Podcasts about emotionally focused therapy eft

In Episode 365 of Through a Therapist's Eyes, the panel dives into a candid discussion on one of life's heaviest decisions: determining whether a marriage is truly over or simply deeply wounded. Exploring critical warning signs like abuse and addiction alongside the transformative lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), this episode helps couples untangle whether their true enemy is their partner or a negative interaction cycle. Through powerful reflection questions and practical guidance on emotional safety, listeners are encouraged to slow down and evaluate their relationship intentionally—ensuring that whether the path leads to reconciliation or letting go with dignity, the outcome is rooted in clarity, healing, and peace. Tune in to see if your Marriage is Really Over Through a Therapist's Eyes.

What if the therapy that was supposed to help actually made things worse?For many survivors of coercive control, couples therapy doesn't bring clarity, it deepens confusion, self-doubt, and shame.In this episode, I'm joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Frances Russell to talk about why traditional couples therapy can be harmful when coercive control or domestic violence is present. We discuss what survivors should know, what therapists often miss, and why understanding patterns of power and control—not just isolated incidents—is essential.Whether you're a survivor wondering why couples therapy didn't work or a mental health professional wanting to better recognize coercive control, this conversation offers practical insights and compassionate validation.In this episode, we discuss:Why couples therapy can unintentionally reinforce coercive control.How neutrality can cause harm when abuse is present.The subtle signs therapists should be watching for.Why assessment for coercive control is an ongoing process—not a one-time intake questionnaire.The difference between incident-based and pattern-based thinking.What survivors can do if they're looking back and realizing therapy caused additional harm.Considerations for therapists when ending couples therapy due to safety concerns.What to know about therapy notes, confidentiality, and family court.About Frances: Frances works as a therapist for both individuals and couples, and specializes in trauma recovery, helping people rebuild trust in themselves, others and life after experiences that have shattered it. She works with clients who want to process childhood abuse and neglect as well as others who come in to process recent, traumatic experiences between themselves and their partner. She primarily uses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with couples and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) with individuals. In addition to being a therapist, Frances is a trauma-informed yoga instructor with Comeback Yoga, an organization that supports veterans and their families. Frances also teaches graduate students at Regis University and her courses include Crisis, Trauma and Loss and Human Growth and Development.In her free time, Frances enjoys staying active and getting outdoors through running, backpacking and skiing. She is also always on the lookout for new restaurants and recipes.Register for the Free Webinar Series - Why Co-Parenting Feels Like a Trap  here - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coparentingPlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies!Choosing Your Battles FreebieCanned Responses FreebieMic Drop Moments Freebie...

Welcome to We Heart Therapy, your destination for training, clinical conversations, and inspiration for Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) therapists around the world. In this episode, Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT, ICEEFT Certified EFT/EFIT/EFFT Supervisor & Therapist and EFT Community Leader for Southern NV EFT, sits down with Kathryn DeBruin, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, originally with the San Diego Center for EFT, now practicing and training in Utah, and a pioneer in helping develop the South African EFT community. Together, they explore one of the most important topics for developing EFT therapists: How do we effectively work with more complex cases in Emotionally Focused Therapy?  As therapists grow in their EFT journey, they inevitably encounter clients whose presentations require greater flexibility, deeper attunement, and a more nuanced understanding of attachment science. In this rich clinical discussion, Kathryn shares decades of experience helping therapists navigate these challenging moments while staying grounded in the EFT model. In this episode, you'll learn: ✨ What makes a case "complex" in EFT ✨ How to stay anchored in the attachment model when sessions become difficult ✨ Working with trauma, high conflict, and complicated relationship dynamics ✨ Common challenges therapists encounter—and how to navigate them effectively ✨ Clinical wisdom for maintaining emotional presence under pressure ✨ How complexity can become an opportunity for deeper healing and secure attachment Whether you're new to EFT or an experienced Certified EFT Therapist/Supervisor, this conversation offers practical guidance, thoughtful reflection, and clinical pearls that can immediately enhance your work with couples and individuals. If you're committed to growing as an attachment-based therapist, this is an episode you won't want to miss. ---

Before making one of life's most permanent decisions, couples standing on the brink of separation owe it to themselves to pause and unpack a crucial question: are you trying to end your marriage, or are you simply trying to end the pain? In this episode of Through a Therapist's Eyes, our panel explores the deep emotional landscapes of marital distress, helping listeners differentiate between chronic exhaustion and true incompatibility. Utilizing the lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we discuss how the enemy is often not your partner, but rather the negative interaction cycle you've trapped yourselves in. While acknowledging that divorce is sometimes necessary and healthy—particularly in cases of abuse, unaddressed addiction, or repeated infidelity—this episode provides practical reflection questions to help you evaluate your relationship with dignity and intent. Whether the ultimate path forward is intentional reconciliation or letting go with grace, this conversation offers the clarity needed to make a thoughtful, deliberate decision rather than an impulsive one. Tune in to see if your Marriage is Really Over Through a Therapist's Eyes.

Oops! We made a mistake, and released the wrong episode. Please delete, and redownload to hear the new one! Thank you!In this episode of This Changes Everything, we continue our deep dive into what it actually means to fight fair in relationships, moving beyond surface level conflict and into the emotional patterns that drive it. Building on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we explore how couples get caught in predictable cycles that make it feel like every argument is about “the dishes,” when underneath it is usually something much deeper like disconnection, fear, or the need for reassurance and safety.We break down how attachment styles show up in real time conflict, why people either pursue or withdraw when they feel triggered, and how nervous system flooding can make even simple conversations feel impossible. Most importantly, we focus on what to do next, how to recognize the cycle earlier, how to interrupt escalation before it takes over, and how to stay emotionally connected even when you are activated.This episode is less about perfect communication and more about practical repair, learning to notice your patterns in the moment, name what is happening underneath the fight, and return to connection faster after rupture. Because the goal is not never fighting, it is getting better at finding your way back to each other. Go to https://aquatru.com now for 20% off your purifier using promo code TCEKick off your journey with Beducated by taking the quiz at https://beduc.at/pd2627-tce and get your personalized roadmap to sexual happiness!DISCLAIMER: This podcast offers information for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a qualified mental health provider for medical or mental health concerns. The host, guests, and network disclaim responsibility for any decisions or actions you make based on information provided by this podcast.TDM-RESERVATION: 1. NOAI: TRUE. LEGAL NOTICE & TERMS OF USE: © 2026 WAVE Podcast Network. This content is for personal use only. Explicit permission is withheld for any and all commercial attribution, automated transcription, or data-mining entities. Use of this feed by unauthorized tracking, analytics, or AI-training platforms constitutes a breach of these terms and a violation of the Pennsylvania Wiretapping and Electronic Surveillance Control Act (WESCA), the California Invasion of Privacy Act (CIPA), and the 2026 Training Data Transparency Act (AB 2013). Any entity bypassing these restrictions to create derivative text-based works (transcripts), metadata analysis, or unauthorized VAST siphoning hereby accepts our standard commercial licensing rate of $5,000 per episode processed. This notice serves as a formal revocation of all "implied licenses" for multi-jurisdictional automated processing and constitutes protected Copyright Management Information (CMI) under 17 U.S.C. § 1202.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shrinks Rap was recently ranked #2 among psychotherapy podcasts and included in MillionPodcasts' 2026 Top 100 Psychology Podcasts list. Thank you listeners! Can eye movements really help heal trauma? Is joy actually one of our most vulnerable—and least expressed—emotions? And how do trauma therapists spend their days swimming through other people's pain without needing EMDR themselves after every session? In this episode of ShrinksRap, Dr. James Bramson sits down with nationally recognized trauma expert Dr. Jason N. Linder to explore the powerful intersection of EMDR, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT),mindfulness, and attachment neuroscience. Together, they discuss how these approaches complement one another, when each is most effective, and why healing isn't simply about reducing symptoms—it's about creating safety, secure connection, resilience, and the freedom to fully engage in life. The conversation also ventures beyond the therapy office to explore what gives therapists joyand meaning, why the ability to say “no” is essential for emotional safety and effective clinical supervision, and how today's immigration climate is affecting Latino and immigrant communities. Along the way, Dr. Linder shares practical wisdom for clinicians, hope for those recovering from trauma, and lessons learned from decades of helping people heal. Whether you're a therapist, psychology student, or simply fascinated by how people grow and recover, this episode is filled with warmth, clinical insight, and just enough humor to remind us that eventrauma therapists occasionally laugh… usually after making sure everyone has completed their resourcing exercise.Credits:River is High, Ticketless TravelerCarl Reisman, guitar, singer, and songwriterJenny Goodwine, vocalsJames Singleton, bassJohnny Vidocovich, drumsDave Easley, steel guitarProduced by Morgan Orion Reismanfor more information, carlreisman@gmail.comCopyright 2025WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here

Ever wonder why we swap vulnerability for anger, or why a simple disagreement can feel like a threat to your entire relationship? In Episode 360 of Through a Therapist's Eyes, we unlock the invisible force that determines whether your relationships thrive or fracture: emotional safety. We dive into why humans swap "I'm hurt" for "You never listen," how subtle relationship killers like invalidation quietly erode trust, and how the core principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can completely rewrite your connection with partners and children alike. Tune in for a raw look at what it truly takes to dismantle your defenses and build a bond safe enough for reality. Tune in to see Emotional Safety Through a Therapist's Eyes.

