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Just me and Cal talking about it stinging when you pee for about 10mins. Or as Cal puts it "trying to piss a knife"...Yup...most women will know exactly what I am talking about. Urinary Tract Infections are common as hell, in fact the second most common bacterial infection in the world. Half of all adult women will have experienced it. So why is this common thing so difficult to diagnose?? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

This episode is all about womens safety. This topic is really personal both both Cal and Izzy. Following the deaths of Sarah Everard and Sabina Nessa in the UK, there has been an increase in ‘advice' from politicians and police focussing on how women can keep ‘safe' from sexual assault and violence. The argument is often that the advice offered by police and various organisations protects women. So If we disregard the hugely problematic narrative of victim-blaming, are they simply pragmatic tips that keep us safe? Or surely there's another way to tackle the endemic issue of gender-based violence that doesn't involve putting all the onus on women to protect themselves... This is a hugely personal topic for Cal and Izzy. If you are affected by the information discussed or you are struggling in anyway please do not hesitate to reach out. We are always here for you x The best way you can support the show is by subscribing on apple podcasts or following on Spotify. Come join in the convo at our Facebook group or follow us on Insta or even Twitter for more IWH content xxx Resources and contacts for women in need of support: Australia: For immediate support call 000 - Victoria Police and Ambulance For emergency support after hours: 1800 737 732 - 1800RESPECT Family violence and sexual assault 24 hour telephone line. 1800 015188 - Safe Steps Family Violence response service 24 hour telephone line. VICTORIA: further resources Men's Referral Service - Call 1300 766 491 Rainbow Door Free information, support, and referrals LGBTQIA+ Call 1800 729 367 or Text 0480 017 246 10am-6pm, 7 days Djirra Culturally safe family violence and legal support for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 1800 105 303 United Kingdom: All numbers below are 24 hour for domestic violence: England: 0808 2000 247 Scotland: 0800 027 1234 Northern Ireland: 0808 802 1414 Wales: 0808 80 10 800 LGBTQIA+ 0800 999 5428 help@galop.org.uk Men's Advice Line: 0808 801 0327 info@mensadviceline.org.uk Karma Nirvana, UK Helpline for ‘honour'-based abuse and forced marriage: 0800 5999 247 Victim Support: 0808 1689 111 SafeLives guide to staying safe online Women's Aid guide to private browsing The Survivor's Handbook, Women's Aid Karma Nirvana Chayn --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

Bitesized stuff is the cutest! But gaslighting is NOT...this mini segment is designed to weed out those gas-lighters and empower each of us to tell them to stick it! We talk about how to spot if you are being gas lit, how you might identify these traits and how you can respond to someone who is gas lighting you - remember, you are not alone and we are here to support you xxx If you want to support the show the best thing you can do is SUBSCRIBE or FOLLOW the podcast and please share it with a friend! Come join in the convo at our Facebook group or follow us on Insta or even Twitter for those with a strong stomach! x --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

This week Cal and I discuss the downfalls of "white feminism" and how this is letting women down. We discuss how we can participate in feminism in an intersectional way and keep driving the movement forward so no one is getting left behind. Plus, did you know that labiaplasty is fastest rising cosmetic surgery worldwide? Many people with vaginas are getting them nipped and tucked and we what to know WHY? In a poll of more than 3,600 readers, the online women's magazine Refinery29 found that almost half (48%) had concerns about the appearance of their vulva. Of those, 64% were worried about the size and 60% about the shape of their vulva, with almost one-third (30%) worried about the colour of their genitals. And I think it comes down to thinking that our vulva isn't "normal" well, before you make that assumption, have a look at these vulva positive influencers who can educate you on what "normal" actually looks like... Check out Ying Lee (@sativaplath69), who posts about their “phat coochie” and got an incredible 6.4m views for their video on “gatekeeping phat coochie culture” and you may also want to have a look at gynaecologists Jennifer Lincoln (@drjenniferlincoln) and Jen Gunter (@drjengunter) - the author of The Vagina Bible – who make videos explain the vast spectrum of what is normal. Cal let's rip another glorious rant and this one will hit you hard and we end with a confession from Izzy who is a self-described pervert...uh oh...lot's to discuss! Resources: The book Cal refer to is Against White Feminism by Rafia Zakaria. And if you loved that then have a listen to Koa Beck chatting about the racism imbedded in white feminism. Thanks again for your support! The best thing you can to support us is to follow and subscribe to the podcast and share it with a friend! :) Keep sharing, keep talking and keep supporting each other. xxx --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

