confident, connected parenting. Resources Mentioned: Thinky Thoughts by Gwenna Laithland Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever tried gentle parenting and thought… why isn't this working? — you are not alone. So many moms are doing their best to stay calm, validate emotions, and avoid yelling… yet still feel like their kids are pushing limits, ignoring them, or completely running the show. And that's where the frustration starts to creep in. In this episode, we're breaking down what's actually happening when gentle parenting feels ineffective—and why the issue isn't you. Because the truth is, gentle parenting isn't the problem. The confusion around it is. You'll learn how gentle parenting is often mistaken for permissive parenting (and why that shift changes everything), what kids really need to thrive, and how to raise emotionally intelligent kids without losing your boundaries in the process. What You'll Learn in This Episode: The 4 parenting styles (and where gentle parenting actually fits) The key difference between gentle parenting and permissive parenting Why lack of structure leads to more power struggles—not fewer How to use natural consequences to teach responsibility (without punishment) What emotional intelligence really looks like in kids How to validate your child's feelings while still holding firm boundaries Real-life examples of how to respond when kids push back Why This Matters When gentle parenting is misunderstood, it can leave you feeling like you're failing—even when you're trying harder than ever. But kids don't just need connection. They need structure, consistency, and clear expectations too. When you combine emotional intelligence with strong boundaries, that's when things start to shift. That's when you raise kids who are confident, respectful, and able to handle real-world challenges—without you feeling like you have to do everything for them. Resources Mentioned Calm Conversations Mini Course Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever felt like you're being pulled in two directions—trying to show up fully at work while also wanting to be present at home—you're not alone. So many working moms feel like they're constantly falling short somewhere. You're answering emails while thinking about your kids… or sitting with your kids while your mind is still at work. And no matter what you do, it feels like it's never quite enough. In this episode, I talk with Sarah about what actually helps when you're living in that tension every day. Not unrealistic balance. Not doing more. But setting boundaries that protect your time, your energy, and your relationships—without piling on more guilt. Because the goal isn't to do everything perfectly. It's to create a life where you can actually be present in the moments that matter. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why working parents often feel like they're “failing at everything”—and what's really going on beneath that feeling How to build a “compartmentalization muscle” so you can be present at work and at home The importance of clearly defining and communicating your boundaries (and why most of us skip this step) A simple boundary example—like blocking protected time for your kids—that actually works in real life How technology quietly pulls your attention away (and what to do about it) The powerful shift of saying “no” without overexplaining or apologizing What to do when your boundaries are crossed—or when you didn't realize you needed one until it was too late How the “Sunday List” can reduce mental load and stop tasks from constantly nagging at you What “transferring hours” means—and how to use it to create more flexibility in your schedule Why you don't have to do everything at your child's school to be a present, loving parent Resources Mentioned Sarah's book: The Art of the Juggling Act: A Bite-Sized Guide for Working Parents Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sharing our kids online can feel completely normal. It's how we connect, document memories, and stay close with family and friends. But what does it actually mean for our kids to grow up with an audience? In this episode, JoAnn is joined by journalist and author Fortesa Latifi, who has spent years researching influencer families and the real impact of growing up online. This conversation goes beyond screen time and into identity, trust, and how sharing affects our kids long-term. This isn't about guilt. It's about awareness—so you can make decisions that feel right for your family. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why kids growing up online may struggle with identity as they get older The difference between consent and informed consent—and why it matters How sharing content can impact your relationship with your child The emotional cost of turning everyday moments into public content Why even casual sharing contributes to your child's digital footprint Simple ways to set boundaries around what you share online Why This Conversation Matters Today's kids are growing up in a world where their lives can be documented before they even understand what that means. This episode helps you take a step back and consider: Would my child feel okay about this in the future? Am I sharing for connection or something else? What boundaries feel right for my family moving forward? There's no perfect approach—but there is a thoughtful one. Resources Mentioned Like, Follow, Subscribe: Influencer Kids and the Cost of a Childhood Online by Fortesa Latifi Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You know that feeling when your to-do list never actually ends… it just resets the next day? And somehow, even when you're doing everything right, you still feel behind. In this episode, I'm talking with Christine Landis about something that can feel both incredibly logical and deeply uncomfortable: buying back your time. Because let's be honest—most of us were never taught that we're allowed to get help at home. We've been conditioned to believe that doing it all is what makes us a “good mom.” But what if doing it all is actually what's draining your joy? Christine, a former CEO and founder of Proxy, shares how delegation at home isn't about being “extra” or “bougie”—it's about creating space for the life you actually want to live. We dive into the emotional resistance, the guilt, and the real cost of trying to handle everything yourself—and how small shifts can completely change how you experience your days. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why moms struggle more with delegating at home than they do at work The difference between physical tasks and mental load—and why both matter Signs you're not buying back your time (even if you think you're “managing”) How control and perfectionism keep you stuck doing everything yourself Simple ways to start outsourcing without feeling overwhelmed The truth about “mom guilt” when it comes to paying for help Why knowing how you'll use your free time makes letting go easie Why This Episode Matters So many moms are running on empty—not because they're doing something wrong, but because they're doing too much. And the hardest part? We've been taught to see that overload as normal. Buying back your time isn't about doing less for your family. It's about creating more space for connection, energy, and joy—with your family. Because your kids don't need a mom who does everything. They need a mom who isn't completely drained by everything. Resources Mentioned Proxy (Christine's text-based thinking partner for mental load and decision-making). She's giving you 3 months free! Here's how to get it: 1.  Select the 3 month plan here and input code NGM (it will ask for a CC number, you will not be charged ever).2. Complete the profile (takes ~5 minutes)3. S ave Proxy as a contact in your phone (820-732-2625)4. Text it when you need to vent, research or help making a decision in the moment (you can send a voice memo, voice to text, or say "Hey Siri, text Proxy...")5. We respond in real-time, in under 1 minute, with exactly what we would do, if we were you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You know those days where you wake up already tired… and by the end of the day, you're completely drained—even though nothing that big happened? And somehow, the hardest part isn't even the exhaustion. It's the voice in your head telling you that you should have handled it better. In this episode, we're shifting that narrative completely. Because the truth is—you're not bad at managing your time. You've just never been taught how to manage your energy. We're diving into spoon theory (a concept that completely changed how I see my own burnout), and how understanding your unique energy limits—especially as a mom, and especially if you're neurodivergent—can help you stop the constant cycle of overdoing it… crashing… and then blaming yourself. This isn't about doing more. It's about finally working with yourself instead of against yourself. What You'll Learn in This Episode What spoon theory is and why it explains your daily exhaustion so clearly Why moms carry an invisible mental load that drains energy just as much as physical tasks How neurodivergent moms (ADHD, autism, and more) experience energy differently The “boom and bust” burnout cycle—and why it keeps repeating Why traditional productivity advice doesn't work for women's energy cycles How to identify your personal “spoon categories” (like focus, decision-making, and sensory input) Practical ways to plan your days around your energy instead of pushing through Why This Matters So many overwhelmed moms are stuck thinking: “Why can't I keep up?” “Why am I so tired all the time?” “Why