How to Womxn: Buck the System. Live your Truth.

Shadows are those things about yourself that you know , you are in touch with and you don’t like and you are afraid that people will find these about you. All of us have them. We live with the law of duality, which states that everything is on a continuum and has a complementary opposite within the whole.  Masculine and Feminine - are two energies in the same body. Light and Dark, Day and Night; these are the same things on opposite spectrums Honoring our shadows honors our dual nature.  When we keep our shadows in the dark, we always look at them as something outside of us. Something that we have to “work on” If you don’t know who you are and claim it, you will consistently look to others for permission to be who you think you might be or desire to be. You’ll always be caught in that loop of approval. However If you know who you are with conviction then no one can define your worth or bring you down or say what’s possible for you or not When you own your shadows and bring them to light, you can truly see them as a part of you rather than outside of you.  In this episode, you’ll learn how you can bring your shadows to light and make them a part of you. Download ‘Honor Your Shadow’’ meditation here - https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/howtowomxn/Shadow_Meditation.mp3 Follow Deepshikha at www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam

My guest today is Bushra Azhar, The Queen of Persuasion. She believes that human beings are irrational and trying to persuade someone through a rational argument is like trying to stop a 5-year-old from ODing on M&Ms by recounting the evils of high fructose corn syrup. She is a self-made multi-millionaire and an international bestselling author on Selling & Consumer Behavior. She teaches tiny businesses how to make big bucks, using the Psychology of Persuasion and her students have used her persuasion hacks to make millions of dollars in 50+ different industries while slashing their ad spend by 80%. Here’s a sample of what you’ll hear on this episode: How Bushra went from being a self-made multimillionaire and a best-selling author on sales & consumer behavior The importance to go deep and not wide in your business The magic behind Bushra’s ability to get repeat customers again and again How Bushra deals with trolls on the internet And because this is a patriarchy smashing podcast, we talked about the meaning of Bushra’s name (yes, it has something to do with patriarchy) and how Bushra has time and again bucked the system. Get in touch with Bushra here - https://www.thepersuasionrevolution.com/about/ Find Deepshikha here - https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/ Follow along The Deep End Project  - https://socialiquegroupe.com/blog/

Patriarchy has been running the show in Online Business. Over the years we have been indoctrinated with messaging and marketing practices that are unethical, out of integrity and not inclusive. Knowingly or unknowingly we’ve all been a part of it. 2020 was a wake up call we all badly needed. There’s no going back but the way forward is messy, unclear and not easy. Today on How to Womxn, I am talking to Tarzan Kay about all this and much more! Together, we are unpacking Patriarchy as it exists in Online Marketing and discovering ethical ways to dismantle it. Here’s a small sample of what you will hear: The story behind Tarzan’s name and how it changed her life The “Rags to Riches” story we’ve all heard in Marketing and how it has indoctrinated us to believe in “6 figures in 6 months” messaging The beauty behind sharing your process of unlearning and healing AND the mess behind sharing from your gaping, bleeding wound How to practice ethical marketing while using Principles of Persuasion The shifts Tarzan has made in her business to be more inclusive and being ethical in marketing You can find Tarzan here - www.tarzankay.com  Follow her on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tarzan_kay/ Find Deepshikha on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/ Follow along on The Deep End Project here - https://socialiquegroupe.com/blog/  

This episode is one of my favorites, not only because it’s with the one and only Laura Belgray, but because we really went wide and deep in this one.  From Laura’s story of how she became Laura F*cking Belgray to a very honest conversation on ‘cancel culture’ and pressure of performative activism on Social Media.  Listen in and get inspired by how Laura has created her business by being completely and unapologetically herself.  Follow Laura Belgray on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/talkingshrimpnyc/ Get on her email list (trust me, you’d want to!) - https://talkingshrimp.com Laura’s Article on being Productive even as a Lazy person - https://blog.usejournal.com/im-a-lazy-person-who-rejects-99-of-self-help-tips-5f6b7496829f Find Deepshikha on Instagram  - https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/ Catch up (and join in) on The Deep End Project - https://socialiquegroupe.com/blog/

On today’s episode, I am joined by Candice Hozza, Spiritual Strategist and Intuitive Mentor. Candace and I talk about how women today can run their heart centered businesses by tuning into the Power of YOU! Find Candice here - https://www.candicehozza.com/ Find her on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/candicehozza/ Find Deepshikha on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/ You can follow along on the Deep End Project here - https://socialiquegroupe.com/blog/

