Podcasts about where should we begin

De toute l'ère humaine, nous n'avons jamais été aussi connectés — et en même temps jamais été aussi seuls.Psychothérapeute clinicienne depuis plus de 30 ans, Esther Perel s'est imposée comme la référence mondiale des relations humaines.Elle commence sa carrière en étudiant en profondeur les comportements humains comme l'infidélité ou le dilemme liberté/sécurité que nous vivons tous dans nos relations. Elle accompagne alors des couples en quête d'une meilleure connexion.Ses conseils résonnent rapidement bien au-delà des murs de son cabinet : plusieurs best-sellers mondiaux, des TED Talks qui font plusieurs dizaines de millions de vues, et un podcast star "Where Should We Begin?" qu'elle crée pour ouvrir la thérapie de couple au grand public.Aujourd'hui Esther se concentre — entre autres — sur les effets du numérique dans nos relations : perte de contact physique, conversations sans réelle présence, effondrement du lien affectif…Elle dresse ainsi un constat implacable : “nous subissons une atrophie sociale à l'échelle mondiale”.Partout dans le monde, l'experte est adulée pour sa capacité hors du commun à comprendre, identifier la source du mal-être de ses patients et à les guider vers une vie plus heureuse. Elle livre des clés concrètes pour renouer avec l'autre, réparer l'intimité et retisser le lien là où il s'est délié.Un épisode essentiel, passionnant et particulièrement "cash" : Esther nous rappelle avec lucidité que la qualité de nos relations détermine la qualité de notre vie — et qu'il est urgent de réapprendre à aimer, à écouter, à se parler vraiment.TIMELINE:00:00:00 : faire de son podcast une campagne de santé publique00:15:53 : isolement, atrophie sociale, perte ambiguë : ces maux qui rongent notre société00:26:21 : “la qualité de nos relations détermine la qualité de notre vie”00:34:32 : les années 60, point de bascule dans toutes les relations humaines00:42:45 : un monde sans friction qui détruit nos liens00:52:21 : le combat perpétuel entre le besoin de liberté et le besoin de sécurité01:03:57 : parler d'infidélité sans en devenir l'avocate01:17:01 : comment garder la flamme : les lois invisibles des relations durables01:28:42 : pourquoi le désir finit toujours par s'estomper01:47:04 : comment bien choisir son thérapeute01:53:06 : les 2 antidotes d'Esther pour trouver un sens à sa vieLes anciens épisodes de GDIY mentionnés : #468 - Chloé Bouscatel - Monday Sports Club - ⁠S'inspirer des US pour créer des expériences sportives qui rendent accro#383 - Xavier Chauvin - Beauté Privée - Économie de l'attention : reprendre le contrôle face aux écrans#409 - Alexandre Jardin - Auteur, yourscrib.ai - Peut-on laisser la folie gouverner sa vie ?Nous avons parlé de :Le podcast d'Esther - “Where Should We Begin”Notion d'“Ambiguous Loss” ou de “Perte Ambigüe” en FrançaisLa théorie du visage mortThe "Still Face" ExperimentJeu interactif pour couples et amis “Where Should We Begin?”Episode “Esther says ‘Run!'”La théorie de l'attachementL'article du Monde qui décrit Esther comme une “avocate de l'infidélité”Affaire Clinton-LewinskyTed “Rethinking infidelity… a talk for anyone who has ever loved” - Esther PerelCulture AmpLes recommandations de lecture :Je t'aime, je te trompe - Esther PerelL'intelligence érotique - Esther PerelL'île des Gauchers - Alexandre JardinMan's Search for Meaning - Frankl, Viktor E.Découvrir un sens à sa vie - Frankl, Viktor E.Vous pouvez suivre Esther sur LinkedIn et sur Instagram. Consultez également son site et abonnez-vous à la newsletter “Letters from Esther” juste ici.Vous souhaitez sponsoriser Génération Do It Yourself ou nous proposer un partenariat ?Contactez mon label Orso Media via ce formulaire.Distribué par Audiomeans. Visitez audiomeans.fr/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

This week on Where Should We Begin we are sharing a very special episode of What Now? with Trevor Noah. Esther joins Trevor for a heartfelt conversation about the power of friendship. As Esther reflects on her childhood and the experiences that shaped her journey, the two explore how meaningful relationships help us grow—often through our challenges, humor, and even a little friction. From unexpected places like the laundromat to deep conversations with old friends, this episode invites us to consider how friendships can ground us, push us, and ultimately strengthen the communities we build together. All summer long, Esther will be diving deeper into the role of connection and community in our lives. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter For the month of July, Esther is offering 20% off to join her Office Hours on Apple Podcasts. It's a place to continue conversations on important topics like sexlessness, infidelity or the perils of modern dating. It's also a place to follow up with couples and find out where their stories went. You'll also get an ad free version of all the episodes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, world-renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel joins us for an intimate conversation about the complexities of modern love, desire, and relationships. From her groundbreaking work on infidelity to her insights on maintaining passion in long-term partnerships, Esther shares the wisdom that has helped millions navigate the tension between security and excitement in love. We explore Esther's core philosophy that desire is not something you have—it's something you cultivate. She breaks down the fundamental paradox of modern relationships: love seeks closeness and security, while desire craves space, novelty, and mystery. We discuss how to integrate these opposing forces and why the question "Can you want what you already have?" is central to sustaining passion over time. Esther reveals why eroticism is truly a state of mind, how pleasure connects directly to self-worth, and her revolutionary perspective on infidelity—that sometimes people don't go elsewhere to find another person, but to find another version of themselves. We also dive into her new card game "Where Should We Begin," designed to foster vulnerability and deep connection through storytelling. This conversation addresses the unrealistic expectations we place on one partner to be our everything, practical tools for managing relationship anxiety, and why modern love requires us to calibrate rather than abandon our expectations. Whether you're single, coupled, or somewhere in between, Esther's insights offer a roadmap for creating more authentic, passionate connections. Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 2:45 - The evolution from duty to desire 8:02 - Can we experience desire and deep love simultaneously? 11:20 - "I turn myself off when..." vs "I turn myself on when..." 16:00 - Pleasure vs. performance 19:09 - The ice cream exercise 25:52 - One person can't be everything 31:14 - Understanding infidelity 35:10 - Playing the relationship game 44:00 - Dealing with anxiety in love