does this feel so much harder for me than everyone else?” But your energy is not a reflection of your worth. When you start seeing your energy as something finite—something to budget and protect—everything changes. You stop shaming yourself… and start making decisions that actually support you. And that's where real relief begins. Resources Mentioned 1-on-1 Coaching Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If your tween or teen son has started getting quieter, pulling away, or shutting down when emotions run high, it can feel personal fast. One minute he's talking freely, and the next, every answer is one word, every hard moment gets handled behind a closed door, and you're left wondering if you're losing your connection. In this episode, I'm joined by Heidi Allsop, founder of Raising Boys, Building Men, master certified life and parenting coach, and mom of five sons. We talk about what's actually going on when boys get quieter in adolescence, why that shift is often developmental rather than relational, and how moms can stay connected without overpursuing, overanalyzing, or panicking. This conversation is such an important reminder that your son's silence is not automatically rejection. Sometimes it's his brain trying to stay efficient, avoid discomfort, and figure things out in the only way he knows how right now. And when we understand that, we can respond with a whole lot more calm, confidence, and connection. In this episode, we talk about: What's happening in a tween or teen boy's brain when he goes quiet, acts impulsive, or seems emotionally distant The two common ways boys tend to respond during adolescence: pulling inward or acting outward Why moms often panic when behavior shifts, and how that panic can lead to overparenting or underparenting How boys' need for efficiency and independence affects the way they communicate Why deep emotional talks can sometimes backfire with tween and teen boys Simple ways to test and build connection that do not rely on talking How physical proximity and nonverbal affection can reveal emotional safety Why letting boys build emotional muscles matters for resilience later in life How to support your son's emotions without taking over responsibility for them The link between connection and influence during the teen years Why this episode matters So many moms assume that when a son starts pulling away, something is wrong with the relationship. But Heidi shares a powerful reframe: the relationship may be changing, but that does not mean it is broken. When we stop interpreting silence as rejection and start seeing it as part of normal emotional development, we can parent with a lot more steadiness. That steadiness helps our sons feel safe, respected, and connected, even when they are not opening up in the ways we hoped they would. This episode will help you better understand your son, stay grounded in the hard moments, and protect the connection that matters most. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever caught yourself snapping at your kids and then immediately wondering, “Why am I like this?”—this episode is for you. Many moms struggle with reactive behaviors and the mom guilt that follows, but understanding the reaction pattern behind these moments is the first step to overcoming overwhelm and burnout. In this episode of the No Guilt Mom parenting podcast, you'll gain valuable parenting tips and self-care tips designed specifically for moms navigating the chaos of family life. We explore what's really happening in your brain when you react, why these responses feel automatic, and how to start breaking the cycle with strategies that work without relying on willpower alone. Join parenting coach JoAnn Crohn, M.Ed. as she guides you through mindset shifts and practical advice to help you move beyond feeling overwhelmed and reactive to becoming a calmer, more empowered mom. This episode offers insight and support for moms seeking lasting change and renewed confidence in their parenting journey. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why labeling yourself as a “yelling mom” keeps you stuck (and what to say instead) How reaction patterns are formed—and why they feel so automatic The simple shift that can immediately change how you respond in stressful moments Why your kids' behavior isn't what's causing your reaction How to interrupt your interpretation before it turns into yelling The truth about motivation (and why it's not enough on its own) Why accountability is the missing piece in breaking reaction patterns Why This Matters When you believe your reactions are just “who you are,” it can feel hopeless to try to change them. But when you understand that your reactions are learned patterns—not fixed traits—you open the door to something really powerful: choice. You don't have to stay stuck in the cycle of reacting, regretting, and repeating. There is a way to respond differently—and it starts with shifting how you interpret what's happening around you. Resources Mentioned: The Regulated Mom Experience (April–June cohort, limited to 10 women) No Guilt Mom Inner Circle Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Raising a strong-willed child can feel relentless. You're not just managing behavior. You're managing intensity. Big emotions. Sudden escalations. Transitions that turn into full-body meltdowns. And somewhere in the middle of all of that, you're trying to stay calm, steady, and kind. If you've ever wondered why traditional parenting advice seems to make things worse with your child, this episode is going to bring so much clarity. I'm joined by Mary Van Geffen, international parenting coach, author of Parenting a Spicy One, and mom to a grown “spicy one” herself. Mary shares what actually works with emotionally intense, strong-willed kids—and why so many common approaches backfire. We also talk about something that doesn't get discussed enough: what happens between the adults when your child escalates. Because often, the tension between co-parents becomes just as overwhelming as the behavior itself. This episode is about parenting with emotional intelligence, staying calm without becoming passive, and building connection without losing your authority. In This Episode, We Cover: What makes a child a “spicy one” (and how to know if yours fits the description) Why strong-willed kids escalate during transitions and time pressure How traditional control-based parenting fuels more resistance Why gentle parenting can feel confusing—and what authoritative parenting really looks like in real life The simplest regulation tool you can use when you feel yourself seeing red What to do after you react before you pause How to stay united with your co-parent when parenting styles clash Why This Conversation Matters Parenting a strong-willed child can make you question everything. Your patience. Your skills. Your marriage. Your ability to stay calm when you're constantly being tested. But here's the truth: your child isn't “too much,” and you're not failing. Spicy kids often grow into deeply connected, thoughtful, independent adults—especially when they're parented with calm, kind, and firm leadership. The goal isn't to crush their intensity. It's to guide it. Mary brings both professional expertise in child development and hard-earned personal experience. She shares how emotional regulation isn't about being perfectly calm all the time. It's about repair. It's about consistency. It's about staying steady even when your child doesn't “deserve” it. And if you're navigating family dynamics where one parent stays calm and the other comes in hot, this episode will give you language and perspective to approach those conversations without triggering defensiveness. Resources Mentioned: Parenting a Spicy One by Mary Van Geffen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You love your kids. You've read the parenting books. You know the strategies. And yet… there are moments when the noise is relentless, the fighting won't stop, and it feels like every single thing is on you. That's when something snaps. In this episode, we're digging into something deeper than “just stress.” Because stress alone doesn't cause the reaction. What actually fuels those yelling moments is the meaning your brain assigns to the chaos — and for so many overwhelmed moms, that meaning is: I'm completely alone in this. We're talking about how that interpretation turns normal kid behavior into a full nervous system emergency — and how to interrupt it before it spirals. If you've ever wondered why you still yell even though you “know better,” this episode will help you understand what's really happening inside your brain — and how to create change that actually lasts. What We Cover in This Episode Why chaos at home can feel like abandonment — even when no one is actually abandoning you How your brain assigns meaning to situations faster than you can consciously catch it The neuroscience behind emotional regulation and neural pathways (and why yelling becomes a habit) Why yelling “works” in the short term — and why that's exactly why it repeats The three practical steps to interrupt the “I'm alone” narrative in the moment How relationship building starts with taking responsibility for only your 50% Why This Matters Mom mental health isn't about becoming perfectly calm all the time. It's about understanding what's happening under the surface so you can respond differently. When your brain interprets chaos as proof that you're alone, it activates survival mode. And in survival mode, you don't access parenting strategies — you access fight-or-flight. But interpretations can be questioned. Neural pathways can be rewired. Emotional regulation is a skill that grows with awareness and practice. You are not broken. You are not failing. Your reactions aren't random. They're patterned — and patterns can change. This episode will help you see how your interpretations shape your stress response and give you parenting strategies that support both relationship building and self-care in the real moments that matter most. Resources Mentioned The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi The Regulated Mom Experience (priority waitlist link) If this episode resonated with you, take a minute to subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps more overwhelmed moms find the parenting support they need. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So many moms tell me some version of this: “I know I need to let go of control… but I can't.” And here's what I want you to hear right away — that doesn't make you controlling. It makes you someone who cares deeply. You're not trying to micromanage everyone's lives. You're trying to prevent disappointment. You're trying to keep the peace. You're trying to make sure nothing falls through the cracks. Because when you're the one who sees all the moving pieces, it feels irresponsible not to step in. In this powerful conversation, I sit down with licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton to unpack what control is really about. And what we uncover might surprise you. Control isn't a personality flaw. It's often a safety strategy. Kati helps us understand why control can feel like agency — like the only way to avoid helplessness. We also dive into how people-pleasing quietly becomes control in disguise, and what it actually takes to stop carrying the emotional weight of everyone else's feelings. If you've ever thought, “If I don't handle it, no one will,” this episode is for you. In This Episode, We Talk About: Why letting go of control feels unsafe (even when you logically want to) How people-pleasing turns into subtle control in relationships The connection between anxiety, perfectionism, and emotional weight Why control can feel like the only way to avoid conflict or disappointment The deeper relationship patterns that keep you stuck What healthy boundaries actually look like in real life Why This Conversation Matters When you're constantly managing everyone's moods, schedules, and reactions, you don't just feel tired — you feel responsible for everything. That emotional load is heavy. And the harder you try to keep everything steady, the more pressure builds inside you. This episode helps you see that your need for control isn't random or irrational. It developed for a reason. Understanding that reason is what creates space for change. Because once you realize what control is protecting, you can start building something stronger than control: emotional safety, boundaries, and real partnership. Resources Mentioned Why Do I Keep Doing This by Kati Morton Follow Kati at her YouTube channel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You've read the parenting books. You've saved the Instagram posts. You know you don't want to yell. And yet… it still happens. In this episode, we're talking about why you still yell at your kids even though you know better — and why that doesn't make you a bad mom. It's not a willpower issue. It's not a knowledge gap. And it's definitely not proof that you're failing. What's actually happening is much deeper — and once you understand it, your reactions start to make a lot more sense. I'm sharing personal stories (including a few I'm not proud of), the hidden “meaning problem” behind emotional reactions, and one powerful tool you can use in the moment to help you pause before you explode. If you're tired of the shame spiral after you lose your cool, this episode will help you understand what's really going on — and give you a practical way to respond differently. In This Episode, We Cover: Why yelling isn't a discipline problem — it's a meaning problem The hidden beliefs moms assign in the moment (like “They don't respect me” or “I'm doing this all alone”) How resentment builds quietly and explodes later Why shame makes yelling worse — not better How emotional intelligence and self-awareness shift your parenting A simple anchoring technique to interrupt automatic emotional reactions Why This Matters When you yell, it's rarely about the shoes on the floor, the spilled cereal, or the backtalk. It's about what you're making that moment mean. Understanding your emotional reactions gives you back your power. Instead of spiraling into guilt, you can get curious. Instead of stuffing down resentment, you can address it before it builds. Instead of relying on breathing exercises alone, you can use a tool that helps your nervous system shift in real time. This is stress management for real-life mom parenting — not perfection, not suppression, but awareness. Resources Mentioned: The Best Mom Is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn Join the No Guilt Mom Inner Circle Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've been feeling burnt out, emotionally exhausted, and quietly assuming that must mean you're failing… I want you to hear this clearly: You are not failing. You're capable. You're invested. You're doing a lot right. And if motherhood still feels heavy? That heaviness often shows up as guilt—guilt for being tired, guilt for wanting space, guilt for not enjoying every single moment the way you think you “should.” In this episode, I'm joined by Josh Davis, a cognitive behavioral psychologist, co-author of the USA Today bestseller The Difference That Makes the Difference, a master practitioner and trainer in NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), and founder of the Science-Based Leadership Institute. Josh teaches the science of how people actually change—not by trying harder, but by updating the beliefs and mental models driving our reactions. We dig into the specific beliefs that quietly fuel mom guilt and emotional exhaustion… and what shifts when you start updating them. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why moms default to “I'm failing” when they struggle—and how that belief fuels shame instead of change The NLP presupposition “There is no failure, only feedback” and how it instantly creates more options for what to do next Why you're not reacting to “reality”… you're reacting to your internal map of reality (and how that explains overwhelm) The powerful reminder: “The map is not the territory”—and how it helps you stop treating feelings like facts How to “earn the right to influence” your kids (or anyone) by understanding the reality where their behavior makes sense Why telling your kid “it's not a big deal” usually backfires—and what to do instead The belief “All the resources I need are already within me” and how it helps you stop outsourcing confidence to the next system, script, or strategy A practical mindset shift: treating change like an experiment instead of a life sentence How to define success in a way that's actually within your control—so you stop evaluating yourself with impossible standards Why incremental change is often the fastest way to create lasting transformation Why This Episode Matters So many overwhelmed moms don't need more discipline, more hustle, or another productivity hack. What you really need is to identify the beliefs running in the background—because when those beliefs go unseen, normal stress turns into shame. And shame is heavy. But once you can update the belief underneath it all, you don't have to “try harder” to feel better. You start responding differently because you're seeing the situation differently. Resources Mentioned The Difference That Makes the Difference by Josh Davis, PhD and Greg Prosmushkin Josh's website for dads: joshdavisphd.com/dads (Includes a tool where you can “ask the book” questions using AI, created by his co-author Greg.) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

At some point in motherhood, so many of us stop saying yes to ourselves. Not just to the girls' night or the bubble bath. But to our feelings. To our opinions. To the quiet voice inside that says, “This doesn't feel right.” We tell ourselves we're being nice. We're keeping the peace. We're being the bigger person. But what if that “niceness” is slowly costing us our identity and our closest relationships? In this episode, I'm sharing a very personal story about a working relationship that unraveled after years of me silencing myself. I truly believed I was doing the right thing. I thought I was being kind. I thought I was regulating my emotions well. What I was actually doing was suppressing them. And suppressed emotions don't disappear. They build into resentment. They leak out sideways. They slowly erode trust, connection, and self-respect. If you've ever felt resentful but didn't know why… if you've stayed quiet to avoid conflict… if you've wondered why you feel unseen or misunderstood… this episode is for you. In This Episode, We Cover: Why “being nice” can quietly damage your relationships The difference between emotional regulation and emotional suppression How silencing your feelings leads to resentment and disconnection What healthy boundaries actually look like (and what they're not) Why honesty builds stronger relationships than fake peace How community gives you permission to stop performing and start being authentic We Also Talk About: The 50/50 responsibility in adult relationships Why kids get more leeway than adults (and how brain development plays into it) How performing for approval keeps you from real connection The courage it takes to say, “This doesn't work for me.” You can't regulate emotions you refuse to acknowledge. And you can't build real relationships on silence. Saying yes to yourself isn't selfish. It's honest. And honest relationships—the kind where you can say, “That hurt” instead of “I'm fine”—are the ones that create real connection. Resources Mentioned: The Courage to Be Disliked Register for the Happy Mom Summit Join the No Guilt Mom Inner Circle Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever sat down to rest and immediately felt like you should be doing something else… this episode is for you. For so many moms, guilt isn't just a passing feeling. It's a constant background noise. You feel guilty for working. Guilty for not working. Guilty for being exhausted. Guilty for needing a break. Even guilty for enjoying yourself. In this conversation, psychiatrist and author Dr. Jennifer Reid puts language to what so many of us have been living with for years: guilt isn't proof you're failing. It's often the result of unrealistic expectations that never turn off. Dr. Reid, author of Guilt-Free: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations, helps women understand the emotional weight they've been carrying—especially the kind of mom guilt that quietly fuels burnout. We're talking about why you feel like you're never doing enough, how guilt becomes the decision-maker in your life, and the simple framework that can help you reclaim your agency. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why guilt can actually be an adaptive emotion—and when it becomes harmful How manipulative guilt shows up in parenting, work, and relationships Why moms feel guilty even when no one is actively pressuring them The four major expectations women are conditioned to carry: Constant caretaking Hyper-accountability for other people's emotions Perfection “Effortless balance” Why disappointment (yours or your kids') can feel like an emergency—and how that fuels people-pleasing How guilt drives burnout by pushing you into “should”-based decisions The Guilt Equation: how expectations minus perceived reality creates guilt Why comparison keeps mom guilt alive—and how to interrupt it A self-compassion strategy to help you rest without spiraling into self-criticism Dr. Reid's SPEAK framework: Show up Pay attention Examine Act Keep going Resources Mentioned Guilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life From Unreasonable Expectations by Dr. Jennifer Reid Dr. Jennifer Reid's podcast A Mind of Her Own If mom guilt has been running your life like a manager who never clocks out, this episode will help you see what's really driving it—and how to start making decisions from agency instead of pressure. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You know the moment. Your kid spills cereal and suddenly you're reacting at a level 10… when the situation was maybe a 2. And afterward? The shame spiral starts. Why did I react like that? What is wrong with me? Why can't I just stay calm? Here's the truth: your overreactions aren't random. And they're not proof that you're a bad parent. They have roots. Under most “overreactions” is either unrecognized shame… or a deeply held value that just got stepped on. When you understand that, everything shifts. In this episode, we unpack what's really happening beneath those big emotional moments — and how emotional awareness creates choice where you used to only have reaction. In This Episode, We Talk About: Why shame often hides underneath anger, defensiveness, or shutting down How feeling “too much” or “not enough” fuels emotional overreactions The surprising way your personal values drive your parenting triggers Why the same situation can upset you deeply — but not bother someone else at all How identifying patterns (not just isolated conflicts) helps you understand your reactions The CPR framework (Conflict, Pattern, Relationship, Process) and how to use it in your relationships How emotional awareness strengthens communication and self-regulation Why This Matters for Parenting When you believe your reactions are flaws, you try to suppress them. When you understand your reactions as information, you start learning from them. Shame thrives in the dark. Unmet values react loudly. But once you name what's actually happening — whether it's a fear of being “too much,” a value like growth or connection being violated, or a long-standing relational pattern — you gain power. You're no longer stuck in automatic self-judgment. You can pause. You can choose. You can respond instead of react. And that's emotional intelligence in action. This episode isn't about becoming perfectly calm. It's about becoming aware enough to understand yourself — and that changes everything in your parenting and your relationships. Resources Mentioned The Best Mom Is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn (includes access to the Values Sort bonus tool) Crucial Conversations No Guilt Mom Inner Circle If this episode resonated, consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You know that feeling when you say, “He helps.” He does chores. He shows up. He's not checked out. And yet… you're still exhausted. If that's you, you are not ungrateful. You are not asking for too much. And you are not broken. In this episode, JoAnn sits down with comedian, actor, and author Jordan Carlos to talk about invisible work in marriage — what it really is, why “helping” still leaves one partner carrying the mental load, and what true responsibility sharing actually looks like in everyday family life. Because the problem isn't whether the dishes get done. The problem is who is still managing the fact that they need to get done. Jordan shares candidly about his own marriage, how COVID forced him to see the invisible labor his wife was carrying, and the mindset shift that moved him from “assistant” to actual partner. This conversation is honest, funny, and practical — and it will help you rethink how responsibility lives in your home. What We Cover in This Episode 1. What Invisible Work Really Is Invisible work isn't just chores. It's tracking schedules, noticing when you're low on toothpaste, remembering spirit days, and managing the emotional temperature of the house. When one partner carries the mental load — even if the other “helps” — burnout and resentment quietly build. 2. Why “Helping” Keeps One Person in Charge When someone helps, there is still a manager. Delegating Noticing Reminding Carrying responsibility if something falls through Jordan talks about the moment he realized he was “redundant” in his own home — and how that realization changed everything. 3. The Resentment Signal Resentment doesn't show up overnight. It builds in the sighs, the tension, and the feeling of being alone in daily life. Small shifts — like doing things without being asked — can dramatically lower that emotional temperature. 4. Responsibility Sharing vs. 50/50 What's equal isn't always fair. And what's fair isn't always equal. True partnership isn't about splitting every task down the middle. It's about shared ownership. It's about both adults seeing the home as theirs to steward. Jordan shares how stepping into responsibility — not waiting for instructions — shifted his marriage in meaningful ways. 5. Why Self-Care Supports Partnership When both partners take care of themselves, they show up better in the relationship. Responsibility sharing doesn't mean depletion. It means two adults who are capable, aware, and engaged. Why This Episode Matters So many overwhelmed moms feel guilty for wanting more support. “He does a lot already.” “I don't want to nag.” “Maybe this is just marriage.” But when invisible work stays invisible, emotional disconnection grows. This episode gives language to what you may have been feeling for years. It also gives you a starting place — not to control your partner, but to shift how responsibility is shared in your home. Partnership isn't about doing more. It's about no longer carrying it alone. Resources Mentioned Chore Play: The Marriage Saving Magic of Getting Your Head Out of Your Ass by Jordan Carlos Jordan Carlos— comedian, actor, and writer (The Nightly Show, Black Mirror, Everything's Trash) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You finally get everyone to bed. The house is quiet. No one is asking you for anything. And instead of going to sleep… you stay up. Maybe you scroll. Maybe you watch a show. Maybe you tackle that project that's been swirling in your head all day. It feels like the only time that's actually yours. But the next morning? You're exhausted. Snappier. Less patient. And wondering why everything feels so much harder. In this episode, we're talking about why you stay up too late — and what that lack of sleep is really doing to your emotional regulation, productivity, and mental health. Because this isn't about being “bad at time management.” It's about the very real tug-of-war happening inside you between rest and freedom. And when you understand that conflict, you can finally stop sacrificing sleep just to feel like a person again. In This Episode, We Cover: Why staying up late feels like the only time that belongs to you The connection between sleep and emotional regulation (and why you're more triggered when you're tired) How sleep impacts stress, patience, productivity, and long-term wellness The hidden “two parts” conflict between rest and personal freedom A simple negotiation exercise to help you stop fighting yourself at night Why treating rest as preventative care changes everything How your sleep environment can make or break your wind-down routine Why This Matters When you're tired, everything hits harder. Small frustrations feel enormous. You react