Coming Out Gold

In the hiatus, I am replaying some of the most popular episodes. Episode 28 replay is first up. Here is a taste of what we chatted about: Have you ever found yourself doing something without understanding why you are doing it - especially if it is something you don't want to do? It isn't unusual to find ourselves women driven by a narrative that tells us who we have to be and how we have to move.  We have unknowingly been held prisoner by something I call Good Girl Syndrome.  But I believe most of us would prefer to be women who write their own stories based on what we want and value. In this episode, I will share tips to help you deconstruct this hidden narrative.  If you follow this process, you will become aware of areas where your choices are based on good girl syndrome.  Once you are aware, you can write a new narrative - one where you make the rules for living your own story. If you apply this process consistently, you will: Put an end to Good Girl Syndrome Gain an understanding of why you do what you do Become clear on how you want to move Make choices that align with who you choose to be Move forward writing your own narrative Listen to the episode, and let's start identifying times when we are being “good girls”  instead of following our own intuition and aligning with our core values. Head ⁠here⁠ to find the blog version of the episode. Follow us on: Instagram: ⁠@Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast⁠ or ⁠@RS_Coach_and_Strategist⁠ Facebook: ⁠@Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast ⁠ or ⁠@rscoachandstrategist⁠ Royalty-free music from ⁠Pixaby.com

WOOOHOOOO! I can't begin to tell you how thrilled I am about this episode. It is episode 100!! Cue the confetti cannons and the band and the parade and ALL THE THINGS!  And to celebrate, we are starting a pay-it-forward challenge. Take a listen to this episode for the details and jump in!  Use this link from Amazon for how to share your wish list. Once your Amazon wish list is ready, head to my Facebook account (because IG doesn't allow links!) to share the list and send someone else some happy mail. And if you receive some happy mail, please post a picture and tag us on socials so we can see the kindness ripple throughout the world    I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE THE JOY RIPPLE OUT INTO THE WORLD!! As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to change your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

This week I challenge you to pick an area where you want to see progress. Then lean in and go after what it is that sets your soul on fire. I believe in you and your ability to build a life you love. You've got this. As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to change your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

If variety is the spice of life, then monotony is the anesthesia of it. Monotony is a lack of variety and interest; a tedious repetition and routine. But what happens when daily rhythms become deep ruts? If you have been here for a bit you may have heard me talk about ruts and how they are defined as being dull and unproductive and hard to change. I have also stated I don't want to be in a rut and I don't want you to be in one either.  Monotony. It has us falling asleep inside our own lives. And that my friend is no way to live out our one beautiful life. On today's episode let's create a plan for balancing rhythms that bring ease with having enough variety that we don't fall into a rut.As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to change your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.comFollow me on:Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_StrategistFacebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategistRoyalty-free music from Pixaby.com

We have been conditioned to believe that women always fight with other women. It was a lie sown into our consciousness and then pumped into the culture. We've been conditioned to think there's not enough room at the table for all of us so we fight against others to ensure we have a place. Those are lies from the pit of hell. We can be FOR others without believing the same things they do. It is my "two things can be true at the same time" thing again. The world would be a flat place to live if we were cookie-cutter versions of some ideal a man created and told us we had to be.  Please, be an ally to other women. Period.As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.comFollow me on:Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_StrategistFacebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategistRoyalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Today is a real talk episode where I focus on creating space for us to exhale. If you are walking through a hard season or have ever come out of one, I hope you will take a listen. More importantly, I hope it helps. As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