This week I unbox and review "Where Should We Begin? At Work", a card deck with conversation prompts for relationships and culture at work. This deck is a collaboration between relationship expert Esther Perel and Culture Amp, an employee experience platform. I've been a fan of Esther's work for years, so I was super curious to see what she'd created for workplace relationships and I bought this deck as soon as it was released.Watch the video:https://youtu.be/l3NqtnB28wEBuy the deck:https://game.estherperel.com/products/where-should-we-begin-at-workSign up for Leadership Orientation:https://maven.com/kimnicol/leadership-orientationEnroll in Communication Strategies:https://maven.com/kimnicol/communication-strategiesFor private coaching or to learn how I can help your organization:https://kimnicol.com/Follow me on LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimnicol/

Swipe left, feel empty, and wonder why? Esther Perel reveals the hidden truths behind the dating crisis, loneliness, and the shocking decline in sex and intimacy. Esther Perel is a world-renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert, widely recognised as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. She is the bestselling author of books such as, ‘The State of Affairs'.  She explains:  Why MEN Over 30 Aren't Having Sex Anymore. The SEX GAME that could Save Your Relationship. How CHILDHOOD TRAUMA is Secretly Sabotaging Your Marriage. Why Investing in AUTHENTIC CONNECTION is the key to a Fulfilling Life. The ONE RED FLAG that Predicts Divorce.  00:00 Intro 02:29 Esther's Main Concern About Human Connection 03:22 What's the Consequence of Losing Social Skills? 04:19 Is Online Dating the Only Choice Nowadays? 07:13 The Value of Rejection 07:52 Rejection from the Apps 08:48 What to Do If Dating Apps Don't Work for You 11:26 Is Too Much Choice Making Dating Harder? 13:01 How to Cope with Online Dating Burnout 14:30 The Changing Role of Masculinity and Its Impact on Society 15:57 Loneliness Today 17:17 Why Do People Have Less Sex Nowadays? 20:17 Importance of Deep Connection in Relationships 21:51 How Phone Use Affects Connection and Sexual Attraction 28:07 Questions from Steven's Friends 28:53 Is It Always a Good Idea to Admit to Infidelity? 31:17 Attraction with a Partner 33:36 Is Long-Term Faithfulness in a Relationship Possible? 37:06 Importance of Taking Accountability 39:21 How People Are Energizing Their Relationships 42:59 How to Revive Intimacy When Gone for So Long 44:52 Ads 45:55 Do People Enjoy Sex Less Than Before? 48:15 Do I Have to Work on Myself Before I Can Have a Good Relationship? 49:49 Has the Culture of Self-Love Gone Too Far? 51:19 Are Men Emasculated by the Success of Women? 59:08 What Is Social Confidence? 1:02:56 What Gives a Traumatic Experience Meaning? 1:14:10 Would You Delete Mobile Phones to Help Connection? 1:17:08 Can Social Connection Principles Apply to a Workplace? 1:22:06 How Are You Going to Adapt to a World of AI and Robots? Follow Esther:  Instagram - https://bit.ly/4l2Et6S  Twitter - https://bit.ly/3SJEMaD  Website - https://bit.ly/4kTR8ca  Podcast - https://bit.ly/3HCfnNv  You can purchase Esther's new 100 question game, ‘Where Should We Begin? At Work', here: https://bit.ly/4kF0F7h  You can purchase Esther's book ‘The State of Affairs', here:  https://amzn.to/4l0KaSv  The Diary Of A CEO: Join DOAC circle here -https://doaccircle.com/ Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://bit.ly/conversationcards-mp Get email updates: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt⁠⁠  Follow Steven: ⁠⁠https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb⁠⁠  Sponsors: Stan Store - Visit https://link.stan.store/joinstanchallenge to join the challenge! Ekster - http://partner.ekster.com/DOAC with code STEVEN Linkedin Ads - https://www.linkedin.com/DIARY #EstherPerel #DatingCrisis #ModernLove #RelationshipAdvice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Therapist Esther Perel wants us all to build stronger relationships at work. Her coveted advice is the centerpiece of her books, TED talks and podcast “Where Should We Begin?” During the pandemic, she launched a conversational card game. Now, she joins host Jeff Berman to talk about why she just released a new edition, Where Should We Begin? At Work, designed specifically for coworkers. They also go deep on why stronger relational intelligence is essential for businesses, how AI is rewiring our brains, and more.Subscribe to the Masters of Scale weekly newsletter: https://mastersofscale.com/subscribeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is a classic session, from the second season of How's Work? From day one, they've described their relationship as “tumultuous," but there are highs as well as lows. One is new to the work force, the other is new to this particular work place. One manages the other. And while they like each other on a personal level, they clash over their fundamentally different approaches to getting the job done. Over the last few years, workplace culture has been transformed by remote work, inconsistent in-office presence, and an intergenerational workforce. Where Should We Begin? At Work is a new game designed to transform your work culture – one story and one relationship at a time. Brought to you by Esther Perel and Culture Amp, this isn't your typical icebreaker. It's a new data-backed game that will help you create community at work. Details at www.estherperl.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? An on-again, off-again couple in their fifties, dating in a post-divorce landscape, are struggling with different world views, priorities and sexual interests. Recognizing that their polarized dynamic takes the fun out of spending time together, Esther guides both towards less rigid perspectives. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? A young couple has endured a series of crises early in their marriage, from a benign brain tumor to a serious car crash to the husband's near-fatal heart attack. Following his recovery, he's adapting to new physical limitations, while she says the children bear the brunt of his frustrations. Esther coaches them through an honest conversation on anger, parenthood and the power of apology.      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, we dive into the world of cinema to explore those unforgettable moments that have left a lasting impact on us. We our top three most impactful cinema moments, discussing what makes these scenes so powerful and why they've stuck with us over the years. Where Should We Begin? Card Game   Hey there, fellow travelers! Gregory and June here, your hosts of America's Caravan podcast. We've been cruising the backroads of independent American culture, having a blast with our relaxed chats and non-partisan explorations. Whether you're a long-time listener or just discovered us, we'd love to hear from you! Got a quirky story, burning question, or cool idea for an episode? Don't be strangers! Shoot us a message at gregandjunepodcast@gmail.com. We're always excited to hear fresh perspectives and might even feature your thoughts on our next episode. So come on, join our merry band of cultural explorers as we hit the road and discover the heart of America together!

