Your Day and Beyond

We all experience negative thoughts from time to time. It's a natural part of being human. However, when negative thinking becomes a constant pattern, it can significantly affect our mental well-being and overall quality of life. The good news is that breaking the cycle of negative thinking is possible. In this interview, my guest Jessica Stipanovic will share some of her most effective strategies and techniques that can help you shift your mindset and cultivate a more positive approach to life.

Boundaries define acceptable behavior and protect your emotional well-being. Setting healthy boundaries is essential for cultivating healthy relationships, maintaining self-respect, and expressing or reclaiming your individuality as a woman. Today, my guest Katesha and I are going to discuss some strategies to help you set healthy boundaries for yourself and others.  

The traditional 9 - 5 work schedule has been the norm for decades.  However, many women are now seeking alternative ways of living that offer more freedom, flexibility, and control over their time.  Escaping the monotony of the 9 - 5 grind is entirely possible with careful planning and a proactive approach.

Long distance relationships have become increasingly common in today's interconnected world. Whether it's due to work, education, or personal circumstances, being away from your partner can present unique challenges. However, with the right mindset and strategy, long distance dating can also bring unexpected joys and strengthen your connection. In this interview, we will explore the different aspects of long-distance dating and provide some tips for making it work.

Most women, myself included, just went along with what was expected of us, even if those expectations didn't align with our desires.  But with the millennial generation there was a big shift and I think it was because we instilled a confidence in that generation of women that gave them the power to use their voice against outdated expectations and a patriarchal system that is oppressive to women.  A lot of progress has been made but there are still a lot of black women who are settling for less than they deserve. Let's discuss why and how you can tear down the false narratives behind living a mediocre life.

Today, I have a very special guest joining me for a candid discussion about traumas that we're not talking about and why we should be talking about it.  The impacts of trauma differs from person to person but the emotional damage can compel those impacted to stay silent.  Join the conversation with my guest  Jonett Mobley, Leadership Development Coach, Systemic Disruptor and founder of A Rooted Soul and I as we talk about the effects of staying silent and how you can find your voice.

Breakups can trigger intense emotional responses. When the distress from a breakup becomes chronic and interferes with our ability to function normally in our daily life, it can be classified as a traumatic event. Today my guest Relationship Coach, Ishea Muhammad and I will be talking about how heartbreak impacts you and your life and how you can successfully heal from it. Join the conversation as we discuss the impacts of heartbreak and give you the resources and tools you need to recover.  

Can love really last forever? The harder question is how to make it last.  If we focus on divorce statistics in the US, they would lead us to believe that love has an expiration date but I'm not buying into it.  What I will buy into is what those stats reveal and that's the common reasons why couples get a divorce. I've done the analysis and narrowed it down to the 3 things I believe are essential to making love last.

So many of you want to create a more abundant life but nothing you've done has worked long term, that's because you're going about it the wrong way. You're on the right path but you're missing some essential steps and I'd like to help you have a more abundant life. Let's talk about how you can have a more abundant life by implementing these 3 daily practices.

Join the candid conversation that I have about the masks I've worn out of shame and the action steps I took to remove the masks and be my authentic self.  This poignant interview with guest host Britteny Petty is my most vulnerable conversation yet.

The standards of beauty, the standards of being a perfect mother and wife are incredibly damaging to our self-esteem and mental health.   All this pressure can make women feel like they're not good enough so they hide their true selves and present a flawless image to the world.  They wear a mask to conceal their true selves.

Each year, many people make resolutions to be or do better than they did last year. This year, I decided I need to level up in a major way. I'm ready to run into my destiny and baby steps are no longer going to work for me to get where I'm trying to go.

Trying to keep pace with the speed life is moving is why most of us are feeling overwhelmed and stressed out. Not taking the time we need to connect with our emotions, thoughts or the people in our lives can leave us feeling off balance and disconnected. Living on autopilot isn't serving us, because it robs us of our ability to live in the moment.

It's human nature to want more of a good thing. I mean why not, we all want to feel good and we like having experiences that make us feel good. But sometimes we can get ahead of ourselves and miss important opportunities. It just seems like there's not enough time to do everything we want to do because our lives are so full of things we have to do.

If you can check off all the vanity boxes about your partner but can't check off that many boxes for their character traits what does that tell you?

Being independent and strong  has somehow placed us in an unhealthy predicament of taking care of everything and everyone before we take care of ourselves. I know a lot of this has to do with societal expectations that have been placed on us but the majority of it is self inflicted. When a whole generation of women before us took on more responsibility outside the home, they somehow forgot to release or delegate the duties inside the home.

What I bring to the table is more valuable than 50% of the financial resources and material things he wants. When I woke up, I was no longer trying to be what a man wants and instead I became what he needed.

