The New Family Podcast

For this 250th episode of the podcast we're taking a look at the state of modern fatherhood. First we're talking to stand-up comedian, writer and political activist Charlie Demers. He's one of dozens of notable Canadians who, through interviews, have contributed to a great new book of essays called 40 Fathers: Men Talk About Parenting. The book was written by family counsellor and writer Tessa Lloyd, who joins us in the second part of this episode to talk about what compelled her to gather the points of view of dads at this particular time. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

Today we welcome Vanessa Vakharia back to the show. Vanessa is the founder of a unique tutoring facility called The Math Guru here in Toronto. She's a teacher with a Bachelor of Commerce, a Masters in Mathematics Education and the author of a great math workbook for kids called Math Hacks: Cool Tips + Less Stress = Better Marks. She's been on before to discuss topics like encouraging girls to pursue STEM careers, but this time she's here to talk “Math Therapy,” her new podcast where she works through a guest's math trauma every week so that they can start living their best lives. I reveal a little of my own math-related mindset issues, and she talks to us about how we can ensure our kids don't inherit a legacy of struggles with math. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

For this episode we speak to child psychologist Dr. Vanessa LaPointe. Vanessa is the author of two books, including her latest Parenting Right From the Start: Laying a Healthy Foundation in the Baby and Toddler Years. But this episode is not about the baby and toddler years. It's about the investigation into ourselves that Dr. LaPointe argues is so necessary in order to parent the way we want to. She explains how we can work through issues from the past that inevitably have an effect on how we respond to the challenges and demands of raising our own kids. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

With this episode we're continuing our exploration into the lives of families affected by incarceration. I'm joined by Andrea Page, the founder of FitMom, one of the first providers of pre- and post-natal fitness classes in the Greater Toronto Area, and an outspoken advocate on issues like postpartum depression and mental health in general. Andrea's eldest child has struggled for years with his mental health and unfortunately found himself on the wrong side of the law, and is currently serving a six-year prison sentence. Andrea and I are going to talk about the connections between poor mental health, trauma and incarceration, and what it'll take to break the cycle that connects trauma to crime. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

This week begins our foray into the lives of families affected by incarceration. It's not an easy subject, but it's one that affects many Canadian families and an even more in the United States, where one in 28 children has a parent who is incarcerated. My first guest on this topic is Rachel Mascarenas Ford. Rachel lives in North Carolina with her son, daughter and husband, Mark, who returned in April 2018 from five years in a minimum-security federal prison known as a camp. She shares about how her husband came to be in trouble with the law and the night that turned their lives upside down. We also talk about how they managed as a family while he was away, how little resources there are to support families of the incarcerated, and what it's been like adjusting to his return. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

We're joined this week by Dr. Marika Lindholm, a sociologist and advocate for the diverse group of women raising kids solo. She's the co-editor of a new anthology about solo moms. It's called We Got This: Solo Mom Stories of Grit, Heart and Humor. She and I talk a little bit about her own journey to single motherhood, how it led her to found a social platform called Empowering Solo Moms Everywhere (ESME), and what it'll take to make the path a little easier for moms raising kids on their own today and in the future. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

This week we welcome Jeffrey Marsh to the show. Jeffrey is one of the world's foremost commentators on non-binary identity and activism. They rose to prominence with inspirational viral videos, first shared on Vine and now on Twitter and Instagram. Jeffrey is both the first non-binary activist and spokesperson to appear on national television in the U.S., and also the author of a book called How to Be You. CBS once called them “the internet's most beloved anti-bully.” They've also got a wonderful TedX Talk called “I'm a genderfluid activist. Here's how I fight back.” Jeffrey shares about growing up queer in a conservative, rural environment and how that shaped the work they do speaking to schools and drawing attention to the mental health crisis faced by trans, non-binary and genderfluid youth. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