In this episode, we delve into the fascinating concept of artificial intimacy and its impact on modern relationships. We explore how social media and technology have created a paradoxical increase in loneliness despite hyper-connectivity. Drawing from the work of Esther Perel, we discuss how online interactions can hinder the development of crucial social skills and empathy. We also introduce our new "Pick a Card" segment, inspired by Perel's game, adding an interactive element to our conversation about human connections in the digital age. Where Should We Begin? Card Game   Hey there, fellow travelers! Gregory and June here, your hosts of America's Caravan podcast. We've been cruising the backroads of independent American culture, having a blast with our relaxed chats and non-partisan explorations. Whether you're a long-time listener or just discovered us, we'd love to hear from you! Got a quirky story, burning question, or cool idea for an episode? Don't be strangers! Shoot us a message at gregandjunepodcast@gmail.com. We're always excited to hear fresh perspectives and might even feature your thoughts on our next episode. So come on, join our merry band of cultural explorers as we hit the road and discover the heart of America together!

This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? After ten years, a husband tells his wife he no longer wishes to be married. A month later, stuck in limbo, they come to Esther. She helps them have an honest conversation about their expectations, desires, and the ways in which their role as parents has left little room for intimacy.       Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Introducing The 3 Things EVERY Human Wants with Esther Perel | The Oprah Podcast from The Oprah Podcast.Follow the show: The Oprah Podcast In this episode of The Oprah Podcast, presented by Ulta Beauty, world renowned relationship therapist Esther Perel offers her profound insight on modern romance, and what we can do to feel more alive in all our relationships – not just the romantic ones.With wisdom gained as a therapist and from her hit podcast, Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel, Esther offers frank sexual advice along with her thoughts on dealing with betrayal, life transitions and relational burn out. Couples and individuals will join via Zoom to hear Esther do what she does best: reveal the hidden truth beyond the stories we tell. She'll also discuss her ingenious conversation-starter card game, “Where Should We Begin? A Game of Stories by Esther Perel.” Thank you to our partners at Ulta Beauty. They want to help you celebrate all the relationships in your life - not just the romantic ones! Share a post, tag your bestie and @ULTABEAUTY and share why they're so special to you! Ulta Beauty will help pay the joy forward with a chance to receive a ‘surprise and delight' beauty experience. www.ulta.com“Where Should We Begin? A Game of Stories by Esther Perel” is available on her website, And Esther's books are available here: https://www.estherperel.com/books Conflict to Connection: https://www.estherperel.com/courses/turning-conflict-into-connection Desire Bundle: https://www.estherperel.com/course-bundles/the-desire-bundle Follow Oprah Winfrey on Social:Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@Oprahhttps://www.instagram.com/oprah/https://www.facebook.com/oprahwinfrey/Listen to the full podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0tEVrfNp92a7lbjDe6GMLIhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-oprah-podcast/id1782960381 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to team@podroll.fm.

Happy Wednesday! You know what that means – a brand new Everything in Conversation.This week on the podcast we're diving into the viral essay that incinerated the timelines just before Christmas. Yes, we're talking about The Cut's Lilly Jay essay.For anyone who doesn't know, last year stories of an alleged affair circulated around Ariana Grande and her Wicked co-star Ethan Slater. The pair soon went official, and his ex-wife Lilly Jay gained attention as a result.The chat went all sorts of places, including why the media needs a villain in a possible cheating story, the scorned woman narrative, therapy, and our views on monogamy. Let us know what you thought of the essay and our conversation, and please leave us a review wherever you listen to podcasts. It really helps us out

This is an episode from our archives.Esther Perel is the relationship expert many couples dream of scheduling a session with. Her podcast, Where Should We Begin? With Esther Perel, offers the next best thing. In it, she helps couples work through their issues, often providing insights that are relevant to other relationships. Apple News In Conversation host Shumita Basu spoke with Perel about how she approaches her work, the challenges of modern love, and how to resolve conflict.

