Guys with Feelings

Gabe falls in love with his first TV show ever...and it's a cartoon about a talking horse. Jaemin and Alan join him in discussing why it's the perfect Guys with Feeling show! The guys also talk about the Coronavirus pandemic and how it's affecting them. And Jaemin touts the importance of morning routines (and cold showers!)

Gabe falls in love with his first TV show ever...and it's a cartoon about a talking horse. Jaemin and Alan join him in discussing why it's the perfect Guys with Feeling show! The guys also talk about the Coronavirus pandemic and how it's affecting them. And Jaemin touts the importance of morning routines (and cold showers!)

Gabe falls in love with his first TV show ever...and it's a cartoon about a talking horse. Jaemin and Alan join him in discussing why it's the perfect Guys with Feeling show! The guys also talk about the Coronavirus pandemic and how it's affecting them. And Jaemin touts the importance of morning routines (and cold showers!)

Gabe falls in love with his first TV show ever...and it's a cartoon about a talking horse. Jaemin and Alan join him in discussing why it's the perfect Guys with Feeling show! The guys also talk about the Coronavirus pandemic and how it's affecting them. And Jaemin touts the importance of morning routines (and cold showers!)

We've been gone for over a year! Why?? We've got a few good reasons... Jaemin talks about living in Puerto Escondido and giving up achieving...forever. Gabe shares what it's like being an expectant father - and how it's already changed his life and marriage. *Please excuse the poor sound quality from Jaemin's mic. Mentioned: Jaemin's latest post: How I Learned to Stop Achieving (and Love Being)

We've been gone for over a year! Why?? We've got a few good reasons... Jaemin talks about living in Puerto Escondido and giving up achieving...forever. Gabe shares what it's like being an expectant father - and how it's already changed his life and marriage. *Please excuse the poor sound quality from Jaemin's mic. Mentioned: Jaemin's latest post: How I Learned to Stop Achieving (and Love Being)

Jaemin just got back from a spiritual retreat in India and opens up for the first time about his 6-year journey exploring non-duality. Also: Jaemin talks about befriending a Trump supporter, working with a spiritual teacher who'd rather be making rock & roll music, and the paradoxical nature of India itself!

Jaemin just got back from a spiritual retreat in India and opens up for the first time about his 6-year journey exploring non-duality. Also: Jaemin talks about befriending a Trump supporter, working with a spiritual teacher who'd rather be making rock & roll music, and the paradoxical nature of India itself!

The guys take a look back on a wild year and share the feelings that inspired, moved, and challenged them in 2018. Also in this episode: - they divulge their (embarrassing) Spotify "Year in Review" results LIVE - Gabe survives a bike-totalling crash - Jaemin's tips on plugging away at chronic illness - when a friend becomes a Twitter-famous meme - and much more! Show Notes (1:20) Live Spotify "Year in Review" Results (6:03) The Feelings of 2018 Gabe's #1 Feeling: Gratitude "When I think back on where we were last year and where we are now...I think, 'Holy shit, we are so lucky!'" (13:23) Jaemin's #1 Feeling: Hope "I feel like the finish line is in sight...and that's the first time I've felt that in my entire health journey" (20:04) Alan's #1 Feeling: Love "Being in LOVE is great...I highly recommend it" (27:21) Gabe's #2 Feeling: Focus "Focus for me has been about being a lot more intentional with my attention." Can You Like the Person You Love to Hate? (NYTimes) Twitter famous David (38:56) Jaemin's #2 Feeling: Connection "...12 months later, I have this 3rd community now, and it's been so wonderful. It's been bringing a lot to my life." (44:00) Alan's #2 Feeling: Calmness/Strength "That comes from going to therapy for the first time in my life." "What is Internal Family Systems Therapy?" (51:46) Looking ahead to 2019 Free Solo (Climbing Documentary)