Introducing our bite sized chucks for those of you wanting a little bit of I'm With Her in your ears while you are on the run! We have gathered our most popular segments and snipped them into their own episode no longer than 15mins so you can go straight to the issue you care about. This week we are throwing back to our chat about breastfeeding. During pregnancy and after birth there is so much focus on the baby that mothers can often be overlooked. The stress of breastfeeding can be incredibly overwhelming for new mums. We chat about the reality of this experience for many women and hope that if this is something you have experienced or are stressed about that this gives you some comfort xxx --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

This week we talk about abortion, Izzy took the 60 second rant segment really seriously and made it into a sort of poem, it's cringing but will make you laugh and we get a confession from Cal. This episode comes with a trigger warning as we appreciate abortion is an emotional topic for many people. This is not about whether abortion is right or wrong but we wanted to put the stories of people who have had an abortion at the forefront which is why we start with Cal sharing her own experience of having an abortion. We discuss some of the pro-life core arguments and discuss how we feel about these, plus we talk through the procedures recommended for safe abortions in case anyone needs to know or curious to find out. There is a lot of misinformation out there at the moment and we want to make sure the right information is out there for people so they can make informed choices. Thanks to Cal once again for her vulnerability and raw honest story telling. And thank you to all of you for your support xxx If you want to find out more about abortion not just if you live in Australia, you can find supportive information here on the Marie Stopes website - a national, independently accredited safe abortion, vasectomy and contraception provider helping women and men take full control of their reproductive lives. www.mariestopes.org.au Main contact for the UK- www.bpas.org If you want to show your support for the people in Texas you can donate to the following organisations: Lilith Fund:https://www.lilithfund.org/ Texas Equal Access Fund https://teafund.org/ Fund Texas Choice https://fundtexaschoice.org/ Jane's Due Process https://janesdueprocess.org/ Frontera Fund https://fronterafundrgv.org/ Buckle Bunnies Fund https://www.bucklebunnies.org/ West Fund https://www.westfund.org/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

Today we've created a segment based on how we can be good allies to the women who are facing danger in Afghanistan. These situations often make us feel helpless and powerless but there is significant change you can make as an individual. We'll talk you through what you need to know and how you can help. Plus we'll discuss the rise of the incel movement following a tragic mass shooting in the UK, and ask why violent misogyny isn't considered a terrorist act. (spoiler alert – it fucking should be!) But, during these testing times it isn't all doom and gloom, Cal let's rip with her 60 second rant around the one thing women have been desperately deprived of for years…(pssst it's pockets!) And Izzy gives one of her biggest confessions yet. In the segment around the Afghanistan crisis we give info on what we can do to help. Below are the links to follow: Donate to support humanitarian aid https://unwomen.org.au/get-involved/donate/ https://donatenow.wfp.org/afghanistan-emergency https://www.wfp.org/support-us/stories/families-afghanistan-need-help https://crisisrelief.un.org/t/afghanistan https://www.unicef.org.au/appeals/help-children-in-afghanistan Support women's media and female reporters: https://twitter.com/RukhshanaMedia https://twitter.com/Sahar_Speaks https://www.iwmf.org/2021/08/iwmf-calls-for-urgent-support-of-women-journalists-in-afghanistan/ Amplify the voices of Afghan people on social media: People to follow: @omar.haidari, @theafghan, @middleeastmatters @sajjad_askary @bbatoor @najeebawazwfadost @mariamveiszadeh @asrc Use the hashtags - #actforafghanistan #Afghanistan #HelpAfghanistan #AfghanLivesMatter Put pen to paper (or hit those keyboards) Here are some incredible letter templates written for you, it takes 45 seconds: https://bit.ly/3DeBXFt https://freeafghanistan.good.do/aidtoafghanistan/ How to find your local MP: UK: https://members.parliament.uk/FindYourMP Australia: https://www.aph.gov.au/Senators_and_Members/Parliamentarian_Search_Results?q=&sta=WA https://www.parliament.vic.gov.au/about/electorates https://www.parliament.nsw.gov.au/news/Pages/Who-is-my-local-member.aspx A document shared by the ASRC with the main contacts all over Australia, you can call and email ALL of them! - https://docs.google.com/document/d/106mYuYD3FAMJyd-KA23TwrGxKhVA-xpXXFgT4PJi8P8/edit Support Amnesty International stop your tax payer money being spent on military weapons: https://www.amnesty.org/en/what-we-do/arms-control/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