faster. You recover slower. That's not a character flaw — that's biology. Sleep affects your mental health, your parenting, your relationships, your stress levels, and even your long-term brain health. And yet, so many moms sacrifice it because it feels like the only way to reclaim time for themselves. You don't have to choose between rest and freedom. With the right structure and awareness, you can have both. Resources Mentioned: ADHD Love on Instagram: Get Your free ticket to the Happy Mom Summit Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams by Matthew Walker PhD No Guilt Mom Inner Circle Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How to Support Your LGBTQ Child Without Saying the Wrong Thing with Heather Hester Supporting your LGBTQ child can feel terrifying—not because you don't love them, but because you do, and you're afraid of messing it up. So many moms tell me the same thing: they want to be supportive, but they feel frozen. What if they say the wrong thing? What if they accidentally hurt their child? What if their child thinks they don't truly accept them? If that's you, this episode is here to help. In today's conversation, I'm joined by Heather Hester, host of the podcast More Human, More Kind and author of Parenting with Pride. Heather helps parents move from fear into informed love—with clarity, compassion, and courage. Together, we talk about how to show up for your child even when you're scared, without needing perfect words or performative allyship. What You'll Learn in This Episode The biggest fear that keeps supportive parents silent and why worrying about “saying the wrong thing” doesn't mean you're failing your child. The difference between being a supportive ally and a performative one, and how to show up in ways that actually feel authentic to you. Three mindset shifts that help you support your LGBTQ child with confidence: Embracing being messy and imperfect Understanding that it's not your child's job to teach you—it's your responsibility to learn Believing your child when they tell you who they are What to say when you don't know what to say, including simple language you can return to when fear takes over. How fear shows up in your body and why recognizing your stress response helps you choose connection instead of panic. Why This Episode Matters Your child doesn't need you to be perfect. They need you to be present. They need you to be willing. And they need you to keep coming back—even when you stumble. This episode is about letting go of the pressure to “get it right” and replacing it with something more powerful: connection, repair, and courage. Resources Mentioned Heather's podcast More Human, More Kind Parenting with Pride by Heather Hester Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Work stress doesn't stay neatly at work. It follows you home. It shows up in the tone of your voice, the snap of your patience, and that feeling of being “on edge” even when nothing is technically wrong. If you've ever walked through the door already exhausted, replaying work conversations in your head while your kids need you now, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I sit down with psychologist Guy Winch, author of Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life, to talk about why work stress hits moms so hard—and what actually helps. We go beyond “just relax” and get into the science of emotional health, burnout, and how stress quietly spills into parenting and family dynamics. This episode is especially for moms who are high achievers, caregivers, and the emotional glue holding everything together—at work and at home. In this episode, we talk about: Why ruminating about work is actually unpaid overtime—and how it drains your patience at home How burnout moves in both directions, from work to parenting and back again The science behind why your body stays in “battle mode” long after the workday ends Simple, realistic transition rituals that help your brain shift from work mode to home mode Why taking time for yourself isn't selfish—it's protective for your emotional health How a parent's stress affects the entire household, even when you think you're hiding it What to do when you're so burnt out that taking action feels impossible Why this conversation matters So many moms blame themselves for snapping, zoning out, or feeling disconnected at home—when the real issue is chronic stress and emotional overload. Guy explains why this isn't a personal failure, but a nervous system problem that needs support, structure, and intention. You'll walk away with language to understand what's happening inside you—and practical ways to stop work stress from hijacking your home life. About today's guest Guy Winch is a psychologist and leading voice in emotional health. He brings science-backed tools to everyday struggles like burnout, rumination, and emotional exhaustion. His book, Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life, explores how modern work culture affects mental health—and what we can realistically do about it. Resources Mentioned Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life Thank You To Our Sponsors Cash App Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you're co-parenting after separation or divorce, you've probably realized something no one really prepares you for: The relationship doesn't end… it just changes shape. And suddenly, every text about pickup times, school forms, or “did you send the sweatshirt back?” feels emotionally loaded. Not because you're arguing about sweatshirts—but because separation brings grief, fear, anger, and unfinished emotional business into everyday communication. In this episode of the No Guilt Mom Podcast, I'm joined by Gabriella Pomare, family lawyer, award-winning author of The Collaborative Co-Parent, and co-parenting advocate. We talk about what actually works when communication breaks down—especially if your ex is difficult, high-conflict, or completely uncooperative. Because co-parenting isn't about being friends. It's about structure, boundaries, and emotional safety for your kids—without you carrying the entire emotional load. What You'll Learn in This Episode 1) Why communication falls apart after separation (even when you both love your kids) Gabriella describes separation as a “nervous system earthquake.” When you're grieving the life you thought you'd have, messages don't land neutrally anymore. Even something as small as “you're running late” can feel like criticism, control, or a power struggle. 2) The difference between “moving on” and actually healing You can look fine on the outside—working, dating, functioning—and still feel your body spike the moment your ex's name shows up on your phone. Healing is when you can respond instead of react, stop trying to win, and read a neutral message without creating a high-conflict story in your head. 3) What collaborative co-parenting really means (and what it doesn't) Collaborative co-parenting doesn't mean you're best friends or agree on everything. It means consistently making decisions through a child-centered lens, with clear systems that reduce emotional volatility—especially in high-conflict situations. Often, that looks less emotional and more business-like. 4) Boundaries that actually work—and how to handle it when they're crossed Boundaries aren't rules you force on your ex. They're commitments you make to yourself. Gabriella explains how to stop engaging with emotional bait, rehashing the past, and escalating conversations—without creating more conflict. 5) A practical tool for high-conflict co-parenting: communication apps If your ex sends long, hostile messages or constantly pulls you into conflict, Gabriella recommends using a co-parenting app like OurFamilyWizard to: keep communication child-focused reduce harassment and message flooding create clear boundaries and documentation shift communication from emotional to logistical 6) The 4 pillars of co-parent communication Gabriella's framework for reducing conflict: Listen → Pause → Reflect → Respond The hardest part? The pause. Because when emotions are high, the instinct is to respond quickly and win. The pause is what breaks the cycle. 7) What kids need most to feel safe across two homes Kids don't need perfect parents. They need predictability, stability, and emotional safety. When kids know what's happening, who's picking them up, and that they're not responsible for adult emotions, they feel more secure—even across two households. Quick Favor (It Helps More Moms Find This Parenting Support) If this episode helped you feel less alone, would you take 30 seconds to leave a review for the No Guilt Mom Podcast? Reviews help other overwhelmed moms find this parenting support when they need it most. Resources Mentioned Our Family Wizard co-parenting app Gabriella Pomare's book: The Collaborative Co-Parent Join the No Guilt Mom Circle Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever been told to “just stay calm” when your kids push every single button—and then felt a wave of mom guilt when you couldn't—you are not alone. So many overwhelmed moms think their big emotional reactions mean they're failing at parenting. That they're “too much,” “not patient enough,” or somehow broken. But here's the truth I want you to hear right away: Your reactions are not the problem. They're information. In this episode, we're unpacking why staying calm in the moment often isn't possible—and why that makes perfect sense. When you're overloaded, exhausted, and carrying the emotional labor of your family, your nervous system is already at capacity. Of course small things feel big. This conversation is about emotional