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/7bf-FUL0Hw8. Our guest in this episode, Dr. Rachel Orleck, uses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in her work with couples. She explains how EFT applies the insights of attachment theory to help couples find safe, deep reconnection. And, much to my (Bruce's) delight, she points out that working on communication doesn't solve the problem! (Recall that one my books is called It's Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong.) Rachel's website is https://drrachelorleck.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. Bruce's self-paced video courses are now available! More information: https://brucechalmer.com/courses. Use the coupon code “ctin7” for 20% off! Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.   #CouplesTherapyInSevenWords #ctin7 #DrBruceChalmer #JudyAlexander

Ever wonder why a minor argument over unwashed dishes can spiral into a major blowup? In Episode 359 of Through a Therapist's Eyes, we pull back the layers on why we so often react with anger when we are actually feeling deeply hurt. Drawing on the principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), this episode breaks down the crucial difference between our immediate, vulnerable primary emotions—like fear, loneliness, and rejection—and the protective secondary emotions like anger and defensiveness that act as emotional bodyguards. We explore how intellectualizing our feelings can trap us in cycles of criticism, and how learning to voice the true experience underneath can transform our relationships and build genuine emotional safety. Tune in to challenge yourself with practical reflection questions and discover how replacing "you're impossible" with "I'm hurt" can radically change how you connect with those you love. Tune in to see When We're Actually Hurting Through a Therapist's Eyes.

In this powerful EFT training discussion, We Heart Therapy host (Anabelle Bugatti) Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT/EFT Supervisor/Therapist sits down with Emotionally Focused Therapy trainer Dr. Ting Liu and explores how therapists can effectively work with ambivalence in couples therapy and attachment-based healing. Ambivalence is one of the most common challenges therapists encounter in EFT sessions, especially when partners feel stuck between connection and protection, longing and fear, or closeness and withdrawal, staying or leaving. In this conversation, Dr. Ting Liu shares clinical insight into: • Working with emotional ambivalence in EFT • Helping couples navigate uncertainty and emotional disconnection • EFT interventions for pursuer-withdrawer dynamics • Clinical applications of Emotionally Focused Therapy with Ambivalence Whether you are an EFT therapist, LMFT, psychologist, counseling student, or simply interested in attachment science and relationship healing, this video offers valuable insights into the EFT process and how to work with complex relational dynamics.  

Send us Fan MailYou've thought about it. Maybe more than once. Maybe every time things get heavy and you tell yourself "I should really talk to someone." But then life picks back up and you don't. This episode is for you.Sami and Angela dig into the part nobody really talks about when it comes to therapy: how do you actually find a good one? Not just "any therapist," but one who works the way your brain works, who fits your situation, and who you can afford. They've both been in therapy. They've had mediocre experiences and transformative ones. And they have some very specific thoughts about what makes the difference, starting with what's on a therapist's website.In this episode, they get into:Why Cognitive Behavioral Therapy alone may leave you feeling like nothing really changedWhat Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method actually are, and why Angela thinks they're rock-solid scienceHow to use a therapist's practice as a resource even if you don't share them with a friend or partnerReal options for making therapy affordable, including income-qualified practices and university student therapistsThe tiny baby step they're inviting you to take this week (it does not involve calling anyone)Angela shares her own history with the U of A counseling center—one great experience, one mediocre one—and explains exactly what she looks for on a therapist's website before she'd ever recommend them. Sami makes the case that therapists, like coaches, operate from a place of collaboration, not competition. There are so many people who need support and so few ways to get it that a good therapist will help you find a fit even if that fit isn't them.If you've been sitting on the idea of therapy, this episode gives you permission to start small. You don't have to call. You don't have to book. You just have to look. That's the whole invitation. And sometimes that one tiny step is the one that actually changes everything.Press play. Seriously.Mentioned in this episode:Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): https://iceeft.comThe Gottman Method: https://gottman.comFind a Gottman-trained therapist: https://gottmanreferralnetwork.comFind an EFT therapist: https://directory.iceeft.comUniversity of Arkansas Counseling & Psychological Services: https://uacaps.uark.eduThe 3rd Annual Family Business Forum is May 19 in Springdale, AR. A day built for family-owned businesses who want to communicate better, lead stronger, and actually enjoy working together. Sessions on communication, AI, and high performance, plus a panel, awards, and networking. Early bird tickets are $75 through April 30, then the price goes up. Grab your spot before May 1 at familybusinessnow.com. Support the showSign up at bfreakingawesome.com to get the latest news, insights, and episodes straight to your inbox.Follow Be Freaking Awesome on Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube, and Instagram.Let us know what questions you want to be answered and discussed by emailing us at podcast@bfreakingawesome.com.

Introducing the Intimacy Repair Method: A New Path to Healing, Connection, and Lasting Change What if the reason your relationship feels stuck isn't a lack of effort—but a lack of a clear model for connection? In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner (LMFT-S) and MaryAnne Michaelis, LCSW introduce the Intimacy Repair Method (IRM)—a comprehensive, research-informed framework designed to help individuals and couples rebuild trust, improve communication, and create deeper emotional connection. Drawing from decades of clinical experience and integrating leading models like Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Polyvagal Theory, Dr. Skinner explains why most people were never taught how to build healthy relationships—and how that gap continues to impact us today. You'll learn: Why most people rate their relationship models growing up below a 5 out of 10 The foundational role of safety in all meaningful connection How generational patterns shape communication, conflict, and intimacy The phases of the Intimacy Repair Method, including assessment, stabilization, and relational repair Why understanding your nervous system responses is key to transforming conflict How personalized assessments can guide real, measurable change in your relationship Whether you've experienced betrayal, feel disconnected, or simply want a stronger relationship, this episode offers a clear roadmap forward. Resources Mentioned Core Resources Human Intimacy Website (Course + Registration): https://www.humanintimacy.com Upcoming Course: Intimacy Repair Method – 12-Week Live Webinar Experience Start Date: May 7, 2026 Includes: Personalized relationship assessments Weekly live Q&A sessions Role-play practice scenarios Ongoing access to recordings and materials Key Concepts & Models Referenced Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) – A structured pathway for relational healing and growth Perceived Relational Safety – Feeling emotionally safe, open, and secure in your relationship Polyvagal Theory – Understanding how your nervous system drives connection, conflict, and safety Gottman Method – Research-based insights on communication and conflict patterns Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) – Attachment-based approach to strengthening emotional bonds Zeigarnik Effect – How unresolved issues keep relationships stuck Differentiation – Developing a strong sense of self while staying connected in relationships Assessments Mentioned Self-Assessment (Individual Awareness) “Test Your Relationship” Assessment Provides up to 90 pages of personalized feedback Identifies strengths, breakdowns, and actionable next steps Key Takeaway Most people aren't failing in relationships because they don't care—they're struggling because they were never shown how to succeed. The Intimacy Repair Method offers a clear, structured way to learn what works—and finally create the connection you've been looking for.  

Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. In this episode of Push the Leading Edge, Dr. James Hawkins (Doc Hawk) and Dr. Ryan Rana unpack what it actually looks and feels like when a couple reaches the end of Stage 2 in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). They move beyond theory and manuals into the lived, embodied reality: couples who can stay in the emotional “fire,” face their deepest shame and pain, and still reach for each other. Using vivid metaphors—from Navy SEAL training, battle buddies, and swim buddies, to military deployments and “embrace the suck”—they illustrate how Stage 2 work transforms not just the relationship, but each partner's internal sense of self and safety. Top 10 Takeaways from This Episode End of Stage 2 = Installed Positive Cycle You know you're at the end of Stage 2 when couples can see, use, and stay in a positive cycle on their own. The negative cycle isn't “gone,” but they can repair it reliably and return to connection. It's Not About Trying, It's About Training Stage 2 is like military training: repeated, high‑pressure enactments (often ~30+ deep enactments across Stage 2) build automatic, embodied responses, not just cognitive insight. When the “bricks clack” (the trigger of the negative cycle), their bodies now know what to do. Caregiving System Comes Online A key marker of Stage 2 completion is that each partner's caregiving system is active and available. Partners start pre‑emptively making space for the other's pain, even before a clear signal is sent, and can say, in effect, “I know this might be hard for you, and I'm here.” “I Must Be Willing to Know Me to Be Known by You” Borrowing from Leanne Campbell, James highlights that clients must be willing to know themselves—all the versions of self—for true intimacy. By end of Stage 2, clients are less afraid of their inner world; they befriend previously shame-filled parts and bring them into the relationship. Both Partners Can Go Deep and Offer A.R.E. True Stage 2 completion means both partners can: Go deep into vulnerability without getting stuck in blame or avoidance Offer A.R.E. (Accessibility, Responsiveness, Engagement) as caregivers It's not enough for just one partner to do deep work; dyadic reciprocity is crucial. From “Fix Me” to “Be With Me” A major shift is from “please fix me or fix this” to “be with me in this.” Therapists should mark not only outcomes but effort and presence: “Look how you stayed with your partner for 30 minutes in the basement of their pain without trying to fix it.” Confidence and Relational Resilience Grow Couples leave Stage 2 with a felt sense of, “We can do this.” They have experiential proof that under pressure they can rappel into the basement of pain, stay present, and emerge together—building relational resilience, not just symptom relief. Secure Bonds Are Simple but Not Easy Secure bonds aren't conceptually complicated: Show up Stay present Respond vulnerably and reliably The hard part is slowing down when the body wants to speed up and remaining vulnerably present in discomfort, not learning 50 relationship tricks. Battle Buddies and Swim Buddies: You're Not Alone in the Fire End of Stage 2 means each partner has a “battle buddy” / “swim buddy” / “wingman”—someone who will go into the fire with them, not just cheer from a distance. You cannot become a battle buddy without fire; Stage 2 requires going into pain, not just building safety around it. Therapists Must Mark and Install Key Moments A big part of the therapist's role is to slow down, mark, and install these turning points: Naming the risk Naming the caregiving response Naming the resilience and mutual effort This helps clients encode and remember how they did it, so they can find their way back outside of the session. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together!

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit https://helloalma.com/dg/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=paid&utm_campaign=privatepractice to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen about intensives & Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Rebecca is a Supervisor & Trainer for EFT, and one of the leaders for teaching the EFT model. Hear why intensives are a helpful way to provide safety & security for your clients, why you should do your own work as a couples therapist, how to be supportive to both partners at the same time, how to be gentle in the way you communicate with clients, and why couples therapy is some of the most rewarding work ever. To learn more about Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen and her trainings, visit: DrRebeccaJorgensen.com EFTCounseling.org Facebook & Instagram @EFTDoc Emotionally Focused Therapy Group Facebook Group You can also listen to Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen on Episode 271 & Episode 67 of The Couples Therapist Couch

Send us Fan Mail- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreTools for repairing The Sex Addiction impacted couples relationshipCouples get into a conflict dance of words and emotions, mostly because of their Attachment Fears - fears of being Abandoned. The conflict of words is rarely about the actual subject matter in dispute.  There is an under current of despair. It is rarely about the top left off the tooth paste or leaving the toilet seat up. Have a read of the Book “Hold me Tight” by Dr Sue Johnson.What goes wrong when love goes wrong. The clue is often in the childhood development years. Insecure Attachment is often at the root of the issues. Depleted Core Emotional Needs is a common feature. What are those 'Loves' which go wrong? Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service & Physical Touch.What is 'the childhood Development years: From birth to just after puberty. Templates get set up, which we practice and then take with us into adulthood, to form our pattern of responses; but they may have worked in childhood, in family, up were not exportable into the new couples relationship.What are those Insecure Attachments? Anxious Attachment, Avoidant Attachment & Dismissive/Fearful Attachment. The ideal outcome from childhood Development should have been 'Secure Attachment'.What are those Core Emotional Needs? The top 10 of them are Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, Attention, Comfort, Encouragement, Respect, Security & Support.Everyone of these issues have been looked at by me in past episodes. Go search them out.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Help someone: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreHelp is here for you: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelpGary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior, psychology, codependency, sex life, neuroscience, sex ed, sober, sobriety, sexual dysfunction, relationship issues, sex coach, sexual, trauma, ptsd, sex science, The sex porn love Addiction Podcast, The Singles Partners Marrieds and Long Time Marrieds Podcast, Gary McFarlane, porn addiction, what neuroscience says, neuroscience, young adults, sex, sex addict, porn, recovery, porn addiction issue, porn addiction in teens, sex addiction in teens, sex hormonesSupport the show

Welcome back to We Heart Therapy — your go-to channel for deep, experiential learning in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).   In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT — ICEEFT Certified EFT/EFIT/EFFT Supervisor & Therapist and EFT Community Leader for Southern NV EFT — sits down with Ali Barbosa, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer from the Mexico Center for EFT, to explore an essential question for every therapist:

Love alone isn't always enough to keep everyone under one roof feeling connected and secure. Despite the dream of harmony and the promise of new beginnings, many families find themselves struggling with uncertainty, misaligned expectations, and recurring conflicts that love simply can't resolve. Is it possible to create a sense of "home" where everyone feels seen, heard, and supported—without sacrificing your relationship or your own well-being? In this episode, listeners will discover why building a thriving blended family isn't just about love—it's about creating alignment through clear roles, structure, and intentional communication. The conversation explores the real-life challenges that stepfamilies and modern families face, including competing parenting philosophies, the presence of ex-partners, and loyalty struggles with children. Listeners will learn actionable strategies such as the Pause, Align, and Present method for unified parenting, tips for connecting before correcting, and ways to foster trust and emotional safety while honoring everyone's unique needs. Get ready to transform overwhelm into clarity, and confusion into a cooperative partnership—one step at a time. April is a licensed marriage and family therapist, stepfamily expert, and founder of Couples Thrive. She specializes in helping modern couples, especially those in blended families, create emotional safety, reduce conflict, and parent as a united team. She is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), one of the most research-backed approaches for couples, and her work has been featured in national outlets like Psychology Today and the Gottman Institute.   Episode Highlights 06:09 Unique challenges blended families face as they merge different histories and systems. 09:56 Building alignment through clear structure and defined expectations. 12:24 Navigating family differences with the 60-30-10 rule. 14:19 Smoothing family life with weekly check-ins and defined roles. 19:09 Setting realistic expectations and practicing patience in blended families. 23:22 Overcoming common challenges through preparation and planning. 25:22 Unifying parenting decisions with the Pause, Align, and Present method. 28:13 Modeling teamwork and authentic connection during disagreements. 31:34 Building mutual respect through the power of pausing. 35:58 Balancing parental authority while empowering children's voices. 39:36 Building trust as a stepparent by navigating loyalty binds. 43:19 Fostering respectful communication with clear boundaries and rules. 46:40 Helping blended families thrive with expert tools and support.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Start a shared journal or Notes app with your partner to track moments of alignment and areas of struggle throughout the week. Set aside time for a weekly alignment conversation where you review your journal and discuss patterns and sticky points together. Establish clear roles and expectations in your family system, considering each person's strengths and the needs of the children. Practice the "Pause, Align, and Present" method in moments of disagreement: pause the discussion, align privately, and then present a unified decision to the family. Use a 60-30-10 rule—aim for 60% compromise, navigate 30% gray areas, and allow 10% flexibility for the sake of peace. Involve children appropriately by hearing their voices and feelings, but maintain parental authority when making decisions. For stepparents, focus on connection before correction—build rapport and trust first before stepping into disciplinary roles. Regularly review your family values, using "we language" and modeling respectful communication, especially during challenging transitions or conflicts.   Mentioned Stepfamilies: Love, Marriage, and Parenting in the First Decade (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 313: How To Become A Successful Blended Family — An Interview With Ron Deal ERP 256: The Mistakes People Make When Blending Families And What To Do Instead – An Interview With Tracy Poizner Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication (free guide)   Connect with April Eldemire Website: couples-thrive.com Facebook: facebook.com/AprilEldemire YouTube: youtube.com/@couplesthrive Instagram: instagram.com/couplesthrive LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/april-eldemire-lmft-8a8b3059 TikTok: tiktok.com/@couples_thrive  