We're back to exploring family in its many with this episode, where we're joined by Emily McGranachan, who tells us about growing up with two moms. Emily's professional life has also been shaped by her upbringing. She's director of family engagement for the Family Equality Council, the national organization in the U.S. dedicated to the equality of LGBTQ people and their families, as well as those who wish to form families. And she's the host of the Council's great podcast, Outspoken Voices. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

We're continuing our exploration of what it'll take to make parenting more sustainable, this week with a focus on how critical it is to cultivate community and share our stories. I'm delighted to welcome Kerrie Lee Brown back to the show. Kerrie first came on the podcast way back on episode 108, when she shared the story of how it took having a heart attack to get her to slow down. That was also the subject of her book, My Heart, My Self: A heartfelt guide for women who do too much. Kerrie has launched a storytelling platform called Red Lily to bring women together to lift each other up. Kerrie and I are going to talk about some of the isolation parents go through at different stages of parenting and why it's so vital we come together to share the good, bad and seriously ugly. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

Start asking around groups of parents, perhaps especially moms, and increasingly it seems we're hanging on by a thread. With competing demands of work and family, we're often hovering on the edge of burnout, if not totally fried all ready. Today I chat with Natalie Ruskin, a journalist-turned-professional-coach who has a business called The MoMentum helping high-achieving moms, many of whom find themselves in periods of struggle while trying to keep up. Natalie joins me for a deep dive into burnout, why it happens and how we can use it as a catalyst for change. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

We kick off the fall with one of several episodes coming up that explores what it will take to make modern-day parenthood more sustainable and less overwhelming. We'll be looking at the social and economic factors that make caring for a family feel like such a herculean effort. Caitlyn Collins says the work-life conflict experienced by parents — especially moms — should be considered a national crisis. An assistant professor at Washington University, Dr. Collins has done some groundbreaking research on this topic, interviewing working middle class mothers in Sweden, Germany, Italy and the United States over five years. She's compiled this in a compelling book called Making Motherhood Work: How Women Manage Careers and Caregiving. In it she makes the case that nothing short of a revolution in both public policy and — critically — cultural believes, with bring about the changes that families need both in the United States and in Canada. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

I'm joined for this episode by Tammy Sharrow, a long-time neonatal nurse and associate professor of nursing at Mount Royal University in Calgary. Along with her co-author Karen Lasby, she's written a new book on life with a premature baby. It's called Preemie Care: A Guide to Navigating the First year with Your Premature Baby. Tammy joins me to discuss the landscape of premature birth in Canada and some of what parents need to know about caring for a newborn infant and raising them up from there. We also talk about what parents of premature babies wish other people would know. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

It's an absolute thrill for me to welcome celebrated, four-time Canadian Olympian Silken Laumann to the show. Many of you will remember Silken's remarkable story as one of Canada's most beloved and accomplished Olympic rowers. In 1992 she was warming up for the World Cup Regatta in Germany when another boat collided with hers at full speed. Her lower right leg received devastating injuries to bone and muscle and she was told she'd never compete at the Olympics again. But 10 weeks later she won an Olympic Bronze medal. Overcoming that difficulty is part of what's made Silken a role model for others to overcome difficult circumstances. It's part of what inspired her to write her book, Unsinkable, and now to host a storytelling website by the same name, with a mission to empower Canadians to achieve better mental, physical and spiritual health. With four kids in her blended family, Silken works hard to cultivate an atmosphere that's honest and truthful about the tough stuff we go through, including mental illness. Silken speaks frankly about being raised by mother who has never accepted the help she needed for her mood disorder, as well as about Silken's own bouts with depression. She and I delve into what it takes to cultivate a culture of openness about mental health and comfort with vulnerability in our families. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

The departure for college or university represents a huge shift in our relationship with our nearly adult children. But, wow, can seem that they still have a lot of independence to achieve before they'll be ready to make do without us. How do we achieve a sweet spot between supporting teens as they enter their post-secondary years, without helicoptering the heck out of them? Psychologist and best-selling parenting author Sara Dimerman marries her personal experience with two university-age daughters, as well as her expertise as a therapist, in her newest book called Don't Leave, Please Go: What You and Your Teen Need to Know Before Heading to University or College. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