The guys take a look back on a wild year and share the feelings that inspired, moved, and challenged them in 2018. Also in this episode: - they divulge their (embarrassing) Spotify "Year in Review" results LIVE - Gabe survives a bike-totalling crash - Jaemin's tips on plugging away at chronic illness - when a friend becomes a Twitter-famous meme - and much more! Show Notes (1:20) Live Spotify "Year in Review" Results (6:03) The Feelings of 2018 Gabe's #1 Feeling: Gratitude "When I think back on where we were last year and where we are now...I think, 'Holy shit, we are so lucky!'" (13:23) Jaemin's #1 Feeling: Hope "I feel like the finish line is in sight...and that's the first time I've felt that in my entire health journey" (20:04) Alan's #1 Feeling: Love "Being in LOVE is great...I highly recommend it" (27:21) Gabe's #2 Feeling: Focus "Focus for me has been about being a lot more intentional with my attention." Can You Like the Person You Love to Hate? (NYTimes) Twitter famous David (38:56) Jaemin's #2 Feeling: Connection "...12 months later, I have this 3rd community now, and it's been so wonderful. It's been bringing a lot to my life." (44:00) Alan's #2 Feeling: Calmness/Strength "That comes from going to therapy for the first time in my life." "What is Internal Family Systems Therapy?" (51:46) Looking ahead to 2019 Free Solo (Climbing Documentary)

We sit down with Andrew Dunn (Co-Founder of Siempo) to hear about his journey with gender and the surprising challenges and joys along the way. We also dive into: how embracing the feminine helped Andrew's startup thrive, why yoga pants rock, the ever infamous “bro voice”, and how Gabe learned to embrace the color pink. Mentioned Zebras Unite Sister - feminist business school Find your local LGBTQ center Alex S. Morgan (Gender coach in the SF Bay Area) Fluidity.love Follow Andrew on Twitter at @aandrewdunn Check out Andrew's app: Siempo

We sit down with Andrew Dunn (Co-Founder of Siempo) to hear about his journey with gender and the surprising challenges and joys along the way. We also dive into: how embracing the feminine helped Andrew’s startup thrive, why yoga pants rock, the ever infamous “bro voice”, and how Gabe learned to embrace the color pink. Mentioned Zebras Unite Sister - feminist business school Find your local LGBTQ center Alex S. Morgan (Gender coach in the SF Bay Area) Fluidity.love Follow Andrew on Twitter at @aandrewdunn Check out Andrew's app: Siempo

Jaemin and Gabe sit down with Amanda Biccum, a health & mindfulness coach for men, to talk about masculinity in the #MeToo era and the growing #MenNeedSpaceToo movement. We also dive into: the hidden pain that men carry (and often hide from themselves), the difference between masculinity and divine masculinity, what dance + creativity + sex have in common, and where the #MeToo movement is evolving to next. Learn more about Amanda's work at: amandabiccum.com Check out Amanda's podcast: Driven for Purpose - Reconnecting Mankind

Jaemin and Gabe sit down with Amanda Biccum, a health & mindfulness coach for men, to talk about masculinity in the #MeToo era and the growing #MenNeedSpaceToo movement. We also dive into: the hidden pain that men carry (and often hide from themselves), the difference between masculinity and divine masculinity, what dance + creativity + sex have in common, and where the #MeToo movement is evolving to next. Learn more about Amanda's work at: amandabiccum.com Check out Amanda's podcast: Driven for Purpose - Reconnecting Mankind

Jaemin and Gabe are joined by Annette Wong (mindfulness coach) to dive deep into mindfulness: why it matters, how it's changed our lives, and why burnt-out professionals need it! We also talk about: the joys of becoming a morning person, how meditation is like lifting weights, realizing you are not your thoughts, and why you should stop time traveling. Learn more about Annette's coaching at: annettewong.com Check out Annette's podcast: Breakform

Jaemin and Gabe are joined by Annette Wong (mindfulness coach) to dive deep into mindfulness: why it matters, how it's changed our lives, and why burnt-out professionals need it! We also talk about: the joys of becoming a morning person, how meditation is like lifting weights, realizing you are not your thoughts, and why you should stop time traveling. Learn more about Annette's coaching at: annettewong.com Check out Annette's podcast: Breakform