In today's episode, we tackle the choice between new blessings and old baggage. If you took on the challenge in episode 94 of evaluating your life and doing a midyear reset, some things may have bubbled up for you. You may have felt some resistance and wondered the source.  If you didn't do the reset, I am sure you have previously experienced resistance or sensed some broken patterns in your life. This is part of being whole humans in this world. The beautiful thing is we have an opportunity to do a new thing. We can choose whether to cling to our old baggage or open our hands to receive new blessings.  Take a listen to this episode and make your choice! As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Let me state the obvious here. There is nothing special about January. It doesn't hold some mystical power to help you set and reach your goals. You can choose to do that on any day that ends in y no matter the month. When this episode drops many in America will be celebrating July 4th. Since July kicks off the second half of the year it is the perfect time for a reset. Christmas is 25 weeks away as I record this episode which basically means it will be here in approximately 15 minutes. Because of this, let's be intentional about how we will navigate the remainder of 2024. If you are keeping up with the episodes you would have heard episode 89 where we talked about how decision+vision+action=growth. We are going to use that process to make the rest of 2024 all we hope it to be. And in doing so, we will set ourselves up for 2025 without feeling all the feels we can experience when we are surviving or floating through life.   Lets get started... As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Today we are going to chat about finding satisfaction with our life by embarking on a personal renaissance. I share tips for how to rebrand, rebuild, and resurrect our true identity. You get to make your life what you want it to be. You get to define your true identity, discover or uncover your purpose, and build a life accordingly. It won't be perfect or without bumps but as the amazing Brene Brown says, 'When we have the courage to walk into our story and own it, we get to write the ending." Let's get started! As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

If practicing neutrality and saying "interesting" helps us become curious and less judgmental, then taking action will help us evolve even more. Today, I will offer some practical strategies for taking some beliefs you may have about your identity and challenging that list of "nots" we create for ourselves over time that manage to define who we are and how we move around the world. Let's dive in! As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Have you heard of the saying about the glass being half-full? Maybe someone has accused you of being a glass-half-empty person. Well, today I want to offer a third way of seeing, one free of judgment and rooted in neutrality. I hope it helps you practice observing not absorbing as we strive to live a softer story. As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

In today's episode, I want to do a real talk with Coach Tammy episode focused on growth. We are saturated in such a microwave society where we want - or more accurately demand - instant results. We want what we want when we want it. Hard stop. And that applies to personal growth as well for many of us.   Sorry to burst anyone's bubble, but sustainable change doesn't happen like that.  Lasting growth is done incrementally...slowly over time. Tiny baby step by tiny baby step. Let's chat about it... As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

** Editing error had a minute of silence in the first upload. I have replaced the file with a corrected version. Thanks for the grace!** If you have found us here at the Coming Out Gold podcast, I believe you are open to doing a new thing.  As like-minded humans, I believe we want growth even if we aren't sure how to make it happen. By the end of today's episode, I hope you have the tools needed to create a plan for growth in your life. Buckle up beautiful! We are going on this ride together. As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

In this episode, I want to highlight a key skill we will need to navigate our journey of being the main character in our story. The skill I am talking about is learning to adapt. I offer an acronym that shifts the energy around welcoming new situations and circumstances all in a quest to help us grow and become the main characters in our stories. As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Have you seen the Disney movie Wish? Well, I did, and it got me thinking. In today's episode, I am asking if we gave our dreams away... to shoulds, for protection, or so we could meet the expectations of others. When we give them up or away we give away and give up on a part of our soul that needs to be expressed. It is time we find those dreams and start gooing after them!  As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

In Episode 86, I want to process together a new revelation I have had about goals. For years goals have marked the end point of a journey. But  I am beginning to think they might just be the start of something new. Follow along as I contemplate a new way of seeing and setting goals.   As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Last week I celebrated my birthday. I had to do the math to figure out how old I was because I don't ever think about it. That whole age is just a number thing. I am not going to lie, I cannot believe how old I am. I seriously don't know how that happened. Okay, so I do know, but I just don't get how life and the years have flown by. This year I was very intentional about having a different attitude about this day. I didn't want to carry the mantle of heaviness on my shoulders as I have done for years now. Instead, I tried to have open hands about it. My intention for sharing this episode today is to offer another option for navigating a season that makes you uncomfortable or scratches open an old wound. We will all encounter them so let's try to make it better. I hope you find one or more of these helpful as you live your story.  As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Today, I want to talk about ghostwork and how we, as women, can shake off the cloak of invisibility we often wear. A couple of years back, I heard the phrase "Ghostwork" on a podcast, and I was intrigued. It talked about the countless jobs women do without acknowledgment or recognition. Yet if those things weren't completed by women, I have no doubt people would notice. Join me as I offer three steps to help us stop doing ghost work and learn to shake off the cloak of invisibility. As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Today's episode is a real talk episode where I chat about rest - emotional, physical, spiritual, and mental and what I learned from a recent podcast with speak, author, and pastor Jess Connolly. I also share four quick strategies to help us find rest in our day-to-day lives. Take a listen and then share your thoughts! As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