In this episode of the Culture First podcast, our host Damon Klotz invited Didier Elzinga, the CEO of Culture Amp, to step into the interview seat and speak with Esther Perel, a renowned psychotherapist and pioneering voice in understanding modern relationships and workplace dynamics. Together, Didier and Esther discuss the importance of relational dynamics and the power of storytelling in solving conflicts and creating meaningful connections. The conversation touches on the complexities of today's workplace cultures, such as how to bridge cultural differences, build trust in remote work environments, and find the right balance between empathy and accountability in leadership roles. Some of the key takeaways from this episode include managing expectations, fostering psychological safety, and responding to the changing values of different generations. Listen to this insightful discussion to gain practical strategies for enhancing leadership skills and boosting organizational potential by focusing on building quality relationships and practising compassionate communication. Show notes: Esther's original Culture First Podcast Episode with Damon KlotzEsther's websiteWhere Should We Begin? The gameEsther's podcast, Where Should We Begin?Key Takeaways: Effective leaders balance empathy and accountability:Leaders need to be empathic and care about their employees' personal challenges and emotions, but they must also hold them accountable for their responsibilities. This balance ensures that employees feel supported yet understand the importance of meeting expectations and fulfilling their roles within the organization.The importance of in-person interactions:Although remote work offers convenience, it lacks the richness of in-person interactions essential for building relationships, trust, and effective collaboration. Leaders should treat in-person interactions as valuable resources and use them for activities that significantly benefit from face-to-face engagement, such as brainstorming sessions, mentorship, and fostering team cohesion.Explicit communication of expectations is key:Unstated expectations often lead to resentment and misunderstandings. By clearly articulating what they expect from their team members, leaders can ensure that team members understand their roles and responsibilities. This approach promotes accountability and reduces the potential for conflicts arising from unmet, unspoken expectations.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin, but might still be new to many of you. Almost two years ago her husband was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson's Disease. They have three kids, a mortgage to pay, and he has developed some compulsive behaviors he isn't proud of. Esther helps them learn how to turn off the 'caregiver,' and remember they are much more than that to each other. If you have an individual question you would like to talk through with Esther, please send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com. If you would like to apply for a couples session with Esther, please click here: https://bit.ly/40fGHIU. Esther's two new courses on desire are now available inside The Desire Bundle. Go to https://www.estherperel.com/course-bundles/the-desire-bundle to learn more about Bringing Desire Back and Playing with Desire. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode contains discussions of a death by suicide. Please take care listening. Recently, on Where Should We Begin, we've been focusing on the things we sweep under the rug in our relationships—conversations that we have a hard time having with ourselves let alone with others. This week, Esther talks to a woman stricken with grief--one year ago, her sister and father died in quick succession. Her remaining family was torn apart and she feels left to pick up the pieces on her own. Esther walks her through how to make space for the immeasurable grief. If you have an individual question you would like to talk through with Esther, please send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com. If you would like to apply for a couples session with Esther, please click here: https://bit.ly/40fGHIU. Esther's two new courses on desire are now available inside The Desire Bundle. Go to https://www.estherperel.com/course-bundles/the-desire-bundle to learn more about Bringing Desire Back and Playing with Desire. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by Ollie, Lifeforce, and Lumebox.  Relationships, communication, and intimacy are the cornerstones of meaningful connections in our lives, yet they often present some of our greatest challenges. In today's episode, leading experts explore the keys to fostering deeper relationships, improving communication, and creating lasting intimacy, offering practical tools to transform how we connect with those we love. Today on The Dhru Purohit Show, we bring you a special compilation episode featuring Dhru's conversations with experts on relationships, connection, and intimacy. Drs. John and Julie Gottman discuss the importance of recognizing what your partner is doing right. They also highlight key findings from a seven-year study on happiness, including how to turn toward your partner and implement bids for connection. Dr. Emily Morse explains why scheduling intimacy—even if it feels like a chore—is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship. She also dives into the "Three T's of Communication" and how to initiate conversations about intimacy. Esther Perel shares why letting go of the need to be right is essential, along with strategies to overcome the overwhelming feeling of disconnect when your partner doesn't see your point of view. She breaks down how all fights connect to core pillars and offers tips on practicing mirroring for better understanding. If you're ready to enhance your relationships and improve your communication and intimacy, this episode is a must-listen! In this episode, Dhru and his guests dive into: Evidence that your partner is doing things right (2:00) Seven-year study on happiness and turning toward your partner (3:10) Bid for connection and how to implement it (6:18) Interdependence versus independence (16:12) Scheduling intimacy (20:35) Who should initiate the conversation (23:35) The 3 T's of communication: Timing, Tone, and Turf (25:15) Mirroring what you heard (29:15) Initiating the conversation and carrying the burden (33:25) The need to be right (39:52) The overwhelming feeling of disconnect (42:57) Catching yourself, listening, and mirroring (46:32) The core pillars: What all fights are about (53:15) Final thoughts (56:30) Drs. John and Julia Gottman have studied over 3,000 couples and through their research have found the secrets to successful partnerships. The Gottmans help give individuals the tools they need to listen and connect with their partner while providing a safe space for conversation and growth without criticism or contempt. Dr. Emily Morse is the host of the award-winning number one sexuality podcast, Sex With Emily, which has been on the air for nearly two decades.  Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author, and is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? and How's Work?  Also mentioned: Why Nobody Is Having Great Sex & How To Make it Amazing with Dr. Emily Morse 4 Big Signs That a Relationship Won't Last and the Latest Science on Creating Love with Drs. Julie and John Gottman Why Some Relationships Don't Last With Esther Perel This episode is brought to you by Ollie, Lifeforce, and Lumebox.  Want to give your dog the best in clean eating? Take the online quiz and introduce Ollie to your pet. Right now, Ollie is offering 60% off your first box of meals when you subscribe today! Just head to Ollie.com, use the code DHRU and you'll get 60% off your first box of meals in your subscription.  Right now, you can save $250 on your first diagnostic and get personalized suggestions. Optimize your longevity and track your progress; go to mylifeforce.com/dhru!  Lumebox is offering my community 50% off their portable Red Light device for Black Friday! Just go to thelumebox.com/dhru to get your device. Sale ends 12/2.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Recently, on Where Should We Begin, we've been focusing on the things we sweep under the rug in our relationships—conversations that we have a hard time having with ourselves let alone with others. Oftentimes, our sexual fantasies exist in this space and reveal us at our most bare, showing us not just what we want sexually, but what we want emotionally and psychologically. Even with a loving partner, it can be difficult to share our most personal sexual fantasies. There's often shame, stigma, and a fear of being judged. Award-winning actress, Gillian Anderson, joins Esther to discuss Want, her collection of women's anonymous fantasies from around the world. To purchase Gillian Anderson's new book, Want: https://bit.ly/3O8CVcZ If you have an individual question you would like to talk through with Esther, please send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com. If you would like to apply for a couples session with Esther, please click here: https://bit.ly/40fGHIU. Esther's two new courses on desire are now available inside The Desire Bundle. Go to https://www.estherperel.com/course-bundles/the-desire-bundle to learn more about Bringing Desire Back and Playing with Desire. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Esther Perel is a renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author, and host of the groundbreaking podcast “Where Should We Begin?” This conversation explores the vicissitudes of modern love and Esther's non-judgmental approach to relationships, emphasizing the tension between our need for security and our yearning for freedom. Through her uniquely multicultural lens, she highlights how our increasingly atomized world impacts intimacy, desire, and human connection. Along the way, Esther expertly deconstructs my own marriage dynamics, offering insights that left me questioning my paradigms around love and partnership. Esther's work is vital. Our exchange might just change how you think about connection. Enjoy! Special Note: If this resonates, check out her newly launched The Desire Bundle—and use code RICH15 for 15% off through December. Show notes + MORE Watch on YouTube Newsletter Sign-Up Today's Sponsors:  Bon Charge: Use code RICHROLL to save 15% OFF

