Unwanted Fraternity

Setting up your new blended family can be challenging and also so rewarding!  While blending a family can be difficult, Greg and Jen offer a candid and also Biblical approach to what to expect when blending.  

Getting started in a blended family can be full of bliss, heartache, uncertainty, and screw ups! After 12 years of blended bliss, or wonderfully messy bliss, Greg and Jen share some do's and don'ts of blended families from their perspective.  

When is it the right time to take the dating relationship to the next level, whether that be calling it exclusive or setting the wedding date.  In this episode, Greg and Jen talk about the beginning stage of blending a family. 

Greg and Jen wrap up the second episode of "Dating Again" with some tips for those who would like to try to get back into a relationship again. Hear a bit about the struggles they had with dating and how they navigated "baggage" that each of them had.

It's really difficult to get back out there and start dating again.  In this 2 part series, Greg and Jen share all that was involved with getting back out into the dating scene.  This candid look shares both sides of the picture.

In this episode, Greg and Jen interview Chizzy Anderson, Director of Health and Wellness at Valley Christian School, Chandler, AZ.  Chizzy shares her experiential wisdom with Greg and Jen on how she helps students navigate grief, divorce, and trials as they try to complete school responsibilities.  

Join Greg and Jen and special guest Claire Pachuilo, licensed marriage and family counselor, as they dive a little deeper into the world of mental health and the effects of grief and loss on children and families. Claire's extensive experience in such approaches as Internal Family Systems (IFS), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), as well as Dialectal Behavioral Therapy (DBT) gives her great insight into how the mind and body processes trauma.

Join Greg and Jen as the discuss the benefits of counseling with special guest Bailey Tonkinson.  Bailey shares his insight into the importance of getting the right help when going through grief.

As we begin this series on Biblical counseling, Greg and Jen begin the discussion on what is Biblical counseling and the benefits of talking through your grief.  In this series, we will have guests on to talk about their own experiences as well as professional counselors offering their expertise.

Everyone responds to grief differently.  In this episode, Greg and Jen revisit Day 1 of telling the kids about what happened.  Greg shares how his kids handled losing their mom and Jen shares how her kids handled hearing Dad was moving out.  

The final chapter of Jen's story is shared in this episode.  Listen as Jen shares what life was like directly following the divorce and how she created a new normal.

This second to last installment of Jen's story dives deeper into the realities of going through a divorce.  She discusses the difficulties of talking through mediation and the reality of those first few times you have to drop the kids off at the other person's place.

Jen continues to share her story as she brings us through the last part of the end of her marriage.

Recently Greg shared his story, and in this episode, Jen shares hers.  In part 1, Jen shares what it was like going through the initial loss of a marriage. 

Greg and Jen are beginning a series on Marriage and Family when it comes to the Fraternity.  You don't want to miss this series as they go deep into topics like divorce, counseling, parenting other people's kids, etc. 

In this episode, Greg shares his story and the raw emotions that come with being in the "day of" the tragedy each year.  Listen as he shares his story and experiences. 

In this last part of the series, Greg and Jen talk about the wisdom that can be gained from leaning into those who have journeyed before us.  They jump into the Bible to feature some key men and women who have grieved well.

In this episode, Greg and Jen tackle the topic of dating again after loss and all the "News" that come with life after loss.  Listen as Greg and Jen share the ups and downs of dating all the way from "how do you flirt" to "who is a good fit"! As well, they touch on how difficult it is to encounter new experiences when they could trigger old emotions.  So much in this episode!

In this episode, Greg and Jen dive a little deeper into the topic of those left behind after loss.  They discuss the kids, and more specifically what happens when the kids go through grief and their community happens to exist mostly on social media.  The use of technology to chronicle grief can be tricky, especially for teens.  Don't miss this episode! 

In this episode, Greg and Jen discuss those left behind after loss.  There is so much life to sort through when you enter into the Fraternity.  This episode focuses on the influence you have over others.  It's difficult to keep emotions in check when you are grieving and yet it is so important.

In this episode, Greg and Jen share several stories of those who have lost loved ones and tried to start life again after loss.  Listen in as they discuss the ups and downs of this process and also bring in the hope of Christ.  

In the Fraternity, there are timeless truths that come with grief and loss. Listen as Greg and Jen talk about this from two perspectives of people lost (death and broken relationships). Whether this is day 1 or day 1,000, these timeless truths will encourage and guide you ultimately toward healing through Christ.

People lost. Greg and Jen take a deep dive in to the difficulties of losing someone to death or divorce. They bring in Scripture to support the process of moving forward.

We're back! Greg and Jen are back with new content for Season 3. Throughout this season, Greg and Jen will go deep into the topics that are sometimes difficult to work through in the Fraternity like understanding others' perspectives, taking care of your own needs, and handling the bumps life hands you after you think you have healed. This is all brought to you through the lens of the Bible. You don't want to miss this season!

In this episode, Greg and Jen introduce the 10-week series on Unwanted Fraternity Relationships. During this series, they will discuss topics like marriage, family time, conflict, divorce, and blended families.