In this episode, I share a quote by author Dr. Allison Cook, who says in her book The Best of You, "Your identity isn't fixed. It's a process of bringing out the best of you." This started me on a path of digging into a fixed vs. growth mindset. I get very transparent today about some false labels I have been wearing for far too long. It is an emotional one but I felt the need to peel back the curtain to show some deep work I am tackling in this season. I always want to be real with you. Just know there is some talk of trauma and ED. Opt out if that is a trigger for you! As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Many of us have yearned for change, to step out of old habits and break away from false narratives. We have longed for freedom in a variety of areas of our lives. And yet, we have encountered resistance. Our "want to" is not connected to our "willing to". Today, we tackle our willingness, and we work towards aligning our "want to" with our "willing to" so we can live a better story. Jump in and take a listen. Then message me on socials, letting me know your thoughts. As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Welcome back to a Real Talk episode! Today I ask us to do two things on our journey to becoming the star of our own lives: 1) Look for clues 2) Follow the breadcrumbs Listen in for some candid conversation where I get vulnerable about not listening to my own intuition and what it taught me. As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Today I want to talk about lasting transformation. Transitions can lead to transformation if we are focused and intentional with the choices we make in this one beautiful life of ours. I hope to make the case that true transformation creates shifts in our identity. It's these shifts over time that allow us to reclaim or step into our true identity.  Because you know I always share some strategies for doing our work, I share two ways to help us create lasting transformation in our lives. There are just two, Lovie, so I know we can do it! Take a listen and let me know your thoughts. As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Today we are going to talk about a shared experience we all have if we are humans living on this planet. Transition. Just the word for some can spark stress. If I talk about being in a season of transition, do you feel butterflies of anxiety start to flutter in your gut? Change can be hard. I know some who absolutely detest the idea of change. And yet if we are going to live out our true purpose and walk with that main character energy every day, we have to acknowledge transitions are as much a part of that as breathing. If you have tuned in since the beginning of season three, you will know I am dedicated to curating a life where I am the main character on a grand adventure. I want to share any tips and tricks I have learned along the way so that you, too, can join me on this journey home to our truest selves. I firmly believe we can learn to accept change and make transitions with ease. Even more, I know we deserve to live with the confident ease of sparkly outfitted trapeze artists flying high and far.   As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. And if you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Raise your hand if you have fallen for the excellent marketing skills behind some type of self-care. Gracious knows I have. A couple of decades working in the fashion industry would make it impossible not to fall for them. I am sure you could tick off a long list of things the world considers as acts of self-care. Top of mind for me would be nail appointments, salon dates, and spa treatments. And you can always count on the "treat yourself" mentality that is out there. But what if self-care for you felt different than how the world presents it? In today's episode we are going to strip away the shoulds of self-care and take a new path...one where we choose what cares for our soul best. And I promise you don't need the Kardashian's bank account to give it a go! As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. And if you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

It is time to turn it up! In this episode, we learn how to turn up the volume on our intuition so we can learn what we need and want out of life and how we can get it. We need to crank up the volume of that still small voice inside to find the truth we have always held within us. And we need to find it, Lovie, so we can learn to trust ourselves again. This patriarchal world has pushed a false narrative that women are not trustworthy. Sadly we had no choice but to believe it because it was the only message we heard. Now it is time to listen to our inner voice so we can own our truth, so we can know who we are and what we want from our one beautiful life.   Lovie, we are trustworthy. We can handle all the world hands us. We can rely on our intuition to guide us home. And we are victorious when we do it by honoring the voice inside us that says, "This is the way. Walk in it."   As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