I'm joined for this episode by a mother and her adult son. Elaine and Jake Uskoski are here to share their experience with Jake's video game addiction. They've started to share their story to help other families learn to identify where enthusiasm for digital play crosses into unhealthy territory and what it takes to come out of it when video games have taken over a young person's life. Elaine has also written about this candidly in her book, Seeing Through the Cracks. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

It's my delight to be able to bring you a remarkable and important story today. I'm joined by author Stephanie Land, who has become known for her unflinching writing on poverty and motherhood. Stephanie writes about her years seeking out an existence for herself and her daughter through her work as a housekeeper. She writes about her struggle to make ends meet, her reluctance use of food stamps and the bigotry she encountered for needing to access social services. But she also chronicles her efforts to keep alive her dream of going to university and becoming a writer something she nurtured in blog posts about her life with her daughter and getting by in those years. Since then her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Vox, Salon and elsewhere. Her book Maid: Hard Work, Low Pay and a Mother's Will to Survive is already a New York Times bestsller that's been met with all kinds of critical acclaim. Although her circumstances have now changed, Stephanie remains active in fighting to change the stigma surrounding people in poverty, especially single mothers. Stephanie lives in Montana but while in Toronto to give in a talk she visited me in my small home studio. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

For this episode, we welcome Leisse Wilcox back on the show. Leisse is a writer, coach, speaker and mom of three. She writes a very inspiring blog about personal growth, self-love and more at leissewilcox.ca and uplifts so many others through her community on Instagram. Leisse last joined us to talk about how divorce can be a springboard for personal growth. Since then she's had some pretty major stuff going on, which she seems to have handled with a whole lot of grace and strength, but also with a lot of support from her community. Today Leisse and I talk about just how critical it is to gather community around you in times of need, as well as how she talked to her three daughters about the health challenge she faced. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

Cooking for a group, sending lunch to school, is a different business these days. Something like 40 per cent of children are affected by life-threatening food allergens, and as my guest for today's episode has found, many people don't grow out of them. However, Amanda Orlando hasn't let her food allergens stop her from making food a treasured part of her life. She's just released her second cookbook, Everyone's Welcome: The Art of Living and Eating Allergen-Free. While preparing lunch together at her condo in Toronto, Amanda and I chat about her experiences with anaphylactic reactions and how they've affected her. We also talk about Amanda's quest to make it easier for people with serious food allergies have safe and delicious times around the table with family and friends. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

There are times when the dynamics between our kids and their friends are sort of baffling. When things are going smoothly, everything is great. But when there's friendship drama and hurt feelings, when friendships break down or there's routine exclusion, it's so hard to try to navigate these things. It's also hard to know when we should intervene and when we should just leave things alone. To discuss these tricky issues I'm joined this episode by child development and parenting expert Caron Irwin, a mom of three and the founder of Roo Parenting, where she provides parents of kids zero to 12 with support to navigate the adventures and challenges of parenting. Caron shares some really great wisdom on where our roles lie in this arena and how we can support our kids to find their way to healthy friendships. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

Parents do a lot of hand wringing about the amount of time our kids spend on devices. And there are some good reasons for that. Naturally we want to make sure our kids aren't leading sedentary lives and that they're not just playing Fortnite or Minecraft, but getting a reasonably healthy amount of time outdoors. On top of this we have a tendency to worry that all these video games are turning our kids into antisocial automatons who won't be able to interact well in the quote-unquote real world. But my guest for this episode has a very reassuring message about the digital lives of our children, and points out that, well, the digital world is in fact part of today's real world. Jordan Shapiro is writer and psychologist who explores the intersections of digital play and family life. He's the author of an absolutely fascinating new book called The New Childhood: Raising Kids to Thrive in a Connected World. Jordan contextualizes the anxiety parents have about this new form of play and storytelling by placing it in the fascinating history of how grown-ups have always responded to new steps in the evolution of child's play. Show Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