In this episode of Being Human with Steve Cuss, Steve interviews Justin Heap, an Enneagram coach and creative consultant, about the impact of his turbulent upbringing. Justin shares candidly about growing up amid parental conflict, frequent moves, and emotional turmoil, and how these experiences shaped his sense of safety, responsibility, and coping mechanisms. Together, they discuss the challenges of recognizing and processing childhood trauma, the influence of family dynamics on faith and relationships, and the ongoing journey toward healing and self-understanding through therapy and honest reflection. Episode Resources: More about Missio Alliance Enneagram Type Seven What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)? More From Justin Heap: Justin's Nine Spaces Enneagram Coaching Justin's Lines & Spaces podcast Read Justin's book By & By & Never: Poetry & Art Justin's Pax Coworking Justin's Curious Human creative consulting agency Sign up for Steve's Newsletter & Podcast Reminders: Capable Life Newsletter Get the Communication Styles Guide: https://capablelife.com/pages/podcast Join Steve at an Upcoming Intensive:  Capable Life Intensives Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cum arată relațiile în era digitală: cum ne afectează social media, aplicațiile de dating și ecranele capacitatea de a ne atașa? Simona Herb, trainer internațional în Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), ne explică de ce ne conectăm mai greu, de ce jucăm jocuri psihologice în online și ce putem face pentru a avea relații mai sănătoase.Simona Herb este președintele Asociației de Psihoterapie Sistemică Centrată pe Emoții (EFT România) și coordonatorul centrului de psihoterapie EFT Hub. Acesta este al patrulea episod dintr-un sezon dedicat relațiilor, realizat împreună cu Pagina de Psihologie. Astăzi discutăm despre:Cum ne prezentăm în social media și nevoia de atașament din spateJocurile psihologice din online ca forme de tatonareProtestul ca formă de a "recupera" atașamentulGhosting din perspectiva atașamentului evitant și anxiosCercetări despre dating apps și iluzia opțiunilor infiniteFlirt digital, infidelitate și cum stabilim limite în cupluDe ce arhivele digitale blochează doliul relațional și cum să ne eliberămResurse menționate în conversație:Cartea Liquid Love, de Zygmunt BaumanPreferințe declarate vs. alegeri reale în dating - Cacioppo & FinkelFlirt online ca infidelitate - Cravens & Whiting (2021)Episodul cu Marc Lewis despre neuroștiința din spatele adicțieiRespingerea și rețelele neuronale - Helen FisherRolul uitării în reglare emoțională - Schacter & EichCursuri și formări în metoda EFT - Asociația de Psihoterapie Centrată pe Emoții pentru Cuplu și FamiliePsihoterapie cu terapeuți acreditați în folosirea metodei EFTWorkshop pentru cupluri: Ține-mă strâns în brațeCurs online: Ține-mă strâns în brațe Episodul cu Daniel Siegel despre experimentul Still Face al lui Edward Tronick David Buss în dialog cu Andrew Huberman despre Psihologie evoluționistă -Intră live alături de noi în înregistrarea episoadelor și primește răspunsuri la ce te interesează cel mai mult. Vino în Comunitatea Membrilor Mind ArchitectAcest episod este produs și distribuit cu susținerea PPC România."(00:00) Intro""(01:59) Relații în era digitală: temele episodului""(05:43) Cum ne prezentăm și ne vindem în social media""(08:22) Sistemul nervos vs. ecrane: incompatibilitate profundă""(10:55) Nevoia de atașament din spatele like-urilor""(13:48) Instant gratification și impactul asupra creierului copiilor""(18:00) Atașament securizant: diferența dintre a ști și a simți iubirea""(20:07) David Buss: despre ce mint bărbații și femeile în online""(22:25) Iubirea lichidă: de ce ne atașăm tot mai greu""(25:30) Castelul din jurul inimii: cum ne protejăm și izolăm""(28:28) Cele 4 etape ale deconectării: de la protest la detașare""(33:50) Depresia relațională""(37:25) Detașarea""(40:43) Postări strategice ca tentative de reconectare""(47:44) Teoria opțiunilor infinite și iluzia ierbii mai verzi""(51:07) Jocurile psihologice de la începutul relației""(56:30) Dating apps: cum funcționează și ce impact au""(01:00:53) Ce spun că vor și ce aleg de fapt oamenii""(01:04:18) Speed dating vs. profil și criterii""(01:07:34) AI-ul ratează umanitatea din noi""(01:10:00) Lucruri nenegociabile în relație""(01:15:03) Ghosting și atașament: evitanți și anxioși""(01:17:56) Experimentul Still Face: efectul lipsei de răspuns""(01:21:19) Silent treatment vs. ghosting""(01:26:03) După infidelitate: negare, criză și reacția de panică""(01:31:21) Comparația cu alte cupluri din online și efectele ei""(01:36:40) Igiena digitală: cum ne limităm timpul și conținutul pe social media""(01:45:05) Flirt digital, mesaje private și infidelitate emoțională""(01:48:16) Ce e acceptabil și ce nu: granițe și reguli""(01:53:11) Contact cu foștii: autenticitate vs. siguranța relației""(01:59:04) Efortul în relații: contraintuitiv, neromantic dar necesar""(02:01:27) Arhivele digitale și doliul relațional blocat""(02:05:55) Infantil sau util: ștergerea pozelor și blocarea online""(02:11:02) Ritualuri și recomandări pentru conectare"

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This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit https://helloalma.com/dg/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=paid&utm_campaign=privatepractice to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this episode, Shane talks with Liz Phillips about Internal Family Systems (IFS) & Couples. Liz is a therapist trained in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (SP), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and IFS. Hear what's so unique about IFS, how it avoids common vicious cycles, how to move your clients to focus on themselves first, how to create clarity for your clients, and why every therapist should do their own therapy. To learn more about Liz Phillips & IFS, visit: LizPhillipsTherapy.Ca IFS-Institute.com  

Welcome to We Heart Therapy – The EFT Talk Series, where we explore the heart of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) through meaningful conversations with leaders in the field. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Senem Zeytinoğlu, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer and Founder of the Turkey Center for EFT in Istanbul, for a rich and thoughtful discussion on Self of the Therapist (SOT) issues in EFT Supervision—and why this work is essential for ethical, effective, and emotionally present EFT practice. Self of the Therapist work helps EFT therapists understand how their own attachment histories, emotional triggers, and nervous system responses show up in clinical work and supervision. Dr. Zeytinoğlu shares how attending to SOT deepens therapist resilience, strengthens the therapeutic alliance, and ultimately leads to better outcomes for couples and individuals.