This is a real talk episode where I share some musing and offer up an idea I had to get some feedback from you. I truly want your thoughts. Please use the social media links below to tell me your thoughts on my idea of Wish List Wednesday.   I know this is a rambling bit of chit-chat. I understand you might not like it. And also, you might fully relate to the descent into madness ;) Either way, I have shipped this episode and would love to know your thoughts. As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. And if you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

In today's episode, we are focusing on a common stumbling block many of us face on the path to our next level by dispelling the myth of "behind". Raise your hand if you have ever heard yourself lament that you were behind. Perhaps you feel like you aren't moving as fast as you should be through your day. You are "behind" because you have failed to tick off as many tasks as you had hoped. Toxic productivity is at play here. Maybe you are looking at your dreams, and it feels like you are miles from where you hoped to be. You long to give birth to this beautiful idea and yet nothing is happening. You are "behind" because you have failed to make the progress needed. Worse, maybe you are playing the comparison game, and end up berating yourself for being "behind" others you see in similar fields. Maybe you are looking at other women you think have it all together, and you are left feeling "behind" in every area. Maybe you are looking around and noticing your friends have the partners, kids, jobs, houses, cars, and adventures you expected to have by now leaving you feeling "behind" in life. Lovie, may I gently and lovingly point out that these are all judgments we impose on ourselves. And, as always, with judgment comes shame. It is time for us to debunk this myth and put an end to the false narrative that we are "behind". As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. And if you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Last week I set the table for a conversation about what becoming the main character of your life looks like. I gave some background for why I am taking on this challenge in my next season. Honestly, I want this for more than just my next season. I want it for every day I take a breath on this earth. I shared some thoughts on how we - both suddenly and slowly - find ourselves in a place where our dreams have died on the altar of others expectations. I asked you to simply open your mind to dream of what life could look like if you said yes to living out your dreams. And then I ended the episode because I had already said so many words...If you haven't listened to part one of Becoming the Main Character of Your Story, please hit pause on this one and go back to episode 72. The foundation for where I am taking us in this episode is set there. Then come back to this episode for the nuts and bolts on how to begin making this shift in your life.   Now I know I left you hanging on for the steps we can take to own our story, so I hope you are buckled up and ready to drive even further down this road by learning how to become the main character in your life. Let's get going... As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. And if you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Last week, I shared a mantra that's helping improve my life: slow, soften, exhale, expand. It is helping me learn to come alive in my own story. We have served our time setting aside all that sets our souls on fire, Lovie! It is time to live out our dreams. Today, we will drive further down this same road by learning what it means to become the main character in our lives. Brene Brown says that greatness is owning your story and loving yourself through the process. And I have chosen this as the journey I will undertake in this next season. As a listener of the podcast, I hope it is a journey you, too, choose to take. Let me try and connect some dots for us today. And be sure to come back as this episode is only the tip of the iceberg! As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