This is the second of a two-part series Money Matters, which takes a look at some of the financial implications of raising kids today. In this episode I've again got two very insightful guests. You may have caught my guest Shannon Lee Simmons' on CBC's Metro Morning, the Marilyn Dennis Show or seen her column in the Toronto Star. Shannon is a certified financial planner and founder of The New School of Finance, as well as the author of two best-selling books, Worry-Free Money and Living Debt-Free. I also get to chat with Doretta Thompson, who's the head of financial literacy for the Chartered Professional Accountants of Canada. Doretta has a lot of great insights into how Canadians stack up in financial literacy, where we can improve, where we can access free resources and how to get started with turning around a difficult financial situation. This episode is full of straight talk on family finances, as is the first in this series, episode 229. Show Notes  Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

This is the first of a two-part series that explores how money matters affect families. I've got two amazing guests for this episode. The first is celebrated parenting author Ann Douglas. She has written 30 books, including her latest, Happy Parents, Happy Kids. Ann and I dive deep into one of the important issues she raises in this book — the implications of financial anxiety for parents. We talk about just how much has changed with the cost of living, precarious work and more, and what those mean for the daily lives of parents, so many of whom are struggling to maintain a hold on a middle class lifestyle. In the second part of this episode, I speak to British-American labour economist and Dartmouth professor David Blanchflower on his research that found it's the cost of raising kids, not parenthood itself, that accounts for the decline in happiness associated with parenthood. These insightful conversations shed so much light on how financial anxiety is weighing on families. Show Notes  Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

Long before we learn to speak, we communicate through laughter and tears. That's because these non-verbal expressions come factory-installed. They're instinctive, social and key to bonding us with one another, from our earliest days and through our whole adult lives. In this collaboration with documentary filmmakers Mike Downie and David Wells, we take a look at some of the fascinating science between why we laugh and cry. As Mike puts it, laughter and crying are an incredible expression of our humanity, and highlight a life well lived. I also chat with one of the scientists featured on the Laughing and Crying documentary, Dr. David Haley, a psychology professor at the University of Toronto Scarborough. Show Notes  Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

At least here at home, we see girls picking up academic awards on assembly days at schools and we know that for years, women have been out-graduating men from university. Yet, conversely, there's still a wide wage gap and under representation of women in executive and other leadership roles. It turns out that something critical happens to the confidence of girls and women as they pass through their teens and into early adulthood. My guest for this episode is Caroline Riseboro, president and CEO of Plan International Canada, a non-profit organization whose work on behalf of children's rights and equality for girls is well known to many of us. Plan International Canada recently did a survey on confidence in girls in women and the results are startling. We talk about what societal shifts need to happen to address gender equality and how parents can help prepare their daughters for some of what they will encounter in the world. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

This episode we're joined by esteemed parenting writer Teresa Pitman. Teresa has been writing about raising kids for more than 30 years, and she's the co-author of several books, including Dr. Jack Newman's Guide to Breastfeeding and Sweet Sleep. As a La Leche League leader she has helped countless new parents with nursing their babies and is such an important advocate for and resource on breastfeeding and many other aspects of baby care. But today we're going to talk about how the early days of feeding a baby can set the foundation for a healthy relationship with food down the line. Teresa touches on this in her latest book called Baby-Led Weaning, The Not-So Revolutionary Way to Start Solids and Make a Happy Eater. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

Most of us know that our kids could be more self-sufficient and helpful around the house than they are today. We look back on our own childhoods and see that we developed life skills much earlier than our own kids, but for various reasons — including our tendency to pack our schedules with activities that are focussed on the kids, we haven't made this a priority with our own children. So how do we go about raising our kids in a way that both nurtures them and helps them develop abilities to care for themselves and to contribute to their households and communities? If you're heard anything about Montessori education, you likely know that it puts a lot of importance on practical life. I'm joined today by Simone Davies, a Montessori teacher and the author of The Montessori Toddler: A Parents Guide to Raising a Curious and Responsible Human Being. While the book focuses on the toddler years, it's guidance on the Montessori philosophy is relevant to all ages. Simone and I talk about how our kids are capable of far more than we may currently be expecting of them, and how to cultivate the self-sufficiency and life skills they'll need to thrive when they eventually leave the nest. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