What was the moment you realized you were spending more time diagnosing your partner than actually working on the relationship?Dr. Isabelle Morley breaks down why therapy language has become our defense mechanism instead of our healing tool. This conversation goes beyond surface-level awareness into why using clinical terms to explain our pain actually keeps us stuck in the pattern.What you'll learn:Why the person doing the diagnosing often needs more workHow weaponizing therapy speak blocks real intimacy and accountabilityThe negative cycle that makes everyone look pathological when triggeredDr. Isabelle Morley is a couples therapist practicing Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Her work focuses on helping people stop using clinical language as a weapon and start accessing the vulnerability underneath their defenses.Find Isabelle's book "They're Not Gaslighting You" and all links at: mindlove.com/437Ready to stop diagnosing and start doing the actual work with real support? Join the free Mind Love Collective for monthly themed calls and weekly challenge accountability. mindlove.com/joinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Arkadiy Volkov is a Registered Psychotherapist and the founder of Feel Your Way Therapy, a private practice in Toronto specializing in trauma-informed care. After a decade-long career as a lawyer, Arkadiy made a personal and professional transformation, shifting into psychotherapy to help people heal from anxiety, trauma, and relationship challenges.At Feel Your Way Therapy, Arkadiy leads a team of therapists who work with individuals, couples, children, and families using approaches such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), EMDR, CBT, DBT, and somatic-based practices. His work is rooted in attachment theory and the belief that healing happens through safe, attuned connection.Arkadiy is especially passionate about helping people move beyond protective strategies like emotional shutdown or perfectionism, and into deeper self-acceptance and secure connection.In This EpisodeArkadiy's websiteArkadiy on IGBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-trauma-therapist--5739761/support.You can learn more about what I do here:The Trauma Therapist Newsletter: celebrates the people and voices in the mental health profession. And it's free! Check it out here: https://bit.ly/4jGBeSa———If you'd like to support The Trauma Therapist Podcast and the work I do you can do that here with a monthly donation of $5, $7, or $10: Donate to The Trauma Therapist Podcast.Click here to join my email list and receive podcast updates and other news.Thank you to our Sponsors:Incogni - Use code [traumatherapist] and get 60% off annual plans: https://incogni.com/traumatherapistJane App - use code GUY1MO at https://jane.app/book_a_demoJourney Clinical - visit https://join.journeyclinical/trauma for 1 month off your membershipTherapy Wisdom - https://therapywisdom.com/jan/

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit https://helloalma.com/dg/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=paid&utm_campaign=privatepractice to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen about Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Rebecca is a Supervisor & Trainer for EFT, and one of the leaders for teaching the EFT model. Hear why you should consider the EFT model, how to stay grounded as a couples therapist, how to stop your clients from arguing, why self-compassion can be the key to helping your clients, and where to get good EFT support. To learn more about Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen and her trainings, visit: DrRebeccaJorgensen.com Facebook & Instagram @EFTDoc Emotionally Focused Therapy Group Facebook Group

Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. In this episode, the hosts kick off a brand-new mini-series exploring one of the most challenging dynamics in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): red-light caregiving responses—those pivotal moments when vulnerability is met with shutdown, panic, or defensive reactivity. Drawing on real cases, supervision moments, and personal experience as EFT trainers, James and Ryan clarify the difference between “green-light” and “red-light” caregiving, unpack why these responses emerge, and offer practical strategies for therapists in the heat of high-stakes attachment moments. To support our mission and help us continue producing impactful content, your financial contributions via Venmo (@leftpodcast) are greatly appreciated. They play a significant role in keeping this valuable resource available and are a testament to your commitment to our cause. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together!

Send us a textDo you ever wonder why the same arguments keep surfacing in your relationship—or why it's so hard to feel truly heard and understood? In this episode, we explore the Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop, a powerful, science-backed experience based on Dr. Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).You'll hear how couples learn to slow down conflict, express deeper needs, and rebuild trust through forgiveness and compassion. Whether you're struggling with communication, distance, or resentment, this conversation offers hope—and tools—to reconnect and rediscover the love that first brought you together.Our next HMT couples workshop will be Feb 27-28 from Friday 2-8; Sat 10-5pmTo learn more contact: Shane Adamson 214-250-7808email: shaneadamsonlcsw@gmail.com. Website: https://cmfcdallas.com/

In Episode 219 of the Transition Drill Podcast, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) Brett Ryan has spent nearly two decades helping first responders and military veterans confront trauma, rebuild relationships, and reclaim their lives. Brett shares how he founded Brett Ryan Counseling and built a private practice trusted by police officers, firefighters, and military service members.Brett explains how trauma affects those who serve on the front lines and why many still struggle to seek help. He reveals how methods like Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) are transforming the way first responders and veterans process stress, recover from post-traumatic experiences, and reconnect with family.From his early years in ministry to his advanced clinical training, Brett's story is one of purpose and compassion. He discusses the stigma surrounding therapy, how confidentiality and trust are crucial for those in uniform, and the growing shift among younger first responders who now see therapy as mental maintenance rather than a last resort.This episode goes beyond the surface to explore what real healing looks like for those who protect others daily. It's a powerful conversation about resilience, emotional health, and the courage it takes to heal from the inside out.The best podcast for military veterans, police officers, firefighters, and first responders preparing for veteran transition and life after service. Helping you plan and implement strategies to prepare for your transition into civilian life.Follow the show and share it with another veteran or first responder who would enjoy this.CONNECT WITH THE PODCAST:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paulpantani/WEBSITE: https://www.transitiondrillpodcast.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paulpantani/SIGN-UP FOR THE NEWSLETTER:https://transitiondrillpodcast.com/home#aboutQUESTIONS OR COMMENTS:paul@transitiondrillpodcast.comSPONSORS:GRND CollectiveGet 15% off your purchaseLink: https://thegrndcollective.com/Promo Code: TRANSITION15Total Force Plus ConferenceLink: https://totalforceplus.org

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In this episode, Jennifer Nurick is joined by co-facilitators Kristy Ismay and Irina Gladushchenko to explore the inspiration and intention behind Divine Radiance: The Path of Light Retreat — a profound spiritual journey to southern India, set in the radiant energy of the Sri Shakti Narayani Sri Puram Temple. Together, they share their personal experiences of spiritual awakening in India, what makes this retreat so unique, and how stepping away from everyday life can help you reconnect to peace, devotion, and inner light. This episode is an invitation to remember the power of sacred space, spiritual community, and the healing energy that emerges when you say “yes” to retreat. What You'll Learn The deeper purpose and spiritual lineage behind Divine Radiance: The Path of Light Retreat What makes this experience different from other retreats Daily rhythms of the retreat and the energy of the Sri Puram Temple complex How mantra, puja, and Vedic practices support energetic cleansing and alignment The transformation that unfolds when you step into a sacred environment with intention How retreat helps you reconnect with joy, purpose, and divine presence Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome and story of how Divine Radiance began 05:12 – What first drew each facilitator to Amma and the Sri Puram Temple 10:38 – Personal stories of transformation and devotion in India 16:45 – Why this retreat was created and what makes it unique 22:04 – A day in the life at Divine Radiance: The Path of Light 27:33 – Supporting participants who are new to spiritual travel 33:21 – Transformation, healing, and creative renewal 38:40 – The community we co-create on retreat 42:18 – What to do if you feel called but nervous 46:00 – Each facilitator's deepest hope for participants 49:00 – How to join the retreat Facilitators Jennifer Nurick Psychotherapist, energy healer, and Director of the International Energetic Healing Association (IEHA). Jennifer has led international retreats for over a decade and integrates Western psychotherapy, trauma healing, and ancient spiritual traditions to guide others on the path to wholeness and connection. Kristy Ismay A heart-centred energy healer and Global Accreditations Manager for the IEHA. Kristy brings warmth, humour, and a nurturing presence to her work, blending professional teaching with intuitive healing and a deep love of community. Irina Gladushchenko Leadership and Management Trainer, Co-Lead Teacher of the Energetic Health Faculty at Nature Care College, and Director of the IEHA. Irina combines grounded wisdom with spiritual insight to help others awaken their inner light. Learn More & Join Us If your heart feels called to this journey, we invite you to explore Divine Radiance: The Path of Light Retreat — an immersive experience of devotion, love, and spiritual awakening in India. ✨ Find out more and make a booking: https://sites.google.com/view/divine-serenity-retreats/home Work With Jennifer: Jennifer Nurick works with couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS) to foster secure attachment and healthier relationships. Sessions are available during Australian daytime hours, suitable for evening sessions in the U.S. Book your session: psychotherapycentral.health Connect With Psychotherapy Central: Email: Join the Mailing List Website: psychotherapycentral.health Instagram: @psychotherapy.central Facebook: Psychotherapy Central YouTube: Psychotherapy Central

Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. Here's a podcast episode description and main points: Episode Description: Dive deep into the heart of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) as Dr. James Hawkins and Dr. Ryan Rana explore Step Six: Activating the Caregiving System. Learn how therapists can create transformative moments of connection by inviting partners to respond with genuine comfort and vulnerability. Main Points: 1. The Importance of Caregiving Responses - EFT focuses on responsiveness between partners - Caregiving is about creating genuine comfort, not problem-solving - Therapists must invite partners into emotional vulnerability carefully 2. Key Techniques for Inviting Caregiving Responses - Use somatic, present-moment language - Focus on immediate bodily reactions - Ask specific questions that trigger instinctual care - Maintain the same depth and pacing used in emotional exploration 3. Green Light Moments - Recognize when a partner is ready to provide comfort - Look for non-verbal and emotional engagement - Create space for natural, instinctive caregiving responses 4. Therapeutic Approach - Avoid meta-commentary or intellectual responses - Stay attuned to partners' emotional states - Help partners access their innate capacity for emotional support To support our mission and help us continue producing impactful content, your financial contributions via Venmo (@leftpodcast) are greatly appreciated. They play a significant role in keeping this valuable resource available and are a testament to your commitment to our cause. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together!