intelligence, self-regulation, and emotional awareness—not as another thing to “do better,” but as a way to understand what's actually happening underneath your reactions so you can respond with more compassion (for yourself first). In this episode, you'll learn: Why losing your temper isn't a moral failure Anger and frustration are signals that something you value has been crossed—not proof that you're a bad mom. The five parts of emotional intelligence and how they work together We break down self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills—and why emotional regulation doesn't exist in a vacuum. How stress and overload shrink your capacity When you're running on fumes, your reactions aren't about “that one moment”—they're about everything that came before it. What emotional awareness looks like in real life From noticing where emotions live in your body to naming them without judgment, this is about practical, usable parenting advice. How self-compassion reduces mom burnout and emotional reactivity Self-criticism fuels emotional overload. Compassion helps interrupt the shame spiral so you can repair and reconnect. Resources Shared Join the No Guilt Mom Circle No Guilt Mom Podcast Episode with Dr. Kristen Neff The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever told yourself, “Other moms handle this better than I do,” this episode is for you. So many moms feel overwhelmed—and then feel ashamed for feeling overwhelmed. Like if we were more organized, more disciplined, or better at self-care, we wouldn't be so on edge all the time. But what if overwhelm isn't a personal failure? In this episode of the No Guilt Mom Podcast, I'm joined by neuroscience-based coach Emelia Ferreira to talk about what actually happens to a woman's brain during motherhood—and why telling yourself to “just calm down” doesn't work. We unpack how motherhood rewires your brain for survival, how overwhelm becomes conditioned over time, and why so many traditional parenting and self-care strategies miss the mark for moms. This conversation is validating, eye-opening, and deeply reassuring—especially if you've ever wondered what's wrong with you. What You'll Learn in This Episode 1. Why motherhood changes your brain—and why that's not a bad thing Your brain becomes more specialized and hypervigilant after having a baby. That constant mental load? It's not a flaw. It's your nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do. 2. How overwhelm becomes “normal” for moms Without the community support mothers once had, our brains stay stuck in survival mode—while parenting, working, managing households, and carrying emotional labor. 3. Why overwhelm isn't a mindset problem You can't think your way out of something that's physiological. This is why self-care alone and willpower-based parenting strategies often fall short. 4. The connection between guilt, shame, and mom overwhelm That guilt you feel when you rest or step back? It's wired into a protective system meant to keep your child safe—not a sign you're doing motherhood wrong. 5. One small, realistic way to support your mom brain Emelia shares a simple breath-and-body-based practice that helps override overwhelm without adding another thing to your to-do lis Resources Mentioned Emilia Ferreira's neuroscience-based guide Learn more about No Guilt Mom Circle—where overwhelmed moms get parenting support that reduces burnout, not adds to it Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever felt like your kids' struggles mean you're failing as a mom, this episode is for you. Somewhere along the way, parenting pressure landed squarely on moms' shoulders—manage their emotions, fix their behavior, keep everyone happy—and it's left so many overwhelmed moms exhausted, resentful, and burned out. And here's the truth I want you to hear clearly: that pressure was placed in the wrong spot. In this episode, I'm sharing why the best mom is a happy mom—not because kids should always be happy, but because you are the environment your kids grow in. When moms focus inward on what they need, instead of trying to fix everything around them, guilt starts to loosen its grip and relief takes its place. This isn't about adding more to your plate. It's about taking weight off. What You'll Learn in This Episode 1. Why modern parenting advice quietly trains moms to ignore themselves So much advice focuses on fixing kids instead of supporting moms—and that mindset is a fast track to mom burnout. 2. How rest became something moms feel they have to “earn” If you struggle to relax because there's always more to do, you're not broken. You've been conditioned to believe rest is optional instead of necessary. 3. What actually changes when moms focus on their own happiness When you stop chasing perfection and start honoring what you want, parenting doesn't fall apart—it gets steadier. 4. Why resentment is information, not failure That frustration you feel? It's a signal that something needs to shift—not proof you're a bad mom. 5. How modeling boundaries teaches kids lifelong emotional skills When you advocate for your own needs, you're showing your kids how to do the same someday. Resources Mentioned The Best Mom Is a Happy Mom (NEW book

If you've ever hung up the phone with your parents and felt instantly drained—like you just did a whole emotional shift—you're not imagining it. For so many women, being a daughter isn't just the visits, the calls, or the errands. It's the invisible emotional labor: smoothing things over, managing tension, carrying worry, and trying to make sure everyone feels “okay.” And when you're also raising kids (especially teens), working, and trying to hold yourself together… that daughter role can quietly become another full-time job. In this episode of the No Guilt Mom Podcast, I'm talking with Dr. Allison Alford—communication scholar, professor at Baylor University, and author of Good Daughtering—about why adult daughters carry so much guilt, how burnout builds over time, and how to set boundaries that protect your life without feeling like rejection. Resources Mentioned Pre-order Good Daughtering: The Work You've Always Done, the Credit You've Never Gotten, and How to Finally Feel Like Enough Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There's a specific kind of self-doubt that hits differently—the kind that comes from your own child. Maybe it's an offhand comment. Maybe it's eye-rolling. Maybe it's them saying the thing you were already secretly afraid of. And suddenly, something you felt excited about feels shaky, embarrassing, or even selfish. In today's episode of the No Guilt Mom Podcast, I'm sharing a real-life coaching session with one of our Inner Circle members. You'll hear what coaching actually sounds like and, more importantly, what happens when a mom is brave enough to try something new… and her child's reaction triggers every old fear. If you've ever felt afraid to put yourself out there, worried about being judged, or questioned your confidence as a mom, this episode is for you. What We Talk About in This Episode 1. Why your child's words can hit your deepest insecurities When your child says what you were already thinking, it can feel like proof that your fears are true—even when they're not. 2. How fear of embarrassment keeps moms stuck We unpack how people pleasing, perfectionism, and fear of judgment show up when moms try something new. 3. The difference between being inexperienced and being incapable Just because you're new doesn't mean you're bad at it—and this distinction matters more than you think. 4. How confidence is built through connection, not perfection You'll hear how small moments of human connection can dissolve overthinking and self-doubt. 5. What happens when you model courage for your kids Trying something scary doesn't just change you—it shows your kids what self-trust looks like in real life. Resources Shared Join the No Guilt Mom Inner Circle Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've been telling yourself lately, Why can't I just stick with anything?—I want you to take a breath right now. Because this episode is for the mom who is exhausted, overwhelmed, and quietly blaming herself for not following through… especially in January, when the pressure to do better feels relentless. Here's what I want you to hear clearly: this is not a motivation problem, and it's not a willpower problem either. If you're dealing with mom burnout, the issue is almost always your environment—not your character. In this episode, I break down why parenting motivation feels so hard right now, how willpower is getting unfairly blamed, and what actually helps moms move forward without more pressure or guilt. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why willpower fails moms—especially burned-out moms If discipline were the problem, you'd already have this figured out. You use willpower all day long for everyone else. How mom burnout drains your ability to “follow through” Emotional regulation, decision-making, interruptions—it all adds up, and your energy doesn't magically replenish at night. The real reason habits stick (or don't) Habits succeed when friction is low and fail when friction is high—and that has everything to do with your environment. How changing your environment creates parenting motivation Support, accountability, and fewer barriers matter more than pushing yourself harder. Why support works better than pressure Pressure says try harder. Support asks, What's in your way—and how can we remove it? Next Steps & Support If this episode hit close to home and you're realizing, Oh… I don't need more willpower—I need more support, I want you to know you don't have to do this alone.