Join us as we chat about so many of our favourite things: food, kitchen gadgets, people who comment on our weight, and the joys of being women. Just kidding . . . those aren't all our favourite things, but we DO talk about them all this week! We go from air fryers to shepherd's pie to menopause in just over an hour. Ready to join us?!   **Show Notes** Podcast we mentioned: Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Book we mentioned: Eve: How the Female Body Drove 200 Million Years of Human Evolution by Cat Bohannon

This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin?, but might still be new to many of you. What began as an eight-year affair between two women has stretched into a 19-year partnership. But despite their private commitment to one another, they've never quite managed to move beyond the shame of their origin story. Esther takes a novel approach to revealing a long-held secret. If you have an individual question you would like to talk through with Esther, please send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com. If you would like to apply for a couples session with Esther, please click here: https://bit.ly/40fGHIU. Esther's two new courses on desire are now available inside The Desire Bundle. Go to https://www.estherperel.com/course-bundles/the-desire-bundle to learn more about Bringing Desire Back and Playing with Desire. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Father Cooper sits down with Esther Perel. Esther is a psychotherapist who is recognized as one of the leading voices in modern relationships. Her most recent book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, explores why people cheat and provides guidance on what to do in the wake of discovering this ultimate form of betrayal. Alex presents Esther with a situation…you open your boyfriends iPad to find messages that reveal he is cheating on you. Esther walks us through step by step on how to respond in the moment and how to move forward. Do you admit to reading his messages? At what point do you stop reading? Is make-up sex the ultimate mistake? Who do you tell? How do you know if you should break-up? Tune in this week Daddy Gang to hear from the expert herself – Esther Perel. To hear more from Esther, listen to her podcast Where Should We Begin? Also, check out Where Should We Begin – a game of stories, created by Esther Perel and designed to unlock the storyteller within. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Esther Perel, psychotherapist, bestselling author and the host of the podcast “Where Should We Begin?” talks about a sexual recession. Perel says that compared with previous generations Gen Z is having less sex and becoming increasingly isolated - and the more time spent online is resulting in less time spent on the skills, experience or patience that help make a relationship work. This episode with Esther Perel was originally broadcast September 8th, 2024

This week Esther Perel, psychotherapist, bestselling author and the host of the podcast “Where Should We Begin?” talks about a sexual recession. Perel says that compared with previous generations Gen Z is having less sex and becoming increasingly isolated - and the more time spent online is resulting in less time spent on the skills, experience or patience that help make a relationship work.

Esther Perel, psychotherapist and host of the podcast “Where Should We Begin?”, explores sexual intimacy in modern relationships. 

Few people offer greater insight, sensitivity, and expertise on human relationships and sexuality than Esther Perel. Born and raised in Belgium, Perel’s studies took her from Hebrew University in Jerusalem, to the United States where she built a career in couples and family therapy. Today, she is internationally acclaimed for her profound insights into eroticism and intimacy. She’s an author and the host of the popular podcast “Where Should We Begin?”  The exploration of human sexual desire is as complex as it sounds. Our ideas of intimacy are varied and sex today can be measurable and perfunctory. “[It’s] often seen as an act, something you do,” says Perel. “How often do you do it? How many? How hard, how long? How frequent?”  But desire and the erotic is a quality of aliveness and vitality, distinct from sexuality. “You don't measure eroticism,” Perel continues. “It's a quality of experience, but you know when you feel it.”  Eroticism is: “Sexuality transformed by the human imagination. It's infinite. It's surrounded by ritual, by celebration, and it's often transgressive. It's often lured by the forbidden. A lot of it is actually in our head and between our ears… not necessarily between our legs.” Perel tells us that the key ingredients are “curiosity, playfulness, mystery, imagination” … “the forbidden elicits curiosity, and the curiosity activates the imagination.”  Perel argues that we need to do more than just recognize and celebrate this as a wonderful part of who we are. “[Our] core emotional needs are expressed in the coded language of sexuality. Sex is never just something you do. Sex is a place you go.”  Esther Perel’s latest project, which she calls her “Desire Bundle,” features two online courses: Bringing Desire Back and Playing with Desire. They launch later this September. Esther Perel’s An Evening With Esther Perel: The Future of Relationships, Love & Desire is currently on tour. See her live at the YouTube Theater in Los Angeles on September 10th. More info here. Delve deeper into life, philosophy, and what makes us human by joining the Life Examined discussion group on Facebook.

Introducing Esther Perel: The #1 Secret to Know if Your Chemistry Will Last & Why You're Addicted to Your Ex from On Purpose with Jay Shetty.Follow the show: On Purpose with Jay ShettyDo you want to know the secret to know if your chemistry will last?  Are you wondering why you can't move on from your ex? If you have questions about love and relationships, this episode is for you. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is back. Esther is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Esther's TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. If you've ever wondered when a relationship is worth saving or why we grieve after a breakup, Esther has incredible insights to share that you can apply to your own relationship. Let's discover the power of accountability in relationships and how it can trigger positive change. We discuss the art of turning conflict into connection. Also, we uncover the negative effects of losing curiosity and how it impacts our connections. The conversation also fearlessly tackles the topics of betrayal, lack of trust, and the intersection of relationships, technology, and mental health. Get ready for a fascinating exploration of the narratives that shape our relationships, the dynamics between rationalists and romantics, and what truly makes a real relationship. In this interview, you'll learn: How to turn conflicts into genuine connection Why relationships often fail How to save your correct relationship What to do after a breakup How to boost trust and confidence in a relationship It is truly a thought-provoking and heartfelt journey into the essence of human connection. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Thank you to Soho Works 10 Jay in Dumbo for hosting us for this episode. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:12 When is a Relationship Worth Saving? 03:51 Why Do We Grieve After a Breakup? 05:14 Accountability in Relationships Can Trigger Change 10:00 How to Turn Conflict Into Connection  14:10 People Try to Overcome Fear by Gaining Control 17:14 The Negative Effects of the Loss of Curiosity 22:09 Blaming the Other Doesn't Solve Anything 27:21 How to Make Your Partner Feel Important  29:10 Other Mediums to Express What You're Unable to Say 36:01 Do New Things Together 38:08 There are Lingering Feelings that Stays Even After Breakup 41:53 We All Fear Betrayal and Lack of Trust 43:35 How to Value and Protect Your Relationship 50:50 The Real Story Before and After Betrayal 55:33 The Intersection of Relationships, Technology, and Mental Health 01:01:50 The False Relationship Narrative that Failed us 01:04:22 The Rationalists and the Romantics 01:06:23 What Makes for a Real Relationship? 01:10:04 Diversifying Long-Term Relationships 01:15:55 Your Partner's Opinion Matters 01:21:11 The Real Definition of Self Confidence 01:24:59 We Are Drawn to People We Don't Want to Become 01:28:03 Where Should We Begin A Game of Stories with Esther Perel Episode Resources: Esther Perel | Website Esther Perel | Twitter Esther Perel | Instagram Esther Perel | YouTube Esther Perel | Facebook Esther Perel | Books Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to team@podroll.fm.

Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and a leading voice on modern relationships. Growing up in Antwerp and practicing in the United States, she began her career studying the impact of cultural transitions on human relationships. In addition to her therapy practice in New York City, she serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies globally. Closely examining the mysteries of the human condition and sexuality, Perel gained international acclaim for her first book, Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, which was followed by New York Times bestseller, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. Perel helps her audience navigate difficult relational conversations in her weekly podcast, Where Should We Begin?.  ------ Thank you to the sponsors that fuel our podcast and our team: Lucy https://lucy.co/tetra ------ LMNT Electrolytes https://drinklmnt.com/tetra ------ Squarespace https://squarespace.com/tetra ------ House of Macadamias https://www.houseofmacadamias.com/tetra

Honeys, we're finally doing it (no pun intended). We're finally delving more into the topic of sex (Caroline is sweating, but Nicole's forcing the topic because it's important). Before we get into the sex talk, we discuss an email from a listener whose husband decided to tell her that he's changed his mind about wanting kids. The classic bait and switch. Nicole found a game in her TV credenza called "Where Should We Begin?" by Esther Perel, so the girls play it by answering some of the very unique and weird sex-related questions, probably not the way Esther intended the game to be played, but oh well. Then they get into answering the audiences' burning questions like "how often are we supposed to be having sex?", "what if my partner and I have mismatched sex drives?", "what if i'm too tired to have sex?" and more. The point of this episode is to show us all that there's no right or wrong way to be having sex in your marriage, as long as you're doing what works for you as a couple, and you've found someone who matches your freak, then you're good to go. Fungies: Enjoy free shipping and 20% off with code HONEY at www.eatfungies.com Email your feedback and questions to honeywerehomepodcast@gmail.com! Also follow us @honeywerehomepod on Instagram. Xoxo

Introducing Esther Perel: The #1 Secret to Know if Your Chemistry Will Last & Why You're Addicted to Your Ex from On Purpose with Jay Shetty.Follow the show: On Purpose with Jay ShettyDo you want to know the secret to know if your chemistry will last?  Are you wondering why you can't move on from your ex? If you have questions about love and relationships, this episode is for you. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is back. Esther is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Esther's TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. If you've ever wondered when a relationship is worth saving or why we grieve after a breakup, Esther has incredible insights to share that you can apply to your own relationship. Let's discover the power of accountability in relationships and how it can trigger positive change. We discuss the art of turning conflict into connection. Also, we uncover the negative effects of losing curiosity and how it impacts our connections. The conversation also fearlessly tackles the topics of betrayal, lack of trust, and the intersection of relationships, technology, and mental health. Get ready for a fascinating exploration of the narratives that shape our relationships, the dynamics between rationalists and romantics, and what truly makes a real relationship. In this interview, you'll learn: How to turn conflicts into genuine connection Why relationships often fail How to save your correct relationship What to do after a breakup How to boost trust and confidence in a relationship It is truly a thought-provoking and heartfelt journey into the essence of human connection. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Thank you to Soho Works 10 Jay in Dumbo for hosting us for this episode. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:12 When is a Relationship Worth Saving? 03:51 Why Do We Grieve After a Breakup? 05:14 Accountability in Relationships Can Trigger Change 10:00 How to Turn Conflict Into Connection  14:10 People Try to Overcome Fear by Gaining Control 17:14 The Negative Effects of the Loss of Curiosity 22:09 Blaming the Other Doesn't Solve Anything 27:21 How to Make Your Partner Feel Important  29:10 Other Mediums to Express What You're Unable to Say 36:01 Do New Things Together 38:08 There are Lingering Feelings that Stays Even After Breakup 41:53 We All Fear Betrayal and Lack of Trust 43:35 How to Value and Protect Your Relationship 50:50 The Real Story Before and After Betrayal 55:33 The Intersection of Relationships, Technology, and Mental Health 01:01:50 The False Relationship Narrative that Failed us 01:04:22 The Rationalists and the Romantics 01:06:23 What Makes for a Real Relationship? 01:10:04 Diversifying Long-Term Relationships 01:15:55 Your Partner's Opinion Matters 01:21:11 The Real Definition of Self Confidence 01:24:59 We Are Drawn to People We Don't Want to Become 01:28:03 Where Should We Begin A Game of Stories with Esther Perel Episode Resources: Esther Perel | Website Esther Perel | Twitter Esther Perel | Instagram Esther Perel | YouTube Esther Perel | Facebook Esther Perel | Books Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to team@podroll.fm.