In this episode of Through a Therapist's Eyes, we dig into how power shows up in our closest relationships — sometimes loud and obvious, sometimes quiet and emotional. Using insights from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we explore how control, influence, and vulnerability all play a role in love and connection. You'll hear how formal power (like money or decision-making) and informal power (like silence, persuasion, or emotion) can create tension or trust depending on how they're used. Join us as we uncover how shifting from power moves to vulnerability can transform relationships from struggle to strength. Tune in to see Informal and Formal Power Through a Therapist's Eyes.

Male sexually betrayed partners are often unseen, overlooked, and underresourced. Hear Ben Wilson's story of being the betrayed and the betrayer in his marriage. Ben is a Licensed Professional Counselor with 25+ years of experience. He is trained in EMDR for trauma and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couple's counseling. Ben co-authored Betrayed and Betrayer: Rescuing Your Marriage After The Affair out of his own broken and restored marriage. Learn more about intensive counseling with Ben at restoringthesoul.com.Read Ben's free blog with 444 posts on healing infidelity here.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

EFT Talk: Your Guide to Emotionally Focused Therapy

Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. Summary: This episode of "Push the Leading Edge" focuses on Stage 2, Step 5 of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), specifically exploring the concept of "Deadly Attachment Messages" (DAMs) and their role in deepening therapeutic work. Dr. James Hawkins and Dr. Ryan Rana discuss how therapists can help clients access and process their most painful, internalized beliefs about themselves—beliefs that often drive protective behaviors in relationships. The episode emphasizes the importance of staying with clients in these vulnerable places, facilitating experiential change, and preparing for partner acceptance and new ways of reaching for needs. The hosts also share practical tips, personal experiences, and resources for therapists seeking to improve their EFT practice. Top 10 Points: 1. **EFT Intensives Resource**: The hosts highlight EFT intensives available in Northwest Arkansas, recommending them as valuable resources for therapists and couples. intensives@thejoshuacenter.com.  2. **Upcoming SV Focus Lab**: Announcement and encouragement to attend the SV Focus Lab in September 2025, focusing on therapeutic pivots. 3. **Stage 2 Overview**: Stage 2 in EFT is about restructuring the bond by helping the more withdrawn partner re-engage vulnerably, followed by work with the pursuing partner to soften their approach. 4. **Step 5 Focus**: Step 5 is the most intra-psychic part of EFT, where therapists help clients access the deep, painful beliefs about themselves that have developed from negative cycles. 5. **Deadly Attachment Messages (DAMs)**: DAMs are the core negative beliefs clients hold about themselves (e.g., "I'm unlovable," "I'm stupid"), often rooted in both relationship dynamics and personal history. 6. **Stage 1 vs. Stage 2 DAMs**: In Stage 1, DAMs are often externalized (what the partner thinks of them), while in Stage 2, the focus shifts to when clients start to believe these messages about themselves. 7. **Experiential Depth**: Effective Step 5 work requires therapists to stay with clients in their pain, facilitating deep limbic (emotional) experiences rather than just cognitive insight. 8. **Therapist's Role**: Therapists must be willing to "walk into the darkness" with clients, maintaining a non-anxious, present stance to help clients feel safe enough to explore their deepest fears. 9. **Partner Acceptance and Reaching for Needs**: After accessing DAMs, the process moves toward helping the partner accept these vulnerable parts and supporting the client in reaching for comfort and connection. 10. **Patience and Repetition**: Deepening and accessing DAMs is a repetitive, patient process—therapists may need to revisit and assemble the experience multiple times before clients can fully articulate and share their pain. Let me know if you'd like a more detailed breakdown of any specific section! To support our mission and help us continue producing impactful content, your financial contributions via Venmo (@leftpodcast) are greatly appreciated. They play a significant role in keeping this valuable resource available and are a testament to your commitment to our cause. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together!

Send us a textEpisode 186 - How to Rebuild Emotional Connection in Marriage with EFT Attachment Questions Have you ever felt like you and your spouse are speaking different languages? Like no matter how hard you try, the two of you just keep missing each other? You're not alone. Many couples struggle with emotional disconnection—not because they don't love each other, but because they don't know how to answer the real questions underneath the conflict. In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, I share: A personal story from my early marriage that shows how easy it is to miss each other emotionally.The three powerful attachment questions from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) that can completely shift the way you relate to your partner.Why “being there” for your spouse is about emotional presence—not just doing things for them.How we actually keep choosing our partner every single day—not just when we said “I do.”The truth about bids for connection—and why so many of us miss them.Practical steps you can take this week to show up differently and begin rebuilding emotional connection in your marriage.Whether you've been married for five years or thirty-five, learning to answer these three questions—Are you there for me? Do I matter to you? Will you turn toward me?—can help you rebuild trust, deepen intimacy, and create a more secure bond with your spouse. If you've been feeling distant, disconnected, or like you're living more like roommates than partners, this episode will give you both insight and actionable steps to start creating change. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Episode 180 with Leah Davidson: How Your Nervous System Shapes Reactions, Relationships, and Resilience Episode 184 – How Attachment Styles Affect Your Partner Relationship – and Your Whole Family Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

"Send us a message! (questions, feedback, etc.)"When couples in conflict feel a million miles apart, are they? Are the areas of "stuckness" as insurmountable as it sometimes feels?KELLY BOURQUE, is a therapist who specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a modality of counseling that focuses on attachment science and how it shows up in romantic relationships. Kelly is the founder of Red Therapy Group in Franklin TN. EFT is a modality based in attachment theory, and is helpful in allowing couples to identify unhealthy patterns in their relationships. Patterns such as the "push/pull" or "pursuer/withdrawer" dynamic, or with anxious/avoidant attachment styles.Kelly talks about how EFT has been invaluable in helping couples see that despite the surface conflict, they usually desire the same things. It can help them get out of old, unhelpful cycles and find their way back to each other more healthily and authentically.#kellybourque #redtherapygroup #emotionallyfocusedtherapy #efttherapy #efct #efit #suejohnson #holdmetight #createdforconnection #addiction #recovery #grace #gospel #transformationFree consultation for 3-day intensives in Franklin, TN. Click hereRed Therapy Group website (traditional therapy for TN residents)Kelly's book I Have Feelings About ThisKelly's video series for betrayal trauma recoveryFind an EFT therapist (https://iceeft.com/) Support the showAwaken websiteRoots Retreat Men's IntensiveRoots Retreat Women's WorkshopAwaken Men & Women's support meeting info (including virtual)

"Send us a message! (questions, feedback, etc.)"Go to whatwereallywant.show and follow us on your favorite podcast platform, to make sure you don't miss out on a single episode, including... In 2023, we (Greg & Stacey) took part in a marriage intensive with a therapist who had been highly recommended to us. That therapist was KELLY BOURQUE, the founder of Red Therapy Group in Franklin TN. Kelly is a certified Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) therapist and supervisor. EFT is a modality based in attachment theory, and is helpful in allowing couples to identify unhealthy patterns in their relationships. Patterns such as the "push/pull" or "pursuer/withdrawer" dynamic, or with anxious/avoidant attachment styles.Kelly talks about how EFT has been invaluable in helping couples see that despite the surface conflict, they usually desire the same things. And the practice gives them a language to help them get out of old cycles and find their way back to each other more healthily and authentically.Episode 44 | Kelly Bourque: Finding Your Way Back will be available Tuesday, August 19th!#kellybourque #redtherapygroup #emotionallyfocusedtherapy #efttherapy #efct #efit #suejohnson #holdmetight #createdforconnection #addiction #recovery #grace #gospel #transformationSupport the showAwaken websiteRoots Retreat Men's IntensiveRoots Retreat Women's WorkshopAwaken Men & Women's support meeting info (including virtual)

What to Do When Clients Say “I Don't Know” EFT Tips with Lieven Migerode   Welcome back to We Heart Therapy, the channel for Emotionally Focused Therapists seeking practical tools and insights!   In this episode, host Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT — Certified EFT/EFIT/EFFT Supervisor & Therapist — speaks with Lieven Migerode, Certified EFT Trainer from Belgium, about how to work effectively when clients frequently respond with “I don't know” during emotional exploration.   We discuss why this happens, how to understand it through an attachment lens, and what interventions can help clients access and express their deeper emotional experience.  