This week we chat to the gorgeous Emily Mcnish; a Naturopath passionate about women's health. Emily talks to us about why it might be beneficial to include a naturopath into your medical circle (for those that can) and the benefits to have them a resource alongside your GP. She answers all our questions on periods, PMS, pain management, heat regulations during your cycle and how to become more in-tune with your body. She also touches on some common symptoms of PCOS and endometriosis, and smashes some common misconceptions for these health concerns. It was an absolute pleasure to talk to someone so open and genuinely passionate about health and the women around her and hope you find some joy in this conversation too x --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

We couldn't NOT talk about the ridiculous clothing rules for women in sport after a week of Olympics and some seriously cool women standing up to the sexist rules. We chat about how this intersects with racism, ableism and why it's not just about bikini bottoms. Plus, after the recent announcement that a women only hospital is opening up in Melbourne, we wanted to dig a little deeper to see if this is a step forward for womenkind... I debut my first ever 60 second rant and it's a bout a giant dick rocket floating through space and Cal lets her guard down more than once with more raw honesty mixed with hilarity! Hope you enjoy it as much as we did recording it ❤❤

I'm With Her is a safe space to share uncomfortable truths. We talk openly about the experiences we all have whether - that's about periods, love, babies, abortions, sex, beauty standards, body image, sexual violence, the gender pain gap and whatever else is making us women feel angry, energised or electric. It's awkward, embarrassing and sometimes pretty damn hilarious We chat honestly in hope that it makes you, our listeners feel less alone in your own experiences in life. We can cringe our way through together and rid ourselves of that shame we carry around with us… Our one rule is that we believe women and listen to what they have to say. This community is changing the way women see themselves and it is powerful and a space we are really proud of. We hope you'll come and join us in the discussions because I'm with Her, that's you

Have you have ever been to the doctor and felt like they aren't believing the amount pain you are in? If so, this podcast is for you. Today we will be chatting to Monica from our favourite medical publication, The Femedic, about The Gender Pain Gap. We touch on how the medical world is letting women and other marginalised groups down. We talk about how various bias appears in the doctors office and what we can do to advocate better for ourselves! Monica has provided us with some resources for you do your own research further: Patient advocacy Some guidance on seeking a second opinion on the NHS — unfortunately patients don't have a legal right to a second opinion but they are able to ask https://elht.nhs.uk/patients/how-seek-second-opinion Guidance on making a complaint about health services (on the NHS) — https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/health/nhs-and-social-care-complaints/complaining-about-the-nhs/who-you-can-go-to-when-you-have-a-problem-with-the-nhs/organisations-that-can-help-you-make-a-complaint-about-health-services/ NHS guidance on advocacy - https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/social-care-and-support-guide/help-from-social-services-and-charities/someone-to-speak-up-for-you-advocate/ Sometimes charities that deal with a particular condition or disease may be able to give recommendations or guidance, search for these separately and see what they can offer Trans and GNC people-friendly clinics in the UK 56 Dean Street – London Clinic T (Trans clinic) – Brighton CliniQ – London My Body Back – London and Glasgow Further reading on the gender pain gap Inferior - Angela Saini (book) Testosterone Rex - Cordelina Fine (book, written by an Aussie!) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

It's another weekly round up where Iz and Cal chat about all the hot topics happening in the world this week! This week we talk about how to spot if you are being gas lit, how you might identify these traits and how you can respond to someone who is gas lighting you - remember, you are not alone and we are here to support you. We chat about herpes, which surprisingly is more common that you think and therefore we should talk about it, as well as introducing a new feature called 60 second rant - where one of us just lets rip for a full glorious minute about whatever is most grinding our gears. We hope you enjoy this chat as much as we did making it! x If you want to support the show the best thing you can do is SUBSCRIBE or FOLLOW the podcast and please share it with a friend! Come join in the convo at our Facebook group or follow us on Insta or even Twitter for those with a strong stomach! x --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

This week Iz and Cal welcome the brilliantly vibrant and joyful Momma Cherri to the podcast! If you recognise her name that is because she shot to fame when she appeared on Ramsey's Kitchen Nightmares as the only contender that Gordon Ramsey actually liked and he couldn't get enough of her food either! But there is more to Momma Cherri than this time in the spotlight. In this episode MC tells us what life was like being brought up in Philadelphia when there was segregation between white and black people, what children means to her having fostered over 80 children over her lifetime, and she gets both Izzy and Cal in fits of giggles as she tells us stifling funny story about how she ended up in the UK. Here is the Black Lives Matter speech we refer to in the interview. Plus, Momma Cherri's youtube channel where you can keep up to date with everything she has got going on. I dare you to try and get through the preview video without laughing! Come and join us in the I'm With Her facebook group for oversharing and vibrant discussions, or follow us at either of these spaces, whichever you prefer...or both, well the hell not! :) IWH Twitter IWH Instagram Thanks so much for listening! xxx --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