If you've ever thought, “I don't even know what I want anymore,” or “I can't take on one more thing,” you're not alone—and you're not broken. You're just running on patterns your brain learned a long time ago. In this episode of the No Guilt Mom podcast, I'm talking with Diana Pagano, founder of the Make Things Happen movement and author of The More Mindset, about the sneaky ways our thoughts keep us stuck in survival mode… and the simple shifts that help overwhelmed moms create momentum again. We dig into why mindset isn't “woo,” how your brain filters what you notice (hello, reticular activating system), and what to do when you feel like you either don't know what you want—or you want everything. Resources & Mentions Diana Pagano's book: The More Mindset Diana's work + podcast: Make Things Happen movement/podcast No Guilt Mom Circle: If you're tired of doing everything alone, come get real mom support inside the No Guilt Mom world. If This Episode Helped You… Would you take 30 seconds to leave a review? Reviews help other overwhelmed moms find this parenting podcast for moms—especially the ones quietly battling mom burnout and thinking they're the only ones. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you're an overwhelmed mom who feels like life looks “fine” on paper—but somehow feels flat, exhausting, or like something is missing—you're not broken. And you don't need another to-do list to fix it.So many moms come into the new year thinking this will be the time they finally get disciplined enough, organized enough, or productive enough to feel better. But if traditional goal setting has only left you feeling more mom guilt and burnout, this episode is for you.In this episode of the No Guilt Mom podcast, I'm sharing a different approach: a courage goal. Not a productivity goal. Not a fixing goal. A courage goal—something you do simply because it brings you joy, curiosity, and a sense of being you again.I'm sharing my own courage goal (joining improv at 44—terrifying and life-giving) and why choosing joy without justification might be the most powerful form of self care for moms.In this episode, you'll learn:Why most goals for overwhelmed moms fall into “fixing, managing, or optimizing”—and why that keeps burnout in placeHow mom guilt shows up when joy doesn't feel “productive enough”What a courage goal really is (and why it doesn't require confidence or follow-through perfection)The difference between outcome-based goals and values-based goalsWhy doing something just for fun can actually give you energy instead of draining itHow choosing one small, courageous step can help you feel like yourself again—not just a mom, partner, or workerThis episode is especially for you if you've ever told yourself:“I'll do that someday when life calms down.”“I don't have the energy for something new.”“I should probably declutter instead.”You don't need to earn your joy. And you don't need permission to want more.Your gentle next stepI want you to choose one courage goal this year. Just one.Something that feels a little scary, a little exciting, and doesn't need to help anyone else to be worth doing.You don't have to decide today. Just start noticing what pulls at you.Want support choosing (and actually following through)?Inside the No Guilt Mom Circle, we do monthly workshops, values-based goal setting, and community support so you're not doing this alone. You'll be surrounded by moms who get it—and who have your back.

Feeling overwhelmed as a mom with a teen? This episode of the No Guilt Mom Podcast provides essential mom tips and parenting support to help you overcome the emotional drainage and constant struggles of parenting your teenager. If parenting your teen feels exhausting, emotionally draining, or like one long power struggle—you're not alone. Many overwhelmed moms are doing everything they were taught to do… and still feeling disconnected, frustrated, and burned out.In this episode of the No Guilt Mom Podcast, I walk you through six common parenting habits that quietly damage trust and increase stress—even when they come from love. These are patterns many of us inherited, not because we're bad parents, but because we were never shown another way.This conversation isn't about shame or blame. It's about relief. And connection. And finally feeling like you're on the same team as your teen.In this episode, you'll learn:Why grounding, punishment, and taking away privileges often backfire—especially around grades and homework strugglesHow criticizing clothing, friends, or choices can unintentionally push teens away instead of guiding themWhat yelling actually does to the teen brain (and why it increases overwhelm for moms, too)How saying “no” without conversation shuts down trust and cooperationWhy focusing only on grades increases anxiety and burnout—for both kids and parentsMost importantly, you'll learn what to do instead—simple mindset shifts and communication changes that build motivation, responsibility, and long-term connection.Helpful resources & next steps:

In today's episode,we dive deep into mom guilt and rumination—and how shifting our inner world can completely change how we show up for our families, our partners, and ourselves.You'll hear about a big change inside No Guilt Mom (hello, No-Guilt Mom Inner Circle

Christmas can look beautiful on the outside—but for many overwhelmed moms, it feels absolutely crushing on the inside. In this episode of No Guilt Mom, JoAnn shares her personal story of Christmas burnout and offers powerful mom help and parenting tips to take back your power during the holidays.In this episode, JoAnn shares the story of her Christmas Day breakdown six years ago—the moment she realized she couldn't keep carrying the invisible weight of the holidays alone. The exhaustion. The resentment. The feeling of being unappreciated while everyone else relaxed.If you've ever wondered why the holidays leave you depleted instead of joyful, this episode is for you.JoAnn walks you through three powerful mindset reframes that help moms stop doing everything, start feeling respected, and create holidays that feel lighter—without waiting for anyone else to change first.In this episode, you'll learn:Why feeling unappreciated doesn't mean your family doesn't care—it often means your work is invisibleHow to make invisible labor visible without guilt, nagging, or resentmentThe truth behind the belief “If I don't do it, everything will fall apart”Why resentment isn't a character flaw—it's dataHow boundaries actually work (and why most of us were taught them wrong)What it looks like to stop crossing the “resentment bridge” during the holidaysHow doing less can actually lead to more support, respect, and connectionThis episode is a gentle but powerful invitation to stop blaming yourself, stop over-functioning, and start choosing a different way—one that allows you to enjoy the holidays and feel valued in your own home.You don't have to overhaul everything this year. One small shift in how you think—and what you take on—can change how you feel.