I've talked a lot on this show about positive co-parenting, but sadly, there are still a lot of acrimonious divorces where positive co-parenting is just not possible. My guest for this episode, family lawyer, Marlene Kazman, is here to speak to us about what can happen in some of the most destructive cases where parental alienation is a factor. As a member of the family law team at Garfin ZIdenberg LLP, Marlene handles a full spectrum of family law matters including divorce proceedings and negotiation of separation agreements, and she's recently done what's known as “make law” here in Ontario, by winning a decision that's created an easier pathway to something called reunification therapy. Marlene and I talk about the problem of parental alienation, the help families can get from reunification therapy and the one thing Marlene wishes all separating parents could know. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

You've heard this before — obesity rates among children and youth have nearly tripled over the past three decades. We know kids today are, on average, more sedentary then we were, and there are a lot of reasons for that. But what do you do if your child is one among the countless kids who aren't active enough and who perhaps don't have a healthy body weight or the best eating habits? How do you address that with them without being body shaming at all? We want to take care of our kids' health, but we really don't want them to be insecure about their shape. I'm joined by Dr. Amy McPherson, a senior scientist at senior scientist at the Bloorview Research Institute and the author of a booklet called Fostering Positive Weight-related Conversations. This episode is jam-packed with concrete advise for navigating these tricky waters, and for laying the foundation for good conversations about healthy eating and body diversity from the start. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

We've heard a lot about toxic masculinity in the last year or so. But are we doing enough to provide men and boys with newer, more evolved, more positive and accepting ideas about what it means to be a man? My guest on this episode has a lot to say about this subject. John Kim, also known as “The Angry Therapist,” has helped thousands of men find more happiness in their relationships and more purpose in their lives. A pioneer in the online life coaching world, John has said that too often boys are left without adequate role models or coping skills to deal with the stuff that life throws at them. And even though he's a pro at this stuff, John is candid about the fact he's had his own struggles, hence the title of his new book, I Used to Be a Miserable F***. John shares concrete advice on how we can guide our boys to healthy ideas about being a man in this episode that's a must listen for anyone raising, teaching or guiding boys and young men, as well as men interested in their own self-discovery. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

Today I am so delighted to have friend and colleague Ann Douglas back on the show. Ann is Canada's most trusted and prolific parenting writer, though her work is known in many other countries as well. She's the author of the bestselling Mother of All series of parenting books. My dog-eared copies of her books The Mother of All Pregnancy Books and The Mother of All Baby Books got me through my early days of parenting, as they did — and continue to — for so many other parents. Ann's work is informed by her experiences in the parenting trenches as a mother of four. She has written 30 books, including her latest, Happy Parents, Happy Kids, which just hit bookstore shelves. It tackles how to parent without anxiety, guilt or feeling overwhelmed. In it she offers important context and concrete advice about boosting your enjoyment of parenting, which includes prioritizing your own mental and physical health alongside that of your other family members. This must read is also a call for broader change in the way society supports parents.  Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

My guest on today's show has an interesting personal story to tell about differentiating her own parenting experience from the fundamentalist religion she was schooled in growing up. In fact, Cindy Wang Brandt has written a book on how to treat children with justice as well as how to encourage them to develop their own sense of what's right and wrong. It's called Parenting Forward: How to Raise Children with Justice, Mercy and Kindness. Cindy also hosts a podcast called Parenting Forward. She's here to talk about her upbringing, her work and her mission to spread the word about raising children with racial justice, gender equality, gender affirmation and their own sense of what's worth fighting for. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