This week Cal and Izzy chatted each others faces off and had a right giggle doing it. We hope you laugh along with us as we discuss what consent looks like, having your high beams on at work and we delve deep into whether we think toxic femininity is a thing and if so how the hell do you define it... For anyone who has 5 minutes of their life to waste and some rage to get out here is the Australian Governments $3.8 million consent explainer video which Izzy attempts to explain in this ep. And don't forget we wrap up each episode with the the ever popular #confessthursdays where Iz and Cal let each other onto a little secret. This week it's something to do with sexism and sweat... Thank you again to all your wonderful listeners for the continued support of the show and of the IWH community. We learn something new every single day and feeling powerful for it! If you enjoy the podcast it is more vital than ever to show your support for us by clicking the FOLLOW or SUBSCRIBE buttons and if you have a few minutes to spare please do leave us a review! Come join in the convo at our Facebook group or follow us on Insta and now WE ARE ON TWITTER! So come and chat to us there too :) x --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

This weeks I'm With Who we are keeping it in house. Our very own Cal has chosen to waive her legal right to anonymity and will be talking to Izzy about her experience of sexual violence. Cal believes that she is lucky enough to be able to speak up about her experience, and bravely does so in an attempt to help others survivors. We discuss the long-term effects of trauma, the misconceptions around how rape victims react, common rape myths about victim and perpetrator, and discuss how to be a better ally for someone who might have experienced sexual violence. If what we talk about in today's episode is triggering for you, creates distress or upset for you, we have listed a number of support networks to reach out to from anywhere in the world or how to reach Cal and Izzy directly: UK specific: https://www.thesurvivorstrust.org/ (UK) https://rapecrisis.org.uk/ (UK) https://www.rape-dvservices.org.au/ (Aus) https://www.rainn.org/ (US) Global links: https://www.rcne.com/links/sources-of-help-for-survivors/ Resources: https://www.victimfocus.org.uk/ (set up by an amazing survivor called Dr Jessica Taylor) Body Keeps The Score - Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma Help for male/ trans survivors: https://www.survivorsuk.org/ Read: Chanel Miller's victim impact statement: https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/katiejmbaker/heres-the-powerful-letter-the-stanford-victim-read-to-her-ra Cal and I want to welcome anybody who wants to reach out to us directly. You can find us in the Facebook group here: I'M WITH HER Or just send a message to the instagram page @im.withher and we will respond. Also, we have created an option for people to post their story, questions, thoughts anonymously, so if you have something you want to ask but are not yet ready to put your name to it, this might be a good option to consider: Anonymous Members Stories (the way this works is that you submit a story to a google form. Izzy will receive the message and then post it to the group. As a member you are able to see the support and responses from group members without your name being attached to the story). --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

G'day g'day g'day fine people and thanks for coming back this week for another bi-weekly round up of everything that's on our minds. In this episode we'll be talking about how we can't believe we still have to remind people that rape jokes are NOT funny, how to clap back at everyday sexism, we take a look into why the tests for UTI's might be letting us down (no, the pain is not all in my head Dr) and finally we are deep diving into a pool of cervical mucus and how wonderful it is. HA if you are grossed out now then gird your loins! (yes that is a Devil Wear Prada reference, love you Stanley Tucci!). And as always we will be delving you with another segment for #confessthursdays where both Cal and Izzy bear their uncomfortable truths to the world and rid themselves of shame...well, that's the plan anyway! Cal and I had so much fun making this episode so we really hope you enjoy it as much as we did making it. Thank you for your ongoing support we really do get excited over ever single pair of ears that listens. If you do want to support the show please hit the "follow" or "subscribe" button. If you have an opinion on something we have discussed in this episode, come into the facebook group to let us know - I'm With Her Or follow us on instagram for a good looking place to talk about uncomfortable truths - @im.withher Love you, byyyeeeeeeeeeeeee xxx --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