Have you ever wondered what would it be like if you were able to Co-Create your desires, your dreams exactly how you want it? On today’s episode, Taryn Watts, Founder of The Mind Rebel™ Academy and Creator of The Mind Rebel™ Method, shares her story & the revolutionary method that will show you how to Align Yourself to your highest self and create a fabulous life. We also talk about: The Mind Rebel™ Method and How to use it  How to manifest your life’s biggest desires using the 3rd Rich Lady lesson - Co-Creating your Desires Join their Facebook Group -https://www.facebook.com/groups/591664067858977 Follow The Mind Rebel™ Academy on Instagram here -https://www.instagram.com/the_mind_rebel_academy/ Follow Deepshikha here - https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/

CEO’s aren’t born. They are made. Inside today’s episode former clinical psychotherapist turned CEO Development Strategist, Kelly Ruta shares with us how to create powerful psychological breakthroughs that always create exponential business growth. Find Kelly Ruta here: https://kellyruta.com https://www.instagram.com/kellysruta/

Sales is the number 1 skill women need to learn in order to thrive in an anti patriarchal culture. And, you do not have to do it the sleazy, icky way. In today’s episode, Laura Wright, Master Sales Coach shares with us how she had to un-learn the patriarchal way of doing sales in order to create an abundance of wealth and opportunities for herself and many other women. It wasn’t easy and she had to face many challenges but she continues to Buck The System and Sell with Love. Find Laura at www.epicatsales.com Join her Facebook Group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/337084626858411

Your Inner Wisdom aka your Intuition is The voice of your higher self The whole idea behind living your life like a Rich Lady is living from your body and not your mind. Our goal should be to tame our mind. And not let it tame us. But we have so much shame when it comes to practicing our intuition when it is one thing if you strengthen, you will never have shiny object syndrome. This doesn’t mean you won’t ever buy a course or start planting your own food (although if that’s what you want, you can do that). This means you will take decisions not from a place of “I need to fix myself” but from a place of “this is best for me to grow and develop” There are 3 steps to practicing your Intuition: Practice Ask Trust Join Deepshikha’s Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/createyourrichladylifeandbiz for more exercises and guidance on building you inner wisdom  

Oh my gosh, this episode is so juicy. Marisa lost her dad when she was very young. Raised by her mother and in a very strong Italian Matriarchal Culture, Patriarchy showed up in her life in a very different way. We talk about how she navigated that in her life. Now she runs a highly successful business with her husband supporting her as a partner in her life and business. We chat about how they balance their life and business and how has deals with the typical Patriarchal conditioning of “Man needs to be the sole provider of the family.” This episode is for you if you too like Marisa wants your husband to quit his sucky job and follow his dreams and/or be a partner in your business or if you are doing that currently and wants to know all about navigating this new way of business and marriage. Tag Marisa and Deepshikha with your favorite Insight on Instagram  Find Marisa here - https://www.instagram.com/mtoni/ Find Deepshikha here - https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/

Hosting the Rich Lady Legacy Retreat was the greatest honor of my life. Holding space and leading a group of women through some powerful exercise has left a permanent imprint on me. One I am thankful for. In this episode I share my learnings and insights.

It might seem like the best thing to do in your business is to Amplify in your business but if you want to run a profitable business that not only makes money but also bucks the system, you need to go small, very small. You need to choose simplification over amplification. On today’s episode I discuss this totally awesome way to run your business, go small to go big with copywriter, best-selling author, and online marketing consultant, Licia Morelli who writes copy that makes you cash. She's the go-to copywriter for some of the industry's best-known product and service "personality brands." You can find Licia on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/liciamorelli/ You can find Deepshikha on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/

Love Coach, Diana Eskander shares with us what it takes to have those Quantum Leaps in your business. Nope, it’s not hustling, pushing or controlling. Diana shares how she has used her Human Design and her feminine energy to build a highly successful coaching business that’s built on freedom, ease and so much leisure. Think taking baths, watching netflix, eating chocolates and napping. Follow Diana here on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dianaeskander_/ Follow Deepshikha here on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/

What does it mean to create your Biz from the Womb? It means working less and earning more. Sage Polaris shares with us how. Resources mentioned on the episode: Women who run with the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés Patriarchy Stress Disorder by Dr.Valerie Rein @thenapministry on Instagram Get in touch with Sage Polaris on Instagram at www.instagram.com/sagepolaris Join me for the Rich Lady Legacy Retreat at https://socialiquegroupe.lpages.co/rich-lady-legacy-retreat/ Get in touch with Deepshikha at deepshikha@socialiquegroupe.com www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam

Come practice the Art of Allowing with me. Art of Allowing means to allow everything. All the emotions. Ever since we were kids we have been taught to not feel our emotions. But rich ladies feel everything. Because feeling everything allows them to transmute these emotions into something beautiful. Join us at The Rich Lady Legacy Retreat - https://socialiquegroupe.lpages.co/rich-lady-legacy-retreat/ Find me on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/ Email us at deepshikha@socialiquegroupe.com

Inside this episode I share my first Rich Lady Lesson Number 1 that’ll free you and allow you to build a life of Joy & Fulfillment aka A Rich Lady Life. Tune in to find out why re-claiming yourself is bucking the system. Join me for a 2 Day LIVE Virtual Event for womxn entrepreneurs & Discover the fastest & easiest path to your unlimited potential and growth. A 2-Day Event for Rich Ladies who want to attain Mindset Mastery & Strategic Alignment as they step into their next level of Wealth, Impact & Fulfillment in their Business. https://socialiquegroupe.lpages.co/rich-lady-legacy-retreat/ Email us at deepshikha@socialiqurgroupe.com DM me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/

Too many women are kept stuck playing small around their worth, their desires, what they charge and how they run their business. It's time we look at the systems that have trapped us and we break free from that cage! Join me and Sales Expert, Becky Keen as we dive into this juicy conversation around money and worth in your business. Be warned, side effects may include, you raising your prices! What was your favorite takeaway? Tag me and Becky on Instagram and let us know! Find Becky here - https://www.instagram.com/beck_keen/ Watch her Free Masterclass here - https://beckykeen.com/masterclass Find me on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam

There’s a quote going around on Instagram. It goes like this “The recipe to success? Get up earlier. Work Harder. Fail. Fail again. Never give up.” What the what? You know what this quote does? It contributes to a Culture that normalizes Burnout. No. It’s not okay to “crush it.” It’s not okay to wake up earlier and earlier and give up sleep. It’s not okay to work harder and harder and give up social life, your mental and physical health. Sadly it’s all too prevalent among entrepreneurs. Well guess what, it’s not our fault. Patriarchy has taught us that we have to keep our nose to the grindstone all the time.  It’s not our fault but it is 100% our responsibility to buck it.  Today I am talking to a Burnout Expert and author of the book, The Bouncebackability Factor: End Burnout, Gain Resilience, and Change the World, Caitlin Donovan In this episode we are talking about how burnout sneaks up on you as women entrepreneurs and what can you do to end it! Tag us on Instagram with your favorite takeaways https://www.Instagram.com/cait_donovan and  https://www.Instagram.com/deepshikhasairam. You can also learn more about Caitlin’s revolutionary work here : https://www.caitdonovan.com https://www.caitdonovan.com/the-bouncebackability-factor https://www.caitdonovan.com/freebie-values https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com  

We are kicking off  “How to Womxn in Business” series in Season 2. In this solo episode I give you a sneak peek on what’s to come next. I talk about what it means to create your Rich Lady Life & Business and how there’s no one way to create a successful business. You get to redefine what a successful business looks for you. As always, there’s lots of patriarchy to be smashed as business owners and we are here for it!! I also share with you a life changing habit that’s helped me create momentum in my business, My Rich Lady Behaviors. Find me on Instagram @deepshikhasairam and tell me what your #richladybehaviors are and how did you feel after indulging in them.  

The movements, the parades, the marches, these are all important and much needed to smash the patriarchy. However, there’s another quiet revolution happening everyday at homes, at schools, in businesses, at work places. Everyday womxn around the world are bucking the system in their own quiet way. I call it the Ripple Effect. These drops in the ocean is enough to create that Ripple Effect that’s smashing the Patriarchy. In the final episode of Season 1 of How to Womx, I share 5 stories from womxn like you and me who have created these drops in the ocean! You can find more about these womxn here: Akshaya Chinapa Reddy - www.myayurvedickitchen.com Katie Spellman - https://www.revelandgrow.com/ Dana Inouye - http://danainouye.com/ Jessie Chiang - www.intuitwithjessie.com Sumeena Gupta - https://www.instagram.com/sumeena_gupta/ Get in touch with Deepshikha at https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/