I didn't want any part of the disappointments or  disagreements over disappointments that often comes with being in love with the wrong person. I just wanted the sweetest parts of being in love until I discovered that real love will even make the bitter parts taste sweet when you're in love with the right person and you trust love to give you what you need.

There's so much to be said for being equally yoked with the right man. My love journey hasn't always been as sweet as it is now but it's definitely been worth it. I rewrote my love story and I'm living the most beautiful life that I never imagined was possible for me. I believe every woman deserves a happy and healthy relationship and I'm here to support you in your journey to rewrite your love story.

When we're happy, it's easy to be our best selves and bring that energy into our relationships. Before, I didn't believe I deserved to have a happy and healthy relationship. Every woman deserves to be happy in her relationship.

 It's exhausting being strong for everyone in your life and taking on their burdens and pushing your desires, needs and wants to the back burner. I want to help you dismantle the faulty beliefs that support an unhealthy lifestyle of putting everyone else's needs above your own and learn how to be your own rescuer.

Our past is our foundation and it's what a lot of our beliefs are rooted in. But what if a lot of what we believe about ourselves is based on faulty information? How do you dismantle those beliefs that are ingrained in every fiber of your being?

During this time of year, it's a good time to reflect back and learn from the lessons the previous year taught you.  By reflecting on what didn't go well and why, it gives you important information about how you can be better in the next year.  Embracing your life lessons, learning from them and using what you learned to be a better you is how you create a path to New and Better Things in the year 2023.

Dating today is way different than it was 25 -30 years ago.  It has evolved from courtship to casual dating.  30 years ago, the purpose of dating was to get married but today dating is more of a means to an end that doesn't necessarily mean marriage. Nowadays people date for many reasons.. It may be for companionship,  casual sex or to find their soulmate. If you're dating with the end goal of marriage, you're dating with intention but if you're dating with no real purpose in mind, you're casually dating. 

Navigating life comes with its own set of challenges but navigating necessary changes to be our best selves and reach our life goals can be an even bigger challenge. Sometimes it's not clear what you should do or what's keeping you stuck in a cycle that makes it difficult for you to change.  That's why life coaching has become so popular and necessary for our mental well being. 

Many of us don't think about the dangers of childbirth until it directly impacts us but 700 women a year die during pregnancy or within the 1st year of giving birth. Black women are 3x's more likely to die from pregnancy-related causes than White women. Today I'm talking with Boho Mama the Doula and Herbalist, Shardae Simpson about her life as a Doula and how we all can do more to reduce black maternal mortality.

Women have always been aware of relationship inequalities.  We've been getting the short end of the stick, especially when we started working outside the home.  The domestic responsibilities for some women didn't decrease when they took on a more active role in contributing to the financial responsibilities. We've accepted these inequalities as gender roles but more and more women are redefining our roles in our relationships to be more aligned,  equitable and balanced.

Love happens when you least expect it but you can position yourself for love to find you. Be an attraction magnet for love, by holding space for love and keeping your energy vibration high and choosing to be happy no matter what.  But you should also be visible by moving outside your comfort zone and social circle.  

During the pandemic, American businesses started experiencing what experts are calling the great resignation. That's why it was no surprise to learn that women own 31% of small businesses in the U.S. and that 17% of black women are in the process of starting or running a new business.

There's a misconception that for a certain group of people, there are limitations on what they can have or who they can be. Many people who are poor believe they will always live in poverty because life has always been that way for them and many women believe they can't have a family and a successful career because they've been told they can't have it all. These misconceptions continue to have a stronghold on people, even though there are plenty of examples of rags to riches stories and examples of women who are living life on their own terms and thriving. These limiting beliefs are holding so many women back from being who they desire to be.

Today, I'm interviewing Amy Davies and we're going to talk about breathing and all the benefits of breathing through a tough moment or a stressful lifestyle. Join the conversation as we explore self care, listening to what our bodies need and restorative yoga.

Being attracted to or in love with a man who isn't emotionally available presents a lot of challenges that could potentially be hazardous to your mental health. What signs should you pay attention to? Why does a strong physical attraction or chemistry between you look a lot like an emotional connection? Why are you attracting emotionally unavailable men? 

I'm a firm believer in manifesting the life that I want and there are certain practices that I do like journaling, meditating, prayer and visualizing to help me keep my energy focused toward the things that I want to manifest.   Today, I'd like to ask those of you who don't believe in manifesting your desires to keep an open mind about it as I guide you in the process of developing realistic dating expectations.

Whether you find yourself alone intentionally or because things didn't quite work out in your last relationship, getting through all of the holidays can be a bit emotional but today, I'd like to ask you to have an open mind and start embracing your status. What if you could make this year different by embracing where you are and looking at being single from a different perspective? Being single is not a death sentence, it's actually a time of adventure and discovery that can open up so many possibilities for you, including love.