Jaemin, Gabe, and their resident lawyer & culture expert, Alan Ai, are back with another round of Quick Picks! Their recommendations include: sleep tracking rings, barefoot shoes that DON'T look stupid, growing your own living drinks, minimalist wallets, and GPS guided walking tours (perfect for the date that Jaemin set you up on!). Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com Mentioned: Detour - Guided Walking Tours Vivobarefoot Shoes Earthrunners Sandals (recommended instead of Xero sandals) Oura Ring - sleep and activity tracker Refurbished Vitamix Blenders

Jaemin, Gabe, and their resident lawyer & culture expert, Alan Ai, are back with another round of Quick Picks! Their recommendations include: sleep tracking rings, barefoot shoes that DON'T look stupid, growing your own living drinks, minimalist wallets, and GPS guided walking tours (perfect for the date that Jaemin set you up on!). Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com Mentioned: Detour - Guided Walking Tours Vivobarefoot Shoes Earthrunners Sandals (recommended instead of Xero sandals) Oura Ring - sleep and activity tracker Refurbished Vitamix Blenders

This weekend saw the opening of Crazy Rich Asians, the first studio film with an all-Asian cast in 25 years - and you know we had some feelings about it! Jaemin and Alan discuss why this is such a monumental event for them, what their theater experience was like, and what this means for movies and people of color going forward. Mentioned The Stakes Are High for 'Crazy Rich Asians' — And That's the Point (Hollywood Reporter) Read the Letter That Convinced Coldplay to Allow "Yellow" in the Movie Kimberly Yam's tweet on her Asian-American experience

This weekend saw the opening of Crazy Rich Asians, the first studio film with an all-Asian cast in 25 years - and you know we had some feelings about it! Jaemin and Alan discuss why this is such a monumental event for them, what their theater experience was like, and what this means for movies and people of color going forward. Mentioned The Stakes Are High for 'Crazy Rich Asians' — And That's the Point (Hollywood Reporter) Read the Letter That Convinced Coldplay to Allow "Yellow" in the Movie Kimberly Yam's tweet on her Asian-American experience

Jaemin and Gabe bring on Brian Thompson (founder of IRL Men) to break down how to start your very own men's group - and why it's such a damn good idea! We cover a TON of territory in this episode, including: how men's groups bring greater intimacy to all your relationships, how to get bro's to talk about their feelings, and whether or not you should get your therapist's name tattooed on your arm. Learn more about Brian's men's groups at: IRL Men Check out Brian's therapy radio show/podcast: Radical Advice Mentioned: A Circle of Men by Bill Kauth

Jaemin and Gabe bring on Brian Thompson (founder of IRL Men) to break down how to start your very own men's group - and why it's such a damn good idea! We cover a TON of territory in this episode, including: how men's groups bring greater intimacy to all your relationships, how to get bro's to talk about their feelings, and whether or not you should get your therapist's name tattooed on your arm. Learn more about Brian's men's groups at: IRL Men Check out Brian's therapy radio show/podcast: Radical Advice Mentioned: A Circle of Men by Bill Kauth

Jaemin and Gabe welcome Sharon Avesar (integrative therapist) to talk about her work using ketamine, a controversial club drug, alongside therapy to quickly and effectively treat severe cases of depression. We talk about the surprising breakthroughs Sharon has seen with her clients, why ketamine combined WITH therapy is so damn effective, the future of psychedelics for treating mental health, and also how attachment theory can be a gamechanger for men's romantic lives (as it was for Jaemin). Learn more about Sharon's clinic at: ketaminecollective.com Timestamps (7:06) Love Avoidance and Attachment Theory (16:35) Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy Mentioned: Washington Post article: Onetime party drug hailed as miracle for treating severe depression Jaemin's post on Attachment Theory: The Relationship Theory that Melted My Cold Heart

Jaemin and Gabe welcome Sharon Avesar (integrative therapist) to talk about her work using ketamine, a controversial club drug, alongside therapy to quickly and effectively treat severe cases of depression. We talk about the surprising breakthroughs Sharon has seen with her clients, why ketamine combined WITH therapy is so damn effective, the future of psychedelics for treating mental health, and also how attachment theory can be a gamechanger for men's romantic lives (as it was for Jaemin). Learn more about Sharon's clinic at: ketaminecollective.com Timestamps (7:06) Love Avoidance and Attachment Theory (16:35) Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy Mentioned: Washington Post article: Onetime party drug hailed as miracle for treating severe depression Jaemin's post on Attachment Theory: The Relationship Theory that Melted My Cold Heart