My guest today, Lara Americo, is an artist and journalist living in NYC. Their work focuses on the experience of being a trans-feminine person and issues related to the transgender people.  Lara says “Living in this world as a trans-feminine person of color is revolutionary. Existing in a society that routinely denies your existence  is a direct action to colonization.  I buck the system by living an authentic life. This is something that is hard for both transgender and cisgender people, alike.  The patriarchy exists because gender roles and the hierarchy related to binary gender exists. My existence proves that gender is arbitrary and the patriarchy is arbitrary.” In this episode Lara shares her story of courage, sacrifices, pain and the purest form of love she’s experienced.  Lara’s Instagram - instagram.com/laraamerico Deepshikha’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/

When Heidi was told at age 7 that she cannot become a priest, she was devastated. All she wanted to do was to help people find God and be on stage every single week.  It was the best job in the world. However, there was a problem. She was a girl and girls could only become a Nun. Not a priest. Lucky for womxn today, she instead became a Body Mind Coach specializing in Empowering Womxn to Lead From Within. What that means is truly tapping that inner wisdom, the God(dess) within and leading an aligned life. Growing up in the patriarchal culture she realised that real reverence is reverence for yourself first. In this conversation, we chat about what leading from within looks like. Heidi and I also talk about why it’s important to heal the patriarchy, after we smash it! You can find more about Heidi here - www.heidimetro.com Get her free PMS training here - https://www.heidimetro.com/pms-free-training Find Deepshikha on Instagram - www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam

Lisa shows womxn of influence how to keep enough bandwidth in reserve so they always have the capacity to unabashedly embrace each new level of success, turn curveballs into home runs, and stay grounded in what matters most! She draws from her 15 years of mental health experience as a clinical social worker and her trauma survivorship to provide education, training, and supervision for coaches who are committed to safe and ethical practice. She and Deepshikha speak about how bucking the system by being a leader, healing trauma and her first great act of bucking the system by leaving the cult she was raised in. Find Lisa here - https://lisakuzman.com and https://instagram.com/coachkuz Find Deepshikha here on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/ Email deepshikha at deepshikha@socialiquegroupe.com

TW/CW - This episode has a trigger warning for discussion of sexual assault. If you have experienced sexual assault, you are not alone. Organizations like Pathways to Safety can provide resources to empower you to survive and heal, no matter where you are in the world. https://pathwaystosafety.org/sexual-assault/ My guest today, Sarah Zerkel (also known as Zerkie) is a tough-ass, unapologetic woman first and foremost. By trade, she's a conversion copywriter for online business owners. In December 2019, Zerkie went through a horrible experience that has shaped her life forever. She's not one to open up about personal matters on the internet but has a story that she feels convicted to tell in the hopes it can offer hope to other women and sexual assault victims. She is here to tell us that healing from sexual assault is a journey and one of the many ways we can heal is by using the power of our voice. She says “This is not something that defines me but is HAS shaped me. The things that define me are my kindness, my empathy, my ambition, and my love for my family and friends.” After the incident Zerkie dove in deep to things that made her feel connected to herself and explored talents and passions she hadn't given time to before. One of those is her online shop: "Chicacantina" where she sell her designs printed on various products--100% of the proceeds go to anti-rape and Domestic Violence causes in Chile. You can find more about Chicacantina here - https://www.instagram.com/chicacantina/ Connect with Zerkie here - www.instagram.com/therealslim.zerkie/ www.sarahzerkel.com To connect with Deepshikha, email her at deepshikha@socialiquegroupe.com or you can find her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/

Making your health and your career a priority is a bizarre concept for womxn to understand. Practically speaking we get it, but when it comes to implementing it in our life, we have a hard time. Especially if you are a mom. The societal definition of a “good mom” isn’t someone who puts her health and career first. But is that true? What would life look like for you if you really did put yourself first? Your health, your career, your well being. How would your levels of fulfillment change? Would you slide into the “bad mom” category or will you experience a better relationship with your kids and your family/friends? My guest, Nagina Abdullah and I talk about ‘putting yourself first’. Nagina shares how she was able to lose 40 lbs and build a super successful business by taking care of herself first. We also talk about what it takes for womxn to create a super successful business (it may not be what you’re thinking!) Find Nagina here: https://masalabody.com https://www.instagram.com/masalabody/ Share this episode on Instagram and tag me at https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/