At just 15 years old, Campbell Baron has run a successful social media video production company and rubbed shoulders with A-list entrepreneurs for his new podcast and video series, The Ones Who Succeed. He's also cold emailed, called and pitched his way to a full sponsorship for his show, a coup for an independent content producer at any age. We wanted to know what motivates a young person to start their own entrepreneurial ventures, so for this episode, we talk to both Campbell and his parents about his earliest experiences in the world of business, how his mom and dad have nurtured this in their son and how Campbell has managed to pull off his latest endeavour while juggling school work. Don't miss the story of Campbell's very first business at the age of nine! Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

For this episode it's my pleasure to have a very wise woman back on the show. Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, social worker, therapeutic foster parent and the world's leading voice on the topic of mental strength. She's the author of the international bestselling book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do, which was born from her own remarkable personal story of mental strength, as well as a viral article by that name that has since gone on to be read 50 million times. We had Amy on the show back on episode 166 when her follow up book 13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don't Do, which was the most popular episode of 2018. Amy has expanded on her very tangible advice about mental strength in the third installment of her books on the topic, 13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don't Do. While there's advice in the book that applies to everyone, woman, man or child, we dive into some of the female- specific experiences that can hold us back, and the reasons why it's particularly important to have a discussion about women's mental strength in the era of the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements. These are great qualities to develop in ourselves and model for our children. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

For this episode I had the enormous pleasure of chatting with Catherine Reitman, creator and star of the hit CBC show Working Moms, now underway with its third season. Working Moms manages to be hilariously funny while offering an unvarnished version of modern-day motherhood. Catherine and I dig into topics like why no one asks if dads can “have it all,” why we carry so much guilt for pursuing our own dreams and the importance of finding a community of other parents to share the journey. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

As you know, it's so critical that we address the fact that kids are far too sedentary these days. Today I'm joined by Amy Tepperman, founder of Moving EDGEucation. Moving EDGEucation works with teachers across Canada to integrate movement and social-emotional learning methods into daily curriculum, such as math and literacy, in order to improve student well-being and academic engagement. They provide resource and tools for teachers to keep students physically active, creative, expressive and interactive while learning. Not only does this keep kids in better physical health, it makes the process of learning more effective and enjoyable. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

We try our best to prepare for parenthood while we await the arrival of our first-born babies, but there's really only so much we can know until we're in the trenches with our wee ones. Until then we plan as best we can for our baby's birth, endeavouring to exert some control over a process that can't really be controlled. When baby arrives we become laser focussed on baby's care and feeding. But what about the care of the ones doing all that feeding, comforting and changing? My guest on today's episode is Maria Lianos-Carbone, the woman behind a highly successful lifestyle blog for moms, A Mother World. Maria is now also the author of Oh Baby, A Mom's Self-Care Survival Guide for the First Year, which invites readers to pay a little more attention to their own care and feeding — and critically, to their mental health as well. Maria and I talk about the factors that make a difference for new moms, as well as the policy and cultural changes we'd like to see to better support new parents. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

I don't think I've met a parent who doesn't feel — at least some of the time — that the 24 hours in a day are insufficient. With the year coming to a close the day this episode goes live on New Year's Eve day, it seemed like a perfect time to examine how we spend our time and how we can get more fulfillment out of our days as our families enter the new year. That's why I'm so delighted to have snagged an interview with New York Times bestselling author Julie Morgenstern for this episode. Julie is a time management expert whose holistic approach to how we spend our days has been shared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, The Rachael Ray Show, Today and more. She's the author of a new book called Time To Parent: Organizing Your Life to Bring Out the Best in Your Child and You. This book is far, far more than a set of instructions for turning you into a whiz with the calendar. Instead, it's a holistic approach that helps parents find a healthy balance between raising a human and being a human. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

For this special episode, we look back on some of the best parenting advice shared on the show in 2018. It is definitely hard to choose from among all the wisdom shared here over the 50 or so episodes we did this year, but we think this round-up of 10 gives us a lot of good stuff to think about. For links to the full episodes from which these audio clips come from, be sure to visit our show notes! If you've enjoyed listening in 2018, we'd dearly appreciate it if you'd consider supporting our Patreon campaign. That's a platform where people can support their favourite independent content creators for as little as a dollar a month, helping us to keep this show entirely free to you. Happy Holiday to all! Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month  