In this special episode, Jaemin and Alan dive deep on something they've been waiting their ENTIRE lives for: The Rise of the Asian-American Hunk! The guys discuss how shittily Asian men have always been portrayed onscreen (silent, serious, and sexless) and how that's finally starting to change. They explore Jaemin's lifelong struggle with his Korean identity, the power of seeing yourself represented on-screen, and why Jet Li never got to kiss Aaliyah. Find Us Online Gabe's Twitter Jaemin's Twitter Alan's Twitter – Jaemin's latest post: What Rap and Dirty Talk Have in Common Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by Broke For Free.

In this special episode, Jaemin and Alan dive deep on something they've been waiting their ENTIRE lives for: The Rise of the Asian-American Hunk! The guys discuss how shittily Asian men have always been portrayed onscreen (silent, serious, and sexless) and how that's finally starting to change. They explore Jaemin's lifelong struggle with his Korean identity, the power of seeing yourself represented on-screen, and why Jet Li never got to kiss Aaliyah. Find Us Online Gabe’s Twitter Jaemin’s Twitter Alan's Twitter – Jaemin’s latest post: What Rap and Dirty Talk Have in Common Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by Broke For Free.

Jaemin and Gabe bring on Connor Moss (men's coach & therapist) to talk about a word that strikes fear into the hearts of men everywhere: COMMITMENT. We dive into the gifts of committed relationship, monogamy as a spiritual growth path, how a lot of guys are misusing polyamory, and why James Bond is a shitty role model. Find Us Online Connor Moss - Men's Coaching Gabe's Twitter Jaemin's Twitter – Jaemin's latest post: Don't Call It Depression Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by Broke For Free.

Jaemin and Gabe bring on Connor Moss (men's coach & therapist) to talk about a word that strikes fear into the hearts of men everywhere: COMMITMENT. We dive into the gifts of committed relationship, monogamy as a spiritual growth path, how a lot of guys are misusing polyamory, and why James Bond is a shitty role model. Find Us Online Connor Moss - Men's Coaching Gabe’s Twitter Jaemin’s Twitter – Jaemin’s latest post: Don't Call It Depression Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by Broke For Free.

Today the guys tackle a topic that's afflicting millions of daters in our culture today: ghosting. Jaemin, Gabe, and Alan discuss what ghosting is, why it's affecting so many of us, how to STOP ghosting once and for all, and most importantly - what Drake thinks about all this. Have any ghosting stories or anti-ghosting maneuvers of your own? Share them with us at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com

Today the guys tackle a topic that's afflicting millions of daters in our culture today: ghosting. Jaemin, Gabe, and Alan discuss what ghosting is, why it's affecting so many of us, how to STOP ghosting once and for all, and most importantly - what Drake thinks about all this. Have any ghosting stories or anti-ghosting maneuvers of your own? Share them with us at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com

This week we have a special episode for you: Jaemin tells a story live, at The Embassy Network, on how getting mugged in Colombia helped him find an authentic life...and Chamillionaire. You'll laugh, you'll cry, you'll wonder how you still know the lyrics to "Ridin' Dirty". Mentioned: Jaemin's blog post on getting mugged

This week we have a special episode for you: Jaemin tells a story live, at The Embassy Network, on how getting mugged in Colombia helped him find an authentic life...and Chamillionaire. You'll laugh, you'll cry, you'll wonder how you still know the lyrics to "Ridin' Dirty". Mentioned: Jaemin's blog post on getting mugged

Kanye's back on a tweeting rampage and you know we had to talk about it! Jaemin and Gabe bring back Alan Ai for a deep dive into Kanye's latest string of controversial tweets on Trump, love, and scoopity poop. We debate whether Ye's causing damage, wasting everyone's time, or spreading empathy & love across the political divide. Is Yeezy the hero we need right now? Mentioned: Kanye West's tweets on Trump Ye vs. The People (lyrics) The American Chopper Meme, Explained (Vox)