Are you an overwhelmed mom struggling with mom guilt, anxiety, or the pressure to do it all? In this deeply personal episode, JoAnn Crohn, your trusted mom coach, shares the story behind her business downsizing — a journey that parallels the challenges many moms face when avoiding difficult truths. This episode explores the common pitfalls of avoidance that many moms experience: over-functioning, people-pleasing, and pushing through exhaustion without addressing what's really wrong.This isn't an episode about procrastination or denial. It's about the kind of avoidance many moms fall into—the kind that looks like over-functioning, people-pleasing, and trying harder instead of stopping to ask what's actually wrong.JoAnn shares the behind-the-scenes reality of running No Guilt Mom through changing times, declining revenue, and the intense pressure of wanting to protect her team at all costs—even when it meant sacrificing her own health.You'll hear:Why avoidance often looks like doing everything instead of doing nothingHow anxiety, headaches, high blood pressure, and exhaustion were her body's warning signalsThe leadership decision she was terrified to make—and why not making it nearly broke herWhat Internal Family Systems therapy revealed about her “people-pleaser” partWhy courage doesn't feel calm, confident, or steady—and that's normalHow facing painful truths can bring relief your nervous system has been begging forJoAnn also walks you through how avoidance shows up in everyday life—money, relationships, parenting, time management—and how naming what you're really feeling opens the door to better solutions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mom guilt happens to every mom. In this episode, JoAnn sits down with Holly Swenson—nurse, author, and mom coach—to explore the wake-up call that comes when your body forces you to stop. If you're an overwhelmed mom dealing with burnout and mom guilt, this conversation offers practical parenting tips and compassionate mom help to reclaim your energy and joy. Holly shares her powerful story of being hospitalized while parenting four kids under four and how she learned to reset without guilt. Discover the subtle signs your body gives before reaching a breaking point, why moms struggle to ask for the support they need, and how guilt often keeps parents trapped in survival mode. This episode also explores the difference between taking meaningful breaks and quick self-care moments when time is scarce. Learn practical strategies for nervous system regulation, grounding practices, and emotional awareness that can help reset your well-being even with no extra support. Resources Mentioned:Stop, Drop, Grow & Glow by Holly Swenson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What happens when you become a mom… and you don't want to give up the parts of you that make you feel alive?In this episode, JoAnn and Brie sit down with Emily Harrington—world-renowned rock climber, North Face athlete, and mom—who shares what it really looks like to pursue big goals, recover after a scary setback, and reshape your identity after becoming a parent.You'll hear why motherhood didn't make Emily “stop”… but it did change what felt worth it—and how that shift actually brought her more peace than she expected.In this episode, we talk about:What it's like to climb El Capitan in a day (and how you fuel for a 24-hour push)The terrifying fall that sent Emily to the hospital—and how she rebuilt trust in herself afterwardThe mindset red flags she noticed before the accident (and what we can learn from them)Climbing through pregnancy—and the “random stupid comments” people love to makeWhy becoming a mom changed Emily's relationship to risk (and why that's not a loss)The surprising freedom that comes from letting your goals evolveThe power of mentors: “You have to see it to be it”How to keep your passion and your family life—without feeling like you have to chooseMentioned in this episode:Emily's film “Girl Climber” (currently available to rent on Jolt; streaming more widely next year) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If the word “happy” feels more like a goal than a daily reality right now, this episode is going to land right where you need it.I'm joined by Tia Graham—leadership coach, positive psychology expert, author of Be a Happy Leader, and someone who has spent years studying the actual science behind what makes us feel happier. And yes… moms can absolutely use this research to feel more joy, more calm, and more fulfillment in their everyday lives.We dig into everything from genetics (turns out happiness is far more inherited than you think!) to the environments we're raising our kids in, to the small, simple practices that actually move the needle on wellbeing.Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, craving more meaning, or just wanting to feel more like yourself, this conversation offers such grounded hope.In this episode, you'll hear:Why up to 70% of your happiness is influenced by genetics—and why that means you deserve WAY more compassion (not more pressure).How your environment—from work demands to lack of societal support—shapes your wellbeing, and why your struggles are not personal failures.A powerful “12 months from now” exercise to help you reimagine your life and priorities with more clarity and less guilt.The #1 predictor of happiness according to neuroscience (hint: your kids can't fill this bucket on their own!).How to spot habits that drain your joy, even the subtle ones you don't realize you're doing out of routine or “shoulds.”Why journaling & meditation are scientifically backed tools for processing emotions, increasing resilience, and helping your brain rewire toward more positive thought patterns.How to realign your calendar with your actual values, so your schedule supports the life you want—not the one you inherited from shoulds, guilt, or overwhelm.Resources We Shared30 Self Care Practices from Tia: https://www.tiagraham.com/selfcareLearn more about Tia here: www.tiagraham.comDownload the No Guilt Mom Stop Doing Checklist: https://www.balanceformoms.com/opt-in-stop-doing-checklist Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How do our phones, apps, and digital tools quietly shap our experience of motherhood. We're joined by Amanda Hess, writer at large for The New York Times and author of Second Life: Having a Child in the Digital Age. Amanda shares how pregnancy apps, tracking tools, and hyper-targeted ads didn't just “support” her— they started defining what kind of mom she thought she was supposed to be. From fertility tracking and bump apps to baby monitors, sleep trackers, and Life360-style teen surveillance, we unpack the subtle ways tech feeds anxiety, perfectionism, and the pressure to “optimize” everything… including our kids. In this episode, you'll hear: How one pregnancy app quietly shifted Amanda from “this is helpful” to “this is telling me who my baby should be”—and why that mattered when her son's diagnosis didn't match the glossy digital version. What happens when your phone knows your pregnancy before your friends do, and how targeted ads start shaping your identity as a mom before your baby is even born. The hidden emotional cost of baby and teen surveillance tech (like smart socks and location tracking apps) and why they create more anxiety than actual safety. Simple mindset shifts to reclaim your intuition in a tech-saturated world, so your phone becomes a tool—not the authority on your parenting. Resources We SharedGrab Amanda's book Second Life: Having A Child In The Digital Age: hFollow Amanda on InstagramGrab our FREE Stop Doing Checklist Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If dinner at your house looks like one kid eating plain noodles, another living on beige food, and you wondering why you even bothered cooking… this episode is for you. I'm joined by registered dietitian Sarah Schlichter of Bucket List Tummy to talk about picky eating, pressure at the table, and why so many of us feel like we're failing if our kids don't touch the veggies we lovingly chopped. We chat about how our 90s “boxed and canned” childhoods impact the way we feed our own kids now, how social media adds a whole layer of mom-pressure, and what realistic, actually doable changes you can make to help your kids feel safer trying new foods—without turning dinner into a battle. What the “beige diet” really is (and why it's so common, even in good, loving homes). In this episode, you'll hear: The simple mindset shift that can instantly lower the pressure you feel at mealtimes. One tiny tweak to how you serve dinner that gives kids more autonomy and makes them more likely to explore new foods. How to use “safe foods” and curiosity to gently expand your child's palate over time (without bribing, begging, or bargaining for “just one bite”). Resources We Shared: Download Sarah's freebie for 5 easy family meal recipes Visit Sarah at Bucket List Tummy Grab our FREE Stop Doing Checklist Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If your grocery total makes you cringe every single week — and you're constantly tossing slimy lettuce or moldy berries — this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. I'm talking with Amy Cross, urban homesteader and founder of The Cross Legacy, who feeds her family mostly organic, whole foods… on just $270 a month for two people — and only shops every three to four weeks.

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