For this special holiday episode of The New Family Podcast, I asked listeners to send me voice messages about their favourite holiday traditions, old and new. Tune in for a fun and inspiring round up of fun and poignant holiday traditions that you may want to make your own. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month  

Women talk a lot about emotional labour — carrying the mental load of things that need to be arranged for their families and the weight of worry about how everyone's needs are being met. We're joined today by marriage and family therapist Jeremy Schneider for a conversation on what it takes to be an emotionally available dad and a partner who shares that emotional labour. Jeremy has written about parenting topics for a number of publications around the world and now in his book Fatherhood in 40-Minutes Snapshots. This is an insightful chat about the complex business of sharing the work of raising kids, the shifting expectations and perceptions of and about dads, and the beauty and opportunity that lies in forging meaningful connection between father and child. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

Those of you who are regular listeners will know that I'm a big advocate for positive co-parenting. It's becoming less and less unusual to see coparents working happily together to raise their kids, easily able to cohost their kids' birthday parties, divide and conquer on busy extra-curricular days and sit comfortably together on the sidelines at the arena or soccer field. But alas, there's still a lot of very difficult relationships between former spouses. Naturally there can be a lot of hurt and anger when a marriage comes apart, but in some cases there's a negative, even bullying dynamic that emerges. My guest for this episode has some really important insights on how to handle a situation like this. Jeff Rechtshaffen has been practising family law for 21 years. He's a partner in Rechtshaffen, Breitman Family Law and Mediation. He's an expert in all aspects of family law including collaborative family law and, when necessary, litigation. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

For years my guest for this episode and his former wife lived in a mixed-orientation marriage. Matt Nightingale had shared with his wife, Luanne, that he was gay, but — for various reasons, including that he was a pastor at a fundamentalist church — they stayed together for 15 years. During this time Matt undertook all kinds of efforts to turn himself straight, including conversion therapy. Matt has since done some writing about his experience, and he and Luanne have given a powerful TedEx talk on the journey they've taken together and it's complicated emotional terrain. Show notes Sago Mini World's Black Friday special! Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

A big part of being able to take care of a family is also looking after your relationship with your partner. My guest for this episode, New York City psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Dr. Grant Brenner, has some interesting insights about how the experiences we hold on to from the past and can stand in the way of having truly great, well-connected intimate relationships. But this isn't just a matter of old-fashioned onion peeling of therapist sessions past. It's about the concrete steps you can take to address old patterns so your relationship can be its best. Dr. Brenner specializes in helping adults who are experiencing relationship difficulties and he's co-author of a book called Relationship Sanity: Creating and Maintaining Healthy Relationships. It's a follow to their popular book Irrelationship, and it builds on those findings about how the past affects the present in relationships and offers tangible advice on improving connections going forward. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month    

Everyone asks kids, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” But what if that's the wrong question? My guest for this episode, Dr. Rumeet Billan — an award-winning entrepreneur, learning architect and humanitarian — has an insightful way of looking at this topic. Given career anxiety is on the rise — and that anxiety disorders are now the most common illness to affect children and youth — she says we should instead be asking kids not whether they plan to be a doctor or millionaire athlete, but who they wish to become. In fact, Who Do I want to Become is the title of Rumeet's new picture book for both kids and adults. She offers some great guidance for parents on how we can emphasize the values and life skills that will serve our kids well in a future where jobs may look different than they do today. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month    

Part of my reason for starting the website, and later, this podcast, was because I didn't see families like my own — an usually amicable post-divorce family with co-parents living next door for years — reflected in mainstream media. When she was growing up, my guest for this episode, Paulina Lagudi, had a similar experience comparing her own family to the ones she saw on TV and in movies. Well, today she's able to do something about that. Paulina is a filmmaker who has created a movie called “Mail Order Monster” or “M.O.M.” for short. The film tackles grief, blended family and step-parenting in a way that puts a modern and perfectly imperfect family in a positive light. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month    