Kanye's back on a tweeting rampage and you know we had to talk about it! Jaemin and Gabe bring back Alan Ai for a deep dive into Kanye's latest string of controversial tweets on Trump, love, and scoopity poop. We debate whether Ye's causing damage, wasting everyone's time, or spreading empathy & love across the political divide. Is Yeezy the hero we need right now? Mentioned: Kanye West's tweets on Trump Ye vs. The People (lyrics) The American Chopper Meme, Explained (Vox)

Jaemin and Gabe welcome Enrico Moses (entrepreneur, Multicultural Chair of The ManKind Project) to talk about the project and how the men's organization completely changed his life. We discuss the power of men's work, letting go of your fear of fucking up, discovering a new approach to parenting, getting in touch with your inner warrior (and lover and king), and more. Mentioned: The Mankind Project The Next Step Program Woman Within H.E.R. Weekend Find Us Online Enrico's Instagram - Twitter - 7 Days Theory blog Gabe's Twitter Jaemin's Twitter – Jaemin's latest post: Karma is Real (Just Not How You Think) Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by Broke For Free.

Jaemin and Gabe welcome Enrico Moses (entrepreneur, Multicultural Chair of The ManKind Project) to talk about the project and how the men's organization completely changed his life. We discuss the power of men's work, letting go of your fear of fucking up, discovering a new approach to parenting, getting in touch with your inner warrior (and lover and king), and more. Mentioned: The Mankind Project The Next Step Program Woman Within H.E.R. Weekend Find Us Online Enrico's Instagram - Twitter - 7 Days Theory blog Gabe’s Twitter Jaemin’s Twitter – Jaemin’s latest post: Karma is Real (Just Not How You Think) Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by Broke For Free.

Jaemin and Gabe welcome back their resident culture expert and lawyer, Alan Ai, to do an all Quick Picks focused episode! Their recommendations include: matchmaking your friends, concert earplugs, date nights, Esther Perel, board games, and a cartoon about a talking horse. Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com Mentioned: Bojack Horseman (Netflix) Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel Esther Perel's podcast: Where Should We Begin? Codenames T.I.M.E. Stories Concert earplugs (Earasers is the brand Jaemin uses)

Jaemin and Gabe welcome back their resident culture expert and lawyer, Alan Ai, to do an all Quick Picks focused episode! Their recommendations include: matchmaking your friends, concert earplugs, date nights, Esther Perel, board games, and a cartoon about a talking horse. Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com Mentioned: Bojack Horseman (Netflix) Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel Esther Perel's podcast: Where Should We Begin? Codenames T.I.M.E. Stories Concert earplugs (Earasers is the brand Jaemin uses)

Jaemin and Gabe welcome a very special guest - Gabe's wife, Sara Rezvanpour Rose. The two of them open up about their relationship: their strengths, struggles, and everything in-between. We discuss the joy of couples therapy, how breaking up saved their relationship, why community is a bedrock of their marriage, the importance of being "emotional detectives", and much more. Find Us Online Sara's Instagram > – The Jungalow (Instagram) Gabe's Twitter > – Gabe's latest post: We Have to Do This Right Jaemin's Twitter > – Jaemin's latest post: Cry Like a Man Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by Broke For Free.

Jaemin and Gabe welcome a very special guest - Gabe's wife, Sara Rezvanpour Rose. The two of them open up about their relationship: their strengths, struggles, and everything in-between. We discuss the joy of couples therapy, how breaking up saved their relationship, why community is a bedrock of their marriage, the importance of being "emotional detectives", and much more. Find Us Online Sara's Instagram > – The Jungalow (Instagram) Gabe’s Twitter > – Gabe’s latest post: We Have to Do This Right Jaemin’s Twitter > – Jaemin’s latest post: Cry Like a Man Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by Broke For Free.