Believing in yourself and believing that you're enough should be an easy thing to do but unfortunately for many people it's not easy.  We all experience times where we don't feel our most confident and how we feel influences what we think but that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about a belief system that some women have. A rooted belief that they're not enough, which has influenced the way they think about themselves all the time.  It's a belief system that has limited them to not living up to their fullest potential.

Many people have different beliefs when it comes to the topic of renewing or transforming the mind. Some people believe we are who we are and that can't be changed and others believe that it's possible to change if you change your thought process.  So who's right? I'd have to say both! I believe if you want to change you have to believe it first, then feel it before it can manifest.  I also believe that you can stay “stuck” in a certain thought pattern if you don't believe that things can change for you.

What if I told you that you could find Mr. Right in 90-days, would you believe me? I think some of you are skeptical and a tiny few may actually be excited enough to ask me how.  When it comes to finding someone you're compatible with it can seem like it's an impossible challenge.  I'll be the first to admit that It can feel like you're on a scavenger hunt finding someone who you can connect and vibe with on a mental, physical and spiritual level. Add to that, the possibility of mental blocks that are a direct result of negative experiences from failed relationships, it's no wonder that the energy surrounding some women is actually blocking their true love. 

Arguing has never solved anything.  It really only makes things worse.  My husband and I are both passionate communicators, especially when it comes to topics that we feel strongly about.  While we were dating, we discovered that our passionate conversations could quickly become arguments so we learned how to de-escalate disagreements before they turned explosive.  We both committed to always doing what's best and healthy for our relationship so instead of arguing, we choose to have a conversation where we tune in and listen  to get an understanding of what we need from each other. I like to think of arguments as an indicator that something is off balance in the relationship. Perhaps a need is not being met or there's some uncovered or unresolved hurt.  When looking at it this way, it's easier to focus on what's right instead of who's right.  Disagreements in a relationship are kind of like caring for a baby.  When a baby cries, we don't argue with the baby about why they're crying do we? Of course not, what we do is shift our focus on the baby to figure out what they need to feel better. What if you had this same perspective towards disagreements in your relationship?.

Trying to navigate back to or towards a place of balance can be challenging but no matter how challenging it is, don't you think it's worth it and that we owe it to ourselves to have a more stable life?

What is sensuality? It's defined as enjoyment, expression or pursuit of physical pleasure and sexual pleasure.  When wellness and a meaningful life are the topics of discussion, they seldom include sensuality.

Let's talk about cheating and the “side chick”! The side chick is the woman who has been called everything from a homewrecker to a hoe. We all know what her role is but does she serve a real purpose?

Having a happy and healthy marriage is not impossible.  It may feel as though it’s impossible, especially when things do not work out the way that you expected or the way you wanted them to.  Things can be turned around and you don’t have to sit idly by and watch your marriage fall apart.

Social media is a great way to catch up with  our family, friends and acquaintances.As great as social media is, it also has a dark side.  It has been linked to higher levels of loneliness, envy, anxiety and depression.As humans we’re all a little judgmental but this is not a character trait that fosters close relationships or peace of mind. Especially when that judgment is fueled by envy and jealousy.

If I told you it’s easy to find your true love, would you believe me? Sometimes you can get impatient waiting for real love! Especially when your desire to have a love of your own is so strong.  It may even seem like the more you desire it, the more elusive it becomes.

Most if not all relationships start with dating and evolve into getting engaged and then married.  At each level there’s work to do to maintain a happy and healthy relationship.

 When you stop to consider the power of love do you ever get awestruck? Love is so powerful that it made an innocent man die for you and for me. John 3:16 tells us just how much we’re loved. Even knowing how powerful love is, sometimes it can be hard for many people to harness that power.

Having a healthy relationship with money is key to living a purposeful life.  Having financial abundance is not a bad thing and neither is talking about or desiring wealth.  

So when was the last time you entertained a stranger? Do you notice people around you or are you oblivious? It amazes me how consumed a lot of us have gotten with our own lives that we don’t even take time to connect with each other in the most simplistic way, just acknowledging another’s presence or looking in their eyes when we pass them.

If happiness is a state of mind that we can freely choose, why are so many people unhappy? Happiness is a state of mind but more importantly, having a meaningful life is even better. 

Being independent was necessary when I was a single parent but it no longer fits my lifestyle as a wife.

Are you a snooper who looks through their emails or phone? The thing about snooping is, when you look for something, most of the time you will find it.  If what you find turns out to be hurtful, are you ready to deal with it? How will you deal with it? Will you calmly address it or go ballistic? That’s the thing about curiosity, it kills cats. Hopefully that cat doesn’t end up being your heart.