Introducing Esther Perel: The #1 Secret to Know if Your Chemistry Will Last & Why You're Addicted to Your Ex from On Purpose with Jay Shetty.Follow the show: On Purpose with Jay ShettyDo you want to know the secret to know if your chemistry will last?  Are you wondering why you can't move on from your ex? If you have questions about love and relationships, this episode is for you. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is back. Esther is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Esther's TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. If you've ever wondered when a relationship is worth saving or why we grieve after a breakup, Esther has incredible insights to share that you can apply to your own relationship. Let's discover the power of accountability in relationships and how it can trigger positive change. We discuss the art of turning conflict into connection. Also, we uncover the negative effects of losing curiosity and how it impacts our connections. The conversation also fearlessly tackles the topics of betrayal, lack of trust, and the intersection of relationships, technology, and mental health. Get ready for a fascinating exploration of the narratives that shape our relationships, the dynamics between rationalists and romantics, and what truly makes a real relationship. In this interview, you'll learn: How to turn conflicts into genuine connection Why relationships often fail How to save your correct relationship What to do after a breakup How to boost trust and confidence in a relationship It is truly a thought-provoking and heartfelt journey into the essence of human connection. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Thank you to Soho Works 10 Jay in Dumbo for hosting us for this episode. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:12 When is a Relationship Worth Saving? 03:51 Why Do We Grieve After a Breakup? 05:14 Accountability in Relationships Can Trigger Change 10:00 How to Turn Conflict Into Connection  14:10 People Try to Overcome Fear by Gaining Control 17:14 The Negative Effects of the Loss of Curiosity 22:09 Blaming the Other Doesn't Solve Anything 27:21 How to Make Your Partner Feel Important  29:10 Other Mediums to Express What You're Unable to Say 36:01 Do New Things Together 38:08 There are Lingering Feelings that Stays Even After Breakup 41:53 We All Fear Betrayal and Lack of Trust 43:35 How to Value and Protect Your Relationship 50:50 The Real Story Before and After Betrayal 55:33 The Intersection of Relationships, Technology, and Mental Health 01:01:50 The False Relationship Narrative that Failed us 01:04:22 The Rationalists and the Romantics 01:06:23 What Makes for a Real Relationship? 01:10:04 Diversifying Long-Term Relationships 01:15:55 Your Partner's Opinion Matters 01:21:11 The Real Definition of Self Confidence 01:24:59 We Are Drawn to People We Don't Want to Become 01:28:03 Where Should We Begin A Game of Stories with Esther Perel Episode Resources: Esther Perel | Website Esther Perel | Twitter Esther Perel | Instagram Esther Perel | YouTube Esther Perel | Facebook Esther Perel | Books Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to team@podroll.fm.

This episode is brought to you by Birch Living, Bioptimizers, and Cozy Earth.  As human beings, relationships are fundamental to who we are. We know that relationships can be a significant source of happiness and fulfillment in our lives, but they can also be a major source of stress. So, why is it that we often find relationships so hard? This week on the Dhru Purohit Show, Dhru we are rerunning one of our favorite episodes with Esther Perel to talk about how we can begin to navigate roles, expectations, and flexibility in our relationships, how we are under pressure not only to have the perfect relationship, but also to portray this illusion to others, and why so many couples get it wrong when trying to solve differences. Esther Perel is a psychotherapist recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs are global phenomena translated into nearly 30 languages. Esther is an executive producer and host of the podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How's Work? In this episode, Dhru and Esther dive into (audio version / Apple Subscriber version): The need to be right in our relationships (7:07 / 3:36)  Reflective listening and having the ability to see multiple truths (12:17 / 7:30) Role models in relationships (19:17 / 14:30)  Expectations in relationships (24:47 / 20:00) The core pillars of why couples really fight (33:12 /28:25) Polarity in relationships (37:17 / 32:30)  Questions we can ask our partner that allow us to step into their perspective (40:17 / 35:30) Where Should We Begin - A Game of Stories (49:17 / 45:10)  Also Mentioned in this episode:  Esther's board game Where Should We Begin at https://www.estherperel.com/where-should-we-begin-the-game For more on Esther Perel, follow her on Instagram @estherperelofficial, on Facebook @esther.perel, on X/Twitter @estherperel, on YouTube @estherperel, and through her website https://www.estherperel.com.  This episode is brought to you by Birch Living, Bioptimizers, and Cozy Earth.  To get 25% off your Birch Living mattress plus two free eco-rest pillows, head over to birchliving.com/dhru today. Upgrade your digestion with enzymes! Go to bioptimizers.com/dhru now and enter promo code DHRU10 to get 10% off any order and free gifts for a limited time. Right now, get 30% off your Cozy Earth sheets. Just head over to cozyearth.com/dhru and use code DHRUP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