I’ve known Divya for 30 years! She and I were inseparable all through Elementary to Middle School. It wasn’t a surprise to me that she was destined to do great things in her life but when I caught wind of her starting a Pad Yatra (Menstrual Awareness Journey) on a popular radio show in the capital of India, New Delhi during the auspicious religious festival, I was gobsmacked. In a good way! I always loved her badass attitude but now I respected and loved her even more for talking about this sensitive and triggering topic in India. This adventure for Divya did not come without challenges but also has many surprising moments. Inside this episode, I am talking to my school best friend on how womxn in India are standing up to patriarchy. Don’t be surprised if this hits too close to home or if you feel “wow, I didn’t even know this was a challenge for womxn across the world!” Patriarchy is spread deep, far and wide and we are smashing it one brick at a time! Find Divya here - instagram.com/rjdivyaa Find Deepshikha here - https://www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam/ We want to hear your stories too. Send us YOUR stories of how you’ve redefined how to womxn. Send it to me on instagram or email them to me at deepshikha@socialiquegroupe.com. We’ll be dedicating an entire episode (the finale) to your stories of courage and inspiration. I look forward to hearing from you.

In this episode I am talking to Brielle Cotterman, TEDx Speaker, Publicity Expert and Celebrity-Maker and survivor of attempted murder and domestic violence.  Brielle is an advocate for a world where intimate partner abuse is not tolerated and survivors are met with empathy. She shares her story on how she overcame domestic violence & attempted murder and now how she is living her life as an advocate by creating a media empire empowering women around the world to claim their story and claim their power! Find Brielle here - www.briellecotterman.com Brielle’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/briellecotterman/ National Domestic Violence website (for US) - https://www.thehotline.org National Domestic Violence Hotline - 1.800.799 (SAFE) 7233 List of Domestic Violence Hotlines in some other countries - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_domestic_violence_hotlines

Womxn in patriarchal societies are taught that their identity comes from fulfilling the needs of others. Those who request or stand up for their needs are often labeled "Bitches.” Is this core wound of the Divine Feminine causing you to play small? In this episode, I talk about how womxn around the world are shrinking themselves to fit the needs of others and giving up their desires and often their identities, in the bargain. The answer to question “Are you playing small” lies in 3 simple, yet profound questions. Use these questions as Journal Prompts to open your pandora’s box to more fulfillment: In what ways are you not living your life to its fullest potential? Where are you shrinking yourself to fit the needs and desires of other people while ignoring yours? How and where are you not expressing yourself fully? Share your takeaway from the episode by tagging me on Instagram @deepshikhasairam

In this episode, I speak with Dr. Valerie Rein, psychologist and author of the bestselling book “Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment” Dr. Valerie Rein has discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing the intergenerational trauma of oppression. We talk about the deep rooted effects of Patriarchy on womxn, the invisible barriers it creates to Womxn’s happiness and fulfillment and why it is absolutely necessary that we break these barriers Find me on Instagram - www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam Find Dr Valerie on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drvalerierein/ For additional resources related to Dr. Valerie Rein’s work visit - https://www.drvalerie.com

Inside Episode 1, host of How to Womxn, Deepshikha Sairam, shares her story of how she bucked the “patriarchal” system and created her own definition of “how to womxn” Deepshikha was born in an era where being “born a girl” was nothing less than a sin. Raised in a patriarchal culture where practices like female infanticide and dowry system were common, she like many other womxn received mixed messages about what it meant to be a womxn. She tried to follow the typical template that was handed over to her but she reached a point where she refused to follow it any more. She wanted to create her own choices, her own life. She decided to buck the so-called “system” and is now living her extraordinary life. She hopes her story will inspire and empower other womxn to look at their own choices and re-define for themselves on how to womxn. Follow Deepshikha on Instagram at www.instagram.com/deepshikhasairam to continue the conversation on How to Womxn.

I'm Deepshikha Sairam, Business Mentor for womxn who are done playing small, and I am so stoked to announce my new podcast : How to Womxn : Buck the System. Live your Truth. It’s 2020 and we are still being told how to be a womxn by a culture that’s steeped in patriarchy. We live in a broken patriarchal culture that has created systems and laws that have kept us chained to it for so long. It was created to keep us small.  It has always told us how to live our life, how to love, how (much) money we can make and even define our worth! It’s time to change that! Join me as I kick off my heels and dish out heartfelt narratives from my life and those of my seriously badass guests. Hear the journeys and powerful stories of strength and survival from phenomenal womxn who’ve faced challenges, broken the chains of old narratives,  shirked the story they’ve been told about what it means to be a womxn, and are living their extraordinary truth.  Let’s re-discover and re-define “How to womxn” and that maybe...there was never really only one way.  Episode 1 goes LIVE September 2020 with new episodes dropping every Wednesday.  So be sure to subscribe now so you don't miss a thing. Now go Grab something pink to drink coz every Wednesday we sip Rosé and smash the patriarchy.