If you could live a life where you can be present in every moment, enjoying the people you cross paths with, savor the meals you eat, feel the sunshine on your face, and still take care of the things you need to take care of as a whole grown person, then would you want to give it a go? My new mantra could hold the key to you achieving a better story at a pace that fills your soul with peace, not exhaustion. I am sure you have heard of the concept of toxic positivity. It is the belief that no matter how dire or difficult a situation is, people should maintain a positive mindset. It is the need for everything to always be "fine". Today I want to talk about another toxic pattern: toxic productivity. I define toxic productivity as the churn-and-burn thought process soaked in shoulds and layered with a scarcity mindset that most of us are expected to walk out as women in this world. Listen in as I share how I am using my new mantra to reset the patterns and rhythms of my life.   To come alive in my story I am using this mantra: Slow. Soften. Exhale. Expand. As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. And if you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Well, it has been a minute since I dropped a new episode. I apologize for taking a sudden and unplanned break, and I have missed you so deeply. I know I am not alone in experiencing that life can sometimes feel like a tsunami sweeping over you. You know, the kind that knocks you off your feet and onto your backside, stealing your breath and threatening to swallow you whole. You do know what I am talking about, don't you? In this kick off to season three, I am doing a bit of a life update as well as working to set the stage for what this next season of the podcast will be centered on. I have been finding myself in conversations lately with women who have passed the midpoint of their lives. They are looking around and wondering what the actual heck happened to them and their dreams. Even those who have lots of great things going on are expressing that there is something missing. In this next season we will dive into why that might be and what we can do to change to narrative. It is about taking control of our lives, hopes and dreams once again and chasing down the thing that sets our souls on fire. My hope is for us to link arms as women so we can use our shared power to write a new story. This isn't a "let me tell you how I have figured out the mysteries of life" kind of podcast. It is a messy look in to the reality of reinventing ourselves after life has knocked us around a bit. It is about cheering for one another, sharing tools and tips, and working together to build lives we want to live. If you are looking for a perfect coach who has the ideal life, I am so not your person. But if you are looking for a coach willing to get in the trenches alongside you and working to figure things out together, then you are at the right place. Take a listen and as always, shoot me a DM on socials with your thoughts! Lovie, it is time we became the sheroes of our stories!  Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Every so often in my life, demons from my past like to pop into my present life to take me out. Do you know what I am talking about? Often we have story loops in our minds - or, let's face it, people in our lives - who like to remind us of our old selves, old patterns, and old brokenness. If we are honest with ourselves, we might have to admit that we are drudging up those old stories. In these moments, we may question the validity of our growth and healing. Depending on the wounds we carry, we may question our very worth. Viewing this situation through a clearer lens, I began asking myself questions I think we should all be asking ourselves. I believe we should be pondering them deeply as we walk through our days - especially the hard ones. In this episode, I share my musing with you, Lovie, along with the questions I started asking myself. They helped lead me to a new place. I hope they will do the same for you! If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

How often do we discount all we do because it isn't the work we wanted to get done, or we think should get done? If you have been here for a while, you know how I feel about the word "should". As women, we are trained to hustle for our worth. We have to produce, manage, and care for an extensive list of things in order to feel successful or be perceived as good enough. If we are going to live in a world where we DON'T have to hustle for our worth, then we need to acknowledge all the work we do instead of discounting it as having value. We need to acknowledge the myriad of silent tasks we handle daily. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Today I want us to question some narratives many of us wrestle with. I was finishing the book, Dare to Lead by Brene Brown, which is what triggered my desire to do this episode. In the final chapter of the book, she said the most dangerous stories we tell ourselves are ones that diminish our loveability, creativity, and divinity. Bless, but that one landed a blow that hurt. Since part of my purpose here on the Coming out Gold podcast is to help us dismantle false narratives, we are spending some time on this today. Let's tackle these roadblocks together, Lovie. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