Send us a textHow secure is your emotional connection with your partner?In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, with guest Thomas Westenholz, we explore how attachment styles impact the way we relate to our partners—and how those patterns ripple into the rest of our family system.You'll learn:What attachment theory reveals about the ways we connect, argue, withdraw, or pursue in our closest relationshipsHow to recognize your own attachment style—and why that awareness is the key to building emotional safetyHow a distant or conflict-filled partner relationship can lead to tension, emotional distance, or even estrangement from adult childrenThe basics of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and how it helps couples repair and rebuild trustWhy healing the parent-partner bond is foundational for improving communication and connection across the entire familyWhether you're feeling emotionally shut down, constantly on edge, or just wondering why your relationship feels “off,” this episode will give you language, insight, and real strategies to begin shifting the dynamics—without blame or shame.Learn more about Thomas Westenholz:WebsitePodcast Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Louie's new therapist introduced him to Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) — and it's already getting personal. In what early listeners have called our "most beautiful episode yet"... Louie brings EFT-style attachment questions to the pod, exploring what he and Michael learned from their families about vulnerability, emotional safety, and connection. They reflect on how their mothers shaped their ability (or inability) to express feelings, the emotional roles they were expected to play, and what it means to unlearn emotional avoidance as adults. If you've ever asked yourself “Why is vulnerability so hard for me?” — this one's for you. topics: emotionally focused therapy, EFT, therapy podcast, attachment styles, emotional vulnerability, childhood trauma, family dynamics, inner child healing, men's mental health, emotional avoidance, healing relationships, therapy questions, how to be vulnerable, funny therapy podcast BetterHelp: If you're struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Support the pod: PATREON - Join Patreon for Exclusives MERCH - Shop Merch Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@secondhandtherapypod.com Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Why do you connect with others the way you do—and can it change? In this episode of GraceStory Podcast, we explore how attachment styles shape the way we love, trust, and relate to others. Whether you lean anxious, avoidant, disorganized, or secure, these patterns often form early in life—and impact everything from marriage to parenting to faith. Our guest, Peter Leighton LPCC, trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), breaks down the science of attachment and offers hope for healing. You'll learn how trauma affects emotional bonds, what EFT looks like in practice, and how a faith-based approach can help restore secure, connected relationships. If you've ever asked, “Why do I keep doing this in relationships?”—this episode is for you. You can contact Peter via email at peter.leighton@counselingalliance.com Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed by our guests on this podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views or positions of the podcast hosts, producers, or associated organizations. The content discussed is for informational, educational, and enjoyment purposes only and should not be interpreted as endorsement of any views or opinions expressed on the show. We encourage listeners to do their own research, seek professional help when needed, and form their own opinions. Do you have a question you would like for us to help find an answer for? Have feedback? Want to hear more on a certain topic? Have a suggestion for a guest? We are listening. You can email me at nate@gracestoryministries.com.  We would love for you to join the GraceStory Community Group on Facebook. There is great content in this exclusive, closed group that you won't want to miss out on. Consider becoming a supporter of GraceStory Ministries with a donation. Whether it's a one time gift or you want to join others in the GraceStory Community with a reoccurring donation, you can give by texting GRACESTORY to 44321. Follow GraceStory Podcast on Facebook Join GraceStory Community Group Follow GraceStory Podcast on Twitter @GraceStoryPod  GraceStory on Instagram: @my_grace_story  @gracestoryministries  @gracestorypodcast

Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. Join Dr. James Hawkins and Dr. Ryan Rana as they dive deep into the nuanced world of Stage 2 in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). In this illuminating episode, they unpack the critical transition from Stage 1 to Stage 2, providing therapists with a comprehensive guide to understanding when and how to help couples progress in their therapeutic journey. Using their innovative SAFE acronym, they provide practical insights into assessing client readiness, deepening vulnerability, and creating transformative therapeutic experiences. Episode Outline: Introduction SV Focus Lab invitation Podcast mission and purpose Importance of continuous learning in EFT Stage 2 Overview Common misconceptions about Stage 2 Challenges therapists face in transitioning The need for nuanced understanding SAFE Acronym Breakdown S - See the Cycle Cognitive and experiential awareness Understanding interpersonal impact A - Access Vulnerability Depth of emotional exploration Balancing client capacity F - Flexible Responses Adapting to partner's protective moves Demonstrating relational safety E - Experiential Corrections Importance of repeated corrective experiences Assessing readiness for Stage 2 Practical Applications Assessment techniques Therapeutic strategies Warning signs and opportunities Conclusion Invitation for further learning Call to action for therapists Key Takeaways: Understanding Stage 2 is about nuanced, patient therapeutic work Clients must demonstrate readiness through multiple experiences Therapists must balance pushing boundaries while respecting client capacity To support our mission and help us continue producing impactful content, your financial contributions via Venmo (@leftpodcast) are greatly appreciated. They play a significant role in keeping this valuable resource available and are a testament to your commitment to our cause. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together!

In this episode of The Art of Growth, Joel Hubbard and Jim Zartman sit down once again with therapist Michelle Pruett to explore “faux wisdom” in the therapy world—those phrases, concepts, and quick fixes that sound good but miss the heart of true healing. Together, they unpack how readiness, resistance, and relational depth play vital roles in transformation. They also revisit the importance of calibrated support and challenge, the misuse of trauma language, and how timing matters more than advice.

Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. This podcast episode focuses on the critical concept of "timing" in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), specifically when and how therapists should "play it" during therapeutic sessions. Hosts Dr. James Hawkins and Dr. Ryan Reyna discuss the importance of recognizing and responding to vulnerable emotions and caregiving moments in couples therapy. Main Points: Key Ingredients of a Secure Bond Vulnerable, live emotion Accessible, responsive, and engaged (ARE) caregiving system Timing Considerations Earlier in therapy: Play moments quickly (less room for vulnerability) Later in therapy: More space to let emotions develop Clinical decision-making about when to intervene Critical Moments to "Play It" When vulnerable emotion emerges When a caregiving response is present Before the moment passes or the cycle interrupts vulnerability Risks of Not Playing the Moment Clients may exit the vulnerable space Emotional opportunities can be lost Cycle of interaction can revert to negative patterns Practical Advice Catch and recognize emotional moments Make clinical decisions about intervention Prioritize creating space for emotional connection The episode includes a role-play demonstration illustrating these principles, emphasizing the importance of therapist attunement and timely intervention. Upcoming events, if you would like to train with James or Ryan… You can do a joint Core Skills (Colorado) with Lisa J. Palmer-Olsen & Dr. James Hawkins. Core Skills Modules 1 and 2 will be held October 8-10, 2025, and Core Skills Modules 3 and 4 will be held January 7-9, 2026. You can register at https://courses.efft.org/courses/2025-core-skills-colorado. October 15-18, 2025, you can do an Externship with James in beautiful Bend, Oregon. You can register at https://www.counseloregon.com. You can train with Ryan, as well as George Faller, doing a live and some time with James, at the annual Arkansas EFT Center externship. July 29-August 1, 2025, in person, in Fayetteville, Arkansas. https://www.arkansaseft.com/events/externship We would like to invite everyone to come hang out and learn with the SV team at the first-ever SV Focus Lab. This is an advanced, EFCT training intending to push the edge with a focus on nuance in application, illuminating EFT and Sue's incredible model.” You can learn more and register by going to https://www.svfocuslab.com. Leading edge listeners who register before July 1 with the code svfocuslab.com/leadingedge get a 10% discount. To support our mission and help us continue producing impactful content, your financial contributions via Venmo (@leftpodcast) are greatly appreciated. They play a significant role in keeping this valuable resource available and are a testament to your commitment to our cause. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together!