While we are away, enjoy this reprise episode from 2019 in which Antoinette prepares herself for a white Thanksgiving while Shanti's only update is a new winter jacket. Together we share our love for Ryan Gosling and dive head-first into Shanti's recent disagreement with her mother about love. Provoked by the incident and inspired by Esther, we share our answers to Dr. Perel's questions about love beginning with "How did you learn to love"...Listen to Esther Perel's "Where Should We Begin?" here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/where-should-we-begin-with-esther-perel/id1237931798Buy Mary J Blige here: https://music.apple.com/us/album/therapy/1440851006?i=1440851216See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is a classic session, from the first season of Where Should We Begin? A husband hasn't had an erection in 12 years and struggles with acknowledging it openly. His wife, in despair over her feelings of hopelessness in the bedroom, seeks relief from her sexual frustration and feelings of resentment. Esther reinforces to both of them that defining him as “impotent” is only making things worse. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is a classic session, from the first season of Where Should We Begin? A newly married couple comes to Esther for guidance on how to create a space of safety and physical intimacy while also giving voice to past trauma. One partner is working to overcome an aversion to physical touch due to abuse from his past while the other is learning to ask for more without triggering painful memories for his husband. From this starting point, Esther guides them through a discussion on memory, family relationships, and infidelity and helps them work out a blueprint for loving and satisfying touch. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is a classic session, from the first season of Where Should We Begin? A middle-aged couple, together for seventeen years, best friends and partners who, despite their loving and positive relationship, go months without connecting sexually. He transitioned 10 years ago, and they're both experiencing the physical changes of aging. Esther guides them through body exercises, in an effort to help them find sexual spaces amidst the crush of everyday life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dreams are coming true today– Jordana's #1 guest, mental health icon, and host of “Where Should We Begin?,” Esther Perel is making this a standout Sunday Special. We get started with the existence of situationships, spill into her findings about eroticism and sustaining relationships, plus the universe affected when an affair occurs. The episode ends with a listener's email about a devolving sexual connection with her boyfriend, leading to her finding something unsettling from his past relationship. Should she confront him with what she found? J&J ask how Esther would advise, and you may be surprised to hear her answer. Find Esther Perel on Instagram @estherperelofficial or listen to her podcast, Where Should We Begin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a classic session, from the first season of Where Should We Begin? A woman realizes she doesn't want to have children and comes to Esther for help expressing this to her husband, who passionately wishes to be a father. Not wanting to deny her husband this opportunity, she comes up with a solution, but Esther encourages them to talk more honestly about what led to this crossroad. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Esther Perel (Where Should We Begin?) and Justin talk about her groundbreaking couple's therapy podcast "Where Should We Begin," how resentment builds and can damage a relationship, and why telling stories can help strengthen bonds between friends and lovers. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The renowned psychotherapist talks about the importance of accountability in generosity in her own life, and the one thing you can do right now, today, to make yourself happier.Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and bestselling author. She has a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are huge bestsellers. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin?In this episode we talk about:How to get around the obstacles that hinder connection with other people The role of conflict in relationships and why we shouldn't be afraid of itWays to get better at experiencing anxiety or discomfort so that you can better handle the ups and downs of lifeAnd the simple thing you can do right now to make yourself happier Related Episodes:Can Anxiety Be a Gift? | Dr. David RosmarinLessons From the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness | Dr. Robert WaldingerHow to Keep Friendships From Imploding | Esther PerelMating in Captivity | Esther PerelLove in the Time of COVID | Esther PerelEsther Perel: Turning Conflict Into ConnectionEsther Perel on the Other A.I.: Artificial Intimacy (SXSW 2023)Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/esther-perel-non-negotiablesAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author, Esther Perel is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies worldwide. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and helped people worldwide navigate their relationships. Her international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence has become a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages. Esther Perel is also a New York Times best-selling author of, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, a book that took a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity. Dr. Perel is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? — a podcast for anyone who has ever loved — where she gives her perspective on the invisible forces that shape the connections, dynamics, and conflicts in relationships.In this episode you will learnThe major challenges people encounter in relationships and how to navigate through them.Common misconceptions in dating and how to approach relationships with a healthier mindset.Why infidelity can occur even in seemingly happy relationships and the underlying factors behind it.Insights into rebuilding trust in a relationship, even after it has been broken.The essential expectations to set in your relationships for a stronger, more fulfilling connection.For more information go to www.lewishowes.com/1546For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes on relationships and communication we think you'll love:Vanessa Van Edwards: https://link.chtbl.com/1231-podDr. Ramani Durvasula: https://link.chtbl.com/1195-pod & https://link.chtbl.com/1196-podLori Gottlieb: https://link.chtbl.com/1191-pod

This is a classic session, from the first season of Where Should We Begin?. They've been together for more than a decade, but this isn't the first time they've separated. Stuck in a cycle of explosive escalations, a husband and wife want to make it work but can't break their habit of going for the emotional jugular. Esther encourages them to start their conversations differently. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is a classic session, from the first season of Where Should We Begin? A couple with two small children are at physical and emotional odds in their relationship. One has given herself over entirely to the children, while the other struggles to find her place within the family dynamic. She yearns for the physical closeness she once had with her wife, while the other is, as she puts it, “all touched out.” Esther encourages them to see their different roles as mutually beneficial and stresses the importance of “feeding the relationship” away from the children. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is a classic session, from the first season of Where Should We Begin? A new marriage and a young child—both are first-generation children of immigrants, bridging the divide between an American childhood and an Indian cultural heritage. The moment sex was no longer forbidden, it became deeply uninteresting for one of them. Is something bigger getting in their way? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Where should we begin examining our problems with relationships, cheating, conflict, and more? Legendary therapist Esther Perel talks us through it here! What We Discuss with Esther Perel: People who cheat don't necessarily want to leave their partner — they want to leave what they have become, or to get in touch with another part of themselves that they miss. Is monogamy a state that mating humans evolved toward naturally, or is it more of a social construct imposed for the sake of control? Most of us don't argue because we love conflict, but because we're trying to galvanize some kind of change that requires another person's participation. So how can we argue better for the sake of both parties? What we can learn from conflict — especially with respect to creating connection. As an expert in intimacy and human connection, where does Esther see us heading as a species when we can all have bespoke AI in our pocket that just exists to make us happy? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/911 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!

This is a classic session, from the first season of Where Should We Begin? A young family, a ten-year age difference, and a wife who used an extra-marital relationship to find independence. After an affair, the choice to forgive and rebuild doesn't wipe away the pain and the betrayal. Esther guides this couple on their path towards reconciliation and trust a year after the discovery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is a classic session of Where Should We Begin from season 1. They're grandparents, with a 40+ year love story and a stable, happy marriage. But one of them had quite a few secrets. Now, with everything out in the open, they're hoping Esther can help them work through some of the residual shame, guilt, and pain. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We are so honored to welcome back renowned psychotherapist and bestselling author Esther Perel to discuss a variety of topics for both people in relationships and those looking for love. She speaks on the challenge of meeting people today and gives advice for how single people can reframe dating (especially first dates). Moving onto relationships, we discuss how in every relationship someone needs more security and someone needs more freedom, how reactions in relationships are like a figure 8 and how to manage conflicts better, the theory of fundamental attribution error and thinking we are more complex than our partners, when we are most attracted to our partners and why, and the four things you can do in a relationship to keep the desire thriving. Before Esther joins us, we talk about guys having bad fashion on vacations, Rayna's surgery, Ashley's pregnancy prevention, and the stark difference in how we do laundry. We also answer a listener's email about meeting a great guy right before moving and what she should do. Enjoy! Follow Esther on Instagram @estherperelofficial, check out her podcast Where Should We Begin?, and visit her website for more.  Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Fresh: Get 50% off plus free shipping at hellofresh.com/gge50 and use code GGE50. Buffy: Get $20 off your order at buffy.co and enter promo code GGE. ZocDoc: Go to zocdoc.com/gge and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for free and book a top-rated doctor.  Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month's subscription and free shipping at nutrafol.com when you use  promo code GGE.