At dining room tables and homework desks all over the place, math can be the source of a lot of drama and frustration. Approaches to math curriculum have shifted since we were in school, complicating our efforts to help our kids when they get stuck. The new math? The new new math? I'm not sure which we're on now, but it does seem as though kids are may be missing some of the basic building blocks that help them tackle some of the trickier concepts and equations. To help us sort this all out, I'm delighted to welcome my guest Vanessa Vakharia back to the show today. Vanessa is the founder of a unique tutoring facility called The Math Guru here in Toronto. She's a teacher with a Bachelor of Commerce and a Masters in Mathematics Education, and she's a leading expert on engaging kids with STEM topics. She's also now the author of a wonderful new math workbook for kids Math Hacks: Cool Tips + Less Stress = Better Marks. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month    

There are few among us who are aren't plagued by a feeling — at least some of the time — that the pace of life is a little out of hand. You probably experience this to some degree whether you're raising kids or not. But if you're parenting you're doing so during a period where raising kids is done in a more time-intensive way than ever before. Between 1975 and today, mothers have nearly tripled the quality time they spend with their kids (while dads have more than doubled theirs). And this is happening at a time when — more than ever before — both parents engage in paid work. My guest for this episode has made major shifts in her life to address the harried nature of life with her husband and two kids. Brooke McAlary is an Australian writer and the woman behind the popular Slow Your Home blog. Between her blog and her great podcast The Slow Home Podcast, McAlary has become a leader in the slow living movement. She's the author of two books, the latest of which is called SLOW: Simple Living for a Frantic World. Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month    

It's said that something like one in five people will be affected by some level of mental illness at at least one point in their lifetime. There have been times when I've wondered if that figure might not be a little low. In many cases, family history plays a part, and that was certainly the case in the family of my guest for today's episode, Lindsay Wong. Lindsay is a writer with a distinguished academic career including an MFA in literary non-fiction from Columbia University. But as you'll learn in our discussion, the road that got her there was am extremely bumpy one, complicated by her elder's unorthodox approach to the mental illness that ran in their family, and their deep distrust of Western medicine. Lindsay writes about this in an at once page-turning and darkly comedic new memoir called The Woo-Woo: How I Survived Ice Hockey, Drug Raids, Demons and My Crazy Chinese Family, which is out this month. Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month    

For a lot of us, there are some tricky dynamics around schoolwork, with parents often in an unfortunate role of homework police. Many of us can relate to frustration that our kids are capable of much more if they'd only get organized and apply themselves a little. My guest for this is episode has an insider's track on what makes the difference between kids who do well in schools and others who don't manage to achieve to their full potential. (Hint: It's not that the kids with great grades are geniuses; they've just mastered some habits that get results.) Ryan Thompson is an educator and entrepreneur with an expertise in science and math. He's been a high school physics and math teacher 15 years, and has in-depth knowledge of the challenges teens face in order to become academically successful. He runs a virtual program for teens and their parents on how to develop the study skills needed to do well in school. Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month    

As you know, I love telling you the stories of people who are defining family in interesting ways. My guest for this episode has found a wonderful way to meet one of the challenges that's reshaping the way we live. The cost of housing, especially in major cities — but increasingly in medium-sized ones as well — is making it incredibly difficult for people to put decent roofs over there heads. Austin Graff, who works for the Washington Post, where he contributes to On Parenting, is raising a toddler in a house with his wife and two roommates. We'll hear about how that arrangement came about and how it's working for them. Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month    

For this very special milestone episode of the podcast, we're getting a little personal. For the first time, the whole family joins in as we share the first week of school in our house. Join host Brandie, the boys' dad, Derek, stepmom, Amy, 15-year-old basketball enthusiast Cameron, skateboarding fiend Alister, 11, and some other very important people in our lives as we share the everyday experience of the return to school, the juggle between work and family, the quest to get the right mix of extra-curricular activities and the never-ending mystery of the unmatched sock. Notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month