In this Minisode, the guys share the tips that've helped them break free from their phone addictions and reclaim their sanity. Mentioned: Change Your Screen to Grayscale to Combat Phone Addiction Moment (iOS app) Ezra Klein interview w/ Tristan Harris Center for Humane Technology (timewellspent.io) Jaemin's blog post on Breaking the Phone Addiction

In this Minisode, the guys share the tips that've helped them break free from their phone addictions and reclaim their sanity. Mentioned: Change Your Screen to Grayscale to Combat Phone Addiction Moment (iOS app) Ezra Klein interview w/ Tristan Harris Center for Humane Technology (timewellspent.io) Jaemin's blog post on Breaking the Phone Addiction

In this Minisode, the guys discuss the Netflix documentary, "The Mask You Live In". They explore masculinity in our culture and themes such as: why our boys and men are going through such a crisis, how men are longing to connect with one another (and Gabe & Jaemin's own story with this), how we can better raise our sons, and how to help shift this problem. Mentioned: "The Mask You Live In" trailer 5 Ways to Help Reduce the Male Suicide Rate Tweet on Male Violence Share your thoughts, feedback, or suggestions for the next Minisode at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com

In this Minisode, the guys discuss the Netflix documentary, "The Mask You Live In". They explore masculinity in our culture and themes such as: why our boys and men are going through such a crisis, how men are longing to connect with one another (and Gabe & Jaemin's own story with this), how we can better raise our sons, and how to help shift this problem. Mentioned: "The Mask You Live In" trailer 5 Ways to Help Reduce the Male Suicide Rate Tweet on Male Violence Share your thoughts, feedback, or suggestions for the next Minisode at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com

Jaemin and Gabe dive deep on a topic that's completely changed both their lives: therapy! They discuss how seeing a therapist is like "5 years of growth in weeks"; how it may be the antidote to toxic masculinity; they share their own therapy journeys; and tips on how to find an awesome therapist. Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com Show Notes (2:14) Remembering Shirley Ford (5:34) Deep Dive: Why Every Guy Should Consider Therapy (7:43) How we define "therapy". (8:54) Jaemin's therapy story (and why he sees it as "self-growth on steroids"). (17:04) Gabe's therapy story. (19:52) Why Gabe thinks therapy is one of the Top 5 best decisions he's ever made. (24:13) Big takeaways about therapy. (24:23) Therapy is the antidote to toxic masculinity. (27:30) Therapy has such an impact on the highs and lows and life. (29:13) It's like 5 years of growth every few weeks. (31:32) How to find a therapist (31:54) Different types of therapy: CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), somatic, sex and relationship, Internal Family Systems, etc. (32:59) Some tips on finding the right therapist: Give yourself a time limit of a few hours of searching on Yelp Do a few free phone consultations Pick your favorite one and just schedule an appointment Don't let perfect be the enemy of good...just go for it! You may have to try a few different ones and that's totally okay. (37:15) Why going weekly is really important. (38:24) Therapy can be expensive. How to bring costs down. And why the high cost is worth it. Jaemin's blog post: How to Find an Awesome Therapist New York Times article: How to Find the Right Therapist (42:35) Quick Picks Gabe: Tea instead of coffee. (45:13) Jaemin: Brain.fm - AI generated music that helps with focus, relaxation, and sleep. Find Us Online Gabe's twitter > – Gabe's latest post: We Have to Do This Right Jaemin's twitter > – Jaemin's latest post: Men, It's Time to Make Amends Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by Broke For Free.