The original drop date of this episode is February 14, 2023. Regardless of your relationship status, I have no doubt Valentine's Day makes you feel some kind of way. In episode 66, I share a new perspective on this day because I think it can help us all. The world is constantly working to convince us to look outside ourselves for validation. We compare, weigh, and measure our day-to-day lives against the highlight reels of others. We internalize the Hollywood, magazine-cover ideal and weaponize it against our souls. And instead of knowing our worth, standing tall in the certainty that we are by birthright freaking fabulous, and being our own cheerleader, we diminish our value. It is wrong for us to bench ourselves in our own life because we believe in a lie that we aren't enough. When we take ourselves out of the game the world suffers. Our community suffers. Those who love us suffer. We suffer. Let's break that cycle. Let's learn to be on our own team. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Welcome back to episode 65 of the Coming Out Gold podcast. In the last episode, I discussed the idea of living a regret-free life. Today I want us to start laying the foundation for doing this by defining the non-negotiables we need to do daily to be our best selves. Whatever your season, whatever your focus for 2023, this episode can help you establish some guardrails to keep you moving forward toward becoming an even more spectacular version of your already incredible self. Take a listen to this episode and start taking small baby steps in the direction of your dreams! If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Studies have shown that when people are in their final days of life their biggest regrets are always the path not taken, the things they never did because they told themselves lies about why they couldn't do the thing their souls yearned to do. If this has scientifically been proven to be true, then isn't NOT looking, not course-correcting, not taking small simple steps of progress in the direction of your dreams, isn't this the radical choice for regret? By not choosing to see where you are, being honest about where you want to go, and day-after-day-after-day taking tiny steps in that direction, you have chosen to live a life you will regret. Does that hurt your heart as it does mine? Seriously, the thought brings an ache to the center of my soul. Sure, one of my core desires is to live a life that matters long after I am gone. That might not be a core wish for you. But bless, do you want to choose a life you know you will regret? The realization that I have done this for too many years makes me sick to my stomach. I don't want regret to be the legacy I leave this world. I hope you don't want that either. And that is why we are spending some time this year focusing on building a regret-free life. Take a listen to this episode, and be sure to come back as I share some tools to help us all live the life of our dreams so we can rule our own world. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com

Lovie, lovie, lovie, here we are on the final day of the first-ever podmas on the Coming Out Gold podcast. I truly hope this 12 day journey has brought a smile to your face and some warmth to your holidays. Settle in for our final day as I share my hopes for you in this season. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music Music by Pixabay12-day

Welcome back Lovie. It is episode 11 of podmas here at Coming Out Gold. Can you believe there is only one episode left?!?! It has flown by for me and I might just miss it when it ends tomorrow. For today though, I want to share some quick tips to help if you find yourself having hard conversations with people in your lives. I want you to enjoy your holidays and not get caught up in old patterns. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music Music by Pixabay,

Today we hit double digits on podmas, Lovie! Go us! If you have shown up for everyone, please know I am sending you a giant Christmas hug. And if you haven't been able to, I hope you will take some time over the holiday weekend to catch up. For episode ten of podmas I am going to share a question that when asked can be a real game changer for our lives. I think you are going to love it. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music Music by Pixabay

Welcome back to episode nine of podmas. Many people are racing toward Christmas and we are all running towards the end of the year. I call this the final push. Today, let's get tactical with ways to do that well and without so much stress and bother. Breathe deep. Come present in your body. Don't allow your mind to tell you lies. And count your blessings. You've got this, Lovie. Press on. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music Music by Pixabaytoward

When this episode airs it will be my daughter Alexandria's birthday. To celebrate her and share a good laugh, I thought podmas episode 8 could be a rapid fire game of This or That plus some funny questions. Buckle up because it is never a dull moment when she is in the house! For those of you who don't know there is never a shortage of opinions when we are together and we love to play games. I hope you enjoy this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music Music by Pixabay

I cannot believe we are halfway through the first-ever Podmas on the Coming Out Gold Podcast! When this recording goes live there will only be six more days until Christmas! I feel like this year has been a bit of a blur! Today I want to chat about a tradition that is dying and I for one am so sad about it. Let's chat about Christmas Cards. Lovie, I know these episodes are little nuggets and most are focused on the holidays. Still, though I hope you are enjoying a brief respite from your day-to-day life. Thanks for listening. Be sure to come back tomorrow because I am having a special guest to share some fun rapid-fire questions. It is going to be a blast! If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music Music by Pixabay

Lovie, it is episode 6 of podmas and time is flying. I know yesterday was a bit heavy so for those of you who listened in, thank you. I really hope you heard my heart and will reach out to people in your life to check in and remind them that they are loved. Today, I thought I would toss out some practical bits in case you are still looking for a few last-minute gifts. After all, this episode originally airs on December 18th meaning there are only 7 days left until Christmas Day! Time to get gifting… I love giving gifts and I try to be thoughtful in the things I choose. And I am a sucker for a themed gift. Because of this, I thought I would toss some of these out to you today in case you are coming on short on inspiration for someone in your life. Take a listen for some of my go-to ideas. REMINDER: If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out to the US National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music Music by Pixabay