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2594: Kyle Benson offers a compassionate roadmap for encouraging a hesitant partner to try couples therapy, emphasizing empathy, timing, and emotional safety. His five-step approach helps shift the conversation from blame to mutual understanding, creating a foundation for connection and healing through professional support. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/5-steps-to-inspire-your-partner-to-join-you-in-attending-couples-therapy/ Quotes to ponder: "Don't try to inspire your partner when you are emotionally charged." "When we ask our partner to go to therapy, we're asking them to face pain and uncertainty." "Use empathy to validate your partner's fears or concerns." Episode references: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): https://iceeft.com/what-is-eft/ The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2594: Kyle Benson offers a compassionate roadmap for encouraging a hesitant partner to try couples therapy, emphasizing empathy, timing, and emotional safety. His five-step approach helps shift the conversation from blame to mutual understanding, creating a foundation for connection and healing through professional support. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/5-steps-to-inspire-your-partner-to-join-you-in-attending-couples-therapy/ Quotes to ponder: "Don't try to inspire your partner when you are emotionally charged." "When we ask our partner to go to therapy, we're asking them to face pain and uncertainty." "Use empathy to validate your partner's fears or concerns." Episode references: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): https://iceeft.com/what-is-eft/ The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. This "Push the Leading Edge" podcast episode explores the concept of the "Attachment Dilemma" in therapy, focusing on how therapists can effectively work with resistant clients. Hosts Dr. James Hawkins and Dr. Ryan Reyna provide insights, personal stories, and practical techniques for understanding and navigating client resistance using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) principles. Conversation Outline: 1. Introduction - Upcoming EFT training events - Appreciation for EFT community leaders and volunteers 2. Attachment Dilemma Concept - Defining resistance in therapy - Metaphors: Bomb-sniffing dog, technology troubleshooting - Core idea: Clients are stuck between connection longing and protection strategies 3. Therapeutic Approach - Slow down the therapeutic process - Validate client's experience - Recognize there are "no good moves" in their current cycle - Demonstrate understanding of their stuck position 4. Demonstration Techniques - Exploring pursuer and withdrawer attachment patterns - Repetitive validation of the client's experience - Focusing on the emotional experience, not problem-solving 5. Key Takeaways - Trust the therapeutic process - Repeat understanding to help client's nervous system feel seen - Aim to help clients recognize their cyclical patterns The episode provides a deep dive into compassionate, nuanced therapeutic intervention for challenging client situations. To support our mission and help us continue producing impactful content, your financial contributions via Venmo (@leftpodcast) are greatly appreciated. They play a significant role in keeping this valuable resource available and are a testament to your commitment to our cause. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together! SV Focus Lab-https://www.svfocuslab.com/ Training Opportunities with James.  Externship in Bend, Oregon - https://www.counseloregon.com/coeft/externship Core Skills in Hourston - https://hceft.org/events/ Core Skills in Boulder Colorado - https://courses.efft.org/courses/2025-core-skills-colorado Training Opportunities with Ryan.  Externship in Indiana - https://www.indyeft.com/general-7 Externship in Northwest Arkansas - https://www.arkansaseft.com/events/externship  

Have you ever wondered if your husband is secretly watching pornography? Or maybe you fear there's infidelity. If you have ever had these questions in the back of your mind this episode is for you! The statistics of porn usage and addiction are staggering even within the church. It is an epidemic that we need to do a better job as Christ followers at addressing. Today we have Joanna Raabsmith who is a licensed therapist and professional coach who specialized in Betrayal Trauma come and answer our burning questions. How widespread is this issue? What are the signs this is going on? What do we do if we suspect something? And if we discover something, what do we do then? Is there any hope? Joanna answers all of these and more.  Be sure to check out all of Joanna's Resources:   Free HONEST tool/challenge for couples: raabsmithteam.com/free Building True Intimacy book- https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-Connection/dp/B0CHCLTDZJ/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2PLV9Q91FEPG5&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.qTBC20UdlTsXO8-Th7gREZfNEELYu2TWZ_2t7oN8YX6YzAg7tQlAYN6bH2cBQctU5cTXkYRkEaIFWgANBsuhWkTyJVfXDuZvU4dfLz4f1p8.v7fzoySA6D242KOUVwPYJlMpTUboQvF4dhMxABOqvUI&dib_tag=se&keywords=building+true+intimacy+raabsmith&qid=1734207118&sprefix=building+true+%2Caps%2C161&sr=8-1 https://www.instagram.com/theraabsmithteam/  Joanna is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Professional Coach. She holds a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy and a Masters of Divinity from Fuller Theological Seminary. Trained in Restoration Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and EMDR, she specializes in trauma, betrayal trauma, addiction recovery, and relationship issues. Joanna is passionate about helping couples restore love and trust while guiding individuals toward personal growth and healing. Alongside her husband, Matthew, she co-leads The Raabsmith Team, co-authored Building True Intimacy (2023), and co-developed The Intimacy Pyramid™, a framework for building a thriving connection in relationships. She lives in Tennessee with Matthew and their three children, where she enjoys going on shared adventures, reading by the fireplace, and a weekly game of pickleball. ----- Love, Brittany    Ready to become a peaceful wife and Mama? Sign Up for the Pain to Peace Academy HERE. Come say hi and join the Morning Mama Facebook Group! I would love to hear your story and know your name.    ALL THE LINKS FOR ALL THE THINGS! Morning Mama Website Pain to Peace Academy Morning Mama Facebook Group Follow Us on Instagram Find a Restoration Therapist Come say hi by emailing hello@morningmamapodcast.com  

Mark Bell has over 20 years of experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), and has trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART). Mark specializes in helping couples navigate relational and emotional intimacy challenges and much of his work is with men struggling with sexually compulsive behaviors, along with their loved ones affected by those behaviors. He focuses on healthy connections with ourselves, our God, and others in healing. Mark holds a graduate degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Southern Mississippi and an undergraduate degree from Brigham Young University, and works at the Arizona Family Institute (AFI) where he is also the clinical director. In the Church he has served as a missionary in the Chile, Santiago North mission, a Young Men advisor, Sunday School youth teacher, high priest group leader, scoutmaster, ward clerk, elders quorum counselor, and three times as a bishopric counselor. Mark and his wife Dyan have been married 22 years and have five sons. Links Arizona Family Institute Share your thoughts in the Leading Saints community Transcript coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library Highlights Mark Bell shares his insights on the current state of men's mental health, noting a concerning epidemic of undiagnosed depression among men, which often goes unrecognized due to societal expectations that discourage vulnerability. He explains how men frequently resort to unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as pornography, as a means of escaping deeper emotional struggles. The discussion touches on the stigma surrounding these behaviors and the need for men to connect with one another in meaningful ways. Bell advocates for the creation of supportive environments, such as small group settings within church activities, where men can openly share their experiences and challenges without fear of judgment. The episode also explores the significance of recreational activities in fostering connections among men, suggesting that engaging in shared experiences can lead to deeper bonds and healthier emotional outlets. Bell emphasizes the necessity of creating spaces where men can be both playful and serious, allowing them to express their true selves, and offers practical advice for church leaders—particularly elders quorum presidents—on how to facilitate genuine connections among members, encouraging vulnerability and open dialogue. The conversation is a call to action for men in elders quorum to seek connection and support, ultimately promoting better mental health and stronger relationships within their communities. 02:30 - Men's Mental Health Epidemic 04:00 - Undiagnosed Depression in Men 05:30 - The Link Between Depression and Suicide 07:00 - Challenges of Masculinity 09:00 - Compartmentalization of Men's Emotions 10:30 - Hidden Depression in Men 12:00 - Pornography as a Symptom 13:30 - The Need for Healthy Coping Mechanisms 15:00 - Stigma Around Men's Behaviors 16:30 - The Importance of Connection Among Men 18:00 - Creating Safe Spaces for Men 19:30 - The Fist of Five Concept 21:00 - The Role of Group Therapy 22:30 - Building Connection in Elders Quorum 24:00 - The Power of Vulnerability 25:30 - Check-Ins as a Tool for Connection 27:00 - The Importance of Confidentiality 28:30 - Designing Connection Therapy in Elders Quorum 30:00 - Effective Check-In Strategies 31:30 - The Value of Recreation and Play 33:00 - Low Maintenance Needs of Men 34:30 - Balancing Doctrine and Connection The award-winning Leading Saints Podcast is one of the top independent Latter-day Saints podcasts as part of nonprofit Leading Saints' mission to help Latter-day Saints be better prepared to lead. Learn more and listen to any of the past episodes for free at LeadingSaints.org. Past guests include Emily Belle Freeman, David Butler, Hank Smith, John Bytheway,