Jaemin and Gabe dive deep on a topic that's completely changed both their lives: therapy! They discuss how seeing a therapist is like "5 years of growth in weeks"; how it may be the antidote to toxic masculinity; they share their own therapy journeys; and tips on how to find an awesome therapist. Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com Show Notes (2:14) Remembering Shirley Ford (5:34) Deep Dive: Why Every Guy Should Consider Therapy (7:43) How we define "therapy". (8:54) Jaemin's therapy story (and why he sees it as "self-growth on steroids"). (17:04) Gabe's therapy story. (19:52) Why Gabe thinks therapy is one of the Top 5 best decisions he's ever made. (24:13) Big takeaways about therapy. (24:23) Therapy is the antidote to toxic masculinity. (27:30) Therapy has such an impact on the highs and lows and life. (29:13) It's like 5 years of growth every few weeks. (31:32) How to find a therapist (31:54) Different types of therapy: CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), somatic, sex and relationship, Internal Family Systems, etc. (32:59) Some tips on finding the right therapist: Give yourself a time limit of a few hours of searching on Yelp Do a few free phone consultations Pick your favorite one and just schedule an appointment Don't let perfect be the enemy of good...just go for it! You may have to try a few different ones and that's totally okay. (37:15) Why going weekly is really important. (38:24) Therapy can be expensive. How to bring costs down. And why the high cost is worth it. Jaemin's blog post: How to Find an Awesome Therapist New York Times article: How to Find the Right Therapist (42:35) Quick Picks Gabe: Tea instead of coffee. (45:13) Jaemin: Brain.fm - AI generated music that helps with focus, relaxation, and sleep. Find Us Online Gabe’s twitter > – Gabe’s latest post: We Have to Do This Right Jaemin’s twitter > – Jaemin’s latest post: Men, It's Time to Make Amends Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by Broke For Free.

In this special Valentines Day Minisode, Jaemin mounts a passionate defense of the app everyone loves to hate: Tinder. The guys talk about how Jaemin went from hating the Tinder experience to appreciating it, how it's enriched his life, and the one tip that'll make the biggest difference in your quality of matches. Share your thoughts, feedback, or your own experiences with Tinder at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com

In this special Valentines Day Minisode, Jaemin mounts a passionate defense of the app everyone loves to hate: Tinder. The guys talk about how Jaemin went from hating the Tinder experience to appreciating it, how it's enriched his life, and the one tip that'll make the biggest difference in your quality of matches. Share your thoughts, feedback, or your own experiences with Tinder at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com

In this Minisode, the guys talk about Jaemin's first 10-day spiritual retreat (in the mountains of Spain)! They discuss what he got out of it, how it affected his life moving forward, and tips on pitfalls to watch out for (like chasing the post-retreat highs), and how to integrate the experience into the rest of your daily life. Send us thoughts, feedback, and suggestions for the next Minisode at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com

In this Minisode, the guys talk about Jaemin's first 10-day spiritual retreat (in the mountains of Spain)! They discuss what he got out of it, how it affected his life moving forward, and tips on pitfalls to watch out for (like chasing the post-retreat highs), and how to integrate the experience into the rest of your daily life. Send us thoughts, feedback, and suggestions for the next Minisode at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com

Jaemin and Gabe take a look back at the feelings that defined their 2017 - and the ones they're looking forward to exploring in 2018. They also reflect on the 1st birthday of the podcast and share their top Quick Picks of the year! Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com ### Show Notes (3:15) **The Feelings of 2017** Gabe's #1 Feeling of 2017: Honesty (10:44) Jaemin's #1 Feeling of 2017: Inspiration (Self-Expression) (16:53) Gabe's #2 Feeling: Curiosity (23:00) Jaemin's #2 Feeling: Love (with others, with self) (29:43) **The** **Feelings of 2018** (35:34) Reflections on one year of podcasting. (40:04) **Quick Picks** Gabe: Hack your phone so you use it less ([Moment](https://inthemoment.io/), [Freedom](https://freedom.to/); [turn display to grayscale](https://lifehacker.com/change-your-screen-to-grayscale-to-combat-phone-addicti-1795821843); keep it out of the bedroom) (42:59) Jaemin: Do 30 minutes of writing every day. ### **Find Us Online** [Gabe's twitter](https://twitter.com/gaberose) > – Gabe's latest post: [We Have to Do This Right](http://www.gaberose.com/blog/how-the-democratic-party-may-be-hurting-the-metoo-movement) [Jaemin's twitter](https://twitter.com/jaemin_yi) > – Jaemin's latest post: [How to Create Habits (Without Being an Asshole to Yourself)](http://www.jaeminyi.com/create-habits-without-being-an-asshole/ "Link: http://www.jaeminyi.com/create-habits-without-being-an-asshole/") Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by [Broke For Free](http://brokeforfree.com/)