It is day five of Podmas at Coming Out Gold. We have had some fun the past few days - at least I hope you have had as much fun as I am having! Today I want to talk about what I believe is often the elephant in the room during the holiday season and that is loneliness. Settle in as we have a serious conversation about this important topic today. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out to the US National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music Music by Pixabay

Welcome to the first ever Podmas on Coming Out Gold. If you know me you know I love Christmas and heaven knows I am always down for a Hallmark Christmas movie. The cheesier the better! I am also a junkie for Vlogmas on YouTube and try not to miss daily videos from some of my favorite creators. For me, doing Podmas is about showing up to share a bit of myself with you. So grab your coziest blanket, fill your favorite mug with the warm drink of your choice and let your self exhale for a few minutes as I share short bit with you. Welcome back Lovie to Podmas day three! So far we have chatted about Christmas traditions and how sometimes we have to be patient as we wait on a missing piece. Now on this little podcast nugget, I want to share a story that I hope makes you laugh. Heaven knows it still makes my oldest daughter laugh seven years later. She even said it will be one of the memories she brings up to laugh about in my final days. It's a good one so get ready to laugh… If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music Music by Pixabay

Welcome to the first-ever Podmas on Coming Out Gold. If you know me you know I love Christmas and heaven knows I am always down for a Hallmark Christmas movie. The cheesier the better! I am also a junkie for Vlogmas on YouTube and try not to miss daily videos from some of my favorite creators. For me, doing Podmas is about showing up to share a bit of myself with you. So grab your coziest blanket, fill your favorite mug with the warm drink of your choice and let yourself exhale for a few minutes as I share a short bit with you. Welcome back Lovie to Podmas day three! So far we have chatted about Christmas traditions and how sometimes we have to be patient as we wait on a missing piece. Now on this little podcast nugget, I want to share a story that I hope makes you laugh. Heaven knows it still makes my oldest daughter laugh seven years later. She even said it will be one of the memories she brings up to laugh about in my final days. It's a good one so get ready to laugh… If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music Music by Pixabay

Welcome to the first-ever Podmas on Coming Out Gold. If you know me you know I love Christmas and heaven knows I am always down for a Hallmark Christmas movie. The cheesier the better! I am also a junkie for Vlogmas on YouTube and try not to miss daily videos from some of my favorite creators. For me, doing Podmas is about showing up to share a bit of myself with you. So grab your coziest blanket, fill your favorite mug with the warm drink of your choice and let yourself exhale for a few minutes as I share a short bit with you. It is Podmas day 2 and today I want to share some of my favorite traditions. Take a listen. Then head to social media and find the post where you can share your traditions with me. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music Music by Pixabay

Welcome to the first-ever Podmas on Coming Out Gold. If you know me you know I love Christmas and heaven knows I am always down for a Hallmark Christmas movie. The cheesier the better! I am also a junkie for Vlogmas on YouTube and try not to miss daily videos from some of my favorite creators. For me, doing Podmas is about showing up to share a bit of myself with you. So grab your coziest blanket, fill your favorite mug with the warm drink of your choice and let yourself exhale for a few minutes as I share a short bit with you. In Episode one, I am sharing a lesson about finding the missing piece. Listen and let me know your thoughts! If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music Music by Pixabay

It is that time of year once again...the holiday season. If ever there was an "and also" season this is it! Holidays can be both hard and beautiful. This episode was recorded last year during the holiday season and turned out to be one of my most popular episodes. Because of this (and the fact that I have no voice currently!) I have decided to replay this episode. I hope it speaks to you in whatever space you are in. Even more importantly, I hope you find ways to guard your peace and fill your life with joy this holiday season. And be sure to subscribe to the podcast and social media because I have some fun episodes coming your way this holiday season. I have a few tricks up my sleeve just for you and you don't want to miss them! If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website: rscoachandstrategist.com Follow me on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com