In this episode, Jen & Greg discuss the ups and downs of dating!  Greg spends time asking Jen her for her wisdom and advice and a very practical and yet sometimes controversial topic - dating. The couple have 5 children, ranging in age from 16 - 23 yrs old, so they've seen it all!  Join them in a somewhat light-hearted but powerful discussion!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg finish their discussion on Mental Health by discussing what options there have been, and are, for the local church. So many decisions are made by a local pastor and volunteer board of elders involving the congregation that often this issue of mental health gets bypassed.  Listen in as the couple discusses what can be done at the local church level to help those in need. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg continue their discussion on Mental Health and the Bible. The couple focuses on mental health & men in the Bible, Join the Tonkinsons for a biblically based discussion on mental health!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg continue their discussion on Mental Health and the Bible. The couple focuses on mental health & men in the Bible. Join the Tonkinsons for a biblically based discussion on mental health!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg continue their discussion on Mental Health and the Bible. The couple focuses on mental health & women in the Bible, particularly the woman with blood (Luke 8) and Naomi/Ruth (Ruth). Join the Tonkinsons for a biblically based discussion on mental health!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg continue their discussion on Mental Health and the Bible. Amazingly, mental health issues are not a modern phenomenon! Traumatic events took place thousands of years ago and they're recorded in the Bible!  Listen in as the Tonkinsons discuss some of these events.  As well, the couple will share incredible (and practical) resources pertaining to mental health. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg address Bible characters who were challenged with moments of trauma. Join the couple as they dive into the Scriptures and learn from God through these amazing men and women!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg recap the previous 10 podcasts pertaining to Mental Health and Grief.  Join the couple as they look back on an amazing 10 episodes!  Also, listen in for some valuable mental health resources that you can tap in to as well as share with others!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Greg concludes his discussion with Kevin Meek regarding mental health and men. Kevin shares his story, the ups and downs, how the church has responded to mental health, and what he has found as success in this area. A must listen!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Greg interviews Kevin Meek to discuss mental health and men. Kevin shares his riveting story of his challenges and successes through the years.  You will not want to miss this first (of two) episodes to hear Kevin's insight and wisdom on mental health and men. His story will grip you! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jennifer, Nicole, and Donna continue their discussion on Mental Health and Women. Donna and Nicole (mother and daughter) dive deeper into the this topic by addressing their own journeys, how women in the church have responded, and what can be done to continue encouraging women who are struggling with mental health issues. You'll want to tune in to this episode!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Join Jennifer, Nicole, and Donna as they have a much needed discussion on Mental Health and Women. Donna and Nicole (mother and daughter) share their stories and give valuable insight into this topic.  You will want to tune in to this two-part series!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg continue a fascinating discussion with special guest David Ruybalid on mental health and the church.  David's wisdom, intellect, and love for God's people provides an amazing discussion on such a needed topic!  Do not miss this episode! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg are joined by special guest David Ruybalid to discuss mental health and the church.  You are not going to want to miss this fascinating discussion as the couple dive in head first with David into a discussion that involves David's story and his wisdom on mental health and the local church!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen and Greg continue this fascinating discussion with Dom Pachuilo and Claire Graff about mental health and youth. Incredible stories and keen insight will keep you tuned in! Dom & Claire open up their wealth of knowledge and insight into this topic! Listening to this couple is a must! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen and Greg have the privilege of talking with Dom Pachuilo and Claire Graff about mental health and youth. Their stories and professional work will immediately draw you in! Join us for this two-part series on such a powerful, an important topic – mental health and youth. Learn from this couple how to understand and wrestle with mental health challenges amidst grief.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg continue their unbelievable discussion with Trauma Coach, Shawna Meek.  Shawna reveals to the couple not only how she survived infidelity in her marriage, but also how God restored her marriage to Kevin in ways neither could anticipate. Shawna has much needed wisdom for our listeners on what to do when you experience trauma in a marriage. A must listen to!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode Jen & Greg have the pleasure of spending time with Trauma Coach, Shawna Meek. Shawna's story is one you will not be disappointed in! Join us as we dive in to how God worked in Shawna and Kevin's marriage through the tremendous highs and devastating lows. You do not want to miss this epidsode!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg Tonkinson continue their discussion with Caden & Nicole Tonkinson on the topic of self-control. The young married couple share their thoughts on how they grow in self-control as a couple and as individuals, and how they have exercised self-control in their grief. Powerful moments in this episode from Caden & Nicole!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg have the pleasure of interviewing Caden & Nicole Tonkinson on the topic of gentleness. Caden & Nicole share their powerful stories of how their challenging upbringing helped shape their lives, how gentleness affects dealing with grief, and the joys and challenges of being newly married. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg launch in to a frank discussion on an aspect of the Fruit of the Spirit that is easy to understand but very difficult to apply - faithfulness. Join in on the discussion and listen to how UF members can receive God's faithfulness and apply that faithfulness to others, even during the trying times of life. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg discuss the benefits and challenges of practicing kindness. Join them as they dive head first in to this wonderful episode!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg tackle the difficult topic of goodness. Greg leads this discussion and focuses on God's goodness, our need to act with goodness, the logical aspect of goodness, and the experiential aspect of goodness. The couple attempt to answer such questions like, What is goodness?, How can God be good if my life is so painful?, and, Why is it so hard to act with goodness? Too much to talk about in too little time!  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg pick up where they left off - talking about patience.  Jen leads this discussion on the real challenges and tremendous blessings of living in a spirit of patience while navigating tragedy. Join us for a very honest discussion on patience!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the second of this two-part episode, Jen & Greg spend the episode with special guests Damon "Coach" and Cindy Gilliland. The couple share their experience with cancer which hit Coach not only once, but twice.  Join the conversation and listen to how this amazing couple dealt with tragic news and how they continue to place their hope in Jesus! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Jen & Greg spend the episode with special guests Damon "Coach" and Cindy Gilliland. The couple share their experience with cancer, how it has impacted them and where they find the strength to exhibit patience in the midst of a severe storm. Don't miss this first of two episodes with Coach and Cindy!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.