Our first ever guest and she's a cracker! The stunningly articulate and kind Josie who has the most infectious laugh talks to us about her experience of existing in this world as a fat woman. We walk about the body positivity movement and how it is letting down fat people, what we can do to participate in body neutrality and avoid all the toxic self love stuff along the way. Here are the many recommendations straight from Josie herself for anyone who is struggling with their own body acceptance: Rachel Wiley poem: https://youtube.com/watch?v=tRFOTqTicvY&feature=share Happy Fat: Taking Up Space in a World That Wants to Shrink You https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0008293872/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_glt_fabc_WV2SQ333F0691ZJPPVPW Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1479886750/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_glt_fabc_MKBPVAYEC2AFC0B3H6TQ The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1523090995/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_glt_fabc_H064S6N03ZJMG051XW4M The F*ck It Diet: The Ultimate Anti-Diet Bible https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/000833983X/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_glt_fabc_WXPM5KQBW8A38EJYGC9D Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls: A Handbook for Unapologetic Living https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1580055826/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_glt_fabc_EN44J13YA1XZNW3RRABW Health At Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B003UBAWZY/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_glt_K7Y1SJ3X82J7VSWV4628 Imani Barbarin - https://crutchesandspice.com/ Have a great week queens! xxx --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

Welcome backkkkkk, it's our second weekly roundup and this time we discuss the treatment of women in the immediate moments before and after birth, we have a mini debate on where we stand on friend-zoning and we relay our members advice and support for keeping sex spicy in long-term relationships. Plus...its #confessthursday and both Calie and Izzy have got a corker for you! Thank you to all of you for coming back and listening again, it's your love and support over the past couple of weeks that encouraged us to come back again and do more so THANK YOU we love every single one of you. If you do like the podcast and want to support us click FOLLOW or SUBSCRIBE on whatever platform you listen to and give us a little rating if you can? All 5 * ratings give you immediate good vibes and you are guaranteed to have a perfect day (disclaimer: you are not guaranteed to have a perfect day) but we would really appreciate it so we can reach more listeners which helps other womxn around the world feeling less alone x You can continue the discussion in the group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2031947693618389/ Or come and look at some sexy sassy instagram posts here: https://www.instagram.com/im.withher/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

What better way to start our I'm With Who episodes than to chat to our very own, Izzy Watts, founder of I'm With Her! In this chat Calie asks Iz about her experience on birth control, mental health struggles and what motivated her to create the I'm With Her community. Thank you for tuning in, we hope this conversation helps others feel less alone in their experiences and promotes healthy conversations of informed consent! If you have an experience that you would like to share with us, come and find us in the FB group, we would love to hear from you: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2031947693618389/ Instagram @im.withher --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message

Welcome to the "I'm With Her" podcast - a safe space to chat all things female. Hosted by I'm With Her founder Izzy, and IWH member co-host Calie this podcast is a bright, feverish, frustrated ball of complicated emotions. Just like all of us. On this weeks show we'll be discussing a new study into mental health and miscarriage, discussing the top three stories that have sparked discussion in our Facebook group and we'll both be dropping our confessions for the week right here and they are juicy and embarrassing and down right the perfect way to kick off the IWH Podcast. #confessthursdays Disclaimer: The conversations we have tackle some traumatic topics so we will be sure to include trigger warning messages where needed. We use the term women throughout our discussions and this applies to anyone who identifies as a woman. We also acknowledge the strength of our non-binary friends who face significant barriers to equality and (fair treatment) remain fighting for their general human rights. – we are also with you and we've got your back. Oh yes...and we swear a bit too so maybe if you have little ones around pop your headphones in or listen another time. Trigger Warning: One of our discussion topics is about miscarriage and loss so if this is a trigger for you we have added in a warning so you can skip ahead. However if this is something you are struggling with, here are some people and communities that you can reach out to for some support: UK Tommy's http://www.tommys.orgTommy's offer information about premature birth, miscarriage and stillbirth. Email: info@tommys.org The Lullaby Trust http://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/Offering support to bereaved parents if a baby dies suddenly and unexpectedly. Helpline: 0808 802 6868 (lines open Monday – Friday 10am – 5pm weekends and Bank Holidays 6 – 10pm) Email: support@lullabytrust.org.uk Saying Goodbye https://www.sayinggoodbye.orgAdvice and support for anyone who has suffered the loss of a baby at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy. Ectopic Pregnancy http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/information/types-of-pregnancy-loss/ectopic-pregnancy/Miscarriage Association support on ectopic pregnancy. Miscarriage Association http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/Supporting anyone who has been affected by a pregnancy loss. Helpline: 01924 200 799 (lines open Monday - Friday 9am - 4pm) Email: info@miscarriageassociation.org.uk Australia: Call Pregnancy, Birth and Baby on 1800 882 436, 7am to midnight (AET) to speak to a maternal child health nurse for advice and emotional support. SANDS is an independent organisation that provides support for miscarriage, stillbirth and newborn death. You can call them on 1300 072 637 or visit www.sands.org.au. The Royal Women's Hospital, Victoria Australia --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/imwithher/message